Sex With Emily - SWE: Liberate your Lust

Episode Date: October 11, 2012

Emily challenges you to go big or go home, and fantacize! From dirty talk to transcending the boundaries of your sex life, you need to liberate your lust. Emily's cohost Menace shares some intimate memories, prompting a discussion about men's fantasies. Emily also has a few dating tips for listeners who find themselves on the deep end of dating. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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He thinks you're kinda cute. The girls gotta understand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common loa- What do you mean like laundry? It's shrinks. And we not talk about sex so much.

Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I want to feel myself. I'm grown up. Being bad feels pretty good. You know? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC PLAYING [♪ OUTRO MUSIC We're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com. We can listen to our podcast and a family listening piece and up our RSS. So you'll never miss another sex with Emily show.

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we are. Hi, Menace. Hi, how are you? I'm great. How are you? I'm good. I have a funny story. Can I start off with the story? Yeah. One more thing I gotta do. I gotta say one more thing. We're gonna be reading your emails today that you sent to feedback at sexwithm.com. Topics include the dating and waiting game, a man who really orgasms, the spit versus swallow debate, and gold diggers, and we're also giving some dating sex tips. Okay, menace. I gotta tell you what happened to me last night. Tell me. Last night I was breaking here late and I had to go home but I was thinking I'm a little

hungry. I'm gonna go grab some and eat. It's Starbucks? Yeah. So I grabbed some and eat. I call up some girl and I say hey hey, can you pick me up? And she said, fine. We calling her because you wanted a ride or you wanted to. No, that's all I want to ride. Okay. So I call her up. And last I'm waiting, this girl comes by and slasping the ass and says, I'm cute.

And she says she has a porno in her hotel room and if I would like to go watch it with her Are you serious? She was in a prostitute. She was like because yesterday we had all these celebrations for the giant Oh the giant yeah, we got to talk about that. So She was just there for the celebration. She's like in giant So she was wasted. Was she wasted? She didn't seem wasted. She didn't thought you were cute. It was weird. Okay, so And so what you do I said, uh, Nah, I have to I'm getting I'm getting somebody pick me up, right? then

She walks down the street and then turns back around and comes back and she goes you're still here and I'm all you I'm waiting for my ride. She goes Come on, let's just go. She goes. I'll let you come on my face. Are you serious? Oh my God. Do you know who you were? No, I don't know. I don't know. Is that like every man's fantasy? Like, okay. Come on. She was saying that the western saying person, she must have been drunk or a prostitute or something. Oh, it's that things like that. I know, right? Not that you're not a cute guy. I would slap your ass if I walk past your ass, but I don't think That proves our point that every man the fantasy is to come on a woman space not every man

But a lot of we were talking about this few weeks ago and who doesn't want to do that? I not all men, but many men I think it's I think 99.9% Let's find out feedback at sexvendly.com. Where would you like to ejaculate? Let's find out feedback at sexbelly.com. Where would you like to ejaculate? Yesterday was crazy. So my office is downtown and I had a meeting like five blocks from my office right before the two hours before the parade started I could not get across market street. It was they said a million people showed up. I was there was it was sidewalk to sidewalk Were you down there? I didn't get it was a sea of fans. I literally got to put where I had to go I had my computer with me and all my bags, because I carried like a million bags with me on the way to my office after I parked.

And it was madness and I just really wanted to not be in that crowd and I couldn't get out of it. I couldn't move it one point. They're like, where are you going? You can't move. There's nowhere to go. And literally, I was getting claustrophobic. Yeah.

And I was really happy and excited for the giants, but I don't know how I got in the middle of the crowd. I'm on Market Street. Imagine right when the parade was coming. Yeah, imagine like rock concert front row general mission. It felt like that. It felt like rock concert front row. Like I hadn't felt that trapped in a crowd in years. I can't remember the last time where I really I kept moving and trying to get somewhere, but there was nowhere to get because it was sidewalk to sidewalk and the middle of the street filled. So there was not even like a, I kept thinking there'd be like a pocket of air once I got to the McDonald's. No, no. So I finally got down the street and went to Starbucks and just sat

there and worked. And you know, they free Wi-Fi now at Starbucks. You must know that because you're eating at Starbucks. Yeah, love Starbucks. Right, I know. And check this out. If, you know, know all these people we have a lot of listeners overseas so they don't they don't know what the hell we're talking about we're talking about the World Series and the celebration in San Francisco so if you go on the Google Google dot com type in for images of San Francisco Giants celebration and you'll see how insane. They have like aerial views of how many people in such a small space.

