Sex With Emily - SWE: Threesomes

Episode Date: January 22, 2014

Everyone has been asking me about threesomes. What rules should you follow to have a successful threesome, and how do you even have one in the first place? What divine intervention needs to take place to end up with two hotties in your bed? Other topics: Reverse cowgirl, using the magic wand during sex, and your penis (or lack there of). Use coupon code EMILY for 15% off at Good Vibrations: http://bit.ly/19rLghs. Use coupon code EMILY25 for 25% off at crazygirlproducts.com and coupon code EMILY for 20% off your first purchase at Emilyandtony.com. Check out my new vibrator store: www.sexwithemilyovo.com/.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's been great from hearing from you. It's really easy if you go to sexliving.com. You can just email me any of your questions to my website. We try to get to all your emails. We're getting so many of them. And when we do get to them, we will email you so you can listen to the show. And sometimes we post your questions online, I answer them online. So there's been lots of different ways we can get your information across and we will

get back to you. So I read all your emails and I love hearing from you. So thanks for that. And we have another announcement. Oh my God, what? We have another new home. We're just going to another new place. Oh gosh, we got another new home, Talham.

TradioV.com. That's TradioV.com. West Coast time. Every Tuesday T radio V dot com. That's T radio V dot com West Coast time every Tuesday at two o'clock We're gonna be doing a live radio show like five cameras. I know back in the day We did like one camera that was only on Emily about Emily all about her Yeah, now you can see minutes. This one is like totally interactive. You can call in Uh, and we you can actually Skype in.

We can Skype in Bm video. Yeah, you can be on video and radio. T radio V radio and video. So that is every Monday at two o'clock Pacific. Yeah, and if you can't tune in on at that time, there'll be a video that you can watch on So you can watch the entire hour of Menace and I in the studio.

You can see the whole studio. It's very interactive. It's really cool. Yeah, but it's did a test run. I think it went really well. I think it went well too. I want to talk to the people and they loved it. They love you.

They do. They thought you were amazing, but they totally agreed that you would be a trainer right without me. Oh, stop it. I'd be a trainer without you. Menace, you have to throw in that dig. What?

How would I be a trainer without you? I'm just saying. You're just saying that because you want to feel good. No, I'm just saying that I, you know, I just keep everything in line. It reminds me of a compliment and then take it away. Because I'm just saying that it gives me too many compliments, but I have to get super big. Yeah, what should I do? He's like compliment, compliment, compliment, dig, dig, dig. All right, you're amazing. You can do everything by yourself. No, I love it love it. Amazing. It would just take off if I wasn't here. Man, you add a lot to the show and I love you.

And I'm so glad you're here and I'm glad everyone's here. Today's show we're going to be talking about three sums because you know, I'd say in the last, there's been force misadvised episodes, three sums have come up two times. It's coming up. I just saw it next week's episode because we get it a few days ahead of time. And another three-some situation comes up. So I thought I should give people tips on three-some. Apparently I'm three-some check.

As far as I know a lot about it. And the S I've had one or two. But a five. Not five, even not even five. I'm not kidding you. But I feel like that's the number one fantasy for men, a lot of women are curious and how do you get into it, what are the rules,

how do you make it happen. We're also gonna be reading the emails that you sent me with your questions. We've got some sex in the news. We've got just a lot of stuff going on. Today's show is brought to you by GoodVibrations. Go to goodvibes.com, use coupon code, gv-emily-ship, and you get free shipping.

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I don't think it's ever been done before. Have your people, you have a whole staff at this X was Emily headquarters, which I put up on Instagram the other day. Yes. The search white menace on Instagram, one word you can see it. You have a whole staff there. Tell them to to call the cockering people and let them know that you are

behind here. I'm a pioneer in cock rings. Yeah. I was talking to a new client yesterday. They were like, do you like cock rings? I'm like, do I like cock rings? Yeah. I am the cockering queen. That should be in your bio. I'm going to wear one around my head. First, stretch it really tight and put it around my head. First person to say cockering on television. Yeah, and I always wanted to be the first at something, you know, to make a real like difference in the world. And I think that was one of them. So anyway, goodvibes.com, you can get tons of toys,

if your products, toys, videos, whatever you want. We had a party on Monday night. Menace wasn't there. He was glaringly missing, but it was a screening party for Miss Advise that we did actually with good vibrations because good vibrations was featured in the episode because I attended a kissing workshop during the episode.

I had to make out with a dude on camera in front of people so people would learn how to do better kiss and we taught that class at good vibrations. They have a store too and an online site. People had nice things to say about you about that on the internet. What do they say? Can't believe you did that. They said you were too and an online site. People had nice things to say about you about that on the internet. Would they say like, I can't believe you did that? They said you were kind of of a flusier.

No, they didn't. They said, I can't believe that you had a kiss that guy who was twitching all the time. So the guy that I was kissing his name is Reed Mahako. He's a well-known sex educator. Nothing wrong with Reed, a door read. However, he has a particular issue. Tray. Tray. Up to, yeah.

When he kisses, when he gets turned on, he said, he gets a turned on Tourette's, what he called it. This is like three seconds before we made out. He said to me, I get this turned on Tourette's, so he started to kiss and he started shaking violently. But like, it wasn't like it was a scary way. I mean, it might look creepy. But it was an act. No. So then I'm kissing them. I'm trying to focus on

kissing this guy and he starts shaking and to rats. It's a funny episode. Go watch it. It's on demand. I mean, I think it's on demand or it's on some stations on demand. It repeats every day, misadvised. Let's check it out. Well, not to bag on you or anything, but you're going to take this the wrong way. Probably. Uh, provodetv.com. If you click on misadvised and click on the videos, there's a video right now of you and I. Oh God.

Should we talk about that? And I just want to let you know right now, I was not twitching. You were not twitching, but you did get a boner. So I did not get a boner. I did not get a boner. A preview to next week's episode we get. So basically what happens is brav. I have not seen the episode I don't see them ahead of time, but they sent them to me three days

I don't see it like weeks ahead of time. I see it's like four days ahead of time because I've turned in my bravo blog Which you should all read on the Bravo site and I Facebook like it menace and I watch the episode together and what happened was I Came back after the day after the workshop we did a show and I was like menace I did this workshop I I taught people after the day after the workshop, we did a show, and I was like, Menace, I did this workshop, I taught people all the kids, he's like, what would you learn?

