Sex With Emily - SWE: Porn Star Kiara Mia Shows You How To Have Sex

Episode Date: October 12, 2013

Porn Star Kiara Mia, "the Kim Kardashian of porn", gets intimate on the podcast, sharing her best moves for having sex with men and women. Naturally, she starts with oral sex on a woman (how every great relationship starts) and describes how to lick a woman to make her orgasm. Start by kissing and licking around her clitoris. Once she’s really warmed up, her clitoris is hard and she’s thrusting her hips up, go in for her clitoris (Kiara tells you exactly what to do to pleasure her clitoris and G-spot at the same time).Kiara also describes her first orgasm, and how women can experience more pleasure in their sex lives. She shares her favorite sex positions and how to move during sex.  Move back-and-forth, grind, lean forward, lean backwards, and have lots of orgasms. The more you enjoy sex as a woman, the better you will be at having sex. Kiara talks about why she’s so good at sex. You need to really connect with your partner during sex, and I’m not just talking about connecting penis-to-vagina. Tantric sex can expand your sex life. The show ends with Kiara and I answering your questions. How do you stay in shape? What do women look for in a man? How do you pleasure a beautiful woman on the first date (someone’s presumptuous)? After you listen to the podcast, you will be ready to pleasure sexy men and women… if you’re willing to work for it.    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Loud-191. Or you can do love if you like. We'll see their way. 1-800-Yeah, well we can't really steal the love. So we'll say loud because it's for another show. But loud-191-1-800, between 930. So you're welcome to call in Thursday nights. It's a whole new fun thing. So but you can also email you email me your questions as well. So tonight's guest I'm very very excited to have her here is Chiara Mia. Hi Chiara.

Hello, Betty. Hello. She's a porn star. And she's awesome. She just got here and she's gonna give us some amazing sex tips We're going to talk about her career. We're going to talk about what she's learned. She's with men and women and I think You know who better to give advice. I should just stop talking and have you talk right so we're going to get to that in a few But Anderson I wanted to talk to you about something really quickly What's that in okay? That is um, I want to know about, so as you know, my Emily and Tony, you... Oh, the ball cream. The ball cream.

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What's the third product? I got the ball cream. Love in that. Oh, lubricant. But the lubricant is not available yet. It's going to be available in a few weeks. I was going to say you've been waiting for FDA. So tiny.

I don't need lubricant. No, everybody needs lubricant. That's what I feel like. Loob is amazing during sex. And even if you people think like loob, this is how it all started. So I started this company and the reason why my products are so amazing, they're all vegan, they're all natural, they're good for you, they're reasonable price points,

all that stuff is because Tony is my partner. He owns Anthony's, Anthony's Skincare for Men, which is a huge skincare line. You can buy it. It's a four, everywhere a lot of men know about it. It's around for 15 years. But he's a childhood friend of mine. We grew up together in Michigan,

hadn't seen each other in 20 years, had dinner together in San Francisco two years ago when I was living there. And I said, you know what? I think there needs to be a lube on every night's stand. And he's like, I'll develop a lube with you. So then we made a lubricant and then the ball lotion because a lot of men sweat down there

and they use baby powder or whatever. It doesn't really work. It's cakey, it's carcinogenic. And so this is a cream to a powder and you don't sweat and it smells delicious and you can. What? Oh my god, I'm going to get it for everyone. I want to give you one.

I'm going to give you one. I'm so excited. Oh my god, you want to get it for me. I want to give you one. You know what? That could be your best clientele or female porn stars. I know, right? Because haven't you ever, yeah, have you ever encountered balls that were not so fresh?

Oh my god, almost every time. Tell me, okay, so check this out. It's a cream to put a little bit on your, it's gonna make your hand powder, you know. But it's a cream to a pow, cream to a powder. So it's amazing and it stays in one place. It's made out of witch hazel. It's all, it's tapioca.

Ooh, I love witch hazel. It smells like, and so you don't sweat. And so men, you'd be happy. Oh my God, it smells yummy. Right? You'd be happy to like put the powder in. I'm gonna admit something right now. Oh, go ahead. I don't have any on right now. Oh, okay, I still, I be happy to like put the coffee in. I'm gonna go and mix something right now. Oh, go ahead. I don't have any on right now.

Oh, okay, so I smelled that. No, you didn't. I was gonna say that as well. Here's the deal. If you don't use it, as I always use it at every single day, it was kind of in a routine. Something happened in the bathroom. I got tile issues, so I had to use the other bathroom

and now I'm out of my routine. I don't floss anymore. I didn't use the ball cream. I've been used to the last few days. And I remember I was freaking out of the gym. I'm like, oh my god, am I gonna be sweating now when I did it before? I didn't sweat before ball cream. I've used it the last few days. And I remember I was freaking out of the gym. I'm like, oh my god, am I going to be sweating now when I did it before? I didn't sweat before and it's not like I've become dependent

on it. I have a little bit of change. Down under comfort, it's called, by the way. I love to use it and I want to use it. But if you start using it and then stop, it's not like you're going to start sweating all of a sudden if you've never did before. What I'm saying is it's not going to affect your biology.

No, but you miss it. Oh, absolutely miss it. Yeah. Because it's amazing because you don't sweat. But also I have massage candles and they they're amazing there. They come in vanilla and coconut and fuzzer and they turn into oil. Like they turn into an oil. Did you know massage candles? You put your partner.

Okay, I'll give you one of those two before we leave. They're in my car and they and they they they turn and you can like massage your partner. And it doesn't get like gooey. It's not waxy, but it's that kind of hot and warm when you put on your partner's body. I have a story with that. Tell me. I remember one time, so we were like, let's do kendo waxy. I saw it. I was like, yes. Well, I didn't know that you're supposed to use the body kendo wax, not regular kendo fat. Because that outside hurts. Yeah. And there was an outch very outch moment. Right. So, it's not waxy at all. It actually is misogyn. Well, I use it in the morning on my body as a moisturizer.

It's coconut oil. And it's beeswax and it's also now. What's the other one you said? The fuzhwa? Fuzhera. Fuzhera was that. That's more of the male spicy bunch of different senses. These candles make me which I was single.

I'm newly married. I've been married for almost a year now. But if I was still a bachelor, I would definitely have these at the house. And I if I had a lady over I would like the candles and then later on in the evening I'd be like, you know what's really cool about this candle. Yeah, it's a massage candle. It's a massage candle She'd be like, oh, what does that mean? Right and then next thing you know I'm a sergeant. Why can't you use that for your wife? I do It's exciting. You need more of them then. I gave you one Exactly. There's three. There's three cents. It's but I gave you one. Exactly, there's three. You need it all, hope I did it.

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The ball cream just as soon as you put it on, you just feel like you just get, it's like a confidence building. Yeah, a confidence because you're just so excited. If I was a guy, you're really excited about this. I know, right? It's like solving a problem. No, really, I'll take you've ever heard of this before my life. I know we invented it. Oh my god. How about that? I know I feel like I'm gonna you have no idea.

Every man I know I want to buy a bottle for them. I know seriously right? It's a good it's $18 but you get 20% off and it's a good it's a good buy and it looks amazing because you can leave it on your you know nightstand. This is for you. You know, like people that work with cadavers and they have to put that stuff underneath the nose. Yeah. For care, it's kind of like the same thing. The ball cream is like similar.

