Sex With Emily - SWE: Just the Tip

Episode Date: March 3, 2012

Emily discusses all things oral sex, from consummation to cleanup. A show that’s so much more than “just the tip.”Also, couple massages, sleeping with your yoga teacher, birth control for men, and stuff you should never tell someone you’re dating. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between.

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Hello, everyone. It's great to be here. So if you have a serious exam, you can tune in. And today's show, we're talking about just the tip. Oral sex tips for men and for women. And because we know this is a big topic that comes up, how do I do it right? What do I do?

Oral sex tips. And you call it just a tip. Yeah, we like it right? What do I do? Oral sex tips. And you're calling it just a tip. Yeah, we like that title. That doesn't even make sense. Kind of just a tip, just a tip of the penis, just a tip of the clitoris. Just a tip means I know. I get it, but we just have to be funny. You're not getting it's funny. You guys are doing some special brownies in the office. I wish we were eating special brownies in the office, but that's what we're talking about today. We've also got some sex in the news. We're answering your very, very important questions.

Just it. Your sex questions that you sent to, feedback at sexwithemily.com, where you will get all of your sex questions answered. And especially if you're a friend's benefit member, your emails go right to the top. I'm your personal sex coach, and I'll give you the answers that you need. What up, menace? I'll give you the answers that you need. What up, menace? I'll call like mouth hugs or something.

Mouth hugs, ew. One. It's like a Harlequin card or something. Mouth hugs, no. Yeah. Yeah. I'm excited for the weekend. I'm going to do absolutely nothing. I've been at a time all the time. Really? Oh, that's good, right?

You're not going to get arrested or anything. No, just going to stay home. Enjoy my house. It's been raining here. I know. Bummer in San Francisco rain, but it's kind of the sun came out a little bit. Yeah. I think I'm going to Los Angeles this weekend for a sex conference. Oh my god. I know there's all these sex. It's called Bill. It's part of you Ted the Ted talk. Yeah. So it's supposed to be like the sister conference to the Ted talks. It's Bill B.I.L.

And there's a special sex component of it and a lot of the sex birds in my field are going to be there. And I think Kelsey, my sister and I are going to drive down to L.A. and do some sex talk. You're just going to go there to see your ex. That's all I'm doing is car salesmen. No, I'm not actually, I don't stay with the used car salesman. He's not actually used car salesmen. It looks like one.

It looks like his car salesman. The used kind. The used kind of salesman. Not like he's selling actually use car salesman it looks like one of his car salesman the use kind the use kind of salesman not like he's selling Lamborghini's there you know sex cars but I think I'm not staying with him I'm saying for my friend Gina and we're gonna I'm gonna do that and I'm excited because you know what there's so many people doing sex stuff and so I just figured got mingle be a note or for our talk to folks I don't do that much I need to do meet with some people in LA anyway. So I think I wanna do the drive.

It's not bad, six hours, huh? Let's take you. Yeah, a little under six hours. Yeah, I mean, I don't love the drive. I always think I love the drive. I'm like, I'm gonna talk to people and listen to music. And then after hour three, I'm like, really? I want you to check flow.

I drove there like, I don't know how many times in the past? Like a million. I wish you were coming with us. It'd be so fun. We'd have a we'd have a rager. I got a pro. I got a prepare for Coachella,

which is a music festival. I wanted to do you get tickets. Yes, of course. I would do. It's two weekends now. Yeah, we're going both weekends. That's awesome. I'm going to be gone for a week.

Are you going to miss me? Oh, Jesus Christ. No. I can figure out a way that we can do the show. Yeah, you're smart like that. We can do the show because we do the show three, four times a week. So also, there's some things we went on. So yesterday we had a guest do the show. Yeah, you're smart like that. We can do the show because we do the show three, four times a week. So also there's some things we went on. So yesterday we had a guest on the show Julie from Hot Rocks, R-A-R-A-W-K-S, not as opposed to rocks, R-O-C-K-S, and these pills are supposed to enhance your libido, your energy, and I've been taking them for two days now, and I'm

wondering if I'm just going to want to bone everything that moves this weekend. How long did they say before it takes a month? I'm like, oh, I'll take a month. They're like, it can take a week. So I don't know. I just pop and pills all over the office today. I kind of want to, I want to see if they work. And I'm going to report back to you if how I feel, but maybe I'll just, you know, be like a

horny motherfucker or something. I know you never know, right? It is the weekend. It is the weekend. I'm so excited about that. And I just want you to know that it is the weekend. And it's a good time to go shopping online until she gets raining or snowy. There's lots of snow in the world right now. And you can always use coupon code, if you go to Adam and Eve.com.

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You're just going to chill at home. You can use those condoms, those lifestyles condoms. I just gave you. I can use each and every one of them. I just gave them a pack of condoms. And I said that he has to report to me every time he uses one. I said, you got to report to me every time you, and you're like, oh, no, no.

I'll report to you, but it might up until like 2018 to use them all, but you know, that's another story What's going on in the news anything? Yeah, I've got some good sex in the news for us. It was Justin Bieber's birthday yesterday I heard that 18 oh finally. Yeah, it's how much money? Oh Probably 60 million wow I actually have a Justin Bieber story you do yeah, I want me to lead with that He probably had sex for the first time yesterday. No, right.

He said sex. No way. Come on. He's one of those celebs. He's like, I'm waiting till I'm 18. Yeah, that's never gonna happen. So Justin Bieber apparently bails on his Valentine's Day massage.

So Selena Gomez for Valentine's Day, his girlfriend, got him, went away with Justin Bieber and she got him like a couple's massage. But apparently Bieber got in the room freaked out that like a big, mussely man was touching her and giving her a massage and he's like, done a game over no massage. He didn't know that like, he's young, he's 18. Didn't realize that when you get a massage, that it can be a man giving you a massage, touching your woman, but it's like illegal to do anything.

Like, he's not gonna be sticking his fingers up over a gin or anything. Well, first off, who gets a massage for Valentine's Day? Like, it takes you to a spa for a man, for a man, seriously? A lot of men love massage. We'll take their man card away, no man wants to go do that on Valentine's Day. I love, I know a lot of men who would love a massage.

Yeah, and they also love kissing other men. You do, that's so not true, man. So you've just, you've never had a massage? I know one massage, I want to go to a chiropractor. Okay, we'll do that. That's a man's massage, okay? No, I know a lot of guys do love massages. They feel awesome and you can get a woman, a hot woman doing it.

They probably have ponytails and you can probably go do yoga together and drink wine. Exactly. And do gloon-free diets. Exactly, something like that. No, I've gotten a couple of, I was in Vegas with a dude a few years ago and we got a couple's massage and they like, you're going to do one of your mwahs right now but they like candles and it's both of us we get naked and then they put a towel over you and we each got massages and it was very romantic and then we get sex. What's the problem?

