Sex With Emily - SWE: One Night Stand

Episode Date: April 16, 2013

Just because it's casual sex, doesn't mean it has to be bad sex. Emily talks about one night stands-- the excitement, build up, and anticlimactic finish. Emily shows you how to have casual sex that won't disappoint.Emily also talks about how to tell if someone is looking for a one night stand or a relationship, because sometimes it's hard to tell when the champagne is flowing.Also, how to get a power back in your relationship, little penises, and asking out a friend.If you're interested in casual sex and improving your sex life, check out my sponsors: Max4Men, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Max4Men. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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You can find me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, sex with Emily. And I'm here with Menace. What up, Menace? Hello, how are you doing? Hello, it's so good to talk to you. It is. It is. It is so sunny and bright in San Francisco.

It's just like I'm in LA with you right now. That's so bizarre. It's crazy, right? Yeah, I got to spend some time with you in LA. It was amazing. I know, that was fun. It was amazing. You say I never visit you when I'm in LA and I hung out with you.

I went to your place, which you already moved out of, which was amazing. Right. My place was epic and I moved into a less epic place, but a better location. I'm free blocks from the beach in LA. So it's not like that in Venice Beach. Yeah, but that place was great.

It was good to see you. You came to see me on Love Line. Yeah, which everyone can check me out. Thursday nights, uh, 10 to midnight on Love Line, wherever you live. Yeah, it was a fun, right? It did a amazing job. Yeah, it was great. Thank you. And then I can I come back like a week later. It for like 24 hours and then you're upset that I don't visit you. It's like, dude, I can't come. I was kidding. I can't visit you like every single time I go to LA. I try as much as I can, but I'm there for a lot of time.

Oh, whatever, man. I was kidding you. I was kidding. I wasn't that upset. At least I got to see you once at midnight. That was fun. After I did my radio show. But yeah, that's awesome.

And then you're going to Coachella this weekend, which I just got tickets, but I don't think I can go. What? What? I don't know. I just got back from Vegas, dude. I just got back from Las Vegas. And today's show is actually about casual sex.

We're going to be talking about casual sex. Like, how do you know if it's a one night stand? What's friends with benefits mean? And some other things. because Vegas just inspired me not that I had any casual sex and Vegas But a lot of people did and I thought that was a good topic for our show today So we're gonna get into that a little bit and we're also gonna be reading the emails that you send to feedback at sexwithelm.me.com Okay, Vegas is for you and exhausting. Yeah, go ahead. Oh my god. Well, we'll talk about Vegas because you know I love Vegas. But real quick, let's go back to Coachella.

Okay. Two things. Did you give VIP tickets? I'm sure I did, yeah. Oh, you sure you did? Well, I don't have the VIP for this weekend, only for next weekend. I'm going both weekends.

Oh. Oh, you're going to fly down both weekends? Yeah, so if you're not going, the first week, it'll hook me up with a VIP ticket if you have one. Yeah, I think I can this second weekend. Yeah. Number two is we have a ton of new listeners since you've been on television. And they haven't heard your Coachella story. You had sex at Coachella inside the festival backstage.

I had that that is true. I went to Soca Chela Music Festival happens every year. It's in Palm Springs and it's a big music festival. If you don't know this and we, I had sex. I went with this guy whose friend ran the festival. Like he was like a big shot and we had backstage, like free range and we were backstage and like behind the stage like in the grassy area, we had sex.

Yes, I did have sex backstage. That's my infamous story about Coachella. And it was fun. Good times. Maybe you could do that two minutes and then we could share stories. I know, swap stories. I've only had sex backstage at the Shoreline Ampitheater

in Malvew, California, but that's about it. Not out of major music. That's not a sexy. That's not a sexy. That's not a sexy. I'm just telling you. Yeah. I mean, I had at least I wasn't out in the field doing it. I was in a dressing room somewhere.

Oh, that's better. I was in a field. You're right. Yeah, but I love Coachella. Yeah, but what? But let's talk about Vegas. One of my favorite places. I'm already booked to go there in June.

So why is it your favorite place. I'm already booked to go there in June, so. Why is it your favorite place? I, do you know what? This is, this is how bad I am. I'm the worst person to go to Vegas with because all I do is sleep in my hotel room because the rooms are so nice. I get up, I'll like eat some meal,

I'll get really, I'll get really drunk meal. I'll get really, I'll get really drunk. And then I'll go sleep again. And it's just, it's just a series of naps the whole time. And I don't go like crazy. Yeah. I don't go crazy and go to pool parties and, you know, go to all these places where you need a table and all that fancy stuff. No, I just go there to shop, eat, and drink. That's it. But how was your time? My time was good. I go every year for the International Laundry Show,

which was really fun because it's all the sex toy people, all the sex products and sex toys and sex pills and all that stuff. And it's also lingerie. And there's like hot chicks walking around in lingerie the whole time. You would love it. And then I saw a lot of our sponsors there got to hang out with the mass people max for men good vibrations and

good vibes was actually showing off their their pleasure works line which is so cool they've got this amazing lubricant they came out with and you know how I feel about loop it's called please and it's it's cream it's a cream-based lubricant but they also I got one of their new toys. I got, oh my God, my suitcase was over 50 pounds because it was filled with new sex toys. Jesus. And by the way, if anyone knows, I moved to, I got rid of everything I own in San Francisco when I moved to LA except for my sex toys and my sex books.

