Sex With Emily - SWE: The Bush

Episode Date: October 26, 2012

In this throwback episode Emily talks about bushes, from George W. Bush to the 70’s hair down-there trend. She also discusses breast orgasms, bondage, and Black Swan girl-on-girl action. Also, just in time for Halloween, an Oregon couple gives out some sexual trick or treats--- “three musketeers or a condom anyone?” Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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or Twitter, Emily Morse, M-O-R-S-E. Here's the topics in some of the letters, some of the emails, hair down there, gold diggers, this has come up a lot, circumcision, and plus we're gonna be reading some sex tips, how to make the sex better for the woman as well as sex in the news. Hey, men, it's happy Friday. I know. I'm very excited because Black Friday is coming soon. And you know me. I love shopping. You hate it. No, I know. You love shopping. I love shopping. I don't know this about you.

What do you mean you love shopping? Oh, we've got to see you never listen to anything? I do listen. I just don't remember remember. I said all I like going shopping because your mom took me shopping. I just need a little reminder to bring you back to the whole story now and your mom and the childhood and you love shopping. Yeah. We go shopping sometime. Oh, let's go shop. Plans this week. We did? Well, we talk. See, you don't remember anything that I say. What? Last week I said to you, we talked about it. We're like, yeah, we'll do something next week. Did that thing happen? Oh, yeah, yeah. Yeah, yeah, didn't happen.

Well, my schedule got changed last minute. Yeah, whatever, mine too. I'm super busy. I'm gonna work early in the morning now. No time for you, you are. Yeah, okay. But let me tell you something that was cool. Okay.

This week. I got invited to go to Pixar. Cool. Right, so I go to Pixar and they're like, yeah, we want to show the screening of this movie. And the movie is called The Black Swan. It comes out December 1st and Natalie Portman's in it. I'm telling you, Natalie Portman's Fajina gets violated the entire movie from beginning to end. What do you mean it gets violated? It means there's a ton of masturbation in it. A Pixar film?

It's not a Pixar film. Oh, they viewed it there. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. There's a masturbation. There's other guys doing things too. Really? Was it hot?

It was pretty hot. And there's some girl and girl action that is more girl and girl action that I've seen in a movie than any other movie. Oh my god, Natalie Portman stepping out. She hasn't done anything that crazy lately. So I weren't her last few movies kind of flops. I haven't. From what I know about culture.

I haven't seen pop culture. But I feel like she hasn't been, she's always a star. She's always got that sort of elevated status. Whatever she does, people love Natalie Portman. They always have. But I don't feel like there's been anything that she's unlikely and this sounds like this could either be really great for a career really bad for a career oh no the people are saying that she's gonna be nominated wow awards and so why so much sex and

is it like violate violation size it like hot sex that she's consenting to is it yeah it's stuff that she's consenting to I think but the reason the point is that is it's all throughout the movie is because she is so uptight so people are like you need to be you know less uptight from the people surrounding her so that's why this comes out and so she is it hot to watch your masturbate yeah it's pretty hot and there's some funny, funny parts. Really? Oh, good.

I definitely recommend it. It's an awesome movie. It was made by the guy who did the wrestler. Oh, okay. That was great movie. Yeah, so check out the last one. One of the movies that I've seen in the last three years. Yeah, check out the, okay.

You watch that movie? Yeah. Are you serious? Yeah, why is that weird? I don't know, I just think this. I only see movies when I'm dating someone. So I was dating someone and I thought, otherwise I don't leave my house. I mean I leave my house, but usually I'm working The the rest of her had this perception that it was so indie so I'm now I'm not surprised

Yeah, cuz I like indie films only see indie films and I only go you know what other film I saw this week Hence on a date. Yeah Was the social network. Did you see it? The Facebook movie? Did you like it? What do you mean, of course? You always see movies?

I loved it. And it reminded me. I thought it was so good about his and being just so driven. I know snow so many people like that in the living in the Bay Area, or home just so many geniuses and billionaires who have made so much money off of different companies. And I just feel like it just captured that energy and like his drive and his genius. And the thing that was so interesting was, you know, that just the way Facebook was, it's all about Facebook and how he started Facebook when he was at Harvard, if you haven't seen

it yet, which probably everyone's saying it, I'm seeing it a little late. But the interesting part, I love the part because this ties into something that I wanted to mention that he says, how he decided to put in relationship status in Facebook that he was sitting there in class and some guy comes up He goes, hey, you know that girl is sits behind you and you know chemistry like what's her? Do you know she's dating she in a relationship and also he's like ding and he runs upstairs and he's like relationship status And that has become such a huge part of Facebook and that's how you figure out like who's dating who's not Who's what everyone's doing so I thought that was what I want to talk to you But the biggest point of that entire story that we swept on the rug

You were on a date. So what's going on? Okay, and he make you now or what I didn't make out no But I was out of date with the guy from LA. I mean no, we made out not in the movie theater But we shared popcorn which was not good popcorn actually by the way Which pissed me off, but that's another story. Yeah, it's the guy from LA. He's in town and we went to a movie and hung out and This guy from LA that just flies up to see you. He like makes excuses like yes, you know, he has no business really Inceran sense he says he has business here. He's gonna be here again for business on Monday. Oh really? Yeah, isn't that funny? What's his what's the business? I don't know. I can't see. He's starting to be here again for business on Monday. Oh, really? Yeah. Isn't that funny? What's the business? I don't know. I can't see. Starting to start up company.

