Sex With Emily - SWE: Sex Drive

Episode Date: October 14, 2012

Emily's back in sex school getting her doctorate, learning about gigantic sex machines and how the penis evolved. After school gets out, Emily goes on the Jeff Probst show to give sex advice and answer some hard questions from the audience. One lady wants to know what do you do when your guy won't go down on you. Several husbands want to know how to get their wives to have sex with them. If your not getting any with your significant other, it might be time to play Emily's Sex Drive, her new iPhone application for couples. Emily will send you an envelope everyday with a sexual assignment (she's not the only one getting schooled in sex). Emily and Menace take the Sex Drive pledge and pretend to fulfill their sexual tasks, from going to a sex shop to dirty talk. Emily gives advice for how to mixup your sex life whether you like good ol' fashion vanilla sex or something a bit spicier. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betrubized they call them a lie Hey, Emily you got a boyfriend because my man E here He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand Oh my the women know about shrinkage. Is it a common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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I'm sorry, so many people try to add me on path, but you can only have 150 friends on path. I don't know what that is. I didn't want to get it. A lot of people do. That's on technology with them. Yeah. Here's one they do.

You do know is Pinterest, and I'm on there, but I haven't really used it that much. I'm on Pinterest too, and I don't get it yet. I haven't even looked at it, but I get a million followers, but I haven't done it yet. Pinterest. It's like the biggest thing ever now. They say they have more traffic than Facebook I read. Yeah, I don't know about that. I don't get really post things. I don't get, whatever, whatever, whatever people do that should, people do it. But they have a lot of signups.

It's the whole new thing. Yeah, I mean a lot of actually females are really into it. Yeah, but I don't get where you get the pictures that you post on Pinterest. Like, where do you, people get those neat, gives you a screen grab and then you... No, no, no. You can copy the URL for the photograph and then you can just, you can just post it. Oh, got it. Okay. You right click, you look at the source, you copy the source and then you put it in there. Oh, you come over and show me that. Yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. You can be on Pinterest all day. I am. I love it.

Okay, so today's show, we are talking about libido, mixed match libido. This is one of the top questions I get asked. Like, I want more sex than my partner. She wants more sex than me. He wants more sex than her. And what do you do about it? And what does that really mean, libido? We've got the woman named Julie Wilson.

She's the founder of Hot Rocks. I'm going to hold this up to the camera here. Hot rocks. Is this amazing, super food injected Afro-Dijac is what they're calling it. It's the only organic food that pills that you take every day and they help your sexual performance, your overall viatality, your energy, your mood,

libido, it's like an antidepressant, a libido enhancer, energy enhancer, all mixed in one. And they just send us these samples today and I'm so ready to try it. It sounds amazing. I've heard great reviews of Hot Rocks. It's spelled HOT R-A-R-K-S R-A-W-K-S and it's by Raw Nation. So anyway, we're going to talk to her later and that's what I showed you about today. We're going to be reading your emails that you sent to feedback at sexwithemily.com and a lot of you just emailed me through the website. We've got some good topics and good things going on.

And yeah, that's how I'm feeling. And I got lots of energy to do because I've sort of upped my coffee intake. Really? I don't know. My coffee shop I love, I go to the gym in the morning so that I get the coffee at 7, but by 10, 9, 30, I need more coffee. Is that gluten free? Coffee is gluten free. Oh, okay. Yeah, so I feel

really good and I've got a lot to energy right now. Can you tell? And I brought you condoms and you didn't seem happy. No, I just didn't. It took you three months to bring them. I forgot, but lifestyles condoms are awesome. They sent us a whole bunch of them and I brought Manus a big handful today because I hope that that will incentivize you to get laid so you have better stories to share. And you probably are getting laid and just not sharing it, and I don't appreciate that. What about you?

I'm gonna lay you last sexual encounter. Ah, it's been a while. No, it's been a while. I don't wanna attack me. I just wanna know more about you. So yesterday's show was interesting. Our friend talked about, he was on the show when he talked about the other day

This is actually Wednesday show but but right now what Monday he talked about Dating online and my friend I was with her last night. She met a guy in match calm. She's single She met him. They had one date and they went away to Whistler skiing up in where is Whistler like in Canada? No, I think it's a it's a Tahoe area. Yeah, okay. Yeah, they went for four days, had an amazing, she met him on a, she's after one date, she went on a trip.

Why a date? I was at her house last night. She went on, has had like an amazing five day vacation with him, had sex, the whole thing, really like some on match. Man, he went the extra mile just to get laid. I don't know, whatever, but he got laid and he's into her and she really likes them. So I've had a lot of friends of my people on match

all over, so I'm telling you, online dating is a way to go. It's like, don't feel weird about it. Don't feel there's a stigma. Yeah, no, we just had a dating guy here yesterday. Right, yesterday, right, exactly. So I'm just saying, like, then last night, my friend was telling me this amazing story

because she hasn't dated for a while. She's hot. I know all women say their friends are hot, but she really is and she wasn't finding guys. She's a little bit older and she's just like found a guy and he's awesome. And I love those stories, like, easy online. She wouldn't have met him any other way.