Yeah, it was crazy. I mean, it's the first time we've ever won the World Series. Yeah, here in San Francisco. It was amazing. Yeah, and we're, I mean, it's a small big city. We're only seven by seven miles. Yeah, people don't realize there's less than a million people here too, which is why you have to go elsewhere to date people because I know everyone are updating them. That's another point. But no, really, there aren't, yeah's less than a million people here too Which is why you have to go elsewhere to date people because I know everyone or I've dating them

Yeah, that's another point, but no really there are yeah less than a million people it was amazing I got to check out the pictures. I was in it so I didn't want anything else to do the giant yesterday But I will look at the picture you should I because you know me. I'm not really doing that Everybody that you would have sex with and I was looking around and there was really good There's extra there's extra people there there was good looking guys and the financial district because that's where all the men and suits are doing on and I know I worked on town but I'm always in my office I'm barely walking around and there was really good looking guys are people like I don't

know men and suits I think are very attractive I find men and suits just kind of something very hot about it and there was a lot of good looking guys and I was thinking like where are you guys going can I and I was that talking to a few of them and yeah I found a lot of attractive men and there was a lot of good looking guys and I was thinking like where are you guys going? Can I and I was that talking to a few of them and yeah, I found a lot of attractive men and there was a lot of attractive girls in town for the giant. I think a lot of people came from out of the city. They need to stay. Stay here. Enjoy.

Speaking of my idea. I'm sorry to interrupt you, but actually when I did give my ass laughed, I was wearing a tie in a sweater vest. You were, you probably thought you were a business man And she's a prostitute. Oh, okay. Yeah, when the hell do you wear a tie? I had to go to some service thing Okay, so speaking of dating so you know, I'm speaking of men that are attractive So the guy that I'm dating the LA guy is coming to town this weekend I haven't seen him in like five weeks. Yeah, And he asked me, he's like, I want to meet your friends.

And I'm having this whole dilemma because I'm like, which friends, I have so many friends in San Francisco, really good friends, you know, that are like my people, my family, my friends are my family. My people. So, wait, there's some friends that are like so close that they'll just be like, Emily, like they'll just make fun of me and just be totally raw and real.

And that's awesome too. And then I've got other friends like, maybe we should do a group dinner. But my friends aren't really into that but it's more like we always hang out at someone's house and just do whatever but I'm just kind of like do I'm ready for my friends I like him because last time this is why this happened and he's having me plan but last time he the last two times he was in town I've only seen him twice he made the plan he made the dinner reservations this last time he was here we went out with all his friends. He's screwing up right now because you can't let a woman, you can't let women make the plans. It never works out. I'm just

just saying because I'm like, of course, I didn't make reservations and it's hard to get reservations on a Saturday night. And I just don't like. Where do you go to get reservations? Everywhere you eat. In San Francisco, there's the most amazing restaurant. I'm not going to, you know, what? Applebees. I don't go to Applebees ever since I went there and they had a duct tape seat. Yeah, I'm not taking any more duct tape seats.

Or are you going to go to that are good restaurants that you don't have to have an appointment? Yeah, you do. For all the ones I'd want to go to you do. Oh, excuse me. And I'm also feeling a little bit like I want to just be my friends this weekend I have a friend in town from LA. Isn't that weird? I'm not in to dating and it's funny because someone like tweeted me and said like Why don't you just and I'm tired of hearing about all your dry spill you might as well start having sex again

And there's a part of me that's like I kind of just want to hang out. Why don't you just tell this guy not to come then tell me to Why don't you just tell the sky not to come then tell me to come by Too late too late why what I like them. I have to fly what's he flying? I'll tell you how much it cost to Find from LA. Yeah, but what's this? Oh, I have no idea. I'm not picking them up. Did you pick him up last time? No, no, you think I should I've Planned I'm meeting with my web web person on Saturday morning. Anyways coming Saturday and saying someone day I think because if he flies virgin even though I love them to death, they cost a lot to change. But if it's anybody else, then come on. Change it next week. Yeah, we'll see. But I think I also have just gotten so used to not having

a man in my life that I'm sort of in this really good groove now. I'm getting some more work done than I've ever gotten done in my life. And I'm just like my life, my private, my home, my thing, being by myself. But I think it'll be good for me. But it's weird. You like being in a hermit. I like being a hermit and I like staying home and working every night. And I know that's crazy, but I do. And I like seeing my friends and I have another friend in town that I'm dying to see.

So anyway, we'll work it out. You must be studying a lot of sex toys then. You must be doing like ton of sex toy reviews. Yes, exactly. What's your favorite slang for? For the penis. You like to say penis? Do you like weiner cock? If you want to know. Why? You just like saying cock? What are you talking with your girlfriends? Oh, when I'm talking with girlfriends. Yeah. I thought you meant

like during dirty talk. Okay. Yeah. I just jumped right there. Okay. When I'm with my girlfriends, I probably say is Venus. No, we don't say Venus as we're. I think Dick maybe too. Oh, is it okay? Because Dick was oh, because this happened to my friend the other night. She was having sex with this guy. Yeah. And this is something that happens often, I guess with people, but she was having sex with them. And she's had sex with them like three or four times now. And she's really into them but the first time they sex she was like he doesn't get that hard And that happens to a lot of men and I think a lot of times it has to do with these nervous the first two times It together But now they're gonna be together a few times and he still can't maintain his erection and so I'm trying to remember what lingo