So now I've got more. But good vibes. They have this new thing called the Butterfly Bliss silicone waterproof vibrator. And it's so cool. And if you want anything from good vibes, they've got the best place to buy toys, GVM-ly 20 for 20% off orders of $100 or more.

And I also did a video with Coyote from Good Vibes. You went around, it's like every year, like people come and they display like what the newest Technology is in sex toys. So like for example, there was a new sex toy there that was like using the The pulsations like it was by sonic like sonic toothbrush So it's not a vibrator, but it has like that sonic pulse of like the electronic toothbrush and are the electric toothbrush or whatever it is and then and then there's a and then there's the What else was there? There was like someone else who did I don't know just crazy like oh Oh, and then I got this vibrator that actually like it's a pulsator. It's not a vibrator

It's by fun factory and it's called this the str And it actually, I guess what someone told me, is it feels like someone's actually having sex with you. The way it is like, the way it moves inside of you or something, haven't tried it yet. So it's really fun for me who's like, you know, love sex toys, as you know. So I got to see all the fun stuff. And I got to go, I was out till 4.30 in the morning,

one night, which you would appreciate. And that was fun. We were just dancing and it's all really good people. You think people in the sex business are all kind of whatever, like me, creepy, but we're not at all. We're all cool people just doing something we love. And we're all about pleasure, you know? So everyone there was just about like, you know,

giving pleasure to the world and making sure everyone has a good time. So it's like happy people. And yeah, it was fun. Yeah. The question is, you said you ran into somebody that knows somebody that knows me. What was that?

Oh my God, that always happens. People are like, I know what I meant. I'm, I'm, okay, this girl, this woman at fun factory which they make amazing toys. She said to me, she's like, oh, I'm best friends with so and so, who's best friends with menace. I'm like, okay, so then I texted you. Yeah So do you know that part? It was your yeah, I do yeah

She the person you're talking about are no she wants to be named on the show, but she's like What am I best friends from high school even though is not funny? It's so annoying because her she started listening to this show And then yeah, and so she always texted me about it and we texted each other so annoying because her, she started listening to this show. And then she did. Yeah, and so she always texted me about it. And we text each other and all we do is play phone tag all the time. Like she will call me, I don't pick up, I try to call her, she won't pick up.

And it's been going on for months. I can't get on the phone. Well, you gotta catch up with her. Well, I caught up with her best friend, her her other friend. So anyway, that was fun. That's awesome. Yeah, it's funny.

Everyone knows men. Still like, oh, has menists. And everyone's like, oh, you guys still doing the show? And of course, we're doing the show. Like, we're doing a lot of shows. And they're all going to be brought out. They're all on iTunes. You can get them on iTunes or on my website, sexwithm.com.

And we're also playing some of our past shows that you might have missed, which are all relevant because, you know, we're talking about rural sex a year ago. It's still relevant to today. So we've got tons of shows on iTunes, so you should subscribe and do all that fun stuff. Because we are never breaking up. We're together forever, right, menace? For sure, and tell you to annoy the hell out of me.

But, you know what? Which I haven't. I have. I have. Well, when it comes to technical stuff, oh my god, you drive me crazy. Dude, that you might, I know. So I went to your house a couple weeks ago,

and you had a new system. We set it up. We were right there. I showed you exactly how to use it. You had a computer and your microphone, everything. We went through the program. You hit record, everything worked fine. And the moment I leave you alone,

you're calling me frantically on how it doesn't work. Wait, did I, because it's because I saved the file wrong, we can have this offline, but you can't go back, you can't go back and save it again as something else. No, you saved it as a really bad file format. But, you know. I wasn't a hurry, I'm an idiot, whatever, I'll fix that. So, okay, so we'll do this. It'll be fine though.

And then okay. Anyway, so Vegas. Yeah, it was a good time. But I don't love it because we're at, okay, first of all, not to bash whatever hotel is, but we're staying at the Rio. Do you know where the Rio is? Oh my God. It's so off-distributes by the palms. Yeah, it's by the palms because that's where they do the International Longeration. So you have to stay where the conference is because it's just a pain in the ass getting there. And I just feel like with Vegas, like none of the windows open, it's so smoky, like I feel so unhealthy right now. Like I feel like I smoked

a Honda Pakistan rots and I did not. I hear they have an I hear they have an amazing buffet there and pen and tellers at the Rio. But I never I never go over there. You know me, I'm too I'm too bougie. I go to the Cosmopolitan in the city center. I got to stay there. Like there are the all or something. You always stay at crappy hotels every time you go to Vegas. What the hell? No, no, no, I have to for this festival. The first time was just a mistake, but I have to because this conference, whatever, it doesn't matter. But it was it was it was really fun to see all the new products and you can check out my video with all that stuff coming up soon.

And what else there's so much? I have to tell you that, what else? Yeah, so I don't know. I literally just woke up because I've been like, I was flying Vegas just exhaust you. Like you can't sleep it. You literally don't know what time it is. You don't know what date is. There's creepy men hugging, you know, Like you can't sleep it. You literally don't know what time it is. You don't know what date is.

