Sex With Emily - SWE- Slow vs. Rough

Episode Date: February 28, 2013

This show will teach you how to make sweet love or how to tie up your partner, depending on what kind of mood you're in. With a little butt slapping here, a little shallow thrusting there, and a little neck nibbling, Emily shows you how to have slow and rough sex. You have to mediate on her vagina and cultivate the perfect butt slap-- two of the most important skills in life.Emily also discusses how women can have orgasms. Once you learn how your own body works and buy a vibrator, you'll be ready to have orgasmic sex whether you're tied to the bedposts or making slow passionate love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Because my man E here, he just got his heart broke and he thinks you're kind of cute. The world's got everything. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me?

Oh my god. I want to feel a cell. Oh, wrong. Being I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithemily.com where you can sign up for a mailing list.

And I know I say that. I just kind of throw that out there, sign up for the mailing list. But honestly, we've got some free giveaways now. If all you got to do is go in and put in your email address. We're going to be sending you sex tips, some free free sex guides and a bunch of stuff going on So do that connect with us in such a lonely we will not spam you. We will not sell the list nothing like that Thanks everyone for listening to the show. I'm very excited to be here with the lovely menace That's it hi, how you doing? What the heck is going on in your life? It's been what the hell? It's been a couple weeks because every time we try to do a show You're like oh my mom's in town. Oh, I got to go to this fancy party.

You know, what is going on with you in Los Angeles? Dude, it's so true. I have been here now like three months. I've had a million visitors. My brother came back and you know how consuming he is. My mom was in town for like six days, which is too long. I once heard the saying once, moms and fish, they go bad after three days. Now, let me tell you something, my mom is amazing, right? She doesn't go bad after three days. She really doesn't, but you know, six days in my house, sleeping in my bed, it's a little rough.

Even though my mom is awesome, I'm the scale of most moms. She's a 10 on the awesome scale. I don't want to spend them much time with anyone, including myself, so whatever. But it's been busy. I have been going to the other night I had to cancel because I was called onto the Dr. Drew television show. On HLN, the day before Valentine's Day, you and I

were going to do a show because I was like, how apropos, menace is my last Valentine. I would like to do a show with menace, but I had to go and doctor drew and talk about couples in crisis, which was fun, which you probably, I'm sure you taped it and watched it. Oh yeah, numerous times, I have it on beta. I know you do. And then I've been, yeah, I've been on love line. I'm the new, you know, Love Line radio show, of course,

which I have a beef with you about that. I am, I should make a list of all the beefs I have with menace right now. Why do you have a, why do you have, why do you have a beef with me in Love Line? I'm the news because, you know what, not in Love Line directly, but indirectly, I was there doing this show.

So every Thursday night, everyone can tune in to Love Line in your city wherever you live or go to LoveLineShow.com and you can watch and listen live. I'll be on and it's super fun with Dr. Drew and Mike Catharwood. Because the girl that works there, the chick, it's like, Menace comes by and says, Hi, every time he's tab, blah, blah, blah. Menace is here all over. Menace is girlfriend. Oh, she's so cute girlfriend who's been lied to or something. Like I'm like your other woman that you've been ignoring and avoiding. And I'm like, oh yeah, she's great. I've never met a guy named Groph in these meetings for years.

And oh yeah, I see men as all the time when he's in LA not. How dare you come in LA, not. How can how dare you come to LA and not see me? Okay, first off, I go to LA for work and that girl works with one of my co-workers. So of course, they see her all the time. And you see, and I didn't think that you really even cared having me supporting you in love line because I told you to tell them that

I'm on the station, that they love and I support you, but you've never told them that. I always tell them that. You never met this girl. I never met that girl before. I did, I don't remember. Anyway. I always talk about you. But anyway, things in LA are good. I'm going to stay here, Mendes.

I'm moving out of my San Francisco apartment next week. I've committed. I knew you would. I'm usually gone. Dude, you did. Everyone says that. Why didn't I know I was going to stay in LA forever, at least for now?

Oh my god. But I feel like I'm going through a break up. I'm breaking up with the city of San Francisco and I broke up with that guy. I was dating. Oh wow for the 10th million time. Yeah well for like yeah okay fine if it's more than once it's 10 million. But um but I yeah I'm totally I'm totally like I feel like it's like I'm starting a new, you know, new life, new city, new new men, new experiences. But it's a transition. I realize that I feel like a lot of us, like when you're in transition, you don't really realize you're in transition, you just realize everything seems a little messed up and stressful. Or like a little not quite right, I don't know, I can't explain it. I feel like I'm going through a lot, but it's all like, you know, good stuff, but it's just change. I was in San Francisco for a long time.

