Sex With Emily - SWE: Tips from a Dominatrix

Episode Date: November 23, 2012

In these two quickie episodes Emily interviews Pro-Dominatrix Sara Miller and also answers popular listener questions. Emily and her guest divulge about first sexual experiences, lesbian sex, orgasm differences, orgies, and ejaculation on command. Listener letters cover topics such as “perfect” dating tips, online profiles, semen landing, and hand jobs. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hello. Sarah I met in sex school and as you know I'm in grad school right now for sex and Sarah is one of my buddies from class. She is a dominate tricks. She is into a lot of kinky stuff and she's going to talk to us about it right now. And at first, I want to start with, oh, first we have a word for my advertiser. Adam and Eve. Okay, so as you know, I could never, ever have enough sex toys. So whenever there's a huge discount,

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What was your first sexual memory experience? The first time you remember getting turned on? First time I remember getting turned on. Or just having a sexual feeling. Yeah, when I was really, really little. Either like watching TV. I don't know. I remember, um, I remember masturbating probably when I was like, either like watching TV. I don't know. I remember, I remember

masturbating probably when I was like, either fifth grade or younger. I don't know how that is. Okay. Yeah, like 10 or 9. And then you masturbated into juvenile orgasm. Oh, yeah. You did just by touching yourself. So, and then you, so clitorally or did you? Yeah. Well, see, I could, you know, when you were a kid, like you could touch yourself outside of your underwear and have an orgasm. Yeah, it's incredible. Yeah, I heard about that. That didn't happen to me, but so you remember that and then where you with, when did you

have sex, intercourse, PV sex, whatever you're like? PV sex? What if, like, you know, you know, you know how you used to like be like oh, here's the tip out Yeah, so that first time yeah, I think I was like 15. Yeah, was it a good experience just to tip Oh, yeah, well, it was really hot and yeah, I was really hot. It was a guy. Obviously Yeah, yeah, it's tip with the penis, but you know, it's like it's kind of like I was thinking oh no, not really You know right back and forth and I ready to do it Well, it was just a kind of hurt.

And so that's when you knew you went a little bit far. You were like, I don't know, whatever. Right, OK. So what about, so when did you first experiment with women? I think I've always been a little bit playfully with like playful with women. Though I did miss out on the, I told you,

I missed out on the hot little sex campaigns of little girls. Probably the first kiss my first kiss with a chick was probably what I was 15 to actually. Okay. Yeah. And then you when did you progress wasn't so that was awesome. That was awesome. That was awesome. I was like bragging about it. Like I was like guys look at look at what we're doing. We're girls and we're kissing huh? Like yeah. And how did your family feel about it? Do they know? Oh, they don't care. They don't care about anything.

They're just kind of accepted, just accept you for. No, no, no, no, there's different between accepting and just not giving a shit about it. Exactly. Because your life is, I mean, you're really, so where do you live? Denver. Denver, you live in Denver.

And so you, and so for living, you've been a pro-dom in A-Tr a trick and what else do you do? You do education. I do victim advocacy. I do yet got a quadric teaching so I teach medical students how to do pelvic and breast exams. And do my knee. Yeah, so I get hundreds of exams.

She must be really healthy. You must have a really healthy pelvic area. I mean, I've been checking. Oh, this is, here's part of the reason I've been doing so many self-examples. We were just talking about doing, looking at our own post-easier whatever, because I encountered our ad-a partner who has genital works. So, I've been looking like every day just to like, because I'm kind of a little freaked

out. Did you just find out that she or he? You just find out that he had him. He didn't tell you or? No, or actually, she, sorry, she. he he you just find out that he had him he didn't tell you or no Actually, she she oh you forgot oh god. Oh, I need to get spanked for messing with the pronoun. No, it's gonna gender So male-bodied female identified. Okay, but not trans. It's anyway Yeah, so no, no, I knew no, I knew um, but See you've been checking. Yeah, okay. Thank God. So okay, so let's talk about sex with women. Okay, let's talk about you