There's creepy men hugging, you know, hitting on you all the time. Yeah. But I just don't love it like you do. But the shopping seemed good and I did that a chance to shop. So I just was inside of a festival all day. You didn't hit up the Christian Louis Vuitton store?

No, I couldn't buy that. There's a couple of them there. But check this out. Oh, we have a listener that hit me upon Facebook asking for Vegas recommendations. She's going to Vegas for the first time this weekend. And I was terrible because all I gave was like, like buffet recommendations. And I said, oh, go to old Vegas, free Mont Street. You got experience that go into like zip line or something. Totally stuff that you

would not like to do No exactly, but I did go get a foot massage in Chinatown There's a little Chinatown mall which they call like the Chinatown of Vegas But really it's just a mall but I got a foot massage on the last day. No, I did get I left the hotel I know one of my one of my people took me there one of my sponsors is very nice Then what else is I gonna tell you? I don't know. My brain is like, what's going on in your dating life? What's up with that?

I kind of been seeing somebody. Um, tell me more about it. Yeah, I know. You only, if you tell me, I'll tell you if you tell me. I've been dating. No, he's cool. He's awesome. I don't really know what is happening, but he is, um, whatever, you know me, I never know, but he's good. He's fun. He's awesome. I don't really know what is happening, but he is whatever, you know me. I never know, but he's good. He's fun. He's super fun. Nice guy. I'm nothing else to say about it yet. What about you, men?

Me? I'm good, man. I'm dating someone that it doesn't mind not being around me all the time, which is good. That's perfect. That's the kind of person that you need. Yeah. That's kind of person I need. And I, yeah. Yeah, I don't have somebody that's like needs my time because I can't provide it. So, and they make their own money so I don't have to support them. And that's cool.

That's cool too. You love that. You love someone who just wants to see you and just says you're laundry. That's perfect. Yeah. It's amazing. I know. That's so good, menace. Okay. Well, let's get into some of the emails from the people because we have so many emails coming in. We try to get to all your emails. It's hard to do, but we do read them all and we answer them on our website and we also answer them during the show. So thank you for emailing

me at feedback at sexwithemily.com. So we'll get into this now. Dear Emily, I seem to have lost the power and the relationship. There's this woman I love and the flame kind of went off, but I really love her and would like the relationship back. How do I get the control back? Sign Dan.

Okay Dan, this is a tricky one because I don't know, we don't know no information here how you lost the power and the relationship and you really really love her and you'd like the relationship back. I would say you probably lost the power because of something that went down in your relationship with you guys and I don't know if you guys had an argument but you have to come back and show her that you're a new person that you've changed. How getting back with you is going to be different. That's a women want to see. They don't just want to get back together with you to get back together with you.

If she ended it or she's pulling away, it's because she's not feeling something for you that she felt before. So you don't just hit her up against it. Hey, baby, I want to see you. It's like, oh, I've been working on that thing or I've got a job or whatever it is that I'm going to perform oral sex any more often, which is one of my favorite things but you know I don't really know I mean do you feel that mess when you're in a relationship that the power kind of dynamic goes back and forth sometimes yeah you you you

probably always have the power but if you don't always have the power do you feel like sometimes you know what I mean like it's hard just to get back I mean if you lose it I think as a man if you don't have the power, it sucks. Because it's really hard. Once a woman is pretty much made up her mind, it is so hard to change it back. Right. Don't you think?

I think a guy, I think a guy is much easier to change, change his mind and like, go back into a situation even though he knows it's bad He'll do it anyways because he likes having sex But when I feel like when a woman is done with you She's she's pretty much done with you and it's so hard to redeem yourself Right so hard. I feel like I feel like that. Yeah, if she may if she does want it You know you want to just again she made the decision for reason It's probably something you did and she's going to want to know how you changed if you want to get her back. That's what I'm going to say. I don't know if you

need the control back, but if you want to get her back is what you're saying. I say you just talk to her about it and tell her like, you know, why you want to be with her? Why it's all changed? Why you're a new man? Hmm. So, okay, next email, dear Emily, I have a little penis and I just got in a relationship with a girl I really like, but we haven't had sex yet. And I'm afraid too, because I feel like she won't like the sex. What can I do to make sure that she enjoys it, sign to ed? Okay, ed, here's the deal. Women, men like, you know, penis size comes up a lot.

Is bigger, better? Do women care? Sure. Just like men care about large breasts and some guys like women with small breasts. There are some women who are size queens. That's true. But there are also women who really don't care about the size of your penis as long as you're able to please her in the bedroom.

So if you're able to, you know, do things to make sure that she has her good times her orgasm or whatever it means for her Then I think you're gonna be fine and also the penis is not have to be massive for woman to feel pleasure The g-spots only two thirds up in the vagina But I would say you know get your oral sex skills polished up and find out what this woman likes and do a lot of For play you say that you're putting off sex and I'm wondering if that means you're also putting off foreplay. Hopefully your guys are fooling around and you're getting into it a little bit and you're getting to know what she likes because if you you can be an incredible lover, inner course is only a part of the equation. So there's

so much more happening with sex. People are like, oh there's foreplay. I touch her boobs. I touch her vagina and then I stick my penis in her vagina. Like, there's so much more than that. foreplay can go on for hours, right, menace? Yes. Many hours. Never in menace's life has it gone on for more than 10 minutes, but for a lot of you, blood and gone for, you know, half hour hour, whatever it is. So just make sure that you please her and find out what she likes. But I also wouldn't go in there with the worry about the penis. She might be fine with it. I'm telling you, she might not even, she might not care if you please her in other ways.

