Sex With Emily - SWE: Phone Sex

Episode Date: January 18, 2013

How to have great phone sex, from foreplay sexting to an orgasmic phone call finish. Emily personally demonstrates how to “sex up” your voice. Emily and her co-host Menace discuss how often men and women talk about who they’re sleeping with, and when you should stop telling everyone you know the intimate details of your sex life. Emily ends the show with a lesson on Kegels-- how to do your sexercises and why they will make you better in bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Okay, so now you can find me, Sex with Emily on Twitter and also on Facebook. You can find me sex with Emily on Twitter and also on Facebook You can find my page on Facebook so you can we were doing a lot more interactions lot more Twittering lot more Commenting commenting Facebooking so you can hopefully join us and also okay So we have this audience survey on our website It's in the right hand. There's a little blue thing. It's as audience survey and a lot of people have been filling it out And I would be so appreciative specifically because we're doing,

I know I've been saying this for a while, but I mean it. We are moving into more shows. And I'd love to hear what you like, what you don't like. There's a specific section that says likes and dicks, dislikes. And it's not dick, dick, you said dick, dick likes, dislikes. And there's, um, and so it helps us because I want to know like what you like, what you know, what you want to hear. So please fill out that survey.

That would be awesome. And today's show, okay, we've got your email that you emailed to feedback at sexwithmly.com. Some topics include phone sex for beginners, how to do it. A wife won't masturbate, what to do about that. Who should plan the date and a few more things, you know, random, hand job things and menace things and stuff like that. And then we've also got some sex tips on cable exercises. I have a personal strong affinity for cable exercises because I've got and you will I always have because I think it's the most important exercise

that you're not doing right now in there for men and women. So guys don't tune out there for you to. And I have a new iPhone app that is out. It should be out right now as you're listening to this. It's called Kegel Camp from Sex with Emily. Kegel camp K E G E L. And you can get an iPhone. It's iPhone app. Did I say that? Yeah. So okay. So Kegel actually we're going to get into Kegel exercises and why they're so important and why they're going to how they're going to improve your and change your life and improve your sex life. That's good. That is good, right? I want to see that happen already. The app is really cool. I'm on the, it's better.

I have another app, 101 sex tips from Sex and Family, and I think this one's better. It's more interactive. I'm talking on it. I'm like, because basically what you do with your kegels, is you isolate the muscles and you relax. You tense relax. So I'm going tense. Relax. Tense. Relax, tense, relax my voice. Remember? It's cute. You like it. So that's very exciting.

And we, I'm good to see you, Menace. You too. How you doing? How's your week going? My week has been crazy. Lots of drama. But very good. Yeah, I've had some male drama.

I feel like men are just like coming out of the wood works. Oh, guy drama, not like male, that gets delivered to you. No, but PSU only letter. Some sent me a book here that you need to give me. Oh, okay. Okay, no, speaking of male, not male. So what's the drama? If you're one of those, I'm not gonna get, I know.

Is it like, is it like, Maury Pulvich type drama? Kind of, and I'm not gonna get into all the details because we've got so much to cover today, but. No, I don't care about that. I wanna hear about the drama. Basically, so much to cover today. No, I don't care about that. I want to hear about the drama. Basically, this town's really small. Yeah, it's seven miles by seven miles. Yeah, it's a very small town.

And stuff gets around. Stuff gets around. And I was with someone and he told someone and I'd been with this other guy a few weeks earlier and it wasn't good. I'm not going to get in the whole situation, but I'm not going to get in the whole story. And one day I will, like maybe in a few weeks, I'll tell you all the wasn't good. I'm not gonna get in the whole situation, but I'm not gonna get in the whole story. And one day I will, like maybe in a few weeks,

I'll tell you all the story, but right now it's a little raw. And all I have to say is that like, I feel like I'm too old to be in a situation where a guy is going to talk about sleeping with me. Like is it that, like, and then the other guy who knows that I slept with this guy is like, I think he was using you as like a trophy or something, like he was, literally the next day, he was like, I slept with Emily and told his ex-girlfriend.

The point is, who the hell talks about who they sleep with at our age? Who does that? Uh, actually, I was just talking about this before the show. I was having coffee with this girl. And we're talking just about how the city that we live in is so small and everybody knows everybody. And I told her, her I go that's why even my friends that are my friends I don't tell them about anything I don't tell them about who I'm sleeping with or anything like that because they could tell somebody innocently about what's going on with you and it just gets around so fast so as they say keep your game tight you know.

I don't need anybody anything. It doesn't matter like I don't need to share that kind of stuff. I don't need I just share it with that all the and that guy telling him I just share with 10,000 people a day. That guy like telling his girlfriend that's such a chick move. Do you know? Like untucked your penis, man. Like, that's bitch. It right. I know. I can't believe it. I was like, you really?

You went and told I told you not to say anything. You said shit right now. I can't believe it. I was like, you really, you went and told, I told you not to say anything. You said something. Anyway, I don't want to get all think, but it was drama and I'm done. And it's just like, I can't, I just feel like I don't want to be with anyone in San Francisco. I just can start importing, man.