What okay, so what do you think? What have you learned about women's bodies like what's it like? What's like a tip that you can give for example performing oral sex? Is there only like special things that you could teach someone if they want to know about how I always feel like men could learn a lot from women Oh for sure going down another women like what what were some tips that you know what though Here's the thing is that I can tell you a lot of stuff based on the things that I've gotten done to me But sometimes when you get like a posting your face. It's like you get stage fright. Sometimes you never you get stage fright Yeah, I know I don't you okay crap. I'm digging a hole now

But I have there's been times where I've been like shit oh I think that a lot of men feel that well and because women are so drastically different from each other so I have you know there's women who love to get like their clear like their sock or like flicked or you know hit or whatever so I think you know I personally love if somebody's doing oral sex. Yeah, just what you like. Getting finger to the same time. So love it. Finger and licking at the same time.

Yeah. And don't just, I don't know, don't just kind of lick, don't just kind of lick with your time. Like get all up in there. You know, stick your face in there, nose, everything, just rub it all. Right, that's good. Okay, what else? Like you love it.

Okay, so finger, so finger's good, so you can have like a, do you orgasm? How do you orgasm? Oh, my. Cautorally or G-spot or both. Both. Yeah, they're different for me. So I can calm a lot with like, you know, with G-spot stimulation. I can ejaculate, which is a different sensation than calming, which is a different sensation

than like little orgasms. So a little orgasm I can be spent. Like I can be satisfied. But I can calm multiple times from G-spot stimulation, but I'm not fully satisfied yet. I hate to be satisfied. Okay, yeah, that makes sense. But I can have what I can have

multiple little orgasms in a row, but if I can also have just one and be like, cool. Right, okay, got it. So what about the female ejaculation? That comes up a lot in the show. So you taught yourself how to do it, or you learned, you think that you learned more through our class. Well, no, no, no, no.

I know, I've known a lot about female generation, how to, you know, go sing and practicing. And you're always kind of like, you always try for it. And it's always like, oh, it's not happening. So we did our class and we got naked. And there was a lot of- We talk about this in the next show that you'll hear. We're going to get into class more.

Yeah, yeah. So I mean, we got rid of our body image issue. So anything, you know, like if I felt like I was fat hat or whatever, like I got over it. And when I went home, I actually also had a couple new partners, so that might have been it as well. And some experience partners. But having that total, you know, freedom and none of those inhibitions, you know, like

I wasn't scared about how I looked or whatever, whatever. And I just like, oh, and I was a partner who was very talented and I just ejaculated like buckets. It was great. Wow. Yeah, and now I can do it I've actually I've had two different partners who have made me ejaculate on command It's so weird. How would you mean I'm weird shit like 3 2 1 now and I will like with stimulation like they'll be stimulating me and they're like okay And you're gonna do it right now Wow, like you can feel it when it's starting to be right but I mean the actual

And it's a lot that comes out right. It's like what's the yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah I know no, I can't be a lot. Yeah, yeah, no, I've had that experience I mean I know it's talking about okay, so what about so personally for you What would you say is like the thing that turned you on the most if you had anything? If you were to be like, God, that was early. If you think back to your most, how to sex experience? I'm sure you've had money.

What do you think? There's a few, I guess. There's a lot of things. I love... Yeah, a lot is good. I love group sex. Group sex. How many people on a group?

The more the merrier. The more the merrier. We've been having orgies at my house every Friday. Really? So yeah, about anywhere from three to six, seven people. And then how does that exactly break down? How does that work? I remember I in orgies, I was sitting at my goal.

Oh, well, I mean, well, so yeah, I mean, it can be, it usually we start with like, you know, group massage and things like that. So we'll all need make a massage one person. And then it just kind of gets freaky and freaky from there. So, um, for instance, like, we had, okay, so we had, we had a new woman actually come, uh, this last time or whatever that we did it. And so a guy was going, was eating her out while I was fingering her and somebody was fingering me the same time.

And then other people were just kind of rubbing up on us or doing whatever. And then when that kind of broke up then you know two girls got on one guy or whatever on the couch and then I was fucking somebody else while they were like you know so it's kind of- And you're with men and women. Yeah okay and it's all the same, it's all it feels good. Oh it's totally yeah it's totally fluid. It's it's crazy, it's yeah it's absolutely fluid. It's all just about the enjoyment and pleasure. It doesn't matter who's doing it. That, it's totally fluid. It's crazy. It's, yeah, it's absolutely fluid. It's all just about the enjoyment and pleasure. Doesn't matter who's doing it. That's, that's amazing that you can do that. A lot of people are not able to do that. So they're men, they're gay men. They're two.

