Sex With Emily - SWE: Sex Ed With Emily

Episode Date: May 18, 2012

Emily and her mother are spending the weekend together at a spa in Sonoma. Emily dedicated her book, Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight to her mother and Menace isn't sure what to make of it.Why you might be able to blame your mattress for the horrible sex you've been having. How to strengthen your penis and how to go organic and orgasmic with Hot Rawks aphrodisiacs. Gaydar is proved by science and a poll shows people really want their significant other to cook. Emily has horrible Gaydar and doesn't cook. Oh well.Should you stay friends with your ex's and people you've slept with when you're in a serious relationship? Emily's going to Mexico with the guy she's currently dating and her ex.Emily is your sex ed teacher and shares everything they should have taught you in High School, from female masturbation to how to spot a douchebag. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a bike on me. Hey, Evelyn You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got every stand. It's a lie. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry?

It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Happy Friday everyone. Happy Friday. And a very exciting day. It's a, you forgot to say we're going to be talking about boners. Oh, we are? Yeah.

Oh, you're a boner? I'm just boners in general. We're going to talk about boners. If you got a good boner story, did you get a boner inappropriately today or something? No, I did not. Okay. Well, today's show, we're talking about the stuff they should have taught us in school, about sex, including female masturbation.

We'll also be talking to Julie Wilson from Hot Rocks, R-A-W-K-S, which is a natural libido enhancer, a certified Afro-Dijac from any women, and it's been rockin' my world. I've been takin' them. They have a 30-day money-back guarantee. We'll talk all about that later. And it's Friday. Yeah, it's exciting. It's been a big week. I met Andy Cohn from Bravo the other night. Huge. Huge. Is that a cute photo? Yeah, it is. It's a very nice photo. I know. So exciting. And that's fun because he's like, that's my boss because we're doing a show on Bravo. And that is true. That's weird. I know. I went to a book signing. He said, he said, my, you're a,

what did he say? He said, firecracker. I can remember it. What's my problem? I'm your firecracker. What does that mean? You're a firecracker, meaning you're exciting. Explosive. I'm excited.

So Andy comes out of Bravo. He also just so called, watch what happens live. I went to his book signing, most talkative. He wrote a book. So I'm reading that now. I felt bad because I posted that photo on my Instagram in a blue lot, people loved it. Yeah.

And then the production company who who is in charge of misadvised. Misadvised. They retweeted me and gave me credit for the photo and I had a tweet and back saying that. I didn't take the photo. I know, but it was nice to see it posted because I didn't have time.

And you're awesome about that kind of stuff. I do my best, so I feel bad. I wasn't trying to steal photo cards from whoever took it. Oh honey, I don't take the whole thing. I know, but it was nice to get a post it because I didn't have time. And you're awesome about that kind of stuff. I do my best, so I feel bad. I wasn't trying to steal from whoever I'm taking. Oh, honey, I don't care. I give you credit for my- No, but you didn't take the picture. Whoever did take the picture. Oh, Andy's for the record.

We're taking the picture. Oh, okay. I'm sorry. That's okay, but that was fun. And then, what else did I do? I guess my mom's coming down today. Your mom's right. My mom's coming to town.

I'm picking her up, and we are going to Sonoma Mission Inn, which is a spa for two nights and I have been had a vacation in like 10 years. I swear to God, have you ever known me to go on vacation except for to Michigan to see my family? Which, by the way, is notification. Have I ever been like, I'm going to Mexico. I mean, you just go on these weird retreats with people that like to dress in jungle attires. No I don't.

No I don't. Are you like going to like some place where they massage you for China? Like that's not like a vacation. Yeah. I mean though it felt good when they massage my vagina. That wasn't a vacation. So this is going to be a little vacation with my mom who's, you can't work, you can't be on the phone.

She gets so mean, she's like, I want your full attention. That's cool. I mean, I don't know if that'll ever happen because I'd never known you to give anybody your full attention. Oh, come on. You've got to pass you or anything because I never do that.

But I'm giving you my full attention right now. What do you want to talk about? Are you gonna be able to do that, though, is what I'm asking? Well, I told her that I've got this huge deadline and stuff going on and I'm gonna paying you my full attention right now. What do you want to talk about? Are you going to be able to do that though, is what I'm asking? Well, I told her that I've got this huge deadline and stuff going on and I'm going to try my best to be present for my mom because she's flying cross country from Michigan to visit me.

And I just want to be present and mindful and sweet and a good daughter. And nice. And my dog's been gone for a week and it's been heaven. She's a doggy camp again. So just let go of the dog already. I can't, I love her. I miss her a little bit, but it's been gone for a week and it's been heaven. She's a doggy camp again. So just let go of the dog already. I can't, I love her. I miss her a little bit,

but it's been really nice on heaven the dog. You just said it was heaven without her. It's heaven without her, but I miss our little face. Lululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululululul Oh man, it took, it took until Wednesday to recover from my vacation. I know. How the hell are you going again? I don't know how I'm doing. Do you know what's more ridiculous? Tell. I'm coming back Monday and I have to, you know, be at work early in the morning. Right. Then I come see you. Right. Do a show. And then I have an appearance that night at 10 pm to midnight, and then I have to go to work again at 6 am the next day.

So I'm not gonna have any sleep from now until... What's the big parents, just like a great ending? I'm helping launch some new video game. That's cool. Wow, that's gonna be crazy, honey. Come back with good stories. And do you think you'll bank some checks this time or no? I don't know. I'm gonna go with a lot of party people. I mean, there's a lot of people that I'm going with this weekend are really down to go like party and hit some clubs.

And I actually have two gay friends in town. And those guys, they loved to drink. Like they can drink. Yep. So they want to go out and their friends with all my DJ friends. Oh, that's fun. So anytime we all get together, we get like VIP, like, of course, everything. That's going to be a really. I'm very blessed to have like really cool friends. Yeah. That do cool things. That's awesome. Yeah. I will be exhausted and dead. So you got to bear with me. On Monday, you don't have to talk. You can just grant during the show or something. Well, I think it's going to last. Tell Tuesday.

That you're going to be hung over and crazy. I'm afraid to see you now. On Monday. I mean, yeah, I'm going to look like a raccoon like I already do, but I'm going to have eyes and my eyes. It'll be fun though. It'll be fun. I wish I was doing that. I'm going to take spasms and so by the pulse, it's going to be like 80 degrees this weekend. Really? So hang in with the mom and I'm talking about stuff. I'm trying to think we will maybe we'll talk about sex. I sent her a copy of my book finally and she has anything. She's like, I want to see your book. I want to see your book and I finally sent to shore and then she has done anything. I wrote a book called Hot Sacks.

