Sex With Emily - SWE: Special Guests Ben and Jen Rodes

Episode Date: November 20, 2012

Emily is back in San Francisco before heading off to Mexico for the Thanksgiving holiday. She made new friends at the Sex Summit -Ben and Jen Rode- who join her on air. Ben and Jen explain their Explosive Sexual Healing technique whichhelps women achieve half hour g-spot orgasms (this is the way to relax!). Listener letters include: addressing girlfriends who don't like receiving oral sex and crushes in the neighborhood. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you sure it's safe to go spilling down here, Carlton? So, thank, Halbert. I've been down here plenty of times. What's that? Oh, it's nothing. Just people setting off dynamite. There's a candle! Oh, no, the trap! Carlton, we're gonna die! Now it does. Hold on, Opset, Helbert. This here's the McCaffer and National Seaman Cave System.

Yeah, you saw! So, you dumb it? That means we can lick our way out of here. It's only 30 or 40 feet of crystallized seaman to the surface. I wasn't born yesterday, Colchip. And now we can lick our way out of here. I just can't stay in the tank. Helbert, you dumbass!

Why do you think I packed a month's supply of mass sexual flavor strips? It tastes good. You can choose from four delicious flavors. Strawberry, chocolate, mango and watermelon. Mass sexual flavor strips are designed to deliciously disguise the taste of semen. In four exciting flavors, they're bound to get you out of the stickiest of situations. Go to sexualflavours.com today to find your flavor. Look into his eyes.

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betruma eyes, they call them a bi-gon. Hey, Avaline, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh my.

The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so, I'm gone.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Avaline's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. For more information, go to sexwithamily.com. We can get all your sex questions answered, check out our videos, check out our blogs, all of our shows, we got hundreds of shows you can download,

and just goddamn it, get there to our site. Cause it's exciting, and it's fun. And you get download and just goddamn get there to our site because it's exciting and it's fun. And you get discounts on special products and stuff like that. So it's good times. Good to be back here in San Francisco after my trip to LA where I've been living for the last four or five days.

It's more than a trip. No, I moved there for three months as people know it. I've heard from a lot of listeners, they're like, hey, I was at LA, that's it, that. But I was only there for five days and I did not leave yet. I just had to go to Michigan, and then now I'm in San Francisco.

Wait, so you moved to Los Angeles, you were there five days, and then you left. And then I left, because I had to go to Michigan. How was Michigan? Michigan was amazing. It was my niece's 13th birthday. Were you a star in Michigan? No, but people wrecking, yeah, I mean, actually, no, I don't, I don't think

of myself like a star, but I have to say that a lot of people watch television in Michigan. Yeah, I mean, I would assume it's a smaller town. It's smaller town. And my mom's on it. Yeah, yeah. My brother was on the show. I'm missing, foretell, I'm missing, advise the Bravo television show that I was on. But my dental to hygienist today freaked out, because I went to, I haven't been to my dentist. This is a new dentist that I was on. But my dental to hygienist today freaked out because I went to, I haven't been to my dentist. This is a new dentist that I went to. And I walked in and she was like,

and it was sort of inappropriate. She went out into the lobby to call me and just, I know you said the whole time she was doing my teeth. She was like freaking out about the show. She's been beautiful by the way. That came to me. It's kind of clean today. They look wider.

I needed it. So she was very into the show. I'm very excited to be cleaning my teeth. She's like, oh, you're so cute. Oh, you're so cute. I love the guy. I love misadvised and do a boyfriend yet. And what's going on?

So it's fun. Good times. How's that going, by the way? You brought it up. A boyfriend? Yes. It's. What?

It's challenging because I'm living now in Los Angeles, except for this temporary stint in San Francisco. I thought you cut that off No, we're together. We're stuff. Yeah, I like the word boyfriend. It's just so it's makes me You may have a boyfriend, but yeah, it does find you to say the word boyfriend. Yeah Like that no boyfriend. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah, you have. I mean, I pick up a little bit. I like that. No, nobody can heal. I'm the planet. It's so true. I want to, but yeah, no, all is good. I mean, LA is just literally like it is. I'm not not to be cliche, but like, it's warm at night. It really is. It's like it's warm in the day. It's warm in the morning. It's hot. It's freezing cold

in San Francisco. All the time. Yeah. I'm happy there. You're gonna come visit. I got sick. It's the. It's freezing cold in San Francisco all the time. Yeah. I'm happy there. You're gonna come visit. I got to take a slip of my boy mansion done and done whenever you want it. I've secured two people now. No, no, it's true. It's true. Like, no, now it's done. Like, I know it. I talked to my managers. Don will do it. Play with mansion. All right. And we'll do for like four shows. Okay. And we're going to do the T radio B podcast down there. I went to go see the new video podcast. And I want to go see their studios. It's huge. Nice. Really, really nice. And now with your buddy Elvis. Oh, nice. Yeah. He had nice things to say about you. He's fun. Right. So fun. Oh my God. He's the nicest guy. He keeps sending me

things to do in LA. Yeah. He's very cute. He's cool. Yeah. So today's show, we're going to be talking about a lot of stuff. We got sex in the news. We got your emails And we got special guests Ben and Jen road. They're gonna talk about Explosive sexual healing. That's their program and It's all about the female orgasm and why every man should be excited because woman type of orgasm It's about the vagina your favorite topic menace. They cook more after that, right? Once they have exactly they cook more. They do more things like that. Look at the house and make you dinner.

At least it makes it worth it. Exactly. At least they can drive me to that. That's what I'm asking you. I know I'm asking you. Yes, I'm going to have some chicken version. Or they've they'd least drive me to talk about after I'll be happy. Freaking not one show can go by without you mentioning Taco Bell.

I'm just saying I'm. I was going to get my Taco Bell tattoo. I was doing it. No, you're not. Please don't. Please don't get a Taco Bell tattoo. You're not going to get one. No, you're not please don't please don't get a Taco Bell tattoo You're not gonna get one. Yeah, you're not gonna get one. What's to do with you? I haven't seen you in a year and a half It feels like I'm you know just doing warning radio

Every day I hear you every morning when I go to the gym You do really every morning. Yeah, yeah live one of five one of five point three everyone go there and you're in San Francisco Bay area. Yeah, it's it's fun doing that and then you so cute with your Roku commercials Oh, yeah, not a Roku Where the hell is so much stuff right now? I know But yeah, I just working like crazy and traveling gonna go to Disneyland Roku Of course you are. I'm gonna go to Vegas again for new years, taking my 21 year old sister to a friend. I know, that's adorable.

And I think I'm actually going back to Vegas that week. So I'm not gonna go to Vegas, he's coming up. I'm going in February, I just found out. February. February, whatever, if you wanna come to Vegas. Cool. Yeah. I'll be in Los Angeles in February

because that's usually when the Grammys are. Right, you're coming down before them though because you promised me to come down every month and then it shows. I will, I will be there. I need to go down there anyways for a meeting. So I'll be there. Okay. Good. I'm so excited. I can't wait for that. Yeah. I can't wait for that moment to happen. Today's show, we just got to mention real quick, audible. Today's show is brought to you by audible visit audiblepodcast.com slash Emily for your free audio book download in the first... before we get to email that's one thing that because they you can get a free audio download we love audible and like i i i i am going to

Mexico which i didn't even friggin mention yet that i've got a vacation in Mexico in a week from now and in and going on Saturday for a week and i'm downloading all these books from audible that i can read and that i can without having to schlep down in my suitcase to Mexico. So I love Audible. Everyone visit audiblepodcast.com slash Emily for your free audiobook download. And also we have a new sponsor and you're gonna love this.

