Sex With Emily - SWE: Put a Fork in It

Episode Date: July 20, 2012

Emily is going to New York to hang out with Andy Cohen as a guest on Watch What Happens Live on the 23rd. Menace prepares Emily for the hard questions she's going to have to answer. Emily and Menace discuss relationships and how spending time apart from your boyfriend or girlfriend can be beneficial for your relationship. Emily breaks down the the top ten reasons people break up including the need to feel independent. It's important to remember that your partner doesn't posses you. Emily and Menace give advice about diets, body image, and reigniting the spark. Also, oral sex advice from guest Tasha Reign -vegetarian, social activist, free spirit, yoga enthusiast, and hardcore porn star. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so, so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Thanks so much for listening to our show. Today's show, we're gonna be talking about so many things. Oh my God, 10 signs that you are in a bad relationship. Are you thinking you're in a bad relationship?

You're not sure. We're gonna tell you how you know for sure. We're also gonna tell you break up dating rules for singles. Dating rules for singles. Oh, okay,. Sorry back up. What is wrong with that? I don't know. We're talking about signs that you're in a bad relationship and they need to break up with this person. You need to dump them. We're also going to talk about dating rules for single. So if you're single and you don't need to dump anyone, but you are single, we're going to tell you some rules.

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dates there and today we also have an adult star calling in Tasha rain. That's her name. Tasha rain. We're gonna gonna be talking in a little bit about what it's like to be adult. Star she's gonna be performing at the new century club. If you've been watching my television show, I'm Bravo TV called Misadvised Mighty Nights at 10 PM. You will know that one of my dates took me to the new century strip club, yeah.

Friend of menaces. The thing is, you had fun there. I had fun. But on the television show, it came had fun there. I had fun. But on the television show, it came off that you didn't have fun. I know, they didn't show with the part where I got on the stripper pole. Yeah. That would have been a good scene.

It would have been a good scene, but it seemed like you were annoyed the whole time, but you did have fun. I fun! Oh my God, I had such a good time, but that was a fun date. Yeah, absolutely, had a good time there. And then I'm going to New York next week.

Yes. Everybody needs to watch the today's show Monday morning. I'll be on the today's show. I'll also be on Andy Cohn's, watch what happens live on Broadway. Super jealous. 11 o'clock a night, right? Time clock?

What time is he on 11? Wow. What dude? I don't watch TV. 11 o'clock a night, Andy Cohn. You don't want television. I'm on television. What up?

I don't watch TV though. So I'm going to be on Andy Cohn's show. We're going to be in New York. It's going to be a really exciting week. Lots of fun stuff happening. It's gonna be amazing. I love anticon I know she'll tell me love them. Oh, yeah, tell them I think he's a god. I think he's awesome I love his show because he's brutal so be ready He's gonna ask you the tough question. What's he gonna ask me? You think looking at the episodes that have aired What do you think is gonna be the most brutal question. What's he gonna ask me, you think? Looking at the episodes that have aired,

what do you think is gonna be the most brutal question that he asks me? Ooh, what? I don't know, but a lot of questions come from viewers too. Oh, they're gonna be like, Emily, why are you going out such a loser or whatever? What do you think of blah, blah? Yeah.

And so keep your eye on Twitter when people are talking about the show, hashtag misadvised and that, though, it'd probably be a lot of the questions Exactly. Yeah, you guys can send in questions to watch what happens live. I don't know how you do it's like ww HL hashtags. Yes hashtag, but I'm also you can find me on Twitter sex with Emily Facebook sex with Emily Instagram sex with Emily and menace is white menace So we've got a lot to cover today. We've got people's emails and all that stuff. We don't have sex in the news today,

but I thought that was a good little break. Yeah. All you gotta say, I gotta say what's up to Fawn. Do you ever talk to Fawn? Is it a listener? Yeah, she emailed today. Yeah, she sent me a message on Facebook. She wanted me to be at the viewing party. I know, she's really excited.

Sorry, Fawn, I didn't get invited. No, you are invited. Oh, I'm invited. I just have to find my way across the country. Honey, you're the one who goes everywhere and doesn't invite me. Yeah, but you don't go. I don't go to anything that you would want to go to. Honey, fly to New York on Monday.

Get a cheap ticket. Just fly. Not that it will be cheap, but it'll be fun. We're doing a viewing party in New York. We have a few tickets left if you want one. Email me. Feedback at EmilyMorse.com. And then we go right to, we have the party and then we go right to the Watch Your Happens Live Show.

It's gonna be a track full day. Amazing. Amazing. What else up with you? What do I need to know? Sex happening in your world. Yeah, sex, you know, happens here and there. What do you mean?

What do you mean? What do I mean? This is Jared, you never share your sex life. you mean? What do I mean? This is Jared. You never share your sex life. Yes, it is. What's going on in the world? This is the sex life. The show's not about me.

I'm dating somebody and he's awesome. He's out of town for a while and I think that's good because I believe that relationships, not long distance, long distance is a whole nother thing and we can talk about that. We have talked about that a lot in the show. But I think that the relationships that have natural breaks built in, like, oh, my wife

travels every other week for five days or once a month for a week she's gone. Or even a few times a year, I think it's important for couples to have that separation time. I think that those relationships are, it's healthy. It's just healthy for them to have the space. Because otherwise you're living together on a roof all the time, the sex goes, because you're no longer track to each other, because you're sitting around your sweatpants,

watching movies, I just think it's good to have a break. So anyway, he's out of town. I'm gonna go out of town, we're missing each other when we get back. It's fine. I like the space, and I'm kind of freaking out, because I've just a lot of work to do, which is not that interesting,

but I just need my space. Yeah, I think I feel like I can't breathe sometimes in relationships Yeah What hold you back so much? What are the what are the goals that you're trying to reach that? Hold you back being in a relationship. I just think Boning other people no, I don't want to bone other people right now I just think Boning other people. No, I don't want to bone other people right now necessarily at this moment It's just that I'm obsessed with sex with Emily

I'm obsessed with the brand. I'm obsessed with people listening to it Changing the world help me with their sex lives and that comes first and I'm one of those women I just work driven focus all that stuff can't help it. Yeah, but we need you on a bigger picture though Bigger pictures. What do you mean? bigger picture though. Bigger picture stuff. Okay, what do you mean? Like I'm not gonna big picture. I think you're, you're sweating the small stuff all the time, you know? I have been told that before.

