Sex With Emily - SWE: Surviving 21st Century Sex

Episode Date: December 2, 2013

Sex has changed dramatically in the 21st century. Midwestern housewives are reading 50 Shades of Grey and half of all women own vibrators. Social media and online dating has created a lot more dating options, making monogamy a less desirable option. People are getting married later and more and more couples are making up their own relationship rules. It's a crazy, exciting world out there. Here's how to survive 21st Century sex with your dignity and hopefully an orgasm...or three. Special Discounts: Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Emily also answers listener's emails about telling white lies, office affairs, and choosing between the stable relationship and the romantic fling.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh, my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's shrink?

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And this is a very special show because I'm sitting in the room with Menace. Hello, Emily. Hi. We're, we try to start this podcast like three times, but it feels weird being in the same room. We are in the same room together. I know. And San Francisco, California, today weird being in the same room. We are in the same room together in San Francisco, California.

Yeah, I love it. It's like we're like in a long distance relationship sort of. We go back and forth to the show. I know. I need to get to LA. Set that long though. You are an LA. You're an LA every weekend.

You just don't see me and it's cool. I'm like, oh, there's minutes, five minutes for my house. That's cool. I'm different. I'm different. I was there for half hour last week, half hour. I know, honey, I know one day when you really love me, you'll say, hey, you're the one I want to hang out.

I'm moving, I'm moving, I'm moving, I love it. You really should move to LA. I mean, I don't understand why you don't. Everyone thinks it's okay. So it's been really interesting for me. So I've been in San Francisco for the weekend because I was really, oh my God. I went, I want to say, oh my God.

Do I say, oh my God, I do. I have a notice there. Okay, I don't Do I say, do I say, oh my God, I do. I have a notice there. I don't think I do, but I think I say, oh, M.G., like in piping, but I don't think I say, out loud. The point is, I'm in San Francisco because I had to move the rest of my furniture to Los Angeles.

So officially, I had a mover come up, I moved everything a few weeks ago, and then they forgot some important crucial things, like the bottom of my table and whatever. So I'm driving the rest back in my mini Cooper which is filled you saw it in front. But I can't bend because good vibrations opened a new store in Palo Alto. You know good vibrations is a so you guys know I always talk about good vibes I say good to good vibes calm because you can't actually have the experience of going into a good vibration

store which we're very lucky in the Bay Area there's like five of them and there's one in Boston. And it's such a unique experience. So anyway, they opened up the Palo Alto store, which is very exciting. And I went to the opening and I didn't realize it, but my Emily and Tote products were on the shelf. I didn't know that they had arrived yet to sell in the store, so the first store to sell them.

And it was the first time I'd seen them on a shelf and not on the website, Emily and Tony.com. And so it was a very exciting moment for me. It was like, I give birth to these products, and there they were in public. I saw you post the Instagram about it. I did post it on the Instagram, I was very excited. And then the new store was great, and it's so funny because I was thinking about it, because my first experience at Good Vibesick, I had never had an orgasm when I moved to San

Francisco, and I went into Good V good vibes because I heard about the store and they're like, okay, I'll go into a sec, because all the sex toy stores ride, girl, we're kind of creepy. Like did you guys have those weird, on the side of the road, sex stores? Really, CD. Yeah, CD, like, there's some man

like jacking off into like a newspaper or something. And then I told you, when I first walked in there, many podcasts ago that the first thing I saw when I walked in, the thing was called the anal ripper. That was the first sex toy I saw when I was in the... A good vibration? No, no, into the ones, right.

The city ones. So that's the difference. I could vibe. So if you ever do like, I seriously think if you're going to a city where they have one, then it's just, it's everyone so pleasant. You go in there and I was like, I have an orgasm. They're like, okay, honey, come over here. So here's the vibe. They walk you through it.

