Sex With Emily - SWE: The Best Sex Tips

Episode Date: May 24, 2013

In this "best of" episode, Emily navigates you through your love life from first date to the post-orgasm experience. She talks about the most popular dating ideas, a mathematical equation for good sex, and why some people black out from orgasms. Emily also shares the best and worst things to do right after sex. Why do women want to cuddle and guys just want to sleep post-orgasm? Emily asks everyone she knows the best sex tips they've ever given or received. Then she offers her own two cents on the best sex tips. If you're interested in learning the best sex tips and improving your sex life, check out my sponsors: Crazy Girl, Masque, and Good Vibrations. Use coupon code Emily25 at checkout for 25% off your purchase at Crazy Girl. Use coupon code GVEmily20 at checkout for 20% off purchases of $100 or more at Good Vibrations. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's back. We use that on every single show for the last two hundred and fifty shows except for for the last thirty yeah because we were figuring out how to hook up the CD player yeah and now we figured out the phone soon we're gonna phone I know it's too crazy it's just things are nuts and out of control and it's Monday. I know. Happy Monday. What do you do over the weekend? What did I do? I had, I went to, I had a date on Friday night. What? Yep. You're kind of briefly mentioned that right? Yeah, it was good. It was really, really good. I like this guy. Nice guy. Cool. Awesome. That's all you have to say about the day.

I'm not going to get that much into it because I don't really have that much that I want to say about it. You can't at least say what you did. We went to dinner and we went to dinner at this place in the mission, which is really good. Did you pick up, did he, did you meet up or did you pick me up? He picked me up and we went to dinner and we had a good talk and he's really cool. Sounds like it blasts. And then I love all the details. I know I'll give you more details later and then eventually and then starting I saw tales of the city which is this infamous play from San

Francisco by Homestead Mopon. He wrote about the San Francisco in the 70s and it really it was it was a great play at ACT in San Francisco and I thought it's so funny because San Francisco is a quirky town like if you don't live there you know you as he has a reputation for and you could see all these people living in there. What are you looking at? I'm trying to just I'm trying to figure out what the hell you're talking about right now play that I went on Yeah, but I'm just saying like what it's it's about all about San Francisco in the 70s and all the people that move to San Francisco To do their own thing like San Francisco is very much just town where everyone moves here To be them to to find themselves to make art or to be entrepreneurs or it's just a very, it's kind of anything goes. Like there is not any, it is not random if you're walking down the street and you see like

a naked guy with a backpack on walking down the street or you see someone dressed up and you just see people always eccentricly being eccentric and crazy and it's about that. And it was a musical though. They turned into a musical which the music I didn't love but I love the story because it made me feel like I, the woman, it's all based around this woman who's 22, she moved to San Francisco from Indiana. And I could relate from moving from Michigan. I didn't know anybody when I got here as 22, drove across country in three days and they just showed up and Talks about how the roommates that she meets and everyone they all become friends So you really thought this play was about your life?

Yeah, I kind of related to it and how many crazy things happened in the play that paralleled your life There was a lot of There was a lot of things that paralleled my life But we like oh what you would not today? What happened over the weekend? Somebody listened to the show and said they heard something and now you're just going to post. What's going on? No, nothing's going on.

I just, I just thought like, you're like all Sherry Sherry all last week. And now it's like no details. No, no, no details. Because I think like like like she, she moves there and people think she's really innocent. Because she just moved from Indiana. And then people get, she sleeps with this married man and she gets taken advantage of and then like all

of her all of her roommates are like you know growing pot and smoking putt there's like lots of weed involved marijuana which is interesting and there was lots of just artists and just people gays. Just being, just being San Francisco. Weirdos, being weirdos in San Francisco. Right, I love the city. And then I have my dog out there and we're totally bonding and doing well. Oh, the dog situation. The dog sitch is still happening.

And it's still, it's going well. We had lots of fun. We had lots of fun this weekend together. We played and we slept together and she seems to be my bad. If you had to wake up in the middle of the night, you know, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no come if you want. We're making videos and making videos, and you need pizza and watching porn from Fire TV,

FYRETV, which we love. They gave me my set top box. I've been talking about that for weeks. But I want them to see it. And I want to watch some porn and I want to entertain them at my house and do fun stuff videos. So it's my sex with collection, go through my books.

It's gonna be really fun. Pizza and porn with the interns. It's a good job. You can get it. Good work if you can get it. It's going to be good times. And then, um, yeah, how about you? How was your weekend? Um, my weekend was good. I, uh, you know, I went to, um, a show as I usually do, some music festival and, uh, I love a ginas on the wall. Yeah, I sent you that photo because when you go to music festivals, there's always a bunch of, you know, you know merchandise anywhere and then there was this company clothing company called I love for China's I love for gyners.com Yeah, and then so I saw that so I took a picture and I said to you and I

Yeah, I had a good times metal show I messed up and I wasn't paying attention and because metal you know metal people They're a hardcore, you know, they wear all black And because metal, you know, metal people, they're a hardcore. Yeah. You know, they wear all black piercings everywhere, long hair, you know, tattoos from head to shoulder, and that's totally fine with me. But I wasn't paying attention to what I was, I was putting on to go to this show because I was in a rush. Right.

And I put on a polo shirt. That's not even how to polo shirt. Where'd you get it? I have polo shirts. They're just a worm. Okay. So I put on a polo shirt Navy blue one Metal show which wasn't a good idea because I was reminded probably every 15 minutes that I was wearing a polo shirt

I'm your friends. No, just like there's 20,000 people there. Okay, so we were like nice short-do Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, you don't fit in here. Yeah, totally. I was totally you in a blue polo. That'd be sexy Yeah, yeah, yeah, you don't fit in here. Yeah, totally I was totally you in a blue polo that'd be sexy. Yeah, I was Going well, so but what really sucked is the reason now that you were like I when I was walking You're like what's going on and I was like totally bomb because I had my old apartment that I lived in forever like six years, you know, yeah, and I had my old apartment that I lived in forever like six years, you know, yeah, and my buddies

My buddies sister needed a place to stay so then I ended up running out rooms and her other friends were living there And then for me to be nice I let them stay there when I moved out and I moved into a new place. Okay Well, then after while it's like like other people start moving in I was like I't know these people. So I don't want to be responsible for this place anymore. So under your name. Yeah. So I gave them a deadline to move out. I was like, either move out or you can take over the lease. Right. And then so they took the option to be moving out. So they're supposed to move out by August 1st. Everything's going well. I'm like, okay, cool. I'm in the clear and I'm responsible for anything anymore.

blah, blah. And then I get a text message while I'm at, okay, cool, I'm in the clear and I'm responsible for anything anymore, blah, blah. And then I get a text message, while I'm at the concert yesterday, call me, it's urgent, it's about the house. I go, all right, call. Yeah, somebody broke into the house and they broke the biggest window in the house. So like, now I have to go later on today. Oh, man.