Swend the small stuff. You gotta think bigger, bigger. You know, I'm saying. Bigger for relationships or bigger for life? Bigger for your life and for your brand. You know, I'm on television. What else do you want? I want you to be able to have a product that people can buy. And, you know, you get... I'm on television, what else do you want?

I want you to be able to have a product that people can buy. I know, I have my Kagle Camp app. Kagle Camp. I'm telling you, it's not just for women. People think it is men and women, five minutes a day, you do my app, you just listen to the exercises and you do it,

and you're sex life for men, you've longer stronger orgasms. For women, it helps with urinary issues they have after childbirth, urinary contentances they call it, and it helps women of stronger orgasms, and it really works. That's what I'm saying. And I also have another app, a 101 sex tip. I'll see if you're going to remember it.

A 101 sex tips from sex with Emily is another app you can buy. If you're looking for cool new app in the in the iTunes Store. It's got 101 tips you can just scroll through and change your life and I've also got a book called hot sex over 200 things You can try tonight and you want to update the sex tip app. I do. Does anyone want to update it for me? You're gonna be in the process of I'm in the process of updating the 101 sex tips app. That's true. All right emails From the people thanks for emailing me. It's you know, it's really easy these days just go to sex only dot com and email me right through there Wait real quick before yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it is Friday. We haven't even talked about the weekend. I know okay

It's tj friday and we're on serious XM extreme talk 165 hello to all the people listening across the country Feel free to tweet us if you're listening. If you're an ex-exem listener, and you are listening, tweet us, it sucks with Emily. I just wanna know that you're listening because I need to hear from you. Yes. And what's going on?

What's the plans for this weekend? This weekend, I am... This weekend. This weekend, I am packing for New York. I need like 15 outfits. I know like guys can't relate whatever, but it's a lot of shoes It's a lot of packing. I'm going to be

Working and hanging out. I don't really have plans to leave for New York Sunday morning I wish I had something more interesting to tell you. I'll probably hang out with some friends But mostly work. What about you? I may show up to New York. I would love it. Maybe take a day off I can yeah, I have you come with me and of coming, so I get to see two people. My brother doesn't want to give my brothers coming to New York. What? Yeah, you should come. Can you take a week off?

A week off? My brother's coming Tuesday to Friday in New York. Really? Mm-hmm. He'd love it if you were there. Dude, I would love to be there. I have a plane ticket, but it's like a standby ticket. So I wouldn't know when I would leave. I would just have to sit in the airport

and just hope I can get a- Just do it. Can you take off work? Yeah, I could really take off work if I wanted to. Do it. Done. OK, cool, can't wait. I know that Amy and Julia, the other women on the show,

would love to meet you. They think you're a dorks. Yeah. And you are. Thank you. What are you doing this weekend? This weekend, so far, I have planned. I'm going to this weekend? This weekend so far I have planned, I'm going to use some food truck festivals

because I'm classy like that. Yeah, you are. And then my... In the East Bay? Yes, in the East Bay. Yeah, it's every like... No, no, it's like some company food fest stuff. If you're a foodie and you listen,

feel free to message me at any time and I'll give you some recommendations on any cities that you're visiting and places the type of places I eat. I'm not gonna go to like a place like French laundry where it's gonna cost you like 4,000 dollars a minute. No, but you have good recommendations of other things. Yeah, and you cook too, right? Yeah, and I cook and then so I'm gonna do that and then my friend is having a birthday party in San Jose, California. One of my favorite places ever. If I could move to San Jose, why don't you, oh, you can't for work.

Yeah, all the work is up here in San Francisco, but Paradise is in San Jose, California. Oh, Jesus, I don't see it, but I love that you like, you should be their mascot. Oh, yeah, I should be the San Jose mascot. I want the key to the city, and people are still trying to give me the key to the city of Newark, California.

Yeah, how's that going from? I'm sure there's a lot of people clamoring for it. I'm sure there's not, but I'm going to be a great thing to have. I would be a great thing to have. I'll wear it on a chain. You would wouldn't you? Hell yeah, I would. Like a gangster like a big gold chain.

Yes, like a M.L. Cool J. or something. Yeah, I think that'd be a good look for you. Kind of mix it up. Thank you. You in the hoodie. Yeah, but that's it for a good look for you. Kind of mix it up. Thank you. You and the hoodie. Yeah, but that's it for us for the weekend. Let's go now with the people.

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And you put them on your tongue and you use them before you perform oral sex. And apparently, and they do mask the taste of semen and any other sexual flavors or sense. Or whatever, you're not into it masks sexual flavors. And it comes in strawberry, mango, watermelon, and chocolate. And they're amazing. But here's the thing, Jason, we're doing a contest

for someone who give the best oral sex tips. The top three sex tips will receive a gift bag for masks, including shirt samples of all flavors and other goodies. So you got to enter our contest, which we're launching right now, and just email me your best oral sex tip or tweet me or Facebook me or whatever. Your best oral sex tip that you've got,

we can keep your name anonymous on the air if you want. That's totally fine, but we are going to be picking out the top three and the contest will end in a week. All right. How's that? Good. Okay, so everyone check out your mask.

All right, sex with multiple sclerosis. Dear Emily, so I have multiple sclerosis in half for a few years. In February, I had a flare-up that left me strange from the waist down. It put me in a wheelchair but also killed my sex life. My wife is now my caretaker which makes it strange and I can't perform. While I'm getting better, it is still hard. She's been talking about spicing things up to get the spark back, but that's confusing. We don't know what to do. She's interested in a threesome with another girl.

Maybe even swinging. Watching porn turns her on, so that's where we're going down that path. We have busy lives, two kids, so we don't know how to get started or if that is even the path to go down, and there is something better to spice things up. I know you're not medical, so the ins and out of MSI be confusing. We're just looking for somebody to get the spark back. Oh, and we're still young. I'm 29 and she's 26. Sequila.

Oh my God, I don't talk about that. Okay, so first I want to say that many people with multiple scrocs, they do report a decline in sexual desire. With the fatigue, muscle spatoms, bladder control problems, it's hard to think about sex, as you can imagine. But there are steps that can be taken to improve sexual function and intimacy.

