Sex With Emily - SWE: Mia Isabella - Transexual Porn Star

Episode Date: January 25, 2014

Mia Isabella is a transexual porn star with a lot of great sex advice. She’s known as the “Cutest Little TS Chick with the Biggest Candy Stick.” How big is Mia Isabella's Candy Stick? 10-inches long. Mia Isabella is a transexual that dates straight men. Most people are under the misconception that only gay men date transexuals. Mia Isabella does not define her sexuality in such narrow terms. She answers questions on the show about her sexual identity, dating, and of course- sex.Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Yeah, just email me with all your questions and my guest tonight is Mia Isabella. Hi. Hi. It's so nice to meet you. It was well. I'm so glad to see you. So Mia Isabella, she is actually, she's a trans sexual porn star known as the cutest little T.S. chick with the biggest candy stick. Hey, it's on your website. I do. It is. Yeah. So, okay, is your candy stick really 10 inches? That's amazing. Okay, we're gonna get into that as well. And you're also exciting that you're into live area. I love the hell of you. Okay, right.

So, and you're nominated for a big award. I am. I mean, they're okay. So, I've been to three sex conferences as much. It sounds pretty exciting. A lot of people think I'm putting it bone in all the time. It's work. I was at the Anmi show and then Avian, which is, you know,

crazy in Las Vegas. And now we've got the X-Biz and you're nominated for then Avian, which is crazy in Las Vegas. And now we've got the X-Biz and Jorn nominated for award tomorrow night, which is exciting for the best-transactual website. I actually love X-Biz have been so good to me. I've actually won three awards in the past two years consecutively. So congratulations. What were the other awards? I won Best Prompt of the Year and then I won best adult novelty line for my toy line with pipe

dreams that I have. Oh great. I love pipe dreams. You guys talk about toys and all that stuff. So your website is MiaMIA-Isabella.com and also this is all on sexwithmly.com. So this is about your bio. Do your changes. You look like a chameleon from a blonde bob wig to long black hair and a bonkage outfit. You were also the first transactual to do a voiceover on a video game.

I am. Yeah. Grand theft auto five. Oh my god. Do they give you residuals for that? I wish. I know. Wait. I've been telling you. They're like, here's 500 bucks. I've worn them a lot of money off you. I mean, this is me off. You know what? The opportunity was incredible. It was the first of, you know, it's kind and it's kind of opening up doors for other girls in my drama to know that they can do more than just born. Exactly. I think that's great. So I have so many questions for you because I think transactuals I think it's people are confounded by it like they just don't really understand. You know because you date men. Of course.

Primarily. And so you can you just tell you about your beginning and how you first realized that you felt more woman than man? Well, as in the case of most transgendered females that I've you know come across usually we all know very early on Beginning of childhood development. My was when I realized the difference between the social behavior with girls and boys at four years Old the four years of where pretty clothes and, you know, pillow dolls, which is what I wanted to do. And the boys were outside playing the dirt and getting gross and wearing ugly clothes and I just didn't want nothing

to do with it. Right. And how are your parents? Well, you know, really, like, here's a truck. Well, no, no, no. It was more fear because we were from a very influential family in the south and they wanted to protect me. And so it was more like, they wanted to figure out

what was going on and understand it. So I mean, that made it very lucky for my upbringing because they became very much protected. I love that because I want to tell my stories. They did. So they supported each other. Then how was it growing up then before you, so you've had a bridge, a bridge, an operation?

I have to. Oh, you mean like surgery, pass a surgery, a plastic surgery, and stuff like that but but Before that like growing up like high school middle school like what I was very entrogenous You know people that I grew up with they obviously knew But people that weren't from our circle. They never knew. I was just another girl I had long long curly hair and I was always hanging out with the girls

You know it was before they all developed so you know, we were all Just girlfriends as far as anybody else was concerned. So, they didn't, they didn't even know. People that were outside of our circle, no. Okay. I mean, and then our circle, you know, again, we come from a very, you know, well known family. So, I mean, I was very popular. I was a violinist and a gymnastics swimming and things like that. So, I mean, I had a lot of friends and I had a great upbringing. Okay. I was like, I was good. I'm so glad to hear that. I was like, I'm just hearing my parents say,

like, really, what are you doing for really? They're fine, they're supportive now. I'm like, as long as you're paying your bills, we're okay. But my mom for a long time was like, what'd you plan to be? You're going to sign on a sex for living, really? So what about your first sexual experience? What was that like?

It was awful, really. It was awful. It was awful. Oh gosh. I was dating a much older guy. And we had been communicating and talking. I was 17. And he was 32, was an attorney in Chicago.

And we had a long year of dating, and he went off to head away until I was adult enough. And I don't know. I just expected more of the romance and the pleasure and him teaching me in a way, you know, sexualized and, you know, selfless way. And it was just kind of like, he was waiting for so long, it was just all about him. And he didn't really take the time to teach me things. And it was just, it didn't feel like I thought it was going to feel. Right, it never does.