Over 200 things you can try.. And I fucking, I dedicate, I wrote it in my dedication to my mom. You wrote a dedication in a sex book to your mom. Well, I just thanked her for being so supportive of my career over the years, of my alternative lifestyle career, whatever. I think the dedication to your mom is kind of like when you do. In a sex book, that's weird.

Yeah, I'm the one who has to buy you. What's the name of your sex book again? Hot sex over 200 things you can try to night. You can buy it on Amazon. And you dedicated it to your mom. I didn't dedicate it to her. I had to write it. No, because I co-wrote it with Jamie Waxman.

Yeah. But I had a little like, thank you page to people. Yeah. Like, thank you, Paragraph. How many, how many thank yous did I get? Oh, man, I don't think I thank you. Oh, you know, my next book's page to people. Like, thank you, Paragraph. How many, how many thank you is did I get? Oh, man, I don't think I thank you. Oh, you know, my next book's dedicated to you. Yeah, right.

And Andy Cohen's book is so funny. His dedication was to all the strong women his wife, including his mom. And, and then he wrote at the bottom, and Madonna, just because, like he loves Madonna. Like, it was funny. I believe when you write a book about your life, that's the part where you mention it.

I should write a book. Not the, not my life, not the right, whatever, I just mention it. Not this, it's the one. So thank you for all the mentions in the book. I'm sorry, honey. You don't even need the book. I mean, come on, there's lots of sex stuff in it.

I wasn't there, you know, the entire time. I'm helping you. I know, honey, you've been helping me. It's cool, but no mention, it's cool. The dog got a mention in the book, but I didn't. The dog didn't get it. I didn't. The dog wasn't alive then, or she wasn't in my life then at that point. But it has been an exciting week here. You know, for all the you people who are listening to us on SiriusXM, on XM Stream Top 165. Yeah. We're happy to be here.

And you can check out my Facebook page, Sex with Emily, Facebook.com.com.com. Sex with Emily. And you can see a trailer to our new Bravo show that's going to be on Bravo on Juneteenth. It's called Misadvise. You should check it out. You should totally check it out. The easiest way to see it is go to Facebook.com.com.com. Sex with Emily, right?

You have it up there. Yep. Or you can just go to bravotv.com and search misadvisant.com. Right, you can see Mattis and if you go to Emily's page, her bio page on bravoTV.com, you better give it a Facebook like. You better friggin like my stuff, I appreciate that. Did you Facebook like it yet?

No, you did? Okay, good. Okay, we gotta talk to Kelsey about that. No, I gotta tell everyone to do that, totally, totally, totally. Um, okay, well, I've got a little bit of sex in the news unless we've got anything else to discuss. Like, I don't even know what's going on with their, like, love life or anything.

Like, I don't feel like you've shared anything. Yeah. Nothing, man. You know, this time of the year is my busyest time of the year. Well, don't give me blah, blah, blah. That just means that you never f and listen to what I am saying. You're the busy, busy concert.

You can still get laid and meet some chicks. I guess, man. I'm going to bed at like 7 p.m. I know, I hate that, because I always want to talk to you at 10. Yeah. I'm always like, I want to find out that it's always sleeping. I wake up to so many miscaused and text messages.

People don't understand that you go to bed. You turn off your own stun. I don't turn off my phone. I always sit on for a minute. But can't you hear it? No, I'm so tired that I Sleep right through it. Okay, got it. Well, I turn mine off at night So if anyone needs me right now, that's good time to do that. Now you text people a time Don't give me a wrap in the show. Yeah, you do not true

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and I have a girlfriend that has a show coming out and she's like going out with a bunch of guys and making out with a bunch of guys. I make out with two boys in the trailer. I didn't tell him it was up, I didn't show it to him. And what's weird is like, okay, now you're gonna get, now it's gonna be on television, you're gonna get a lot of attention. A lot of people are gonna know what's weird is like, okay, now you're gonna get, now it's gonna be on television, you're gonna get a lot of attention. A lot of people are gonna know what's going on

and they're gonna see you and they're gonna come up to you and talk to you about it and he's gonna be there and that's something he's gonna have to deal with. How do you, I know, is there a question? And he's gonna be like, and his friends are gonna see the TV show and tell them all about it. I didn't know him then, so it's different timing. Hmm.

Oh well. Uh, okay. Well, we've got some sex in the news. All right. Jenny McCarthy to celebrate turning 40 by taking her clothes off for Playboy. Anti-vaccine activist Jenny McCarthy is returning to her nude roots this summer with a Playboy pictorial due to publish in the magazine in July 2012. Does anyone care about Jenny McCarthy anymore?

I love Jenny McCarthy. She's funny, right? Totally. Okay, I'm just curious if everyone wants to see her naked. Oh yeah, definitely. She's still got to together. She looks good. She looks really good, yeah. Okay.

Yeah, it's just, she lost a lot of attention with, you know, her male fans because she was she she has a child with autism And that's what her whole focus was, you know a bunch of bros are not gonna want to go to conventions about autism Right, right, right, that's the thing But I definitely feel that she's spent enough time on the autism thing and now she's ready to go back in her career and stuff like that. And I believe she's still got it to be in playboy for real. Yeah, she's hot. Yeah. Okay, I just was wondering if I'm a dude's perspective.

I don't know if I'd be in playboy. I'm just wondering. You don't know if you would be in playboy. Do you think I should be in playboy? Do it. I haven't been offered. You haven't been offered yet. I'm gonna give you me on TV.

I don't know. Okay, just curious. OK, memory foam beds are ruining people's sex lives. I have a memory foam bed. I don't use that crap. OK, I hate it. While sales for the plus-shaped fitting mattresses continue rise, customers are reporting one major drawback,

bad sex. Customers say the main problem boils down to traction. There's a lack of resistance for the knees and feet New York sex therapist, Siri Eccler says, and whoever is on the bottom is sinking into the bed or as one comment commentator put it, I'd like I'd like trying to do it in quicksand. If you want a good site night sleep,

get a bad wrote one commentator on your health, just be aware that you'll need to find an alternative place of sex. Alternate place of sex. I don't have that problem. I have a memory phone pillow top. I don't have a whole memory phone bed. But I haven't noticed any weird traction issues where I'm like sinking in its quinks quicksand.

Thank God, but that's a huge, that's a huge new story for everyone who's obsessed with their memory phone bed. So if you're having bed sex right now, take a look at your mattress. You might need a new mattress. Yeah, I got a Simmons beauty beauty rest pillow top mattress. I love it. You love it. It's amazing. Yeah. At least you don't have one of those then, but you're not having sex anyway. So you wouldn't know. Oh, yeah. Okay. Gadar, Gadar might be a real thing or at least more real than previously thought. I feel like I have really bad gator. I have extremely good gator.