All right, what do you have? Screaming O, it's the official couples ring of the sex with Emily show. They make vibrating rings, but they not only make vibrating like cock rings, but they make like hundreds of them. You're a big advocate. I know, but I've never had a sponsor that just will send me, they're sending me like hundreds of them tomorrow, and you have to try one. What? Screaming out. Everyone go to screaming. Go to my website, click on screaming out, and you

get over $40, you get over, orders over $40 get free shipping. And they have a lot of stuff that you can buy. They don't just have rings, but they've got, oh, they've got their new studio collection. Oh my God, I have to show this to you. It's all, it's makeup. But it looks like makeup, but it's actually vibrators. They have a lip gloss and they have a blush and an eyeshadow.

And it really looks like a vibrator. You have your pocket. Does the charge on USB? No, I don't think so. You get a USB. And I haven't gotten of you. I'm getting them tomorrow. I've seen them. I saw them at the trade show, but I haven't actually, they're arriving tomorrow. So I'm going to bring them to Mexico.

Where I'm going on Saturday for a week. She's excited. Yeah. For some of that just moved, you're doing way too much traveling. I'm kind of just like how Saturday I'm to be with my lay like I already feel like it's my home. I was there for five days and I'm excited for Max go don't get me wrong. I have an vacation in eight years. I fact I don't own a bathing suit.

Like I literally do not have a bathing suit. I'm just gonna go naked. Your whole life is a vacation. What are you talking about? My whole life is a- people have the wrong idea of me. I was like having a nervous breakdown ten minutes ago. Are you kidding me? My whole life is a vacation.

I guess I'm always having a nervous breakdown too. But maybe it seems like everything's everything's good. I don't really take your nervous breakdown seriously. Nobody does. I'm gonna say, I'll take that day. Nobody does, and that's a problem. It's gonna be okay, fine, whatever, whatever. But no one cares.

But so also last night, I was the VIP guest at this event for wine, in shoes, three of my favorite things. And I got the head up to make a speech. I had to get up and make a speech in front of like 300 women. And I was a little nervous talking about, I just, because I know that I talk and I'm talking to like a million people right now,

but I don't really realize it when you get on stage. So I just started talking about sex and like why it's important and it's empowerment and women. And it was like kind of women like sipping their wine, like shopping for shoes. And I was talking about orgasms It was very interesting. I wish I was there. I wish you were there too, man That's but there were no dudes there, but you could have come if you wanted to and yeah, that's what we got What else with you? What else? You're telling me nothing. You're working

You're going to Vegas again. You're going to Disneyland. You're always going to Disneyland. Don't get arrested Yeah, not this time. Okay, good. No, I think, yeah, this is... Don't need anything new to Mickey Mouse. No, my life is kind of boring right now. I usually have a fun story to share. I just don't, I really don't have anything. Okay, I have a little boring life.

I have a ton of fun stories to share. Okay, go ahead. Well, no, I feel pressure. Well, oh, check this out. Yeah. Do you have it in your news? Do I have my sexist? Do you have it in your news? Do I have my sexist? Do you have it in your news

who was voted sexiest man alive? No, tell me who. It was Shannon Tatum. Shannon Tatum. It's actually Shannon Tatum. I have seen the name, I don't know who he is. All right, so some of the girls in the office that I work with, right?

They said that this guy has a butter face. Really? The guy that was in Magic Mike said, they said that he had a butter face. I don't know what, and I go, who are you in love with? Didn't they go Ryan Goslin? I'm like, Ryan Goslin has a wormy face. Right, right.

Totally not cute. Like, are you gonna put Shannon, what's the effusus name? Channing. I've just seen it in writing. I don't know any of this at all. I don't know, sliver at all. Channing Tatum. I don't know, Sliver's at all.

Versus on face value. You're gonna say that he has a Butterface. Who voted him sexiest man alive? Whatever. Freaky man. I don't have the article. I don't have the news story. But that was, yeah, that was the big talk in the office.

And then the other talk was, if the world was gonna end and you can only have sex with one celebrity, who would it be? Oh God, I hate these questions. I know who your answer is. Who? I know who it is. I don't even know who my answer is. I don't even answer.

My answer. Talk to me. You're gonna say Bill Clinton. Just because I said that on Andy Cohn's show does not mean that I'm gonna say it now. But I would have sex with Bill Clinton. Oh my God. He's like a thousand year old man now. But like Bill Clinton in 1992.

Okay. Can I do that? Can I try and travel with Bill Clinton? I love to. Yeah, I just have sex streams about him. Is that wrong? Can you get arrested? Oh no, you only get arrested if you make threats to the president.

Okay, if you just have dreams, I'll save you with them. Do you have anybody? You watch no television. I like, I'll sleep with them. Yeah. Do you have anybody? You watch no television. I like, I don't watch television, but all my mom and dad, except dad do, is watch television in Michigan, like literally 24 seven. I would love them, I'll talk to them. They need to spend that much time.

My set that's deaf, but he doesn't want to like admit that he's deaf, so the TV is so loud and the whole house is vibrating, and I have to walk off the air plugs, it's horrible. And they're watching Homeland. Yeah. If you've seen that And they're watching homeland. Yeah. If you've seen that, they're watching like every, all they do is like, Oh, time for homeland, time for this time for that. It's like fun. No, television. I hate the sound. I got a new

TV. That's why I am so boring now. Why would you get what kind? Not like I can know or my dream TV. I got a Samsung LED super thin TV has a store TV has all the stuff built into it. It is crazy. Isn't everything TV have every stuff built into it is crazy. Isn't everything TV have every stuff built into it? Not right now, I mean all the like newer ones do yeah. Okay, what was shitty TV that you made me buy a few years ago? It's not a shitty TV. I'm kidding, it was a nice one.

It's got LCD, yeah. Did I, okay, I never use it. I only used it when I was in television. You used it and then you watched porn on it when all the interns were over. So that was fun. That was fun. We watched our fire TV.

That was a great thing. But speaking of porn, I have to mention something that is not porn. Cinclair Institute is one of our sponsors. And Cinclair Institute makes these amazing educational DVDs. That is not porn, not porn, but they're educational and you will see porn, not porn, but they're educational and you will see naked people having sex,

but they can actually teach you something about having sex, like if you want to know about how to perform oral sex, how to spice things up in your relationship, what to do about a low libido, blah, blah, blah, you don't know what to do about those things. You email me about it, you can watch a video, so go to singclairinstu.com, use Cubankot,

Emily 50 for 50% off any item. I can watch a video. So go to singclairinstu.com, use Cuban code Emily50 for 50% of any item. I just want to say that. Well, you do have a nice tutorial video where you go through their studios. That's up at sex. That's excellent. That's excellent. I go watch people having sex and then it looks like you walked off a talk show set because you have like this ridiculous like fancy red dress on. The shoot where people are having sex. It was, it was very awkward. Did you like leave? I did.

They were like, we're going to bang again. I'm like, see you later. Yeah, but the, the, you were like little overdress for a shoot where people were having sex. I was in LA. It was the only thing I had to wear. No, I don't know. Yeah, they were naked and I was in my nice red dress, which I totally overworked. But speaking of red dress also, so Jeff Props, I was in the Jeff Prop Show,

because you know, like four or five times, but last week, okay, so my mom tapes everything that I'm on, DVRs it or whatever, the hell it is called these days. And so we sat down and we watched it. And I don't love watching myself on TV. So I watched the doctor's clip, which was funny. And then I gave away Jimmy Jane Candle,

it's everyone in the audience, which was fun. And I taught America how to make a dental dam. Yeah. Which was embarrassing because everyone in the audience would be horrified they didn't know what a dental dam was, which is something that you use for if you're performing oral sex on a woman, and it's to protect you from STDs.