Yeah. So it was fun. I like them. I just, I don't know. I'm afraid that my mandatoryum, well, while it was really great for me, it also made me realize how much I really enjoyed my company and being alone. Really? I was ready for him to, like, I was, it was great, but I was like, okay, time to, time to, time to get to flight, isn't it? You are like, I'm harsh. I was great but I was like okay time to time to get to flight isn't it you are like I'm harsh I know but I really like him I think he's awesome I'm not I am becoming into a little hermit state I know it's kind of bad but no it's not bad it's not

bad it's just interesting I have so much going on with this sexual thenly craziness there it's kind of all these things the bravo show book the opportunity a lot of things that I'm creating and writing and I'm at home and I'm reading sex and I get sex school homework, which I haven't really even done yet, but I've got all these books to read and like hundreds of DVDs to watch and a lot of them are sex related.

I'm not gonna get afraid for your wellbeing until you get a cat. I was not exactly. Because when you become the crazy cat lady then. I just had to my friends, I'm like, like, how was your date? I'm like, just beware when I start calling you about cats. And I said the same thing.

But no, I like him. And then this other guy I'm going out with this weekend, he wants to cook me dinner at his house. Really? Yeah. And I, he's a really good chef. He's really good cook, apparently. And I've never, you Yeah, and I, he's a really good chef. He's really good cook apparently. And I've never, you know, I store, I store my oven to storage. Basically, I have like

sweaters and books in there, which is bad because they get sex toys. They even call my oven because I've never used my oven. And he's like, oh, I hope you'll think it's good. I'm like, anything better than frozen dinner, which is what I, you know, that's so anyway, that'll be fun. But, um how you dating am I dating no? Okay, you're still in your 30 days so Bitorium No, oh, oh drinking. Yeah, no, I'm not drinking till March until I go to Austin, Texas Okay, perfect. You know what's interesting though the Facebook thing why why it struck me is because This has been this is a phenomenon that's happened lately with a bunch of friends that I know and myself who are dating people.

And do you realize that? I don't know if this is happening in your world, but people are not becoming friends with people they're dating on Facebook right away. Like I think it's too soon. You wait at least a month or two, what are you dating someone until you become friends on Facebook? Like no one, neither person wants to. But of course you like see their profile. You can see as much as they'll show, but you don't become friends on Facebook. Like no one, neither person wants to. But of course you like see their profile.

You can see as much as a little show, but you don't become friends. It becomes like a moment in your relationship when you become friends, but it's not like, hey, wanna go on a day two, say then someone ask you to be friends. I feel like there's this certain waiting period, like about 30 to 60 days before people are actually

becoming friends if you're dating someone. If you're not dating, fine, become friends right away. But if you're dating, you don't become Facebook friends right? Because it reveals so much about your life. And it's almost like, how are we even gonna get to start a note here that you're gonna see the 10 parties I went to last week or all these people that I'm whatever,

writing on my wall? And I think it's good to keep a little of that anonymous. It's like opening up your entire world to them in like five seconds. And then it's become such a detective service. I know. Because once you say tell all your friends, like, oh, I'm going to go out and date with this guy.

They're like, oh, let me see his Facebook page. Exactly. And then so they do surveillance on the Facebook page when you're not watching it. Exactly. So they're like, oh, I saw him. He just posted this thing. You know, or you log, I've logged into a friend's Facebook to see a guy that I wasn't dating anymore. This actually is one of the letters someone emailed in about emails about, should you

be friends with your exes on Facebook? We'll get into that later, but it's like, should, you know, do you think that you should be friends with your exes on Facebook? I feel like it depends on the ex. Some exes have befriended me because they just didn't want to see what was happening, but like my exes from 10 years ago were all friends on Facebook. Yeah, I don't care personally. Right.

I don't care either. I'm like, you can see my world. What do I care? I really don't. So, I think, so then, okay, so then this week, I was a total, I was like, MacGyver. So here's the thing. This guy, I really was. I have to say that this is another thing about what I realized having a man in my life, this guy was here last weekend,

for two nights. And there were certain things that were really good about having a man around. And I realized since I don't have a man around like he fixed my shelf, which has been broken for five years, he fixed the light in my car. This sounds really silly, but you know when you turn off the lights to your car, the light goes on so you can see it and then you shut the door and the light turns off. Well, for the three years I've had my car, I have to manually turn it on because some switch got hit that never. And he fixed it and literally it changed my like, I'm so happy getting out of the car now. And I like, I need a man in my life just to come and fix it. Just to kind of make things work smoothly. He fixed my shelf, he fixed that, he did something else.

I'm like, he's a good guy. Men are important. They can be good for those things. And sex, of course. But the sex is, you know, interesting. Yeah. Yeah. I talk about my sex life a lot.

Don't I was talking to these guys that we could be like, you don't talk about your sex life enough. While you've apparently said you haven't had a sex life. I have an sex life. And I have had sex now lately. You bet. I know this is such a,

you're just sweeping on look. This is supposed to be like a big thing. I know, I know, this is a big thing and I did have sex. You have sex. I feel like I was interviewed by this other guy who has a podcast and he interviewed me and he's like, have you had sex?

I'm like, yes, I'm like, oh my God, I haven't even told my listeners that I had sex. Wow. So I did have sex. It was uneventful. What? How this happened? I hope to God that people don't listen to this show that I have sex with.

It was just fine. I just, how did this happen? We were dating for a little bit. One of the guys that was dating and we had sex. And it was, it was interesting. It was good. It wasn't like earth shattering amazing, but it was good. Was there wine of it in?

Was there wine involved? Yeah, we had a few glasses of wine. Yeah, okay. I'm just trying to see how this went down So it went down Well, we'd been dating we got on a few dates and several for like two months and then we had sex and it was just I don't know I think that you cannot this is an important point you cannot judge sex on the first time you have sex with someone. You just can't because sex can definitely get better over time. In fact, usually it does. And so, I mean, I've had a lot of friends.