No, I know. I just want to tell people, because I I was loved here in the studio after I went to a calling and like it's okay the first experience I'm like it's but for you so okay so tell me about your your so you take a hormone as you bad right. I just started on there about a year ago. Okay so up until this point you haven't. No my family and I used to date an intern an ecologist and doctor from UCLA and you know there's there was so underdeveloped

the technology and the medicine for a lot of home therapy and you know, you know, who weren't really know, you know, how worked and what was going on before I started using them. So we found a great inter-cannologist here in Los Angeles. I finally trusted someone to start them. Okay, great. So then now, okay, so you still have a penis though.

I do. That's your big on your website. Time to just be there. Just to celebrate just the friggin' amazing. So do you find, so the kind of men that you've dates explains to me about your sexual experiences then. So, but they're straight men. Yes, of course.

Okay. So, tell me how they interact with your penis. I have, well, I've been in three relationships. The first, I have been out here. I've been out here. Like your monotony. Yeah, that was my entire adult life. The first relationship until I was 18 and then when I was 20,

I was actually married. I was with him for about four years. And my ex-viancé was with him for about three years. So all my adult life have been, you know, mainly with these three gentlemen. Okay. And they had never been with the transsexual girl before. They just fell in love with my personality and me.

And do they know when they meet you or does it come up like? No, no, no, they obviously knew, like my exit found out all about my ex-husband or all about my beginning of my career at that point. Right, because what's your career? Yeah, start your career pretty well. How old are you?

19, 19, 19, 19, 19, 19. So then can you explain it? Can you bring it down to you? But who don't? I always get questions like, I don't understand it. Like, you know, like, how are these men not gay? Like how how does it work? Okay, well gay guys like break it down. Okay guys like masculinity, you know they want

You know muscular hot hairy, you know jock type of guy that's fantasy Straight in love with an entity curves, you breasts, beautiful, you know, ass, and, you know, soft skin, and women. Thank you. We have a little video on the Wednesday that I'm going to check this out, too. But you know, we have trans-extual women who are generally over-sexualized,

so we appeal to the natural instinct in men. Right, because you're sexuality and reading, like, you know, larger hips and bigger butts and, you know, bigger breasts, and we're overly feminine. So obviously any straight man is going to be attracted to that by their visual, you know, sense and... Exactly.

Oh, whether they eventually become comfortable enough to delve into that world in the front, they generally... So tell me, but I want to hear about that. When you say you had sex with that, like, how did your penis come into play with their penis? With my ex has been in, took quite a while before he decided to, he wanted to please me that way. That he thought he was being selfish after a long period of time, and I was like,

well, I don't meet that, you know? It's like, I get pleasure from being the surface of and being. So you are more or more subtle? You know, filming, no. I'm filming him actually always a dominant aggressor in the sex, but in real life I'm actually quite submissive and require a dominant partner, but um, but if they're not playing with your penis Then how do you do orgasms? Of course you could have you know anal orgasm

Of course so it's mostly like angry. I'm a brass. Oh, of course. I love breast play. I love You rest orgasms though. I don't know if I want breast orgasm, but I want my soap I love the second most comments on orgasm though. I don't know if I've ever worn the rest of orgasms though. I want my second most common time of orgasm. I'm like really like who's having a long, long, long, long? I think I just spend some time with somebody who's like playing my breath for like a mod than the blood. Let's get down to it. So usually it's usually anally bad bad.

Like right, a lot of women. I enjoy that. I enjoy that actually a lot more. I could have multiple orgasms that way versus you know, jackaculating your penis. And once you do that, it's kind of like a, one of the things. Exactly, right? It was so lucky.

I mean, so, but so, okay, so tell me about how, how is your sex different than you think than other women? I mean, obviously you have anal sex primarily. But how else would you describe it? You think that it's different, if you- I don't know if it really be considered different, beyond the, you know, the penis play.

I mean, every bit of a woman, sexually and bad, you know, very into this seduction. And, you know, I talk from the bottom as they call it, where even though, you know, he's the man and he's, you know, taking me, I'm the one's in charge and, you know, handling the situation. And then, of course, I love being ravaged and just taking wildly.

Don't we all? Why don't we know this so many my just grab my hair and chuck me been the over is take it show me grab my hand I mean me and I'm saying this is a green light for everyone right typically many women I talk to you want that I think men I don't know I was in San Francisco I just moved you I think they're afraid everyone's like oh every man in San Francisco checked his balls with the Golden Gate Bridge because seriously they're like so past a lot of them are just like I don't want to I don't want to be very PC about it

And it's like no, just pull right. It's okay. She can still be a feminist You can still dominate nothing is for every woman, but but many women I love it I know so right now you dating anyone are you I have been dating a few different gentlemen recently, okay? But nothing you know committed serious yet. So, taking my time out. I mean, I was. And true you meet so many. I have a beautiful team of men. Oh my God.

Yeah, let me tell you that's how I like it. I mean, I'm learning, you know, I've always been in committed relationships. So this is like my first time being completely free and just really getting the chance to know the people much better before just jumping in. That's exactly the touch mark of your inner 20s, right? I mean, that's, yeah. And my whole, like my whole adult life, I've been a wife or a fiance.

Right. So it's good to do that. I always talk to people that I'm like, you know, and I did that too. I used to, I was a serial man, I was ultimately 20s. And I kind of regret it because I think for a while no one should get married before they're 30. I think that you should take a time to figure out who you are, what you like. We all have some mental relationships.

