Sex With Emily - SWE: Prostate Play

Episode Date: March 8, 2012

Emily interviews Charlie Glickman from Good Vibrations who teaches listeners all about the prostate, from finding it to how to treat it. Many straight men don’t realize the untapped pleasure of the�� prostate, or the male G-spot.In other news, Christina Hendrick's boobs and the end of the “Great Hand Job debate” might be in sight. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Music Book into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a lie on me Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute The girls got to understand it's a lie

The women know about shrinkage Isn Isn't it common, though? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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Hi, how you doing today? I'm great. How are you? I'm very good. I met Will for all today. Wow. That is so exciting. Tell me about it. Yeah. It was cool. He has some new movie. Movie coming, of course. And it's all in Spanish too.

Like he's speaking Spanish. Wow. In the entire movie. I have not seen it. I can't even pronounce the name of the movie. Okay. If you know Spanish. Was he funny? Or can read the whole book? Because you know how some nice people are funny, but not funny?

Yeah, he was actually funny in person. He showed up in like these really like crazy pants. We thought they were pajamas, but they're actually like golf pants. Okay. And they go, oh, do you go golfing often? He goes, no, he goes, I'm just a, I'm just a really big fan of the att entire. That's hilarious. That's funny. That's a good day. I didn't mean anyone interesting today except for Charlie Glickman, our guest on the show, I've met him before, but I'm very excited.

We have a guest today, Charlie Glickman. He's the education program manager at Good Vibrations. He's a doctor, PhD, insects, right? So he can answer all of our sex questions today. He's going to help me out. And we're going to be talking a lot about prostate pleasure for men because you know what comes up on the show a lot of men are a little fearful of it, straight men in particular and he's going to talk about the benefits of it and some other sex stuff. Everything I'm talking about in the past, I don't know, a couple of weeks. It's really just been

in the past year, I believe in the past year, maybe I'm just ignorant, wish I usually am. That it's been more and more in the mainstream that people are talking about. They are talking about it more. I think that might be true. There might be a trend towards that. So we're going to give you all the information you need to experience the most incredible pleasure of your life that you've not yet experienced. So we're talking about that.

We've got some sex in the news. We've got your emails. And I also got to mention a giveaway that we're doing this week. Every year on March 8th, its global recognition is given to the economic, political, and social achievements of women throughout history. So in honor of International Women's Day, we're offering a product giveaway from Trig Laboratories wet natural beauty beautifully bare.

It's a personal lubricant. So all you gotta do is follow us on Facebook and Twitter. We'll give you details. How to win that? They were can't. I love Lou, you know I'm a huge Lou fan. Big Lou fan. I want to Lou by every night stand. That's just what I want in the world. You want the gasoline truck, but it's full of...

Of Lou? Exactly. It's like a huge pump of Lou or something. That's just, that's what I want for everyone. I think it's important. Damn. Is that too much to ask? Really. And yeah, that's what I got. So I haven't been doing, I'm trying to think what I've been doing. Is that anything going on in your life? In my life? Just, just, yeah. I mean, there's what I got. So I haven't done. I'm trying to think what I've been doing. I think going on in your life. In my life. Just just yeah, I mean, there's a lot going on. Have you always say there's a lot going on, but then you never say it's work, it's work, it's whatever. But I've been seeing someone you know that I'm into. He's cute. You met him the other night.

Yeah, you've met him. He's nice. Nice guy. Things are going. It's actually going so well that I've nothing to say. It was more fun when I was dating. This is your freak out time then. No, well maybe. Maybe I'll be freaking out on my day day. Oh my god, it's going so good. I must self-destruct like everyone was.

Exactly. No, I don't do that. But I thought it was interesting like last summer when I was dating three guys at once and then that was more, there was more stories about the interactions. Yeah. Right now things are good. Now having this regular relationship. A regular relationship. So boring. It is kind of boring. That's the interactions. Yeah. Right now things are good. Now having this regular relationship.

A regular relationship. So boring. Yeah. It is kind of boring. That's the problem is that I'm bored. No, I'm not bored yet. But I'll let you guys know. You guys are the first ones to know when I'm bored.

Yeah. What's up with you besides meeting Malfarrel? Well, Farrell, nothing. I'm just gearing up to go to Southern California for Coachella. Do you think that's possible? I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so, I'm so are classical. Oh, I'm so, I'm gonna be honest. When are you leaving? You're gonna go the whole 10 days. Yeah, I'm gonna be, I'm going both weekends. So I'll be gone.

Yeah. It's end of March though, right? Um, middle of April. Oh, okay. So I'm not worried about you being gone yet, because then I get sad and cry. I know. As I often do. And then everything gets all messed up all the audios.

I really want to coachella. It's amazing. Festival. It is. Especially the time I had sex backstage. I know. You share that with me all the time every time I bring out Coachella. That's what I think about.

I thought it was really fun. No bands that were amazing. I don't remember any bands. Madonna was there. Okay. But I had sex backstage. Cool. Right.

