Sex With Emily - SWE: Make Sex Last Longer

Episode Date: October 26, 2013

Everyday someone asks me how that can last longer during sex, or how they can get their BF to last longer during sex. Everyday I get an email from a woman who wants to orgasm during sex, but doesn’t have enough time or clitoral stimulation to do so. This podcast will get your/his penis in gear and ready for sex. No matter if you’re a guy who suffers from premature ejaculation, or just someone who wants to have longer, more intense sex, this podcast is for you! My guest Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, gives tips for lasting longer that don’t involve pinching the penis, the stop-and-start method, or thinking of your grandma naked. Promescent is a desensitizing spray that helps delay ejaculation and take your sex life to the next level. Guys can finally stop thinking about boring/gross/disturbing things to last longer, and focus on the hot woman they’re having sex with. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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okay hi Anderson what up what up how you doing it's great to see you it's good to see you and i love you i love you i've never talked badly about not just a badly about not I shouldn't say badly about you But they're suggesting that you would bang Michael cathart would even though he has a wife on love line the other night And I came to your defense and I said how dare both of you who said that? Dr. Drew Dr. Drew said that I would bang my cathart would a feat of a wife Even if he does have a wife. Yeah, yeah

Anderson you cannot start you can't remember man. I don't listen to that show. It's such a dude thing. I don't know. I just heard of it. Women, we need to know everything. If you talked about me, you tell me. Remember when you did the show last week with just Drew. Yes. And he kept talking about how different you are. Yeah. He hasn't his head that you're obsessed with Mike and you you you're a different person when Mike's around. No, I was just better because Mike talks. I told God damn. I'm like, oh, I can actually talk. That's what I said. I didn't stop my show. I'm not going to take over.

I'm the guest co-host. I went on and I said to be fair to Emily. She said, actually verbatim, Mike just talks nonstop. And I have to sit there and listen. You said that on the air? Yeah, it was pretty good. Oh, Jesus. Thanks.

But Dr. Duh thinks I'm obsessed with Mike. He likes to live by Kariasley through. To me, what that means is that Duru wants you to be obsessed with him and he's living my care is through my life that I bet you're right I'm more upset if I had to see with anyone the world married you see what you said that someone asked me this last week on the show I can't I see with both of them at different time to answer can move them in but anyway I like a rather white wine type things that's very funny I love when they talk about it.

I'm not here and talk about things that I would do that are immoral. Today's show is going to be awesome. Anderson, anything happened to this week sexually that you'd like to share? Nope. Oh, damn. I'm always people don't want to share anything. Okay. Well, I- You should have had me 10 years ago. I would have been a party.

Where the hell were you? I mean, seriously, it would have been so helpful. Okay. I've got to say this. Also, I have a special guest sitting here. It is Jeff Abraham. Hi, Jeff. How are you doing? Hi. Oh, we are so happy that you're here.

This took a while to get here because Jeff started a company called Promessant. You guys have heard me talk about it in the show, but there's a really important reason why I have him here today because, okay, so Promessant, as you all heard me say, is a new treatment for premature ejaculation, which afflicts one in three minutes in point in their lives, and not just when they're teenagers. People think it's always the young guys, right?

And it's everyone. And so, it's FDA approved, and it's coming up fast. Like, we had a huge article. There was a huge article about you guys. MSNBC. MSNBC. They got picked up by the Associated Press, so it pretty much went viral everywhere. And why do you think all the hype this time,

and we even thought we know this, but it's just like, they're finally just realized, like, oh my God, this is like, we can actually like help people with this. I think two reasons. Number one, the medical credibility with all the key opinion leaders that are behind it was a big step.

That got us into MSNBC Jane Wells, who does a lot of work for MSNBC, and she's a very credible journalist. So I think the factor of the, the medical, the physicians behind it got us in front of Jane Wells. And when Jane Wells says something, it's not like people go, she might be advertising, she might be affiliated with it. She's a financial expert evaluating companies and she saw the market and the need for a product and then saw the traction we had gained. So it went really, really well. She was very impressed by the company, the product.

She did her homework, she talked to physicians, talked to people who used it. So it came across as very well researched and it was very thorough. Yeah, it was very thorough and it was maybe the first time that a lot of people had ever heard about it. Because a lot of times people we've talked about this in the show that people are treated men are given antidepressants, which have a horrible side effects. Or they're told, do all these different things, which they just don't do or doesn't work. And so this is amazing. So congratulations to you for all this. And today we're going to be talking about some tricks.

You and I are both in the penis business. I also do other than you know, I deal with vaginas too. But we are. We're about helping people, you know, have better sex. That it actually have a new ball ocean, as you know, about which I'm going to give you a copy of. Did I give you any of that? You have not given me any of that.

Oh my god. OK, it's called down under comfort. Go to Emily and Tony.com because a lot of it. Did I give you any of that? You have not given me any of that. Oh my God. It's called down under comfort. Go to Emily and Tony.com because a lot of men, they're, you know, not only are they premature ejaculating, but they don't smell so great down there. They're not fresh. They're not dry. And it's super clean and fresh. And it's a cream to tap yoga powder formula. People can buy Emily and Tony.com. You just keep on going to Emily. And I was thinking on my over here anyway. We're both like helping me with our peanut. How funny that, that like, I mean, I mean, I've talked about penises in all different ways,

but that I actually created a product and you created a product. Correct. Because the penis runs the world really, not even the vagina, although it kind of should and sort of repressed, suppressed, but it's really is the penis. So the figures are so much happening for it.