So changes in sexual desire and performance can occur as a result of the neurologic and psychological effects of multiple sclerosis. So I have to say that some of the things you can do is to confide in your partner, and I think a lot of things that you're talking about are great, porn, swinging, threesomes, but that could be harder for you to perform. I don't have your name on here, I don't believe, but I think it could be, I think it could be a great time since the both of you are

really interested in enhancing your sex life, you should go see a sex therapist. Because a sex therapist, you don't have to go for a year. You can just go a few times and they can work with you on figuring out what you guys can do, like where you can come together and how you can work together sexually with your challenges right now. Sex therapists can help you figure out what your fantasies are, what your desires, how you guys want to connect. So that's what I would suggest for you

if you're really interested in it. But I also think that you're on the track again, trying things like porn, asking her to maybe you can share one of your deep darkest fantasies with your wife and let her know, maybe there's something she could do that would turn you on. Is there anything she's been wanting me to try? Three Sims are tricky. I'm just saying for your situation, I'm not sure like how much how much I'm sure you can still be involved, but I just wanted to make sure that you're not affected by that. A lot of couples when they

bring a third party in and they don't discuss all the rules, like are you able to kiss, are you able to, you know, just, it can be tricky, especially since you guys are in a challenging situation right now, and I don't know that I would suggest a threesome, but I would suggest upping your intimacy. And that would mean intimate massages. I'm sure a massage would feel amazing for you right now. And just reconnecting again on a level

and even taking sex out of the equation. So if it's like a massage or, you know, Kimlet dinner, I was telling you my book. So my book is hot sex over 200 things you can try tonight. You can buy it on Amazon. My friends had to meet me. She'd been with her partner for eight years and she opened the book and she's like,

oh my God, we just opened it to any page and it was amazing. It really brought us closer together. They were together eight years. And I was like, what, what, what did opened it at any page and it was amazing. It really brought us closer together. They were together eight years. And I was like, what, what, what did you do? Like, what page did you open to? And she said, we opened to the foot massage page

and we gave each other like really intense foot massages. And you know, all the areas in your feet are like connected to parts of your brain. And it just, she said, we felt so connected after that. Like they hadn't been connected. They've got two kids, they're running around. So there's something about like when I say intimacy It's like connecting like it's massage. It's foot massage. It's it's staring into to the eyes. It's maybe just kissing and enhancing all that stuff

So there's intimacy work that needs to be done That's what I say about that. What about your intis issues? My intimacy issues. It's Friday My intimacy issues. What about I don't. My intimacy issues, what about them? I don't have any. None? I have some commitment challenges. Yes.

But I don't have any. In fact, my problem is, I'm a problem, but maybe it's a gift. I'm able to become intimate with many different people easily because I'm very open and I connect with people and I can just meet someone and we can have this great catch. I don't think I have intimacy issues. I think I go there. Maybe I do. I don't know. You think I do? I'm like, listen, I do. No, I don't. I have a whole host of issues. Yeah, yeah. I mean a ton why even add that into the equation. How are your intimacy issues? I don't think I have any. I do have some.

I don't think I have any. You always think I have issues with things that I don't have. But I think the fact that you don't like performing oral sex than a woman is intimacy. I don't think you've seen a lot of women's vaginas. That's what I believe. Oh, menace. The giants of a giant of a vagina.

They're all the same thing. It's part of it. They look different. I haven't seen as many as you have Yeah, you should ask our porn star who we're calling in a little bit about vaginas. Okay. Okay. Yeah, she's a porn star stripper Whatever she doesn't want to be called that though. Oh, okay, then you've only said that the entire show so far Well, apparently she doesn't want to be called that but but she says she's performing at the new century strip club What am I supposed to say?

All right. Yeah, she's just hosting. Maybe she's not doing anything. She's just hosting exactly. I'm sure that's what it is. Dear Emily, I hosted a thing there one time at New Vent New Century. Yeah, it was a strip. It was a stripping contest, but I wasn't stripping. I was just I wish you were stripping. I would friggin pay a million dollars to you strip. Well, I would strip for a million dollars, but not a glass. Would you would you get up there? You need to be really drunk. No, I would have to be being paid

large amount of money. Yeah, me too. I would I would strip for a million bucks. Of course. Who wouldn't? I'd strip for like a thousand bucks right now at this point. Wow. Now just kidding. People start sending them out first. 1,500. Okay, dear Emily, looks and physical attraction are what is usually important in new date. Usually a perfect smile and fit body. I'm overweight and due to some medical issues, I have to have some teeth removed. My entire taps when I go on a date.

If I ever get that lucky and I confess this, I'm looked at if my face was eaten off. Is there anything besides lying that I could do to improve my love life? I'm really starting to hate the barbie world we live in from Marvin. So he has to take his teeth out when he eats, I suppose. Mm-hmm. I would say there's got to be a way to avoid that. My dad had like dentures his whole life because like his teeth fell out when he was young kid. Don't know why.

Yeah. But you can keep him on when you eat. I would not say that you need to disclose it on the first date, or maybe just go out for drinks. Yeah, you don't have to like, I mean, you don't have to hide it either. There's a lot of people to have prosthetic teeth. Exactly.

I mean, it's ridiculous. Like some people have like halfway decent teeth and they get them all ripped out to give a nearest, you know. It's just like, yeah, I don't know if you really have to bring that up at the first. No, I wouldn't maybe don't go to a food day, go to a museum, go for a walk in the park, go somewhere else. That's one of your insecurities and you feel like women are going to, I mean, that would be a little strange if I was out of the guy in here and moved all his teeth. I mean, I mean, I just, I just, we had the girl, the, um, the real housewives in New York. She has a fake leg.

And so it's like maybe going through like the same situation. Like we had it, you know, eventually tell people, and some people are cool with it, and some people are not. And if they're not cool with it, then this is not something you wanna be with anyway. Exactly, you wanna find someone you're cool with, but you wanna improve your love life, I would say, start not worrying about it so much,

but start avoiding that situation on the first date, maybe where you have to take your take out. Yeah. And, well, if you're talking about being overweight, I, you know, you gotta do something about it, and I've, you know, you got to do something about it. And I've, you know, I've been upset with my weight in the past like year and a half two years, two years maybe. And so I'm finally doing something about it.