It's totally casual. Have you masturbated? And, you know, so it's kind of like what we're doing with these two new interns in Los Angeles right now who had neither one of them. I do not know this when I heard them. Neither one of them have had orgasms. One 19, one 24. And so I was just like, oh my god. so obviously it's probably why they were drawn to the

energy, but they didn't tell me this in the interview. So now, good vibrations actually sponsoring, like, in a way, they're orgasms, journey to always what we're calling it. And they gave synth in these huge like beginner kits, like masturbation kits, like vibrators to start with, like a bullet vibrator, and then like a butterfly kiss vibrator, then books about how to like feel good and music and bubble bath. Like it was really sweet. And they're like, one of them is writing about it when Ro on my blog every week about how she's like, is it man versus machine? Because now she's having sex with the guy this weekend, but she's been masturbating for like two weeks and she hasn't had one yet. So she's like, who's going to do it first? Man or machine. It's very interesting. It is interesting. So anyway, that was why I'm here. Because I love good vibes and go

into their things and seeing the products and whatever. And I want to see friends. Yeah. Where has all your stuff been this whole time? My stuff. That's a boyfriend's house, hasn't it? I know. My friends house. Just my dog is at my ex-wife's house. But my furniture was all at my friend's Charlotte's house. So I didn't have that much when I moved. It was such a, I wasn't really ready to leave yet and to totally commit to LA shock, commit issues. So I kept, so Charlotte kept my few of my favorite pieces and now I just found an amazing place in LA

that I decided I'd ready for my furniture. So I had it all moved up and then this person forgot stuff. So I had to drive back down, whatever, I craigslist. But yeah, so that's where it was. But now I have it all moved up and then this person forgot stuff. So I had to drive back down whatever I Craigslist So but yeah, so that's where it was, but now I have it all and I settled in and got my little guest house. It's so cute Yeah, I moved to West. Yeah, West Hollywood. What yeah, it's amazing and and so yeah But that's why I'm here when it's so weird to be back because I've been gone Okay, so it's been a year and I lived here for a really long time and it's just just so different the people and the vibe. I went to this party last night. I was out to for you I'm I went to one of those burning man

fundraiser party things and um Yeah, I was up to for you. I'm dancing It was really fun and all my friends came and me dance and and I feel like the guys here are much more Metro sexual and do not ask you out like in Los Angeles And we've always said this, like I always say that. But the guys in LA are super metro sexual. But they are, but they are aggressive. Yeah, they're aggressive.

So I realize this is that I, we've been saying this for years. Every town that everyone lives in, they say it's the worst place of day. I get that. You live in a regular, there's a reason why it's a worst way. San Francisco, truly. Not one guy. It is the truly, no, no guy approaches it.

They're not like, hey, babe, whatever. They're all just like kind of dancing into their thing. I don't know what it is. But like Los Angeles, you go out and just like, you're like dodging guys. Like, we're they're more aggressive. And they're as Metro sexual, but they're not, you know. And then just because they're asking you guys in LA, also are probably asking out 10 other women.

Because that's what you're doing in LA. But here, guys are like, oh, just wait until she comes up to me. Maybe if not, just call my friends and smoke a life. We hear guys like it, it's sweet. So she comes up to me and maybe if not, just go with my friends and smoke a bowl. Or maybe a Twitter later. Exactly. So I've been noticing about dating and all that, but it's great to be back.

How about you? You were away? I know. I just got back. I was in the Virgin Islands, I guess. I was in Saint Martin. I was in Saint Thomas. I went to, I was on a Disney cruise, everyone.

Okay. A lot of people, I was on a Disney cruise, everyone, okay? A lot of people, I'm sure that, that listen to the show are also into Disney. But I saw one on this Disney cruise. I was kind of wasted the whole time, but I took, I took some pretty incredible Instagram photos. Free alcohol, right? Oh yeah, oh no, no, no.

Alcohol is a little bit more, but they have a drink of the day. Of course, yeah. Probably spent about $1,500 on just alcohol alone, but it was an amazing trip. St. Martin is a... From what you remember. Yeah, St. Martin is amazing.

There's a place in St. Martin, you have to go, if you go there, it's called Maho Beach, I believe, it's M-A-H-O, and airplanes fly right over the beach, like giant airplanes fly right over the beach like giant airplanes fly right over the beach over the crowd into the into the runway and it is amazing I took some really cool photos of that so it's amazing so to your you went with your love yes you're special lady yeah and we will never meet probably not and was it good was it good for you guys to get away together because you you work so I don't feel like you guys do things like this.

Do you? No, no, no, we go all the time. We're leaving again in like four days. We're going to Vegas. Oh, okay. Yeah. So we're, I mean, she comes along with me on all my trips. Oh, okay. Got it. So when you're going to start like, including her like in your Instagrams and stuff.

And when you're going to change your Facebook status. And can we talk about this for a second? Minus Navi had a long way. I don't know. I don've been listening to this show, but we've been doing it a long time. Yeah, but see yourself, forgetful because I've answered this question a thousand freaking times.

