Sex With Emily - SWE: Sex Challenge

Episode Date: March 28, 2013

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of people are hitting me up on Facebook and Twitter through sex with Emily. That's how you find me. So some topics today include 30-day sex challenge, masturbation, how to tell your partner what feels good, and how to let go in a new relationship, and how to make oral sex last longer. And for sex tips, we'll be telling you what guys really want women to do and they're afraid to tell you? Okay. See if you agree with any of those men. So, yeah, that was my weekend and then I was helping a friend write her dating profile.

So my friend, she is really wants to start dating online and she realizes that she really likes Jewish guys. That's kind of her thing. She's not Jewish, she's like tall blonde woman and she really likes Jewish guys. Like that's kind of her thing. She's not Jewish, she's like tall blonde woman. And she really likes Jewish guys. And I have a friend in LA who same thing. She's always had a thing, a penchant, let's say. I have a girl in my building that's like that.

Yeah, and I'm Jewish. If people didn't know that, I've brought that up. And I don't typically, I date Jewish guys. I don't date Jewish guys, but she wanted to. So I was like, you should date on J-Day, because my friend did that. Yeah. So they got on the phone and she wrote her profile and she has like 60 guys hitting her and she just likes I don't know what it is. I mean Jewish guys are I don't know. I don't know I gotta give one guy for her to block on J date

Well, okay, good tell me so I think that's interesting that there's like no holds bad like if you like a Jewish guy You like christ there's like Christian website. Yeah, they're not necessarily Christian So she just put it on the more man everything the more man she said I'm not Jewish, but my my I really have a lot of Jewish friends And I'm really attached to the Jewish religion and a lot of guys didn't seem to care and she got tons of emails I like that. It's not a good thing So I have to write a profile is really fun picking up pictures because I've never done that But I think this might be the year for me to online date. I think I can do it.

Seriously? I've been saying that for years, but I just think for tons of reasons, for research, to go out with new guys that I haven't already dated because I feel like I've dated everybody in San Francisco. You know, here's something funny. The other day I ran into a guy friend at coffee that I go to the same coffee shop every morning And he's like, oh, he's so funny. My girlfriend was saying, oh, yeah, her show. It sounds awesome sex with everyone She thought it was called sex with everyone Kind of but not really that's not funny So that's what's up with me. What's up with you? How is your weekend? My weekend was busy as usual, right?

I DJed two parties and let me tell you about the the second party at DJed How was your weekend my weekend was busy as usual right? I DJed two parties and let me tell you about the the second party at DJed which is the club night that I throw with a friend of mine and Immediately when the the night started these two really hot chicks were that they came to party one blonde one brunette and I kept on running into them kept on talking to him all night and then i have to stay till the club closes because i have to collect money and stuff and i walk outside and the two girls were there like standing there and they were about to get a cab no and then i go hey it was thank you guys for coming out blah blah, blah, you know, I do this party all the time.

And I go, how are you guys getting home? And I go, oh, we're taking a cab. I was like, I can just drive you, it's not a problem, right? So I get them, they get in the car, and one of the girl, the blog girl, like grabs a guy, like some random guy. She's like, I want you to come with me. I guess she was talking to the guy throughout the night, right?

So here I am in the car with the R runette girl, the blonde girl with another guy, and we're just driving to some random house. They're like, oh, you gotta stay and you gotta hang out and blah blah, and you gotta have a couple of drinks. You know, I don't drink and drive, so I'm totally like, I'm sober. But then, by the time I get there, I can tell they're like kind of tipsy, you know. Okay, I'm sure. And then, was it two in get there, I can tell they're like kind of tipsy, you know? Okay, I'm sure. And then, was it two in the morning when the bar ends? Yeah, yeah. So, we go and I go inside their house and I'm just like hanging out and just talking with them. And the girl is like kind of like saying like, okay, let's go to my bedroom.

Ooh. Basically. Okay. But, I was totally, yeah, I was, but I was totally sober. So I was totally sober so you can't hook up on your sober I'm sober, but she's kind of oh wait So I was like oh no, I got to go I have to leave so I left and we retract to her if she was I was but I I'm totally sober and she's been drinking so I'm not gonna do that. Oh, I'm not gonna hook up You're such a good man. No, but I really want to go with her. Oh, you did?

So it was a more that you just felt like it wouldn't be right. Yeah, it's not right. Oh, you're such a good guy. Most guys would be like, this is actually the right time. This is the right time I got the T-W-A-M. I love because the other guy's like, the other guy's like, what do you, I think I didn't even know me.

Right. He was like, what are you doing? What happened to, okay, so did you get our number? Oh, yeah, I got a number. I talked she's like texting me and stuff like that She's texting you. Yeah, but I don't know. I'm so busy. I don't know if I get it I mean I'm busy telling this weekend after this weekend. I'll hang out there but Yeah, it was just I just never really that was really really morally Correct decision. I yeah, but maybe if I was, if I was wasted, I was probably wasted.

How did you work till 2 a.m. and not drink? Because you're driving. I told you to take a cab. If I took a cab then I, you didn't listen to me. That was the best advice I ever gave you. I find it, you're like, I, to bum or low because I got to draw. I'm like, take a cab. No, this is my Saturday party too.

But I ended up getting right, right on the Friday one when you told me to and I got kind of wasted Did you hook up on Friday? I didn't hook up on Friday. Oh my I wish the girl was there Friday night. I didn't know what all worked out Yeah, what if worked out? I know Your goddamned conscious, you know I know kicks in and then so you can't do it You're a good man, so but then I I know this has nothing to do with sex, but it was really fun I got to interview this band called Chinese Tweweet Guns the next day and that was really enjoyable. And I put it up on my blog.

So if you're a fan of that band, whitemenace.com. Okay. So you can check it out there. Awesome. And then I just slept and drank champagne and ate ice cream. Oh, he did? He did. Champagne in ice cream.

Yeah, and I watched movies. Yeah. What movies? I watched this movie called Super, which was, it has the guy that plays the white in the office. Okay. It was very interesting. I watched TV.

What? Okay, so I finally turned on my television set. I didn't even take the plastic wrap off yet because I thought, you know, the plastic on the screen, I was like, I'm still like, I have bars, you're more so, is it? And I've commitment issues when I buy large pieces of equipment and other things. But I watched it and I watch Hulu, but it's still, there's a delay. Like it takes a second to load all the time. Is that a known glitch? Yeah. Okay.