Like living in Tampa to school, I'm always like, oh, I don't know. I don't think about it, but I have bad gator. Because gator might be more of a real thing. Says science. Apparently, people have the ability to judge with surprising accuracy, the gaiacity of a person just by looking at their face. Personally, I was hoping for gator that was actually a tangible electrical gadget, but if I already have a latent ability in my brain,

that's pretty cool. The University of Washington showed that people can make snap judgments around the sexual orientations of others based on individual facial features and from the way those features fit together. So these snap judgments are right about 64% of the time. So passing 50% is noteworthy.

And yes, while I'm aware human sexuality is not binary, the study simply had people picking between gain, straight, and science. So it wasn't used with black and white pictures, blah, blah, blah, they say that people make quick decisions about sexual orientation without thinking about it. So I don't know.

I just always do that. I'm always wrong because someone's gay or not. Can you tell right away? I am 95% accurate on telling when someone's gay or not. That's good. You've got good gay, are. I do. I've only been able to do a snap judgment.

I do. I've only been able to do a snap judgment. This one time, I just did not know one of my buddies was gay, but he just didn't fit in the stereotype of a gay guy. Right. That happens sometimes. I have a guy with ton of gay friends, I don't have a lot of guys that I've dated that I think at the other day.

Remember my trend of dating guys that were seemingly gay, not gay, but seemingly gay. Yeah. There's a lot of those here. Lots of differences go. If you I believe that a lot of the men here seem gay after a while. Yeah. They're metrosexual. They become a metrosexual. Okay. There's a nerve dating pool. This seemed very relevant. Okay. How important is it to you that your partner cooks? How important to you?

Extremely, extremely important. Okay. You know I have issue. I've never cooked in my life. Yeah. I use my oven for storage. It's ridiculous. A new study says that generation X men are more likely to cook than the men of generation's

previous. So we're wondering, how much is someone's ability and or willingness to cook factor into your interest in dating them. 70% of nerve dating members said that cooking is important to a partner but not because they want to be fed. They want a shared interest. Cooking has a great shared activity. There's a lot of pleasure to be had and finding great ingredients, researching new recipes, shopping, and so on. Blah blah blah. That sounds really boring to me. About 14% of respondents said that they'd handled the cooking as long as the partner did the dishes, conversely only 16% of voters said they wanted to date someone

who cooked so they could be cooked for. So it sounds like people are saying that it's interesting because they have a share interest, but not because they wanted to be cooked for. Which is quite a relief for me because I was afraid that there was a whole new wave of men who wanted women who could cook and Vice versa. Oh, you so you got happy when you saw this. I'm happy. Well, I didn't know what it said But now I realize that it's all good. Yeah, I love cooking. I'll cook. Do you cook with women ever? Yes

I cook for them and stuff like that But I definitely need a woman that can cook. I mean what what else am I? What else at the point? Yeah. I mean, you better be giving, if I'm cooking, you better be giving blow jobs while I cook. You know how? Right, right, right. I always take guys who cook, but I eat out a lot, but I have did you guys who cooks or own restaurants.

That's always good. Oh, we still have to go to my friends restaurant. I know. Any night you want, how do you pick it? Uh, well, obviously not this weekend. You're leaving this weekend. You're going to be like recovering for days. So sometime soon we'll do that. Any more news in the celebrity world, you're always up. Oh, it's sad that Donna Summer died. Yeah, I just saw that. I love Donna Summer. I can't remember too much.

You don't remember. I know Kelsey didn't know either. She's saying a lot ofs. I can't remember too much. You don't remember? She is. I know, Kelsey didn't know either. She's saying a lot of stuff. I can't think of any. I'll take you one song. I'll probably know who she is then. She's saying disco stuff? Disco. Disco.

Disco, like I can't remember anything right now. But I know what I have. I will survive. Yeah. Really? Yeah. I will survive. Hey, hey, that's on summer. Exactly. Sure, look at I want to miss quoted and everyone's listening

Like I'm gonna have a nati are we right? Okay, looking it on the inner webs. I will survive. I love that. She's done a lot of good songs that I like I just can't remember what they are and she's big. I just I can't put two and two together right now, but it's sad I can't believe what speaking about celebrities and going back real quick to Annie Cohen I can't believe what? Speaking about celebrities and going back real quick to Annie Cohen, I can't believe you have and post it on your Instagram yet. My Instagram is blowing up with your photo with Annie Cohen. No, I meant to.

It's not on there yet. Oh, I'll do it. I got 43 likes. Really is it a lot for you usually? 100 ads, okay, it's not great. It's not a picture that incorporates me. Kids like my- No, no, no, check this out. Because I mean, don't get offended. I mean, you're- I'm not a picture that incorporates me. Kids like my- No! No! No!

No, check this out. Because I mean, don't get offended. I mean, you're- I'm not offended, I love you. Your fans are your fans on your social network. I'm sure if you put some crap up there about me, that it's not going to be as exciting to them as if it was about you.

That's just how it goes. Right. You know? But I'm going to post it. I'm really good because I post other photos about other people. Nothing happens. And it gets like 20 likes.

43 likes. 43 likes. 43 likes. I love it. Yeah, that was fun meeting him. And he was adorable. And he said he liked my hair. And that I was a firecracker.

Firecracker. Yeah, firecracker. Okay, we've got some emails from the peoples. And I appreciate everyone emailing us at feedback at sexwithamily.com Yes, you try to get to all your emails as soon as we can and we like to answer them We like to hear from you and you can also email straight from the website What what what what okay Dear Emily, I'm a friends with benefits member here

I wanted to get the opinion of both of you on a topic I haven't really heard you talk about. I am of the thought that when you are engaged or married, you shouldn't be friends with people you've slept with in the past. I don't think it's fair to your partner and it can lead to future temptation to stride. What do you think? Also, you've really got me wondering about these masturbation sleeves. If you have an extra round the office, I'd love to give it a try and give it a review. Oh, I listen on my iPad while it worked. Thanks so much for the show. Give Menace a hand job already.

