Sex With Emily - SWE: Sexual Resolutions

Episode Date: December 29, 2013

Get organized. Start exercising. Stop drunk texting your ex. It’s a new year, which means it’s time to make some changes in your life- especially in your love life. So let the sexual resolutions begin. For better sex in the new year: tips for more foreplay, better make-out sessions, different positions, toy play, and more adventurous sex. Also, how to have tantric sex, what to do if you want sex less/more than your partner, and why you should take a man shopping. Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them a bi-gon Hey, Emily you got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken He thinks you're kind of cute the girls got every stand. It's a lie. The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common? What do you mean like laundry? It's drinks and we not talk about sex so much thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got to understand. The women know about shrinkage. Is it a common moment?

What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

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and we love all of our friends benefits member. We love all of our listeners. So thanks everyone for joining us here on our first show of the new year, which is exciting. I'm here with Menace. Hi. How you doing? I'm good. How are you? I'm good. Good. Happy new year. I'm just tweaking a few things. We have a little loud in my head. Yeah, I just got to turn on your headphones. I got it. Which I don't know how to do, but you know, it's cool. I got it. It's sort of like me. So anyway, everyone, I got some and some things to say. I've got a lot to say. So and some things to say. I've got a lot to say.

So, we've got a contest going on. And I was just through this last year, but I'm doing it now. We are giving away two copies of my, a few copies of my book, three copies, hot sex over 200 things you can do tonight, which is doing really well. You can buy that on Amazon.

But if you'd like to enter the contest to win the book, I am at feedback at section.me.com and just let us know why you think you need a copy of this book. There's over 200 things you can try tonight. Why do you think you need a copy of Hot Sex and we will send it to you. So Feedback at Sex with Emily.com, you can find us. And also, we have a survey that we just put up on my Sex with Emily fan page on Facebook and you can, it's only 10 questions that take you less than five minutes. I mean, just want to know what you like, what you don't like, what you'd like to see, what improvements you'd like to see with the show. And it's only 10 questions, so take you less than five minutes. I mean, just want to know what you like,

what you don't like, what you'd like to see, what improvements you'd like to see with the show, and it'll really help us. So please take that survey. We would appreciate that. And what else? Kegel Camp, by my app, it's doing really well in the app store. So we, Kegel Camp, Kegel Exercises,

the most important exercise you're not doing. Everyone's like jumping on the bandwagon and doing other new, you know, new year resolutions, going to the gym. You should do your exercises too. Kegel camp. I'm going to do them as well, which I have not been as good at doing them, but it really helps improve your sex life for men and women. And I got a bunch more stuff, but I'll just chat with men's for a second because I missed his face. I know what's going on. How was New Year's? What did you do? New Year's was good. I went to a party with some friends that I hadn't seen.

I hadn't seen anybody in the last few months because it's been so busy. So I just went out and drank, danced, and it was so good. It was such a good break. Like we haven't been doing shows and stuff, which sucked and I missed doing shows, but it was really nice just to have some time off. Where'd you go?

I went to a party in the city of a house party with DJ. And I don't like, I'm not a big, like let's go big on New Year's person. So it was a nice party, it was fun and I was with people that I love, which I think is the always the most important thing about New Year's Eve is not about what you do and where you are,

but it's not the people that you're with. And I was with people that I love. And we just drank and danced and partied. And yeah, it was really fun. That's good. Yeah I didn't like go crazy and throw up off a balcony or anything. Which I did. I know. I heard you did. I didn't see it but Kelsey saw it on Instagram. Yeah. Uh man. What did you do men? The city. The city for me has always sucked for New Year's. It's so hard to get around here. Yeah that's true. You know there's, to get a cab, it's just impossible.

Right. So, I got a last minute invite to go to Disneyland. And like, there's a section of Disneyland, California Venture that has that Tron theme rave that I was always talking about. Right. It's called, Electronica, and they still all call it. It's awesome, right? Right, you were just there.

I was just there. Right. But my buddy, he said, I'm going to be there. A bunch of our other friends are going to be there. You should just come out. I can go find, because I had no plans. Right. So I go out there and I start drinking. And then around like 12, 30, I guess I kind of just blacked out,

because I said to my friend, I'm going to go to the bathroom. And next thing I know, there's six security guards around me. And apparently, I want to the bathroom inside a phone booth at Disneyland and start the bathroom. Oh my God. Man, that's a Disneyland that just happened to be right next to the bathroom. So I was messed up. I was messed up and I thought I was in the bathroom. Right. Because phone booths look like bathrooms. Yeah. It does. Yeah. A little bit like a stall.

And I started going in there. Start up. And they kicked me out. Of Disneyland? They kicked me out Disneyland. It was pretty bad. That is a funnier. So did your friends come with you?

No, because I didn't want to get my friends in trouble. So I started saying that, oh, these people aren't with me. I'm by myself. And so Disneyland and got me a ride back to my hotel. They were really nice about me. And then what'd you do? me a ride back to my hotel. They're really nice about it. And then what'd you do? So I go back to my hotel and I thought that I didn't have... Oh, God, they shouldn't have let you alone.

What do you thought what? I thought I didn't have the key to my room, which I actually did. So I'm standing out the room and then I see this girl storming out of her room like across from me. Like she seemed all like upset, right? And so I tried to be nice to her. And all I ate, how you doing?

She just like kind of just blew me off and it's kept all walking. Then I realized I have the key to my room. So I get into my room and right when I walk in my room, there's a note pad and I go, man, that chick was being kind of a bitch. So I wrote on the note, I go, oh God, man, she's quite drunk.

I got no one in the boyfriend. I said no wonder no one likes likes you you fucking whore. You're a bitch. I hope you eat shit and die. And then I went and I put the note on her door and I knocked her door and I ran away. And then I went impute and then I got it next morning. That is so juvenile.

You wrote her a mean note because she didn't talk to you on New Years and you were wasted and she probably looked like a mess and a like Bar follow you I want to talk to you. You know what? When I talked to you either well, you probably would have got a nasty note then that is so me I know I'm a menace. That's terrible. You got to get a dissing. I think that's great story It sounds good. My start my start means that my story is not as interesting because I don't get them drunk Yeah, which I should and I should try to but I just don't but it was you know friends I can't believe you did that yeah, and then you set me a really sweet text at like 10

I'm like oh, he's already drunk. I'm like I love you so much Yeah, I love you too It was cool though. I mean other than getting kicked out because I was kind of embarrassed about that You didn't I didn't even tweet about it. I didn't tell anybody. Except for we saw your picture on Instagram. Kelsey saw your picture. Yeah, but I didn't say that I got kicked out in the Instagram. No, but now we all know you got kicked out of Disneyland. Can you not go back?

You know, if you look at your laptop. No, they didn't like check my ID or anything like that. Okay. They're really cool about it. Right. At least from what I remember. They were really cool. And then you drove there?

You in your new car? No, no, no. I didn't drive you flow. No, I had my friends. I went with a group of friends. Oh, that's good. Okay, that's fun. It's good.

