Sex With Emily - SWE- Singles Awareness Day

Episode Date: February 11, 2013

Valentine's Day, commonly known as “Singles Awareness Day” for many Americans, is a day for laughter, tears, and double shots of whiskey. Emily answers important questions like, should you use your electric toothbrush as a vibrator? Why or why not? And what the hell should you do on V-day if you're single? Don't worry, you're going to have fun if you follow this advice.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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What up? Perfect. You're a genius. Okay, so everyone, this is a big, this is a really important show. This is like, crucially important that everybody listens to show because you cannot avoid Valentine's Day, which is coming up next week. And it's a big deal because even if you hate Valentine's Day or you're single or whatever, it's going to impact you in some way.

You hate Valentine's Day, right? I don't hate Valentine's Day. You're very anti-vowl. I'm not anti-vowl. I'm just, I'm a Valentine's Day proponent. I believe in Valentine's Day. I just think every day should really be a Valentine's Day. You're very anti-vowl. I'm not anti-vowl. I'm just, I'm a Valentine's Day proponent. I believe in Valentine's Day. I just think every day should be like that. You just don't want to put any effort at doing something for you.

I had a boyfriend, I would do something. A significant other, that's all. That's so not true, minus. What? So we are going to give you so many tips today. If you've, it's a big day. If you have a big day, small budget. I had to please a woman, had to please a man, some gift ideas, some things to do on Valentine's Day.

And we also have a special guest. We have Ethan and Bowden, who is the founder of Jimmy Jane, which is what my favorite, favorite toy line. And he makes incredible award-winning products. We're going to get into those later and he's going to give some tips and how to use toys for couples and stuff like that. Sweet. Sweet.

So what? Oh, and this is the most important thing if you want to win something on Valentine's Day. We're giving away so many things that my entire office looks like a warehouse right now. All you have to do is go to my website, sex only dot com. Click on the ban I'll tell you how to do it. Basically you got to follow us on Facebook and Twitter, sex with Emily and just retweet us. Repost us, reshare, retweet, whatever, and you will have a very good chance of winning something because I cannot live with my office. It's cluttered with sex toys.

And everything's at sex so that made our conversation. Sex so that we got calm. Yeah, that's what all happened. You want to get all the information and you made a banner? I made a banner. A banner. Did you see the banner? It's very impressive.

Thank you. We didn't do that. We actually had someone else do it. Yeah, but just to be able to. The fact that there was a banner that was created, especially for Valentine's Day. That's a big time. We're a big time. We're big time.

We're going to play. That's putting in some effort. Of course, it's a big, I can't tell you how much we just got something from Israel today. Really? Yep, a toy, a big toy. I don't even know what it is. I didn't really understand it,

but we're going to give it to someone. Maybe they understand it. Okay. But we've got some great stuff. Cool. Yeah, so, and it's great to be here on Extreme Talk 165. Oh, it's Friday. I can't wait for the weekend.

What are you doing? Los Angeles this weekend for the Grammys. That's going to be really fun. I love hanging out there for the Grammys because there's always parties going on. And I already got invited to a bunch of parties. So you're so cool. Yeah, that's awesome.

They're going to be big social media party and then going to the Grammy Museum to a party there and It's really cool. It's great. I don't know. Are you driving? Are you bringing anyone? I'm driving now. Oh, well, I am driving with another man. Oh, okay Are you gonna? Are you gonna hit up any of your babes in LA on all the girls that I know in LA? We talked about the mr. San Francisco something. No, no, they they all have boyfriends now, so yeah, but that was last time No, they still have boyfriends. No, they still have boyfriends. Oh, you're sure there's yeah, there's girls that are friends I'm married whatever

But I mean I'll hang out with them, but I don't want to hang out with any girls that boyfriends. It's too much trouble I got I hear you why why even putting I totally understand I totally understand I am just like you know, I hear you. I'm sure I'm gonna keep you. Why even putting you in here from the other side? I totally understand, I totally understand. I am, I'm just like, you know, I am going to, it's my friends birthday and we're going to do a spa thing in Napa. Uh huh. So we're gonna do, it's gonna be girls and it's gonna be spa treatments.

Yeah, isn't that nice? You're gonna drink wine. We're gonna drink wine, which is my favorite thing. And I'm, and then I'm going to... Why do women always have to go to spa? Because we like it. It feels like... They're not going out there and doing construction

on like freeways and stuff like that. Those are the type of guys that should be going to spa and going to like, hire parties. They probably need it more than we do. Oh my God, I need to go to the spa. I'm so overworked and you know, actually sitting at a desk all day.

It's true. It's exhausting. And can I be honest, though? I am not a fan of the group trip. So I actually am sort of dreading it to be honest. Why? Because I don't like, I don't, I want to be able to escape. Like I want to drive alone, I want to be able to leave,

I want to leave, I don't want to share a room, I don't know everybody, like I don't love it, but it's like a really good friend's birthday. So I feel like, I feel like I have to go, but I don't like group, I mean, you're just being around that many, I don't love it, but it's a really good friend's birthday. So I feel like I have to go, but I don't like group. You're just being around that. I drive by myself. I totally am, and then I might escape, and my not stay. That's the thing.

I always end out. When you leave, everyone's going to talk crap about how you say how your Uber beage because you had it leave. I was the first one to leave a birthday party the other night too. I was like, I've got to start the leaving process, and I did, and then everyone else left, because it went on too long. Everyone's having birthdays, and it went on too long. Everyone's having birthdays and it went on too long. How long were you there before you left?

I was, I arrived at six. It was Sunday night. I arrived at six. I left at 10.30. To me, that, I did my time. Yeah, that's cool. I totally didn't care about the person who just leave. I love her.

I just, four and a half hours of my time was a lot of time. Four and a half, but a feature friend. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, she's a good friend, really good friend. She's awesome. Shock D is her name. So, okay.

And then, what's this, the, what's going on with you? It's really loud and. It's so funny because we're just talking to our guest and how there's always audio problems with you, like for the past seven years. how there's always audio problems with you. For the past seven years. Right. There's audio problems with me. Our guest, okay, now it's down.

That's better. Our guest is, he was on the early shows, like when it was like at a kitchen table, before I even knew you. I can just imagine the audio problems then. I would probably commit suicide. You would have a heart attack. It was not good. No, but they always had a sound guy. I always had imagine the audio problems then. I would probably commit suicide. You would have a heart attack. It was not good. No, but I always had a sound guy.

I always had someone to do in the show. That's why it's so fun that he's here with us, Ethan. We're going to talk to him a little bit. I've got some news. Okay, what's in the news? Sex news. This is what I've got for you. Okay.

Cardation divorce to be turned into reality TV show to prove reality TV is bad, is as bad as it is. Okay. So the cardation divorce trial is a knife and proof of anything. That's why there's all this. The cardation divorce trial is about to get more ugly with Chris Humphries and his lawyer attempting to put the reality TV itself on the stand. Chris and his attorney want to expose the MO of reality TV by proving Kim Kardashian

and no intention of staying married to him. So they're gonna publicize the divorce in court. Have you heard that? No, I haven't. Yeah, would you watch it? You probably would, because you love Kardashians. Oh hell, I love it. Yeah, I mean, I guess there's a lot to be exposed when it comes to that.