And one of the main tenants of being a better kisser, because I don't know if this happened to you, it's happened to a lot, I know a lot of people, they say, you know, this person's great, everything's wonderful, but we don't kiss well, we don't connect, our kissing isn't very good. Can you teach someone to be a better kisser? And so what we taught in the workshop was that

one of the tactics was is to kiss somebody the way that you'd like to be kissed and then switch. So let's say, so I was doing this with menace, I said, menace, let's say you and I were dating. I would kiss you, I would show you what I like, and then you would turn around, kiss me and show me what you like. So then we know, and then we can make a malgamation

of our kissing together. Yeah, but I was an amazing kisser, but you not so much. So Menace says to me, okay, let's try it right now because he's been dying to kiss me. Oh yeah. And so I got up off my chair here with my during the show and I make out with Menace.

And there's a video of it on site on the website now. Oh, we should put it on our Facebook box. roboTV.com. I put it on my, see, you don't go to my Facebook. Are you put it on? You know why you're a boycott your Facebook page? Why? Because you don't just let people post shit.

You have to accept it. You prove it. If I do my message. No, no, no, all the way with photos. Only with photos. Okay, so if I go, yeah, wait a minute, okay, fine. Do it when we get back. You can write. Yeah, I'm very posted. But men, this with photos. Okay, so if I go, yeah, wait a minute, okay, fine. Doing it when we get back. You can be right.

Yeah, I'm very posted. But men, this is me, like, Christmas, and then he wipes his mouth, like he just had some broccoli or something that he didn't like, and that was rude. Wow. Wow, that's, no, I'm sorry. It's whatever.

Yeah, check it out. Check it out, check it out. And then, um. Don't totally put on your blog on sexelamy.com. We will. I'll do it now, I'll do it now, I'll do it today. We need to, yeah, we're We're updating our blog every day. For all the old school listeners, that's a moment they've been waiting for forever.

Exactly. People don't realize that men aside and working together for a long time. And we've got, a lot of people are newcomers out, but they don't know the history, which actually we have a lot of our episodes up on the website. We've got like 150 shows. And every week we're putting up a throwback Thursday episode. So actually today you're going to get a new episode from the past. But the point is, menace people write us, they're like, why don't you guys just hug up already?

Why don't you guys be together? You and menace should be together. They've been forcing this upon us. So menace was excited, he saw his in and he made me decide. But I told you, only two people in my life life ever the people that I've dated and made out with is like I felt a really Really strong kissing connection like perfect But do you think if we were alone and there weren't cameras around that you would have found that I was a better could you would have enjoyed my kissing better? Probably not

minus that's me. Oh, I'm sure it would be amazing. I'm a good kisser. No one's ever complained Why guys? Yeah, guys are not gonna say anything. They just happy they'reer. No one's ever complained. Why guys are not going to say anything. They just happy they're kissing. Well, they always come back for more. I know. How about that? Put it now. Of course. I don't know. I don't always put out. Oh, that's one of our sex and the news things today. How women should wait for sex. That's one of the top questions we get asked. Oh, do you know what? What are we going to do this or not? Yeah. What? Are we going to do a live Are we going to do this or not? Yeah, what? Are we going to do a live show after the airing of the East Coast misadvised on Bravo?

One. Monday at 8 p.m. West Coast. This Monday? This Monday. We can do a live one hour after show. Oh, yeah, at T Radio V. Yeah, we should do it. Let's do it.

I think that'd be fun, but you would have to really break down the episode and talk about the other girls. I will. I don't say bad things about them. I love Amy and Julia. I mean, but I would critically, I'd be critical. Yeah. I would be.

Because I got some things to say. Yeah, but you do. Um, so I love Amy, but you know, she loves you. She's like, oh my god, she goes, LMFAO, you kiss menace. Okay. If people don't know, there's another girl on the show. Her name's Amy. Cute girl, you know.

Nice wrap, nice body. Nice body, all that stuff. But it's just, she's one of those workout freaks. Fanatics now. And I think the only, the only people that can date people like that are people that are just fanatics with working out too. It's not gonna work out with her, like trying to date somebody that's just fanatics with working out too. It's not going to work out with her,

like trying to date somebody that's just not like food conscious and going to the gym, all that stuff. She can't date anybody that doesn't do that because it's just going to be a constant thing. What the guy, he's going to be annoyed by it, like because you're always going to think, oh, I don't look good or I'm going to look fat and blah blah. Right. She's, yeah, I mean, and if you dated her and you were like eating taco bell in front of her, she'd be horrendified. Oh, what?

Her panties are fun and wet. If that happened. Watt, of sure. So, yeah, that's Amy and Julia's also on the show. Yeah. We getting good response. It's been fun. I know the viewership was up.

Way up, tell all your friends, everyone watch it right now or DVR it. Okay, we've got some sex in the news. Do yeah. Yeah. So I do. I don't have anything celebrity. So we know. Oh, you know what I did not mention in here is we have not talked about yet is the Tom Cruise and Katie Homestivores. What do you think? I think it's not a surprise. She married a young. She was totally swept away by him. But if you look at his history in his past, he doesn't seem like someone who's like a safe bet. Two. Did Mary today, little dicoid kidman, it's always weird, the divorces that he gets into and the stuff. Yeah, actually, I didn't know about his first marriage before Nicole. Yeah,

someone, another, she was another famous, maybe Rogers, I think. Yeah, yeah. And she's actually the one that turned them on to Scientology. Oh interesting I was reading up on it because they they mentioned it on one of the extra You know right shows that I watch that's how I get all my education is from television That's great and then so they explains everything. What it it makes me Go research right. Yeah, so I went in research and I found out that she was the one that turned them on to To it and she was actually him and her were only married for two right. Yeah, so I went in research and I found out that she was the one that turned him on to to it.

And she was actually him and her were only married for two years. Yeah, I read that. I did know that. And then Tom and then they say Katie's going to be like the next egg girl and all the stuff because she's like single and Tom Cruise money and she can live that life. I definitely think so. A she people bring up all the movies that she was in. She was in this one movie called Go.

Yeah, I love Go. Which was one of my all-time favorite movies. I love to see them in the end. They never give credit to Go when they give out the movie. Maybe she's ashamed of it, because they're like drugs in it or something. It's just like very indie type. I love to go.

I loved when it came out. Yeah. That was a really good movie. And then- If you don't know, there's some sex scenes in there, people. Is she in it? Does she have sex? No, but there's a guy that has a threesome in it in the movie I don't remember that yeah the Irish guy he they they go to Vegas and he crashes a wedding and then he he was able to take two

bridesmaids up to his hotel room and he had sex with them I go and go yeah oh my god I don't remember that came in like 10 years ago didn't it more than that really okay whatever so we'll watch it again okay sex in the news there's a hot Oh my god, I don't remember. That came out like 10 years ago, didn't it? Oh, more than that. Really? Okay, whatever. So we'll watch it again. Okay, sex and the news. There's a hot, what do you think about this? There's a new no orgasm sex called choreza. There's a curious, new trend in couple therapy.