When are we gonna get you online? I don't know. We've been saying it for like two years now. Tomorrow I'll do it. I promise. And then also, if you are interested at all in any sexual product, sex toys, if you want to buy anything, sexually related whips, chains, vibrators, loobs, go to goodvibes.com. That's goodvibes.com and you put in coupon code gvmly15 and you get 15% off anything

from good vibes and they're a local company and we love supporting them. That's what I got. What happened with you yesterday? Yesterday was, I went to my friends house for cocktails and she regaled me in all her stories of her match dating. I loved, well, I had heard through a mutual friend

that my friend had found a guy and I wanted to hear all the stories about it and they'd like great sex and great sexual chemistry and she's like it's weird though because it's only been two weeks but it feels like they're in a relationship now because you go on vacation on date date number two which I did that one so the guy went to Mexico on our second date and I ended up dating him for two years. Maybe it's not a bad thing. If anything you force things to the forefront you're like either A I can travel with them

or B I can't dump them. Yeah, I It's gonna be a whirlwind situation. Yeah, yeah, so she's in don't what's up with you yesterday since I've seen you last I Received a new MacBook Pro very yeah, I finally got it. Can you please edit our candy Burgess video from real house wise with land? It's got a yesterday get off my back yesterday afternoon Love it. I love it. I love it. Do you want to marry it? I want to marry it, but god damn video from real house wise with land. Just got a yesterday, get off my back. Yesterday afternoon after the show. Do you love it? I love it. Do you want to marry it?

I want to marry it, but God damn am I, Scrooves, because I haven't been, you know, using updated software. Holy crap, they totally changed Final Cut Pro. Like, totally, like, none of it's the same from before. Really? Why would they do that? I don't know. And then yesterday we had an artist come by. His name was Chris Renee.

He was on the X Factor. He was like the runner up. Right. Very popular. And so I shot all this video of him and then I put it into the Final Cut Pro. And I'm like, what do I do? Like there's so many things have changed.

Why would they do that? Because then it's so hard to get a But I'm sure you you can figure it out. Yeah, I just started figuring out this morning But it's still a still long road like learning how to use things again They did make some upgrades are pretty amazing. Oh, that's cool There must be like message boards and stuff Now I gotta go through classes, but there was great about Apple is in their stores They let you go there and

They'll take free classes. I know I always mean to do that. I think I'm gonna do that for Final Cut Pro Wow, good good for you, Menace. Yeah continued learning and I need to My job that's true. That's true, but still I appreciate it. We all appreciate it And I want to get my videos done. Not that it's about me at all. Never. It's never about you. No. Well, maybe a little bit. Anything else? Because I'm going to move on to sex with the news. No, that's about it. That's my whole day. And then I just went home and slept.

So good to see you. So lucky I could stand sit here and stare at your face every day. Thank you so much. Yeah, I mean that. Okay. So some sex in the news. Over the counter, sperm count tests coming to stores next month. So there's a sperm count infertility. It's called sperm count infertility. The company behind the new sperm check at home testing test kit will be rolling its product into stores as early as March in an effort to help men avoid potentially embarrassing chips to the fertility clinic.

For only 40 bucks, Ben can find out their sperm count in only 10 minutes to 98% accuracy. If for whatever, you can't wait a minute longer, CVS and Walgreens are currently selling the kit on their websites. So, men can check their sperm count when they're fertile, when they, you know, want to have sex, when they want to make babies. That's a good time to test it out. So, they got to just test it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, lots of sperm. How do I get more sperm? I just want to be full of no, you don't, you want to get a bunch of women pregnant right now? That's why I brought you condoms today. Yeah, I just want like five, five baby mamas.

Oh my God. I think you could do that. I would, I really. Okay. I don't know how I watch Mori every day because I have a TV right next to the desk. I watch it all the time because I have a TV right next to my desk. Who watches Mori? I watch it all the time because they do the paternity test. Oh, by- It's hilarious. They're like, you are not the baby deity.

Yeah, oh my God. And then they'll have some guys on there that have like seven kids by seven different chicks. Like how do you do that? I don't know, you just have a lot of sex. Yeah, you just have a lot of sex with damn, like. A lot of unprotected sex, like an idiot. Yeah, but then you think damn like,

financially, how do you just give out? You must just not care. You must not like do anything for- I don't know, are you getting thrown in jail or something? Seven kids. Literally seven kids. Yeah, that's, that's, that's tame, what I'm saying. That's not more a poor, more a, more a,

more a povich is making his living now, right? Is doing fraternity tests on television. And like cheating stories and stuff like that. And just like, That's kinda sad, because he started out like doing more news. But so did, So did Jerry Springer,

but that's not what the people want. People just want crazy. Should we start doing that? What, paternity tests? Yeah. I would love to do it. Paternity test Friday or something. Oh my God, that would be amazing. Do they have home paternity tests right now? Do they? Yeah, you can do it. I would love to do it. I would love to do it. I would love to do it. I would love to do it.

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They're like, fine, bring it. I get to have a free trip in hotel room and get, you know, I get to go to New York City wherever he films. Do what all these different things. And then, and then I get to prove on national TV that you're a lion beatch. Right. And then what some of them get caught up because of my life.

That's kind of crazy. It's like a cliffhanger. Yeah. Yeah. I've never seen it, but I know I've read that he's, that's what he does now. Yeah. I would do it. I would do it too.

If I knew, if I knew for a fact that I was not the father of some chick and this chick is going around telling everybody, I would put that bitch on national television and say, Hey, let's, let's do the test right now and then she's a liar. But the guys do that. They think that they're not the dad and then they find out that they are. Yeah, that's awesome. I actually want to come watch that one. You should. It's hilarious. Okay, I'll put it on the list of things. I watched all day. I watched Bethany's episode number two last night of Bethany.

