Sex With Emily - SWE: The Hip Moves

Episode Date: May 4, 2013

Emily instructs listeners on the hip moves to be better in bed, whether you like to shallow thrust, swivel, or screw. Instead of the old in-out, Emily offers alternative hip movements to help men and women get their pleasure groove on. As Shakira puts it, “hips don’t lie.” And we’re fairly certain Shakira is good in the sack. As the show moves along, listener’s get oral with their questions, wondering if women also do the dreaded head-push and why some men refuse to reciprocate oral sex. Also, listeners want to know if it’s normal to be attracted to older women and enjoy a Golden Shower. When it comes to sex and relationships nothing is “normal.” People just have different preferences. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you guys heard my news? I have a new sex gig. I'm not a porn star, it's better. I just launched my new premium skin care brand called Emily and Tony. These products are tried and true to help spice up your sex life, which is what I'm all about. I'm talking about massage oil candles that are one part candle, one part body oil, and check out these flavors. They come in delicious scents like creme de vanilla, cocoa and fujer.

And they're hydrating, and they leave your skin feeling super luxurious. We even have a product for the guys called Down Under Comfort that helps keep their balls smelling fresh and clean and dry all day, which is exactly what you want, right? So guys, if you take care of your balls, your partner will take care of you. So help us keep this podcast free. Use code Emily to get 20% off your first purchase at Emily and Tony.com Trust me. You'll love them and you're welcome Look into his eyes

They're the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that block our secret institutions Betrubized they call them in a fight on me. Hey Emily. You got a boyfriend? I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys.

I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I love to see you guys. I'm not talking about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh my God, I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships

and everything in between for more information. Go to sexwithemily.com. We can get all your sex questions answered. And you can even supply some of your own questions that you have for us and we will answer them if they have been answered Yeah, because that's what we do we want everyone to better sex and better relationships and that's what our brand is all about because I'm a sex Bart you love it. I'm embracing that but I'm a sex expert the sex bird. I'm a sex bird. It's okay sex expert sex But lately they've been calling me sex bird a lot more so I'm like that sex bird sex bird. It's funny, right?

Yeah, I get it like sex and birth. I'm going back to school Good, like in like I know I'm going to school next like in two weeks. I'm going to sex school So everybody stay tuned to sex only because I promise you my sex school antics are quite entertaining I went last year. I remember last year you were You were pretty insane. You were getting nude in class. Well, we had to. You had lesbians talking about hardcore.

Braining in their strap-ons. Yeah, kinky sex. It was a crazy time in the sex of the one. It was a crazy time. I know. It was OK. And we liked it. I can't wait till you start up again.

I mean, I'm really excited about that. I just feel like I'm sort of out of touch. I don't know if other people have this issue, but when I'm trying to know a lot of people travel for work and I've just been traveling a bunch lately. I was in Las Vegas and then I was in LA, then Vegas, then LA again, then Michigan, just see my family. And it just every time you come back, it's like little unsettling. Like everything's all up in the air.

I got to unpack, repack, things are kind of crazy with my work. So I've been feeling a little sad. Oh. But I'm feeling better now. I mean, I feel like I'm happy to be here during the show. Not sad, just like a little, like a little, like a little stress a little. I gave you a loving call.

You're the last one. Men's called me last night because he knew from some email I sent out. He's like, what the hell's wrong? What is wrong with you? He called me the latest. He's ever called me. I was like, why is men is calling me at like nine o'clock

a night? I was concerned. I know. I'm better though.. I'm actually better and I'm so happy to be here during the show There's been so much going on because I haven't seen you. I was in like on the doctors TV show In Los Angeles last week the doctors is a show that's on champ. Oh my god I'm sure I want to go with the with the host of the doctors. I want to bone him and let me tell you this. He is married. He got married like five minutes ago. Oh, seriously, like a junior. I know. But he's really cute. I'll show you pictures. So but no, I love being on the doctors. It's a very popular daytime show and they cover a bunch of topics on each show. So basically, I mean, I had to talk with the producer. I was on the show once before, neither one of

my episodes of aired yet. The first first one, Air is October 8th. And that one was about kegel exercises, which I loved, because I could talk about my iPhone app, Kegel Camp, which will improve your sex life. But then this one, oh my god, I was having flashbacks the next day, because I recorded them Friday, drove right to the airport and flew to Michigan for my mom's birthday, the surpriseer. So I'm on a plane. I'm like, did I really just do that? So here, here's what they had me do. They interviewed me ahead of time and they said, what do you want to talk about? We know that we want to talk about incorporating some 50 shades of gray, which is, you know, that best-selling mommy porn book now that everyone's talking

about. We want to incorporate something about three sums, someone with who had a threesome and what to do about it. So anyway, I brainstormed with them and came with a lot of ideas. They're like, what about safe sex? I'm like, well, you know, safe sex with threesomes, you have to worry about getting sexually transmitted diseases even with two women, you can use a dental dam. You know what a dental dam is, right?

Yeah. So long story short, I have an hour long conversation with a producer like pre-production. She calls me the day before the show and she says, you know what? We're going to go with dental dams. We'd like you to talk about dental dams, a national television. And we'd like you to talk about three sums and how to protect against it with three sums. Oh, and the other thing was massage candles because I told her how much I'm crazy about the Jimmy Jane massage candles. So I'm there and I'm practicing and I get the script that I before and it's like Emily takes latex glove and creates her own dental grit damn with scissors. So here

we are on this audience and it's a pretty conservative, I mean it's a doctor's show. I mean there's people all ages watching. I sat there in the audience and they said, well a woman, they had a woman calling over the screen and say, I probably shouldn't even be because it hasn't aired yet. But what happens? She calls and says, we're thinking about going to three sims and how can I protect myself? I said, well, you know, you can always make a dental dam. I pull up a latex glove.

I'm like, you can cut three fingers off of it, cut it up the middle, and then you make your own dental dam. And everyone's like, the audience is looking at me like they saw a ghost. I'm like, you know, dental damss which you can use when you're performing all sex and a woman to help protect from spreading diseases. And like I just think everyone is like what's she talking about? Like when am I going to go down a woman and the house is even relevant and it's like America.

And then I had to give so that I mean it's just it was like American like just like I don't even know every single person that I've asked you know what a dental dam is and really it is for safe sex it's a real thing lesbian's who to keep men can use it if they don't want to get you know her bees or sexually transmitted even woman and it's like the things that Dennis actually use over your mouth just like latex stretchy square that you put in the next thing was this woman said she wants to get in some bonded some disciplines stuff to be yes I'm so I said you should try a massage candle and I talked about the Jimmy Jane massage candle.

So then I had to go on stage and help her husband massage her with the candle on stage. And like I had to like show him how to do it, and we're rubbing. I mean, it's such a weird bizarre thing, and then, but then they gave away a Jimmy Jane candle to everyone in the audience. I know, it was awesome.

So if anyone wants to know, these are my massage candles that I'm obsessed with. They burn cooler than most candles. It's not waxy. It turns into oil. It's amazing. Just go to my website, click on Jamie Jane. You get discount.