Yeah. And like I miss doing the show with you every week, and you know, just all my stuff that was part of my life. And um, but this is for the better anyways, you know, San Francisco is all dried up for you. You've dated everybody. You have, you're in it just, you're, uh, you're, uh, you're, uh, what is it? It's tarnished. You're, um, your image is tarnished. Is that correct? Oh my god. Why is my image tarnished? No, I've been saying like you can't date anybody without somebody saying, Oh, I know her. You know, I'm saying you got to hide out in LA.

Oh, the sex, that's true. It's out in LA, no one cares. Everyone's a sex expert, whatever. No, there's dating expert. No, I'm saying, you're right. Everyone's an entertainment or I just, they don't know me yet. They don't know my history. Yeah.

It has not followed, it hasn't followed me yet to see LA. Well, at least, I'm safe here. You they just know you from TV and check this out a lot, a lot lately. I've been going in different areas a lot lately People have been recognizing me from the misadvised on Bravo, which is crazy That is crazy More than before more than before way more than before because I've been going outside of you know

I've been going outside of San Francisco a lot lately for work I'm traveling traveling all. And it's crazy. People stop me about the TV show. So it's great that you're doing more and more TV. You're all over the place. And now you're going to get stopped all over the place. And it's going to be crazy. And now I'm going to get what stopped all over the place.

Yeah, it's funny. Whenever I have to say that when I'm in LA, I get stopped here every day by somebody who saw the show. And that's just the people who say something. Think about the people who notice and don't say something because then I get these tweets. Just saw sex with Emily from Miss Advise at Walgreens. Yeah. Someone will see me and I'm like, that's weird that people see me and they're watching me.

I'm like, I'd rather have you just say hi. But whatever. It's crazy. It's crazy. It's stuck me in Walg is in buying cough medicine. No, that's cool. No, it's, it's been fun. It's been cool that people here watch, actually watch television, unlike myself, but I am starting to a little bit. It's cool. But I've been hanging out with all these cool people. I love living in Venice Beach. I extended this day on my place for three months, but there's all these groups of people

I interviewed one of them so I've been doing some shows without you which Which make me sad, but they're just their interviews menace one-on-one interviews with these guys I've met a bunch of men and women here who all specialize in like the sex and dating world like they see teach like Tontric sex and online dating and how to you know Spice of your sex life, but they all have their own little theories and philosophies. So I've been setting up interviews with a bunch of these guys and I did one with a pickup artist last week that was kind of controversial.

I think people should listen to the interview. It's called how to get some or get in some or something like that. And he's a pickup artist, okay? Pick a artist, perfectly nice guy, but a lot of people are offended by that, like, whole, like, they think they're degrading to women. And I think this is a good guy, but I understand what people say that, like, their practices are not as authentic.

There's more, like, how to get the girls number, how to have sex with 10 minutes of meeting someone. And I get that that's for a lot of people that's way over the top. But I just found him to be a very interesting interview. Yeah, I think like his thing is like, yeah, me to woman have sex at Starbucks 10 minutes later. You know, like that's his thing. Not everyone wants that. But it's interesting.

I think a lot of the pickup artist stuff is bogus. You know, some somebody, some people have, you know, an art to it. And they're really good at it. But some of them are just so stupid and obvious that people don't get like the ones I see on TV. Like there was this one, I forget who it was, but it was just guy that would just really dress like super obscure, right? Just crazy. And the thing is he's like, yeah, you know, you don't want to show up to a club right away. You want to come. You want to come later at the certain time. And you want to dress like this, all crazy, like he does.

And of course, if you're going to show up to a club later, after everyone has been drinking and you're going to wear something so off the wall, of course people are going to come talk to you, like drum chicks. You're like, oh my god, you know? That's the part of it, though. It's stupid. That's just a part of it, though. That's a part of it though. That's stupid. That's just

a part of it though. That's a part of it. That's like they're part of like dress crazy where something eccentric that a woman will notice you, but they have all these other philosophies about ways to talk to women and to kind of neg them. They call them neg when you kind of diss her or when you you know just strategies for them to get a woman. That one just kind of set me, kind of set me because it was just like, oh, how do you, how do you trick drunk chicks into talking to you, you know what I'm saying?