You put them talking about Valentine's Day. What would you rather do in Valentine's Day? I really do want a stay. I really do want a stay. I really do want a stay. I really do want a stay. Yeah. Whatever happened to blow job and stay, stay can blow job day.

When is it? That's, I think that's in 12 days. Okay. It's a follow up to Valentine's Day. If you've even heard there's something called stake in blow job day. No, stake in BJ Day. Whatever. We all know what we're talking about. Stake in BJ Day.

And apparently that one is for men because Valentine's Day apparently is for women. It's exactly a month after Valentine's Day. Are you going to get a stake in a blow job? Probably. I hope you do, Menace. I can get you to the stake part. I can get you the stake part. Okay. I can't make, Menace. I can get you to the stake part. I can't make the stake, but I can buy you a stake. Okay, close to half of women feel ugly without makeup. This is probably not a surprise, but a study came out. It's a survey found that

nearly half of the women linked their bare face with being unattractive, and a quarter women started wearing makeup between the ages of 11 and 13. I mean, that's stupid. I'm sorry I'm even sharing that because most women I guess do feel agree with that makeup, but I feel okay, I don't feel my best without makeup, but I prefer to wear makeup, but I didn't start wearing makeup.

I was wearing makeup in my teens. Maybe I should have, I would've gotten more action, but I mean, do friends that you can notice when they wear makeup and when they don't as a guy, are you like, yeah, some were like, they don't as a guy? You're some. Yeah, some were like, ooh. Oh, oh, oh, oh. Looking kind of hurt.

Right, exactly. Don't tell her that though. But I do. I love her. You do, you're like, what happened to lip gloss? Oh my god, you're looking kind of hurt today. What's going on? Yeah, exactly.

And she's like, sorry, I didn't do my eyeshadow. Mm-hmm. Okay, study finds women use condoms less the longer they're in college. So a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research finds that starting in their freshman year of college, women use condoms less the longer they're in college. So a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research finds that starting in their freshman year of college, women use condoms less and less the longer they're in school. Results showed that women started out of school with moderate to high levels of condoms used only to steadily use them less over the course of the time. The author said that women who binge drink were more less likely to use condoms.

Duh, you have so drunk you don't remember what a condom is even to camp and hit you over the head. Use condoms people because you will get a disease, you will get herpes, if not something worse. And people won't love you as much. Yeah, exactly. Use condoms people, just, I just gave menace a bunch of condoms, lifestyle's condoms. We've got some condoms in the office.

We'll send them to you. If you email me why you think you need condoms to feedback at I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you. I'm not going to tell you.

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I mean, it's true. You are a slut if you want to use birth control. But. Oh, menace. That's the dumbest thing you've ever said. You're so mean to have every show. Well, because you do a lot of dumb things. So I'm sorry if it's I'm discrediting myself.

But menace, we may ever want to use birth control because otherwise you get pregnant. You get pregnant if you don't, why is why are you a birth control? It's like, you're like a super horror if you get, you know, those injections into your self. Is that how you do? Yeah, where it like, you don't have to. Yeah, you don't have to.

Why are you a horror? It just means that you're protecting yourself and getting pregnant. You're using, you love banging how it guys. I thought that was a bad idea because then you just get like one injection a year and you're on birth control all year long because so many women, what happens is

they have to take the pill every day, they forget. And if you forget just one day, the potency of the birth control book goes down. So you can't keep having sex if you forget your pill once. It's no longer as effective. So it's not a bad idea. Speaking of pregnancy, Snoopy lied about her pregnancy.

Yes. What do you think? Is she pregnant or not? She denied pregnancy rumors earlier this month, but sources tell TMZ that she had a damn good reason she didn't want to jinx herself. Because a lot of women don't want to talk about their pregnancy before three months

because they can have miscarriages or whatever. She was already pregnant when she went on serious XM radio in February first, told everyone she was outraged by the suggestion. Now it seems she's crossed the three month meth threshold and announcements to come soon. Yeah, she hasn't tweeted in a couple days. Let me see if she's barfing. They said that she hasn't tweeted for three days. Is that because she thinks she's like having birth morning sickness or something?

No, that just means that she doesn't want to say anything. How long is she with her boyfriend? 16 minutes? No, she's been with him for like over a year. And how old is she? She's, I think, 24. 24, 23. Kids, people don't have children before you.

She's worth a couple million dollars but she can do whatever the hell she wants. Yeah, but she's not mature enough to have a child just because you've all the money in the world. It's people I know with all the money in the world of children and don't make the best parents. She said she's been saying that she wants a kid. I know, but she's a little young.

Don't get married before 30 and try not to have kids before 30. That's all I'm gonna say. She just tweeted five hours ago for the first time and says congratulations to Lady Gaga for launching some foundation. Okay, so she's not talking about her pregnancy yet. I mean, I get waiting three months

because then you get a miscarriage. Because the women have a lot of complications under three months, so you don't wanna talk about it. And of course, and of course she wants to sell it to like us magazine the exclusive. Exactly, and then make another million dollars. Yeah, why does it put it on Twitter? She's actually not as worth as much as I thought she was.

Oh, how much does she worth? She's worth $2 million. That's it, that's all she's made in Jersey Shore. I mean believe me, I would love $2 million, but you would think she would have a lot more than that. Yeah, totally. But it's weird, the guy, the situation guy, he's worth like almost 10 million.

So what has he done more effectively than Snookie? I do not know because he doesn't do anything. Really? He just is getting paid more for like public appearances or something No like a poly D the other guy he gets paid 40 grams. I was a Jersey store folks. Yeah, because he he DJs right Does something like a new key just like is it an idiot? She's not that bright. I've seen her on shows But I guess she's not making money for her Yeah, I mean she keeps on coming out with stuff

I don't think people would really buy. Like what? Snooki sunglasses, snooki slippers. Yeah, she has no taste, so why would you buy it? Don't buy anything snooki mixed because she has zero taste. Oh God, she's a sweet lady. She's a lady, whatever. Okay, a sex scandal puts yoga instructor

into an awkward position. Now, yoga instructors ironically are always getting into scandals because they sleep with their clients, or their yoga, their yoga, their yoginis. They always do this, this happens to me. I mean, it's happened to me, I did sleep with my yoga instructor, okay? But anyway, after accusations of multiple sexual indiscretions

with his female students, John Fren, the founder of Anusara, one of the world's fastest-growing yoga styles, is stepping down for an indefinite period of self-reflection, therapy, and personal retreat. Insiders were apparently well aware of his pension for women and his love of parting and fun, but when news guy up to the ranks of his followers, many were angered at what they saw as hypocrisy. It's worth noting that yoga was originally invented in order to enhance tantric sex.