So then I'm happy to be back in the Bay area here. I know. It's awesome. Sorry, I'm so glad you're sending us. I'm so glad you're sending us. Lots of new things. We have new, bunch of new shows coming up. New audio, right?

Our audio's way better. Yeah, way better. And because you know what, if you're going to do it right, you've got to do it yourself. We've got to do it right. And this show, today's show, is your sexual resolutions for 2012. So what are your sexual resolutions? And we're going to get into that. And we have a poll.

Oh, you love polls. What do you want to, it's on our website, sexlamy.com, go vote. What do you want to accomplish in the bedroom in 2012? A threesome? Try a new sex toy. Get tied up, maybe a whip too. Mutual masturbation or other, let us know, feedback at sexlamy.com. You know, because sex is one thing, and we're going to get into this later, but sex is such an important thing that

people get stuck in a rod, and everyone's at the gym right now, or they're looking at their finances, or they're doing things differently. I feel like sex is the kind of thing that people don't often look at. They're like, oh, sex is fine. We do the same thing, especially if you're in a relationship. People get into little ruts, so I think you got to shake things up. That's what we're going to give you some advice for that today. And menace is going to talk about what his sexual resolutions are, too. I will.

You will? I saw your tweet earlier. You're gonna try to be sober when you have sex. Is that one of them? Yeah, I'll do that. Sober sex? I'll try some of you know. Sober sex in 2012. Yeah, I'll try anything once.

I'm sober for this month. Not even though I'm a big drinker, but I'm not doing anything. Why? Just sober January. A bunch of my friends are doing it. I know, I think it'd be fun. I mean, yeah, I don't think you're...

Nothing. I'm not a problem at all. I don't even drink that... Nothing. I'm not a part of the problem at all. I don't even drink that much. But I'm being super healthy, which is so cliche, January 4th. I'm going to dog, I'm about everything, because that's what you do. But I just figured I'll do it. Yeah, that is pretty cliche. I know, I'm sorry. I'm just at least I've been meeting it. And I also want to give a shout out to Jimmy Jane, that everyone's been... You go to my website and you'll see Emily picks page at Jimmy Jane and you can get

$25 off, purchases over $100, they have the most amazing sex toys and you put Emily 25 at checkout. And we love their toys, they're really beautiful. They have Form 2, Form 3, they have cock rings that are amazing, they have their massage candles, great gift. You're going to do an intern review, right? Yeah, we're gonna do that on Wednesday, Tuesday, Wednesday show, which we don't usually do a show Wednesday, but we'll play it on Thursday, whatever. But we are doing intern sex toy review,

and they have, they've got a bunch of sex toys, so we're reviewing Jimmy J and toys, and we also Adam and Eve love them. If you give coupon code Emily at checkout, you get 50% off almost any item and free toys and you get the Kim Kardashian sex CD. Who's excited? Who is excited? I want to order a toy just so I can get the Kim Kardashian sex CD because I've never seen

it. I've actually never seen it. I saw like some clips of it but I never watched all of it. Well you can get the whole CD at AdamNive.com coupon code Emily at checkout and I've actually been watching TV. So you know I got cable three months ago and that was a big thing. I was like I'm going to make myself watch TV but like I couldn't do it. So you know I got cable three months ago, and that was a big thing. I was like, I'm gonna make Wes up watch TV, but like I couldn't do it.

I was really busy. So over the holidays, I just started tuning in. What? I saw the Kardashians, Courtney and Kim take New York. Boring, not interesting. It's not as good without Chloe there. Like Chloe, Kardashian here. She has a lot.

She has a lot of personality. She's fun. She starts, She has a lot of personality. She's fun. She starts a lot of drama. She says what she wants to say. Exactly. Which makes everything interesting. Okay, so I got it. So Courtney Kim isn't really a good representation.

Is what you're saying? No, I got the Kardashian thing. Okay, so I saw that, but I did see her and her ex, Chris, and he seems like a jerk. And he seems immature. Like, I think the reason why they got divorced is because he is so friggin immature and he can't handle her success. He's very...

It was obvious after five minutes. It's very immature and his humor is super dry and I don't think everybody gets it. I think it's dumb, not even dry, like just immature humor. Yeah, so I think that's, I'm talking about the Kardashians. Okay, I actually had a dream about the Kardashians. Like someone was like, so I was telling someone over the break and they're like, so how is it,

like how is it going watching TV? Like has it changed you at all? I'm like, I jumped about the Kardashians last night if that's any answer to you. Like I don't know if that's good or bad, but I had a dream about the Kardashians and then I watched that real housewives of Gabri Hill's. You can't tell me you have a dream about the Kardashians

and then not tell me what the dream was. I don't remember what it was. It was like something about, I don't remember the it was. It was like something about I don't remember the dream But I remember like Kim Kardashian was in my dream and I'm embarrassed to even say that like you made out We did not make up. That'd be a really good dream Um, no, I don't remember what it was. I remember they were in my conscious while I was sleeping And I didn't like that very much But then I watched the rear houseways of Beverly Hills and the rear houseways of Orange County and New York and all that

I love all that stuff. I know. So I thought you do Do you watch the Rehowsways? I watch mob lives? They all look alike. They all love those women with their lips. You can't tell me part. I can tell them apart now You need to watch it enough to be able to tell them part but it's ridiculous the fighting and whatever. Oh man It's insane. And then I watch I didn't watch anything like deep and heavy. I'll just take that I just tried to I did not watch Jersey Shore yet. I should, I should, well, the New season coming, so we'll see how that is.

Right, okay. New season should be really good. Okay, I'd like to go back and, no, I never would. Okay. I'm like, because I don't know the history, but he's not that hard to figure it out. Yeah, do you know who's even crazier is the mob lives?

Oh, I've heard of, I have a friend who worked on that. What's, um, the mob lives are insane, I've heard of, I have a friend who worked on that. What's, um, the mob wives are insane. It's reality. Yeah, they put, they put the real housewives ashamed these days when it comes to drama, like it is crazy. Which channel? Uh, I think it's, it's on Bravo.

Okay. It's, it's nuts. I can't really have a chance. Okay. You gotta take it in a photo. You gotta take it in a photo. You gotta take it in a photo. You gotta take it in a photo. You gotta take it in a photo. I'm watching be having to hit it. Okay. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place.

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You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got to take it in the first place. You got too late, but the, he seems pretty hilarious. Like all the promos of him, he's just cracking jokes. Oh, good. I want to see it. It's all about TV for me in 2012. Good. Some people might have one watch less TV and I'm going to watch more TV. Welcome to pop culture. Thanks, honey.

I'm really proud of myself. And we can finally have conversations. I know. I feel like I can't talk to menist. So I'm just going to start watching TV. I mean, like, did you see, I heard, and it's snooki lost a lot of weight. Yeah, she did she's looking good Yeah, it's like one of the top things that's Googled on the internet right now snooki skinny really yeah Because she lost a bunch of weight. Yeah, cuz she can afford to like hire a trainer now and like eat carrots or something and be healthy

Right is that what you do you get famous and it like, you think all famous women dump their husbands, the all famous women get skinny. Yeah, they do get skinny because it's, it's being eating healthy is not accessible. It's not accessible, really. I mean, you have to, if you know, if you to educate yourself and it's, that's not what you've grown up,

brought up with, you wouldn't know. And educating myself takes up a lot of time. I know, I know. I want you to hurt yourself. And I want to hear that little brain. But it's true, if you're healthy or two, you have better sex. So when you're healthy and you eat healthier,

I mean, that should make sense. A lot of things in your life are better, but your sex life is actually better. You've worn your libido strengthened. More stamina. More stamina, all that stuff. So I've got some sex in the news. What do you got?

