Sex With Emily - SWE: Sex at Work

Episode Date: April 23, 2012

Emily and Menace party together at Dolores Park in San Francisco and Emily is happy to have a dog free weekend with wine and friends.Gay porn interrupts a Canadian news show, a night club for Mormons without alcohol (shock), the Indian Burn hand job and marrying your lesbian girlfriend.The pros and cons of dating someone at work--sex, gossip and jealousy. It’s can be tricky idea but lots of fun when you sneak off to have sex in an empty office. It creates a happy work environment. That is until you break up. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Oh my God, I had a crazy friggin' weekend. Happy Monday everyone. It was hard this morning. It was a, this alarm clock this morning was a tough one. It was a tough one. I wasn't happy about it. I couldn't sleep last night when I got home because I drank and ate too much of this party

and then I was thinking I was up on the alarm and off wasn't good, wasn't pretty. But I raged this weekend, it was so fun. Because it was so beautiful. Yeah. It was like 95 degrees on Saturday. I'm like 100 degrees. It was insane.

But it started early. Yes It did. Madison. I went to the park at well, I got there at four four. Yeah, I was there like five o'clock right but I early and so I excuse me. But I'll earlier than that. I was drinking with one of my co-workers at a bar with Mike Row from dirty jobs. Okay, he was there too and we're all just getting hammered. Then I hit you up and then we met at the park and then the park. Dolores Park in San Francisco, which we've talked about before, is just a gathering place when the weather is super.

There's thousands of people going. Exactly, thousands, thousands. It was a crazy afternoon. It was beautiful, it was like 85, 90 degrees. We went to there and then we came into the live radio show. Which is fun because we'd been out in the park all day. We were like, drinking and crazy. Drinking.

And the show that we did was insane. It was so funny. I wish we could, repeating on Playboy Radio right now. Yeah. I'm sure it is. We could probably post it for some laps. It was a good show. No, I wouldn't have burned it.

I mean, it was a good show, but it was just like, it was way more obscene than we usually are. We were really obscene, but we, yeah, it was fun. You should listen, play a little radio next time we're on. So anyway, today we're talking about sex and dating in the workplace. Should you be fishing off the company pool or whatever they say? Should you shit where you eat? What's what are all the statements about dating people you work with?

That's pretty much you just covered them. That's it? Doesn't there more? No, no covered them. That's it, doesn't there more? Uh, no, no, no. That's it, okay. There you go. So, should you date somebody you work with? What's it like? What are the rules?

Oh, don't fish in the company pond. Don't fish in the company pond. That's what I meant to say. I knew I was going to mess it up. Anyway, today's show is brought to you by Good Vibrations. They have every sex toy, DVD, amazing porn. Everything you need at GoodVibes. Go to GoodVibes.com, use coupon code gvmly15 for 15% off purchases there at GoodVibes.com.

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Thank God, I don't have my dog. It's a bad, am I a child? What happened to the rest of your weekend? I mean, I just saw you on Friday. Friday night, I think I went, I don't know if I ended up going out after the show. I don't remember. And then Saturday day, oh, I had so much fun.

I went down to the peninsula, like near Palo Alto, to Woodside. My friend lives down there, and then we went to a, oh, a winery. My friend has a winery in Redwood City, which is kind of random, which is south of here. And we went wine tasting all day. It's called La Honda winery, and they have the third Saturdays of every month. They have this wine tasting thing. Cool. You should come with me.

Oh, you don't like wine. I don't like wine, I drink wine. I was born in a road city and I lived there for 13 years. So I would love to go there. Come next time. So we went there and then we went to my back to my friends' house and what side then we went to the Rosewood Hotel, which is like this, this sceney, really nice hotel

in like Palo Alto area. And then I went to a house party down there. I was in there all day long, drinking, and I know we went to like five different parties with pools, it was really fun and beautiful. I just couldn't do anything the next day. You couldn't. I didn't even leave my house at all.