And assess the situation, see what the damage is on. That's so annoying. You should never, you should not have let people move into your house under your name. Yeah, you know, don't you know, I know you're a nice guy, but I haven't put it under their name. No, I just like, yeah, this is this is totally dumb thing. Right. That's not right. But it's like, it was only for a period of time. It's just a window. It could have been a lot worse. Okay. We'll see what's up. But you'll be okay. Yeah, I just don't like dealing with that when I have like a billion other things going on right

now. Not fun. Yeah. I got it. Anyways. So let me tell you a little bit what's on the show today. Okay. What you got.

Okay. Today's show will be reading the emails that you sent. As you know, oh, and I haven't even mentioned this that we are alive on video right now. We've got a video camera. We're live streaming. Anyone can watch the show free every day, one to two Pacific standard time. And we've got a Friends with Benefits program that we'd like everyone to join right now.

And just go to the website, become a Friends with Benefits member. You get five shows a week plus you get like your answers to your questions. You get answered right away. You get personal emails. You get on-demand content. You don't have to watch them for one,

so you can get it on-demand, you get five shows, you get treatment for your questions, you get free, we're giving away a prize today, actually, to one of the best questions. Finally, I love the prizes. This prize right here. What is it? It's a evolution-evolved waterproof seduction.

My friend is showing it. It comes in a fancy case. It's all steel. I don't like the case. I kind of want to keep the case. It's all steel. I kind of want to keep the case. So then we'll also be reading the emails that you said to feedback at sexwithelmly.com. Topics include posing nude, antidepressants and sex, married sex, and prosthetic testicles. Oh yeah.

Yeah, we're going to talk about some of that. And then for some of our sex tips, we're going to be talking about, um, oh, what? I got, uh, I got an email with sex, which sex and news I want to share too. Oh, good. Okay. Perfect. How soon is too soon? This is our topic today. How soon is too soon to roll over and go to sleep after sex? It's cuddling important. We will talk about what to do and what not to do after sex. Are you making these mistakes? Are you making these mistakes because women and men we as we know they have different needs And these are some of the things that you should incorporate into your love making your after glow the post glow after having sex It's it's really it's not including getting up and leaving That would be no that would be a negative

I'm actually not doing sex in the new day because we're reading everyone's sex tips They said since we're gonna be of a contest. I'm actually not doing sex in the New Year's Day because we're reading everyone's sex tips. They said that we would be of a contest. We're going to be announcing our new contest tomorrow. But to that contest that we are announcing the winner up, we're going to be reading people's actual sex tips, which we're we ask people for their best sex tips. Like what did because I want to know I give sex tips every day, but what is your best sex tip? What is that one thing that works for you every time? So we got tons of responses. So we're going to read through some of those,

because I figured, why not just give people a bunch of sex tips today? Yeah. That does a good idea. But you're allowed to read a sex in the news story, right? Yes, it's not really actually sex in the news. I don't know how the people found my other work email, but it's the people from How About We?

Remember the app that we were talking about, where people take random dates? They just open Remember the app that we were talking about, like where people take, you know, just random dates? They just open up the app and they say, they look somebody sitting at a coffee shop right now and they go, how about we hang out? So they emailed me and they asked me if they, you know, want to have like the founder on some other show that I was working on.

And they said, here are some of the dating trends so I thought some of them were like so this is what I hate and you're gonna love this wine outgoing outnumber three to one to beer to like people going up for glass of wine yeah yeah yeah three to one to beer to like bring up for glass of wine. Yeah. Yeah. Is more popular than people going to be. Yeah. Three to one in San Francisco. Oh, of course wine. The three top dating. The wine cap. We got Napa Valley in Sonoma. How have they have a way? It's awful. All right. Next one was the top three dating neighborhoods in San Francisco. The summer district, which is where we're currently

recording the show. They're hot, hot guys walking up and down second street where we record every single friggin' day when we're walking here. Well, I want to stop and have lunch with them, but I got to come to the show. You got to get the app. How about we? They're not a sponsor, by the way. Number two, the mission, which which I see because a lot of young

hip hipster type people live there and then three is Hayes Valley. Oh yeah, that's all like been gentrified and yeah. Yeah. Okay, the most successful San Francisco date hands down is and I hate to have and say it because it doesn't really exist. What can I guess? Go for it. Okay, is it going to like a... It's the most successful... San Francisco... Bunga Bridge, something about the Gomae Bridge.

Go watch the field. No. Um... North Beach? Something in North Beach? No, it's not a destination. The type of date. Chinatown? No, it's a type of date not a destination. Oh, this is the most common date Yes, that people do in the city they go out for drink Incorrect. They go for hike

They go no no, what is it number one? Is Brunch is brunch. Stupid brunch, delayed breakfast. Brush dates get twice as many responses than any other activities. Wow, I love French dates. The least successful dates are fancy dinners. Yeah, we're not that.

No one wants a pressure of, you know, going to a fancy dinner. Right, he just spent 200 bucks. Now I got to suck his penis. And here is another thing That I can't stand this is why I can't date anybody in service of the scale Hiking dates are Suggested more in San Francisco than anywhere else in the country because you've got mountains more than

Dances like car. All right. I'm opening up a app to hang out with people that I have never met before in my life And I'm gonna go on a hiking date Yeah, to where there's nowhere. There's nothing else around me. Yeah So I'm gonna meet up just talk in the middle of wherever you're going in the house. Yeah nature It's beautiful. We have beautiful mountains Mount Tema Pius is a 20-minute drive 15-minute drive So you're telling our listeners that they should open up a app, meet up with somebody that they've never met before, and go hiking into the hills.

Well, what are you smoking today? Well, because I think hiking dates maybe for a second or a third date after you meet someone. Make sure they're not a serial killer and they're not going to throw you off a cliff. But if they're not and they're cool guy, I personally don't like hiking dates. And I used to be a really big hiker runner because I'd rather run the hills than hike. It's too slow for me. And I suggest you should at least know the person, you know, a couple of months before you go on. Right, because you don't want to feel like, like, ride pull like something crazy.

But there are so many beautiful hiking as a big hiking and brunch. I've never been a day-day person. I love, you know what it is? I think I really love the nighttime date. Like I love getting dressed up and not like I get, you know me. Like not like I'm wearing a fancy dress, but like I love getting ready for the, I love that whole like getting ready.

The guy picking you up and going out to dinner, going to a show, or getting mine like at night. Like I think that's daytime, I think is good eventually, maybe you do that stuff, but the first day, I want to be like a night, like the night is so sexy. And that's how I feel, don't you think? I disagree, I don't care. You don't care?