There are. They're actually, yeah, I have a friend's, my, the queen to my king, to me being the king. Um, he is gay and I was actually kind of his most cisgender experience, like his closest female identified female bodied experience. What happened? What did he do to you? Well, I actually was fucking his knee while he was getting butt fucked on top of me. Wow. That was amazing. And no, and I've sucked a stick and stuff like that. So, yeah. And then did you orgasm? No. No. Oh, yeah.

Got it. That's crazy life there in Denver. That's about, okay, we talked about this a little bit, but you're, so you're pro-dom and you get, like I picture you like in the vinyl and doing things. And so, and it's men, is it, oh, no, no,'m talking about, because we talk about this actually a little later, but on your, on your personal life, your personal like relationships that you're in, are you, is it always, are you always in the power play? Are you doing that? No, no, no. And that's the thing I think personally, like if I, there's so much time, so I just crave, just, just, just get me, like, just let's just, like regular good old sex. And I think I think other people are

actually put off more by me doing being so kinky that they feel like they have to step it up and make it kinky or something. Right. But then sometimes if I want to be kinky they don't know how to be it's really it's kind of annoying to find the balance of things. Right. Sometimes I'm like, well there's a lot of expectations like looking you knowing you being like oh she's expecting this and so they're more than organic and fluid. Yeah. Or they're expecting me to dominate them when I'm like, no, just, OK, here's, I'm going to dominate you, like, sit there. And I don't know. You know, like, it's, yeah, there's a lot of expectation.

And I don't know. But there is a lot of good stuff. And like, you know, I don't know. I think most of my sexual experiences, I probably have face-lapping and spitting and spanking. Are you doing the face-spitting and the face slapping? It's mutual. Mutual.

And it turns you on. So explain that to me. So it explains me like, if someone slaps you, where? It turns you on. Spanking I think is probably the best. Spanking turns me on the most. Yeah. Sometimes like getting your tits hit sometimes.

I really like to wrestle. So of course, the number one fantasy for women is right fancy So I definitely I do really like the power play. I love wrestling If that it's kind of crazy. Yeah, that's not with women and men Whoever yeah, well with men mostly with women. It's weird. I feel like I just have more Respect for women or no not respect But I I care more like about not hurting women in general.

That's kind of weird. That's not true, actually. I do, but I definitely got more women. We break it down. We do that at all. We just do it at all. Right, exactly. It just depends on the chicks.

Sometimes they all dominate me. Okay, yeah. So, Sarah and I are in this class together. We talk about in the next show, what you're listening to is that, but we talk about our class and all the stuff that we've had to do. So everyone in class, like, I mean, everyone comes and brings their different perspective, but is everyone like sleeping together too that I didn't know about? I don't know.

No. I feel like I'm surprised there's not like a class or a deer or anything. Well, there has been, and I must have. Not like an entire class or a deer, but we've definitely done sexual plans, stuff like that with each other in different ways. There's not as much that I would expect. Most of the chicks in our class, unfortunately, are monogamous relationships or their

hetero. So, I've had a lot of chicks who are kind of like, ooh, Sarah, maybe not. Maybe and they're like, click teasing me and it's kind of- They click teasing me or like that. You guys, stop it. Stop click teasing Sarah. Hold out. Okay, so what would be your, if you had to tell men,

like what would you think than the men that you've been with? Are there any things that repeatedly happen that you're like, I wish that guys wouldn't do blank? Like what do you think they need to know? If you could send a message to all men in the world. All men in the world. Communicate.

Just communicate. Just ask what you need to ask, tell what you need to tell, and communicate. Sexually. Ever, yeah, sexually to ask, tell what you need to tell and communicate. Sexually. Yeah, sexually. If you want to, if you want to stick something in my ass, just ask. Just ask. Don't do it. Just ask. Just ask. Yeah, just, I mean, and that's the thing is it's never a true. Okay. That would be, I think number one, yeah, communication. I mean, tell me what you want. Scream. I always say communication is a lubrication. Oh, yeah. Oh, that's perfect. That and put a condom on. Just put a condom on.