I mean, a lot of stuff will probably be revealed on how the show is shot and things like that, but will the public really care? I don't know, they're probably over it. stuff will probably be revealed on how the show is shot and things like that. But will the public really care? I don't know. They're probably over there. There's always, there's already things online that you can watch and see how the Jersey Shore is fake and things like that. The public doesn't really care. They still find it entertaining. It's fake. It's not real. Well, they, they, they, um, they showed some things where there was a situation where they got in a fight in Italy

with some bartenders because the bartenders threw ice at them. But when you slow down the video, the ice is coming from a different way. Oh, right. Other than the bar. And they made it up. Yeah, like they made up the drama and stuff like that. So, you know, things like that could be proven. Right, right, that's true.

Okay, I've been watching it a little bit now, but now my cable's broken that you fixed, that you set up. Why? It says, it's no signal. I just got cable. No, because there's something that you're doing with your TV that you're hitting,

because when you hit the all on button on your, yeah, it says no signal, yeah. Yeah, yeah, for some reason, I don't know how you did this, but when you hit the all on button, it's no signal. Yeah, yeah, for some reason I don't know how you did this But when you hit the all on button everything should come on right but when you hit the all on button on your Remote it shuts off your TV and then turns on your cable box and then so when you hit it again, it will shut off Turn on the TV. Yeah, it will turn on your TV and then shut off your cable box. Why didn't you tell me this? I built out I so you tell me I? I built that. So you tell me. I thought I fixed it. I don't know what you're.

I don't know what you're. I don't know my pal, Mizzith. So I've had a TV in long time and I finally got one this year. And it took me a long time to get into watching television. It's not my thing. But lately, I've been wanting to and I've been getting into it and watching like a lot of reality TV shows like the real housewives of every freaking county.

And my TV's not working. So that's all I do. Okay, explain to me after the show. Yeah, I will. I thought I had a college cable company. No, I'm all about mob wives. I've never seen it. I've never seen it.

Never seen it. The wives of all the mobsters. Is it for real, though? Yeah, they got black eyes and stuff. It's for real. Wow. Yeah, there's no joke. I gotta watch stuff. It's for real. Wow. Yeah, okay. I got to watch that on my list. Okay, 10% of US parents have questioned their child's paternity. That's a lot of parents

questioning. Company that sells over the count of paternity tests as it's 12% of men and 10% of women have been in a situation where they've had to ask, who's the daddy? Because you can't trust them. Women fell as that's why you can't be using protection that's why you need to get the home uh... paternity test to see who's who can you believe it the actual percentage of misidentified fathers ranges from two to four percent double that in europe this is because in the u.s. more and more babies are being born outside of marriage

and more couples are living together yeah and that's you know the whole thing with that's why it's in the news, the whole thing with the Chloe Kardashian. What did they find out if she had Kardashian or not or whatever? They're saving it for the season eight or whatever. Yeah, with Chloe in the Mar. Okay. Oh.

So that'd be kind of a bummer to find out you weren't really part of the family. Not really. Well, I mean, she saw the same mother. I mean, she saw the same mother. Right, but still, the whole keep that from you. She wouldn't be actually a Kardashian. Right. Should be whoever her dad was.

Right. Exactly. And I mean, if you Google Chloe Kardashian's dad, real dad, I don't know, man. Oh, you're following the picture, but anyone. Yeah, you, you, you're not a good judge of it. Why? I'll ask our, uh, our are not a good judge of it. Why? I'll ask our, uh, uh, I'll ask you then. I'll pull up.

I'll pull up right now. Okay. Okay. So this Valentine's Day try thoughtful over traditional gifts. Okay. An online survey of US adults about about their Valentine's Day gift preferences found that, well, 57% of Americans would enjoy dinner at a nice restaurant, more sentimental ideas, such as receiving a hand-written love note

or a home-cooked meal came in as close second and third. Other gifts ranked in survey included flowers, chocolates, cloned perfume, and spa treatments. So the survey also asked which celebrities Americans would most like to receive a love note from 34% of men opted for Katy Perry. They want a love note from 34% of men opted for Katie Perry. They want a love note from her. Really?

That's bizarre. You think they'd want it from someone else. And then Taylor Swift was close behind whatever. Yeah, I don't know. I have a love note. People don't write love notes anywhere. I may like love, they sex, or they send you a quick email. I used to get letters. I want cards. I want email.

I want your thoughts. I want to know what you think about me. How much you like me and how much you love me and how hot I am. That kind of thing. Just write it down. Yeah, the whole thing, Carrie Perry, Katie Perry, I've met her quite a few times. Right. She just seems like, you know, you're going to have to pay a lot of attention to her. But I'll tell you this. I think I told you the story before. What I do love about her, she came by my work and she said, oh, can I use the restroom? So she went and she used the restroom and then she came back out and she did all her interviews.

And then when she left, somebody went back into the bathroom and she drew a penis with a nail polish on the stall of the bathroom. She did? Yeah. There's like her calling card, I guess. Oh, when she's of the bathroom. She did? Yeah. She just, there's like her calling card, I guess. Oh, when she's in the bathroom, she, um,

she just goes through the bathroom and does like, penis stuff. Is that illegal? Yeah, I guess so, but it's Katy Perry. Oh, right, that's cool. That's cool. Okay. That's nice.

That's why you like her. Yeah, I think that's hilarious. I think that is funny, but it's a little destructive. I like, I'm not going to have Katy Perry over my house if she's going to do that in my bathroom. You don't find destructive. I'm not gonna have Katy Perry over my house if she's gonna do that in my bathroom. You don't find anything. I sent you that thing last night, you're like, ha ha, you barely even thought it was funny.

I sent you this picture that I found. I know, I didn't think it was that funny. It said, it said, it said, it said, it said, ha ha. It said, car, masutra, like a car, and then it has a picture of a car, and then it shows people in the car, like in a sex position.

Get it? Carmas. I get it, but I don't find it funny. Like I didn't go hot. I thought I didn't lol. It was hilarious. It was hilarious. No, you don't.

I do, I do. Show me something really funny things. Just try to do that. I don't know what you find hilarious. You know what I find funny. You know when I laugh. Name a funny movie that you like. That's not like some cult

Obscure classic that everyone else thinks is awesome what name one movie meet the parents hilarious the first 20 minutes of that movie hilarious You think it's dumb the rest is bad. All right. I've seen it a hundred times so funny the first 20 minutes meet the parents There you go. I find that funny any 80s movies. No, no, I mean yeah, 80s movies I don't like what these comedies was like the best. I know that funny. Anything. Any 80s movies? No. No. I mean, yeah, 80s movies, I don't know what. Any skommies, what is like the best movies? I know, that was a good time. Yeah. Like all the breakfast clubs and all that stuff.

Yeah, I'm thinking more of like revenge of the nerd stripes. Oh, right. Stripes, it's amazing. Yeah, those were all really good. They don't make movies like that anymore. Those customers, ghost busters was good. Ghost busters. Yeah.