Yeah, maybe a lot of it. And these some of the guys I'm talking to in upcoming weeks are deeper. They're more like, you know, teaching men how to be confident and how to like be a better guy and be authentic. So then you will have an easier time approaching women. Because how to like be a better guy and be authentic. So then you will have an easier time approaching women because I think there's a lot of guys out there.

Even guys going through divorce or women or anyone, if you're out of practice with dating, you might need a little tune up course. So over the next month, I'll have some interviews in addition to shows with menist with some of these experts in these different fields. So look for those. Sweet. Good times. Sweet, dude.

And then I want to know from everyone, what topics I want you to email me feedback at sexwithemle.com. If there's any topics that you've been wanting us to cover on the show that you haven't heard lately and we've got a gazillion shows, but maybe there's something topical email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. You can also find me on Twitter or sex with Emily and you can like my Facebook page, sex with Emily, which would be awesome.

Okay, what about you, minus, if they want to like you and lick you and all that? What's going on with me in my life? Well, I am getting ready for a lot of traveling. I have a lot of traveling coming up going to Ireland next month. I'll be in Ireland for a few days. Chicago, Florida, just a lot of places. And I will try to come visit you as soon as possible. I will be in Anaheim again this weekend.

Fuck off. I have no plan. I have no plan. Well, see this is a thing. Okay, you're going to have to make an effort. If you want to see me have to come drive on Sunday and drive the I know and I'm going to come see me if you will. In a Disneyland at Disneyland. Yeah. Do I get inside of Disneyland? I can probably guarantee I can probably get you in Disneyland. Oh my God, so we can hang out all day? Yeah, yeah, I'm down. Dude, wouldn't I put a damper on your life? Like, don't you with some chick or no?

No, I'm so fun at Disneyland. Like, you won't even know what happened. No, I just, I just, I just much of my friends are going to be there. It's all good. Okay, Sunday Disneyland, done. Okay. Do I have to wear anything special? Is it going to be nice out? Do I have to wear like my makeup, my mini-map? friends are gonna be there. It's all good. Okay, Sunday, Disneyland, don't. Okay. Do I have to wear anything special? Is it gonna be nice out? Do I have to wear like my make my mini-match? I don't live in Southern California, so you're gonna have to find out the weather, my friend.

It's been cold today, when the ice last week. Okay, anyway, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go. Cool. But you have to follow up with me about it if you really want me to, because I'm not gonna beg. All right. I... I'm not gonna beg to see you around the town. No, No. It's all good. And I started a website.

It doesn't have to do anything with sex. I'm sorry people, but it's just a website. It's okay. It's like old school dig or Reddit. People can share new stories or videos and photos or whatever, all in one central place and it's called Post. It's with three S's I know that's a little hard that's P-O-S-S-T dot com so post dot com. Oh cool okay I'll tweet that to you for your manifest. I know you asked me that but I was

like with my brother all weekend. I didn't have a chance. You can give friends and followers and you know just it can be a newspaper for like funny stuff for you Okay, but I I just had to build it because it sucks I look look. I love Facebook to death, okay, you know, it gets a bad rap But you know all your fans now you can only reach 10% of your fans so like you know embolish trying to You know tell you about a sex toys. She's only telling 10% of your audience on Facebook. So that's why I started this site called Post, so people have more avenues to share content and cool things that they discover.

So my 8,822 likes on Facebook only 10% of those people. Actually see what you're posting. How do they decide who that 10% is? I don't know. I don't like this. I don't like this at all. Anyways, so that's why I started my website, everybody. Enjoy.

Okay, that's cool, Menace. Okay, so where else are you going out with us? So you're still with the check, obviously. Yeah, I went to Valentine's Day just happened. I had a stake dinner and that's that's about it. I sense some flowers. You had a what dinner? Stake dinner and then I had a nice sense of flowers. That's about it. Oh, that's nice. Yeah, I can't wait to talk about Valentine's. Is that sweet honey? Like was she happy or did she want fendish? No, I already do it. I already do enough. I don't need to do anything more. You know what I'm saying?