What do you think? You should. You should know that guy in LA that I've been telling you for years. No, no, no, no, no. We're like, he's called, oh, he's coming to town next week. Oh, really? Yeah.

You guys just gonna hang out. Oh, and I've got another guy. I've got guys Guys come to us. Yeah, no, he's not my cabin. He's not my cabin drink wine friend He's my ex boyfriend and maybe I should have him come on the show Would you like to have somebody on the show that I've slept with that you? Yeah, I thought that'd be interesting. I love that. I went up the interest me like what was Emily like? Yeah, I love that I'd be terrified. I'd be terrified for that. You don't have to leave the room.

I would have so many questions. That would be so much fun. Oh my God. So yeah, how was your week? Did you get any action? No, I haven't. I just, I know it sucks, but I, you know, I've been in the process of moving and all that stuff. And now I got a sponsor, not a sponsor of the show, but I got a sponsor with a sion, and

they gave me a car, but I still have to get insurance and all that stuff. So I'm dealing with kind of like being a grown-up, you know? Welcome to my world. And that kind of like puts off, that kind of goes ahead of like trying to get laid. It's trying to like get it settled and be comfortable in your living. It's so true. It's so true you're not it takes a while. Yeah, if you're not comfortable in your home space And you're not feeling centered and grounded. It's gonna be hard to be in a relationship Because then you're like half a person or just even you're looking for another half or even going out It's just such a be real I agree being a man because I feel I'm not one of those people that is gonna

Let the girl pay so like you know, I, you still have to think all that stuff out. I've been offering to pay again, by the way. No, is it just a reach? You don't, is it reach? A reach, reach, reach. Good, good. Actually, they were just talking about this on a TV show, the Today Show.

Really, what were they saying? And it was my, my favorite girl of them all was talking about it is Olivia Munn. She was on a Today Show just the other day and she was talking about the reach. She's like, you gotta do the reach. She goes, I'm gonna do the reach, but you better pay.

You wanna make me pay then we're not going out again. We're talking to her when you go on a date that the guy should pay for the first few dates, I think, it's as she whoever does the asking and the woman should do the reach. She should put them down, gonna get my wallet and then he's just gonna go, no, don't worry about it. Yeah, he's not gonna be like yeah, you owe me 42 bucks That would be hell no, that would that would be me. I'm not gonna do that. I would hate that. I would hate that

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into a whole plug thing, but I have. But you're going to, anyway. I'm going to do it anyways, because me and my buddy have been working on this into a whole plug thing, but I You're going to anyway. I'm gonna do it anyways because me and my buddy I've been working on this website for the past year where we want to let companies help them do giveaways on Twitter. So I'm testing one out right now and I'm giving away an iPad. So if you follow me on Twitter, it's white menace and on May 6th I believe I'm giving away a new iPad. How are you gonna pick the winner? It is it's the system the way it's built

up through hashtags. It follows everybody that enters and stuff like that. Well, I've been doing Contest 2 now to sophisticated Lee. Yeah, see what I'm doing. So as you, but I did you build, okay, we'll talk about this technical. I think it's awesome how you did that. So everyone should apply for menace's thing. Yeah. And we're giving way sex toys every week through my Twitter because we can't do it through Facebook or something. It's more complicated. Facebook doesn't let you. So go to Twitter already. If you've been to Twitter, sex with Emily and then white men us. Yes. Yes. And we've been tweeting back and forth. Yeah. There's so people at replying us crazy crazy crazy crazy crazy. Okay. So I think I'll get into some sex in the news.

Okay. What do you got? There's a survey that came out. 52% of British women avoid having sex because they feel fat. Do you think that number? I think I think that number. I can say so many things. Well, on television, like they make fun of women, uh, British women being fat and having messed up teeth. That's what we see in America. Okay, so I don't know when it has, but that is a huge right, you know, you're saying the British women being fat and having messed up teeth. That's what we see in America. Okay, every woman has, but that is a huge, right? You're saying the British women are larger? They're so nice. No, that's what they mock in on television.

You're thinking about like, British Jones diary or something? No, I'm just saying on, from the 90s. And I think that comes like in general from Britain, it's like the girls have messed up in fact. Even a lot of listeners in the UK, yeah, maybe I haven't heard that, but I don't, I don't believe that

But here's what's so interesting about this survey. Okay, so 50% but what I'm saying I think this is universal I think a lot of times women feel super insecure about their bodies and so they want the lights off They don't want to have sex like they feel fat. I've even been with men lately who are like a too much I'm not sure if I can get it up. They don't say that but they're not Okay, so this is a survey of 4,000 people. It discovered that 29% of women said that women mentioned looking for feeling fat as a reason for not having sex.