Anyways, keep it going. Okay, I got to keep it going here. Married sex is predictable, but still good. A new study by I Village revealed that 78% of married women found their sex life predictable. Couples with young kids, especially related having predictable sex with half of women being able to not only predict the course of four play with the length of the deed, the location, as well as her husband's go-to techniques. That's so true. I'm not even married. I've been with someone for like six months and you can tell you, oh, this is what you're

going to do next. This is why you should listen to the show so you're not predictable. Don't be that guy. Don't be that predictable guy. But that said, the vast majority of women surveyed were happy with their sex life. Still wanted sex frequently had experiment. It was sex toys, role-playing, or surveyed were happy with their sex life. Still, what did sex frequently had experiment? It was sex toys, role playing, or spank their husbands playfully in public. Playfully in public.

So it's predictable. But that's what happens, whatever. It pretty little's not bad, as long as you mix it up every once in a while, which is what we're going to be talking about. Sex, how to mix up your sex life and how to have a good Valentine's Day. I know the table here is already getting fairly sex toys. Isn't that amazing? It's crazy. Oh my god, my favorite sex toys. It's not amazing. Oh my god. My favorite sex toys

So excited. Okay, we're gonna get into that soon because everyone's probably thinking about valentine's day It's coming up. They are right what are you thinking about? I'm thinking about nothing I'm thinking I'm gonna go home and take a bath and masturbate but that are you serious? I don't know What am I gonna do go out friends? I'm looking at. What am I going to do? Go out friends. I'm looking at my friends. I'm looking at my calendar. I'm looking at what I'm doing. Don't you have other friends that don't have any plans?

I'm getting my hair done. I'm getting my haircut. Sounds fun. That's going to be a good time. I know. I'm going to go out with friends. Whatever. And I think Valentine's Day, this is where I was saying earlier,

it shouldn't just if you're not in a relationship, it can still be, it should be a day for you, to love yourself. Yeah. Masterbation to sex with someone you love. I'm definitely going to go and have dinner with a woman on Valentine's Day. I don't know, find somebody. I think that you should go with me then.

Huh? Why? Because you love me. And I'm gonna pay attention to me the whole time. But dude, you're the one who's on your phone actually right now you're on your phone. Because I'm looking for the freaking photos for our guests. No, I wanna get his opinion on what he thinks.

If he thinks Chloe Kardashian, okay, let's put him on, because we're going to get his emails. And he's going to, this is Ethan, in boat. And if you're, you know, okay, a lot of people are listening to the show. You can also watch the show at sectortthenely.com. You can see everything that's happening in here. I, Ethan. Hi, how's it going?

Good, how are you? Good. Ethan in boat in fromane, JimmyJane.com. If you haven't bought your Valentine's Day gift yet, do that now. I know you're a huge Kardashian fan. Tremendous. Use a coupon code Emily25 at checkout and you get 25 dollars off purchases over $100. How about that? How about that?

Okay. Is this Chloe Kardashian's real father? It's Chris Jenner's ex-hairstyl stylist. I'm so unqualified to answer this. Well, no, just look at the picture. I Don't find either person attractive. Okay, so it looks consistent in that in that regard. Do they? Good Ethan. Do they look similar any little bit similar? Yes or no, you're not even hurt my feelings if you sure disagree with me sure. Yeah big faux heads Big forehead and yeah Thank you for coming in today. That's all I needed from you wait let me see although, you know, I just oh

The person who has a big forehead is me especially this new hairstyle I love you The I was just like oh my god, look at how big my forehead is and, especially this new hairstyle. I just liked it the near other guy. I was just like, oh my god, looking how big my forehead is. And I had the sexy. I had a little camera setup like this because we were having a Skype call with our engineers. And I was like, look, how big my forehead is. And then I was like, oh my god, it's like,

as big as the rest of my face. I didn't think that. I thought it like brings out your face, the fact that your hair is like, with looks wind blown. I think that my hair needs to be at least as tall as my forehead. And yeah, I usually notice stuff like that. I didn't really notice it with looks wind blown. I think that my hair needs to be at least as tall as my forehead. And yet I usually notice stuff like that. I didn't really notice it with you.

I think it's proportionate. You know what, this time I do think I needed to see it twice. I do think they look alike menace. Oh, hold. Exhaustion the top picture. Thank you. Yeah, I can't wait for season 85 till we find out. That's cool.

All right, go ahead. OK, I'm going to get into some emails right now. Do it. I'm doing it Ready? Dear Emily, I've been listening to your show Since about episode a hundred or so you and men have done a great job and I love your frankness and transparency The organic quality of your show is truly a breath of fresh air I've noticed that you repeatedly said that guys shouldn't try to please their new sex partner using the same techniques that works for their previous partner. I totally understand your point, but do you really think that it's only guys to do this? Women do the same thing, so why do you keep saying guys?

This is a bummer when you do this. Thanks and keep it the great work. I think you and menace have created something special here and has been a joy to see you to learn and grow over the years. Love Jerry and and San Diego. Cool. I can't wait to answer this question. Okay.

I'm going to answer it first. Same thing is that it is true that men typically do do the same thing. They're like, oh, she liked it. And I'm talking about, I don't know, when I think about this, I think about oral sex. I think about how women orgasm is always different. You put 100 women in a room. They're all going to orgasm differently, they're all going to be touched differently, they're going to need different kind of stuff, right? They're going to need different things.

So if this worked exactly for her, like your last girlfriend, it doesn't mean it's going to work for this current girlfriend. Now I think the thing is similar with men. I do think that some men like their balls played with, for example, and some men don't. I think that, so you know what, Jerry? I'm going to say the same thing then is for men too. Men and women should all pay attention, be present with your new partner, ask what they like, experiment, ask questions, talk about what turns you on.

Like literally, this is my biggest issues that couples don't talk about sex. So like just tell your partner what feels good. And don't assume that it is what the last partner liked. How's that? Change out the lingerie drawer, buy some new condoms. Buy some new condoms? Maybe get rid of those old sex toys. Yeah, the old sex toys you have to switch it up.

Let me talk about that. Okay, do, oh, real quick. I just want to say, the reason that we don't stress it so much with women, like getting into a new relationship because us guys, we are simple creatures. It doesn't take too much to make us happy.

So they don't need to like find a new move every single time. But every woman is different. Right. That's true. I mean, men are different. So I feel like. I know what it's not as different. Yeah, not as different.

Like I think all guys enjoy blow jobs. Right. I'm sorry. Not all, but a lot. But there are I think all guys enjoy blow jobs. Right. I'm sorry. Not all, but a lot. But there are blow jobs and there are blow jobs. There are do exactly. And then, you know, I mean, some females are not into you going down there. Right, it's true.

It's true. Some women just don't, I know a lot of female friends are like, nope, don't understand those people at all. But I feel like I give a pretty good, like I'm pretty good at all sex, performing all sex, I think I got it down and I think that I, you do kind of change your technique

when you're with different people, but there is a certain technique that I do over. I think I've got it down. I think I've got a nail, that's all I got to say. I do, I do. Okay, so anything else that you have to say to that, Ethan, what were you thinking? No, I'm good, I think we covered it. We covered it.

