Sex With Emily - SWE: Let's Get Rough...

Episode Date: March 5, 2014

Emily has a blind date and divulges about what she really does at night. Menace plans his dream wedding and Emily talks shotgun weddings.Also, extreme manscaping and etiquette for rough sex, including but not limited to spanking, wrist holding, hair pulling, and biting.Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hi, I'm Emily from Sex with Emily. Good vibrations carries the hottest toys and vibes. I love the Jeju Mimi because it's discreet yet powerful and great for couple sex. Find out how much pleasure your body can really handle. Use coupon code Emily for 15% off at goodvibes.com They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betruma eyes, they call them a lie-gone thing. Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken.

He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I feel so drunk. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships. And everything in between for more information go to sexwithemily.com where you get all your sex information

to Daily Sex newspaper, basically. It is. It is. And yeah, today's Tuesday, what's up? I'm like, hi right now. What is it? Did you just paint your nails? There's something smells like nail polish. No, no nail polish. I thought you like put some nail polish. No, do I? I need to get my nails done tonight, but I'm going to, but no, I didn't do that. Oh, really? What kind of, what kind of things are you going to do to your nails? I'm going to just going to get like a color. I never do. No, no, that's't do that. Oh really, what kind of things are you gonna do to your nails? I'm going to just gonna get like a color.

I never do. I never do. No, no, that's not me. I'm not gonna get fake nails with white tips at all. But no, that's, but I am gonna do that tonight. I've just got lots of running around in Aaron's. Super fun stuff going on. Yeah.

I'm moving offices to a bigger office with sunlight. So upstairs, so to be great. Really? Yeah, but I'm excited about that. Because my interns, we need a little sunshine. It's kind of can get to, my office is very cute, but we're moving upstairs. It's very quaint. We're moving on up. It's very quaint. Let's put it that way. It's cozy. It's cozy, cozy, cozy. So yeah, and if you ever want to get in touch with us and leave us a message, you can do it at 415-9927-39, 2. How you doing today, Menace?

I'm good. I'm very stressed a lot of stuff going on with work, like constantly. Right? It's endless. Yeah, we just went around the planet to be harassed by our work. I know. I mean, on top of being on the radio, we're throwing like three separate concerts, dealing with three, dealing with about 20 different artists and bands,

and stuff like that. Personality's, egos, out of control. I know you didn't charge. I'm getting everyone together. Well, just like getting the information out. And it's just like, you have to get it out perfectly because before you give it to the public, and there's one little thing wrong, the public goes crazy. So, I'm losing my mind.

And then, all I want to do is go to Vegas. I know. I know you're going soon or you were going to Vegas for Thanksgiving. Oh, that's right. That's that's like the typical Vegas place. Yeah, it is a typical Thanksgiving place is going to Vegas. That's hilarious with some check that you may or may not have sex with. Yeah, true. I'm sure you will. Maybe. What? Maybe what else? Doesn't matter. Are you driving or flying? Flying flying. Good. Virgin America, baby. My favorite. True, I'm sure you will maybe what is going to be driving or flying flying flying good?

America baby. I love virgin America. They're not my sponsor. I just love them. I love them too. I want to take them everywhere I go. I really really do so today's show we're gonna be what not to do any plugs because they're not our sponsor yet check this out My friend is part of this new company. It is so bad ass. It's called you go to Cherry.com. Right? Cherry. Cherry. Like a pop your cherry. Yeah, pop your cherry. Right? And they're cherry on Twitter, whatever. It's a new car service. They just come to wherever your car is and wash your car. Oh my god. It's perfect. I love that. Yeah. How sick is that? That's so sick because it's San Francisco getting your car wash. It's like takes half hour, it's expensive.

It's a nightmare. It is. I just said it yesterday as a matter of fact, because I've a dog that has told me about my car. She told me I could have got you. I didn't know. I would love to know. I just said it yesterday, but we'll have to do that another time.

You have to do it, Cherry. It would be like me doing a manly thing, but I actually don't have to do it. No, you can just order it up for me. Yeah. Today's show is one of your favorite topics, I think, menace. We're talking about rough sex, hair pulling,

spanking, biting, like, raw, little bit of rough sex. I'm a cat's chains. Yeah, exactly, bats chains. Hack saws. Whatever, whatever, whatever, whatever floats your boat, whatever turns around, we're gonna be talking about some of the lighter ruff sex moves, we'll also be reading your emails

and we've also got some sex in the news good yeah everything else going on in your life other than a hectic things and hectic things anything exciting i mean i know that i have a a blind date on sunday night i know nothing about him okay and i don't know where we're going yet i don't know what's happening but my friends

are setting it up for me like a truly blind date so that'll be fun i'm looking for that because i can't date in so long now who's setting up your friends yeah but my friends are setting it up for me, like a truly blind date. So that'll be fun. I'm looking forward to that. Because I'm gonna date in so long. Now who's setting up your friends? Yeah. So your friends. One friend knows this guy and another friend concurred that I would like him.

So now there's like all this build up around the guy. And so I'm excited. I love dating. I think dating is fun. Like bring me a new guy. I don't even care if we get along, whatever happens. So you don't know what you're doing, where you're going, anything.

I probably dinner, I'm assuming, you know me, somewhere that takes reservations. Yeah, what about if he takes you somewhere that doesn't take reservations? Like, oh, I know this cool little long-john silver or something? No, I know this is like a little cool, you know, diner or something.

That's fine. I'm not judging. I never know what that is. I never know. It is fine. Don't say it's not fine. I totally don't care about that stuff. So then I got that and I've got what else to have going on. I'm gonna nothing really. Just work. Exciting. How about you? Other than all the crazy stuff in my life, I have just been enjoying. I know this is so nerdy, this enjoying technology.

