Sex With Emily - SWE: Multiple Orgasms

Episode Date: July 28, 2013

I interviewed sex coaches Celeste and Danielle on how to have multiple orgasms. Because seriously who doesn't want to have multiple orgasms? If you want to give and receive multiple orgasms you have to work on your moves and your mental state. You can’t have one without the other, unless you’re one of those lucky women who orgasm while riding a bicycle. Many sexual problems stem from not telling your partner what you want. Sometimes you want to be cuddly and cute and other times you want to be tied up and spanked. Be blunt and communicate your desires. If you’re not sure how to say, “honey I want you to bend me over the kitchen table,” this podcast will help. Celeste and Danielle also talk about what it means to be a sexual person. Does it mean you have to think about sex all the time? Or you're more sexually open than other people? Most everyone is a sexual person. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re too sexual or not sexual enough. This podcast will help you unlearn social stigmas about sex and teach you how to be more honest about your desires. Also: Is it wrong to fantasize about someone else during sex? How do you seduce a woman? No, it does not necessarily involve lighting candles and soft music. How to throw a woman against a wall (in a sexy, not painful way.) How to get connected with your own desire And ten of my favorite sex tips. If you want to change your love life, check out: Promescent, Crazy Girl, Max4Men, Masque, Good Vibrations, and Adam and Eve. Use coupon code Emily for 50% off anything at Adam and Eve + free shipping + 3 free DVDs + a free sexy gift. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl and Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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that you're like, I can't quite get to the bottom of it. Please call us tonight, 800, 400, 3697. That's 800, 400, 3697. It's been great hearing from you. We're getting some really good calls tonight. So, because we can kind of talk about everything here because they're courses, I want to hear so my next one, you have a lot of interesting courses that you teach that I definitely want to get into, make sure you guys list them and when they're coming up. But one of them

is around becoming multi-organic. You have, and I'm wondering, it's for men and women, right? You've multi, like you teach, can men and women both learn, can any man or women learn to become multi-organic? Yes. Yes. We did it in private sessions. We did not teach it in the class. Okay. Because, you know, it's very individual. And when we do hands-on work with people, so we really see how they, you know, how they climax and how they work with the body and how they actually build a rhodic energy in the body so we can help them become aldergas make. That's amazing.

So you actually, they go in and you watch them arouse themselves and how they go through it. That's how to do that in front of someone. I mean, you guys are doctors or you know? Yeah, yeah. I think at first some people feel a little bit like nervous, but usually like after just having a few sessions with us, I mean we're not going to do that in the first session. Right, you'll walk in, you're like, Dr. Pants, right?

Exactly. There's a corner. No, we help people feel really, really comfortable about themselves and in their bodies before we go into something like that. But you know, any, any man or woman can learn how to do it in a... A man too. Absolutely. You know, there's two separate functions there that happen at the same time for most men, but when you separate them out, men can have a number of orgasms before they actually come.

Wow. Yeah. That's interesting. Okay. I read that for us. I also want to add that the power of witness, we are, like we are so ashamed when we are pleasureing ourselves. There's so much shame in the culture around like so pleasureing and just being witness doing this is so powerful, so powerful.

People just, just this segment of being watched is completely transformative. Well, before we go on, can I say two things? Please! One of them is that I'm so happy to be on Alice because it's my favorite radio station and I wasn't good all the time. And the other thing is I really want to give a shout out to my sisters who have a movie in It's Pride week, you know coming up and I'm really excited about it and my sisters have a movie called shafted It's a short film and it's playing in the frame line film festival Oh, that's great. It's a great film festival. Yes, and Wednesday night

We're gonna have a by-be-queue a bisexual barbeque in Delores Park and then we're gonna march over and watch all of these films and the film shafted isn't it? Oh, I'm so congratulated. And it's about losing the sex toys in a lesbian divorce. So it's a very, very funny story. So it's a great movie and I love for people to see it. Oh, that's great. It's this Wednesday. Yeah, this Wednesday and then also Sunday,

and in funding Girl Shorts, which is another one of the showings. Okay. Got it. Pride Week is so much fun though. I know I love it. I love it. It's a lot of fun. A lot of parties going on.

We've got to do something fun next week for Pride Week. I always go to Bambootalounge. Oh, yeah. Really? And it's a good time. It's crazy. Open bar. Let's go. Let's do it. We're time. It's crazy. Open bar, let's go. Let's do it. We're down.

It's pride week. We can say, what are you guys doing for pride week in San Francisco? 800, 400, 3697. We got to just link fun. Okay, let's talk to Sherry and Concord. Hi, Sherry. Hi. Hi.

Hi. I'm Mary and I have two kids. And it just seems a lot of people have been calling in and a lot of their problems at least for me sound like it stems from not being honest with their partners about what they want or like in bed. Right. Because some days, you know, I want really cuddly and I want my husband to be really gentle. And other days, I want to play it rough and role play and you know it's just I don't know for us we just tell each other what we want and depending on the day.

Wow that's amazing how long have you been together? We have been together since for four years now. Okay. So not real long but I mean since the beginning, three months after we started dating, we just have been very honest and open with what we like. Even when it comes to sexism always, I guess there's a lot of different ways for us that it's sexual, but not necessarily the average sex, I guess. Who's here for you? Yeah, you have her text.

So you do role-playing, you said? Yeah, I do role-playing and sometimes, you know, if things just aren't feeling right for me, or we'll talk about it, sometimes just talking about sexual things can be a good sexual experience for the night like we might tell each other that not a thing do you want to do to each other right but you won't even actually have sex but you just talk about it you guys are perfect I know that sounds like you're kind of amazing and I mean I think the biggest case of it oh go ahead for us like we read this comic through

Tripod can we read a whole bunch of other books about sex and stuff because we're very sexual people and the biggest thing that we read is that tell people what you like you have to know what you like first and you have to tell your partner. Exactly. And wow. And Cher you're just touching the most important thing around sexuality and this is communication. When you start communicating what you need and what you want and what turns you on, that's what allows the development of the sexual relationship. People kind of like expect that their partner's going to read their mind and if they really love me,

they would do no exactly what I wanted. That's not happening. So that's a wonderful example that you're giving. Well, and my friend says, well, I can't tell if you want to be with me or not. And I was like, well, stop looking at them with kitten eyes across the room and tell them, well, be with me or not. And I was like, well, stop looking at him with kitten eyes across the room and tell him, well, you want me or not.