Did you go out for a party? I dropped you off of your house after the show. Yeah, I didn't go out. I just went straight home and I slept, and I slept 24 hours. You did? Yeah, because you know me on Fridays though me on Fridays, though, I'm exhausted. Right. The end of the week, I don't usually go out on Fridays at all. So, you know, just going

out and drinking and, you know, partying and all that stuff, I was done by the time we were done with the XM show. Did you knock it out? I went straight to bed and I stayed in bed all day until the next day on Sunday, and then I left on Sunday. Where'd you go Sunday? This one, I'm pure 39 with my buddy. We went and ate at Boba Grump. Boba Grump. Oh, I thought you're Instagram.

Yeah, he never, he never been. So I was like, dude, we gotta go to Boba Grump. Right, we got a good Boba Grump. I think I saw it on Instagram that you went there. Yes. You can found me on Facebook, in Twitter, and Instagram, Sacks with Emily and Menace's White Menace. On everything. Pinterest, Tumblr, all of it.

Did you Pinterest, though? I can't, I don't know, I don't know if they're 10% apart. I have a Pinterest. I don't Pinterest that often. It'll pin to the wrist, Pinterest. But Maloof, big Pinterest. Big Pinterest, right?

Dude, she loves the Pinterest. She's on a real housewise, the Brother Hills. Yeah, she was just tweeting about it yesterday. Have you been watching TV this weekend when you were in bed. Uh, yeah, I watched a lot of Chloe Lamar and all that stuff. He just, he is, uh, I mean, I get twitched. I just got a boring. I watched a lot of movies.

I watched, um, um, Captain America because the Avengers movie is coming out. Um, I'm not really too excited about that, I don't really care. But there's a movie coming out with Johnny Depp, where it's a comedy about vampires. I really want to see that. Oh, okay. I didn't know that. It's going to dark something. I don't know.

Dark moon or something. Cool. It's really good. Didn't know that. I mean, the previews look really good. I meant to, okay. I meant to watch more TV, but then I just passed out everything. Oh no, just pardoning up. I know, it's really fun.

I need to let loose, because I've been a little stress lately. Yeah, chill. Chill, man, because we have television show coming up on Bravo. I know, and you seem pretty stressed on when it's gonna air. We don't know what it's gonna be all right.

We don't know what it's gonna be all right. And we don't know what we did. Like Jim, and we're not gonna have that at all yet. It's kinda scary. You're afraid? Are you really afraid? I'm like, what's gonna come out? I'm not afraid. I don't, I did. Kind of scary. Are you afraid? Are you really afraid?

I'm like, what's going to come out? I'm not afraid. I don't, at this moment when I think about it, I have no regrets. I don't feel like, oh, I wish I didn't say that or do that. So, but I don't, but I know how the editing process works. Yeah. It doesn't matter when you, how you said something, they get edited, whatever. So that's a little, you know, but I don't spend a lot of time there.

Okay, good. Going there into that negative space that it can be bad. I think it's going to be forget awesome. Cool. I've got some sex in the news for you. What do you have? I've got Dutch pastor creates online Christian sex shop. No punchline needed. A Dutch pastor has opened up an online Christian sex shop to help combat what he calls lust phobia among Christians we read this before no we didn't I swear to god he also works as a sex therapist on the side and recently opened a server by asking dear god what you're taking on a raticism god's sake

god's take is that he doesn't really care so he opened up his online Christian sex shop but not without a few ground rules note note to whips yes to lubricant so the sex so all the christians are getting in sex there's like and we did read story about another sex shop i think sex toys online but i guess this is newsworthy because it is it's like christian driving sex to i mean dude it's it's getting out there there's christian mingle dot christian mingle i always see that advertised all time uh... what else is there

there's i mean all types of religions are really getting into the dating scene And I would like to see who actually owns these websites if it's somebody from that From that religion yeah probably that's quite some corporate thing. I came up with an idea I was I'm not even Mormon, but I thought it would be cool because all my best friends were Mormon to have like a Mormon nightclub With no without alcohol? No, I'll call it this, you know soda and chips. It sounds like a real life. I'll like, you know what?