Oh, like lately, like there's a lot of cool things coming out. Like what? I'm obsessed with this new thing, it's called 360 video where you can actually capture, like I'll put a camera in the middle of you and me. Right. And I'll capture video and I hit play and while the video is playing,

the video could be on you, but then I can just move the cursor and the video itself, the video file will move around and face me. Oh, that's so cool. It's insane. Wow. You just turned the actual camera. You just turn the little device. No, you turn the actual video. Like, let's say you're watching YouTube, right? You're like, oh, I want to turn around and see what the camera man looks like. You can take your cursor and move it. I know it's a weird concept. That's so cool.

I know it's hard to grasp for some people, because it's only been out for like a couple of weeks. I'm like obsessed with it. See, that's what I love about you. Is that what you do for living and social media and all the stuff, but you really do love it and you're passionate about it. Yeah, it's fun. Just like me with Saksix,

except for I have been having that much lately, but I'm passionate about it. What about this blind date that came out? I don't know, I could bone him on the first date, but I actually had a call from a friend last night who was really distressed. She lives in Chicago and she was like, you know, I slept with this guy in the first date

and she felt really bad about it. Like it was a bad thing. And I just told her, it's not that big of a deal. I don't think that you should necessarily, so she was like, I know he wasn't going anywhere. I knew it wasn't going to be anything, but I still slept with him and I felt bad and I was like you know what what no No, no is she originally from Chicago or no no she's actually just visiting there. She lives in

New York, but she was like she's like living there for work for six weeks and she met a guy And she's like I know it's not going anywhere. I don't live in Chicago, but I slept with them anyway And she was beating herself up And I was like a lot of people see together on the first date But if you know it wasn't going anywhere, that's fine But if it was a guy that you really liked, I just think it behooves people to wait. Yeah, it's weird because the Chicago, the reason I asked if she was originally from Chicago because the Chicago women, I know you have to take them out a couple of times.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, and you love the women Chicago. They love to be courted. Right. They do. They're good. They can take me. Well, if I was still lived in Michigan, I'd probably be like that. I know, before I got all whacked out of was still lived in Michigan I forgot I'll whack that exactly I'm so wacky I can't wait you know I'm excited to well you're gonna be my brother he's coming town I

don't think you've ever met him before no I haven't no I can't wait to talk with him I know he's awesome you're gonna love it it's gonna be amazing I know we have to we should have him on the show actually it is gonna be easy here now no he's coming tomorrow yes this is This is going to be awesome. It's going to be awesome. I'm excited for that and he's great coming out of his family to see a sister. So it's good. Okay, we could get into some sex in the news. All right, what do you got? Do you have any sex in the news to add everything about? No, but I did actually I just recorded a radio commercial that's playing right now that all my friends are making fun of me about. It's weird that it seems like we're

plugging a bunch of things right now. Yeah. As long as we tell you we're not plugging we're not. I'm not. Yeah. So I, well I am sponsored by this new thing called Broku. It's a video streaming device that you hook up to your TV and you can just watch stuff on a man like your Hulu Plus. So Zoey Dishanel has a new television show called the New Girl, right? And then so I start off the commercial and I say, I don't know if you guys heard this, but Zoey Dishonel has just newly become single and she also has a new television show called The New Girl. So when I want to keep up on my lady, I just pop on her Roku and it's like, yeah, it's this whole commercial about how I love Zoe Dishanel.

You got to send it to her. Yeah, oh, she doesn't care. Dude, you know how many guys are trying to probably get as Zoe Dishanel right now? No. And if I'm not the good time, anyways, because she just broke, just got to, you know, you know, I don't know. You know, I don't know if she's the type of girl that's on to the next one. You know what that means?

On to the next, on to the next, yeah, I get it. On to the next one means, you after you meet Lee break up. Yeah, you go to the next person. I can't what it means. I used to be that girl. I used to break up with one guy in that night. I'd be dating guy for two years. And that night I would break up with him,

go out with my friends and meet the new guy and date him for two years. Like I literally, I hate your type. I hate your type. No, but I know that's not my type anymore. literally, I hate your type. I hate your type. No, but I know, that's not my type anymore. That used to be my type. I couldn't stop. I would be date guys and then I would try to delay the commitment

and they kept wanting to commit and then I did and then I was regretted it and I'm like, I just need to be alone and then I did that. And then I was alone for a long time. Like now without man. Can I break down a profile of a certain girl for you? Oh God. This is one of the girls that I absolutely hate.

Okay. So they'll be like you. They'll be dating a guy for like a couple of years. A melee break up with them. First thing they do is go on their social networks, Facebook, whatever. A media announced it to the world. Okay.

I'm so single, blah, blah, blah, I'm about to go party it up. And they do that. And then all the girlfriends that they haven't been talking to in a couple of years, because they've been off with their man. Right, they call. They call them, I'm like, girl, we need to go out. I have those friends. Right, so then they go out.

They're all dressed super slutty. And then by the end of the night they're so drunk and the girl Dis starts crying and she's the girl that's like outside the club with her heels off and her Purse is on the ground and she's trying to go through her purse and find her keys and she's just Crying her eyes out because she misses her man. I hate you. I hate you. I hate you. We've all been those kind of girls at some point But you hang out at too many night clubs You. You were the worst girl in the world. No, I've never actually cried over guy at the end of the night drunk, but I've seen those girls, but I feel like you're typical.