Okay, you know, well, this has been out for a week, but Katy Perry and Russell Brand getting divorced. And you love Katy Perry, right? I do love Katy. Or no, are you do not? I know you love Zoe Deschanel. Deschanel. Who's also divorced in the last month, but there is a chance with that. But did you always like Katy Perry? I did. She's on and off for me. Okay. Maybe didn't matter before. her before she was, she was, she's okay. She was cool. Not like, oh my God, I love her. Right. Okay. Maybe don't love her. So Russell brand, I guess he filed, but she asked him to file because of her religious upbringing. Yeah. She didn't want to be the one that filed. Does she? Yeah. She was brought

up in some super religious house. Super Christian group, which I don't want to say anything too bad. But if you, if you see any footage of her dad He her dad looks like any guy that would be in the cash row. Oh, he looks gay. He looks kind of like he might be You know a bear. Oh Interesting. Okay, maybe I But yeah, so yeah apparently this is what they're saying the rumors are She's because she's super religious. He is the one that filed.

And I always thought there would be a problem one right away with his relationship, just because of Russell Brand's past. He's a sex addict. It's like, how are you gonna, if you're a sex addict, and maybe you can recover, you've had some past history of knowing, talking to people with sex addicts.

Yeah, I was in a movie called I'm a sex addict. Yeah, go rent it. And it it's like how do you go from being multiple women down to just one one? Well, you can and you can be a recovered sex addict, but it takes time. I mean, it takes a lot a lot of time and work and you do recover from sex addiction. It's like alcohol addiction. Like you're always a sex addict. Like you're always a and you're always an out. You're always an if you're an alcohol, if you've been sober for 20 years, you still call yourself an addict, you know, you're like you're in recovery though. And so sex addicts do in the movie I was in, if anyone wants to check it out, it's called I'm a sex addict,

you can get it on Netflix or anywhere else, you get movies, but iTunes. But it is about a guy who is recovering from sex addiction, it talks about his whole sex addiction. And he's actually, when we made the movie, he's been recovered for like 10 years, he's married as a kid, but it takes a lot, a lot of work. And I don't think that Russell Brande had done the work. I think what happened was he was like, I don't want to be a sex addict anymore. And here's this nice woman, and we have this thing,

and all of a sudden I don't know these urges, but he probably didn't do the emotional and psychological work behind sex addiction that you have to do, like figuring out where your triggers are and why you are a Sex addict and all that stuff. You probably just like jumped into a new shiny relationship And then maybe his old stuff resurfaced because he hadn't done that. Yeah, and then also he had alcohol and drug addiction God really and he had all that stuff. Yeah, and then He's like, yeah, just hanging out with her friends because, you know, they're all young superstars that you go, all they do is go drink and party and he's like, I can't be a part of that.

And imagine, you know, you're cutting yourself off with a huge vagina supply. Yeah. Right. And then you're down to one chick and then your chick is gone all the time on the tour. Yeah. Now, that's not a perfect relationship. Why do people have to rush into marriage? Like, shouldn't like all this stuff with Kim Kardashian and Katy Perry and whoever else is getting divorced. Like, why can't you just date for a while? Like, what is the thing about like, wait, can't marriage be something that you just like hold out for? Like, they got married way too quickly. I doesn't have anybody to listen to the show. I tell that all the time. You should wait till you're at least 30.

He is 30, right? Or she's 30. She's not 30 though. And you should know each other for at least a year, maybe two. Yeah. Unless you're like dying of kids or whatever, like I don't see why you have to rush into marriage. Especially. You think it's gonna mean something and like,

oh well if I'm married, then I won't be a sex addict and then it'll mean more for our relationship, but it just means you have a piece of paper that says you're married, and you're still as messed up as you were before. Well the thing a lot of people rush into it when they're famous too,

is because they don't really have with their schedules opportunity to date. So they go, oh, I really like this person. Let's just be married. I think like being married is actually just being dating when you're just dating when you're famous. Yeah, I guess so, but there's no reason to jump into the marriage.

So anyway, okay, so next sex in the news is holy vibrators make sex a religious experience. Thanks to your growing number websites that have started selling religion-approved sex toys, these smart God-entrepreneurs have figured out how to make money off the praying kind by taking regular sex toys and turning them to holy toys. So it's actually happening across most of the religious spectrum. Muslims, Jews, and Jesus worshippers are all kinds of joining this titillating club.

So Christians can shop at book 22, named after the Bible Song of Salomon, hooking up holy, convenient spice, and intimacy of Eden, Jews can produce a practically named kosher sex toys, and Muslims have the more stayed sounding al-Assyria, which means the society in Arabic. So they have all these sex toys.

They don't really have any nudity on these websites. They rely on mannequins to display lingerie. And they don't feature any sexy language. So the butterfly, clitoris stimulator just becomes the vibrating stimulator. So I guess, I mean, they say half of all women last year, a study came out that said they value sex toys. So why not religious people? Two sex toys are fun for the whole family.

Fun for everyone. Yeah, it's funny that they're... Not the whole family, but you know what I mean? Wait, read that first line again. It said that it was religion approved. Like, who's approving them? I guess these websites are saying that these would be okay for religious people.

These are the religious ones. Oh, okay. So it is rarely read by insects there and sex therapists says, religious people do it like everybody else. Why shouldn't they have access to toys to make their lives more satisfying? The products are also de-sexed before shipping. Some of the sites repackaged things in plain boxes while others only sell brands that are already tasteful enough for their customers. And to be honest, a lot of sex toy sites like Jimmy Jane and Adam and Eve, they also send things like in brown paper packages.

They don't send things with like naked women on the car. No one wants that on their, you know, their postman. I think that's a big one for that. At Spencer's, this a little... That's still around, Spencer gifts. Yeah, Spencer's, yeah, it's fun. I love Spencer gifts.

Yeah, so Spencer's still around and they... It's a story, yeah. You can buy actually Postcards are just like it looks like boxes and it's fluorescent colored and then I'll say porn inside or something like that That's funny. They can mail it to people and like mess with them. It's pretty good They have Spencer's I used to like the every mall anywhere. Oh, I don't care. I'm all that much But they don't have the malls in the city Yeah, oh wait they have one at a mall in the city.

Let's go outside the city. When I was little girl, I used to go and look at the edible underwear. I thought those were so cool, but I don't think I understood what they were. I just thought that'd be cool of underwear that I could eat. Yeah. Like I thought I would be eating it. I didn't understand that someone could eat them off of you, which I still think are great gift. Edible? Edible underwear. There's a lot of you down there. you're down there, you might be hungry. You know, they don't taste the good. They think they're like fruit roll ups or something. Yeah.