It might work because they had this thing on Friday nights for Christians. In my town, even though, you know, being Mormon is being part of Christians, but there was another thing called like Planet Reality, they call it. And thousands of kids would show up on Friday night. No, just Christians. No, discussions.

Yeah, it was crazy. That's nice. They've Jewish things too, like that and other things. Yeah, sure, I never go, but. You should capitalize on your Jewish. No, I'm not doing that. Okay, so I don't do the Jewish stuff. Jewishness.

Okay, so next stories, do you hear about this whole secret service scandal with the presidents? Yes, I have, and a lot of people have been searching for it on the internet I know this because I blogged about it right so members of president Barack Obama security contingent were allegedly consorting with prostitutes in Columbia this is his secret service six secret service employees have already lost their jobs and others are suspended as a result of a night out in Cartagena agents parried with prostitutes before president Obama's arrival on April 14th to attend the summit of America's. 12 secret service numbers and 11 members of the military implicated in the scandal. Wow.

Yeah. I don't know if it's fair. People are like, oh, you know, they're trying to put it on the president. Like the president doesn't know what's going on. It's not a fault. It's before he even got there. Right. It's right.

They're like, this is the freaking secret service. You think the president's gonna know about them falling around? No, this is gonna talk to them. No, right, they just follow them around. He's not like, hey dude, how was last night? Did they need to do a flow job for a stripper by chance? Like that didn't come up.

Yeah, so putting this on the president, that's the Republicans job is to put everything on the president, but anyway, that's pretty bad in the office to put everything on the president but anyway that's pretty bad uh... so but least it was in the president of the process of the usually that's the story that the crazy man on the other about my brother met him last week at this event my nieces and brother they all met the president pictures what i know this event michigan

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The transmission disrupted lasted some three minutes. It claimed the blunder was the result of an air error made during the repair of severed cable lines. The Blunder is currently being invested. Yeah, right. Yeah, it severed cable lines and happened to show some gay hardcore porn, someone's past, lost their job. No, I worked in television, I know how it works. There's a master control room that handles everything where

people sit in it for 24 hours. Right. And look over every single thing that's playing on the television. Somebody in the master control room had to be watching this porn and didn't realize that they put it on the. Yes, exactly. That must have been a channel. That's it. He should be fired. But it's pretty funny. Can you imagine you're there with your kids making breakfast and there's a news of gay hardcore porn? Well, I was involved with the scandal like this one time with my local television station. No, no, no, like porn or anything going on.

But what happened was back in my high school, we had a video production class, whatever, and one day we just turned on the cameras and just went crazy and started messing around, joking around, putting on wigs and all this stuff. And this guy had this oversized cigar, huge cigar, and he put it down in this crotch area and then it may look like he was having a boner. And then we took this magical fairy hologram and came over and put the wand on the top of his penis, like the fake penis, the, right, right, right. It's a guard and it gave him an extra boner

and it was hilarious, right? So we just had the tape there and then somebody at the school, like video taped over the tape and like record some basketball game and then send it to our local television station, right? Oh my God. So they're playing the sports program whatever blah blah and then the sports programs over but whoever was running the tape at the control station didn't like set the timer right. So after the tape was done, here is all of us just messing around the studio with the

boners and it's a guard and everything and it was like and you're on TV. It was huge like public news. It was in the newspaper. They're saying, oh, reenacting the monochole of Winsky scandal and all this stuff. Oh my God, was it your face and stuff on the TV? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, are high school news program because it can be associated with the school anymore is a big deal that's a big deal that's a major fuck up okay katie parry has a new man the rebound is officially underway for katie parry who is all about the pdf with her new man echoed chalera but acroid