It's not that freaking hard. That's the sexiest thing. It's so sexy to me when it's like, I'm going to put this condom on. You know, you can. Right. You have to, you have to. Yeah. People don't, people, it's amazing. There was a study that came out last week that said like, American studies condoms. It's disgusting. It's a good turn up. I had a guy recently who emailed me and he was like, you know, just Condom suck and you know, my response is just like no They don't right. I hate when guys are like condoms are bad They are feel yeah, I can't feel anything. That's you can right. You're right. That's good one anything else for men So what about men and what about

Okay, we talked about oral sex. Is there anything what about when you're with a woman? Is there anything that a woman when you're with a woman? Is there anything a woman can do that really turns you on or that you raise turn off? I think, I think assertiveness, assertiveness and being kind of like, not necessarily aggressive, but sex is, I mean sex is like running a marathon. It should be like, you should be tired afterwards, like you should, you should be able to have sex for a couple of hours and just have some endurance every time what's oh yeah put some work and so I'm so busy you don't even look at your pussy that's how busy you need to come on

I mean I look at it sometimes that was one of our homework assignments we had to look at our vagina's take a picture I would like draw it and stuff which is interesting for sex school okay Okay, so you're also, we got into this more, damn it, Tricks, so you do that and you do the dumb, and I want to see you adjust up in your grab. Sure, I'll do it with you. I have a course out with me, but I don't have, I have stuff online, I can show you some pictures online and stuff.

I'd love to see it. Okay, why don't we check, where can they find you, which website, or which bus, I don't know, I don't know what to say, yeah I mean, for that kind of stuff, I'd say Lady Bandita, um, on FetLife. FetLife, and we'll have a picture of you on the site. Oh, really? Oh, we're gonna take a picture here.

Okay, everyone. Well, thank you so much, Sarah, for joining me and sharing your sexual exploits. And thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemla.com. I'll send you your later, or your medical agency That they might fly the riddest ladies and pledges The kids with couples are your part of a couple I'm sure now, but if I was, I'd be pleasing my lady Or my maid

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Hey, Emily, I'm a guy from New Zealand who really enjoys listening to your podcast. I download them from iTunes and listen to them when I'm out about in my car. Doing my work, I have been doing my work. I've been meaning to email you for some time now to say how much I enjoy your open attitude to discussing everything about sex and sexual relationships. It's so refreshing. You sound, when I googled your name, I got such a lovely treat to see what a beautiful woman you are.

You sound really cool to listen to, but seeing your picture gives me a real sense of who you are and you really, you really look to be a beautiful person that radiates from within. Oh, it's obvious in your beautiful smile. I haven't had anything else say anything, I have nothing else say in this email just to say hi and thanks for your great podcast, kind regards Grant.

Grant, that's sweet. Thank you very much. Thank you for the beautiful person. I'm a beautiful spirit inside of this. Which is true, mostly inside. What kind of photos do we find when we Google you? I don't know. I don't know. They're all like my Facebook photos or my website photos. Really? Yeah. Then are the lingerie photos? One of the really close. I think I should. If you buy my iPhone at 101 sex tips from sex with Emily

and you go to the information section, there are some sexy photos in me. Really? So if you've an iPhone and you buy 101 sex tips from sex with Emily, which I have the information section, there are some sexy photos of me. Really? So if you have an iPhone and you buy 101 sex tips from sex with Emily, which I have not talked about in a while. You haven't. No, but we're still selling a lot of them. People are buying them. Please support the show by my podcast, by my iTunes app and see some sexy photos of me.

And I should release those at some point, which I will. It's on the list of things to do. Yeah. Yeah, you should. They're cute. Yeah. Never. Okay. What the next app you should put on? cute. Yeah, never. Okay. What the next app you should put on?

What the next app I will. Hey Emily, I can't believe I'm actually writing to a random podcast, but you seem to know what you're talking about and you're hot when, when. So here's my question, can a long distance relationship between me and you work? Just kidding. I'm a 23 year old dude and I've been dating a girl from work for six months now. She's attractive, funny, quirky, everything I look for in a woman, but there's always a damn butt.