Right. If you want sex, ask him if he wants you. If he doesn't, he'll say no. Right. Now, you sound like a good person for to talk to. You really? This is like the healthiest sex call. Yeah, I know.

It's like, and you have such a well-ground sex life. I don't know. For me, it's not something to be embarrassed about. For a while, my husband was, because he's raised Catholics, but... There you go. You were always Jewish, so we're comfortable talking about that. That's right. But no, you kind of brought this out in your husband.

Well, because I'm a very sexual person, and it's not something I feel like I ever need to hide, or I need to make into something else. Right. And so, you know, I just would always ask, well, what do you want? What do you in the mood for it? This is what I really want. Good for you. How do you think you got that way?

Probably because I have five older siblings who are all very sexual. Okay. And they're very open about it. That's great, Sherry. So I'm proud of you. My husband, Gwaffee, thanks, Sherry. Thanks for calling. Keep having good sex about it. That's great, Sherry. So I'm proud of you. My husband, you think Sherry, thanks for calling. Keep having good sex for everyone. That's great. I definitely will. Okay, good. It sounds like it. I think that's interesting when Sherry says,

like, I'm a very sexual person. I mean, don't do anything that most people could learn to say that, even if they're not right now, they can kind of learn to be like, I'm a sexual person, after they take one year, you know, it's like you're born with, per se. Like you could become more sexual. Like there's some, I think actually it is something that everyone is more. I mean you're born, you know what's about it. You know what's about it, you know what's about it.

You think it's right. Well, no, I mean I think actually people are very, very sexual when they're born and then it's sort of like, our culture says, no, you can't be and pushes us away from it, pushes us away from it and then we can rediscover that part of ourselves. Exactly.

And so, you know, we help people rediscover, and yes, every person could say that sentence, I'm a very sexual person, but, you know, sometimes it takes a lot of work of uncovering what the culture has taught you you're supposed to do and not do. Right. Or what? That's a lot of what your courses do, too, right? You kind of like, okay, let's get it all out now. Like, what did you learn?

What are these things that you tell yourself? And especially in individual sessions, too. You know, we really go deep in those sessions and look back at their family experiences and their life experiences because you get a lot of lessons in your life about who you're supposed to be sexually. And so to take away the supposed to and find the I want to and like really listen to your body and what it's saying, that's how we teach people to do that. This is what you guys do on your one and one.

Yes. Less than Danielle.com. That's where they can find to do that. This is what you guys do on your one and one. Less than Danielle.com. That's where they can find you. Okay, let's talk to Candice in free months. Hi Candice. So I had just been listening and could really, really to one of the earlier colors that was saying that she felt really disconnected to her different sexual partners

because I had been like that in the past. So I went so that I would only be attracted to somebody if I knew that I wouldn't want to spend time with them. Okay. And that sounds weird. No, I thought that would be more. Yeah, we're like, I would be attracted to them because I know I would never want to have lunch with them or anything. It would be very respectful. And then I know emotionally that I could be totally disconnected.

And actually my most recent relationship I have been really into that person and the sex has been to a whole nother level. I feel like maybe it is that whole brain thing or something where it is emotional but I have never had sex like this before. It is incredible. But I feel like where I met now and my question for you is that we've been together for about a year and a half and I've kind of been reverting into picturing different people while we're having sex. Not anybody I've ever been with, but I feel like maybe I'm reverting to something that's not healthy and I just didn't know if that could categorize as some type of fantasy or if that's something that

maybe has a great question about. It's a great question, Candace. Thank you so much, Candace. I think it's wonderful and there's not enough that's being said about fantasies and how people kind of use them in order to go over the, you know, like, overboard and have, and climates. And we need fantasies and it's a wonderful and we can still be very connected with our partners, with our partners and still have fantasies. So there's nothing wrong with you. Let's start there. Okay. You're completely healthy.

Oh, that's good to hear. I mean, I haven't told my partner that I've thought about that, but I mean, it's just interesting because it is, I think, in that realm of fantasy, it's not like I actually want to be with anybody else. I just, there's just something like erotic about it, I guess. I don't know. And it's so fun. Sometimes you can talk to your partner about it, and you can actually bring fantasies of other people into your experience, you know, where you sort of say even out loud what's going on through your minds with

each other and share that and it like adds a whole different dimension. So, you know, but you can decide is it something you want to share or not? That's up to you. But, you know, it's only, it's only unhealthy if you're thinking I don't really want to be with my partner. I'm not that intimate and I'd actually like to be somewhere else. But, you know, if you're feeling great about your connection and you're having some fantasies while you're having sex, that's wonderful. And is there a lot of men do that too, right? I don't even know. I don't even know.

I don't even know. I don't even know. I don't even know. More men do it than women, but many, many women do it too. Exactly. We do. And seriously, that's the only thing that someone needs just to go over the edge. You know, just a little bit of fantasy.

Yeah, exactly. Candace sounds like you're right on cue here. Well, thank you for the feedback. Sure. Keep having good time. Bye Candace. Bye. Thank you. You don't hear a lot about that. Women are always concerned.

You're thinking about another woman while I'm having, you're having sex with me, but I guess you don't hear that often that women are doing that, although they are, of course, they are. But I appreciate Candace Cull. So what would you select in Danielle, say that, like, what are the most kind of the basic, but the common couple that come to see you? Well, how would you describe your typical couple that comes in and what their issue is, if you had to?