No, I watched Hulu, because my friend told me to. Only because my friends are with it. She's like, you remind me Courtney Cox and I had seen it it so I watch actually you have a photo on the blog right now you really look like Courtney Cox. I know I get that all the time. I get that like. No I'm just in this one photo. I really see it. But you don't see it now. In this moment. No I don't see in this moment. But I get that over the years. Yeah which one? The one on the new site. The latest blog post. Oh that's my new headshots. I've got a whole bunch of new photos on the new site.

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The new site is just like, it's like videos and it's interactive. Well, I like to is it has simple You know buttons where you go. Okay. You want to watch a video click here You want to listen to audio click here and what's gonna be awesome is you you will be able to call into the show Shortly, right? Yeah, you guys can all call in and talk to us. It's gonna be so fun So we'll still be reading your emails, but then we'll be getting your live questions. Any sex questions at all that you have, you can just call us and ask us a little answer on. And I'm, yeah, but just about the subscription thing, you do have to become

a friend's with benefits member. That's, that's my VIP club. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We know if you guys started getting upset that we started in charges like been doing, you've been doing the show for five years for free all the six years For for free and like we've done everything we can to support the show But we really need your help if you really like the show, you know, please Please support us. Yeah, we beg you buy a sandwich. Yeah, buy me sandwich and then you'll get an entertainment every single day Yeah, so also and I'll be your daily newspaper daily sex newspaper Well, there'll be things every single day about the show, news articles, tips, all that stuff. Right. New tips every single day. So it's awesome. And then what else I'm trying to think.

So yeah, birthday party this week is going to be exciting. And I'm going to have so Bob, you can't come. Yeah. It's only like 20 piece like a little small. What time is it? 7 to 10. And it's a no-way valley, which is kind of far. I mean, I live in the city, but I live far from this. No pressure. Yeah. But it's good people, but I'm gonna have like exploit friends. But I would go with you over the weekend,

but you're going to some stupid concert the next day. Oh, I'm not going anymore. Oh, you aren't? Yeah. Okay. Okay. Maybe I'll take you somewhere. No, no, that takes reservations.

Oh my god, can I take something real quick? You've taken me to Burger King. No, but look at this. Okay, so I had a friend that's from the Bay Area and like I'm not gonna talk bad about LA but a lot of people that I know that but the people from the Bay Area that I know they're a little more humbler than usual but even more humbler is maybe Midwest and stuff like that here in America so So anyways, I'm talking to her. She calls me up and she goes, hey, I'm in town because she moved to LA.

I'm at the W. Can I ask you a question? Do you know where there's a pizza place around the W? I was like, oh yeah, there's California Pizza Kitchen. Right. Kitchen, right down the street. She goes, no, I need a place that takes reservations. She wanna go to any place that didn't take reservations. In LA, yeah.

I go, well, you let me know when you find a pizza place that takes reservations. Exactly, that's amazing. And then I tell them, that's so funny. I mean, it's in Venice, it's not that I'm like, I will only go to residential reservations, but reservations, but San Francisco is known throughout the world as having some of the finest restaurants

Yeah, in this town really like culinary like they went awards Amazing restaurants, and so I want to partake and so I live in the city and those say loud those restaurants. You need a reservation You but it's just okay. I'm not just I'm not talking about you To a restaurant with a restaurant No, I'm just saying that I'm just just saying that, not, it's not. You'll be like, it doesn't come in cellophane? No, it's not you, but like, just, this the people that say, I will not go to places.

I would never say that. They just want to go because, oh, it's the hip spot, not because, oh, it's excellent food, you know? I mean, I go to get tacos in the mission and burritos and stuff. I do, I live right near that. But sometimes when like, I'm going out, like tonight I'm going out somewhere for that means a reservation I assume. I'm going out

with this guy and we're going to know. Oh tell me. No, just the guy that I've been dating. He's on a town. So boring. The sea blocker. The sea blocker. Oh my god. I got a funny email about it that I'm not going to read today. But someone's like, I think that you were really harsh on him because he was, he took you out on a date. I was like, what this guy's sea blocking me on a date. But I was on a date with him and I was picking up someone else and they said that was rude of me if you break it down Yeah, but I thought you guys had to understand we did have an understanding so anyway. I'll read that one tomorrow All right, I thought that was funny. It's a nice tease for tomorrow. It's a nice little tease for tomorrow Okay, I love that we can see like tomorrow. Yeah, that will be here tomorrow reading. Okay, so we could get into some sex in the news right now

Okay, what do you got this is what I got? So we could get into some sex in the news right now. OK, what do you got? This is what I got. The first ever singles only church opens near Washington, DC. Singles only church? Yep, it's very fun. It had a church double dating service, young singles. So if you ever thought your local gym was a meat market,

then you should check out Crystal City's 23rd Street Chapel, at least if you're Mormon. The Washington Post describes the chapel as the only worship space in the country devoted solely to unmarried people in their 20s, 30s, and 40s. And from the description, it sounds like spouse hunter central. In addition to standard worship surfaces, church offers a variety of social gatherings from trivia to ping pong, all the hopes of matchmaking their 800 congregants. While some of us prefer the presence of booze, I guess there are worst ways to meet your life mate then with free pizza and table tennis, because the Mormons aren't

having booze at their church. So it's interesting, given that their faith forbids them from partaking in premarital sex, you can bet that there's a lot of sexual tension among all these pice young folks, but what better way to get them to wed faster than promise of lots of guilt-free, got-a-proof sex. So it's like we're saying, oh my friend, she's dating on JD, whatever, like maybe religion, brings people together. I don't know. If you're very faithful,

if you're devout Mormon, this is a Mormon church or whatever you are, I think it's good to, if there's a church that can help, when you guys are going to church, it's a to-for. Eat someone and go to church. Yeah, that's it.

I mean, if that's what you're into, then that makes it super easy. Exactly. You're a top-of-one church too. when you have a good church that to for look at you and go to the exit i mean if that's what you're into the that makes it super easy here's everybody you don't like anybody in church right but i think that's that's good gives you another option uh... like it they have the more miss they have a really big website that my friends used to

uh... fine girls on forget what it was called uh... like uh... ld-DS or something like that. Right. Latter day, Latter day, same. Yeah, yeah. Okay. Courtney Love tells GQ that Kurt Cobain has a huge penis. That's the headline. Okay. Wait too much information. Leave it to Courtney Love to commemorate the 20th

anniversary of Nirvana's Never Mind by talking about Kurt Cobain's penis. The people at GQ of all places seem to be the only ones who remember the occasion and did a good job rounding up enough Nirvana aeronautables to offer a pretty interesting oral history of the band. And then it comes to Courtney Love and she gives her two cents. Kurt has more presence and more beauty than Brad Pitt, who wants to play Kurt by the way. He was a leader, he was strong. In fact, well, he was effing hung if you really want to know

well why would she do that you don't ever should talk about a man's peanut even if he's he's dead 20 years later she's like they're like they're they're they're commemorating whatever she's not not can I remember reading his music and she's people you all need to know that he was hung I mean it's good information it's a nice visual maybe it'll sell more albums I don't know but I just think you should never talk about I never talk about a man's private parts really unless it's like my best best friend she's like how's his penis I'm like well it's you know it's nicely shaped I mean I've had so many meals with friends where they're like

this this that like they show you but the girl I'm not going to announce it to the press I think that was disrespectful to Kirk Cobain well she's done a lot of things that are disrespecting this is like the final like really you're talking to the press, I think that was disrespectful to Kurt Cobain. Well, she's done a lot of things that are disrespecting her. I know, but this is like the final, like, really? You're talking about the penis? His penis? We actually interviewed this writer, not too long ago, that was interviewing her. And what she used to do, she would actually keep his ashes inside a teddy bear. Okay.