I think that's because that's what we're like told socialize to do. But it's a really good time to like to always hear people like, I'm in love. Oh my god, my heart is so broken. However, cover we've been together three and a half years. I'm 18. I'm like you're 18. You're you're still hard though. It is hard when you become attached to someone. You become attached a lot of times to first love. So, I think it's your day now and having fun. So how did you get into the porn industry? Oh wow, okay. Well, I was working a corporate job, Verizon, where I was corporate.

Oh, you were, okay. I was going to nursing school. I mean, I was really going with a straight-edged life plan. And I ended up meeting a bunch of transactional girlfriends. For the first time, I never met any other girl like myself until I was 18. And I ended up meeting these group of girls, and they were living the fun life,

and they were dating all these boys, and they were traveling, and all these things. They kind of introduced me to it, and I'm very research-oriented, so I started looking up the market, and where the money comes in to play, and what kind of people are involved, or interested in girls like me.

So I really started doing some research, and I ended up putting a profile up on an adult dating site and I was the most looked at girl out of like 10 around the world. And so I wanted to know which website can you say? I'm not going to say. But I don't know. I'm really going to say, God I know. I got it. Totally. I'm so down with that. And the number one girl, so I'm like, well, I want to know why you're number one. You know, yeah, I'm taking some stuff. What's up with you? Right. And she was a porn star. And so I ended up messaging her and at first I'm advised and things like that.

And she got back to me and gave me her number. And I called her, of course, naturally. And she just hung up on me. And so I wrote her an email. I was like, you know what? I'm only 18 years. I was only 18. And I'm pretty sure you're coming to the end of your life cycle in this industry.

So it's OK that you hung up on me because I'm going to be number one. And you're not going to exist after a while. And then I got a call or email back and it was from her manager, her PIMP, her manager saying, I'm sorry, you've been talking to me the whole time. She wasn't prepared for your phone call. I'm so sorry I should have told you.

And then invited me out to Los Angeles. They made a bunch of appointments with different studios for me to meet people and I kind of networked and then I came back a week later and shot my first films. Well how? I was like, you know, at that time. Oh my god. And how was that for you? The first film? What was it like? I was the first film. I was so freaked out. I'm sure. I was at this giant mansion in Hollywood and you know, I go there. There's like a full production team and hair and makeup and other models there and I'm just like what did I get myself into? Because I thought I was just shooting pictorial for the project.

They didn't tell me that I was there. They were like, no, you don't have to do video if you don't want to. We're going to use you for pictorial since then, and kind of announce that you're up and coming. And I met me in person, they're like, oh my god, you have to start in this film. We're going to give you X, Y's the amount of money. We're offering you two scenes. You know you're going to be the star of this film.

Okay. And you know there's a lot of money. So I took it and I was like, fine, I'll do it. I wasn't prepared to shoot a movie. But I just got ready and I just went out there and there was like the makeup artist and the camera guy and the assistant and the model and the production, know people and I was just like okay but as soon as the camera came on and the lights were on my head was clicked the lights camera action and became a different character like I just went into it and just did it.

And who you having sex with explains to me that first sex scene you did? Oh God. He ended up you know he was as beautiful you know being you know very generously endowed blonde guy and then they're like, okay, he's going to be the bottom. And I was like, it makes sense to me in my mind, because in my mind, this little tiny girl, like, why would I be the top? But then I ended up topping him. And it wasn't my thing at all. But I ended up getting typecast, of course, and anything you do in entertainment as this dominant top because of my first thing. Oh, you have penises in play or was it all like? Yeah, I would, I topped him.

Okay, you had anal sex with him. Yeah, I mean, I was the aggressor in the situation. I was like, this is weird, because I never, I had never done that with him before. Right, right, and it was the first time I was on film. Yeah, I never thought I would have it before. That's what I was like, I'm stressed with him. I was just like first time I was on film. Yeah, I knew it was going to happen. That's a very easy thing. So I was just like, what is going on here? Why am I, you know?

Right, they just missed the end. They're not on the screen. They're like, this is weird, but okay, I'll do it. Right, and then you did it. And then you got to get then after that, you. It became just a natural thing. Every film I did, you know. So it was all your films that is what you did.

Most of them, I was always at just the top. And so I was with my ex partner, who's also also a porn star and then I was a bottom for him Okay, natural first and did you learn to enjoy it? To enjoy it or just work topping yeah, um I mean I guess there's some kind of enjoyment regardless if it's a physical Release right you'll get some kind of enjoyment from it, but it's not my natural place Right, I'm always been the bottom of the notification channel.

Okay. So what about, what were some of the challenges that you faced in being true to yourself and your general identity, like just like growing up in the film industry and everything, like what you do, what are like the biggest challenges you think? Do you think people are like misinformation, do you get treated differently? I, you know, I've been very lucky. I mean, I'm very well spoken, I think. And you are a business woman.