Scott, the Woodlands, Texas. So there are Tenga masturbation sleeves, which I've tried to give menace like ad nauseam. Go to goodvibes.com, use coupon code GVMly15 checkout. And they're pretty inexpensive, I think. I don't have any extras laying around the office, so I totally send you on. And they're little eggs. You peel the outer, outer layer like you would a hard-world egg and crack open the shelter of real sleeve with unique internal textures. You can also try a fleshlight, which is like the most popular masturbation sleeve, and you

can also get that at goodvibes.com and use coupon code gvm15. I would say triumph and see, I just think it's masturbation month and Scott, if you're going to do it any time, you should do it now. But back to your first point, should you be, should you don't think that people should be friends with people they slept in the past? Menace, I know and I disagree with this greatly. Yeah, because you're just friends with every single one. I'm friends with most of my exes, not all, but most were really good friends.

And in fact, they're like part of my life. Like I would leave them my dog if I died. Like that kind of thing. One of them is the baby daddy to my dog. I don't think it's a problem. If you still feel like your partner is acting inappropriately and hiding it from you when they saw this person, or you're not all going out together.

Like if I said, if we're married, you know, menace and iron married and I said, hey, I'm going out with my ex tonight, you can't come. Like if it's exclusive and you're hiding it, then it's a problem. But really, I feel like this is my take. Is that if you date someone for long enough, you love that person, like you fall in love,

you love them, but you didn't work. For whatever reason, your relationship didn't work, it doesn't mean that that primary love that you had for that person and that friendship that you built in the relationship can't be sustained. So I think being friends with X's and bringing them into your new relationships so you guys can all meet and hang out is totally fine. But I live in San Francisco.

I'm a wacky chick. And you're crazy. So what do you think, menace? I think you're insane. You've slept with people and stayed friends with them, but you probably just don't tell. Yeah, but they're no, but I don't keep them around the current person that I'm dating. No way. I'm going to Mexico with my accent.

I know. You're insane. Do you want to come? I'll be fine. Who's paying? Okay. I forgot it. I'm barely paying.

So, yeah, but I think that, yeah, I think that it's a case by case basis. If it's someone that you still feelings for, you shouldn't. It's not cool. Okay. Hi, Emily. My wife and I just recently discovered your podcast and site. I was catching up on some old podcast from iTunes. iTunes.

And heard you mention that you had some bath works pumps, penis pumps. I'm 50 years old this year and things have changed. I have a few ED issues, erectile dysfunction, and I'm looking for solutions. I'm currently trying meds and my wife and I are enhancing our relationship in the bedroom. Thank you, and he help us greatly appreciate the key up the good work. It's from Rick from Niagara Falls on Terry O'Canada. We get a lot of Canadians writing a sin. From Canadian. Canadian. Well, Rick, there's a lot of things. I do have these penis pumps that can help, but another thing that really helps are your

kegel exercises. They help men extremely, extremely well for strengthening your pelvic floor muscles, which is what you really need to control your ejaculation so you can download my app kegel camp if you have an iPhone that really helps you, it reminds you to do your exercises. I don't know about the penis pump. The thing about the pump is that they do sell my good vibrations, you can buy one.

I don't have any, I thought I had extras, but they're actually out of the containers. And so I didn't know how, if it would be okay to send people, because they're not in their original packaging. Not that they've been used, but The thing about the pumps is that it's their actual exercises, so it does exercise your penis I don't know that it grows your penis, but it's important to actually your penis is like any other muscle

And I suppose if you steadily did these exercises with the pump, it could help strengthen your penis and See what happens. You could also read a book, there's a book called The Multi-Orgazic Man, which primarily focuses on erectile dysfunction, and it's been helpful for legions of men. So, that's what I suggest to you. My friend, Menna says, and have any erectile dysfunction issues, does he? So, he doesn't really have to talk about it. No, I'm good. Okay. I'm good. Maybe when I get older. Maybe I'll have some issues. Okay, so I have dekela, which works for me

It gets me very erect. Does it? Yeah, just the first shot. This yeah, I Whiskey we're gonna talk about bonus today. Yeah, whiskey weeners don't Don't have any effect on me. No, I call this like a Viagra for me. Yeah, but not for most people. So it's weird. I lucked out. Okay. Dear Emily, nine years ago, I lost my virginity to the woman I'm about to marry in two

weeks. What could have been easily been a one-night stand turned into a long and happy relationship? However, I know. Our sex life is almost non-existent now and despite many attempts to vary and spice things up, nothing has taken. She isn't keen on anything slightly beyond the foreplay, oral and intercourse. Before we got together, she had a small handful of partners, but she was my first and so far only partner. A year ago, I had a very real opportunity to cheat on her with a colleague I was attracted to. No. My colleague was not shy in making her intentions known, and I must say

I was tempted. She's a highly sexual woman who wanted to do things with me that I had not experienced, but I was curious to do so. I very nearly relented but declined to her various temptations that remained faithful. My colleague has since gone to live in Australia so the opportunity is gone. I'm glad I didn't cheat, but regret not taking the opportunity to do so. My question is, how do I explore these aspects

and curiosities of my sexuality giving my partners unwilling to do so? Keep up the great work. Rugby Fanaticatic New Zealand. So I'd say, okay, first of all, I guess that you, it sounds like you just have a very, you have this urge to explore more things

and be more sexual, and your partner just, she's not interested in anything besides four-play oral intercourse. You didn't mention what kind of things this woman was offering you to do. But I would hope that you could talk to her. You could have some talks to her about

that that sex is very important to you and you want to, because it could scare her if you're like, I want to do some BDSM and tie you up. But I think you need to have some real conversations with her about your fantasies, what turns you on, what turns her on, tell her how important it is to you, and maybe you need to integrate some sex toys into it. I mean, it sounds like if you're about to marry this person, and we're talking to death to us part, and you're still thinking about this

woman you could have almost cheated on, I think you've got to like do not, do not, you know, pass go, stop. However, that thing says and talk to her now because you don't want to marry somebody that you're going to be tempted to cheat on because you're not getting your sexual needs met. A lot of time couples are sexually incompatible and they can never come together on it. She just might be shut down. She might not want to explore. She's the might get her orgasm in the missionary position. She's done good night going to sleep. Sounds like you need more and you need to have an honest conversation with her about it. You could also try performing, he said that, yeah, our sex life is not existent, so it's

like she doesn't want to do it. So I would say here, because there's some stuff in here about, yeah, anyway. What about you? I have to commend him for not cheating. Okay, what'd you say? I commend him for not cheating. I commend him for not cheating too. Because I've been in the same situation where I was having problems in my relationship and I had some other chick like coming in and like, Hey, you know, I'll hook up with you

totally. It's hard, man, because you're like, I want a dish to check that I'm with and I want to get with this. But everything looks shiny. The grass always looks greener. I'm glad that you didn't cheat, but I have to say that you've got to start working on, you've got to have a talk with her about sex.