Oh, you did. Me too. Me too. Oh my God. What'd you think? A little annoying? No, why do you say that? I love her. I love her too, but I just think that. Yeah, right? Oh, you did, me too, me too. Oh my God, what'd you think? Little knowing? No, why do you say that? I love her. I love her too, but I just think that. Yeah, right. I do like that. I like her.

I do like that. I do like that. I like her. I like her. I do like that. I do like that. I like her. I do like that.

I like her, but I feel like there's a lot of the same. Like, oh my God, this is the best thing I ever had. This is the best thing I ever had. This is the best thing I ever had. Everything she says, like the best food I ever had. The best day, I don't know. It's just, and then she's. Maybe all that stuff is, maybe that's not Everything she says, like the best food ever had the best day. I don't know. And then she's maybe all that stuff is, maybe that's not what she's saying all the time,

but maybe that's how it's cut together. It's true, you have to worry about editing. I like it. I'm telling you watching television. She talks really fast. Like, once she starts asking questions, she starts asking a lot of questions in a row. And even her husband's like,

I can't get a word on that, so I'm not finishing the story right now. Yeah. Do you feel that way with me? No, because I can... Interject. Interject, yeah. Yeah, we have a good healthy balance, me and you.

But it's fun. I really wanted to see how she'd just start spending money, but she hasn't done anything. Well, yeah, she had an Hermes bag last night, which is a $10,000 bag. The kind of stuff is a check. She came into every episode, she has a different bag. Hermes bags are $10,000. She had one sitting right next to her. If you're going to fall in there, she's a millionaire.

Look at her, Hermes bag. Right, I know. You get one for myself, just so she's spending her money. So that's how she's spending her money. And then they're moving into this amazing new condo, but they're still living in her little place, but they're moving into an amazing new place. Anyway, we're talking about Bethany Ever after, which is unbrawbo. Okay, more sex in the news.

Red is officially the sexiest color, says scientists. So scientists seem to say this well. I know, because red, you think about Valentine's Day and stuff, but University of Rochester, men were asked to look at photos of the same one wearing white and red shirts and ask which one was more interested in sex men. Overall, I only found them in red to be more sexually receptive. Leading researchers to believe that biology must play an important role in our preferences. They cited that the fact that chimpanzees and baboon females turn flush during their fertile periods as evidence for evolutionary reasons that men

look for a devil in a red dress. And did they say anything about redheads? No, but that would be interesting. Yeah, redheads are you don't, I can't remember you I do Redheads I'm gonna get killed for saying this but redheads are either Super attractive or super not attractive. There's like a in-between point or the reason in in-between They're either hot or not. Yeah, there's no in between right. Yeah. Okay. That's interesting But I do love redheads right. I've never did it I took one to my

My junior prom. I think it's hard. It's harder for redhead guys Yeah, yeah, I think they're cute though. They got the fruckles. Yeah, I want to see pictures of you with junior prom We should post those are I'll post my junior prom picture if you post your junior I gotta see which one I like I really would do really big hair. Really? Yeah. I grew up in the suburbs. Yeah. I went to four problems. Yeah.

So I'll find which one's the best. Find the cutest one. I want to see little menace. Will you do that? Ask your mom, do you have them at home or have your mom center? No, they're up in Washington. I'm sure I can find one online.

I talked to the girl that I went to, Gina, problem with all the time on the line. Okay. Have a son or two. Okay. And Irish City flooded by rampant public shagging. What? Parents in the city of Dury are calling on their peers to stop having sex in public parks,

or at least the very least, to pick up the condoms and wrappers that currently littered local playgrounds. Parents appealed to the city council to intervene on the part of the public hygiene and part of public hygiene, but also directly address those involved in park flandering, asking them to think of the children. So apparently, it's just sitting in Ireland that everyone's just shagging in the park more so than other parks. Why don't they just have more cops put you on the park? I don't know, because it's Ireland. They're poor park on chair. I don't know, they care,

but they don't care enough. Yeah, I just have it's like the lowest part here that used to be just drug and festive. And not everyone's all the hipsters are partying there on the weekend. Oh my god. I was driving by there not too long ago and there's full on naked guys there. Oh yeah, naked, everything. San Francisco is people are naked all the time. Did you ever this through about that naked woman that two and a half of you had naked women who smashed in the car of her woman?

No. There was a woman in San Francisco. I just heard this the dog park last night without my dog park friends. I went and I might get this wrong because I didn't read the story, but there's 250 pound woman was naked, and she climbed, she was in traffic naked. In San Francisco, climbed on the windshield of her partner's car and smashed it in.

She was like naked and smashed it in, and he's not pressing charges because he's like, well, we just had a fight or something. And then she got on the bus naked. You know what I'm here about this? I thought you would've heard about this because you're like, I have not. That's just our little local sex in the news about naked people. You know, you've seen a lot of naked people around here.

Yeah, but barely every any naked women, it's always naked guy. Now that she was too hard to figure naked. I know, I know, but I didn't. I always see naked guys here all the time. I know. You're like, oh, there's only a naked guy. Pass the salt. Like we don't care. Yeah. Right. right okay ashton kutcher is hot for Halle Halle Berry the National Enquire is reported that ashton kutcher is extending his kugger streak to Halle Berry 11 years older his 11 years his

senior the two of known each other since 2003 and according sources ashton kutcher had a crush on her during his relationship with Demi Moore. Standing in the way of Kutcher and his berries, current boyfriend, French actor Oliver Martinez, still sources say his big ego will probably keep her singer. It was in the National Enquirer. Oh yeah. Well, I don't know, they're pretty good though. I know, my friend used to tell me,

he's like, the National Enquirer, actually everything you read there is, there's some partial truths. Like it's not all made up lies. It's like, you could find a kernel of truth in it. Well, probably true that he might have had a crush on her like he probably said, oh, but I don't know that he's like pursuing her.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. But that's the bummer for Port Demi. I think she's still in rehab because we haven't heard anything much about it. I haven't heard anything about her. Nothing, I feel bad. Okay, got some emails unless you have any news to add that you've read about, heard about

and your TMZ rants or anything, your pages. Nothing big lately. Okay. No. Got it. I know, sad. I know you've got something. Okay.