I don't know if I love her. We lack that sexual attraction connection, aka lust. My previous girlfriend was a complete opposite. We would fight all the time, 24-7, but we were physically compatible like a lock and key. We just fit together. Amazing kissing and incredible sex. So my questions are the following.

Am I just comparing my current girlfriend to the old one? And is that right? What's the difference between less and love? And I want a real answer. And how do I break up with someone who's perfect for me? I tried and she cried, and now we're back together. Thanks again, Jay Dodd. Wow, Jay Dodd.

Wow, Jay Dodd. I think we all tend to compare our last relationships to our current relationships. In fact, a therapist once said to me, a family friend, she said, not that I haven't had therapy, but she wasn't my therapist. She said, we tend to heal our past relationships and our current relationship.

So a lot of times we tend to date someone who's the opposite of the person we dated last time. Like let's say you had someone who's really messy and cheap and bad and bad, but had all the other great things. And then you date someone who's like super neat and loves sex, but they're not as kind of a person or whatever it is. So we tend to do this kind of flip like the pendulum swings and tend to date the opposite. But I don't think, I mean, I think that's normal that you're comparing it. But if you're not

having amazing sex with this person and it sounds like you're not that into or there's always the good on paper person. And it's really hard breaking up with those people. I've done it throughout my entire life. The guys who are amazing and oh my god, I should really like him because he's got all these things and he's got a good, he's a good person and he's has a good job and he's nice and he loves his mother. Giant winner. But if there's a giant winner, but if there's no sexual chemistry and you're just not feeling

it, I don't believe in talking yourself into relationships like I used to do. It's just not the right thing to do. I think women do that a lot. So I would say, get out of it. There's nothing wrong, how do you do it? I'm sorry that she cried, but it's her responsibility too, and you can't stay with someone out of pity. So you just need to be like,

listen babe, I don't think that it's working, but I wish you well, and then I would just not torture her. And I'll see you at the office the next day. I'll say the office next day, that's a bummer because you're fishing off the company pool. Not, do it all the time. And I'll see you at the office the next day. I'll see the office next day. That's a bummer because you're fishing off the company pool. Not. Do it all the time. And I'm not sleeping with every woman in the building.

PS. And he doesn't mind coming to work now. But honey, I know that's hard. J dog because it's hard when you find someone you're like, oh my god, they'd be so perfect. But doesn't sound like it's working. Doesn't sound like you're having amazing sex. And it sounds like she's just not the one. And she cried.

So the no reason you shouldn't stay with the woman because she cried when you tried to break up with her. Yeah. Yeah. You should have watched this other reality show that I like. Oh, no. Which one? It's called, what is it?

Rehab. The rehab. Oh, it's celebrity rehab with Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. Dr. No, no, no. It's a rehab at the heart rock. Oh, Vegas. The Vegas rehab thing. Because if you watch that

Okay, let me break it down for people that don't know every like Sunday they have a giant party at lost bigots harrow hotel. Yeah and All it is people that get super drunk in the heat and Women cry all the time on the show because they're intoxicated. You got to learn from the security guards there where they have just seen it so many times, they're immune to it, you know. Wow, is it the same people every week or it's a new crowd? Yeah. Well, no, it's a new

crowd of people, but it's the same workers. Right. And workers you know they deal with people they're intoxicated and every single woman on there is crying what are they crying about they're just crying about how they got a fight with somebody or they all this crazy one where this girl she had application on her fiance cell phone with a GPS and he was supposed to be at the casino but he was at this party so she broke into the party and found him and threw the ring at him no way she was crying then no with the song film film film oh my god and then security they have just become so immune to women crying that it doesn't

affect them because we know as guys it is crypto night you know when a woman cries you you know, I know. You gotta be strong, man. I mean, it is true. I'm not a big cryer, but I know that a lot of women cry and it just pulls at men's heartstrings. Yeah. I should start crying.