We have a product that is primarily for the penis, obviously, but I call it a relationship product because let's face it. Oh my God. A man can't perform. In a lot of cases, the woman is more profoundly affected than a man. If a man prematurely ejaculates, he still does ejaculate. The woman is like, excuse me, I'm over here. Well, that's the thing.

Yeah. Okay. Okay, don't even give me started. I dated someone for way too long who is a premature ejaculator a long time ago I just say that's a protect the innocent no, but this really was a long time ago But I did it for a long time because it was like I mean at least he was one of those guys who premature ejaculated who understood that Okay, I can't please you I'm working on it, but he never really did But I'm but I mean I can't I can't I'm gonna come to a clue But never really did. But I can't, I'm gonna come to a clue,

but I'm gonna please you. So he was very good at that. And so that was fine, and I was busy, and I didn't really care that much about him. Cause sex was not my focus then. But anyway, I know that it's so, so many women that this happens soon, they're like, and I feel like the funny thing is that everybody's like,

oh, it's never happens, I swear, you know, that's the first thing they always say. But then it's like, it's really like, it can be so traumatic for women because they don't't want to make the guy feel bad because they already feel bad, but then they're not getting their needs met. And so this is really something you promise that they can buy for their partner. Like, hey babe, I just found that. It doesn't have to be a big thing. Like your premature decadent freaking me out. It's kind of like, oh, look what I just read. This could be cool. Try not. I tell women all the time that the best way to approach this is not to say to a man

you're deficient, not to say to a man you're not pleasing me. You suggest it, maybe even conjunction with a toy or something else and go, our love life is great. Let's make it supersonic. Right. Love making it supersonic. Let's make it ultra. Take it to the next level because that's much easier for a man to accept.

In place of looking at him and going, you're deficient. You're not satisfying me. Exactly. Like men I think can't handle it like worse than women can. It's hard. A lot of a man's, his ego and his self esteem is, you know, a man is satisfying as a woman. He feels better about himself. Exactly. Exactly. And you know, one thing that you and I have discussed this before is I can't tell you how many times I've been in a situation with a couple and they'll go, what do you do?

And we start talking about it. And I'm very open about it, of course. And the guy goes, oh, we don't need that. And five minutes later, when we go, it was sample back, you can give me the take home. And if that's happened once, it's happened a hundred times. Exactly. Exactly. No, no, honey, you're fine.

Come here. Yeah. Yeah. It's funny because when I took over the company I demanded complete control because I thought that we really Didn't have a focus on what we need to do and one of the things I told people is we need to focus on women as much as men And people go well, it's a man. I go, but it's profoundly affects a woman and For the first year all we did was go to urologist we developed a a Pharmaceutical sales force so it was almost all men buying the product. Then we got some exposure.

We were featured in Dr. Ross. 50% of our sales for the next two months were women. Women saw it and went because of what we'll suffer in silence. Because if she doesn't feel there's a real answer, why bring it up and create more anxiety? If there's no product available, why would you go, well, you're not satisfied with me. This isn't good if you go, there's nothing. But if all of a sudden she goes, wait a second, there's something after that works, then she's going to spring into action and go, we're going to get this.

Because men are always the last ones to get help for this kind of thing. They don't want to have to go to the doctor. They don't want to talk to the partner. And the wife is like, let's go to the doctor. It's a cold. I'll shake it off. I mean, they don't want to deal with it. So what would they do with without women? I just don't understand. Are there other partners? Another thing you'll find really interesting in talking to yourologist and gynecologist, because we do with both in our business,

do you know yourrologist don't ask a man, how was your sex life? I know. You know why? Because every man's gonna go, I'm a porn star. Of course, that's why. Right, right. Every gynecologist or OB-GYN,

when you go in, women want to talk house your sex life They discuss it openly right and we need to get to the point in our society where they drop that guard and go This is an issue that's important in my life if I have it and even yourrologists will tell us that the PE question is oh By the way, they'll be in there for 20 minutes with therologist They go through the prostate they go through you're in everything then the guys leaving hand on the door to go leave. Oh, by the way, do you have anything for? They're almost embarrassed in its last ditch thing. Oh, they're forcing themselves to ask the question. Exactly. And doctors, they get no training in sex. They have like one day of like, they're 10 years of medical school and residency. They like have one class in sex. So that's why I

think I have millions of listeners to this show because they have no god damn other. That's exactly how they have no other place to turn. So true. Okay, Jeff, we're gonna get into more penis stuff and vagina stuff soon, but I also have to, we have a little bit of sex in the news that we do on the show. So we can talk about some sex in the news,

which the first story actually has to do with the penis as well. Oral sex, no, this is for women actually, it's about oral sex, it's for women. Oral sex cures morning sickness. Pregnant women have used natural remedies such as a teaspoon of ginger or a mint to help battle morning sickness, but now one medical professional believes you can add oral sex to that. So there's a Gordon Gallup, a psychologist at SUNY, a BAMS, the best way to cure morning sickness during pregnancy is sperm. So they can, a better way to get your girlfriend to give you more all sex.