So make sure she gets off first and then have sex with her and don't trip on your penis thing. Don't even think about it. Just try to put it out of your mind. Because then you're gonna, then you're also not gonna really get hard and then that'll be a problem, which is so much of a man who can't keep,

stay hard, get hard, keep it hard. It's a lot of it is psychological. A lot of it is like they're worried or in your mind. Oh my God, she's like going to reject me. So just try to get into a peaceful Zen state, give her lots of foreplay, have sex, go for it. I doubt it's going to be any bad explosion like you expected to be. Some bad, you know, backlash on your penis. I know, men, as you might not have this issue because your penis is massive, I assume.

But yeah, do you have any guy friends who are like, dude, I gotta talk to you, I got a small penis? Like, has that ever happened? Do you guys ever share that? No, guys don't share that stuff. The guy, I've never had another dude say, my penis is small. Everyone exaggerates how big their penis is,

no matter how small it is So there's no there's no way This conversation is going on I did there was a man though there was a guy in in Vegas who I was hanging out with not sexually But as a friend and he was like yeah, well my penis is really small and I don't know if he was kidding Like I feel like guys who always talk about their small penis can't really be that small. If you're the one saying they were small penis, but maybe. Yeah, I think guys Google it on the internet and figure out if they have a small penis or not,

and what to do about it. Right, okay. Don't you think? I'm sorry, we're not females. We're not like sharing all our feelings all the time. So I wish I could give you a better answer. Right, that's okay, man. But Ed, I wouldn't worry about it. I wouldn't trip on it. Don't trip on the penis. Okay, hi, Emily. I have a question about asking out friends. While the issue

isn't actually pulling the trigger, I guess my question, what if we have lots of mutual friends? How do I make sure I do it in a way that I don't mess up the group vibe? Little background, I'm 30. she's 28. We've been friends for about seven or eight years. Yes, I know she's into me more flirtatiously lately, right before and after a bad break up. Also, side question for menace. Any tips on dealing with bad breakups besides the usual banging new chicks, please keep my anonymity as well. Thanks, E.

Okay, so I'll take the first part, man, so you can take the second part. Okay, I have a question about asking out friends. Okay, so here's the thing. I wouldn't worry about it. You guys have been friends for eight years. You're in the same group of friends. In fact, I think this is kind of safe

because you already have the history of friendship. And I think a lot of people are worried about ruining the friendship, but the truth is, in your mind, E, you've already gone from, like like she's not really your friend she's someone that you're attracted to on another level so I don't I think you got to just try to make the mood you got to ask her out just one on one away from the group vibe or like you know late night make out something but you got to just go

for it and not worry about the repercussions on the group because if you guys really have a strong basis in friendship and the whole group is all friends, I mean men, it makes fun of me, but my acts from eight years ago, we're all still best friends and going trips together and I slept with it, I dated them and someone else dated them and we all hang out and it's just like, I don't know why people, I just think you got to go for it. It's crazy. And she's being flirtatious, right?

What's crazy. And she's being flirtatious, right? What's crazy? No, just how I don't know how you have relationships with guys and you go on trips to Mexico with your current guy you're dating with your ex-boyfriend who's like hosting it. It's crazy. It's insane. It's not the norm. It's very San Francisco of you. I don't know if it's gonna If it's gonna transition to LA Oh my god, who knows I've only been here a little bit, but we'll say But I and then side question about so I say just go for e and for men is any tips on dealing with bad breakups besides the usual banging new checks I just say keep yourself busy. You know, you don't have to go out and bang chicks, but just, you know, I don't know. We always say you have to get under to get

over, but you can, you can just practice talking to people, talk to anybody, talk to anybody at the check out counter, you know, just don't have it. Don't have any downtime where you're sitting at home and thinking about what you're doing in your life and why everything went wrong. Just go have fun. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no think you just got to like yeah work on yourself, figure out what will be wrong in the relationship and do. It's true if you want to start menu chicks just practice talking to chicks. Like menaceve wherever you go just five times a day say hello to a cute

chick or whatever check. Just practice talking to women again, making friends and you'll be fine. And I don't think you know sometimes I say you got to get under to get over meaning banging new chicks And I don't think, you know, sometimes I say you got to get under to get over meaning banging new chicks, but I don't think that that's actually the best way. It helps. It's a bandaid. Banging new chicks is a bandaid. So I think at the time of the end of the relationship, it's time not to jump into a new relationship and to really work on yourself, have fun with your friends, grow, learn, change, take on a new hobby, whatever, and talk to every woman you see. so you can practice again Yeah, that's what I say. Oh my god

What totally totally correct? Sorry interrupt but have you heard about this team mom Farah? Yeah, it seems like the most annoying chick on team mom and Dr. Drew talks to her all the time. Did you hear what she did this week recently? Did you happen to find out? I? Tell me I saw something, but I don't remember tell me so this chick from team mom is So obsessed with her looks now. I don't know if I totally believe her story, but

she staged a sex tape Right and denied it. But she like got some porn star to be in a sex tape with her. And she's like, oh, I just really wanted to make this tape. So when I can look back at it, when I'm 50 years old, and see how amazing my body used to be, she said it was her for personal use.