And then she was like, so drugged out that she started, she asked if the writer wanted to snort his ashes and she snorted it right in front of them. Oh my God, but she was already snorting stuff anyway. Yeah, but she snorted and depressing and sad. Is she still a little messed up, huh? Oh yeah, a little bit. Like always, like a lifer, yeah, until she goes.

No, she goes in and out She's she's comedic though when she is she yeah, I've met her I met her once before Okay, Adrian Curry and Christopher Knight separate do you know who they are? They're yeah, they had a reality show. Yeah, my fear Brady stars Adrian Curry and Christopher Knight for the Brady Bunch have separated after five years of marriage after starting relationship with what seemed to be a separated after five years of marriage. After starting a relationship with what seemed to be irreconcilable, after starting a relationship with what seemed to be irreconcilable differences, the couple has reached a period where those differences

are no longer appreciated. This was Curry's first marriage and ninth third. I mean, weren't they like one of the first big reality stars like five years, six years ago? To get married? Yeah. I don't think so. Not to get married, but they they had a

popular show like five years ago when they did have a popular show together. I never saw it. They they were on the surreal life where they they live right. Be level actors and they live in a house together. Exactly. But then they had to spin off because they started dating and then they got married. See that's how it works these days. Tell, they should... And then you get married. Yeah. And then you have a kid. Really TV stars who like highlight their marriages.

Typically a lot of them don't work out. Yeah, there hasn't been a good track record. No, no, there hasn't. Remind me that. Whatever happens to me, I'm not gonna do that. They had, um... Who is it? Lamar, Odom, and Chloe Kardashian. That's the most recent one that I watch a lot. Oh, you do? Yeah. You watch that. They have their own children.

Okay, I need to tell you. Lamar. Yeah, now it's all about them trying to have a baby. Oh, okay. It's cool, but it's really because I think their family is really funny. Right. So it's always about how their family is living with them and dealing with them. The mom's, you know, she's a manager and she gets all crazy and They they don't really leave anything out like the brother the brother just in this last episode of

Rob Kardashian It was talking about you know how you had unprotected sex with this girl and she'd be pregnant and all the stuff And they're just putting it out there that they But that's why I think they're so successful, is like there's like no holds back. Like they put everything out there. There's no really any filter at all. Right, and I think that's probably the key to their success. They show like,

I'm sure she's like hooking up with guys and stuff. They show it? Yeah, I mean, they don't show her actually having sex, but like showing like, she's gonna sleep with this guy. And they like set it up and like him leaving the next morning and all that kind of stuff that's amazing crazy I didn't expect them to do things like no I know so that's why you're into it now and Drake sucked you in because I don't

remember you watching this these shows I've always oh I've always probably okay I it was not a bravo that's on e oh I thought it's a bravo the Kardashian oh they are whatever I'm just new with the TV thing. And I don't have the cable yet. But I'm going to do that. The cable, the interwrap. Okay, this was headlines this morning. I know I saw this the gym when I got up naked and made my coffee in my office. Yeah, you always make it now. I always have something naked. Who doesn't seem naked? It's the best time to sleep to be even though it's kind of cold here. Like getting my down. Earthquakes. Earthqu best time to sleep, to be even though it's kind of cold here, like getting my down fryer.

Yeah, Earthquakes. Earthquakes, you're gonna be running out of housework. I have that clothes all over my bedroom. I can take off my clothes and I get in bed. And if they're lying, they're next to my bed, if there's an earthquake. Okay, another internet, so I stopped to the gym this morning,

and this is another international banker arrested for sexual assault. Because of the gym they have CNN, that's the only channel they have, and the cooking channel, which places me off when you don't have TV, and that's your only options. Okay, so another national banker,

arrested for sexual assault. Is it two weeks ago already? Because the headline is almost exactly the same. And international money man has been arrested in New York City for allegedly assaulting a hotel maid. Muhammad Abbael Salam Omar, the 74 year old former chairman of each of banks of Alexandria allegedly groped and gyrated against the maid at the pier hotel on Fifth Avenue. Wow.

He was wearing a bath over the time, but it was not clear if anything he had, if he had anything on under it. This comes just two weeks after Dominic Strascon, the disgraced, disgraced former head of the International Monetary Fund, was charged with sexually assaulting a maid at the Sofie Tau Tau Tau, Midtown. What does the deal with these two men? They're famous international banker leaders.

And they both grow up to hotel maids. Did you? Did you? That's so odd. Yeah. Like, what? Like, if they dust, but the world from their 70s, 60s, they're older men. And I don't know if it's like they haven't gotten action a while.

If it's premeditated, it said that he ordered up a box of Kleenex from the maid. And she came in the room, he locks the door behind her and he like starts jai reading against her So people have been getting kind of crazy lately on planes. I just read a story today where they were hotel though not a plane. Oh, Plains I just keep it up. Yeah, there was a plane today where this guy had a layover about two hours So he decided though he's gonna drink some jack-in-cokes So it but there were doubles. He ended up having five by the time he got on the plane. So then he's walking down the plane and

he sees this hot chick. She's about 22 years old. And he's like, oh, I'm going to sit next to her. So he starts like, he's on her, right? And he ends up telling her, oh, yeah, don't worry, you know, I know everything about this plane. I know everybody on the plane because I'm an air marshal. He's lying. Yeah. And then so he starts joking around. And then he busses out of lighter. And then he starts trying to light her feet on fire as a joke. Okay.