The women that you often describe, whether it's the women that you sleep with or the women that you know, are very different than the women I'm friends with, because I know those girls at the bars late night with their shoes off and losing their keys, but I've never been that girl. But you hang out in weird crowds. I know I don't I hang out in the general public. I don't know. I don't know.

I don't know. I don't know. I work related. I don't like I'm not out at night clubs cruising for chicks. I know I'm just saying you're not sick, but I get that type. I get that type that's like a crying about her guy because she got you drunk and can't find her keys or her wallet Yeah, and you know what I was actually thinking about you

Yesterday in bed in bed as I was masturbating. Okay. No, I was thinking about you and you know how you got this television set and you got cable and all that stuff and Then you say you you never watch TV I just can't figure out what you do. I mean, you say, okay, like, all right, you do, you do work all day in the office and you do the show, right? Then after, where, what happens in between that time and bedtime?

I go home and I work more. I do sex tips every weekend, serious satellite. I have to record those. There's endless, there's like, and there's no food in your house, so you must leave. I do. I go to Whole Foods, which is right on the corner. Uh-huh. And then I come back home, and then I usually am online,

like doing stuff that I didn't get to during the day. And then I just don't think to watch TV because it's not in my consciousness of who I am. I've never watched TV, but I did watch the real houseways of New Jersey. Oh, I love them. Do you? Yeah.

I thought that they were interesting, but they all have bodyguards and we're gonna kill each other. I thought that was kinda weird. How is it weird? I don't know, I didn't know I didn't know anything about them. It's amazing. It's amazing. I've never seen it. So yeah, so I've been watching some stuff, but that was just, I watched two shows. I think I've I didn't know what it felt. It's amazing. It's amazing. I've never seen it.

So yeah, so I've been watching some stuff. But I was just, I've watched two shows. I think I've already mentioned that I watched it. So no, you're right. I don't know what I do. I work, I clean, I organize, when I'm feeling stressed, I organize my apartment. Like I organize, make sure, because I have such a small,

like it's a big apartment, but there's not a lot of space. It's kind of a weirdly space. So I'm always obsessively trying to figure out ways to, but I'm not watching TV. I'm like, I don't know what I do. I will watch more TV though. I use, I, well, I'm not obsessively trying to figure out ways to, but I'm not watching TV. I'm like, I don't know what I do. I will watch more TV though. Well, I'm not saying you have the worst words. I was like, I have no idea.

I have no idea. There's a lot going on right now. Let's just say that. Okay, building a brand, you know. Okay, sex in the news. Stiffies drink removed for linking alcohol with sexual success. A drink called Stiffies will be taken off the shelves after a complaint was upheld that it linked alcohol with sexual success.

Apparently, the name eludes to sexual success. The 20% proofs Stiffies' jaffa cake and Kula kaboos drinks will be removed from the shelves after the decision. The panel found that while the company might have deliberately set out to link the product's success to sexuality, the brand name alluded to sexual success and accordingly found the product in breach of the responsibility code. And Stiffy's shots maintain that the name had been chosen

because Stiffy was the nickname of the person involved with the development of the drink and now they change their name to Stiffy's. That's dumb. What do you think? Do you think Stiffy's was really the, why? It gives you a Stiffie? No, but I mean, I don't see why they didn't take the angle of, oh, that's a stiff drink because that's a common

term, you know? Yeah, that's a good point. They're definitely doing that as a joke. Right. Stiffies. Yeah. But they're, I should have been on there. I should have been there lawyer. I know. Totally. So anyway, you can't have a stiffies drink. You can have a stibi. OK, Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds are having the most boring love affair ever. Really?

Blake Lively and Marvah levels are having a blandest love affair. This weekend, they stayed home and walked their dogs. The week before, they stayed home and walked their dogs. Before that, they stayed home and walked their dogs. And before that, they sat next to each other on a train. Considering that Leo took Blake on whirlwind tours of Italy and to Monte Carlo Yacht parties, Ryan should maybe step it up. Unless, of course, they're having kinky hermit sex in that apartment in which

case a dishie quota tube from the maid will do. So what they're walking their dogs. Let them do what they want. That sounds cute. That means they're bonding. They're not like they don't need like all this external stimulation, all the flash and dash of an early relationship to, you know, so they're walking their dogs. It's cute.

They're, they're, they're, um, domesticating. Yeah, they don't need to go to, they don't need a jet set to places. No, or get, take, go somewhere with reservations. These people need to shut the hell up. Whoever reported this stuff. Okay. Women claiming to have Justin Bieber's baby already tried the same, same stunt on her ex. Mm hmm. Mariah Eater, the young woman who claims her son is a product of her statutory rape of a virgin Justin Bieber. Apparently already accused her ex-boyfriend of father in

the kid. Have you heard the story yet? Yeah. She here from california telling me she was proud of my child and i said this is impossible you've been in california for two months and back here for only a week he tells the new york post he also says that yater through a brick through the windows of his honda and slapped him so she may have some anger management issues none of this obviously means her thirty second backstage bathroom dalliance with beaver didn't happen but doesn't really show per case so she's blaming all the guys she slept with in that window of time saying that well chicks are crazy anyway. So there's going to be some kind of crazy thing.

See these are kind of chicks that you're friends with. I bet you know this girl. Yeah probably. Yeah. They if you look into anybody's past relationship history, you're going to find something crazy. They're going to try to say, like, discredit this chick immediately. Right. How is it not possible if she was gone for two months to be not be two months pregnant? I don't know. I don't get it. You see? Right.