So maybe Mr. Friend was simply too avid to student over the art. There was a scandal in Oakland, California with some yoga instructor because you get close, you get hot, you get sweaty, you're adjusting. I mean, this yoga instructor that I had the huge crush on years ago, I'd be like, please, please, please come over and crack me Cause they like intimately correct you. You've never taken yoga, but they're like, we're spreading your legs apart and they're like bending you and like you get all turned on

and then I slept with them. Oops. But that was, that was a while ago, but creepy yoga guy. Creepy yoga guy, but it was hot because he was like my teacher and I get why that happens in such a heated, literally heated environment. But whatever, he'll be fine. I'm sure he started a yoga movement.

It's funny because what's the style of yoga? And you saw her? How many different styles of yoga on there? There's a million different styles. There's like beacroom yoga, there's a shtonga yoga, there's so many yoga. Beacrooms, the hot yoga,

have you ever been to that? No. It's like 110 degrees in the room, and it's 90 minutes, and you always do the same poses I used to be really into that but now I do a stanga yoga, which is this different kind and on you sorrow I can't remember what that is I yogurt. That's about it. Well kind with chocolate chips and I love all kinds of yogurt I eat yogurt too. I eat yogurt fan. I had yogurt this morning with peaches in it really Greek yogurt is the is all the crave now all the rage peaches in it really Greek yogurt is the is all the crave now all the rage God. Why are you like following all the those wacky

Because I'm healthy. I try to be healthy. What's wrong with trying to be a healthy Check in the world. I'm just saying you want to follow these trends My beautiful glow. I don't live in Michigan anymore. That's why you know and my mom eats Greek yogurt and she lives in Michigan. Does she do Bachram yoga or whatever? Yeah, my mom does yoga. My mom does pilates. Because you probably call her and tell her

about all this wacky stuff. In fact, it was her yoga instructor that I slept with. Oh, I'm sure she does. She doesn't know that though, don't tell her. Okay, Jennifer Aniston is making a sex tape for not with Justin Thoreau, her boyfriend. So apparently she took the plunge into multiple nude scenes in her new film, Wanderlust,

which is coming out, I think this weekend. Filming several sex scenes and wrecking up hours of racy footage. None of this footage ever made the final cut of the film. So apparently she's editing together tape of her hottest scenes as a one year anniversary present for her bow and co-star Justin. Well, I endorse all this.

You would? You'd like if a girl made you a sex tape? Yeah. Without you in it. Just like, oh, I don't, oh, unless it was sex scenes with him, but I don't think it was if they've sex in the movie. Yeah, okay, never mind. Never mind. Is, have you heard about this movie wanderlust coming out? Yeah, no, no.

Oh, you haven't. You don't follow that stuff. You follow, maybe you don't follow pop culture? I don't follow, uh, movies like that. I't follow pop culture? I don't follow movies like that. I want to know when the next top gun is coming out. I know, I know. We just heard it was coming out today. They announced it.

Well, they leaked or something like that. It's coming out. Okay, wouldn't it? But I love comedies. Comedy's are my thing. What's the best comedy you've seen lately? Best comedy that I've seen lately. Oh man, it's been a while.

I mean, I guess bridesmaids since bridesmaids. Right. And did they win anything at the Academy Awards? No, they can't. You knew they wouldn't. The Academy will never vote for a movie like that. I know, they never, ever well. Yeah.

I understand that because whatever. I didn't think it was that funny. Oh god. I don't like fart jokes and like shitting and stink jokes. That's not funny. I'm the least of tight woman on the planet, but I don't find guy. I find that to be guy humor. Oh, let's all be like that. What movie is it? When they all go to Vegas, the popular one from a few years ago, hangover. They're trying to be like the female hangover.

Yeah. Just be the female whatever bridesmaids, but don't try to be the hangover and shit the thing. Then what do you think is funny? I think there's a lot of funny things out there. Smart humor. Smart humor. Tell me about this smart.

I don't know. I haven't seen it moving in a really long time, but I don't think that that's not. How about a television show that you think is funny? I don't watch television, except for I watch the Real House. Tell me something in the history of cinema that you thought was funny. I thought that I told you that I thought meet the parents the first 20 minutes of that movie with Ben Stiller is hilarious.

Have you seen it? Yes. It's funny. It's a first in the cans of my mind. And there's a lot of old 80s movies that were really funny, but not a lot of funny stuff lately. I don't laugh that much. I mean, I laugh at my own stuff.

I think we're more funny. Well, I'm hilarious. Of course you'll be laughing a lot of time. Yeah, okay. And just so you know, today's show, we are going to be getting into some oral sex tips for men and women. We get a lot of emails from people about how to perform oral sex, what's the right way, what's the wrong way with women and men, and we're gonna get into that a little bit.

Oh, I have a beef with you. Uh oh. I always see you on G-Chat, and I try to call you with, because I have a new MacBook on the G-Chat video chat, and you never answer. I've never once seen you call. I call the billion times.

You don't answer. Isn't my sex with only a Gmail? I'm not a Gmail. That's weird, because I would always answer your call And I chat with you every day. So why would you not it doesn't you're something's wrong with your setup nothing's wrong with my setup I never I've never seen why would I not pick up your call? I don't know. What are you doing? I mean I think office doing what fucking preparing for the show Jesus Christ honey. I swear to God on my life. I don't like go Oh, it's menace, ignore.

Yeah, all right. Try it, let's try it. Try it again, not now. Well, not now, I don't like computer working. But try it later, I swear to God, honey. And in fact, I chatted with you today and it said, right when I started typing, it said menace went offline. And I was like, well, I saw you typing, that's why.

Really? See, that's what I thought. Jerk. Okay, last sex in the new story a cop nabs a pump party women for black market but injections oh my god I've been hearing about this kind of stuff have you yeah page winds low a woman more commonly known as the black madam has been arrested in Philadelphia for hosting pumping parties where she illegally injected women's buttocks with silicone.

Well, many big booty enthusiasts feel silicone injections are something to get behind, get it. The bottom line is that amateur silicone injections have caused several deaths and numerous injections in the past. When asked for questions, when so said that this arrest was a real pain in the butt. How many alliterations? How many? I mean, I don't know this. Okay, but no seriously, she, yeah, they're getting injections, so their butts bigger.

Oh man, there's some stuff online where you do the butt injections, where they were like, it was like black market stuff, where they put like cement in there, or something like that. Some kind of like rubber cement. Your butt is fine. And it was like, I don't know how they even survive

without, you know, getting all these chemicals in their body and stuff like that, but it was like ridiculously big. It was crazy. I'm not cool about that. I'm trying to find out how much Kim Kardashian's ass weighs online and it doesn't tell me. Can you just weigh your ass independently?

She weighs between 117 and 125. And that's it. Yeah. That's not very much. She looks like she's heavier than that. No. She's 36D. Wow. She's fixed. She's 38, 2640. No, she has real boobs. Really? Yeah, because she says you never want to see me with my broth because you know girls that have boobs that big. They lay down, they like, they go to the side. Oh really, I don't have that problem. They like, the boobs like go under their armpits. Oh, that's uncomfortable. I get a boob reduction.