You're not going to do the brunch day or a hiking day, because you most your dates are probably night dates too. Yeah, most likely. I don't have time during don't care? You're not going to do the brunch later on hiking dates. You most of your dates are probably night dates too. Yeah, I'm most likely. I don't have time during the day. But I thought that was really interesting and they wanted to see about, I saw I even get suggested for this show. It was for the morning show that I'm wearing. That's interesting.

I'd like stuff like that. I would like to get other trends in non-whacking cities like San Francisco. I think that there's a lot to say. I mean, I think that there are other cities that people do brunch though. Yeah, no, but like hiking and wine tasting and stuff like that. They said that. Wine tasting is super fun.

The stuff is the most popular here. And one other thing that I want to share are sex and news and I will go on to the other side. Do whatever. Take your day, dude. We got time. I'm very disappointed. I'm very disappointed in somebody.

Not you, don't worry about it. Okay, good I got so nervous you mad at me. I hate when menace is mad at me Chris Hansen. Okay, the guy the cash repredor guy Who I love who is it's it's a TV show because I don't care about pedophiles. I'm sorry. I do I have no sympathy for them, but He got caught for them. But he got caught cheating on his wife with a 20-something-year-old hot reporter from Florida. Goddamn it, Chris Hansen. And they were going to give him a really big gig pretty soon and now they're not going to do it. Just because he cheated on his wife. Yeah, he was going to have a big newscasting gig. How old is he? I am 40s and she's in her 20s. He looks like he could be either really like 40s or early 50s. Okay.

So he, he, he, okay, I think they were mentioning that earlier in the office. I don't know you're talking about sort of. And I love the Chris Hansen stuff. Who isn't cheating? It's almost like the story is like who's not cheating? Should be profiled in the news? Because everyone else in the world is cheating. That is why that article that I mentioned the New York Times and Sunday that our infidelity is keep us together is because we base relationships, not on like stability across the board. We base them on monogamy. Monogamy is the only answer, and if you're not monogamy, it should be over. I think that's an unrealistic, unrealistic measure of relationships.

You should look at all the other factors. And if someone cheats, it shouldn't be the end of the relationship. I think you should. I think you should even be in the relationship anymore. If you want to go cheat, if you want to go be single and act like a single person, then just don't be married anymore. But I don't think it's, I personally don't think it's

realistic to say that forever and ever and ever. I'm going to be with this one person Now it can happen, but you should talk about like what if something comes up and you meet someone else So you just with someone for a long time and the sex just you just do you want and you look at what's in the new What happens every day with like tiger woods Bill Clinton I mean who are the biggest names all the politicians? Yeah, I think it's our weiner. It's like it's like it's everywhere and so we can't just brush it under the rug any were like he's mad he's bad let's get out of the center christian

and his d's uh... bonus because he's had to act as a twenty-year-old reporter like i think it's really bad but i don't think it it we should be been yeah i don't think it should when i should be regulating other people's personal works i don't think it should affect somebody's job i don't think it should affect your job either no i think it didn't even get job. I don't think it should affect your job either. No, I think it's- The Clinton didn't even get in the peach

for getting a blowjob for Monica Winsky. I think it's your dad's peach. That's your personal life and that's personal stuff that you have to deal with. But when they do that stuff, I don't know. I kind of look at it as the old cake saying, you know, having your cake. And eating it too?

Yeah. You might have a cake and a two, yeah. But I also think that, you know, with comfort, with comfort, power and success comes more opportunity. And you have more opportunity. And you have like women like literally like tiger woods, for example, just like throwing themselves at you. Like literally in your dude, and even though you have a beautiful wife

and kids, they're not there and you're out and you had a cocktail and there's women literally like coming up like in lines. So you have to be a stronger person man. If you, if you got married, you have to be honest with your partner that this might be something I want to dabble in. You just have to have the conversation with your partner. Communication is lubrication. And if you don't communicate about things, you are going to be in trouble down the light

because to say that we're just going to blind these sign-up or monogamy and not discuss these other things that could happen. You know, like, I'm sure we know they fell in love, they were so happy, but then he gets lonely, she's traveling and he's like, I'm gonna send some pictures of my genitalia. Like, I don't know, I mean, I just don't think it's so bad as everyone thinks.

And I can't learn. I just got it lied. Like, he won't see different pictures of his wife, and I was saying that she was hot, but then I saw more pictures than I can decide if she's hiding more. I think she has a very classical, not classical but like classic beauty. No, no, she's, she's, she's, she's like from the Middle East, right? I don't know. I think she is. I think she's beautiful. I think

she's got an exotic, not classic. I meant she's more of an exotic beauty. But I think they're staying together. But I don't know for sure because I remember that but we're not gonna do but we are gonna read some um I think we could do that now. Okay, we could read some of the sex tips that people shared with us Which was awesome is that gonna be part of the email? So you're gonna do emails after I'm a gmail's after okay, why oh no? I was thinking maybe doing emails first that's what I would have done But I'm just gonna because this is replacing sex in the news, which we usually do now.

Okay. That's fine. What do you already have it set up? I'm the saying. Go for it. Don't be paranoid. Here's, I'm not paranoid. I am paranoid.

I get for it. Okay, what is the best, this was the question that we put out to people. What is the best sex tip you've ever been given or received? We'll pick the winner and give them a special prize, which we're best sex tip you've ever been given or received? We'll pick the winner and give them a special prize, which we're going to do today. And this is given or received from Shell, right? Or no? No, no, no, no, no, no, in life. It doesn't have to be probably you got it from me, because I give the best sex tips out there. I'm not going to lie. But these are just like what people thought were great sex tips. Like if you have to narrow down to one thing, yeah, what would it be?

The sex tips. Yeah, well, what's your favorite sex? What's your number one sex tip? It could be for a girl doing a woman performing on you or you performing to a woman like what have you learned? You're gonna make it to okay now. No, I would really have to think about it. Oh, man. Okay. I was in prepared And I'm gonna move the camera everybody. Okay. Why you're gonna see me in the camera because it's not where I think they want it right here. Oh. See they want to see the people that help us run this they want to see your eyes and your boobs. So that was kind of there was kind of a factor where that wasn't happening.

So I fix the camera everybody. So if you're watching it live, enjoy it. If you're not, go back to sexwithelme.com log in and then. Just forget, try to say this about that. Just forget to become a friend with benefits, remember? You love Sex Family Show. It's 4.95 a month. It's 4.99 to 5 a year, but you are getting so much content. It's your go-to sex with Emily, your daily newspaper, your daily sex information.

And we really need your support. Yeah, and some people might not be aware because they never visited the site before because it was just the podcast. It wasn't a great site. I was thinking, I didn't have the money to do a big site. But now it's a website where there's new things every single day.

Every single day. And you can check out the show. And I know you go there now and you can't listen to those shows. So I'm just saying like, we just, if you've ever listened to the show, you've ever gotten a tip, it's helped your life.