And then, so she, I guess she was just playing cool because she just thought this guy was really an air marshal. And he was just playing around. And then I guess he had some a tube with documents in it. And he, in the girls, like playing with the tube and he said, don't play with the tube because if you let it out, the gas will come out and everyone will go to sleep, right? So after a while, she goes, okay, this is too weird. So she goes to the bathroom, she writes a message on her phone and then leaves the phone in the back for the uh...

the tenants to see it they see it they redirected plane and land a plane and then the guy said that he woke up and he was handcuffed and he couldn't remember a thing oh my god he had to go he had to go jail for three days and then they sent him to a federal jail for another five days oh my god yeah you don't want to mess, you don't want to mess up in the international aerospace. You really don't. I almost got kicked out of the United Islands, United Airlines, Red carpet club once.

They like bought in security, you know, because I was pissed because I was fine first class. It was for this business trip years ago. And they should have let me in, but they weren't letting me in. I'm like, I'm not leaving. I was really upset because I'd like an eight hour layover. And have you ever been into the red carpet loan? Is like the United Red carpet, our American Airlines Admurals Club.

If you can get in those clubs, they're amazing because you've food and drink and free internet. And I was like traveling all day in weary and I was like yelling at the people. This is not me. I was like, I'm not leaving here. I'm not leaving here.

And then these guards come up behind me and they're like, man, I'm gonna have to go. And I'm like, I'm being escorted out of the, I know. So you gotta be careful in air space. Yeah, I would not let on to a plan because I was too drunk, but this was like, I don't know, yesterday. Yeah, this is like, this was like 15 years ago.

I was in San Diego and I had a skateboard and I could bring the skateboard with me on the carry on flying from San Diego from San Francisco to San Diego, but when flying back they want to let me bring it on and I was bringing late. They let me go through the whole like check-in process and they're like, you can't bring it on a plane. Why? And then I started cussing because I was drunk and they let me on a plane and I had to wait 16 hours for a new plane.

They didn't let you on? No. You deviant. I can't believe it. Okay, well that didn't let me on but I just almost got escorted, but you do have to be careful in the international aerospace everyone. Yeah. And how did you get a lighter on the airplane? Don't they confiscate this? Yeah, I don't know.

Yeah, when I was going through my smoking phase, my cigarette smoking phase a while ago, for some reason I can never find lighters when you're a smoker, you can never find lighters anywhere. And all the sun, I was like rushing the airport, I didn't try to go with my wallet, and I go with the way I purse. And it was so embarrassing. I had like five lighters anywhere and all the sun I was like rushing the airport I didn't try to go with my while and I go to my purse and it was so embarrassing I had like five lighters and a pack of matches at the book because I carry huge purses and they're like

ma'am and they kept taking out all my lighters because apparently they had all landed at the bottom of my purse that's where they were I was looking for them. Wow. Yeah that's bad don't do that. Okay Burlesque stars fight those who would strip away risque history so you know all about Burlesque dancing there's been sort of away risque history. So you know all about burlesque dancing. There's been sort of a recent surge, I'd say in the last five years,

like Dedevantice is really famous, burlesque dancing. And it's kind of a, they say they're bringing a 21st century to the old bump and grind. But on the other hand, Burlesque is still attacked by people who do, they deal with misconceptions both within the community of people who do it

and the general audience who still confused Burlesque dancing with stripping. Now burlesque dancing is much more of a performance. They don't necessarily get naked. They wear like pasties on their nipples and it's much more of a dance thing. But there's a joke, they say, that it's more truthful and they'd like it to be, says a famous burlesque dancer. What are the difference between a burless performer and a stripper? Strippers make money. So apparently, burless performances don't. Still, I believe if your outfit can fit in your closed fist, you're probably not a burless performer. You're probably a stripper. If your whole entire outfit that you're wearing can fit in your,

yeah, that's how you tell a difference. So burless is going through a whole thing right now, where they're being attacked as strippers that are really yeah artistically their performance their performers they uh... so many of the stuff in san francisco well last vegas has been getting really popular again there's uh... holly massin who is former he has girlfriend she has a huge burlesque

most vegas and they have a whole reality show around that she does that plan a hollywood there's another one i believe at the m MGM where another playboy girl has it and Yeah, I don't you know Yeah, I mean I rather if I have to go you're like I'm way you get naked I'd rather go to strip club you know not even because I think strip clothes are just you know You're not gonna leave with anything, you know some Some people do. Some people do, I'm just saying, not everybody. Typically, not everybody, but a lot of people, some people.

A lot of people don't say a lot of people. Okay, you're right. That's misleading to men. But many men do hook up with strippers. I would say 5% out of 95%. Maybe. That's fair. I don't know.

We've had strippers on the show before. They've told us. But I know that one that's been on the show before, she's met her husband that way. But I don't want to send mixed messages people I'm not saying you should go after all the drivers. And she's gonna act like you are her daddy and you are one because she's trying to get your money. So just be careful. And they're good Vegas too. Oh my god Vegas is the best and they make bank. It's crazy how much money

like for the weekend. She make like 5,000, 6,000 a weekend. That's crazy. I'm pissed actually that I wasn't a stripper when I could have been. I mean, I still could be, I guess. But I thought like in my 20s, because I think I would have had fun doing it. I would have made a lot of money. Oh, God. Not really, but sort of.

Sometimes I think that would have been really fun to be a stripper for a minute. But maybe not. Okay, so I never did it. And so that's fine. It's not in my record, but I wouldn't have minded for so I never did it. And so that's fine. It's not on my record. But I wouldn't mind it for a minute to do it. Okay, should we get in some emails?

Yeah. Okay, thanks everyone for writing me feedback at sexathome.com. There's also a new enhanced with the only website and the whole new deal. That if your friends with benefits member, your email gets put at the top of the pile and we will be answering your emails ahead of time. We will also be doing five questions a week that we answer, five of your emails we answer on video week. So I'll be doing special videos that are like answering questions

instead of just doing them on the air. Okay, first off, just wanna say that my long-term boyfriend and I are both recent listeners and we love your show. Our sex life is greatly improved from the discussions that stem directly from the topics to discuss on your show. However, we want to continue to strive for improvement and we want to do your proposed 30-day sex challenge. While I'm all for having sex 30 days straight, there's a slight physical limitation.

I've had a problem in the past where after having sex multiple times in a short time frame, things start to feel a bit sore and sensitive down there. After a certain point, Lou just doesn't have any effect. Are there any tips or tricks for me to do this challenge with my boyfriend without it being so painful? Thanks, Amy and Josh. Okay, yes, I have a lot to say about this. The butt? The butt, no.

That wasn't even in the realm of what I was going to say, man. Oh, I was just trying to get your head out of the butt. What? I thought it was for you, I was going to say man. Get your head out of the butt. What? I thought it was what you were gonna say. So no, you did. No, you didn't. Take it in the ass, no.