I know you've got something. Okay, here's some emails. Everyone, thanks for emailing us at feedback at sexwithmwe.com. We love hearing from the people, so thanks. And if you're friends with benefits, remember, your emails go right to the top. Handly, met a good boy who has a lot of going for himself. A good boy, she put in quotes. He's very financially stable.

He's a homeowner, great career, attractive, no drama, great kisser. But on the downside, he's shorter than I would like. He's 5A and I'm 5.5. His penis size is kind of on the short side. And the sex is just okay. And because of this, I keep comparing him to my acts who is a bad boy, not financially stable, has roommates, not a stable career, and baby mama drama. Buddy, six, three, passionate, and the sex is mind blowing.

Any woman would have loved to be with a good boy, but I'm worried that he won't be able to please me, and I will only stay with him because he's good on paper. Any thoughts, Michelle? Okay, Michelle, good on paper. I spent a lot of time in my life dating good on paper. Any thoughts, Michelle? Okay, Michelle, good on paper. I spent a lot of time in my life dating good on paper, good on paper. This guy's not doing it for you. It sounds to me like, not great sex, not a great kiss

or but there's no drama. You can find something, there are other good boys out there. I'm glad you left the bad boy. But just because this guy is your first good guy, doesn't mean that he's the one that you should be with. I, you have to sometimes allow the good on guy, doesn't mean that he's the one that you should be with. You have to sometimes let a lot of good on paper, doesn't mean anything. Good on paper does not get your loins going. So it sounds like he's not doing that for you.

And I don't think that you should feel bad. Like there aren't any more good guys out there just because we tend to heal our past relationships and our current relationships. So it sounds like you're trying to get over the bad boy drama of your past. And since you met a good guy You're clinging on to him thinking okay This is this is this and talking yourself into it talking yourself into somebody won't work and if the sex isn't working I'm not saying you can't work on it because maybe you can communicate with him more and try to work on that

But if it doesn't get better don't feel bad about dumping the good on paper guy. I've done it before I'll do it again Yeah, there's a lot of good guys. A lot of good guys. They're the same way, too, though. They're like, they're good on paper, but just kind of boring to be around. Exactly. I actually have a postcard on my refrigerator that my friend sent me and it says, why can't he's good on paper? Why can't I be with him? He's good on paper. And it's true that good on paper thing is something that I struggled with a lot. There was

a lot of good guys that I had to let go just because they were going to paper. It doesn't mean the right. And she says, there's the butt. She's got the big butt. But on the downside, and then she goes out of that. So I'd say he's not right for you. Michelle. So that's my theory on that. But I should say you should stay away from the bad boys and keep going towards the good boys, and you will find the right good boy soon enough. Okay, hi Emily. Love the show and I'm a friend with benefits member from New Zealand. Question, I've been with the guy for seven months. I'm 37. He is 42. He was married a long time in his kids. I have done neither. We got together or both staying with relatives due to sports injuries. I recently moved to his city. I've been staying with him for three weeks till I move into my new place and we both

said we didn't want to move in together. Having said that, it's been exclusive from the start and we share a lot of interest in grade sex, but he doesn't want to sleep with me as in sharing a bed. For ages, there was always an excuse. The kids are always really tired or trouble relating to his back energy. I think that intimacy from going to bed together is important. He is not by nature and affectionate person, but he is lovely during sex and is lovely person. He does not think this is a problem, but I do. I hate how I feel rejected, basically. What do you think? I wonder if this is a sign. I have told him this lack of affection is a deal breaker for me. Should this be a deal breaker? This is from Louise from Auckland New Zealand.

She's a premium friends with benefits member, which is why we're answering her email right away. She's been with them seven months, and so basically he doesn't want to sleep in the same bed as what she's saying. And we actually had a study yesterday as sex in the news story that talked about how one in 10 couples actually don't share beds together

and it says it improves their sex life. So I'm wondering if it can improve your sex life, but you're also saying that there's a lack of affection. And for me, that's a deal breaker. If a guy is not a affectionate, with me, I need that. Like I'm a touchy-feely person and I know a lot of women are. And you're saying that there's an excuse.

There's always these excuses. And if you feel like you're a woman who wants to live with someone and share a bed, that could be a big deal breaker. From, you know, I understand that. I totally understand that. Yeah, I wouldn't agree to that situation. You wouldn't, yeah.

She says she feels rejected. So I would say, I would have more, I wouldn't say you need to dump them yet, but I would say have more communication about it because it's for three weeks. I'm trying to see what you said. You said that you haven't been, you're having great sex, but he doesn't want to sleep with you and share a bad. Yeah, that could be a total deal breaker.

My favorite thing, sometimes more than sex, is cuddling when you fall asleep and when you wake up in the morning. Men, this isn't a big codler, you said, right? No. But I love that. You get tired and sticky. Yeah, there's codlers and there's non-cudlers to me. I like cuddling, but just not for hours. Right, so you roll to your other sides of the bed.