Maybe you just a sex therapist. Because couples who, let me just say one thing, and then we're going to make a phone call to our special guest, is that couples who brush sex under the rug, they're like, yeah, everything's great, but our sex life, it's going to eventually creep up on you because if you are not connecting sexually and you're not having your needs met and you're not getting what you need from the relationship, it's going to eventually catch up with you and explode.

So whatever you got to do, talk to her by my book, hot sex, two other things you could try to night, flip through it with her and be like anything in here, interest you. But if she shuts you down and every end, she just won't try anything, you won't try them more in trouble. Okay, let's call Julie Wilson from Hot Rocks. We're dialing up Skype at the moment. Awesome. She is.

Hot Rocks is an amazing natural afferdee jack. And let me say this, they've a 30-day money back guarantee. Hot rocks, R-A-W-K-S, it's a certified affordygiac for men and women, helps women have stronger orgasms, gives men more stamina, harder erections, and more intense orgasms. So, hot rocks would also be a good solution for our other guy who's having a hard time with erections, because that's what it helps with. Okay.

So we're calling to you. Are you sure you updated this? Update what? Your Skype? Yeah, what's it saying? It's saying the same thing from before. I totally updated. I paid for it.

All right. Well, try, I'm going to try it again. It's saying the last thing. It still says you got to upgrade. Upgrade to what I already paid for it. Oh, Jesus, you and computers just do not mix. So what can we do? Phone. I guess I hated.

Well, is there another Skype that we could use? Sorry, everyone. No, there isn't. I pay for it, it's done. Are you sure you're on the right account, it's actually only? Positive. Same one that we use all the time. Do you have a Skype account?

Me? Yeah. No. So, all right. Okay. It's fine. We'll talk to her. It sounds fine. Okay. I fix it because I'm a genius. Give we're eight. It's fine. We'll talk to her. It sounds fine.

I fix it because I'm a genius. Give me the number. Here's the number. Okay. If you could see Emily's face. Emily and the interwebs. I made it. I wish I never had to do it again.

Uphill battle. Okay. You gotta hold it up. This way. Yeah, right there. There we go. Can you hear it? Good. Oh, hey. Hello, Julie. I'm good. How are you? It's Emily and Benis. I start talking to you guys as always. What's going on over there? Oh, we're just talking about sex and stuff. We just had a guy write in about...

Yeah, we just had a guy write in about a reptile dysfunction and we were talking about hot rocks and how that could really help him. It certainly can help him. What was his question? His question was that he was getting older and that he just feels like he doesn't know what to do and his doctors are prescribing medications and he doesn't want to take them. Yeah, well, that's a big issue. A lot of people are afraid of all the harsh side effects and stimulants and nasty stuff and chemicals. So that's why a lot of people like to turn them to a lot of rock because, as I mentioned, you guys many times before on your show.

I mean, it's all organic. You don't have to allergine. You don't have to allergens, you don't have to side effect. It's mild as far as stimulants could, but it's powerful in the fact that it works to help rebuild just the australian levels. It also helps desire and help with correct option because it also works with your journal plan.

When taking over a long period of time, often the grade alternatives and definitely helps with erectile dysfunction when taking over a long period of time, what does the grade alternatives and definitely helps with erectile dysfunction when taking consistently? Right, exactly. That's what we told them because we love hot rocks. So what made you want to create hot rocks? You know, I was just talking about this just so on earlier today and it's interesting

because it's a long story, but I'll sum it up really quickly. I just, you know, I have a passion for ER, I'm not a doctor, I'm not anything crazy. I have a lot of marketing background, but I cured myself naturally of some pretty chronic illnesses, one of the inconse disease,

ulceritis collided, bad a lot of intestinal problem. So just because of my own testimony, you earned an overall tooth and organic and during myself in a way that was unconventional, I got really passionate in industry. So for 10 years, I, well, it's more like eight years before I started this company, but I really, really dug deep and kind of became obsessed with natural health and shiny herbs. And in life, a lot of things I found out was the sexual and reproductive

system is one of the first things that's affected when you're sick. You ever notice that almost all of the ads on TV that have to do with pharmaceutical drugs that they're marketing to you, which is odd too, by the way, but one of the biggest side effects always is loss of sexual function or loss of sexual desire. Yes. Yes. And there's a reason for that because we are in all of them that are viral on the fetus.

So when your body is deteriorating or you're sick or you're full of chemicals, you're not wanting to recreate. It's a mother nature thing. Right. So they help you and my lust bus are a lot more real. So all of this just started fascinating. So it is fascinating now.

Yeah, and I just got really, really into looking into the whole sexual side of things. And then I started investigating the products that were out there that were geared towards that. And I was pretty disgusted when I read what was in them. I was doing research and thought how many of them have been in the eggs from the SKA, and how many people were sued in NJL, so the stuff they were putting in them.

But I'm like, this is awful, but there's a need for it. So these P.P. sharks are all there making money out for people because there's a need for it. But they're not legitimate. So what I love about Chinese herbs and organic oil is that it all really works at safe. And I'm like, why isn't this being marketed in a way that is in this category?

Exactly. And so it just, it wasn't because a lot of people were turned off by Chinese herbs, the whole list of healing they they could pay at least a half. And with my work, they got runneth, and why not do something that's really good? It really helped me really work. The market is in the less blend and boring in a few ways.

Right. And it'll do everyone which, and that's how I was born. Right, okay, got it. Now, how does Hal Rock's different like over Viagra? Like this guy was saying like his doctor was prescribing viagra. Well, I agree with you in the name of the diolar and some of the herbs are not doing the same thing. So it does help constrict and increase the blood flow and circulation.

So that's one of the main things. But the thing with viagra is it is, it's only works for functionality. So it definitely works. I mean, you should get it in a toilet and make use of a given direction, right? Right. But there's no doubt about it. You've got the satisfaction involved with it. You know, the headaches, the flesh-shape.

A lot of people have other variants, ailments to come along with it. Not only that, there's people with high blood pressure and the needy and health problems that can't get because of the only side effects. And there's no really long-term study showing what it would do a little longer in a time. Right. So when you're dealing with natural organic, Chinese herbs like ones that are in lot of rocks, it's going to actually help increase the desire on top of functionality. Right. Which is so amazing.

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, you can have a car in the right shell all the way along, but I mean, do you really want to touch your wife, you know, or you're trying to cure a girlfriend? It's not saying you wouldn't be attracted to her, who thinks she is. But I'm saying, if there's nothing emotional there, but you want to, but the functionality is just gone, but you need to design it too. And a lot of people are tired, they're overstimulated,'re adrenal glands are exhausted, and hot rocks are punished

all of that and work together. And also balance and hormones, which may not do anything for your want-up. Exactly. That's where I love about hot rocks. And the thing is, I think Viagra, people want like a quick fix. But with hot rocks, like, yeah, it takes a few weeks, take four to six weeks, right, to kick in. But then when it does, it's like, you're set.