Okay. So we've got some sex in the news for you today. What do you have? This is this is repulsive. South Carolina Republicans are not allowed to have premarital sex. So as of last Tuesday, if you're hoping to get onto the primary ballot in Lawrence County, South Carolina, you'll have to sign a Republican Party pledge stating you've never had premarital sex and that you will never, ever look at porn again. No way. These additions were

made to the typical conservative ideals, upholding gun rights and opposing abortion and are meant to weed out possible immoral future candidates. I can't believe the stuff is still happening in our world. That is not real. It's totally it's absolutely real. A county, a county. A county. Lawrence County, South Carolina. If you want to get on the ballot and run, you have to state that you've never had a premarital sex and you won't look at porn. And like if you want to get on the ballot uh... and run you have to say that you've never heard from your little sex and you want to go for it and like if you want to get about your going to do anything can get on the ballot but still

you feel so much easier to be lying well think about it because i've never had pre-minimal sex right of course and you don't like porn so you actually could run out i will run you will you will you'll run uh... but that's actually true uh... and i. Okay. Good news for smoothies. Women don't like beards. Sorry.

Sorry to both my men here. Women don't like beards. I don't know. That's what they say. After showing photos of the same men bearded and cleavish, clean shave into a group of 200 women from New Zealand and Samoa, researchers concluded that women prefer a smooth face man. But that's in Samoa and New Zealand or whatever. I know.

I'm just telling you what they're wearing. I'm not saying it's America. So the Samoa women were chosen because their island is isolated from Western trend, so they'd be less likely to go for the hipster beard look. Interestingly though, men who were shown the same photos found bearded men to be more commanding a respect and possibly more aggressive.

This suggests that beards may be an evolutionary tool to scare off other men. Is that why you have your beard? Yes, it's to scare off every other man around. How's that working for you? Everyone is kind of scared of you because it's because you're kind of mean. Yeah, I'm just a dick. I know. That's not because of the beard. But you're still lovable inside, but you are just kind of a dick if people don't know you. Yeah. But you know, the whole at least on the coast that I know and the big cities, the New Yorks and the San Franciscos and the Los Angeles, the hipster, the hipster mustache is out of control. I know it is. So it's so in to have a hipster mustache. I know. It makes me want to I don't like the mustache thing. Um, I like the beard. I actually personally like the beard. I have

the beard just because I'm pale to like I always have all the pale can I buy you tanning salon gift certificates birthday? Would you go I would hell yeah, I would go because I do hear you complain about the tan thing a lot Yeah, I want to do the stand-up one. I want to just yeah, were they spray you? No, no, no, no, not spraying Oh, you want to do the booth? Yeah, I want to do so bad for you Yeah, honey, no, no, no, not spraying. Oh, you want to do the booth? Yeah, I want to do some for real. So bad for you. I'm not letting you do that by now. I'm not feeling good. Yeah, honey, that's bad for you.

Yeah, but the other thing is it stinks. It stinks and doesn't get in between the fingers. Yeah, but you wash your hands. There's a whole thing that you do. It's terrible. Okay, well, I'm not getting in for you because I don't want you to die. Justin Bieber celebrates his legality

with $11 million love nest. So he just turned 18. And four is 18th birthday. Justin Beaver would 10.8 million on a Hollywood Hills mansion currently rented by Ashton Kutcher. He hopes to turn the sprawling pad into a love nest for himself Anselina Gomez. They shouldn't believe in together at 18 p.s. Looking over Lake Hollywood, the home features, a private movie theater, a gym, a gourmet kitchen, a massage room, and a bar area that Bieber

won't be allowed to use for the next three years. Oh, yeah, for real. He's never going to use that. That's crazy in $11 million house. He started on YouTube. We started on YouTube stuff on YouTube. Why are not buying $11 million, volume engine? You know, a little tiny kid that can play a guitar.

That's true. Unseen. That's true. But, yeah, he's buying a house for his mom, too. That That's a good. That's great. That is a good kid. Yeah. Love it. Okay. And he might have sex for the first time ever with Selena Gomez. Is he is 18? That's a low right, but he's at sex for for for sure. No way. Guess what? It's word God. Okay. There's a manhattan soccer mom busted for running a high profile brothel in New York. 44-year-old Anna, an upstate New York mother of four kids, has been indicted for managing a sex ring out of an East 78th apartment for the last 15 years. She made millions by catering to powerful politicians, top law enforcement officers,

lawyers, bankers, entertainment execs, and Fortune 500 businessmen, especially, as well as extremely rich European clients. But she finally slipped up when she arranged a liaison and which minors were involved. Ah, because her black book is currently sealed by investigators is unknown, which politicians are involved in the scandal. I'm just going to bet all of them. No, most of them, well, least from the one from the home, the home stage. Yeah, no, I know. But all the politicians are like, we talked about yesterday, how what's the face is doing the

the contest. The Husker guys doing the contest for anyone who had an affair with the politician, he's offering a million dollars for all the details. Yeah. I'm sure there's a lot of horrors out there that would love to get their hands on that million dollars exactly But um, yeah, exactly we talked about that yesterday and I I've had interactions with politicians, but nobody that would be that interesting Yeah, you need you need somebody high profile to get that million exactly do you have any more sex in the news from your News on TMZ no, just you know there we've talked about it yesterday It's still pretty big is the Olivia Munn and the Hendrix.