No, I never cry enough. But they have a guys you cry, but anyway, you're right. It gets me the first couple of times with one person. Right, if you really like her. Yeah, if you like her, it will get you. But then I just, I just, I just become immune to it too. Right. Really? Like what's that noise? Whatever. Stop your sniffling. Yeah. Okay. Oh, my just sniffles. No. I'm thinking of getting sick. Everyone's sick right now. Do you know? I didn't do that. No time. Walgreens. It's not easy. It's always on the list.

One in 60 seconds. Really? Yeah. Okay. Episode 173. Love it. Hi, Emily Menis. Thank you very much for your great work. You're both amazing. I found you in iTunes over a year ago and you've been really entertaining me ever since. I cannot wait for the new episodes, which means that I really enjoy the new format of more frequent, short or shows. I usually listen to your podcasts on my iPad while commuting, but I need to be careful, especially episode 173 made me laugh so hard that the other people on the subway had to think I was crazy. I loved it.

Menace was hilarious. What was I talking about? Sugar in the vagina or something? I didn't know. I don't remember what you were talking about. Regarding to the topic, where to land the semen. Oh, okay. It was the where to land the semen show, 173.

I like to orgasm inside her. Orgasming and being still inside her, feeling the touch and the connection brings me the most pleasure. On the other hand, I don't like to jack the honor face since it makes me feel like I disrespect the girl. It just doesn't feel like to me. Oh, God.

In future episodes. So it's not disrespectful. In future episodes, if she's down with it, it's fine. In future episodes, I appreciate hearing more about dating. What should be the perfect first and next dates? What girls like and dislike? What is your best dating experience and so on? Once again, thanks for your awesome show.

I keep the good work, greetings from the Czech Republic, JJ. Hey, JJ, what's up? That's hilarious. I don't remember the show talking about where to ejaculate 173. So everyone should listen to it because apparently it was funny, which I haven't listened to it since, but I'm sure it was very funny. And we should talk, we do talk about dating. Don't we have, we not talk, I feel like for a while we go on phases and we talk about sex all the time and then dating all the time, but he'd like to talk about what's the perfect first and next dates. I think the perfect date, we can do a show on that talk more about this later, but the perfect first date is not what you think. Like it's not like a limo with roses and whatever. It's just the guy if you've asked her out, have a

plan. Be thoughtful, get tickets to something or go to dinner or just have a plan. I don't even care if you're going for a walk and having a picnic. But when you pick her up and you're like, I don't know what you want to do. I don't know. If you ask her out, you are in charge of making the plan. And I think that girls like when a guy takes charge. And that's what I suggest for the first date. And then you can kind of get a sense for the dates after that. What's my best day experience? I don't even know. I have to think about that. You never, you don't have like one date was the best date ever. I remember. I've had some really lame dates then. No, I've had some great dates like where just the chemistry was amazing and we just totally hit it off, but you know what?

It's never because of the actual what we did. It's always about the person. It's always like we had amazing conversation at dinner or went for walk, but it's never because we went to see some great play or he took me to a five-star restaurant. It's just because I had a great connection with a person and he was open and great. Yeah. What about you? I've had a couple. I had one that's really funny.

This girl that she took me to her house for the first time and she's a beautiful girl. And of course. But her family are like a bunch of thugs, right? So she was telling me, as she was taking me to her house, that, oh yeah, my sisters in jail because her boyfriend went after some people that tried to shoot up her house.

And the house we're going to got shot up, like people shot at it. She's like, yeah. Was that a good date? No, it was an awesome date. We had so much fun, but we go to our house and she's like, yeah, here's the bullet holes. Like, are you serious?

She's perfectly normal, but it's just like, the people on her family. Right, right, right, people, when we're crazy, but that's just her, like, people on her family. Right, right, right, people, when we're crazy, but that's a lot about her. Did you go out with her again? Yeah, we had an awesome time. Okay. That's good.

She ended up, I gotta think what? Have a boyfriend? No, she had a boyfriend, but she wasn't right. Yeah. She was Mrs. Right then. No, no, she was really cool, but she dated some guy way before me. And then got back together and then got back. That's what he always tell

guys. Oh, she did get married. She got married. Because that's a good excuse. Like I've been out lately and there's been some guys who've been like, this is, I never know what to do with this. Guy will go up to me. I'm going to, you know, a party or bar or whatever and he's like, hey, so can I get your number? And I think that's so weird because even if he's like seems normal and I'm somewhere to track to him, I'm not just going to give a guy my number. The second I meet him like, yeah, and then you can call me. That just seems like a weird thing.