Sex without orgasms. You might have already been having that kind of sex, but Matt Cook says his sex life with his wife is better than ever, but he never wants to climax again He practices Kareza, Kareza, K-A-R-E-Z-Z-A It's a form of intercourse. It doesn't focus on orgasms as the big prize In fact, people who practice are urged to avoid them altogether It creates a deep feeling in a relationship that's very close to describe much deeper than conventional

conventional sex dude. Do you know what's crazy? What? Another guy in the movie go talks about this. Shut up. How do you remember this from 20 years ago? Because I'm not crazy like you. I can remember all of the stuff. No, I got a lot stuff in my brain. So they say it's useful for couples,

even in the honeymoon stage. They offer this to couples, who even together in a month, even for a month or so. They say they wake up every single morning and they're not thinking about general stimulation. They're snuggling, they're holding and breathing with eye contact and flow and it's a very conscious So what they're saying is that it's a way to strengthen marriages because they can become closer without actually having intercourse And then he talks about the biochemical things that happen when you have an orgasm that you kind of get a hangover

Because the dopamine in your brain spikes at climax and then it crashes. So they say that the brain scams of people climaxing looks like that of a person shooting heroin. So if we avoid orgasms altogether, it'll keep couples closer. I'm not ready to give up my orgasms yet, if ever, but I do get, it's kind of like a tantric sex,

kind of thing that there are a lot of schools of thought that you shouldn't just focus on the orgasm Well, it's easier cleanup anyways. That's a benefit. Oh, thank God. I hate all that cleanup Okay, there's a dating you don't like the clean in general. I clean I did my sheets yesterday I've never come to my life. I did make a frozen burrito for a friend less go over to Emily's house sort of God all there is is ice in the refrigerator. Like, I don't know how this woman is. No, I don't have ice because my ice maker is broken.

So I really, I don't even have anything. Look at it. I just like, it's like condiments. I've never cooked so bad. I know, but I'm working on it. Okay, so I do. That's how you say so thin. I'm so thin because I have no food.

I starve. I'm not on purpose. Well, you're not going to like go get food or anything. So I do live by a whole foods, but'm not on purpose. I just well you're you're not gonna like go get food or anything So I do live by a whole foods, but it's so expensive. It just kills me. You go in there for one thing It's like 50 bucks. You gotta go to the poor man's whole foods. Which one's that? Trader Joe's I'm gonna go in there today. I am going there. I love Trader Joe's because I'm going away this weekend to my friends cabin Who's your friend my ex-boyfriend? Who's the group of people that are gonna be there? I'm going with some friends.

It's my friend's birthday. Break down the friends. Who are these? Charlotte. She's single. Who are these people to you? They're bestest friends in the whole world. And a guy that I've been dating.

And some other friends. Guy you've been dating. I'm sleeping in my ex-boyfriend's bedroom in his cabin. Oh, is that weird? She has boyfriend gonna be there. Yeah He's Max boyfriend from years ago Current guy you're dating we're gonna have sex in his bed. Is that weird? Well, what do you think? I'm thinking if I was the current guy that you're dating I was saying you should have This other guy 10 years.

Seven years ago. No, they love each other. They like, they email. No, it's good, honey. I think it's healthy. I think what I'm representing. I'm even healthy. That my ex-boyfriends, my best friend

and watch is my dog when I'm out of town every five minutes? Yes. And that he loves my boyfriend. Not my boyfriend, but. Oh, he's not my boyfriend. No, no, no, no. The guy that I'm dating, I don't like that word. Please do not bring that up again

I'm just can you cut that out of the audio? Oh my God. Oh my God. I know If you said boy friend, you mean ex boyfriend right now. He's been mad at me lately. I wonder why because Now he's been watching a TV show where you make out with every single guy every episode Yeah, that hasn't been helping because I kiss my ex I kiss my high school crush two episodes ago. I kiss you Kiss some I am a slut. Oh, dude people tell me the line of the whole episode is what Talk about this yesterday. I go people are gonna quote this. It's not tax with Emily. It's sex with everyone that one no No, it's about with everyone, that one? No. No. It's about

polyamory. Oh, I don't know, tell me it. What? We went over this for like an hour yesterday. Is the polyamory scrabble? Oh, break it down. So when I, so a read when we were talking about, this was not actually in the scene, but I quote it that read likes to be penetrated annually while playing Scrabble. So what's it called? I don't know. What did we call it? Penetrate of Scrabble. Yes.

Yes. Dude, I'm sorry. Penetrate of Scrabble. It's hilarious. That's what he likes. So, but you know, everyone's got their thing that turns them on. He was playing penetrative Scrabble. He really read. That's what he likes though, but you know, everyone's got their thing that turns them on. Playing penetrator scrap really read. How do you even play that? How do you focus on the letters when you're being penetrated in the anal? Yeah, I don't know. I'd be like word and then I forget the word. When you get the, I mean, when you get the word, you get penetrated?

I'm not, you know what? I didn't get into the details because I didn't think it was anything I was going to be playing anytime soon. There should be an app that's with Emily penish penetrated. I think not. I think that's not my next app. Anel. Anel app. Anel app. God. Anel sex comes up in the show a few times and three times. Wow. Only in your second and so. Only in my second. Mom's sex with Emily. It's not going to come up with Amy or someone, right? Okay. So here's a dating tip. Keep your pants on, ladies. In a relationship, it's usually safe to say that women has far more to lose than the

man, sorry, gents, until you can get pregnant. This is true. So, if you want to protect your heart and save your precious time, here's some cautionary advice. So, this is for women about keeping your pants on. Number one, keep your pants on until these elements are in place. You're dating each other exclusively. Keep your pants on until you're are in place. You're dating each other exclusively. Keep your pants on until you're exclusive.

This is just a suggestion. This is something that Amy would say. But like there are a lot of women who sleep with a guy really quickly. They assume they're going to be monogamous. They make all these assumptions. They get attached to the guy before they should because they had sex. So if you want to protect your heart, don't have sex until you guys are exclusive. Your primary dating purposes are an alignment. If you're sincerely seeking marriage

and kids, don't go there with anyone else who's down the same path. If you've not yet had that conversation and you don't know the other person's long-term plan, keep your pants on. What do you think about this? Do you think a woman should ask you first if you want a kid? This is for women who are on a track to get married, settle down, have a family, you know exactly what you want. Maybe this isn't for a 23 year old, but maybe this is someone who's 30 or who's looking for the right guy and keeps falling into relationships with the wrong people. This is kind of like just wait, just wait to have sex until you find more out about this person. Yeah, I, uh, I mean if you're asking these questions right away,

you're gonna scare off the guy. I know, but then guys won't have sex on the second date. So what do you do? I would be like, I know, it is slippery slope, because I do not think women. Then make sure you have really protected sex. Yeah, well, that's the next point. You've had the touch rate, right.