What, the worst thing? What? Yeah, because it works though. Dude, what do you mean? What, because she once worked, whatever? Yeah, and it's a long story. Whatever, she like, whatever worked, who cares? I'm just saying that that's BS and that you,

How's it BS? You have no pictures of her. You never talk about her and you're in a sex talk show. All my friends know about her. Yeah. I know. We talk about her too, but this look, this is your show. No, it's not. I mean, that's it. It is my show. Is that the minute? If you cared about it, you'd share something. Okay, you're in a long-term relationship right now and you should share something about how you feel about this relationship more It's going I think it'll be cathartic for you. I think you don't really think about it And then if you do you need to you need to share it

You get married soon like do I need to buy a new dress or I'm do I need to be prepared for not being invited like I don't understand Okay, okay, I'll answer some quick questions. Please just give me something new like it's so I'm so bored with this We we both hate children. Okay, children are not that we hate children new like it's so I'm so bored with this. We both hate children. Okay. Children are not that we hate children, but it's so. Per se, right? So much. You hate the idea of having children.

I. No, you actually hate children. No, well, like I like being around kids, but I don't want to clean up that shit. We had it shit. I don't want to pay for them. I just. Million dollars of a lifetime having a child. And then they're like always crying and stuff like that.

It's just, well eventually they stop. And every person I see is, that has kids are super miserable. I'm sorry, I'm sorry if you have a kid, I'm sorry. And I'm, you're gonna say that I'm wrong all day long. But some of the times, don't you wish you could just get away. I know, my friends are like, what do you mean you used up to 11, 30 on Saturday?

Like all my friends with kids are like, how did you sleep into them like 11? Like, yeah. Oh, yeah, exactly. And then every, every person we know too, because just because we know a lot of young people that are married, they're not happy either. Being married, they don't like it.

So we're perfectly fine going on trips and Spending our extra money on you know, you know Find Jordans aren't just just doing whatever the hell we want. So we're really content in how everything is great. So she's not so happy and you're in love and what about marriage? Marriage again people that we know are not happy. It's just It's just that we look at it like, let's say we wanted to get married, right? You know how much it costs to get married these days?

It's a lot of money. It's a lot of money if you want to throw, and I want to throw a big ass party if I did get married. Right. Or serious to Cuba. Or we can just go to Jamaica, like we just booked,

like while we were on our trip to go on a, like we just booked, like, while we were on our trip to go on a trip to Jamaica. So, like, I got it. I mean, but I don't believe me. I'm not emotional. You're talking about tactical, like, how you feeling emotionally, like, are you feeling like closer? Like, you love her a lot and like, take your life partner.

She's the one. She, I, uh, wow, we put a lot of pressure on me on this one to say that she just wanted to know I haven't seen how I am not looking for anybody else. Oh, okay. You don't want to get in the checks. When you masturbate, do you think about other women sometimes now? Because you've been together that long. Always. Okay. That's a graphic. I does that right eventually. And there's fake baked like it's and is it typically women that you've slept within the past women that you've met or is this porn porn or you don't watch porn so when you watch porn

Right, so you actually don't even think about it, but when you're with her you think about her. Yeah, okay Okay, cuz that's bad don't tell her that no because now being on love line so love line if everyone can check out the podcast That's another amazing radio show that's been on for 30 years. And I host it. I'm 13 nights of Dr. Drew. It's live in Los Angeles, but and San Francisco and many other have new cities. Oh, it's it's all over the country. It's nationally syndicated. Oh, so you might hear me. There's it. But it's funny because we take colors all the time and it's so interesting because they, there are so many people calling in about that exact thing that like the younger

We just say they're younger and the married. Yeah, and they're unhappy with the relationship or they got married to younger They got married to older like whatever we Well, you just say before that the kids. Sorry. What were you saying? What are they telling you that? What did you just say? What I just say is That we're just really content and how we are. And again, everyone's unhappy. Right. So that's where you all the time. And they're like, I'm 20, we got married and weren't happy. And then you're like 40 and unhappy.

And these kids who call in, and it's young, a lot of them are younger. And they're like, you know, I think I'm with the love of my life, but we've been together for four years. I'm like, how old are you? 20, like, it's like, you can't. And your 20 is like the time to date and trying to figure out like what you want.

And then, you know, so those people aren't happy. Well, no thing is, I... I shouldn't get married. Don't get married before you're 30. Someone got pissed at me for saying this, but I don't think you should get married before you're 30. And I've always been the one on the show. It's like a very supportive of marriage and all that stuff.