So it's basically, they're saying that Gallup doesn't find that the woman's body will initially reject the father's semen as an infection and react to it by vomiting. So they need to, it should be the sperm of the person that got you pregnant. And if you have their sperm, you will be less likely to have more needs in this.

I believe there was just a bunch of men are sitting around who made up the study so they get more all sex. I don't want to say anything, but I was going to say that sounds like a guy made that up. Yeah. That's what I think too. And we're looking at it. I don't even believe it.

Like I was like, is this really, is this really, I love oral sex stories? So I just have like my assistant clacked me all the oral sex stories. But wait, if it helps a woman, I mean, because they know a lot of men when their wife's pregnant or not necessarily getting the action they just so okay so another role sex story couple gets find for oral sex on a plane apparently this is legal okay and it was on the way to Vegas which is not a surprise doesn't necessarily stay okay so apparently what happens on the way to Vegas

doesn't necessarily stay there a couple find two hundred and fifty dollars for allegedly engaging an oral sex in front of other passengers on a commercial a legent flight from Med for Organ to Las Vegas. So apparently, to the coordinate FBI, passengers on the flight, some Martin exposing his genitals and twice joining Strobel and oral sex

in other acts despite warnings by the flight attendants. They were allegedly asked to stop by an attendant and did so during the drink and snack service. So I just don't understand like aren't there people saying next to you? Is it more like they're getting a thrill probably? It had to be for the thrill, but certainly puts a screaming baby in the seat in the perspective next to you now, doesn't it? Exactly. I mean, that makes that a lot less offensive having a baby crying next to you is having

some guy getting worked, you know. I mean, personally, I'd be that makes that a lot less offensive having a baby crying next to you is having some guy getting worked You know, I mean personally I'd be offended by that. I mean go to the restroom or wait until you get the Vegas I would be so offended to you by what's in the name? Who why you know I'm wondering if you Swedish maybe oh because the Swedes can masturbate in public maybe thought he was on Swedish air Oh, that's a good As long as you don't make eye contact you can beat off all you like anywhere like that's a new No, no tell Anderson's a new law to true true story in Sweden The where a guy was like he was charged with beating off in public and and I don't know what they would even call it Well, masturbation what masturbation or indecency and a judge ruled that it was okay

He's free to go because he didn't make eye contact with anyone on the beach. Yeah He was on the beach and apparently because he didn't make eye contact with anyone on the beach. Yeah he was on the beach. And apparently if you don't make eye contact you can ask for the help you want. You can be at the freaking safe way or the Walgreens doesn't matter whatever they call him to him. But if you're not making eye contact with anyone when you're walking down the toilet paper all you're fine. Big news for people with like a wandering eye. Exactly they're like damn they'll have to wear some kind of blinders or something. So yeah that was a big sex in the news story last week. I just wanted to share that with you.

Okay, and we also have, we have a few emails to read to, Jeff, and we might get some calls. So here's the new thing, Peeps, if you're listening, this happens to be your time zone, every single Thursday night from 9 to 9.30. Let's go 8.30. They were working Thursday. I'm working phone, I just didn't work for 8.30. I's go 8 30. They were working for. I made some phone calls and they're working. Why didn't we talk about this?

I did, but you didn't. You're better. You're right. When I get here, I don't listen. Because I'm talking. So I can't listen. It's true. She's always talking.

OK, listen. It's what I do for living. It works. Every Thursday night from 839 30, you can call. And we will answer your question directly right on here. You can get direct access to me and whoever is here with me. And the number is 800-Love191. But you can only call between 839-30 Pacific

Serentime. Otherwise, you can't leave messages. No one will talk to you after that. So you got to do it at that time, which is exciting. So that could be happening. OK, so here's a first email. Dear Emily, the man I really like told me he can't come during stacks or for play. However, if he masturbates, he does. He is pretty embarrassed about it. How do I show him it's nothing to be embarrassed about?

And that he can and that he hasn't met the right person yet. Thanks, Lucy. Have you ever heard of this stuff? Someone a man who can't ejaculate. But he can ejaculate during masturbation, but not with a woman. It's called delayed ejaculation, yeah. There is a syndrome, but the physicians I've been in contact with, it's pretty consistent during masturbation and...

Right. I've never heard of it where you could ejaculate individually, but not with a woman. Right. Exactly. I've heard like different scenarios, but I think a lot of it is because he, if he has done it during masturbation, however, if he masturbates, he does. First of all, we don't know if this is true.

He might just be telling her that. I was going to say because you would think that the, you'd have a heightened sense of arousal being with a woman as opposed to being by yourself. Exactly. I mean, just from personal experience, I would rather be with a woman. It's a little more.