Okay, well she was happy. She's no maintenance, huh? Yeah, totally good Totally, you need dude. I was with my brother, which I thought was apropos since he's my favorite man I was with him on Valentine's Day and that I had to do love line that night So we got a burger was he good good? It wasn't that exciting. Was he good, kisser? I didn't burger with my brother. Was he good, kisser? My brother, ew! I did not kiss my brother. Does he have a large penis? I have no good idea. I want to know nothing about my brother's penis, that one thing. But my Valentine's Day, it doesn't bump me out because I'm not big into Valentine's Day,

although I will say that Valentine's Day, you know, for some people it's great, it's a great way to bring you guys back together. I think it should be about sex only, forget the dinner, forget the why waste, why are you wasting time at dinner, just go home and do something different in the bedroom. Just remember that for next year people. Okay, I've got some emails I can get into. Okay. From the people. Unless you have anything else to share with me. No, I'm good Let's get let's get a start people been waiting forever. Oh, just hello to my old high school friend Tracy She just started listening to the boggast. She let me know and hi Tracy. She listened to it all the time

Send me some pictures of menace from high school hell no Tracey Tracy Let me send pictures of menace from high school. Oh hell no. Tracee. Tracee. Tracee. I want to see pictures of you. Okay, so listen, ready? These are the emails that you send to feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay, hi Emily, is 20 years age difference too much? I'm a 50 year old man, I look younger, but I'm attracted to women in their young to mid-30s.

I've had a relation just with several women at an age range, and I feel comfortable being with them. What do you think? Thanks a lot, Mark. Okay, Mark, 20 years, not so bad. If you're 50 and you look younger, okay, so you look 45 and you're attracted to women in their mid-30s, I really think that that's kind of appropriate. I don't think if you go, if you're that dude is going out with 20 year olds 20 somethings then I've got a problem with

that. But I think your 50 year old man you know yourself and if these women are in their mid 30s 35 years old 15 year age difference at that age not a big deal just make sure that you're honest about your intentions and you know if they want kids a lot of women at age 35 36 they're probably getting because they want children they might want children, you know, at that age, so you have to be conscious of that. I don't know if you want to be a daddy, a baby daddy right now, but those are the kind of things that are typically not all women in their late 30s, mid to late 30s, but they are thinking about children. So I'm just going to say, be clear

on that. If you don't want kids, let them know. If you do want kids, let them know. That's going to be a big topic of conversation with women. That age typically what do you think about that man is 50 and a 30 something year old? Yeah I just got to look out for gold diggers around that age you know. Gold diggers at 35. Yeah man still dating a six year old. Don't you think? Yeah I guess no he's 50.

What? He's 50, he's 50. What? He's 50. He's a 50. Oh, yeah, yeah. I mean, you don't have to worry about it too much. Of course, like what you said with the dating at 20-year-old, then you definitely have to look out for gold diggers. Watch out for gold diggers, but watch out for gold diggers

all the time. I'm going to be a gold digger in my next life, because I could be so rich right now. Yeah. And I have major regrets about that. So anyway, no I'm kidding. But yeah watch out for the gold diggers. Okay that's a good one. How does body gold digger? That'll be another show. Okay dear Emily, hi I'm 37 years old and to the best of my

knowledge I have never had an orgasm. I've had 30 plus sexual partners and have been creative over the years. But the bottom line is I can't have an orgasm by myself, so why would I think someone else can do it for me? So here I am, a 37 year old woman married for seven years with no orgasm ever. Is there a class or seminar I can take or I can take with my husband? I just don't know what to do. But I feel that my needs have an orgasm is putting a strain on the marriage I know it shouldn't, but I feel like if I find the right partner, he could make it happen and I don't want to spray outside the marriage and search of an orgasm What should I do?

Please help sign Veronica. That is a heavy one. Thank you Veronica. I, I think that email is amazing and I'm so glad that you reached out to me. Okay, so there's lots of women who have not had orgasms. We like to call them pre-orgasmic. We don't want to say that you're an orgasmic and you can't orgasm, but you're pre-orgasmic. You haven't had an orgasm yet. Now, the first step is, be getting to know your own body. Have you spent time masturbating? Have you tried to have an orgasm yet. Now, the first step is, would be getting to know your own body. Have you spent time masturbating? Have you tried to have an orgasm on your own?

Sounds like you've had lots of sexual partners, but it's true that for the majority of women, until they're able to have an orgasm on their own, they're not going to be able to have it with the partner. So, you're search of finding another guy. You say at the end of your email that maybe you should find another guy who will give you that orgasm. It doesn't work that way.