You should buy them. They're great gifts for the whole family. Tell you. So that was really funny, but I was like, what am I doing? Like, dental dams. Like, people were like, I felt like they were like, just, but it's important. It's safe sucks. Anyway, that's what I did. And then I met with, what else I do ahead of radio? Oh, I was on Playboy

Radio with these two playmates. Have I already told you about this? No, no, I hadn't. This was, I was on, it's called the Playboy Radio with so and so and so and so. I can't wear their names now, but they were adorable and like playmates, like so cute. I mean, they weren't dressed up as bunnies at the moment, but they were playboy playmates. She's like, I'm in the salgis 2010. And they're cute to be that a lot of tons of callers and people calling in like one of them is like wants to have spice up our related. The two women were having issues in their relationships.

So anyway, it was fun. There was callers, crazy, crazy people. They were talking about how they, the one one of the women was like, I've been like husband for her boyfriend for four years And she's beautiful and she's like I walk around and he doesn't even notice me. He doesn't think I'm hot I dress in sexy lingerie and she's like I don't get any compliments. I'm like well you need 10 compliments a day Oh god, so you know I feel like that wish I was there You would have loved to have been there. I should have had you call him because I really believe she's like just the little

thing is I just want to tell me that I like hot. All right. It's what I hear from in the middle of the day that I'm thinking about you. So when I met him and I have a long standing debate here about this, one of many, that I think that a lot of women and men need that kind of external affirmation and they need it from your partner. And I saw I say 10 times a day, you know, compliment her or do something that makes her feel good. It could just be babe I'm thinking about

you. It could be a text. It could be like, you know, you look great this morning honey or thanks for the great dinner you made or things were picking up my whatever whatever it is for getting the car washed. Little things like that make us feel good. It's not that funny. Okay, so you know what? If everyone's fine, maybe I say 10 because I think you'll do five. So do five. It's not that. Okay, so you know what? If everyone's fine, maybe I say 10 because I think you'll do five. So do five. That's what women want. Hot, sexy play girl like seriously, all of you listening would want to bang her yesterday. But she's with the guy and they've been together for years and it's just she's just kind of like, doesn't he doesn't appreciate me more. She's a playmate. She's a fine boy playmate. You fight. It's

that whole thing. You find a girl in themate. You fight is it that whole thing? You find a girl in the bar, find a hot woman in a bar and I'll show you guys tired of sleeping with her. Yeah. So sad. That's me. So yeah, I was all cool. And then what else today show? We're talking about hip movement. How to move your hips and how to move in general to have better sacks. So we are going to the show's botty by Sinclair Institute and on the hip movement topic. Sinclair is educational. So we did the contest where we gave away Sinclair DVDs which are not porn. They're educational like on every topic onto the sun. Go to Sinclair Institute. You can check it out on my website, like go to their website. And I we gave way a bunch of DVDs and literally like, because we had a contest a few weeks ago.

And everybody's been like, oh my god, I love my DVD. It's totally helped me like guide to Conolingus, guide to bondage, guide to, you know, better oral, or by better, you know, Felicio, whatever, they're really good DVDs. So check them out. I was also in Los Angeles over the weekend. I know I saw we were like two ships that passed in the night. Yeah, we didn't get to each other. What'd you do? It was very sad.

I went to a comedy festival. Now, I got to recommend some piece of audio that you can probably find on Stitcher, which is an app you can download for your phone. It's totally free. Okay. I went to this comedy festival and who shows up? Andy Dick.

Andy Dick admittedly had problems with substance abuse and he has been dealing with that. So he's been kind of out of the limelight. So now he's like going underground and just getting back into the swing of things. And he was on this podcast. It was live taping. I was there for this podcast called the risk. Okay. And risk is just about storytelling like real stories that you would never share with anybody.

Okay. So he goes through this whole thing about because he didn't really come out that he was gay, but he was always gay when he was, you know, young. He has three kids. And he starts talking about all his sexual experiences, and it was so hilarious, because he was talking about how he had his first gay sexual experience with a man where the guy wasn't out of the closet. And it was just some guy in his neighborhood. So the guy like gave me a hand job and so that. But then he said that then he ended up leaving the area for many years, comes back and he's like, oh, this is the guy the first, you know, introduced me to, you know, okay, experience. So he figured the guy would probably

like come out by then. And then he said that so he started trying to talk to him. And the guy's like, get out of here. You F and F word and all this stuff. But he ends up running into the guy again when no one else is around. And the guy's like, I want you to have sex with him. Oh my god, recently. Yeah, so I want you to have sex with oh my god recently Yeah, so I want you to have sex with me and oh No, no, it wasn't recently, but it was like a couple years after the first sexual experience He has the funniest story. He goes the guy wants me to penetrate him

So we go into his house and he goes I've never done this before I've never penetrated a guy He goes I was so penetrated a guy. And he goes, I was so scared. And the guy was laying down and I go, hey, all right, hold on. I need to go get some lube. So he runs out and he goes in the refrigerator and he grabs a carrot. Right?

The big end of a carrot. And he loves up the carrot because he didn't want to have sex with the guy, you know, the big top round end, loves it up and shoves it into the guy. And the guy didn't like it. He's like, oh, get it out, get it out. And then he said that he threw the carrot on the ground. Oh my God. And the guy didn't know the difference. Oh my God. Well, of course, he wouldn't like a carrot. That's a sad story. It was, he had like some pretty funny stories.

Is he sober now? Oh, check that out. Yeah, he's sober. And I, you know, I'm not a gay man, but I can recognize when a gentleman is a good looking gentleman, and he has a pretty good looking boyfriend. That's good. And he's in Paris.

Did you interview him about all the stuff? I interviewed him separately about other things, but this is because they were doing live storytelling. Right. And they were recording it for this show. So I because they were doing live storytelling. Right. And they were recording it for this show. So I was able to check it out. But it was pretty hilarious. Oh, God.

That's funny. Speaking of Loub, I have to say, I've got these, we are a sponsor in the Honey Bear, the Nature Love in Loobs that you were saying about Nature Love in Looper Kents. They gave me, at the ILS show in Vegas, the biggest bottle of Loub. It's literally like two, like this tall. How my feet is that? That's about a foot and a half a foot and a half of lube I've got the biggest bottle of lube ever but the guy dating is like that's scared Like it's a he's like that's the most lube ever. I bet you will get through it. Like it's really cool

I love their lube. No, you're loving lube equipment. You got to check it out. They I they contained Carajena, which has been shown in studies to prevent the spread of HPV. Nice. And then they have the glow in the dark. The glow in the dark. They've glow in the dark. Who doesn't want their penis to glow in the dark?

