Sex With Emily - SWE: Look Who's Back In Town...

Episode Date: March 21, 2014

Menace is Back! Emily and Menace are back together in the studio and happy to be in Los Angeles. Emily answers listener emails including questions regarding mismatched libidos - what to do when your partner wants more sex than you, a man who has trouble with older women, and trying to speed up the pace of a relationship- good or bad idea? Tinder is the dating app (some say it's a hook-up app) and Emily has been spotted on it! They talk about the rules of the explosive new app. Menace opens up about his secret 3 year relationship and claims Emily knew her once upon a time... Emily and Menace talk about kids and marriage. Menace has something stuck in his penis and the hospital has to take it out (Get ready to cringe!).  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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I know. How many months has it been since we recorded a show together? It was September. September. It was five months maybe. Five months? I don't know. I think so.

Wow. Probably not five months, but it felt like five months. It felt like five months, three months. Yeah, I moved to Los Angeles, everybody. So I'm going to be doing some shows with you here. You're still going to continue to do like, because you've already set up a like giant business down here. Exactly, I've got to buy them.

I'm taking, I can't wait a time for you. I can't wait for your name. You have an empire. So yeah, I moved here for a new radio job. I'm going to be doing mornings, part of a new morning show called. What is it? The Woody show. And it's going to be on alt, of a new morning show called the Woody show. It's going to be on alt 98.7.

It's like a burner show, like a Woody. No. Okay. It's a everyday morning show. It's an awesome. All 98.7. Yeah. I mean, if they're not in Los Angeles, they can listen to it.

They can stream it on alt 98.7fm.com or use the iHeart radio app. That's so awesome. I'm just so glad you're here. So also, we've a lot of new listeners since you haven't been honest about it so much. We do play a lot of throwback shows because menace has been on like 8 million podcasts, but if you don't know, I do a lot of different shows. And I'm trying to release about two shows a week

and usually I've won with a guest. I have won with now, I've won with menace again. Sometimes it's just myself reading your emails. But menace has been part of this sexual institution for well since day one on the radio since 2012. Yes, since threshold radio. But since we run trust to a radio on CBS Radio in 2006, now menace, we didn't talk the first figures. In fact, he hated me because he was working the board and I sometimes swore on the radio and did things that were wrong. But then eventually we started talking and we had a nice dynamic. And so if you haven't listened to July's show to the men

and said I just wanted to do two shoot of men as cause he's just friggin awesome. Well, I'm back everybody. I'm glad to hear back. So how's Los Angeles trading you? Los Angeles is awesome. I mean San Francisco, I mean, I was born and raised in the San Francisco Bay area, which is, you know,

San Francisco is only seven by seven miles. So it's not really a big area, but outside of that area is gigantic. And that's where I grew up. And I miss it, dearly, but I do not miss SF at all. Me neither. I'm like, what SF who what? Because it's such a pain in the ass when I live there, imagine every time you get off work and you want to go home, you have to circle your neighborhood for an hour to find working. I know. It's horrible. And then just everything just became

super expensive and super. Right. Right. Right. I left the whole city with a toilet. Super elitist. Just, you know, I know. I never thought you'd move though because you are Mr. Bay Area. He gets recognized in San Jose and things like that. But yeah, I got to offer an amazing job here. So I. It was sort of a miracle. Yeah, it took the he pretends he has a job It really he came down to be on the stomach. So I moved down here and it is beautiful. The weather is nice. I got a swing pool Man, I just love it so much. I know. I'm so glad that you're doing what's cool is a lot of people that I already know Move down here because they were frustrated with all the things. Yeah, San Francisco is kind of a cluster after. Is this second most expensive city next to Manhattan?

Yeah, which is crazy. It used to be, I mean, I guess it's always been expensive, but the rent's like my apartment, my little mini apartment when I live in San Francisco, who's like 1,600 a month, which may even seem a lot to you people wherever you're listening to the world. But for San Francisco, that was pretty good.

He now rented it for 4,000. Yeah. It just since I left a year ago, over a year ago, it's gone crazy. So I'm glad we're here. And today's show, let me just tell you what were we talking about. We're just going to be reading your emails

because I get so many emails to feedback at sexwithelm.com. And I love hearing from all of you with your questions. And I try to get to all of them, as you know. And since you know, Mettis has some good insights sometimes into a semi-meltz. And he does a lot of times you would always read all you would always read all this hate mail like oh Minnes need to be nicer to me and love you, Mettis.

They missed you people hate you because you're so mean and then what was it I have been on the show and it was like where the hell's minus yeah just tweets of love see it's love I think you I think think you wrote all those emails. I didn't just get you down here. No, people love you. They love us. No, not that.

All the hate mail. Oh, I did not. You think I have time for a hate mail? Yeah. You got to intern to write it or something. No, I don't. Oh, he's so mean to you. Oh, I love you.

He's not mean to me. He loves me. Okay, so some of the emails we'll be reading are, a guy who's got trouble with older women. Also a high libido woman, what do you do about it? And then is the guy moving too slow for him? Want some if he should speed things up? We lost our little bit of sex in the news. And I got to tell you about something really quick that's happening on it.