Oh my God. I wonder if I could just sneak it on the talent. Oh, you said massage. Like, but I'm giving a blowjob just slightly rub it on it. I rub it all over the stinky part. You should do that. Have you ever run into it? They would even tell me, what do you do?

All the time. But isn't there like a rule for porn stars that they need to shower at a time? Or you need to? I think they will. I think they will. I think they will. I think they will.

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Oh, yeah. It's horrible. I definitely would. You should bring these to all the porn sets. I'll get you some. Okay. So let's talk about you. Okay.

Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay.jarmia.com. Easy, k-i-a-r-a, mea.com. That's also my website, sexo-mea.com. Okay, so tell me, how did you get into this industry? How did you get into adult entertainment?

I've been doing mainstream for a long time. And at 21, I was dancing. I started dancing, and then I was doing mainstream day time schools and auditions and blah blah blah. And during that time period, me and a group of friends, everyone, you know, started doing porn, um, dancing and then it moved to like, bachelor parties and then private and then everyone was leading like, you know, offers. We all met people looking playboy and penthouse and hustler and all my friends were taking

up the offers, but back then when I was younger, it wasn't it was taboo to try to be taken as a serious actress. Right. If you had anything to do with the industry. So I just kept my stripping for years and years and years and all of them got it in the prime time and made like the mega bucks in the industry. Like when money was just ridiculous. Right. And then years went on, years went on.

So the one that was like 21. So my time was like 31. Uh, I had a, uh, I had like my first major feature film. And it was going to be like my own role with, um, Keanu Reeves and of course, Whitaker. Wow. And it ended up falling through five hours, five hours before I was on set to shoot. No way. So I was really discouraging. So after that, I was like, you know what, I'm gonna put this on hold, see what else. I went to school for website design. So I was doing a little bit of that as well. And then at 31 or 32, I decided, and you don't want to take some residual income.

And as well, I came out of my space. And you know, you have like 500,000 followers. I love my photos. So I was like, if I could get 60 photos on this, like check them out. And I was like, if I could give $1 each person on my my space for some sexier pictures like I'd be five hundred and a lot of fucking money right even if I got 50 cents or exactly so you'd have a lot of money right so that's eventually how it started so I said I'm

gonna do like a modeling site and then I said well maybe it could charge five dollars a person if I go top yeah and then you know and it worked well I didn't have the website yet but but pictures were going on. I started getting more into the industry, speaking to everybody and then everybody's like, well, make it a, you know, solo site. And you know, started building it. And then from there, they're like,

well, do girl girl. And then my site got up and was a girl girl website. And then, you know, I was in a relationship with my ex girlfriend at the time, which so I wasn't doing boy girl. And then it was from there. So I went in with the with the mentality that I'm here to make a career to brand myself with longevity so that I can make

residual income off a successful website so when I do retire from it which I was thinking you know going through to five years make my money have my website to keep going through so I have money coming through so I can follow what I really wanted to. Right, and what do you really want to do? Right now I'm training for, to get my life coach certification. I love motivational speaking, and I love inspiring people. Oh, that's amazing.

That's okay. I've seen a life coach before. I need to see her again. No, it's power, it's power. It's so powerful. They make you set goals and agendas for you. I have mine, I got to call every morning at 6 a.m., I got to tell her for my day what my goals are, my ways of being, how am I going to call every morning at 6 a.m. I got to her for my day what my goals are my ways of being how I'm going to get there.

I'm and then my countable every day. Okay, so you call her every single day. Uh huh, 6 a.m. And you do. Okay, so you compare for that or you get it because honestly it's so funny because I was thinking that because there was a life coach that I've seen she's in San Francisco, but now we do it on the phone and I just felt like I was in therapy for years. I'm like, no, I need I got my issues worked out. I know I messed up for my childhood and I understand all that stuff now But it's more like and I was like I wish I could just talk to someone every morning. Yeah, and I love that you do that

Mm-hmm. That's amazing. That's so cool. So well good luck with that But right now you so got this flourishing website. Oh, yeah, I love sex. So when I thought I was so I love okay Well, I love inspiring people and I love sex and I'm good at sex and I've known that for a very, very long time. What makes it okay? What made you know that you were good at sex? What made me know? Um, to, I'd say, I think for the first time,

um, I was married for six years. Who was my first? Oh, man. Yeah. Okay. That was my first everything. And even then, like, just the power that sex had over him. And I knew it instantly and I used to always use that again. Not against him, but I always knew the power I would had over him. And I knew it instantly and I used to always use that

against that against him, but I always knew the power I would have over him with sex. Right. Do you want something? You want to blow a job? You know? Do you want to do it? Yeah, do you know? Just if you think it, I always got what I wanted. Sex got always got what I wanted. And then from there once we got separated, it's our day to the people, I just, it was so powerful. Right. So what makes you what do you think it you're just really you really enjoy it? And you really enjoy giving this is an energetic explain this like for me, when I have sex, it's it's a spiritual experience. Like in that moment, I'm really connecting like my whole being into the other

person. That's amazing because most people are thinking about like there to do this. And they forgot to pick up the dry cleaning. So there's a disconnect. But I couldn't anything when you build a rapport with somebody, anything's going to be that much stronger. And I really feel that I have a very powerful, powerful passion. So when I release that, and I completely put down

every wall, and everything I've ever held back, and for sex to me is really powerful. So I'm able to really connect into people and then and people will feel it like the incident even put my hand on them or like the entrance or whatever or like certain moves and they'll be like, whoa I felt that. I'm like you feel that. How did you how could you teach that to someone? How to do it? So what I started learning later on is it's they it's called tantra. Yeah, it's a tantra, okay. So when I learned, so I had already been doing my own tantra because it was something intuitively I already knew.

So when I started reading on tantra, I was like, oh my god, you're able to get to that level with any partner with two people who are able to meditate. It's almost like a meditation and energy exchange. Right. Exactly. So somebody who has to be like open to it, or if you are powerful enough to meditate it and to exude the energy yourself You can get them like into it as well. So I mean, so Tom

I always think of it as like delight like like you're connecting with each other But you're also kind of like delight. It's not all about the orgasm. Right. It's kind of about it's like you're in your own Dimension right you're completely in a dimension where the world does not exist. You can't hear anything, you have zero thoughts, but the person and the energy that's extreme. Almost like if you're in outer space and everything's jet black, but you can feel the cool coolness of it. That's really great because so many people, I mean, I feel like we're sort of at a crisis

because I feel like, you know, with medication or whatever it is is keeping people from having great sex, which will keep me in business because I'm always helping people and giving them advice all the time. But it's like people just, I think they just don't know that either like women have trouble orgasming. Have you always been able to orgasm easily? You know what? I didn't have my first orgasm till two years into our marriage.

Really? I didn't even know women had orgasms. I was about about born and getting Christian and it was taboo. Everything was taboo. So even sex before marriage. So when we had sex, I was like, even before marriage, I was just lay there. Right.

I would never enjoy it because I'm like, we're gonna go to hell. Right, exactly. And once you got married and they'll try to get into it, I enjoyed it. Like I always wanted it, but I didn't know I never had an orgasm until I had this big friend who was this huge slut. I loved it a lot.

Right, everyone loved it a lot. I always loved it a lot. is this huge slut. I love it to death. Right. Everyone loved her. I always loved her. Yeah. Huge slut. And as always, ask her, I don't understand why you see with all these people. I'm like, I don't like it. Like, you don't even like, talk to them again.