She used when she was explaining that to me and I think she said He's shocked his I think she said dick really or checked. His, I think she said, dick. Really? Or maybe she said penis. I like saying, I like penis. What do you like? Unit package. There's so many funny stuff. You need to mix it up. His package. His package. I don't think his junk. His junk would not stick. No, I don't know. What do I don't? What do you say when you're talking about your own? Huh? What do you say? Usually for real for real? I usually say I because I like joking around about it. I say my wiener or something like that I've never said wiener. What do you say about vagina? Cause vaginas that's not a fun word vagina. You say like the P word What pussy? Yeah

No How about during dirty talk you don't talk talk dirty deal no Yeah, well kind of I don't know I don't want to tell you why I don't know. Yeah, who are you gonna tell? I know you know no no no the person I'm having sex with Yeah, you wait for the heart to start. I think you've told me this before you Have to if you're gonna go into Dirty talk you kind of have to dabble You wait for the start of the talk. Oh, see, you have to, if you're gonna go into Dary talk, you kind of have to dabble.

You gotta like, yeah, don't go right in with the hardcore. Not like, hey, you like, when I stick my, you know, cock in your badge, you know, you can't be saying that. You gotta say, you can. Uh, you know, all you like, you kind of like start with, you like that. Yeah, that's, that's all you said. You like that, you like that?

You say, how does that feel? Do you like when I touch you here? Does that feel good? You feel so good, baby? That's how you start dirty time. Yeah, but then you move it into like calling them a bitch and all that kind of stuff. You don't do that. I cannot see you do that. What? If you do really do that, what? You're such a horny bitch or something. Yeah, it inculms sluts and all that. Yeah, girls like that sometimes. Yeah, you don't I don't see you doing that though. Why? Because I just don't. I have this image of you is not what a dirty sex talker. Dude, I say stuff like that. Okay, good. You say you're my little little word as a woman saying stuff to a guy. What do you say? I'm like, I'll instruction to do it when you're not there you know it's hard to like sing a song when it's not playing it's hard to do dirty talk when you're not in the moment yeah that's why I'm like freezing

up right now I feel like I could say like are you giving instructions are you left turn left right right right right right it's like you know f me f me or something like that are do you yeah turn left. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no usually at the beginning, it's just more like, that's so hot or I love when you do that. You know, that's a great way to give instructions to someone is telling that you like what they're doing for all the women who are like, why doesn't he do what I do? It's like, even when he gets close to it, be like, I love when you touch my neck. I do that all the time. Like, if a guy's kissing my neck, I'm like, oh my god, I love when you do that. But you know what the problem is? A lot of times I tell them that they don't remember and they don't even do it more than they should. I've had that with lots of guys of data. I've been like I've told you a million times that I like it when you grab my ass and you don't and it

Bums me out. Passards. Why don't they listen grab my ass. It's pretty easy to do. Everybody grab my ass. It's pretty easy. Yes. I have a good ass. I do say something myself. I don't know. And you know, we need to talk about two you stream. When the hell are we gonna do that? You stream.stream. When? This show is going to air in like a week. Yeah. And then we got a Tuesday. What day? What day you want to start doing? Tuesdays. She thought Tuesdays at four. Tuesdays four PM. Pacific Standard Time. Exactly. I bet. And the PST. Yeah, that work. Okay. Are you can you do that? Tuesday at four? Tuesday at four. Where are you going to do it from? I guess from that work. Okay, are you can you do that? I can do that for two day four where you can do it from my office because I'm still in my office at four really is there anyone else around I could just close the door Okay, yeah, but I want you to be there too kind of

We'll make it work. Okay, give it to you. Yeah, I'm gonna be there too. I'm I can't go to your office website you stream you've never been to my office you stream where we can live. It's live will interact. Okay, okay We can do it. I'll make it work. Okay, give it two weeks two weeks make sure to have four o'clock on you stream We can all chat. Okay, you can see me and stream you'll tweet it out follow you on Twitter Follow me on Twitter Emily Morse. Yeah, and then she'll tweet out when she's live I'll tweet out yo, and then you can watch it. Okay, let's move into some sex in the news. Do it. Do it, do it, do it.

Ouch. 80% of women faking orgasms says study. It says out. Whatever. Some women fake orgasms. This we know, but did you also know that 80% are moaning and groaning? Not only when they are absolutely not climaxing or coming anywhere near it, but when they are fervently wishing for the whole thing to be over.