Exactly. Yeah, it's amazing. A lot of men, and I'm not saying that there isn't some medical causes to this, but I do think a lot of times it can be psychological. Like, they think, oh no, it's gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. Just like a lot of women with orgasms. They they think oh no it's gonna happen or it's not gonna happen it's gonna happen isn't gonna happen just like a lot of women with orgasms they're like

they like have those freakouts where they think they talk themselves out of it because they think about it too much but you know there is also you know some medical components to it but I think Lucy that um I guess he doesn't have anything to be embarrassed about if you're okay with it that's the thing if you're fine with it not that you would ever have to be embarrassed about if you're okay with it, that's a thing. If you're fine with it, not that you would ever have to be embarrassed, but he shouldn't be upset if you're totally fine with it. But what you added at the end there was he hasn't met the right person yet, Lucy, and I don't think that that's necessarily the case. I bet this is just something that happens to him when he's having intercourse. I don't think it means that he hasn't met the right person yet. I doubt that Lucy. So don't be talking. I don't know if she's

like talking herself out, thinking she can't please please him or she's not the one who's going to get him there because I don't necessarily I don't think that's a case. I don't in a lot of these cases not like he's going to meet one woman and then he's going to, you know, ejaculate all the time. Exactly. I don't think any individual vagina would make that much difference to the guy. Exactly. If he's like, you know, like searching high low for the perfect vagina, it's not going to happen. So, but if you master, another thing you guys can do,

Lucy, if you really like this guy and you're together, why not mutual masturbation? I think that mutual masturbation is a great way for couples to learn about each other's bodies in such an instructive, efficient way, because you're lying there next to each other. He's masturbating, you're mad, he's seeing what turned you on,

you're seeing what turns him on, and he can still be kissing and touching, but mutually masturbating. So, it's seeing what turned you on. You're seeing what turns him on. And he can still be kissing and touching with me to masturbating. So it's kind of a win-win. What better way to find out what pleas is a person than to watch them please themselves? Exactly. I think they should be like.

They're going to do exactly what they feel best doing. Exactly. And you can learn from that. I absolutely agree. I think that's why I always tell couples it's a great learning tool. Do it all out and why just keep guessing if you're with someone, do it early on in your relationship, but it's fun.

It's hot. I know that I enjoy watching someone masturbate and I'm sure a lot of men enjoy the same thing. Being a guy for some reason, you have a much heightened sense of arousal watching a woman then you feel almost weird about it, going it yourself. Right, exactly. Yeah, you feel weird doing it yourself if she's doing it. No. Oh, but I would feel weird doing it if she was just there watching me, but she would

do it together. Do it together, exactly. I think that's great because we all think we're making weird faces and doing weird things, but we're kind of if you're both doing it, then you're in trouble. That's exactly what you're doing. But you still kind of pay attention, but you're not judging. You're just paying attention for deep, yeah, it's perfect. It's a win-win, it's actually one of my favorite sex tips

to tell people what they should do. Okay, so do you, Emily, I've never been able to have an orgasm with penetration. I can only have an orgasm with clitoral stimulation. I've tried finding my G-spot, but I can't. I've used toys, red books, is there something wrong with me or do some women just not have orgasm through penetration alone?

Okay, Lauren, here's the deal. 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to orgasm. So there's nothing wrong with you. Just make sure that you're getting plenty of it during sex by doing it by being like on top a lot of times a woman or top thing, get more clitoral stimulation. And you can also like rub your clitoris with your fingers or use a vibrator during sex. I love, as you all know, the J.J. Mimi,

M.I.M.I. go to goodvibes.com. You just keep on going to Emily, get a discount, but it's a great one because you can hold in the palm of your hand, it looks like a pebble, like a stone, and you just can put it there. And it's not like one of those obtrusive vibrators, you're just gonna freak out, it looks like his penis, it's probably bigger than his penis and he's upset.

It's like you just use it in your clutter. So there's nothing wrong with you. Now about finding your G-spot, I keep looking. It sometimes takes a while. I feel like you're doing all the right things. And you're using toys because there are specific G-spot toys. You can also find those at good vibes. But you're saying that is something wrong with you that you can't have orgasm on.

There's nothing wrong with me or do someone just have orgasm through it. So I'm not sure if you haven't found it during penetration. Is that what you're saying? Because that's normal too. A lot of women can't have an orgasm. Even if you can find your G-spot and have an orgasm during masturbation, it's hard during penetration. So just keep looking and keep going at it and don't overthink it. Seriously, I think you might be thinking, am I going to find, I'm going to find, but you'll

find it eventually. Not every single woman's going to have amazing G-spot orgasms. I'm telling you, it's kind of a bummer. Some do some dough and it's the luck that draw. You know what I'm saying? We can't be, can't get so we're going to be born with, but I'm sure you have other gifts. If you can't have a G-spot orgas I'm sure you have other gifts. If you can't have a G-Spot orgasm, you probably have other fine things going on in your life. So okay, thanks Lauren for writing it. Everyone, when you do email me, feedback at sexwithelm.com. Make sure that you tell me where you're coming from.

Where you're writing from. I want to know where you live. And I also want to know how you listen to the show. How do you consume sex with Emily? There's a great app. You can download for your smartphone, a Stitcher app. It's called STI's TCHR for free at any smartphone. And I just love them because it's so easy. You can listen to any podcast on your smartphone when you're driving anything like there's thousands of podcasts. So that's a really easy way. So let me

now. Okay. So Emily, it's your Emily, huge fan of the show. I've been dating this girl for a while and I've been building up the courage to ask her to dominate me in the bedroom. How do I go about this without making her think of me as less of a man? She's very open to new ideas but I still haven't found a way to bring it up in conversation. Thanks so much for your time, Mark. That's a tough one for men to bring it up. I want you to dominate me.