I've got to bring you some of it in a little container. Would you use it? You use it, Lou. Yeah, I want to see what it looks like glow in the dark. You want to see your penis in the dark? Yeah. I bet your penis in the dark would be very cute. It would look like maybe something from Star Wars with the life

Exactly Tomorrow I'll bring it right me note text me or something That's what it look like exactly that it'll make noises like that, too. That'd be awesome Okay, we could get into a little bit of news. What is going on? Oh, could I ask Something I know there's like a million things Russar I could talk to you for all day Yeah, I'm not even getting into sex what go so you know I get offered to interview people all the time. Yes You know who I get offered is bombshell McGee that chick that That hooked up with Jesse James and broke up the marriage. Oh, yeah, yeah

Bitch, you're not famous. I don't need to be interviewing you. Just because you, you bone some Mary Man and it was end up in the media. Who offered that to you? Like who are you? PR company. Oh.

Who is she? Right. She says, a Mary Man. I mean, who am I, but I'm just saying. Who? Like, you're not famous. Oh my, but who are you? It's like just because you have sex with some famous guy,

it doesn't make you famous. I love some... So leave me, I said. It doesn't make you famous. Tell you that, the truth is that. So don't, she's like trying to write the hype. You know what she's trying to do? She, this is why she was getting pitched

because she wants to try to do a boxing match against that whoever that mother was Choose of killing her daughter, right and she wants to do a boxy match that she's challenging her to Like that's painful to even for me to hear that my ear drums hurt just go away Sorry, she wants to challenge her into boxing match. He's been abusive to her children. Yeah, that's that I don't hear it I think it's not who are you who are you and who cares? Who are you? Who am I? I mean, I know one. Yeah I mean you know, you know, you're no one. Okay speaking of Nothing sex sex.com is offering to pay five million for the exclusive rights to both tapes of Kanye

bringing the love lockdown down to the mystery woman or women. The juiciest part of the saga? Well apart from the obvious parts the lady in the video has said to be a Kim Kardashian look alike. Okay so this is sorry this is um I didn't read the headline first. How much is your sex tape worth? Kanye's West is five million. So the anonymous holder of Kanye West sex tape currently being shot down the market could be in a friend for big payday. And then I read the other part about sex.com. What do you think about the Kanye West thing? Have you seen it? There's been no leaks, right? No, I thought there were some screenshots

out there. Yeah, there's probably is. But they say the look a like looks like Kim Gartesian. Yeah, the look a like the girl looks like. I guess she's, I don't know, Kanye. I love Kanye. I feel that I understand his the way he is. Right. I don't know because I read up a lot about Kanye. I've never met him. And I've never interviewed him. So I don't know.

But the thing that I feel that the reason that he is the way he is is is no one wanted ever give him a chance. No one ever, people signed him to a record deal because they wanted him to make music for other people. Right. They didn't want to sign him to make him make his own album. Right. So when those people left the studio, he would stay and work on his own album on his own.

Right. So I felt when he broke out and became successful, he still can't let that go that no one wanted to give him a chance. Right. So he's so angry and he has to, you know, prove it all the time. Like, look at me. Look at me. This is how I am.

And a lot of people don't understand that because they don't take the time to look at his past history and music. So that's until I meet him and talk to him one on one and express that's how I feel. Why he's manifested. Yeah, and see what he has to say about that. Then that's what I'm going. I think that's really true though. I think that is kind of true.

That a lot of us hang on to so many old things from our past that just like wanting to be approved, wanting to be accepted, whenever we feel like are worst, and then always remember those types of in our life, I know. I have. Yeah, you just got to enjoy what you have, and don't be bitter about things. It's so hard. It's so hard. Did enjoy what you have, Emily.

Yeah. Okay. Speaking of what I have, butt chugging. No, college bros, easing into prostate play as butt chugging. No, college bros, easing into prostate play as butt chugging catches on. Butt chugging? The University of Tennessee chapter of the PI Beta, by PI cap Alpha Fratt, has been suspended

after 20-year-old brother ended up in the hospital with severe alcohol poisoning. Give it the old college try, the boy passed out arriving wine, scored it up as rectum. In a practice known as butt chugging, alcohol inserted up the butt gets absorbed in the bloodstream more quickly, impotently,

and alcohol consumed in more traditional ways like flaming shots and rum cakes. The boys who's butt chugged an unladylike amount of wine arrived at the University of Tennessee Medical Center With a blood alcohol alcohol level believed to be well over 0.4% wow. Yeah, that's just sad. How do these kids not know that's not good for you? They don't care. They're in college. They're drunk. Well people have been hearing about this for years because of the

Because the jackass movie they do it with beer the butt chugging. The, the, because the Jackass movie they do it with beer. Oh, but hate those movies. Jackass stupid jackass. Oh, I love them. But the, the thing is, it's been around before that. People always go, oh, you know, you can get really messed up if you

have to do it. How do you do it? Because it gets in your bloodstream faster, apparently. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Anything of your butt does. Yeah, so that's why it's so popular but I don't like it. You like it? You want to try it? Okay, Victoria's latest secret. She's kind of a racist. Victoria's secret has removed a newly launched

lingerie collection titled Go East from its website after one particular outfit called Saxi Lil Gaiisha was labeled as racist by critics, the Eastern inspired sheer mesh teddy, which comes to the matching removable OB belt fan and chopstick was described as your ticket to an exotic adventure. Victoria Secret or yet to release a statement have tacitly responded to the backlash by redirecting users looking for the products page along with the rest of the go East Collection, but the sites made home whatever whatever. Do you think that's racist?

Little sexy little guy, sure. Someone wanted to buy me. You can call it something else, but just don't name it. I guess. I mean, people are really ultra sensitive about everything. What the hell? People overlawn. You know, Victoria's secret is from San Francisco.

You know that? No. Yeah, and there's this whole thing in the social network movie where explains that the founder made this whole company for his wife. But then I guess he sold it for a little, I don't know, a little amount of money to large corporation and then it becomes like this multi-million dollar car corporation. And the guy jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge. Because he was so bomb that he passed it up. That's what I would do.

What? Jumped away. No, I wouldn't jump off the Golden Gate Bridge. But I would forget, how do you get over that stuff? Oh, I started Victor's Secret and I made $10. Well, no, he's okay. This guy shouldn't be jumping off of bridge. He sold Victoria Secret for $4 million. And then within a few years, it was worth $500 million. Yeah, okay. I would not jump off the bridge. Look, I have $4 million.

Okay, it's worth $500 million. I probably couldn't take it to that point to make it a fine. I'd not that guy. Yeah, $500 million. Company, this is a giant company that buys you for $4 million that has the resources to make it a bigger. Why don't you stay on with the company and get keep assets? Well, well, we'll never know because he jumped off the bridge. Never jump off the bridge. Never commit suicide. Don't do any of that. I'm not saying that you would. I would really do that. Okay. But it's true that those kind of things in life don't you have those regrets about some things in life that you just, I don't regret meant.

I know you always asked me if I regret like guys I've dated and if I want to get back together with them. None of that, but just there's some business stuff. There's some opportunities that pass that I wonder, oh, without a bin. If you paid attention to them. If I paid attention to them, would they have gotten succeeded? You mean? Yeah. Don't you ever feel the way?