I'm not saying this is true. I I just like I pretty much think it's 98% not true, but all this stuff is still there might be some like kernels of truth, right? Yeah, you don't never know. I always say I had a friend who said that everything that you read is gossip. There's always a kernel of truth in it. He believes there's always something in there that you would never like like all the celebrities are always like, that's totally false, that's untrue. None of that happened, but my friend maintains it, even if it's in like the inquire, there's a kernel, little tiny minutia of truth.

There's a tidbit. tidbit, what do you think? Dis-disagree. Okay. If Kim Kardashian already regretting her divorce, she has apparently conflicted about her divorce from chris humpfries and flutamin a apple is to see him and talk face-to-face tmd

cautions that it's definitely not accurate to call this a reconciliation but that the doors definitely not shot yeah her this so they got a fight and she'd like files for divorce like why not get a fight and then have the talk and then file for divorce if you can't reconcile but why did she do you think she's a bit to prove point she's like i'm gonna play the divorce card like who does that after two weeks two months married i know uh... i

made their word in the right mind they had a huge fight and then yes she freaked out will they reconcile i don't know they're gonna look pretty stupid if they do but then they are a look pretty stupid if they got divorced after two months. Yeah, that's true. I mean, I guess I would hope they could get back together. Yeah, I mean, if you went through all that $10 million wedding, $10 million wedding, you're

on television like showing your love. And then they actually, there's a whole nother season that hasn't even aired yet, where they're together in New York City. Oh, really?. I didn't even know when these 72 days they were married. Yeah. It's Courtney and Kim take New York. Okay. And this or Courtney and Chris or Chris and Kim. Huh? Yeah. Chris sorry. It's confusing with all the kids. Yeah. So they they have an entire season that hasn't even aired yet. So what if they're still divorced right now? They're going to show this whole season of them. I know. Together. That's crazy. That is crazy. But I just think this sends a good message to America about how easy it is to get to get to know that

like you should have this lavish wedding and then like get divorced. I think the message that is good, I think it glamorizes marriage as being this like thing like I want this fairy tale wedding like Kim Kardashian. Well, this should tell everyone a story that good. I think it glamorizes marriage as being this like thing like I want this fairy-tale wedding like Kim Kardashian. Well, this should tell everyone a story that that you know you shouldn't rush into things. They were only together for a few months. You shouldn't you know just kind of steamroll over the whole relationship and just plan a wedding. Like they probably could have been working on some of these issues like instead of planning the wedding for the same amount of time they knew each other. Just don't rush into weddings people.

Wait till you're 30 to get married at least and know the person for at least a year or two. I would love to have a huge wedding if I could afford it. Yeah. Big lavish. Or you just gotta marry a chick whose parents can afford it. Yeah, it's true. It's not the way the woman pays for it,

but that's changing too. Yeah, I don't know. So changing these days is always on the man now. Socks. Is it? Yeah, I mean, it depends on you, Mary, but usually the parents, I don't know. I guess I'm fine. You know me, I want to find something that's traditional.

So hopefully. Traditional how? Please. Please pick up the tab. You want her traditionally, what do you mean? Traditionally, you know, they do pick up. Oh, you want the traditional one, right? I thought you meant you want like a traditional down home girl.

Yeah, I just want her traditional for the marriage. Well, no, I do want a traditional girl too. But which I think was going to be funny is my reception because it's going to be so eclectic, so crazy. It's going to be hilarious. Yeah, I can't wait. I'm just afraid because my, you know, my family never has really met like too many of my friends.

Right. It has never even met anybody that I've dated. Ever since I was a kid? So when they show up to my wedding on my wedding reception and they see all the different types of people that I'm friends with. It's how a lot about you. It's gonna be crazy.

That's I think that's cool. I think that's a great way. Like I love when my mom comes out and I have parties and I'm like these are my friends. Like you know, it's has a lot about who you are. And I'm gonna make a really funny speech here, wedding. Oh hell no. I'm already planning it.

I can't wait. I'll be briefing your new bride about you sexually. I'll be like, this is what menace should try. This is a big deal. You're going to ruin my wedding before it even happens. No, I'm not going to ruin it. Okay, let's get into some emails. Okay, what do you got?

Okay, this is what I've got for you. Topics include achieving orgasm, increase libido, loss of sexual identity, and friends with benefits. Hi, Emily, you are my last hope. I can't watch your show because it's not available in my country, so please help me. I'm 18 and I can't have an orgasm. My boyfriend is freaking out and I feel like I disappoint him.

I have your kegel camp app and I'm going to stick to it. I hope it works. Can you suggest anything else? I'm desperate. Hazal K kegel camp app and I'm going to stick to it. I hope it works. Can you suggest anything else? I'm desperate. Hazal Kaya from Ishtenble. Ishtenble. The video, I can't watch the video. I'm trying to see.

No, it's a she. She. Sorry, because she can't. She says her boyfriend's freaking out. Oh, okay. I would say, well, can't, can't, can't, once you start, there was a technical problem. I started switching to that mode.

So I apologize. I said there was a technical problem. No, yeah. Well, she says something about the video. So I was just. Oh, she was a technical problem. I started switching to that mode, so I apologized. I said there was a technical problem. No, yeah. Well, she said something about the video. So I was just sort of going to... Oh, she can't watch it. Or I say, I say, I say, you were trying to figure out. Yeah.