Yeah, thank you. So ours be both. So being able to come to any situation, I mean, I've done when I did the interview with Sué from Sué in the morning, he just interviewed Barack Obama. And then here I come onto the studio and I made him so nervous. And I got a chance to kind of educate the hip-hop community where you know they would have normally been like really freaked out by it but what the funny part was they didn't tell the team that I was a transaction because they wanted to see how the men react to me

and they were all over me and they were just so sexually talking and how beautiful she is that I would do anything for her and then later on in the show they told them about the T.S. and it was the way to show people that like you can use the idea of stigma just by the idea of it to have you know exactly hate for it or whatever but this group of like rappers and you know you know like you guys are just like all about it and then you know I've got the chance to kind of educate and talk and just you know open up their mind so I've been really lucky that I get to do so many incredible shows and media that I've been able to create, just walk in

and kind of throw away some of the... Stigmas, there's text. So I'm curious, so you must get hit down by like men like, whatever you go, and you probably can't even leave your house. I'm really shy. Right, I'm probably shy, but what happens when a guy, that you're interested in like, how soon do you bring up the fact that you are actually going to waste my time?

So you're like, hey, like, like, five minutes, like, what if you're trying in like how soon do you bring up the fact that you Oh, I'm reading it. It's not gonna waste my time. It's like, hey, like in five minutes, you know, what if you're trying to like, if some I'm usually never give any guy my number, but meet me out in public and try to, you know, ask my number, hit on me, and just go like, believe me, honey, I'm not gonna kind of girl. Then there's beautiful girls over there going and that usually makes them want me more. Of course. Whenever they do, they're like all over me. They end up following me all over the place and I'm just like, you know what? I'm a transactional girl. So we just get on my face please. And then they're like,

well, that's interesting. I never would have thought that. And they want to sit down with me. And then we have all the numbers in the end of, you know, following a little bit personality. And then sometimes they do, then they most of the time, I've never had a guy who's reject me. That's amazing. Come around to a person. But when you're getting down them with these guys and they've never, they're straight never had a guy who could reach out. That's amazing. Come around to it. Of course. When you're getting down them with these guys, and they've never, they're straight, and they've never been with, like, a lot of guys are freaked out. Like, there's always, like, one, I was like, I think it was George Carlin, and it's like,

the comedian, you know, Daisy Gays, like, one dick theory, it's like, Mendoor and other penis in the room, like, even important, I don't want. So how do they deal with it? They've never. I mean, I'm obviously, you know, conscious of the idea that I want to really express my femininity more when I'm with a guy who's never been with someone like myself. So it's not like I'm seeing they're holding myself and all my glory. You know, I'm very submissive.

I probably hide it more than I, you know, I'm not getting pleasure from that. There's a one and like, get them comfortable and get them to really just enjoy me as a woman. Amazing. And as time goes on, you know, they usually get very curious and comfortable enough that they feel like, well, you're my woman or you're my girl, so I want to be able to play you. And, you know, even though I would never do this for anybody else, I'd like to do something to play you.

So, I mean, I just kind of let them get used to it at their own pace. Right. I think that's great that you've had. So it sounds like you've had really positive experiences. Like you haven't really had any like horrible, like that your family supported, and all that stuff, and you're going to successfully clear, you're just like rising, you know, that's great. So, so it's what would be some advice then, like sex, it's your, your porn star, you also

have a lot of sexual experiences of men, your seductress, like what would be your, like, top, some of your sex tips for women, I've always asked you, what are your best, low-job tips, what are your best, whatever. What are the secrets that you've learned that if you had to pick your top tips for pleasing men? What do you think, what can we all learn from you? Oh gosh. I'm going to talk about this.

This is kind of good. It's going to be so weird. But I don't do, I don't deep-throat. I don't have a talent for it. And I've obviously been deep-throat at many times. I don't think it feels that great. Oh, interesting. I know sure it looks fantastic, but I don't think it's that pleasurable. So I do, I think my girlfriend's called the slip-in-side.

Oh, cool. This is my slip-in-side. So I was like, you know, you're working the head and the shaft as you're, you know, sucking it so you're giving that double sensitivity while you're, you know, playing with working the head and the shaft as you're, you know, sucking it so you're giving that double sensitivity While you're, you know, playing with it. I've better as me Right because you know, right. Yeah, and I watch their toes. I watch their feet Just see how close they're getting or how much pleasure they're getting from it And if they're getting ready to orgasm, by the way, they crunch the toes up, right? You know, tense their legs up

I always watch that right that's a really good tip Like guys, why do you do this? I'm just more focused, I'm like, I'm like, I'm just trying to look at all the things. And guys really like women to take a charge. So like if you want something, and you want them to do something, tell them, or just do it, make them do it.

Exactly. I can love it. I love that they love to be taken. It's so true that so many men complain that women, like I think one of the biggest complaints I ever met is that women don't take the initiative in the background, so that I'm always doing it and I get it and they want it.

They want to be dominated, but sometimes can you please just take the initiative, do something different. Tell me what value you want. Sit out of God's name, please. Sit on the table. Seriously, like one guy is going to kick you off his face and it's not the right person for you. Absolutely not.

Right? So what is your favorite sex position then? Oh gosh. I really have a thing for like being dominated at the point of rape. Like I have a thing for that. I like- You should do play like role-playing. I just like them to just be saltish and just take it.

So usually I think that kind of ends with me with my face down. I have to open the air. I like it. So the rate fans is like the number one top fan of the women. I think that men are really like sort of confused by it because they're like, well, I don't want to treat them in this way. So I like, I want to always like look into that like what it is about. I know right?

