Sex With Emily - SWE: Married Sex, Hot or Not?

Episode Date: October 4, 2012

Today's throwback episodes are all about YOU! We focus on listener emails that highlight problems people have with everything from stale sex and swinging to sexualizing strangers. Menace and Emily delve into the nitty gritty of monogamy, and rumors about San Francisco women being gold diggers. Menace's views on this matter may shock you. Or not, if you've listened to him for more than 5 minutes.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Bet through eyes they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Emily. You got a boyfriend? Because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girl's got every end. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Is it a common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks? And we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm gone.

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your emails because I love hearing from everybody. Thank you so much for writing me feedback at sexwithemily.com. We're through Facebook. You can find me on my fan page, sex with Emily. And I do read all your letters. I have to say we don't get to read them all during the show, but I'm trying to. So we're doing more shows so we can tackle the important issues that you write me about. And one other note, that I love the letters, I love your letters, like some of them are like five, six pages, which I think is amazing, but we could just make them a little bit shorter sometimes, and then I'll definitely get to them and be able

to be there. Like a paragraph. Like a paragraph or two. Yeah. I have ADD. What can I say? Well, you're just doing that because you want to reply to every I want to reply to every single one. And I also want to thank our sponsor Adam and Eve. So I can never have enough sex toys. And so whenever there's a huge discount like in with toys, I'm like I jump at that. And I'm like, okay, well, I've been wanting to try toy. This is the time for everybody who's been listening to the show. We've been talking about sex toys. This is your time to get a sex toy, because they're offering 50% off of most items

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If you get any sex toy, 50%. Well, they came out with the Kim Kardashian sex doll. Did you hear about that? That was like this week. That was big news. Really, would you get that? I wanna get it, but I'm saying, I wonder if that's good. I should have gotten that for you for your birthday.

It just came out. Do you want that for your birthday, honey? No, I'm fine. I know you're sitting. Why would the sex dolls that the mouths are open like really like scary? I've never seen one up close. Yeah, I've seen the ones that there's like regular sex dolls and now they have the ones that it looks like You can fit a soda can in their mouth It's like just round like crazy like it looks like something you would see around Halloween Well, I think the men find the image of women's mouth open very sexy and sexual and No, I do I do too, but I mean that's that doesn't even look natural. I don't know any I haven't I have an exam

Examined of that Yeah, I've seen a sex doll like that. I mean not really where the thick in those shops on Broadway Stereo kind of thing. It's everywhere. It's the sex dolls with the mouth open is like crazy round. Probably because like for if you want to stick your penis in there and it then it fits all sides. I don't know how many people have soda can penis is out there. No, I don't know. All right. Okay. So we're gonna get into your emails now. And here we go. Hi Emily, love your show and subscribe to it via iTunes. Never miss it.

Episode 165 you talked about Jacob Zuma who had sex with a cow. Weird as it is, Jacob Zuma is the president of South Africa and a man with a particularly sorted track record around matters of sexual nature. Also, while I now live in Australia, I grew up in Africa, and sexual animals is not uncommon there. There was recently a report of a man who regularly had sexually dis-cow on the basis that it was cheaper

than having a wife, and there was also no chance of catching HIV or any other STT, STD. And to respond to your other comment that the Balinese Jacobsuma must have been on drugs in Africa that wouldn't be the case. I will seek out the news you're important to send it to you. Just thought you'd like to know, keep up the great show Warren. Okay, thanks for clarifying that. Yeah, that was about he, I guess, apparently he's the president of South Africa, which I can't imagine that,

but here's something funny. So I just started grad school. I'm getting my PhD in human sexuality. So today they took us on a tour of this massive library, right, with like every playboy since the beginning of time, every sexual get this, that's ever been written. And they even have sections on child porn, like they have child porn videos, they're like, you know what, you should see this stuff. You should just be in a human sexuality, I'm gonna be like a sexologist and a major. And they have a home like wall on like bestiality like people having sex with horses and cows and stuff and these like This is the word this is the dirty room like they have like probably a hundred tapes of people having sex with all the Vanana. I'm like that we're supposed to watch at some point if we if so choose

I'm good sounds like I'm good. I'll pass. That thing's for asking. Yeah, but it was funny because he was taking us on Tordy's like no here's the you know and there's one called like equine and I'm like is that like a horse right? No, that's when I'm sex per horse like it was just like Equine's anyway, I know it sounds freaky weird and it kind of is cookie school But I'm gonna I'm gonna be a doctor Very soon and what's up with all the emails from Australia? We okay, there are so many emails from Australia all the time. And there's a woman in my class from Australia too, who's trying to do a little bit about what I'm trying to do a sex show and all that stuff.