It's not about the man giving you an orgasm. It's about you learning your own body and being able to communicate to the man what it takes to have an orgasm. So what I've seen, but yes, there are classes and there are seminars. I'm not sure where you live, but I think that first you should spend some time whether it's half hour a day masturbating, you could buy a vibrator, a lot of women who cannot have orgasms, they buy vibrators,

I'm telling you, you should go to goodvibes.com, it's the best website out there for vibrators, use coupon code GVMLE20, you get 20% off orders of $100 or more. You could try the Himachi Hattachi Magic Wand. That's a super strong one. But that is the sure thing. But you could also try the TORAL vibrators. So if you can't have an orgasm, don't be ashamed if you need to buy a vibrator. I've got a lot recommended on my site. There's been great couple vibrators like the Webe. But first I just want to

say that you should focus on your clitoris. You should spend 30 minutes a day alone. I know it's hard. You're married. You probably have kids or 20 minutes a day. I don't care. Just touching your body, figuring out what makes yourself feel good. A lot of time to start to the clitoris and I bet that you can get there if you give yourself that time. I always talk on my friend in college, we give yourself 30 days. She spent 60 minutes a day trying to have an orgasm and it took her weeks and she finally did

and she's been having crazy orgasms ever since. So women just don't spend the time getting to another own body and once they do, it will come back in spades every man you're with you can communicate it too. So I totally feel for you but like hope is not lost yet, because I don't think that you've done everything that you can to have that orgasm.

I don't know where you live though. If you want specific classes or courses, I can definitely get those to you. Just email me, feedback at sexwithemily.com. That'd be a bummer, how mad is it? That'd be hard. Well, I'm glad that you took it out the man's hand. Didn't you put it on the woman to make it happen for herself.

Yeah, I like that. I like the man. Because you always put it on us. And like, you know what, we don't know your body. You know your body more than we do. You know what I'm saying? Exactly. Exactly.

We all think it's what that statement I once heard that a lot of women believe someday my prince will come. And so will I Yeah, so my prince is gonna arrive and I'm gonna come not gonna happen. You got to figure it out for yourself Even my vibrate or go to good vibes.com. What even though your body is a wonderland Our body is a wonderland and it's so freaking confusing our body is a mouse trap our body is a Is a nightmare to some man right men? It's a puzzle. We call it the Rubik's is a daily nightmare it's a Rubik cube of life Rubik's

cube of life the vagina is the Rubik's cube of life and so I really think that you should spend some time getting to know your own Rubik's cube yeah okay that's the truth the and I used to blame guys too when I was younger I didn't have orgasms I blame my 18 year old boyfriend. I was like, I was just fault. I did the same thing, can't do it anymore. Believe me, I want to blame men for many things, but not that.

Okay, here I'm a link. First off, I would like to say that I really enjoy your show. I listen to it every day on my morning commute, morning and afternoon commute. Whoa, you have a very stimulating voice Emily. My question is, Valentine's Day is coming up. Uh oh, I was just to read this last week, Menace. And I need some pointers as far as where to go

for that date part and what kind of hotel to stay and some traveling and what kind of gift to get. Fuck this, this is last week for Valentine's Day. I'm not gonna read this right now. I'll read it next year. All right. I'll read it next year. Why right. I'll read it next year. Why don't we get into the topic?

OK, what you got. OK, that was some social good emails. Let's get into the topics though of slow sex versus rough sex. Menace, what would you prefer if I just said to you slow versus rough? How would that make you feel? What would you lean towards? Honestly. You know, a guy, of course, he just wants rough sex, but the only problem is women want

slow sex. So, what can you do? There's nothing. You got to give a woman what she wants. Correct? Right. No, I think a lot of guys like slow sex too, Menace. I think that it's about variety and it's about mixing it up and it's about mixing it up and it's about mixing up slow and rough sex because we're having just rough rough rough sex and it's really nice to be like wow

and I think that we have sex sometimes and we're so focused on the orgasm then when we slow down and we're like wow it's when it's slower you can you you can have longer lasting sex and it can just make sex more sensual which these all might sound like chick adjectives, but there are some dudes menace who like slow sensual sex. Plus, the longer you stimulate her, right? And the slower you take it, the more likely she is to have an orgasm. So that's another reason to have slow-riss acts, but it's not just better for climax by slowing down your movements. You will experience stronger orgasms because the slower you take things the closer you will get to orgasming without going over the edge. This is for men and women. You'll be able to last longer and when you finally do get the release will be that much sweeter. So what do you think about that men? I say, you have a

really focused on the slowness of it. I have but you know sometimes It's if you go so slow the slow as they want you to go sometimes you lose your erection man I know I know but it doesn't but doesn't it feel good? And then what if she's talking dirty and then you don't like that? I guess but dude It still doesn't really help too much and then you got to speed it up for a little bit You know, you gotta speed it up You can also slow down like you can get into the moments where it's slow and it's hot Mm-hmm, you know you can get into that man

