Sex With Emily - SWE: The Best Sex Toys for Men and Women.

Episode Date: February 26, 2014

I'm talking about my favorite topic- masturbation and the best sex toys for men and women. In a word filled with crazy, awesome, vibrating sex toys, it can be hard to choose a sex toy. Are you a clitoral stimulation kind of a girl or a G-spot gal? Are you a size queen or are you looking for something cute and discreet? Do you want a couples toy or do you want it all to yourself? Of course, sex toys aren't just for the girls (check out the Fleshlight guys at sexwithemily.com/Fleshlight!). My guest, Sex Toy Expert Anne Hodder, and I discuss some surprising ways men enjoy the vibrations too, and how they can use sex toys on their partner. My guest Anne Hodder and I have tried and reviewed hundreds of sex toys so we can tell you the best sex toys for your preferences and needs. Your welcome. I do it all for you... and the orgasms.  You can get almost all the vibrators we discuss on the show at  Anne and I agree that one of the best vibrators for couple play and solo play is the Je Joue MiMi, and the best sex toy for men is the Fleshlight. If you're looking for great G-spot action or anal play, NJoy is simply the best. Get them all at SexwithEmily.com/GoodVibes and SexwithEmily.com/Fleshlight. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh my. The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common, not only? What do you mean, like laundry? It shrinks. Can we women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much?

Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. So, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between.

For more information, go to sexwithamely.com. Check out all my podcasts, subscribe to the feed or just subscribe. And I, too, I don't really care how they all do it, but I've got so many great podcasts for you listen to and too coming out every single week for you. So you can have the sex life and the relationship

that you've always wanted. Because I know everyone wants to have it better, a little bit better. Who's like in the perfect relationship? If you're in the perfectvig relationship, email me. Feedbackatsectsonly.com, because I'd like to know about it. Does one really exist? Anderson, are you in the parvig relationship?

Oh, you. It's funny, it sounded like you said parvig relationship. Oh, if you're a parvig, I already know. I'm like, who's in the parvig relationship? I'm like, we're doing a show on parvig relationships. I want to hear this one. Exactly, but is your relationship perfect? Absolutely, of course.

She listens. She listens to my show. No, she'll your relationship perfect? Absolutely, of course. She listens. She listens to my show. No, she'll we all send it to her. Only if you say really nice. It's totally perfect. Perfect. Related to see you. It's good to see you kid. How are you? How you doing? You hanging in there? Good. I've been sick. I went to the doctor again today. If you look up your your wazoo, do you look up your hoo ha? No, I wish. No. Yeah, you know what? Action. I've gotten this might sound bad for the type of podcast you do But I never say this to anyone but it kind of seems like you need to get some some late. Do I seem up tight?

You seem like you might need to a little yeah You know, it's been a slow few months because I've been working a lot and traveling a lot I was in New York for two weeks and then now I have to go back to Michigan tomorrow for a family emergency But I went to the doctor today. He's taking care of it, so it's going to be all better. Well, Z-PAC. Maybe your next endeavor should be for this program should be some kind of sex study, where you're just going out and getting banged in and reporting on it. Oh, yeah, that'd be interesting.

Yeah, and you'd be nice and relaxed. I'm relaxed. I just wanted to get started because I'm so excited about my guest tonight. She's pretty cool. She's awesome. Can you just tell her? I just stepped on her name with her name. You didn't even know Ann, Ann, Ann, hotter, hi Ann.

Oh, hey. Would you say holder, hotter? Hodor, hi. Maybe an elementary school, and there was a substitute teacher. Hodor, hotter. Hotter. She's hotter. She's hot too.

Yeah. Ann, hotter, I love Ann. Ann is here tonight, and we met through the sex industry, but not in that way. But yeah, where do we first meet sex toy shows? No, I thought it was some orgy like you were on top. I was on the side. I wish. I was upside down.

You don't invite me to those parties. I didn't know you were into that. Totally into everything. Cool. I'll email you. Please email me. So we're going to get to Ann in a minute but she knows every season, she's a, she's a Bxx toy expert, but she writes about it, she has a PR firm, she works a lot of companies, and she knows like the ins and outs. So if

you, you always hear me talk about toys in the show, do this to that, but like we're gonna get into the nitty-gritty, but not just toys, some things that are trending in sex that you might not have ever heard about in your entire life. And we are gonna tell you about that, and just a lot of other fun stuff because Anne's super fun and Anne Hatter is hot. So Anderson, so I told you about, so I went on a shopping spree yesterday. What did you buy? Well, I feel kind of, I felt bad, but now okay, so there was this, okay, so I needed shoes because I was going to this this black tie event that I have. How many shoes do you have? I went with Drew and his wife to this event the other night.

They invited me to this. Oh, that shoe event where they give away shoes or something. No, I wish they were giving me shoes, but I needed shoes and then I went into my favorite store and they were having like an 80% off, but I bought four pairs of shoes, which I don't normally do, but I came home, I felt like I'm in the Marcos.