Like, what's the point? Like, because I'm all about heart and soul. Right. And she looked at me and she goes, you've never had an orgasm when I said, what exactly is that? She said, oh my god, you never how, you wouldn't have asked that. I said, well, I don't even know what that is. What exactly is that?

Oh my god. And you were so innocent. That's amazing. That's the amazing. So how did she tell you to do it? So she showed me. So she was like, OK, let me show you. She pulled like her underwear off.

And she was like, this is your clip. I don't even know. We had a clip. Oh my god. I knew nothing. That was so naive. So she showed me the clip. And she's like, we just keep rubbing this at some point, you're gonna get this feeling kind of orgasm.

So I've been trying it for like a few weeks and then nothing was happening. And then- By yourself, you were trying it. And so she was like, okay, well, how are you doing it? So I would overhouse again. And then she kept getting my, she put her hands into my butt and she's like,

she's like, you need to clench your hips, like up and down, up. She's like, you need a pulse state blood into your clip. I said, oh, because I was just laying there, being like this. Right. It's a kiggle exercise. Yeah, so I never knew. So once I started like pulling, I's like, you need a pulse state blood into your clip. I said, oh, because I was just laying there, being like this. Right. It's a kiggle exercises. Yeah, so I never knew.

So what they started like pulling, I was like, oh, oh, you can start feeling it like hurting with blood. And I think within a few weeks, I orgasmed or calling my husband, I was like, oh, I orgasmed. Oh my God. That was it. That was it. And then you were done.

That is such a cool story. I wish I didn't know about masturbation either. Like, well, I didn't, my family was open too, but they just, I never, I didn't even know about masturbation. Never occurred to me to touch myself. And then, all my friends in college, I was like 1920, and they were like, I'm like, I've never had an orgasm, and then my mom was like, really? She bought me a book, and I was like,

every all my friends were sending me articles. I'm like, oh, my God, I don't know how to do it. Like, so I wish I knew at a young age, but at least you figured it out. So now, can you have, do you have the G spot orgasms as well? Ah, yes, I can have, I get a multiple orgasms after orgasm, after orgasm, after orgasm. Oh, that's amazing.

So when you're shooting these scenes, do you have real, I mean, orgasms on the, like, they're all real? Oh, sometimes, right, sometimes you just can't get there. I get it. Yeah, sometimes like, it's just can't get there. I get it. Yeah, sometimes like it's just too technical to enjoy and then sometimes if the directors I go ahead do what you like and I'm attracted to the person then I'll definitely. Okay, they don't have them.

But what if you're, see that's a thing because do you think, what do you think about porn today? Like I always tell people that like porn's amazing. Like so many men that I know and we may not watch porn, but it's not the best place for like young, everybody younger listeners too. It's not the best place for them technically to learn how to have socks. What do you know what I would say yes,

if they don't have an idea, definitely, because then the guys get to learn positions. Because sometimes what you see in porn is like you said, it's technical, it's so it looks good, but it's not necessarily like you're no near, we're no nearer, nearer, glitterist that can't be a good position. Yeah.

Right. There's definitely I would say yes, because you know, there's certain ways to hold a girl at certain times and like there's different positions that maybe a girl might make you know, like reverse cowgirl, power driver. The things I've never even seen until I got in the industry. Right. And I was like, power driver.

How about what? It's in my book. I actually wrote a book called Hot Sex. And I'm like, what? Like I had to learn. I've never even done power driver, but I have a book about it. It's like on my list to do

everything in my book, which I haven't done yet. But that's what it. Right. So I learned on these things and I was like, I would have never known. So I do.

I think it's a great way to start to learn a little bit. But not ideas. Um, I mean, the definitely is not somewhere you're going to want to go if you're looking to like, please a woman or make love to a woman.

If you want to make love and please a woman, it's important. It's not. But if you want to like, you know, jack off and masturbate, go right now. Do it. Go to care. You know, it's you want to like impress a girl that night, you know, you want to be cool little extra flips or something. Or something like that.

You know, yeah, you can. Exactly. But not if you want to please her. I got it. So tell me about keeping up with Kiar and Mia. How did you get the role as Kim Kardashian? That's my baby Tell me I came into the industry and I'm a very Have a very big mindset like entrepreneur like I always want to be the boss right, you know

I'm not a sense because I want to control but I want I want to be at the top So I'm gonna do it. I want to do everything So I knew at some point I wanted to come in the industry and open my own film company and direct and have things going on. So parodies are the biggest thing that make the only thing right now that DVD-wise are making any money either to see the residual. Okay, I like that word. I love residual. I just learned that too recently. So I said a parody. And I know for the longest time, you know, people are like, oh, you know, I do, my hair looks like a kim Kardashian sometimes.

I make my makeup. And I thought, well, there's no Kim Kardashian's parodies. I would love to do one. So I came in and hired her makeup artist, a stylist. You hired her makeup artist. Oh my God. Come in and do up everybody. That's amazing.

How can people see it? I'm your website or? Yeah, it should in two weeks. The website should be up. Well, the trailer will be on and then our goal is within the next three to four weeks for the editing to be finished and then we'll get it up and release. Okay. That is amazing. Are you I do like Kim Kardashian? Do you watch the Kardashian? I do. I'm a fan of Kim Kardashian. I know I love people hate on her, but I think she's her mom, especially, I would love to sit with her mom and just, her mom's a smart, smart, business woman.

Right, exactly. And people see it as a reality show. They don't see the business side of it. Right, it don't matter what she's doing. She's making money off of it. She built an empire. Yeah, she really did. That's all what it comes down to.

Exactly. Okay, so I have a question for you. Did girl and girl porn before you transition into girl and boy series? So what do you like about so you you're by sexual? So what do you like about having sex with women? And I want to know after that. I don't get chills. Oh my god. Tell me what you like about it because I want to get some tips because people are always wondering like they're bicarious. They want to hook up with other girls. I'm not sure. So first I'll tell me what you like about it. And then we can get some tips.

I'd be attracted to women's as I was in preschool. Oh, okay. I remember finding like my dad's playboy or hustler, whatever my dad had like these naughty magazines. And like taking them to the bathroom and like all I knew was I'd get horny and I know what to do about it. But I just look at them and I remember praying to God and being like, can you just bring this girl dear God to my house, please?

I don't even know what I would do. But all I knew was I was really horny. So, you know, of course, I brought up board again, a Christian, and I was like, okay, you know, me my best friend used to always like play around and joke all the time. We were lesbian and kiss each other from the boys just didn't gross them out. Because back then, the guys are like, that's so gross. Right. Now, like, yeah, do it again, baby. Right. Yeah. So what I like about women, um, I love being with women. Right. It just feels it's, baby. Right. Yeah, so what I like about women,

I love being with women. Right, it just feels, it's different. It's gentle, it's passionate. They're open, they're vulnerable, they're raw, they're skin is saw. Right, you know, they smell good. They don't need ball ocean.

Yeah, definitely don't need ball ocean. They don't need the down under comfort. Okay, so what are your tips? What would you say your top tips then for performing oral sex in a woman going down in a woman? Like what should because I definitely all the times are always like and for women, whoever bisexual, you know, lesbians, people always want oral sex tips. And so I just thought you would have a baby. I would say the number one is teasing before you

even touch, you know, tongue anywhere in the clip, kiss and lick around the whole vagina. Exactly. Like as long as you can, and she'll, you know, she starts like moving her hips up and down, because at some point she's going to grab your head and just stuff it in there. And her clits just so fucking hard. Right. Like waiting for you to lick it. And she's going to be, let's say the minute you do lick it, she's going to come let's in the minute you do lick it she's going to come in like two point by exactly. It's a tea. So it's like looking for inner thighs playing like playing with the meaning it's a don't go right for the clip. No, last thing that's good.