Because they're like dominating taken and just being so. It's so primal. It's a thing. It is the most primal thing. It's not like they call it rape, but I hate. Right. Right. Just being super dominate and just like doing you know what what you know what what feels good and Communicating like I think especially in your thing. I always say communication is a lubrication and so I feel like

Right, you've got to like you have to talk about what you want and what they want so that you place each other exactly And like anyone in a relationship right now and this happens all the time people like I've been like forever I get emails five, 10, 15 years, we, and I'm like, okay, what is your partner? Like, what's your biggest fantasy or what is, but we've never talked about it. We just do it. And no, it's to us, it's weird,

but it's like so normal. Like, I think also people are together for a while, and they don't even understand how to approach the subject. And I just say it's like better like sooner than later, just like talk about, you know, what you need. And I think this actuality, and it's probably the like sooner than later, just like talk about, you know, what you need. And I think this sexuality is probably the best part of being in a committed relationship because you get to explore, you know,

your fantasies with trust. Exactly. That's the biggest thing. And if you're not having good sex and like what was the point? Like I know I just spoke on a panel ex-present yesterday and I was like, hello, we're all like, it was a sex education panel, it was about a retail storage

and how so how they can be better at sex education. I was like hello, like we're all working in sex. There's people have so many problems with sex like why can't we all, you know, why can't there be more sex information out there? I don't think that there is a lot of great sex information. Actually, I was going to talk to you about sex toys. I know you have your own sex toy line. Okay. And I was going to about you you, like what's your favorite sex toy? Okay, besides what you can talk about your own line,

but then also what your experience is doing with sex toys in the bedroom and what you like. I actually never really used toys. I actually was for Baton from using toys on myself in my previous relationship. Only as long as I was on camera, like doing live camera shows like that, and he was home, I could use them,

but when he was never around I was not allowed to use it. He told you you weren't allowed? Absolutely. And you were very dumb. You were okay with that that he was okay? He was very dominant, so I was just not that. But you liked that. I did.

And his way was a bit of insecurity because you wanted to know that no one had been in there. No one had touched his property or his family. Exactly. So what about in terms of stuff? Because do you like anal toys? My favorite thing from my line itself is the loop because I mean obviously being informed I use tons of different loops. The thing that they actually I just need the only thing I really like out of my whole why? I mean they have grand grandios toys like really intricate

things. My favorite product ended up being the loop. Because water-based loops usually end up getting sticky. Right. And oil-based loops, I feel like you kind of lose that grip and that traction when you're having sex. If you use an oil-based loop, so you kind of lose the power and you know, control with your essential organ using an oil-based loop. So they made a water-based loop or like gel-like product that never dried out and got sticky and wasn't oil-based. So it was incredible for masturbation. That's a great thing. I love it.

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So now what's it all about? Well, I can't say. Nobody actually knew, but I was retired from filming for other companies for the whole year, because I didn't so much media. My public has always keeps me busy. I was doing parties and posting award shows and so I thought nobody actually knew that I would stop filming DVDs. But like probably like a couple of months ago we did some really many series from my website and

it was my hardcore kind of come back after like a year on my site. So yeah, I keep my site active, but I stopped filming for other companies. Could take all the money yourself. I would I make that right I'm still making there's still making money on DVDs I know it's a big like five bucks I'm like come on right we know business woman too, so you know I see yeah, so So can you describe to me one of your best sexual experiences that you've ever had and like why was it so great?

I know that's hard Maybe this was a big I should be beginning the relationship with one of my previous partners. And we were still running into those bodies. And I remember he was just kind of like really, like he would always just be in heat for me. It didn't matter like what was going on. He just wanted to take me wherever it was. Like I would even, it's not like there'd be so much sex.

I would like run from him and try to like lock my bedroom door. He'd be sitting there with a screwdriver, laughing, taking the thing off the thing, just saying, I'm gonna get you. Just wait. But you like that, that's the whole thing, right? Yeah, I'm gonna get you. You ran from me, so now it's gonna be worse. And I remember he came in the room and he literally took off the thing off the hinges and he's laughing, like, oh, you're dead meat now. And he had, like, I was sitting in this chair like, please don't, you know, no, I was sitting in a certain position in a chair like this. And he kind of just hiked my leg up and went in his cock kind of curved up. So it hit the prostate like

perfectly. And as he was just taking me wildly, I orgasm and ejaculated on my own, like, I'm not even touching myself. And he was just sitting there just so like in awe, like he was so powerful in his mind of that moment that he made me come inside and out. And he was just sitting there just so like in awe, like he was so powerful in his mind of that moment, that he made me come inside and out. And I was just a puddle of just shaking. And I was so shocked, like, what just happened? Oh my God, that's amazing. Because you're talking about the four-play,

the build of the anticipation, which is what's missing so much, I think, for people's sex lives. Like, touch people in long-term relationships, like, okay, we've got five minutes, we gotta do it. And it's like, that's why people aren't having great great sex because they're not, and I know it's hard and I know you can tease all day.

I even say four play all day. Looking at each other with little lips. Four play all day. But you're walking through and- Exactly. Any little thing. Four plays are not interested. I always say four plays starts after your last orgasm.