And then come to find out she's also, She said it was her for personal use and then Come to find out she's also if you know if she does want to really sit. It's for millions of dollars Oh my god, do you think she'll get millions dollars to release it? I don't think she's that popular to get millions of dollars Why does everyone play the sex the sex tape role because it came Kardashian really did she really start this like Trend that young girls think they're gonna get famous if they do a sex tape like people really believe that in their heart and soul Well Paris Hilton and Paris Hilton you're right was the first and Kim Kardashian, but I don't think I don't think this chick from team mom What is add a Paris Hilton or Kim Kardashian level? To make it all to make her popular. You know, I mean, yeah, she's been on television MTV for a couple of years, but she's not like a household name.

Right. But team mom is a really popular show. It is a hugely popular show. But I don't think she is popular enough. People can't stand her. Oh really? She doesn't even know that people can't stand. Whatever. People are trying to get famous on time. But do you do you buy? Would you have a, I know your anti-sex tape, but would you, if you could go back and talk to your 20-year-old self and say, hey, you just want to have a private tape so you can remember how glorious your body was at 20 years old. Would you do it? I don't think so. No, definitely not at 20.

I don't think I would. No, but I did. I have to tell you that I did do a movie. I wasn't a movie called I Am a Sex addict. You can rent it on Netflix and iTunes, download on iTunes, which is the real, is it a pen of film a few years ago? It was probably, no, it was probably not a few years ago now.

It was probably eight years ago. And the reason why I did it was because my boyfriend at the time said to me, you know, you're gonna wanna see yourself on film, like how great to have you, I wasn't naked. But he was like, how great to see you on film at that certain age and whatever, and that's why I did it,

because I thought it would be cool to see myself at this point in time. And there were some scenes that were a little, they weren't naked nude at all, but you know, my body, whatever. The point is, I did do it to preserve, so I could like, I'm like, yeah, that's a good idea,

because at first I thought the script wasn't great, but it's actually a really funny movie. Some people say, and I did it for that, but I don't think I'd make a sex tape just to preserve it. Maybe I'd do photographs that I would keep to myself or something, but I don't wouldn't do a sex tape. Never done one. Never sent a sex to be for with a picture of myself.

And no, and you're sex with Emily, it's weird. I'm sex with Emily, that would be so obvious if I released a sex tape or sexy photos. People would be like, oh, of course, that's who she is. But I'm so much more than that. As you know, would you, a man is you've got a bunch of sex tapes you could release a ton,

a massive catalog, but I'm not famous enough to release them. So why, why do it? I don't know. Maybe one day we'll release some menace. It'll be good time. I just want to laugh. I want to laugh at menace a sex tape.

Okay. So, um, and then one more I just want to laugh. I want to laugh at menace's sex hit. Okay, so, and then one more thing I got to say is speaking of, okay, wait, is that I just want to give a shout out really quickly to, this is really funny, and this is also kind of a segue here, but so Michael, Gilfoil, I didn't interview with him. He's the president of mask, your mask, M-A-S-Q-E, and those are those amazing oral sex strips that you put in your tongue and it transforms the taste of semen. So there's a lot of women,

a lot of men who do not get oral sex enough, right? They get married and they only get out of their birthday or they just, they don't get enough oral sex. So they make these strips that for at least 20 minutes, the mask tastes of semen. So next time you perform oral sex on a guy, he ejaculates, it tastes like mango, chocolate, strawberry, or watermelon, whatever flavor you choose. But here's the funny story. So Michael was in Vegas and we hung out the whole time. It was so fun. Like because everyone, it gets just all all these fun people were there. And when he was in his cab driving from the airport, he was telling the cab driver what he did. He's like, oh, I make these oral sex trips and the cab driver pulled over the cab,

Guy out and hugged him and said he has not received oral sex from his wife in 15 years because she doesn't like the taste of semen and he gave him like a carton of masks and like the cab driver started crying because he was gonna get a blowjob at this now and he hadn't gotten one in 15 years. So I just thought that was very interesting. So if you want to know about masks, they're giving away free samples. You can go to your mask dot com. That's M.A.S.Q.E. Just had a fill in with that right there. I thought that was a good story from Vegas, not my story, but a good story. Have you figured out your favorite flavor yet? Oh yeah, you dumped that chick like the first couple of weeks, but

Have you figured out your favorite flavor yet? You know my favorite flavor is the mango. I Love mangoes. I'm a mango person and so I have to say like the mango you've tried them. What do you like? Remember the chocolate chocolate is good too too. Chocolate, I believe I'd try to chocolate. And it can also work for men on women when they're performing oral sex, but women are a little touchy about that. So you might want to put the strip in before, you know, that's the thing. It's like some men don't like performing oral sex. And so they, but women I think would be a little more fending because they're already

worried that you don't like performing oral sex and that you think that we smell bad or taste bad, which is not typically the case at all, but it works all around. Let's just say that. So, some chicks are just high maintenance and you should not date them. What, when they don't perform rosax on you? So, if they're not down with it and that's something you want, why are you going to force them and do it? You shouldn't even date them. Yeah, that's true. But if it's just the semen part or just the taste of the penis part, why would you force them?