I always do that. I'm like I don't even I'm not even warmed up. Yeah, and then they go. I didn't even know you were here. I'm like really like you're here. Am I clittered? I don't even know what's happening. I'm still digesting my food You're over here my clothes. So yeah guys. So what anything else any other like tips. I think teasing is amazing And I think that guys just like they hear it, but they're like I can't wait can't wait What if my boner goes away? Yeah, they get really excited. They get really excited They just want to stick it in. Yeah, and they're so yeah, they're so now so so so quick to like just want to make you come

You know like almost no faster make her come as opposed to letting her enjoy it so that she can get to the coming much quicker. I also say to two fingers, two fingers in the vagina, G spot, if you can, if you know where G spot is, even if you don't, just two fingers in the vagina while you're like in the pussy, again, will accelerate the process. Exactly. And someone who don't like fingers in though, right? Or do you think most do?

I don't know. I feel straight women love it, because women straight women love penetration. But I find a lot of lesbians don't like penetration. And not even the sense, because they don't like the way it feels, I think something in their life happened where they just don't want penetration ever again. Right.

OK. So what about when you do go to the clitoris and you're licking around? Like do you many like specific tips like sucking or tongue movement. That you have to you have to figure out the woman because every woman's diverse because I hate being sucked do not suck my clitoris do not bite my clitoris right and I like it like

feather feather soft the softer you lick it the faster I'm going to come. So sometimes people go like really hard, be because they're extra friendly, like they're really hard. Exactly. They do what the X wanted. Yeah. And so I always say, you know, so my thing is that I go on a girl, I always start off really lightly.

And if I'm not getting a reaction, you know, then I go a little harder. And then if I'm not getting a reaction, a little sucking, do you mean that you try to figure it out? You got to figure it out. Do I want to put a 10 second and flick it at the same time or do I just flick it, you know what I mean? They get you try to figure out. You got to figure it out. Do we want to pay attention and flick it at the same time? Or do I just flick it? You know, does it around? Does she like it up and down? Is she like it side to side? So it's a matter of figuring out at one point you start hearing the morning.

At one point her hips start moving a little faster because then you hit that. Right. That's whatever she likes. Whatever you do. And then keep doing that. Yeah. That's really, really good advice. So what other areas do you pay attention to on a woman's body? What are the areas, the nipples? Nipples. So like hard, soft. I know what depends on the woman. Yeah, again. But I feel like once guys, I feel like in my experience and in life, whatever, people, like once you start having sex with someone, and I'm talking about men mostly, I mean, I, but they, they,

they go right for the sex or they, they might go down to you, but they forget about your breasts sometimes. You're like, no, it feels really good to like touch my nipples and to do things like that. So like incorporate that into love making, but start slowly when you're playing with the nipples and with your fingers lick them. I mean, someone like you're the harm. You have to pull them in that back. My best friend does, you know, we have three sums all the time. And, you know, she's like, it's funny because when we have three sums, they'll think like, I'm the porn star.

And I want to be fuck like, you know, hard. And she's like, I'm like, she's a porn star in bed. I'm the lover. So you're the lover. And she's the porn star. I guess, low and soft. She really does like it hard and deep. And she wants to like, the ship bit out of her knuckles.

And I'm like, I don't do that to me. That is to see that is a perfect example for guys just to know that every single woman is different. Your parents are on you don't want to have sex like a porn cell. No, that's the last thing I want to bet. That's what you do for a living. That's so funny. That's so true. So you have a lot of three sums. That's a big. So with, do you just meet guys that you, how do you get into that? Because people always want to know like, how do we meet a third? Like, people who are in a relationship. I think the best thing is when you're not connect when everyone you don't have. Yeah, yeah, when

I you're no one isn't a couple in that. Most of the three sums I think I mean the most major every Jason ever had has been like for work money. Right. Right. So, you know, using getting paid for whoever I'm sleeping with there. But on a personal level, I haven't had I hadn't had a three sum. On a personal level, I haven't had a three-some, on a personal level, probably since I was 26. And I do it a lot then.

But I hadn't really done it in the last 10 years. Okay. Recently, I've seen somebody and we were like, if seeing a man or woman. A Muslim man, a man, okay. And we were always like, we were always cheat, tease you know, and I'm like, and that's what's not gonna give me the hot girl. Cause I haven't been always cheat tease you know, I'm like in a squat tonight

You meet a hot girl because I haven't even the woman along to I've been with the woman in two years. Oh, wow It's my girlfriend. Okay, and I've been sort of feigning really bad like on set. I am but women aren't women So it's a job like nothing like a connection right like I haven't really Women woman like in bed just like beautiful one so so we were just talking so one day. He just texted me and he's like Let's have a threesome. I was like are you serious? He goes. So, so we were just talking. So one day he just texted me and he's like, let's have a three-some. I was like, are you serious? He goes, yeah, I said, okay, I'm like, do you have anyone in mind?

He's like, find someone. So I found someone. Right, it was hard. And we set it up. And the whole time I was just like, I forgot like how much I love women. Like I love women. Like I really do.

Like I was like, and I'm such a sexual person. You know, like I loved being with both of them. You know what I mean? I love her. I love being with him like just it was so much love. I thought it'd be like you know it's such a loving moment like it really was you know what I mean like like I'm not a competitive person. I'm not like I'm far from jealous. You know so we had it was a very beautiful experience. Like she enjoyed it. I enjoyed it. He'd enjoyed it like and they had sex. And you know, yeah, you it. I enjoyed it. He'd enjoyed it. And they had sex. And you didn't even mind it all.

Right. So many women. I watched you defect the shit on her. Exactly. Exactly. And so many, that's the thing with couples, I think a lot of times when they head into it, they like, I feel like they need to, you know, there could be jealousy, it can rip apart. You have to be in a really stable relationship or somewhere you communicate in your own

before you bring in a third. But then it could be a really positive experience. Yeah. And I always explain to like if if I get asked to be in a into a three-some, I'm very very specific. I'm with the Nisabi rules. So you know, so husband and wife usually. Yeah. I'm like, you know, just and I'll set them both down before it happens and I'll be like, I shout the wife, I go, I'm the new girl. I'm going to get 90% of the attention automatically. And I've had enough to know that. I'm like, so if you're not going to get offended

that you might get left out at moments, just because he's in the moment. And you, you like, be aware of that. Like I want you to be aware of that. And I always give you, here's a safety word, cupcakes. Right. But anytime you're uncomfortable, want to stop, just say cupcakes and everybody stops.

Right. You're the perfect woman to have a thing to do with because they need to know this. Yeah. And I'm like, and you know, and if you don't want kissing, like, you know, I always recommend using no kissing between me and the husband. You know what I mean? And I always will present, but I will always give her 90% of my energy. Right. Okay. That's smart. That's a good, that's a good, that's a good breakdown of the equation there of the percentages of time that should be spent. And also, yeah, there are those rules. So I tell people, I'm like, maybe she doesn't sleep over the third person or.