I know it's helped millions of people. We hope that you really I just it means a lot They support it and you can look at my boobs in my eyes if you'd like okay So what's the best sex to be we've ever gotten re okay? So this is from mula. This is a these are from Facebook Okay mula mula says this Don't or Twitter. These are the ones from Twitter. Sorry, they're all together. Don't bite. Just bite. I like that. I don't like the biting.

But sometimes a little nibbling is okay. But don't bite with your teeth if you're performing all sex. But I think a little nibbles are good. Don't skip four places, Robert. Robert, you sell out to the man. Agree, do not skip far place. That is the most important thing.

I think that is great. I'm pulling that guy's man card now. Okay, Charles says, please her first, make her feel good, and take your time. Totally true. Goddamn Charles, dude, what the hell? I did not even hire them or pay them. You wrote them. Okay, I didn't.

Okay. Uh, Michael says slow down less tongue more lips and hot breath on the neck. Yeah. As he masturbates writing that slow down. Everyone slow down is a big one. Sergio says sex is on the mind. Find out her fantasy and exploit it until she can't take it anymore. Fountains. These for couples to talk about and to share with each other. Like a lot of couples are together for so long and they never talk about their fantasies. And even if you're a partner, I know that it's common for women more so than men, like I think men have more active sexual fantasies than women. And women have fantasies too and sometimes it might be harder for them.

They might be like, I'm not really sure. So sometimes you can just talk about what turns are on the most about your sexual experience and then go from there. But fantasies is a big, big thing. And I think you should ask your partner tonight what they fantasize about because who knows where they'll take you. So Steve says, don't talk about your sex life with X's. Now the funny thing about this moment, I will reveal, which is very personal, is that he happens to

be someone, that guy that I, do you remember this months ago? I slept with this guy and he told his ex that I slept with. Oh, yeah. The ex told the guy that I'd just broken up with. And then it was just told drama. I felt like I was in high school. So he wrote, don't talk about your sex life with your exes, which is true. We actually give that all the time. And then I would respond with, don't write on the Facebook page of somebody that you screwed over, you dumbass, you to dick and die. That's what I would write. I thought it was kind of funny. I don't make it. I know, but see, there's a thing. I could hate him. You could see.

I could hate him and be like, you're such a loser, but I don't. I naturally do not go towards hate. I go towards love. I don't make a lot of enemies. Oh, see, that's how we're different. Exactly, man. You're like angry. I'm like, I'm like, love.

I'm like, you're a fucking loser, dude. I thought I was funny. You are such an idiot. And now you're trying to be friendly again on Facebook. Like, you seriously shouldn't even be on my Facebook right now. I know, I didn't care. I even liked it, because that was funny. Great.

Now he's gonna hit you up even more. No, he's not. No, he's not. You know that I... Okay. Aaron says, counter-clockwise swirl, thanks to Seinfeld. Apparently, that's a Seinfeld reference reference. Counter-clockwise swirl. And I've seen a billion Seinfeld I don't know we couldn't find it

right? No okay my Jen who's a friend of mine said bondage tape that's her best sex tip she actually is the one who turned me on to bondage tape and I'm a huge bondage tape fan bondage tape is awesome actually we're doing a show tomorrow bondage and tomorrow show is timey Up Tuesday. And we bought, and I'm going to bring in some Bondage tape, which is my favorite sex toy. You can get it at AdamNive.com. And it's like, it looks like electrical tape. There's actually a video on the homepage right now that everyone can watch with me. And it doesn't stick to each other, but you can easily bind things. You don't need ropes, you don't need fancy things, but it's like, hi, you can

use it as a blindfold, you can use it as a blindfold, you can use it as a run-to-race mess, like I've heard about this for you. Sometimes I feel bad that you have to hear outside. But bondage-shape, go to atom-leaf.com, use coupon code Emily at checkout and you get 50% off-moist items. You will love bondage-shape.

It's like beginner bondage, it's so easy to do. You can bring it anywhere, throw it in your suitcase. If you're going on a trip, it's just like an easy way to tie up your partner. Dr. Max says don't come in a woman's mouth and she's not expecting it. I think you learn that from us. Yeah. Madge says we always say that. Tell her first. Remember we did a ejaculation etiquette show if you would say. Yeah. And we're like warn her. You definitely can't do that. That mean she won't expect it she

might who knows what she's down there anyway she should be ready for it after why she doing it in the first place if she's not expecting that some women don't want to swallow well those are the women you shouldn't talk to fellows some men don't care women's well. Thanks for your feedback though, Menace. Madgie says, explore her body like it's your wonderland. Oh God. It's true. Yes, it is true.

You're a true fellas. Madgie, do not, please. I can't. This just makes me so mad. This is really getting me upset. Why? Well, it's getting me excited and happy. not excited turned on like I was last week during the show, but it's like I just want people to listen.

I just want you to listen to this show and tell you that I'm telling you all the secrets and all the important things that a woman's body is a wonderland. There's a gazillion arrived. I know John Mayer wrote a song about it. I know, I know, I know. But it really is. Like pay attention to the back of my knees. Like that feels good.

Like my elbows, like all these things that we talk about, I can't tell you, I just, how many men just don't think to touch all those other areas that feel good. What about the man? What about all these areas of the man? You know, you know, we freak out of some girl trying to touch you and you're, that's just me. I'm just one guy.

I'm talking about lame ass guy talking on one guy. Um, but, you know, I feel free to, I'll explore your body. One would explore your body like it's a wonderland. That's what you want. Okay. Heather says communication is lubrication. It saved our marriage and our sex life, which is something I always say on the show. You've got to always communicate about sex, you have to always tell your partner what you

want and keep talking about it. Sex is a really hard thing to talk about. Sex and money, two things in a relationship that are impossible to talk about, but they don't have to be. And you have to demystify them, take away the fear about talking about them, what might happen, and you just need to have those conversations about sex and money. That's separate. Okay, Best Tip Ever.

This is from StudioJRI on Twitter. Best Tip Ever. Be ready at all times. Make a pubic hair maintenance a weekly ritual. No one likes a forest. We've talked a lot about that. Yeah, clean up. Clean up, clean up.

Everyone appreciates it. It's cleaning up. Yeah, well, it's everybody's. What is it? I mean, what they like if they don't like. But I'm just saying I prefer clean, but... You prefer no hair? No hair, yeah. Not even like a straight, not even like... What if it's like... I mean if it's dare, it's not going to bug me. I'm still going to have sex with you, but I'm just saying, just don't have Wolverine or a raccoon down there and everything's good. Okay.

Okay, here's a few longer ones. He will email us. And my sex tip is let the ratio of four play to penetration be three to one or greater. Point B. Mathematical equations, I like it. I hate mathematical equations. I confuse me. Pointing I'm kidding.