It's a show for you're with a woman who is a submissive as well? But a lot of women will get turned on that she knows that that's something that you want. Have you ever, well, that's not, I don't know, you don't talk about your own sex life. Anderson, do you like being dominated by your wife? That'd be very strange. Why? It would just be weird. It's just wouldn't turn you off. She's not a dominating type of figure to begin with. Okay. And the fall of a sudden like she was playing roles. I've never understood the role playing at all. Right. Maybe I will later. Maybe later. You're going to be very impressed your life. What? Ice tea. Yeah. A key in cocoa came in here years ago and they're talking about how like he put her on the corner and pretend like he had never seen her before and like he'd get in his car and he'd drive her on the block and be like, you know, baby,

you want to get in the car? And that's how they have to have sex. They got to that point. Yeah. A lot of couples, they need to role play. They need to do that. So I would, this is how I would start a mark. I would say and do if anything to say on this topic, do any male friends like this or I don't know if you want to talk about yourself. Oh, I'm totally open about talking. I, because I have to be so driven work wise and everything else, I find it, I don't mind a mutually, when you like reverse roles, and then she dominates you down it but being totally dominated I guess I'll have to have that defined I mean if someone like tied me up and started beating me right I don't have an issue with that right exactly but someone being aggressive and taking the lead I have no

issue with that whatsoever this is the thing Mark I think that you're overthinking it because here's a thing a lot of men the number one complaint I hear from men one of the number one complaints besides premature ejaculation is that they um is that women don't initiate sex enough. And I think what they mean by that is that not only does it my partner initiate sex, but she also doesn't take over, she doesn't show me what she likes, she doesn't ever take control, and maybe they even want to be dominated a little bit. I think if you're in a long-term relationship and a woman never initiates acts, a man will eventually get the feeling like she's just acquiescing to him and basically doing it as a duty as opposed to really enjoying it and initiating it. So I think a woman initiating it lets a man know that he's desirable.

Exactly. And I think that you can let her know that be kind of fun if she took over. Maybe you can give her a little. So you start talking about what she wants first. Say, hey, how do you think, how do you like her sex life? Anything you've ever want to try, what's your fantasy? Get her start talking first, and then you can let her know your fantasy, and then who knows what's gonna happen, but communication is a lubrication,

and so you need to talk to your partner about this. So ASAP, Mark, don't wait. People say it in related tips so long, and they don't talk about any of this stuff. We find a lot that we get a lot of emails and I talk to a lot of our, you know, consumers. And the number one issue is communication. Absolutely lack of communication. Exactly. Exactly. People just do not, they don't bring up whatever, whatever, whatever issues or whatever is going on. Like she wants more for play, he wants more of this or that doesn't

matter. And they don't know how to talk about it I think I told you the story about a woman in Colorado that I I was on playboy radio and she heard it and she called in and then she bought Product and then sent an email saying I heard your CEO and it got forwarded to me and she had her contact so I sent her an email We started talking and she told me that our product saved her marriage and here's the interesting thing we started talking and she told me that our product saved her marriage. And here's the interesting thing. She said that she really felt that her husband had tuned her out and that her husband basically was robotic during their intimacy. And she was really to the point where she was ready to leave.

It turns out she bought the product. She introduced it into the relationship and it turned their entire relationship. Wow. It turned out that he was so robotic because he had a tendency to premature ejaculate. So his way of dealing with it was not to experience pleasure. It was to literally think about baseball scores, think about his grandmother, naked, think about anything. So he was there trying not to ejaculate.

So she read his body language in his mood and felt that he wasn't into her. So then she turned off and started thinking about laundry, taking the kids to school the next day. So over a period of two years, I called the layering effect. They literally were playing off one another to the point where they had distance and had no intimacy in their relationship. She ordered it because she saw it on Dr. Ross and then heard me on the radio. And then I guess she saw it on Dr. Rosmitt. It wasn't quite sure that heard me on the radio. And then I guess she saw it on Dr. Ross, but wasn't quite sure that heard me on Playboy Radio and then bought it and said that it opened up a whole new world for them.

And you have no idea how satisfying that is for the employees of our company to go, we changed somebody's life, we saved someone's marriage. And it was a case of somebody reading someone else's response instead of talking to them, assuming that he's not into me So she basically turns off then he even gets worse because he goes my wife isn't being pleasure by me And they are ready to split up and the issue was him sitting there trying not to ejaculate. Yeah, exactly

That is so true. I fall layering it's layering. No one told me to remember where it started or what happened And then it does feeds off each other. Yeah, I don't even know what the started or what happened and then it just feeds off each other and they don't even know what the issue is. And now, right, that's amazing. And she's been a reference for a couple of the articles that were written for us. I, I, I, I heard all the time because I've been talking about progressive for months because I was so amazed when we met. Yeah. And I was like, really? Because this is like every person has had an issue with at some point in their life

or through their entire life. And they just, and it's not even premature ejaculation. It's that some guys like we're saying like premature ejaculation is like this defined one minute two minutes, but somebody just want to last longer than eight minutes or 10 minutes. I can tell you this. And I've talked to thousands of people. And when I first decided to invest in the company, because I was an investor before I was the