And it's like latex. And I taught America how to make one using a latex glove. And it's pretty funny. A bootleg dental dam. Exactly. But then I was in Jeff Prope funny. A bootleg dental dam. Exactly. But then I was in Jeff Prope's. He just interviewed me one on one. The other ones I've been on have been like

on the couch segments. He has a segment called on the couch. Have you seen any of them yet? Yeah, I remember I called you and I said I saw it on the website. You never remember anything. No, no, no, no. That was behind the scenes at Jeff Prope's.

That wasn't on the show. So he interviewed me for like 20 minutes and I was wearing red and I liked it and I liked the dress. And it was really funny because my mom was watching it too. We watched it together and he asked, you just find it entertaining. He asked me a lot about like, you know, my sex life and dating and like,

what do I, like I was talking about it. A lot of the things I talk about on the show about orgasms and that women don't need to take charge of their own orgasms and that they shouldn't be lie in men and it was good. He gave me like a good, like a bully pulpit to like talk about what I cared about. And I watched it. I don't, you know, when you're going to film, you don't remember.

But then I watched it. It was fun. Oh my God. There's this new show on TLC. I thought about you. Uh-oh. What is it? Because you already is talking about, you know, you got to be, you know, you can be at whatever age and still having sex, right?

Right. Of course. So that's how this show on TLC called Super Super Cougars. Super Cougars. Super Cougars? Yeah, they're like 85, 90 years old, and they're like sleeping with like 20 year olds. Seriously? And they have this one lady that was like 50, like 56,

and she was crawling out of her boyfriend's window because he still lived with his mom. Oh God. Who are these effed up people? No, who is hilarious? There's one chick. There's 80 plus. Because he was in high school and she could get arrested for sleeping with him or something. No, no, he was of age, but he still lived his mom. So she didn't she would have to crawl in and out the Out of the window and then there was like this Like 80-year-old plus lady where she like is all about yoga and stuff like that. So she was doing like all these crazy positions. And it was funny.

And it was actually good. Yeah. Okay. I mean TLC is on fire right now. Is it what's the other one good? I don't even know. I literally. That's where Tony Boo Boo is. I said that. I'm just gonna come over watching your new fancy TLC's like the if you'll have me the network of freaks and I love it. It's great Is it but it wasn't before it was like the learning channel now. It's like the honey boo boo channel. Yeah, it's amazing Because they know that's where you make money because hello people. I'm sorry no matter how cool you think you are That's this is what America likes to watch. Okay. I'm sorry that it's not a show about like MPR or anything like that. You know, welcome to America.

I mean, she's America. I know, seriously, everyone loves it. But okay, let's get into some emails. We're skipping sex in the news. I just feel like unless you have any other news, I'm trying to think of what happened in the... Oh, you know what I always talk about pop culture, but apparently Robert Patterson and that other chick

are back together. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. They got back together a while ago, I think. What the F is wrong with you? My mom knows all this stuff. My mom like amazes me with everything she knows. I don't know the whole thing. Oh my God, your mom and I should do a side podcast

with her about pop culture. Seriously, totally, you should. My mom's like, oh yeah, they got married, they got divorced, they had a baby. I'm like, how the hell do you know? Like, how do you have time? Because you can't get away from it. Open a newspaper, open the freaking internet

or turn on the TV, you can't get away from it. That's my problem, is that I don't digest other media. I don't know where the F. I've been my brain, I'm in my head all day. I'm in my head, like, writing, like, today. I don't know what, so today I had a way to start for Cosmo magazine and I'm in my head like, writing like today. I don't know what to do. So today I had a write history for Cosmome Magazine and I was supposed to turn in,

I did turn it in finally on time but it was taking me a very long time and it was about the proliferation of porn in America and if I think that porn has had an impact on how people have sex today and what to think about porn and then the bottom line was, what happened to romantic sex and how do you bring romance back into your relationship?

And so I just wrote about how, yes, I do think that it's sad when people learn from porn. You shouldn't learn from porn. You should learn something from like the Sinclair Institute DVDs, but not porn because porn is technically shot in a way to that's titillating and that you find that men and women, you know, find attractive to look at, but it's not necessarily where you should be learning the lessons of how to have sex. It's not like, oh, they did that in porn, so I should do that myself.

I don't think it's a great learning tool. I think it's, and I don't have nothing against porn for that, but for learning, like, it's a lot of kids is how they, their first entree, they're like indoctrinated into sex through porn, and I think that's a problem. And then it was like, what is romantic sex? And like why is it important?

You never see romantic sex. You always talk about the crazy weird sex but why aren't people talking about romantic sex? And so like when I say romantic sex, like what do you think about? Romantic sex? Yeah, if I say like romantic sex, like doesn't make you want to go, ugh.

Uh, yeah, it seems like a lot of work. That's what I said. I was like the reason why people you don't hear about it is much is you don't see it as much or you don't feel like talk about it as much because a lot of work. That's what I said. I was like the reason why people you don't hear about it is much is you don't see it as much or you don't feel wanna talk about it as much, because it takes more work. It's like mind, body, connection. You have to work at romantic sex,

but romantic sex is so important. If you're not connected to your partner on that spiritual intimate level, and there are things you can do, but don't talk, don't say to your partner though, because it's a women's magazine. So don't say, let's have a talk about romantic sex, because we'll leave, but just say like, you know,

I love our sex life, everything's great. Or, you know, I'm really enjoying our sex life, but here's something I think we could do to take it to the next level, and then I talked about, she didn't want me to say, don't talk about candles and lighting candles on itself. So I just said about talking, communication, it's a lubrication, whatever.

So that's what I was working on today. Talking. Communication, talk about what you like, what's your fantasies, what turns you on, what's your thing, what you're doing? I mean, I don, talk about what you like, what's your fantasies, what turns you on, what's your thing, what you're doing. I mean, I don't understand why couples don't talk to each other at all. It makes no sense to me.

Can I move into emails? What are you guys? How do you feel about that? Okay, you can always email me at feedback at sexwithemily.com. I try to answer all your emails, although there have been hundreds of them lately, like every day. And I love hearing from you, and I do read all of them, and we also answer some on our website,

as well as during our show. This is the Sex with the Emily Show. You can download hundreds of podcasts on iTunes or through my website or through the Stitcher app. Stitcher is an amazing free app for your smartphone, STITCHER, and you can just on-demand listen to any goddamn podcast you want, but hopefully you'll pick ours.

Yeah, just type in Sax sex and pops up right away. Pop's up right away, because we're the number one podcast. Hello. Okay, so that's how you can find us. Okay, emails. Hi, Emily. I care a lot about my girlfriend

and want to please her as much as possible by going down on her. And I've been reading and studying a lot about techniques to do it very well. But should I just go down on her spontaneously as a surprise or should I ask first? She's nice and reasonable, but she doesn't talk a lot about sex

from being she's either shy or she wasn't raised to enjoy it. So I'm afraid if I do it out of nowhere while I'm bad, she will find me repulsive. Any solutions? Wise Emily? Thanks, Jason. So I get this sense that Jason hasn't had a lot

of experience, perhaps, or all sex either. Because if he's worried that the woman's gonna freak out and think it's weird and creepy, I think he's probably perhaps a little younger, which is fine, nothing like that. We've been here from a lot of versions and younger-ish people lately. It changes all the time.