And I'll show this week. As you know, we've got a bunch of podcasts every week, but there's another show that I'm doing this week that's gonna be released later in the week. And okay, I've never really dated, I actually have never dated online before, but I got sucked into Tinder. Oh no.

And if you haven't heard of Tinder, because you've been living under a rock, it's a new app for any phone, right? iPhone, and your phone's smartphone. And it's basically, people say, some people say, you know, there's two arguments. It's super, super, it's really superficial. You're just looking at pictures and you basically, you put in the age range that you're looking

for, you know, I'm looking for 25 to 35 year old women. You're looking for the proximity. You want them to live no more than 12 miles away. And if you're looking for a man or woman, that's about it, right? And then you upload your pictures. Yeah. It's basically Grindr, which we've been talking about. For years.

Grindr was an app in the gay community. That was a total hook-up app. Everybody says it tinders a hook-up app. And I think it is. It is. It's only a hook-up app if you want to. Then I know that's on it. It's just straight hook-up stuff.

But I see, but, okay, that's not what I'm looking for. So I think I make that clear. Like, I'm not going to meet up with you and hook-up with them. So, I don't, but I feel like it's a joy you could. Clearly, people do that. So anyway, Tinder's is happened. I was in, you'll appreciate this Valentine's Day.

I was in New York. Uh-huh. I was with Amy Lawrence from Miss Advise, which is a television show that Menace did on Bravo. We were both alone on Valentine's Day. Not alone, out together. And she's like, you haven't tried Tinder. So she signed me up for Tinder.

And I was like, oh my God, it's like a game. You're like swiping, swiping, and it works in any city. So I started doing Tinder and then I came back here and I started just kind of doing it, but since I've been so busy, I actually have a time to date. So this one guy on Tinder, we match. So what happens is that you like someone and they like you, then you're a match.

And then they message you. Why wait for the guy to message me first? And he message me, he said, God, it's killing me. Your picture looks so familiar. Oh, I know. You were on Miss Advised. I used to work at that production company. Now, I never met him.

It was a big production company that did our reality show. He said, but I know who you are. I was like, okay. And then he was really funny, funny, banter back and forth. But he kept asking me for plans. And every night I do love line with Dr. Drew, which is another in my Catholic world,

which is a great radio show and podcast. And then I kept every night, I got a show, I got a show. He's like, what do I do? Come on your show, have a date with you. And I thought, that's a great idea. Eight years of doing sex filming, I've never had a blind date on or any kind of date on the air.

So tonight, or that tonight, this week, I'm going to be, he's gonna come on. So listen to the show later in the week, and I don't know. I wish that you were going to be there because I think that you would bring in Grillin. So if we get to second date, maybe we'll bring him back. But I think that would be kind of fun. Why not?

What if I don't like him? I don't know. We're going to get wine. We're going to make it like a real date. Yeah. And the other thing is, I've never seen a Google. I've never seen this picture, but I've never Googled on my don't know anything about them.

Well, secretly, you and I had a lunch in Los Angeles, and we were talking about Tinder a little bit, and you're opening it, and you're showing it to me, and they're like, I can't believe I got all these matches, and I was like, no shit, because every guy on that app is just liking every single chick photo on there, and then once the chick likes his photo back, a dud's gonna be a match.

Oh, so you think they don't even look at the picture? I think they just go through every single hot one, they think is everyone they think is hot. So that's why not everyone messes with me. They hit like, you know, and then whatever girl hits like back, then they're gonna start talking to them. Okay, so whatever it is, some guys messaged me, some guys don't, but if you live a lot of conversations,

but I have no time. That's why like straight apps just suck, because every guy he's just gonna go through. I know, it is, it's kind of superficial, but it's kind of funny, and this guy was really funny, you know I like funny, and we get entertaining exchanges, and I thought why not have them on the show. But another thing, speaking of our secret life,

wasn't so secret, but we went to the Roseveld. I posted a photo on Instagram. Check out minus an Instagram. Menace, N-E-N-A-C-E. And I'm sex with Emily Instagram. Follow me on Instagram and also Twitter, sex with Emily, and minus a mess. So anyway, we're having lunch at the Roseveld.

And I asked you, because menace has had a girlfriend for a really long time, like three years now. Yeah. And, okay, A, he never talked about her. B, I've never met her. And C, I brought that up to him and he's like, oh, she says something about you, but I'm not gonna tell you now.

I gotta tell you that. What? See, this is where you're changing everything. She never said anything about that. Okay, I'm like, well, why can't I meet her? Why can't we? I know, I said, okay, I knew this was gonna torture you because we had lunch last week. And like, tell me now.

Yeah, and I was like, no, I want to save it for the show. All right, you have met her before. OK. And you just don't know it. All right. Because, all right. So people have to go back and listen to some shows. But we had Candy from Real Housewives of Atlanta.