No. No, you pay attention to everything. Yeah, I'm pretty much just stick to it. The only thing where I've learned over the years is not depending on other people to help reach your goals. That's the thing. And I think that's what you're going through now. Not that you don't have the people that around you that are great like myself. I'm, you know, amazing, amazing. But, uh, you just really got to, if you want to get a goal done, it has to be

all you. I know. You have to move forward and just do it. It's true, no one else. That's something that I learned. I've always wanted to get, I don't know how to make websites and I try to depend on other people to make ideas that I want and it just doesn't get done. And I get frustrated with that stuff with that stuff.

I just have to let go. Did you learn how to make websites in your own? And learning as much as I can. Right. You know? But that's the only thing is it's not depending on other people. I agree. No one's going to help you.

They can't. People have their own lives. People have their own lives. They're not going to make your life their life. Yeah, unfortunately, I know. I know. I really want that in life. It's all I want.

That's too much to ask. I've served you well over the years, haven't I? Man, this year amazing. You're the most amazingly helpful. Oh, thank you. I want that's too much to ask I've served you well over the years haven't I menace you're amazing I try you know Amazingly helpful. Oh, thank you. I'm so grateful to you and oh don't cry I'm ready to get rich. No, I could cry because I've cried a lot in the last few days I I really feel like I always like when I make it I'm gonna give menace like a big fat check He's gonna have a heart attack. I would die, but you know

I still got to reach out girls You don't have to worry about mine right now. I worry about you all by myself. I know I was gonna help you Anyway, no Okay, Camille grammar Kelsey grammar housewife reacts to ex-husband's public married bashing He has been bashing her all over the place of diarrhea. Did he say that? I didn't know that one Wow Yeah, she has irritable bowel syndrome. She's like wow She's kind of

Conchies all the time. No way you read that from him. He said that everyone's been knowing that for years But I think that he he brought that up in the In the like recent divorce thing. Well, there's been recent stuff that he said, this is all I'm saying, he is bashing her. They were married for like 15 years, they have two kids, and I don't care, especially if you're married and you have kids, you don't wanna be bashing your partner.

You just don't wanna bash your former, your kids' parent mother, but he's, this is what he's been saying. He's been saying. He's been saying their marriage is a farce, basically. He's been saying that he's, uh, he said that, uh, she responded, Kelsey and I shared a life together. We have two beautiful children. Why is he doing this? Kelsey has been extremely negative about his affair, saying, uh, I haven't had sex in a debt. He said it would have been difficult not to have sex with this new woman that he met because he hadn't had sex in over

a decade. He says that like when he was with Camille, he didn't have sex for a decade. Like when he went on and said stuff like, um, it was over before it started. Like I knew from the day we got married that we shouldn't have been together. Like that's being stopped. That's how it's not going to heal. you gotta open up your big mouth to try to dress? Well, you know how much she gave him? I think she'll be okay. Like like hundreds of millions of dollars, right? Yeah, she's good.

She'll be okay. I know, but I'm just fine. She'll find some hot Latin. She'll find some hot Latin. And boyfriend, like they all do on that real housewives. Why do they all find hot Latin boyfriends? Because that's what they want. They get rid of the old fogies.

The old guys are all dried up, them the curb and then they get hot lava land lovers I want a hot land lover where do you get them I don't know where to import them from that's funny okay so yeah it's true you're right they all turn them in but anyway that's just I'm that was for me not if you watch real housewives of barriguels you care give a damn about Cosy grammar It's just that I think when you break up with someone no matter how ugly it is It's just the best not to talk bad about people that you've dated and that you've loved and obviously things when sour But at one time you love this person such a few children together don't trash them. You're just hoping just that doesn't happen to you

That's why you're just I've had men trash me What? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had men do you? I've had meant to you? You mean me? Defend me and trash me. Trying to trash me. Yeah. You know, the trash. Yeah, I got trash. Oh, they said, oh, she's selfish.

Oh, she just cares about her work. Oh, oh, oh, whatever. But I can't. You've got to move on. Okay. There, uh, you want to prove your relationship. A survey reveals a surprising way. How, right? A surprising way to heal your relationship, improve your relationship. A new survey from your tango and Ford reveals road trips and car time are good for relationships.

Okay, it sounds like a press release because it's by Ford. But I kind of agree to this. Taking a road trip with your significant other, chances are good the time together will improve your relationship. 91% of couples have taken road trips together and 84% agree the experience has strained the relationship according to a new survey of more than 1,000 people.

Okay, so of course, a couple times, driving time is not about some shiny roses. There's the back seat driver complex, and they all fight about that stuff, but basically they have fun memories of taking a road trip. Takes the relationship to the next level. I'm the worst, I just fall asleep. Do you, you have someone else drive?

Yeah, in the passenger seat, I'm like not a good person to try to have fun within the car. I'm really, I'm on my phone for like 10 minutes and then I go to sleep. That's it. Good times. And you see the whole time, I do that too, actually. I can't within the car. I'm really, I'm on my phone for like 10 minutes and then I go to sleep. That's it. Good times. And you see the whole time, I do that too, actually. I can't be the driver.

But I love taking roadtops. I have some really fun memories of roadtops with a lot of my boyfriend's. Many. Drive into LA, drive to across the states when we were in college and stuff like that. Oh, okay. Oh, it's good.

Okay, let's move into some emails from the people. Okay. You can email us at feedback. It's sexwithemily.com. You can also email me right through my website, sexonely.com. You got to check it out. I mean, sexonely.com page is on fire right now. It's on fire.

Oh, we love it. Okay. Dear Emily, I'm a new listener going through your podcast. So far so good. I don't have a question but I do have a comment about the head pushing debate. Where the guy pushed the woman's head down for a blowjob. My wife pushes my head down for me to go down and hurt all the time and did long before we got married.

How many of your female listeners do that to their mates, to their male partners and husbands? It's just not menager that Bryant. Bryant. Thanks for writing. Okay, well what I was talking about was the infamous head push that a guy like pushes the woman's head down because he wants to roll socks. I just think that's rude. I think that like we're women. We know your penis is there. We know that it's our option to go down there anytime. No push my go down there anytime. No, push my head down there, but he's saying his wife pushes his head. So how many female head pushers do we have in the audience?

Email us, feedback at sexwithonly.com. I'd be curious to know. Have you had a woman push your head into her badge? Nino. Vagina. Vagina. Nino. This has not happened. Okay, not happening. Okay, so I think theanana? This has not happened. Okay.

Not happening. Okay. So I think the head push all around not a great idea. Unless it turns you on. In that case, that's something else. Okay. Dear Emily, what can I do to get better at giving oral sex to my fiance? What are some tricks?