But do you know why I feel good about it that I felt like I could justify it? Because you're making tons of money somewhere, or are you saving tons of money somewhere? I am saving, no, I want to tell you, because I talked about it that I felt like I could justify it. Because you're making tons of money somewhere or are you saving tons of money somewhere? I am saving. I want to tell you because I talked about this that week but like I'm obsessed with Ting because Ting is a mobile service plan that can actually help you save money on your phone bill because we are all paying way too much on our self-ful beds and there's all these like when I went to New York, you know when I travel, my my data goes off, right? And they don't tell you, and then they charge me. And

some weeks I use less, but with Ting, they actually adjust it to how you use it. So they're not charged you. It's really, really inexpensive. And if you go to Emily. Ting.com, you can save 25%, $25 off your service or towards a off of your device purchase or get $25 in Ting's service credit to use towards your monthly bill. But here's the thing, even if you're like, yeah, whatever I like with phone, I'm happy it's too much to do with. You freaking have to check out their savings calculator because this is what got me hooked because I realized you go into Ting, Emily.ting.com, you click on their savings calculator and you put in your

your current cell phone plan that you're with, your password and they log into the website. And then they look at your bill and it's like, and then it tells you how much you're going to save. And I'm saving $80 a month. So I felt that I could justify buying four pairs of shoes. Was it $80 with a shoes? Are you a typical lady here? No, it was $162. It was a lot more than that. Yeah, so it was more than that. Every dollar you save, you spend, too. But yeah, the thing thing is fantastic.

And I really wanted to make it because I want more and more. I want them to stick around because I want to put the screws to the big, the big companies. Exactly. Because it's a monopoly. It really is. They keep going off. They lock you in.

This reminds me of like when direct TV came around and the cable company started getting all scared. Exactly. So let's make Tang worthwhile. And it's like it's kind of like getting a raise. Like if you go in, you get a raise, your bomb that you didn't do it six months before. So don't wait six months because every every month you're losing money. Right.

You might say more than me and the more you use, the better rates you get. So if your usage varies for month to month, there's no problem. They bill you according to what you use. So if you can use more one month than not the next month. So again, just like, just check it out like Emily.team.com and it's just kind of like a game. Like just go check it out and then you'll see how much you can save. And maybe not today you'll be like, oh, you'll think about it and then you'll be obsessed and then you'll go back and you'll feel like friends do it and you'll all be really happy. So Emily.team.com save $25 on your device purchase or it's awesome.

You get $25 in Ting's service credit to use towards your monthly bill. And you can just buy like a sprint phone somewhere cheap. You can buy it on eBay. Even if you just want an extra phone, it's like nothing. This plan is so cheap. You can do whatever you want. You don't have to buy shoes. I don't care what you buy.

Go with the money that you save. You buy sex toys. My shoes are so hot. I don't need to buy sex toys. No, that's what we're talking about tonight. Oh, for everyone else. For fuck's sake. Oh my God, thank you.

Sorry, I missed that. So, Anne. And it's going to talk about the latest and greatest toys out there. You guys all hear me talk about certain things. But we just actually had dinner before. And like, I, I did, she knows stuff that I don't even like, I, way ahead of me, stuff I don't even know about. So it's going to blow your mind and it's going to be awesome.

So we're going to get into that in a second. And I also wanted to tell you about well, let's just get into Anne first. I was going to do some sex in the news. Let's get into Anne. Let's get into Anne. Anne, get into Anne. Let's go segment. Should I stretch? There should be a segment called let's get into Anne. Okay, tell me how you got into this. Because people always ask me how would you get into the sex and you're like today like so awkwardly, I'm seeing my new doctor who's like super conservative. And what do people tell you? How did you get into this? I don't honestly, it was like, it's the least exciting story ever.

And I really wish there was something like, oh, you know, it was getting banged one day. And you know, someone was like, hey, I need someone who's good at banging, who also is good at writing. And can you do both? It's really not hard to find someone you can bang in, right? It is. Well, boom, bingo. Here I am. I really, I moved to LA, was a fashion editor,

I did a defunct online magazine that was embarrassing, to even spend my time at, and answered an ad and an adult's industry business magazine that needed a copy editor, and I am a huge nerd who loves AP style, so I was was like boom, that's me. And I studied sexuality in school for fun because they didn't have like a minor for that. And, um, amongst the way short, got there, they didn't have a sex toy department. I didn't understand why it's kind of like having Nordstrom without a shoe department, you know.

So I just started doing it and became the sex toy girl. And fast forward, left the magazine, started a PR firm and now I just accidentally am an and became the sex toy girl and fast forward left the magazine started a PR firm And now I just accidentally am an expert in something super random But awesome, but but but awesome. Yeah, and I mean do you have a garage full sex toys like I do or do you you? Tell me that you kind of weed them out and get it Well, I recently moved to a loft department which meant I had to downsize considerably the amount of space under my bed Has decreased by 37% ish. So I did toss a bunch of shit that I just,

I used once and thought was gross and never wanted to touch again. But I have at least four, maybe five really nice storage cases under my under my bed. I want some good storage key by them. Good stuff. Oh my god. Are they sex toy storage cases? Yes, specifically the best brand that I like.

It's this lady on the West Coast named Vera who's so beautiful for your nymphomation. Okay. They're a lockable store. Nymphomation. Nymphomation. They literally lock so if you have kids are crazy roommates, you just lock them closed and you can get they actually make them for doms like pro doms who need to be able to carry all of them. Right, they make a part as to carry other makeups. So. Make a part of secure other. Yeah. So all made of leather though. And it has little velcro customizable pouches on the inside and for the farsers. Yeah. Yeah. And for Loub samples and batteries. And they even have one that's just for crops. So it's tall enough for different crops and fluggers. And they're just super great. I don't know why I don't have one of these. I'm really surprised you don't. I'm surprised I don't too because I've been

obsessing about how to organize them, because I... Oh, God. There's nothing sexier besides having sex than having a crazy organized sex toy chest. I get so turned on when I see all of my stuff in little pouches, not dirty or dusty. Right. It's waiting for me to just pull out and use. Oh my God.