And I don't know, they're very, I don't know how there's all these Australian listeners. That's a really, Thank you for listening. I love it. And how'd you all find us? It's funny. I was just talking about Australia today.

But what were you saying, menace? I was talking with Tom Green. You know him. He's a comedian, actor, MTV host, whatever. Totally. And he says that Australia is an amazing place. And I think we should visit somewhere. I was thinking that too, and I was talking to her days,

like we have a lot of fans in Australia. I mean, we should do a little sex family, men sex and men as well as a road trip. Have a hadrogeon sent us out there or something. Yes, we're working on it. Hey, Emily and men as I'm just listening to the show from the 14th where you read a letter in which a guy says he judges whether he would have sex with the woman as he walked past her on the street.

Menace said that every man does that and you said you don't think like that. I'm a 20 year old female and I got to say I totally do that. I've been having regular sex with my boyfriend since I was 15 and we broke up in January this year. Since my go-to source start up, I've been having regular sex with my boyfriend since I was 15 and we broke up in January this year. Since my go-to source straight up, I frequently think about having sex with guys that I walk past, particularly often think about what their arms would be like as they held themselves above me or, well, you know how it is.

Ha ha. Although unlike you, Emily, I definitely do get horny and menace is not a stupid manace. And menace, it's not a stupid word as opposed to banging which sounds kind of like an f'ing new but oh god. Keep it up. Love it. Love the show is a bell said horny. Sounds funny. I said I said I

don't know if I get like a horny and then I was like that don't worry. No one uses that word anymore. Horny and boner. I'm bringing them back. Oh god. I'm totally bringing those words back. So but she checks out that is yeah, but she checks out that yeah

You because you were saying that every woman you see you're like bang or wood banger when would yeah We got is that within the first five seconds. I don't know that every guy does that do they yeah, they do oh, yeah, they don't That's this insane to me. I mean, I guess I maybe sort of tangentially I sort of Think about it like oh, but not and it like eventually I sort of think about it like oh but not and it like it takes me a while to get there I'm not I'm like oh thinking about this nice person and I'm like oh what I bang but I don't think about No, I don't get into it like that. No, these are like thinking about shoes and like yeah, I'm gonna sell some to shoes and Persons that's so me No, I'm just saying I mean if a woman's looking at another woman all they're doing is judging them from head to toe

Right, but I'm looking at man,, all they're doing is judging them from head to toe. Right. But if they're looking at a man, they're, you know, maybe analyzing, maybe not sexually, but analyzing the man, wondering what he does. Right, like, even a nice watch. Does he have a nice watch? Does he have shiny things? Right. I don't know. I'm just kidding. Okay. Emily, I was just introduced to your podcast today and listened to your show on Non-Monogamy. During your podcast you asked for insights into non-monogamous

relationships so I thought I'd share mine with you. My wife, best friend, and soulmate and I have been married for 15 years. As our life together, Grouch became not really interested in active sex life and allowed me to venture out. What we found works for us is a clearly defined set of rules that safeguarded against emotional attachment. She's willing to let me enjoy open sex with others, but it's understandably not willing to let me get in a situation where there's emotional involvement. One thing we've learned together is that in an open relationship,

open, honest, and frequent communication is critical. If the boundaries of trust are violated, it can easily have the same effect of having a non-sinction affair, even if it's accidental. There's more of our personal story, I'd be happy to share if you're interested, but don't want to send you the story of my life if you're not. After listening to your show for the first time today, I have to say I'm hooked, and I'm looking forward to catching up on your future shows. Please feel free to email me if you have questions or would like to discuss further, signed lands. So, using an open relationship and it works for him. What I find interesting is that he's safe guard against emotional attachment. Now I don't

understand how you safe guard against emotionally attaching someone that you're having sex with. I think that's hard to do. Well you might say I'm not going to fall in love with this person and I'm not going to connect with this person but it never really can happen but it sounds like he will do that all the time. Of course we are parties It's winter party. I gave up a swing party. I do you know last weekend? Do you know what I chose instead of going to a swing party? I set home and edited in Final Cut Pro weekend I am so happy for you. I'm like set home with my laptop trying to figure out how to edit a bunch of guys there with ponytails that you missed out Oh, bummer leopard boots. I'm glad. I don't like the ponytail. Oh my god That's not bad with the ponytail. Why all?