Signed Jason. Jason. That is a great question because I'm so glad that you want to give you do even better perform even better All sex first of all I would ask her what feels good to her because every woman I could tell you eight different things to do right now And they might not feel good on her so it could be so every woman is different I would also say that you have to slow down, probably anything that you're doing, I would say go, I would say go 10 minutes slower. Why did my alarm just go up 10 minutes slower? 10? Yeah, I would go 10 times, five times slower than you think

you should normally go when you're performing all sex. I would say not just make it about the clitoris and about her vagina, but make it on her labia, her lips in between her legs, tickle her body from head to toe, make it about arousal around her, rodging the zones. Don't go right in for the kill to her clitoris, but extend the process and see what turns around. Again, ask her. You can tell a lot by a woman by what she does. You can never pull your hair when something feels good. You could have her moan. you could have cues, but I would say that you just the Exploration maybe he needs a dental dam You know a dental dam he's his fiance a dental dam is to protect against sexually transmitted diseases

I hope that you guys have been shocked if you're getting married can't trust the memory you never know You never know you always use it. Yeah. So true. It might be cheap. So get that dental down. Where do you recommend getting a dental? They really don't say that. Oh, I would say that you could go to good vibes.com. Good vibes.com.

Click on it for my website and you can see there's a dental dams there. You could also go to a local sex toy shop where you live. You can also get a surge at one of those latex gloves that you buy at the drug store. They sell them in packs of 50. And you cut the three fingers off the top, the dental dam. And then you cut down the middle of a palm

and then you spread it open. And it's like a square. And basically it's a latex square that you put over the woman when you're performing all sex. It feels really good to put a lubricant on the side that's facing her because it'll just feel good, they're lubricant.

And I gotta tell you, sometimes a dental dam Yass it's used for safer or all sex so you don't catch anything for performing or all sex in a woman, but it also feels really good. Being touched through latex sometimes or through panties or somewhere. Yes, yes, yes, yes. Is there flavored ones? You can use a flavored

condom. You could also make a dental dam out of a condom. You just cut the tip off, you cut it in half, and you roll it, and you got a dental dam there, condom. And you can use some flavored lubricant or you can use some flavor condom. I would like, you know, maybe certain flavored one. Which, well, you know, that honey, rice, love, or something. There's a bacon loop, I just heard about. A bacon loop. Yeah. Would you want bacon? Bacon's huge right now.

Bacon's making a total comeback. Would you ever want bacon? Smores, you know, honey, love, honey, love and love. Nature, love and love on my website. It comes in a honey bearer container. They make the most amazing sense and flavors of lubricants. They've got

some more lubricants, some more and it tastes so good. Okay. Sass with some more. So check it out. I'll take your word for that. Nature-loven lubricants. Okay. Deer Emily, I've been seeing someone for a couple months. The sex is hot and heavy, romantic and driven, but he has shared a fantasy of having me go to the bathroom on him. Chast, penis, more. Logistics aside, is this normal and or safe? My mind went straight to no, but my mouth did not deliver that to him yet, because I don't

want him to feel bad about opening up to me. Should I leave him, if I can't fulfill this fantasy of his sign mag? So mag, I don't think that you should leave him if you can't fulfill the fantasy. I don't, doesn't sound like he's given you an ultimatum. Like Cassie said to you, I need to pee on you and if you don't, you're gonna leave. No. So this is a common fantasy for people. I have to say, so it's not, I know it's not the normal thing that you hear from guys who are dating, but I might suggest that you try

to be in a half way with the golden shower if you're not completely opposed to it. You could do it in the shower. Maybe that would turn them on in the shower, a golden shower, so without having to go all the way. But if you're feeling uncomfortable with the idea altogether, you gotta be honest and communicate with your fears

or fears, fear and issues, issues, what your fear and issues are around it. But I wouldn't feel bad, I wouldn't feel like you're ill-equipped, I wouldn't feel beat yourself up. If it doesn't turn you on at all, you never know though, you never know until you try it. Hey, at least it's not the other one, you know? This is the first one.

Exactly. You feel me? I feel. I get it. Just do it in the shower, get it over with. Yeah, do the shower and just say, you know what, I. Do it in the shower. Get it with. Yeah, do the shower. And just say, you know what? I'll do it in the shower and see how it fits. I mean, but listen, there this is a common fantasy, honey. And I have to say that mag that get rubber sheets. Don't break off with him because of this, but but explore it more. Okay. Do you explore more but don't say no. Dear Emily, I need some male perspective for menace. I am happily married to a great guy and we have a good sex life.

However, if I ask if he will go down to me, he will, but it doesn't happen often. It's no big deal for a woman to give a man a BJ or a hand job and expect nothing in return. However, how often will a man perform oral sex on a woman and walk away without expecting anything for themselves? Not even a kiss. After talking to my girlfriend, none of us has ever had a guy go down and ask without automatically expecting a little something for himself immediately afterwards. Are there such men out there? So, Venice,

why do you think it's a double standard? I do it because I enjoy it and makes you feel good knowing I may not have had some feel good. Why does it not a double standard? I do it because I enjoy it and makes you feel good knowing I may my husband feel good Why does it not occur to him that I might enjoy being the receiver instead of the giver Theresa from Austin, Texas? Good question Theresa. I guess I'll I'm in Texas. I love you. Yeah I hate to say just that's just the way it is, but that's just the way it is See, I don't feel that way. And I know, I hate trying to speak for men because, guys are gonna be like, oh, I love going down on the vagina

and I don't have to have anything else. Yes, you're gonna have a bunch of people that are gonna say that, but I'm gonna talk for the mass majority of men, okay? Fine, but I don't believe that you represent the mass majority, but okay. I believe I represent the mainstream mass majority of men, okay? Fine, but I don't believe that you represent the mass majority. I believe I represent the mainstream mass majority. Okay.

Guys, it's just... I believe it's... They're not excited about it, because they don't know what the feeling is. Do you understand? No. They don't know how it makes you feel. Okay. We know how phalacial feels because we were receiving it when we think it feels awesome. So that's

cool. But as a man, what are in our brain and it's not fair, we're thinking, okay, what do we get out of this? Nothing. A lot of men get out of this nothing a lot of them get turned on but a lot of men get turned on by performing okay but not every one and not every all of them right and that point is the point that the email is being said that's true some guys just want to return they're like I'll go down on you for five minutes to make sure that you're gonna give me a blowjob tonight yeah and those are not the kind of guys I personally want to be with. I've been with those guys probably more so than not.

I'll give you that that most men are like that. But there's a whole bunch of men who just want to please a woman and they just want to make you feel good. She's happily married. So I'm not saying that she needs to leave my, I think that that, that's just how old guys are.

That's how guys some guys are. Some guys are like, I don't get it. I'm gonna do it, but I hope I get this to return because I'm actually not enjoying performing all sex. But now she prefer like performing all sex on him. So what? If she likes doing it, more power to it, but that's her. Why is it a double standard that women enjoy it

and men don't enjoy it? Some men don't enjoy it. I mean, I think most men, again, that I'm with, they enjoy it. That's just how the world is. Yeah. Sorry. Okay. Okay. You know, you can't just make your partner like something that you like. Right. You can't do it. You can't force him to do it. And if you're going to try to fight him on it and it's just going to say a lot

of times she gives him oral sex and he doesn't return the favor, but she always returns it. Oral sucks and he doesn't return the favor, but she always returns it. Okay. Then I mean, I'm not saying stop returning the favor, but just ask for it and see what he does. If you ask, I mean, if you're going to automatically wait for a guy to do something that you know that he's not into, it's not going to happen. So if this is something that you want and he's willing to do it, when you ask for it, then just ask for it.