No, who cared for the boobs? I haven't seen them yet. They're hot women. Right, so the boobs are everywhere now because they have the phones. They have the photos? Yeah, Olivia Munn had some like her in like crazy laundry and stuff like that.

Hot? Yeah, like she was definitely like posing for the cameras, but this, the Hendrix girl you could tell that she was just like taking pictures for a boyfriend and something like that. It wasn't like- Everyone stopped taking the nude pictures. I have to say it every day.

Like it's the dumbest thing you can do. Someone's gonna find out I'm hacking your phone. Someone's gonna get a, your consent to a guy that you madly in love with and you trust to the dentist to the end of time and then you're gonna break up with them tomorrow and there goes your pictures on Facebook. To be everywhere. They're all actually there was this one chick.

I don't know her last name but I know her first name her name is Adrian and she's also the ex girlfriend of Robert Kardashian the young the youngest boy in the family and she was her runway. I don't know what she was thinking, but she was wearing a dress that only like from the neck down covered. So it covered her front, right? Yeah, but a wind came and she wasn't wearing any underwear. Oh, stupid.

And then so here's like a billion photographers taking photos and it's all online. Oh my God, we're underwear two people. We're underwear and keep her clothes on. Yeah. That's all I gotta say. That's all I going to say about that. Okay, we can move into some emails now. All right, let's do it. Okay, thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback. It's sexwiththeendly.com. Remember, if your friends benefit's member, your emails go straight

to the top. We answer emails right away and we just love hearing from you. So thanks for emailing us. You can also email us through Facebook and Twitter and whatever it feels good to you. Dear Emily, I just want to take time to say thanks for the show about changing relationship patterns. It's my favorite so far. That's all I got. Deborah. Overland Park Kansas, she's a premium friends and benefits member.

She loved our relationship pattern show. That was last week we talked about how we all get stuck in relationship patterns and how to break those patterns. That was a good show. How about me? Do I break patterns? For sure. I've broken patterns, only developed new ones.

Hopefully they're all more evolved though. You know what I mean? As you move along through the patterns in life, you, we all have patterns and people we still date over and over again, maybe the same types. And we're just, we talked about exercises that you can do to break those patterns. So you should go back and listen to that show.

Do you have patterns? I'm gonna talk about that. You would not admit your patterns that I appointed out for you. So I want you to know that. No, yeah, cause you're always wrong on the pattern. No, I was absolutely right, which is why you were so upset.

No. Okay, dear Emily, let's move Charlie on now. Charlie, okay, Charles Lickman, we have to give him a microphone too. I forgot to put that over there. Okay, sorry, we're gonna give you a mic. Charlie Lickman is a star to give him a microphone too. We forgot to put that over there. Okay, sorry. We're gonna give you Mike. Charlie Glickman is a star. He is the staff educate.

What you are the education program manager at Good Vibrations. Okay, we love Good Vibes. I've talked about Good Vibes. If you don't live in, how should we get a shriek go closer? We got it. We're good.

So Good Vibrations is probably my favorite store in San Francisco. And they have some, how many stores in Boston? have some, how many stores in the Bay Area now? Four or five? We've got one in Boston, four in San Francisco, and two in the East Bay. Okay, it's the most amazing store, sex toy store, sex education.

You walk in there and you feel like, you just, you feel like the most, you feel so accepted and you feel like your needs are being taken care of. If you have any sex questions or you want to buy toys, vibrators, anything that you want to get into, you can just talk to them like you're talking about what you have for lunch and they make you feel very comfortable and happy. Yeah, you've been talking about them forever and you always,

I'm stridesied and shared the story that you always share about. It was the first place that you ever sex. It was first and yeah, went into. Right. I wanted a G-spot vibrator and I brought the G-spot book and I was like, hi, it was a little bearish and nervous. Like, oh, no, Prab, and they just talked to you. Like, it's just the most, it is the most normal thing in the world for good vibrations.

That makes me really happy to hear. Because that's what we try to do. Oh my God, it's so comfortable. And you just feel like, and then you don't want to leave. Because you're like, I've got a lot of other questions and then there's all the books and all the movies and all the DVDs that you sell. And we love talking to people about sex. Yeah, they do.

Are you going to accept responsibility for the down world, down world spiral that her relationships have gone since going to your store? What do you? What don't you know stop? I can't say responsibility for that. No, I'm not saying that her sex life didn't improve, but all my sex chose. Yeah, I think if she could marry the vibrator she would. No, the trick is to bring the vibrators into your sex life. Exactly, they're partner. Exactly, and that's what I've done. And that's what I've done. And it's a win-win.