the guitar player for florins and the machine really now they were seen hugging caressing and full on making-on making out. According to some reports, Katie's already referring to her boyfriend. Big mistake. Yes, she's already ready to move back, move on from her soon to be ex-husband and wrestle brand. But this must be a lie. What kind of girl makes out with the guidance? Like, I'm just telling this mistake that she's already calling her boyfriend and public. It's been like a whole three days. No, I deserve so many of my friends going to leave everything. He's my boyfriend now that we're kissing. We made out. It's been like a whole three days. You just wouldn't know. I deserve so many of them. It's gonna leave

all everything. He's my boyfriend now that we're kissing. We made out. So you're my boyfriend. People just relax. You want to love, man? Just have fun with someone for a while. You don't have to make them your boyfriend or girlfriend. I just find that so. It's weird because I've probably had the opportunity to be around this guy like four times, but I never. Who? Robert Akrod? Yeah, who are the guys? Because I'm always around Florence, her, but I never see the bandmates.

Oh, so he must be hot, though. Huh, I'll make sure next time I see it. That's a good idea. That I look for the guitar player. I'll do that. Okay, we're gonna move into some emails now. Well, she knows he's hot or not. Okay, let me know.

I'm sure you can find it online. Okay, emails, thanks everyone for emailing us us at feedback at sexwithemily.com. We love hearing from you. And yeah, thanks for that. Okay. Today is funny. It's a recovery day, everybody. Everyone, it was a rough weekend here because it never is sunny and it was sunny and it's never warm. People lose their mind. We lost our minds. If we get... And my mind didn't come back yet. If the weather is 70 degrees here, everyone loses their mind. Right.

They go crazy. Go crazy. It's true. People are just drinking in the streets like it's Las Vegas or something. I know. Nuts. Okay. Dear Emily, I know you've said that it takes women, it takes time for a woman to warm

up. But is there any time that a woman has an immediate arousal, like a man would, such as when a man sees cleavage? If so, what are these triggers? Thanks and keep up the good work. From Dio Meja, Dio Magia, Dio Meja, in Boynton Beach, Florida. Pretty many friends, benefits, remember. Okay, I think that every woman yes there are times

you know we were talking about i always say that women can't go from zero to sixty like a man a man's his cleavage and then she's a boob man thinks that erotic thought he's got a boner women take a while to get warmed up is there any moment yet i mean maybe a woman needs to be you know however she gets turned on maybe she gets turned on when you know her boyfriend walks in the door and rips her clothes off, that could really get her going.

Some women, perhaps. Yeah, but I mean, some women get horny if they see a hot body on a guy's head. Yeah, or like if they strip down, but she's talking about that immediate thing, like a guy sees a clearest. But like if I see a guy's, you know, at a bar or something, or wherever if I'm out of party

and there's instant like chemistry with him, but I'm not saying I'll hook up with a man. Yeah, but you don't see a bar or something, or wherever, if I'm at a party and there's instant chemistry with him, but I'm not saying I'd hook up with him. Yeah, but you don't see a guy like, oh, I'm gonna, I'll bump that guy. Mm-hmm. No? I don't think like that. I'd bump my one-bomb.

Guys. I think they're women, they just aren't, the sex isn't as foremost, I mean, that's when we don't think about sex all the time. I mean, obviously think about sex more as all the studies say, but I think that there's, it's a case by case basis. And if you want to know what the trigger is for a woman you're dating, I'd ask her what her biggest turn on is.

I'd ask her what turns her on. I'd ask her the sexiest thing that she thinks about when she's masturbating. I mean, I would try to find out what her triggers are because it could be different for everyone. One woman might like to be, you know, slowly undressed. One woman might like you to throw against the bed and rip her clothes off. I just don't know what it is. It's all different.

So you guys are just so complicated. We're all so complicated, but you've got to ask some questions and pay attention when you are flowing around, when does she get hot, when does her breath change, when does she get really excited? Like, I know of a guy, for example, we have a sexy, he just wanted to go down to me right away. That would be, I'd be psyched,

that cut everything out and just kind of go, that would show you. Glad to see what he's just, he just wants to know. He wants to know if there's one thing for women universally that's a trigger Menace and surprise you didn't do your like throw Gucci bags at our thing. Yeah, you said it before over that Okay, M and menace it says M and M I was previously on the site of white menace regarding the hand job debate That is until recently my wife had a yeast, and since we couldn't have intercourse, she started to give me a blowjob,

but her neck is sensitive, and she cannot last long performing oral sucks. So I suggested that she switched to a hand job, which she did, but she tried to do it for like a guy. She tried to, but she tried to do a guy. It was better than nothing, and it was something that we both had never experienced together, but it wasn't great.