If I had that big of boobs, I would cut them in half. I cut the side. Why? Because it's like having a whole other accessory. You got always plan for it. You know how many more free dinners you could get? You think, free car washes, free everything. Oh yeah.

Yeah, that's true. I guess I could start you doing the cleavage thing. I'm not a big cleavage chick. I mean, I have some boobs and I could make my, show my boobs more, but I don't. Um, okay, we can move into some emails. Size 27 jeans, by the way. That's what she wears. That's not bad.

I'm a size 24 jeans. Oh. I'm smaller than she is. All right. And I'm just big of boobs. Okay, thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemily.com. You can also go to sexwithemily.com and you can just email us right there. There's an Ask Emily button.

You can follow us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Sex with Emily for sex tips and sex information. You can find menace at white menace at all those places as well. Yeah. Follow me on Instagram. Follow me on Instagram. Follow me, he loves the Instagram. Okay, emails, dear Emily, this is about telling her she's beautiful. I do tell my wife every day or more often,

we've been married four years and yet her way of telling me she wants sex is to get naked under the covers in the dark. I flirt with her and she ignores it. When we do have sex, I'm never convinced she enjoys it. I've spent literally hours trying to get her at least to enjoy it with nothing to show for it. As I said, I'm always telling her she's gorgeous and I'm not lying.

She is stunning. She's an eight out of a 10. Though I personally see her as a 10 out of 10, she's my world. This is a successful headhunted, this is a successful headhunted, this is a successful headhunted professional. She is so nice and everyone who meets her loves her. How the hell does someone so successful get a lower self esteem than a bloke one step above a drifter? I don't know

what more to do regards Ben. Well, thank God for her. Why? He was able to stagger. That's why. Yeah, exactly. He's like saying he's a drifter. So here's the deal. Let me just give you a little bit of history on this. I tell men oftentimes that they should tell their partner that she's beautiful a lot. I mean, a few times a day, hey, honey, hey, beautiful, you look great today. You look like how you look at that. And men is just going to make a joke here,

but let's just let that not let. Let's wait 30 seconds before he does that. Because I know it's the ego and women, but women like to hear that you think that they are beautiful or attractive or are like your new shoes or whatever it is, we need to hear it. It's not just that we like to hear it,

like women need it. And yes, we have said a lot of women have low self esteem, but it's not just because of that. It's just a way to connect, it's intimacy, and women do a lot to make ourselves a good for you, okay? We get our butts blasted with silicone. No, whatever we do. And so it just, I always say, tell your partner, she's hot.

But what he's saying is, she still has low self-esteem, no matter what, and she gets under the covers naked. So one of the biggest issues that couples have, one of the biggest challenges to people's sex life is that women have low self-esteem, and therefore they don't enjoy sex because they're so insecure about their bodies. She had one set of sex under the covers in the dark and so I guess that telling her she's beautiful isn't enough and I would say that you need to do some talking to with her. I would say Ben, I would say you know ask her what's up, ask her what's up with with you know how she's feeling about herself. Maybe she needs a little therapy. Self-esteem

is not going to be cured by someone telling you you're beautiful. You could be told that you know, you always hear Hollywood actresses, you know, the most beautiful women in the world saying, I hate my legs, I hate my chin, my left chin sticks out funny. I mean, every woman's got it, but if this is really deeply embedded in who she is, who knows, maybe her, you know, comes from her childhood or she never felt she was good enough, maybe she needs a little therapy to get over it because it sounds like you're doing everything you can. She knows that she loves you. She knows that you think she's amazing

and it's still not working. So I don't know how she, you're asking me how she got a lower self-esteem. I would just say that it could come from, self-esteem is something that is not, there's not one cure-off or dealing with self-esteem, but a lot of it has to do with going to therapy, discussing your issues. There could be things from your childhood holding your back, and that's what I just

suggest, especially if it's a wreaking havoc on your sex life. She gets under the comfort of this naked, ready to go. To me, that would be the least hot thing in the world. Let's turn off the lights and now I'm naked and pump me right now, baby, right? I don't know. I think that he should just start cutting off all this, saying, all your beautiful and all that stuff. Make it, she just probably, so used to it.

It's not even special anymore. Well, maybe there's other ways he could do it. Like, maybe there's other ways besides telling her she's beautiful because I've actually been together for years, then maybe that's numbing. Yeah. You could tell her that you're really proud of the job that she does at work, that you really like the dinner that she made, that you really think it's great the way she runs 10 miles every morning. Whatever it is, maybe you need to compliment her in other areas of her life.

Maybe she's struggling with certain things at work or she's not feeling as great about you know, other things. I don't know what it is, but self-esteem is sort of this elusive thing that it's very, very hard to get in, no matter how many times someone's told that they're amazing and beautiful and smart and successful. It's still going to be there deep inside them. That's why you got to just flip the script on these bitches. You know, they're just too use to use it.

She's got some of these team of shoes on. She's under the covers naked. Like listen, Hor, maybe throw on some makeup, you know, look a little bit better. Doll it up. I mean, how do you feel when a woman gets naked in terms of lights off? The gets naked in terms of lights off? Okay, she's like, she's like, she's like, I don't know, maybe she, I just think,

like, maybe not about her body, but maybe there's like something missing, maybe she got like a tail or something, you know? Yeah, she's a mermaid. Yeah. Maybe she's a mermaid, something like that. Maybe she has like, you know, massive birthmark, she doesn't want me. Yeah. Maybe she's a mermaid, something like that. Maybe she has like a massive birthmark. She doesn't want me to say.

Maybe she's in shade or pews in a while. Yeah, maybe she just has like a full on furbie down there. But I just want to tell you Ben, there's nothing. It sounds like there's nothing not one thing you can do. You can try talking to her body. You can try complimenting other areas. But this might be some deep psychological issue she has and she should walk, not run to a therapist.

Yeah. They can really help with that stuff. I promise you. Okay. So, next email. Hi Emily. I'm a new listener to your podcast in the UK and I love it. This is the first time I've checked out your website and didn't realize how much of a

how do you are. I'm a lesbian in a very loving relationship. However, I'm worried that we have turned into the lesbian cliche. I'm a lesbian too. As soon as we moved in together and got a cat and our sex life has gone downhill. As soon as we moved in together, we got a cat and our sex life has gone downhill. Oh, there's another pussy in the equation. Yeah. They call it lesbian bed death. I am very anxious about initiating sex as I keep hitting shut down. I've always had a higher libido than my partner, but it's just not happening at the moment. I've tried making special dinners, massage candles, but feel like my efforts are fetal.