I feel like the thing about slow sex next time you have slow sex minutes Which I think you should you should initiate tonight I think that you should have slow sex and that you should Try to go slow even if it's for 30 seconds of just like I know whatever, looking into our eyes and slowing it down, it feels that much better when you go faster. So you can grind your slowly in all the spots you want to hit while women have one g-spot men have two.

The top, the one of the top of their penis near the head and the one near the prostate. That's why it feels good to alternate between long and short thrusts during slow sex. So you can also rub your cl- rub her clitoris with your penis. You can spiral your waist clockwise and then counterclockwise as switched from shallow to deep movements. The slow speed will allow you to really get in there and explore. So I think that when you are doing the socials, you need to like focus, focus, like you can focus on what it feels like in your brain. Like wherever your mind is going during sex, when you slow, you can feel it.

You can like really feel your penis in her vagina. You can like feel her in ways that you can't feel when you're going really fast. So it's like a meditation on herbogina when you're going slow. Meditation, maybe some yoga. It's like meditate on herbogina with slow. Alternate between shallow thrusts and deep thrusts, too. Shallow thrusts, you know, is when the G-spot is just two inches inside the vagina. So many men enjoy, they too enjoy shallow thrusts,

since it stimulates the head of the penis, which is very sensitive. So alternate between shallow thrusts and deep thrusts, but try to stay mostly in the shallow end. You can also try this swivel and screw, try making circular movements with your hips while you're on top to stimulate or clitoris, push your hips up slightly while you screw. That's what I got to say about slow sex, and now we're moving to some rough sex. Alright, this is what the guys really want to hear. Excited? Yeah. Yeah, the guys want to hear the jackhammer.

I'm not going to tell you to be a jackhammer though. Oh, damn it. Okay, there needs to be consent from your partner of course, and possibly to say for it established, depending on row, or how rough you're getting, also, no woman wants to be pounded like a jackhammer over and over again. So be creative and do some light slapping, hair pulling, and biting.

For slapping, start off by misodding her butt and then go in for a light slap. If the response is good, you can go a little harder and keep a steady rhythm to pleasure her. So what do you think about the spaking slapping? Do you find that women are into that these days? Yeah, I think more and more are open to it and they want it. It feels good. Yeah. Like not too hard. This is why I say with everything start softly. Like do a light slap, but it feels good because our butt hits our clitorate. Like you hit and it all

jostles down there like your butt. You're can hit and you can feel the power of the slap in your vagina sometimes, it feels awesome. So also if you're doing a doggy style, you can lightly pull on her hair so her chin tilts back. She will get a glance of you doing her from behind to get super turned on. She might tug in her hair,

get her to arch her back, creating great sense stations for both of you. So if you pull her hair back gently, she can arch her back and then you could get the penis if you're in doggy style will hit her in a different spot. So it's a win-win for everybody. Do you think it's hot pulling hair? Pulling hair. I enjoy it. I think women enjoy it too. They don't really, they don't really tell you to stop. They don't. We do that. They don't. They like it a lot. What is it? They're women like it. They like it. It feels good. This all feels good.

People, why aren't you doing this in the bedroom? I'm just saying, little slow, little soft, little rough, little whatever. Little shallow thrusting slowly, a little hair pulling there, little spanking there. Okay, a biting, what do you think about biting can also be fun. Nibble under lips while kissing, engage her reaction. Some light and neck buttocks and inner thigh biting can also be hot. Let me ask you, do you enjoy everything that you're talking about right now? Yes. All right. That's me. Do you enjoy everything that you're talking about right now? Yes.

All right. That's me. Do you? I think the listeners, the male listeners at least are enjoying this. I didn't probably a couple of female listeners. I think it. Maybe I should a male listener who wants, no, I'm not even going to put it out. But yes, I like it.