But I would say that I would just go right down there, but what I would say is you should start to do foreplay. I would start to kiss her, I would start to turn her on, I would kiss her, I would cross her body, I would make your way down there slowly, kissing her, kissing her stomach or thighs or breasts, and then just make your way down there and start like don't go right foot clitoris, never do that,

never go right in for it. Women are not turned on yet, they're not turned, she doesn't even know what's happening up, but do a lot of foreplay. And then go down there and try it. I think that you're projecting that she's going to be freaked out. Maybe she's never experienced before. But I can tell you that she'll probably like it. Shumpa, I don't know. It means some women don't like a role sex. But I'm sure she'll probably enjoy herself. And I would say that you could ask her first. You'd wonder if you could ask. I always think it's a little like, I would do mind if I like perform a little sex in you,

but you could just start kissing her and say, how does this feel? Like I would start kissing on the lips, then start kissing your neck, her breasts, and say like, how does this feel? I think you need to talk during sex, those kinds of questions. Does this feel good?

Do you want more pressure? Should I go softer? Should I go harder? And then kiss her to how does this feel? Do you like this? Does this feel good once you get down to her of a China and you start liking her? How does this feel? Do you like this? Is this feel good once you get down to her But China and you start liking her I Totally agree with that statement. I'm trying to think I'm trying to think what other counter statement I can come up with but I agree

Okay, let's go slow Slow that was another one I said you have to always go slow people go way way too fast start off really really slow And that is another thing that I think romantic sex is about going back to that. I said, go slow. Go five times slower than you think you should. Because everyone goes way too. I can't help but laugh when trying to perform or all sex. No, just being sexy. Well, that too. But like the whole being sexy. I just, I don't know, I just, because I'm an 80s kid, so it just being sexy, just automatically in my head just goes to automatic cheese, like

cheesy stuff, like the old school cheesy lace, you know, bras and paintings and stuff like that and there's like bad 80s music and Everything like velvet. I don't know. It's just think about that. Yeah, yeah, and then so when When I hear romantic and sexy all the images in my head go Those images are like 30 years old. Yeah, so stop thinking of those images. Well, it's kind of hard Well, it can't be really romantic. It's important. Because that's how couples connect. Like, spiritually intellectually, you need to, if you're just having sex and you're going

through your routine, you're like going through like arousal and then orgasm. And that's the only thing you're dealing with. And you're not like being romantic and connected. And it's a problem for your relationship. Because you're not. Like romantic dinners and stuff like that. That stuff is boring. What do you think? For real? No, but you're supposed to do, but it's so

effing boring. Why, you'd rather be sitting in Taco Bell in front of the office. I'd rather be watching Honey Boone. I understand. I'd rather be next to the girl like, yeah, having fun maybe eating at home and so like that. I think that's more fun than being at a wedding night find some water or something like that you know I don't really like that classy classy classy doing like we should talk about tonight I'm taking you dinner tonight you are taking me dinner tonight I'm very excited I'm going to flower and water that's what you're taking me right I know yeah it's gonna be amazing I don't even know what they serve there flower and water.

Oh. No, they deserve, it's Italian. It's amazing restaurant in San Francisco. Everyone should go. I better be good. No, I'm serious so you're gonna freak out. I'm walking out. You're gonna freak out.

You're gonna love it. Okay, next email. Hi, Emily, I'm 21 years old, and I had my first boyfriend two years ago when I was 19. He got into a relationship with me after his girlfriend dumped him. He worked so hard to get my attention and waited about two months for me to finally go on a date with him.

We instantly became comfortable with each other, but his ex seemed to still be around, talking to him texting him. I don't mind because I thought that's his past and I'm the future. Two months in so he texted me one day, randomly saying he needed time for himself and that he wasn't breaking up with me, but he was. The twist is, he is my neighbor. He lives about two feet away from me. It was so hard seeing him bring around, et cetera. The year 2012, he and his girlfriend broke up again in April and he came back to me wanting to be friends.

He apologized and was just telling me how he was just the best person in his life, the biggest mistake he made was breaking up with me. I then find out that they got back together. We don't talk now, but he says he wants us to talk and be friends. I'm just wondering what's your take on this? I'm trying my best not to make any contact and cut them off for good.

I just wonder if you ever really liked me, wanted to be friends, or he really just wants nothing to do with me. It's been a mind for a long time. Please help sincerely does time heal all. Okay. Oh my God, so many things I want to bring out. Okay, let me just say this. I do believe time heals all that he did.

Want to be friends with you. He did like you. You're young. You're not. You're 21 years old. He's a guy. He's what? He wanted to be friends with you.

He wanted to sleep with you. Yeah, I mean, I think he wanted to sleep with you again, but I don't want to sleep with anymore. He broke up with the girl he wanted to get back to. If you, because I truly believe that he liked you, and he also liked this other woman. And I think the kids are jumping into monogamy at the rate. He liked sleep.

And they wanted to sleep with you. He wanted to sleep with her. He wanted to sleep with the other, the neighbor on the other side. I mean, he wanted to sleep with everybody. So I'm just saying that, but you just have to, I would cut him off for good. I mean, I know it's hard because it's your neighbor and I'm telling you when you get a boyfriend and a month from now or a year from now or whenever you do,

you're not gonna care anymore. You're really not, you're gonna see, you're gonna be like, hey, that's that dude who is an asshole. But this will pass time does heal all wounds. I'm telling you that is such a truism to live by, that every relationship you win, you're in the depths of pain, a breakup, and you think you can't live and you can't go on. I am here to tell you that every relationship you when you're in the depths of pain, a break up, and you think you can't live and you can't go on, I'm here to tell you that you always go on.

And they always meet someone else and you will learn from this experience. And so my take on is that, yeah, I do believe that he really did want to be with you. And he wanted to be with her and he had a choose and he chose her once and he chose you again. So I would just like let this guy go, don't give the time of day if you can. Just keep walking when you're walking your car, don't stop and talk to him. Carving my life, because it's hard. That's the thing, when you're dating someone,

you want to cut them off, you can cut them off, you can delete their number, you can block them from your phone, you can different them on Facebook, when they're in your neighbor, you have to like see them. That's like annoying. Like I would tell you to move,

but usually it's not that easy. But so you gotta work really hard not bringing them back into your life. And I believe he probably does want to say hi and be friends. But just don't, don't do it. It's so funny because what I was eating, oh, eating, when I was, I wish I was eating right now. Soon, I'm starving too. When you're reading this email and I was hearing it, the answer is so simple to us, right? Right. Like we know exactly what's going on. Everyone that's in the room right now, to us, right? Right. Like, we know exactly what's going on. Everyone that's in the room right now,

like just lit up and they're like, of course, this guy just wants to sleep with her. But she likes this guy and she's not in a clear mind. Right. And it brought up this television show that's on TV. No, no, you're gonna freaking love this TV show. It's Effing Amazing. What? It's called, well, there was a there was a movie about it catfish, right? And it was all about how this guy

fell in love with the girl online and all this stuff. But this, this, they made it into a TV show where they follow people say, Hey, are you in an online relationship? Do you want to actually meet that person? And we'll, we'll take you to it, relationship? Do you want to actually meet that person and we'll take you to it, right? Okay. In the first episode, they go meet up with this girl

and she's like, yeah, I've been online dating this guy for eight months. They never met. Never met. People meet the person. She's so dumb. Like, totally head over heels. Even her sister was the one that

friend of this guy first on Facebook and they fight about this guy, right? So they're like doing some investigation. So tell us more about this guy. Oh, he's a model. He travels a lot. He was working for Chelsea lately. What abs?

Okay. Doing Q cards or whatever. Oh, we have three sisters that tragically died in a car accident. All this crazy stuff, right? So the guys that are producing the TV show, they start doing some research and looking into the guy and the guy had all the sisters are still alive. They call the Chelsea lately show and say, Hey, there's a, you know, it was a guy by this name doing cue cards for you. No, there was any guy doing this, right?