They look like. To go back to the religion thing real quick, it seems like more and more people are finding angles to use religion and dating and relationships to make money off it. They have the huge website that they keep on promoting like crazy Christian mingle Christian mingle. I've seen that on CNN and advertised I'm sure they're making a gang load of money and then also J. Day has been around forever Yep J. Day lots of my friends is J. Day even my non-Jewish friends is J. Day because they like Jewish boys Yeah, and I I don't know all the all the rest of them

But my my friends are more mean there was like some other more man Yeah, it makes sense. I mean it totally makes sense if you If you feel that strong about your religion, you won't only want to date the Christian Mingle do it Yeah, I was gonna date online member. Yeah a few months ago I have to that and that didn't happen yet. I'm just I'm getting into my television right now I don't really have to decide between Christian Mingle and J.D. Yeah, exactly. I would neither right now. I don't really have time to say that. You're still deciding between Christian, Mingle, and J.D.

Yeah, exactly. I would do neither. No thanks. Okay, Sting's wife clears up that whole tantric sex thing while doing yoga. Didn't like 15 years they've been talking about that? Exactly. So this is the deal. So for years, I think we've all heard that Sting is really into tantric sex.

And they have amazing sex and these marathon love making sections. So the urban legend is that Sting and his wife would indulge in marathon love making sessions thanks to good old tantric sex. Like in a game of telephone, the amount of time they spent engaged in intercourse very dependent who you talk to, six hours, eight hours, 24 hours. She said, uh, Trudy, his wife, sting said that 21 years ago. He just turned 60. And I imagine the tantric story with tantric story will carry on until he drops. She elaborated. She blames it on Bob Geldoff. He's a journalist and she said at one point the journalist asked how long they could go for and Geldoff said he was a three-minute man. But as

Sting did yoga, he could probably go for hours and Sting said, well, haven't you heard of tantric sex? And Geldild off applies, no, I fucking haven't. So, sting explain that it's all about being intimate about caring for your partner, really engaging intimacy, and before you know, well, you know, you have sex, and that's the premise of tantra, really. It's simple engaging with your partner. So, he doesn't hate sexual superhors after all.

That has been around for a long time, but tantric sex is, I've never actually done it, but I do think that tantric sex is a way of connecting with your partner on this really intimate level. And especially if you're someone who has premature ejaculation challenges, it can help you because you engage with your partner without actually having intercourse right away. You delay intercourse and you let your sexual energies connect. I know it sounds kind of. No. For the freaky, deaky butt. Yeah, if you guys are looking to rent a movie,

there's a really funny discussion. I'll do it no justice if I try to repeat it. Rent this movie called Go. It's one of my free movies. And they have a whole discussion about tantra sex. They do? That's hilarious. Years ago, go, right?

Yeah, it's like late 90s. I remember that movie. Yeah. Okay, Steven Tyler confirms engagement. The official word has come from Steven Tyler's famous giant lips, he's engaged. The giant rock girlfriend, Aaron Brady, has been sporting lately in engagement ring.

And a worn down rep for the American Idol judge confirms our story of December 27th. Tyler did indeed pop the question. So. I heard his family's not happy about it. Why is she young or something? Yeah, she's younger, but I think. Has he never been married?

Yeah, he's been married. Oh, okay. So why is it a bit dealt? Because he's Steven Tyler, I guess. Probably because he's like really old and she's young, whatever. This is the same story all the time when it comes to old rockers.

But they've been together since 2006. Yeah, that's good. Five years. Five years is pretty good. What's up? Five years makes more sense to get married than five minutes. Yeah, why is that? Oh, you've been together five minutes.

I like you like me. Let's get married and register and get a bunch of gifts from people and not return them. I would love those gifts. I just want to get married to get gifts and register. Um, what else did I hear about this? Yeah, I just heard that the family wasn't happy with it.

That's all I heard. Oh, I wonder why? Yeah. Family's never happy. I mean, not never, but you can't, you know, it's important to listen to your family and listen to your people, but, you know, they probably have some kind of deeper love that we just can't understand.

I love his daughter, Liv Tyler. She's like, oh yeah, I forget that's his daughter. He has another daughter too. Yeah, didn't know that. Not as hot. I know Liv Tyler. So what has she been doing lately? Haven't seen her in years.

I don't know, she did a lot of movies for a while, but I think she had some kids, yeah. Right, it happens. Okay, the two-puck sex tape sold. I know I heard. Two-puck Shakur's 1991 sex tape is officially off the market according to TMZ. The XXX footage has been sold to a private collector. Sources connected to the deal says the former tape owner decided not to sell a big company

out of principle. He decided not to sell it to a big company out of principle, claiming that the corporate porn fat cats were parasites. Imagine that. No word on what it was used for, but as we previously reported, Bids for the background music alone and original unreleased Tupac track has reached a million dollars. I heard that the way that it was bought seems like it was somebody from the Tupac camp that bought it. Oh, maybe. That makes sense. When does it come out? Probably Sam,'m gonna, if they just sold it.

No, that it's not gonna go anywhere. Why, oh, just sold it? They bought it so it won't come out. No, to make sure it never sees the light of day. Yeah. Oh, bummer, not that I've watched it. I've never seen anything. Imagine spending a million dollars on a VHS cassette tape.

That must be so. To go nowhere, but just to respect Tupac, yeah. Yeah, and it's, he's not even having sex, he's just respect two-pock. Yeah. Yeah. And he's not even having sex. He's just getting Filetio. Wow. He's getting Filetio and he's rapping and drinking while receiving. And that would want to see that. It's like, yeah, just put that out. That just puts it, puts it out there for his persona. Yeah. That's what when people think of two-pog, they think of two different type of people. They think of that kind of lifestyle that he lived

and then also something that was very poetic. Right. Yeah, so if it's not something that is like totally out, if it was something totally out his character, then I go, okay, then yeah, they should spend a million dollars. But then otherwise, yeah. To protect his brand. So yeah, they should spend a million dollars. But then otherwise, yeah. To protect his brand.

So yeah, they just someone just did it. That's nice. To protect his brand. Although I would like to see it now that you said about it, him getting a blowjob while wrapping would be kind of cool. Yeah. But I appreciate protecting his image. Okay, we've got some emails from listeners.

All right, what do you got? So everyone, you can email me feedback at sexwithammy.com. If you're a friend to the benefits member, we answer your emails first. We give you advice, but we like to answer everybody when we can't. So the first one, sex with Emily and Vegas, is titled, Love the Show, Lots of Fun and Great Tips. So, taking the show on the road to Vegas, possibly, because you know how we always talk about that, menace.

Yes. You should come during the consumer electronic show. At the same time, the AVN Awards are in town. It is January 10th, 13th. Menace and I can hang out. You and you, Emily, because you're a good wing woman. Keep up with the great show. Mike, he's from Goshen, Indiana.

He's a premium friend of benefits member. I would love to, I agree. Can we get a sponsor? Yes. We got 10 days to make an outfit. Okay. Dude, every single year, I want to go to CES and I want to the consumer like treasure and I want to go to AVN and I've been talking about it since the beginning of time.