She's not my girlfriend. But we had her in studio once. And so my girlfriend used to work with me. So the girlfriend, my girlfriend, well, we were setting up for the show. Okay. My girlfriend was in the studio with us. Oh. And you thought she was an intern and you asked her to go get her some water. I asked her to get, oh, well, you didn't like she's not like, no, no, she's never she never said anything about it But I'm like that was kind of a bad introduction because she's not like she's not intern I think I believe that I would ever ask any random that's so not like me where to God you did

Well, maybe she was sitting there and you said would you mind getting her some water because we were getting on the air I didn't know you asked her to get you some water. I Did I on my life? Okay, so now she hates me because we were getting on the air. I didn't mean that. No, you asked her to get you some water. I did. I on my life. Okay, so now she hates me. Well, you know that she never even said anything about it. She never even said anything about it. Did you introduce me to her at the time?

No, we were like in the middle of setting stuff up. So why was she sitting there not to get me water? Like, what else was she doing? We just like immediately walked into the studio and sat down. And I said, get me some water that sounds like I'm a diva, but you know that I'm not so I mean it came out very deep. It was she was sitting there doing nothing I probably thought I'm thirsty Okay, but I'm gonna say you're banging your former assistant. No, she's not my Whatever she was working at your station. She was working at my station. No, she was working at a different station

Okay, so anyway anyways. Yeah, so you, you know, I just thought. No, she hates me. No, she doesn't. I don't care. Fine. I mean, I would ever I know myself and I know how you twist things. I would never randomly say, like unless she said she said to me, can I get you some water? I get everyone else water. I, whenever I guess I'm like, I can eat some water. I never in my life and I've never asked Lauren, my sister here, and he says to get me coffee, to get me lunch. That's how do I am.

This between me and you. This between me and you, and you know, take it how you want to be it. At any time we get a high profile guest in, you get a little diva. Maybe there's a lot going on. You get a little diva, just FY. Whatever, whatever.

You are fucking obsessed with celebrities I'm talking about. Okay, so let's keep going. I'm sorry the year girlfriend never wants to be because I asked for a Give me a couple while. How many how many times did I say that she never even said anything about it I'm just giving you a hard time see how you get all pissed. I know I'm kind of cranky You know why I have a conclusion. This is how we should act on this advice because it would have I know I've got a new reality show good I've got a new talk show that I just sent the contract today.

I hope you, you know, we act like this. Me too, we're much better this way. But if you guys haven't seen misadvised, you can download, I do, and it's pretty freaking funny. So, I have a concussion. Let me just say this, everyone, I have to tell you, preface, I have a concussion. And so, and Dr. Drew checked me out last night,

and he said, do you feel a little cranky? And I said, how could the hell can I tell the difference? I'm always cranky. But no, I do feel a little more agitated. So if I seem that way, it's just because I dropped a mirror on my head before the big earthquake. Why didn't you go to the doctor? I'm busy.

And so I just saw Dr. Drew on Loveline last night. Oh my god. No, I don't know for sure that it's a confirmed concussion, but I was moving this gigantic mirror in my apartment. Yeah. And I was moving as really heavy. Like way too heavy for a move. And it bam, I tripped and I smashed on my head on the glass. Did I break it? No. It was a really thick, nice mirror. And the whole side of my face

is bruised and I've had a headache and I'm a little wheezing. Dr. Drume, like, walk across the room, put my hands in front of my eyes and do this whole thing. So he said, I've concussion symptoms. So if I'm a little wheezing. Dr. Dreumey, walk across the room, put my hands in front of my eyes, and do this whole thing. So he said, I have concussion symptoms. So if I'm a little more agitated, then usually... It's kind of a big deal. He should go to the doctor for that. He didn't say I had to. He said, just take care of it.

Oh, great. Just put it on Dr. Dreum. Be casual. He said, he's a real doctor. I know he is, but Jesus, he definitely probably told you to go get a check-in. No, he didn't. Check that.

He said, I'm fine. He said, I'm fine just to rest. I've concussion symptoms is what he said. And I shouldn't move heavy front and turn a lot on him. That's another reason I'm like, I wish I had a boyfriend right now. And it's only times like that. I think I wish I had a boyfriend to move with me. Did it take care of you?

Yeah. Yeah, see? It's nice. Why don't you? Here's some opposite. What don't you have a boyfriend? I'm really enjoying dating a lot of people and having a good time per usual the same story. Yeah yeah. How is the dating life in Los Angeles? We got to catch up. I know

let's get people to try and push through. Let me just say something is because sometimes people listen to the show and they people sign up at all different times. They just tune in and some people have never heard you on the show so they don't know that man decide this thing and then some you're like you guys didn't get an end- you sex talk for the first 20 minutes, and they get annoyed, but then some people love us talking. So I'm confused. Well, it's people start getting lazy. I know.

Okay, so I'll tell you about dating in LA. It's been interesting. When I moved to LA about a year ago, I was dating Guy in San Francisco. Who I left, he found out on Facebook that I was moving. I forgot to tell him I had a time. Do you remember that? It wasn't that I was moving for sure.