Swing your guys have pony Don't look to what in the 70s. What are you talking about? Swing your guys have ponytails. They do how do you name one? Swing your guy you ever who do you know that's a Sir erotica guy? Yeah, but Captain erotica is different He's on earlier shows. You should go check out our captain erotica shows. He has a ponytail But he's Captain erotic is different he's on earlier shows you should go check out our captain erotic shows he has a ponytail but he's Captain erotic oh oh I'm sorry he's different but that's the your only reference no then there's the exotic erotic ball guy he throws the party all right he doesn't want to tell ponytail I don't know but I'm glad I was maybe I should grow more

no I like the thingy the funky thing you got going on We need more pictures of you because you know every week I got to post a show and I post a picture like of myself and I need a picture of me and you Or just you I took one the other day, but it wasn't that cute. I have some. We just send me some. Yeah, okay great We remember. Yeah, so remember you know we try to remember we remind each other of to do list items during the show and it never works. All right. Emily and Menace, I just want to offer my two cents on the whole infidelity open relationship topic from this week's show. And you guys must be doing something right because I never write into radio shows, but somehow you guys always manage to pluck something in to get pluck pluck something in to get me to do it. This may be the first time I completely disagree with menace on something.

That's a surprise. Most people disagree with menace. One of the factors was the new relationship brush. Menace kind of dismissed them by saying, if you allow your sex life to get stale at your own fall, I have to say as a vet of 10 years of marriage, that I believe that to be an entirely idolized POV in my opinion, point of view.

And I would wager that if and when he gets this far and he'll feel it's had differently. This is not because of the trope, this is not because of the trope of how sex or oral sex ends when you're married or something of that nature. By all accounts most of them would kill to have married, my would kill to have my married life as it relates to the bedroom. Virtually nothing is off limits and I don't think I've ever even been turned down a single times since I've known my wife. I recently completed, I recently, I completely looked out in that regard.

But no matter how much wild stuff we do no matter how creative we get, you can never recapture what it's like at the start of a relationship. The tension isn't the same. And that is what I miss most. And while I don't miss it enough to trade in what I have as Emily stated it's sort of a bummer. Keep up with the great content Lane and Cincinnati. So she's having good sex in the relationship but what did you say that I'm just I'm just saying because we're only talking about sex we're talking about how people get

together for a really long time and then it just gets stale. Right. And I said it gets stale because it's your fault. People stop trying. Right. And you can talk about being loving, loving, and how it was to go out on. But I guess you never get that newness again.

Like that's not going to happen. Like the newness of me is when we just want to re-op the close-up. Like that's not going to happen again, but there are ways to continually work on your relationship and to grow index because sex people think that sex is so it's so basic and it's like this is what we do. We've been together 10 years and this is exactly how we have sex, but there's like sex is just endless. Like there's so many different ways to explore and there's so much to do that it could

keep growing. Just like to acknowledge education learning more about sex. And if it's still in the other area, other than sex, then be more spontaneous. Find things to go do that you haven't done before. And those are new experiences. Exactly. Yeah, exactly. You know, they say that even a adrenaline is is helps a relationship. So like goes skydiving, goes skiing together, like do something like that that that will really pump up your sex drive too and create this sort of new excitement that you'll be missing from sleeping with someone else.

Hey Emily, just wanted to say I really enjoy the sex with Emily presentations, very insightful and technically educational. You always talk about things that they should teach in school but don't. Thank you so much for what you do sincerely, Kenneth of Vashon Washington. Vashon Washington? Vashon Washington.

Yeah, I don't know where that is. But thank you, Gladyer. You in like the show. My mother lives in Spokane, Washington. Have you told her yet that you're not getting married? No, but I told my grandmother. When the hell are you gonna tell her? Menace was engaged and he's not.