Oh God. So, they're supposed to go meet up with this guy with the girl and they go and meet with the girl first and say, hey, we did some research. These are all the things that we found, right? They don't know anybody had the Chelsea lately show that did two cards. And then this girl, I mean, because she's not in right mind. She's in love, right?

Just like this girl on the email saying, Oh, yeah, well, you know, there's probably a lot of people that work on the Chelsea lately show. Probably they didn't know him. They go, Oh, yeah, well, we found, we found the thing where all his sisters are still alive. Well, you know, the sister's thing is probably pretty recent and doesn't want to talk. So she was like making excuses for all this stuff. Of course, of course. She's like, I feel for this guy.

So they take some amazing texting, he wants or whatever. Yeah. No, she even talks to this guy on the phone. They call the guy on the phone. He sounds like a 13 year old kid, right? It's like, how do you not hear or see all this information? So finally, they fly this chick out to go meet this person. They found the address.

They knock on the door and it's 18 year old chick. Seriously? Yes. Who just made up this whole thing and all the photos and the guys life was like a friend of hers. She played soccer with one of the three sisters and then she took on the persona of this guy and has been like talking on the phone with this chick for like in texting and not knowing that the chick was a dude. I mean the dude was a chick. Yeah., the dude was a chick.

Yeah. Can't tell by the voice. She can't tell by the voice. Well, when you first hear the voice on the TV show, it just sounds like a young boy, but it's actually, it's actually, she's so, so, so misinformative. You, I've got to ask questions.

It's like, it shows, you don't see any of the signs when you're in love. I know. Love is blind. That's when they say love is blind because you are truly blinded by all the red flags. You don't see them, you just don't see them. But here's the thing.

I got asked recently by a journalist or something they were saying, when should you meet someone when you're dating online? And I'm like, don't send more than three emails back and forth. Meet the person right away within the first week. Otherwise you got eight months go by, you're talking to 18 year old in another country. Like who cares, like why 18 year old girl?

Like you just don't wanna waste your time doing that. Yeah, no, I've definitely met people through like every single medium. Right. And you build up them, you build them up in your mind. There's some amazing thing, blah, blah, blah. It never went further than three three messages It's just like all you have to be here at the same time. I don't let it go beyond three messages people if you want to know

But you really you really should just not wait too long. Yeah I don't know if we should be exploring all bad sinclest property like this Well, sure now help it old man sinclas deaf is a like this. Call Sharp now, help it. Old man sinclerc's death is a coup. He won't hear us. And besides, this is what friends do. Go on adventures and find out the secrets of better sex together. Who's that? Who's that left part? Be careful. This is Old man sinclerc's landmine field.

Collagen, I'm caught in the band trap. Help her you dummy. Now Old man sinclerc will hear us for sure. Who's that out there? I'm calling the band trap. Help, are you dumbass? Now I'm asking Claire to help us out. Who's that? No remove. Cut your head off. Over here. Look.

Is that Helper and Corgan out there? Yeah. I sure know you dig a lot of fun to seal out here. Here. Let me help you out of that trap. Hey, now I've got you going Mr. Sinclair. Give me that you dumbass. Oh here you go. A table of turns, Sinclair. Now take us to your locker full of sex tips and secrets. He's now. I don't want any trouble. Wonderful simple man.

Trying to make my sex tapes. Don't give up in it, Siles. We just want to know where your award went in sex-ploration series is. You can buy it on ZinclairInstitute on the dot com. I can't read other sucker. That's ZinclairInstitute.com s-i-m-c-l-a-r institute d-o-t

c-u-m Oh, Jim, I just found the tags who made was hiding here in this giant box and says tags We're gonna be sex masters Help me, dummy, watch out! You're gonna fall on that gun, ain't it? No man's in class hand Whoops, oh guess we should have gone to sing clans to do calm like a Sam yeah, let's get out of here

Hey, cool, how do you spell that website again? Help what you dummy? Yes, I N C L I website again. Hell, what you dumbass. I, N, C, L, A, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, your next sexual adventure. So y'all come back to SwingClarans2.com and use coupon code Emily50 for a 50% off, anyone out of my favorites, the DVD about dream spot pleasures and listen and applying for support. I'll ask with Emily. Do you want to talk to your guests right now? Yeah, let's bring them in. Come on, guests. Where what should we do with the, um, the mic's it.

Do I mean to come over with you? I know they can, they can just come over here. I'll just stand over here. Come stand with me. Sure. You know, hi, guys. I'm a question. Let's introduce our guests.

We've got Ben and Jen road. And I met them at the Good Vibration Sex Summit and they have they have they have of course at a website explosive sexual healing.com and you can check it out. Hi guys. Hi. So good to see you. Thanks for being here with us.

You're awesome. Thank you. You're going to love this stuff. Men is needs to take one of your courses with his woman. They get do it. Seriously. I know it is too much work. Menace needs to take one of your cloreses with his woman. They get, do it. Seriously? I don't even need to. It is too much work.

She will buy you talk about, though. She what? She will buy you talk about. She will buy you talk about? Menace, she'll buy you talk about. Okay. I said, you need a marry. Okay, so talk to me.

Seriously, so you guys are married. We're married. Married couple, and you do this sexual healing out of your home, which is awesome. Tell me, okay, what the hell is explosive sexual healing? Okay, so break it down, break it down. This is something I've been working on for about two years and I was trying to figure out what it was that I was doing that was working so well with lovers and so I started

reverse engineering it and figured out that I was combining G-Spot orgasm with hypnotherapy and that orgasm creates a profound state of trance that everything gets in and just it's a complete transformation. And so then when I met Jen, I met her six months ago, a married or five months ago. Oh my god, you guys got married that quickly. That's a whole nother show. Oh god, it really is. Wow. No my God. You guys got married that quickly. That's a whole nother show. Oh God. It really is.

Wow. No one of you guys are all over each other. And like they're like, I walked in. They're sitting. I just laughed. I'm like, Oh my God. They're so cute. And they're married.

That's right. No, I'm kidding. I believe in true love. It may last forever, right? Thank you. And may last forever. Okay. So, okay.

Back up. So you met her. And then you go ahead. Keep talking. So then we. So then she does energy work. So you met her and then you go ahead, keep talking. So then she does energy work. So she does the- Body raky, I'm clairvoyant. Yeah, talk to people's guides,

see angels, all kinds of fun stuff. Yeah, so I did the body work in hypnosis and she does the energy work. And she like pulls cords and like tells them things about themselves that, you know, they haven't thought about since they were seven years old. And I mean, she'll, you know, I'll be stuck with something and she'll say one sentence that gets like, you know, that's amazing. You guys are like a superhero couple.

Seriously. That's how we knew that we needed to quit our jobs and get married. I was a male man. She was a preschool teacher and really you were a male man. Yeah. You were a male man for 10 years and then you started in where I know I was a mailman a mailman for two and a half years She was a preschool teacher for 10 years. Oh my gosh Yeah, and you both so wait, so you're but then you're but you were having these with women that you were with you okay

Tag me this no Six months before you he was with other women. It's okay. Six months ago, before you lived, you had just, some of them we've worked on and are now my close friends. Oh, love it. I love that. I'm going to Mexico with like two of my ex-boyfriends

next week. We're all friends. We're doing our third session with my last girlfriend tomorrow. Oh my God, this is amazing. So tell me, okay, so then your background is, is what, how did you, sorry, you said that you were ma-ma-ma-ma, but then what you were doing, hypnotherapy? How do you know?