You're good. It helps you with all these issues that you might be having and it's a natural healthy organic way but it's a really good way to sustain yourself thing don't need my algorithm you know i have a younger client out to and all the way up from me thirty to twenty five actually all the way up to eight and people are like, they love it. And I have one customer actually who told me, he wrote me some email and he said,

I just really think anything was wrong. He was 30 years old and he was like a house designer. I thought, you know, I was the man, but he got a girlfriend and she was taking it. So he got on to, and he said, I took me 10 years back. He said, I had no clue. I thought that I was on that he got on to, and he said, it took me 10 years back, he said, I had no clue.

I thought that I was on top of my game, but I was waking up in the morning one again. I was having an intense dream. I was feeling, you know, in the middle of the day, the wind would blow, and these are things that, you know, I had a great pop of bill and he did the action, but you don't get all of the things that come along with being young and robust and fearful.

Right. Right. So that's the thing. My Hobox said it's amazing is that you take it over time and that it just enhances your entire sexual experience. And so you're saying, so couples take it. Like have you had an experience with men and women taking it together and it's completely enhanced their sex life when they do it together. All this experiment, I get a lot of my customers are a couple. Okay, that's a great thing because we get so many emails, like just now, another email we were reading before we called you was a guy who's getting married in two weeks, his his future wife does not is not interested in sex. She like, could care less, he wants to try a bunch of new things, he wants to explore, and she's not interested in, I told him,

I'm like, things aren't going to change. You better work on this with her. Maybe it'd be good for them both to take some out rocks together and have a fun little experience. Yeah, because it works with the brain and the adrenal glands, it helps put the neurotransmitters in the brain. That's why it helps to a lot with women. Because we're a lot more emotional than we're not physical. So, but it does help us a lot, obviously with the lubrication and fertility and everything else, but it helps women

with the herbal and the menopause. The couples together tend to really enjoy it. We implemented a new program, not too long ago, the AutoShip program, not too long ago, the Auto Ship Program, where you can actually select on it website, which is hotrucks.com. I'll teach you about g-r-e-w-t-s.com. Right. And it's like an Auto Ship Program. You can basically can customize that whatever you want. If you want one model or six months, or if you want three models or two weeks,

or if you want to do it. And I've noticed that most of my couple customers enroll in the auto shift and make it that way they share their staff. Right, you're exactly. Just put it on the table and you both are taking it. And I love it. It's a 30-month- 30-month-

I'm sorry, because these people have a weird stigma not everybody, but some people are embarrassed. They're like, I don't want to be taken. They enhance my bill. But if it's something fun fun that's the healthiest that both men and women can share? It's too less of a taboo to some people. Exactly.

And there's a 30-day money back here in T. So if people are like, oh, doesn't work, whatever, but it really does work. I've been so happy with it. So that's how you want to get you on the phone. And how is your big event at the Museum of Sex in New York? Well, I'm really excited about it. It's next Wednesday. So we wanted to get you on the phone. And how is your big event at the Museum of Sex in New York? Well, really excited about it.

Oh, it's next Wednesday. Okay, great. Yeah, and it's really busy here in California, but we're super excited. I mean, we've got, we're doing a live broadcast with like, we're radio, which you know, is serious channel one. Sorry, right? I know you've been through the Museum of Sexual Rights in

the L.A. with it. Yeah, that's going to be awesome. You know, we're going to have Tiffany Kwannefer and we're going to have a bunch of bunch of talent. We're going to have comedians and adult film stars and doctors and sex therapists.

But it's really a big event. sponsor by law often. The museum effect was all about it. I mean, they came to a lot of time. Oh my God, I'm sure. Yeah. Yeah, they're like, we really wanted to do this, but it's going to become 11 a.m.

It's at 0QPM on the East Coast, and it's open to the public. So we're telling anyone in New York to please come and come to you. So we're going to meet all of us. We're going to give away some free stuff. Cool. And they're there. So getting to New York people, please come to meet all of us. We're going to give away through free stuff. Cool. And they're getting to your people. Please come to the media.

OK. Awesome. We'll promote it, too. So send us your info. We'll be sure to promote it. Thank you so much, Julie. We love hot rocks, and we love talking to you. So I think that you've helping a lot of people

and doing really good work in the world. So thank you. Thank you so much. I'm going to help you. OK. Bye-bye. Talk to you soon. That's really happy to see you. Okay, but bye, talk to you soon. That's Hot Rocks, R-A-W-K-S. You went to that museum of sex, right? I did.

I had my book launch in New York in November at the Museum of Sex. That's awesome. But I didn't really get to look around because it was like my party. So I was like kind of focused on that. Forazzled, that's always. I am so true that I am always frazzled and it's so upsetting.

Really. You see, you're not bitchy when you're frazzled because some people get frazzled and then they become huge bitches. I don't know why. Right, exactly. It's funny because I was watching, oh, it was a millionaire mashmaker where she went to New York. She went to New York for a little while

and did some mashmaking and the dates that got set up, the date took the other day to the Museum of Sex. Oh, that's kind of a weird first date. Yeah, but you had the weirdest first date ever, which is going to the Disney Museum with a guy that brought his mom on the first date. Yeah, but you had the weirdest first date ever, which is going to the Disney Museum with a guy that brought his mom on the first date. Yeah, that was our first and last date. The Walt Disney Museum, which is a...

Which is cool. You went there, right? I mean, I'm glad we went to the Walt Disney Museum, but I actually did pick... He's like, my mom's gonna come and then he called me back and said, do you think that's weird? And then I thought, you know, bring the mom because it's gonna be a good story that's gonna last for eternity. It's good content for the radio. It's good content for the radio. I'm always trying to live my life by the radio,

trying to get good content. Okay, we've got one more email. From the peeps. From the peeps. Okay, dear Emily, I'm embarrassed. I've never orgasmed before, ever. I've only been with my current boyfriend of two years. I'm 16, but I feel like there's something wrong with me. Kayla from Victoria, BC, Canada. More Canadians. Kayla, okay, here's the deal.

Totally normal. You're 16 that you have not orgasmed yet. I have to tell you that it's all about masturbation. It's all about you spending time alone, getting to know your body, getting to know what makes you feel good, and then transferring that, translating that information to your boyfriend.