But I would say, as all, if you can't have it, first of all, Kaggle, I have an app. It's an iTunes store called Kaggle Camp, and you can get it for your iPhone. And it helps women have longer, stronger orgasms. I think you should definitely try the app. So thanks for getting the app. But also, I want to know,

a lot of times when people can't have orgasms with their partners, it's because they haven't explored their bodies themselves. So I'm wondering, Hazal, have you masturbated? Do you know how to have you orgasmed alone? Can you show your partner how you orgasm? You know, with your fingers or with a sex toy, you need to be able to do those things that you do when you're alone with your partner so you a sex toy, you need to be able to do those things

that you do when you're alone with your partner so you can show them what you need to happen. So I'm wondering, I'm sorry, the boyfriend's freaking out. And you feel like you're disappointing them because it is not the man's, I hope he doesn't forget him. It's really tough for women and we don't appreciate when guys are like,

when are you gonna come? When are you gonna come? You didn't come that sucks. It feels so bad. I mean, because that's all about them. It's not even about you. It's that he felt like less of a man because you didn't orgasm. So I say, like, that is not cool to frame to make you feel bad. And I just think you need to chill and relax and know that only 30% of women have orgasms

during intercourse. Anyway, and that you'll get there, sweetheart. I promise you'll get there. And I would say with masturbation and my app, you will be fine. And just don't let him pressure you or dump him. I just noticed that I think they put a new tower in this area. And I have the app that I was trying to see

if I can place them. Here we go. Tense and hold, bend, relax. Just follow along with the app. Tense. Relax. That's me with my app. I do, I do narrate it. I just search Kagle Camp in the I've I choose store. Yeah, you can download it and it's a awesome. So yeah. There you go. There you go, Kaggle Camp everyone, download it. Also, we had some questions, actually video questions from the audience, which I will need to remind.

Can we make a note of this? People want to see if we can switch the video soon to HTML5. Oh, and do you know what HTML5 is? No. Well, there's this whole thing with Apple products and Flash and Adobe. It's a huge long story. Well, there's this whole thing with Apple products and flash in Adobe.

It's a huge long story, but you can't watch video on the iPad or on the phone. Oh, you can't watch Flash, right? Yes. Okay. Okay. So, people are asking, is there any possible way to switch it to HTML5? So, if we can email our people. Yes.

Yes. We'll write that down and we will, because we're having a call with them tomorrow. Okay. Good. And then we have to readjust the video settings here to find. You know everyone you can watch this show. You can just just more to be on my to do list because I don't have enough going on. Yeah. Okay, dear Emily, love the show been married 20 years and between life and kids, the relationship

is taken aback seat. Have spoken with wife about working on sexual side of things. She's 51 on 46. What type of things would you suggest to raise your interest in improving our sex life? I've made sure to look after your needs to relieve household pressure on her and suggested books and articles to help her become more open. Thanks Tracy. He's a Friends with Benefits, a premium member from North Battleford, California. Do you know where that is? I've never even heard of that. I mean, you know, so okay, here's the deal. There are some things that you could try out with her. I'm not sure if she just

has low libido right now, if she's stressed. First of all, I want to say kudos to you for helping relieve household pressure and stuff like that, because that is a lot of times women resent their partners because they're not helping out around, helping out around the house as much and they're not, they feel like stressed overworked. And so I think it's great they're helping her in that way. I'm wondering if you've ever tried Sex Toys before. Sex Toys are a great thing you can go online, you can go to AdamNeed.com and you can get any item at 50% off, use coupon code Emily at checkout. That is a great thing to do and pick out like a packer racket or a cock ring that's great

for you, great for her. So I think toys are a great thing that can help. Also, I would say my book, Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try tonight, is a really, and I'm not the same as because I wrote it, but it is a book you can get on Amazon, you can buy it at bookstores. There are 200 things you can try tonight, and they're all easy to do. Little tiny things like dressing up or, you know, trying different positions that are not hard to do. You could try doing different things in the bedroom like mixing up with different positions or you could set a romantic night for her and all this

stuff might seem cliché to you. But women need to be romance. Like you've been together a long time, 20 years and it sounds like you had the passion, you had the romance before and to spice it up you're gonna have to do things like the quintessential like make a romantic night take away for an evening Maybe you have friends with kids and you can you can you know friends out of you have kids actually But you have you know a friend's obfuscation home you go away to for a week if you can't afford to go to hotel for a weekend or something So I think you have to get out of your rots. You have to get out of your routine and shake things up so yeah, I would say sex toys are my book. And the book honestly is amazing with all the drawings.

I know, it's easy to follow. It's just a visual for the guys perspective because we don't like to read all of this. Yeah, you don't have to read it, you can watch it. Yeah. I mean, the illustrations are quite amazing in the book. So you can just flip through the illustrations, see the ones that you really like,

and then you can read up on them. Yeah the ones that you really like and then you can You can read up on it. Exactly. It is like I feel like it's the new joy of sex my my book. I have to say so you should get that it's really good I think it's really good to Okay, so that's what we got to say about that and then we should what Why are you laughing at me? What are my buddies is in New Orleans right now? And he actually does all these like Why are you laughing at me? One of my buddies is in New Orleans right now and he actually does all these like awesome

sex illustrations like in a comic form. Okay. Now I was like, I was sexy in it right now. Hey, what's your website so I can tell people about your drawings because they're really cool and funny. And he, first he texted me and he goes, well, tell them first that I've shaved my whole body and he's not joking and then all the way down to my butthole. Oh.

I guess this is his new sexual thing. He's really into porn and something like that. But he's a leasinger of a big band. Okay. So I have to imagine he shaved his butthole. Yeah, I don't know why. TMI. Yeah, but what would if he,

actually it's what's weird that he says that because I actually know other guys that the shave their whole body. Right. How would you feel about that if you got that? That's a really good question. That's all about like man scaping and stuff like that. Yeah, but this is like a stream man scaping where there's like something that they want

to be. I don't think that's a trickle all over when it starts going back in five minutes. I don't want a guy who's spending more time shaving than I am. Yeah. Yeah, I'm not wouldn't be that into it, but why is it? Why? Why is he doing it? I'll ask him why.