Not every time. I don't want to be bit on my ass every time. I don't want to be, have my hair pulled every time. Sex is about variety. So I'm saying you have never bitter before. You might want to nib bit on my ass every time. I don't want to be have my hair pulled every time. Sex is about variety. So I'm saying you have never bit her before. You might want to nibble her around the neck. That's what I mean by bite. You might want it tonight.

Well, you're listening to this. Give her a little nibble on the neck. Women are very sensitive and men on their neck. It's another rod in his stones that is often ignored. So give her a little bite and nibble on the little something something. Okay, another way to make sex rough. Hold down her wrists so she can't move her arms.

This way she'll be momentarily denied the pleasure of touching you and feel like she's being dominated. This move is best done when you hold it down or against a wall. Oh yeah, what? I don't know. Some women love that.

Some women love it. I want to give up all control. I'm in control 24-7. And if you They do say a lot of 50 shades of gray the whole thing women want to be down made it But so do men like you would like it if a woman pushed your arms over your bed Are you one because you think she's gonna steal your while? But you know I like women taking control though

Okay Okay, the number one complaint I get from men is that women don't take control enough. They're not saying every time they're at sex, they're saying every once in a while, once a month, take control. So you, women, you can hold his hands over his head. You can do all this to the guys well. But if you are women listening, I think sometimes you gotta take control.

I know we like being dominated. I know we don't want to seem like we're, we don't, maybe we don't want to get rejected, whatever it is, but guys, just from what I've heard around the globe of doing this for eight years and 800 shows, is that men want women to make a little more of an effort in the bedroom. Yeah. How's that going in your relationship, Menace? Does she make efforts? Wait, say it again. Sorry, you cut out. In your bedroom, in your bedroom, um, in your bedroom currently,

does she, um, ever initiate? All the time. You know me, I don't initiate anything. I know you're so lame. You really initiate, fuck me, anything. You really don't. I'm busy, man. I got time for this. Oh my God. Okay. So, um know, Madam, seriously, thank God you're with an initiator. You wouldn't have sex in forever. I mean. Okay. So listen, after this, let's move on. Okay.

So we got a little rough. Now we're going to get into some BDSM, right? Yes. So start with some slapping, biting and pulling. But then we got BDSM, which is more like bondage, discipline, satomasticism. It's what you 50 shades, gray is all about. So here's some tips for beginners. Always establish a safe word.

There are two main roles in bondage. There's dominance and submissives. Tips for dominance, be confident, confident, and decisive about what you're doing. Make sure you know how to remove the bondage before you put it on. This isn't only important for safety, but also helps everything run smoothly. Oh my God, the best thing in the world, menace, you know how I feel about it is bondage tape. Go to goodvives.com, use coupon code Emily20, buy yourself some goddamn bondage tape.

It's the coolest thing in the whole world. It looks like electrical tape. It's fixed to itself. You can reuse it. It's so easy to bind your partner's wrists or to blindfold them. It's the best invention. It's like six bucks to go by it today. Okay, so make sure, if you are using it, make sure you're not a remove it. Also, tips for the submissives.

Be clear about the kind of bondage you want and expect. Expect how much you struggle and attempt to escape and how much you want to be restrained. Remember, it's not always easy for dominance to know how the bondage feels. So don't be how the bondage or the distance goes, so don't be afraid to alert them to potential problems, such as pinskin or unexpected discomfort. So our good buddies at GoodVibes.com have a bunch of stuff that will help you with bondage. They've got 50 shades of gray kits. So our good buddies at GoodVibes.com have a bunch of stuff that will help you with bondage.

They've got 50 shades of gray kits, they've got like, oh, they've got a shades of gray kit where you get ribbon cuffs, a soft blind fold, blindfold, massage candles, and 50 shades of gray. And then they've got a beginner bondage kit that includes bondage tape, a flirty feather mini tickler, a soft blind felt, and a lubricant stamp our pack. So I think if you can want to get started with some of this, just go order something online and be like, look, look what I got honey, a little gift for us tonight. So that's what we got time for today. How about that, men? I know it's so

good talking to you again and doing the show again and we'll keep it up people. I'm sorry, Emily have to have back-to-back all her family in town, so we can do any show. My entire family and everyone I ever met has visited me in Los Angeles. I've not had a moment to myself. I don't even know where the ocean is. All right.

No, I do. Okay, honey, I'll see you soon. Thanks, everyone, and thanks to our sponsors, Mast and Good Vibes. Thank you, Menace, I love you. I can't wait to see you in Disneyland this weekend. Hell yeah. Thanks, hell to the ass.

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