Oh, yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, some people don't want penetration either. Yeah, I mean, whatever it is, you have to make the decision. I think that's great. So how do you feel about sex toys? I love sex toys. I do. Oh my God, I have a hotachi. Oh God, right, the magic wand. They're, I know, right? It's the best thing ever. I talk. Oh my God. I have a hotachi. Oh God. Right. The magic wand. They're

I know right. It's the best thing ever. I talk about all the time. No, it's not called. You know, it's called the magic wand now. And it's not the hotachi. And they've a new one. It's the same, but it's a little lighter. Oh God. Thank God. Yeah. I'll have to get you one. I have. It's really heavy. Right. I'm a handkerchief. It's that touch. You can go to good vibes.com. Use coupon code Emily. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief.

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I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief. I'm a handkerchief but I think it's still great. It's just little lighter and the switches are a little, because it's been the same forever, but it's like you plug in the what's like the Mac truck of all. But last night, I was actually at the sex awards in Hollywood. Do you know about that? I was there. Yeah, I was there too. Oh my God. Okay. So I was the sex awards. And I was in the oval lounge. So Ovo is a new brand. They make these new vibrators. They're award winning, and everyone loves these new rabbit. Like, you know, like the old rabbits from years ago that are kind of junky, but this is like a new one.

And they have the K1 and the K2 rabbit. And it's rounded for comfortable use, features a double application, and they're all waterproof. They have vibration levels. So go to, I think you can buy them at vibrators.com, and you can also go to, I think buy OVO them at vibrators.com. And you can also go to, I think, buyovodotcom. But it was so fun.

So all the winners came up and I was hosting the Ovo lounge. So I gave them all these Ovo OVO OVO. So check them out. And you can also check them out on my website. So I was just wondering what you like. Any other things you've ever used? Any, Ovo also has amazing coquins. Do you've ever used coquins the vibrating ones?

Do you like them? I think in the past I have a few times. Okay. A few people use it. But it's not like one year. No, no, no, I don't personally ever carry one. Right. Okay. You don't care it on you. But Ovo makes really cool ones too if you want to check those out as well. Okay. So

what what would you say is your best advice for stimulating a girl's G-Spot with your finger? I know we kind of talk about briefly but like what would you say if a guy or woman is with a woman and they haven't found it yet? Or they haven't because it is if people haven't had a G-Spot with your finger. I know we kind of talked about briefly, but like what would you say if a guy or woman is with a woman And they haven't found it yet or they haven't because it is if people haven't had a G-spot orgasm And I always tell them like the best way to learn is that with fingers first So and lots of lube and fingers and play around and do you have any advice for that?

I know it's kind of hard to explain right? I was really good at this. She was her I mean her fingers every fucking time. I mean, jeez bought the minute she hit it and I'd be like, fuck it, can you even breathe? Oh my God, how did she do? What did she do? Um, I don't know. That's a good question. I know. Oh my God, we can go back to it. Do you see X-Girlfriend? That's so funny. We should have her. I know. Yeah, her new girlfriend would be happy.

No, no, no. Okay. Um, that's a good question. Um, that's really hard. I almost think you got to have long fingers. Right. But your palm should be facing up when you're inserting two fingers. Right. Girl guy. And it's just like the curling of it on the roof of the vagina.

Right. So come hit their motion. Yeah. And towards your belly. At some point when you just see her go, eeehh. You've hit it. Basically. You've got to keep using putting pressure on it.

Yeah. Yeah. it's a pressure. Uh-huh. And you just keep playing with it until you find it, because every girl's G-spot the same two is different. Exactly. They're also different. I feel bad. I do.

I do feel bad because everyone is different, but you've got to get kind of bad. What I will say is anal sex. Let's get to anal sex. We'll always hit the G-spot. Okay, exactly. Yeah. So tell me, let's talk about your anal sex tips then. Okay. Okay. Because long you brought it up. But it does hit the G spot. Not always though, but for some

people. It hits the G spot. For me it does. Yeah. Every time. Okay. So is there a certain anal sex position that it always hits your G spot every time? I know it feels good. Yeah, yeah. Like when you're having, what's your favorite anal sex position? Favorite. I probably say doggy. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. And you have orgasms that way.

Yeah, that's just how I know. Maybe minute it goes in, it hits it. That's amazing. And you lose a loom. Lots of loom. Oh, lots of loom. You have to lose a lot of loom. That's what I always tell you. You have an anal sac, you need to use lots of loob.

Oh yeah, sometimes guys will be like, like want to stick their finger in two or something. You know what I mean? And I'm like, can you at least spit on it? Exactly, do not just stick your finger or your penis in without lubricants. That's why I made a lubricant because I feel like people do not use enough loob a lot of time.

Okay, so what would you say, what is your favorite guy in guy stuff So I have some guy in guy questions or guy in guy with guy, guy in girl. What's your favorite sex position and why? Like when you're having sex with a man. Okay, it's pins on the size of his penis. Okay. If he has a big penis,

I do like to be sitting straight up on top and just grinding back and forth because then it hits the G spot. Sitting on top, grinding back and forth is exactly because it hits the G spot and the glitter. Yes. Well, my clit is really high up. Right.

So I have to be leaning to hit it. Okay. But if I sit straight up and I'm on my knees and I'm riding him and I'm grinding really hard just this way and the clock's thick and big. Right. It'll hit my G spot. Just going back and forth and back and forth. Well, I'm riding him and I'm grinding really hard just this way and the clock's thick and big. Right. It'll hit my G spot just going back and forth and back and forth. Well, I'm on top going like that. Right. So not up and down. Yeah. No, no, not up and down. I have down is never I feel like that's more of like a maybe There's a porn thing. It's for the up and down. I'm trying to be fancy and look like I'm cool. If you're trying to look like a born son, right. You would do the up and down, but I agree the grounding in the back and forth.

Right. So that's like your shirt thing. Sometimes too, if I lean back a little bit, I lean back a little bit, and then even if he puts his hand on my pelvic right there, and the work, so every time he's in there, it'll hit. I love that or I love. Or leading forward and having an orgasm by rubbing my clit against the hair. That feels good too. That's a good one.

Okay, I appreciate that. And now so that's how you orgasm. So when you have sex with the guy, you've seen it's you of orgasms all different ways. Yeah, I can't get in G spot. Okay, so what about oral blow job tips? Oral blow job tips. Yeah, what are your best blow job tips? We've got some colors coming in too. I believe I would say eye contact. Yeah, you got to make in too. I believe we're gonna finish. I would say eye contact. Yeah, you got to make eye contact.

I think guys, I find guys like to just see like the eyes bulging out the head. You're trying to open your mouth really wide. And gagging and spitting. They love a lot of wet saliva. And it's gotta be right. It's gotta be wet. It's so true.

You can't do a dry blow job. Yeah, and the whole gagging thing when you gag, they're like, yeah, it makes the like really big day. I love the gagging. I know even a little one. Yeah, you're like, you're not gagging me, but you think it, right? Exactly. It's hilarious. Right. But so you said, so what about when you guys with like smaller penises? How do you work? Because you said, do you just not do that? Oh, no, we're going to hurt a lot of men here. It's okay, these are fine.

Your penis is fine no matter how it is. Your penis is. Good question. Well, I really don't think I could choke. So you can't really do the choke thing because I know you're faking it. Cause they are easier when their penis is smaller. Yeah, oh, it's a lot easier.