She knows how it feels to be a man now. Do you have any tips for lesbian couples? Frankie from Born Amount don't dorset. Okay, here's a thing Frankie, I'm so glad you emailed me because, you know, lesbian couples, they do talk about, have you heard this, the lesbian bed death syndrome like like, they move in super fast. What do lesbians do in the first date? Move in. Call the you hot, call the moving truck. So it is, you are living the lesbian cliche, but I'm glad that you wrote because here's the deal. Have you guys had any discussions

about what really turns each other on? Have you asked her, you know, maybe the things that you're doing, the candles, massage, whatever, it doesn't work for her. Maybe she's got some fantasies that she hasn't shared with you yet. Do you know how she orgasms? Like, what makes her feel good? You know, a lot of couples, it's very popular to have. It's a very common thing to have mismatched libidos. And there are things that you can do to spice up your mismatched

libidos. You can try planning for a special event. Do something together that that is like adrenaline producing. When you go jump off the sky diving, go try and do sport together. A lot of times couples need that adrenaline and it brings them together. And so I would say you could try some things like that. But I would just start by talking and saying, you know what, honey, I'm feeling like I'm making these efforts. I don't want to be the lesbian and cliche and what can we do about it? Now if she just says, I don't know, I'm tired, I'm not feeling it, then maybe she needs to go to her doctor and get checked out.

There's a lot of women who suffer from low libido. It's really common. And the biggest factor that contributes to low libido and women is stress. So what I'm wondering is, is she stressed at work? Does she have a lot of stuff going on in the office that she can't, you know, that she can't really discuss, is she having family drama? Stress kills it. It kills your libido. Yeah. Our gas prices too high, or they're in the... Gas prices are freaking high here.

Yeah, in the UK, oh my God, they're like $8 a gallon or something like that. Is it really? Yeah. It is crazy here. I mean, like crazy, crazy, crazy. So I would say for women, you could try Hot Rocks, which is the new thing that I'm trying. But you need to communicate.

You need to find other ways, like I said, to spend time together. Try something new and unexpected in the bedroom. You can buy my book. It's called Hot Sex over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. It's available on Amazon Which has really helped people sex lives because there's 200 things in my book that you can actually just Open it up to a page and try it like just try that one thing because it's not tricky tricky things It's like easy things that you can do You can try giving them oral sex spontaneously

Just you make it a night about her make it a night about giving her massage and give her oral sex. See how that feels. Another thing for libido's enhancing is kegels. Kegels exercises are really important. I've got an app you can download in the iTunes store for your iPad called Kegel Camp. Women have talked about having longer, stronger, increased orgasms by doing their keglet exercises regularly So those are some things that I recommend, but I think a lot of this goes back to just having a chat with our because you don't want to be that next lesbian cliche No, I mean I know so many lesbians in that situation

So that's what I suggest. I was wrong. It's actually $10 a gallon Is it but then that's their dollars double Rs. So what is that in US dollars? Well, no, $10 US dollars. That's crazy. I'm going broke filling out my gas tank. It's insane. And now I'm going to LA this weekend. It's such a boner killer.

It's a boner killer. It's a boner killer. Yeah, it's a boner killer. You're like, you're worrying so much about gas. It might even stop you from going to having a date with somebody. Oh, it's just too far. Obviously, you would not travel more than 30 minutes ago. No way.

I don't even travel over the bridge to go see a guy. But, you know, I actually don't go with you on much gas because my work is four miles from my house. But I fill it up like once and one and a half weeks. How about your card? You, I barely ever fill it up You barely use it right is it electric? No, it's not electric I have one of those new cyan I choose is the world's smallest four-seater car. That's awesome

Yeah, they're they take care of me. I just have it for a few months. Okay. It's cool. That's nice city car That's really cool. You can't have sex in it though. You can't have you tried? No, it's not even possible. There's no way. You can't have sex in the car. I don't remember. Okay. Of course. I didn't try to have sex.

Okay. DRAM, I recently discovered podcasts. Hello 21st century. It's podcasts. And yours was the first one I downloaded for my tunes. You and Minus are always cracking me up and have made not only my drive to and from work a million times better, but I've started opening up more in the bedroom.

That's our goal. I have two things. First, I just listened to a recent show where you were talking about birth control pills for men. You spoke about some of the better side effects of female birth control, but I just wanna say all women should know there are horrible side effects too. I'm in my mid-20s and just got a huge blood clot from pills.

It was so bad that I couldn't walk. I'm just saying, if there's a pill for guys with no effects, they should relieve their ladies of that burden and take it. This is referring to a sex in the new story the other day about they've been talking about this for years, but apparently there is going to be a new pill for men that they can take and they'll just be shooting blanks. And I say, I'll take it. I say, what have they been waiting for? Well, I'm on a planparahood.org right now, and I looked up male, you know, male birth control, and they said that men have five birth control options abstinence condoms

Nothing else it has like withdrawal with draw method doesn't work. That means pulling out right? Yeah pulling out. I know so many people have gotten pregnant from withdrawal because you get pre-com. Yeah And I would also say. Why sector me? No. And if it's sector me. Is that really what it says? Well, because this was something that's been proposed that the FDA has done approved it yet.

Outer course. What is that? Humping. Is dry-humping? I guess so. What does outer course? Outer course. Sex play keeps sperm out of the vagina

to prevent pregnancy. I don't know. Where are six condoms? I don't know what's. Outer course. I don't know, where are six condoms? I don't know what I owe. I don't know, of course. I don't even know what that means. Well, Google that while I read the second part of email. Second, you're always saying you should never disclose

your number of how many people you slept with. And I totally agree. My boyfriend has made it clear that he thinks poorly of women that have gotten around, even if it's in their past. Something as simple as a TV show can bring up the subject, and then he starts questioning me about my past, saying he'd think I'm lying to him. Why do men do this? I swear, if we don't work out, I'm going to tell the next guy to piss off if he asks

my number. But for now, what can I do to him to get him to leave me alone about it? Thank you West Coast girl trapped in the prude Northeast. What? She's from Arlington, Virginia. Okay. First of all, let me just recap. Menace and I talk about this a lot. You should never, ever, ever share the number of people you've slept with. It is nobody's business, but your own. Don't tell your friends. Don't tell your boyfriend. If you're a woman, tell your boyfriend, it's either too, too many, too few. If you have a, you've slept with a lot. He thinks you're a slut. If you're a woman and tell your boyfriend, it's either too too many, too few. If you have a stuff with a lot, he thinks you're a slut. If you have stuff with a nut,

not many, he doesn't believe you or he thinks that you don't have any experience. I've never seen a scenario where this helps the relationship. It just makes them think of all those penises in the bed. They're like, oh, you set up a 20 guys. Then they think of those 20 penises being your vagina and they can not get that image out of their head. Oh, no. And you're asking me what you should do about it. Just say that's, you know, just, I would just say, you know what, honey, that's my,

that's my number. I like to keep it to myself. I don't share it with anybody. End of story. Don't even go on about it. Just say, no, I actually don't share that number. I actually don't, I actually don't talk about it. And if they say, well, I don't wanna be with you,

then yeah, all right, fine. Cause you're going to destroy your relationship no matter what. Can you tell me, Matt, why do you think men are so obsessed with finding out the number? I'm not. You're not. I know you're not. But why are men so obsessed? Because they want to know if your girls are slender, not? Yeah, exactly. But don't you think if the number was like three, then you'd be like, I don't believe her? Or she has an eye now. Well, they always cut in half, exactly. And but don't you think if the number was like three, then you'd be like, I don't believe her, or she has to knock out. Well, they always cut it in half anyways.