Oh, yeah. I posted on Facebook that anyone want to swap apartments because I wasn't ready to break up with San Francisco yet. I just knew I had to be in L.A. And then two minutes later, he texted me. You moving out, which is talking to my Facebook, he's like, you moving to L.A. And then it turns out 10 seconds later,

I got an email from a friend in L.A. He was like, I got to be in San Francisco in 10 days. Let's swap. So I moved here very, very quickly, and that relationship did not last long. Facebook drama. I know. So then I started dating a few guys here, not at once,

but I was dating like one after the next, they all the same name, which is interesting. Can't save the name is, but it's weird. You just had to put like one, two, three. No, literally, in my phone, they're saved because like one, two, like, let's say it's like, their name is Steve, which is not. It's like Steve won, Steve two, up to Steve five. Wow. Yeah, it, three. Literally, in my phone, they're safe. It's like one, two, like, let's say it's like their name is Steve, which is not. It's like Steve one, Steve two, up to Steve five.

Wow. Yeah, it's weird. But so they're all, and they're nice, and I meet a lot of guys, and I get a lot of, you know, tender things and whatever, but I've been very, my business is, business is a woman. It's great. Yeah, I love your new office. Thank you, men.

It's came to say I got a penthouse to Hollywood. You can see the sign. You know, it's not like, I mean your new office. Thank you. Menace came to say I got a penthouse to Hollywood. You can see the sign Um, you know, it's not like Mean as a shared there's a lot of different options and it's a big space and it's great And I'm very happy what about Michigan. What about everybody else around the country? Oh my god My family's here right now my brother You can see him. I know with his three daughters and it's been fun. I've been hanging out with them They miss you love your brother. I know we should like go out tonight or something if I didn't have my uh

I have people in town. So many people visit you when you live in. Everybody. Everybody visits me. Everybody. It's amazing. And I love that. Well, here's the thing. So my three nieces are in for Michigan.

And they got here on Sunday and we're swimming at the pool. They're staying at the hotel. And I, um, we're swimming in my little niece 11. She's like, so do you guys get tornadoes here? And I said, no, we get a earthquake. She was, I'm like, no, no, no, don't worry. I've lived over 20 years. I've had like four earthquakes.

They're not bad, no big. She's like, oh, it makes me scared. I'm like, don't worry, don't worry, I'm an earthquake. The next morning, I don't know if I've ever heard, there's like a 64.7 earthquake at like 650 in the morning. And she screamed across the morning. And there's like my three nieces, my brother, his it was chaos so I woke you wake up from it yeah I did it was like it was like 655 AM yeah which is way too early for me so I texted my

brother I'm like you obviously of course and then I was like texting with all family so but but now I think they think it's cool like they were in an earthquake no one died that's cool there's nothing bad that's not you know for me. Yeah, I would take earthquakes way over to tornadoes any day I said to them. I said you know what honey listen, so my niece I said at least it's not snowing because you just left like most Holescious winter ever people in the Midwest. I said my love to the west and the east coast in the United States because it's been Friggin halish and I've spent a lot of time in New York this year and it's just Blizzard's crazy. Yeah, but yeah, the family's good, dating's good, LA's good, it's sunny, I really have to gosh,

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or did she want to move with you? Or are you getting married? And it just, I mean, you've been here three years and you're raising, you're not getting any younger. We're not getting married. We like having money and traveling because people that people like it married it is so over the top expensive and why we just like I don't understand. I don't want to have kids because they cost so much money. Oh you really don't want kids.

Oh don't want to go hang out in tropical beaches Like what's wrong with that? There's nothing wrong with that at all. And you know, but I'm very supportive of marriage. I just, you know, if you can financially handle it, then I think then go for it. If you found the person, but I just, it's just not the right time. But you can get married and have a joint, you know, you go to city malls.

I mean, we can just go to see hall and get married and all that stuff, but it then, it's just like, what's the point? She doesn't want kids either. That's the point, no? know, you go to city hall. I mean we can just go to see hall and get married and all that stuff But it didn't it's just like what she doesn't want kids either point Okay, good so you're all good. We hear like kids yelling at like restaurants and shit But do we really want to deal with that for years? I totally understand that and I don't want to like clean others people shit You know do you? Well, I had a dog once, but I don't know the dog. Your dog's gone. My dog, she's living in Palm Springs.

She's living a much better life because of y'all. I remember my dog. I know, my dog was just, she needed to be outside 24-7. And what I tell you day one, don't do the dog. I know. And but, you know what's crazy is my girlfriend's begging me for a dog. Don't get a dog.

It's the hardest thing I ever did. Yeah. No, I love marriage. I's the hardest thing I ever did. Yeah. No, I love marriage. I love kids for other people, but yeah, not for me and I for you. No, no, and I know that you probably listened to past podcasts and I- You wanted kids in marriage. Yeah, but now- Oh, you don't even know who you are.

No, right now, right now, right now is strictly a financial thing. If I won the mega millions tomorrow and I had $200 million in F. Yeah, I'll have like four four kids. I don't give it crap. Oh, so it's a money thing But you know people have money and who live like I don't want to live like that I want to be able to go travel and do shit No, I know and not have to worry about two little kids that might grow up to be freaking murderers or some shit and disappoint me later In life, you know, especially if you raise them in Los Angeles about two little kids that might grow up to be freaking murderers or some shit and disappoint me later in life. Especially if you raise them in Los Angeles.