Yeah. Yeah. Just a ball licking ball licking. Ball licking, so I didn't know. I used to have like, I think I had like post traumatic ball disorder growing up because I think I touched the guys balls two hard ones. And then for years, I never touched men's balls, but then I was like, oh, wait, I got to like, it's softer.

If you softer, put them in your mouth or like put them in your hands, but don't be so like hard on it. Yeah. And then the flicking like really lightly like a rub my nails. Yeah. Oh, the balls suck almost from the, right where the, where the asshole is, that little, the little scanning between the balls.

Right. Just getting my nails and rushing it all the way up. Like a tape. So it's almost like I'm going to touch their asshole, but not and I get, come all the way back up. Do you find that a lot of men do like, when you touch their aina's? Perhaps they're not every man.

Every man. I would say I'm not gonna say how many guys I said with but I can't count anyway funny because I say 90 eight. We've got a call huh? Not every man. Not every man.

98. 98% Have you had your your buttocks played with a lot of things have happened down there and you know it's not something I searched for but I'm just saying that not every so you're the 2% I believe that there's a lot of men who are

fear around it and they don't even know how good it can feel yeah and they should just try it once okay we've got a call I'll take this call let's talk to Ray he just wants to talk hi Ray how you doing welcome to the sex family show hi how are you what what did you want to talk about well I wanted to I mean my wife is passed away but I still want to know if i was doing everything the way it should have been done okay and you can still have sex again so what what do you have a specific question because i'm actually talking to kia here and kia and me she's a porn star and she's got great advice

to so do you need specific questions for us okay whenever we had sex, I used to go down on her quite often and we tried various positions and everything seemed to go all right, but for some reason I was over anxious all the time. Oh, over anxious, so you would, would you ejaculate too quickly? No, I wouldn't, I would ejaculate too late. Oh, you delayed ejaculation. Yes. Okay. So does that still happen to now like do masturbate and you have a hard time? Uh, yes.

Okay. Well, have you ever gone to talk to your doctor about it? Yes, I have. He gave me some pills and did it pills for so you would ejaculate sooner? Yes, it did. And it worked. Okay. So what kind of pills did he give you? We tried We tried She got on top of me and rear entry and

She loved no matter what we did. Okay, well that's good It's part of bed partner I ever had in my life. Oh, I think you can have more partners then you got to keep going out there You can still do Do it. Well, thank you so much for calling. I appreciate it and I think you were doing fine She sounds like she was happy and now you've got your pills and I Hope it. I hope you don't have any other side effects or anything. She had to die so soon, but oh I'm sorry about that. I know side effects or anything. I tried bad that she had to die so soon, but... Oh, I'm sorry about that.

I'm sorry about that. I know, that's really hard. I'm sorry. You're probably... how long were you together? Just to touch over three years. Okay. Well, I'm wishing you luck and you'll be ready to get out there and just start doing things that you love and you'll meet people naturally that way. I hope so.

You will. I promise. Thanks Ray. Thanks for calling. Thank you too. Bye- OK. Bye-bye. Bye. Bye. OK. Uh, uh, uh, OK. I don't know how to. OK.

Stop. OK, there. New phones. The phones are new here. I'm a new, because I used to do a calling show, and now we're starting to do a call. Here's again, which is awesome. OK, so we can take another color here,

and this is Junior. Hi, it's Emily. Thanks for calling Sex with Emily. Hi. How are you? I'm good. Good, thanks for calling in. What's your question here?

I've got Kiera here, and Kiera Mia is actually a porn star, and she's way more than that. Super knowledgeable about everything you wind about about sex so how can we help you alright so at a question uh... my girlfriend she's

we've been we've been together for almost a year now but she uh... she had a lot of bad a backspinning with that you know so kind of like i have to i'm trying to show her that you that I'm not like those guys. Right, I love that. She was, because of how her last guy was, she had to basically turn a lot of attention to females.

Which isn't a bad thing, but sometimes she talks about being with them like on a more intimate level than just... Okay, she wants to be with girls. Okay. Okay, so you think you're jealous? So there's nothing about that situation that turned you on? Well, it turns me on, but like, she had a couple of X's that she was... Like, there's a couple of girls that she was with that it wasn't just sex. It was like girls that she felt really intense work, but then she kind of like how you say, like she almost fell in love with them, but she didn't want to have a relationship.

But she had that love feeling for them. So like sometimes it makes me feel like. I see. You're worried that she might leave you for a woman. It's not that it's worried. It's just that sometimes she worried, it's just that. Sometimes she talks about those X's, like, like, is it she still wants to, like,

mess around with them once and a while, because they're not, they don't live here no more, but sometimes they visit. And then when they do, she kind of like, she wants to go visit them, but then I feel like, I don't know, I just feel like, like, it's not because she had feelings for them that way. At one time, like, I feel like it's wrong because she's not just doing something with somebody she's

doing with somebody that she felt for enough right right right well I don't think that you should mean just what does she tell you I mean I think you know you should ask her the truth so she say that she wants to be with them or yeah well I've asked her as she I mean she said that you know that at one point she could have been with them But she doesn't want to have she's choosing you. She's choosing you so I wouldn't worry about it I mean if she want you know I mean nobody you said but you know I would feel like so we what's your question? Then yeah, I would say what's the problem? If I'm if I'm thinking too much about it. I think you think you too much about it. Okay. I think if you trust her, I think whether it doesn't matter

if it's a girl or a guy, I understand the concern of the fact that there's feelings involved period. So it doesn't really matter if it's a girl or guy, and that's something that's you and her are gonna have to discuss the boundaries of your relationship and what's okay and what's not okay. Exactly. Okay. So just have a conversation with her. I mean seriously like discuss it, have a conversation and just be open with her. Tell you something, this makes you a little worried. I

think that was she'd appreciate to hear that you that's how you're feeling. And then just try to issue you. I've tried a couple times and then like well one of the poems that she had with two of the exes that she had and they tried to control her. So like now something, something a little like to add like she was trying to do like that. No, I don't think this is a controlling thing. This is like a loving thing. Like I really care about you and I just want to make it and just want you to know that these things make me feel comfortable. I want you to do what you want to do, but I just want you to reassure me. So I think you're fine Junior. I just junior. I would just have a talk with her and I don't think I think you might be worrying too much. Thank you for calling Section Assembly. Okay, we've

got a lot of calls coming in for you. We've got so many questions for you. So here we go, we're going to take Dave and San Pedro. Hey Dave, how you doing? I'm doing good. Hi Dave. How are you? Thank you, kind of, Richard right now. Oh, don't get me. You're nervous, don't get me. Take a deep breath and just let it go. Okay, what's your question? How can I ask on? What is your favorite position? My favorite position.

It depends. Right now, really, I like being choked. Oh, well. Yeah. So whether you're behind me doggy and you're choking me or whether you're on top of me missionary and a whole new medium right through Those two right now are my favorite. Oh cool and Do you like to go down people? I love it. I love I love a giver. I'm a giver. Yeah, so for me I'd rather give them received so yeah

Isn't that cool? Yeah. OK. Thanks, Dave for calling. You're welcome. Have a good day. OK, we've got another question for you about positions and stuff for Kiera.

OK, Duane. Duane, thanks for calling Sex with Emily. I'm here with Kiera. Welcome. How are you doing? Good. I called from New York. Thanks for calling in. Yeah, I'm so excited right now.