23% they blamed on their wobbly bits, which is a British survey, so that we just say our flabby thighs. They said wobbly bits. And then it said that 8% of males avoided sex due to some fat shame, only 8% of men, and their love handles. And the biggest reason for not getting it on was fatigue, cited by 72% of women, filed by feeling unattractive, 34% anyway, so they feel fat. But this is the thing I want to tell you that men is that, a lot of times you can't help a woman feel better.

If she feels insecure about her body, this is just a lot of women go through this. I go through this, I go through periods where I'm like, oh god, I know, I look so. But you know what, just try to, this is what we talked about a few weeks ago on the show, embrace the person you're with, tell them that they're beautiful, tell them that you think they're sexy. Sometimes it doesn't work because women have to believe it themselves and they can have a hundred people telling them they are. But just remember to cherish the woman that you're with and tell her how freaking awesome she is and how beautiful she looks and how hot she looks. Um, a quick question. Maybe I'm misunderstood the survey. It's so they don't want to have sex,

right? They don't want to have sex because they avoid sex because they feel fat. Okay, not because they're not getting laid because- No, no, no. Okay, did you misunderstand that no? I just wanted to clarify yeah 52% say the reason that they're not having sex where they avoid sex They could be in a relationship. They could be whatever is like they they feel fat tonight and putting off sex Are putting up anything because you're gonna lose weight like you know who like oh? I have a friend who's like when I lose 15 pounds then I'm gonna date It's like you can't live your life in the future. Yeah when this happens when I get the car the car of the wife, the house, the kids, then I'm going to be happy. That is no

way to live your life ever. Be happy now today, here now. Yeah. Right? I mean, we could be in Japan. Yeah. Luckily, we're not. We've good lives right here in San Francisco. It's good. And in the world. Hopefully, there's peace all around everyone's doing well. Wow. Are we going to get in? I don't know, I feel like I'm going to. Okay, so South by Southwest, potential picture of Jake Gyllenhaal, as I say, Dylan. Jake Gyllenhaal.

Jillinhaal, whatever, penis taken, deleted it, South by Southwest. He was taking a pee outside. Did you hear this? He was at South by Southwest, which is a huge festival. Is Jake Gyllenhaal? I thought it was a-

Jake Gyllenhaal. Okay. And he got dangerously close to having his penis on computer and smart phone screens all across the land But he got no fight with this guy. He was like taking piss outside and some guy was like take a picture of him And he was like give me that camera. Yeah, yeah, but like who does that? Who are these people? There's thousands of people right now in Austin, Texas Thousand everyone I know is there thousand. I know it sucks It makes me depressed. I was supposed to go.

I mean, I used to, my film that I made years ago was there and then everyone's there for music right now. Everyone is wasted for a week and wearing nothing because it's super hot. I'm like looking at photos before the show and everyone, like girls are in bikinis. Seriously, it's like seven-sided grease in Austin. That's great. It's amazing. Okay, well, we're missing that this Seriously, it's like 75 degrees in Austin. That's great.

It's amazing. OK. Well, we're missing that this year, but we're going to do other fun things. I want to. We should do live sex done next year from Austin. That would be amazing. It would be awesome.

Then we can be super wasted. Done and done. We're going to be in a corporate company. Done and done. I want to be wasted on the show for once. OK, Playboy publishes their annual sexiest celebrities list. Here's some of the celebrities that Playboy Magazine found the sexiest. I'll see if I agree with the list.

You will. One of them is Olivia Wilde, isn't that yours? Olivia Mon. Olivia Mon, who's Olivia Wilde? What's the difference? I don't know. I don't know. Somebody that I don't care enough to think.

They know what they look like. Natalie Portman. Natalie Portman, yeah. She's cute. Random child star Tara Reed. Tara Reed, where's she been? Tara Reed. Tara Reed.

No, effing way. How did she get in it? She's been like out of the picture. She's been a match for like, I know. And she's a bitch. I've met her before. I have two. Yeah.

Okay. Brooke Burke. Brooke Burke, yeah, she's always. Halle Berry. Halle Berry. She was on Ellen the other day. And. That was watching Nolan. And she's, she's always. Hallie Berry. Hallie Berry. She was on Ellen the other day. And that was watching Ellen. And she's super hot.

Who, Hallie Berry? Oh my god, dude. She has it all together, man. Like she's going through bars. Or a separation or child custody battle. Yes, but her ex, baby daddy. What? Even I know this. It's in the news. She's going through this to yes with her ex baby daddy. What even I know this it's in the news

She's going through this whole thing with her baby daddy because he wants custody. He's like a young model or something. Okay Yeah, but she doesn't look like she's aged at all. I know. Yeah, so unfair It's really unfair and then Megan Megan Fox Michelle will him scarlet your hand what you don't like Megan Fox? No her personality makes her Oh really is she not fun. I don't know I've never like she's the torsley not fun really yeah, she has like the worst personnel Oh, she comes off. I don't know personally. So maybe she's different when doors are closed But just everything I see in the media every interview. She's just like oh really? Yeah. Didn't know. See, like, if you're a personality sucks and you're super hot, it makes you ugly.