So you're gonna take the equation, they say, you know what time's it by two? Women say they cut the number in half minus 10. I've heard. Yeah, but just, I would just say, you know what, he's not your guy. If he keeps pestering you about this, ask him why he wants to know.

Tell him you don't want to know his number. Keep going. Don't ever talk about it, Amy. So I looked up the the what outer course means. Okay. And it's basically just making out. It's like no oral anal or vaginal infomping. Yeah, pumping.

Make it out and pumping. Dry pumping. Have you ever had an orgasm from dry pumping? Almost, but not exactly. In high school, I think I almost did once, but you can't have an orgasm dry-hopping because you can rub your clitoris against his pants and you can have them. Have you had a woman?

You can get rug burn on your weiner. I know. Well, we don't care about your weiner if we're getting off. Yeah, exactly. I know. Well, this apparently a stripper did that to one of my friends. She got an orgasm? No, she got rug burn. No, no, no, no, no, she gave him an orgasm from a lap dance. Wow. I bet that happens all the friggin' time. If she's like really, I mean, I don't know how they do it.

She's super hot and she's grinding her barely clad bottom on his penis. Yeah, because here in San Francisco, I mean, the strippers are crazy. They're all over you They're like basically giving you hand jobs some of them are right and I'm other places you can't even touch them, you know, but here in San Francisco. It's it's pretty crazy It is pretty crazy. San Francisco stripper that did that wow. Yeah. I see a lot of men get off on that

I'm sure I'm sure that they, you know, love it. She did some ass move where she like clenched her ass with his wiener. Over his wiener? Like, yeah, through his pants. Oh my God, he must've wearing thin pants. I don't know. I may have to ask what.

I'm sure a lot of men get off that column. Now I'm just kidding. Okay, so let's move into the topic here. And the topic is? Well, calling it just the tip, just because we like that name. No, it's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. It's oral sex tips. I get that just the tip means just the tip.

When you say just the tip, what do people automatically think? I know, what do they think? They think just the tip, just the tip. They think of a guy trying to force a woman into having sex and he says just the tip, baby, just the tip. Just put the tip in. Have you said that to a girl before? Just the tip, no. Come on, when you were like 18. No, just the tip baby, just the tip. Just put the tip in. Have you said that to a girl before?

Just the tip now. Come on, when you're like 18. I'm just gonna do it now. Just the tip, no. I'll be like, I'll put it in and put it in. Don't fall for it people. The guy says just the tip, he wants the whole shebang. Yeah, the tip just ends up being the whole.

He wants the whole shebang and you're bang and you're pussy. Okay, but we got some really good information here about oral sex, how to do it, how to go down in a woman, how to go down in a man, some things you should know that you might not have already known about oral sex, so I'm going to get into that now. So first of all, we should all know that the road to lasting sex, to having really good sex, is paid with among other things oral sex. But I think a lot of us could use some tips on oral sex, especially a lot of the men that I've been with lately. But I think a lot of us could use some tips and oral sex, especially a lot of the men that I've been with lately.

I feel that a lot of men can use some tips because I'm gonna give it to you guys. A lot of women are different. Every woman would like, you have a hundred reginas in the room and those women all want to you to go down in them in a different way. Would you agree with menist? Yeah, no women, none of the women aren't the same.

They're all different. So a lot of it is communication. Some of them don't even want you to go down. Right, there's a lot of women who don't like it. Love those women. I don't understand those women. I mean, because they also go down on me. Menace loves those women.

And I just, I'm perplexed by those women. I know a couple of them. And I go, wow. And I get my high five, my drink. My drink, a wedding ring. Whatever five star restaurant they want me to take them to. I'll take them to you. Right. I mean, I'll do it. 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, 5, because it's easy for you guys. It's not. Do you think, blow it? Do you think giving performing oral on a man is easier than a woman? Yeah, I'm sure it is. You gotta stick something in your mouth.

You gotta gag. You gotta come and put all this saliva on. Yeah, but you guys like it. Do you think you're sexy when you're talking about it? How about all the women who get married and don't wanna give oral sex anymore? Well, those bitches should be thrown to the curb. Oh my God.

And she could force them. So listen, oral sex is- Is there tricks or horse? Oh, they're not. But there is that myth. And she divorced them. So listen, oral sex is a trickster horse. Oh, they're not. But there is, there is that myth. And please email me because we have had a lot of emails about this feedback at sexacolme.com. If you got married and you stopped receiving oral sex or if you're a woman and you stopped giving it, I want to hear more about that.

How's it all going down? So good. So good. That you're not going down. Some girls even bring it up. But like, oh, we're married now. I don't have to do that. All the time. I saw that in the real houseways of Orange County,

they're like, really, you still do that? I know. Okay, so it's always grounded in preparation or all sex. You want to be enthusiastic. I've told men, they always say enthusiasm is the number one thing that they want to see from the woman that she's really into it. She's why I'm plugging her nose, reading a magazine and passionate about giving pleasure to your partner and give them as much as you can.

In doing so, they'll be more willing to return the favor unless you're menace and he's not going to return the favor. Studies have shown that oral sex is on the rise with younger generations, with more and more people thinking it's just as intimate as intercourse. And I believe that it is. I believe that a lot of times I might have sex with someone before I would have him perform all sex on me.

Because it is a really intimate act, don't you think? Of course it is. It's like you're like licking my vagina. I am licking your vagina. You're not licking my vagina. You are licking my vagina. So I'm just saying it better not look like Rose Beath down there or an ink and have it.

Oh God, man. Okay, so the study. It's okay. So the study... There was a study that came out that said that many young women feel empowered by performing phallacia. They feel like it gives them a certain power. Oh yeah. You can have as much power you want all day.

Go for it. Okay. So there's a little history of oral sacs that I found interesting. So did you know that heterosexual philatio remains illegal in more than a dozen states? No way. So it's still illegal. Among them, only Alabama offers an exemption

for married couples. And this is just a funny little tidbit, which I found very amusing. When Charlie Chaplin, you know, Charlie Chaplin the old time, yeah, you know he is, actor, comedian, his wife felt for divorce from him. She used California's anti-folacio law to her benefit, suing him for damages for the times he made her go down in him. Those few moments of joy cost Charlie Chaplin, $625,000.

Damn, back then. Back then. So when was Charlie Wimbledon at like in the 20s, 30s? Yeah, that was early. Long time ago. Long time ago. Yeah. Okay. So, after World World II though, and GI's experiences with more enlightened women when they were abroad, blow job rates began to climb in the U.S.