I always say that, so it's like your new best friend. Like anyone who is still as issues vibrators is as I have a problem with them. Because I think that you can realize men have to realize that they should not be threatened or women. They should not be threatened by vibrators because it truly can enhance your sex life. And 70% of women need some kind of literal stimulation to have

an orgasm, vibrators, hands, whatever. So just make it part of what you do. What's the best selling clitoral vibrator? Because I'm always recommending on, but what would you say is the best the one that you, or the one that you recommend the most? If someone's just starting out and they want to use it during intercourse, what do you like today? What do I like today?

I actually think there's so many new things. You know lately I've been a big fan of some of the smaller bullet vibes because they're smaller, they're more out of the way, or even something like the Leia by Fun Factory. Oh, okay. Because it follows the curve of the body so that it's not right in the middle of everything. Okay. Because if you're having close faces. And there's like curves like that, right? It looks like a computer mouse.

Oh yeah, I've seen those. Okay, that's a good one. Okay, also if you want having close-pacet. It's like curves like that, right? Yeah, it looks almost like a computer mouse. Oh, yeah. I've seen those. Okay. That's a good one. Okay. Also, if you want to buy anything that we talk about today, you go to goodvibes.com. You use coupon code GVMly15 and you get 15% off anything at all from good vibrations. What a bargain. It's great.

It's great. It's got a good deal. So, okay. We wanted to talk to you. We're going to do some emails first and then then we're gonna get into some prostate talk. Okay, bring it. Okay, dear Emily, I've not had to use condoms for 15 plus years, but now I'm divorced,

and dating again, in which case the women have all, in which case women have all the advantages still. So if that care package from lifestyle could find its way to me, it would be nice. I have a bunch of lifestyle, it could send me a bunch of condoms, so I'm gonna gift people. I did send a full recap of Vegas at the CS,

but I'm not sure if it ever made it to. You guys need to go to the show, to do the show there. And I normally agree with Menace, but on Friday's show, three, two, I would have to disagree with him about BJs. Hands are good, don't be rough, don't be rough, it's not a chute toy. And the girl being enthusiastic is good.

I wanna know what she's enjoying herself as I wanna know she's enjoying's enjoying herself as I am. Sex is always a two way street. It's as good to give as you get. Great show from Mike. He's a premium friend with benefits member from Indiana. So what's he saying? What were we talking about?

Blow jobs and hand jobs again? Yeah, the whole hand job debate. I thought buried into the ground. We have buried into the ground, but Charlie doesn't know. But this guy does make a good point. Enthusiasm counts. Enthusiasm is huge, right? In surveys they've done over and over again,

especially for oral sex, technique goes a long way, but technique without enthusiasm just doesn't get you anywhere. Exactly. What you really need is the enthusiasm, and then you can learn whatever technique this particular partner likes. Right, exactly. And you've got to ask your partner what they like

or figure it out together. So I've heard that too from a lot of them, and it's all about enthusiasm, like being into it. I'm a big fan of the either or way to figure out what somebody likes. You try A, you try B, and then you ask, what did you like more? Right, so that's good.

Give them the choice. Yeah, because if you just ask your partner, what do you like? Half the time, they don't know Give him the choice. Yeah, because if you just ask your partner, what do you like? Half the time they don't know, or they don't know how to put it into words. That's a great tip. You're so right. Because actually, yesterday, one of my interns, we were talking about oral sex because she's been performing oral sex.

She was real, real, real, and main, nameless right now. But she was talking about how she was so confused because she was with a new guy. and he was like, she didn't know what he wanted and she asked him and he wouldn't tell her, but then he wasn't happy with what she was doing. And then she got really insecure about it. Then happens. And I think, I was telling her, I'm like, I'm sure you're fine. Like, you're doing, you're doing an okay job. It's important to ask, but that's great to be like, do you like it with my hand or do you

like it just with my mouth or whatever it is? Another good way to do it is ask somebody, scale of one to 10, how much do you like what I'm doing now? And now scale of one to 10, do you like what I'm doing now? And that way you can actually measure, oh well, this got a four, but this other thing got a seven, or we're going to stick with a seven. Yeah, that's a great tip. That's a great way to do it, because when you feel kind of like what do you like, you're

like everything, Phil? Or do you tell them? No, no, I tell them. Yeah, I also tell them that they're doing a bad job and direct them in the right way. Just not. No, but that's rare. That's rare. A lot of guys don't know how to do that.

Yeah, they're just, they're like, you're saying this guy was afraid. Right. To say that. Like, no, it's like, yeah, you're really bad at giving blow jobs, but we're going to work together and make you But she felt she was feeling so down cheeky brother. She was depressed She stayed there to talk to me about it, and I was like you're doing fine I gave her some books. I mean, well just have her give me a blow job and then I can tell her okay

You like it how to do it. That's great Much better why didn't why didn't I think of that? It's always good to see someone willing to take one for the team Yeah, please seriously, I could help your friend. I know. He's a good friend. He's a total giver. I love that. And then she can probably do a better job on whatever guy she's hanging out with.