Exactly. It only goes so far. There's so many guy friends I have that are like, yeah, I dated her for like, usually they can date her for three months, just because she's hot. I think the looks last about two to three months. And then you're like, oh, I need a personality. Yeah, or I need somebody to be funny.

Yeah. But they're paying exactly. Yeah. That's why I don't go after men. And not like, not that I don't, not that I don't make date men who are attractive, I have, but for me, it's always about personality. You don't. You do?

Have you dated men? Have you met men? I've dated. You have. They're all right. All right. I don't think they're super hot or anything. It's a whole lot of stuff.

They just don't my type, I guess. That's good to know. If there was your type, we'd have a whole new kind of war. I'm still not here. Okay, Florida teacher gets in trouble I guess that's good to know if there was or type we'd have a whole new 10 more arms to open up here Okay, Florida teacher gets in trouble for giving a sexual tension quiz a Florida teacher gave his class a sexual innuendo quiz example, I am a protrusion that comes in many sizes when you blow me it feels good

the answer was a nose and he might lose his job over it this makes me think of two things. First off, six year old kids are the king of innuendo. If you don't believe we try getting group of 10th graders to do anything involving tennis balls. Anyway, so all these teachers, every week, sex in the news like teacher sleeping with their students, teachers pouring flashes

on the screen when they're meant to do the science experiment. When our teachers are gonna learn their lessons, like just stay away from it, you know? I know they wanna educate people, that's cool, but you know know to send them to the sex-demo broadcast and they'll be okay I Don't I can't wait till they take it on themselves exactly just send to me. We could do education schools We could one of my friends has been telling me that for a long time He's like you guys should go to college campuses and do sex, stuff, we should leave this room.

I can hook that up. Yeah, yeah, in your spare time. I can. You say you will. When you ask me to do something, I do it, don't I? Every time. Sometimes, eventually. What?

No, you do. Go ahead, bring it on. I know, I don't know, just like it takes a while. Like every week, can you post a joke and you post a joke, do you have a push to show? Okay, the joke is cool, but if you want like, like the book somebody, I can get somebody really good whenever you ask.

Oh, we're gonna have a lot more guests coming up too. Yeah. I'm excited about that. There's no problem. Did I get like some really good, anytime I bring in a guest aren't they really good? Sometimes. Sometimes, every time.

No, you've done good stuff. You've done good stuff for sure, for sure. I don't wanna hear about it anymore. Okay, what? Let's get into some emails. That's my sex and the news and there wasn't like a ton of sex in the news this week. That's what I had for y'all. That's it. We've got lots of. No Charlie she didn't have sex with what's the porn stars? Well, like what is the deal with Charlie sheen this week? I saw something on the TV. They were doing like a whole wrap up. Oh, he's going on tour. Yeah, he's coming here to San Francisco.

I heard we should get tickets. I'm this my theory on Charlie's sheen. I am done He hasn't said anything new. It's just the same old crap. He hasn't done anything crazy I think he's still on drugs No, I think he say he's sober and he's like China overcommit with his mind. He's manic He's just insane now. Right, exactly. And I saw the thing with the two porn. Oh, Bri Olson, we did an interview with her.

If anyone wants to check it out, you can search for Bri Olson. We interviewed her a few months ago on the show. We did? Pornstar, yeah. Was that the one over the phone that was terrible? Yeah, she was like, I just like guys who are, what she say, like confident.

I'm like, what really turned you on? Your porn star, come on. What really changed when she's like, confidence. I'm like, what really turned you on? Your porn star, come on. What really changed when she's like confidence. I'm like, okay, okay, okay, but really what did she like confidence? I was just like, I'm like, give me more of your porn star. She was the one that was like half asleep or something. Yeah, she looks like him was constant and probably, yeah.

That was before she left for the limelight and lost Angela with Charlie Sheen. That's good. I don't know. I with Charlie Sheen. That's good. I don't know. I hope Charlie Sheen can come up with some new material or do something crazy. He's going on tour, which is bold. I believe it's going to tank pretty hard,

and he's going to be booed off the stage, and they're going to cancel the rest of the tour. That's why I show them the pool. That's your prediction? Yep. Okay, fair. I don't know. I thought it'd be kind of fun to go see him

lose it in front of everyone. If he makes it here in time. Yeah, it's true. Okay. fair. I don't know. I thought it'd be kind of fun to go see him, lose it in front of everyone. If he makes it here at a time. Yeah, it's true. Okay. Anyways, sex in the news, anything else in your sex life, though, that's the news part of what I'm talking about. Okay, so... What can you share with me?

I ended, I was dating a guy, it's over. And I am now dating... Dison to the next one. Remember, no, I'm dating a few people. I'm dating a few people, and I'm being really open with them that I'm dating a few people, which is, which feels really healthy because I'm not...