Okay. Okay, this is about menace. Dear Emily, I have to make some assumptions about menace in the short time I've listened. I think he's single-possibly looking for someone to get serious with but has not had a long-term commited relationship in his adult life. Whether that describes menace as a situation or not, I would agree that any guy in that scenario generally could give himself a better hand job that the date of the week or short-term girlfriend could. Oh, it's a hand job debate. I've had longer relationships than you.

Not true. I've lived with people. What are you talking about? I never lived with anybody, but I've had two and a half year relationships. Two and a half year relationships. I've had two, three relationships, and then two won your relationships. And I've lived with three of my parents. Yeah, I'm a stake. Huh? I'm a stake. Why do you move in so quickly? Why? People shouldn't move in so quickly. They're like, oh, I love you. I live as moving. Yeah, you should. You should move in with each other. The people that say that, oh, I'm not going to, I'm not going to live with people.

You get their mail still. You can't forget that they live there because you find their sock in the bed. You sound like Kim Kardashian right now, where she didn't want her new husband to move in boxes to her house. I saw that episode. I saw that episode. Totally how you're sounding right now. Yeah, I wouldn't want. I wouldn't say about her. What do they say about Kim Kardashian? I don That it one okay that she was crazy. She was that a remind I want to hear about hand jobs I don't know. Okay, we got back to the car. Okay, so here's the deal hand job. Here's the deal No, just to read it down real quick. We got a breakdown This whole hand job thing just got

Brought up is because we've been having this debate for over three years now that I stated that cool a woman can give you a hand job fine, but I'm just saying that a woman cannot give you a hand job better than you can give a hand job to yourself. I don't know if I agree. I mean, there's definitely something different about being in control and not being in control. And being in control has its advantages, but not being in control and having a little illness or prize, I mean, there's something to that now.

Exactly. Aren't you excited about this other person being? Yeah, no, I think it's cool. I think it's a layer. I think it's awesome. A woman is giving me a hand job, but I'm just, you don't think you're gonna have the same pleasure.

One of my argument is that I can give a hand job better to myself than a woman can give me, no matter what. Right, and I disagree, and I think I was trying to bring hand jobs back. It's how it all started. I was like, you give a hand job at high school and then you move on to blow jobs and then no one's giving hand jobs anymore,

but hand jobs can be really fun and sensual and you use lots of lube and you can use both hands and you could use your mouth and it's just a nice thing to add. So I was just encouraging women to start giving hand jobs again. I thought it'd be fun. But then we just got like,

hundreds of emails about the hand job debate and became a gruel at a control. But guys never really give up on fingering, right? No, no, some do and I'm pissed at those guys because I like that. I like that. So I'm gonna finish the email because it goes on to state.

However, my scenario is that I have been happily married for 23 years and my wife could give me a better hand job than I could give myself any day. Oh, yeah, she knows exactly how to touch me. How long? Well, I hope so if you've been together for 23 years. She knows exactly how to touch me. How long? Where? How much pressure? When to when to vary the pressure and to get to get me off. Besides, she can freely use two hands in ways I can't. And she can reach or approach me at many more angles than I can myself. I wanted to throw minus a bone, no pun intended, by saying that I would agree that generally a guy

could masturbate himself to orgasm faster than any partner could. However, because my wife knows the right techniques that work for me, she can get me off just fast so I can thanks Paul. Thanks Paul. You've never been with anyone for that long. Yeah, not twenty-two years. We haven't gotten a hand job.

I don't know if I would want to wait twenty-three years to have a hand job perfected. You could do it in a lot less time. I just like that your listeners are paying such close attention. I know. And they're sending in such detailed feedback. Oh yeah. And advice to you, menace.

I mean, really, you know, the listening audience gets some benefit, but really we're here to help you out. Yeah, exactly. And why? I just know what I like. Because you need some help with your 5v1. I just had a friend call it 5v1 the other day, and I'd never heard that before.

I like that. 5v1, when you meet a hand job? 5 versus 1, sort of, yeah, a hand job being. Oh. 5 versus 1, kind of like a... Yeah. Yeah. I get it, I like it. Sounds kind of sports term.

It just sounds kind of sports term. I can't even believe the hand job came. I thought we'd killed the debate, but it came back. So feedback at sex with the Emily.com. What do you think about hand jobs? Do you wish that you had more hand jobs? Do you wish that women gave you more hand jobs? If you're a woman, how do you feel about them?

I just think you use lots of lube. There's like methods twist turn the whole thing. Mm hmm. What? Well, no, it just, the whole thing. Mm-hmm. What? Well, no, it just, it just goes back to you think I'm weird, because I like the things that I like. I don't think you're weird.

And I have the statements that I have. And you know, you try to conform me to what you think is cool and awesome. I just, I just think we need to do it. I think we need a new book, which is Masterbation by Menace, because it's possible that Menace has worked out some stuff Yeah, we all need to know Maybe you do have some technique. Well, it goes into another thing too. I'm like

Why do women try to teach blowjob classes? They don't know a woman doesn't know how a blowjob feels Gay guys should be teaching women all have they do and they do and they do you guys do not attend it But they should I think a woman trying to give a blowjob class is ridiculous. I think it's so wrong because women know, but if you've given a lot of blowjob, I think you've had a lot of success. I think that women do know how to give it. Well, I hope if you're giving a blowjob, you get success no matter which way you're doing. Yeah, I think that women can teach definitely.

I think I've taught. I have taught a class, not a formal class, but I've helped friends and interns, for example. Okay, this is a good one for Ethan, because well, kind of, I'm gonna read it right now. Dear Emily, other than the cock, wait, did we, we didn't have to say anything about that, we just talked about the agenda.

I'm just gonna make sure we gave him love, thanks Paul. Okay, other than a cock ring, is there anything else that I can use to help me last longer in bed? Any natural herbs or anything over the counter? Russ, he's a from Brooklyn, New York, he's a premium, friends of benefits member. And I just want to say, if you want to section them late three days a week, you become a premium friends of benefits member. Go to section only dot com. There's lots of perks and fun things happening there. I don't know why none of the listeners listen to me over the counter to Kila. You can just buy it whenever you want. And it works just as good.

But I wanted to say that I want to show my favorite, my favorite, Cochrane out there. Okay. I brought my own. Ah, yes. Okay. This is this is Jimmy Jane. If you're watching us, you can see, it's the iconic ring. And the reason why cock rings are great, and I will get to Ross's question in a moment, but it's because I love that it can fit over any stuff.

One fits all sizes, right? That's right. And it vibrates, so it hits, it can hit the woman's clitoris, or ever, it turns her on, while they're having sex, and it can keep you heart. Yes, you can help to constrict the blood flow. Constricts the blood flow. That's how it works.

But this is this, yeah. And, and, and this, these are great. And I think it's, but there's a slightly different question being asked here. Although, I know, I can't believe it. This may solve one problem, which is that, is that for a lot of men, they may want to take a pause. And it's like, hold on, just to stop moving for a moment. But this is, would still be providing stimulation,

could be vibrating, if you were going to take a pause in your own motion, at least there's still some motion going on, some sensation on the clitoris. But I think, I know, honestly, I know very little about the natural herbs over the counter, et cetera. There are those numbing creams and so on. Yeah, I don't know if that stuff works. I would say, I always talk about

k-gal exercises for men. Like that's what your doctor will tell you if you go. Like k-gels, like practicing your k-gal exercises, your, which is your PC muscles, which is those muscles that you used to start and stop the flow of urine. And you, that's, there's no fancy, pretty way to say it.