But it is true that having kids is a challenge and a lot of people just, you know, they just do it and they struggle and I think that a lot of people get married too young. It's been interesting being on Love Line because, which again, is a nationally syndicated radio show, but you can also find the podcast, LoveLine, whatever.com or whatever. But it's interesting because we take so many callers and it's just so many young people got married in their 20s, have two, three kids and like what do we do now? And I always say, don't get married until you're at least 30 and you know yourself and you have a little more financial stability because we all fall in love really easily in

our early 20s. Sometimes it's our first love. And we think this is it, this is love, this must be marriage, you know, and sometimes more of an infatuation and we grow and change so much. So just make sure you work on yourself and you know who you are before you give me. And it's not like I don't know anybody that is married. It's happening right. Yeah, and has kids and is not happy and are able to travel. Like I know tons of people like that. Just I can't do it. I got it. I'm glad you'll be around to play with me for a while once your girlfriend gets over the fact that I asked her for water.

Yeah. Okay, so anyway, menace, so yeah, we'll be doing shows every week now, correct? Yeah. Okay, I love it. I love that you're back. Okay, so sex in the news. Despite rampant homophobia, the South in the United States

is the most gay into gay porn. Of course it is. It never surprises me that like the conservative, the South, throw is the ones like, I don't know. Because those are the ones that are like trying to hide. Exactly, they're like repressive because living in the South, they might not be as accepting of your sexuality, of how you identify.

So, porn have recently did some research as to where the largest amount of gay pornography is being watched in the United States, broken down by states and without legal same-sex marriage. Pornhup discovered that every single state in the South watches more gay porn than the average of states that have legalized gay marriage. When it comes to states with legalizing gay marriage compared to those without the former only watches 7% more gay porn. Pornhup discovered that every single state in the South watches more

game porn than the average of states that have legalized gay marriage. So anyway, the states were gay marriage is not legal that the most porn is watch is Mississippi, Louisiana, and Georgia. So that means we should just legalize gay marriage. Yeah, that in marijuana. Yeah, oh, dude, can you believe I thought there were a lot of marijuana shops in in San Francisco? L.A. it's everywhere. Oh my God, every single, I'm like, dude, can you believe, I thought there were a lot of marijuana shops in San Francisco? L.A. It's everywhere.

Oh my God, every single, I'm like, is that in convenient, oh no, it's a pot shop. Is that a pharmacy, oh no, it's a pot, I mean, every street, and every street tells like marijuana, we say this in San Francisco. It's gonna be legalized any minute.

Yeah. I mean, completely legal. It's crazy that it's just Denver that's just totally legalized it, compared to here, where it seems like it's completely legal. I know, it's crazy Denver that's just totally legalized it. Compare it here. I know. Where it seems like it's completely legal. I know. It's crazy what's happening. But you know, I do think there has a lot of men

met medicinal medicinal use for people and helps a lot of people. Totally. But you also, the young kids, the problem is when kids use it as a young age, their brains, like 14, 15, 16, you know, their brains are still being shaped, and it's not great for young kids to use.

So I'm worried that it gets into the hands of young children. Well, that's upset parenting. Yeah, but parents don't know if you're gonna get high after school. Well, I don't know. My mother was, she steered me from drinking and doing drugs. How'd she do that and then,

why did you start doing them now? No, I think. You mean in high school, she stopped you. Yeah, I never drink in high school. I never did any drug in high school or any of that kind of stuff. So you're boring? I wasn't kidding. You were popular right now. That's good.

And then what happened you went to college and then... No, not even in college or even do all that stuff. Okay, not even now, you're like sober. Toly sober. At least since last time. No, I had a glass of champagne before a guy here. Oh you did? Yeah.

Why didn't you bring me any? Sorry. The bottle was open. I couldn't bring it. Oh, man. Okay. We'll drink next time. Okay, so this is my second side.

I read this and I was like, wow, this sounds amazing, but it actually has a little dark end to it. Sex, sex, and then the story. Woman has rare condition that gives her 12 orgasms a day. Her boyfriend can't keep up. You hear about that all the time. I know. This Seattle woman only known as Liz hasn't been the same since she suffered a 3 hour orgasm

that put her in the hospital. It was fun for the first 5 minutes she says, but it soon turned into a torturous nightmare that led to a terrifying diagnosis. She was told that the orgasms could come again at any time. Liz's problem began when she had a three-hour orgasm that literally came out of nowhere. It was at this point when her boyfriend Eric took Liz to the hospital where doctors were baffled by what they saw.

Doctors failed to stop the orgasm for determinants cause, but it eventually stopped on its own. The hospital visit was only the beginning of her problems. She continues to be surprised as the marathon orgasms come throughout the come, ejaculate, come throughout the day. She comes throughout the day. First of all, can you imagine standing in line and say, if you're like, ah, ah, hand me the oranges. Yeah, but do you think she's like out loud like that, or she just feels it, but says doctors eventually put this in the dark side. Pinpointed the case

bipolar disorder, which has been misdiagnosed as depression in their part, she's been treated with antidepressants. So she was prescribed Velpork acid, assaulted the tree's bipolar disorder, and it took her four to five months and they were completely under control, and it's probably been a year since she's had one.