Yeah, so I've been studying sex. I read my first book on sex when I was 17. Okay. I read the complete idiot's guide to sex. Right. I read sex for dummies when I was 17. And it was just, it was my, I don't know, I couldn't stop reading about sex.

I just wanted more. I would learn more. Love it. You know, like, I mean, the clip wasn, I don't know, I couldn't, I couldn't stop reading about sex. I just wanted more. I wanted more. I love it. You know, like, I mean, the clip wasn't enough, you know, like I wanted to, I wanted more than Taco Bell. You know, that's good. Menace doesn't aspire to much more than that. So that's good to hear.

Yeah, and I just, I found the G spot and I didn't know what it was. And I just kept going with it and researching it and even more than researching it, just researching it like in my own experience figuring out why won't she have the G-spot orgasm and then I make it happen. So what I do is I work with a body. I work with a head more than I work with a body. So like there are statistics out there that say that only a certain percentage of women can achieve G-spot orgasm. But that's just like all the programs

out there are for helping them achieve G-SPOT orgasm when they're ready for it. So it's like working with the body, but we work with the mind and the body and the spirit. Yeah. And the spirit and all that. Okay, so you were always obsessed then with G-SPOT with everything about the fact. It was just my calling. You know, there's something that calls me. That's amazing. That was really amazing. So then, okay, so then you guys met in U-Ed's acts

and then he did the G-Spot thing on you. She got it. I'll, I'll, you take it. So we met, hung out a couple times, moved in. We were gonna put this one up frequently asked questions. God, yeah. We just had to add our Ben and Jen swingers to the first question. Yeah, are you?

No, we're not. Okay. No, we're actually in a secure committed monogamous marriage. Okay. I know. Crazy. We're kind of boring. We both had a fun beforehand.

Right. Exactly. Yeah, so I had never experienced a G-spot orgasm before we had met. And it's been really interesting working with other women with this too, because most women, what we're realizing more and more and more is that most women, even when they think they've experienced a G-spot orgasm, they haven't.

Really haven't. Right, right. I mean, what we do is, it'll be half an hour long orgasms. And they call the G-spot, the goddess spot for a reason. Right. Because it really is direct connection with source. So if you think about the sacred goddess ceremonies and the matriarchal cults,

or is like, that's what they were doing. Absolutely. Like directly connecting women with source. So what do you do? So you have a woman coming into your living room and are you actually penetrating her? Are you so all using sex toys? Yeah, toys. I just want to say to your last question we didn't actually kiss until the night before she moved in. Yeah she

moved in one month to the day after we got married. Oh you were romantic. So but anyway so yeah so the client comes in we do an intake and we got exactly where they're at now and where they need to be. So, let's say, let's say the client says, okay, I have childhood issues that are keeping me from calling some of my boyfriend. Oh God, turning on me, yeah. We say, okay, so what do you want instead? You know, I said, I want a boyfriend, I want intimacy, I want to be with the man in my dreams and to let him love me and let him do his thing and treat me like a woman and whatever it is. And we say, okay, so let's come up with some affirmations. So we come up with some affirmations which are posted not at suggestions.

And whatever those are, we write down three or four of them and we say those to the clients while they're in orgasm. So we start off with the- And often they're screaming them with us, we're all screaming together. Yeah, they're screaming, I love myself. Right, good, that's good, affirmations are very powerful, yeah, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely. So I taught a little workshop in my sex logical body work when I was doing my sex logical body work certification

I taught a to our workshop and so we had five women on tables and five people giving them g-spot orgasms and yelling Posted not a suggestions at them their affirmations Okay, and the unanimous feedback at the end was I These these affirmations were getting in. Wow. And I have never let anyone compliment me like that. Like usually I deflect or I, but they all get in and they stick.

It's a total hypnotic trance. That's amazing. So it's just at the point of the whole time building up to orgasm, they're chanting or they're saying their affirmation. So leading up to orgasm, it's all, you know, Jens asking them about stuff from their childhood.

Well, how are they like, okay, you guys touching them, are they vibrate, or are they vibrate? They're naked on the table. It's sex logical body work, of a code of ethics. So practitioners fully clothed, touches one way, and we have our vinyl gloves.

So we do full body massage, and then eventually go to the Yoni massage and then eventually work to the G-spot. Okay, so you were able to provide these G-spot orgasms or the women are able to achieve them under your tutelage. Right. Every woman that comes in?

If they continue, so if they want to continue, then yes. So the women that are initially unable to, we work with them in different ways. We do some hypnosis, we do some raky, there's so many things that will keep a woman from achieving G-Spot orgasm. Like what? Talk to me some other word box. Okay, so what we, like what we've really found out is that our whole thing is based on full release, which is a step or two beyond orgasm.

Okay. Like full release where everything in your way of success and of happiness disappears. So I mean, do you want to talk about that? Or pleasure centers or gosh, it's basically, I know it's hard to explain, I know, like what you, because it's so challenging to put into words, like really sex is in the mind, like really everything in life is in the mind.

And so our bodies are all physically capable of each spot orgasm, like every woman's body. And so it really is just getting them over the mental blocks. And every woman has different mental blocks. We do tend to work with a lot of really, really powerful women who are all in their head. Who tend to be in their head, a lot of business women, a lot of entrepreneurs,

things like that. And often they have egos that tend to be control-free. It's like, I have that too, I get it. So that's a really common one. It's not necessarily that, but it is this huge, like when you're in a half an hour orgasm, you are not in control. You are not being control. And so like that, that's one of the biggest roadblocks I would say, but they're also. Yeah, so the blocks can be anything from being seen, to receiving, receiving pleasure, receiving abundance. I'm just getting out of you, but

really just getting out of your head. That's how I tell women all the time. Like you just have to like, what do you mean? I'm like, you just have to focus on your body, focus on your breath. There's so many things that people like, just don't like, they just can't do it. They don't get it.

I can't, so it doesn't like the perfect, yeah, it is like meditation. It totally is. Like I found myself, you know, that was like 90, I was reading something like 60% of women that top thing thing they said was they think about their to-do list during sex. You know, like, got to pick up a laundry, you know, like what? Like really is that worth thinking about? But it's true, that's where our minds go.

It's like, it takes a village to like stop, like literally, like you guys are like a village, helping women have their guys. Exactly. Because they're so like thinking about all the stuff they have to do. It's a whole time job keeping them in their body. And actually, the women that are always in their body, we get them in their head. The women that are always in their head,

we get them in their body. Yeah, the women that leave the universe during an orgasm, we pull them back. The women that stay here, whether an orgasm, we make them leave the universe. We just give them what they haven't had before. And so, what's the full release then? It's when she's. So, the full release then? It's when she.

So the full release is when she's in that G spot orgasm for several minutes and she has just gone out of her mind and she's screaming. Like she's never experienced before. Exactly. And she's ejaculating all over the place. And she's just, it's a place where she stops resisting and stops fighting her body and it starts receiving

the pleasure and receiving the her body and starts receiving the pleasure and receiving the full release and receiving. Ah, so. And from an energetic perspective, it's you'll actually see, I mean, when any woman's in orgasm, you'll see the body tense initially to release. But in the full release, you'll actually see them sort of relax into it. And as they relax into it, you'll see them experience this full body orgasm. So the orgasm isn't just concentrated in the sacral. I mean, it would just extend and go and go and go. And then what's your role?

So you're doing the exoskecological body work we're in the gloves and doing the performing the orgasm. And so what is your role, Gem? What are you talking through the process? Talking through the process, comforting often women need comforting. A lot of emotional stuff will tend to come up, especially in the first few sessions. Once we blow out the emotional stuff, then it's just pleasure. And then it's just enjoying that, which is also wonderful.