Yeah. Yeah, you need to find my grandma. My grandma, who I love dearly. I know, you do love your grandmother so cute She I says like oh you'll be engaged a couple more times before you actually get married. Don't even worry about it. I was like cool All right, you'll be engaged a few more times where you get married your grandmother said that yeah By the time you get married so you'll be alright. You think that's true

Hopefully just one more time. Did you get a ring and stuff? I can't remember. Yeah, like a little I can't I need to find somebody That's as busy as me you will somebody that is has their own thing going on Yep, you have to because you can't have someone's like waiting around for men Is still like your mom would do whatever because you're one of my I suck to go to concerts with Everyone thinks oh men is you get to travel everywhere and go cover all these festivals and meet all these rock stars and stuff like that and hang out with them. Yeah, but I can't bring somebody along with me

with these experiences because I'm working. I'm not doing it just to have fun. Right, you're not like getting wasted and I mean, eventually, but not turn the arrow but I get wasted after the concert. Exactly. But when I'm at a concert, I am constantly working. I'm going from like one side of the venue to another and I'm like talking with people

and then right when I'm done with that, I'm like, you know, I'm like a theater and I'm putting all these photos online and stuff like that. It's like, that is not fun to be around and define somebody that can handle that. It's kind of tough. That's a lifelong process trying to find the person that can fit into your life, right? Yes. Okay. What about you, Emily? What about me? What are my problems? What's my problems? Yeah. We don't have time left. Oh, oh, oh, oh, oh, listening to the show. Thank you to our sponsors Adam and Eve. Go to AdamNive.com, use coupon code EmilyGift, 50% off, anything that you order and three free adult DVDs. And you can find more at sexthethemely.com.

And menacework we find you. Whitemenace.com. Awesome. Thanks everyone for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemley.com. Are you sure that's safe to go, spying down here, call you? It's all fine, Halber. I've been down here plenty of time.

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And now we can lick our way out of here. I just can't stay in the tank. How about you, dumb it? Why do you think I packed a month's supply of mass sexual flavor strips? It tastes good. You can choose from four delicious flavors. Strawberry, chocolate, mango and watermelon. Good good, you know, I can't decide which flavor I want to try.

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Morse mo rse. We've got an audience survey on our site. We'd love to hear from you what you think of the show and That's what I got for you sitting here with menis. Hi. How you doing? Hi menis? Oh with audience survey. What kind of questions you ask? It's like what are they like? What don't they like? I want to know. They want to see naked. Who do they want to see you? Maybe you menist no never in a million years. Yeah, maybe even though I've had some female listeners hit me up that I wouldn't mind seeing naked on Facebook Really? Yeah, have you had female listeners hit you up? Yeah, you never talk about I'm always Looking at the fan mail. Yeah, but they don't elaborate. They just say they like the show They don't go and they don't send you naked pictures because they they probably know me by now that if they sent me A long drawn out email and find accurate it. I know like I send men's emails and like read this email

Because I know he's not gonna read it. So if he doesn't get back to you That's why as you know, we're doing more shows every week, and this is our male show, where you're just attributing the show, and it's all about your emails. That's just all about the listeners, because we really want to get back to all the emails that we get, and that you write to feedback at sexwithm.ly.com. So some of the topics we're talking about are women and bras,

the female libido, a nude beach, and married sex, and maybe some more in there. We'll see how we move along. All right. Okay, Ben. What do you got? This is what I got for you. I was listening to your show you did a few weeks back and you talked about women not wearing bras.

You said that if a woman walked around not wearing bras, men would get nothing done. I thought about that. Did you hear about Inaz Sains? She's the woman sports broadcaster who entered the New York Jets locker room and was harassed and made to feel like a sex object and she was embarrassed and players were made to give formal apologies in the press and some subjected to punishments punishments for their actions. For years now women women females in the press have been allowed to men's locker rooms as if it would be unfair and make it harder for women to excel at sportscasters if they could not go or men could. So in the name of sexual equality, they've been allowed. For years, it has not been an issue, but she was wearing extremely tight jeans, tight low-cut white shirt, and men wear suits.

Now, let's go back to what you said about women not wearing bras. I am all for equality, but I feel like being naked in front of a hot, scantily-clothed female can make me uncomfortable. And by uncomfortable, I mean, I would be scared of getting a rouse. What do you guys what do you think these guys feel like and in front of other men Maybe making cat calls and coming on tour was a way of avoiding the little chubby happening. What are your thoughts? Thanks Steve from Hamilton, Ontario Okay, as a woman Let me ask you this what why do you wear

super tight jeans and low cut shirts? Because they make me feel good and sexy. Not to attract other people. I'm not trying to attract men. Oh, you're... Are you kidding me? You're lying. Men's eyes just rolled back into his head. I wish you could have seen it. Why? Stop lying. I think I always dress like because right now I'm wearing tight jeans and a tight tank. Yeah. Are you not attracting, trying to attract men at all? No.