And I'm not telling everybody not to get married just for me though. It's just in the relationship. But I mean, we kind of just look at it as like a money factor. It's like why we got so romantic. I know it is. Isn't it like, are we gonna waste a ton of money on doing this or we can go have fun, you know?

Right. To be honest. Yeah, that's true. That you, a lot of couples are delaying marriage or not getting married at all and they're deciding that they want to just live the life of it. And the thing is because this is like the first generation that has really delayed marriage, like our parents got married right after you know college or the first person that they had sex with is that I think that we are realizing

that we do have so many more more options and that we are alone, we are independent for so long and our lives get better because we make more money and we can do more things and we're like, what, I want to kid so I can't, I can't travel three times a year, I can't sleep in, I like my independent lifestyle. But then some people have those cravings, like it's interesting that right now your girlfriend does not say to you, oh, I'm dying, yeah, she doesn't have that baby to click. We enjoy, you know, we could change though. We're going to like Vegas three times

before the end of the year. And it's November right now. You better come when I, oh, here's nothing I have to announce that. I think I don't know if I've announced on the show yet, but I keep meaning to is that I'm the keynote speaker at the AVN conference in, in, in Las Vegas in January.

Wow. Did you know that? You mentioned, you mentioned it once before. Yeah, so that's, I don't know, we're going to be giving away tickets. Actually, you know what? Starting I don't let's do it today. If you want to win tickets to EVN email me feedback at sexeME.com

and see adult video. What is it? Adult. How do you? Adult video network, whatever. It's like the naked. It's like the awards the EVN awards are like the adult video award. Yeah, I don't know too much about it, but I had a friend of mine, she got best anal

scene. Exactly. So I'm going to be giving away work for best double penetration. I knew a new or before she was the porn star. Really? Yeah. Had you in high school or something? It's adult video news, okay, right? And it's a trade magazine. It's a network. It's a huge conference in Vegas. And it happens to happen in January at the same time as the CES conference. So anyway, it's fun. And we're going to give way to tickets per show to people to go. That's awesome. You can't get you the Vegas, but you can get yourself to Vegas. And we get to meet the conference like porn stars and craziness and fun. And I'm giving a speech, the first night I think. I already asked to get press pass not for avian but for CES.

So I might be there. Oh, totally fun. Yeah, I'm sure I'll show up. I'll see you at all. OK, so let's get into the show a little bit today. Real quick, what about your day in the show? I mean, there's so many things I know. We have been talking to each other.

So this is why I'm going to, OK, whatever. So I've been dating this guy in LA for like six weeks. I met him in Vegas. And I met him at this conference I was there, but he's actually lives in Los Angeles. He was there for the conference as well. And I like him. I, it's the same, it's, you know, I seem like once a week,

he would like to see me more. I'm, and I'm dating, I've been, dating, getting asked out a lot, I'm doing a lot of different texting with different gentlemen. Texting. I'm doing the texting. And like a lot of old boyfriends are circling back.

Oh, oh. And my old boy friend, ex-boyfriend, is like, all of a sudden, his confessor, he like wants to be together, thinks we should be together, or whatever. So that's interesting. There's been some weird men coming back into my life. Oh, and I've also, I've met some new ones.

I meet a lot of nice guys down there. I do. But this new guy, I just think he's really interesting. He's smart. He's cool. We are having fun. And I'm really just, I'm not really thinking about you. No, I'm not thinking.

I'm not the typical woman who's thinking, like, where is it going? What are we doing? Like, I'm just so focused on business and work right now. And it's fun. But I have a good time with them. And I have a lot of new friends on there, and I'm doing a lot of fun, different things, amazing meals and going to fun parties. That's really cool. Yeah, it's good. So, but, you know, and good sex with this guy.

Oh, really? So, yeah, it is good sex. And the thing that I like about him is that there's several things that I like about him, but he's really into, so one of my jobs, one big part of my job is reviewing sex toys, as you know. And hence my garage full of sex toys I talk about at every single goddamn podcast, but I actually need to review them. I don't do all of my interns do them in Calcidadum, but he actually's into it and he wants to help me review them.

So I'm actually getting work done and having sex with them. So to me, that's like a two-fer. Double whimming. Double wh me, that's like a two-fer. Double whimming. Double whimming, so it's big. So there's lots of cool sex toys coming out that I actually had good vibrations. The last one I went to their store and I saw.