Yes, usually we get couples that have different desires. How would you describe your typical couple that comes in and what their issue is if you had to? Yes. Usually, we get couples that have different desires in terms of one person, one to have more sex and the other person have one to have less sex. And another typical couple would be some couples that are in long-term relationship and just stopped having sex. So they would be like two million. Yeah, okay. And so let's talk about the second one,

just because that is just the number one thing that's get asked. So just if we get into that specifically, the couple, long term couple, they were having great sex, say at the beginning, let's just say for, say here, and they're not anymore because they had kids or because something else happened, and they're concerned, because they're like or because something else happened and they're concerned

because they're like, am I ever gonna get it back? And so you do see them one-on-one or maybe you take one of your courses and what would you suggest for a couple of like this? What would happen on the first day? So really we see the couple together and then we see them individually to see, like people have different stories when we see them

individually. And we definitely work with them on, you know, like, first thing is, you know, like, the beginning of relationship, everyone have sex. You know, if you're like excited, the hormones supports the desire to have sex constantly, you know, women are not cyclical, it's like really exciting, but over time, kids get in the picture, even if kids don't get in the picture, actually.

Right. You know, people get wrapped up with their own lives and careers and kids and whatever is coming and they forget to invest in sex. They forget. That's just like life goes by, life goes by and like, oh look, we have an sex. Yes, that's usually the main problem. They forget to invest in sex. And they forget to keep seducing each other.

They forget to communicate around what they want and what about the fantasy and they keep doing the same thing they did at the beginning and that is boring you know. Like what kind of same things in the beginning for example? Like whatever you know like what have we're getting to routines. Right. You know they keep sexful late at night. They forget you know to seduce each other. They expect it you know like gonna they're gonna be turned on immediately just by someone like you know like hey they want to have sex. That's not a selection line. Or are you horny? That's not a seduction line. Right. Right. Or I'm horny. Let's do it. Oh, that's the worst seduction.

That is the worst. Yeah. That's what it takes away. So let's get into seduction then. Because we talk a lot about, I mean, can't do this other stuff. We need the seduction. So what are some seduction techniques that come up or that you would teach in this situation that we can talk about. Yeah, I think we talk, you know, we teach men, well, we teach men how to seduce women a lot and it's a lot.

It's a charming house. Like, wasted space. And I hate Texas. Yeah, I'm thinking like, you guys are gonna talk about all lighting candles. Oh, no, no, no, no, no. All that. I mean, okay, here's the truth of the matter.

For some people, they really need to relax and have a transition. I mean, women kind of's the truth of the matter. For some people, they really need to relax and have a transition. I mean, women kind of like, we're multitasking all the time and we've got 10 million things on our mind and we're like, oh, what do I need to do this and that and the other thing. And we sort of, it's really hard for us to focus in on one thing.

And so sometimes we need a break. That's why sex happens a lot on vacation. And so if you can create a situation that feels like a vacation, like you are out of the moment you know like out you know even in your house and that's why the candles and the bathtub and the want you know like a bottle of champagne or something that's why what that does is sort of says okay we're transitioning but that isn't the only way to do it and women don't only want like soft music and romance you know they want to be thrown up against the wall and you know said oh my

god you're the most gorgeous woman that I've ever seen or you know much dirtier than that that I couldn't even say on the radio and we teach men how to throw women up against the wall and they have to practice. Yes. You teach men how to throw women against the wall. Yes. We do that enough. In a good way. In a good way. In a loving gentle passionate way. Men do not do that enough way and we teach women to surrender to this because what we see a lot is women There's so tense that they might end up having sex because you know like many women don't get the sex that they want Right unfortunately I find a lot of the women like to be dominated. Oh, yeah, like that. They love it Definitely women love to be dominated, but many times women don't get you know like high quality sex and Four plays like okay two kisses here two pieces there, I'm done.

Exactly. Yes, and some men really confuse dominance with being mean. And those are two very, very different things. You can be so gentle and so seductive and so intense and so passionate and you can be really good technically and still be very dominant. You can say, do this right now or don't look at me. Or, you know, just something that like sort of like, get some, press somebody's button.

You need to find out what those buttons are. You need to talk about them, but it doesn't have to be mean. People get very confused about that. Right, okay. So these are some, I can't believe you teach men how to throw a woman against the woman. Yeah. You're loving women. Yeah, of course.

It's like, like 101. So let's do 101. It's like, boom. Against the law. And what's amazing is that men actually learn, we not only teach them how to throw women against the wall with, teach them how to do it with a place of power and bring the desire to the picture,

because of just like doing the technique is not enough. So how do you do that then the second part? Feedback, feedback. You know, there's some things that are experiential that you can talk about. You can't. You can't. You can't.

It's a difference in our coaching. But it is really getting men connected with their own desire because men become very disconnected from their desire, especially if they are nice guys, because they think it's bad to really, really want a woman. And it's like, that's what women want more than anything in the world.

They might not want it from the construction worker in their building. But they definitely want it from their partner, you know. And so men think that women don't and they don't do it or the men think they get mixed messages that they're afraid they're going to get rejected. They're terrified of rejection. You know, I have this new thing that I'm on right now. It's like practice getting rejected. You know, like, just go to people and talk to them. You know, ask them out. I'm practicing. I'm practicing being rejected these days. Yeah.

I'm like, yes, absolutely, because you know, you want it, you want it, like it's like a tally mark. It's like, okay, that means I did it. That means I tried. Like that is a success in and of itself, you know, and yes, if you're the one, like if you're a man, you're the one who's always going to have to be doing the, you know, the first move, then you, you have to get rejected. You have to learn how to do that. It's going to happen, you know. So, but I, but I was feeling bad that I was saying that and not trying it myself. So, I'm, you know, I'm going to go out and see you. You're saying, you're singing. I'm not saying if I was single or double, but you don't just say it. So I'm doing it. I'll like it. I want to add them, you know, the approach is many times it's, you know, like, men and women are equal. They are equal. They're equal in so many ways. We're very equal. It's work.