I've been sitting in school all day. I'm not trying to install women. No. I don't see you. You do not dress to attract, try to attract men. I dress in a way that I feel attractive and I feel sexy, but it's not necessarily so men will find me attractive. I don't think about that, but I think the way I dress is

What do you think? Men are you kind of dressed like this this woman was dressing. I've seen I seen the photos. I know what she looks like Okay, I didn't see the photos and Okay, all right, let's say you dress for yourself. Okay, which is a toll lie, but we're gonna go with that story fine Alright, let's say you dressed for yourself, which is a total lie. But we're going to go with that story. Are men not allowed to make comments about that? Yeah, I don't mind. I personally don't have an issue.

I mean, I- It is the NFL, the no fun league. You know, but because they're always keeping it classy, they don't like scandal. It's, I don't know. If you saw some pictures of this chick, I'm going to pull them up on my phone. I'll continue talking. I'll continue talking. I don't even know what the question is. They were just tormenting her or whatever they were doing, making her feel objectified because they were afraid they were going to get boners or something because they were afraid they were gonna get boners

or something. I mean, I think that that kind of goes back to the classic of why men pulled women's ponytail is growing up because they were feeling attracted to them. So they just like pulled their, so maybe these men were just like jousting her because they were afraid they were gonna be too attracted to her, but is he saying that she shouldn't have dressed

in such tight clothing and she shouldn't have done that because she was given this opportunity to go in the men's locker room and she should have dressed more conservatively. I don't know. I mean, I think a lot of women dress for men, some women dress for other women. Well, he's trying to make the argument that sports casting guys don't go in there wearing tight V-necks looking like CK models. That's true.

That's true. That's true. I don't know how I feel about this story. I just feel like They're trying to say that her ass rivals Kim Kardashian Is that a good thing? Yes, she's got a good ass. Yeah, she showed it off. Well, she was in the sports thing Yeah, I don't know. I mean, I guess I dressed sometimes to feel Sexy and therefore if I feel like sexy or attractive then I think that that would you know yes it could be for men it could be for women but really it's just so I feel like I feel more comfortable wearing like type jeans and tank tops which is my uniform.

God, jeans and tanks. God, I want to show you this photo but goddamn AT&T. AT&T! There's not going to be one of our advertisers. I know AT&T is so bad. Sorry. I hate it. I can't believe you're saying that. You used to yell at me for saying that. No, it's about the iPhone. The iPhone is awesome. The service sucks. Right, exactly. So that's why I have my new droid that you made me buy and you didn't make me buy it. But it's hard menace. It's hard to type on it. It's hard to type on it. And I'm a big writer. And how do you like? It learns, it learns your typing. It learns. It doesn't learn anything yet. You'll learn it. You promise? Yes, it's smart. How much longer do I have to wait?

It will learn your typing. I swear. Okay. It's smart. Okay, more emails here. Emily, I've been listening to the show for the past six months. And I've noticed that you get quite a few questions on libido. I have agreed with a lot of your advice, but I have not heard you mention physical fitness. Over the past few years, I've helped several friends make changes to incorporate fitness and fitness into their lifestyle. Several of them make comments that many things improved, including their sex lives, a healthy body contributes to a better mental attitude in self-image.

For menace, please broaden your horizons and embrace your inner warrior. Women are fabulous to watch doing anything, not just when you are in the act of intercourse. I think he's referring to you're not wanting to watch women master but love the show and I did not stumble upon it. I found it on iTunes while looking for something naughty for the wife and I listened to before long plane ride. Adam from Dallas, Texas. Thanks Adam. I totally agree with you. We've done a little bit here and there about sex and health, but that is one of the major, like if you're overweight or you're not feeling good about your body, exercise really helps

your libido. It helps your sex life. If you are in good shape, you're going to be having better sex. You're going to be having better everything, but it actually helps the circulation, the blood flow. They say that women who are in better shape have more orgasms because your whole body is working better. So exercise helps with your moods, depression, everything.