Pointing is you can have her so hot that when you actually commence an intercourse, all the work is done. If you get my drift, which brings me to my question, to you and Menace, and that is have one of you, of you experience yourself a woman blacking out due to pleasure. I have helped a woman do this once it took months to get to that point. A lot of trust in abandonment was involved in her part in order to help her get there. That's from AJ. He's a platinum member, a premium member. Platinum. Yeah. We got to get the platinum member, the platinum member.

The benefits premium member. But he said, we ever, because we were talking about people blacking out from orgasms last week. Why are you blowing over the platinum membership? Because the platinum membership, you get to see actually naked photos of family on so sorry, that's all. Right, we forgot to mention that. You just gotta look for the button, look all over. You'll find the secret button.

You'll find the secret button for the button. I did do that Boudoir session of naked photos, but I think they people have to pay a lot more. We're given this to you for nothing. You're not getting the naked photos yet, but maybe eventually. So, okay, but his sex tip was I like that sex tip. Point being you can get a verse or hat. He's saying four play, he's saying it should be three to one. Like, in a course, you should do

more four play and then do intercourse. Yeah, it is true. If you do more four play, you have less work in the inner course. True. Factor. Does everyone hear this? For play, for play, for play, for play? Did you get that? Okay. So here's the winner. And the winner is. And the winner is drumroll please. The winner of our special, special contest. Is. I'm going to read it.

Oh, you lost it. No, I have it. I'm going to read her name. Her name is Maggie. All right, Maggie. Hi, Emily. I wanted to share one of my favorite sex tips. Not many women I know like to give oral sex to guys, and I just recently taught one of my closest girlfriends how to please her man. My tip is that when I go down on a guy, I use my favorite flavored lube to get me started,

and once I have his penis completely, I start to hum or sing one of my favorite songs. It gives him great pleasure and my vocal cords get a chance to relax. That's from Maggie. I was very creative. Damn, she should have said what song she liked to sing. Oh Maggie. Oh, I remember that. So she's a premium member. She's in Los Angeles and she won this special prize from Adam and Eve, which is a waterproof seduction vibrator. You can use it in the shower. It's waterproof toys are huge. There's three speeds. It's shower and bath friendly,

fallate, free body safe. It's gonna turn your on and walk your world. So thank you so much. It comes in a beautiful case. It's also in a beautiful case that you can use for other things. I'm showing you here on the camera. That's from Adam and Eve. Thanks Adam and Eve.

Okay, and we have one more note here. This was just someone who gave a sex tip, but then he said, have you thought of offering sex with Emily T shirts to the winners of your contests? And we've talked about sex with them in T shirts a lot. So if anyone's listening and they have any good deals on T shirts being it,

like I can't afford to go print a bunch of T shirts right now. I'm being honest. I think there's a one that I know, it's called tshirtguide.com or something like that. It's like the book. I want to make sex with them in T shirts. I'd love to give those out. Little wife cute wife feeders for the girls There's a one that I know it's called tshirtguy.com or something like that. It's like the book. I want to make t-shirts. I love to give those out.

Little wife cute, wife feeders for the girls and they just do it for guys. Like I'd sex with Emily and all that. It was a t-shirt or just sex with Emily. It was a good for you on the back. Wouldn't that be cute? Yeah, I would. Okay, so we can do cafe pressering stuff like that. Cafe press doesn't work.

But thanks, Brent. I appreciate it so, so much. And thanks everyone for your sex tips. We're going to be announcing the new contest tomorrow. We have to come up with that. Let's remember that new contest and new toys because you get toys and presents and it's not always going to be sex toys It's going to be a lot of different things Okay, did you want did you did you come up with your number one sex tip yet? No, I didn't I'm sorry guys. I'm so out of it today. There's some other stuff that tragic stuff that happened But it's not really close close to me, but just like somebody that I work with that works on one of their radio shows.

Okay. So I'm really bad. Like they lost their whole family like it up playing crash. It was crazy. Oh my god. So it just got me tripping today. I'm sorry. It's okay. You wanted to see it. It wasn't like my personal friend, but like I listened to him a lot on the radio. So it's like all weird me out. I'm really bummed out now. Okay, well first of all, we're trying to keep it sexy. It's keep it sexy. Thanks Matt is talking about like track, plane and cash. Okay, so topics on like today's show I said include these are your emails that you sent to feedback at sex with m a dot com or there's this really easy ask Emily button tab on the website that you can just write me a question there.

Yeah, and you get you get pushed up to the top priority. Yeah. Exactly. You get priority priority priority priority if you are a premium member. Okay. So, oh, and then after this, we're going to be talking about how soon you did it. How we're talking about post sex etiquette. Yeah. But first we got to talk about the polls. And then, all right. Well, we always do the polls for the emails. Okay, here was our poll last week. How long do you wait to have sex? Five seconds. 39% said after the first date. Okay. And that was the lot, that was the, that was the, um, that was the winner. 39% said after the first date. 7% said when we're in, okay, so I'm gonna start from the bottom of the answer.

7% you and I both today, okay. 7% said when we are in love married. 25% said after we've dated a few months. Five% of people are waiting a few months. 29% said, why wait, let's get it on. 39% said after the third date. Yeah, that's pretty much- That's standard. That's standard, Eric. 39% said after the third date. Yeah, that's pretty much...

That's standard. This standard, Eric, that's universal. That goes, I don't know about outside the United States, but in our pop culture, that's what... It's kind of the third date. The third date. Okay, so things everyone, before we had tons of votes on that,

so thanks everyone. Our new poll, which is up now, go there right now, sexthumbly.com. What do you like to do after sex? What do you like to do after sex? What do I like to do after sex? Go to sleep. That's an option. Yes.

Cuddle. Boo. B, fall asleep. Yay. C, eat. Ooh, yeah, I like that one. Go in for round two. Ah, it depends.

On my energy level. You're not too, if you're not passed out, you drink too much. E, leave immediately. Ooh, I like like all the options, except for one. Ah, you can only pick one. What, there's eating, leave, and go straight to sleep. And round two, which if you're on a...

Depends, if I can, if I'm over at so many house and if I'm gonna spend the night and I can take a shower in the next morning without just like leaving right then I would do a lot of spending the night with a woman like do you enjoy enjoying sharing your bed or would you rather like there's a lot of guys who just kind of there in women who can I would rather be in their bed like that they don't want the soup over yeah uh... now it's all about scheduling for me if i have five to do something right then yes i want to leave right right now i like

cuddling we knew that already that's my choice cuddling is the best best so i got a dog i don't think it fact or what i think it would be good stuff yeah well food is good to snack i mean i don't i it factor. What? Who came up with the food stuff? Yeah, well food is good too, Snacks. I mean, I don't, I can't remember where. Making naked snacks in bed is so fun.