I wasn't gonna say that. What I was gonna say is, for sure, take a break, Amy, if you're experiencing any pain at all, this is a great point. Of course, if you're not used to having sex every day, and if you're having little rougher sex, like if you know, a lot of penetration, deep penetration, that could hurt.

I mean, I've even had weekends of where I've had sex a lot and it hurts. So that is totally fine. But I think you can still do the 30-day challenge and just don't have an of course. And remember, 30-day sex challenge, sex is not limited to penetration in and out in a course. Sex is also means can is just about touching

and touching each other in four plays. So why don't you say that every other night you'll just, or few nights a week instead of having intercourse or especially right now while you're hurting, to just have four play, just to touch each other and you, you know, you perform all sex on him, he performs all sex on you, explore in other areas, or make it so you're not going to have sex. Like do everything but have sex, and sometimes you're just going to want it so bad, but just decide tonight, we're not having sex. Tonight we're exploring each other's bodies

and different erogenous zones, but we're actually not going to have sex. So you take sex out of the equation, and that's actually something that they use a lot in couples therapy. Sometimes couples who are having a lot of sex issues, and maybe he has issues with ejaculation, or she has issues with orgasm or whatever it is,

you say, you know what, take him of course off the table. Pretend that you're just getting to know each other again. Pretend that you're just discovering each other's bodies again. And I would say to Amy and Josh that you should just start from that. Like pretend when you first started dating, spend a lot of time above the belt and exploring and doing things like that. And so you're still doing 38 challenges if you're not having any courses, what I'm

saying. So just, you know, maybe play with some sex toys, bring in something new, watch porn one night, that could be something fun. The 38-day sex challenge is just about bringing in new things and just trying to get into a pattern of having sex again. So that's what I recommend. I like that. Oh, good.

Yeah, I agree with you at all. You agree with me? I love when you agree with me. Because sometimes men just doesn't. But I love the 30 days extra challenge. I think it's the best. I'm going to do that one day when I have having sex for 30 days consecutively with somebody. Sweet. I'm with somebody. Yeah. But I know I'll be with for 30 days. Okay. Hasn't happened. Okay. Just moved to San Francisco and I stumbled upon a group called One Taste. They are focused on the female orgasm and offer classes in San Francisco.

However, I went to one of their parties and they see more cultist than anything else. Do you know about these guys and are they legit? Signed ashtale. Ashtale, yes, I actually had members from One Taste on the show about four years ago, and they call themselves orgasmic monks. So basically, they are a bunch of people that do I can see why you're saying it's kind of cultish. They all live at this place called One Taste in the City and they actually have

times throughout the day where like a bell goes off. I'm sorry if I miss if this is not exactly it but it's like they have set times during the day or in a alarm or a bell or something where you have to grab your partner and you master with them. The men, it's all about the men doing a certain kind. They have a very particular kind of touching that they do to the clitoris and they bring women to orgasm throughout the day. You have a partner and it's all about female pleasure and teaching men what to do.

They're staying the same place. They all stay in the same place in San Francisco. What? We're actually probably going to have someone from there on again because I think that they're very, very interesting. They all stay in the same place in San Francisco. What? We're actually probably gonna have someone from there on a gand, because I think that they're very, very interesting. They live in a house? They all live in a big, like a,

it's not a house, it's more like a, dorms type thing, but it's a big, huge space in the city. Yeah. And I find a fascinating, I mean, I, I spoke their ones. And, you know, it's like anything, it's controversial, but I feel like with all these sex groups, and there's, one taste is actually, there's a group in New York that's similar to that. There's a lot of different things like this and you know what, I'm not going to judge them because

I've never actually taken one of their classes, but it depends like what your issues are, what interest to you, but if you're interested in learning how to please women more and you find this technique effective that they have this very special masturbation technique, you can check out one taste this technique effective that they have this very special masturbation technique you can check out one taste sf.com or one taste.com you can figure it out and see we think but I think they're legit to the sense of a lot of people get a lot of satisfaction from them and they work but I've never actually taken a class there so I can't say but I've heard mixed things but people like anything that's really effective and people who like to like that's a Well, if it's a cult that works, it's fine. If it works.

If it's a cult on your V. Yeah, if it's a cult on people that are men are bringing me to orgasm three times a day, I think I'm living in the wrong place personally. So, I don't know, Dash, I'll check it out. Okay. Dear Emily, listen to your show at work on an MP3 player. Thanks for reminding me of things to do, compliments, and most importantly, bringing up things

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member. I love it. Love it, love it, love it. Okay. So, hey Emily, hi menace. Love this episode. When you guys start talking about the randoms and the theaters about masturbating, I was laughing my ass off. I guess I'm gonna just keep on going about masturbation. I started masturbating when I was really young,

like elementary school. I have been having orgasms for a very long time and I'd like to think this has made me a happy sexual being because I know it makes my body tick. People need to take more time to themselves and explore it makes them feel good and not be shy and to be able to communicate with their sex partner and what makes them feel good. Don't ever assume he or she's going to get it right the first time you're so right the communication is a lubrication.

My ex and I talk about our sex life and he mentioned that if something didn't feel good I would say don't do this. He said it would have been better for me to say, try this or voice when it did feel good. Some guys get frustrated if they feel they're lady trying to please, that they're trying to please their lady and they're not the ladies and getting any satisfaction. And it might be because some of us are telling them what they shouldn't do rather than what they should be doing. Chao Funao, Megan.

Megan, that is an awesome point. I make this point all the time. I love that you said that. what they shouldn't do rather than what they should be doing. Ciao for now, Megan. Megan, that is an awesome point. I make this point all the time. I love that you said that. It's very, first of all, she's right. Women and men need to spend time figuring out what makes them feel good, right? Because how else are you going to communicate your partner? We all think that men, I think we're trained as women when we're growing up,

that a man is going to come into our life and he's going to figure it all out and he's going to know all of our parts but that's on how it happens. A lot of times we have to do either mutual masturbation, show what feels good or just tell him. And her second part was that she would say to her boyfriend and men don't only take interactions. So if you're saying to him, he already hates taking directions, a lot of men. But if you say don't do this and don't do that, it's like anytime you get feedback,

you should start with a positive. You should be like, you know what, really would feel good if you did this. So the second you're, she's saying that her boyfriend, her ex-boyfriend confronted her and said, I didn't like the way you were telling me what to do. Not, you were telling me don't do this. You were telling me that feels bad. That's just making a guy feel worse, just saying, oh my god, you know what would feel really good instead of putting in the negative you put in the positive. It would feel really good if you would move your hand a little to the left and grab my breast or something, however you want to say.