Like keep it going all the time. So what are some of your good four play tips? I always love to tease. I just love- all throughout the day, it doesn't matter if we're just sitting there having lunch with friends, something like that. I'll be under the table, stroking his leg and reaching up towards his thigh or, you know, just kind of taunting throughout the day. It doesn't matter what we're doing. It could be, you know, having, cooking a meal and I'll grab his ass as he was doing something and come up behind his neck and kiss him. Just, little things all day long to have them always constantly revved up for you. Exactly.

When you're ready, they've been ready all day. So they're right, you're coming in. And like you bring them to the brain. Right. And then they're totally everybody. I love that. That is a great one. So, um, okay.

So what about, we gave some sex tips earlier. Like, we asked you, what are some sex tips for, I asked for women or for men? Like what would you say has some good things that, what do you think that men don't really know about pleasing women that you think that they should? Again, it's just knowing that, we talked about since the beginning,

it's like knowing that women primarily love that, dominating, like even if she's the main triarch and she's the head and family, and every other way, even more so. Even more so, knowing that, like sometimes you just want to submit completely and just taking control and taking that power, you know, it's thrilling, it's exciting,

and meaning to know that women need that. Exactly. You need to still feel, it doesn't matter how, if you're executive of a Fortune 500 company, you need to have that sexual submission and feeling like a complete woman. Okay, have you ever been with a woman?

I have. Okay. Quite a few times. It's in terms too. So, okay. So, I was out for you. It just worked for me. I don't have a natural instinct to want to take a woman.

You know what I mean? I'm not sexually attracted. I love beauty. I love femininity. But I'll have that thing clicked. You don't press exactly in your mind that just makes you just want to do it. Right. I got it. So, do you have any good oral sex tips, tips though because you've had to do it. I'm sure you're really

thinking I've never done a oral sex in a while. I've never done a oral sex. Okay, so you just like played with one because I always man are always like hanggling for more. I watch your best oral sex tip. Just get in there. What about your job tips? You too. Again, this love inside. I love that. And then what about like balls? Like do you feel like that? That would be different from some men love them some men don't? I don't think like sucking them hard like balls? Like do you feel like it that would give me some men love them, some men don't? I don't think like sucking them hard is the thing to do. I think it's really sensitive, like licking them, squeezing slightly, fondling them. I think men love that, especially during blow jobs.

You know, right above, like, you know, you grab the cock and right underneath behind the balls, you press on that and that kind of like stimulates the juice of the brain. Yeah, it's like, like, the tain turn. Yeah, I think like playing and cupping and just kind of like stimulates the brain. Yeah, it's like the taintard. Yeah, I think like playing and cupping and just kind of fondling, then they love that. But if you found out that if you found that someone don't want their balls touched, well, if they're afraid you're going to hurt them, yeah. Right. Right. Right. Someone like, I've just done it.

I'm always like, one more time. I think because somebody doesn't hurt them. I think they like post-traumatic balls or someone something too hard and it hurts them. Speaking of balls, I actually have another thing to say because I'm wondering to my list stars. How are your balls? Okay, so I have a new product link called Emily and Tony. And I have to say I made this, but it's called Down Under Comfort. So it's for men, but women can also use it too.

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And again, even if you think you're always fresh and dry, you're probably not. So I'm checking out. And I've got, I've also massage candles and the lines on my computer. I'm going to be one of those. Thank you. I've ever used a massage candle. They're like, no, I haven't. Do you like massage?

I love massage. Right? Who doesn't? I always say like missages like the gateway to intimacy like a lot of couples again who aren't really connecting just great touch or partner very takes sex off the table and start to massage and these candles are They're romotherapy and they're coconut oil and soybean oil and they burn cooler than most candles And they they it's not waxing you pour on your lights warm It's like this feels so delicious And you can give your purse. I'm so happy. Thank you. I'll try that. I'll give you Um, yeah, you gotta try it. It's fun. And just I just laid it about I was all day like I

And I use as a moisturizer in the morning like on my body. I love coconut oil right? You're gonna love it Coconut oil is like the miracle thing great for a If you don't have any louvets you can get organic coconut oil. Oh my gosh. Yeah, you can use this as a loo because of the face. You can, yeah, eat it from my toes to the morning. I love your skin is so beautiful. Like what's your, what do you do? Um, I just try to eat all I guess.

Yeah, you healthy, you super out there. I like, I like really crazy, like, you know, like a lot of people out here in bed. I like it. I like it. I like really good food, you know, so I maybe, maybe just want to do it with it and I like to rest a lot You get a lot of sleep especially for tomorrow night the x-pizz wars. I'm gonna be on the right carpet So I'm gonna be doing you. What are you gonna wear?

Oh my god, surprise you have something fabulous. I used to be a salad. I used to be a salad So I'm gonna be taking a nap. Oh you did? I'm gonna wrap up. Maybe you can sell me. I need some. I've got all these things coming. I let totally need out So what would you say are some challenges in going back to the adult industry and what like? So you're so you're still in the adult industry because you've your media wise, yeah, but what was like your challenges that you faced when you were doing it when you were doing born? I'm really didn't have any challenges because I always had a separate life outside of it and like I'd go to LA and film once a month and then I just went back home and I was just a normal suburban girl

But I ended up having a stalker at one point and that was extremely frightening to me because this person ended up stalking me for many years to the point where I had to get a restraining order against this person. I went out after they saw you in the movies. Oh my God. In the film. He ended up being a vice president of an electronics company. Always the vice president.