Have you been tested? Has he tested you got asked these questions so Um, and remember when high school we'd lots of fun with our pants on sex is actually much more satisfying When you wait a while for it, and it's along the lines of love making and cheap casual sex. It's worth the wait Yeah, if it's a girl that I really liked and I'll wait you wait. Yeah, how long? It depends on how much I really like her. I mean not like six months maybe but maybe like a month two months How long do people wait these days? Let me know Feedback at Emily Morris calm. I mean As you get older, you know girls get a little bit sludder. They're willing to like hook up with you on the first day really doesn't

Doesn't really matter. I mean, older, do they? They put their inhibitions? They do. They just say, yeah, they'll bang you, whatever. They'll have bang you and then go get dinner and do it. But if it's somebody that I really, really liked, yeah, I'm willing to wait. I mean, I'm not going to wait a year,

but I'll wait, maybe I'll wait like, if the sum, if she has like some issue where she really needs to date something, I'll wait if I'm exclusively dating her and she's not hanging out with anybody else Right, and I probably maybe wait to like six months. Oh my god. Really? To have sex. Yeah, as long as she's only hanging out with me. I can't believe that when you're gonna start meeting these people That you're I you want a relationship. Don't you or no you're good now? Do I want one? Yeah. Yeah, I would have a relationship.

Yeah, I want you to have one. I want a strong healthy relationship. Me too. I would only go out and like banging a bunch of people. Do you know why? Why honey? Because it's easy for you as a woman. You can just go, I'm not saying this is what you're doing. Right. This is what you're doing. But it's easy for you as a woman to go on

a bunch of different dates with a bunch of different people. As a man, it's not as easy because it costs a lot of money. No, it's true. It's expensive. If you're old school like I am, a man should always pay for the first date. So if I'm hanging out with a bunch of different chicks, I'm out with a bunch of different chicks Right. I'm going on a bunch of different first dates that I'm paying for a lot of effort money for Can't you just take into some of your free movies and stuff unless you're like just hanging out with a bunch of whores It doesn't matter if you're taking them out or not, you know, right The whores just want to make sure you have yeah, and the hoars are the whores are not the ones that I want to you know

Have a relationship with right It is expensive, but there are things you can do on a first date that are not expensive. Go for a walk on the beach. Go to the park. Really? Sorry. You would never do that.

You don't be not expensive at all. It's a girl made me a dinner. You shouldn't make somebody a dinner. I should make somebody a dinner. In fact, I should. I'm not. When's the last time you cook something? I've never have in my life. not one thing ever. Are you serious?

I've never turned on my stove or my oven or whatever. Either. What the f, man? What would I cook? I've never cooked. I saw that episode with your mom and she was cooking stuff. My mom was going, mom, I know. She was cooking up. She said, okay, my mom's theory is that she tried to teach me how to cook when I was growing up and she'd be like, I haven't mom's theory is that she tried to teach me how to cook when I was going

up and she'd be like, I'm late, call me the kitchen. And she said, I was on the phone the whole time. Like my entire childhood, I was on the telephone and I wouldn't- What were you talking to on the telephone? Friends, girls, I was like 12. What were you talking about? Boys, probably. Really?

Yeah, at 12? She says, I was always on the phone, always with my friends and I was not interested in learning to cook. And she said, she tried to help me. I don't remember that. I don't remember her ever saying, like, learn to cook. But it wasn't like a fun thing. My parents were divorced.

My mom was in the kitchen stressed out. Like I really want to go hang out when my mom makes some chicken. So now as a result, I don't know how to cook. But. Did that affect your brother? Did your brother, I brother doesn't cook either.

No one cooks in our family. And my sister-in-law kind of cooks, but, my mom cooks. I know it's weird, weird family. But we've got other skills. Like, we're pretty, I mean, your brother, I mean, don't speak for your family. Okay.

Your brother has a lot of skills. He's got mad skills. Mad skills. My brother's gonna come to New York. I'm going to New York. Okay, so I'm going to New York. And you halfway invited me. You're welcome, you're welcome to come.

I'm not going in. We're gonna be on the Andy Cohn show, watch what happens live on July 23rd. And if you're in New York and you want to come to our party, let me know. Email me. This is how Emily invites you to things that she doesn't really want you to do. Oh, stop. What?

This is what happens. What? She goes, Oh, New York, you should totally come. Boba. I go, Oh, yeah, I actually have a plane ticket. I can go to New York or can fly whenever I want. Oh, but you probably can't take work off. Oh, I see.

That's how you say now you don't want me to go. If you came, I would be so happy. You could stay in my hotel room if you don't, if you promised not to try to kiss me again. What? I'm kidding, but no, but you could. I would love you to be there, men. If you could take off a day of work,

come on Monday the 23rd to New York. Missed advice a screening part. It's like two weeks. Honey, I always worry there. I just don't know you to ever take off a Monday. I can fly out that Monday. Don't doubt me that I don't, that I don't mean the right. What time is the party?

7 to 10. And then we go and watch what happens live and have a lot to bring to people and you could be one of my people. What? Are you serious? Totally. Think about it. I'm going to seriously have two people.

OK, table that for after the show. We can talk about it. OK, my last section of the news story, Jane Fonda says, I have a great sex life. She's growing old like a fine wine. The famed actress is not taking her later years lying down or wait, maybe she is. The Thrice Merritt Oscar winner told the UK's son

that her boyfriend of roughly three years a music producer has shown her true intimacy which she absolutely wanted to discover before dying. At 74 I've never had such a fulfilling sex life Jane said when I was young I had so many inhibitions I didn't know what I desired and I think that's true I think the older women get that they definitely they definitely enjoy sex more. They enjoy sex more readily. You learn your own bodies. And I love to hear that she's bone in people at 74. She was just recently on the Kathy Griffith show.

Really? Was she good? Or whatever her name is? Yeah, she was really good. Actually, she seemed a lot more reserved than I thought she would be. Oh, really? Yeah, versus she was on there with Kelly Osborne, Kelly Osborne's mom.

Oh, okay. Why can I think of her name right now? Osborne. Osborne. Right. Yeah. And Sharon. Sharon, and I love Sharon Osborne.

I don't know why, but her, Sharon Osborne and Kathy were just like going crazy and it's like being super sexual. And it was weird because I thought I should be there. Yeah, well, you should totally be there. But I thought that that Jane Fonda was a little more reserved. Oh, interesting. But do you have that famous photo of, are you seeing that famous photo of Jane Fonda where she got arrested?

No. Yeah. She was really hot. Yeah, for protesting. Yeah, she was hot. She's hot. She was totally hot back in the day. This is before like, they started going out with like sexy pictures of her like everywhere.