So then I would be circulating sexual energy in the body. But initially it's usually a lot of comforting. And then it's also a perfect opportunity if they need a cord pulled from like an old relationship or things. Right. They're still like hung up on someone. Right. It's the easiest way to get in there and just get it out. And can you only do this to the G-Spot orgasm?

Like you have to have the G-Spot. What is it about the G-Spot that got a spot? Like it's just the way it is in your body. I mean, we're still really learning but the got it, it's called the got a spot for a reason. So like I've been doing rake for six years now, and the lower talkers are the hardest talkers to like cleanse in anyone in myself and others. Like, right. They're slower and there's just more, they're more stagnant. And so yeah, I mean, the, it's just an amazing tool. It's just, it works.

It's not, I'm sure it's not the only tool, but it really works. What about clitoral orgasms when you're with the women? Because everyone says that you need to have a 10 seconds to have one. No, I mean, the clitoral orgasms attend 22nd orgasms. So, you can't throw into it. What are you doing that when you're, like, playing first of all with sexological bodywork is for some people who might not know. Sexological bodywork is somatic sex education,

or we call it somatic sex re-education. So I can, you know, in school, you know, high school, you know, I got like, I think two days of sex education and all that. Right, if that, right. And it's all about why we shouldn't have sex because we're going to have these horrible STDs that are going to make my penis hurt. Right, exactly. And they're going to get some chick pregnant and like ruin my life.

So, you know, we're teaching people how to receive pleasure. And so, they come into us and they're like, hey, I'm a business woman. I don't have time to research this stuff. You know, that's our job. You know, it's to research it and to know what they need. You know, if I need my taxes done or something, I'll go to them.

If they need a 30 minute G-spaul orgasm, they can come to me. Right, right, that's amazing. That's amazing. So women, and they come back, do you guys ever peak clients, they keep coming back? Or do they do more like they do at once, they income. Right, right. That's amazing. That's amazing. So women, and they come back, do you guys ever peak clients, they keep going back or do more like they do at once, they release, so you do programs, you teach workshops? I mean, no, we have a 30 day and a 60 day and a 90 day program that we work with people on. We haven't gotten into teaching workshops yet. I'm still writing

them. We have some amazing ideas. We're actually thinking about moving to Colorado. Yeah, you should. There's lots of people that want orgasms. I'm sure, I'm sure, you know. So, yeah, so the clip is an amazing tool. Back to your question. And we will, I do, of course, I do you know, I do you know, I saw a show, I'll work with the clip for a little while and get her turned on. And if she's used to coming with the literal orgasm, I'll have her just ride that edge, ride the edge of orgasm without letting her go over for anywhere from 30 minutes to however long. And then, you know, while I'm...

Did your hand get tired? Marry him with his head, yeah. So I usually only go for five minutes at a time and then I take a little break and then go for five minutes in time to switch hands or something and then come back. And that's amazing. It's like a workout.

Like, you know, I know I've seen it. Like, it is a workout. No, I know. I've seen it. I've experienced this stuff. But, Judd, how do you feel about him? Your husband? Yeah. Doing this with other women. I know that you can just probably separated and you're evolved and all that stuff.

But really, like, sometimes you kind of like, wow. Yeah. I mean, initially, it's really funny because we actually, it's funny. Like, we actually talked about this with the client today too. Initially, when we met and I heard what he did, I was like, that is the stupidest thing I've ever heard of. I was like, this is bullshit. I heal people without even touching that. This is dumb. I could go deeper into me and bend story. It's a huge story in and of itself. I knew who he was before I met him.

Ben story and it's a huge story in and of itself. I knew who he was before I met him. Right. So it's our life is about it's about life purpose and it goes so much deeper than an individual thing. And as much as you know I can talk to you about it here and it's like oh it seems really sexual and it is it's not it's about healing. It's about deep level soul healing and that's what I came to this planet to do. So Women come in about asking about orgasm and I want a deeper orgasm and I just want pleasure So I want this pleasure and then you know, then we find out about their deep deep deep Beliefs and deep stuff going on. It keeping that from. Yeah, that's a lot. And for men too, there's a lot of stuff deep,

so there's deep emotional trauma and stuff like, you know, what do you guys think about this whole sex surrogacy thing? Now it's a huge, it's different than what you do. Then, then sex logical body work, but sex circus, my mom keeps asking me the sessions is coming out with Helen Haunt. Do you guys do about this movie coming out? I heard about it. And she's a sex surrogate, which I think is like great like it's just similar sort of to what you do, right? Definitely.

Um, but what do you think I mean what? Why would someone go see a sex surrogate for example? So a sex surrogate is It's an amazing thing. It's it's not It's not the same. I get yours as like spiritual emotional, like all these levels. I just feel like that's very topical right now. Right.

So I actually tried, I actually separated what we do from the sex because of, because I was experiencing what I mean, what I was doing before was kind of like sex surrogacy. Right. In order to separate the healing from the emotions that come along with the sex and all that, I really had to, I really had to separate the sex

from the healing. Okay. So I had to, and in order to make it way more legal and make it more of a mainstream thing and all that. So I mean, I don't know a whole lot about professional sex surrogacy, but it's amazing. I mean, it's all amazing. Right, it's all like it could feel like

they're prostitutes or whatever. It's like, no, it's like you're helping people like move through trauma, move through challenges, actually. Yeah, I mean, that's what Gaysha and Cortezons use to do it. It's a problem, people. They're a society. And even for what we do, it's like, you know, you have what Gaysha and Cortezons use. Right. What's the problem, people? There's no society. And even for what we do, it's like, you know, you have your issues that you bring into

a relationship. Everyone has them. And then you have your stories around your relationships. And so getting out of that story can be really, really healing. Right. Yeah. Okay. Yeah.

So that's why we have boyfriends and husbands that actually bring their wives and girlfriends. I was going to ask you about that. Do they do they do teach them the husbands what to do? Yeah. Yeah. They they're all the room. Tell me about that. Yeah. Okay. So at first, we open up the women. At first, we open up the girlfriend, the wife, and help them have that full release because a lot of times, you know, if they've been married for several years, like Jen was saying, they have stories and they have like tension around the sex. And there's like, you know, it's like this critical thing that they have to fix. And so, you know, if I just teach him and he goes in, you know, that's one more thing

he's trying to do. And, you know, he's not an expert. He's, you know, what's he doing? This hurts, you know, I don't like this. And so, so a lot of times when she comes to us, there's that know, what's he doing this hurts? You know, I don't like this and so so a lot of times when she comes to us There's that understanding that she's here paying us to do this with her right and she trusts us as the experts And so we can say yes So I understand that it's really intense and it's gonna be really really intense until you cross over an orgasm

And then it's gonna be the most intense pleasure you've had in your entire life And then they can replicate this at home with the partner. Exactly. So once she understands that feeling, once she feels it, then we'll bring the boyfriend in. So it's a lot of times so in order to have her get to that full release, she'll need to talk a little bit about relationships. So you're like a therapist too, both of you. Yeah, we're definitely counselors as well. Right? Yeah, we do coaching and stuff like that. And so what are toys do you ever use any sex toys? Yeah, we use vibrators. Which kind? We have the, what's the one that looks like the, what's the big one with the ball on the

end of it? That's how she mentioned. It's amazing. We got the wireless waterproof one. Of course, we have to get the water proof one. They have a wireless water. We've attached you in your time. I mean, this for the first time. Oh, oh, okay. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but that's good vibes. It's like a couple, you know, couple of vibrators. That's the G spot. And then we just got a G spot vibrator called the starlet toy friend.