CEO of this company, that there's not a man on this planet that at some time in his life hasn't been a relationship where he was cognizant of the fact of trying not to ejaculate too quickly. Right. Never. Okay. Anyone who says they've never been in that situation

is not telling the truth. Exactly. And even if you have satisfactory relationships, our tagline does make love longer. I tell people I'd love to change it to make love with reckless abandon. Right. But, you know, a lot of medical professionals

go wait a second. It's a little too ed reckless abandon. Right. A lot of medical professionals go away in a second. It's a little too edgy because there's a lot of times that a man is able to last long enough to his woman climaxes, but he's switching positions. You know, he's thinking about other things. He's slowing down, stopping. There's something called the arousal gap that physicians are very well aware of. The average man during intercourse lasts right around six minutes, five minutes and 58 seconds.

The average woman during intercourse takes 19 minutes to achieve climax. That's called the arousal gap. The way people get around that extended foreplay, thinking about baseball scores, stopping, starting. All these different coping mechanisms come into play for people to have a satisfactory relationship. What would be great if you didn't need to do that? If you could really make love with reckless abandon and totally enjoy your partner. Right. Well, if you're amazing, I mean, I think we're so many in our heads, so many times

and that men, this, this plagues them for their entire life. And as they take, get some promising. Absolutely. And there's a lot of women that are unsatisfied or couples that aren't really reaching a full degree of intimacy because they're so careful. They're so careful to make sure that I don't go before you do. I got to make sure this happens. And to take that out of the equation, like I said, and just bring more passion

into the relationship is a very positive thing. Exactly. Because already people are so many times in their mind too much during sex thing about the dulyss or women are thinking, my going to orgasm, that there's already so much going on that are preventive people. If you've got like a real seriously thing like this has been going on in your life and you've always thought that you would ejaculate it too quickly and you really, yeah, not only can you be intimate, you can't connect with your partner because your mind is racing like thinking about baseball. Like the funny video,

we did a really funny video on this, so good. I love that video. I love that video. Sexwith only.com. Go to my YouTube channel, uh, sexwith only, and then, um, subscribe to it and check out this funny video of a bunch of guys talking about what they're actually thinking about during sex, and it's not how you look. Sorry.

Well, your, your role just will tell you that 20% of ED is actually misdiagnosed PE. Because if a man has PE for an extended period of time, he will eventually have erectile dysfunction because he knows intimacy won't lead to a satisfactory ending. Right. So he eventually develops psychosis erectile dysfunction knowing that if he does get aroused, it won't end satisfactorily. So eventually PE will lead to ED.

Right. So even 20% of the ED market is misdiagnosed PE. Yeah, that's amazing. It's amazing. That is just, and then they're given Viagra, right? Well, the interesting thing last year Viagra's health feature did $8 billion in sales. And your role just will tell you that the PE market is 30% larger than the ED market. Really?

Yes. I mean, you've told me this, but I can't. It seems to me that like this is just such a no brainer than it really is. It's because it's misdiagnosed too. It's misdiagnosed. Another thing that it's frustrating. And we run into this all the time. We've been in occasions in the past where we're going to have this major media outlet. It's going to be on, you know, a big radio show or television show. The last minute some producer goes, oh, this isn't a topic for this particular show. And I ask you, would not talking about insulin for diabetics be taboo? Would not talking about chemotherapy for cancer patients be taboo? Why in 2013, when PE is a

recognized disease state that many people suffer from a physical affliction. People are so paranoid about mentioning something that can really help so many people. It's a real medical problem. I know. I don't understand it. That's why we're talking about it. That's why we're talking about it. That's why we're talking about it.

That's why we're talking about it. That's why we're talking about it. Exactly. I don't understand because America is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is, is like Jane Wells and people like Dr. Ross that really give me hope that there are some people that aren't so puritanical that they're going to penalize millions of people because they're our own. We're trying to get the message out there because we want everyone to have better sex. So do you think that not lasting long enough in that is one of Guy's biggest insecurities would you say besides the size of their penis?

It's absolutely. There's no question about it. And if you go to your? Besides the size of their penis. It's absolutely. There's no question about it. And if you go, you're all just, that's not like, it's not like, it's not like, it's not like, that's exactly, I have to satisfy my woman. I have to, I have to make my woman finish first. I always wonder how many chances

the guy gets before a woman will call a quiz. Think about how many guys are like, God, she's gonna break up with me or they like, don't even try because they're afraid that they're going to jack. It's like, you know, it's like you really ruined so many men. The anxiety. Right. After a while, I think would drive a man.

And we hear this all the time, people find our products. I go, I had been asexual for five years. I quit having sex because I did not want to be in a position of disappointing my woman. Right. It's sad. It's really, really sad. So, are there any, so yeah, right? So I was wondering, are there any mental tricks?