Exactly. And she doesn't have a ton of experience, so she's learning. Okay. Hi guys. The reason for my email is to ask you about the female G-Spot orgasm. Are they different? Are they different from normal orgasms? If so, what's the best way to give my wife one?

Is there a particular position that is better than others? Keep up the good work. Thanks for the show, Daniel, from Florida. I'm gonna pass this along to you, Charlie, because I know that you talk about this a lot. I talk about this all the time. What a lot of folks say is that G-spot orgasms feel more full body, feels like it's happening

all over your body instead of just focused on your clitoris or on your genitals. A lot of women say that they can have multiple orgasms through G-Spot play and some folks can even ejaculate, sometimes a little bit, sometimes a lot. So yeah, a lot of people do say it feels really different. Easiest way to find the G-Spot, get somebody turned on first. Because when someone gets turned on, the G-Spot engorges with fluid. It becomes much easier to find. Wait, hold on.

You know how to find the G-Spot? Yes, minus we talk about this. No way. No way. I wouldn't be any good at my job if I couldn't tell you how to find the G-Spot. Yes. Yeah. Let him keep it. We've talked about it, but keep going.

Yes. No, because you're the doctor here. He's telling you officially. He's like Indiana Jones and going to the temple and he's finding the... I want the hat in the whip. Yeah. Exactly. Done.

Okay. So you have to have to be simulated first. So get turned on first, doing something that she already likes. The G-spots a couple of inches inside the vagina on the front wall. So basically if somebody's lying on their back and you insert a finger and curl it up towards the belly button, for most folks you'll find a spot that feels a little bit bigger or feels rougher, it might feel a little bit firmer than the surrounding tissue. And that right there is the G-Spot.

A lot of people find it accidentally, you know, just kind of having fun with their partner and you they've never read a book or you've seen a movie or a website and they just find this spot that feels different than everything else, which I think is kind of cool because it means that you don't necessarily need to. I know, I hate those women just getting it happens to a lot of women. It doesn't happen for me. I had to find it. I know, I hate those women. Just kidding, it happens to a lot of women. It doesn't happen for me. I had to find it, I had to go searching, I had to go to good vibrations and buy a juice

by vibrator on the book and I'll say. I found it. Yeah. Excellent. Excellent. That's one other reason why I love good vibrations. That's what we like to hear. Some positions that work really well with her on her back,

maybe with a pillow under her hips to lift her up a bit. Elbows and knees can work pretty well for some folks who although it does get a little tiring after a while. And some ways to pleasure it once you have found it with your fingers, with one or two fingers, you can do a come hear motion. A lot of people call that the come hear there, which I think it's hilarious because that's the only time I've ever heard the word hither use in conversation No, they always say that I'm like the come Heather motion right come here motion Circles clockwise or counterclockwise tapping stroking and don't forget your other hand or use your mouth on the clitoris because

Combining different types of stimulation can multiply instead of just adding up That was perfect. How do I do that with my penis? You don't have a G-spot on your penis. It depends. Oh, how do you find the G-spot with your penis? Sorry, sorry, I thought... It can vary.

It depends on the size and shape and curve of the penis. I've talked to guys whose penises have a very upward curve to it, and they find that just regular thrusting hits the G-Spot for a lot of female partners. That was a lucky son of a bitch. Yeah. You know, it works out that way sometimes. It does.

But on the other hand, it did, he said that it did make blow jobs more tricky. Oh, yeah. So, you know, you gain something you lose. Right, very sweet. I remember back in the 80s when I saw porn. This guy had like this crazy curved penis. It was insane. That'ss when I saw porn. This guy had this crazy curved penis. It was insane. That's how I was in porn.

Yeah, that can happen. Yeah. But if your penis is not curved like that, if you thrust sort of aiming the head of the penis towards the belly button sort of from the inside, that might hit it. Right. You're depending on individual anatomy. But if you're just starting out, it's good to start with the fingers. And there are some special toys,

just about by way. A lot of special toys. G-spot vibrators usually have a curved tip. And that'll sort of hook up behind the pubic bone and reach the G-spot, like the G-swell, or I'm a big fan of the GG. That's another one. Oh, what's in the GG?

I don't know that one. So the GG, it's made by Lilo, and it is silicone, so it's non-porous, safe easy to clean and it's quiet Oh, I love the quiet, you know if you have thin apartment walls Yes, many people do here in San Francisco my neighbors hate me. Yeah, I love the Hitachi. So what can you do? You know, I once had a I once talked to a woman who was looking for a quieter vibrator because her downstairs neighbor was complaining about her Vacuuming it to in the morning because her downstairs neighbor was complaining about her vacuuming at two in the morning. That is hilarious.