I like, let's cuddle for like five minutes after. Yeah, five minutes. Five minutes. You said you're watching and then you kick her off you. Yeah, then it is my iPhone starts going, uh, uh, uh, uh, uh, and then that's the time that you roll over and I roll over the other way and we don't face each other Right, and then I'm in total bliss, right, but you don't you want us to share a bed?

I do want to share a bed It's a really nice sharing a bed and so I just think that that could be a major deal breaker But you need to have more talk about it. Maybe he'll come around Because what about if I get a boner? I don't want to walk all the way down the hall Because what about if I get a boner? I don't want to walk all the way down the hall Exactly I have to walk all the way down the hall and then wake you up and say hey When I can just like you know flipping flip it over and stick it in her back or something Yeah, stick it in and then stick the boner in her back and then be like hey, I'm awake

But I would that would talk to him more and It could be a deal breaker. I'm not sure yet, but I would have more conversations Okay, we are gonna to move into our topic. And the topic is? The topic is libido. We're talking all about libidos, which is a Latin word for lust and desire, but in today's world it is many more meetings with biological, social and psychological components. Yeah, it's for 40-40-ins considered the unconscious need to become united with objects in the

physical world. So for aid, it is always talking about sex. And everyone else considers libido their sex drive, which can be affected by various factors. So there are factors that affect your libido. So libido is a huge issue for couples because a lot of times he wants more sex, she wants more sex, that he does. So a lot of times the things that can affect your libido are your relationship. You might have unresolved conflicts,

there might have been infidelity, there might be poor communication. Any of these can affect libido. It could be psychological. It could come from past traumas, it could come from stress. A lot of times I know more so than women when men are stressed out, they don't want to have sex.

When they're worried about their career, they lost their job, they don't have it, whatever. They worry about that. Intimacy problems. Body images, body image issues are huge for women and men, but more so for women, it seems, at least that's what we hear. You feel your fat, you don't want the light on, whatever it is, that could have a problem with your libido. You might have extreme anxiety. Pornography or sex addiction could also affect your libido. It could be physical, obesity, and then aging, just as men and women get older, their sex drives take a dive.

And we're gonna talk about in today's show what you can do to enhance your libido. There are things you can do to enhance it. Another thing I'm just gonna talk about factors that can impact it, and then we're gonna call our special guest, Julie Wilson, who sent me these amazing drugs that are apparently going to make my libido skyrocket. I just got it today in the mail.

Don't know yet. It's going to take it. Lifestyle. Working long hours, drug abuse and alcoholism. Drugs and alcohol have a huge impact on your libido. And if you don't have a lot of sleep, last loop,, a lot of sleep. Last, I have all these factors. I know, honey, that's why you've known the beat out. Medications, there's many prescription medications.

The biggest bummer is antidepressants. Because antidepressants, blood pressure medications can hamper arousal and ability to achieve orgasm. So that's a freaking long list of things. Menace, if you punched list that, he's got all those. And so those are all problems for menace, and for a lot of people, I mean a lot of you are in a presence, blood pressure medication,

like those are two of the most common medications people take, it's gonna affect your abito. Let's talk to an expert in libido. Let's call Julie Wilson. She's from HotRox, which is from RonNation, it's hotrocks.com. It's R-A-W-K-S. And she makes this amazing product, and she just sends it to me.

It's the only organic one out there. And it's called Hot Rock. It's a super food-injected Afro-DG-Ack. And the way she talked to me about this, I seriously want to pound this entire bottle right now because it's going to change my life. I want to pound it. I kind of want to pound it. I kinda wanna pound it. Pound it baby, pound it. It's color to you how it works. Hello. Hi. Hi Julie.

Hi, how are you? Great, how are you? This is Emily and Menace. Wonderful, thank you guys for calling. How's it going? It's going really well. We're so excited because we just received our hot rocks today. It's in my hand.

Cheers. So excited. I just said I want to pound the whole bottle. I seriously am so excited. I know I can only take two to four a day, but seriously, it sounds amazing. So talk to me a little bit about hot rocks, and then we can, I just did a whole thing about libido and things that can impact your libido. But um, so like, well, you know, wait, before we get into hot rocks, because I just did a little pitch about that, why do you think people lose interest in sex or don't feel sexual anymore? What is your impact? What do you think?

What do you see the most out there? Well, Emily, I think there's a variety of factors that affect it. And obviously, we're exposed to pollution and chemicals and a lot more toxins than we ever have before in history have since we've been created. People have so many external influences on their health now, but even if you're really healthy, sometimes it's hard to avoid being exposed to this type of things, especially pesticides. One big thing that I've learned since

denying about pesticides in the role they play is the first thing that they do is they attack the reproductive system of animals and human beings. So think about it. I mean, most everything we put in our bodies now has some sort of pesticides on it. So there's fertility is going down, um, libido and sexual desires diminishing.

This plays a big role in it, but you know what, also stress. Stress, huge killer, huge killer of libido, especially for men, I say like when men don't have a job or they're feeling insecure about work, like they don't want to sex. Exactly, exactly. And women, of course. But women too, women are working now job where they're feeling insecure about work like they don't want to sex exactly and women and course but when and to win and are working now and and taking care of the family

and there's so much uh... stress involved in where we're on the go constantly and with with the with all of these extra factors play in a roll and it's only it's only matter time of time before even younger and younger people on scene coming to me telling me about the minutes will be done well

because yeah usually it starts happen also when you get older but you know thinking like an eighteen-year-old you know man women just a hormones are going crazy but but yeah there's all these there's all these factors so what do you think are what about what are the biggest challenges and fears about sex you think with people? What do you think are, what do you tell people to do when their partner wants more sex or less sex than they do?