You might need to just plan a night, get a sex toy if you want. You can get a lot of women need clitoral stimulation. And honestly, if you don't even want to use a sex to, I just use a night where you are exploring your body and you're touching yourself, and you're exploring just different things that feel good without the pressure of having an orgasm.

Just get to know your body. I don't know your 16. I'm not sure if you've ever spent that time alone. I've told the story before. It's my favorite story about learning to have an orgasm. But in college, my friends spent 30 days and 30 nights. She was actually 30 nights every night for a month trying to orgasm, trying to figure out her body.

She was touching herself, figuring it out. And finally, like I think it took her like three and a half weeks. She had like killer orgasm and she figured out her body, because you've got to spend the time, and I have to say, till this day, she's still one of my most multi-orgasmic friends, because I think she put the work in. Your boyfriend's not gonna figure it out.

She studied it. She studied it. Your penis is not gonna one day, I mean, maybe set something off for you, but really, the work has to be done by you. It's like the 30-day sex challenge, but with yourself. Exactly. I'm gonna do it.

It's weird. I didn't think that women never masturbated. I thought it was only a guy thing. Really when you were younger? Yeah, actually. To be true. To be true. Yeah, when I was in high school and stuff like that, we never talked about.

Never talked about masturbation. No, no, no, we would always joke around about masturbation and stuff like that with the guys, but we never thought that women were masturbating stuff. But we would joke around like, oh, women probably stick like, you know, cucumbers and bananas on the floor. Yeah, you always heard the story about the girls stuck the remote control upper crotch. Do you ever hear those stories?

Not that one, but like she got a hot dog stuck in her crotch and she had to go to doctor to remove the moon. Like there was an urban legend. Right, but I don't think they were really true. But that's a good story. I mean, that's a good question. And I'm going to lead into, we've got some female masturbation. It is masturbation month, which is May, is masturbation month.

And we've got some tips for you. So this might help our last emailer, Kayla, tips for women on masturbation. The clitoris is the nerve center for the female orgasm. So that is where there are vaginal orgasms, internally, a g-spot, whatever, but if the clitoris has thousands of nerve endings, the clitoris actually has more nerve endings than the penis. Many women require clitoral stimulation to climax.

Not just like that would be nice, require. The clitoris head is located at the top of the vulva, a little under the hood. It's about the size of a pea. It can be compared to the penis, though obviously smaller in size because there's a high concentration of nerve tissues. And it does swell with blood when it's sexually aroused, so it's easier to find and it becomes erect and it doubles in size. Did you know that, Manus? Yeah, it does. You knew that?

You've seen that. So just getting familiar with your clitoris and find out what strokes work for you. Some women like the left of their clitoris, some women like the right of their clitoris, some women like the direct, you know, some people don't even like it directly on their clitoris like you have to figure out what feels good for you Some people prefer a really light light touches what other women want at mark rats if have you found that in your uh oh yeah Dude you gotta crack the code man. You gotta crack the code every single woman you have to crack the code It's all different. They all want something different. They all want a different way.

But it's like, I know, it's just like when we first meet, we're about to have sex. Okay, just here, just hand me a little booklet. This is what I like. Here's a little demo, demos, you know, here's some photos and some arrows pointing in that area. I was doing it. I was honestly, that was an idea for another iPhone app I had. And that was like, it was called, I shouldn't say this because I'm going to give away my

million dollar idea, but it is going to be called the map of me. And it's going to be a sexual questionnaire thing that you can figure out. It's kind of an iPhone app where you answer all these questions about your desires, your fantasies, what makes you feel good, and then you just like pass that along to the person having sex with and you're like, here's what I like, here's what I don't like and let's go to town. It's cool. It's a good idea, right?

You want to have me develop it? Don't make it right now. You're working on your dump truck vibrator. I know, my dump truck vibrator is like. How's that go? Well. It's stuck in China. No, no, no, I'm developing it out Japan. And you know, we had overheating, fire issue, all this stuff. It's good. It now, it's just a power issue. I really want

to go green and maybe go solar power on it. But the panel, the solar panel is like as big as, you know, a roof. Right. So I'm like, how can you travel long? If you maybe want to go leave somewhere like Vegas and bring your dump truck, the power issue might be. Right, right, right. So we're looking at like 2018, you're going to have this done. No, maybe, I mean, maybe there would be like a backpack battery for it or something.

Right, exactly. I love it. OK, so other things, the Clitoris Cuddle, place two fingers side by side on your clip. And Cuddle it, rub in a circular motion, vary the speed and pressure by doing small and large circles, you'll know when you got the rhythm down. There's also the three finger rub down.

Put your finger and index finger on the top inside areas of your outer labia, the outer lips. You are using these fingers to hold your lips apart, allowing your middle finger to rub your clitoris. Then there's the figure eight. Take one to two fingers and make a figure eight motion over and around your clitoris. You decide how big or small you want the figure eights to be. Everyone getting these little tips? Men can do this too.

The up and down, place a finger on either side of your clip and rub up and down. This stimulates your clip and your interlebia. So women, some women, they're interlebia sensitive, some women that's not. Then there's a hand job for the woman. Place three to four finer side by side fingers, side by side, and flat on your outer labia.

Apply pressure and pick the movement that is most pleasure wolf to you. Another movement is to tap it. Separate your outer labia to expose your click. You've seen that in porn, right? Yeah. Use your index finger to tap your clitoris, changing speed and pressure at your pleasure.

You should explore different movements to see what works best. These are all different ways you can touch your cliterus. Like, so you I'm saying, and one of these is going to work for you. You can also bring a toy into the equation. You can use a toy. There's lots of clitoral stimulating toys that are great, also insertion toys. You can go to adamaniv.com

Use coupon code Emily and get 50% off most items and Free DVDs. Oh hell yeah and porn porn your favorite my favorite. It's not my favorite like I love porn But I don't watch it enough. What are you putting out your own porn like you directed it or something? You don't have to be in it. Yeah, I'm out of something that's They could be they could be on the bucket list. No, I don't really want to drug porn What do you want to drug porn? I mean, I do have a film background You just make new you just make porn at home with the girls that you sleep with yeah, but that's one Can I come over? I want to see you having sex really kind of just for fun. Maybe not okay I'll have some dequila. Maybe watch one that be funny. Oh my god. Let's have to kill

And I did your house and you just like play you like that bitch was the every like check this one out How many do you really have the roller dicks with women? a couple three 10 not 10 15 are they VHS tapes? No, no VHS You don't keep on actual tape. Well, I just got rid of Are they VHS tapes? No, not VHS. Okay. No, keep on actual tape. I just got rid of all my VHS tapes. Really?