We're doing the same things, hopefully, you know, like we have career opportunities. They're the same. But when it comes to the bedroom, women want to be taken. We don't want to be taking care of. We don't want to be approached. We don't want to be be seduced. So there's no, if there's no erotic charge, it's boring. Right. Exactly. So how do you tell them so they seduce them at home against the wall? What are some other things? The seduction phase. Is it hard to talk about because you have to show it? Yeah. Okay. I would love to throw you. I guess it was. Okay. It's only radiance, you know? I just do not get thrown against the wall enough. I just say, I like that.

I can remember the times I've been thrown against the wall very clearly and it is not happening in a while. It's hard to see that the guy doesn't know one, it's the right time to do that. It's just to now, tonight. It's now, it's now. And it's like when she's walking up to like, be like, hi, how are you? It's like a little peck on the cheek, and then you just grab her, you know?

The work's fun. Yes. We actually have three workshops for men, because you know, there's a lot to learn. What are the other workshops for men that you guys have? So the level one is, you know, one-on-one, women-one-one, that's more level two, actually. That's more level two, but then level two,

we teach men about passion, bringing passion to second relationship. We teach about toys, we teach about family ejaculation. And we teach men how to throw women against the wall. And the level three we teach men how to dominate. How to be dominant, how to bring this dominance and how to do role play. And really get into women's fantasies

and understand them and ask her sort of like elicit them from her in a way where she feels really accepted and comfortable to talk about what she wants because you know, every woman has a different fantasy about that. You must have seen so many amazing stories and from couples and just you went from like nothing to this amazing like having.

The transformation is profound, you know, when we do those exercise with couples and we do with individual coaching, coaching too, not only in classes, you see a man that is like, you know, kind of like the posture is kind of like, you know, like low and, you know, not, not confident. And he just like becomes taller and high and confident and it happens in a second. Really? Yes. It's profound, it's transformation is profound.

That is unbelievable. How about the hands-on part now? When your class is, how does that incorporate? Like let's say a man's class, how are the women, how are the women models involved in that? Yeah, well we have both men's and women's classes, the men's hands-on. And so basically in the men's workshop, the women come in and the men get to practice all over body touch. Now,

the men stay closed and they wear gloves for certain parts of the touch, but they do get amazing feedback on what women want and I'm telling you, it's not just the men who appreciate this. We have wives and girlfriends emailing us, sending us flowers to one workshop. Remember this one time, like my man suddenly, he looks at me in a way that he's never looked at me before. It's like he has eight hands, he's touching my body in a different way. You know, it's like changes their sex like that.

It's amazing, and when you take your courses. Thank you. And in the women's workshop, we have men male models and so they can learn how to be better lovers to men too. Do you want to, he's volunteering a model. Yeah, I'm good. We would love to have you. I, can I just, can I rewind and go all the way back to square one because you're already

talking about people that are already there and they're already having sex and stuff like that. Do you, have you, in this course, have you found maybe the best opener of meeting somebody? I think that's the biggest fear for guys. You know, when we go back to rejection, the best opener like in a bar or in a club or just the best way to approach the best openers to be confident, not to fake it. Yeah, but what do you say after that? You can you know, you can stand up straight and all that. I'll tell you what, the best opener is to say just about anything.

They have done research on this. So it turns out that if you just get connected with yourself and are really, really sort of like comfortable in your body, you know, we teach people to take some deep breaths before they make the approach and to really find out who they are as a man. You know, not like who should I be or who should I model myself after because that's just faking in and eventually she's going to find out

you're not that guy. So you might as well be the most powerful, confident version of yourself, and then whatever comes out of your mouth at that moment, that's the thing that you're supposed to say. So it's not, you know, there is no, if you're using canned like, hey, what's up, you know, you're gonna sound canned,

but if you're really connected with yourself, you're gonna know what to say, you're gonna be in the zone, and you're gonna be able to pick up women. Successfully. Yeah, it does. What do you do now? Me? You don't do anything.

I don't do anything. I've never asked a woman to dance in a nightclub. Yeah, I know. That's so sad. I'm saying I still approach women, but yeah. I don't know. It's in a weird way. What about working with, okay, the woman's brain, they always say is a just large sex of work.

What does that mean exactly? The woman's brain, how does men have to get into her brain? Well, I think it has a lot to do with emotions. And this is why in our men's workshop, we don't just teach technique because women go to sex for an emotional experience. That doesn't mean they want intimacy necessarily or to live happily ever after or to you know like It's it but we do want to feel something and so if you can get a woman into a place where she's really feeling something Just you know some kind of intensity some kind of like oh he's taking me some place that I've never been before that's What turns women on and so that you know

Those are the places that we teach men to take women emotional experience and, and also to deal with women around their emotions, which men get very, very overwhelmed by. Thank you. We have a patented method that works. To you? No, yeah. Level one. Level one, we choose it in level one. In level one, it's a head method of making doing all their emotions.

Yes, yes. Yes, yes. In the hands of women's emotions, she'll never trust you. She'll never trust you to really open up and be completely wild and sexual. Can I just get a list of the men who have taken your course? No, we're going to help. That's what I'm talking about. And we're going to seriously, you know, people can buy lists for certain things like political

candidates, buy lists if you were going to vote. I would just like to buy the list of the men who you think would be good for me if gone through your course. That would make me really happy and then to not mess around. I like all the emotional connection stuff. It's really good. What are your upcoming stuff that people can take your classes? We have the men's, we come in extra-lover workshop on July 26th.

We have the workshop for women, unleash your magnetism, drive your men wild on September 12th. We have a couple's workshop on October 25th. You're ready for Halloween because you know it's the fantasy workshop. That is the fantasy one. And then up until that point people can just see you as individual counselors. Like you always have open to therapy counseling and it's Celeste and Danielle.com. Yes.