I'm back in the gym. So I've been back in the gym lately. And also, you know, these people aren't not a sponsor at all, but I'm also going to go on this Metafast diet. Uh-huh. Metafast, it's like, gets rave reviews. You eat like, do you eat or is it all like, it's, they get them all, you get food. It's like, it's like a neutral system type thing, right?

Why? You're like 80 pounds. I know, but I, I think it'd be healthy. Like, then I'd always have food around when I needed it. But yeah, you eat like six times a day, and my buddy did it, lost 60 pounds. Oh my God, that's amazing. That's great. Maybe you could try something like that, Marvin.

It's like me because I love food, obviously, and it's just like a losing weight is science, it's math. Yup. It's like as much as you take in. Yeah, it's just less, once you start eating less calories, then you start losing weight. You lose weight, less calories more working out. It's not brain surgery, you know? And it's just me, I just love going in places

like the heart attack grill and Las Vegas, Nevada. And you know, you just gotta cut down like that's what I'm talking about. You gotta cut down, you do. I mean, Marvin, I think if you start working out, you'll start feeling better all around. It is true that working out is like a natural, like serotonin uptake inhibitor. It's like a natural antidepressant to work out.

So I think it's important. I work out. I'm working out with a new trainer in the mornings. Why? You don't even need a workout? I don't know. She gave this woman family. She saw misadvised and she asked if she could train me and she just doing it.

Yeah. So we've been running the stairs. It's awesome. My ass feels three inches higher right now. Yeah, it's really good. Okay, dear Emily, can't wait to see your second date with Mr. Michigan. I don't have a good handle on who you really want to be with or any of the three advisors for that matter.

He's talking about misadvised, the television chime on. But I haven't seen you do as many stupid things as the other two have done if we can be frank. So you're my favorite. Life is wild. My husband and I, both over 60, have been together 12 years and it gets better all the time.

We talk openly about possible relationships with other people, but we have so much fun talking about it, we don't need to do it with anyone else. Both of us had disastrous long marriages before this, in which we pretty much couldn't be on with our partners about anything. My favorite movie is a line from Glenn Close

and The Natural. It goes something like, we all live two lives, the one we learn with and the one we live after that. I'm busy living that second life now, and it's great. I'm not convinced everybody learns, but if you let yourself keep growing and say, open, it can happen, love you, Janet. That's a really sweet email.

I love that. A lot of couples get into the play, and let me tell you this, this is something that I think works a lot in relationships that when I always say to you, talk to your partner what your fantasy is or share your deepest darkest, debt deepest darkest, deepest intimate,

you know, sexual desires or whatever, you don't always have to act on them. Like Janet says that she and her husband sit and talk about being with other people, and that can really like, that can reignite this part. That can turn you on, just hearing your partner. I know it sounds, it might not be your thing, but just talking about, like, wow,

if I was with someone else, he might do this. It's not cheating, it's just saying, like, it's just, you know, our brains are our largest sex organ. So if you can go there just by talking about with your partner and it gets you off, that's amazing. Like, I had a boyfriend once who used to, like, when we were having sex, he would likexi, we talked already about like someone else being there,

like if there was another guy in the room or another woman in the room. And it never happened. We never had a threesome, but it was just hot to incorporate that into our love making. Like you'd be like, Oh, what if there was a guy? I know it sounds whatever. Man, this isn't looking at me. Man is looking down right now. But I love this female Janet. I think it's adorable. I think it's so sweet.

I love, and I know what you're saying, that you learn in one life and you learn in the next. I feel like we're always learning, and it's so important to keep growing and challenging ourselves every day. I feel like I am. Okay. Hi, Emily.

First, I want to say that I love you and misadvised. I was catching up on missed episodes the other day, and I thought to myself, hey, I'd love to that I love you on Miss Advise. I was catching up on Missed Episodes the other day, and I thought to myself, hey, I'd love to hang out with Emily and Julia. Anywho, I have a few things I wanted to get some feedback from you on. On one of the episodes you mentioned going to a place where they massage your clitoris for hours.

Where was that? Because I'm very interested in going. Also, I'd like help finding my G-Spot. I've never had a vaginal orgasm, and I'd really like to experience it. But I don't tell guys that because then they try to be the one and it's usually downhill from there. I'm 32. I'm all about safe, safe exploration of the body. I'm interested in tantric sex as well. Just looking for some advice direction as to how I can become more connected with

that world so I can explore more. Can't wait to tear back from you, sure, right off. So thanks, sure, right off. I'm so glad that you are loving misadvised. Okay, the place that I went when they massage my clitoris is called one taste. And their base in San Francisco, I don't know where you're from, but they have places in San Francisco and in New York, I believe. And you go and they're all about the extended orgasm.

And they massage your clitoris, they have like a guy do it or a woman can do it. And it brings you to this like heightened state of a rousal, but you don't actually have, or you can have orgasms, but it's just this very bizarre but very popular movement that just helps women become more in touch. They call it oaming.

And you can write it that way. Yes, of course. Okay. Brought it at several times. And also can write it that way. Yes, of course. Okay. Write it in several times. And also, finding your G-spot, let me tell you, it takes what? And you claim that the guys that do it are just there to... Yes, they're there to enter. They're spiritual experiences.

Let's not joke around. Sexes are all about the female experience and the male experience, but the female experience is more tricky. There is more things we need to work out. There's more inter-curses involved. And so Sherratt is saying that she wants to find a g-spot. So here's what I recommend for you. You can go to any sex toy store you can check out goodvibes.com because I know they sell it there. And what's my coupon? Emily, it good vibes Emily ship. Emily ship. Thanks. Emily ship. Emily ship. Thank you. Emily ship. Emily ship.

Ship ship. It's free shipping. Just go to my website and click on good vibrations. But here's a deal. They have a book called Finding Your G Spot. And they also sell toys that are targeted towards your G Spot. So if you buy a book, there's several of them now. But I remember when I was, when I just moved out here, I went to good vibrations.

I bought this book about your G Spot and then I bought a G of them now, but I remember when I just moved out here, I went to good vibrations, I bought this book about your juice spot, and then I bought a juice spot vibrator, and it takes time, like you have to put in the time to figure it out, but I believe that you can find it. I can believe you can find it with, they also say it's great to find it with your fingers, and it's also great, you can use a toy, which is, I think, easier. But fingers are also a great way to do it. But it takes time and you gotta commit and it won't happen the first night, you do it. But I think, like you said,

I've had the same experiences you sure are where men want to be the guys. I had a guy once who's like, I want to be the one that finds your G-Spot. And it's like, I almost think it's better to do it on our own. Like, it's better to do that work on your own so then you can show someone else because then the guys get very goal-oriented

and then they feel like they fail. They can't find the G-spot and you just want to take all that out of there because then you want him to find it so that he feels better. And I'd say just plan some dates and some time alone with yourself to find that G-spot. That's what I gotta say about that.