I don't know. I mean, also, I would say, you're right. I mean, I know what you're saying, but if that's just the only barrier, like they don't mind having a penis in their mouth, but they don't like the taste of semen or all that stuff that you could elbow, why not? But I don't want to force a guy, just like my guy who didn't like oral sex.

And I was like, we're done because I like the guy who didn't like oral sex, and I was like, we're done, because I like the guy who likes to perform oral sex on me, as we know. So speaking of casual sex and sex in general, we're gonna get into our topic. It is all about casual sex, and this is brought to you by Max4Men. So Max4Men, if you go to maxthenumber4men.com,

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and everyone knows everyone, or they've been going for years. I've been only going for three years, but like, there's definitely like the like, people who hooked up in like one night, they're with this person, then there's like little mini dramas, which I try not to get involved with and I try not to hook up with anyone in the industry.

But I do want to talk about casual sex because I want to know, do you think casual sex is right for you? So I want to give you some tips and etiquette if you're going to have casual sex and how to tell if someone you meet is looking for casual hook up or a relationship. So how can you tell the difference, right? Yeah. And a lot of times it starts out, like you don't really know, right?

Like the first time you hook up with someone, you're like, this can be casual, or this can be a relationship. We don't know. So if you enjoy having casual sex and find it pleasurable, then you should go for it, as long as you're safe and use protection. If you feel bad after having casual sex, make an effort to get to know someone better

before getting intimate with them. So if you've had repeated casual sex and you wake up in the morning, I have a friend like this. And every time she has like sex with someone or casual sex, she feels bad about herself. Well, she's not all right. Candidate for it. But if you're a woman or a guy and you're like, you know what, that was no big deal. I communicated with the person, whatever. And I can have casual sex and I say go for it. But if you're a woman or a guy and you're like, you know what, that was no big deal. I communicate with the person, whatever, and I can have casual sex and

I say go for it. I think it's a nice, it can be harder for women because women feel like they shouldn't have casual sex because they don't want to be viewed as sluts, but they actually enjoy having it. And other women feel like they should have casual sex maybe because they want to feel sexually liberated, but they aren't getting anything out of it. So true sexual liberation, when we're talking about that, is about doing what you want, whether that means having casual sex, having sex and intimate relationship or not having sex at all. So casual sex tips.

First thing is, you know, when you first are having casual sex, someone of the first time you have sex with someone, you might be thinking, you know what, I don't really want to try to think crazy. So I'm just going to stick to the missionary position. You ever do that, Menace? No. You just have missionary the first time. Most casual sex isn't amazing, and this is especially true for women. I'm going to be honest. It's usually anti-climatic because the fun, it was meeting, you know, the chase, the anticipation of getting together, and then once the sex happens, it's usually kind of generic for women. It's not typical unless you're like a really highly orgasmic woman that the first time you're with getting together. And then once the sex happens, it's usually kind of generic for women.

It's not typical unless you're like a really highly orgasmic woman that the first time you're with someone, you're going to have an orgasm through in a horse. So try out something new during casual sex. Try different positions. A woman, she can jump on top and a guy can flip them onto the top if they're worried about premature ejaculation. A woman on top is a great position. So just try changing up positions. Do something different. If you want to repeat, I would say, just don't just stick to the missionary, do.

Doggy stuff. Do whatever you want. Seal comfortable, it's flowing. But try to have a lot of four-plane mix in there with some new positions. Right, menace? The course. Anything else you'd like to add to that?

Okay, good. You're going to mix it up. You want them to come back, don't you? Totally, you want them to come back for more. And so just don't be like, oh, I don't want to rock the boat because I don't really know if she's into me or vice versa, I don't know if he's into me,

do you know, just like have some fun casual snacks because you know, it could just be the last time with the person or whatever. Okay, number two, never apologize for your performance. Don't apologize for your penis size, lack of shaving your pubic hair, or if the sex didn't last as long as you wanted it to. This tells the other person that you've low self-confidence.

If they weren't already regretting sleeping with you, they're definitely regretting it now. I have to cut to the most hilarious story I've ever heard and tell me minus what you think of this, not hilarious, because I'm not sure how I would feel if a guy did this to me, but I met this guy, I met this guy, the other night, this has to do with, with not shaving pubes. So I thought this was relevant.

Okay. So I met this guy the other night. And of course, because I have a sexual family show, people always want to talk to me about, you know, if their stories, he's like, Oh my God, he's like, I was hooking up with this woman in New York. I was at a party. I met this woman. She was super hot. I brought her up to my hotel room after hanging out

with her on the night. We're getting naked. And all of a sudden, she's got this huge, huge bush. The huge. And he's like, you know what? He's like, not my thing. Now, I'm not saying anything's wrong with the bush. I'm not judging because some guys are totally into it.