Okay. Any parting words that we need to know. I mean, anything new since I last had to do new techniques that you're developing that we haven't covered yet? Well, I definitely want to say, you know, sign up on our Facebook page because we're on Facebook like everyone else on the planet and... Yeah.

I mean, I think we're coming up with new techniques and new ideas all the time. Is that really impressed by the stuff that you guys have done? We have a newsletter that, you know, people can sign up for on our website every month we send out a sexy trick, like how to be an animal or like do we just, and we also talk about sex experiences that you have in the Bay Area.

I love you, you said you can get them. And so it's a great way to kind of get updates on what's going on. And I don't know. Okay, so lessongenial.com. That's easy. You can find out my website as well, sexwithenle.com.

Thank you so much for joining me tonight. You're going to have to come back. There's always so much to talk about. Thank you. It's a little fun to have you with me too. Thank you. We'll be right back with top 10 sex tips you've never heard. And you're going to want to hear them here.

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Hey, we're back. I love Slesa and Danielle. They're so awesome. we're back. I love Celeste and Danielle. They're so good. They're awesome. Are they? I think we should take some of their courses. I mean, let me watch them first. You want to watch their courses first?

Watch the courses and then maybe I'll take one. I think their courses are awesome. I'm just shy. Other people are in the job right now. You are the shy, aren't you? I'm totally shy. Oh, that's so cute. Okay, so that was really, really interesting. other people in the general right now. You are the most shy aren't you? I'm totally sure. Oh, that's so cute.

Okay, so that was really, really interesting. I have so many, there are workshops. Okay, so we're going to talk about, this is the 20 favorite sex tips ever. I broke it down into 10. These are like going through all these sex tips of like where everyone's, I found this list and it's like, here's the top and I picked out ten of them and feel

free to join me with your favorite sex tips. If you have anything at all, they're like you know what I'm this is what worked for me and I want to share it with you like something that you never would have thought or something that always worked for me and menace you can also pipe in with your sex tips too. I love to. Okay, we've got the first one. It's called the Randy Rub a Dub Dub. Before you make love, take a bath together. Prepare the bathroom beautifully beforehand

with fluffy towels and candles. Then put two drops of Petrule oil, three drops of sandalwood, and three drops of lavender oil into your bath water. Petrule and sandalwood are two cents at aromat therapists for this tips from 1987. They believe awakened sensuality. If you're not down with Petrule. Is a guy supposed to do this?

Or a woman supposed to do this? Well, they do it together. The combination of cents and warm water sensations will completely prime your body's and minds for truly sensual and erotic experience. Lavender, sandalwood and patchouli oil. I don't like the smell of patchouli. I don't know. Is it me? Am I just like... Uptight? Uptight. Do I just think that kind of stuff is just corny?

Yeah. I mean, I can see what you're saying, why it's corny. But... Yeah. People, like everyone here is complaining about sex. That's why we have the show that it's like, it seems so silly, I think, to go through the threshold of like, oh, we're gonna take a sexy bath, but sometimes that's kind of what you need to do. I mean, it is kind of corny. Yeah, I don't know.

I just feel, I don't know, sometimes, yeah, like the stuff of the candles. I mean, girls, I assume they like that, but sometimes just think it's a little corny. Yeah, I know. Or bullish. Baths are nice together though. Have you ever taken a bath for someone? Not a bath, but I'm a big fan of showers. Remember how I was telling you that story? Yeah, you shower. Yeah. I was uh, you were down at Coachella. Yeah, we didn't run any in each other, but I know which is sad. Coachella is a big music festival in Palm Springs and Coachella is a big music festival in Palm Springs and, or India. And I was having sex with this girl in a shower. And she, you know, it's really hot down there.

It's like, oh, this is like 100 degrees. She's at 100 degrees. For sure. And I take really hot showers. The girl like passed out. I thought she died. She just passed out and just fell right there. Was it from your sexy love making? Probably, you know, because I'm that good.

But how, I mean, I literally, I thought she was dead. Oh my God. But a bit of big fan of the showers though. The showers are good. The showers are anything watery. Yeah. Hot tub. But I don't know about that. Was she okay? Yeah, she was fine. She came too. Yeah. Okay, she came too. Thank God. We don't, we don't know. Oh, Was she okay? Yeah, she was fine. She came too. Yeah. Okay, she came too. Thank God.

We don't know. I would have had a barrier in the desert. What'd you say? I would have had a barrier in the desert. Oh God. Thank God. I'm glad you're all back. Okay.

Here's one. On hand, your man. Give your man a massage without using your hands. Before you begin, and dress your partner, but make sure that he stays warm. If the room isn't toasty enough, cover him with towels or sheets. Then keeping your hands at your side to behind your back,

stroke his body with your face, hair, and, and breasts. Once he's totally relaxed, you can rub these body parts all over his body and he'll be happy to rise to the occasion. So they're saying, don't go right for the main event. Just slowly massage your partner all over, not using your hands, but using other body parts. Yeah, but just don't take too long. It's called a rousal. It's like turning, it's like desire. Yeah, but you ladies talk about how it's so fun to tease him and stuff like that.

It's not fun. Some guys really, really love that, men. To be teased? Yes. Menace, I swear to God. There's a point where it's just too long. It's too long. Three minutes? No, we're not talking here like an hour, but we're saying even 10 minutes is 10 minutes longer than usual.

Yeah. I think men like the teased. 10 minutes is a long time. Yeah. Yeah. I think men like the tease. 10 minutes is a long time. Yeah. Men like the tease. What are you going to set your stopwatch or something? OK. I'm going to put a buzzer on those little clocks that you do.

Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Do it. Done. Let's be true. What are we going to do with you? OK. Number four is the heavenly heartbeat.