Like, what about all the mental tricks that people think to last thing? Like, we're saying think about baseball or, you know, we, I mean, it's so like we're saying, like, there really isn't. Like, people have the stop, start method or think about something else, but to me, that's just like disingenuin and not really. If you really have a physiological issue,

you can think about baseball, you can think about your grip. Nothing is going to change that. If you literally have some anxiety, you may last another 10 seconds or 20 seconds, it's not going to help. And one of the problems is this problem is so severe. And for many years, there was no solution, like you said, SSRIs, you just started talking about it.

Can we just talk about like in a second. How ridiculous is it that you're taking Prozac or Paxil for PE. So you have PE. Now here's the alternative. Now those do make the ejacletor response delay. So they do have that desired effect, but you have dry mouth, nausea, vomiting, loss of libido, suicidal thoughts, you go, wait a second, the side effects are worse than what I'm treating. It's so bad you're taking a pill.

This is just, I mean, it's systemic to exactly, you know, it's not like you're in a situation where something like this is topical. You apply right? Only when you're in a minute, if you take an SSRI, it has to be in your system for 30 days before it's even effective. Even if you're in a minute once a month, you have to be on it every single day all day. And that's the only other cure. The only other in a job.

Doctors, doctors, doctors don't want to use it because of all the potential liabilities. Exactly. And I've heard so many nightmares from guys who have taken it. Like so many bad side effects. But they're taking it for that. So, but one thing I need to talk about real quickly is that this podcast is brought to you by audible.com.

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out of the M like, this is great. So let's explain how it actually works. I'll explain exactly how it works. The basic premise that makes probec it effective is a eutectic formula that takes light-acane from a crystalline to an oil-aquius form. When it's crystalline, it can't penetrate the stratum corneum. That's the outer layer of the skin. And what you want to do is get to the sensory nerves underneath. Because if it doesn't, then it sits on the surface, the man is numb, and it transfers to the female and makes her numb as well. If you can get the light-acane into an oil-aquius form, it penetrates the stratum cornea with

in 10 minutes it's gone. So the man maintains a much higher degree of surface sensitivity. So you're still sensitive. People hear numb and they're like, what? No. Exactly. What it does is it goes to the sensory nerves underneath. So the man maintains a much higher degree of surface sensitivity, but there's zero transfers to the female. Yeah, she does. She's not even aware of that. No, she's even doing it. You don't tell her. So the little bottle.

That's exactly. That's what made this product, the unique product, and the success that it was, because there were other light-acained, private-cained-based products. But you literally would use them, and you go, well, it's extending the actual love-making. You had to look down and go, am I even having sex? Everybody's numb. I don't know what's going on here. It's like in a robys class, I'm moving,

but I don't know what I'm doing, I'm not feeling anything. So it was developed by a Dr. Ronald Gilbert in Newport Beach, he was actually, that's how I got involved with the company. He was a good friend of mine and my urologist. And he actually asked me to evaluate the company and possibly invest in it. And I did, one thing led to another

and I ended up taking it over the company. So the credit goes to him, he developed this technology because as a urologist, he was frustrated. Because if someone came in with prostate issues, he had an answer. If someone came in with ED issues, he had an answer. If someone came in with bladder issues, he had an answer. Every urologist will tell you,

my toughest patients or PE patients, I had no answer for them. I see him every four to five months, Doc, what do you have? And they go, I was so frustrated, and it's almost like I dreaded him coming in, not because I didn answer for them. I see them every four to five months, Doc, what do you have? And they go, I was so frustrated, and it's almost like I dreaded them coming in, not because I didn't like them.

Right. Because I had no answer for them. And now, we just passed the only way to get on this list, it's not a doctor tells us, it's not, you know, we think, or the only way to get on this list is if someone buys product from our website and then lists the doctors or customer survey form, we just passed a thousand different doctors in North America that someone has bought products on our site and listed a specific doctor, a thousand unique separate doctors.

Now we sell through pharmacies and everything else and only 40% of people fill out that form. So you can imagine, it must be two or three thousand people that their first line therapy for PE is promising in North America. That's amazing. It's amazing. And that's in two years. That's in two years you've done this.

Yeah. Wow. Physicians. This is no secret among physicians. Right. And they just got to just, and everyone tell if you, so yeah, if you have this issue, you might want to ask your doctor about it too. Doctors know about it.

It's no big secret. We go to the AUA conventions. We go to SMS and A. In fact, we're going in November, sexual medicine society of North America in New Orleans. And the last couple of times we've been there, we have more traffic in our booth than the big billion dollar farmer companies have. It's everyone knows who they are. That's established technology. People go, okay, I've seen that a million times I go, what's this? And people go, oh, there's something for PE, oh, I'm going there. I just can't believe it.

It's like almost seems like I can't believe it hasn't even been around before. Like, I feel like there hasn't been a cure. We've heard there hasn't been enough. One of the things that I constantly, I'm amazed at, you know, coming from the semiconductor industry, I was a semiconductor professional. That's what I did and I retired. I know that. That you can have these billion dollar pharma companies that have all these ED drugs, you

know, because it's face and viagrassal feature. Every one of those is made by whether it's Lily or Pfizer, Blacksow Smith Klein, billion, billion, multi billion dollar companies. Anyone who makes a product for ED is fully aware of the need for something to repeat. You can't be in one without the other because all the doctors, how did this go unfulfilled for 20 years when these ED drugs were around? And then a little doctor in Newport Beach, California, developed the cure. It's amazing. I'm glad it happened that way, but it never ceases to amaze me.