We talked about it a bit later on, and I suggested that she use some twisting motion as well. Then a few days later, we tried again. She'd complain that the previous time her arm was getting tired, so I suggested that she use both hands, and this is where the heavens parted in Angel's saying. She grasped my penis with both hands, one at the base, the other at the tip, so that her hands wrapped her on my penis. With lots of lube, she proceeded to alternate, rotate, alternate, and rotate her hands in opposite

directions, kind of like an Indian burn. It was a sensation that I've never experienced. It was totally amazing. I'm actually afraid that I will no longer be able to satisfy myself. So now I am on the Emily side of the debate. Thanks, Sean. Sean. Okay, Sean, we've got the hand job debate going on for while. I think hand

jobs are a nice thing that a woman could do for a man that man's used to hand jobing himself all the time, giving himself a hand job when he masturbates. Women can use both hands, lots of lube, twist both ways, and it feels different. He's never experienced before. That's all I was saying about the hand jobs. Not that hand job should universally replace blow jobs. That was never the debate, but we don't have to get into it. I don't want to get into it. Okay.

So this guy responded. He sent an email last week about, should he has a lesbian girlfriend? And he was often ditching her. And he wanted to know if he was ditching her to hang out with girls. And I said, and he's like, should I still pursue her? And I think what I said was, we said was,

let it go. Let it go. However, he listened to our answer and he wrote back, Emily, thanks for answering my last question. While waiting for your advice, my lesbian ex-girlfriend called wanting to get together. She spoke of kids' marriage, and told me a dream where I was the father of her children.

I'm getting so many mixed signals from her. She stated she didn't even know what she wanted. I don't think she could fully commit to being with a guy at this time, but do you think it's possible to have a relationship later in the future? Yes, we did have sex on a few occasions and it was mind blowing. This is from Dan from Kansas.

Dan, I don't know. You're asking you to predict the future again. It sounds like she's got, she's telling you one sentence that you're the father of her children, and she's having dreams, and then she says that she wants to go out to women, and then she doesn't know what she wants. So I'd say, yeah, future maybe if she gets some therapy and figures out what she wants with her life, but she's not going to be exclusive with you.

I think she's telling you that she wants children. Yeah, I'll hide, Dan. Let me tell you something. As a guy, there's so many guys listening right now. Say, Dan, just get with this girl. She wants to date some other chicks on the side. What's the problem? It was the problem. I mean, that's the perfect situation every guy wants. But if you're not down with that, they don't have to wait for it. But he's not necessarily invited. Is that what you're talking

about? Yeah, yeah, you're not necessarily invited. But... But you think it's hard if you have a girlfriend and she hooks up a chicks? Yeah, that's fine. Really without you? No, without you. That's fine. No problem. No problem. I don't think that's a problem. Oh, that's fine. Really without you. Yeah, without you. That's fine. No problem. No problem. I don't think that's a problem. Oh, good. Because I've dated guys who feel both ways. Now guys usually like that kind of stuff, but he might not be into it and then a lot of that stuff. I think it's cheating. They're like, I don't care if you're with a man or your woman. It's still cheating. Those guys are for genus. Yeah. Well, whatever. I think Dan, if you're down with being with a woman who you can be out with other women, then you should still

sound like she's conflicted because she's wants to be with women, but she wants kids. So yeah, you can handle both that. That's fine. Okay, both that. Let's move on to the topic. And the topic is sex and the workplace dating in the workplace. Let's give a little history on that. You've had that. Yeah, I've done that many times before. My rules are, don't tell anybody about it. I don't tell. I never tell anybody. Even my closest friends, I don't say anything. My closest coworkers.