And those are our emails for today. And I think it's time to call our lovely guest. Oh, you're excited. I'm excited. Call her now. Okay. We're talking to Tasha Reign. She's a university student, vegetarian, social activist, free spirit, yoga enthusiasts, feminist, hardcore porn star. So it says here, hard says hardcore porn star, Tasha Reign is one of the most dynamic and multi-dimensional new stars in entertainment. She's performing at the new century theater

in San Francisco on Friday, July 20th, and Saturday, July 21st, 12 AM, and 2 AM shows each night. And that is, I believe tonight and tomorrow night. Am I right? I'm right. I guess so. Hello, Tasha. Hi, my name's Hens guess so. Hello. Hello, Tasha. Hi, Nancy speaking.

Hi, is this Tasha? This is Emily from Sex with Emily. From what? From Sex with Emily? Oh my gosh, how are you? I'm good. I'm so sorry. I had a little alarm set to call too.

Oh my gosh. Oh no, no, no. We're calling you. That's totally fine. We're calling you were a few minutes late, but we're so excited to talk to you. So you in San Francisco? I am getting ready for San Francisco. I am so excited.

Oh my god. So much fun. We're so excited to have you here. And you're going to be here. You're going to be here too? Yeah, totally. Tell me. So what are you going to be doing at New Century Theater

on Friday and Saturday night? You're gonna be doing a special performance. Tell me about it. Hey, Brooklyn Lee, my best friend and I are going to be stripping down at Century Theater and San Francisco tomorrow night and on Saturday night at 12 o'clock, midnight and two o'clock in the morning and we have fun routines with cute outfits.

We're going to get nice and naughty and we are going to find eight items and DVDs and I'm going to be giving lots and small and white lots. Oh my god, I love it. I know, I really hope a ton of people come. Where do you live now? I live in the Valley and Corn Valley. Corn Valley. Okay, got it. And so you are, you've also your porn star. Right?

I'm gonna go perform, right now. You're a drug performer, okay. So tell me, what's that like? What have you done lately? What was your latest film that you've done? Oh my goodness, I am actually a store right now because yesterday I had a crazy, crazy, anal girl girl singing with a really hard cork on name, Chanel Preston and I was just

went to town. It was just wild. Like I, my butt hurts right now because of it. But that was the latest. Oh my God. Oh my God. what do you do for that store but what do you certainly you can do um no it's gonna be fine it's like you know I mean it's so good kind of thing but she went crazy and it was actually my first girl girl you know

on camera so actually ever so it's a was, I was very nervous, but excited. Good. I've been shooting a lot for my website, toshaream.com, and it's so great because I get to control everything from the talent to the location and the makeup and everything is all under my control. So I love that. That is how it should be. Gotta be your own. Gotta be your own CEO. You gotta be your own CEO. Gotta be your own CEO.

I'm like, oh, it's ushrain.com. That's all I wanna shoot for. Exactly, so keep doing that too. So what are some good sex tips that you can share with our listeners? It can be anything, it can be performing. I love oral sex tips. If you got any oral sex tips,

either for performing on a woman or a man, what would you say are your top sex tips? Oral sex tips, If you got any oral sex tips, either for performing on a woman or a man, what would you say your top sex tips? Oral sex tips. Let's start with that. For oral sex, I feel like four plays are so important. Before I get head from God, I want them to myself to take all my size, to kiss me, and you know, really get me excited for what's to come. So I think people underestimate the importance of corporate in fact.

I think it's one of the most important parts, whether you have a big downtown area or a small one, it doesn't matter for the guy if they do enough work, everything will be great. I agree. Yeah. Yeah. So I like what you said. So when you're performing her role sex in a woman kissing her thighs and warming her up. Yeah, I think that's so important.

I think that I love misogies. That's the best. And with a guy when you go down on him, I think girls, they don't understand all the time what a guy wants to see. But they want to see the girl really just like fitting on the penis and just trying to you know give her all right. Right. Being nice and sloppy and I make a bomb that's like I love to see that very stuff.

They do and you have to be enthusiastic right that's what you're saying like you have to be into it. Yeah. You want to look like oh my gosh this is the best thing that just ever happens. Exactly. Like it's a big chalk apart. What's that? Yeah.

The beeping, the beeping. Where are you right now? Are you in your car? Oh my gosh, I'm trying to place the car so that I can speak better. And I hope you guys are on my blue shoes right now. Oh, so you know, my car is like alarming because other cars are coming near me.

Okay. Okay, so those are some good sex tips. Women got to use lots of saliva and be enthusiastic. And men don't just go straight to our vagina. Doesn't this bother you when they go straight down their tasha and they don't do any work beforehand thinking that we're a rouse and turn on and we're totally not even there yet? Oh my gosh, totally. I think yeah, it's more important for me and gosh, totally. Like, I think, yeah, four points, most important part.

In my scenes before I get, you know, get, get ahead, do whatever I want to, it gives a lot because that's just the kind of girl that I am. Right. I think that's hard to get people to do that. Like, I need to teach a teasing course or something. Menace never understands what it is.

I know it's because guys are always ready to go. I know it's not fair. But if you get out, you can't. But girls, they want the full package. And I have to, I come once, I will come again. Exactly. Exactly. People, men, women.

I got some more I come. So I think it's super important for guys to take note of that. I'm always posting sex tips on my Twitter at Poshorene. It's a voluntary, you'll be able to call. Perfect. What are some other sex tips? What are some other sex tips? I think that girls should definitely give the guy a show.