But don't say don't, don't, don't because then he's feeling don't you think? But you think that he doesn't know what not to do. Right. Yeah, exactly. When you rather have a woman be like, oh, that feels great. And here's what would really feel better. There's just ways to finesse it. It's all about communication, really.

Don't down talk because the guy gets afraid to do other things. Yeah, he's like, oh, I heard her. Oh, that's bad. And it freaks guys out. It does. And I think I think Megan, you're so smart. Thanks, Megan, for writing.

Love that email. We're getting so many great emails. I like that. I know. What were you going to say? No, I was just going to wait for it. You? No, I was just so waiting for the next email. I'm just waiting for the next email. You're just on the edge of your seat.

Yeah. Hey, Emily Menace, I have to say I'm a new listener, and I love the podcast. Thanks for airing more frequent shows. I listened to your show while I'm running, and I giggle the entire time, especially when you talk about, especially when you talk about men with ponytails. Aha, I used to date one.

No, he was not a swinger. Oh my God. But how do you even date a guy with a ponytail? Sorry listeners. We have ponytails. Cut them. We don't mind me that I want to have my friend on the show who I told you I talked about this a few months ago. He cut his ponytail off. He had it for years. He was defined by. He's the guy with the

ponytail. I didn't even know his name. Cut his ponytail off. He's getting more action. Yeah. Then he's ever on his life. I still rock the ponytail. No didn't even know his name. How does ponytail after he's getting more action? Yeah, then he's ever gotten his life. He's still rocked the ponytail. No, but some women love it. She dated him. I'm just saying I'm not an anti ponytail. I'm just saying personal friend of mine had the ponytail off and a whole world opened up

because it's a niche. It's a niche. If you have a ponytail, there's certain girls they're trying to do and certain girls are not like they're just like ponytail not going any further. What is his thoughts for having the pointy tail that long after he's had this new life? No, no, no, I'm just saying. Why did he have it? No, no, no, no, when he did cut it and now he realizes that he's getting all the

fast. He's probably like, I wish I could go back and do it. Did you, were you able to get an answer and all that? No, I just thought it was just that. That's what we're going to get on the show. OK. I want to friggin grill them. I don't think he's a swinger. I don't think he's a swinger, but he might be.

You never know in San Francisco. Everyone's like a swinger or something. Not ever. They're always. Anyways, I hope you guys can give me some advice. I recently moved to a new city, and I'm having a hard time opening up to meet man. I date.

I've noticed that men start to pull away because I'm unable to be myself and open up. I know that these actions are because I was hurt in the past and I'm afraid to put myself out there again, but it's so frustrating. I notice myself sleeping with them early on in the relationship, then once I sleep with them I become more attached, but I'm still unable to be myself. Then once I sleep with them I become more attached and the cycle happens. I've noticed this pattern with the last four guys I've dated and I just can't break out of the cycle. When I say I'm not myself, I mean I become extremely quiet and lose my sense of humor.

Almost as if I'm intimidated, please help. P.S., you were talking about women giving men oral sex today. I find it to be such a turn on to perform oral sex on a man as an instant turn on for me. When we need to try this when they're not in the mood, it could help. Thanks, Kelly. Wow, Kelly. You're doing the Lord's work there. You're doing the Lord's work. And it's true that women who think they don't like oral sex just start doing it. You can get into it. Look, I think we should do a show. I should do a show giving tips on how to perform oral sex because I think I'm good at

it personally. And I've been told that I am. And I'm starting, and I read books. How are you gonna eat a banana or something? Well, now that we have a camera on here, I can be like, I'm not gonna actually, but I think I could just show some tips. So first, going back to her not opening up and not being herself because she was hurt in the past.

First, I wanna say, Kelly, that is so insightful of you just to know yourself well enough to know that you're not opening up and to know that it's because of past hurt. So the first thing is admitting that there's an issue there for you that you want to change. And what I would say is, is just it takes practice and the more that you date and the more that you go out, you'll be more comfortable with yourself and opening up. But some things that you could do specifically starting out are just think about if you can like that you're hanging out with your friends your friends love you

They know you when you're with a guy I think that you tend to a lot of men and women do this They put them on this pedestal to a bigger deal like being with a man is different than being with a woman And if you can somehow Try to train yourself that like I'm just with a friend. It doesn't have to mean anything Don't put all the weight on it think about how you would be acting if you were with your friends or the stories that you would tell when you were with your friends. Just try to translate.

Don't give this guy so much power. It sounds like the men you're with, you're just giving them a lot of power that they could break your heart. So you're not showing them the right view. It sounds like you've got a great personality and I'm sure that when you open up you are just a gem. You want guys to see that part of you. I have a friend who goes to the same things, and it really, she was the same way.

She for years dated men, and she was so nervous that she actually would bring me on dates with her because she couldn't talk. What? She was terrified. She was like, and she was the most lively, hilarious friend that I have, but she was like, just come with us, show up at the date, and I would show up on the date,

and be like, oh my God, did you know that, I'll call her Beth? Yeah. That hurt Beth? Yeah. That hurt, no. Did you know that Beth was, used to be, have a, you know, an amazing company where she did whatever. I would just be selling her because she couldn't do it herself.

But the more she dated and the more she practiced and the more she got her confidence up, she was, she doesn't need me anymore. But I think at first she had all this like preconceived notions about how she, you know, that it meant so much. And I think if you could just kind of change your mindset. And there's also like little warm up exercises you can do before a date. Like, it sounds kind of silly, but like positive reinforcement. Like make a list of things you want to talk about or stories that you want

to tell and just sit and be like, I'm looking the mirror and just be like, I'm a friggin rock star and I'm going to rock this date and I'm awesome and I've all these great friends and I know how to communicate and I'm not gonna let this guy intimidate me. I like that idea. Yeah, I would also recommend like do your best do your very best not to be clingy right away. Yeah this scares guys off. Right. How soon is I'm gonna pull a menace to Emily How soon how soon when to win is someone clingy? I'm If you are not in committed relationship and you are constantly

Contacting them then you're clinging let the guy contact you Yeah, but what she's saying is it's like her mind and her heart are disconnected because she She gets very attached, but she's still not opening up so the guys are like why are you I dated guy this recently he was like so into me and said he wanted to commit not recently but whatever it all feels recent maybe was a year and he kept saying like let's get closer let's commit and I'm like you have an opened up at all you haven't shown any of yourself so it's like she might be doing this weird like I'm really attached to you and they're like you haven't open up to me and show me who

you are so I would just yeah yeah, don't get clingy. Never get clingy. Relax. Deep breaths. We all forget to breathe. Do you ever forget to breathe? It's so important. I mean, we naturally breathe,

but sometimes you just have to like take 10 deep breaths before a date, before you get nervous. Yeah, I haven't done that. You don't breathe. No, I should not. You don't have issues with breathing, do you? No. Okay, we have another email

Ready oh, I was I was just watching a movie actually over the weekend. It was good luck Chuck with who else? some comedian and Jessica Alba and He he was afraid that she was gonna dump him so then he just started going to the extreme where he was just sending flowers all the time, showing up with, you know, those guys that singing telegrams and dressed up because she worked at a aquatic park, so he was dressing up like a penguin and he was always around and then he just scared her off. Yeah.