But if you, um, practices, you, you tense and relax those muscles and you do it like a few times a day, you can do it anywhere. That will help you, that can help you stay hard longer. You should also, um, practice says you, you, you tense and relax those muscles and you do it like a few times a day, you can do it anywhere, that will help you, that can help you stay hard longer. You should also, um, you could always go to doctor for a checkup, see what's going on there. But, um, can I have an app called Kegel Camp that you can get in the ITN store and, um, it helps people do Kegels, men and women.

They're not just for women. I think a lot of it's in the, a lot of it's in the head and, and I think that there's, if you get into this loop, I can imagine of this loop of psychology of, I don't want to come yet. Oh my God, I'm so excited. I really don't want to come in. It's sort of it's feeding off of itself. Exactly.

I don't know if it's something that, if he has a long term partner, this sort of thing that you can actually just address. Right. And sort of address with your partner, that could be very different from what you're trying to do. I think you do have to talk about it. I think you're absolutely right.

A lot of it is psychological for men, and it is true that you do become, that you become obsessed with it. I'm gonna, it's gonna happen, and it's gonna happen, and then it keeps happening. So there's, also there's a book called the Multi-Orgasmic Man, which I always recommend, and it has great techniques in there for helping men stay hard longer to overcome that.

It's a great book. What do you, okay. So, hello, Emily. I'm a dedicated podcast listener of your show. In one of your broadcasts, you said you had a handful of penis pumps, and to email you to request one. I've been married for 16 years and would like to try one to see how it works and see how it might spice up our sex life. If you still have any, please let me know.

Thank you and keep it the great show. Say hello to menace and the interns. Thank you, D. White, Ohio. D. White. I do have, we had a sponsor a few years ago and I have all these penis pumps at my house and they're taking up a lot of space. So I said I would give way some to listeners.

Are you gonna send them one? Yes. Okay. Do you want, we're gonna email you, get your address, we're gonna send you penis pump. Okay. That's cool. That's what we got for you, Mouse.

Do you have any experience knowing if penis pumps actually work? Have you ever heard of penis pumps? You know, I also have no information about penis pumps. Although I'm suddenly have this image in my head of your place, which is kind of like, I just saw hoarders for the first time, just like I was, the gym and I was running.

I couldn't even hear the sound, because this never works. Right. And I'm looking at the inside of the people's houses and it's horrible and whatever. And I'm imagining, is your house kind of like hoarders, but it's all just sex-perfinal. Yes, exactly.

That is literally all sex toys. You're kind of spoiled because the cameras are gonna show up to her house actually later. The hoarders? Exactly. Yeah. Can we just talk about hoarders? Since I just started watching TV, I texted you, Matt. Didn't I?

Yeah. It was, I got nauseous, I got scared, I got afraid. I was like, I wanted to go home and throw everything out that I owned. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. Because it's so scary, the way those people live with all that crap in their the house they have rats and they're hold the whole bottom of their house they're like yeah and there's cats that are dead oh my god there's like dead oh my god that's a terrible show I don't really want that to happen so yes I'm

gonna friggin send him penis pump today because I'm gonna get that shit out of my house you know what's funny is actually there was like an episode of friends where I think Ross brings it he goes to a chick's house and they open up the door and she is just as messy as that And he's like he's trying to like make out with her right like get down and things are falling all over Please like effing and he just runs out. I think I remember that one You think you can take like a whole bunch of sex toys and penis pumps to goodwill What happened? Oh,? Maybe a recycling center. We need to talk about that in a second about what you do with use. Can you use sex toys again with different partners? It's kind of weird sometimes to do that, but this is what I want to say with the penis stuff and what

I do know. The penis is like every, it's like, it is a muscle and if you exercise it, it can, it can expand in some way. There are proponents. There's a guy wrote a book called Exercise in the Penis. And he was on my show a few years ago. And he says you actually can do all these exercises that grow your penis. And the penis pumps actually engorge blood.

Like the, so it makes it appear bigger, I think, like, briefly, but I'm not sure the long lasting effects of the penis pump, because I don't have penis. I would have tried it out. Menace wouldn't do it. I would have tried it out. Menace wouldn't do it. No, no. You wanted me to try some other, it was like inches for charity or something where I basically

put my penis in a vice or some trap like that. Some vice grip. You wouldn't do that for me? No. Whatever. Okay. Let's talk to Ethan more now about, let's talk about Valentine's Day coming up. So what do you, what do you guys say over there, Jimmy James?

He makes amazing toys. Let me say let me even award winning products. They're beautiful. They are different than anything else at the end of the market. And we love them. And I love the massage candle. I love the kind of green.

I love the form, all the form, whatever. We're going to get into that a minute. But it's a great gift. If I got the kind of green, I love the form, all the form, whatever, we're gonna get into that a minute. But it's a great gift. If I got that as a gift, I would be like, so psyched. If I got one of these toys as a present. Can I ask you real quick, when you're dating something, I don't know.

You have boyfriend, girlfriend, married, all right. Before, how long, what are you doing? What are you doing that? Were you already working with the company beforehand or yeah, I started the company a long time ago I started the company why started working on this in 2002. I was not I didn't have a consistent girlfriend I was dating yeah prolifically and then so how was that how's that? conversation

You know, I think it was sort of self-selected for a certain type of person and woman perhaps who wasn't going to be put off by that. But what I've come to learn is you can't look at somebody from across the room and say, that person is into this kind of sex and that person's into that kind of sex, this person will or will not, like somebody who is now devoting, you know, 80 hours a week to working on developing vibrators and other sex products. You can't, you just can't see that coming.

And so, it definitely, I think, I think there was some self-selection there, but I didn't really notice it that much. I was like, pretty focused on that. But yeah, it definitely came up, it definitely came up a lot. Yeah, you, I was just wondering if you were nervous the first time you're like, so yeah, by the way, I totally would be around the bush.

It would take forever for me to get around to talking about it. Yeah, it's cool. I just always want to know people's stories on how, because definitely with Emily, you always run into that thing. Only I do a sex radio show. Yeah, I don't even talk about it now. But because for me, it's different, like being a woman and you see a guy, like he might not even,

he might not be attracted to me, he might not want anything, do with me, except for the fact that I have a sex talk show. So I must be either really good and bad or really bad and bad and they just want to know. So I tried to do that. How is that different from a guy who just has tons of vibrators at his house? I mean, I see it seems directly analogous to me.

That's why I never really understood their true intentions. Do you love me? For me? I love me, I love my vibrators. Or just for the... I might have suffered for you for like a form for something, you know, back in the day. So I just started telling, like I actually tried to avoid the conversation when I'm dating as long as I can what I do for a living. But it's hard, it's Google me or whatever,

go to my website. So how long you've been doing this total, what you actually had your first product? So I started looking at the category in 2002. So 10 years ago, it's crazy. That's crazy, we met sooner after. And yeah, we probably met right around then, actually. And then in 2003, I got money from friends and family.