As you should. Right, so they all know, except for like, when I didn't have a chance to tell them, and then a exec's girlfriend told everyone at the bar that I was Sup with them this other guy, which was a mistake. Who talks about who they sleep with? So no, a women do that, but guys, I don't. I don't. I don't. I tell like two best friends that I tell everything to and I tell them all my stuff. And sometimes I wish I could tell you all everything, but I don't want everyone to tell everyone ever known everyone else.

And do you know what he just did that to he told his ex-girlfriend To make her jealous and she was jealous and then she said all that stuff to be a bitch. I know she's like Yeah, it's not nice. It's not nice to talk about other people like I don't know it's whatever It's just I just don't like talk. I'm not a gossip at all. Did you call her a horror in the bar? Because that wasn't there. Oh, damn it. Which is a bummer, but I would have. Exactly. Well, you call her a horror.

But I think that, yeah, people are insecure. I mean, I don't know why people lead tech while they're busy, especially with their ex-girlfriends. Like, this is who I slept with. This is what I'm doing. It just seems silly. And I've just learned a lot. And I've learned that I just have to be careful who I'm with.

Or just what you're saying, like, when you want to say, I didn't say anything. I just have to be careful who I'm with. I just what are you saying? Like, when you want to say I didn't say anything, I just slept with them. Uh, yeah. I gotta be careful of the people that I am. Not that I'm making bad choices, I just think that you have to really, I think it's really good to wait a long time before you sleep with someone. What? I'm gonna start like becoming like Mormon or something or wait till you're married.

No, I'm just kidding. Everyone's like, no, no, but really like why? I don't know. I just think I need to know people better. And it's like I said, it's a small town. I've lived here for a long time. You know everyone, and I just have to make better choices. I totally agree. And you should try, you know, a little outside the city, maybe. Oh, I've done that. I've got LA. I've got LA. I mean, that's kind of far. I mean, there's a lot of outside the city city like like over the bridge. Yeah. I don't leave the city very much. Well, that's good. They'd have to come to me. Wow. I'm going to see a play tonight. I'm going to see,

um, he's going to be amazing. What? That I'm going to see a play. Yeah. Sounds like a fun. Okay, he's going to be at I think he's going to be on our show. I shouldn't even say it because I think he is going to be on our show next next week But it's that rock of ages with Constantine Morales from American idols so he's in town for a few weeks So he's gonna try to come on our show, but he's his show is when we record But I'm gonna go see that tonight taking a girlfriend a girlfriend. Yeah, rocker ages. It's supposed to be awesome That's cool. What are you gonna do this weekend this weekend?

Pay bills I'm gonna get really drunk after the show because One of our On our buddies that's been helping us out over at Stitcher is leaving Stitcher and he's launching a network with Kevin Smith the movie director and you can also get that show on Stitcher, so I think that's coming up within a month. Are you really gonna get drunk right now like in 20 minutes? You're gonna be drunk. Yeah. I'm going to go drink. Oh, I wish I could. Yeah.

You got to go into some play. I'm going to play at eight. I could get drunk first. And then fall asleep in the eye could pregame. That's good. Some people wrote in about pregaming. Shock. OK, let's move into some emails because there's so many of them.

And I just want to thank everybody for emailing me. At feedback at section only.com I read all your emails I don't always get to read them but I will be starting a program in a month where I will be answering them via video. How long do you can tell people what's going on? I know I've got like so much going on that I want to tell everybody and I can't and I probably will tell you in about three weeks. Three weeks? Two weeks? Two weeks?

Two weeks. I'm going to tell everyone. It's a pretty big deal. It is. And it makes me really happy and I hope that you all come along for the ride. Yeah, if you like sex with Emily now, believe me. Yeah, you're going to like it to sex with Emily all the time. Yeah.

It's going to be awesome. Okay. Hello. I was gonna be awesome. Okay. Hello, I was delighted to hear you in the latest episode, number 204, read a message from another listener about sex between the breasts. I too would love that. If I had a partner to do it with, I also would love the woman on top position for intercourse as it would allow me to suck on her breasts while I'm inside her. As usual, you and Menace are great keep up the good work.

Collins. Thank you, Collins. Where does are great keep up the good work. Collins. He's a man. Where does he say where he's from? Nope. But he's, he's written before and a bunch of Collins. Hi, Collins. I haven't heard of you in a while. It's great to hear from you.

So yeah, that's the guy that had never come up before. The, the breasts with the, with the sex. What the, the, the term for it is really dirty. So I think yeah, can I say it? Yeah. There you go. I said it term for it is really dirty. So, I don't know. Yeah. Can I say it? Yeah. There you go. I said it.

So, he likes it too. I feel like it's something from the 70s or something that people don't really do. From the 70s? What? I don't know, baby. Do people still do it all the time? The 90s?

I feel like people don't do it any more. You either really into it or you're not. It's one of those things. No, I wouldn't mind it, but I even had a guy be like, let me do this. Yeah. but I wouldn't say no. I I'm down. I'm like whatever. I've got to be a good girl date, but you know what the problem is Sorry, I'm gonna go off into like what go for it. It's messy true and that um Well, what is it messy?