What do you tell people? Like when they have a mismatch libido? Well, you know, the first thing I tell them, you know, and because we do have product hot rocks, which is built, HOK, are AWKS. And it is a supplement. It is an herbal supplement that helps many women both. But I don't like to just tell people to take a supplement. Right.

Because there is a lot more involved in that. My company, Raw Nation, we promote lifestyle changes. And I think I mentioned to you before the importance of having a program in your life that captures everything not just a magic pill. So cleaning up your diets, I tell people to make sure they're getting enough exercise, you know, four to five days a week at least. It doesn't have to be, they don't have to be training for a marathon, but as long as they break its wet, does that also help alleviate some of the stress? Right, for sure.

So, you know, it's all right to help people, and an organic diet, like it's very important to, I mean, trying to clean up those pesticides. And a lot of people's hormones are way out of whack. So taking something like hot rocks can really help balance the testosterone and the hormone levels back naturally within the body and while not adding anything harmful or synthetic. Right. I mean, it's all organic, right?

Exactly. I mean, there's like no downside to this, right? I mean, it increases your overall vitality and you were saying it can be kind of replaced and it helps with people like our feeling depression right not only sexual performance exactly the beauty of our rock says it's safe for everyone because it is uh... completely all natural and it's the only certified organic

libido um... herbal enhancement product on the market so there is nothing else like it right now you know our lots of the enhancement pills but this is for women to which also makes it i love that it's for men and women they could share a bottle yeah they can share with the partner um... you know they can go ahead and help that one felt hormones together and it's it's completely safe

and uh... and uh... harmless and almost anyone obviously always have to check with your doctor there's any crazy issues i mean even irz can uh... you always have to to watch but the most part just about anyone can enjoy the benefits of our that's amazing can it now does it impact uh... does it have an effect if you're taking other medications like a lot of people are blood pressure medication or antidepressants which can

actually impact your your libido. Can you mix this with that? Can you mix hot rocks? That's another great thing is, it's safe to take in conjunction with other myths. Once again, if you're on a psychopedia of Medicaid, it never can hurt to check with your doctor first, but this doesn't have any harmful stimulants

or anything that's going to have averse reaction to other products. And there's actually some herbs in there that can help lower blood pressure, it can help alleviate stress, it's got antioxidants, and so like you mentioned before, it's helpful in other areas than just libido be focusing on energy and mood and overall regulators. I love that.

I know. We were so excited. I think there was like an screen in our office when we got them. We were so excited to get all the samples because we're all going to start taking them. So what are some of the stories? Can you tell us like some stories of people taking hot rocks and then how it changed and like like how you know any success. For women for instance I mean one of the main things is they cannot believe how much more lubrication they have.

Wow. I mean it's intense lubrication which is a problem a lot of times with people. It helps balance the cycle. It's good for child bearing years and menopause because the balance is your hormone, so it kind of keeps everything going. It alleviates hot flashes and older women. Wow. And yeah, it's just like I said, a regulator helps enhance mood and focus and kind of gives you that youthful energy that we all crave. I mean, you know, you get older in your stress and you're taking energy pills or energy drinks

and you have that crash. You don't get that in a hot rock. It's kind of a sustained, youthful energy. And with men, they're experiencing, you know, stronger erection, increased sexual fluids. I hope the circulation, blood flow, it increases stamina. Wow, it's like everything.

And without all those side effects, there's nasty headaches and flushed face and all that stuff. You're not going to get that without rocks. I know, I love this. It's like the natural, it's like an alternative everything. It's the answer to everything. Do you ever watch the television show, The Doctors? I do.

Everyone tells me I need to contact them. I just need to. You should. Yeah, I was actually just, before the show today, I was watching a segment. They were breaking out all the crazy stuff that's in food and then how it affects how affects your body. What were they saying? What food?

They were just breaking down meat and like all this crazy different stuff. And just by coincidence, earlier that morning, my assistant put on my blog like 10 different things that are in your food that you don't know that's just insane. Like they were like bleaching meat. Yeah. Oh my god, absolutely. Yeah. They do all, I mean you're your food, what you eat can totally impact your diet. And we're not seeing everyone's to change their diet, but if you add a daily supplement like this and like you'll talk about the store they buy a vitamin but this one seems like it's kind of like a one-stop shop with hot rocks. Yeah and in two just like you mentioned that they were saying on the

doctors and we even okay the word that I've been in the industry for about four and a half years now. I'm learning so much but one thing that I've learned about the FDA is they do not mandate the word natural, but it's not regulated. So you can slap the word natural on anything, so many people are getting falsely marketed to because these products that are laced with harmful chemicals, and I'm talking about herbal supplements and vitamins that are supposedly quote unquote natural half substances in them like magnesium seride and and

gelatin a lot of people are vegetarians. They can't consume gelatin. Our product is all vegan. So there's a lot of these little things that you might not know unless you really dig into the label or know the industry and the word organic is regulated. Okay. So if you have organic on the front of the label, that's a little rule. If the word organic is on the front of the label, that product has been inspected and is completely free of the pesticides, herbicides, chemicals, larvae, fungicides, all of that stuff. And what I was telling you earlier about the effect it can have on the reproductive system, I mean, there's libido enhancement products that have

you know, good herbs in them, but they're sprayed with pesticides. I thought it was kind of a double-sided sort there. I'm like, why? People are going to get something that they think is good for their libido and it's got all kinds of chemicals in it that can actually diminish libido. So it didn't make sense to me, which is why we came up with hot rocks in the first place. Okay, and where can people get hot rocks? Can you get in the store that you can get in your website? We do have some select retail stores and there's a list of them on the website, but they can also order online and our

website is really easy. It's hotrock.com, but it is filled a little bit unique. It's H O T R A W K S. Okay. Um, dot com. And they can call H 55 raw life. That's also our toll free number. They can call in order as well. So either way, and they can read a little bit more about it. There's a video on there of me talking about the benefits of it. And one thing I want to tell you, the last time I spoke to you, I didn't give you, but