Who I love. I love you. I'm my favorite porn star. I love you, East Coastman. I'm a sucker for East Coastman. Oh, we love you too, though. You know what time it is when you come to the good example. Oh, yeah. Always.

I can say that two times in a row. Oh, yeah. We, we, we, we congratulate you on all your I can say that two times in a row. Oh yeah, we could graduate too on all your awards and everything and all that good stuff. And keep pushing up. There are a lot of other positive men out there in New York City that are doing probably doing just as well as you are and all that good stuff and my sexual question is I'm a magnet about I'm a magnet about sex too I just love it and what do you feel about the pussy on the lips and I just love that shit because she's my tongue is like that.

Wait say it again. What kind of something something on the lips? The Wayne is a filthy animal. The Wayne we didn't understand. 30 old man and I'm a bad 30 old man. Okay, so do we we didn't even I didn't understand pussy on the lips. What did he say? Yeah, that's where you this is where you stand over my face.

Right. And if you and I know what you look like and I ask her well I don't know she she's been just right she should still be a good talk I got a pretty long time I know you got a long time that's awesome you're talking with the girls again in your face and you want to know how Kiera feels about that what how do you feel about that K? I love tongues anywhere. So there you go, Dwayne. You tell me I can sit on your face. I will suffer for King. Yeah, I love it. I would love it. Yeah, there you go, Dwayne. Take that with you to bed tonight. Okay, I know you'll be thinking about

that. I can't have a good night. Thanks okay we got other calls coming in. You think Duane's got anybody locked up down in the basement? I'm not sure about Duane. He's got like a shrine to Kiar I think. I think that's what he's got going on. That would be cool. I know. Well you've got to take a few more calls. Okay one. Hello thanks for calling Sex of the Emily. Juan. Juan was a little nervous. Juan was so nervous. That's so excited. Okay, we'll talk to Tony and L.A. Hey, Tony, what's going on? Thanks for calling Sex of the Emily.

Oh, hey, how you doing? Great. How are you? How are you? Oh, I'm good. So you got a question? Yes, my question is, I just wanted to know as far as care. Where did you start as far as care where did you start as far as your workouts when you started working out and you were getting

into better shape how did you begin as far as a starting point and then how did you get to where you're at I know you were with a personal trainer and everything like that but I just wanted to kind of know where you started off because I'm trying to get myself in better shape and I want to know what you actually did to get yourself in a better shape. And I want to know what you actually did to get yourself in a better shape. Oh, that's my favorite subject. Tony, I- Isn't good shape.

I first made a commitment. I made a commitment that my vision was going to be to drop 20 pounds. It was a commitment and a vision. So I made a goal. Once I made the goal, then from there, I hired a personal trainer. I told her my goal, and that's it. And then I showed up, because I made a commitment. So no matter at one point,

even if I'm not motivated, even if I want to quit, I made a commitment to 20 pounds. So that's my vision. Once you have a vision and you're clear of that vision, use everything else is easy. So that's when I hired a personal have a vision and you're clear of that vision, use everything else is easy. So that's when I hired a personal trainer because I'm not motivated.

Because I will not go to gym by myself. You mean like I know my obstacles. Exactly. That's like the biggest thing in life that you have to know your obstacles. And I hired a personal trainer who holds me accountable. So I will get up extra early because I have to see her because it's her time.

And I don't want to, you know, disrespect my time to her. So I'm accountable now to show up, you know, the four or five days that we have our appointment set. And then I hired, and then I did that for a couple months. And then I tried to kind of eat healthy, but I wasn't really eating healthy.

So at that point, I hired a nutritionist, somebody to put me in a diet. And this is somebody who, you know, but I wasn't really eating healthy, so at that point, I hired a nutritionist, somebody to put me in a diet, and this is somebody who, you know, I want to, of course, you know, like, they're taking their time out to set the diet, so for them, I got to get my word, and I'm accountable. They always ask me every day, every week, where I'm at, how it's going. This is who, this is a nutritionist you set, or whoever, who put as my diet plan. Great great And then from there I I think the biggest thing I make a diet is huge I bought one of those six pack bags where it's a thermal and it comes with five slots with five containers

So you pre-make your food every day and you put them in there and you could put like water on the sides Your protein shakes. So that's it like I can't eat anything other than what's in my box for that? That's really smart. So at any time. Yeah. So anytime I'm hungry, like I happen in the back seat. So if I'm in traffic for two hours, and I'm not going to get home, I'm not going to be able to make it lunch. I just I grab it. So there's no excuse for me not to keep on the diet. I have to turn into McDonald's if you don't know. Exactly. And then at my house, I don't keep any junk food because I don't have cell control. Right. Right. So if there's junk food

There's a good chance I'm gonna take a bite. Right. So at my house and I try you know, I try so with his birthday parties I always have a piece of cake right I always know it's gonna happen. Right. Um, so okay, because everyone's Yeah, it's a never I'm never gonna have cake. I'm never gonna eat Bradley. It's just in moderation and Setting goals, I think it's so I know my obstacles It's just a moderation and setting goals I think is good. So I know my obstacles. So I make sure my diet and everything is in my workout and I'm accountable. If I'm not accountable to somebody, most likely I'm not going to show up. So for me, it works to have a trainer and an nutritionist and people who hold me accountable

to reach my goal. And your coach, I think I love how you're living your life. Okay, thanks Tony. That was just some good tips, right? Thanks for coming. Oh yeah, I'm going to appreciate the advice. Okay, bye., that was just some good tips, right? Thanks for coming. I'm going to appreciate the advice. Okay, bye.

Bye, Tony. Hey guys, I just came up with a new one. Go ahead. Do you give me a go to the gym on a regular basis? Go ahead, Anderson. How are you doing to get there? There's certain podcasts that absolutely love. Yours is one of them, Emily.

Okay, thank you. I'll be lying if I just said I didn't listen to yours. Do you really have the gym? Well, no, I sit here and listen to you. I'm staring at you. I hate somebody. But no, there's like, there would be like, let's say you have like your favorite podcast.

Let's say it's sex with Emily. It's like about an hour a week, maybe two hours a week. I only allow myself to listen to sex with Emily while I'm at the gym. So if I, I'll be like missing sex with Emily because I haven't been in the gym in a couple of days, I can't hear sex with Emily unless I go to the gym. Right. That's smart. And then I might fall behind if I'm not spending enough time at the gym.

Exactly. Exactly. It's definitely worked a lot. And I've got two packs as a weaners, you've got to go for two hours. Just boys shouldn't be getting boners at the gym while listening. They do though. Do you know that I get emails from people all the time? We're like, I listen to the gym and I love it, but then I get to get turned on. I'm like, that's not really my intention, but maybe you go into the bathroom.

I don't know what to tell you. Okay, we got another call here for you. Okay, Anthony NLA. Hey, Anthony, thanks for calling. Sex with Emily. Hey, what's going on? You're on with Chiara. Hi, Anthony. How are you? What's going on? Yeah, I just had a couple questions for you. Yeah. I was going to know what does it take for a guy to win your heart to sweep you off your feet. You know what? It's actually very easy. I like aggressive assertive men. I like men who are family-oriented, who are gentlemen who like to be the masculine energy. I'll be the feminine

energy. I love Romantic men. I love kindhearted men. Kindhearted, you know, somebody with a good soul who wants to get back. You know, you can still be very aggressive and dominant and successful, but I don't like assholes. No, either. Okay. How's it actually? And consistency. Oh, consistency is huge.