I have a feeling lately like like I've always gotten, I don't know if I should go off on the right surround right now, but I have got a lot of, I've always, you've got attention from men or met men and I've always had guys in my life, but I feel like lately, oh, my book, my book is out. You can look at, I mean, it's not out in stories yet, but it's if you go to Simon and Schuster.com

and you look for hot, it's called Hot Sex, you can see my book and it's up there and it says over 200 sex positions. Freaking awesome. My book is awesome, you can pre-order it and pre-buy it right now. It comes out in September. But the point is that I feel like lately when I'm meeting men and I'm meeting, you know, I'm out all the time that there is a certain, I never used to feel this way and I've talked

about this progressively on the show. Like if you went back and listened to you and you'd hear me say, no, guys don't get intimidated or guys don't care, but now it's like, I wrote a book of 200 over 200 text positions. And I feel like when I meet men now, they almost like, here what I do. And it's like, let's get it on. They don't even know that it's about me. But no, but I never, oh, we've read up a ton, but I've never felt it until lately. I really feel it now. Oh, she's a freak. Yeah. She's a freak. She wrote the sex book, she knows all the stuff, which I kind of do, but I'm not like...

I think you're down with her immediately. Yes, yes, and it's, I almost don't want to talk about it right away. She's saying, look, fellas, you're not going to get down unless you go to a cabin and you have some wine. Oh, I love what I do, fellas. All right, it's not going to happen right now. I love, love, love what I do, but I don't want it to be like like you see sex before you see me. Yeah

You know what I mean? I never Thought that you never you never thought me found found me attractive Are you never wanted to sleep with me right? No Except for that one time that you you keep on thinking that I think you were wasted and you were dreaming I think man has tried to kiss you. I had a flashback during the show a few weeks ago It was cute. It was cute. It was it was a long time. I did not tried to kiss me once. I had a flashback during the show a few weeks ago. It was cute, it was cute, it was a long time ago. I did not try to kiss you. I remember that.

You were drunk. No, I was like five years ago, it's fine. Okay, hi, I'm like, who, who about guy? Yeah, maybe you didn't, maybe wasn't you. I think you might have been somebody else. Okay, Emily, I recently discovered your podcast, and I was looking for something interesting to listen to to get me through the 12 hour drive for my boyfriend's house to my own. I must say. Nine typed in sex, and I found you. Nine typed in sex podcast and I was looking for something interesting to listen to to get me through the 12-hour drive for my boyfriend's house to my own.

I might say it definitely worked and I've been listening to archived episodes ever since. Everyone listening, we do have 200 and some unshows, so you can listen to all of them. I think it'd be funny to go back to the beginning. As far as I can tell, you don't have an episode on phone sex and I think it would make a great topic for your show. I'm currently in the long distance relationship which despite popular opinion that long distance that long distance doesn't work is going great. My boyfriend I have managed to find a way to keep the spark despite the thousand mile distance between us. One night after I had a couple of drinks,

I called my boyfriend and we engaged in some pretty hot phone sex. Ever since then he's been trying to get initiated again but I keep backing off for changing the subject. For some reason, other than the one time, I wasn't that one time that I was able to, I can't seem to get comfortable enough or creative enough to rely on words. It's not that I'm not comfortable talking about sex with him

because we talk about some aspect of sex every night, especially since I've listened to your show. Do you have any tips for someone new to phone sex? I love your show and I'm officially a new lawyer listener, Chelsea from Ontario, Canada. Hey Chelsea, I am a huge fan of phone sex. I love phone sex and I think that it's the kind of thing where it is great for long distance.

It's great for long distance. And also you could do it, yeah, you could do it on Skype too. I don't know if you guys ever Skype, you could do do Skype you could do Skype chat and like look at each other But if you just want to do straight forward phone sex The first thing to do I just wrote down some tips here just for you because it's like the first time or first few times You have to make sure that you're very comfortable like so make sure you're in a comfortable place Maybe you already gotten to bed for the night and you're you know that no one's around and you're comfortable And then you got to sex up your voice maybe you already gotten to bed for the night and you're, you know, that no one's around and you're comfortable.

And then you got to sex up your voice. Do you not to sex up your voice? Think like you're kind of breathy and husky. Like think that you're kind of like talking like in a different way. Because men, again, they're your voice. It's they do not seeing you. So it's the way you're talking. Always embellish, okay? He says what you're wearing. Don't tell them that you're wearing your holy sweats and you're long t-shirt. You're wearing nothing. I'm wearing a aparca. Right as far as you're concerned you know whatever he's you're wearing agent you're wearing head-toe victory secret something or other you're not wearing your holy t-shirt that's this visual men are visual so you got to tell him that and then so and also just

be enthusiastic they want to know men want to know that you're enjoying it as much as they are. So just tell them that if you can't really get into it, it's really easy just to start with simple things. Did you like when I touch your paint? Whatever you want. You're a winner. Someone wrote in that they like when you say weiner.