My mom kicked down. Wow. Yes. And in 2004, outside investment. And so the first products hit the market for holiday, 2004, really. We're Valentine's Day 2005. And since then, it's just been something of a whirlwind. Yeah. Create new products, changing it up. Yeah. And really helping, I think, I hope to help transform

an industry that was pretty antiquated in many respects. And I was. It was. I mean, a lot of the sex twigs were like not made of good products, and they have like porn stars on the cover. You're like, wow, I'm in the box. You know what I mean? They're like cheesy.

Like, his sex twigs are like pieces of art. Like, you can leave them out. I don't know. You're like, wow, I'm in the box. You know what I mean? They're like cheesy. His sexes are like pieces of art. You can leave them out. I don't know. You don't have to hide them. Look how friendly this is. Look how friendly. That's form too.

And this chart's like an iPod too, right? Yeah, exactly. It just has a little docking station. It has docking station. I think I feel like I already know you because she talks about the products all the time. They're always laying around. So, like, yeah, I feel like I know these products.

Yeah, and they are so smartly made and charred the way you charge them and the way that I do. I have mine sitting out, my form too, like sitting out on all my interns do too, thanks to you. I'll say you are what you eat. I think I am what I create, which means I am a vibrator. You are a vibrator. Oh, let me touch you.

Okay, so that's amazing. So, okay, so, and you've also won awards for all your different designs, different things too. Herman Miller, Nike, Motorola, Ford, and then sex toys. This was not the first thing. But we appreciate that you're using your skills

towards sex toys. Yeah. Well, that's actually, I think that was sort of the motivation was a lot of people were using a lot of skills toward new cell phones and toothbrushes and furniture and cars and footwear, whatever it was. But nobody really seemed at the time to be applying any of those same disciplines in this area.

They weren't. They were like the first one, and then everyone's copying you. They're following you on the path. What, okay. So let's talk about the Alenten's Day because it's really soon. So if you have not done anything yet, what are some, let's talk about, first of all, we can talk a little about using toys,

and we've talked about this before, but like what would you, like there are still some guys that I can't believe they exist still, but there are men who feel, oh, maybe men is one of them, threatened by sex toys, that they are a replacement, that they're gonna replace you, and we've talked about this before,

but like how do we integrate that into the relationship? How do you get men to understand that like it's It's in a copy too. We love your penis. It's an accomplice your BFF. I feel like right? Yeah, I think that um You know the hurdle I think is getting to that first time trying it because once you've tried it for the first time together The understanding of how that might go is very different from that initial fear. It's just like anything afraid to actually go for it. Yeah, she tried it. And I think that getting to that first time is made a lot easier if it's a product that's really approachable, that's maybe focused on external stimulation, you know, from majority

of women, I'm going to say things that you probably say all the time. Right, that's fine. But the majority of women require a literal simulation to achieve an orgasm. And so, you know, the best place to start for a vibrator is going to be an external vibrator. What that also means for the guys that now you're not sort of competing from a penetration standpoint. Exactly. It's a very different sort of proposition.

We're just going to hold on our clitoris and you can still pound away. Let me just put it bluntly. Yes. Right. Let the vibrate or do the hard work. Yeah, you don't have to be down there with your dimiometrics to get down for like two minutes.

You don't have to be down at all actually. What do you do two minutes? Do oral sex? Oral sex? You give like two to three minutes. I know it's your saying. I know what you're saying. I know what you're saying. The special ones get extra attention.

Not so special. Not so much. That's all. Okay. So we've got this, if you got this from your blog, do it yourself Valentine's Day. So these are some,

this is some suggestions. Eat like royalty by cooking for yourselves. That's a good idea instead of making the dinner and having the reservation. Head to the farmers markets, see what looks good, then ask the growers about their favorite recipes, build up from there, incorporating a few seasonal affidies, yaks, fennel, blood orange, and of course, shoppers. You do, you do, just go to Whole Foods and just grab the meal. Exactly, that's what I do, that's what I do, Just go to Whole Foods and just grab the meal. Exactly.

That's what I do. That's what I would do. I don't cook. But if I always date people who can cook, I think there's the broader point here is that this fits under is this idea of, you know, ultimately what is Valentine's day about. What is it? And it's this opportunity to have this special moment with your special someone, right?

What that probably doesn't look like is a bunch of red roses and a box of cheap chocolates and a prefix meal at the local restaurant. Because there's no faster way to sort of demonstrate how little you've thought about this than to walk down that super well-traveled path. Exactly. It's really all about like what's unique between the two of you

and how can you play into that. And one way of demonstrating that there's a little bit of fourth thought is going actually making a meal. Right. So that whole idea of putting some of yourself into it your time. Yeah, Emily. Well, I've never cooked, but I will.

Are you gonna make a meal for this chicken, Tuzi? When say? No, probably, no. If it was my girlfriend, then yeah, I'd probably make a meal for this chicken, Tuesday? When's it? No, probably, no. If it was my girlfriend, then yeah, I'd probably make a meal. I'd much rather stay home make a meal, have someone make me a meal, or even order in food, then go to a restaurant. That's how I feel.

And it is more, you're right. It is so easy just to get the roses and whatever. But that's some way that are down with that. They're like, I want a reservation at the best restaurant. So that's how we don't know. Just like every woman has different orgasms differently, every woman wants a different kind of Valentine's Day. Yeah.

Don't you think? Yeah, some women are super simple. Just like, oh, just, you know, just show that you recognize the day and you care and just give me some flowers and I'm good. Or some chick-tees just got to go all out. That's crazy. Right, and they'll be really upset.

Have you ever had that even when we've been with someone and they're like, you probably always did it right, no? Some girls are like, they're like, I didn't get this, I didn't get that, I never care. I'm not the girl that cares. Yeah, I don't think I would have dated that person. No, probably not. I mean, I've told you before,

I took a girl once to New York for Valentine's Day, but it wasn't something that she was expecting, you know, just to do that. That was nice. Yeah, just have fun. But I feel really bad back in high school, my high school girlfriend. Because I'm a dumbass, we get together

like a week before Valentine's Day. Yeah, that's dumbass. So I didn't really, you know, we weren't together forever. So I didn't really expect to do too much on Valentine's Day, just, you know, the basics. Oh my God, she just went all out and I felt so bad. I felt so bad. You didn't do anything. I didn't really do anything because it's like we're together for a week. Right. Did you at least masturbate so she didn't have to give you a hand job? Yes. I showed her how much better I can give myself a hand job than she could give to me.

That was her gift. That was a good form of warm, sharing experience for you. Okay, there are some of these things that we were going to talk about that I really... I liked the one about the cheaper Valentine's Day. Like, if you don't have a lot of money, what you should do at Valentine's Day. Yeah, I think that's where you were right in here. Oh, was I? Maybe., maybe that's this one. Your penis doesn't cost that much money.

Go look, go. Oh, explore an area of town you don't know. Check into it, check in a hotel in the area. Yeah, I realize after a- It's a great surprise. Tip, a different bed is a great place to try different things. Yeah. I think that's true.