So when they're having sex, you know, it's nice to be on top and show the top, the bottoms, the... I don't even... I don't even say the dry-down, the sunburner. Yeah, you can say whatever the hell you want. I mean, you've been saying anal sex for the past half hour or so. Yeah, no, you can talk about anything. No, you can talk about anything you want. You can say it, you can swear, whatever. Oh, cool. Okay, yeah, now I feel like girls in the bedroom can be very shy and maybe they don't know

that a guy just wants to see them being in control and bouncing on top of them, but they absolutely do. And I think that it's important to switch it up with all different positions. My favorite position is doggy style so i like that the best because i can just like later and you know get that really hard to be submissive right self-help i love that i like to just let the guy take control in the entire right but

now that's a good one how did you want to involve with uh... with being with uh... being in movies adult films? That's a good question. I always forget, actually. I always model for Playboy, and I just got my boobs done, and I was so bored in my hotel room watching porn. I mean not bored of porn, but just bored of watching porn. I've been watching porn since the internet came out because it

was a good thing since I was in high school. I always loved it. I always looked up to sexual celebrities, anybody from like Pamela Anderson and Chroma Lackstra and Jenna Jameson. I always thought the porn and the star had been very full of the prettiest girls I had ever seen because of their unbridled confidence and sexuality. I just remember looking at my first playboy and pen house and thinking, oh my God, these are the women that I want to be like. Right. I just decided if I'm 22, I'd better do more now or never.

Exactly. I'm not just going to do it all of a sudden when I'm older, so I might as well take advantage and do it now. So I went to LA Direct Model and I was like, make me your porn star. That's awesome. What does your family think about it? I get asked that question all the time. I talk about sex for living, so I don't know.

I'm wondering what your parents are. I'm very well, your family thinks about your your job too. I don't know much. I think some of that you know they're all supportive of my happiness. Even my grandma like she's so cute she just like wants me to be happy so it makes me happy. I think that they're all proud of me. Obviously there's I come to a small town was going to be it's and there's a lot of gossip and talk to people. So I'm sure that it affects them negatively on it. And because of other people. Exactly.

But for, you know, my mom will call me and she'll be like, oh, I love that photo set and Pertna, how else do you know? It's so beautiful. I love it. That's good. That's good. That's cool. Like. I mean, I have to kind of use them into it. And my sister, my little 19-year-old sister at first, was pretty pissed off me. She's talked to me for five months. But now, she knows what I do, and she's all proud of me, because she lived with me for like six months, and she saw what I do to prepare to get ready for my

scenes like the scripts and the clothes and the make-ups and the booking and the models and the location and she just thinks that she has a new perspective of that. That's cool. You got to show her how it really goes down. So to speak. Yeah, I'm so happy I had the opportunity because now I feel like, oh, okay, so she knows I'm not just like being shady. Right.

Well, it sounds like you really have fun and everyone can come see you tomorrow in the I mean, or Friday and Saturday night. It's July 20th and 21st, 12 a.m. and 2 a.m. you'll be doing shows there. Yes, and Brooklyn Lee, my best friend is going to be joining me and we cannot wait seriously. She never featured ants before by featured ants every weekend, so we're going to put on a wild show. We just had our very first scene together and we had so much fun and we really we liked to dance and be on stage. So this is just going to be so rewarding to meet our fans

and to sign pictures and our DVDs and stuff. Okay. Well, awesome. Well, hopefully everyone will come out and see you at the new century theater in San Francisco. And you are Tasha Reign. It is T-A-S-H-A-R-E-I-G-N.com. And your Twitter is Tasha Reign. Yeah. Got it. Okay. Thank you so much. Good luck to you. Have a good time. You're going to have lots of fans. Nice talking to you too. Bye. You were awfully quiet when you just fantasizing about Tasha Ring.

No, I was just hard to get a word in. I like it though when people talk. Usually when you talk to porn, I'm sorry, adult entertainers, they're kind of dizzy, but she, she's hurt. She was definitely self-promotor. Yeah, right?

She got all the points in. She was definitely a self-promoter. Yeah, right? She got all the all the points in she did Damn, I didn't you know wanted to ask her a little bit about you know all our Experiences yeah, like going to different sets. I'm interested in like you know Do you ever go to like a creepy set that description? Yeah, I'm like okay. I'm done I'm not going to do this thing or I'm gonna, you know, what it what does a nice set look like? Right, right exactly exactly because you know budgets of these things I mean the biggest budget of a porn film was a million dollars or something like that Okay, so porn is being made all the time

Do you know that for the I just read today that 40% of the internet is porn? No 40% of the internet is insane. So when is sex with Emily get to have more porn on it sex on me.com? Do you think I should put more porn on it? It dude people are making not even millions billions of dollars. Why am I struggling through life? I just got to get naked. That's what my smart friends tell me They're always like you're not smart, but my like my business friends are like just put naked pictures of you on Done

Done deal and you should put naked pictures of you hell no hell's to know. I'm good off that you know, okay I also have to give a shout out to sinclair institute We love them. They're one of our sponsors and they if I also have to give a shout out to Sinclair Institute. We love them. They're one of our sponsors. And they, if she is an adult porn star who would suck Tashirane, Sinclair Institute makes amazing educational DVDs

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Okay, this is actually next, we're gonna get into some of our topics that there is, many of us actually sent this to me. And I thought it was very apropos. You never, I know. You'd never read any of the emails I ever send you

about like topics or like sex and the news and stuff like that. This is a very surprise because I honestly have no idea which one I sent you because you sent me the signs that you're in a bad relationship and you should probably end it. Really? I don't even remember sending that. See how about that? It was yesterday. I don't blow off anything. So a lot of people get into relationships and you're wondering am I in the right place? Am I not? If you're listening to this and you're thinking, I kinda wanna break up with this person on that show.

See if you fit any of these criterion and then maybe you should dump this person right now or just high-tail it out of this relationship. All right. Number one is abuse. Any relationship that involves abuse of any kind should be ended immediately. This includes emotional abuse. It's not even if a lot of people wanna think of abuse as should be ended immediately. This includes emotional abuse.

It's not even if a lot of people want to think of abuse. I think it's a cool part. No, he doesn't have to be hitting you or she doesn't have to be biting you. It's, it's, it's, it's. They can make you feel bad about yourself. They can make you feel bad,

to grade you. If you, this is how you got to think about it. If you're in a relationship and every time you're with your partner or every three, every third time and you just feel like bad like your partner criticizes you a lot makes you feel fat makes you feel unworthy unloved you got to get out of the relationship because let me tell you something relationships are there you should to make you feel better by yourself the person that you choose to be

with should be someone who enhances who you are who brings joy to your life who makes you feel better. If they're doing anything emotionally damaging and criticizing you and harping on all of your own insecurities, guys, there are some guys who do that. They like see that you're insecure about your way and they're like, you really should eat that chocolate cake. I mean, that stuff is unhelpful. At all.