At least that's what a team of British researchers found when they studied 71 heterosexual women between the ages of 18 and 48. They found a whopping 80% faked orgasms during vaginal intercourse at least half the time. A smaller group was even more prolific with their ooze and eyes. The study found 25% of the women faked at 90% of the time according to MSNBC. Researchers found that women are often the quietest, listen to this, researchers found that women are often quietest when they are actually receiving pleasure like during oral sex or foreplay. Then they make the most erotic noises when sex starts feeling uncomfortable or when they get bored. They

also get noisy when they sense their partners ready to climax to boost their partner self esteem many reported The studies authors say women use vocalizations to manipulate male behavior to their advantage But since as an MC MSMPC calmness pointed out some well-meaning men are so fixated and making his partner climax That he won't stop until he thinks she has most women the research that just fake it to be nice unless of course They're faking that too. So I kind of think this is true. I think whenever I faked it, which I don't anymore, it's usually like when the guy is about to or I oh or when the guy is about to orgasm, I think I do make more noise. And I know that that helps. So I think not on purpose, like I just think it's hot, but I know that he's about to orgasm. So I'll be like, oh yeah,

baby, something like that. But hotter than that. And the thing about the faking is it's kind of true that when you're really into it and you're not making as much noise sometimes, some of the time. Like if someone's a front oral sex, it's like you're kind of focused. You're kind of in that moment. But then towards the climax, you do make a lot more noise. Anyway, 80% of women fake an orgasm. That's what I gotta say. That's a bombardment. Women should not fake an orgasm. The why are they even having sex in the first place? Sending a bad message to men. Men are thinking they're pleasing women all over the globe. And they're not. It does. They just kind of sense a message then. Women need to give more direction

on what they like. That's true. I don't see you've learned. You've learned so much. Why? Because it's true. Women just tell them what you want. Why are you faking it? And I get a lot of of times we do it because we want to please them and because we feel like it's true. Women just tell them what you want. Why are you faking it? And I get a lot of times we do it because we want to please them. And because we feel like it's never going to like we know the point of no return when it's not going to happen. But just let them know it's not going to happen. But the reason is also when we do it for the other person, we don't do it for ourselves. We do it so they think we can and they are don't feel bad. And I mean, we've got some emails about that later because it got about

men and women and faking and men and women and wanting to please each other through their orgasms. Anyway, I think it's all fine sex is not just about the orgasm. P.S. Right. Okay, Chaz Bono. Chaz Bono, you know he had the sex change operation, she's the share not used to sex change yet. When Chaz Bono announced he was having a sex change to his mother share, she might have understood it but she's clearly trying to get it now. In an interview with Vanity Fair, the musical icon said she wouldn't have been able to handle the situation, as well as Chaz, if it had been reversed.

If I woke up tomorrow on a guy's body, I'd kick and scream and cry and rob a bank because I cannot see anything but who I am. A girl. I would not take it as well. I couldn't imagine it. And though the singer has come to terms with her child's sex change, it doesn't mean she's grown accustomed to it. Well, she's a very smart girl. I mean, boy, this is where I get into trouble. My pronouns are F'dop, she said. I don't remember to call her him, but Chaz doesn't seem to mind. She's really cool about it, an

easygoing person. Can you imagine if your child had a sex change operation, that's kind of a major ordeal? That's a big, yeah. I mean, really, you like to give birth to a son and then you've a daughter, a daughter and son? The I mean really you like you birth through son and then you've a daughter a daughter and son. The chas really looks like a guy though. I know. So we always knew we always he always knew they felt like a man and somehow he's done it. She shares down she's cool with it but I guess I get see being like him. Her is coming over. She's share. She's share. Okay Prince of Brunei. Please don't talk about my sex sculptures of myself. Did you hear about this?

No. The Prince of Brunei, the younger brother of the famously rich Sultan, is suing two of his financial advisors for selling off a long island estate. For much less anything, since it's worth, the problem is the North Shore estate, in question, just happens to be where Jeffrey was storing six life-size or six life-size erotic statues of himself Photos obtained by his fiance one of the women in the harem. He's got a whole harem He doesn't want the pictures to be used in the trial because they could prejudice the jury Basically, they have all these like it's like him with huge erections and it's yeah exactly

So it says there's black bars over you can look this up But there's like erections and he's really muscular and he's in, yeah, exactly. So it says there's black bars over, you can look this up, but there's like, a rations and he's really muscular and he's in all these sexual positions and he's got a whole mansion filled with statues of himself. Talk about them and yourself, yeah, really. So that's fascinating.

It must be nice to make a picture of myself, but I, that someone painted once, but I never hung it up on my wall. And I have that, it's behind my, behind my counter, I should eBay a sex picture my wall. And I have that it's behind my behind my counter. I should ebay a sex picture of myself. Does it want it? Is it painting right? Or is it photo?

I also have those photos. I should get that photo from Christina. And that she took those pictures of me kind of naked but not really naked. I should hit her back on Facebook. She's been asking for it. I don't know what show she was on. Oh, she wants the show. Yeah.

She's get it from my tunes everybody Christina is a girl I said it wrong Karina Numeri Diaz. Yeah, it took photos of you in Scantol Cleggs you've received oh yeah, I gotta do more I mean I gotta do something with them. It's on the list Whatever, okay, let's move into some mail. All right. How about that? Dear Emily and Menace, I'm a bit worried because one of my very close friends of the opposite sex broke up with her boyfriend a while ago.