In 1948, the Kinsey report showed that only 40% of men received oral sex and five years later, just five years later, that number was up to 62%. So it really was with Kinsey, Alfred Kinsey, who started measuring sex in the 50s and the early 50s, that oral sex became more common and women started learning about it and performing oral sex. So there are some issues with oral sex that we just got to talk about. It's not too sexy and fun, but I'm just going to share it with you because it's all true, true, true.

There are diseases you can get. You can get herpes, gonorrhea, HIV, HPV, hepatitis, and other diseases. So you can also use a dental dam. Do you know what that is? It's like a condom that's spread out. It looks like it's an orplastic food wrap or cut a condom and lay it lengthwise against your partners with gin and to make your own dental down or you can use a condom. Go with a flavor condom.

There's thinner condoms like lifestyle has a new skin brand condom. I think I gave you one of those today, menace. They're thinner so men can feel it. So and another thing is that I promise I'm going to do the good stuff in a minute. Another thing is that I promise I'm getting the good stuff in a minute. Be very careful if you have gum disease, cuts, or sores, or you've any kind of oral or genital piercing in the last six weeks because the piercing is an open wound and provides easy access for bacteria and viruses. So if some woman wants to go down to you and she's flashing you her new tongue piercing, tell her to stick on a condom.

Be careful, okay? I'm sure every guy will like, yeah, hold on. Whatever, babe. Okay. Man, he had some pretty hot wives, Charlie Chaplin. Did he? What year did it say that he was married to? Well, his first marriage was in 1913. Okay. Yeah. But I'm, Charlie Chaplin, actually, the original Hollywood is in Northern California Which is it Niles California near Freemont California? So there's a lot of Charlie Chaplin history right there. I know that I grew up right next to it So I'm very intrigued by this and I can't believe that he lost $600,000 back in the I know

Can you believe that for performing Felicia? You know how much that would be he would be like face book or rich right now. Yeah, I know he would be okay So there are some insecurities that come with oral sex for guys. They want to know When when you come do you spit or swallow? There's that whole conversation like do I spit do I swallow I think the polite thing for men to do is to let your partner know that you're about to come I'm about to go and then she can make that decision. Don't you think that's nice? I'm going to come. Yeah.

Do you do that? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Not all guys do that. No. It's polite. You know, you think you're with a chick that's, you know, been with a couple guys, you know, she's not as classy as the rest. And then, you know, you kind of, you know, release your load and then she gets all upset because you did that

Well, did you tell her I had a time? No, you got to tell her how to time Give her the option to be a whore. She would just like Swallow it all up and not even does it make a woman a whore? Are you saying that a woman is a whore if she swallows your seamen? No, I'm not saying that at all She can be perceived as a whore like because there's fake whores out there There's some girls that act like super slutty and you're like, oh, yeah, you know She'll just do whatever and then you think she would take a shot in the mouth and then you do that Shot in the movie you do that and she gets all upset

You're like, oh my god. She's one of the fake ones. You just got a warning Yeah, and the woman if you swallow a man semen, does that mean you're like, oh my God, she's one of the fake ones. You just got a warning. Yeah. And the woman, if you swallow a man's semen, does that mean you're whore? No, it means you actually lose. The opinions of men are not necessarily the opinions of the sex. I just said it means you actually love that person.

I know. And if you're a spitter, then you don't love that person and you should. So men might think that their semen tastes weird. And we actually talked about this in recent weeks. There's this new thing called mask gel strips, M-A-S-Q-U-E, the flavor less for 15 minutes. They come in chocolate, strawberry, mango, and watermelon. And women can, they're like listerine strips. Yeah. And a woman can put them on her tongue and then she won't taste

the semen at all. Just an option. Nothing like this exists. We have the person that invented that on the show. Exactly. They're from Santa Cruz, California. Exactly, I'm actually meeting them this weekend at the conference. And they also say that kiwi watermelons and watermelon and celery are all set to lighten the taste of cinnamon

whereas coffee and beer are believed to heighten the taste of bitterness. Dairy products are bad for semen. And if you have acidic fruits in your diet, like plums, blueberries, and cranberries, they're believed to taste to have women think that semen taste sweet or sugary. These are some of women's insecurities,

and then we're gonna get into the tips. Women often ask, am I clean enough? Anyone who's given oral sex knows that guys don't always smell, look, taste so good down there, so it would be silly to think that women do too. Our culture tells us, our culture tells us that guys are supposed to be a little gross, but ladies are supposed to smell like beautiful little flowers with no hair out of place, which I think is unfair.

Women have to be perfect down there. It's all true. Not one hair or whatever. All true. And some people just don't like it. A lot of women, you've experienced this right? Women who just, I have friends who don't like it. They just don't like it a lot of women you've experienced this right women You just I have friends who don't like it. They just don't like oral sex They don't like it. They don't want it a lot of men are uncomfortable with the idea of going down on a girl

So there's all these things so these are just some incredible start off in the shower doing the shower Do in the shower take a shower together. That's the best thing Taking even this before anal sex if you wanted that to like take a shower scrub each other down And then you know that things are clean and happy and that can be happy like hey, baby Let's take a hot shower. You can give each other a massage do that whole thing So here's some tips for men when you are going downtown So just remember that it's more than just going down on her Don't jump onto her vagina or clip right away if you jump right to the clip

Everyone I help knows with the clit is. That's where women have orgasms, the only purpose of a clitor, and she can also have a g-spot orgasm. But the only purpose of the clitoris is for female pleasure. The only reason why exists from like, evolutionarily speaking, is it has a thousand nerve, it has more nerve endings than the penis. It's very, very sensitive. But women need to be warmed up. So this is where like the foreplay before the oral sex comes sensitive, but women need to be warmed up. So this is where the foreplay

before the oral sex comes in. So you got to warm them up, you got a teaser. It helps to make circles with your tongue around the clitoris, like around both sides of it, but not go straight for the clitoris because for a lot of women that can be painful. So, cross it with your hands and just try to make the experience very romantic

and central as possible. Remember, I say this all the time with every sexual act that you have to start slow. Just don't go back down there with your face and start like licking away. Kiss your way down your body and tease your thighs and buttocks for a while when you make contact with any part of it before you make the contact with your genitalia. This will definitely turn her on before you start the real action. Get close so she knows you're about to zero in on her, but don't give in immediately.

So that's the teasing part that menace doesn't get. Yeah. Whatever. She wants to get teased, fine, I'll tease you all day, but when it comes to me, I don't want to get teased. Menace doesn't want to get teased, but for, we want to get teased and we want to get warmed up. So before you even remove her underwear, breathe hot air against it through her gentle

area. So breathe over her underwear. It's really, really hot and it feels really good. Breathe softly, but warmly for short bursts at a time. You can alternate with you doing this and kissing her thighs and stomach. I'm sorry, I think that is the hardest thing in the world when men keep my underwear on for longer. It actually bugs me when a guy like kicks off my jeans

and my underwear. I'd rather have you leave my underwear on even for a few more minutes and touch me over my underwear. Are we like 14 again or something? Are we like 10-8 years? That turns me on. That's what turns me on and it turns a lot of women on too.