So get out of the abusive relationship. Okay, the next one is money. Do you have money and sex or two of the biggest killers of all relationships? So this money will inevitably, inevitably come between you and your partner. Meaning that if you have a billion dollars or you have no money at all, money is always an issue in a relationship. If one of you is wasting money, it becomes a major problem in relationship and financial security is important. So when someone is negligent about money,

it can be very stressful. Get out before the financial burden is placed on you. So if you're with someone who's cheap with holding, you they owe you money, they always forgot their wallet, money is divisive, like no matter how you look at it, because we're all raised with different ways of dealing with money.

Some people are good savers, some people are spenders, and that can really, if you guys have two different ways of dealing with money in your interrelationship with someone, it can be really hard to get past it. So I think you have to, but if they're like putting a burden on you, they're taking money from you, leave the relationship. Right? Okay. One more thing though, I know a couple who has done tons of therapy,

tons of therapy workshops, mini workshops, I'm like enhancing intimacy or whatever, but one workshop they did was on money. It was a weekend long workshop, top of these therapists about money. And like in this couple, he grew up with no money, but he was making a lot of money, but he was still kind of through all,

like it bothered him. And she grew up with tons of money, had no money, but she was like never looked at price tags, bought whatever she wanted. And this was a conflict of the way they value, of ways you money, it was a huge issue because we have different ways that we deal with it. And it's, money's everywhere and everything,

and it's a problem. So if you and your partner are going through this, I think it's important to discuss it. I mean, we can go to therapy. Yeah, yeah. It's definitely, you see how crazy people get over money. There's a Eastwood and company that I watch. Yep, yep, talked to me.

And Dina Eastwood, who's Clint Eastwood's wife, you know, she's a star of the show. And she's always like just freaking out about spending any money. And you know Clint Eastwood, this guy probably, right? Ridiculous amount of money. Can you look up Clint Eastwood net worth just typing Clint Eastwood net worth? Obviously they're doing very well, right?

Right. She's just like, what does she worry about like giving money to our family? Well, she, free. What does she worry about, like giving money to our family? Well, she thinks it's ridiculous. It's been money on certain things. Like, she has a stepdaughter who had, remember, I showed this to her, her boyfriend bought a $100,000 Air Mess bag, right? Which is her.

Right, fancy purse. And Dina Eastwood would get so upset. She's like, you don't understand, like like my father, to make that amount of money, that would probably take him two years of his salary, all his money, just to go into that one handbag. Right. You know, and she was, it was like causing like conflicts. Right, that is comfortable.

Right. People's different outlooks on money. I know. Just like that. Yeah, I didn't see that one, but. So, Clint Eastwood's net worth is $375 million. Wow, and she's worried about. Yeah, but it's good because it's humbling for. It is humbling. It's true. Don't spoil your kids. No matter how much money you have. This dude, a lot of kids that are spoiled are

like, aft up. I know. It's weird because like, some of the most aft of people I know are all people that went to like private school. Right. Head money. Got to trust fun. Yeah, it's just because these people get bored. Yeah, and they also don't learn the value of a dollar. They think it's always there.

They never have to worry. They never have to struggle. Like we do menace. Dude, we struggle every day. People freaked out on this show because you've been doing the show for six, seven years, yeah. Six years for free. And you asked people for $5 a month

that helped support it. And people freaked out. People lost their purpose. I know, we were charging last year. Didn't people were upset. I mean, can I just make a friggin' dollar? People, I mean, giving you sex advice for free for seven years. Yeah, you weren't asking to be like a millionarians.

No! But at least it's the support. No one supported us. Yeah. Thanks a lot for not them people. But we're back. We're back to being free. We're free.

Blah, blah, blah. You can still support our sponsors though. Yeah, definitely. Buy some of their products. I was just thinking though. Talk to me. If people do want to be nice for all those other, you know, the hardcore listeners, and you know, you have an extra dollar, maybe you should put an Amazon wish list up there.

Just things that you like. And if one person maybe likes to show how much they like it because, look, still, this show is not making money, you know? Right, right, right, right. That's good. The Amazon wish list. You know, we should do that. We love to do's good. Amazon wish list. We should do that. We love to do it eventually.

Can I put blue's on there? Huh? Can I put some shoes on there? Can you put some shoes on there? I'm sure you can. Whatever's on Amazon. Right, Amazon. Everything's on Amazon.

Yeah. And then also like, you know, eventually when the show does take off because look, you're on television. Don't roll your eyes. You're on television, it's getting bigger and bigger and more people are visiting. You're gonna wanna do things that it's gonna benefit listeners. And like, you wanna get, like,

we love to take the show on tour and like do it live in front of people that'd be amazing. We wanna do it on tour, so maybe we should start an Amazon fund. An Amazon fund. Yeah, let's do that. Chippin.com. Chippin.com, Chippin.com.

But I used to have a donation button on the side. Yeah. Then work that while. Yeah. People don't just think, oh, I'm going to donate. They're like, oh, I'm going to get this for free. Yeah. But I know you love us.

So it's cool. Okay, the next thing signs that you're in a bad relationship is respect. Lack of respect is a major issue in relationships. You might feel unappreciated and unworthy. It's going to wreak havoc. A good indicator, it's time to wreak havoc. A good indicator, it's time to get out is when your friends stop coming around because they don't like the way your boyfriend or girlfriend treats you. I think that's kind of true. Your friends or your

family are like not down with the person you're dating and they kind of tell you I don't like the way you treat you or she treats you. It's time to go. Don't you think you should listen to your friends? If several friends are like, I don't know about you in the sky, it doesn't seem healthy. But when people are in the thick of it and they're in a relationship, it's so hard to listen to your friends and your family. But if you're feeling this person doesn't respect you, they don't worship you. I think as a woman, we need to be worshiped and men too. We need to be loved and worshiped and then too, we need to be loved and respected and respect it. If you're not, get out. The next thing is cheating. Cheating is a deal breaker for most people.