But the real problem is that she admitted to me that she regrets ever dating a guy or having a boyfriend. She's beautiful and has a great personality, although she's been asked out many times she practically gives out the rejections. When do you think she'll be back in the game and ready to date again? Lots of love to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to be able to with dating and he wants to know when she's going to be back on the dating track again. Can't predict. Hmm. Apparently, I'm not sure that she's into Nabil or not, I can't tell, but usually a lot

of women... I don't want to be harsh, but I just kind of feel like I'm getting... She's not that into you? Yeah, and I don't want him to get hurt because he's waiting around for the chick and then all of a sudden she's dating somebody else. I know, I know I know I don't want him to get hurt either so tell her let's go out and if she says no then I would say move on Yeah, but I would wait a little she's she's announced that they just broke up and that she's not ready to date

Which has happened to me before not that often but a lot of women I know not me typically because I typically go from one Relationship the next which I don't do anymore, but I used to but a lot of women I know, not me typically, because I typically go from one relationship to the next, which I don't do anymore, but I used to. But a lot of women I know physically can't imagine dating when they're going through breakup. They're going through breakup with someone and they break up and they're like, I want nothing to do with the opposite sex. So she might be in that refractory period where she just doesn't want to date right now. So I just be your friend for a while and see what happens. Yeah.

That's what sounds like she says. She's in this ask her as friends. You guys can can go as friends. Let's go get a burger. Burger or drink a couple shots. Let's get some shots. Let's get wasted. Oh, that's usually when I hook up with my friends. Tequila, the female vagras. Yes. That's what my friend Max said. That's a drone or Don Julio. I recommend. Yeah. Me too. I love tequila. Do you like tequila? I love tequila. Are you stillquila I love tequila I still like drinking I'm not drinking For how many days has it been now to no I did what what is it now?

I just almost a week now. Oh I'm patio. Yeah, you look great. No, I'm fine. You don't look like I hung over anything Nothing you usually do, but you know, I'm just saying thank you. Okay I recently found your show and still catching up. I originally found the show in iTunes. I have a Linux, Linux box now, so don't have iTunes anymore, but I have an app that downloads directly from your RSS feed to my phone. I don't even know how Linux works. Me neither. I guess it's a tradition now to comment on the great hand-out debate. So here I go. I tend to agree with Menace, but I've only ever had one woman try. I am however willing to believe that a woman can be good at it if she is strong enough hands.

I think it'd be fascinating, experience to see if you could hook menist up with someone that could change his mind about it. I'll totally hook you over the woman that can give you a killer hand job. Would you want that? Woman that can give me a good hand job. Yeah. Do you want me to introduce you to someone? Anyway, okay, so that was just his point about the hand on me.

Anyway, I tend not to respond to sex the same way that most men seem to. There seems to be some sort of disconnect where I have all the normal lizard brain reactions and orgasm easily enough, usually, but I very rarely, and I ejaculate easily enough, but I rarely orgasm. So he ejaculates but doesn't orgasm, which you know is possible. As you can imagine, sex for me is usually all about the woman. Because of this, I really want to say thank you for your show. I'm learning a lot. I loved your fantasy show and I'm really loving your interview shows. Those interviews I do with all of them. I love learning how

to make my partner happy and I'm really seeing her perk up and become a bit more engaged. I will definitely be trying out a cock ring soon and this weekend we'll be trying out a light bit of bondage for the first time. Darryl from Hillsborough, Oregon. Hey Darryl, okay so first of all I think that that's normal, that you can't orgasm all the time. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. You're welcome to go to your doctor and get a check up. I always recommend that to people because there could be some issue that you're having but I think that's normal that men sometimes just regularly can't have

work. I was with a guy once who didn't I know many guys who don't all the time. It's more common that they do but they don't all the time and every other day or every time you do or wherever is in so bad so I wouldn't worry about it. Really that's what I think. So but I would say if it bothers you to go to your doctor and get a checkup, a lot of people don't want to talk to their doctors about sex stuff because they feel uncomfortable, but really they're the best people to talk to. That's what I would say. Nothing wrong with you though, Darren. You're fine and I love that you love to please the woman and I'm sure your girlfriend's really happy about it. So, appreciate that. Oh Oh man. What?

I don't know. I feel like we're the ones that gives them therapy. We do, don't we? I love that. Like I was thinking today, there was some quote, there was something on the news. It was like headline news, Jada Pinkett Smith, you know, Will Smith's wife says,

great sex is the most important, is the key to a happy marriage. And it was like, whoa, a can't believe she said it It's like what is wrong with America? We are so Provincial in so many ways we're so provincial that Celebrity makes a comment about her sex life being great and everyone's gonna blow it up and CNN across a ticker Who cares like I mean? It's great that she's saying that and people will realize it's important But that's what we're trying to do here every single day and