My friend just had sex with a guy for the first time and she called me and she's like, oh my God, it was really bad. You didn't get that hard. And I think a lot of times men are nervous at the beginning, the first time they have sex. Sometimes, do you forget nervous the first time? Yeah, the first time you were born. And you're like're like, you want to perform, and you're like, oh my god, in so much of sexual issues that men have, like with the can't get her heart or the can't stay hard, it has to do with psychological functioning, like they're nervous or whatever.

So I just think you got to give people a chance. So I give them a chance. So I did a sex, whatever, didn't like rock my world, but was it just one time? Yeah, just one time. Just one time. Okay. rock my world, but was it just one time? Yeah, just one time. Just one time. Okay. Yeah. Why is it not lying? It's true. It's one time. It was one time. It was fine. It's not so many lies. I don't get buried on it. It's not smiling. No, but it was good. It was interesting. Okay. Oh my god. But someone was saying, like, you don't talk about your own style. I was like, I do, though, talk about my sex life. But I could get into it more. And maybe I will in recent weeks since I was off of it for so long.

But what I'm saying is, my life is perfectly full and fine without it right now, which is ironic because I have a sex show. But it also seems that the thing that is so lately that has been interesting too is that, and I talked to this guy about it because having the sex talk show that I think they got and I mentioned this I think a few weeks ago that the number one question that I get asked and that guys get asked when they're dating me is like Our men intimidated by you do they think they oh you know everything and you're the sex expert and I do not think of myself Though even though I guess I am I by product of doing the show for five years and I know a ton about sex and I'm in sex school But I never really thought because I'm a whole person and I'm not just sex with Emily that you've someone get intimidated

But sure enough this guy told me that like it did make him a little nervous So I think that this question that he will ask me is kind of true that people get like a little Tipped up on it like a chic-specting certain things and do I have to back flips and I don't. I would just be afraid that I would suck and then you would tell everybody about it. I don't talk about, I don't name names. Like you just did. I don't name names. It was uneventful.

Did I say that? And it was pretty much, you're saying it was awful. No, it wasn't awful. It just wasn't like, oh my God, this is the best thing that's ever happened to me. Yeah. And I've had those experiences too, but I think maybe we're both a little rusty, I don't awful. It just wasn't like oh my god. This is the best thing that's ever happened to me Yeah, and I've had those experiences too, but I think me oh maybe we're both a little rusty. I don't know So

There you have it. Okay, should we what will we go? No, no, it's gonna wait for you to go to the next thing You're done. I'm done moving to some sex in the news sex sucked in now removing on honey Don't don't caps like that because I don't know who listens to the shows and it's so funny because do you remember this last year I was dating this guy yeah and he said that he's like I don't listen to your show I've never oh yeah when is it on he made it like

what is it it's a part what a pizza but so sure enough I came on the show and I said menace I dated this guy and he babed me on the second day he's like hey babe babe downstairs. I'm like, I just got prematurely bathed. So he heard me say that and then like the next day he texted me, he's like, hey babe, ha ha ha. I'm like, I said, you know, listen to my show. So they do listen. So I... Well, you should tell them if you're gonna listen to my show, don't be a pussy. Exactly.

Yeah. FYI, men says, don't be a pussy. Don't be a pussy and don't be a crybaby Say it's pretty right. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. How I'm gonna get material if I'm not dating you and sleeping with you and okay sex in the news Awkward George Bush reveals he'd ruckianly asked about female guest sex life during dinner party with his parents This was a long time ago. Me know that George Bush used to have a drinking problem. Yes. Or someone say once you've a drinking problem, you always have a hearing of it. I've seen videos of it. Really? There's videos on the internet. I've never seen it. I've never seen it. Awesome. Love to see those. Former US President George Bush has revealed he once got so drunk, he questioned a woman about her sex life in front of his wife and parents. Mr. Bush, who said he quit drinking in 1986, said in an interview with the Today Show, he asked his parents' friends the inappropriate questions

during a dinner. His outburst was greeted with total silence and serious daggers from the guest. So I'm drunk at the dinner table at Mother and Dad's house in Maine. He told host Matt Lauer in his first TV interview since leaving the White House. And my brothers and sisters are there. My wife Laura is there. And I'm sitting next to a beautiful woman, a friend of mothers and dads. Who says mother and dad? And I said to her out loud,

what is sex life after 50? What is sex like after 50? The woman who was not named saw the funny side eventually, he said, because when the former Texas governor turned 50, she said, I'm gonna ask him, well, George, how is the sex? Mr. Bush, 64, said he'd love a fair with alcohol, but never thought about having a drink when he was in, she said, I'm gonna ask him, well, George, how is the sex? Mr. Bush 64 said he'd love a fair with alcohol, but never thought about having a drink when he was

in the White House. Right after I quit drinking, I was thinking about drinking, he said, but with the time I got to the White House, I hadn't had a drink in a very long time. So George Bush is interested in sex. How about that? I like that. It sounds like George Bush was a guy

that you would want to party with. It sounds like exactly. It sounds like he needs another drink, maybe, because then he'd be more fun. Maybe he should have had a drink when he was in the White House when we'd be in a better situation right now. I don't know. Can you imagine him sitting there dinner

with his parents being like, so has your sex life? But I love that the woman remembered in like, circled back years later. And he's like, how is your sex life? That's awesome. Awesome. OK, sex toy drive-through. An Alabama shop is to offer window service