It was really hot. I loved last time we were having sex. You could even describe to him last time you had sex What made it so hot for you or what you'd like him to do to you or what you'd like to do to him next time you see him So there's ways you can work through a scenario in your head Like if you know how you always have sex you'd be like I can't wait to see you You're long if you're close off and kiss your body all over until you Whatever you know what to say.

You get to happy. But I have a few more cocktails maybe and I'm tried again, but there it's just don't worry about it. I got to say the thing about phone sex is I'm a huge fan. Get it gets easier. You get to get everything in life. You got to practice. You just get some of your stuff down and you know what to say. You know what you can hear what is turning them on more and then you say more of that. I would have practiced on with sexting. You need to practice with sexting.

Yeah, just do a little practice with sexting, you know, so you get in the comfortable zone and then maybe move to the phone sex. Send them a dirty picture. Yeah, or if you want to. That's why I'm really afraid of the Skype stuff though. Right. You know, what about us on me hacked into my network?

I know. And they're seeing me, you know, pleasureing myself. I think there's something about I personally, I've never had Skype sucks, but I like the phone set. I just did it the other day. I shouldn't say this either. Put my L.A. guy. He was like in a hotel room in New York the other night,

and I was driving home. I was in traffic and. That's what I'm seeing. And I was like, are you this guy? Now I'm like, are you gonna master right right now? He goes, yeah, I was going to. I'm like, do I want me to talk you through it? And I just like totally got him off

while I was driving home from work. Wow. I was like, in traffic lights and like, so what are you wearing? Really? So are you so hard right now? Who does that? And he like came in two seconds.

It was awesome. What? I'm good at it. I hope I helped. I hope I helped Chelsea. Was that helpful? Just relax. You're gonna date 500 other guys,

and you're just gonna end up getting with this guy anyway. No, I will not end up with him ever, ever. We are such good friends. I'm not. I'm driving over and working traffic. I can't give phone sex. I'm just saying, you know. I didn't get an accident or anything.

No one's gonna block her. I've been given out the milk for free with the LA guy. Honey, I don't care. But LA guy and I are so beyond ever being we're not gonna be together. Okay. We're just gonna have phone sex. That's cool. And sometimes real sex. All right. No, but not really anymore. Not a try to do like that. But I can give him phone sex. God. Why are you lying to me so much? I'm not lying to you. So many lies that you're projecting to me. I'm not lying to you. I'm not sleeping with him. I haven't in a while.

Not yet. But phone sucks. It's not bad. I'm so like, I can just dish out the phone sex right now. I got nothing today. Yeah, whatever. Whatever. Whatever.

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My wife isn't into masturbation. We have a healthy and imaginative sex life and we are willing to try anything with each other. For a long time, courage, my wife, to masturbate more. For a few reasons, I agree with what you are saying that everyone needs to explore their own sexuality and learn what makes them feel good. And let's be honest, I find the image of my wife pleasing herself very hot. We know that pretty much all of women do it and it's part of sexuality. The thing is, she isn't into it. We have bought several great brand name toys, books, etc. and she tries, takes time to herself, sets the mood, relaxes, and while she finds it pleasurable and relaxing, she just doesn't reach orgasm. Only one time in the shower with the nozzle, she was able to

reach orgasm without any help from me. She loves for me to play with her using toys and fingers and love to set herself during sex, but she can't come by herself After while we talked about it and decided that it just doesn't matter our sex life isn't lacking She is no trouble at all reaching orgasm when we play together and she isn't dysfunction at all I don't want it to be a chore a thing that she keeps failing at So she decides she will try to occasionally if she feels like it and not worry about it It's not her thing and it doesn't hurt either one of us Keep it up. We love the show come to Salt Lake and eat it red rock brewery sometime Mike and Salt Lake City. Love Salt Lake City. I love Salt Lake. So he's saying that they were having issues with orgasm and she just they decided not to

put all the pressure on it. I think a lot of times who put so much pressure on orgasms and it sounds like she can still do it sometimes. If she's I mean I have a lot of friends who can't not a lot. Many many people women that I meet I always say friends but I become have a lot of friends who can't not a lot many many people women that I meet I always say friends, but I become friends a lot of people many women that I know cannot have orgasms Like either they're on medication or they can't have orgasm or intercourse But you still really enjoy sex like there's nothing wrong if you can't it's all in your Organisms are amazing, but you can't have them every time that's fine. They they sound like very connected happy couple I wanted to have sushi downtown.

I appreciate that story, yeah. Utah, I was amazing. You've always, you've talked about that before. Yeah, I don't know. I talked about not too many podcasts ago. I talked about how there's this girl that I know and so I'll like sit at Utah. And we just became friends over the internet.