So. Do you have a sponsor? Yeah. Like who wants a sponsor us to go? We'll do live shows, we'll offer you products, emails, feedback at sexelink.com. I probably could whip us up a sponsor. Would you go? I would totally go. Can you get out of work? Yeah, I can make it work. 10th I probably could whip us up a sponsor. Would you go? Can you go?

Can you get out of work? Yeah, I can make it work. 10th, 13th is probably a weekend. Yeah, my, my, I don't think my boss is would complain if I had to take off to go to a porn convention. Exactly. I really think that it's ridiculous that I've never been.

I'm almost embarrassed. So thanks, Mike. Well, keep you posted. Yeah, I would totally love to go. Yeah, we have 10 days and the flights are super cheap. Are they? Yeah, Tobages, let's do it. Okay.

Emily, question. It's about boob jobs. I'm in my 60s in shape, happily married Yadiara. I've been flat-chested all my life and would like to get breast augmentation just to feel more in proportion. My husband is neutral. You and my husband seem overly excited about fake boobs. I get the idea that you could take them or leave them. I know that I

would feel good about myself either way. Life is short though. And I think I'd like to feel what it is like to have boobs before I die. Of course, we would take a great trip for the same amount of money. Ah, decisions, thoughts from penny. I actually think that you should go for it. If it's something you always want and you have the money, and I would look into it more, I would go see, doctor, I mean, that's a thing. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting fake boobs

and men is actually, is a fan of fake boobs. She said that you weren't. Well, no, I said, I've always said that. I've always said that. I've always said that. I've always said that. I've always said that. I've always said that.

Yeah, but they only got them after they got them. Oh, right, that's fine. But if you didn't get, he wasn't privy to the boobs because he'd broken up already. I said, I don't care either way, but it totally has to be up to you. This is something that you want that you're not doing for other people.

Exactly. And she says her husband's new job. I mean, the thing with the petty, the reason why I think I'm not saying you should, but the reason why I'm leaning towards it because you're not saying that you want it for yourself a steam and you think you're gonna be more attractive to other people.

You're not doing it for, you know, because you think it's gonna change your life completely. Like you're doing it because you want to see what it's like to boobs, and you're 60, you're in your 60s, and you're in good shape, and you're happy. And I have no problems with plastic surgery. And I think like, if you want to do it, you should do it.

But I would first go talk to a doctor. There's all these like, nowadays you can go and they can like, do photographs, and you can pick out what boobs you want, right? Like, do you have these machines that you go in or something There's a lot of different kinds of Rest all the rotation that you can get I do recommend there because it's so 80 saying silicone is bad

I'll totally go silicone over saline because that feels a lot more natural That's my only recommendation and also you have to make sure you go to something that's quality, somebody that's recommended by a bunch of people because I actually was watching yesterday. There's this television show. I don't know if you probably never seen because you barely watched it, but you're just new to it. I've seen three TVs, right?

It's called A Thousand Ways to Die. It's a television show about all these crazy ways that people died and this girl Went to like a black market a person to get a boob job done and they use like the super cheap It's almost like water balloons the most insider and she got on a plane Got on a plane and the freaking exploded and this is, this is not the, I'm making up anything. This is real. It did happen. They exploded because they used cheap.

Wow. Penny, you should go, make sure you go to a doctor. This is not a place to cut corners. But again, I would, I would do the work. I would go see doctor, see how you feel. Like don't just jump into make the appointment, but I would just, you know,

start really thinking about it, but I have no problem with that, sister tree. I mean, I don't, I don't know about fake boobs. I just, I have boobs right now, but they could go away one day. Just try to do whatever. Yeah, once again, just repeat. If it's for you, I'm totally on board,

and then make sure you get a doctor that's recommended by a bunch of people, not just one person that told you that they were okay. I mean, I can't imagine if she's never had boobs. She's been flat her whole life. She's in her 60s. Like, I mean, I can't imagine if she's never had boobs. She's been flat her whole life. She's in her 60s. Like, I mean, I have boobs, not huge boobs, but I have them. Like, imagine if you, if you never ever had breasts,

like you want to feel them, what it's like. Yeah. Nothing wrong with that. No issues there. Okay. Warning sex less than your partner. Dear Emily, I'm a 37 year old female with a boyfriend on and off for two years.

Breaking up with him several times over this period has been my doing mostly. He is 43. He wants to have sex all the time as much as possible. I find that I can't keep up. We will have sex three to seven times more or less over a week's time, and it's like it's never enough for him. And I feel guilty when I don't want to, even though when we do, it feels great. Sometimes I don't even want him to touch me.

I am so on and off. What do I do? Thank you, Sarah. Okay, Sarah, thanks for writing. This is really a common thing, mismatch libidos and couples that men want more than women or women want more than men. It's actually a, it's actually like a stereotype

that men are always the ones who want more. Because I know a lot of women who want more sex than women than their partners. But anyway, I would say that it's something that you should talk about with him and see because I don't like that he's making you feel guilty or making you feel bad. I think three to seven times is above average. I think about two to three times average. So if you're doing it three to seven times, but I would also get checked out. I mean, it's important,

it's not like you don't have a libido though, because three to seven times, I mean, I would say a lot of times if you didn't ever want sex, that I would say you go to your doctor, you can get checked out for low libido, but I'm also wondering like if you're taking any meds, there are some medications that can make you like,

not want sex at all, so I'm wondering if that's an issue. But I think that you, something that you guys need to discuss and tell them that, like this is what I think that you, something that you guys need to discuss and tell them that like this is what you're willing to do where you're willing to go. And to take the pressure off you've been together for two years.

And you know, it sounds like nothing will ever be enough for him. And so if you, then this can become its own problem that every time you see him even reaching for you, giving you a kiss, you can start to shut down because you're afraid he's gonna want sex. To become the slippery slope. So I would actually start having a conversation with him about it, that you about like what you think is right when you want to do it and that you don't like feeling the pressure from him or you feel guilty about it. And I wouldn't say and you also been on and off for two years. I'm not sure why you've been breaking up with him.

You said it's mostly you're doing. I'm not sure if it's related to the sex thing, but it could be related to something else that maybe makes you not want to have as much sex with him. So I'm not sure what it is, but it sounds like you are attracted to him. So I would just, I would keep with it, but if it comes to problem, you start to make me feel bad, pressure, you know, you could, you know, maybe end the relationship, but also. I would stop being such a prude. Come on. Come on three to seven times a week is totally, is the the relationship, but also. I would stop being such a prude. Come on. Come on.

Three to seven times a week is totally, is the lot more than most people. I know. If you're with someone for two years, yeah. No, I would just. What? You always talk about all you don't want to let it die in you just said after two years.

So what? I'm just saying three to seven times a week is a lot. And it's never enough for him. So I would say that maybe he's got, you know, does he have other outlets? What's that about for him? Sounds like he's really into you. Could it be a sex addict? I don't know.