I feel for anybody that has to deal with bipolar. I know anything in ex that, right. Oh my God, it's so tough. I know, it that has to deal with bipolar. I know anything in accept, right. Oh my god. So tough. I know. I know a lot of people have it. A lot of people are coming out about it too. Yeah.

You can hear more and more people in the media who bipolar disorder. Yeah. But there's other problems that people have too, and it doesn't have to do with their minds. Sometimes it has to do with their penis. Yes. Um, sometimes people come to do with their penis. Yes. Sometimes people come a little bit too quickly. Yes.

One night stand only lasts a minute. I thought you were going to talk about my penis. Oh, how's your penis doing? We haven't even talked about it. What's going on? On the show. Did you? I told you about it.

I had, should we get into it for the sex and the news? Well, yeah, but let me just finish this part. Okay, go for it. Is it dark? I'm trying to remember. Yeah, you, yeah. Okay, we'll into it for the sex in the news? Well, yeah, but let me just finish this part. Okay, go for it. Is it dark? I'm trying to remember. Yeah, you, yeah. Okay, wait. Here's the thing.

You can remember it. You can never remember it. I do remember honey. Okay, so listen. I love you so much. So listen to anything. I say. So listen, a lot of people, men, I said,

do you want your one night sand to last one minute? I mean, there's a lot of guys who just don't last as long as they want to in bed, okay? And there's not any that. It's not only if you last a minute, but women Men typically ejaculate between three and five minutes four to six minutes. Well women take how long to orgasm Sometimes a thousand years a thousand hundred years like sometimes eighty minutes. So what do you do with this orgasm gap? Well now there is Pro-mescent that's PROM ESET and, ESET and it's basically a premature ejaculation spray.

It's like a delay spray. So it helps men to last longer. It's the only FDA treatment for premature ejaculation. And it has this absorption technology. So if you spray it in your penis, you wait five minutes. It won't transfer to her. She won't know that you're even using it and you'll be able to last longer. And by longer, Mepay means like double or triple to what you usually last, and you can still feel the sex, it feels amazing and show over orgasm and you'll overgrasm everyone's happy. So that's promessing.

You can just click on the banner or our website or go to their website, but minus what's up with your penis. You had some issues. I remember. So in February, I was going to the Grammy Awards and then I suddenly just have unbelievable pain. Oh my God, yes, of course I'm gonna lose it. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. All right, so I have unbelievable pain in February. I'm away to Grammy Awards and I go, it's kidney stones. I have kidney stones again.

I've been dealing with kidney stones for the past 10 years of my life. So I go, okay, fine, I go, it's kidney stones. I have kidney stones again. I've been dealing with kidney stones for the past 10 years of my life. So I go, okay, fine. I go, wow, this is really, this hurts way more than usual. So I had to leave the Grammy Awards early, and went back to my hotel and I was up until like 5am. And then I go home, the couple of days past, the pain goes away and then I go, okay, oh, it's time to pass a kidney stone.

Kidney stone comes, it gets stuck in my penis because the kidney stone is so large. The kidney stone is the size of a nickel, right? It's like- I didn't know what kind of pain I was talking to the hospital, but you didn't tell me the pain as part. It was stuck inside my penis. I could in the hospital, but you didn't tell me the penis part. It was stuck inside my penis. I could feel it inside my penis, right? Ouch. So I go to the doctor and I talk to them.

I was like, oh yeah, I don't think I can pass this. And they go, yeah, you're not gonna be able to pass it. We're gonna be able to do three things. Number one, which, or number one, or number two, we do 90% of the time. Number three, we barely ever do. Number one is we're going to take some tweezers, stick it in the whole of your penis, grab it and pull it out, right? Like, oh, if that doesn't work, we're going to stick this little tube with like a hook, like if you're going to go, you know, try to get a toy out of the little machine.

Right. The sample thing is that it won't be suitable. We're gonna grab it and then try to pull it out of your penis. And they go, number three, which we, you know, we never have to do. We're gonna have to cut your penis open at the tip, like a cross symbol and open it up and pull it out. I know this sounds very disgusting. I'm in so much pain.

And then so I go, I go, okay, okay, cool. The doctor goes out of the room and I tell my girlfriend, I go, they're gonna do number three. Let's get the hell out of here. I'm gonna try to pass this, like, you know, somehow, somehow pass this, right? And I try to dart out of the hospital and they stop me and they go, look,

there's no way you're gonna pass. You try to dart literally like in your room. No, no, I put my clothes back on real quick and I try to leave, they would not let me leave the hospital to go, look, you're not gonna be able to pass this, just forget about it. So here we go, it's like 1 a.m. And they go, yeah, we gotta put you under

and we're gonna have to see if we can get this out. And of course, I wake up, they completely cut my penis. No way, this is funny, you didn't tell me this, this is not it. Right? And then they're like taking the kidney stone and I'm like all drugged out, they take it and they take a container and they're shaking it and araddled. Like, oh yeah, we had to break it up.