Oh, this is like just her rested and looking at her. She looks hot. Yeah, I'm sure she was like an activist totally. Okay, we can move on to some emails. We love hearing from you. You can write me at feedback at EmilyMorse.com where easiest ways go to sexthelmy.com and just use the form and on the contact page and send me your questions. And I will answer them. Please, please tell us where you're from.

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So emails. Deer Emily. Why is sex such a taboo subject? All of humanity has to do it. It's totally normal. If we all do it then why is it so taboo from Kyle? Kyle, that is a great question. And it's something that I've run into all the time in the world.

And the reason why I started the show is because I believe that essentially in America, I'm not sure where you're from, but we live in a contradictory, repressed society where sex is everywhere. Like everyone's thinking about it. People are motivated by sex, but yet our laws governed are the way people act are very repressive and very negative towards it. Sex is still taboo.

And so what I try to do in the sex studies show is break that down and make it something that's just normal. Like we can all talk about sex and relationships and it's such important information to get out there because there's not a lot of smart sex talk shows and ways for people to get this kind of information. So like either porn stars or porn, but I'm just trying to educate people and I don't know why it's so taboo if that's what everyone's thinking about, but we're trying to break down that barrier here at the Sex and the Show thinking about, but we're trying to break down that barrier here at the Section Family Show.

That's what we're trying to do. Well, you say that I'm not trying to do that. No, you are. I try. Yeah, I just say we, we, at the Section Family Show, we. I know. But sometimes you say every piece of advice that I give out is a bunch of malarkey. No, I didn't say every piece that you give out is a malarkey.

Just some pieces are malarkey. All right. Okay. Dear Emily, I'm in the middle of watching Miss Advise and you make a statement that really hit home with me. You're answering a question about monogamy and why you don't like monogamy saying because I don't know that many happily married people. That really hit home with me. I'm currently in my second marriage and I'm not happy. At times I think maybe I'm just not that marrying type. If that type still exists.

In fact, I blame a lot of it on the possibility that I just always picked the wrong guys. But now I'm playing with the idea that maybe I just don't fit into the monogamy mold. Coming from parents who are very conservative and who've been married for 30 years, I've always thought that was the life I wanted. Now I'm not so sure.

I'm married to a man who I thought was the perfect man for me. The problem is, I'm unhappy and I don't know if it's just me. I'm just not man who I thought was the perfect man for me. The problem is, I'm unhappy and I don't know if it's just me, I'm just not the married kind or just a relationship. How do I figure this out? What is this species idea? And how do I figure out from monogamy is for me. I desperately need to help to figure out if it's me or the relationship from Jessica. Wow, Jessica, this is a really loaded email in a good way. Now I do say on the show that I think that monogamy isn't for everybody and I think I talk a lot you know last week's show on misadvised was all about polyamory people and open relationships. But I want to know Jessica,

what I got to say is you want to know if it's the relationship or if it's you or if it's magme and I'm thinking this is you right now. I think that it's not about the guy, it's not about what you choose, magma, and magma, it's kind of like, where you're not happy right now. And I want to know, are you not happy with yourself? Are there some things that are going on in your life that are that you might need to work on? Like, are you not loving your job? Are you feeling like you're not doing enough things that you had set out to do in your life?

Like, I'm wondering if you're just not in the right place for a relationship or if the reason why I'm not working for you, like, because I don't have all the information, but are you saying, Monagmy's not right for you because maybe you want to have multiple sexual partners. Maybe you're not satisfied sexually with this guy because you didn't say here what it was. You thought he was perfect for you, which I think is the first fallacy. We often meet people and we think, oh, he fits everything that I want. I check it off on paper.

But a lot of times we just, people end up with the wrong people. And I think that maybe you might need to pull back and do some introspection, maybe some therapy would help you right now. Therapy is a great way to figure out what you want. I wouldn't say go ahead and divorce this guy. It's your second marriage. Try to make it work. But maybe you need couples therapy or maybe you need to start with individual therapy

and figure out what you want. The hardest task that we all do in the planet and what we're really lucky, we're lucky. We can all figure out exactly what kind of relationship we want, what kind of life we want, and we can make that happen. But we know when people do not spend the time getting clear. Like you said, your parents, like you said Jessica,

your parents are married for 30 years, You thought that was your only option. You thought, I want to be happily married for 30 years just like my family because we often do what we see, what we experience. And so I think that maybe, you know, maybe you've been had these messages and you just need to pull back and do some self exploration. What about her current relationship? I don't know, they might need some therapy. She said she's very unhappy and she's not sure if she's the marrying kind or if it's just a relationship.

So I would say that those are two really important things. I would say that it could be both. It could be one of the other. It could be a little bit of whatever. I'm not sure. So I think that you guys maybe come some couples therapy. Does your partner, does your second husband know that you're unhappy and why? Have you tried to work on the issues?

Relationships are about compromise and communication and talking about these things. And if you're not currently talking, does he know, you know, but you're unhappy, then you're not going to go anywhere. So I would say a little couples therapy. I'm telling you, I say this, but it's so true that I have seen, if not hundreds of couples, enter into couples therapy and it has either saved the relationship or end the relationship, but either way it fast tracks your issues. So you can figure out what is really going on because you have a third party and you go

for a month or you go for two months to see this person and I think you really get to the bottom of some of these issues. I say a therapist. You can maybe get one through health insurance, they have free clinics. How many therapists are you currently visiting? One. Have I ever seen more than two? How many do you think you need? Spilled. I don't think I've been at therapy for years. I was and then I stopped and now I'm back again. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

How many therapists do you need? I think you would need a lot. No, no, no. You'd need the whole round table. What are you talking about? I'm just kidding. I know my issues, I own my issues. You, you say that they're not true,

the ones that you have. I think I've worked on a lot of my issues. I'm working on more about work stuff right now in therapy. I think my issues are pretty, I think I've got my relationship stuff figured out. There's somebody that I really want to talk to is coming up in the new episode of Misadvised. People should really watch it. Okay, well who?

That guy that Julia talks to? Oh, you like him. The relationship, the love, the happiness coach. No, happiness coach. I want to go talk to him. Like what he said. I know What did he say exactly? We can't I like to tell you watch it really watching people should watch it because I actually used to be around Something like that when I my my early years of broadcasting right really positive

Yeah, this guy that I know He passed away, but he Had 28 grandchildren Wow, but he had 28 grandchildren. Right? He was married twice. He did so many things and he had a lot of life experience. He could talk, his conversation, he could talk about a necktie

and you'd be riveted by this necktie conversation for 45 minutes. But he was just so positive in building people's self-esteem and making them feel so good. You got to be around people like that. I know, I go. I was just actually reading on Twitter the other day that, if you're in a negative relationship,

then you're pretty much doomed. Like they said that your breakup rate was 80%. If somebody else in your relationship is just a negative person. It's true. It's I believe that. It's funny that people have been attracted to people who are negative all the time, but they are maybe because they think they can fix them, make them happy. Yeah. And you can't change the person you're dating ever. So. There's this girl who is actually doing a show on T-Radio V. And her message, she's all just about being positive, right? Yeah.