I kind of just leave it up to the girl. She wants to say something that's cool. She wants to put it on Facebook like I asked the white man to something. I'm being in the white menace that's fine with me. The only thing is you know you got to be very very careful. It's going to be careful. And as a guy I'm sorry it's really hard to be, I mean it's really easy to get caught up in a situation where you get an acute sexual harassment. So you kind of just got to leave it open to the chick if she wants to pursue you or not. I do not recommend as a guy pursuing women at work.

Right. It's just that it's not a good day. It's just that it's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. It's not a good day. one in three people eat lunch at art their desk and the third don't use the vacation days forty-seven percent of people have had an office of fair

another found that only thirty four percent of them felt that necessary to keep the relationship secret forty-seven percent of workers have had an office of fair so i mean i can not get you to get a fair but they've had been with someone in the office because it's true that um... you know you're more likely to meet you spend work at work yeah you're working at the pizza spot you know the girl that's kind of the pizza, she looks looking kind of hot that day. You just hook up.

Yeah, you just hook up that day, right? I could, yeah, it was weird. I was at Bubblegum's the other day. Yeah. The other day, Bubblegum Shrimp Company, you guys don't know. The movie four is gone. They made restaurants out of the Bubblegum Shrimp Company. They still exist.

It's what's amazing. They're all over. Oh, they're delicious. Love them. So good. Oh, I'm sorry, it's not five stars. It's a non-chain restaurant with the rolling rise. Anyways, it's a good restaurant. Go check it out.

Anyways, I was there. I was sitting at the bar and there was like, the bartender working and this chick was just like, coworker, just totally like putting it on this guy. The whole time I'm there. She just said. And they worked at Bubblegum, but she was putting it on this guy the whole time them there. She just said, And they worked at bubblegumper just putting on, okay? She was totally putting it on this guy.

I'm like, either this guy is gonna hook up with his chick or they're already hooking up. Right. And then the guy, it's funny because the guy was just kind of laughing and, you know, talking to her. Was it like a waitress bartender sitting there? Yeah, a waitress bartender. But then there was this other waitress that was super hot that came up on the side and he was like totally like paying attention to her. Oh, did you see the other woman get pissed?

No, the other woman didn't. Yeah, he's playing both. He's probably boeing in a boat. Oh, hell yeah. I mean, it is common today. We work at restaurants. I heard it's just like everyone's. Everyone's bones. Everyone's at the restaurant. That's true. I worked at restaurants and I did bone the bartender. I was away from some in college. You bone the bartender? Yeah, he was hot. I bone over for years.

So anyway, pros and cons. Okay, so the pros are obviously, if you date some any workers, let's just break it down. Great place to meet someone. Today's hectic work environment can be difficult to find the time to get out there and find a suitable partner. So work, you generally, you become attracted to the person over time. So it's kind of more of like a real like your friends at first and then maybe you grab a lunch and that's kind of more conducive to like a good relationship is that you become friends at first because you don't just go into it like seem at the money morning meeting

and you're like going in a bang. So it's kind of like this excitement that you get to see each other every day. You establish, yeah, you establish a relationship prior to dating, so you get to know them as a person, you get to see their personalities and how they work at a team, and that can really be sexy, especially for a woman and a man. I don't know if you get turned on by a woman being like powerful and smart at work. That's hot. Not my own work, but if they have their own job going on. Yeah, that's hot, right? I think it's hot too. So, in fact, that you work with the same company,

shows that you've come in interest and all that stuff. So, also, you get to spend time with each other. If you start to date someone at work, you'll the chance to spend a lot of time with them, the chances are, then the chances that you would have be spending time with them prior to dating. So, if you work together, you're likely to see them,

you're seeing them every day. It's kind of fun. So, like, I remember when my first office romance, nobody knew and people kind of assumed we were dating, what we weren't like, we would like sneak off and like have sex in his office and lock the door and close the door and say, that was really fun.