And do you miss to five sex and talk about it like it's so important? It is important People damn it. It's too shy. It's a problem. I know we should have a sex parade in San Francisco. Oh, they have one don't they? Yeah, many of them Thanks for listening to sex with Emily. That relationship is equal better sex. Sinclair Institute, the leader in sex education products for adults, has been saying it for over 20 years. I've seen some of their DVDs and I highly recommend them. Find Sinclair's ad on my products page on my website, sexwithemily.com, and save 50% off any one item when you put an Emily 50 at checkout. Enjoy the show show I promise your sex life will improve. Hi Emily found your podcast on iTunes and I've enjoyed listening to quite a few episodes. I listened to episode 92 which is in three

parts. At the end of part two you say you're gonna talk about men's origin of zones and their favorite female body parts. But part three obviously skips that information and restarts further toward discussion. Yeah, that used to happen on those part threes. I'll find it for you. Fummer, I wanted to hear it. An observation about Emily, don't get married girl unless it's to a guy who'd be happy in an open relationship. About menace. What? Servative doesn't like hand jobs, laundry or sex toys, loosened up, bloke, you're on a sex show. Cheers. Conservative. He's from Tasmania, Australia. He's in

vacate show 90. you've become more open Yeah, in the last nine years. Oh speaking of stuff that we missed on our last podcast. We were supposed to talk about something I've got that letter. Yeah. Yeah, I need it right now. Okay. Okay. I'm glad you brought it up because it's actually okay Thank you for you're so smart I'm sure I this is hilarious. This is from Jason Oh, wait did I comment on this guy's put? Okay, thanks. Thank you, Dino from Tasmania.

I totally appreciate it. I don't know what happened. Sometimes we used to do shows in three parts back in the 90s and I mean the 90s show. It's not in the 90s. Yeah, yeah. And I'm sorry they got lost, but I'll try to look for that information and re-talk about it on the show. Okay, this is a funny letter that I was going to read on the last show and I didn't have

a chance, but I'm going to read it now. But first, I need to have some Agua. It's from Jason. Okay. So I behind on a few podcasts. I don't know if you remember my email, but I said I was going to drink with you guys. Well, I remember him. Well, listening to the episode. See, background is minus and I promised that an episode 169 we were going have a drinking party. Yes. So last Saturday night, my wife went out with her friends and my son went, was at the grandparents for the night. So I started watching a college football game and drinking.

When the game was over I threw in the podcast and there was some comedian, comedian on. You two were in the studio and nobody was drinking. I was super confused and kept drinking. Then in the beginning of the next episode you guys said you forgot. So my wife gets home at midnight and finds me drunk by myself. I'll try to get this right. Wife says, Hey, whoa, are you drunk? Oh, by yourself. Me. I was supposed to drink with Emily. Menace wife. Who? Me? The sex with Emily podcast. Remember wife? Are they in town? Me? No, there's also drinking episode 169. And wife, you're going to drink

with them. And they did it. Me? nope, and I'll tell you something else. Emily has lost her shot. I'm never having sex with her now. Wife, well that's nice to know, go to bed. Me, good idea. LOL, next time you say you're gonna do this, you better. Otherwise I'll get emails from friends saying, I'm a drunk like menace's Twitter friends are sending him.

Jason from Baltimore. PS, menace hates balls and should call his mother more. Jason, we're so sorry we didn't drink. What the hell are we going to do that menace? Um, man, because I- It's just hard to drink. Oh, yeah? Well, what happened was- Now menace is on a drinking vacation.

Well, what happened was this is what happened. We can't drink in the studio here because we record at CVS and this is you know a place of business and at the time I was doing another radio show at night so I can't go After work during the day and go to your house and record it or at a bar and now I have the time right But you're not drinking. I'm not drinking. But you're only not drinking for, okay, 30 days. So what, so what do we do?

So we should just wait a little bit. Can we please just wait just a tiny bit to do that? Yeah. Yeah, we'll show her around. 180. What about this one is probably 184? 184? 183, something like that.

We've done a lot of shows. Yeah. So, yeah, so what would be a good will just figure it out? Okay, but sorry Jason. I'm sorry Jason. I really want to do it. It just Emily is a super busy person. I am too. I on top of doing this with her I work at four of the radio stations and it's really Hard to find time where I can just get ways to. I love doing this. I love doing it because I don't really get to talk much on other things. You've got a lot to say. Yeah, I have a ton of sh**. I know. I know. I know. Okay, that was hilarious. I love it. Okay, Emily Menace.

I feel I feel we need to take the swallow versus spit debate to a new level. Okay. How many men have tasted their own ejaculation, ejaculate, semen? How many men have tasted their own semen? Terry, my lovely wife and I, enjoy the sexual position where I stand on the edge of the bed while she lays on the bed with her long, tan, leg, spread wide with an ankle in each of my hands. We try to make sure Terry orgasms first, which is often

the case as her fingers will dance. He wrote this very lyric. Yeah. As her fingers were dang fingers were dance on her enlarged clit. After we both released, I dropped my knees and with her legs still spread wide, I will lick seamen out of her. This drives her absolutely wild as it is erotic. After I'm sure the flow of love has ceased, I will crawl up on the bed and she will kiss me deeply so she can taste the nectar of our coupling. We will usually French kiss and she will let me fondle her breasts as we catch her breath. So now that we have anal sex, I will lick my semen from her, which sends her euphoric as which sends her into euphoria.