I know because he was so afraid of losing her. It's not the game of desperate. It's his movie. It's just a dialogue. But people do act like that. I know. They get really good. It's dangerous, by the way, who is the best?

And sometimes it works, but it usually doesn't. I think everyone just needs to relax and keep calm when you're falling in love or falling in love or whatever. Just keep calm and carry on. Carry on, operate your normal activities. What's that saying? Resume the normally scheduled programming. I don't know if they say that scheduled programming. Another day to end television.

We're going to go back to our regularly scheduled program and if you go back to your regularly scheduled behavior and don't become obsessive and clingy, prematurely, or ever. No. OK. Emily Mess, love the show. Obviously. I know it's obvious, but I love it.

Started listening on episode 200, but I've done my best to go back and catch up. I wanted to write a letter regarding a letter and a letter from a woman who wants her long distance, I believe, boyfriend to perform oral sex on her longer and to completion. Personally, I love performing oral sex on a woman, so I thought I could provide some help to a woman from a man's perspective. Okay. First, provide verbal feedback.

Not necessarily explicit instructions, though those work too, but mones and groans when he's hitting the right spots. Just keep up the communication. It's super sexy. Second, don't just lay there. Run your fingers through his hair or grip onto his shoulders. Squeeze tighter when something feels good. This makes it a much more mutual experience,

even if you're touching his non-arrogatives. Try 69ing too. You'll enjoy performing on him and him more in vice versa. Cheers, Justin from New Jersey. Thanks, Justin. 69. You know, we haven't talked about this in a while. Okay, let's talk about it because I've got serious,

I've got really big feelings about 69. Really? What are your feelings? Okay, so 69 position is everyone know what that is when you're six, when you're, how do you explain it when the man, it could be the man or the woman on top at your reverse. So you're about both of your mouths are on each other's genitalia and you're forming like a six and a nine. Here's my issue. My personal issue with 69, I people who love 69, my issue is that it's confusing. There's too much to do because I'm receiving pleasure,

but then I'm supposed to be giving pleasure. So I'm giving pleasure, but then I can't focus on the pleasure that I'm receiving. And it's like my ADD kicks in and I'm like so confused about where to be putting my attention. Because if I'm performing all of a sex, like I want it to be rock star killer, like I don't want to just let it go. So I'm focusing on like, focusing on performing really well, but then the man's also performing me. And I can't, I just don't love 69. I have to say I just, it sounds like I'm 69. Yeah, anti-69.

I'm kind of anti-69, but people love it. So don't listen to me. Some people can break apart that they don't have that problem. But I'd rather perform, have oral sex performed on me, and then I'll perform on someone else, but at the same time, it's just too much going on. It's like eating and playing piano or something at the same time.

It's too much. I just want one. How do you get that, it's amazing. It's like kind of like patting your head and rubbing your stomach. That's what I mean. I can't even do that. I don't think.

But do you like 69? I will break the news here. I don't think I have ever attempted or done 69 That's not a shock to me. No, I'm just because I was aunt. I just I know you just never did it It's never did it. It's not that and everything else No, I'm sure everything that involves the 69 just not in the right right. Yeah, it's kind of a bomber position It bums me out and like really like I don't like when guys are like let's do that

But it's been a while. I don't think that's happened a while, but whenever it doesn't, like, oh, bummer. Well, feedback at sexathomely.com is the 69 position overhyped. Exactly. Oh, that should be my poll. We have polls on the site. No, we have a poll every day. Oh, you have a poll every day now.

Yeah, that's cool. We've got so much stuff going on inside, but I can't even express to you guys that how much is going on on the new website. It's crazy and it's amazing and it's exciting. Like today I had yesterday I was working on weekend right. Okay, we can't forget that. So what's, we'll tell in turn to put that up right away. Which is 69. Yeah, we could do that. We remember that. Overhyped. In turn. Kelsey. We can call her by the name, right? Kelsey, yeah. Hi, Kelsey. Sorry, Kelsey. Can't see, sorry, Kelsey. If you don't want your name expressed that you're on the show, but I've got the best interns ever, by the way. Okay. Let's get into some sex

tips. All right. I've got what guys really want and what they're afraid to tell you. I've got what guys really want and what they're afraid to tell you. All right, please tell me it was guy, written by guys and surveyed by guys. It's written by a woman, but she might have, she's surveyed men. Oh, God. Okay. Have a woman tell me what guys want. Okay, ready?

Yes. Stop. They want to, and I want to see whatever one thinks about this. It's not for me. This is from something that I found. And I think some of it makes sense. They want a girl who will masturbate in front of him. I don't care about that.

Some women feel that it's a guy's job to make her feel good. Most guys don't have any problem providing their partner with a mind-blowing orgasm. However, sometimes they wish that a girl would take charge of her own sexual pleasure. Ladies, it requires at least a little effort on your part to get yourself in the mood. So why not take a little further? So a lot of guys,

okay, most, would love to watch their girls masturbate, especially if she has no idea he was there watching. What is so hot about this is that during female masturbation, he gets to watch you touch yourself exactly how you like to be touched. There's no guessing if it's the right thing or if it feels good, he gets to see her hand, what really turns around and set that home mutual masturbation thing. And it is the last day of Mesturbation Month. Cause May was a masturbation month. You're sad. So they want to grow a masturbate. You disagree. Yeah, I don't care. But would you have if a woman was like, I'm going to turn

myself on right now, masturbate, you wouldn't kick right here. But I'll say go for it. Right. That's cool. When you be turned on. I don't know. What do you mean you be turned on. I don't know. What do you mean you don't know? I don't know. If a woman started touching herself and for, okay, you don't know. Unless she was touching you and- Unless she was touching you and-

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We talked about mirrors in sex the other day. Guys are visual creatures that's pretty much a given. A lot of men are enjoying watching porn for that specific reason, but does that mean that they're enjoying watching the other women because they're hotter than you are? Or because they turn them on more than you? Absolutely not. In fact, your guy will probably give his ITs enjoying watching the other women because they're hotter than you are or because they turn them on more than you?