Ask for it. Let him know that you know, and I'm sorry. Check this out. Ladies. Check this out. I don't know from the history of time. Men are not mine readers. Okay. No, no, no, no, you're right. You're right. You're right. I'm breaking news. I know it's on the marquee right now. Men are not mine readers. We don't know what the problem is when we ask what the problem is and you say nothing, we honestly do not know what the F and problem is. Right, I know.

Okay. So just tell us. Men want to fix it, just tell them they want to fix it. They want to make you happy. They do. They give you with the woman who's like, you know what, I'm not going to perform all sex and you unless you at least do it to me.

But you don't like, okay, cool. Then no one's getting all sex in that. Why? Why? Why would you get it? It depends. It's a special lady. Okay. You and your special ladies, you know, all sucks. I don't understand. Okay, Treesau, hope that was helpful, even though menaceans are a lot of it. I can show you a chart of vagina. I would go down on them. Oh, no. And you know what? Hey, you know what? And there's a bunch of penises. Probably women want to go down on either.

I don't know. Maybe, maybe. Okay. So, look, if people don't want to do things, don't force them to do it. Yeah, but it's a bummer the men who don't like the vagina. Okay. All I'm saying is that those men who are not as into the vagina, like, it bumps me out. Because I've been with those guys who are vagina not like ours haters, if you will.

And I just feel like it's nothing Do with me it has to do with all the gin us? Uh-huh, and they don't like vaginas like they just told me that like I don't like oral sex So that to me is a deal breaker. I wouldn't be with anyone like that But if we're talking about a guy just doesn't does frequently but he likes it But it'll do it more often if you tell him that's fine cool cool Okay, one more email and then we're gonna move into our topic for the day, which is you know as I told you hip movements How to have better sex using your hips moving her. Do we got time for that? You feel good about that? Yeah, oh good dear Emily

Isn't normal to have a strong attraction to a woman older than you? 20 years older in fact sign shanti I wouldn't say it's are in fact signed shanty. I wouldn't say it's abnormal. I think a lot of people have attractions to people that are older than them. I think that's really actually common and you're normal. You're fine. I had friends that are moms are super hot. I would totally have sex with them. Really? When you were younger? I have a relationship with them. Yeah. Right. For now, do they ever hit on you now? No, no, this one we're young. I'm never around my friends' mothers anymore.

Right, that's true. But yeah, when I was young, yeah, they got some hot moms out there, man. They're our spot moms out there. You're like, mm, right. And they're definitely like, you know, 20 years older than me. Right, exactly.

So it's common you got nothing to worry about. If you can't move on, date anyone else else who's not 20 years older than we talk about that. But I think that the attraction is totally normal. I need to look up one of my teachers. She was smoking hot. Really? She's probably not anymore, honey.

She should look up on Facebook. I should. She was asked to be in playboy a bunch of times. How do you know if she told you that? Well, that was the rumor. But I mean, she could have been told me. Yeah. But she wanted to be a teacher that's boring. Maybe she did, like, I

want a spread where she was dressed up like a school girl. Yeah. That'd be so hot. Got to look her up. I never I'd crush on my gym teacher. You did? I'm still friends with them on Facebook. He's like, 80 now. Oh, yeah. Is he? You want to take him down? He nicknamed me Munchkin. And that's because I had a really high voice. Like, it sounded like I was sucking on helium when I Yeah, you want to take it and pound that? He nicknamed me Munchkin. And that's because I had a really high voice, like it sounded like I was sucking on helium when I was little.

And I still sound like that sometimes. I think that I suck on helium. Okay, let's get into the topic, which is hip movement. There are many ways you can move your hips during sex. Here are some different ways you can move during sex. Have the best sex possible for you and your partner. So hit movement for men. Here's one. It's called screwing. They call it screwing for good reason, meaning circular moves. Do not act like a jackhammer while you're having sex. See porn shows a lot of jackhammer sex. You should not learn anything that you'd like to learn about sex through porn, because

they'd make the porn visually, they shoot it visually, so it's appealing and pleasing to a man and a woman, but they don't, the positions are not necessarily what turned you on. And again, I want to mention the Sinclair Institute. They're really different. Check out my website, sexwithamily.com, click on the Sinclair Institute. They have tons of instructional DVDs that are not formed, but you can learn a lot about how to do different positions, like sex explorations. That's a really good DVD they have.

Okay. Instead of acting like a jackhammer, grind your hips to make circular motions when your penis is deep inside her to stimulate her clitoris. So if you're on top of her and you're rubbing and grinding in circles you're gonna be hitting her clitoris ever so nicely. If you're jack hammering, jack hammering, you're just hitting her clitoris or clitoris. It sounds like a dinosaur. But if you are a clitoris, does that sound like a new dinosaur? But if you're going around and around and around, it's going to rub or clitoris in a really delightful way. If you want to hit the pearl to really give her pleasure, then push your hips up slightly at

the tightest point of the screwing motion. So you get that, you move your body up a little more to your little bit above the clitoris and move around. Okay, got it, Matt, so you can do this tonight. Okay, use your PC muscles. You can use your PC muscles during sex. Everyone has a PC muscle that they squeeze when they need to go to the bathroom. It's that stop and start, stop and flow of urine, the stop and start when you're like, you're peeing and someone walks in the room. You have to stop the flow of urine, the stop and start when you're like a peeing and someone walks in the room. You just stop the flow of urine all of a sudden. When you do that, that's your PC muscle. That's how you isolate it. Or you could download my app, Kegelcamp,

from the iTunes store. And it reminds you and tells you how to do it. So learn to relax your PC muscles. When your hips meet with your partners and squeeze it and when you pull away, this is for men. PC exercises even help you less longer in bed. People think that they're for women, but they're for men too. As your hips keep the pumping rhythm going, you need to inhale as you relax, exhale as you squeeze if you want to feel a stronger orgasm.

Teaching men how to move here. Yeah. Do you have any structural video that you've put together? No, which is like to make money. I'll be funny if we made one together. I mean you, but like with our clothes on, being funny, would you've put together? No. Which would you like to make one? I'll show you for you. It'd be funny if we made one together. I mean you but like with our clothes on being funny. Would you love for that? Yes. Okay. So next is the shallow thrusting. A lot of shallow thrusting gets lost on men. They don't do the shallow thrusting. I think it's important. A tip for getting stimulation per G spot is a shallow thrusting. The outer third of a woman's vagina is her most sensitive area. What's more? You'll also provide extra sensations to tickle your fancy since you'll be concentrating on the most sensitive part of your penis

Which is the head. So if you're shallowly thrusting you're more likely to have a G-spot and it's gonna feel good I knew it's your tip really sensitive your penis tip The tip not think more of the sides. The sides. Interesting. A lot of men have sensitive penis tips with their penis. You can also have the best of both worlds by combining shallow and deep thrusting. You know what I mean?