Yeah, that's the kind of muffler to put on the attachee. You know, they don't have a bad idea. It's not a bad idea, but attachee doesn't like to admit that people use their very percent. Oh, that's right. That's right. Okay. We won't talk about that.

They say they use it for it. A back massage. Massager. It looks like a back massage. Oh Oh really? I will say I've had tendonitis twice and using a vibrator on my arms felt kind of can't be. Yeah, it does. It works. It does work. It does work. I've used it on my back before and other places. Hattachi magic wand. Because I was always trying to figure out because they always talked about the Hattachi magic wand as I never knew this. This is a new information. Oh, okay. That it was a sex toy and I was always trying to figure out was it the same Hattachi magic wand, as I never knew this, this is a new information. Oh, okay.

That it was a sex toy. And I was always trying to figure out was it the same Hattachi that made my television that was making this product? As far as I know. So now it makes sense that they don't think it's a sex product. And it doesn't look like you could leave it out because it finds it's out after all these years

of you talking. I don't know, Manus, because you know, you didn't have to show it to you You've been come over and looked at my sex toy collection. I need to get rid of my couch because I have so many sex toys in my house But you need to get a couch. It has storage in I know that's another option. I got a bed with storage underneath I maybe my couch too. Okay, dear Emily this one's for you and then we're gonna start we're gonna talk about prostate male prostate Dear Emily, I'm a 40 year old male. I'm trying to get into prostate massage. I wanted to, I was wanting to know if it works. This is Robert from Bay City, Texas. Charlie Glickman, floor is yours. Fantastic. Okay. Let me start off just by saying that for

any minute there who have had prostate, prostate exams at the doctor, I hear this from a lot of men, they say, you know, I had a prostate exam. It didn't feel very good, so I guess this just isn't my thing. Right. Doctors are trained to do prostate exams without it feeling good. They don't want it to hurt, but they don't want you to sue them for sexual harassment. But, you know, imagine if a woman went to the gynecologist and got a pelvic exam and it was uncomfortable as they can be,

and said, you know, it wasn't fun getting my pelvic exam. Exactly. So I just must not like intercourse. Not everybody likes intercourse, but that's a separate thing. The prostate in terms of how to find it is a lot like the G-spot. So everything I was saying before applies to the prostate except that you get to the prostate through anal penetration instead of vaginal penetration. So grab a glove, it keeps your hand nice and clean, you don't have to worry about

nicks on your fingernails irritating anything, get some lube because everybody needs lube for anal play. I'm a big fan of silicone lubricants because they don't get sticky, they don't dry out, hypoallergenic, all of that stuff. And instead of just shoving a finger into the anus, which is what you'll see in porn movies, that instead kind of press the tip of the finger up against the anus and have the person on the receiving end bear down, kind of like in the same way as if you're going to the bathroom. Okay. And what happens is the muscle opens up and relaxes and then the finger can kind of slip

inside. Okay. You want to work with the body. So you take a nice slow inhale as you exhale and bear down. Very gently press in with your fingertip and don't go any faster than the body wants to go. Right. It takes a lot of practice to be able to receive anal penetration.

Right. This is one of the problems with porn. The people in porn use lube and they warm up. It all happens before they turn the camera on. Right. Exactly. You cannot learn how to have sex through porn. You really can't.

Learning to have sex from porn would be like learning how to drive from watching a car chase movie. Someone's going to get hurt. Right. Exactly. That's so true. That's so true. But just like with the G-spot, the prostate actually fills up with fluid when you get turned

on too. So start off with something you already like, oral sex, intercourse, masturbation, watching a porn movie, whatever it is. Once you have the finger inserted into the anus, it's the same thing. A few inches inside and curl up towards the belly button. The prostate is, it has kind of the texture of a ripe plum. Okay. So that's what you're looking for.

And when you do prostate massage or prostate stimulation, the guy on the receiving end might feel like he needs to pee. That's partly because the prostate fills up and then presses on the bladder and also stimulates the neck of the bladder. But it's a very different sensation once you get used to it. Okay.

So that's how you do it. You know, he wants to know, so is it the kind of thing he's talking about the massage? Like is it something that someone would have to do for him or you're saying he could even do it for himself or you can't give yourself a massage? It depends on the person. Depending on how long your arms are,

how flexible your wrists are, some people can stimulate their own prostate with their hand. Other folks will do prostate massage with the toy, with the vibrator. But it is a little bit easier to find on someone else's. With a finger, okay. Now are we entering ourselves by doing this? No. As long as you are careful to go nice and slow with anal penetration, no rough edges. You don't have long fingernails, anything like that. Prostate massages are going to cause any harm, and there's some evidence that it can actually help with certain health conditions like in large prostates.