So if anyone wants to, if you ever want to get any toys there, it's goodvibes.com. Go to my, go to sexiomely.com, click on the good vibes ban or use coupon code Emily and you get 20% off. And like so, the Mimi, you know how I've been talking about the Mimi, well they came out with the new Mimi and it's soft, it's like the best couples vibe. I think it's the best vibe I've ever to use during intercourse

and last night the owner, founder of Mimi, was at the thing and I was just like worshiping her Alicia, she's amazing and she says she's got a new product that they're sending me next week. But if you ever want to know like just, I'm wondering, I kind of want to get my, how these these are coming up. Do you get my parchment? Go to my website and click on the good vibe dinner. Why are you laughing at me? Laughing is that people might hear a vacuum in the background. Some dandruff walking. That's so funny. Okay and this my favorite toys

are listed on that page. So if you want to know what I like, you can go there and yeah. Now another thing is real quick talk about the Emily and Tony. Oh Emily and honey products. Okay. So he was I I knew I was gonna see you today My favorite you can smell my balls now. I am wearing the the under the under the under Under comfort down under comfort. Yes. Okay. Tell me how you like it. I love it. I kind of It's probably I'm totally wrong, but I kind of I think it smells like CK one. Let's see. Oh Kevin Klein. Yeah, it's like kind of, it's probably, I'm totally wrong, but I kind of, I think it smells like CK1. Let's see. Oh, Kevin Klein. Yeah.

A little bit more. A little bit more. Yeah. But do you know what I think you should do? What? Do you be honest? I think maybe you should market it to, to, to, to gay guys. Yeah, we are.

We are. Okay. We are. Okay. Everybody. It's for everybody. Because the thing is, Because the thing is, guys that are listening to these podcasts, they want to set up their game, they should definitely just buy it. But I'm talking about the guys that are normally walking down the street, who are not forward thinking,

while listening to the sex with the Emily podcast, they're disgusting. It might be kind of hard for them to grasp, but that might need to put some, you know, something down there. And I think I think the gay community thinks a lot more about that and is more right. They're more clean. And a lot of guys say our clean is something you didn't like take a shower in the morning.

And you're like, oh, I'm fine. I mean, I'm sure you did or you didn't have to do Jim, but you're not always as clean as you think. And even if you think you are, you're not because it just gets like that down there. Like women, we take care of the bathroom. we wash out, we do things. Guys don't. So the thing about this product that I made, it's a cream to like a lot of men, you tuck them powder, which is carcinogenic. So it's a cream to a powder formula that you know you rub on and it stays in one place and it gets powdery. All right, could we pause for once again? Yeah. Okay, we're back. Sorry. We're recording here at the Citrus Studios in San Francisco, California.

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So you were just talking about the under. Oh, down under comfort that you like it. I'm so glad because I know you would tell me if you didn't like it. And your girlfriend, I'm sure likes it. But we had a contest a few weeks ago. We were giving away every show. We were giving away either one of our amazing aromatherapy massage candles or some down under comfort. So this is the winner for one of the down under comforts

because I asked you to write me why you think you need one of these products and I loved this email to your Emily. I need down under comfort. My girlfriend is about 180 miles away and I write a motorcycle when I arrive I'm pretty gnarly down under. But often my girlfriend wants to unzip my jeans and go to town. I try to talk, but that does not work. By the way, I land the best woman in the world thanks to your solid advice and I've kept her thanks to your tips and constant reminders to slow down, tease, and communicate. I adore her, compliment her, and kiss her as often as possible, but I don't

let her walk all over me either. And when we go out, I have a plan. Thanks so much, Emily. So, of course, I had to give Down Under Comfort to this guy for following my advice, complimenting her, and kissing her as much as possible. I love that. So, I, his name is Demetri, so you won the Down Under Comfort, and we're going to get in touch with you and get your address. But if you didn't win, you can still use coupon code Emily at Emily and Tony.com and get 20% off your first purchase. Sweet. Sweet.

Okay, so now let's get into some emails from the people because, as you know, I love hearing from everyone, feedback at sexwithemily.com. Okay, dear Emily, I met a guy at work. I've talked to him once and I screwed it up. I lied to him that I live alone in a apartment when I live with my brother and his friend. I pay the rent for everyone. I also told him that I have no family here, but I do have my brother here. Now he wants to get to know each other and I'm panicking.

I don't have to tell him the truth. Should I tell him the truth or should I wait? What do you think I should do? Thanks so much Emily. By the way, your shows are awesome. Signed lovely B. First off, I don't even know why I should even lie about that kind of stuff. I don't understand either.