I give you this and have really exciting news. Oh, tell me, tell you, the last time I spoke to you, I didn't give you, but I give you this and I have really exciting news. Oh, tell me, tell me, tell me. Well, are you familiar with the Museum of Sex in New York City? Absolutely. I did my book launch there a few months ago. So cool. Yeah. Okay, then I knew you would know about it, but we just got back from New York and they're

going to be selling hot rocks daily. Really? That's amazing. Yeah, so they're going to feature it there. They felt it was very innovative and unique product. So they're going to have it there at the museum, so we're really excited about that too. Okay, that is huge. Because that's the museum of sex.

They're the place to go do for all sex information. So congratulations. And I'm taking them too. I'm starting right when we hang up to take it. I have the pill here. I'm taking them to, I'm starting like right when we hang up to take it. I have the pill here of showing it to our video camera here. You can all check out Hot Rocks and we'll have it on our website as well, all the information to people can order them. I want to follow up for you. I want you to tell me how, how good it makes you feel. I am. We're all taking it. We're all going to take it. Okay. Awesome,

Julie. Thank you so much for calling in. Thank you, too. Thanks for having me. Let's talk to you. Okay, you two. Bye-bye I was like blown away with this because there's so many libido enhancers out there that everyone's talking about it But this one's like organic and natural and it helps with mood and focus. Hello. Yeah, so I'm gonna take some so yeah That's awesome. I need to see if it ejaculoid is all natural Oh my god, whatever what was that again? I need to see if E. Jackaloyd is all natural. Oh my God, whatever, what was that again? There, I guess there was like, someone in the cash row on time

and one of my co-workers saw it and it's supposed to like increase your load. I doubt that it's natural, honey. And he ended up buying it. And he said, you're gonna find out what happened. He worked, he had a breaker load. Yeah, and Chris is load. He jackaloyed.

But I don't know anything about it. He used to always joke about that. I don't know anything about it. And the fact that the selling isn't the same as the fact is awesome. Yeah. Okay, so listen, here's some more about libido. So for a men's libido, losing interest in sex

may not be as common occurrence for men as it is for women, but it affects close to 20% of men and at least double that of many women. So 40% of men, 20% of women. But the problem is, when men lose interest in sex, it scares them more than women. So that's kind of what I was saying to Julie just now from HiRox is their masculinity is so linked to their sexuality that it's very threatening. So I always feel like when men lose their jobs or they're not making enough money anymore that they directly affects them, they don't feel like they're a So I always feel like when men lose their jobs, or they're not making enough money anymore, that they directly affects them,

they don't feel like they're a man, they feel like they have no penis left, and they lost their penis, and they don't want to have sex. So that's why it's so severe when it happens, but both men and women. So it makes men more unhappy and the rest of their lives. And only 23% of men said they still feel happy

about life in general. 46% of women who have low libido, they still feel happy about life. So women are like, yeah, I don't want a bang, but you know what, I'm still happy. Men don't want a bang and they feel like their dick's been caught off. Yeah. So it's over. Right. Exactly. So a lot of it has to do with for men poor eating habits. And like we said, testosterone levels can decline if you have an illness. So that's why we're know, like we're talking about this vitamin here. It could be awesome. I'll let you know on your report back.

They say in two weeks, I'm going to feel different. I'm going to be humping everything that moves. Maybe. I don't know. You never know. Okay, so men, this is exciting. We'll give you, we got a few box bottles. If you'll take it, if you promise, you'll take it, I'll give you one.

It's all natural. I don't think. Organic. Yeah. And they're selling at the Museum of Sex where they sell my book. I wrote a book called Hot Sex over 200 things You can try tonight. They sell at the Museum of Sex. Okay, you probably give it to me in a couple months. That's fine No, just cuz I brought you condoms today month a couple months later. It doesn't mean that you should be so mean to me And that means you but you were like wanting me to be all excited. I was like, oh finally. I got them. I'm not given to you

Thank you. I appreciate them. I'm not giving him to you. Thank you. I appreciate them. Fine. I appreciate you. You look beautiful today, by the way. I do. You're just saying that. What?

I love how your head tilted once I said that. And you smile. And like, does he mean it? He doesn't really mean it. Damn. You can watch the show. Do I look beautiful today? Probably not.

Go to sexwithamway.com. Go to sexwithamway.com. Go to sex withamway.com. Go to sex withamway.com. Go to sex with Check out the show. Okay, but here's some tips. If you are, okay, well, first thing is for women's libido, we talked about what affects a men's libido. So some things that affect the women's libido is pregnancy, childbirth, menopause, and painful intercourse.