Yeah, but I don't, I can't remember where like I ate right after. Like I've ate, I've, I've, I've, I've eaten before. But ice cream is good after in bed. I don't think I've ever done that. And you know me, I love food. I know, you've never eaten in bed with someone after you actually like cold pizza. No. Well, I mean, it's not immediately after maybe like hour. Yeah, yeah I'm not talking about like you're going and they're like okay dominoes or something

Yeah, like you know, which would be amazing my Like I'm like you come like ding dong Derbal and then you just get the pizza Maybe we need to set up something on the website. See? We come up with new things every single time. We are geniuses in the sex world. I mean, there's gonna be like a timer. I'm sure people have done this before, where they go, okay, we're gonna order food right now, and then we're gonna have sex,

and by the time we're done having sex, the food will be here. I'm sure that's happening. Oh, I've done that. Yeah, that's me. Yeah, what if? I've done that. I've done that.

I've learned it. I've learned it. But we need to make an app for it, is the thing. Eh, what if? I've done that. I've done that. I've already done. But we need to make an app for it, is the thing. That's where. Can you make me an app for things that I need? I need to make an app. You only have two apps. I have two apps.

Oh, my app, Kegel Camp, it's really well. It's number 89 in the charts. What do you need an app for now? Unless you don't want to share it. I don't want to share it now, but I do need an app. Okay. So, um. You're not working on the sexual device that has sex with you while you're listening to

sex family. No, I'm very disappointed. I'm sorry, I'm giving you a billion dollar idea. I'm giving you that to you. That's your project. Do it. If you want people to be able to simulate having sex with me while they're listening to the show, I'm so down.

Okay. I think I don't really understand. And I get 95% of the profit. Fine. If you make it happen, you get the profit. You know, I know people. Oh, some of it now. Not 95%.

You were behind me. You were behind me on this adventure. And you're just putting it all on me. I can't give 95% of way of anything. I'm giving you nice 5% in something that you did not believe in. I have something specific. Something you did not believe in. I have a sense pathetic. Something you did not believe in, that's gonna do very well. I don't even understand it. So maybe you could build a prototype of someone fucking their computer.

No, they don't have sex with their computer. They have sex with something that's connected to their computer. They have sex with the computer and then that means that someone else on the other end is having sex with the computer. No, they already have that. This is one they just listen to someone else on the other end is having sex. No, they already have that this one They just listen to the show on the time. I think just masturbate wasn't that easier. Yeah, but like this one is a cool device It might have the sex of them. We logo on the side of it and you know, oh I like that. You know My mother would be so proud. Yeah, okay She already is. Hey Emily. I'm stealing Ghana listening to your show Ghana. Remember Africa. Oh, yeah

Yeah, I thought that wasn't like Texas or something Member men is okay. I've listened to all the episodes I have in my iPod and so I'm now listening to them again I love that she's in the Peace Corps She wrote before she's in the Peace Corps yesterday I was listening to the one where you were talking about getting naked in front of your class at sex school. For a semester in college. That was a wild bad. I worked as a school student in Ghana for three years.

How long is Peace Corps two years? Two years. I wouldn't know. I worked as a nude model for a live drawing class and it was an amazing experience. I totally recommend to any of your listeners who may have body image issues. No one had ever seen me naked before I started doing it and it gave me so much confidence. The students look at you as such interesting concentration. And you have to, and you get to have beautiful drawings

made of you, win, win. And it really pays well. Extra win. Just something to suggest. Can't wait to listen to new episodes when I finish my service this month, Kat Trin. She's in Ghana, listening to the show. I love that that's what she's doing on her piece course.

She's like saving the world and this is actually family and so yeah, if you missed this episode this was last year I'm in sex school now getting a PhD in human sexuality Haven't gone lately. You need to go. I really really want you to go you do just because you think it's good for me I think you would elevate you a thousand percent if you get that done But I missed two semesters because I have to do the show every day now. Oh, you got to make it work honey. I know. Sorry. It stresses me out because I really want to go and I'm sad that I missed the last semester but the point is that you talk about getting naked so what happened was okay so I was in sex school and I for one of our classes I mean I know the sounds kind of

crazy but if you listen to it it's like one of the biggest in media know the sounds kind of crazy, but if you listen to it, it's like, one of the biggest issues that women have during sex is body image issues. They don't feel attractive, no matter how much you tell them they are, no matter, they just don't feel baby issues, whatever, everyone's got issues with themselves, but really it can really wreak havoc on your relationship, on your sex life. So as an experiment, we all get up naked,

you had to show, you didn't have to get naked. Like I left my underwear on, but I took everything else off, and there's a mirror. So there's like 30 of us in the class, and we had to get up, get naked, as naked as we'd like, and go to the mirror, teacher did it, she got totally naked, and we had to go up to the mirror, and we had to say everything that we'd like,

and don't like about our body. Like, I like my hair, is I like, I like my nose, I kind of like that, I hate that I have this little piercing thing from when my belly button was pierced on you Whatever stupid things like really break down your body staring at it for like 10 minutes like I Like this I like that and there's to be very it was very cathartic and it was very entirely entire class entire class the class is watching you talk about yourself. Yep Holy crap. Yeah, it was pretty intense, but she said she did, so there's something very cathartic,

very mind-opening, very like, oh my god, I have these body images, I'm so ashamed of it, but I'm going to express it to everyone in my class. It was a really powerful experience. Yeah, I went to art school, if people haven't heard, we mentioned on the podcast a billion times. But I went for film, but they made you take sketching classes. So we had nude models in all the time. And they were very interesting, because one guy came in,

he had dreads, and he had a belly button piercing with a chain around his hips. You know, whatever floats his butt. So yeah, I definitely got to see all different shapes and sizes, but no one was judging. Right, right, right. But from Cat's experience, she really got to, you know, she got to feel like, you know, supported in her body and then she got all these beautiful pictures of herself and stuff like that. That's what I did my Boudoir shots with that woman years ago because I was like, when

over also am I going to have pictures of myself naked? It's kind of cool. I should put them in my apartment. They're on your cell phone, aren't they? No. Okay. Don't ever lose that. Okay.

We have time for one more email and then we have to move into some sex tips. All right, what do you got? I've got, um, okay, I'll do this one. Lately, my girlfriend and I have been trying to incorporate anal play into our sex lives, particularly during four play. However, despite the fact that she's expressed her desire to do so, whenever I attempt to stimulate her teaser anus, she tends to back wear a resist. But while she does so, she's a coy smile,

which while still firmly resisting, do you think she's simply trying to tease me or is in fact unwilling? Stefan from Alberta, Canada. That's a great question. I mean, I think that you have to blink again. The number one thing, what else I choose, you need lots of lube and you need to move really, really slow.

So she says she's never had it and she backs away or resist probably because maybe you're doing something that's painful or she's just not comfortable with it. So even if you just use lube and you just rub the area, her anus with lots of lube and just get it worked up, maybe that's what you do one day. And like the next time maybe you like stick a finger in

or you do something like that, but you have to move really, really slowly and really gently. If she looks at you coily and smiles while still resisting, I would say she's, I mean, a coy smile makes me believe that she wants, would like to try it. Yeah, there's, she would definitely let you know if she wasn't into it. Right.