You're a female, you have a vagina, guys don't even care. Guys don't care if you have roommates or anything like that. Guys will bang you in their freaking basements out of your house. Exactly. You know, the whole family is upstairs. Yeah, exactly. That's how disgusting guys are.

They don't care about that guy. No, they don't. They'll take you to McDonald's on the street and boney in the bathroom there. Yeah, it's the other way around when, you know, a guy is just. Yeah, I don't want to do the guy with roommates after certain age.

I always said, like, just, you know, you just don't want to guy through it. But I would just tell your brother, tell him that your brother and his friend had to move in and you're paying the rent. It's the truth. It sounds to me like you can just say, oh, this is what happened.

I'm like supporting them. Which actually makes you sound bad ass. I think that she might be banging the brother's friend. You think? Maybe. Then why is she, I don't understand. I mean, she should just put that in the email if that's true.

I know I feel like we're missing some of your reason because everything doesn't seem like a big deal and maybe she messed around with the brother's friend and then she doesn't want to say you know she doesn't want to bring the guy over because that might be kind of weird. Exactly. Yeah maybe but I don't know why she would take the time to write if she's being in the friend but I see what you're saying but I think she just worried that she lied and screwed up and lived alone in a apartment.

Maybe she's trying to sound older and more sophisticated, but it sounds like to me, she's got the money, she's paying for everyone, he'll be fine. Yeah, and the guy... And don't bang the roommate. Yeah, tell me. If you're about to. Yeah, I mean, if you haven't banged the roommate

and your story is totally legit from beginning to end, just go with Emily's story because it's gonna just sound kind of weird if you try to backtrack and say, oh, I lied. And then they're like, that's kind of a weird thing to even lie about. You know, just say they had to move in and you let them move in like no guy on the planet is gonna care about that. No, exactly. That's not understand.

Like I think men and women just be worried about different things. Okay, so office love triangle, dear Emily, to make a very long story short, I hadn't affair with my much older boss. After about a year, I come to find out he's also having an inappropriate relationship with another woman in my office, who is my direct supervisor. I called him out on it and he refuses to meet anything.

I love my job and I'm having a hard time having to sit in the office in this disturbing love triangle. The other woman has no idea of this going on and just have deep the lies run. I'm torn on my next move and need advice. Please help, thank you and Nancy. Okay, Nancy, you're having to fare with your much older married boss

and then direct supervisor, what do you wanna do? I mean, it sounds like you gotta get a new job. I mean, to me, or you just stop talking about it, you end the relationship immediately with the boss. You're not saying here that you even like your boss. You're just saying, all you're saying this is that you love your job. So you've got either two choices.

Either you just kind of let your boss know that you're ending things now, and you hope that this won't impact your performance at work and hope that nobody else finds out and help your supervisor doesn't find out and you just keep working on your job and doing the best you can and you stay in that office and you cut it all off because he's married too.

Yeah, there's no future. There's no future with this. This is just a waste of time. It feels good, it's powerful, he's your boss. I totally get it. Been there, done that, sort of, you know, done things like that, men of power, it's sexy, but with the drug supervisor,

so I'm saying if you like your boss at, or you know what honey, if you're talented, you're smart, get a new job. I mean, it can maybe be too tricky. People find things out, you know, you're sleeping with your senior boss and your supervisor's sleeping with them too. It's not very well.

I totally agree. Either you slept with a lot of everyone at your office. So did you, you had some people like that? Didn't you like for a while? I mean, you're a little more cool. But you slept with everyone, yeah. Yeah, but I'm cool with everybody. Right, but you weren't their boss.

No, but the thing is, I totally agree again that you need to cut it off and just keep on working or just go find a new job. If you're gonna be one of those people that's gonna be constantly, it's gonna consume your life when you're at work and you see your supervisor or something like that. That's a great point because this comes up a lot.

He will always wanna know, should I see for someone that I work with? Like does this get a greater bad idea? And the truth is I would say, we know no fishing off the company pier, some people would feel this or that, but through this we work more than anywhere else. We socialize more at work, it's gonna happen,

but it just does get trickier. Like it does, if you love your job, and it just doesn't say. It also depends on your maturity level on how old you are. If you're older, you might not just care as much. If you're like a 20-something year old, it might be the biggest drama thing that's going on in your life.