So they're a sex shop and they're they're opening a drive through sex shop in Huntsville, Alabama Pleasures a one-stop romance shop that challenged Alabama's ban on sex toys has a unique claim to fame It will feature three sex toy drive through lanes at its new university drive look at three three and First of all, they're out there are there are there are outlawed sex was out to us x toys are still outlawed in like two to three states and which one's i think like texas is one and taxis yeah you can't have sex like literally they're illegal to have sex toys mean they still have them but they're legal

move the taxes what oh you did not have to take this you won't have to hear me talking about sex toys that's why i'm going to us and just because they don't like sex toys. Exactly. I'm going to put some contraband in your bag and get you arrested. Pleasers owner, Cherry Williams said the store will be the first such store in the country

to sell adult toys through a drive-through window. Items such as toys, loobs, and stimulants will be delivered through the drive-through drawer in a brown paper bag according to the store news release. So yeah, they're not allowed there. The case is that they are, Williams and her store do national attention during a legal fight that sought to overturn Alabama's ban on sex toys on the ground of a constitutional right to privacy.

So they're still opening the store even though it's illegal. How about that? Would you go through a drive-thru step so I would? I'm not. Well, actually, I am surprised. You are, but. No, I am surprised that it took so long for this to happen. Because when I was driving across country, I was driving through like Wyoming

and I don't know what other states that I saw this. But on the side of the freeway, there would be nothing around. It would just be fields. And then there's just a sex shop right on the side of the freeway. Yeah, we had those in Michigan. It was called Velvet Touch and we used to drive up to school and we'd be like, oh my god, it was like dirty old men smoking cigars and like, yeah, so it wasn't like a nice, like

a good vibration. It's like what we have in terms of. Yeah, so it would have been, I think it would be more convenient for those shops that are on the side of the freeway. Exactly. It would be drive through. I'm drive through. I know. Maybe we'll start that that are on the side of the freeway. Exactly. It would be drive-through. I'm drive-through. I know.

Maybe we'll start that year. It's go on the freeway. It's a good business. Maybe. We'll see what happens in Alabama, but I appreciate them challenging the legislation. Okay. Couples give out condoms to trick-or-treaters. Having a safe Halloween took on a different meeting in one organ neighborhood where trick-or-treating

teenagers receive condoms in their goody bags. Danielle and Kathleen Harris of Silverton, Oregon tell the statesman, journal, the free condoms were part of their effort to promote health. They handed out, they also handed out toothbrushes as well as candy bars. The father of one four-year-old girl who received condoms, Danielle Cate, was offended and said it was inappropriate to give them children without parents consent. Kathleen Harris has given the condom to the four to the 14 year old was oops, a mistake. She says her usual practices to ask teens

if they're 16 or older and they're given them a speech unsafe sex. I just wanted one, like a three musketeers. I would not want a condom. I always hated those people that gave you toothbrushes and apples. I was like really, like do we have paper, parpennings?

Those were always about bakonins, you kick it. How are you going to tell if someone you're going to think, hello, first of all, that makes your job a lot harder as the one handing out candy or like what are you checking IDs can you deserve a condom? I mean, I appreciate that the parents want them promote good sex, but healthy sex life. But I don't think you should be able to condom as a Halloween.

No, you should. Kind of a bus kill. So that's what happened there. All right, that's my sex in the news for today. Good. I like it. I liked all the stories. You did. Especially George Bush.

George Bush knows how to party. You'm not I'm not supporting George Bush. I'm I'm really like extremely do not care about politics, right? But uh, I the here fun stories about people getting wasted. I support that Yeah, you do Exactly. I know you do money. Yeah George Bush getting. Yeah, you always heard stories about him like party in college Yeah, definitely if you google heard stories about him like party in college. Yeah, definitely. If you Google, I've seen him, you, you know, there's funny videos of him wasted at parties talking into camera. See, but that makes me nervous when people just quit drinking without a program.

Like, I have a lot of friends who are in AA or several friends, not like all my friends, but RNA or alcoholics, not a mess. Like, it's good to have a program. When you just quit drinking, you become like a dry drunk And you don't really have an outlet for it to release those feelings that come along with that drinking if you're addicted to drinking So I wonder if he's got any help for his drinking not sure he has I don't know hope not he might start drinking again What's he got to do now? He just wrote a book hanging out on the ranch. He's hanging out with his security Did you watch him during the world's here? They're during the World Series? No, I watched any of the games. I watched the second game and the last game. Did I tell you this last week that I got I did that I got stuck in the

giant spray? Yes, I did. With a million people and I couldn't move and I was sweating and scared and I couldn't move like with like crowd mentality. Okay, let's move into some mail here. Okay, which is that? My favorite part. I know. I need to mention that every single time. Every time. Just wanted to say, I love the 70s porn and the Harry Bush. May not be in Vogue, I'm only 24,

and I tell my wife to keep the bush, not out of control, but natural is fine with me. Sign Jim. So this was coming on the heels of me talking about my sex school class where I had to watch like a 50 films of the biggest bushes You've ever seen and they're not just like the bushes like it's a it grow it's like everywhere On to the legs and stuff on to the behind I mean it is they didn't they didn't shave like they weren't trimming

They weren't shaving but but this guy is 24 and he likes it I find it wrong with him and he's gonna see a therapist stop it I find that interesting because I've heard stories lately about kids, people, adults who are 20 in their 20s, who actually never have seen the bushes that we've seen growing up. Yes. Like in Playboy or whatever.