Okay. And so I'm just I'm just a sass with vibrators. Of course, so I need to know what you're using. It's wonderful. It's a great jeez pot orgasm or jeez pot vibrator because a lot of them are just they're too flimsy and you can't put enough pressure. Right, right. There's so many jeez pot or jeez pot toys right now. Right. And this one's cheap. It's like $33 on AMAZ. Starlight. Okay. Good. Go to Amazon or go to Adam andip.com use coupon code Emily. Check out and get 50% off for the items. It's the pink one. There's pink. Starlight. I want to go get it. I've so many vibrators. I moved. I moved to LA and it was like literally my entire car was six toys. My friend was packing me up. Not because I was going to use them all. No, but no, I should. I need two more. I mean, you'd think without the six toys I have that I would do masturbating like 24-7, but I don't. But it's like after bringing them down,

just have eventually have to research and I give them ways, gifts or whatever. But it was after my whole car was sex stories. Not after I use them, they're not used, but at all. But I was just gonna ask you something else. So why was I gonna say there was something that was just that you were just saying, oh, the women with, so you have,

you had women in there who have never had an orgasm before? Yes, absolutely. So you've had women who have never even had a clitoral orgasm, clitoral anything. Yes. And they were like, so they must have fucking lost their mind. Yeah, so I mean, even like if somebody's never had

even a clitoral orgasm and they have just a quick one second, two second orgasm, like a piphony's come out of that. Right, for sure. It's a huge opening. They're like, okay, now I understand why people are addicted to this stuff. You know, it's like drugs in your brain. It is, it is.

It's amazing. Is it because they never touch themselves or they never try it or they never had sex? Like, what have you seen? Like a desire to touch themselves. Yeah. And most of it's rooted, I mean, everyone has different life experiences, but a lot of it boils down to either family stuff,

when they were young, shame stuff, or just cultural stuff. Right, religion. Right, religion. But religion, all that stuff. Like, you're going to go blind or get a woman pregnant if you're whatever. And if there's not that, there's often just, my parents just didn't talk about it.

Right. No one talked about it. Like, nobody. Like, maybe I had sex ed in school for like a minute. Right, and so that can create a disconnect as well. And that was one of the major things that I got out of the sex summit that we met you at.

Oh yeah, it's a good vibration sex summit. It was super, yeah. It was amazing. Yeah, it was, that was actually really funny. Like the way I met you and I brought up the, I love, you might hang out, we should talk about that. I had your Kagle app up,

but I was like, I have an app called Kagle Camp. I know that so funny, so it's Kagle Camp is an app for the iPhone that you can do your Kagle exercises. It reminds you do it, why do you like it? You use it.

You can set an alarm to remind you every single day. So we actually tell all of our clients, like it's actually in the book that we give our clients. I love it. I'm saying, by the sex with Emily Kagle. Oh, I wish I know and hopefully we for droid soon too, because a lot of people don't have iPhones,

but yeah, we need that. But why do you think they're in more of the important to your clients than you think? Because Kagles are, I mean, we were. I mean, I know why, but I want to use them. We work out every other muscle in our body. Why not our sex rules? Exactly.

It's a mate, you need it. Okay, so they did a, they actually did research, the Mayo Clinic. They interviewed every woman that came in for a while, I think it was like 6,000 women. My numbers could be totally off, but there's a direct correlation to, from orgasm to cagal strength. So if a woman never had an orgasm, you know, she had no cagal strength. A woman that could achieve literal orgasm, slightly stronger cagals.

A woman that could achieve that, you know, orgasms during intercourse and literal orgasms, super strong cagals. Super strong cagals in five minutes a day. You have to do it, men and women. People don't realize that men can do them. It's like those pea stopping muscles, starting and stopping the flow of urine. It is, it's so important. Multiple orgasms. I know. I need to start doing it again too. Do you use it too? They

app. I need to do it. I know it's a cakey dome because I don't even use it. I don't have to. I actually love J-Degs. I don't know if you work with J-Degs at all and Rose Quartz eggs. They're all so easy. Oh, oh, like the balls that you stick inside do. Absolutely. Exactly. So that's actually Rose Quartz eggs. They're all so easy. Oh, oh, like the balls are used to inside do. Absolutely, exactly. So that's actually what I wear. And how long do I wear them for? Oh my God. Well, I actually had to stop wearing them for a little bit

because I was just wearing them all day and it just kind of like your body sort of like scrunches naturally. And then I do a lot of vinyasa yoga. I was like, it was ridiculous. So I mean, that works for me, but I mean,inyasa yoga. So it was like, our little source of energy. It was ridiculous. So, I mean, that works for me, but I mean, we advise both, and it's just, right, oh, that's great.

Thank you. And I have another iPhone app out called Sex Drive. It's Emily's Sex Drive, and it helps couples improve their sex life. They add so a few questions, and then they come in, and then they answer a few questions, and then every day you get a little, every day you get a little proposition

and envelope that you open on your iPhone. Like it says, this is what you should try today. Today you should give your partner a massage, and then every to call the sex drive because you can choose between five and 30 days for your sex drive, and improve your sex life because we're getting... Yeah, you got to put that to your list. Absolutely. So what I was saying about seeing you at the good, the good,

the good, the good, the good. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, tell me, tell me. What we really got out of that was that people really don't have the information that they need. No. I really got the importance of why people like you and I and, and, and Jen and everyone else that was there are doing what we do because the world needs this. I know, do you have to see me emailing me too?

Like I hundreds a day, they're like, I don't get our same orgasms, I don't understand. Relationships. Yeah, I don't know how much of that we're working with to on a daily basis. That's great. So. So it really resonates. Oh, and so, yeah.

So one of the great things about that full release is that once we work, help them work through whatever it was, it was blocking them to having that full release. First of all, that block is gone in their everyday life too. That's what it sounds like. So it's a combination. They looped, okay, the block is gone. It everyday life, too. That's what it sounds like. So it's a combination. They looped. OK, the block is gone.

It's gone for their relationships, their work, they can abundance, happiness. Their block's the happiness to being seen, heard, whatever. They give their speeches. So when they get to that space of full release, their orgasms are better. They have more orgasms. We get after every session, I'll get texts the next day. Oh my God. I just had three G spot

orgasms with my boyfriend and five clitoral orgasms. Oh my God. That is like your selling point alone. Why doesn't everyone come see you? Can they do it over the phone? So we, well, we how does you guys work? Tell me real quick because we've got a few seconds at. So it's explosive sexual healing.com. We'll also have it on our website, sexwithoutme.com. Yeah, you can see me at Ben and explosive sexual healing.com. And have it on our website, sexwithoutme.com. Yeah, you can just email me at bened explosivesexualhealing.com. And we, so we do free 30 minute strategy sessions where you can just call us and talk to me about,

for half an hour, about anything you want, I'll answer your questions and let you know what the next steps are. Okay, that's cool. So if you can call and kind of fill it out because it's like, oh, that sounds good. I want that, but I don't know. They can just call and talk to you.

That's awesome Jen does have a lot of amazing raky services. She does I always wanted to try it Yeah, I know I know right? I should totally do before I um Go back to LA. I know I need one now like I do it now I was yeah, I was so tense. We're seeing how tense I was? I was actually gonna add. I almost did something on you before you started. This has been so great.

Thank you so much. Explosive sexual healing, Ben and Jen. Thank you so much for being here. It's sex with Emily. Thank you so much. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Is the screaming of cockwing it or bringing less of pleasure if you like that kind of thing and stuff

Put it at the base of your penis and do your later or your man to be empty that They might fly the riddest ladies and pleasure, kids for couples are you a part of a couple? I'm sure not, but if I was, I'd be pleased with my lady for my man With the product from the screaming of .com