He's really into you, which should make you feel good, but you don't want it as much. And I think this is so common in couples and I think you just have to have it as dialogue around and be like, not tonight. I'm not ready. I don't want to do it. Don't you feel bad? It's bummer. It's hard being shut down though, right?

Yeah. Like women that you're dating, right? Yeah, you're like, damn. I've done that. I've dated people and I'm like, oh, I don't want to sex tonight. But the thing that's interesting that she said is when she does it, it feels great. So a lot of times, especially for women, this is a tip for women, we don't want to have sex. Like we're not as turned on.

Like I always say, we can't go from zero to 60 like guys do. Like guys get turned on right away and they're like, oh, I'm going to stay. Here's my penis. A wrecked. I'd like to stick in your vagina. Like, within seconds. And women, we need more time to get warmed up. We are not ready.

So I'd say that it is sometimes good to start going through the motions of having sex and then once you do it, you're psyched that you did. So a lot of times just do it. Just go through it and then it won't be as bad as you think. You might even get your tongue and have an orgasm that would be awesome. So that happens with women. We just sometimes don't want to, like I've done that a lot. I don't want to and then I do it. I'm happy. Orgasmic headaches and UTIs. Or gastric headaches. I think I suffered from this sometimes. Really? Or I get headache, yeah.

I've had that too. And UTI is a urinary tract infection. Hi, Emily. I love the show. About the orgasmic headache, it's happened to me a handful of occasions. I'm one of the lucky girls who climaxes really easily. I found it's related to being dehydrated.

If a woman owes a lot, she gets dehydrated, drink plenty of water during sex, especially if you had alcohol, it can prevent a headache. I think someone had emails about getting headaches after orgasm, which is common. Yeah, I think it's because I had a hangover, that's probably, I was dehydrated. And that would have a headache. Shock. You were hungover and dehydrated?

Yeah. It's tremendously hot for a man to get out of bed, totally naked, and go get a glass of water for his woman. What woman doesn't love being taken care of? That's true. I love when men get up and get the water. It's so important to have one of my beds. You love men get up and do anything.

It's hot. It's not that hard for the guy to get the water. It's like, get me a glass of water. And then maybe I'll do whatever. On a related subject, men have to not take it personally when a woman gets up to use the bathroom during or after sex. So many women get infections if they don't, and if your woman is getting up, it means she wants to prevent an infection so that she can have even more sex. The two-minute diversion can get late, can get a guide laid every day, and infection will shut a woman down for a week or so, or a week or two.

UTI suck great sex rocks. I'm a divorce, I'm a divorcey year had plenty of coffee dates and a few really hot interludes. Chemistry is hard to find, but once I've got it, I want nothing more than to be with a sexy man, listening and learning in SF Lynn. She's in San Francisco. Hey Lynn, love you.

I don't know any guy that gets offended by that. I do, okay, so here's your story. So let me just go back to this. Lynn, you're so right, I, women, I'm just, it's just my habit now, like I get up right out for sex? I do. Okay. So here's the story. So let me just go back to this. Lynn, you're so right. I, women, I am just, it's just my habit now. I get up right out for sex and I pee. It's so important for women because we can get infections like that.

It is so common that you're more likely to get an infection than not if you do not pee right out for sex. But I did the guy wants, this has actually happened to me. I'd say two or three times in my life, in my sexual history of sleeping with men, where they were like, no baby, wait a minute, wait a minute, don't get up yet, don't get up yet. And I'm like, I got a pee. And then there was one time, yeah, and I remember this guy, I'm like, I have to pee right

now. Like, you could sometimes you just pass out and you don't be like, I know that I'm about to pass out and I just want to pee. And that is a way to prevent it, because we got to get it out, get whatever infections, even if you're using condoms, it doesn't matter what you're using, you have to pee after sex. And also, another guy, I had to pee,

this was actually when I had to pee in the middle of sex. I've got to pee so much and I have to pee so bad right now too. Do you? Go pee. I'll just talk. Okay, cool. Really? Are you ready to go pee?

Okay, so I did do this guy once and we were having sex and he, in the middle of sex, I was like, oh God, I got a pee, I got to go to the bathroom. And he got so mad at me for getting up and peeing in the middle of sex, like he shut down the whole operation, he's like, I'm done. I'm like, I have to pee, I have to pee. Like, so, peeing after sex, peeing during sex,

pee whenever you want to pee, guys should friggin chill about that because it does help us. And Lynn, I'm happy to hear that you've been divorced a year at Plenty of Coffee Daints and how to interlude, so that's awesome. And it is true that chemistry is hard to find, but chemistry is there.

It is, you know it when you have it. And it is kind of a salusive thing when you don't have chemistry. You can talk yourself into people which I have often done, I've talked myself into being with someone, but when you have chemistry, it's just amazing. So good for you, Lynn. Thanks, Sonom. Glad you're in San Francisco. Okay. I could wait for minutes to come back to the next one because you won't know what the hell I'm talking about, but I might just

read it anyway. Okay. What else did you say here? There was one more thing. Okay, that's all. All right. Hamley, this is about meeting men online. I met a guy online and we've been talking for three weeks over the phone. I recently met him face to face for the first time and I was really nervous. When we had great phone conversations, he makes me laugh on the phone and phone sex is fun.

However, when we met, I was not impressed. Granted, it wasn't official date, but the way he dressed turned me off. He's 35 years old and if I didn't know, I we met, I was not impressed. Granted, it wasn't an official date, but the way he dressed turned me off. He's 35 years old, and if I didn't know, I would have thought he was 21. Am I being superficial? To me, this is a deal breaker from Michelle. This is an awesome question.

Okay, menace just to recap, this woman just met a guy in line, and they had great conversations, but when she met him in person, he didn't like what he was wearing, and she was turned off. Oh, I hear about that all the time. I don't like it.

I didn't like his shoes, his shoes are dirty. Right. Okay, here's the thing about clothes and you can take a man shopping. That is the easiest thing in the world to change. I get it. He's 35 years old. You think, right now, you should have style. A lot of guys just haven't had a woman in their life tell them out of shop.

Guys, don't, a lot of guys don't care. Some guys do care. But there's a lot of men just like a lot of women who don't care about fashion. And I've dated guys, I remember my 20s, I was dating guy and I was like, you cannot wear that only in the half. And I'm really that woman, but I was so horrified what he was wearing.

I was like shorts with like weird shoes and weird shirts. So sandals. Some sandals. And I was like, I'm not going out with you. I dress like that. And I don't think you're being superficial. I think that you're being real, because it's connected to how we're attracted to someone.

And a guy who's a good dresser is attractive. Like it just, chemistry, like chemically, you will get turned on by that. So I don't think it should be a total deal breaker. Especially if you guys had, they had phone sex before they met. They had really good dates. I mean, really good phone conversations

and she didn't like it. I'm like, taking shopping. I mean, how bad was it? Was it really that horrible? They can't be that bad. No. I don't think you can take women shopping though. They don't have style, they just don't. No, that's true.

Unless, like a bunch of women around them like coach them into it, but I don't think a man can tell a woman like, hey. It's more challenging because guys don't typically, not most guys aren't, I wouldn't take advice from. I did data girl that she wasn't very fashionable. And what happened? It bummed you out? Really? Is that what you broke up with her? No, but I try to help her out here and there.