Yeah, like I want to know why you shaving his entire body, but there are guys, it's funny because when I was in New York, there was this guy I was trying to fix on my friend. I'm like, isn't he cute? Is he cute? She's like, he shaves his chest. Like she could see through his shirt that there was like, prickly chest hairs going back and she was kind of burst out by it. Yeah, it's very, it scratches. I mean, I have a shave. Yeah, so it's like that, but it's like all over your body.

You're like, prickly things coming on your butt. Like when it starts to grow back, your butt hair. Yeah, his name is, you can find it. Oh great, you're gonna tell his name? Yeah, no, he's cool. He's totally cool. I love to have him on the show sometime, but he's on tour. His name's Eric Victorino.

His drawings are on. He was on the show before. Was he? Yeah. He started a magazine like years ago. What? Wasn't he on the show years ago? No, that was another Eric. Okay. Yeah, this is Eric Victorino. He's a singer for magazine like years ago. What? Wasn't he on the show years ago? No, that was another Eric.

Okay. Yeah, this is Eric Victor, I don't know. He's a singer for the limousines. Okay. And he's on tour with the sounds right now. Okay. But he has these crazy drawings. Look it up on Etsy, Eric Victorino.

And it's hilarious. Okay. I'll show you some. You'll die laughing. Will I die? Yeah. Okay, if you say so. Let's move into our show topic.

Okay. Rough sex. Well, I die. Yeah. Okay. Let's move into our show topic. Okay. Rough sex. Rough sex. So rough sex is like, you know, spanking hair tugging. You don't like rough sex. You always say, oh, I like it slow. No, I like everything.

I love rough sex. I don't like it rough. I like it rough and I like it soft. I don't want the rabbit style. I just want. I don't want Jackhammer sex. No. I want you to make love to me.

I'd never say that. Dude, I've never said that. I've never said that. Go so slow that you'll not be erect anymore. That's what you want. I did not say that. And then you'll never. I don't say go so slow.

You never orgasm. And then you have to go to the bathroom later and masturbate. That's the type of sex you want, right? That's what you say? No, I've never said that my- You're like rough sex. I love rough sex every once in a while. How do you know?

Do you like rough sex? You never say, oh, I like it rough, ever. I do too. I've met you. I've said I like rough sex. I want to be thrown against the wall and like I like having my hair pulled. For like five seconds and then some guy has to like slow down No, take his time That is so not true

Me them to go down on me and take for 45 minutes for 45 minutes and take their time with it Yeah, but once I said oh, I want it rough Well because I'm cuz because you know why I've had for so I you're wrong We played back the hundreds of thousands of hours of you. Yeah, you won't you We have all the only thing you'll say is I want you to throw me against the wall. That's it. Okay. Well, let's talk about why we like it rough. Okay.

Go for it. First of all, pain and pleasure are not that different than they both relieve endorphins. So this is why a lot of people like the pain and the pleasure, like the pain, if they're getting spanked or getting your hair pulled releases endorphins in your body. So that's why people get sexual pleasure from that. So experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins and so does the spaking. Endorphins are likely to release an experiencing pain in order to suit the mind. However, the pain during rough sex does not need to be intense.

It all depends on what the two of you are up for. So rough sex doesn't have to mean violence. You get to say for it if you want. And you know, get a say for it that says like, you know, that's like, it can be anything benign. It can be like banana or something. You can just be like, banana, stop. But if you're going to engage in some rough sex activities.

Yeah. If you say that you like rough sex, then what do you like? Um, I particularly like, I like, I like to be, I like to even come up with it. I like spanking. You like spanking spanking on my ass. That feels good. A little spanking, a little spanking. That's good.

I like, I don't mind getting my hair pulled hair pulling hair pulling. You don't mind to be like, uh, I don't mind getting my hair pulled. Hair pulling. Hair pulling. I don't mind that. You don't mind to be like, I don't mind. I don't mind. That'd be hot. Tied up. I would love to be tied up.

No one ties me up. Really? No one. Love being tied up. I've been tied up before, but no one has a really long time. No one just like let me tie you up and just ravage you. Love it.

What? I had this one girl. She really wanted me to hold onto her her, her wrists. And I felt like I was going to break her hands. Right. That is something wrist hold. Yeah. That's a whole topic. A whole topic. Another way to make her sex rough is to hold down their wrists so your partner can't move their arms. This way where they will be momentarily denied the pleasure of touching you and feel like they're being dominated. She wanted to be dominated by you. This move is best done when you hold them against the wall. And I dominated the hell out of it.

Did you? Did you like it? Yeah, I was cool. Did you think it was hot? I thought it was hot, but I was afraid that I was doing it too hard. Did you say hold my wrists? Yeah. And then she would say like harder.

I'm like, dude, can you even feel your wrists anymore? Yeah. Because the turns are on. I mean, she's comfortable. You can hold her wrists above her head with one arm and use the other end to place your fingers inside of her while you kiss her intensely. You could take both her hands and hold her above her head and then finger. That'd be hot.

Or and then finger finger. Finger. You put her in a pretzel formation. Sure. Whatever. Biting can also be fun. Biting is another form of rough sex. I think biting is hot.

Nibbling your partner's lips while kissing is a good way to start. And then eventually start nibbling on different parts of the body. And then full on biting. Yeah, shoulder hips, outer thighs, butt. You can nibble on all different parts of the body. You can't take a chunk out of them though. Don't take a chunk. Don't like, use your, don't break skin.