That's amazing. So if male, okay, so the prostate massage are men going to get the same pleasure like orgasm pleasure from the massage or is that something different? What do you mean? Well, like if they're having the prostate massage or like the anal penetration, which we're going to get into, like I was thinking this is kind of a prostate 101, we were going to go through here. So we just did, we talked about how to find it. And then and our our our person who wrote in was asking about the massage. What was his name is Robert from Basit, Texas. He was thinking about getting a missing into prostate massage. Now, why would he

get into prostate massage? Because it feels really good. Feels like it feels amazing. And they're not going to feel this any other way But other to get something I mean you can't get a part you have to go through this you have to You can you can you can do something into your anus men You can do a lot you can do some Indirect prostate massage through the perineum right through the the the area between the testicles and the anus, but the thing is there's more tissue there so you get much less direct stimulation.

It's like massaging somebody who's wearing a big puffy down parka versus somebody who's not wearing any clothes. Right. The sensation's more spread out, but that's a really fun way to add a little prostate stimulation to. Okay, you can do that if you're not ready for insertion. So, break down. What are some of the myths you think that we have about the prostate?

There's three that come up over and over again. Well, about prostate play, prostate massage. One of them is that the folks who like it are gay, or if you like it, it's going to make you gay. And it's interesting. There's a study that came out last year sometime, they surveyed gay men about their most recent sexual experience. And only 40% of them said that anal penetration was part of their most recent sexual experience.

So most of the time, gay men are doing lots of other stuff. Now, I'm pretty confident that gay men are more likely to try anal play. There's more conversation about it in the gay community, sure. But at the same time, a lot of men of other sexual orientations like it too. And that's because the types of stimulation you like, that's where your nerve endings are, who you want to have sex with is your sexual orientation. So if you are not interested in doing prostate massage with another man, then whatever your sexual orientation is, you're not gay.

If you see what I mean. Right. The two things are very far apart. So that's one. The second one is that it's going to hurt. And yet it's true anal play if it's not done correctly can hurt. But that doesn't mean that it necessarily has to it. It means you have to know how to do it right. So nice and slow, use lots of lube, all that kind of thing. And then the third one is that if we start doing anal

play that it's going to be dirty, or I'm going to hurt myself, and the grain of truth to those things is that it is possible to do things badly and hurt yourself in any kind of sexual activity. The trick is knowing how to do it right. Right. Which is what we talked about a little bit here. What about, in other ways, if you don't use your finger, there's like pegging and prostate play. We're talking about, I guess, heterosexual couples right now.

What are the best toys for these? Or what's the best way to go about this? Well, you're for pegging. So that's when women use strap-on harnesses to penetrate a male partner. Strap-on harnesses with a dildo on it. With a dildo, right? Or some vibrators work as well, but pretty much a dildo.

And for a lot of people, they may be a little hesitant to try that because they think that there's some gender play going on or some power play. and those are perfectly fine ways to have sex if that's what you want to do. For other folks, pegging is just a hands-free way to hold a dildo because then you've got your hands-free for doing other stuff. Right. I'm a big believer in silicone dildos for pegging just because for any kind of anal play

they're easier to clean. Okay. You can put them in boiling water for five minutes to disinfect them. in silicone dildos for pegging disc because for any kind of anal play, they're easier to clean. Okay. You can put them in boiling water for five minutes to disinfect them. You can put them in the top rack of a dishwasher to make sure that your roommates are your kids are not gonna be unpacking the dishwasher.

Exactly. Exactly. Your story is a good vibration. And with harnesses, there's a lot of different styles, a lot of different choices. For anal play, I personally usually recommend the machine washable nylon or fabric harnesses. Okay.

Yeah, because a leather, you know, nothing looks or feels like leather, but it's not machine washable. Right. And, you know, you're going to get lube everywhere. There's good dirty, lube, right. Okay. So you toss your harness in the washing machine and you're good to go. Okay. So you're good to go. Okay, so you're good to go. So you're, how do you know, like, I guess it's communication

when you are packing someone or you didn't prostate play like to know, we talked about using fingers, but when you're putting a dildo in, you have to be much more communicative, new slow, lots of loops, same kind of thing. And then you're moving it out, what are you doing? Well, so there's three two pieces I want to touch on here. There's three key ingredients to successful anal play no matter who's given it and who's receiving it. Relaxation already talked about that.

Lubrication touched on that a bit and communication. And that's because the, the, the anus, the pelvic floor is really sensitive to your moods and your emotions. You know how when a dog or a cat is scared, their tail kind of tucks under and they kind of hunker down? Human beings have the same physiological response. We're just standing upright and we don't have a tail. There's a reason why people who are stressed out all the time, we call them tight asses.

Literally, the pelvis and the anus and the pelvic floor all tighten up. So the more you can communicate with your partner faster, slower, deeper, more loob, my leg is getting a cramp. The more relaxed you can be, the easier it's going to be for your body. Got it. And then men can experience this amazing pleasure that they've never experienced before. Organisms, they give orgasms, right? It's a different kind of, it feels differently than regular orgasms. Yeah, just like the G-sp before orgasms, they gave orgasms, right? Absolutely. It's a different kind of, it feels differently than regular orgasms. Yeah, just like G-spot orgasms are often described as full body, maybe not quite as focused.