This is right. Right. How does that happen? I don't know, because it's like every day, like something, it's so under your nose. And then you just, I don't know what happens. He's when he was a good guy. He's a great guy. And even now he was devoted devoted and committed and he's like, this is a problem that's not like the inventing. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was a healer. He was that kind of a guy that he was devoted to helping his patients. And here's what transpired out of it was this great product.

But it never ceases to amaze me that for 20 years, this need was unfulfilled. And we're in talks right now with four or five major pharma companies. Now, these guys have it, okay, we want it. And we sit there exactly, but it's hilarious because they say to me, it would have taken us $50 million to develop this product and do what you did and we did it 1.5 million. Yeah, that's amazing Because they have all this bureaucracy. They have all these layers and you know on the CEO of the company, but I Work our interactive chat form on the site for an hour a week

I need to talk to the people using the product if we see something that's needed we make a decision We do it. We don't have to run it up 50 layers of of management. Yeah, that's good. Yeah, exactly and I love that you do that You're so committed to it and you hear from all you hear you hear from our all different types, right people and you say that most of your Order people reorder right like you have an array of insane. We just instituted this cart that now tracks all that, like 18 months ago. We have people that have ordered 12 times, 11 times, 10 times, we have over 4,000 identified repeat customers. And unless it's an exact match, because some people sometimes use one credit card,

sometimes use another credit card, it has to be an exact match for this to be picked up. We have over 4,000 people. And like I said, some of them 10, 11 times, you can just see them every month Reordering on a regular basis. That's amazing. Well congratulations You've brought your success and for helping all my listeners. So it's per messant It's on my website. Just click on it at sex with only calm

That's the easiest way to do it and they can order it to their home Very easy I love the exposure and Jeff anything else happening on the horizon that we should know about or any other tips or tricks or Anything else. I was your sex life I have to ask all my guests. It's good. Yeah, it's good to be happy You look happy right now. I don't know if you just had sex or anything but no, I did not I just flew your hair. I'm glad you're healthy and happy and I'm it's really good to see you and thanks for sharing out This really important information for our listeners and for women too

I hear so many couples don't know how to have this conversation. And maybe he isn't even an issue in your relationship. There might be, you know, he's not performing all of a sudden you don't offer. She's not doing enough for you. I just think that this whole show about sex and only is about couples communicating and talking about what's going on because it just amazing me how many couples are together for years, 20 years, whatever, how long and they never comes up once. If you stop talking, you stop growing, you stop loving, you stop, your whole relationship

becomes stagnant. And it's not even just in the bedroom. Right. People need to talk about every issue. Everything, every issue. And exactly. And when sex is something that is an issue and you don't talk about, it becomes an even bigger issue.

One of the things that back to Professor really quick that surprises me, you'd be surprised how many men call up and go, I don't want my partner to know that I'm using this. Well, they know, I don't understand if you're that close to be intimate with someone, why you want to keep a secret, why you want to go spray off in this corner on the side and make sure she doesn't know. Love is intimacy, sex is intimacy. Exactly. And you know, keeping secrets from one another,

it's not intimate. It's not intimate at all. And I don't understand because that's going to keep you from achieving and to from finding the relationship that you want. Absolutely. If you're not honest with your partner about, you know, not even tell him every little thing.

We all have little secrets that we keep each other. But when it comes to sex, and if you're silently suffering through your sex life right now, and there's some things that you want, you want to be, you know, tied up or you want to be someone wants to talk dirty or you want to last longer or you wish your partner would perform all sex, you want to blow a job and you walk in the door, whatever it is. Expression. Why?

Life is too short to have bad sex. Like, it's just, I just don't understand it. It's like, it's just one thing in the world as it gives you it's we can all have really good sex. We work out. And how many times you think that someone doesn't communicate something and they would find out years later, the other person would have been just as much

up for it if you would have been, but they didn't want to bring it up either because each one of you's thinking, well, I don't want to be the first person to mention this. Exactly. It's press it. If your relationship is solid, even if they're not into it, you'll work your way through it and not do it But at least you will have expressed it. Exactly. And I even think that it's better to tell someone early on in a relationship

Because then you find out if this is someone that you want to be with or not if they judge you and they say, oh, you got to take that You're not my guy. You're not my guy. Guess what? They did you better to find out sooner than later? Why spend two years 20 years with this person? So I just think the communication isn't only like to get what you want, but it's fine like if you're with a good partner, if you're with a good person, people just like, we say it's like the representative, right? People bring their representative early on a date. It's not the real, it's not the real self. They're in bachelor's. They're in bachelor's. They're in bachelor's. Exactly. And so how long are you going to do that? You can't do that forever. So I just think the sooner that you show people who you really are, the better off you will be and you'll be in a healthier, stronger relationship.

That's what I think. Thank you, Jeff, from Promessant. Check it out, everyone. I pleasure. I'm going to improve your sex life. Go to Promessant. And thanks everyone for listening to Sex with the Emily, Fimey, and Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Sex with Emily.

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