Can we hook me up with her after? I'll give her a mad props on the show. Okay, so what's your go-to toy now? What's your favorite toy lately that you've tried? I love the Mimi by a jeez. I'm pretty sure you've talked about it before. I'm like I'm like total coincidence that I guess it's not a coincidence because it really is just like the greatest toy. Am I allowed to swear? I can't believe that you think that too. Like okay because I discovered it gave me all these toys and you guys have all heard me talk about the Mimi but I can't believe that you think that too. Like, okay, because I discovered it. They said me all these toys, and you guys have all heard me talk about the Mimi, but I can't believe that you think that too.

It's one of those things where... Why, can you explain Indy Duck? Because I feel like everyone's heard my voice, and you have a different voice. Sure. I mean, the basis of it, for the most part, every woman is looking for some kind of alternate version of the Hitachi magic wand that has the same amount of power, but isn't this huge fucking log that they have to store somewhere?

And that's sexy. It's not sexy. And you want something that's portable, blah, blah, blah. The Mimi has this, a comparable motor in this little tiny smooth pebble shape. So it matches the power of the Hitachi, but it looks like this adorable little minimalist sculpture that you just leave on your table.

I mean, it's just so cute. And it has these really nice feminine colors that aren't like your typical sex toy, like bright pink and you know, laughing or purple, because fuck that. Honestly, I mean, whatever. They sell black and they've been like pink. And this really soft one. Oh, that's the thing.

So they came out with a lilac color, which I think is just so adorable. And a nice soft rose. And that hooked me before I even knew about the soft tip. Okay. And so I go to so adorable and a nice soft rose and that was that hooked me before I even knew about the soft tip. Okay. And so I go to use it and I'm just like wait a minute what's going on mine's different because the tip was suddenly squishy. Right. Right. And but then I call the woman who you know helps make them and she's like no no that's on purpose. And so basically version they have two versions still. So like if you want something that's like a jackhammer by the first one, right, and just like ram it onto your clip, you know, you're good, right? But this new one has this like squishy,

almost like tempered pedic mattress tip, and it's just you can like smoosh it into yourself without rattling your bones. Exactly. And it feels like this kind of glide-y, tonguey massage. It looks kind of looks like a tongue. I really do. It's like a stone. It's a little pebble. I think that's how they like to talk about it actually. Right. Right. And it comes to the blindfold now too. I know. I do. It comes with like a black like sexy little blindfold. That's so cute. I know. What's cool about this is it has this it's like a pebble but it has a tapered tip. So it's like an like an egg like a flat egg. I don't know. Exactly. And it's shaped so that you could actually use it on on your guy. I, if you have a guy that likes ball play, there's a really soft, low rumble you can

set it on. So it's not like a jackhammer. And you can just sort of like cup his balls with it in your hand because it's smooth and round. I mean, all kinds of shit you can do. Right. Exactly. And the thing I love about is too is I love using it during when I'm having sex because

I can cup it because it's that rubbery silicone. Like it sticks my hand and I can just, it's like so not obtrusive. Like I'm having sex because I can cup it because it's that rubbery silicone like it sticks my hand and I can just it's so not obtrusive like I'm not a thing and like it just I'm holding it over there and it's works every time. But let's go. I you brought up a good point there about men and their balls liking vibration. I believe that a lot of men just think sex. So is there for women? Of course, we can get into some penis rings in a bit, but but that a lot of men. I've never, a man who wasn't like, out, like, they're all like, wow, like, they don't know, they don't think to use feel vibration on the balls. A lot of men,

so yeah, it doesn't, it doesn't occur to them. And also the ones who have tried from what I've heard, it's not like, you know, I, a million men have told me this, but a good amount. Um, the last million I stopped with told me, because I use it, but that's just like a mind. Oh, you've got at least 500,000 on me. They use like a bullet or a typical vibrator or like the Hitachi and they just obliterate themselves and they just are like, oh, why would I ever want vibration on my balls? And it's like, well, no wonder you hate that because you just, you just abuse your testicles.

Exactly. They have the, I mean, it just depends on the, the toy you use and you just have to put it on a super low rumble. Right. Right. Exactly. And it's just like a little extra something. She feels good. You're not going to like come just by vibrating on your balls, but like if you get blown

while she's cupping your balls, holding something that vibrates, like you're going to come harder. Yeah, exactly. It's a little like it's like it's like it's always talk about like how I like to place it up, how I change my sex life. You know what you do? You pull out your vibrator and you put on the balls. Exactly.

And don't tell them. Don't tell them. I know. Exactly. That's a great test or super pumped. Exactly. But I've never Anderson. Yeah. Have you had any vibration on your balls? No, I'm good. I'm alright. This is how Anderson talks. I hear a lot of dudes who are just like, no, but they always say that. But then when they try it, yeah, that's true. It's not for everyone. But I'm just saying you might want to try it. I say try everything once. Agreed. I was, I have to say about the ball thing. I was with the first and only man I've

ever met who cowers at the idea of having anything happen to his balls. And I think I'm going to told you the story once before I came and remember. I actually, like most women should went to go like slurp in one of his balls while I was slurping specifically as the verb. While I was blowing him, and he almost kicked me in the face because it hurt him. Right.