That was like in my 20s. I think everybody's done it. Everybody's done it. Everybody's done it. And it creates a happy work environment. That didn't tell you break up. It didn't really come after you with a knife, but creates happy work environment.

The early stages of dating is a great time. You're excited every time you see the person. You're happier than you otherwise might be. And because of this, you're generally more approachable as a person in your workplace. These are the pros to dating someone you work with. Having a helping hand during those stressful times. If you have a problem at work, this person is one person

that's going to understand all of your work issues. If you're dating a workmate, they'll be likely to go that extra mile than anyone else would. And 47% of people like we said have met in an office affair. So the cons of this though, because we get lots of emails about this, like, should I date it? Should I not? And I don't think you're going to stop yourself. If I told you don't date that cute secretary or the cute guy behind the whatever, I could tell you not to, but you're going to do it anyway.

So these are just some things to think about. The cons are you could be the subject of idle gossip. If you start a relationship with someone in your office, you can be sure that other people will gossip about it. If possible, you try and be open about your new relationship instead of keeping your secret. Now others say you should keep it a secret. Speaking of together is only to create more gossip, whereas being fully open will have people deal with it. Mean people will have a deal with it. Mean people who are talking about you.

Yeah. Is there always workplace gossip, though, no matter what? No matter what. Yeah, people are gossiping on everything. Right. I'm glad. I'm never worked for a big company really except for my own which isn't that big I Well, I guess I work for several companies and it seems like everyone just hangs out with each other like the whole workforce Right afterwards. Yeah, that's fun. It's a good time And the alcohol comes in and you all end up super yeah. Oh, yeah, it's crazy Okay, so some of the more cons are jealousy

It can come from a few sides firstly your co-workers-workers may be jealous of the relationship you have, especially if it is on an employment employee-style basis of your dating boss minion. Having a relationship in the situation will always provoke others to fear that you or your partner are benefiting by being in their relationship and they're missing out on something. If you're dating your boss and you get a higher bonus on your salary, you can bet that others will attribute to the fact they're dating him, not due to your excellent efforts in the office.

They'll be jealous, blah, blah, blah. People are always jealous of them. Speaking of jealousy, though, too, I've gotten with chicks in the office and then the other guys in the office get upset because they want to get with it. They really went out. Do they have to they find out? How do they find out? She gets women talk, man, no matter what. They say, oh, you know, I won't tell nobody. And then they just tell one chick and chicks do not trust other chicks with

information because they will throw you under the bus. Not everyone throws out the bus, but I'm saying if this is something that you want to keep private, don't tell one friggin person. I've got a few things in my level yet that I literally don't tell one person. And it's good because it has not gotten out yet. What is it? Tell me. I can't tell you right now. Okay, so spending too much time together, just at that you get to work outside. It can be positive. Oh wait, spending too much time together. Though going to work alongside each other could be positive, it can also be a huge negative. It may kill little romance as you miss out on the excitement of waiting to see them

at the end of the day. If you see each other all the time with no breaks, it can be hard to accept the little things they do that annoy you and it just builds up how something explodes. True. True? They bug you. Allocating objective blame. If something goes wrong at work and it's your fault or that of your partner, it can

be difficult to remain as objective as you should be. You might try to keep your personal feelings out of the business decisions that you make and this is not always possible. I mean, all in all, I would tell you no. If you were like, Emily, the sky is amazing, we worked together. I'd say no, because the risks are there, but I get that it happens. So that's why we're just going through some of the pros and cons I think about. And then breaking up is hard to do.

It is. If the worst happens and your relationship comes around, it can be disastrous in the workplace. Having to see them every day can be difficult. I mean, I was a friend who started a company with our husband. He cheated on her. They still had to run the company. He got a baby's with the mistress.

She's seen every day with they own a company. That sucked. You got to see him every day. People you break up with, you don't want to see him. People you want to stop them on Facebook. If you break up, you don't want to see him. If you're a husband, you assume that you're going to be okay. That's true. That was a different story. That's what we got for you. For the day?

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