That's how erotic this is. I know this last scenario will totally freak out menace. If your love partner reaches a new level of friskyness, by you performing something she does not expect you she will reward you with an increased appetite for sex. It certainly works for us. The show is funny and informative. Ian and Terry from Hamilton, Canada, where we download from iTunes. Ian and Terry, that's awesome. I mean listen, it is so true that when you push the sexual button, when you push your sexual threshold and you do things that are not typical, that it really does open up your sexual

appetite, it does make you more open sexually. And it's good to do. I think that's hot. I think they are doing something that I learned about in junior high. And it was a term They call the snowballing oh Right, yeah, where you you know, you're Back and forth. Yeah, but I'm a little under the weather. I know I apologize. I apologize if I'm not that funny today, but

Yeah, I learned about that in junior high Yeah, but he likes it and they find it hot and I think his last sentence is very profound. And when I read it again because I think it's a profound. If your love partner reaches a new level of friskyness by you performing something she does not expect, she will reward you with an increased appetite for sex. I think again, that is so true to surprise your partner. Not just to go try something really intense that you've never done, you have to build up to it

like everything else. However, trying something different, usually for couples really just catapults their sex life to a new level. So I really like this Ian and Terry from Canada. I'm sure there's a lot of people out there doing that stuff. Yeah, but they don't write me and tell me about it. So I appreciate it Ian and Terry.

Kind of someone always asks me, like what's the most amazing thing you've ever heard or what's the most shocking? And I'm like, everything I love, like does anything, does anything ever gross you out or bother you? I'm like, nope, I love every letter. I read every single one.

We still haven't cracked the code of footfish. I know, do footfish, email us feedback. And check out the family.com. Why do you like feet? Why? A lot of people like feet. You love feet, and I hear about it all the time, but I even had a friend who was really into feet.

But why? Why didn't you ask your friend? Why? He couldn't explain it. He said you just liked it. Yeah, it's just something that gets in your neurons. Yeah, if somebody can figure it out, then let me know. Well, I think fetishes come from the deep recesses of our mind from something that happened in childhood a lot of times or just you was having everybody in childhood where they love feet.

Well, you can sometimes you were right. Maybe they saw their mother in high heels or something. Their mother. Yeah, they eroticized it. Are you fetishized? Are you fetishized the heels or shoes or women's stuff? I mean, just like anything, people who have fetish for breasts or fetish for women's clothing.

Like it doesn't mean you're gay, if you're a man, and you like women's underwear. It's just, your mind sexualizes certain things women should date guys that have foot fetishes because I'm sure they get fabulous shoes you know what that if I've got shoes and a great foot massage yeah I love a foot massage men do not do foot massages enough do you know that every woman I know would love that really yeah amazing foot massage do you do that, but I haven't done it lately because there's no one because you're just hooking up. Oh, they only get the footmasks. If you're like committed or

see what they're doing. If I have a girlfriend, I give them the world. I do. I treat them. I treat them. You feel Gucci bags at them. I throw Gucci bags at them. No, I treat them really well. If we're together, I treat you really well. And then that's why, on the other hand, I don't take no crap, too, because like, look, I treat you really good. I know I treat you really good. And if you're trying to give me some crap or some flak or some breadiness, I ain't gonna have it.

You treat them well, however you work a lot so that you don't give them enough time. They think, but I that's the same with me. I'm not sure if you're not sure if you're not sure if you're going to put a picture on this episode of me wearing a t-shirt that men has just bought me. So go to my website, sexthumbwe.com. Yeah. Okay, Emily, enjoy the latest podcast, but can't help but email my thought. Menace in yourself are a bit off with the gold diggers. Not so much in the Midwest, saying that the gold diggers are not in the Midwest that much.

Chicago is full of them. Come to any spot in the gold coast or near North, and they they are everywhere and hardly hide it. Maybe when I was in New York Miami and LA, never stand fan unfortunately. I never went to the right place. Keep talking and can you talk about the preferred lingerie material of women, I.e. silk, cotton lace, etc. Peace to you both from Chaitown, Davis. Skull diggers all over the world. There are gold diggers in every city, I'm sure. Did you say that the Midwest girls, I think he's referring to a comment you made about

the Midwestern girls not being good at this much? Yeah, I don't, I mean, I go out there for days at a time, so not that I'm living there, but the girls that I find, they just seem, they just seem more a little, corn fed. A little more corn fed, I don't have to take them to fancy dinners where I have to get an appointment. You don't do that anyway. But yeah, they I don't know they just seem a lot cooler. I mean there's a gold digger everywhere. But I think he also wants to know about preferred lingerie material

women, silk or cotton or lace. I think it's a case by case basis. Silk, right? I think that women, I like everything. I have everything. I've cotton silk lace. I think it depends what kind of mood I'm in. I still think lace is kind of sexy. I'm just going to look at my bride. I don't have it on now.