And it wasn't like I sucked on it. I just went like, bloop, bloop, bloop. Right. And he flipped out. He didn't want any ball play. He couldn't do it. I guess to him it was so sensitive.

It pained him and I almost lost an eye. Wow. Oh my god. Well, there is true that that men I always say I've said this for but I feel like I had post traumatic ball disorder because I had a bad experience early on that With some guy I touched his balls. I don't maybe I touched him too hard I maybe he was a super sensitive. I always blew myself. Maybe it was his fault But I didn't touch balls for years

I just thought men don't want balls touch and then I slowly is like oh, yeah, like I forgot about him Yeah, I was like oh god. I gotta start touching the balls again. So it's like women, so women don't like their nipples touch. So you gotta figure it out. You try it out. Try on air. It's all try on air. Okay, so what else is some of your your go to favorite late?

I have anything new this year that you got that was like, yeah, really cool. What? There's this company from Norway and I just love saying that because no companies are from Norway. Right. No, that's true. It's this female duo, like Power Team. It's called LAD, L-A-I-D, which is also adorable.

I met them at the beginning of the year at one of the sex switch trade shows. They actually won an O award, one of the AVN awards for their designs. It's basically they've taken high tech because high tech is super trendy right now and then just like flipped it upside down So it's high tech in the sense that it doesn't have crazy motors and some of them don't have motors at all But it's high tech and how they're designed. How is it designed? Well, she's an industrial designer who uses her industrial design techniques and software to create these really unique shapes that specifically serve a purpose

So instead of being like going to a factory and seeing what shapes you can choose from, what colors and like, okay, I want that. She thinks to herself, I want a toy that I can hold in my hand, flip upside down, and use million different ways and never get tired and I want one of the edges to be flat. So there's your purpose

and I want it to be a clip vibrator that's gonna make me scream and wipe the neighbors. So there's the purpose. From there, she goes and just makes a shape that accommodates that purpose. So it's literally custom done from a woman who'd want something that she would use herself. And she started, she actually got the idea because her vibrator broke one day and then she happened to read an article that talked about a very famous architect at the time, a European guy who decided to make a vibrator. It's called like the bone I think and it's just, and it was a dude and he assumed it would be a superior vibrator and I don't think it was. Right. But she was just like, oh, I should be fucking doing this. Right. And so she does. And

there are a couple of things that are relatively new, but it's called the C1. And this is from Lade. This is from Lade. Where do they sell? How can people? Oh, first I want to tell you, the Mimi we were talking about, you can go to sexwithemily.com slash good vibes and you'll get 15% off your order of anything that you buy there. So it's sexwithemily.com slash good vibes. For most of the things we're going to talk about tonight.

But I don't know about this lady. I think so. I mean, if they don't have it now, they will sign. Right. I'm sure. Because good vibes is amazing. They support companies like this that are really innovating in the industry. Right. Especially female owned and operated.

Of course. The C1 is a literal vibrator that when you look at it, like I thought it was a cock ring. Okay. Because it's a ring. But it looks sort of an all-blown ring that has a motor on one end. Okay. So it's kind of figured it was some weird cock ring with some special reason. And it's not the ring you actually hold with, like, you're holding a coffee mug. Oh, okay.

And it let's see, it, it surprisingly gives you so much dexterity and control over, like, what you're doing. And one edge of the motor has some groovy things on it. One is smooth. One is smooth. One is sort of like slanted and you kind of just like swirling your hand around like a baton, you customize whatever you want to have happen on your client. And if you like it one way, just leave it there and you just hold it there and you just don't get tired.

And you have one, they sent it to you. Okay. Can you hug me out? I don't know it. Okay. Can I tell you one of the thing that they have though that actually I like better than the C one? Yeah. So I Don't know if this is TMI, but I'm always I'm all about TMI. I know stupid question. Okay. Um, and I really like I'm a clip girl so I and I prefer I need something on my clip Whenever I want to have an organ boom, but I have a better orgasm when something is shoved up inside of me Preferably a dick, but when a dick's not around right there are other things wait you're a click girl But you prefer to wait so you have to have a literal orgasm when something is shoved up inside of me, preferably a dick, but when a dick is not around, but there are other things. Wait, you're a clicker, but you prefer to have, wait, so you have to have a clitoral

orgasm first. No, I have to have something happening to my clit in order to have any kind of orgasm. Got it. I don't have a vaginal at all. So I got into Dildo's at a young age, I think I was 20 or something. And basically these, these same ladies made a Dildo called D1. And instead of having, like, its typical sort of torpedo insertion shape or something that curves up with a knob for your G spot, it's hard to explain, but it's actually a slightly

angled phallus that has when you look at it head on, it slant slightly to the left. So it's not perfectly symmetrical. Okay. And it almost like, I don't even know how to describe it, but the line curves to the left as it goes up in, you know, and there's this little sort of extension at the end. And basically instead of having it be an insertable dildo that you like shove into you repeatedly or press up into your G spot, you actually shove it into the point where you don't, you like it.