Like you saw Playboy growing up, right? Yeah. And you saw the bushes. Yes. And then I was trying then. Were you knowing that this was not good good that was the norm then no you'd weren't I swear you were scared of the bush then I was like this is not good I was I was like thinking that was the norm they weren't going oh I wish people

guys weren't like masturbating a playboy going I wish you'd only shave it be hotter they weren't thinking that thing because it was part of the norm they they weren't but I like this is so interesting that he likes it. A 24 year old. I'm totally down with that. Whatever turns you on. Where's he from? You're up. He's from, he doesn't say where he's from.

It's probably why. No, I don't know. Hi, Emily, I'm enjoying the podcast via sketcher, but he probably means Stitcher. He does. Stitcher is an app that you can, we get so many listeners through Stitcher. It's an app that you can download for your smartphone and listen to all the shows, which is a great

way to take it. And then once you download it, you just search Sex with Damly and then we're right there. Last week you and men has talked about a few interesting subjects. One was Gold diggers in San Francisco. Well, they're the same in New York. All of the girls are looking for men who can get them out of debt, depressing. Also, going to the nude beach. It's not all bad at Halluver Beach in Miami.

Lots of hot ladies and men, and of course a fair share of gay and some not so hot looking bodies, but it's all good. We go for a week every year with friends and have the best time. The people are much more outgoing than I'm a textile beach. We meet the best friends there.

Last, have you ever tried horny goat weed? No, I've got it. It's a natural stimulant. I'm curious curious about it and I'm wondering if you or anyone from your audience has ever tried it. Keep up with the good work and don't forget to delete that picture of your VJJ on your phone. Jim from, we doesn't say where he's from. So Jim, so yeah, I took a picture, okay, so backing up, I, for my sex class, had to take a picture of my vagina, a picture of it, and then I deleted it soon after because it was scared me.

You know that never really deletes. It's a hard drive. No. You're gonna have to put it real. It's still deleted. It's really not. What do I, I don't work with computers every single day? So it's really in my phone?

Yeah, but it can be retrieved or something? Retrieved some way. Can you make sure that that doesn't? It was scary. Not that I was able to do. I know I have a nice vagina. I think it's pretty. You're going to have to put a drill through the phone, but it was really close up. You know, close up photos. It was like, woo. But I had to draw a picture. Anyway, and then gold diggers gold diggers. We got an email last week from someone saying there was tons of gold diggers in Chicago,

too. They're everywhere. There's, yeah, they're all over the place. I should have been a gold digger. In my next life, I'm gonna be a gold digger for sure. I'm just gonna marry Rich and call it that. My friends have been saying lately, like you to even get like a decent woman these days, you have to, you know, have your own apartment,

have a nice car and a good job. Yeah, what's wrong with that? Huh? To be in. Yeah, how old are you? 30? I mean, I would have wanted a guy at 30 to not have roommates. Have a car would be nice, and to have a job.

Yeah, what? Because I want him to buy me things. That's because it shows that he's a responsible going into a responsible man. That's great, but it's not a good time right now. So it's not easy for everybody to have all those things. Right, but it's not how when they don't. But I understand it. Okay. No, no, no, no.

But I don't discriminate again. If a guy's looking for work or whatever, that's fine. But I can understand it's not necessarily your gold digger. Just more like, again, the only thing that you guys. Yeah, but the messed up part is they, they're not the same way. It's not like they have all those things also. The women I know.

Well, because that's societal. It's societal. Oh, okay, it's a societal thing. Well, it is kind of a man who has a job and can be the caretaker and the hunter and the gatherer and all that stuff. So, I- So gold diggers. Not gold diggers.

Just digging for gold. Digging for a man who- They got their mining hats on in their pick-ass. Digging for a man who's not home playing video games all day who has a real job Yeah, I'm not saying it they're talking extremes. I'm just talking that it's not easy these days The right exactly but you do I Believe that anyone of whatever the economy is hard right now it's hard times I'm not gonna believe that everyone can find something but hopefully hopefully, you know, there's ways to make things happen in the world. Okay.

This is for you, Manus. Yes. I hesitate against reading this but I'm reading it anyway. Okay. We do say dude, so you die hesitated for about two seconds. Hey dude, so you don't like hand jobs. You don't like your balls to be touched, but you've tasered yourself in the balls ten times. What's wrong with this picture? A lawyer, a listener since August 2010. I only taste my balls for work purposes. Was that in the contract? Is that legal? I don't know if it's legal, but it's not because, oh, I really want my balls to age today. No, it's like, it did morning radio and you do wacky,

stupid stunts like that, like, you know, but you don't like your balls to be touched. I just don't. I don't again, going back to the hand job, sorry to bring it up. I think that you have an at a woman handle your balls correctly and you haven't had a hand job correctly. Yes, that's what they all say. I am never wavering on this point. And one day, minus you're going to call me, you're going to be like, you were right about the balls and you were right about the hand job and I can't wait for that day and I'll wait.

I'll wait. Wait. But it'll happen. I know it. People are living a lot longer these days. Exactly. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Better relationships equal better sex.

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I searched for sex and immediately my eyes were drawn to your show. I listened on my iPad at work since I drive a cube van all day and your show definitely takes away the boredom. Okay, here's my beef. Several shows ago you talked about circumcision and how it's on the decline in some areas and your discussion wave back and forth around cleanliness and whether whether or not it's ugly. First off, I'm pro circumcision and I'm not circumcised. For one, it's obviously cleaner if circumcised and as an uncircumcised male, it's ugly if it's not circumcised. But you miss two key things, which am I painting is why women should have the least amount of say in the choice. I am by no means a minute man, but I don't less longer than five minutes usually, and I know it's because it is so sensitive that sex just feels too good.