Prostate orgasms are usually described as being more full body. Some men can even have multiple orgasms without ejaculating from prostate play. And you can just keep going and going and going. Yeah, how about that, man? It's sounds amazing. What are you doing this weekend?

This weekend, how long it'll be in Los Angeles? Oh, it's a bummer. I had this for some time. I thought that was your time. So what are some ways that women can now explore the section? We said we're saying for men. So anything. Oh, we didn't come back to one piece.

I was like, what do you do with the strap on with pegging? Yes. Go on and pretty much anything that you could do with fucking somebody with a penis. Right. One big advantage to a dildo is that you know, it doesn't inadvertently get soft when you don't want it to or jacket it sooner than you want it to. So nice. On the flip side, though, you don't have nerve endings telling you what's going on. So you do need to be a little bit more careful at first until you figure out your groove. Okay. Got it. That's all good tips. Those are like really like we've talked about it and

we get a lot of emails about it, but I think that you really broke it down and I think that everyone should go out and so you just have your favorite toys here or these, these were mostly for anal to anal toys here. But the last time we got toys, yes, you've got the aneros prostate massager, which is one of the best hands-free prostate massage toys that's been ever hands-free. So you put it in and you insert it and the weight is on it. You do cross repuzzle on the other hand because your hands are something.

You probably be too busy to do it in cross repuzzle. But you can wear it during oral sex intercourse masturbation. Pretty much the only position you can't be in is sitting down on a chair or something. Got it. Eneros prostate massager, ANEROS. position you can't be in a sitting down like on a chair or something. Got it. But in your OSTO statement, A-N-E-R-O-S, okay. And the way it works is when you contract your pelvic floor, it presses into the prostate. Oh, cool. So you get your Kagle exercises as well.

Kagle, love the Kagle. What else do you have on your list there? A Knight Rider vibrator. A Knight Rider is a great one because it's the right size to get somebody warmed up for anal play and it's got a little cross piece on it to keep it from going in too far. One of the important things to know about any anal toy is it has to have three characteristics. It has to be smooth so you don't damage the rectum or the anus because it's more sensitive.

It should be made from a material that you can clean or just cover it with a condom. And then the third thing is it needs to have a base or a flange or in the case of the night rider, a little cross piece to keep it from getting lost. Okay. Yeah. Because, you know, things get put inside people's butts all the time. Yeah, and you have to go to the grocery room. You always do those stories about the emergency room, things that are pulling out of people's

butts. Yeah. Right? Do you hear those stories? Oh, yeah, all the time. Yeah. Right? Do you hear those stories all the time? Yeah. Well, and you're part of why that happens is because, you know, when we are turned on, when we're excited, I think most of us have made, shall we say, less than wise decisions under the influence of a rousal. So if you don't have an anal-safe toy on your bedside table, you might be tempted to grab that vibrator or that cucumber or whatever object you have.

Don't do it. Don't do it because it really can cause some problems. Okay. So yeah, I'm a big fan of the Knight Rider. Okay, and the Naughty Boy Inotoi. The Naughty Boy, you know, it's a nice shape because it's made from this material called Intramed, which is easy to clean. It's a nice firm material, so it transmits vibration really well, and it's got just the right curve to reach the prostate. So yeah, it's, and there's a little vibrator in the base

to go up against the perinium or the testicles. It's a winner. Awesome, these are great. So if everyone's now intrigued by this today, you can use coupon code gvmly15 for 15% off at goodvibes.com by these toys. And you also have the coupon code at sex to L.A. document, right? Yes. Thank you for saying that. And does it bother you that I read the code? No, it doesn't bother me that you read the code, but it bothers me that you don't say

that it's on the website. It's on my web site, sex to L.A. Com right there at the top. Because some people might be listening on Stitcher on their mobile phone. True. They'll have no order right now. We have to say hi to Stitcher. Hi Stitcher, thanks for letting us use your studio Stitcher is a popular place to listen to podcasts. It's a nap. Don't let it.

Today. You're smart phone. I do usually do a better spiel. You do, but you're tired. That wasn't bad. And if you want more information about pegging, prostate, play, g-spot, or anything else, on goodwabs.com on our how-to pages, we have all kinds of stuff. Yeah, it's a great website. In your website, charlieglickman.com, you've got a lot of great information on there too. That's me. And we'll have that on our website as well.

What's your favorite part about working for good vibes? Knowing that right now at this very second, somebody is having a better orgasm because of something I said. Nice. That's amazing, I know. That is true. I like it. Any other questions, Menis. No, that's it. Okay. This was awesome. Thank you so much for being on the show Charlie. It's been great to be here.

It's been too long like you you're gonna come back. We're about women this time. Oh really great Charlie. The stuff that we discussed is also is there some on your web your personal website? Charlie, we just said Charlie. Yeah, but it. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know.

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