Hotel still might cost a little bit. To get a decent hotel. Say it at friend's house, do any friends or out of town? Say if you could stay at their house for the night. No. And then you friends at a vacation home? That kind of thing? Yeah, I have tons of friends that have vacation homes.

I do. What planet are you on? Um, so yeah, some things to do. Because people like, you know, I feel like that if you can do something very heartfelt for someone, it doesn't have to be. As long as you plan something, have a plan, don't just be like, I don't know. Plan something to do on Valentine's Day. Plan ahead.

Plan ahead. Be decisive. The New York move is a good one. That's, I mean, that's not. That doesn't fit under the budget category. Yeah, that's a, you know, but that's definitely a big role. That was a big role.

That was a big role. That was a big role. That's a bold set. Yeah. But definitely if I was only Dana for a couple months, I'm not taking her to New York. But there's that, there's a, there's a whole study done around happiness and so on. And a lot of it has to,

our happiness has to do with limiting our options, actually. And so somebody making a decision like that and saying, like if you guys sat down and had it hold debate, like, oh, let's go to a city. Right. You could go to New York or we could go to Montreal or we could go to Chicago or we could, we just would not be nearly as much fun

as just menacellating down the lawns. And we're like, look, New York. Well, you're a man, you gotta take charge. I mean, not a dick, but like women like that when you make the decisions because I don't know if you've ever done this before. It's crazy. You ask a woman what she wants to do.

And she says, oh, whatever you want to do She can't ever come up with the answers, but she knows the answer. She knows what she wants to do But she won't tell you. I don't know those women men's dates as women. Do you know this one? Yes You know what I've also I've also been that woman on occasion Where we just want to be you just want to have you want the other person to be so happy Exactly and you don't realize that really all you guys need to do is make a buck in decision. Yeah Exactly be decisive. That's why you're talking about the like the group getaway

Uh-huh That's that same nightmare is like you can you go away? You're going up to Napa with like 10 people or whatever And it's like where should we go to dinner? This is probably all point out in your case But then it's like 10 people in the. And it's like where should we go to dinner? This is probably all point out in your case. But then it's like 10 people in the go show. I hate that. I don't even want to talk about it. I just, yeah, I want it to be done and decided. And it is true. What you say about happiness, I think that's so true that we have so many choices today and so many distractions and so many things that it's just, it doesn't make it happy. It really doesn't have more choices. Like I just want narrow it down, narrow

it down. So get creative. It is the thought that counts. If you're going to give a card, make it yourself. If you're going to give flowers, select and arrange them. Make a card. I used to have a guy with us in the office earlier. I had a guy once, he, he, he wasn't exactly an artist, but he thought he was and he painted a portrait of me naked. He painted a, he gave me a naked portrait of myself. Wow, that's dumb. Okay, so that falls under a different category, also covered on our blog, which is this, which is a sort of, I don't know, we had a like a smart term for it,

but it was a sort of, don't be selfish. Like, who, did you really want? And you don't like your son? No, I couldn't show my mom what's coming to town. You didn't want a naked portrait of you. I don't know, I finally threw it away. Like a type, because of course, I'm not a hoarder, but I mean, I felt like I couldn't,

I couldn't get rid of it. Like it was behind my back. I never hung it away. I got caught because of course, I'm not a hoarder, but I mean, I felt like I couldn't get rid of it. Like it was behind my back. I never hung it off or anything. And didn't even look like it was like, he wasn't a good art. He didn't know what he was doing. He was abstract or something. It was me probably put a lot of time into it.

I know, so I would, it was behind my bed for a while and then I finally threw it away. And then I had to go and make a sculpture of me once. What? I did art this forever. Freaking weirdo that you're dating. And it was a sculpture and then I had a little heart that was hanging.

Oh God, dude. Wow. I know. I had an awkward one, which was along those lines, but it was like, I knew this woman. And then I met her boyfriend, her boyfriend at some point. They were at a party at their house. and he's like, come check this out. I've got these great photographs of my girlfriend.

Look how beautiful she is and she's just totally naked. And so I'm looking at this friend that I know naked now. That is so awkward. Yeah, why are you surprised? And she was cool with you. No, I don't think so. I mean, she came into the room and kind of played along like she was a little bit, but I think it was. I know a lot of women who have naked photos of themselves

in the house. I haven't do several women who do that. Just up. Just up. Like artistic, whatever. I don't think I would do that. No. Weirdos.

Weirdos. Weird friends, you think? Are the naked woman pregnant? Ah, I don't want to see that on your wall. Naked woman pregnant? Yeah. That's a hip thing to do that one that I have That's a hit my friend made that oh you oh my friend took that photograph the one in my house

Oh, I know I wasn't even referring to that one. Oh, I thought you're referring to the But Lisa she has clothes on But yeah, the ones that are you know covering their breasts. Oh right and they're pregnant I don't want to see that right. I have a a photograph that I've had in talk of a pregnant. Isn't she pregnant, Hannah? Yeah, she is pregnant. She's pregnant. She's walking down the street, like in Manhattan or something.

Yeah. That's kind of a cool picture. It is a cool picture. It would be hotter if she wasn't pregnant, but whatever. Whatever, that happens. Okay, so what else for real, then, Zay? Let's talk. So I think, okay, so make it fun.

Oh, this is your gift wizard. You can make it fun by, I love your gift wizard. Yeah, I totally checked it out. So their gift explain that, your gift wizard on Jimmy Jane. So we've got, we added all these new items to our site over the past couple of months. And we realize that there's just, it's just a plethora of options.

And so in order to make that have a sort of different, more fun interface, and like, oh, I'm going to look at Edibles, I'm going to look at Chocolate. Instead of that, you go to the Gift Wizard, which is our interactive little tool. And you basically, you select who it's for, her, him, us, and then whether it's sort of in the noddy or nice range,

and that's a slider, right? Right. And then sort of price range, and it's like, do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do, do range and it like, and then it pops up. I wish they had that in everyday life. Like I want to like a gift wizard for everyone. Like it's a good concept. I want something salty and something sweet. Exactly. And exactly. Just taught me make decisions in life. I would love a gift wizard. I would love, love, love, love that. It's like a decision maker, but it's cool. It's a great way

to sort of check out the stuff that we did. OK, so what about a foolproof fooling around, Pleasier Woman, Pleasier Man? So this was a set of ideas for one side of this that you're looking at is sort of targeted toward her and one is targeted toward him. I think that people get wrapped up in making things maybe more complicated than they need to be. Right.

So for instance, this Valentine's Day is on a Tuesday. So Tuesday doesn't offer that many great opportunities unless you're gonna play hooky, which is actually a great possibility. That is a great possibility. You could drop in and just pick up your man or vice versa your woman for a new owner, totally out of nowhere. Right, that'd be nice. You know, just a surprise.

Right, surprise them for lunch and have sex. Yeah, or or better yet even bigger surprise, just take advantage of the weekend before everybody's focused on the Tuesday. We'd never expect that Sunday is actually going to be the Valentine's Day that you're going to celebrate. Surprise or right? Well, it's the weekend. So just Just jumped again completely. But a massage, would you say there? Yes, massage. I'm so into massage lately.