So begin with like nine shallow deep thrusts, nine do like nine shallow thrusts, and then move hips to go in deep for one hard thrust, then do eight shallow thrusts and two deep movements. You know what I'm saying? Then you do seven, then you do three, then you do six, then you do four, six shallow, four deep, five shallow, seven deep, whatever, whatever, whatever, and then you can just mix it up.

It feels really good. I just think that so much of sex is like the deep, deep, deep thrusting. Because that's what guys see. That's when you all learned in your stupid pornography. Now I like I have no problem with porn, except for that you shouldn't learn one thing about how to actually have sex from it. That's my only problem. I should learn how to make love. Learn how to make love. I'm reading 50 shades of gray. I'm done with love. I'm reading 50 Shades of Grey. I'm done with it. I'm reading it again. I keep on singing everywhere. I was at LAX Airport on Sunday evening, and it was like a whole rack.

It takes over the whole world. What? What? So true. I know. When you're gonna write an erotic book. Dude, I have an iPhone app coming out next week. I mean, come on, another iPhone app.

It's crazy. When I'm gonna read a book, I gotta read a book I know. And I gotta sell it on my website. Mm-hmm. I'm a little bit... Tales of sex with Emily. Buying. True stories.

True stories. I could just send out an email to the guys I've slept with. It's just FYI, I have a book coming out tomorrow and 24 hours about sex life. No, I'm saying. Oh, right. Your email would state. I'd be like, yeah, how was I in bed?

That'd be like kind of like hilarious. Like the ones who hated me would be like, you sucked. Or maybe I did suck. Maybe the ones who don't care anymore, like, you know what? That's an easy digital book right there. Letters from X's. Letters from X's and how I bang them in bed. Letters from my X's and how it all went down. Then you just print what the hell they say.

hilarious you're right we should do that. Done. Okay. Then there is the cat position. Stands for coil alignment technique. It's a variation on the missionary position. She squeezes her legs together after you enter her, forcing your knees on either side of her thighs. You'll then hook your feet under hers, for traction or push off the headboard. If you're really tall, you can ride high on her hips and grind it to give her a great workout. This is on our website too, if you want to look at pictures of the cat. This is up and down and not in and out.

So this is like up, down, up, down, not in and out. So you're rubbing, rubbing, rubbing, rubbing. The coil-dollimetre technique produces more orgasms for women than any other position. How about that? Why wouldn't you do it then? Why wouldn't you do the cat position if I'm telling you that it gives a woman more orgasms?

It's good on the website, check it out. You're a big supporter of that position. You talk about that a lot. You've heard about it. You've heard me say it a lot. At least you listen to what I say. Sexelme.com, check it out. Check it out, check it out. You're a big supporter of that position. You talk about a lot. You've heard about it. You've heard me say it a lot. At least you listen to what I say. Sexelmay.com, check it out. Check it out, check it out.

Check out those videos from the Siklair Institute. Yeah. Is that one that you went and interviewed? Yes. That's on my website. Okay. You went and visited the institute, and you just did it. This whole thing where you interviewed the people before the head sex

I know there's a nice but it's not a porno. It's not a porno It's a traditional videos. I'm been watching them to be honest I've learned a ton and I thought I already knew everything but Sinclair just makes these really Like Connelly is phlegs you like like there's always like I remember whenever like his face, you're like, like, there's always like, I remember whenever, like, I was with a boyfriend years ago, and I learned some tip. It wasn't from a Sinclair Institute, but Sinclair is the same exact thing. It was, I learned a tip to do during all sex. It was like, I didn't remember what it was. I was performing all sex in it, and I did something that I just seen, and I practiced

on him. He was like, holy shit. What did you just do? You just blew my mind. And I don't know what it was. But what I'm saying is it was good. And you can learn tips to improve. Men and women can actually learn stuff that will make your sex life better. And I don't know why you just don't rent a DVD or do something to figure it out. That's what I want to know. How is it? You just watch it online? Yeah, but I think I was reading one of my books and it was said, so I like do this to

a guy. So I was like, did it? And of course, I don't remember what it was because it was years ago. And I don't know if I ever repeated it, but I was fresh off reading this book. And I was like, do something with your tongue and your, your lips moving in some way. And I did that exact thing. And I'd been giving him, performing Felatio and him for about eight months at the time and I blew his mind. So what I'm saying is there's all these tips and tricks and little things

and not everything would work on him but that tip like was like who loved it. Mmm hmm. Okay. All the info is at sex on me.com. Yes. We're not trying to plug. But if you are sex on me.com or plugging. Yeah, but it's just like we're trying to tell you to tell them to how to get information. This is what the whole show is about is trying to help you Better sex. What's the point? I know it sounds like we're plugging stuff all the time But it's only for your benefit right exactly. Yeah It's not stuff that's gonna cost you a fortune either. It's just stuff that's gonna prove your sex life and it's the stuff that I believe in Okay, movement hip movement for women you're fortunate either, it's just stuff that's going to improve your sex life and it's the stuff that I believe in. Okay. Movement, hip, movement for women.

Okay. Women need to pace themselves. Timing is so important. If you want a long love-making session, start out slow. This will help him last longer as well. So so much sex starts out really fast and I just think the slow, slow, slow hit movements and all that is yummy. Okay, women on top start moving up and down to build momentum or you can rest your torso on his and centrously grind him from side to side or in circles.

Start slowly, rock back and forth, gyrate and small circles. This is for the women. Lift for a sensual up and down and pump hard for that special ump. As his body tenses and he mirrors his orgasmic point of no return much, match the increasing speed and rhythm and don't stop until you get his very less contraction. Boom. Done. Done. Move it around, baby. But yeah, this is on our website, sexthemmy.com. If you want to learn new ways to move your hips and move your body, I think it's really important.

And if people haven't seen sexthemmy.com yet, you have another video that you made with your interns about Kegel Camp. Yes. And that's a hilarious video. We talked about it a couple times before, but please people, you have to go sexthemmy.com and check out the kegel camp. You like that video too? Yeah, we got to play that.

Oh, thank you. We try hard. Yeah, and we aim to please. And we do a video version of this show every Tuesday at 6 p.m. West Coast or 605. Yeah, 605 because Emily sometimes I'm late in the parking. Right. And you got it. Yeah, 610, but whatever. because Emily sometimes I'm late in the parking right and

Yeah, six ten but whatever you can check out the replays if you would like to see Emily's beautiful face Oh, you can check out the beautiful face you can see too everyone always wants to know when they say sell you on television on misadvised maybe yeah But a lot of people don't know what you look like maybe so if you want to watch a video replay to sit up The website click video. There's video podcasts exactly and if you don't know about misadvised I guess you can't get it on demand anymore and bravo I heard they took it down they don't have the shows what they do that was shows no not like because they didn't like them off and put them back up so they'll put it back up but you can also download iTunes yeah the whole episode it was a dating show that I was

on the summer eight bucks eight bucks Eight bucks. It's best eight bucks. You've ever did spend full freaking season. It can see Emily make out with a bunch of guys. A bunch of weird guys. It's super fun. And then I watched the Emmys the other night. Did you watch the Emmys? I saw all this homeland. Do you see homeland? No, it won like a million awards. Who cares? Have you watched the TV show that I've been telling you to watch newsroom on Instagram? No, I have a problem. I need to do it. Has everything you love? I don't know why I don't know why I wouldn't watch it either because I have a problem and I don't make time for anything fun. And it's on my list. Okay. Once the last time we got naked at your house. When's the time? I got naked at my house.