Her radio show is something that I would never listen to in a million years, right? But since I see her energy and how positive she is, I'm sucked in. Wow. Did you hear it? Did you watch the show? I watch it.

Yeah, yeah. What's it called her name Cecilia? It's like loss and translation or something. Okay. I love positive. She's like from I could be wrong, but like Brazil or She's from Argentina. Okay. Her like vibe is so positive that I'm just I just can't get enough Is it a happiness show like how to be happy? I mean to see a dispositive. She's like because you know news is that if you if you flip on the news are just going on It's just all negativity. It's the most negative news stories. You rarely see anything that's positive I know you know, and then you bring in all that negativity into your relationship It's true. Leave me. I've I've dated girls that are just like

Downer and gloom. I know. I don't have friends like that. I don't I don't have friends like that anymore and I don't I don't date like that anymore because I just need to be around positive people. It makes you more positive. Yeah, you date somebody that hates their job. All they do is complain about your job. Their job is like other family or other friends. I just don't want to. Or with their boss. I hate that. Yeah, don't date those people. See, negativity, it's going to bring you down. So don't do it.

I'm just saying, I know there's a lot of things that you've got to fix. And you can't just float around and think everything is positive and hunky-dory and, you know, you're going to change the world and stuff like that. Right. You know, not to, you know, don't be lost in all this, like trying to be positive type. Right. You know, you do have to. You have to work out it though, because our, like trying to be positive type. Right. You do have to work out, though, because our brains do not default towards positive thoughts. Like our brains default towards worry and negativity.

And so it really takes like conscious effort to every time you have a negative thought or worry, you have to flip it around and think something positive. That's like cognitive behavioral psychology. And it works. I've had to work on that in years. I see more negative. Yeah. Can you see me being negative? You've seen that. You see me freak out and be anxious. Yeah. But I assume more negative. I go on phases. You seem like you're in a good space now. Yeah. I think I was in a really good space. I started getting negative just recently about other things, but I caught myself. Good.

You started getting negative. I started getting really depressed about things and why things weren't going well and nothing that had to do with sex only or anything here. I was just like, and then I just had to check myself and I said, you know what? Even if the worst thing happened. Right. I'm still going to be okay. You're going to be okay.

Yeah. You're going to be fine. Yeah. That's what you got to tell yourself. Positive say it's positive. Just not not poly and not polyamorous poly and ash. Yeah. Positive. Like oh, everything's great. Sunshine. No, you can acknowledge that things are bad, but you have to always just think of what you're grateful for and like all the good things in your life will also help you be more positive. If you're like bummed about something, be like, you know what? I've got great friends, great family. I've got a pair of shoes on my feet, I've got a car to drive, whatever it is, it makes you happy.

Okay, dear Emily, hi, I'm a 23 year old virgin. Unfortunately, I'm worse than a virgin. I've only ever kissed once. Not only to do, not only to intimate situations may be nervous, but I have issues trying to determine when is the right time for things in terms of social cues. Any advice you could offer thanks Ken.

Ken, this is the biggest issue ever when it comes to guys because we can't read the cues. At all. There was a study that came out years ago that said that men actually are not equipped to read the cues. Like they're not wired in the way to read cues from women. So Ken, you're going through something that a lot of guys go through, you can't tell if she likes you, if she wants you to kiss her. And then you're like fuddling over it, you're like, I'm worried about that, we're gonna the cues.

I say you just gotta be more aggressive and more confident, Ken. And that worries so much about what, if it's right time, not right time, intimate situations to make you nervous, just going for the kiss, and I'm not saying we're in the first five minutes, but if you're on a date with someone and it's going well and an opportunity presents itself.

Try to kiss or try to be intimate. Try to tell her what you like about you know that you're having a good time. I mean, I think that you might be one of these guys just aren't able to read the cues. And I also think that like even when I've said this before that you guys got to make the move because you're so afraid of rejection but life rejection is a part of life and there have been so many guys and I've said this before that you guys got to make the move because you're so afraid of rejection but life, rejection is a part of life and there have been so many guys and I've tied this. I've got a lot of dates. I've kissed many a guy and I never get mad. If let's say a guy tries to kiss me and then I don't want to kiss him, I'm never mad. I'm never like, oh, why'd you do that? That's so rude. I just, I think you can't really lose.

Yeah. If anything, you learn that she doesn't want to kiss you, but you gotta just be- Then you stop wasting time. Don't waste your time. And I'll tell you this right now, Ken. I'm 20, oh no, 20. I'm 30. I wish I was. How old are you?

I'm 32 years old. Finally. When I was, all the way to tell I was 24, I was so afraid and shy to make the move when it came to women. I wasted so much time. You never made the move. I never make the move. There would be girls that would hang out with for like a year, wasting my time and I would never try to kiss them. And they wanted

to kiss me. They wanted me to, you know, make the move, but. Will you afraid of rejection? I was afraid of rejection. I was afraid that all they don't really, they don't really, they don't really like me in that way. And I've messed up so many times because of that. Then how did you finally turn it around? I finally just said to myself, and I've said this on the show many times.

So the new listeners, they might not have heard this before. If she doesn't want to kiss me or doesn't want to be my girlfriend or date me, I'm not gonna to die. I'm not gonna die. No, what's the worst thing? No, I'm not going to be homeless, you know, and there's so many women out there that can't that would be down to make a man to Matt with the premise. Yeah, man, women, you just, you got to make the move, man. Just don't be afraid. Yeah, just make the move. Keep dating. If they say no, you're not going to die.

Right. You're not going to happen. I think you got to make efforts to meet more women. Maybe you got to date online. You got to give yourself more opportunities. And just remember, you might get rejected 99 out of 100 times. Yeah, and the rejection sometimes, yeah, it's gonna hurt, man.