She'd be like, no, but maybe what you're doing is hurting her. So I would just say, Loub starts slowly, even if one day it's all about Loub, and the next day you stick your pinky like halfway in And then you you just have to go slow very very very very start moving out to larger objects Sure You could do that. Okay, so um, we're gonna move into some sex tips How's that all right? Where'd you get these tips? I got these tips from my brain. Okay. No. I got these tips from everywhere

We get them all over. We get them boolean books and and a lot of reasons. There's a research team at sex with. There's a research team at sex on the dark side. No, I don't come up with them, but I've studied them and I learned them all and I know them. So what's so this is just some facts about sex and the hormones and the chemicals and stuff that happens first. But what we're going to talk about is post-sex etiquette.

Okay? What should you do? What should you not do? And what is your body experiencing after sex? You're curious why you just want to go to sleep? You're like, no. Because I'm tired. Right, but here's why.

Okay? Because I just laid some pipe for like an hour. An hour, you would. Yes. You know? An hour. That's why I'm exhausted. When did you lay a pipe for like an hour. An hour, you wish. Yes. You know? An hour, minutes. That's why I'm exhausted. When did you lay pipe for an hour?

When I wanted to. Eight minutes. Eight minutes, my ass. Three minutes? What? I don't know. Okay. I need to get what you're smoking.

Why did you get something? I'm just kidding. I wish. The afterglow is the activity that occurs immediately following a sexual encounter encounter here's a breakdown of the chemicals pumping through your body post orgasm Okay pumping pumping pumping The main one is oxytocin I've talked about this before not to be confused with not to be confused with oxycontin which is a Helber which is a they call it hillblan, which is heroin and a painkiller. And very,

but oxytocin is what they call, it's the cuddle hormone. So it's that hormone that makes you, like women have more. It surges right after you have sex and we want to cuddle, which is why we need to cuddle. Men also experience oxytocin rushes, but there's dives right after.

It's like the highest right to the point of orgasm, even higher than women's, but there's dives right after. It's like the highest right to the point of orgasm, even higher than women's, but then it takes a dive. So it stimulates the prostate, causes muscle contractions and sensitizes nerves. It shows that increased oxytocin can produce more intense orgasms. I love oxytocin.

Then you've got endorphins. You've heard about endorphins. Endorphin rush, you get endorphin rushes from exercising or from jumping off buildings or, you know, bungee jumping or something. But you also get it from sex. It's a group of neurotransmitters formed within the body that naturally leave pain. So these biochemicals have a similar chemical structure to morphine.

They produce a feeling of euphoria and pleasure, and they have a calming effect after sex. They fill you with a sense of being well and relaxation and you might feel dizzy or drowsy sometimes after sex. That's because of the endorphins. How come they haven't taken extract of these adorphins? They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. They have. Well, I know. They probably do. Well, I mean, I think a lot of antidepressants have some of these stuff in it. Not endorphins, but similar. Replicate them. Okay. Prolactin is another one.

It relieves sexual arousal after orgasm and takes your mind off sex. This one takes your mind away from sex. It rises sharply immediately after orgasm and everyone. It's the one that disengages you after an orgasm. It's the one that gets you start thinking about work again and ordering pizza and what's going on. I believe that, and I've talked to my friends before,

I believe that immediately happened after your orgasm. Immediately like I'm not interested in sex anymore. Like I don't want to. You don't even have a name. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're like, isn't it time for you to go to the bathroom? And I'm not trying to be funny. I'm dead serious right now.

We're. You're not prolecting. Yeah. It a lot. It's what allows you to think whether things besides the naked person in front of you. If after sex your mind is flooded with activities and chores, you need to accomplish that day that's the proactin at work. Is that what happens?

Yeah. See is this interesting? See menace? After glow activities. Okay, so this is after glow activities. This is what percentage of what women said they wanted. Okay. Okay. This is going to be shock to you. My God. 43% of women said that cuddling after sex is important to them. 43% 30-35% said it depends on the situation. 2% said they'd rather take a shower. What does the percentage says they want a Louis Vuitton purse afterwards? They all do, honey. They want a purse.

So that's a hundred percent. That's a poor play, baby. Remember my Louis Vuitton bag, I used to carry? Yeah, what happened? I just had a house and I forgot about it. So that's your pork play, baby. Um, remember my Louis Vuitton bag, I used to carry. Yeah, what happened? I just went home, I forgot about it. So, that's, you're so over it. Okay, take a couple of minutes, he's always made fun of me. Take a couple of minutes to cuddle before you roll over and fall back asleep.

Pull her against you to spoon or kiss the back of her neck. Just do something like that, at least before you're falling asleep. Before you're falling asleep, can you just muster a kiss? Something. Cool. There's an egg timer, right? Egg timer's gone. Yeah, egg timer. So also, um, egg timer, right? Egg timer's gone. Yeah. Egg timer.

So also, you should always go to the bathroom after sex. Women, especially, and then. But you should, I think that most people know this, but some don't. Dimension to tired or your drunk or your word to pass out. But you have to always just, you can get your an air track infections. You can get women needs to go to the bathroom after sex, for sure. No matter what, if you're using condoms, not using condoms, you have to pee after sex. Okay, women like to know that you had a good time, so talk to her for five minutes after sex.

What? Compliments to each other. You can also, this is a good time to be like, oh my God, that was so awesome what you just did with your mouth. Or the way you moved your fingers over my knee. No, and so after having sex, we have to talk about how we had sex. If you want, it's a good time. What? Just for a minute, like babe, that was so hot when you...

I'd rather, you know, talk about that later. That was so hot the way you, I don't know what you would think it's hot. I have to recreate the things. Just so you can say something if you feel like saying something nice for you fall asleep, very drift off asleep. Okay, can you recall an amazing conversation

that you had after sex? Yeah. Please do tell. Right now, this moment. Do tell. Um, a lot of them. Depends if we're like, let me guess, they were complimenting your performance. No, maybe. I don't know. Um, no men don't usually do that right after, but maybe, but it's a good thing to be like, oh, that was hot. That was really nice or just, you all want affirmation. How about I say you did an amazing job, give you a handshake and then I can turn it over

to the side. Nice work. Keep the good work. Nice to see you. Leave. That you want to do? See you next time. See you next time.

That's a courtesy, right? That's being polite. Thank you and shook her hand. That's courtesy, right? That's being polite. Thank you, and check her hand. Yeah. Awesome, menace. Okay, these are the after sex don'ts. These are what you shouldn't do. Tell me what you think about this.