Shove or gently push it right. For me, it's shove, whatever. And then you press up a bit so you feel on your G-spot and then you twist side to side because it has this sort of like slanted extension that when you wiggle it from side to side, it glides and rubs up against your G-spot without making your partner or your wrist tired.

Okay. What's it made out of? There are a couple different things. Okay. I have the stone one. This is solid stone. It's an indigenous stone in Norway and I can't remember what it's called. Okay. But it's beautiful because it looks like Onyx with like snowflakes in it. Okay. That's really cool. They also have it. But if you don't have a G-spot orgasm then what you just like the feeling of it? Oh yeah. Well what it does. I mean it makes my G-spot orgasm, then what you just like the feeling of it? Oh, yeah, well, what it does, I mean, it makes my G-spot huge, which makes everything just more sensitive inside. I guess your orgasms are more intense. Your throat has it, I agree.

Same. And basically, if I have something in me, it stretches, I mean, I'm gonna get all like, doctor-wrestling, but like it stretches your vagina, the actual vaginal opening, and your vaginal opening is essentially, it feels interlipsed or an extension of your literal hood, so it's more stretched and full you are,

the more stretched all of your skin is. And the more sensitive you're going to end up being. Like you're kind of like picking up the slack. Right. And so that's why I really like something in me all the time. Yeah, constantly. Right now too.

Right now. God, I wish I had, did we bring anything in my trunk? Oh my God, I have something. My trunk I was going to bring. I brought my stone dildo. And you're talking about it? Yeah. Yeah, I mean, more time. I was so focused on like I know I know I know I got it but it makes it makes a lot of sense yeah it's a really good point because again going

back to that most women need extra clitoral simulation during during intercourse that they just can't get and I think a lot of guys are still kind of like, well, I didn't do it if she was devised if she's a vibrator on her clitoris, but it's like we need them both. Oh my God. It's a team effort. It's a team effort. Oh, yeah. It's your new, it's your best friend. So go buy like a really cool clitorial vibrator for what else do you like?

Like what about any of the Lilos? They're, they're good. Okay. What else? What other clitorial, what's your other, because I'm like obsessed with the Mimi. Like I know there's some other ones. What are other clitorial ones like lately? Do you like, well else? What are the cultural? What's your other, because I'm like obsessed with the Mimi, like I know there's some other ones, so what are the other cultural ones, like lately do you like?

Well, the Mimi is the thing. I know, I can't. Everyone loves Lilo, because Lilo is really at the top of its game, of its marketing game for sure. And also making sex toys really just like palatable and accessible to people who like fancy things.

It's fancy. It's crazy. It's pretty expensive. They have a vibrator called the GG, and they say it's a G-spot vibrator. Every time I hear G-spot vibrator though, I just kind of feel like it doesn't need to be that. It's probably going to feel better on your clit because it ends up how it's a slightly curved G-spot or slightly curved vibrator.

And the end is sort of a rounded flat surface, which yeah, you could stick inside of you and rush up against you. And if you like it cool But that flat smooth surface is gonna feel amazing if you just glide it up and down Exactly. Like I don't know who these people are. It's not that they're doing it wrong But I think that they're completely missing the mark with some of the marketing right? Which I guess is why someone hired me right exactly Yeah, I used to use both like that. She's about vibes like that. I do change sometimes too

I always do I'm like because I always am like, like that. I do change sometimes too. I always do. Because I always am like, yeah, like I just going to put on my clip, you know, but I totally get it. That's the only thing. And at the end of the day, like you don't need something super fancy. What you really need is if you like something that has ridges and textures and you kind of like a little

rougher, you can buy regular finger vibes. The Foku Uku, I always say it wrong. The Foku Uku 9000 is like the quintessential beginner finger vibe. It's the first one I first went on your finger. Oh yeah. And the guy can stick it or woman whatever inside you. What do you think? It literally like it looks like a um a fimble. Okay. But it vibrates. Right. And it has that was one of my first ones too, but I don't think it was the Foku whatever. Yeah, I think there's so many like it. Right. The fuck you up you. Right.

It's it just sits on your finger and there are others too. The screaming I think there's so many like it. Right. The fuck you up, up you. Right. It's, it just sits on your finger. And there are others too. The screaming O, which is a really cool brand. I know that good vibes has that. Yeah. They have something called the Fingo. And it's a, it's a lot of the Fingo. And they are pretty reasonably priced.

Oh my God. And you can reuse them because it's basically a super powerful bullet. And their bullets have won awards. They're so strong. Right. I love their bullets. And it's just in the silicone little sleeve that you wear on your finger.

And so you basically turn your finger into a sex toy. Right. So your partner could use it on you. Or you can use it on you. Oh my God. That's the best part. I think so too. I think anyone can wear it.

Right. And what about the Jimmy Jane Hello, the Hello touch? I haven't used that. I love the concept. Right. I really want. But he like actually he gave me. I was in his office right when he was launching it Ethan

Yeah, and he and he was it was like not even out yet. It was a kind of a prototype, but It's pretty amazing. It the way it goes on your fingers It's like it's kind of like a more advanced thing over. It was on two of your fingers Yeah, and I was at the partner of the time we use it and it was amazing because you could stick your fingers all in and they vibrate It's it's really cool. It's called the Hello Touch. Hello Touch. It's super great. Jimmy Jane actually has a lot of really good clip vibes. Again, they're also expensive, but they're, but I really, I really love the reasons why

they're so expensive. Right. Well, Ethan's a designer too. Yeah. The founder of it. Yeah. He and I started, you were in San Francisco. We started the section of Emily.