That's probably a minute. The more you've rejected, you get the more you get the extra rejection, right? Yeah. And another thing, you always wonder why, like, oh, why is this slimy guy, you know, with that chick? Because that slimy guy has been probably rejected by so many women 90 times,

but it's just like a numbers game. Yeah, it's a numbers game. He doesn't care if a girl rejects him, whatever. He just goes on to the next one, on to the next one, and then finally he finds a girl, this will put up with the slimyness, you know? So yeah, man, just take risks. And don't worry, and don't spend too much time

in your head that you're a virgin, that you've only kissed one person You're the only one that knows this stuff and I think that you're using it to scare you and fear is the biggest thing that holds us back And I think that you've got some fear around it and you've got to just release it and put yourself out there in situations where you know me people Yeah, and then once I got over that fear man, I was banging so much really? Duculous. Yeah, we're duculous. Oh my god, and you have stopped ever since right lighter, but yeah, I was banging I can't believe you've gained 50 pounds Really? Oh, I know because you see me every day, but some people that haven't seen me a long time They're like oh dude. What what happened? I can say that I'm the guy

Back in the gym. That's good. What's cool about the gym that I go to is each machine has its own television and they all have Bravo and it's weird because I told you the misadvised show that you star in and I make appearances on are playing in the gym and there's people everywhere watching it. But it's funny because they don't recognize because they're looking forward to the thing. So I'm like running right next to that's watching. You want to know that's not real. I saw that is so crazy. Someone else told me that too that they saw it at their gym or not in the airplane. Oh, yeah, they went to the airplane

and everyone on the airplane was watching it. Yeah, love that. That's cool. Yeah, no, it's cool. So let's move into our topic. Three sums. Three sums. Oh, real quick. I'm sorry, not to keep on talking about reality television. There's a lot of people that are, you know, we have international listeners from all over the world. And a lot of places you can download the show on iTunes. Search misadvised. I know people overseas that have downloaded it and watched it. So if you don't, I know Bravo's not overseas. So, right, you can download it. Yeah, go to iTunes search miscivice and download the All the episodes free. Yeah, yep. The whole season's like eight bucks. Yeah, dude eight bucks is so worth it for my assigned television

Of course, so please everyone download the show. That's great. Man, it's a great point. Okay Three sums three is company Okay, so three sums are one of the biggest sexual fannies out there and one that a lot of people actually play out. And even if it's just a one time event, it can open you up to new arenas of pleasure and exploration. Or they can be horrible. People have bad experiences with three sums, like everyone in relationships, they break

up, they have sex with someone else in front of their partner, their partner can't handle it. So before you go ahead first into into your first threesome, we've got some guidelines that will help you make it a night to remember and maybe repeat. Yeah. Okay, before the trio, the most important thing is communication, communication, communication.

You have to get a lot off your chest before you take your pants off. For example, if you're in a couple, which is often a lot of times a couple says, let's have a threesome together, we're together, let's bring someone else in. Well, you need to set rules and guidelines. You need to decide if they're going to be penetration. Like, if you're a man and a woman, is she allowed to have sex if it's another guy or is he allowed to have sex if there's another woman? Are they making out involved? Is that person going to sleep over?

What are the boundaries? What are the guidelines? You have to set all this up ahead of times. Three things are not for everyone. Your partner may not even be comfortable with it so you don't want to risk your relationship by pushing something for someone, something that you want and your partner doesn't want. So you have to first just bring it up, which can be kind of a hard situation.

Hey, honey, because then women could flip out, think I'm not enough for you. And I don't think it's about that. I think it's about a fantasy that a lot of men and women hold about just being with two women at once. But they might not be there into it. So you can begin the discussion though by talking about fantasies.

You can ask your partner, are there any sexual fennies that you have? You can might instead of saying something like, I've always wanted to be in two chicks at once, you could say something more like, I've always wanted to see you kiss a woman. That might make her. She might be thinking, wow, I've got fans who's up kissing women. So don't say you want to be too chicks at once. Don't leave with that. If you are the one pushing for the three, they should be the one to decide who the third

party is. So she gets to pick if she's attracted to this other partner. Like you don't get to pick. I think it has to be up for the woman if the guy brings it up. So you have to again establish if penetration is okay with everyone, does everyone cool with that, does the person see over all that stuff. Okay, you have to avoid common mistakes with three sums. So everyone involved is going to have their own expectations and limits, so pre-coitus communication is a must. If you're a couple, make sure that third party is on the same boat as you.

So you might even have to have a little powwow before it gets started, it doesn't sound hot, it doesn't sound romantic, but you might have to be like, listen babe, you're not sleeping over, listen third party, you're not sleeping over, there's no penetration. Talk about what you're comfortable with, what you're not comfortable with,

and once you know the limits, respect them. I don't care how badly you want to have sexual this person, you should disrespect them. Limit the liquid courage. You don't wanna get too effed up before you do it. Sorry, menace. Wow, you're always knocking the good name of alcohol, Emily. I know.

I love alcohol, but I just think that you, you know, and here's a thing about three-some, they're tricky with relationships going in. I mean, a lot of times if you're a single dude or single woman and you want to get, you know, it's kind of fun having a three-some when none of you are attached. To me, personally, that's been a success. Because no one's expecting anything, it's not like I'm watching my boyfriend do something and I'm watching this girl do something, but I get that it's very common for couples to want that. How was your first three-some experience? It was good.

It was hot. It was fun. It was that situation. It was with a friend of mine, a woman that I had known for a while, and then this other guy that we were both dating and then we had this three-some. But we weren't really dating them,, kind of dating them, whatever. Long story short, we had a threesome and it was great because there was no like hard feelings, no one felt bad, whatever. I guess I've had a few. I'm trying to remember now.

But I've had all good experiences. Good. Except for that one I talked about on television, the second one wasn't good, but that's so hard as a guy to put it together. You gotta get the women. You gotta get the women have to. That's why it all takes communication. I had, I would say two opportunities for it to go down. I was messing around with a girl. And she even brought it up. She brought it up. She's like, yeah, how do you miss that up? I was like, oh yeah, but it was like super in the Wii hours of the night, you know, in the AM, right? So I'm like, oh yeah, sure, of course, blah, blah. So I started dialing the phone.

I couldn't get the other girl to pick up the phone, right? Oh. So then fast forward, many months later, I'm with both of the girls again, I'm like, oh yeah. Tonight, it is going down. We make history, you know, and then, you know, we're all leaving, we're leaving the spots that we're at. And suddenly, the girl that brought it up initially months before is not down anymore because she has feelings for me now.

Oh, God. She doesn't want to do it anymore. And the other girl was upset. She's like, come on, are we going or not? Oh my God. That is your soul. The one that I couldn't get awake was like totally down for it. And then you want to say, now the one that brought it up in the first place, didn't want to do it anymore.

Oh, this is so sad. The tale of Thracom's gonna rye. You should write a book. So whatever happened, you just went home with your girl. Yeah. That's a bummer. That's a total piece of myself. No, I got actually pissed at both of them.

I just love them both. You just love them both. Money even get laid. Yeah, you're like, don't tease a threesome and then pull out. Yeah, I went and actually I went to work and slept on the couch at the radio station. Are you serious? Oh my God.