We talk on the phone. Right. We talk all the time. But we never met each other because every time she's in San Francisco Like I'll be somewhere else. Oh, and like if I'm there she like to ship the past one night. Yeah, is she gonna come visit? I don't know. Are you gonna hook up with someone tonight when you get really drunk? Maybe. What are you doing later? I'm around. I'm going to see play. Oh, okay. Thanks

Okay, this is just random. Can I can I do because we got to learn we're gonna Start learning front selling and like telling people like you need to check this out later Can I challenge you to something? Yes, are you ready to take it on? Yeah, all right next show You're gonna describe your last sexual encounter Can you do that? You don't have to say who it is or who it's what, but how it went down from like beginning to end, like from the date, what you did all the way to the end

and tell the guy did the walk of shame. Can you do that or no? What made you think of that? I just, you know, cause we've got to build the cliffhangers to give people a little bit of experience. That's a great idea. I'll do that. Hopefully I'll have sex this week.

I think I will. Okay. You try really hard. You'll do that. Hopefully I'll sex this week. I think I will okay. You try really hard I'm gonna have sex this week. Okay, for sure. I know one night. I will all right. I have a date. Okay, perfect I think I will describe it. That's a great Good thing point. All right, because we got to do that stuff and you guys all want to know anyway because when I wrote on my Facebook page Urbanized doing this contest last weekend Twitter giving away sex toys, which you should all want to know anyway. Because when I wrote on my Facebook page, I was doing this contest last weekend, Twitter giving away sex toys, which you should all join. I, a lot of people said, I really enjoy your shows when you interview women about their sex life.

Why don't you talk about your own sex life? Yeah, they want to know how you get down and dirty. Dude, I get down and dirty. Dear Emily, have to say, I really think it's funny the way menace says weener from Brian. Thanks, Brian. I try to say it as often as I can. Okay so let's get into some cagle exercises because I am a huge cagle fan. This is what they are and cagle camp is my new iPhone app.

You can get it in the iTunes store or on your phone. However you do it with your iPhone. You go to the app store and you type in cagle camp and you can. Sex with the cable camp. Cagle camp. Sex with the only. You go to the app store and you type in K-Gl camp and you do it. Sex with the K-Gl camp. I haven't even seen it, but it's not out yet, but it's out when you're listening. Okay. So, K-Gl exercises are for men and for women. They are the muscles. They are those P-stapping muscles.

So you know when you're going to the bathroom and you're peeing and then someone, you think someone's coming and you stop that muscle that you use to stop the flow of urine is your K-Gl. You found it. So what you do is you practice, you do repetitions. It's the same for men and women where you hold it for five seconds and you release for five seconds and then you hold it for ten seconds and you do a lot of different repetitions. You do like ten sets of holding it for five seconds, serve three seconds and releasing and then you hold it for ten seconds and you release. So here's why kiggles are so important. For women, they can be good for women who are experiencing anything like as a result of

childbirth or changes in the body. A lot of times women have problems with keeping with their flow of urine after they have kids, they have issues. It helps with that, strengthens your PC muscles, and also a lot of women talk about it intensifies their orgasms if they strengthen these muscles. It's like any other muscle in your body. And you can do them anywhere. You can do them like sitting in a traffic light,

sitting at work, like I'm doing them right now. I don't know if I can talk and do kegels, but I probably can if I got an extra good practice. So you can do it anytime and you've got to locate your muscles, make sure that you're not using as soon as people get confused, and they use like their buttocks or other muscles. You're going to make sure it's the Kegel exercise, it's the Kegel muscles and you just do sets of repetitions and you'll see my app.

It's awesome. It has a reminder on it that pops up and tells you when to do it and it walks you through all how to do it and it's my voice saying tense, relax, tense, relax, it's kind of cool. So for men, this is what Kegels doels do for men it helps them control ejaculation if they've stronger kagel muscles it will help a lot of men have issues with around premature ejaculation so they are also in really embarrassed to bring it up and men don't want to talk about it so strengthening kegels has been shown to have help men with ejaculation and and control their orgasms.

Another thing that I've heard a lot about is that I probably have done this, but not that I can remember it a long time, that women, when you're having intercourse and you have strong caggle muscles, you can clench those caggle muscles onto your partner's penis and it feels amazing. Clench really. Have you ever had a woman do that to you? Yes. How amazing does it feel?

It does feel amazing. Does it? It's because she does her kegels. I'm going to bring back kegels. I think it's going to be like going to the gym, like everyone around is going to do kegels. She's doing her kegels, like honk if you're doing kegels, like I'm going to sell bumper stickers and stuff.

Do you think I should? I think you should take that to the bank. Okay. So these are daily exercises that you have take that to the bank. Okay. So these are daily exercises that you have to do. Everyone started doing them. You can do them five minutes a day. You can do them while you're masturbating.

You can do them while you're having sex with your partner. You can, yeah, find time to do them anywhere you're at. I'm really excited actually to see that. That's what I say, okay. You are? It's really cool. I have to say I'm really, really proud of it. I think it looks amazing.

Cool. We already got a good review. Someone saw the head of time. So I'm psyched. Yeah, everyone go buy it. Helps me. Helps my life. Good.

Helps you. All right, everyone. Thanks so much for listening to the show. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback and sex with Emily. Com. Thanks for tuning into Sex with Emma.

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