Absolutely not. In fact, your guy will probably give his ITs to actually watch you and him getting it on. Filming a naughty video together is also great fun, but there's always the risk that it'll get out, especially if you and your man don't work it on the end. So a great way to do it is to get a mirror in your bedroom and just to put like get one of those big mirrors and watch yourself, it's super hot to do. And someone that like might not want to watch,

but when you get into it and you do it, it's pretty hot. Have you done that, right? Yeah, I had a mirror in my old place. You got to get some mirror in a new place. I know. The mirrors are fun. Especially in hotel rooms, they always have mirrors.

They always have great mirrors or some hotels. The hotels I set up. Okay, they want a girl who's not afraid to get dirty. Let's face it, guys don't want to get it on with a prude. If you're into the missionary position, he's probably not going to be that into you. If you're only into the missionary position. Almost every guy wants to get busy with a girl who isn't afraid to bring on the kink, try a little light bondage to get started, and then move into something a little nautier.

With your indulging a secret sex fetish or coming up and wearing nothing but tall, black stilettos and a rhinestone necklace he's gonna love that you're showing off your naughty girl side do you want a girl that's naughty and bad of course who doesn't really yeah that's kind of obvious but I want to ask something that it it's not to me it grows that won't do certain things it's just a girls out there a feedback with sex and only dot com uh... if we're in a couple girls that don't like to get on top i I don't know why. They'll do everything, they'll do every other position, known to man, but getting on top

before they do. I'll tell you the number, I'll tell you what the first thing that can't imagine is. They have awesome bodies, by the way. Okay. So there's no body issues there. It doesn't matter. Okay. It doesn't matter.

They don't think they have awesome bodies. I'm telling you the number one reason why women and feed back its eggs are only, you don't, at dot com, I think that a lot of women have body issues and they just don't like their, them being full on, like you can look at her and all our glory. Like, even if they have awesome bodies, they might not think they have awesome bodies. I can't imagine any other reason why women,

you know, maybe they don't wanna be in control and you know when women's on top, she's in control and maybe they just, or maybe a lot of women orgasm on the bottom and they can't orgasm on top But you still think that they'd want to be on top just because it's fun to switch it around and I they say a lot of women What I've read and what I've heard is that it's because they have body image issues So just because you think their body's hot doesn't mean that they don't feel like they've got some weird scar that you probably can't even see Yeah, has this happened to a lot or just with one one? Oh, no couple women Do you think their bodies had, doesn't mean that they don't feel like they've got some weird scar that you probably can't even see? Yeah. Has this happened to a lot or just with one woman? Oh no, a couple women.

But you know what? It's gonna be fun when we have a phone line in here because I can probably call them and like, you won't have to say her name and tell me why. And they'll probably say, you can call the girl you slept with and ask her why she went to. Yeah, I'm cool with everybody. So much. Yeah, so let's do it.

I can call them. Okay. Men want to be about it. Really want really that be awesome. Don't make those promises. You can't keep them. No, I swear. Dude, we're doing it. Okay. We're calling every girl months is up with my piano. They want a girl to take control. I hear this a lot and a lot of studies that men complain that women do not make the first move. They don't take control in the bedroom. I do think that there's the social mores of, of, of, just were used to the man.

He's, he's taken charge, but just every once in a while women just, you start. Yeah. Take control. Take that. Take it. Don't want to do what you want to do. That's my favorite. Bondage, time up, whatever.

Well, menistly, wouldn't want to be tied up. He's afraid you're going to leave him there. And you're going to rob me and the place that's going to catch on fire. OK. They want a girl who will perform all sex on him and like it. Yeah. Sure, most girls will give a guy perform all sex, but some won't.

The true gen, however, is the girl who loves it, who actually loves it. They're probably the number one spot on the list of sex acts that guys can't live without. Think about this. How enjoyable it is when a guy goes down on you that it's like, and if he feels like it's a chore and he doesn't want to be down there, we don't want that. And that's why women, I think a lot of times don't like receiving oral sexes because

they think the guy is just doing it and he's not into it. So flip side, same for women. If you don't, I know I did this pull once of men. I should bring out this study again. It's an oral sex pull of like what men really want. And like the number one thing was enthusiasm. I want to know that she's into it. I want to see her like, like, it's like a popsicle. So then, okay, men want rough sex. Yes. Every guy wants to pound a girl into an orgasmic frenzy, but very few men will actually tell their partners that. They usually, because these afraid is going to hurt her.

You enjoy rough sex. Don't be shy about it with your lover. Next time you have sex with your man, assume the doggy's television and tell that you want it fast and you want it hard. He'll happily oblige. But some of these rough sex can be very unsafe. So take precautions first. Decide the safe word.

Blah, blah, blah. But I don't know. Everyone wants rough sex. I think every person wants everything sometimes in variety. It's not rough sex all the time. And someone might never want it. But I'm think to mix it up, rough sex. Yeah.

Kind of fun. I know what you said that you like it. Got to slow it down. Yes, you've just slowed down, but sometimes you need to rough it up. I want to be thrown against the wall sometimes. Like throw me in the wall. Like, they're at my clothes off. me as a wall throw me in the bed. Hot don't hurt me. Yeah. But it's hot sometimes. I think men and women like that. And then finally,

they want to grill who is confidence. Confidence is sexy. Unfortunately, lots of women, no matter how hot or how beautiful they are, aka the women that you're sleeping with, they don't like the missionary position menace. They are insecure about themselves and the way they look and have low self esteem. However, what your guy sees when he looks at you, especially when he looks up at you naked, is not the same as what you see in the mirror. Like grow a volume of securities and inhibitions

and look at yourself the way you partner. Easier said than done, but confidence women, if you can just fake it to you, make it. I know that we don't, we're not all blessed with confidence and it takes a long time and I get insecure all the time We all do, but if you can in the bedroom just Celebrate your body get your mind off of always gonna look at my left boobs bigger than my right Boo women have so many weird things. They're like oh, he's gonna notice that my nipple go like I have friends My nipple protrudes out and like a half an in they're not paying attention to the don't have rulers out measuring your nipples

So whatever it is you're concerned about, just try to be confident and get into the moment. And that's what I got to say. Just tell her, some girls that are insecure are overly confident too. True. I mean, those leading. What, they come off like they're super confident,

but really they're like shrinking violets. Yeah. That can be happening. That's good to look out for. So those are some tips. Anyway, send me your sex tips too. If you've got any ideas or topics you want here on the show, we love hearing from you. We've got five days a week.

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