Sex With Emily - SWE Quickie: Less Faking, More Foreplay

Episode Date: April 13, 2017

Pat yourselves on the backs, lovers; so many of you are kicking your bad habits to the curb and making better choices for a better sex life! On today’s Quickie, Emily shares even more of the Spring Cleaning responses she loved so much, and (drum roll, please!) reveals the contest winner! Who’s adding a Magic Wand to their sex toy collection? Find out! Whether you’re trying to keep stress from ruining your sex life, breaking the bad habit of faking orgasms or you just want to spend more time in between your wife’s legs, this Quickie was created with you in mind! Emily gives her insight on these Spring Cleaning promises and more. Tune in and get inspired! Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: Magic Wand and Intensity. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today's show will bring back the Sex with Emily Quicky, so it's a short-to-show, but just as fulfilling. I love that you are also committed to kicking bad, dating, and sex habits, so I'm reading the responses to our spring cleaning contest, and I think you'll be as inspired to make some changes as I was reading them. Thanks for listening. Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair standard. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, Evelyn?

What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about the laundry? I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not.

I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm not. I'm cute. The girls got it, I understand. Oh my!

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common all the way? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so, so, so.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily, We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithendly.com where you can check out everything going on there. You can easily subscribe to our podcast. We're actually doing three podcasts this week. Maybe we'll continue with this.

Let us know what you think. I like doing more podcasts. Easily subscribe, follow us on social media. It's all at sex with Emily across the board. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook.com, chat with Emily. I left here for you. So okay, welcome to this week's Quicky. This is part two of our Spring Cleaning Challenge. Last week we had part one and thank you to Magic One for sponsoring our Spring Cleaning contest. And someone with the winner who we're gonna announce on this show,

you're gonna get a Magic Wand, a retarget ball. Which is awesome. Okay, here's the refresher. We asked you, my fabulous listeners, tell me what sex or dating habit you wanna get rid of this year. And the winners are gonna receive a magic wand. We're announcing the winner, and what happened was your responses, like blew me away, I was reading going,

oh my God, this is so inspiring. And you guys are hitting these points that I'm always talking about. It was like, you guys are like reading my mind, you've been listening to the show, and you guys just, I guess if you're listening to the show, it's kind of like reading my mind. But your responses were so great.

I thought that when I read them together, you're gonna see that these are great responses that you guys had. It was hard to pick a winner, and let me know what you think of these, and also I hope it inspires you to make some of the changes on your own. And part one, you can also get it's at sexathamely.com

or wherever you listen to podcasts. Okay, here's the first one. I cannot tell you how many times I've faked an orgasm, just to spare the guy and with the disappointment of not being able to fully satisfy me. I've had multiple partners who thought they knew what they were doing and knew my body better than I did and knew how to get me off.

When in fact, they were terrible. In 2017, I'm embracing how complicated my vagina can be and will no longer pretend to orgasm because it takes the fun out of sex and makes it more mature. 2017 is my year to get off and start enjoying sex again. This is from an Emily, another Emily. God, Emily, I love this one

because faking orgasms is such a disservice. Not only to yourself, but to the person that you're with because then they're gonna walk around thinking they're the most amazing lover in the world, and you're not having orgasms. And I think a lot of women can relate to God, I'm just gonna fake it because I'm tired, it's never gonna happen.

And what I say to you is no unfaicco, but it was on the ballot, I always said, I wanna put that on the ballot, just say no, don't do it. Figure out what makes you feel good, figure out how to have an orgasm, and then when you're with a partner, you can show them what makes you feel good. So I love this one Emily.

Okay the next one. For me, I'm spending much more time with my face between my wife's legs. She needs more oral attention than I have been giving her. Charlie in Ohio. Charlie. You're the man. I love you. I mean really like enough said.

Yes, you should all be spending more time between your wife's girlfriends and your girl you're with, any woman you're with, spend more time between your wives, girlfriends, and your girlfriend with any woman to spend more time between your legs, please. More all sex. The world would be a much happier place. On to the next. When work gets hectic, it kills my libido, and the less sex I have with my partner, the more stressed out I feel. This year, I'll be kicking this vicious cycle to the curb, and make sure that when stress

starts to get the best of me, I will spend some time with my partner, and let him get the best of me. It's a win-win! Thanks for the great info on your website and the hilarious stories on your podcast. Sign Madison. Awesome, Madison, getting on board with your partner. I love this. Don't give in to the stress. Your partner actually will help you alleviate the stress. So once you walk away from my anxiety, you're feeling it at the end of the day and you think, you know what? I want to actually cuddle up to my partner and have sex. You'll actually start to link up that stress feeling with, oh, my partner's here.

I'm going to spend more time with them. I'm going to enhance intimacy. It's so true that you guys can reverse that. I have no time to stress out for sex. So Madison, that's an awesome commitment. I love it. Who isn't stressed out? Remember, sex helps you.