I think the massage is such a good, I think that couples should massage each other more. Especially if you don't, if you're feeling disconnected from each other, it's a great way to connect again. And to use back to go again. It takes a lot of effort though. That's a lot of effort. You never use one. These are my favorite thing, the massage candle.

It's like the woman always wants a massage when you're also exhausted and tired. You know, so it takes a lot of time. You're always exhausted and tired though. I know. I just found out the other day that you can only live without 11 days without going to sleep Without getting some sleep and then you don't have you's not slept because you seem like a really tired today. No, no, no, I'm good

You you just handed me the Candle that's amazing. This is something that you've been talking about how how many years No, seriously like since I I love it. No, seriously, since I remember doing the show together, you have talked about this candle. Like you love it. I love the candle because, okay, it's my favorite thing. It is amazing because it is, you want to explain it in your technical in your business. I love this.

I think it's the best thing for couples, for massage, it smells amazing. Like I just love it. Okay, let's explain how it works from the beginning. Okay, so from the beginning, this is the afterglow massage oil candle. And the idea is, one thing that's important to know here and to realize, people love candles and so on. Great illumination, very flattering. Everybody looks great in candle light.

Right. Number two, scent, actually bypasses the, our sort of processing, our cognitive processing in our brain and goes straight to the limbic system. So you basically react to it immediately. And if you had that experience of smelling something and then immediately a memory pops up,

it's because it was so important, as part of our survival perception. But anyway, it's a very fast way to sort of trigger and shift mood. And so- That's true, and your sense sets one of the things that I do love are the sense of the candle. Well, it's really important not to get like nasty cinnamon

whatever, you know, sense, or overblown fake vanilla. And instead to get something that's more suitable to you. And so, so, elimination sent, and then there's this tactile component. These candles, you know, a lot of people have tried playing with wax, which is hot and exciting, hot, like literally, like the Ricky Martin video. Like the Ricky, I didn't see that, but you don't, that's a famous scene where people, poor wax on Ricky Martin. I surprise that I don't know that.

With his chest exposed. Oh, I know. Wow. Everyone. Oh, damn it. All right. But that scene pretty much explains what you do with this candle.

That explains except. Yes, except. Except for you, it's a special candle. It's special because it's all natural ingredients and it's all body safe in the in the the actual formulation of the wax base And so essentially it's it's not really a wax. It's a solidified Oil and that oil is made up of all sorts of botanicals and so on long story short when it melts it melts to warm temperature But not that's why you not like what real candle will right?

Right will blister you. Exactly. You can pour it straight onto the skin and then it never resilitifies. It basically has, it's melting point is body temperature. So it'll just stay. It turns and seal. It's actually great for your skin. So a lot of our customers will buy them for massage and then realize, oh, I'm going to use this as body oil every time I get out of the shower.

Right. They light the candle when I get in the shower. They use this body oil when I get out. Yep. Anyway, so we've got all sorts of different fragrances. This one happens to be bourbon. Like it's the massage oil. It could become your massage oil, your massage lotion, massage oil that you use.

It is your massage oil. I love the sense. And for lazy people, like menace or others, who, or people who are just weary at that moment when one person wants a massage, the other person also wants a massage. This combined with the massage stones, I don't have one here, but these are these ceramic massage tools. Oh yeah. So everybody can give a fantastic massage.

And a lot of women also complain it's really hard on my fingers, it's a lot of pressure. And guys are like, can you push harder, but it hurts. Oh so you use the massage down and with the massage oil. That is so cool. I don't think I have one of those. We're going to have to work on that. Yeah, exactly. Anyway, so that's cool. And then they also have other little of those. We're gonna have to work on that. Yeah, exactly.

Anyway, so that's cool. And then they also have other sexual purposes as well. So this sort of dual function. Right. They're just amazing. They're like my favorite things. Right? I guess I do talk about them. Edna. Ednazion.

All the time. Try driving crazy menace. Yeah, but not about. But like in the loving, loving, loving way. Other things. So how many products do you have? Now this is like not an infomercial for a chiming game. No, it shouldn't seem like it. But I just love each other.

I just wanted to ask you, like, how many different items have you come up with? I love people like building companies like this. I love hearing the story. Doesn't the story. So you start off with one and now you have... Yeah, I start off with one. The first one, over the way. Yeah, actually, this was basically the first was the little

something vibrate. This is the little chroma which came just after which is more accessible in price point because the little something, this vibrate that I designed was actually, the first one was 24 karat gold. And that was really just to explore how different a vibrator could be from what people were expecting. Little chroma is basically the same shape, super simple,

very compact little cylinder, and this is again for that primarily for external stimulation. And this is again, what we're looking at right now is it looks like maybe a tiny tube and then it's rounded on each side. People say it looks like a cigar case, which I don't know what it does. It does look like a cigar case, it's exactly it. So it's not intimidating and it would's exactly it. Um, so. It's not intimidating, and it would be mostly for clitoral stimulation. Yeah, and it's smaller than he is and so on. So it's, it's hopefully.

You haven't been around to where I've been. I've had some, yeah, I don't want to get into it, but, um, yeah. Anyway, so, so it started there and then, and then once we had a great response to that, we just kept, um kept pushing further and further and pushing really more innovation. So it's a lot of technology that goes into the form line of vibrators. These other ones I showed you form to before this guy and so on. And that's really technology employed in a way that it makes it, keeps your life really

simple. And you can do all things you want to do without really thinking about It's not technology like wow look how complicated this vibrator Right, and so it's it's innovation that you get to feel but you don't have to really learn about sweet Sweet yeah got that okay, well I hope that everybody has a happy valentine's day. I hope you have a happy I do and I can feel I don't feel like like I I said, I think Valentine's Day is something, if you're in a relationship of Valentine's Day, I think that you should take a moment, don't stress

that out, don't be like, I just don't think of it. They take a moment and just really think about your partner, think about who you're with, think about something that you could do that would be really special, really memorable, and really sweet. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. It could be writing something, it could just be going somewhere special, really memorable, and really sweet. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. It could be writing something. It could just be going somewhere special that doesn't cost anyone, but just something

that is different out of the ordinary, I would say I'm pushing for. Because I don't think that like flowers and candy and dinner is, I just think there's more that you can do if you're in a couple. If you are a single, men always talk about it's a great night to meet people because everyone's out of bar drinking

because they're single. Have you said that? Yeah. Valentine's Day? Go for it. Don't sit at home and be sad that you're not with somebody. Lisa, you know, have an opportunity to maybe meet somebody. Right.

It's a good opportunity to meet somebody at Valentine's Day. Exactly. It is. And or go home and do something by yourself, something sweet, something special, something that makes you feel loved. Love yourself. Yes, masturbate. That kind of thing. Okay. That's what we got time for. If you want to join our Valentine's Day Contest you still have a few days after you go to sex family.com all the information is there. Follow us on Facebook and Twitter. Sex with Emily. And yeah, happy Valentine's Day. And thank you so much. Ethan and Bowden from Jimmy's jimmyjane.com. Check out all this cool stuff there and I'm meant to say happy Valentine's Day to you and everyone have a great week.

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