If I were circumcised, that sensation would be nowhere near as intense and sex would last longer, and I wouldn't feel so inadequate. I would circumcise myself now at the age of 28, but I don't know that I could bear the intense change now that I'm a conscious adult, not a newborn baby. Lastly, something you likely never think of, the frenulum. I have a short one, sex hurt that's something in the area and the penis underneath the penis. It hurts unless there's a lot of lube, natural otherwise. Getting oral sex with the new girlfriend was agony, anticipating her pulling the foreskin back too far

and the pain of it telling her about after and they're not understanding what I meant. Circumcision should be mandatory. That brings me to my final comment. Menace is right. Girls can't give hand jobs. They just don't understand where and how it feels good or when certain times require certain moves.

Thanks, guys. I love the show, Menzie. James from Peter's Burrow, Ontario. I love that email. It's beautifully written. It was beautifully written. Good points, mate. Because the circumcision debate is huge.

And he's saying he wishes he was circumcised. And the whole movement right now is to not circumcise men and to say that there is more sensation that we're cutting off essentially the most sensitive part while he's saying, yeah, I'm a lot more sensitive than a circumcised man, but I'm so sensitive that I orgasm in five minutes. Yeah. So to catch 22, you want to have this intense imagination, but only last five minutes or, but it's hard to say, how do you know what you can? Like, could you imagine sitting down with a circumcised man, a circumcised

on circumcised? Because I see when you're circumcised. So, can you imagine sitting down? He's like, Oh, it feels so good. You're like, Oh, it feels so good. Like, how would you even compare what you're is? You can't. Like, my orgasm is good as your orgasm. I don't know. But I always assume everyone's orgasms are better than mine. That's my own inferiority complex. Yes. How about that? Okay, Bonjour. Hello. Found you all in Stitcher.

Emily, concerning Chris bringing his lady to orgasm via breasts. This is a letter we read a few weeks ago. I've been for years bringing my wife to orgasm as my usual four-play prior to intercourse. She is way wet after this. My pinching, flicking, sucking both nipples at the same time for about 40 minutes drives her nuts. For me, there's no relation to small breasts. My wife is lovely 36 C breasts.

I also do this to her while she is having her period and is not capable to have intercourse for about a week and a half. Sincere priorities are on my previous long-winded message. Please do advise on my question concerning laser hair removal on facial and breast for my wife. I think we did comment on this last week. PS, menace, pre-gaming is essential for me and avoids any possible early delivery and I can keep ready much longer. Merci, thanks Michelle, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. Ooh, and Sarah sounds way hot, reminded me of a fantasy of a woman effing me with a strap on. Sarah was on our show last week, she's my

sex school friend who talked all about strap-ons and stuff like that. People love that show. Sarah, she was dirty and great. I can imagine. So okay, so he wife has orgasm through breasts. I have a few friends like that and I hate them. They're so lucky. I just remember now, a girl that I dated about 12 years ago, that she would go crazy when I would touch her breasts. I need to mess around with her now because she had breast implants now. So I got to see. Oh my God.

There's a difference. Why would you get breast implants if you could orgasm through your... Why would you take that risk of taking that away? She wanted them. Oh God, she's so lucky. I have friends like that and they're like, oh yeah, touch my breast and orgasm. I'm like, that doesn't mean me. Although maybe my breast haven't been touched correctly. So you touched their breasts and gave them orgasm? Me? No, I'm saying

my friends. You should try that. I'm saying I have girlfriends who can have orgasms when their breasts are touched, just like that. You should test the theory to make sure it is legit. I should touch their breasts. Yeah, just to make sure. I don't know that I would turn them on some of my friends. I mean, maybe. Yeah. I don't know.

You should say it's part of school and do a research. There is this one class that I have to take in my school that's called a SARS class. And every sexologist has to take it and you have to do hands on sex like probing like stick your fingers up people's butts and stuff. Where? In my sex school. Do you get the pick? No.

No, it's butt, you mean no. I swear, you prostate, I'm prostate massage. What? And you get naked. I swear and this is every sexologist around the country. It's not just my crazy school. It's called SARS, and I'm going to have to do it in February. SARS. Hello, I don't know if you know what. Yeah, but it's

called sexual attitude restructuring something else with the ass. I don't know. And you don't even get the pick. No, you get like a big guy class that you don't want to talk to whatever. I don't know. And then you have to put your finger in his butt. Well, I'm not it's an optional class class, but I hear that it's a ground breaking and then you learn so much about yourself and about your sexuality. And I just feel like part of me feels like since it scares me so much about sticking my finger with a glove up someone else's butt, then I should probably do it.

Okay. But I haven't decided yet. It's an optional class. It's not one of the required class. Now, somebody has to stick their finger in your butt, too Exactly. I'm not done with that either right now Like a random finger, but apparently they train you for it and it's not like the first day They're like here's a glove and put the glove on and stick it in like they're not doing that

But it is they train you to put a figure in some Rebus date massage. Yeah, you might like it if learn, I would do one for you if you wanted to, just only if you wanted to. Wow. Thank you. I you're welcome. OK. Hey, Emily and menace.

Oh, here's the Facebook question. OK. One simple question. Can you be friends on Facebook with your exes and or past sexual partners if you're in a relationship? My boyfriend and I are debating this. However, for his compromise, I've deleted all my ex access and past sexual partners

for my Facebook. His theory is, if you and I cannot be in a room with them without feeling awkward, then they shouldn't be your friend on Facebook. I see his side, but what do you think? Can't wait to hear my thesis theory in this one. Thanks, Michelle from Baltimore. Not Michelle's. What? Not Michelle's. Yeah. I think that, I think that it's case by case basis about being friends with your exes. There's some exes like I broke up with the guy two years ago and he was not happy that we broke up and the first day he defriended me. So I was fine with that. I have access from college, exes people I've slept with on my Facebook.