Yeah. And did what? Walked around naked in your house. I did it in the mornings when I'm getting dressed. That night count. I walk around naked a lot and I've got full on windows to the street and my neighbors can full on see me naked. But you just don't care. I really don't care. But I guess I should care now. It was crazy when I went home to Michigan this weekend.

Like it's funny how many people were like, oh my God, misadvised, you were misadvised. I saw you misadvised like probably 10 people in one day. But like not in San Francisco. So anyway, I feel like I'm naked. Yeah, when you go outside. But no one in San Francisco cares about naked in my window. Like who is a naked in their window vacuuming and doing stuff.

And sometimes I just got to be naked. Girls got to be naked. The first time I really saw people just through their windows, it wasn't on purpose, but I was in Venice Beach, California And it was a really hot night and I was at on a rooftop. There was a party going on And we look over to other side, which was an apartment building and everybody in their house was naked Wow, apartment like you look in each and everything. Well, they all jumping in the pool and suffer No, there's so hot. Oh. Did you go join?

Knock, knock, knock. I have to be. If it's hot, man, I can't have any clothes on. I was wondering if the reason why you are working at Stitcher now is because of the bathrooms here. No, these bathrooms are miserable. They're in front of everybody. Yeah, but you can close the door and be alone and get naked when you go to the bathroom.

No, but that in my mind everyone knows that I'm in the bathroom. So I'm only going there for a second. I come right. Oh, because everyone knows that you can take off your clothes to go to the bathroom. Well, they know that they don't know that, but I would tell you just the time. I mean, they give menaces every in there for longer than three minutes. You should knock. Dude, it's not going to happen.

I'm kidding. I know. I know you're crazy. I know. I think it's funny. There's one it's not going to happen. I'll go take the car back home. I know, you're crazy. I know, I think it's funny. There's one more thing I want to mention. I want to see what you think of this. There was a science-proven relationship news. And it says, breakups are harder on men than on women.

What? I know. And I was really shocked by it. So I want to see what they found. They said, breakups are tougher on men than women. Thanks to a neurochemical called vasopressin, men see other men as unproachable following a breakup, causing them to deal with a hair break alone. But the same chemical accused women to see other women as more approachable. So men don't have their guy friends to go to, but I don't know why that would make it easier on them.

Okay, sex makes both men and women feel attached under the influence of vessel press in men from a bond with you during sex that makes them crave you. Do you ever feel that when you break up as someone that you're still craving them? No, but I think with guys, they miss the sex, you know, yeah, they do but they can get sex right your brain Things your boyfriend is your baby. This may sound nuts, but here's that during sex this demulation activates much of the same Security circuitry as childbirth this explains our women tend to nurture their lovers will men tend to protect theirs

Love is an addiction, but sex isn't. Passion fades over time because the brain's reward system physically changes the same way it does for heroin addict. It's receptors for dopamine are altered and in place of the rush you feel more of a need, you must have your partner to avoid feeling miserable. So they're saying men go through all the things that women do. I don't know. You think that's true? I do think breakups. I feel like breakups are harder on women sometimes. But I don't think I'm literally if guys aren't getting laid right away by somebody else, then they're like, Oh, man, I screwed up. I'll never get laid again. Yeah. Do you guys always have that fear still? Like, I'll never get laid again. Yeah. Of course.

Yeah. Women do too. Like, Oh, my God, there's never going to be anyone else that I'm never going to find anyone else. But every time you think Yeah, I'm going to do too. Like, oh my God, there's never going to be anyone else. I'm never going to find anyone else. But every time you think that you're going through a breakup right now and you're like, I'll never leave without this person and I'll never find anyone else that's going to match it, I promise you, I swear in my entire life, you absolutely will. You're going to find someone who fits the bill so much clear, so much better, so much brighter and you need to worry about it. Because I realized after all these years of dating, though every time I felt that, it all worked out, and you don't need to worry about it. Because I realized after all these years dating,

though every time I felt that, it all worked out. So I'm not gonna worry about it. And... Yeah. And you're never getting late again, that's, you know. You really worry about that? Yeah, sometimes. You never do a new thing.

Never get late again. You like totally get late again. Gotta pursue it. You gotta pursue it, okay? So anyway, happy day everyone. It's, yeah, sex with Emily. You can check out all of our podcasts. You can subscribe on my website, Sex with Emily.

You get the RSS feed. You can also go to iTunes and download them all for free. We have a video podcast. I've got a book called Hot Sex. Over 200 things you can try tonight. And it is totally spicing up people's love lives around the world. It's rocking people's worlds. I've got a new iPhone app coming out in a few weeks. I'll tell you about that. It's also going to spice up your sex life. And what else I have to

mention? Keagle Camp, my iPhone app, which is amazing. You'll all love that. And you have the 101 sex tips. I know I might take that one down number. You do it. That's what I'm not going to talk about it. But anything else, do you have five minutes? You can find menace. Are you still white menace? I'm just menace on Twitter and menace on Instagram. That's all you want.

It's all you want. Menace on Twitter and menace on Instagram. And I'm tweet me. I'm a person. I like when people, I know that people are listening. Right. We want to know that you're listening. So tweet me too.

Sacks with Emily and Instagram. Sacks with Emily and Facebook.com slash sex with Emily. Do you fan page two? Yeah, Facebook.com slash menace FM good for you. Emails all your questions that you have. We love hearing from you. We love answering your questions. You want to help you have better sex and relationships. That's just what we want in the world. Right. Leave dirty comments on sex Facebook.com slash sex with Emily. Leave dirty comments on Sex Facebook dot com slash sex with Emily. You can leave a dirty comment. I might delete you No, but we're doing two shows a week ones a video show ones a podcast show and we just love hearing from everyone So thanks so much and thank you for listening on Serious XM 165. Yeah, we appreciate it. It's awesome

We so appreciate you guys listening and let us know if you like the show what you think about it. Okay? e-mail us Feedback at sex with Emily dot com so appreciate you guys listening and let us know if you like the show and what you think about it, okay? E-Bell us. Feedback at sexwithemily.com. Check out my new vibrator store at sexwithemilyovodotcom.com to check out vibes as low as $15 from the Germany company Ovo. That's OVO. You sleep well-designed and inexpensive vibes make great gifts for yourself and others. Go to sexwithemilyovodotcom to get one tonight.

yourself and others. Go to sexwithemilyobo.com to get one tonight.