So I totally add them, thanks for making that point. We've made it in the past, but maybe not lately. Yeah, I need to hit the chance. You look good though. I thought you lost weight, but really you just got to hear that? I just got to hear that. Yeah. That's hilarious.

You're a tan. I thought you looked skinny though. No, I needed a gym. Okay, next one. Hello, both to both of you. Great show. Okay, this is funny, Manus. Ready, you got to pay attention, put the phone down. I'm trying to find the show.

He's trying to find the picture of it. Okay, I'm almost certain I heard Manus's voice a few weeks ago in the parking lot at a nude beach. I did not see his face, but the voice was identical to his. I have never heard you guys talking about being naked in the nature. Maybe I missed some episodes. Anyway, what do you think of being naked on a nude beach? Would menist be a man enough and dare to bear it all? What about you Emily? Have you ever tanned on a nude beach? I love them and get a kick out of both being naked myself and watching other naked people. It feels very free and

less tension than on a plain textile beach. Great show. Feel pretty good. Anders, were you on a new beach? No way. No. I would not be on a new beach. You really wouldn't be would you? I would not because I'm just not in shape. I'm not tan. Oh, I know. We go to tanning salon. That's funny. He thought I heard your voice at a new beach. That is funny. I've been a course you have. You have. I've been to Europe. I've been to Europe. I've gone topless. I've been on a new beach in San Francisco. You know, Baker Beach. There's a new part of Baker Beach, which is this really beautiful beach overlooking the Golden Gate Bridge. And I've gone new there. And I've also been to like the new hot springs, like Harbourn Hot Springs, up in North of here in Marin County,

which is North of San Francisco. They have these nude hot springs that you go to and it's like hot and cold mineral tubs that you go in and everyone's walking around naked. It's very northern California. So I've done that, but not in a while. And at first you're kind of uncomfortable, but then you're like, everyone's naked, whatever. It doesn't matter. Yeah, I, I, so I have, but not a while.

I have a time again. Go ahead. Oh, no, I have to tell you a story. My buddy, he was, he was taking his dogs to the beach and he didn't know what beach he was on. And that's how he goes, that's kind of weird. There's a, there's a naked gentleman. And then there's another, then there's another, there's a lot of naked guys. But there's never really any, I never hear any stories about hot naked girls running around on nude beaches. Never, ever have I heard that. Really?

Well, maybe it's more in Europe. Yeah, but Europe, they just go topless everywhere. There's not just like, I mean, where are there a lot of there are a lot of nude beaches in this area. There's like all these little coves and stuff where you could go and be naked, especially here I think. Yes. But you know what I guess you see a lot of men. There's no hot chicks.

If you go there. I did. I did. But I'm not saying that I'm a hot chick, but I did go naked with my girlfriends. We were all really cute and we went and it was like 10 years ago to this, well when we went to Harbourn Hots, have you ever heard of Harbourn Hots Springs?

You haven't. No. It's a really cool place in Northern California where you go and you, yeah, you just get naked, but it was weird and kind of creepy because we were like 25 years old and we were sitting there and we all kind of got naked. And then like dudes come up and start talking to you

and they're like balls are on your face. Yeah. And then you see like the old guys with like their balls that are like hanging down to their knees and they're like, yeah. So it's kind of a hippie, whatever. But you can wear these beads at this place, Harbin, Hutsprings.

You wear beads that are like a do not disturb beads. So if you're wearing these beads, it means like don't talk to me because otherwise the men are just like, hey, one of them is sad. Hey, how you doing? Hey, you want a massage by weiner? Want to brush my ponytail? Oh, P.S., have fun. Two of my instructors have ponytails and my sexist mom.

Do you remember you said that they have the swingers and all the crazy sex. They have the point tails. Two of my point tails. I noticed I was like, oh my god, menace is rites. Po-nie-tail. Po-nie-tail. Can't trust the guy with the pony tail. Yeah.

You can't. You just can't sleep with one with the ponytail. I'm trying to think if I ever have. I think I fooled around once with the guy with the ponytail. Oh my god. But I just don't love it. I don't love it. It's not attractive to me personally, but I friends who go crazy for guys with long hair. So there's a ponytail for everybody. Don't put a pony. Don't put it into a ponytail.