Yeah, like, welcome to 2012. Oh my God. What are you going to do without, uh, uh, I can't even think of a movie on your Ghostbusters on VHS? I know. I just, there's some of them. Caddy Shack is what I was talking about. Caddy Shack.

What are you going to do with our Caddy Shack? Um, I know. I can't believe I did that, but it felt good. It needs to get rid of shit. Sometimes it feels good. Okay, so when I'm talking about bringing it to the equation, it feels good to have the constant vibrating pressure. Other times it feels good to remove the vibrations from your clitoris and then apply pressure again.

So you put the vibrator on and then you take it off. You can also try Jimmy James vibrator if you've never tried it before. The form 2 is amazing for all beginners. It just matters what feels good to you. If you do like Jimmy Jane, Jimmy Jane dot com, you use coupon code spring and you get a discount, which is awesome. How about that? We took a tour of Jimmy Jane. I know, that was fun. We just got the video and we're getting it out of it right now. We had that was fun going to the headquarters. How cool are the toys? It was cool.

It was really. It's a great gift. Like if you're looking for good mother's day gift. I felt bad because I had a rush to do that. When your mother's day just happened. My mom's coming and I didn't get her present yet. Well, I'll discover a Jimmy Jane. Okay, what were you saying?

We rushed through there and watched. No, I had a rush through there. I felt bad. I felt like being at, I was at Dick or something. Oh, no, no. But I usually come off as a dick and I was like, No, honey, it'll be fine. No, I know. No, you really don't, though.

Okay, cool. Cool, you're totally fine. But I think I shot it pretty well. Yeah, totally. I haven't seen it yet. But being edited right now by one of our interns. Good. We did a little tour. We do tour of sex factories so you can see them. Okay, we've got a list here.

We're going to try to get through as much as we can. All right. These are some things that they should have taught you in high school that you never learned. All right. Ready? How to spot a douchebag? In your teens, you know. You women, you could be like 50 years old, you still can't spot a douchebag.

I know, it's true. Guys have really good douchebag detectors. Right. I can spot a guy's douchebag, probably within 30 seconds of meeting him. Really? Yeah. I don't think I have a douche star either. You don't have a douche star.

A douche star. A douche star? A douche star? Yeah, you don't have a douche. And your teens, you've no doubt run into some guys who are being suspiciously nice to you. Likely, you figured out, in many cases, this is nothing to do with them being nice guys. And everything to do with them desperately wanting

you to touch their boner. What you might not realize it over the next few years of string of rejections will cause many of these men to start hating you. Some of them hate you already because they grew up hating their mothers and it's kind of carries over boys or like that. Now some of these men will then become members of the Pickup Artist community.

Many of their techniques work by playing on your insecurities. For example, they might first engage you in conversation, then drop subtle criticisms that will undermine your self-esteem and subconsciously make you want to gain their approval. This sadly works on young, pretty girls as well. Watch out for the pickup artist community and the guys who are being jerks to you and that you want their approval.

And so you think, oh, he's a jerk to me. I really want him to like me. Just just lose this guy, lose his number and move on to the nice guy, a nicer guy. Am I crazy? Or did you go hang out with the pickup artist one time? Or am I Adam and I? I did, I did.

Years ago. I used to have the pickup artists on the show all a moment? I did, I did. Years ago. I used to have to pick up artists on the show all the time because I just find them fascinating. There's a whole art of, there's a book written by Neil Strauss called The Game and it's all about pick up artists. That kind of started the whole thing and then there's, all these guys, there's really MTV shows about it.

These guys who have this art and science and they have like a whole way of like dealing and picking up women and stuff and it's crazy. Okay another thing that you might have taught in high school that they should have taught you why porn is not a good way to learn about sex. Ah that's lies. Young men have probably seen several thousand hours of internet porn. They will engage in their first sexual encounter having no practical instruction to give you

beyond those videos. Unfortunately what what you see in porn tube represents only what certain men wish sex was like. So what we're saying is that everything you see in those videos, including the ones that claim to be reality porn, is there specifically, because real sex isn't like that. These videos fill the gap between fantasy and reality. So for example, here are some things in porn that you should, learning that you shouldn't learn that you think feel good and don't feel good. First of all, your penis size is fine. You might not

star in a porn, but nothing's wrong with the size of your penis. Yeah, guys, it's an illusion. I mean, some guys really do have big penises, but if you met some of these porn actors in real life, they're like really tiny guys. They just have normal sized penises, but they're not really tall, you know? Right. They shoot them from the bottom up. Yeah. No, no, no, but they, you know, camera, the camera adds, you know, to it. Do you know how many people that I've met in real life, like reality stars that look cute, cute like buff giant effing guys that are super small. Right. Right. It's like the guy Vinnie not Vinnie. The biggest guy on the Jersey Shore. Situation. No. The situation. The one

that no one cares about. Ronnie. Sorry. Sorry, Ronnie. I didn't mean to say that. I really like you. But Ronnie is actually he's shorter than I am. This guy looks massive on the camera. Yeah, that's good. Hopefully I look really big on camera. So will you? Your penis is fine. OK, your first time might be a humiliating disaster

no matter what you do. So don't glorify your first time having sex. It might suck. It might not be great. You're not going to have an orgasm. It's not going to be so great. Most women are not sexually stimulated by spanking. I don't know about that.

Some women might, maybe not early on, but eventually some might be, I think, a lot of women are. Every woman is different and you only learn what she likes to be a practice. So just because you saw it in a porn and try it with the woman does not mean that it's necessary you're going to feel good for her. Women love facials.

Menace, what are you talking about? You don't even have to ask them for permission. They dislike you on you. Don't come on her face without asking they love it Who loves it? It's like lotion when you get them drunk enough and they're in bad name. No, they women They just like that kind of stuff. You see it in porn. It's cool women just they welcome it No, they don't retract retract retract be dapped Okay, the next thing you should learn high school, sex is not synonymous with love.

It can't be, but not always, sex is synonymous with physical attraction, hormones, and judgment. Note that I didn't specify good or bad judgment. Sex can be fun. That's another thing to learn. Why they don't talk about the commasutra tantra sex toys or kinky fantasies and sex ed. It's all have sex and you're going to get pregnant or you're going to get herpes. But if you're safe and consenting, sex can actually be fun.

When you say that, they don't teach you that in school. No, they don't. They teach you that you're going to get pregnant. Okay. It is sex with Emily. We do a few shows a week. If you want to check out our podcast, you can go to sexwithemily.com, you can go to iTunes, check them out.

We're very funny and entertaining every day, just like we were doing. Malarious. And we're at the Citrus Studios in San Francisco, California. It's an app that you can download for your iPhone and your droid. It's totally free.

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