So remember, don't dive in right away before you, when you begin to kiss and lick her vulva or her vagina, work your way in slowly from the outside. Start by licking the outer edges of the outer lips, the labia, then very slowly spread them and lick and kiss the inner lips and around the vagina. Do this as though you are still teasing her. You'll work your way up to more intense action eventually.

Has a sound madness, teasing, teasing, teasing. Sounds like a lot of work to me. Okay, and you're still waiting for the clitoris. You were not even at the clitoris yet. Jesus. Try to hold off. Where is it? Where is it?

Try to hold off from coming in and her her clippers is going to start getting swollen, so it's going to be easier to find it, because obviously you're doing all these things that I'm telling you and you're turning around. Try to hold off from coming in contact with her clit for as long as you can, even as you kiss her labia and vagina when you do begin to let the clit do it. Super soft.

Super soft. Like, you think is soft? Do it five times softer. And focus on the clitoral hood just above the clitoris since most women prefer indirect stimulation to the clitoris before they're fully aroused. Okay, here's another you can do. Suck it up. As she becomes more roused, you can gently suck our clitoris into your mouth and flick your tongue over it. This

combines suction with a must much faster rhythm and women like that. I have to buy you dinner and do all this. Yep, all this. Don't go right for the clitoris. What do I get out of it? You might get nothing. You might get friggin' all sucks after. What? What? Yeah, you might. Crazy. Just give myself a little bit. Don't you find that a lot of women after you go down on that, oh you don't go down on women? But if you did go down on women, oh, you don't go down on women. But if you did go down on women, they would return the favor. And then keep your ears and eyes open.

Listen for her reaction. You have to listen carefully. Is she making sounds? Is she moaning? If she sounds excited, keep doing what you're doing. Keep doing it. But when she's not responding and she's lying there like a dead fish, it's time to try a new stroke. You can also hum. Humming is really cool. You've heard a phalacio being called a hummer, but it works just as well if you close your mouth and hum against

her clitoris every once in a while. Can you do that? Yes, I can do that. Okay. So you got to grab hold. Grab hold on to her thighs and her her backside so you can rub herself against her wall From of her well against her well. I'm using different words here rub against her well from there You can also reach up and press her breasts Place your hands near her mouth so she can suck on your fingers So don't just be going down on her the whole time Don't go from kissing her lips to kissing her vagina. Kiss all the way down. You can be like Rubber Boobs at the same time. Rubber Boobs. Rubber Boobs. It's so hot

when men rub my boobs as well. I'm telling you women love that stuff. Okay, Menace, you are not going to like this one. Give it to me. Get your whole face into it. What? You're not going to like this next line. I could choke. I could stop breathing. Someone once said that if your eyelids aren't sticky after giving a woman oral sex, you didn't do all you could to please her.

Oh my God. Use your nose, cheeks, and chin. Clean shave and no one wants to havepaper down there and move them around. Even if you're just using your mouth, shaking your face from side to side and up and down while enhanced friction in a great way. I feel like I have to go through those drive through car washes afterwards.

I know, I know, I know, but I'm serious. That's what you gotta do. Oh man. You can also use your fingers. Penetrating your room with one finger and making a com-hither motion is a great way to locate a G-spot. A lot of women need to have clitoral stimulation before a G-spot works. I rather just use my fingers.

I can do all that with my fingers. You'd rather just... They're magic. Yeah. Really? I can do the whole thing with just the fingers. How do you know? Huh? Because I know. know you got magic fingers so you made a woman you've made a woman orgasm through your fingers

That's really common many times but a lot of women use lube and get your fingers wet, right? You do that? No You don't make your fingers wet No, don't need to you need to make your fingers wet. That's why you have to lick it I'm telling you there's a song. This is you got to lick it. I'm telling you. There's a song that says you got to lick it before you stick it. Really? Yeah. How's it go? You got to lick it before you stick it. I think it's true. That's what we should call the show. Lick it before you stick it. Yes. Okay. Penetrating your own with one finger making the come Heather Routin. If you don't know where her G-Spot is, it's good to have some experience

beforehand. Just penetrating her as you lick her, you can also alternate between penetrating with your penetrating her with your penis and pleasuring her orally. Also, it's important to main eye contact. You may lose track of what you're doing, but it's good to make eye contact, give her a smile

and look that says there's nowhere else I'd rather be, even if you'd rather be watching the game. I was totally wrong about that song by the way. Why? You gotta lick it before we kick it. So mean hang out together, you gotta lick it. You gotta lick it before you can kick it with me, bro. Yeah, it's like, it goes like this.

You ready? Uh-huh. I like it. I like it. I like it. We shouldn't make that the new thing. We need a new one. I think we need a theme song.

I'll get someone to work on. Okay, I've got so many more tips for women, but I didn't give any tips for women going down on man. Of course. Whatever. It's really easy. Go. Just don't be too soft with it.

And don't, you know, use teeth. And that's it. No, it's so natural. Yeah, it is. And then use your hand up and down. I thought really good tips. Maybe I should do this next week. Watch a porno, lady.

And that's how you do it. Do not learn how to perform sex through watching porn. Yes. No. You can learn Flasio through porn. Like how a guy wants to have Flasio done to him. Use your tongue, this is for women now going down a man. Use your tongue around the tip.

What do you think about the tongue around the tip? First, second, not the whole time. Yeah, I guess, whatever. Okay. So all these unnecessary steps. Use your, no, you're wrong. You're wrong. Every man is different.

Use your hand. I don't know. While you're stuck on it. Not Not some men don't like the hand. Some men want deep throat, no hand. Okay, then just deep throat them. Just let me talk. Why? Use the underside of your tongue instead.

It's soft, silky texture will aspet be especially sublime on the underside of the penis. Here's what to do. Holding the base of his penis and resting your chin on the underside of his shaft for stability, place the underside of your tongue on the sweet spot and quickly sip it from side to side with the Gwinsha Weper. The underside of your tongue is smoother and will feel better. You didn't know that. What if the oral sucks you've gotten, because like there's no such thing as a bad blowjob probably unless she uses her teeth?

There isn't. Or if she's a she's a... But what if she could take it to the next level and it rocks your world because she's using the underside of her tongue? How about nibbling your way up the side of his shaft as if it were corn on the cob? Little nibbles, not teeth. Taking the skin lightly between your lips and tugging gently. These little love nips aren't painful and are a great visual turn on.

I got a bad blow job once. And I stopped her. And then I said, later on. I got a bad blow job once and I stopped there. And then I said, later on, I told her, I go, yeah, I really wanna teach you how to give me a blow job and then she goes, okay, well, you can't have to go down on me and I said, never mind. Oh my God. Oh, pass.

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