So those are all things where your libido can be affected. But there are some tips if you don't want to take a pill or write a minute or anything like that. You need to communicate about each other's needs. If you're having mismatched libidos in relationships, you need to communicate about what is going on. So don't ignore it. Just because you've been sex in six months, I know so many couples who are like, yeah,

we haven't had sex in, I don't know, five, six months and they've never talked about it. It just become that elephant in the room. So you need to communicate about it. You need to find other avenues for spending time together. So go on interesting dates, maybe revisit the first date and find activities that you both enjoy. They say that that can infuse serotonin into the relationship because you're doing something new and exciting. I want to go fly kites. Yeah, exactly. That might turn it out. That might do it for you. Try something new and

unexpected in the bedroom. If you do always do missionary, maybe have her on top. Just little little things you can do. If your partner is a little libido, try to give them oral sex spontaneously. This goes for men and women. Guaranteed that would give me excited. That would spike you up. You walk in the room and she attacks you, whips on your drawers and gives me a blowjob. It goes, gives you blowjob. I don't know what guy wouldn't like that. I think most guys would yeah, I mean men Don't need the warm-up as much as women, right? But if a man surprised me and he wanted to be have oral sex to me I'd be game. I'd be like I'm ready to go. Sign me out

I know if you have kids make sure the bedroom is a place for the two of you take the kids and the TV out of the bedroom I think TV in the bedroom is a libido killer. Yeah, no TV in the bedroom. Seriously, I think that's a huge thing you can do. I know TV is so awesome. Not the bedroom. It entertains me way more than anything. Never ever ever had another. So sad.

There's so many options. I got one woman and then my television, which has over like 400 options and ways to entertain me. You see? Oh, man, this is why you lose power. You get all those back to you wanting all the attention. Women or me?

You, that's why you're anti TV, but you're never really... I've never been in TV. That's why I've been talking about TV so much. I'm sorry if it's like people are not in TV, but I never watch TV forever. And I just... Now you're so excited about it.

I'm so excited. But I like it. Yeah, it gives you stuff to talk about. Or like, oh my God, Bethany is, um, so awesome. Yeah, but people are like, let's watch the TV. They have their shows every night of the week. And they're like, get into their shows and they forget they fall asleep. No, you watch your shows and then after the shows, you have sex and then you go to sleep. No, take the TV out of the bedroom, bring back date night, even if that means getting Chinese take out, have a date night.

Couples need date night, it's not frivolous advice. It is a real thing that I have a lot of married friends, kids, they always have date night, get a set, babysitter, have a friend come over and watch. I always watch my friends' kids for date night because I'm a good person like that and I want them to have sex. So I'm like, okay, I will watch your child.

If you mix up your routine, it can help your mix match libido. So you can also try something like I said hot rocks. The website is hot rocks.com r-a-w-k-s. You can find this all at sexwithemley.com. So that's what we've got for you today. If you type in hot cocks for some reason. No, don't do that, don't do that, please, please, please. But I want to try this.

Listen, and these are some foods they say that can enhance your libido just real quick. Bananas, avocados, almonds, celery, garlic, liver, and chocolate. Oh, yeah, but I actually, they said that on the doctor's show today, but you got to look for the one that has the highest cocoa in it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, dark chocolate. The super dark chocolate, but it doesn't taste as good. I know. I know it's a bummer, but I've gotten into dark.

I've actually, it's all about training your palate. Like I was only a milk chocolate girl, but I've gotten into dark chocolate lily and Whole Foods has this like amazing dark chocolate. I have the Whole Foods next to my house and I go there every day and buy this chocolate bar and I just devour it. And I just want to bang, bang everything. Yeah, Yeah, it's it's fun because I used to date somebody and she's like oh yeah

can you give me a chocolate bar book? Can you check the it was like the post percentage is like she's like I only want to have one that's like 90% yeah and like I would find one that was like 70% and it's like wasn't good enough. Got to get a 90. And then I dumped that bitch because it made life a lot easier. You know? Dump that bitch. You will eat my 70% cocoa. Yeah.

Get that hell out. It's only a 20% difference. God dammit. I know, but that's what matters. I'm gonna get super healthy. I'm already caught out gluten. Not drinking. Are you surprised?

I ate pineapple today. I usually have a burrito you would just add pineapple for lunch I just add pineapple. That's all eight because I love pineapple. I love pineapple, too Love my favorite food fruit for sure And so that's what we got for you today cool. Yeah, thanks everyone. I enjoyed it Phones are working. I know we had phone issues for a while. For like a long time. I know. And then, uh, it finally got fixed. They replaced a bunch of wires in here.

I love they fixed it. We're gonna have a lot more interesting guests calling in. And you know, you can always leave us a message at 415-9927392. Ask us a question. We might just answer it on the air. We'll play your message and answer on the air. So do that. Find it. Find it's again on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram,

sucks with Emily, email us, feedback, it's actually Emily, find menace, white menace. Yeah, go to whitemanace.com because there's a bunch of food stuff on there today, just randomly. Oh my God, I didn't write it. It's like the universe is like looking out for us. My assistant wrote it. She told me like there's some stuff on there.

I probably won't want to read because it would be it's food that I consume yeah So I haven't read everything that we read about the beetle killers you do. Yeah, so I think you I think the anti alcohol one it only increases my a veto no for five minutes and why not because I am on my phone for the rest of the night. Long-term versus short-term. What do you say you're on your phone after? Yeah, it's definitely increasing my libido. No, it's not. Alcohol, drugs, tobacco, it's all really kills your libido. I'm sorry people, but all the good stuff in the world kills your libido. Yeah, it's a bummer. I'm sorry to bring it down. So I all the church people are super horny because they're not doing anything. Oh, you're right. That might be it.

And I'm not drinking that much lately and I have no gluten. Gluten free. That ain't this still pretty wacky to me, but I don't know. I feel good. I feel really good. Okay, everyone. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you?

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