He started Jimmy Jane. I started the section of Emily the same year in 2006 and we met at a party. Oh, it's so fun. So random and San Francisco is that I'm doing sex toys and like I'm doing this. And he was like my fourth we met at a party. Oh, so random and everyone just goes Yeah, I'm doing sex toys. I'm like I'm doing this and he was like my fourth guest on the show ever Yeah, so world buddies and um, yeah, I love the form two and the form three So those are some other yeah, so I think I've talked about them in a while, but again, that's Sex with Emily dot com slash good vibes

Cupid and code Emily if you want to get any of these okay, so what about couples? How do you feel about all the couple vibrators they talk about? Now, there's all these remote controls. There's the new Wevi 4. I haven't tried the 4 yet. So Wevi, they always say, is the best couples vibrator. And I'm going to be honest, I have tried the first two. Didn't love, because it moves around,

and the 4s will be better. What do you think? Well, I haven't used the 4 yet either. The industry sort of went upside down when they heard that the four was coming out. And it was such a secret. And only certain distributors were gonna get it. And no one knew what it looked like

and how it was gonna be different. And meanwhile, I'm kind of sitting there being like, ho hum. Right. Because the wee vibe is so successful because it's such an innovative concept. And it was the first time anyone explained it. How would you explain the wee vibe?

It looks like, put your finger in the shape, like you're gonna make it quack like a duck, like duck, like quacking finger puppet. way that it looks like. But put your finger in the shape like you're going to make it quack like a duck like duck like a quacking finger puppet and it essentially looks like that. Like a sea. Looks like a seara you shape. One end the thumb end if you're making this sort of duck shape with your hand goes inside of the woman and hits and sits in her vagina up against the G spot. The longer end goes up and hits on her clip.

So it's sort of like it's, it's like paper clipped into your vagina. Exactly. Then you just, you loop yourself up until you are, you can't stand that much loop. And then he sticks his dick into your vagina while that other extension still in you. Right. So it's eventually the vibration too, which he'll like. Yep. It's supposed to trap the weave I've essentially in place with his dick and with enough lube so that as you guys have intercourse, it stimulates your clit and your gspurt at the same time and him and then makes everyone happy and come at the same time. Right, exactly.

That's the utopic idea. The first two versions unfortunately were, they missed the mark just because it's essentially a one size fits all vibe for women who are not one size fits all right and it slips around oh and it wiggles and wobbles it doesn't stay in place no but it was the worst thing ever basically for me the guy who was with his dick was just fucking huge so like let's just be real uncomfortable but the my where my vagina and clitor are there's like there's a lot of space right some women not a lot of not a lot of space. Some women, not a lot of stays.

So essentially the longer part of the wee vibe was just over my clit and then went to like windshield wipers, go from side to side. Exactly, as a play. Can we, let's just take it out, get it out. That's all I felt too. And the silicone they use was like medical grade silicone, but the kind of silicone you'd probably find on your windshield wipers. It was sticky and it would catch on hair.

It was sticky, that's right. Oh god, it was the worst. It was the worst. So are there any good couple vibes now that you do like? Well, yeah, I have to say the wave I before, I can't say. Right, we're not trying, yeah, like I want one. Like I just said, good vibes and semi-lobs, I want to try it. Like I want to love it.

They downgraded the size considerably, which I think was really important. They also, it's remote controlled, so you don't have to sort of like reach into you like you're removing a tampon while you're having sex to adjust the speed. It's also the kind of silicone that Jiju or Jimmy Jane or Lilo uses. It's a very silky soft smooth satiny stuff, kind. So I have to say, I mean, there's no way it's not worse.

It's gotta be better than the first couple of wee vibes. Are there any other couple of vibrators out there though that you think are cool? I mean that's yeah. Okay. Tell me. Well Lilo just came out with I can't remember what it's called. Tell the series. It's something. I know what you mean. Yeah. I mean I'm not my page. My section is on me.com. Such a vibes page. It's called I know what you mean. It's pink and it's like a white top and it's like yeah I think that it's black and gold too. I'm pretty sure. It's essentially, it's funny. Wevi was upset when they came out with it because it's a similar concept. Right.

It's dual use. It's in your vagina while he has sex with you with a literal extension that, you know, it's both so stimulating you. And it's just sort of like a fancier, cooler looking. It looks like the Starship Enterprise. Right. If I'm going to get guys.

It's a little bit. And I think it's, I don't know if it's remote control. I haven't even seen it up. I think it is. I think it is. That's what I've heard. Yeah. So that's a new one. Right.

But for the most part, I think that there, I think that regular sex toys get a bad rap. I think that you automatically assume that it's not a couple sex toy because it's phallic or just is something that you hold on to. And so I really like to call most sex toys couples toys. I agree. I accept. I absolutely accept rabbit vibes. Rabbit style. I probably will always consider like personal use because it's kind of like it's you just sit there and let it happen.

Exactly. And that's your partner can use it on you. Right. Which a lot of guys get into that. I think yeah, which would take a little bit of finance. Over your with. Yeah. Whoever you're with.