You shouldn't fall straight asleep, unless that's what she wants. 33% of women prefer to fall asleep after sex. So, you're going to fall asleep after sex, maybe like just have a moment of just connection that after going like, women actually need that. They need it, like they'd chemically like we need to cuddle, like 30 seconds, you can

set your friggin' phone for 30 seconds and do that, okay? Women need to start putting that on their profile, like on their online profiles. Because they want to cuddle. Love falling asleep after sex. I bet, you know, when you talk about like girls getting winks on certain websites, I believe they would get their wink percentage would skyrocket. If they said they wanted to follow sleep immediately after sex. Like they should put that on there. I think guys are trying to find that 33%

and they just need to let it out there. Some guys like to cut all. Look at your watch or go, these are after sex don'ts. Look at your watch or go straight to your phone. Oh my God. I do this. I've got a story too. This guy that I dated a while ago, he literally so attached to his phone, the phone was right by the bed. And then like, literally, it was like, he was still mid orgasming and he was already checking

his messages. And I was like, could we wait five minutes? Could we wait three minutes? Like, you're checking your phone already? Or like, first thing in the morning, just phone? I mean, we all check our phone in the morning. But it was just so, like, just kind of rude. Yeah.

I mean, I was, I was, can you wait five minutes? Like, literally, he was like, uh, uh, uh, and then he's like, on his phone. Like, it's not good. Yeah, I can relate. I can relate, I do that all the time. Yeah, I did that once and the girl wasn't really happy at all.

So you let me know. She let me know. I'm dying to check my phone all the time too, okay? Let's not get around, but you just had sex, like have a moment, everyone. That moment of connecting after is important. Have you been on your phone while receiving oral sex? No. I don't think so.

Never? I mean, no, because I have concentration issues. And this day in age? On my phone. You weren't checking an email while you were being. No. Pleasure. Why would I do that?

It's such a nice occasion when that happens. I would not be on my phone. I could be on my phone after or before for the rest of my friggin life. But if someone's going down to me and they're doing a good job, I'm not on my phone. Okay. Just check it. Okay. So, um, don't jump out of bed to leave. Don't run off to an appointment. Damn it. All your I have the appointments to go to. Well, again, assume your job is done. Ignore her after sex, criticize or complain, past class or make fart jokes.

I do all these things, all the above. I know. Okay, here's a side note. Don't be offended if she had for the bathroom. Some women, they all need to go to the bathroom for sex. I did this guy who got offended. I got up too quickly, right after sex, I got up to go to the bathroom and he was like, would you mind waiting a few more minutes because he wanted to cuddle? And I was like, I'll be right back. I got up too quickly like right after sex I got up to go to the bathroom and he was like would you mind waiting like a few more minutes

He because he wanted to cuddle and I was like I'll be right back I got a pee but he was offended that I had to get up after sex. So maybe there's like a five minute window Where you but you should go pretty soon after sex I get offended off that is He's well Let's just say that revokevoque, man, car. Revoque is man-carred, I know. Really, he was not one of my most masculine men that I've dated with testosterone running through as whatever didn't.

But I was like, really, you're offended. And then I had a guy once, this is kind of a separate thing, but I had to go to, sometimes in the middle sex you have to go to the bathroom, like you have to pee. And he was like, so offended that I had to get up I'm so sorry it's it if you're going to do that what that weird like in the middle of sex you have to get up and pee. Ah yeah I've had that before yeah not offended. He was offended he was like we were in the middle.

What are the pushes in the pee? I know. It's been 15 years ago. I'll never forget that. I was like dude you're such a loser. I have to go to the bathroom. Like I have to pee. I don't know why this just came to me. It did. I'm going to share it. So, dude, let her go to the bathroom. I broke up with them, not because of that. Sometimes once might not be enough, after you orgasm, you might need to give her some attention

or help her finish off, because maybe she did not have an orgasm. But she shouldn't tell you that it's okay for you to relieve yourself. What do you mean? To get the climax. Because you might be, you might ask her like, oh is it okay if I blah blah blah. Because she can tell she's not getting there.

And then she goes, oh yeah, that's fine. And then so when you're done, everything, you think everything's all good. And then she goes, oh so can you attend to me? Yeah. I'm like, why did you tell me to all good and then she goes oh so can you attend to me. I'm like Why did you tell me to finish the job then because the only 30% of women can have orgasms during intercourse Yeah, but if I had before play ad nauseam if I had for if I Satisfied you that way before why didn't you let me put in some more work? You should have done it before So you don't do it after I think think it's trickery, and I don't like it.

So some women are turned, so you need to give her some attention, but be delicate, try to read a response. Some women are turned off by a man that expects seconds. Anyway, women try this after sex. If you were turned on master by after sex to extend the stimulation, don't let them pull out right away. You can rub his soft penis against your pelvic floor, your clitoris to turn yourself on. Like some of his women can order as him still just from more of a flaccid penis, just rubbing

against her. I'll be embarrassed by that, but yeah. You would be? Why could you were flaccid? Yeah. Well, but why? What if? What if?

It's fine. Flaccid penis, a racked penis, penis, thrall penis, they're all fine. So after sex men could try this, they could suggest showering together. They should turn off the video recording. Cook a meal together, naked, bring some snacks to bed. You love the snack idea, man. See, you learned something today. I ain't full resting, give her a massage.

That's what I got for you. That's some post sex etiquette. Okay. Okay. Yeah. What? No, I was just thinking about this shower thing. I like... Do you like sharring with someone?

Yeah, but that's, you know, not afterwards before. Before is great, because a lot of people have issues with cleanliness. So if you're going to be having a particularly active robust sexual experience, maybe you would want to have a shower beforehand. Shower of the France, awesome, because you know you're all clean or baths. Tomorrow's show is Time Me Up Tuesday.

We're going to be having a bondage. So how's this going to go down? Get your safety word ready. Get your safe word ready because we're going to be talking about bondage. I can bring like Barbie and Kindles in and tie them up. That's what I was saying. Yeah. No, yes. I don't have any Barbie and Kindles, but I want to bring in some dot's what I was saying. Yeah. No, yes.

I don't have any Barbie and Ken dolls, but I want to bring in some dolls, because it's easier to explain. I'm going to like type some knots and we're going to talk about like why, because I don't mean you have to get into it, because there's people who are like obsessed with bondage and they can do like all these knots. So we're not talking about that. We're talking about bondage 101. We're talking about why bondage can be healthy for your sex life and can help increase your

help enhance it, and you can have better sex. If you're bringing the dolls, can I do the voices for the dolls? Yeah. And like how, you know, they can call Barbie a horror. Yeah, you can. You like that horror, you like being tied up, you skank. Yeah. I can keep it classy. Sure, you can. You don't talk dirty though. Oh, no, you do. Yeah. Yeah. All right, menacee. You can do whatever you want tomorrow. Sweet. I think Jesus, okay, everyone. No, I don't mean that. Thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemlee.com Hey guys, can I see a question? How are your balls feeling right now?

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