I mean, I don't think I'd delete everyone that I've ever slept with. But however, I'm not in a relationship. I can understand that when you're in a relationship, you discuss, okay, today's the day that we're putting we are in a relationship on our Facebook status and you should delete other things. That's a big deal. I mean, I think if you still feelings for somebody or you're still stalking their page, maybe it's healthy not to have it on there, healthy to have access on there, but I don't really have a problem with it unless they have a problem with me and then they delete me, but I have never de-friend anybody except for annoying

people who send me invitations at things all the time. I tell you people. Or they comment on everything a little thing I do. Exactly. Delete. What do you think about being friends with your exes or past sexual partners on Facebook? I don't care. And the person that I'm with, if she is friends with other people, I don't care. This is the thing. Why do you care? You are afraid that that person might cheat on you. That's pretty much. Her boyfriend is driving this thing and saying, delete all your own sexual con. They're afraid even it's like emotional or if it's physical, it's all about a whole cheating thing. Right.

And my theory is, it doesn't matter if it's Facebook, Facebook definitely makes it a thousand times easier, but if that person is gonna cheat on you, they're gonna cheat on you no matter what. Exactly. You can't stop it. You can't. You can't. What can happen? Facebook happens all of the no matter what. Exactly. You can't stop it. You can't. You can't.

So what happened? Facebook happens all of the people are always. Yeah. Facebook is like taking over the world. It is. It literally is taking over every. Every cubicle walk by. Somebody's on Facebook every day.

Every day. I know it's all the time. If I'm walking down the street, somebody's looking at their phone. They're looking at Facebook. Exactly. I'm in the elevator. Someone's like, and like, I saw like older women, younger women, men, older, everyone's like, they're afraid they're walking along about to get hit by a bus,

reading their status updates, whatever. And it's crazy how much it is, and everything you can log into using Facebook, it kind of scares me a little bit sometimes. So again, if somebody, I know Facebook makes it really easy for these people, if they are going to cheat on you. To do it, but from having to block the person that you have in the relationship with, from not talking to anybody else, they'll still have another avenue if they are going to cheat on you. Exactly. It doesn't matter. They're still going to cheat.

I actually blocked the first person from Facebook. Have you ever blocked anyone? Yeah, but. I had an ex psycho ex that ended badly. Mm-hmm. That I de-friended or he de-friend, I de-friended him because it was crazy. And then six months later he tried to be my friend again. He's like, hey, let's be friends and I just blocked him completely.

Yeah. From seeing my helpful file. But that was because he was like, oh, oh, here's the new thing. Here's the new thing a lot of people won't know. If they're, if they're out trying to be a player, they're gonna get caught up with this So you know how you have Facebook check-ins, right? Like there's a new thing where you can be at a location and

You click check-in and I'll say oh I'm at A certain nightclub or I'm at the gap or something right? Well, if somebody if you're with somebody and they're checking in, they can type in your name, okay, and then click check in. And that takes your profile and just automatically notifies everybody else that you're with that person at that location.

Oh, I would never want that. Well, it can happen to you right now. So I'm gonna have to help you change your settings. Oh so people look into your settings and the check-in settings and turn it off if you if you're out Hanging out with multiple people. I don't want anyone to know where I am ever so okay teach me how to do that Yes, so just a warning out there. I was hanging out. I was doing every week You tell me what to do and I'm like I'm totally gonna do that And I don't do it I was hanging out with him and it notified all my friends on my page and they knew exactly where I was at. I don't like that.

I don't want people to know all my bizz. Well there's like, there's websites built on that where people are checking in where they're making it to a game. I know like, for a square and all that stuff. I don't do that stuff. I probably should, but I don't. I mean, I probably should do more of the city to the day. This is what I do.

Yeah, this is what I do on ForSquare. I always check in when I'm leaving. That room would be actually there. So if you guys are friends with me on ForSquare, you're not gonna find me. It's good to know all your fans just Just cried a little. Oh, I'm sorry. I heard a collective sign cry But I never know who's looking at my stuff. So I know you never know. Okay, let's move into some sex tips. Yes. Yes. All right So this is how a man can make the sex better for the woman. Really? Yeah.

And these are some things that we've gone through, but I think that these are really some really good basic things that people can do to make sex better for the girl. OK. 10. Number 10. OK. Blindfold her.

OK. We've talked about blindfold before. You don't want to be blindfolded because your face is going to steal your wallet. She's going to steal my wallet and set my house on fire. But you are big into the blindfold. I love the blindfold. Like, you cannot blindfold me enough.

Sexual pleasure as many dimensions, but the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. You know, the brain is our largest and most impressive sexual organ. When one sense is hindered or other senses via the brain, clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has increased sensory awareness of sight, smell, touch, and vibrations.

So the thing is, if you are blindfolding your partner, it increases her sensory awareness. She doesn't know where you are, what you're gonna do next. And this creates anticipation. And this creates the whole spiking of the dopamine and all that because it's anticipation and it's exciting. This is also the way to spice up your sex life. Why are you smiling and laughing at me because you're never going to do it?

No, no, no, no, sorry. I was having a discussion the other night with my roommates and we were talking, we were looking up, there's a website called Urban Dictionary. So I knew all these like crazy sex positions and things that do and I told them to type in Stevie Wonder. So when you said like, not be able to see anything, there's a thing called the Stevie Wonder. Look it up. Okay. Well, look it up. But here's the thing is that it creates anticipation for sex. If you tease her mercilessly with mercilessly, I can't say that we're mercilessly,

with sensory objects just as a feather or your tongue start off softly as it excites her nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. So it is true that when you are blindfolded, it just feels cool. It's just hot. Like just trying to, if you've never done it, doesn't it be a whole thing? You can take like a scarf, you can take like a tie or whatever, like a neck tie. And just do it one night. It's like, hey, baby, here's your glass of wine laid out.