If you're cheating or being cheated on, there's often a serious issue in the relationship causing you or your partner to wander. If you can't work around the indiscretion or if it continues and it. Now, I know some couples who have cheated, cheated, one of the other people have cheated, and they brought them closer together. Like they dealt with it, they went to therapy, they whatever, and they surpassed it. However, I know other couples who they could never get past it, which is I think more common than not than you just can't get past it.

You're like, there's too many issues here. It can't be water under the bridge. You stop by someone else and it's over. So if you are that kind of person that can handle it, again, another good situation for therapy if you want to stay together, but otherwise I would leave. Okay, lying. Lying in a relationship is intolerable. If you can't be honest with your partner, it's not going to work. Trust in honesty or staples of a healthy relationship. And if you don't have trust in honesty, your relationship has no basis. I think that's so true. You want

to be with someone that you trust that you can share things with that you know is going to be there for you. And if you keep catching them in lies, those are just the ones that you're catching. There could be a whole host of other lies. And then that just makes that person paranoid about you for the entire Relations exactly if someone lies to early on you like it's so hard to get past it. Yeah, you can't get over it. You can't Show I dated liars before Yeah, but I think you you don't even catch the liars. I don't know What do you know catch? They can probably just snowball you for a long time.

Maybe. Because I don't care. You're on your own. Yeah. I don't care where you are. You don't know. Tell me you can lie and tell me you went to wherever. Baseball.

I don't give a shit. Okay. Independence. Many of us want a relationship, but it's still one of our independence. I'm raising my hand. I am that person. Being an individual and staying true to yourself is very important and your partner should respect that. If your partner is trying to control you are the

terms of your relationship and has jealous tendencies, it might be time to break up. You are not a possession of your girlfriend or boyfriend. That's why my parents got divorced. My mom wanted to be very independent. She was, this was like in the 70s and she wanted to start working. And my dad, she didn't need to work my dad was in turn. He did well. Yeah. Put my mom wanted to work. She wanted to get out of the house.

She didn't like being, I mean, she likes being a mom, but she didn't like staying home with the kids all day. And my dad really was traditional and didn't want it to work and didn't want her to have her independence. And ultimately they split up because of that. So she says there must have been other issues. Mom just want to go party. My mom knows, she was like a pioneer.

My mom was like, she was like, I want to work. I want to be independent. I want to do my own thing. And a lot of women at the time weren't. You know, women can you get credit cards until like the 70s, whatever. So she laughed him, but it's fine. It's all good.

I'm okay with that. I'm okay because my mom has been a very good role model to me. And as my, as was my dad. But your brother said that your mom gave you some bad advice. I don't think that advice was that bad. To be independent and don't rely on a man. Yeah, because you took that to heart. Well, your brother was saying that, yeah, you can be independent

and not rely on a man, but when you are in a relationship, it's okay to rely on each other a little bit. Exactly, that's what was my takeaway. Yeah, and you talked about cock rings. And my brother brought up cock ring in National Television, that was a good show. All the misadvised shows I think are repeating this week, I gotta check out the schedule.

No, I just got a text saying that we're on TV right now. Right now, we're on TV, oh my God, check out Misadvised on Bravo at 10 o'clock and repeats whenever. Okay, the next thing, why you might have to end your relationship is communication. I always say, what do I say? Communication is lubrication.

Communication is lubrication, and without communication, our relationship will not work. It will fall apart fast. You need to be able to talk and express yourself with your partner. If you can't discuss your problems with each other, you'll never truly know each other. The relationship will become tense

and feel like a constant battle. Like, I can't tell you how many couples just don't communicate. Like, they've gotten into like a wave communicating where they don't communicate. You know what I mean? Like, they just kind of like have their dance around actually communicating and it's just it's not going to work in their relationship.

Okay, sex is the next one, which I think should be number one. If you're having sex and it sucks, it's all done elsewhere. It's not about going straight to the vagina. Don't go straight to my veg. I hate that word. Sex is a form of communication. If you aren't comfortable or compatible with each other, the sex won't be good. Don't go straight to my veg. I hate that word. Sex is a form of communication. If you aren't comfortable or compatible with each other, the sex won't be good.

And if you aren't happy and bad, you aren't happy in life. And I think that is so true, but I'm not saying if you're having rotten sex right now, I'm not saying that you can't improve it, but you have to communicate about it and you have to work at improving it. People don't want to think that sex is, takes work, but sometimes it does. You've been with someone for a while, you've got to work on it, you've got to work in your sex life. Okay. Next thing is, you might think your relationship needs to end if about love. Love at first sight is an awesome feeling, but a month later, might not feel the same. You may fall for someone

only to find out that he or she isn't who you thought. So a lot of times people think they're in love, and we get best person ever. And you're actually, if it's been a week or two weeks or a month, it's lost. It's not love, it's lost. If you can't be in love with someone after a week, can you? Love it first sight. Maybe it's lust at first sight is what I'd like to rename it. But just be careful when you're falling for someone to keep your eyes open. They always say that love is blind because when you fall in love with someone and it

will lust, I think it's more lust that you tend to not pay attention to the warning signs, the red flags, the issues of this person because you think they're the end all and be all. And you just got to keep your eyes open because people will show you who they are pretty quickly. Definitely. Pay attention. Okay. The next and final one is if you want to, if you want to end the relationship, sometimes

you just don't feel it. You're not feeling it anymore. If you lose the desire to be in your partner's company, what is the point? Don't beat yourself up over it. If the relationship isn't going anywhere, it's time to bow into life. I got an email or a tweet from someone or something. Oh, something I was doing yesterday, an online chat thing. And then you, she was like, you know, he's really great.

Everyone loves him, all my friends, but I'm just, I don't know, I'm not that into him. I've gone out with him a few times. It wasn't a boyfriend when it was just like, I've gone out with him three, four times. But now I'm dying to myself, but really, it's more because my friends are saying he's so great. And I'm like, trust your gut.

You're not into him. It's okay. It's okay not to be into the greatest guy ever or the greatest woman ever Sometimes we just don't feel that connection with someone. It's okay. It's okay to break up with them. I do it all the time Yeah, you do right okay. So that's what we got for you. We will get into the other stuff next week Yeah, and make sure to check sex velvet dot com. There's so many cool things that sex with only dot com and Check sex.sexy.govie.com. There's so many cool things in that. So many cool things at sex.govie.com. And check us out. Money Nights misadvised on Bravo TV. You can also download all the misadvised

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