Right. Because that's sleazy. It's not okay. I'm not going to say that. Emily, I wanted to write you because you are so down on marriage. Am I down on marriage? You're very down on marriage. I am not. I'm not supportive. I'm the only one on the show that supports marriage. I support marriage. You do not support either. It's not that I don't support them. I'm just quite, I question them. The show is not about just like delivering everyone what you hear and what you're reading Cosmo magazine. We're trying to bring up different issues around marriage commitment, monogamy that just will get you to think. So I'm not saying I'm anti-marriage. I hope that one day I feel that way that I want to get married. Because then I'd be normal.

When will that day come? I don't know. I'm 44 years old and will celebrate my ninth wedding at aversary this November. Nine years into my marriage, my wife and I have sex multiple times a week and she still gives me blow jobs and we occasionally have adventures sex, such as anal. My recommendation is for people to not get married early and wait until the time is right, and I think couples should talk about what their sexual expectations are before they sign the deal. The benefit, my wife and I don't have to play the dating game anymore. There are not games, there are not games and other BS and I come home to hot. Pussy. Every night. I wasn't going to say that, but I couldn't think of a way to not say it.

I don't know. The JJ. The JJ every night. Signed Scott. Wow. Scott. Way to put it in such good words. I that was that was very great.

Scott, I'm so glad. No, Scott, I'm not. Anxiety. I'm pleased. I'm not. I'm not. Anxiety. Anything.

If you notice the thing about sexual embodies that we are very non-judgmental here, we're not anti pussy at all. No, we'm pleased. I'm not ants, I'm not ants, I'm anything. If you notice the thing about sex with Emily is that we are very non-judgmentally. And we're not ants, I pussy at all. No, we love it. I love it. We love it. We thought, do you know that how many times I've done calls for action on this show? I'm like, if you're a happily married couple,

email me and tell me about your sex life, because I want to be inspired by you, because you hear a lot that people don't. So I'm not ants, I anything. In fact, I am so like pro, open, not judgmental girl. That's just who I am. Everything goes in my world. Hey, Emily Menace.

This has to be the last one, but... I was talking with a friend and asked about guys not asking girls out in San Francisco. So I thought, man, I could go there and clean house. But my friend told me it's because the woman there are gold diggers. Is that true? There are every gold diggers.

Menace, you're take. This is from Thuan Ta, a single dad from Seattle. My take first. Are you going to go for it? You can go for it, Menace, because I'm sure you got things to say about women in San Francisco gold diggers. They're all up and down the west coast on each coast. They're gold diggers. A Midwest, not as much. Doesn't take a lot for them to be happy in the Midwest. Because the cost of living, we don't need as much gold. Yeah, but here, they mean masses amount of gold.

It's very expensive to live in San Francisco. It's no, it's very expensive to have a woman in San Francisco. Yeah, it is expensive to do anything in San Francisco. So I would think dating and being a single man single man and dating and sandwich Go would be very expensive task But do I think that I mean I don't think that women are gold diggers more so than you right I think you can't say that they are more regionally gold diggers here than anywhere else. There's just gold diggers and every

There's women that are gold diggers and they just want men who have money I don't see that more here than other places. Anywhere else No, it's a I don't see that more here than other places. Anywhere else? No. It's an epidemic. It is? Because of television that you don't watch. Which because the Gold Digger shows or something?

There's all every woman on there is a Gold Digger on all these reality shows. And that's all that's on television. You mean on the dating shows? Every show. It doesn't even have to be a dating show. It could be the Jersey Shore. It could be... How gold digs so how is the Jersey Shore the Kardashians gold diggers how are the good Kardashians gold diggers they have their own money now but they only date and go out with multi-millionaires the only one that

doesn't is the older sister the oldest one she goes out of the guy that's broke really but he's he's nuts so I think she's afraid to leave him is she on the show the old Yeah, she's on there, okay, huh? But I'm not I'm not saying okay It's hard to just say that they're gold diggers. They might not be but they only date people in their Class, you know, okay? Yeah, but that's that happens everywhere. I don't think it's more in the Bay Area than not. Yeah, but okay, thanks. Those are the questions from Texas, right? She's Seattle. Seattle single dad from Seattle, but I think you should come down here and clean house anyway, because we've been women down here would love you to ask them out. Look, get on a flight of Virgin America. It's not that not that hard. Come for a weekend. Yeah, come here. Let's know.

Hang out. Well, hook out. And then, then go back home to Seattle. See what happens. You're good. Exactly. OK, that's all we got time for. Thank you for listening to the listener email show.

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