Was that when you were studying? That's why. Why? You know, bitches are drama. I mean, lovely ladies are drama. Yeah. It's okay. Oh my God. Is that when you're stuck in the eye? Why? You know, bitches are drama. I mean, lovely ladies are drama. Yeah. It's okay.

Okay, so listen, when you're having your three, some of you things to get started is might be nice to take a shower together. I love taking showers. I love taking showers. Everyone's on the same page. You're open, you're clean, you're ready to explore. So a little shower together could be a little nice initiation. You still need to be communicating, nobody's a mind reader, you got to change positions, you've denounced it. Three Sims require a lot of foreplay. Not only for physiological

reasons, but also for psychological, because everybody needs to feel involved. There's a common thing with three Sims where one person feels left out. So remember, three Sims are about three people. You might end up feeling jealous if you're not the center of retention, so be complimentary. Use names. Also keep the mood light so you're in your partners that you're having a good time.

If you're the man in the three Sims, chances are this is a fantasy come true for you, but remember that the woman won't be catering to just you but to other as well. So don't try to please both, but to other as well. So don't try to please both your partners at the same time. If you feel like you always have to be paying attention to both, neither will we satisfied. So think about how hard it is to please one woman. Yeah. Imagine trying to please two at the same time. No way.

Difficult. So, you know, maybe one, you're peeing one, the other one's masturbating or has a sex toy or something like that. Okay. Don't expect everything you desire the first time. Just remember that by having the threesome, you're actually experiencing a very great gift. You can also include masturbation in. It might seem strange, but it shows how comfortable you are in the

situation and sets the mood for others. So if, you know, the other two people are exact, you can still pleasure yourself, like I said. So after the threesome, it's mixed. Some people say it's not wise to all spend the night together. It can be really fun for you all to spend the night together. It's up to you. If you're in a relationship, you should be a show your partner that you enjoyed yourself, but it was experimental fun. Tell them how much seeing them in pleasure turned you on and while you did enjoy yourself, you're happy that it's just two of you.

Sometimes women might need reinforcement after the threesome and tell them that it was no big thing. It is, she was hot, but I really would rather be you, that kind of thing. I commend the men that can coordinate it. I know. I mean, it's hard. There's a lot of guys I know are like, I wouldn't, a lot of guys I know wouldn't even

want one. They're like, I just said, they're like, I can't barely handle one woman. Yeah. Teft too, but it is a common, common, common fantasy. So there's positions. You could also go online watching threesome porn together. You can discover the moves that you like. The Sinclair Institute. We love Sinclair Institute. They have a video called Nina Hartley's Guide to

ThreeSums. So if you're really like, I'm not getting this Emily, I don't know. You don't have to watch a porn with a threesome because learning how to do anything through porn is not the best way. But Sinclair Institute has instructional videos. And Nina Harley, she's a long time porn star. She do what on how to conduct a successful threesome. So I would suggest doing that. There's lots of great instructional DVDs out there that people can learn how to perform oral sex, how to do different things. You can see my book. I've got an amazing book called Hot Sex over 200 Things You do different things. You can see my book. I've got an amazing book called Hot Sex over 200 things you can try to night you can buy it on Amazon and

And it is Position you have every position in the book, but they're not like difficult weird positions that you can't do their positions That you can totally do and they will make you happy since you're pimping yourself talk about Kagel camp Which was okay? You ch hit because we did the video show. The video, yeah. And then they played the video during the video show. I love that. I loved our little video show.

Tuesday's at two o'clock Pacific Standard Time. Okay, so I have an app for the iTunes store for the iPhone called Kegel Camp. Kegel exercises are for men and women. You can do them for five minutes a day. They're the pee stopping muscles. So they're those muscles that when you stop and start the flow of urine, you contract them

and you release them. My app, and it's for men, I've heard it actually for more men than women that it's helped them with their sex life. It helps men with premature ejaculation, helps men stay harder longer. It helps women have stronger orgasms. It helps them with urinary incontinence

after a baby or something. You tend to lick a little bit, like you sneeze and you pee in your pants, it's not pretty. But chaggle exercises tighten those muscles. And the thing about the app is a reminder pops up every day that reminds you to do your chaggle exercises. You're like, oh, time for chaggle cammin, it's my voice walking you through it, which we know is so lovely. Yes. Right. Speak about being, you know, snooki is pregnant. Yes, she's paying her pants. And I was watching, she has a new television

show with J. Wow, who's another cast member from the Jersey Shore, right? Which hopefully everyone's seen it. It's an amazing, a critically claimed television show. Oh, she's Christ. But so they go to New York and I guess there's this, there's this place called Ninja or something like that, some restaurant. And then so they have like ninjas that just fly out from different places. And they're in the elevator going into this restaurant and then Ninja flies out and she piece her pants. Oh my God, really? She's scared. Yeah. Yeah. That's what happens when you're pregnant too. But, uh, yeah, Kaggle. So you're going to

definitely, well, that's what they recommend for women after they have a baby to do the Kaggle exercise. Or do it during or after and it really helps. And you can buy these Kaggle balls, you can buy them in good vibes, um, that you stick in. Remember remember I was wearing those for a few days. Yeah, you had some balls. I had some balls in my vagina. and you can do your exercises just by walking around They naturally do the exercises for you. Wow. I know it's awesome. I have to start wearing them again They're sitting on in my bathroom and I keep meaning to put them in the balls Has anybody walked in go what are these no no one's come on?

Are those stress balls? Yeah, they look like that that you put in your hand kind of look like that But I hope nobody catches my kaggle balls after they've been in my vagina. Not that I'm not going to be able to go into my vagina, but I just, you know, germs. One more shout out is to mask. Mask is kind of like a listarine strip that masks the taste of semen. We all know that oral sex tends to fall by the wayside after you've been with someone for a while if you're with a woman who or a man who doesn't love performing oral sex, you take these lists, they're like list reading strips, they come in chocolate,

strawberry, watermelon, and mango, and it's your mask, M-A-S-Q-E, is the website. And the goal of mask is to bring you and your partner closer together inside the bedroom and out. And they're delicious, we taste them at last for 15 minutes. They're like this cool minting, like feeling with cool minty taste with chocolate strawberry mango watermelon. Oh, your favorite. Don't you feel like if it would increase women's ability to give you orgasms, I mean, give you blow jobs, wouldn't you be like, here's the list of rain strips,

mask strips, not the strain work. Doing the Lord's work. I remember when I was a teenager and I was, you know, trying to get Flascio, then I offered up strawberry flavor condoms and they were down for it. Oh, they sucked the condom over your penis. Did it feel good? Yeah, this one's no.

No, you'd rather not do that. But there's nothing for anything. But there's nothing for anything. Yeah, but there's nothing for anything. They're just putting their mouth in a dissolve. Right. So they're actually sucking your penis without it. Exactly.

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