You did? We'd be like here. Go try these on. They should be cute on you. Go to this store. Did you hear the store just opened? Oh God. Didn't work though. Didn't work though. I just, yeah, I like women with a little bit of style. I do too. I mean, like guys with style, but.

They're like, they're really good looking, but they just can't dress well. Right. Right, no, I know. And I think that, but my mom always told me, she's like, Emily, you can take them shopping. You can buy them new shoes. And it's true.

And there's a lot of guys that are like super open to it. Like they're just like, great, take me shopping. Like I don't know what to buy. Like I've been shopping at the same store forever and I had these shoes since college. So I have no problem with that at all. Oh, I was watching the real housewives of Beverly Hills and they were bowling in my favorite women shoes. I had that on my foot, guys.

I just wanna throw that out there right now. You don't know about that. The Christian Louis Vuitton. Louis Vuitton. Those are really cool. Oh, they're awesome. Yeah. They're $900 of the pair that I want.

Oh. I mean, I can't afford them, but I want to pair of Christian Louis Vuitton heels very badly. They were bowling in them. They were at the red bottoms. Yeah. Were they all healing, bowling in them? Yeah, because they were at the bombs.

Because one of them, one of them is like and they're in one of the rooms there has a bowling alley and they're bowling in them That is hilarious. I probably bowling heels too, but not Christianly Botan's because I can't afford them right now But they're amazing shoes. What did you like on there? Hi, right? They're super high and sexy. Yeah, they're just like really cool I mean if you go to Vegas, they just have the stores everywhere for those shoes. And the shoes just look, they're awesome. Yeah. I want to go to Vegas and buy a pair.

Can we do that in 10 days? Yeah. Maybe we can find some guy who just won the jackpot and would do it. That'd be awesome. Okay, let's get into our topic. We have been going through stuff. We've got to get to our topic,

which is sexual resolutions. Okay. So everyone's making their New Year's resolutions right now, right? You've got to go to the gym, you want to eat healthy, whatever it is. But I think that sex is something that you really should pay attention to. How is your sex life right now? I mean, even if you're in a relationship or not in a relationship, are you masturbating? Are you taking care of yourself?

Are you, if you are with a partner? Are you trying things, doing different things? So here's some suggestions for resolutions. And I'm gonna give you, menace a few minutes to think about, or maybe a few seconds, to think about what your sexual resolution is. And I guess I'll give mine,

which I don't know what it is yet, but these are a bunch from me. So, easing to the new year, we're some serious foreplay. Kiss more, touch more, and make it all last longer. Remember, most women not only love foreplay, but they need it, which is true. So if you've been skipping on the foreplay, which happens sometimes when you're in a relationship for a while, you stop having foreplay, you just go right to the, you know, the quick in

and out. Stick it in. Stick it in. God, you're in foreplay. foreplay is so important. Okay. Number two, sleep with people who make you feel good by yourself. If you're having Sunday morning regrets or have been seeing someone who doesn't appreciate you,

it's time to try something new. Life is too short. It's been time in a relationship going nowhere. Move on from stair relationships that are holding you back. So I think this is a good time to re-eval your relationships. I know a lot of people don't just, you know, in relationships when you want to get out of a relationship, usually sometimes it can take a few months or it can take a years sometimes. People are like, oh, you know knew I wanted to break up with them four years ago and I used to have a period where I spend half my relationship trying to get out of them. So take a look at your relationship right now. Are you happy?

Are you not happy? And I would say that you should set a deadline. So look at all your relationship right now and look at all the things that you want to change. It's now January 2nd, okay? So right? Or January 3rd, January 2nd. So, if I said to you, April 2nd, would you like to be feeling the same way you are now? You'd probably say, no, I'd like some things to change.

So, I would put a little note in your calendar right now. April 2nd, I'll give you three months, right? And write down all the things that you would like to be different in your relationship. And then for the next three months, or you can do even two months if you're ready to get out of it, if you're ready to make some changes, and make that list in your relationship. And then for the next three months, or you can do even two months if you're ready to get out of it, if you're ready to make some changes,

and make that list in your calendar right now. All the things I write, all my reminders in my calendar and it pops up and it'll be like in my notes and be like, I'd like to connect more, like to sex more, like to go to more concerts, whatever your goals are for your relationship or for your together. And see how it is.

And then you'll know when you get to April 2nd, you're like, wow, nothing's changed since January 2nd, I should end this. Or if they have progressed because you set these goals, good for you. So that's what I would say. You should do. I've done that a lot. I've said deadlines. I've had friends do it for me. And they were, I was like, okay, I'm like, you've been talking about this guy for six months that your miserable lot ABC. And then if it doesn't, then I actually, my friend wrote it down in her calendar and she reminded me and I knew that that was coming. She's like, I'm gonna remind you on, it was like February and I really worked on our relationship for a few months

I was like, wow, I've been complaining about the same things and I ended up ending it. We went to therapy together Didn't work It's good to set that line. Yeah, but it's funny because they always sent deadlines for you and then You just miss them. No, you just end up just doing the deadline, like not changing anything. So you just end up wasting all your time on it. No, we tried to change it. We tried to change it. We went to therapy.

Like that was why I went to therapy because my best friend was like, you've been talking, I was with a guy for two years, and there were some issues. And therapy was amazing. I cannot, I am such a fan of therapy as you know. I tell people that they're real time, but I seriously think that if you're with someone

and you're having issues that therapy, you can only have to go for years. You can go a few times if you're in a couple of your couple and you can just kind of, the therapist gets you to say things and talk about things that you wouldn't normally talk about and you get to the heart of the issues that you guys have been evading and, you know, it's good.

Okay, give and you will receive. Being more giving and compassionate in all your relationships, both emotionally and physically because what comes around goes around. So if you've been feeling neglected in your relationship, try giving more. Try doing a little bit more and see what happens because you might get more on the other end. Try new positions. Maybe this means varying the missionary position. This also means you could buy my bulk hot sex over two and a thing so you try tonight. Try putting your legs of your shoulders for the cat position for clitoral stimulation

or maybe you could do woman on top or reverse cowgirl or doggy style. So stop doing the missionary position, try a little something different. Another thing you can do is you can get a vibrator. It will enhance your sex life with or without a partner. And like I said earlier, you can go to Jimmy Jane, go to the Emily's Pix page on my website, actually, if you go to sexthelmy.com, enter Emily 25 at checkout, you receive $25 off orders of $100 or more. We love the Jimmy Jane brand. They make great toys or you can go to the Adam and Eve and you get 50% off of almost any product you enter. Keep on code Emily at checkout. This could be a time to get to

a toy manus. I think that your resolution should be to use a toy this year. No, what is your resolution, your sexual resolution? My sexual is probably just to have more sex. I think that's a good one for you. Because in 2011, there was a lot of opportunities that I just turned down. That I just didn't. When did those opportunities happen that I didn't hear about? Well, it's just because nothing happened.