And sold me. Right. And so was the guy Jelisa Ks back. He sold me right and so is the guy Jelisa back he's like a product and he had you know put like bugging stuff in these things and he ended up going on all these like escort sites and a review sites and anywhere he could just credit me he would say the most you know Scythnacious scanless things I mean you can look at me and say I'm just a little normal girl right I mean he said some of the most awful things.

And he was trying to really do real my career from the beginning, just making everybody think that I was just a psychopath. And he was obsessed. He was obsessed and I wanted nothing to do with him. And I ended up having to go to court and sue this guy. And that ended up being like, it was going on for years.

And I finally got like a emergency reshading order against this person that lasted for a few years I'm in he started to shit again. Oh my god Yeah, we do something a lot of you from in jail now. I think it's that time like it's to the point now that they'll be like the next thing I mean, I have like legal documents and he would want to blog and something you're gonna write because I'm working on a book soon Oh, you are well, you just have to see go come on. I'll talk about it. I'll talk about it I know. I'll tell you that. I mean, he's amazing. Yeah, we're working on finding the best team to put the book out

with. But I tweeted about the fact that I was going to be doing a book and he went on some blog as if he was like the expert on me as a bell. It was going to launch this unofficial autobiography about me. So of course, I went on and I posted up the confidentiality agreement and there was training order and all this stuff, so people would know. And no, I'm not taking you. I mean, I know that I'm a victim of something crazy about that. That's so crazy. That's okay.

Well, I'm glad you've had like really positive. I have one more question. I have a few more questions, but one more thing is like, did you ever consider, because you are so feminine, like getting the surgery bottom surgery? I would have had it done at 18 before I got into porn for sure So you would have so do you still have no desire for it? I had no so that's what I'm wondering so because it's interesting Because like so because you have breasts But so if you weren't important so now you think it's kind of like how you make your living

It's like well, but you know what ended up happening was I became very confident in my sexuality through porn. I was, you know, I was very raised traditionally, so in my mind I was meant to be completely woman and, you know, be a wife and that was the gist of it. But being in porn kind of people so glorified it and makes it a big deal about it. Of course, it made a wonderful living off of being this unique kind of person that I am, but I would have done it at 18 as soon as I could have. Okay. And now do you think you would? Oh, definitely. I'll definitely be doing it. You think you'll be doing it eventually for sure. Okay. Yeah. Something that I glorify,

I mean, the foreign world does, and it's a good deal for other people for my everyday life. It's not like I'm, you know, looking at myself like, oh, God, this is so great. Right. Exactly. So you sound like I don't utilize in my mind. So it's a unique, like, you have your own, your own thing. That's your thing. I got it. So you sound like I don't utilize in my mind. So it's a unique, like you have your own, your own thing, that's your thing, I got it. So you would just definitely got it, I got it. Okay, and so, okay, so I've got some emails from Westerners, I have to answer, I'll be sure I'm thinking, now I'll meet some sex and fight.

Okay, so do your Emily, there's a girl I'd like for a while, we date it for a little bit, never act sex, and then she tells me, I feel we've been moving too fast, and we should just be friends for now. Okay, that's fine with me. So we go out to dinner the next week, go back to our place, one thing leads to another, and we're about to have sex. When I said no, she got mad at me.

Was I wrong for turning her down, even though she's the one who want to take things slower? Thanks, Albert. I think she was just trying to make him chase it. Yeah. And then once you saw that he was willing to come after and make the chase, then she was ready to say, because you probably had a bad experience where she felt like she trusted somebody and then she just gave herself

and then after it was kind of like, yeah. So she probably wanted him to chase it once she saw that he could, and he would chase it. Yeah. And then she was going to give it to him, and then she was pissed like, wow, okay. So you just went backfire on her right exactly so exactly so much I think just men are like so confused by what the hell does it mean yes she wanted it she wanted and then she didn't want it so I don't

think I've heard that you were wrong for turning her down I mean that's how you felt in the moment you did the right thing maybe she'll come back here being respectful and if you weren't ready for nobody should ever have a sex if you're not ready to have sex. I mean, there were times where I've been with someone and I thought, yeah, I'm told in this person. And it has been, I'm like, oh, I'm actually not. I'm totally turd up. Like, you know what happens when I was you're in someone and they're like, this happened me recently. Well, okay, I can't do this. I got to change time. It was a while ago. I was in the summer and all of a sudden I was like, oh my god, I'm not in tune. Oh, like it shut down.

It's almost like, I don't know what happened. And it's like, we all have the right to say no. Like, no, it is not. I mean, yes, whatever. I'm going to have. So, okay. So Emily, Jeremy, I downloaded your Kegel Camp app after listening to your podcast. I can't praise it enough.

Long story short, I'll tell you what I have. After separation and divorce, it had been a while since I had sex. I'm in a new relationship now. And I feel like my performance and endurance are much better. I give all the credit to your Kagel Camp. Thanks Tim. So I have an iPhone app called Kagel Camp and you'll Kagel exercise and when I leave I was for women. I'm going to do it annually too. I always sit and I sit and I start. Right. People do it. They're like, oh you can do it. I have traffic light but no one remembers. So it's actually an app that pops up on your phone every day and

it'll say like time for Kagel Camp and So it's actually an app that pops up on your phone every day. And it'll say like, time for Kaggle Camp. And then it's five minutes a day, as my voice walks you through it. And people like email me, actually more men than women. They're like, I can stay harder longer. They're like, they're like, when I jaggly, like it shoots across the room. Like I was 20 again, and the women are having stronger orgasms.