But I have this one, brother. I think it's really pretty. But I stick with like, I don't know, but cotton underwear too. And I have everything. I think you have to ask the woman. And I'm a con guy. Con. Yeah, con. Keep it real. But silk feels good, doesn't it?

It does. It seems cheesy to you. Yeah. I know. You have this thing about lingerie. I think lingerie is cheesy. Okay, honey. It's fine. I need to buy some new stuff, though. I need to buy lingerie. Where do you go? I go to different stores. I went to a stripper store last week to buy boots for Halloween.

Yeah. Just show you my Halloween picture. It's really hot. And they had the most amazing laundry in there. And I kind of wanted it all. It wasn't all stripper clothes. There was a lot of stripper clothes. But I go to, you know, wherever department stores. I don't buy it. I don't do it a lot. I don't buy a lot of new laundry. But whenever I start dating someone I do, so I kind of should do that now. I should go by lingerie tonight for my weekend plans. Not lingerie, but like you bras and underwear. It's on the list. I'm one of time. Okay, let's give some, oh, we can These are quick dating tips. These are just a few do's and don'ts. Tips to make your first date go smoothly. First dates can be nerve-wracking and they often render even the most experience of data, shy, silent, and prone to making awkward and embarrassing

mistakes. So here's some chances of getting a second date. Here's some ideas below about you, so you'll get a second date even before the initial meeting is over. Here's some pointers to help you put your most attractive foot forward. These might be kind of obvious, but again, I get questions a lot about dating, so like what's the best things to do, so here's some dos and doats. Do be on time. The last thing you want to do is make a bad impression by being late. Tardiness implies that you don't care. Even worse, the person you're meeting may not hang around to wait for you.

Do make your partner feel comfortable. We're all on edge the first date, and the first date with someone. Try to put your partner in ease and get them to relax and help you stay calm and enjoy yourself. Do be interesting on the date. The worst thing you can do is show up with someone and then sit there all night and talk about nothing or stay silent. Don't make yourself easy to forget.

That's true. If you have to read the newspaper or watch TV or think of something interesting to say, think of it. Because I've had those dates with her like so and you hear the fork clinking. Just be interesting. Laugh at their jokes. Even if you hear the joke a hundred times or more,

laughing at her jokes will let you know you're interested on them. Interested in them. So these are kind of obvious, but. What is your? My dates, my tip of the first date. Same thing. I think that you should ask questions.

Don't talk about yourself too much. Ask questions about me. I have so many guys who don't ask questions. That is the biggest complaint that I hear from women is they went out with a guy and I think a lot of times it's nerves, but guys do not ask questions to the woman about her. Like just ask her anything. Do you like your broth? Do you like your job? Do you like your work? Who's your friends? Do your brother, sister? There's so many questions to ask. Are you raised religious? Where did you grow up? Just women love talking about

themselves. And it's not that you're not going to, you should ask you questions back hopefully, but just ask questions. And oh, here's some don'ts. Don't be late. That's the same as being on time. Don't talk about yourself all night. Don't talk about past relationships. I agree to that. Never talk about your past relationship on the first second or third day or ever or ever exactly donate with your mouth open I know guys do that really they don't realize it but how do you tell a guy that he's eating with his mouth open I don't realize I'm doing it I don't think you do I've never eaten with you though okay we never had anything but had a drink together don't bombard your date with extremely personal questions like you they probably don't want to reveal too

much about themselves yet if you like don't want to reveal too much about themselves. Yeah, if you like each other, I want to continue after this first meeting, there'll be plenty of time to ask questions in Del Deeper. So that's it. On the first day, don't get into like your divorce or your all your issues. Just kind of try to keep it light, but there's a lot of light, interesting things that you can talk about that, you know, that don't have to be about like what's your favorite sex position.

Like don't talk about sex on the first date unless of course you're me and I get asked questions about guys whenever I go out with guys, they ask me questions all the time about sex because they think, I'm, well I know you're used to this. So even though I should shave my balls, I'm like really? Whenever you want.

When I'm dropping loads, what do you think I should put on? Exactly. Okay, don't forget to thank the other person for the date. That is so true. You have to always think. I always send thank you emails or texts right after the date. Don't you like when a girl thinks you have to take her out?

Are you don't care? I don't care. Really? Well, no, I like them responding back because now it doesn't feel like I'm bothering them. Right. Because they didn't respond to me after going out with me. Right. Yeah.

So at least I know they're interested in maybe hanging out again. Right. Yeah. But I might just be thanking you and not interested in hanging out with you. Yeah. But anyway, you don't know for sure. Do you go somewhere unique? First dates don't have to be the movies or to a restaurant for a nice meal.

You will make a longer lasting impression if you get creative. I don't know about that. I say get creative but not too creative. Like I have a friend who guys was like, let's go on a hike and she'd hate hiking and he wanted to go see a band and she's like, bands. And it's like, you just don't be, there's stuff you can do but don't be too creative. Yeah. Okay, so that's what I'm saying. Okay guys, so thank you so much for listening to the show. I really appreciate it.

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