He picks up the phone. He calls the concierge, front desk and says, can you please send me some shaving cream and a razor and hangs up. The woman looks at him and she's like, fuck you, she's like, f you, like what are you doing? And then he's like, no, no babe, I just can't handle it. It's not my thing. So there's a knock on the door. He comes with, you know, the razor and a a thing and he picks her up, throws her on the kitchen,

on the sink, in the bathroom. And he like, shaves her down with warm water and like, shaves her entire bush off, and then they ended up having amazing socks. Wow. See? Wow, right? Whitman always tried to bring it back. Guys are not into it, man. I mean, of course we're going gonna have like 15 emails from guys saying oh dude I'm down with it I like it but I'm talking about the majority of men

Just not into it and it seems like in the past I would say two years or so There's been like a revolution from some women where they want to bring it back No one wants it don't keep on trying to bring it back. I Don't think that's true though men as some men don't mind it I'm just saying some men I'm talking. I'm talking about the majority. I'm not saying majority of men Yeah, I'm not saying every single man out there, okay? I don't speak for all the men When I make comments, I'm talking about the majority, okay? People don't freak out. You are still going to get laid even though if you have Wolverine down there or Teen Wolf, it doesn't matter, you know, it's not going

to hindr you. Right. The interesting thing for this guy was that like he was just like it was just surprising. She was like, you know, whatever. But I think some women don't shave and that's fine. But I'm just saying this was a really funny story. I'm not saying you should do whatever, but most people these days, including men and women, seem to trim or man scape or scape somehow. Isn't that funny though, Menace? I'm so glad I remembered that story because you know me who always remember stories.

What? I don't know if you read my story over this past weekend. So I was in Burbank at Universal Studios, Universal City Walk. And I was there for an event that my friends were throwing. And I put this update on Facebook and Twitter that it just exploded. People were laughing so hard.

What is it? What was it about? So my friends had this event, a course it's open bar, and of course, you know, I take advantage. And then so we're just like parting to late, late in the night. And I was like parting with them in the hotel room probably till I four or five in the morning. I wake up the next day back at my hotel, which happens to have 24-hour room service. I wake up completely naked. And I look over on the table,

which is like the table in my hotel room is like really deep into the room. So from the front door to the hotel, to the to the table in the hotel, is a pretty long walk. And it has all this room service on the table, and not one of it, one piece of it has been eaten. It is like perfectly preserved, right?

So, I am pretty much convinced that I must have asked her the door completely naked and let room service into the room for them to sit down in the room service on the table. Dude, what were you, what were you, what were you blacked out? Yeah, well, I was just drinking, I was really tired and I, I woke up in the bed completely naked and room service was there in my room. So I had to have answers to the door naked. I think that's illegal. Like, whatever was some young chick working at

the hotel and you were naked with a penis taken out. Oh my God. I didn't get any complaints. So yeah, she keeps the wins like I order room service again. I'm sure in hotels you see everything. That is friggin hilarious. Yeah, so If you want updates like that follow me on Twitter. I'm menace on Twitter or Instagram just menace one word I make it easy for you people. You make it easy menace. Yeah, what's your new blog site? Don't even you blog? I have a new site like a new sharing site. It's called post. It's P-O-S-S-T I know I'll try to shorten it one day, but Post, you can check that out.

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head guy there knew about sex with Emily. It was crazy. How did it really? That's crabby no. Did he listen to it? That's cool. I happens everywhere. Yeah. I mean, some guy came up to me in the airport

when I landed and he showed me his phone and he's like, look what I'm listening to. And he wasn't even like hitting on me and he was just listening to Sector Emily through Stitcher on his phone. That's awesome. I know, I was like, oh my God, that's so funny. It was kind of weird.

But Stitcher is a great app that you can download for your smartphone and listen to any podcast you want. Yeah, and it's totally, it's totally free. Totally free. It's a great way to access sex with Emily when you're on the road or on your phone, which you probably are most of time. Okay, next casual sex tip, if you have a great time with the person and you want to see them again, ask them to breakfast or at least get their phone number. Some relationships actually begin with casual sex. So women often expect the guy to ask at distant after sex.

But if you like her, cuddle and ask her for breakfast or even make her breakfast. Same goes for women. Otherwise you're kicking them out. You're hoping they leave and skank away at 6 a.m., right? But if you are into them, you might wanna ask for the number. But don't ask for the number if you're not gonna call, because that's the worst. Well, women are always like,

why the hell did he ask for my number not call? Just don't do it. But I think guys feel like they have to call, right? Messes, yeah, messes with your mind. Messes with your mind. You guys get obsessed with it. I know. Okay, be safe.

Always wear a condom even if she's on birth control. Because let me tell you something, some women say they're on birth control but they forgot their pill three times that month. I mean, you don't know what's happening. So guys, use condoms, please. Okay, tell the person what you want. You don't know what the person likes

or what their turnons are. You might only have one night with them so make a count by asking what they like and telling them what you like. So if you know, I mean, I don't I think that the first time you're with someone, you should be like, does that feel good? Does that it pay attention? This is like men and women's, no, it's just don't pay attention because we're all so worried about our own performance.