That's the thing, you create drama, you're not doing, okay, when you're sleeping someone to do work at this, this is what I was getting to. Yeah, you're sleeping with someone you work with, there's no way you're printing 110% into your job. Because we all done that, you see coming around the corner, it's chiming with a water cooler, it's like you're spending so much mental energy thinking about this guy all day.

When you usually work, you should be able to play for your focusing on the homework. So it's a distraction. If you really want to kick ass in your career, I'd suggest sleeping with someone the floor below you or something. During our vacuum break, we were talking about... I was not vacuuming, by the way. Yeah. We were talking about the Sir, which is a show on Brava.

Well, it's at least our van der Prump's show and it's all her employees that work at this restaurant called sir and they're all 20 something years old and so they're all banging each other and it's such drama because they can't deal with like seeing each other every single day or even every every moment is a piece of drama, you know, and but I want to feel like you get older maybe it's not as a big deal, you know? You can get over it, at least for a guy's, I think. Right, exactly. Exactly. No, you can. You're right. It is a young 20s something maybe. And in LA, it's like, my friend just moved there. And he texts me. He's like, everyone here, I fall in love like six times, but they're all the women are crazy. Or you know, every guy says everyone was crazy. And the guys are crazy too. Okay, so should we time for one more email? Yeah, go for it. Okay, we got more shows coming up.

We got more show, we got, oh my god, we're doing so much shows. We're doing two shows a week, which is very exciting. So, you better just subscribe to the shows and iTunes. Super easy that way. And then you should probably after that, give us five stars. Yeah. We appreciate that too. Okay, choosing between two men, dear Emily, I've been together with my boyfriend since I was 21.

I just turned 30 now. We have a couple of breakups, so we always come back together. When I was 23, I met a guy from Israel when I was traveling. We like each other very much, but nothing happened in bed. Two years ago, I visited him in Israel

and we fell back in love again and had a hot affair while I was on break for my boyfriend. The Israeli recently came to visit me in Europe. The sex was so incredible and different from what I've experienced my boyfriend so far. My wife and I allowed me to sleep with other men while we were having a long distance relationship and he is currently having some issues getting it up.

The Israeli always said there is no chance that we will ever be together, but since he has been here, he changed his mind. I feel that I love two men at the same time and as for many years now, how is that possible? I feel that I love two men at the same time and as for many years now, how is that possible? I feel it's if I would have to choose between a very loving man, which I can imagine to have children with, boyfriend, and a risky, exciting, and who knows what happens next, kind of man who might never want children and whose culture

makes it difficult to be together. I am not Jewish. Where should we live? I just got a great job. Maybe you advice for me. Thanks Natalie. Natalie, this is kind of a heavy one. So you've been with your boyfriend since you were 21. You've been together nine years and you've had a couple of breakups and you always come back together. And now you meet this guy from Israel and he's been in your mind. And so here's this is classic. So here's a thing. You're with your boyfriend for nine years. You have not been with anyone. Maybe you had some when you broke up for a while, you stepped around, but basically you've been with this guy for nine years.

And you're coming to the point where you're trying to decide, is he the one that I want to be with? Because this is after nine years, it's kind of the time that you decide. And so this other exciting guy happens to be this really, from when you're 23, but I'm telling you, this could be another guy that you meet, you know, when you're out of the bar

and on one night with your friends, you're gonna have some exciting guy who comes in and he's everything that your boyfriend isn't because after in our long-term relationship, you have to work on the sex life. It's not as exciting. We don't get that newness. We don't get that thrill and all that piton

or stomach like you get when the Israeli comes over and to see you. So I get what you're doing at the affair. It's something different. So what you've decided now is it's not about I'm in love with two men. It's really about you deciding what exactly you want right now in your life because you're going to be able to fill us with a lot of different men and you have to turn to this relationship that you've been with him first. Let the other guy go. The Israeli guy

you're right. He's here. He's there. It's excitement. No, I don't think you should give up on this relationship of so long as to be with this really. I think you need to decide do you love this guy to the boyfriend? Just because you're saying he's going to make a great father and all this stuff at you in them for nine years, it might not mean that he is the one for you. So I would say just cut it off with this really and commit to spending the next three to six months. So now just take six months if you've been together nine years and say, I'm going to

well, what that mean? Yes. How that happened. I'm going to work on, what about me? Yes. How that happened. I'm going to work on this relationship, whether the two of you need to go to therapy, if he's not getting it up, figure out why he's not getting it up, he should go to his doctor, like if you guys have some sexual dysfunction going on. But before you treat again, and before you carry on something else, it sounds to me like you've got some red flags going up with this guy too, with your current boyfriend.