To feel more connected and bad, tune into each other's heart rate. Let your hand on his chest and have him do the same. You might be surprised how easily you can become synchronized. Since heart rate speeds up during orgasm, if you stay hand to heart connected when you do it, you'll feel how wild you're driving each other. Crazy. It's a lot about your breath and your heart rate and stuff during sex. Do you know that?

You can be like synchronized together. Yeah. Has a man ever checked a heartbeat? No, but maybe he should. Well, when we do that, right? They always like check a man's heartbeat and how, you know, how fast is... I don't do that. You don't do that? Check his heartbeat one.

Yeah. Just like, you know, during or after... Or like when you're lying on a guy's chest, you can hear his heartbeat, I love that. I love lying on a man's chest. Lying on a man's chest is the best thing in the world. Women are really into that. You're not into it?

I found. You didn't hide, you want to roll over. Yeah. I love cuddling in like a... But I just wanted to see if a man ever... A man never checked out my heart rate now They should they should okay. I haven't done it But I'll do it since you you mentioned it tonight. Okay, you will with the next with your next lover. Yes, okay

Marceline wants to know if you checked after she fell out of the shower. Did you check her heartbeat? Oh The grow that passed out in the shower Did you check our heartbeat? Oh, the girl that passed out in the shower? Yeah, well, like it was weird because her eyes like rolled back from her head and stuff like that. That's not good. Scared the hell out of me. I'm glad she's okay, Mama.

Yeah, I'm happy to. Okay, so the next one is putting on the ritz. You know how hotel sex is always extra hot? Try recreating that away from home atmosphere in your own bedroom. First, purge your room of any family photos or office equipment. Then buy sheets with the highest thread count,

per inch count, and you can find, look for 200 and above, which feels super silky to the touch without the cheesiness of satin. No satin sheets, man. You don't have satin sheets to you. No way. Invest in some thick fluffy robes

to lounge around it. And for the ultimate thick fluffy robes, allowing you around it, and for the ultimate hotel-style indulgence, that a betray of champagne and finger foods to savor after you make love, you both feel like you're an incredible vacation for the rest of the world. What do you think about that? I totally agree with all that.

I think men, I have to give advice to men, and you probably agree with me. Invest in your beds. Yes! Invest in your beds. Yes, I invest in your bed So glad you said that as nice as possible. We were totally talking about this the other night that like Guys like my friend was hanging out the first time she went to her now. Has been's bed It was like shake it smelled like sweat He had just you could tell like the sheets were like from college and ripped and just oh yeah You got guys got to have nice beds.

Invest. It's like best thing like women love it. They do. It says a lot about a guy too. Yeah. I think you really need good sheets. Go to you know what's great sheets over stock.com. Yeah.

I'm just going to plug them. They've got amazing sheets like 500, 600 thread counts, super cheap. You can get some sheets. It doesn't cost that much body like 60 bucks get a new Comforter minus you've good sheets. Oh, I got yeah, I have a beautiful bed. I have a Simmons beauty rest pillow top All that it is the best thing ever and you got nice sheets. Yeah Well cooler. They're brown They're like tan maybe maybe. That's good for you, Memphis. I'll go now.

And then with the hotels, I love, love the W Hotel. Me too, I love the W Hotel Conferter. Because they have the best, they have the best beds ever. I have a friend who just bought a bed from them straight directly, like I want one of your beds, and he bought the whole thing. They have the best beds. Yeah, they have one, there's a Debbie Hotel and Newark,

surprisingly, right here in the Bay Area, and I could just live there. I've probably been there so many times. I love it. They have the great down-comfortors and absolutely men and your beds. You've got to just, if you're looking at your like, because men also don't realize they've like scratchy old sheets. Yeah. That is such a turn off. Okay, so you got to do that people. Get new sheets.

Okay, here's the next one. Now you're going to follow this one. These are the 20 best sex tips ever. I'm reading my 10 favorite out of this list. If you have any sex tips to share with me at all, that you're like, wow, this really worked for me. This is important. I didn't work.

800, 400, 36, 9, 7. Yes, that is where we are. Okay, let go loudly. When you're sexually excited, really express yourself. Let yourself go in whatever way it feels most comfortable. Scream your head off, laugh, shout his name, whatever you have to do. If you're embarrassed, just know that you're doing

your partner a favor. The more you express your pleasure, the more you make him feel like the stud of the universe. Bonus, your orgasms will be even more powerful if you really let her rip vocally. What do you think about that a lot, a loud screaming woman? I think it's good. Me personally, I can't because that roommates. I have close neighbors. I have close neighbors. Yeah, so it's usually me saying shut up or keep it down or be quiet. Hopefully not shut up, maybe just shh. Yeah.

No, that's a problem about living in the city. Is that my neighbors are, I share a wall with them. Yeah. I know they hear me having sex. I know. I swear if someone is banged on the wall before. I know that they're like sexual families. She's having sex. I know. I swear someone is being down the wall before. I know that they're like sex with family, she's having sex. I know that they know what I do and I know they hear me having sex in time. That's why you go to a hotel. Right. But they're saying here that you can

recreate the whole hotel experience in your own room. But you're right, I always am like, and the next day you're going to work and like, how I hide, and they know I had sex last night and stuff. But let's just say you don't have the roommate when you're going to work on how high high and they know I'd sex last night and stuff. But let's just say you don't have the roommate when you're not an urban dweller with a roommate or with a sharing wall with somebody. It is good to just let go, vocally, be as loud as you want to. Okay, here's another one I like. Eyes wide open.

Don't close your eyes during sex. This is a great way to explore more of the emotional side of intercourse. Start by kissing with your eyes open and looking at each other during for play. Gradually build up until you can sustain eye contact throughout both of your climaxes. Your experience or orgasm in a different way, it's a revelation. With your eyes externing each other in the eyes. What do you think about that? I like it. I like eyes open.