It was like in three giant jumps. Oh my God. Unbelievable. So. So then I go home and I sleep. And my girlfriend forgot to tell me. I was like, oh, I gotta go to the restroom. That when I go to a bathroom, it's going all over the place.

It's not like a single stream. Right, because you're open penis. Yeah, it's like I have like stitches all in my penis. So it's like going four different ways, right? And they go, yeah, you can't have sex for six weeks. Oh my God. And then after six weeks, you have for three months, you have to have absolutely have to have sex with condoms.

So you don't get your infection. I still, I'm still healing now. How long has it been now? It's been since February, but I still have stitches. But I've just like last week started to be able to pee normally. Oh my God, I didn't see we have not talked so much. Yeah, I like had to sit down to pee.

Honey, I've been paying you so. No, no, I'm not paying anymore. Can she give you blow jobs? No, hello. They got it with the condom on. With the condom on. Honey, this is awesome. Sorry, I'm getting some condoms,

because I have a lot of them in my house? Yeah, eventually need some condoms. So yeah, I haven't been able to have this. Oh my God. So do anything to do anything to her to please her? Yeah, I'll do things for them. I'm sorry. Honey, that's a lot of pain.

So come to find out. Yeah. Come to find out why I've been dealing with kidney stones. But why was so dramatic this time is that they believe, because I try to like cut soda out of my life, because I'm in Los Angeles, I gotta get in shape. You know, just like, you know, it's then, you gotta be tan with white teeth.

And the thing is, I cut soda out and I started just drinking tea. Well, come to find out drinking tea is the worst fucking possible thing you could do. Well, kind of see though, do you have any? It's like tea Java, which tastes amazing for more. Of course, if it tastes that good, it's can't be good for you. And no, it has no sugar in it or anything.

And then caffeine. It has caffeine. And then so I'm just drinking it like crazy every single day. And it just makes this super kidney stone that I cannot pass. It's hot to your Coltie. Coltie. And then so now I'm just going like straight water. Jesus. But it's just like absolutely. Absolutely. You start, I did talk to your Coltie. Coltie. And then so now I'm just going like straight water. Jesus.

But it's just like, absolutely. That is so, I did talk to you in the last book. That, honey, that is so, I'm so sorry you would do that. Absolutely. Are you a painkillers for a while? Like the first, I didn't want to start taking a bunch. So I took them for like two days. Do you have any left?

Just kidding. Okay, honey, well I'm glad you're here with your penis intact. Yes, so my penis is finally almost coming back to me. Oh, that is really scary. I know a lot of people probably just barf listening to this, right? No, but it's important, don't drink tea.

Well, no, I mean, if you are prone to kidney stones, just don't do it. Anybody has kidney stones? Stressed to the menace? Kidney scouts, kidney stones. Maybe, I don't know, but I'm really happy to be here in Los Angeles because I got a great new job. I-

A great new penis. A great new penis. And, you know, me, back in San Francisco, I was working two jobs. I worked from 11 a.m. to 12 a.m. every single day, 14 hours. That is the hardest worker I know. And just like consuming food,

not getting any exercise at all. And now, like, my workload is much smaller. Right. And a lot less stress. So I'm happy to be here. Funny. I'm so glad you're here. Finally, having time to get in shape and you know, just going out. I went hiking the other day if you look that my I know I did see that. It was fell over. I'm like who we implanted a picture of men as next to nature. I know you see you in nature. Yeah, so it's great. I love. I love you place. I love you too except I love being here. I love being here. I love being here. I love being here. I love being here.

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I love being here. I love being here. I love being here. I love a time. I mean, with honey. I started having anxiety like, oh my God, they're gonna have to amp you down. My penis. Oh my God. I'm so excited about that. Can I see it? My penis? Just kidding. Okay, so I'm sorry.

Well, thank you for sharing this story and I'm glad that you live to tell. Don't forget to get more tea. And you're healthy, you're gonna be new person. Yeah, everything's almost back to normal. Thank God you're okay. I don't know, I do it without you. Okay, so we're gonna get into the emails. Not yet. So'm going to go into the emails from the people. So we love hearing

from you at feedback at sextoele.com. Emily, I love your show. I found it a couple of weeks ago and I've listened to all the podcasts. I'm 23 years old. I'm a 23 year old female. My question is, what do I do of my sex drive is way higher than my boyfriend's? When we do have sex, it's great. He lasts long enough for me to have an orgasm without with-clist-toral stimulation, but having sex twice a week just isn't enough for me. Do I suck it up and masturbators? There's something I can do. Thanks, I look forward to listening

to your next podcast, Sign Samantha. Okay, Samantha, this is really common, and a lot of times it's the men that has a higher libido or the woman, and I always say this is a case of mismatched libidos. I mean, there's a lot of times it's the men that has a higher libido or the woman. And I always say this is a case of mismatched libidos. I mean, there's a lot of people get together who just, and I could point out to you, maybe he's depressed, maybe he's taking meds, maybe he's doing drugs, maybe that's why he doesn't want to have sex.