It's really just about like what you're into and if your partner feels like getting in on the game right. Exactly. Okay. So what about penis rings? Cock rings, if you will. I gotta say that there's one other product. I just thought I'll go tell me. There's something. And I'm maybe I'll be on a slight soap box, but there's such focus on orgasm as the goal with sex toys. And I get it. We all want that. It makes us feel powerful and good. Yadda Yadda.

There's an underserved category that a couple products serve, but are, I think, misunderstood, sort of like the weird kid in school, right? That really focus on a rousal and not necessarily the end goal of having an orgasm, but really focus on how good this feels and focusing on your partner and your partner focusing on you and maybe breathing a little bit and not being so stressed out about like, am I going to come in an hour? What does my face look like right now? One of them is the rebel body. Okay. Which, it's bizarre, it looks like some sort of futuristic orb. Right. I have it, but I lost the charger. There's so many other ones.

I know. I'm so bound. I have it. It's just one of those things where you could have an orgasm with it sure, but it has a low rumble that really feels great as a massage device and it really can turn you on with your partner. I haven't personally used it yet, but I've gotten this feedback from all of my girlfriends who are just like, tell your clients to make more things like this.

Oh, good. And there's one other product that is super bizarre and a little bit futuristic in ahead of its time. Okay. But it's called the Afterglow. Okay. I think it just came out like a month ago, but I heard about it right before Valentine's Day.

And it's a rabbit style vibrator, but it not only does it vibrate, it has these LED plates, light emitting diodes, like we'll get all star track again. that emit a very particular light wave while it vibrates. In this light wave, it makes it... It makes it... It's being beamed up to the universe. No seriously, I call this thing a phaser set on stun.

It actually pulses a very specific light energy at a certain wavelength that... When it's inside you. Well, it's... Yeah. Or it can be on your clit it's okay it's a rabbit vibe and it basically makes your body it triggers your body to create a certain sex chemical that dilates your blood vessels and makes you swollen and encorged and it's weird because I didn't know about it before I tried it I was just sort of like excited to have any toy to

try right and I wasn't right right and I didn't understand why I was so like hot and swollen on down there and my boyfriend was like this is rad who fucking cares why I felt good yeah and and almost more so than the mediocre orgasm I had with it because I have since then I've had better ones it's sort of taken patients and trial and error okay but what do the LAD lights what what's the purpose of those is to engorge you so that you will be able to have more orgasms yeah either either for women who never had an orgasmm ever, or to make your orgasms more intense by having more blood flowing to the sensitive area, or even if you don't have an orgasm at all, it almost like prepares the vagina to intake the penis in a way that

it'll almost like hug it, Like it's like a tight sleeve. Oh, hugger the penis. It's funny. It's something that was so unexpectedly fun for us when we tried it that I just I'm telling everyone else because after the after. Yeah, I think it's afterglosscience.com. Okay. It seriously is a techie toy.

That's cool though. And it's very cool. It's techie for real. Not the kind of techie that most of these companies say. Right. Like it's a whole new site. Like a doctor made it. It hasn't.'s it's techy for real. Not the kind of techy that most of these companies say They're like it's a whole new site right? It's a whole it hasn't it has nothing to do with the one that's exactly That's really cool. Okay. I love that and then the penis ratio. There's so many of them out there and And I feel like you know, you could buy like the screaming. Oh, which are like disposable They also make nice ones, but then there's like you know, um, Jay's you also makes it what's the deal?

I like that one. But we've talked about this, but there's some interesting tricks that people don't realize like it's men love it. Yeah. Because, well, I can help them stay harder longer. Their penis looks huge. Yes. It can look a lot bigger using an impact.

And it has a vibration on it. So when you're having sex with a woman, it feels, it hits her clitoris. And you just the right way. And so I've heard a lot of different ones, Jimmy Jane has one, which ones are your favorite? Well, I always like, I mean, I tell friends always go for the screaming Oh, mostly because they have the widest variety. And there are so many low commitment. So you just buy something for seven to $15.

That's really cheap. And you don't have to dispose of them that they do have replaceable batteries. if you're into it And they just starter it's the gateway ring It's a gateway ring right just like a pocket rocket Because they have some that just have this one disposable if you know if you want to get rid of the evidence I was give those to friends like and they're super fun I think house party and they're super stretchy So they're actually not really a cock ring

So if you're kind of freaked out to have your dick really squrenched just by a by a regular screaming O-ring, it literally is just like a ring that keeps the vibrator in place. But if you really want to like upgrade any of the other cock rings are cool, they have vibrators on the top, they have some that are on the bottom for your balls, they have some that actually have like, like, testicles. Yeah, the balls feel go and tough them up through the, through the ring. A lot of guys might not have experienced that. Yeah, some of them have rings that are for the dick and then the shaft, shaft excuse me and then for the balls. So it actually like has this sort of double ring. Yeah. And there's just a couton. So you just have to go

on to good vibes and check out what's there. Yeah, just check if they have so so many things and yeah, you just try and see if you like because it really is not only is that like, you know, nothing is one size fits all. I mean, in life, if you think about it, like, I could tell you that I love this way. You wait by and really Emily, it wasn't my thing, you know, it's just fine. You just got to experiment. You just have to see how you like it. Try some different things.