So I'm talking about that. Not the whole time, but sometimes when you make eye contact with the guides, it's really hot. Yeah, but sometimes women make scary faces. Like it's scary. What do you mean? I don't know. They're like, they're like, the next...

No, the entire episode, when they're looking at you, sometimes it's scary. Scary how? I don't know they just like make it like scary. They look like serial killers or something. Yeah like scary face like they're looking into your soul or something it's weird. I think you've intimacy issues. No I'm just saying I'm not saying every single woman but sometimes it's scary. Sometimes they're looking at you really weird. Sometimes you guys are scary too. They're looking at you weird. They're just looking at you. They look scary. They look scary.

I'm sorry. They do. They do. Okay. Well, here's another one. You never had a guy look at you. He's looking at you and it looks scary. A little scary.

Well, maybe like at the end when he's, you know. Getting there. When he's gets there. But I think it's hot. I don't think it's scary. I just think it's like he's totally letting go and letting go. And I think that's hot. All right. When a man totally lets go. But I don't think it's scary per se. Men is like you do. I'm not afraid. Okay. Another one. The kiss connection. Share a passionate 10 second kiss every single day. A lot of couples keep having sex

but stop really kissing. That is so true and that's a shame because such a wonderful intimate act. So just go up and lay one on them instantly if you'll passion it instead of platonic. What a rush. I love the kissing and I love kissing during sex. Yeah kissing is awesome. Kissing? I'll agree. And kissing is awesome. And kissing is a lot like a lot of couples yeah have sex but stop kissing and kissing is so erotic. Do you like kissing in public? Not like majorly making out but I will. Do you kiss people in nightclubs? Never. No. It's called cup kicking. Why is it cup kicking? I don't know that's what we it cupcake-king. Like when you're Dronging, you meet someone and you're like making out with them in a club. Now kissing is so awesome though.

Kissing is awesome. Kissing is underrated. Yeah. I don't think that I think that people will Stop kissing after a while. I was at a party last night and there was like of these two guys like full on just making out at the club is pretty funny. Really? I mean I think that if you're with someone you care about, I don't know. I guess I would. I would think if people are making out at a club it's usually someone who just met and drank and there's a lot of them.

It sounds fun. But I know if I'm with someone like with the guy I'm dating, I would, I guess I'd make out with them. Yeah. And then when you're going, okay, so how long should, I mean, it all goes back to four play. How long do you think, what's the time limit? How long do you have to be making out or kissing before, you know, you get to, to what?

To the action. It depends. I think you can still, I guess that, I guess you could still keep kissing while you're at the action. That's a thing. It's like doing the action, but kissing at the same time, making love, but still kissing. Not the whole time, but going in and out of kissing. Just to ask how long you should be kissing before you actually do something is just that's

arbitrary. That's arbitrary. Arbitrary, that's hard to say. It's getting late. I understand. It's getting late. Well, it's hard to say. It's hard to say, it's getting late, I understand. It's getting late. Well, it's hard to say, and it's hard to say. It's hard to say, arbitrary. Arbitrarily speaking, it's hard to say, and it's hard to say,

what is the right amount of time to be kissing? I think you just kind of know. As long as you are still kissing, kissing is so important. I have something here, too later we can get to the 10 things we learn through a kiss. Okay, so these are the top 20 sex tips. There's 10 of them that I picked out that I really think are the top, top, top.

If you have any sex tips you want to share with us, that's like, you know what, here's one sex tip that always worked for me or what I've learned. Call me 800, 400, 3697. Don't go to bed yet, we're on time in night. See no, everyone's got to work tomorrow. You know what I love that I don't have the Sunday night like blues anymore like I used

to going to work the next day because I love doing the show. I'm all riled up on Sunday nights. Yes. I'm excited. I love it. Okay. The sultry slow mo. Here's the next sex tip.

To surprise them and build anticipation, try doing the same things you always do in the bedroom, but slow down to one-fourth of your normal speed. You and your guy will have time to really bond as since you're feeling and since you'll be feeling sensation over a longer period of time, both of your climaxes will likely be out of this world. Slow it down. What do you think about that? I like it. Slow it down. What do you think about that? I like it. Yeah, I like slowing down, but I don't know. Women just love you like running a marathon, man. See, I think that women like it slow. Really?

Yeah, I think they do. I think that sex gets... You get into a routine of it being fast. And I think that the slowness can be so nice It can be like so much more intimate and intense when you slow things down I really like this tip like everything slow down like the kissing slow down and a touching and the rate to which you Undress each other Slow it all down. It's hot Yeah, I mean I

Told you encourage that because guys run out of energy quickly. They do, they sweat, they get all hot and roll up. Yeah, and then they're ready to go to bed right after. Not all men, but a lot of men fall asleep in for sex. But we understand why. They're oxygenated levels dive and they are tired, it's just hormonal and physiological. Yeah, while I think you need to tell that to more women because sometimes.

But some men don't fall asleep after sex, but some guys are like, I'm like, one more thing, wait, and then they're sleeping. Okay, the next sex tip is don't wait to exhale. You can actually use your breath to control your orgasm with each exhalation. Imagine that you're pushing, you're the satisfying sensations throughout

your body instead of just letting them build up below the waist. When you finally let go, you'll feel it from head to toe. You'll feel the whole climax from head to toe, they're saying, if you use your breath. A lot of climaxing is tied to your breath. A lot of really good experiences like that is when you synchronize your breath with your breath. A lot of really good experiences like that is when you synchronize your breath with your partner or even with yourself you slow down your breath and you pay attention to your breath.

See, you probably don't have issues with you always have the orgasm, but with women sometimes it's a little more. I think a lot of guys hold their breath. They do. They're hold their breath in, like cut off oxygen to the brain. I think they do.

Yeah. Why do you think that is? Do you feel like you were in the grocery store? They don't know what to do, you know? They think that's what they're supposed to do. I mean, they're focusing too much on what they're doing and they're forgetting to breathe. Exactly. I think I do that too.