I mean, you should look at all those things in his life because when men are feeling any of those things, or they're, you know, abusing drugs or they're depressed, or they feel like they're not making enough money, their sex drive might be lower, but in a global sense, there's just some people who want to have more sex than their partners. And very, most often, the people with a high sex drive are people with a low sex drive. So what you can do about it, so if you rule out all those things, so let's say your boyfriend

is very, very healthy, but he just doesn't want as much sex as you. I think this is the time we talk to him about it and you say, can we do some kind of compromise here? Two times a week isn't enough for me. You can ask him, maybe you guys could have sex one more time a week. Maybe there's some kind of sexual fantasy he would like. Maybe he wants moral sex from you.

But absolutely, you need to talk about it. This is not a deal breaker per se, but it is something that you need to talk about right away. I find that most couples spend way too much long, too way too long to actually start talking about sex with their partner. Like they can be someone for years, like we've never actually talked about sex, but it's like this huge problem. So just say, you know, I need a little bit more.

And maybe if you want to masturbate, maybe he could come along with you. I always say mutual masturbation is a great way for couples to connect and to learn each other's bodies, but it's also kind of less work for each partner because he can masturbate and you can masturbate. Maybe get a great vibrator. He could even use it on you if he doesn't want to actually

have sex. So this way, you know, great vibrator. He could even use it on you if he doesn't want to actually have sex. So this way, you're still engaging together and you're still, you know, having sex and connecting. So I'm wondering for you, is it more that you're feeling like you're not also getting enough, maybe affection from him? I'm just wondering more what this is about because you're being very specific that two times doesn't enough. And I'm wondering if he's rejecting you after two

or you know, just what's going on. So I would just have a conversation about it because maybe again, he's going through a stage or he just doesn't want to have it as much but he'd be happy to watch it. Wasn't it a hot watch in a girl masturbate? No, I'm not kidding. Oh, you don't think so.

Menace is the only man who it doesn't think it's not hot. But I've got a separate, I know. We see a lot of guys get turned out. I want to have sex with you. Okay, but he doesn't want to have as much sex. Okay. But he might like that Samantha, you're pleasing yourself.

And I've got some amazing new vibrators. Of course, you know, I always have so many. But the new one is the Jeeky. And it's by J.J. who, you know, I also love J.E.J. O.U.E. I need another brand to promote. Because seriously, like I do love them. But if you go to sexwiththeendly.com slashgoodvibes, you can check out all my favorite toys there.

That's a good G-Spot Simulator, which I have to tell you of you orgasm through G-Spot, that's a great one. Another great tutorial simulator is Tango. It makes a bunch of new toys, T-E-N-G-A. And they're so cool. They come in these like clear glass containers. And it's got these like rubbery

toy, they're all these like it's from Japan you'd like them all these are like really cool shapes and stuff and sizes that you will they're great for cultural stimulation and as you know I love the Mimi which I think is the perfect sex toy for click because you said you're a clitoral girl so there was one more that I wanted to find real quickly. The best story is I think I shared on the show before. I had an old assistant that I worked with and she lived in the same apartment building as me and I was like, oh, I'll help you with your building your bed and stuff like that. She just got a new mattress and we're pulling the mattress away and we're in the bed and then this little bullet

falls down and I go what's that because a bullet vibrator. Yeah a little bullet vibrator is like just straight metal and then with the rubber tip and then I go it looks like it looks like a bullet. Yeah all this funny and I had a little button on top it. I had the button and then immediately knew what it was right there. And she like her face is turned so red. I know it's embarrassing when you find women. That's why I have a whole new system for my toys in my house. I do sex with Emily. I don't care.

You're like, I don't care. I never see one in person. But yeah, and also bullets are great. There's the pleasurable mini waterproof vibrator. If you go to sexwithemlee.com slash good vibes or just click on the good vibes banner at sexbelmy.com. You can store it by like, clitoral vibes or whatever. Anyway, you'll love them because I think that that's a fun thing to do with your partner

is using toys. So I actually got really anal, no pun intended, it is a pun because I didn't have anal sex. But I found, you know, I have so many sex toys that I need to try out. And we're going to be doing also subscribe to my YouTube channel because we're going to be doing a lot more sex toy reviews. I won't actually be using them, but I'm going to be demonstrating how they actually work

because you hear me talk about them all the time, but I want you to like see them so you can figure out what you like, but I figured out, you know those plastic shoe holders that you hang over your door and you can put a lot of shoes in them? I figured out that I could match each vibrator with the charger.

And so now I've got like three of them hanging of like 60 vibrators, but I can always find which one I want. Like, and I have it organized by Clitoral, G-Spot, you know, Bondage toy. Like, it's, it's, it's, it's, I would do like a thing. I know. Sometimes I just, stay up the floor in the morning organizing my sex toys, because life is good.

Okay, do we time for one more email, or should we go on to the next? We should go on to the next thing. Okay, we're going on to the next. One thing I want to say to Samantha though is that there is sort of a, well I'm not going to say anything else to Samantha, I would just say talk to your partner. Communication is a lubrication. And menace, so great to have you here and find menace on Instagram and Twitter menace. Just menace, yeah.

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