Don't break skin. No, but it's like, don't break skin. Biting with more intense, you don't want to break the skin. But like, I think like little nibbles, I like all these things. Why don't you ever say that? I don't ask for them. You don't ask for them. Because I, I don't know, I have really good sex.

I just don't, I guess, I have never asked for it because I never think about it. I don't prioritize it. I'm going to part, next time with, I'm going to be like, I want you to bite me and spank me at the same time. And from my hair. And talk dirty to me. And I love talk dirty, talking dirty. So hot.

What kind of words can they call you? Anything, bitch, whore, whatever. Really? Yeah, I don't care. That's classy of you. Thanks. Totally found with that. Okay, so spanking.

People are saying spanking, like they think, first of all, you have to be careful by that you don't spank any of the bones like in your back or like where you're bony. Yeah. Like you just spank on the fleshy part of the butt. And started by touching and massaging your butt, your partner's butt in a playful manner, and then you like lightly slap it.

So if you're this is the butt, it's like from the bottom up like that. Instead of like that hitting down, so you're hitting the back, it's from the flushy part up. That's how you spank someone. And then gradually go faster. It's harder. Yeah.

Yeah. Do you like butts have your slaps someone's butt? You just said butt sex. Do you like butt slapping? Do I like butt sex? I know you don't like butt sex. I'm assuming you're not even a butt sex. I have a key point. I need to catch myself.

I need to put a piece of paper. I hate saying um too much on the show. I do like but slapping it's you like slapping something like a but you don't want to be you don't want your butt slap. I don't need to be dominated. I don't need to be tied up in chains or anything like that. But if my partner wants that done, then totally I'll do that for that.

You will? Would you be turned on or would you get a limp? I would be turned on. You'd be when that turn you on. Yeah, I was totally. Because you're always saying that all this four-place stuff is going to make your penis limp. Because it takes too long.

Yeah. Which I think is lame because you should be turned on by sapping your butt holding your wrists and... Well, also too, if you know you take too long with all the teasing, then I think is lame because you should be turned on by stepping your butt holding your wrists and- Also too, if you take too long with all the teasing, then I'm not going to last that long because I'm so excited once I actually start having sex, then I'm not going to last that long. I don't want to be known as the one-minute man. Right.

You've not, by this time, you would already be known. I'd know if that was your monocard. Yeah. No. Menace the one-minute man. Yeah, I'm trying not already be known. I'd know if that was your monocard. Yeah. No. Menace the one-minute man. Yeah, I'm trying not to be known as that guy. So that's why, you know, just get into it. But no, you gotta take your time, solve,

take your time. You do take your time. So, now I like Rev's sex. Okay, so here talking, that's another thing. Yeah. If you're doing a doggy style, let me pull on her hair So her chin tilts back a little bit. That's hot. She'll get a glance of you doing her from behind and get super turned on I once took out this girl's entire weave You didn't know she'd weave you're kidding, right? Yeah, okay. That's like from a movie or something, right? No

Okay, I pulled her whole wig off when she is on top place your hands at the back of her head pull her head back by the roots of her hair So she's forced to lean back Yeah, like when she's on top place your hands at the back of her head pull her head back by the roots of her hair So she's forced to lean back Yeah, like when she's on top pull her I Pulled her hair so hard that her mustache hair came off. Shut up. Have you ever pulled the girls hair before? Yeah, of course. I mean of course nothing's of course with you of course. I've pulled the girls hair I'm not gonna to do your hair. What is that? We pull guys do that. Yeah, enough. Guys don't do that enough. They don't?

No. I'm glad we're having this chat because you thought I want everything soft, slow, and sensual. And I don't. I want some rough sex. I want it now. You want to get your hair pulled? I gotta go. Yeah, when my hair pulled on my ass slapped, I want spanking and fighting. This is news to me. I want my wrist held down. I like it all. I

Don't believe it. I do an increment. It's not every day. Do I want my wrists held? But sometimes I'd like a guy just to be like Oh my wrist Okay, so next there's really really rough sex. So that was just like the rough sex stuff like this hold it. Yeah, that would be handcuffs Okay So the witch is not gonna handcuffs. Okay. Uh, so the which is not going to handcuffs would not be put on me. Right. Because he's gonna steal you. What? There's gonna be a fire earthquake. She's gonna rob me. Hell no. Am I gonna be put in handcuffs? They hurt man. You know what I like. Um, I've talked about this

before, but bondage tape is great for handcuffs. Bondage tape. You can get it at a minute. It's friggin awesome. It's reusable. It sticks to each other. And it's a really, it's easier than handcuffs, but you can easily bondage bond someone, bind someone. It's really cool. Okay. How does it like, like, what ways do you want to get tied up? What ways do I want to get tied up. Yeah. I would like to get tied up like my hands back or behind my head. And then even my feet could be tied up, spread apart. Okay. I don't know, like that.

To a bed or just to yourself? To a bed if you have a bed that no one has beds like that anymore. No, they don't. Right. They all have Ikea wooden beds. Exactly. That's what I had. But I just got to do bed. But tying down her arms and legs once she gives a consent, you have to get consent.

But yeah, I would like to be tied up, for sure. What about if I tie you up to a delorean? What do you think that was hot? Where is he? Why a delorean? I don't know. Is that a delorean? Would it in motion and then they drag me?

Yeah. No. Do you think that's hot? I would not think that was hot. But I picked you up in my delorean and I tied you up inside of it. Only if I was dressed like the hamburger. Yes. So now you're talking about stuff that's fun.