I think women do that. We always, I think that we a lot of times forget to breathe. Because it feels good and then you get like, up here in your throat and you have to like you get you know when your breath gets up here and like it's above and you have to just breathe out through your body and they say that that's the number one thing like it I suppose we have women have a hard time climaxing if you focus on your breath that it can really help yeah maybe they should get in scuba gear with air. Sure.

Whatever you want. Hey, that goes to the next one. Strat your stuff. The next time you go out with your man, wear your sexiest outfit. Go ahead. Flirt with strangers and turn some heads. Tease. It's easy to forget you're still attractive to other members of the opposite sex when you're

in a committed relationship But sometimes you have to remind your guy that you're a prize not an appendage It really turns most guys on to know that they have someone other Man want to be with and it can be a tremendous ego boost for you too when you feel sexy You are sexy once you return home from your diva date. You won't be able to keep your hands off each other How would you feel about that? It's true. I don't know.

There's some things like you're dating a girl, and she's really hot. But she talks to everybody that talks to her. You know what I'm saying? It's kind of a turn off. When you go out and you know, she's like kind of that flirty, she's flirty with everybody because, you know, she's hot and everybody wants to talk to her. But it's more of a turn on if, if she's like focusing on me, you know, and then she, you know,

gives kind of the other people like one word to answer. That is, right. I think that's totally... I guess they're saying if things in your relationship have gotten kind of stale. Yeah. If you go out and she's sexy and flirty and you see her in that realm and you're sexy and flirty,

then I mean, then she's sexy then you're gonna want her and desire more that you're just kind of doing this outside thing. Yeah, I don't really. You're not down with that. I'm not down with that. Cause I want to know that she's there for me. Yeah, I mean, I guess she is there for you,

but this is a way to spice it up. So she feels sexy that other men desire her and that you still desire her. But I see what you're saying. Okay, you have another one. We have the grab and go. If you're turned on in opportune time, act on your feelings.

Although it feels a bit naughty, a quickie will help you stay faithful. People often have a fairer solely for the elicit rush from doing something bad. Quickies allow you to experience all of the having an affair thrill with none of the cheating. So, you have a quickie and you... Yeah, it builds a rush because you're so used to just kind of like, you've got to make time for it and you just like have this quick use of that. It's kind of like probably what they were talking about earlier with our guests where you kind of just grab her and, you know, what do you think about that throwing up women

against the wall? Oh no, I think it's awesome. I think that's, they love that. Oh, that's less than Danielle. Yeah, I think a woman do love that. Yeah. They love, I think that's the best thing is, you know, dominance, being dominant, you know. And you feel comfortable being dominant with a woman?

Yeah. Because I think that's what they like. Okay. I think you're right. I think you're absolutely absolutely right. Okay. Hmm. We have one more. All right. Okay. You ready We have one more. Okay. You ready? You ready for it? Okay.

Finger food for play. Have a romantic dinner without utensils so you can feed each other. There's something central about placing food in your partner's mouth. It's such fun, especially when you serve stuff that's not supposed to be eaten with your hands like salads or pasta after a meal like this, serve yourself for dessert. What do you think about the food thing? Are we talking about like, again, where I think stuff is cheesy and it might not be with the whole strawberries. Yeah, I guess so. See, all of it is kind of cliché, but sometimes it can be kind of hot to play with food. It can. Just now and then, when you've been doing everything the same way.

Okay, those are my sex tips. Those are like 11 of them. Okay, let's talk to Scott and Alameda. Hey, Scott. Hi there. Hi, Scott. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. Thanks for having the show.

My sex tip is termed rotating the show. My sex tip is rotating the crop. The idea is that when you determine something that really works for your partner, not to persist at it too much, but to put it in the back pocket, keep exploring, find something else that works, and rotate back to the first. And the idea is to get as many falls in the air as possible so that you can juggle the things that they like the best without overdoing any of them. Ha, that's a good point. So, and have you found that you've built people who have enough of those things to build up? Well, I find that sometimes you know some of the things based on the partner, things that you know work for your partner,

and then other times it's a matter of continuing the exploration and not kind of falling into the old easy ways to necessarily do it. So it kind of creates a combination of creativity as well as remembering your resources. Yeah, I like that. I like that. You have a lot in your back pocket and use them on rotation. Is there anything that you can tell us, any kind of sex things that you've learned that you could share on the radio? Um, you know, actually the ones that I mentioned to your screeners said we're inappropriate.

Oh, okay. Yeah, they're inappropriate. I'm sure they're great, but we just can't talk about them on there. Yeah, but I think people get the idea. Yeah. Okay, thanks Scott. I appreciate it. Have a great night. Anyone have any sex tips? You're one standby sure thing that always works for you. 800, 400, 36, 9, 7. We have a very limited amount of time. Oh, we've very limited. How much time do we have like three minutes? Uh, I would say two minutes two minutes. We got to wrap up. This was such a good show Oh, I had the best time ever This is a great show love my guests love the show

Thank you to Fox from Daisy of love Menace I never were to watch that show if you did not bring that to my attention You're gonna be hooked now. I'm hooked on you want to you want to see he was really nice very nice Thank you I think he kind of gets a bad rap because television can make you out to be whoever they want He had a girlfriend. Yeah, you said it was a big deal and it's not a big deal I've had boyfriends that didn't know about other So it goes both ways. I mean, I'm not defending his actions

But I mean as a I'm not trying to date him. So I think he was cute. Right. And then Celeste and Danielle, sex coaches, you can find them at Celesteand Danielle.com. They really are doing some groundbreaking work. There's a lot of people teaching sex stuff in the Bay Area, but they're like, they're like some of the best, I have to say. I really, truly, truly believe that that you should check out their courses. And so I want to thank everyone for listening tonight, and I want to thank my producer Menace

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