So I love it, because I just made the app, and I'm like, I'll see what happens. You know, but people really like it. Okay, so hello Emily. I have a question for you. I'm not once bragged, but I do have an amazing partner when it comes to sex, but I do have one problem. When he is giving me oral, he hits my cloters with his tongue that makes me crazy, but for some reason I don't always come. And then he tells me just to just do it. This has happened on other occasions, and I was warning you it's possible to think about it too much. So I don't come. Knowing that I haven't before,

and in my brain, I concentrate too much on that, does it tell that it doesn't happen? It's not a problem of not feeling amazing, but I can't quite figure out the problem. I have no problem having multiple orgasms, or having sex, and I do masturbate, and I can't, and I find I can always make myself come either, but I don't ever probably have

vibrators to touch myself. Any advice or tips to be appreciated? Thank you. So she feels uncomfortable with her clitoris, but she can have orgasms other ways. I do think your brain is the largest sex organ and a lot of times women have a hard time moving orgasms. So we get into our mind like, is it going to happen? I hope it happens.

This is going to happen this time and then we stop ourselves. Well, sometimes she keeps pressuring her because he wants to feel like he's succeeding and pleasureing her so he's like just show me that I'm doing it Exactly and the pressure of him wanting to see the result of his work is probably making her Turning her off and guys are like just do it. I hate that. Come on baby come on I'm like you know I do Really like it's not you to even get me glass of water because we're starting

over where you're leaving my house. Because yeah, when guys say that, you know, just, I think it's confusing. But she has multiple organs and lorns. I think you're totally fine. And maybe just oral sucks is not the way that you're going to orgasm. And I do think again, four sucks.

One of the biggest tips I give people is just like, you have to take your mind out of it. I mean, you have to get into your body. I just get that. Like do you ever find some times that you are in your mind like I think I might do this at the phone's reading or whatever and that you have to just, it's almost like meditation like whatever you can just start with. Like from what you're, focus on your body.

If the person you're with can't take your mind up of everything else and he's doing something wrong. Exactly. But some people like me even I've been with good people, and I'm still in my mind, so I have to work at it. You're lucky. See, I mean, you just go there. Once he's grabbing me,

and I know that we're into it, and we're doing it, it's all about that moment. Like, I'm not thinking about anything else until probably after. Right, so that's good. Because a lot of people do have like all this brain stuff and their minds, and I do that too. But I've had to learn,

and I wasn't always easily orgasmic but I found like when that happens like you just have to like get back into your body and stuff. Okay so me as well you're amazing thank you so much for being on the show. Is there anything else that we need to know by you that's coming up that people can check out your site or like fun things that you won't that I know you won't talk about your book. It's a family time, we just find. But you will come back on the show talk about it. I will, we're going to be doing a book. I signed a television show deal about a year ago, so hopefully we'll start shooting that

soon. A television like a main show. A reality, a reality TV. About your life. Yeah, it's about a few different things. It's going to be exciting. Okay. I know, it's hard to talk about.

Right, I know, and my team was just talking to me the other night about really getting me involved overseas with selling products ad campaigns, being a spokesperson model for other mainstream commercialized things. So hopefully you'll get more of something like great thing products. You don't need to think that this is what we talked about yesterday

that the sex industry is changing, that there are more mainstream people who are interested. Thank God, like I was talking actually in my keynote, and I was like, I only will work for products that I believe in. Like I was having such a hard time at my keynote avian. I was like, how do you make money in this industry and not porn star? Like it's funny because people have got to be like,

are you nominated for something? You know what I mean? I'm not a porn star, I should have been a porn star. But no, but I think that it is changing and that people are looking to advertise and to have people like, I'll partially overseas. And I think, especially overseas. I think with the huge fan base that I have overseas and them not being a service market

I think my publicists and the you know people that were going to work with it's absolutely right like there's so many different kinds of products and different things that I can be involved with over Absolutely. I think that being a wonderful way to kind of broaden my career and you know the book and the TV show. Everything you feel so much about. Congratulations and some love so but you're having so. But you so you're ready to get back into the relationship. I mean I'm just a I'm a kind of committed kind of grot. I think of the best of my sexuality comes out when I have ultimate trust with someone. Exactly.

So that's kind of where it is hard to kind of have the yeah, I don't I don't give it myself completely unless I'm really, you know, right. You know, I'm committed to so you're kind of going in that direction now. Okay. But I think like I said, everyone have fun for a while and see when you're in the comments.

Yeah, I'm going to commit to the island that I wasn't. And then how about your social, so your Mia-Isabella.com, which you can't have a website. Twitter is the Mia-Isabella MIA. Isabella the Mia-Isabella? Isabella the Mia-Isabella? Isabella the Mia-Isabella, right?

Facebook the same, the Mia-Isabella. And you know, go to the website, check out my tweets and, you know, you can tell me a little bit. Great. Well, it's been, thank you so much for sharing this thing. Thank you. People are just like, I've been very confused about things and I just think you have cleared it all up.

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