Some of the most popular, which is a kind of interesting, a little bit of a trend, is some of the non-vibrating caulk rings, or some of the screaming-os best sellers. And for a little while, we were wondering, like, what was the law about one thing? Yeah, it's called the Ringo. It's just like a super stretchy headband hair band, whatever. And basically, we found that men were purchasing them to wear them under their clothes because it gives them a permabulge. So, are they hard or just make some balls up?

No, you could get hard if you turned on, but basically it just makes your whole area distance your penis. Yeah, it puts your dick and your balls perfectly on top of each other and that kind of pulls them away from your body a little and then they kind of engorge a tad so they're just like fatter. So you put jeans on super bold or if you're like a go-go boy and you're dancing around, you want to impress your heart. So that's what all the go-go boys are wearing. All the go-go boys and the right people are also advertising. It's like the push up rods.

It's absolutely. It's going on the push up rods. It's going to push up dick for men. Absolutely. That's hilarious. But okay, now everyone's going to go, we're not going to buy it, but why not? We've got to try to, it's so cheap. Like why the fuck not?

Right. exactly. I personally think you're done. If you refuse still, if it's sitting in front of you and you still refuse to try it, I think that you're just gonna buy it. Because I always say you gotta expand your socks like it should be constantly be expanding and trying new things, sex is the most,

it's why we're here on earth. That's the most amazing thing we can experience. You might as well try something different, try a toy, watch porn, whatever, I mean, whatever it is that turns you on, I just feel like so many couples get into these, you know, as we know, rats and they need to do some different, not that that would happen to you. But it happens everywhere. I know you're right. It's even happened to me. That's why I don't commit right now. So, but what about the best way of you heard to introduce like, there's so many, it's funny because I've been

with men who are like, oh my god, you're so open with your toy. I mean, they're all of my apartment, they're all in my house and they're like, you're so open, I've never been with a woman who actually showed me toys or brought it out. I'm like, well, sometimes I'm just like, can you help me test this? But I think a lot of women have the toys, but they're embarrassed and they don't know how

to like breathe that gap of like bringing in. I'm not saying you do the first date, like I do, the first time I've sex with someone. But yeah, what would you say just? People like to bring it out and to be like, hey, well, it's important to have the conversation beforehand. And it's, yeah, I mean, I've made a bit mistake because like for me, it's the weather. Yeah, you're just like, here's my cat, here's my new couch, here's my butt plug. And you're just like, wait, why are you upset and offended? It's really fun for a play, like, totally forolating for a play on the second or third date

while you're having drinks especially to sort of like, so what are you into? Right. And then you just have that conversation and eventually you're gonna start talking about, well, I can't really like putting things in my ass. And just go from there, because obviously he's gonna be, you know,

drooling watching you wait for you. What's the point of clubs here? Like any particular, but fun? Oh, yeah. Tell me. I mean, enjoy. You ask anyone in the industry. I love the enjoys.

Enjoy is amazing. Enjoy the end. I'll be all the letter N, J, O, Y. Good vibes. Absolutely. Oh my god. It's my favorite. Greg is just a wonderful human who literally is just like I want.

I want something that looks and feels like this. So I'm going to make a bunch of them and make a company. Right. And they're solid stainless steel, very heavy butt plugs, which, when you think about it, you're like, why the hell would I want that in my ass? But it's not something uncomfortable. It's heavy for reasons. So it hits against your prostate.

If you're a dude or it hits against your vaginal wall. So when you're wearing it and then a dick goes inside your vagina You're essentially making a g-spot sandwich with your g-spot being the lunch meat and you have the dick and the and the Butt plug pressing up against each other. It is incredible for both partners, right? And They're not a lot of you don't share with them, but they're right. You don't and I get it I didn't like it for a while I went to the partner for four years who didn't like butt sex

So I was like that's cool meaning there right and didn't like it for a while. I got it. I was the partner for four years who didn't like butt sex, so I was like, that's cool, me neither. Right. And then when I was with a partner who was into it, I was just like, okay, what's the most striking? You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl.

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You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to eat a giant bowl. You got to have a partner who is just as cool with things going wrong as you are. So you're going to see, I mean, like, you're going to see things you don't want to see. And that's the risk of having but sex. And if you're not cool with that, go back to kindergarten. Exactly.

We're all up to science. Exactly. Or just don't have but sex and just, you know, eat popcorn and watch porn by yourself. Yeah, exactly. Keep doing that, guys. Okay. So we've said a few more seconds. I know you're going to show me your toys in your car.

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as making sex better for him. Right, and that's exactly where they're wrong. I'm glad you asked me that. It's not often that men don't achieve orgasm, right? So you really do want to make sure that she can get there too. It not been all about the orgasm, but you want to unlock the secrets of her desire, which can sometimes seem impossible to guys But there are some tricks of the trade that will get her aroused

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I don't care. Blindfolder increases her sensory awareness. Sight, smell, touch, vibrations. And the fact that she doesn't know what you're doing or where you're going next can also be a great turn on and create anticipation, which is a very crucial element to having hot sex. Finally, sharing fantasies. Don't tell her all your sick fantasies to start but you can say, hey babe, I have a fantasy about you coming over here dressed in a negligee. What's

your fantasy? And she can say, I really want you to change my life, Bob. Whatever it is. I really want you to clean the garage. Yeah, I wish I had to clean the garage. But you know, I I think this is a great way to having better sex with women is actually talking to them about it. Exxon. Communication is a lubrication during. Oh, I don't forget. See what you did there.

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