I didn't tell you. Why did you turn them down? Because I was kind of just like, oh, I just really wanna focus on, finding somebody that I'm just gonna date for a long time. And it's always that tale of, once you start looking, you'll never find it. Yeah.

But you need to prepare for it and be ready for it. So that need to be like scavenging for it, but you can be like, I'm ready for relationship. And just by like stating that, like I'm ready, you know what I mean? And like telling everyone that you're ready, is a good way to find something. Yeah, I don't know.

I think it was counterproductive. And you're roommate. Do you still be roommate? You're in there. Yeah. See, I think that's the real problem that you don't get into, but that's whatever. I know.

I know the truth. And I think you need to kick your roommate out and just start getting laid more. That's gonna real problem that you don't get into, but that's whatever. I know. I know the truth, and I think you need to kick your roommate out and just start getting laid more. That's gonna be easy. So more sex for you. Yeah. Okay, I'm gonna do, but the next one is what I'm gonna do more because I actually, I'm gonna admit something here

which is hard to admit because my keglet camp app is doing really well in iTunes. Like it sells really, people are loving it. Like I didn't know this. Like, I didn't know that the app would sell that well. I just thought keg exercises, doctors prescribe them, like for women after childbirth, for women who can't have orgasms,

for men who don't last long enough, or whatever it is, keg exercises are for men and women. They give you longer stronger orgasms, they make men last longer, whatever. Kegel camp is my app, but I don't do them. I don't do them that much. Like I've done them, I've gone on phases, but I don't do them.

I really think they will help me. Like I've gone in periods where I've seen the results from them, it's like going to the gym. Like you go every day for three months and you're so happy and then you stop going. But I don't do them enough and I'm going to do that. I'm going to get an iPhone. And that's my other new resolution.

I'm going to do my, I'm gonna set the reminder. You're saying New Year's iPhone for like seven months? I know, but I know what, I haven't had time to go to the store, which is stupid, but I'm gonna do it anyway. How do you not have time? There's, I'll take you right after the show. There's one right down the street. I know big guy, I have to go to Verizon and then I gotta do things.

Yeah, Verizon store, right down the street. Really? Yeah. Okay, I'll go. Seriously? It's on my way back to where I got to get to. I'm like sick of my phone. Okay. So, love that you can do is get kinkier. Maybe you want to try out bondage or have a fantasy being dominated.

Go with it and don't be afraid to get into it. But if you're going to do something, anything that can be considered BDSM, bondage, just domination, say, this is a mess, a chism. Be sure to establish a safe forward. Okay, so this is about just kid, be sure to establish a safe word. Okay, so this is about just getting kickier. I mean, you don't have to be all into BDSM, but maybe you want to tie your partner up. Tie your partner what you want.

Tie your partner, try something new, fantasies, try to hold it down the wrists, so your partner can move their arm. This is just some tips about bondage. It can just be like simply tying their arms. Hold down the wrists, your partner can move their arms. This way they will be momentarily denied the pleasure of touching you and feel like they're being dominated. So you can even just like simply tying their arms. Hold down the wrist, your partner can't move their arms. This way they will momentarily deny the pleasure of touching you and feel like they are being dominated.

So you can even just like hold their hands back behind their head. That's a good thing. That's a good thing. That's a good thing. That's a good thing. And nobody does that. Kizz are afraid.

You think they're afraid? Yeah. Why would you be afraid to hold my arms back? I'm small. I'm not gonna hurt you. Jesus. Some guys listening if I'm gonna sleep with this year old my arms back, it's hot.

It's just hot. Having a guy dominate you like that can be hot. Yeah. Would you think it was a hot if a woman held your arms behind your head? No. But me doing that to a woman, I would think it's hot. Yeah.

Good to know. Don't fake it ever. This is another resolution. You've been faking it. It only hurts your lover's potential in bed, because they think they're doing all the right things and they'll never know how to really piece you. It is a disservice to men to fake your orgasms.

Talk about sex more. People don't talk enough about sex. So just communication is a lubrication. Talk to your partner about it. And this also includes dirty talk. Have you never talked dirty to your partner ever? Try a little dirty talk, see how good. Yeah, I don't like chicks that are not into dirty talk me neither. I don't like guys on it's dirty talk

Yeah, I don't like them, but I like dirty talk We know this who established this. Yeah, some girls are like, oh, no, I don't want to talk like that I go okay. Oh is that what happens? So you say something like I was going to be a pussy or something. What do you say? You're good at it remember you're doing fun sex, you're good at it. I was really good at it, but I forgot what it was. There was something I said, and they're like, oh, don't do that.

Don't say that. God, some women don't like it, and that's totally fine, of course, if you don't like it. They're prudes, and they should be sent to an island, so. No, they're not prudes, a lot of women. I know I actually have a lot of friends who've been like, you like dirty talk

I don't like it and obviously that just says like there are everyone like step-sextive really but If you have never tried it with your partner. It's a good time to try it. Yes Okay, so next resolution ask for what you want Resolutions are all out being proactive if you have a fantasy then speak up and take responsibility for your own pleasure Realize your desires but be open to surprises. So always ask for what you want in relationships. When was the last time you asked your partner for anything new? Think about it. Hmm. Like when we were like, you know what, it's hard because it's hard to do. It's hard to be like, I'd really like it if you talked to her to me. Or to start talking to her. It's just hard. I find it hard. Even though I tell everyone to do it,

I still find these things hard. So it's important to do. Okay. The act of learning new things in bed, make experimenting a fun activity for both of you, commit to safer sacks. Do you have been using condoms or protection, news protection? Use full-body rubber suits. Exactly. Whatever you need to do.

And make out like you did in high school. Bring back the kissing, making out as hot under the bleachers. Like remember, like making out it was so fun. I know. And if you're not sure, and you want to do it again, my book is Hot Sacks over 200 things you can try tonight. That's what I got for you. But my book is lots of good tips, as you know.

Man, I was thinking about making out. Remember, you know, there's just those couple girls that you just make out with? You remember those? No. No, I'm scared. The girls that I made out of. I mean, I was thinking about it.

But you know, you had like perfect connection kissing partners. Yes, amazing kissing partners. Gotta find those again. I know. I think that you are maybe too rigid in your kissing because you haven't found that many people that you have kissed that while with.

No, they're not good kissers. Oh, menace. I'm just a nice kisser. I think you might not be. Cool. Well, I thought we did kiss. Was that on the, is that on the air? No, that's going to be a little later on.

Don't worry, it wasn't a heavy make-out. It wasn't heavy make-out. No, I think that's so did her. Didn't know? Oh, forget it heavy make out. He wasn't a heavy make out. No, I think that show did it. Didn't know. Oh, forget it. We're not gonna talk about that. There was a lot show that will come up once again that you guys will hear about. There's a lot of stuff that we've been working on.

You know how the shows have been all messed up. Well, that's a show. You're gonna find out a lot of stuff about Sacrificent Emily in 2012. So I happy new year, everyone. And thanks for joining us again for another year. This is gonna be a great year of sex with Emily. So, thanks everyone for listening to the show. It was a good for you. Email me. Feedback at sexwithamely.com.