Actually takes away the stress. Okay, here's another one. The habit I'm going to dump is being in a hurry. I need to focus on more for play and not just getting to the orgasm. The bad dating habit I will work to get rid of is waiting for her to initiate. If I'm in the mood, then I need to let her know

by hugging, kissing, and passionately caressing her. Signed Warren. This is a two-for-year, this is great Warren. You know I'm important. I think for play isn't a relationship. I can never say enough you guys, not just a suggestion, it's a requirement for a lot of women Especially we require 4Play to get turned on and this whole like who should initiate can under them? It totally holds you back

You know in sector like why does my partner initiate? I get it But like sometimes if you want sex and you're in the mood, you just got to go for it The reason why a lot of us have a hard time initiating is because we don't want to be rejected by our partner Like if we initiate sex, what if they say no, right? And so I think that can hold us back. So I think it's great. Start initiating it. You want it.

Kiss, a compliment, touching, hand holding. I love this one. Both of them. For a play initiation. This spring, I'm throwing out the habit of rushing sex to get it over with. I'm going to make a renewed effort to explore and find out what works for me. Thanks for everything you and your team do to make the world a sexier place. Kristen, St. Louis.

I love this. You know I'm all about slowing down sex, you guys. Find out what feels good to you through experimenting. You know, you can try, you know, obviously for play, toys, kinky sex, through your own self-love time. Got a lot of these are about slowing down and taking time to figure out what feels good and more time for four play or all sex.

This is just amazing. Yeah, you guys. Sex is the thing that we're thinking about all the time. It's like the greatest pleasure in the world and we're all rushing through it and stress out about it. Can we all just like slow down and have a good time? Okay, here's the winner, you guys. The winner, he's gonna receive a magic wand.

I selected Daniel as our winner, because he's very introspective, and he dedicated himself to one of the core relationship building blocks that I always talk about, communication. And he kinda captured this, that he used the sex with Emily Ism, perfectly communication as a lubrication, and he also talked about Loub.

So here we go. After 23 years of marriage, my spring cleaning is all about communications with my wife. Like most couples, we don't talk about sex, needs, wants, or intimacy. I want to but she won't. She had a horrible upbringing with regards to sex and no one ever told her how great it is. So I've told her and we are going to work on communicating our needs, wants, and desires,

really getting our side of our comfort zone to express intimacy and vulnerability. I explained to her, communication is lubrication, and they were even going to try real lubrication. It's because of you Emily that I found the courage to have the conversation. Incidentally, I told my wife that I'll be responsible for raising our kids in a sex-positive fashion. I told my boys, ages 15 and 16, that sex is the greatest feeling they will have as they grew up, but it always comes with three C's. Consent, communication communication and condom.

My smartest 15 year old son said I forgot the fourth C come. Alaris, we spend time being honest and open and answering questions about sex relationships and intimacy. I have to explain to them that while sex is great, there are so many things that go into it and what to look for and how to grow it. I've told them that if they encourage their partners to express their needs, they would like it and want to be with them forever. So thanks, Emily and team, Daniel. Okay, Daniel, you're a winner. I love this one. You guys is very texture. There's a lot going on here.

And it's never too late. You guys 23 years, and he's still inspired. He's having this conversation. So whether you're in a new relationship, whether you've been in a long-term relationship, it is never too late to start talking about sex. In fact, I say that earlier, the better. And I love that you want to raise your kids in a healthier manner because there's just not a lot of great places for kids to go today to learn about sex. And if we leave it to the schools and their friends and Snapchat or television, it's not going to be a pretty picture. Discussions about sexual health and sex are so important, especially coming from you, Daniel

and your wife. So congratulations, Daniel. We'll be in touch to get your address. And thank you to everybody. I really appreciate everybody for sending in your responses and I'd love to hear from you. How are you doing with these commitments? It says a lot like all the responses that I read. There's something about writing it down. It's very powerful to write down. And the fact that you took the time and you sent it into me, I actually want to hear how you guys are doing with this because I feel like you've said it out loud, you made it coming to me now.

To my listeners and I hope you're sticking with it, I know it can be kind of rough sometimes, so email me and send me some updates and we'll fill everyone in on the show and let me know how I can help. Thanks everyone, this is fun, help you enjoy the quickie. Thanks to all of our new listeners, we've just had so many new listeners last few months which is incredible. So thanks for telling your friends and sharing the show and listening with your partner and reviewing the show.

And also you can shop on our website. We've got a store there that's really fun and a lot of the products I talk about are in the store, which is a good time. Thank you for following me all on social media and I just love you all for being a touch. And thanks to my amazing team, I love you, Ken, Helena, producer, Lark, Jamie and Michael. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you? Email me.

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