That is fun. I found a place where you can get a delorean in the Bay Area. Really? I don't want to be tied up to a car. I want to be tied up to a bed or to a door. To a door? I don't know.

You could tie me up to the door handle or something. I just made it up. I don't know. I don't want to be I do. I feel like one guy tied me up once and it was fun. Can I just leave you there all day? Do you know that a lot of people who are into BDSM bondage and stuff they do do that. They leave each other all day long. People are into being the dominant. I mean, they will tie up their contaminated or the dominant will tie their submissive partner up all day and not know when they're coming back. But that's people who are really into extreme BDSM. Bonn has just a plain satos, satos, satomac, massacism. I would still just take a nap until they got back. Or you just leave them in the room and go watch TV and then go back

and yeah, yeah, yeah, that's so bad. So handcuffs choking and then you would try to make the sound of it like shut up bitch Yeah, there is a duck on a talk You asked for a bitch shut up horror watching family guy That would be so hot. Oh my god. Okay choking. Have you ever had anyone want to be choked? Yes Really? I think it that's in right now Why do you think it's in with all the recent girls you bang? They want to be choked? Yes. Really? I think it's in right now. What, why do you think it's in with all the recent girls you bang, they want to be choked? Why do you think it's in? A lot of girls just want to be choked for some reason.

Like choked hard? Yeah. Hard. If you really, okay, but if you only hold her neck rather than actually choker, it could provide the sensation of submission and control. Please be careful and proceed with caution when it comes to a fixation.

Yeah. I almost murdered or checked one time. No, you didn't. Yeah, but how would you why do you think it's trendy that women want more? I buried her in the Nevada desert. So it's fine. It's fine. No biggie. But why she asked for it Why why why do you think it's trendy like the last three girls you slept with wanted to be choked or why do you think that's trend? A lot of girls just like it. I mean if you just try it and then you like gently put their hand on there, then they like squeeze it. Oh. It's crazy. Hi.

They're weird, man. No, they're not. Girls are great. Because it could, it's like the same thing that women, a lot of women and a lot of men want to be dominated. So do you want to be choked? Maybe hand on my neck would be hot, but I don't want to be choked. Both hands. Full on. You're scaring me to do that because I feel like you want to be choked? Maybe hand on my neck would be hot, but I don't want to be choked.

Both hands full on. You're scary when you do that because I feel like you want to choke me. And now I don't think then they shake you. They shake me to oblivion. I don't know about choking. I don't think I've ever really been choked. I've been like had the hand on my neck like it's assimilating

choking, which a lot of people want. A lot of people aren't into the full on choking But they want like the simulated choking, but I I'd be down cool. I'd be down for anything. I'd be down for trying anything Down for trying anything, huh? Yeah, well, let me get a list together the things that you should try Okay, I've said everything I want to try and that I've done I've done a lot of things But not everything and not as frequently as I would be the sequel to your book. I'll help you with it. Okay. Thanks, honey. Okay. The last thing we've got to really rough sex is playing hard to get. This is a huge fantasy for women. This is a huge fantasy for women. Basically,

she pretends like she doesn't want to have sex and force yourself on her. It's like the rape fantasy. It's like the rape fantasy. It's like the rape fantasy. It's like acting. This is acting. And she has already consensited this act beforehand. She tries really hard to push you off and keeps you from penetrating her and you try your hardest to get inside.

This is where I say for it, it becomes important. How is this any different from everyday life? Why? You've been pushing you off them every day? Oh, I've been saying that's every man is free. It's kind of like the rape fantasy. Like you want your guide to force them. And you're like every day. Oh, I've been saying that's every man that's screaming at me. It's kind of like a great fantasy. Like you want your guide to like force him. And you're like, no, no, no.

And you're like, yes, yes, yes. They say, no, I'm gone, man. I know, but some women might be playing hard to get. So you're saying, yes means no. Not always. No means yes. Not always just sometimes in sex. Wow, the stuff that you promote on the show is really good.

I'm not promoting it. I'm just saying this is what some people's want. Some of the people's out there, really rough sex. So I hope everyone learned a little something about a little rough sex today. That's sure they did. Yeah, and you seem to be up down with it too, which I didn't know that about you either.

I assume that you're down with nothing. I'm down to do whatever they want. I don't need you. I don't need you. Out of all these things though, fighting, wrist holding, handcuffs, choking, spanking, hair tugging, which one's the hottest here? Done. All of them except for the handcuffs stuff.

Okay. wrist holding, biting, hair tugging, spanking. You like it all the same? Yeah. Yeah. All on an equal level. You can leave spanking out there. That's kind of whatever. That's what you want. Fine. That's what you want. It doesn't, you know, a lot of women want this stuff. So I would say, and the key to really rough sex or rough sex or whatever is that with all of these things, she might really want it. Like I'm saying, I would like more of it.

And I, you know, I could probably really initiate it, whatever, but it'd be good for, and I have initiated stuff before, of course, in my life. But with all these things, you start slowly. So if she wants to be bitten, you start slowly. So if she wants to be bitten, you start lightly nibbling on her nip, and her lip, and if she's to her nip, her nipple, or your nip, or her lip. And if you get a positive response, like with

any of these things, if you like lightly tug her hair and she mones, and you know, okay, I can go a little harder. So you always start slowly with every movement. And then you, you know, go a little harder and harder, harder, harder, harder, harder, more faster, faster, faster, tell us. Hi, I'm Dr. Emily Morse from sexwithemily.com. Do you want to last longer in bed? Promessant is the only FDA-approved treatment for premature ejaculation. One in three men suffer from premature ejaculation, but they don't have to.

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