And this is true in life. For always thinking God, what's this person thinking about me? When really all anyone's really obsessed with with themselves and how they're performing. And this moves into the bedroom. So I don't think there's anything wrong with saying like, did this feel good? How do you like it? And just communicating even early on. Because why not get what you want?

Just because it's casual sex. It doesn't mean it has to be bad sex. So, you know, people often ask the questions, you know, if you're having casual sex, do you spend the night? Do you give the person a little sex? Do you cuddle? It all depends on the situation. Be careful and enjoy. So here's how to tell if someone is looking for one night stand, a friend's with benefits or a relationship. Okay, this is a one night stand. If they single you out, so time

minutes, you're a dude who's probably had a one night stand or two or three and I've had some of my history. So they will approach you with a friendly attitude and initiate small talk at the end of the night. He may tell you he's just looking for something casual and will ask what you're looking for. This is a very respectable way to approach a one-night stand. However, a lot of guys might not do this. They'll act super into you until after-sacks when they will act distant, act distant. So just pay attention to when they single you out and all that.

This happened to my friend in Vegas. She's a super hot chick. We were sitting there the first night and some guy came up to her and he was like, you're so beautiful. I'm so into you. Let's meet up in an hour. They met up in an hour. They had crazy sex all night.

He's like, let's go out tomorrow night. And then you can guess what happened. The next night came along. It was five o'clock. She hadn't heard from him. She texted him and he said, I don't feel well. And then she came to find, then she came to find out through mutual friend

that he was on the strip, parting with some other chicks. Ha, ha, ha. So I'm just saying, you know, it's one night's day and all that stuff. It's pretty tricky. So pay attention if that's not what you want. And she was bummed and she knew she's not stupid.

She's a vagus, it's a guy she met and whatever. And he lives in Indiana and she lives in California. And it's all good. But I'm just saying, it's still hurt a little. So just know what you're getting into. So another way you can tell to one extent, if he complements you a lot, he will tell you how interesting you are to talk to. How much pretty you are than all the other women in the room and make you feel like you're

the only one he's interested in. I don't know if this just stands for one night's stand, but this is just something to look at for. Body language. He will try to touch you in some way, maybe on your back. You might do this to gauge your comfort level before he approaches with more sensual touching. He acts sensitive, towards your needs. He wants to appear someone that you've known for considerable amount of time and not just a new friend. This is to get you comfortable with him to make the idea of a one-night stand seem more feasible.

He may talk or brag about himself in a way that appears as someone that would be right for you. And finally, they won't ask for your number they're looking to seal the deal tonight. Of course, there's always exceptions to the rules. Sometimes it seems like a one-night stand can turn into a relationship but those are some tips to look for in a one-night stand. Have you had one-night stands minutes? Yeah but I didn't I wasn't like out on the hunt to have one it just happened you know. Some people just every time they go out that's their their goal. I don't

know I just really my goal is to just go out and have fun. That's their their goal. I don't know. I just really my goal is to just go out and have fun That's really some people's goal Yeah, cool. What are you talking about? Have you ever watched Jersey Shore? Yeah, I know and Vegas and the whole thing and everything I just never had that intention because I never really I mean, I'm sure I've done it historically, but not a lot because I just think it's hard You're like why'd I do that and the sex is never that good for a woman as I started this whole conversation saying that,

one night stands, or it's usually the anticipation, the build up of having attraction to someone new with the actual intercourse, which is why I'm trying to help you is not usually the good of the first night. Okay, the next thing is friends of benefits. This falls under the casual sex umbrella, and there was like a period during the sex with Emily Show, where we got like hundreds of emails.

I think it was like two years ago on friends with benefit situations. It was like something period during the sex with Emily Show where we got like hundreds of emails. I think it was like two years ago on friends with benefits situations. It was like something in the ether. Everyone was like wanting to know about them. So as the term implies, it's probably an acquaintance or a friend, but if you start hooking up with a friend and they call you at 11 PM on Friday

and never invite you to hang out with their friends, it's probably a booty call slash friends with benefits situation. If you want to be in a relationship with this person, get out because this kind of relationship will not satisfy you. The only kind of friends with benefits relationships that work are when you both are cool with like it just being casual. Like we're friends, we hook up sometimes, but I'm still being in other checks or you're

still being in other dudes and we're told you okay with it. But typically these situations go awry when one person wants more than the other person, right? We've seen that happen. Okay. So signs are looking for a relationship might be that he's truly attentive to you. They ask questions, they listen to your answers, they're amused by your answers and can relate to them. he wants to see you all the time. They want to see you one to two minimum times a week. They will call to just say hi or tell you something funny not just to make plans. They want to meet your friends and introduce your friends.

They plan ahead and they're willing to wait to have sex or might delay having sex. So there's always exception to the rules, but that's how we're breaking down casual sex and relationships today. So hope you learned something about the situation. And just remember you got to take care of yourself and just think about it. Like how is it made you feel in the past to do casual sex and just pay attention to people's intentions and be careful and use a condom. Use two condoms. I'm just kidding, you don't use two condoms, but you know, they break and they don't break. Some do break, but use good condoms. We should do a condom review show. I think we't have to do condoms. But you don't have to. No, they break. And they don't break. Some do break, but you use good condoms. We should do a condom review show.

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