So I say, terminate that and then go out of all the flings you want, but until you figure out what you want to do with your boyfriend, I wouldn't be thinking about other guys. True. Yeah, it's just, it's just too, keep on putting things. But I have an issue.

I'm a skit-o-biter thing, okay? You're putting your earphones right next to the microphone and feet back. The, yeah, and, okay, so I totally agree with you on all that stuff. There's something that I want to bring up that's kind of the same issue. It's becoming very popular in hip-hop culture is this new term called side chick.

Side chick? Side chick. Like a mistress? Like, yeah, but it's like, it's almost, there, it's like coming up and all these brand new songs, oh, my side chick, the side chick, almost making it okay to have another person. I could say that.

On the side while you're in a relationship. I definitely see that being a trend of people. Well, I think this is the generation that grew up with so many options in social media, on Facebook and Twitter and and and and plenty of fish and all these sites they go on and go on forever Instagram Snapchat. Are you doing a Snapchat by the way? I used to but it's just too hard to. I know we have a thing too. It's just too hard to Snapchat everybody at one time and I don't

want to go in. I know. It's a lot of things but the point is okay so here's the point. It's that this generation not committing. They have so many options. So like, oh, this bitch was nice to me last night, but I've got 10 women. You just hit me up, like my photo Instagram. So they're not deciding, they're not committing, they're not slowing down. And so they're probably like, and I have actually met six women this weekend. I want to see with all of them. So I might as well have the, what are they calling it?

The side check. And so I think that that's what it is. Do you think that it has to do with social media? And to have more options and people not looking at marriage or commitment. Just look at the 90s all you had was, you know, who you could reach out on a seller phone. You don't have.

Not even, not all the 90s, it was the phone in the wall. Yeah, and you don't even have, you know, images, you know, sexy photos constantly in your face every single day of other people back then. Exactly, no, you can't see your ex-boyfriend from two years ago, where he went. Not even that, but though, like, you know, sexy photos constantly in your face every single day of other people back then. Exactly, no, you can't see your ex boyfriend from two years ago, where he went. Not even that, but though, like, you know, you can open up your Facebook, your Instagram,

your Twitter, and to see, you know, the best photos of, you know, people take them of themselves, like, oh, damn, they're kind of hot. I want to, you know, I want to hit that. Right, exactly. I wanted that one time. But you didn't have that thing, exactly. You mean, you've used up, but in school,

you'd see chicks every day that you locked, like in high school, but it was different. It was the same ones. Now, there's always like new also. There's, you know, the ones that you would have to see every day, you know, you would have to have verbal communication, but this way, you know, for guys that are not, you know, as outgoing, they can, you know, be very calculated on how they reach out to a woman. Yeah. In line. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

They can think about it. They can be. They can learn to be great textors, great writers, great, or they know how to fish or in. They know how to like hug our woman in. Yeah. And I just, but you mean in person and you're like, really, really, this is always been texting with. It's funny because I was going to post this last night, but I think anybody would get it is like

Has Twitter become a chat room for dumb people Just know but think about it because like a lot of people use Twitter as a chat room to like talk to people and stuff like that But they're very very calculated and they have they can respond whenever they want You know, but when chat rooms first came out there was so fast and he had to be quick-witted and Type replies back really quickly to gain somebody's attention. But now, it's just like you reply back whenever you want. So now, it's slowed down.

I see. Okay, so you can always respond and there's always people percolating until you respond. So now I believe that Twitter is a chat room. Are people meeting people on Twitter and dating a lot on Twitter? Yeah. So they're flirting and they're having conversations on Twitter.

But dude, do you know what is blowing up? Yes, we know. Like what? All my single friends? Tinder. Tinder. Tinder, dude, I know. I gotta do Tinder.

Everyone's hooking up off Tinder. Everyone. That's crazy. I don't even know what it looks like. I have it, but yeah, it acts as your Facebook, right? Doesn't, never see. No, don't do it. I have an active, I'm afraid of it, but do it. I. I have it, but yeah, it acts as your Facebook, right? Doesn't, never see it. I don't do it.

I have an act of afraid of it, but do it. I just do the Apple site. I should totally do it. It's on there somewhere. Okay. Okay, so we gotta wrap it up. Okay, we gotta wrap it up. Okay, we got more shows coming.

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