I'm going to blindfold you and I'm going to tickle you, tease you, and do something to you. And then I'm feel really good. And you can do it to the guy too. Yeah. I mean, what do you, I mean, what do you, I do it exactly. Okay, so exactly, well, when I blind, I talked about this before, but when I blindfolded a guy once, or a few times I've done it, but I know that I drove him insane because I use my bondage tape, which I love, which you can get it at Adam and Eve.com, which I'm that I drove him in sane because I use my bondage tape, which I love,

which you can get at Adam and Eve.com, which I'm going to get into right now. Adam and Eve is one of our sponsors, and you guys have got to check out this deal that they're having. You got to jump on it because it's for sex with Emily loyal listeners, and you get 50 off most items that you buy, 50 off of anything you buy, and they throw in three adult DVDs and a free gift plus free shipping. If you go to Adam and Eve.com and your coupon code Emily at checkout. You should buy some bondage tape. I love bondage tape and bondage tape is like this amazing tape that looks like electrical tape, but it doesn't stick to you. I've talked about this before. So anyway, I just got my bondage tape.

I was way into it and I blindfolded them. And I went into the kitchen and I came back and I had ice cubes in a bowl and I had some like chocolate sauce and like a feather and he was blindfolded and didn't know what I was gonna do. And so like I put an ice cube in my mouth and like dribbled it down his back and it was like really cold

and then I had a candle that dipped hot wax. They have these candles. Oh, you should go to add them and even buy one of these candles that that are they burn at a certain temperature so it's not too hot but the ones they heat up they smell amazing and then you can pour it on It's amazing. It's like a Ricky Martin video. You pour it on the you pour it on the body I don't even know that what that means. He did that in the video where he had wax poured on them. Oh, okay Yeah, and it turns into massage oil, but it feels really good at the stripping. But he doesn't know because he's blindfolded.

Yeah. It drove him crazy. And then I did the ice and the feathers. And it was really hot. And so do that to the girl. It was a fire. Hot. All right.

I'd say that it was one of the highlights of our sexual relationship. Well, people try it out and then report back to this at sex with them. Yep. Exactly. Okay. Another thing is massage. I cannot. We've, exactly. Okay. Another thing is massage. I can not, we've talked about massage before, but massage is great,

especially if you're a couple who's like it's gotten kind of boring or you're not that turned on anymore, you do have sex the same way every time. Start with the massage. Central touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner, which is why it makes it into this tips

of this sex list of great tips. Our bodies are without exception tense in some areas, if not many. This hinders our energy flow, including sexual energy flow. Imagine that a car has a clogged fuel filter. The fuel, our energy can't get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly when the car performs inefficiently and effectively.

A relaxed, this is key. A relaxing central massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. So think about how the tension and the stress that we carry. The second, massage is just like this luxury, like, oh, give me, it really relaxes you.

It releases all that tension in your body's freer and more open to sex. So give her a massage. Yeah. I give you a massage. Yeah. Give him a massage. I've only found one girl that could give me a good massage. Really? Unfortunately, she lives in New York now.

Oh, poor. But everyone else is sucks. Really? Yeah. They just can't do it. You can't do it. There's only one girl that could do it right. You have a good hand job.

Is you haven't had good oral sex, I don't think. You've never been boy. Oh no, oral sex is, yeah, don't worry. You've had good oral sex. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's fine. No one's touch your balls appropriately and no one's giving massage. There's only one girl being there.

Only one girl out there. Who are you dating? Like, I don't understand why you haven't had any of these good things and I just want them for you as someone who cares about you. I want your balls to be touched in a lovely way. Oh, thank you. That feels really good. I like that. I want that for you, someone who cares about you. I want your balls to be touched in a lovely way. Oh, thank you.

It feels really good. I like that. I want that for you, minus. Thank you. Yeah. Okay. One more? Yes.

Okay. Tell your fans. Tell your fans. Talk to your fans with your partners in a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication with your partner, which is a great importance, as well as it helps get you guys to know each other. You may be surprised what comes out of her mouth but this works both ways keep it lightest light at first don't throw in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fantasies you aren't sure about sit back with

the glass of wine keep your clothes on fantasy plays can be incorporated into a game for better sex so a lot of times women might say oh I don't have I don't have fantasy I don't know I don't don't know. Maybe they don't. Women don't have as many. Typically don't have as rich of a fantasy life. I'm not even saying that. Scratch that. Women do have rich fantasy life.

They might want to share with you. And so they're just ways to talk about, well, if she says she doesn't have fantasy, ask her what if she could have sex in any way, what would it be, or what's her most memorable experience with you, with partner. If you don't want to hear about the last guy she banged, but is there something that you've done and then you can go from there? Well, she might say, I love that time when you gave me massage, for example, and I love the way you touched my right arm.

I mean, women have sensations all over their bodies and places where you don't even know. So then you learn, oh, she's really sensitive and her arm. She just had these conversations with her partner. Okay. Alright. That's what I got to say about it. Alright, that's all you've got time for now. Thanks so much for listening to Sex with Emily. It was a good for you. Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. So you know I'm obsessed with candles, right? Have you ever heard of misogynyrd candles? Okay, so get this. I always like candles that I'm enjoying glass of wine with friends.

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