I like to have my text returned and my phone calls returned in a timely manner. And don't disappear. Don't play games. Yeah, I can't do that. I'm very, very, very quick to cut people out. Right. Even if I misinterpreted something which I do a lot, I'm still quick to cut people out. Don't you think people are texting too much in relationships or falling apart because

they're texting all the time and they misinterpret things or that? Oh, huge, huge. Pick up the goddamn phone. Anthony, the next time you use to pick up the phone and call her. All right. Yeah, you know what? Because when you take people, like, you're a whole argument, because something's going Anthony, the next time you meet someone pick up the phone and call her. All right. Yeah. You know what?

Because when you take people, that's your whole argument. Because something's going to be misread, misread the wrong way. Right. And I come off a lot as cold on my text. Because I'm very like abrupt, what do I say? And I don't. And you're so not cold at all. You seem so warm and loving.

Yeah. And I'm used to it in a time. Like I always do exos, my life is because people can think I'm cold too. So, right, that's smart. Okay, Anthony. Well, I think you're beautiful. Oh, thank you. Oh, I am single. Oh, there you go, Anthony. You guys are going to take this offline. Thanks for calling Section Family. You can listen to this podcast tomorrow. Okay, thanks. All right. Okay, we've got more here. We've got Tim in Dallas. Hey, Tim. Thanks calling to talk to them. Hi Tim, how are you? Hi, I'm Donald Grick here.

Our first conformist, let me just say that you are definitely the Kim Kardashian of porn after watching all your films. I take my hat off to you from right here in the low. Oh, thank you. I love that. That's a huge compliment. That is huge.

I have a two part of question. First, one, I need to know what advice I need to know how to pleasure a beautiful woman on the first date. And two, I know this is very important but I need to, when is the, I heard you did a foreign parody of Keeping Up with PRMEA, when is that going to come out? That's the big question. Yeah, the trailer's done. The wording for the website to be finished up, it should be up in two weeks for sure.

So you'll see the trailer. Two weeks after that, the release of the movie will be coming. Two weeks from today? The trailer will be out. And then two weeks after that, the movie. So in a month, for sure. All right, now, back to my first question. How do I pleasure the most beautiful? I've been in a month for sure. All right, now, all right. Back to my first question. How do I pleasure the most beautiful?

I've been in relationship for three years. How do I start pleasureing a woman on the first date? And sexually or emotionally? Sexually. Sexually, sexually, sexually. On the first date, you're going to section the first date. How do you know? I'm a little nervous because she's wants vert. She wants she wants to go all the

way for the first time. Okay. Okay. Like I was telling Emily earlier. Definitely a lot of kissing, a lot of four play, play with the nipples a lot. And I'm talking like five, ten minutes to where her hips start grinding where she's like, okay, move your hands down. You keep your hands as long as you can on her breasts,

on her face, on her neck, her, you know, kiss down on her shoulders, kiss her arms, kiss a napal her neck. Sucking on the neck will drive any girl nuts. I'm telling you right now. It's true, but men don't know anything. I'm so glad you're here because I say this all the time. Yeah.

And I feel like, I feel like that you say this all the time. And I here because I say this all the time. Yeah, and I feel like I feel like that you say this all the time And I mean I say this all the time and people don't listen to me. Yeah, definitely. I'm telling you that alone will get her Then from there she's gonna start moaning instantly when she heard the moaning and you see her hips start grinding Then slowly over her clothes Gently start, you know like rubbing vagina area, and stay there for a minute until she either pulls up her dress or starts buckling her own pant. I'm talking about teasing. Yeah, it's all about teasing.

Because once you hit it, she's ready to orgasm. Beautiful. You got it? I love that. Thank you so much. I feel like I'm never an orgasm. Okay, that was hot. Okay, thank you so much, Tim.

Good luck to you. Let us never an orgasm. Okay, that was hot. Okay, thank you so much Tim. Good luck to you. Let us know how it goes. Okay, well, I guess we have just, we've only one more call, but first I've got to talk about one thing here with Anderson. I've got to talk to you about Tingling. Tingling. I've got to talk to you about Tingling.

Okay, Tingling. I was trying to think of a good segue there. And you know what, he could save some money on his monthly phone bill. It's true. And I think that a lady is like to be pleasure by being taking out to nice dinners more than anything else on the first day, right? Women, well, yes, women, if you just want to spend more money in your life, like I have saved so much money,

okay, we waste a lot of money on our cell phone plans. There's so many things that we don't use that we pay for, you're locked into these things, you're locked into these agreements forever. And if you go to Ting, they've got this amazing service for you. It's run through Sprint. And you get, there's no add on charges for voicemail, collar ID. The best part is they have this, this revenue calculator.

You go to their website, you go to Ting, go to Emily dot Ting dot com. And you can put in your, let's say you're with another calling plan. You put in your, your, your, your, your, your, your way. Just like you're really basic information, they fill everything else out for you. They fill it out and then they calculate, they're like, oh, this is what you're paying with your paylion, we'll save you 75 bucks a month. And it's such a cool service and they've excellent online support. Yeah, if you call their number live people actually answer the phone and talk to you. Exactly. Yeah, if you call their number live people actually answer the phone and talk to you, which is rare.

And they also have this relief program that you know how you don't want to end your plans. Sometimes you're like, oh my God, I got two more years with the one who started me $5,000 or something. Usually, usually not that much. It's not $5,000, but it feels like $5,000. They actually give you credit towards that. So towards, they give you credit towards that. But also, they're just an amazing program and you will not be paying as much as everyone else on their plan.

Yeah, I see another year left on your plan. You want to get out. You want to start saving whatever it is, whether it's 50 bucks a month, 75 bucks a month. If you have like a family plan, it might be like 150 bucks a month, you save, but you don't want to pay that penalty to ATT or Verizon. They, Ting will honor up to $75 or 25% of whatever that's. It makes it so wide. Penalty is going to be.

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Cara this is amazing. I guess we could we're running out of we could do one more call. Yeah let's go to Justin because he wants to he wants to say thanks. Justin just wants to thank you Cara for living for existing on the planet. Hey Justin in New York thanks for calling Sector Emily I'm here with Cara. Hi. Hi. Hi. Hi, Jess. So, An. I just want to say a low-key arm, a huge fan. I love it. I want two things I want to thank you for. The first was we met one time. I'm actually, I'm a fireman in New York and I gave you a t-shirt and you posted a picture

on Instagram with it. I don't think the letters have ever looked better than on you. Oh, thank you, love. That's so sweet. Thank you very much. Actually, I was brought to you, smile on my face, my sword, and that's all. I just, I really am a huge fan. The other thing I thank you for is obviously I follow your pictures on Instagram and I love them all. But I got into a little bit eating better because of all the meals that you've brought. I've always been a stinnig eater on you make them actually look appealing. And I've been trying them where healthier diet. And I saw some of you know you always post your like weekly meals've been trying that. Then we're healthier diet. And I saw some, you know, you're always

supposed to be like, weakly meals, stuff like that, some of the meals. And I was like, wow, that actually looks good. So I started trying some of the stuff. Good. I'm going to start following you in Instagram, not too. We just met.

Okay, that's great, Justin. Well, I'll beat up in New York again in November 28th and October 28th in November 4th. Cool. Okay, thanks Justin. Bye, love. Bye, love. Thank you.

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