I don't know why I'm bringing this up because this has happened to me a few times lately. And I'm like, I'm not sure that I wouldn't be interested in you, but let's talk for a minute or I don't know. Do you think that just seems like a little premature? So I always say I have a boyfriend because I just don't want to do it. I see. Well, or I'm saying I'm dating someone or I say I don't know you to give you my number. But sometimes I just say I have a boyfriend which is so lame it's the lie.

But I do I mean sometimes it's easy. I don't say I don't say a boyfriend I say I'm dating someone. I'm here. Which way I'm dating someone? The most lamest thing ever which doesn't happen to me because I don't approach women like that is I hear hear Hall of Time, RIC in the clubs, where girls will be with their girlfriend, and they're like, oh, we're together. Oh, that's so dumb. Oh, we're lesbian, yeah, that is dumb. But I appreciate the thing is about the guys

who just come up and ask you out. Part of me appreciates that, but sometimes it's just, it's the guys who do it too soon. Like they don't, they don't even talk to me, and they're asking for my phone number. I'm not gonna get my phone number to some stranger. Yeah. I'm not gonna do it my phone number to some stranger. Yeah. Not going to do it.

Not going to do it. Okay, we have one last letter here. Okay, which guy? I'm divorced. Emily, I'm divorced after a six year relationship with someone that was not a sexual woman at all. I tried many games, books, and toys to stir the mood, but it never got better. Being single again, I've listened to your podcast and I'm always amazed to hear about female

collars and e-mailers that seem very sexual. Dating through online websites and meeting women in public, I can never seem to find a woman that is very sexual. How do I find someone that loves sex and talking about it? Is there signs or hints I can look forward to be able to find sexual women? I've been looking for someone that can keep up and enjoy sex as much as me. Any advice to find a woman that loves sex as much as I do? Sign Thomas.

Well Thomas. Well Thomas, I think that I mean, I don't know, I haven't dated online, but aren't there things that you can say in your profile that are, don't make you sound like a pervert, but make you say sound like you're someone who enjoys sensuality or I love the kisses that last forever. Is that gonna sound, your menace just looked at me

like crazy. But I think you have to kind of say, I'm into adventure or sexually exploring. It depends on website you use too. Yeah. I think you have, but I think that's true. There's a lot of women that aren't that into sex or men. So I think you've got to find a way to subtly

or to subtly say something in your profile that you think that sex is important. Why can't you say that? Do you think that women will think you're a pervert and be turned off? I think you shouldn't put it like that. You should just put sex. I want sex. What do you like sex? No, no. Under, yeah, things you like sex. No, because then they think that's all you like. No. You mix it up in between how you like the Goonies

movie. Right. And you like the new Nintendo. But what kind of do doesn't like sex? But I think there's also specific websites. I think that cater to people who are more sexual. I don't know what they are of ham, but there are websites that are dating side for their world. Craigslist. Well Craigslist for example for like one night's lunch or whatever. I think Thomas, you can be creative and say something like I'm looking for a woman who's comfortable with her sexuality. That's a good thing to say. Comfort with her sexuality. Or. Yes, and let's me, a jack-o-laner face.

Yeah, I'm a jack-o-laner in the face. Or here's what you do. What? You type in sex on the search and people in your area and see which chicks pop up. What do you mean you type in the word sex? You can search. You can search like interest in the sex.

Oh, like a visa and match.com or something. Yeah, or like the Facebook. Whatever, the Facebook date. Okay, you bit or whatever, yeah. And see what happens. Yeah, that's true. But if you type in sex on iTunes, you're going to find us, which is awesome. You're going to find us on iTunes.

We like the first thing that comes up, I think. That's good. I love us. Okay, that's all we got time for now in our little quick email, so. So thanks everyone for listening to Sex with Emily was a good for you. Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Sex toys aren't just for women. Go to sexwithemily.com slash flesh light to discover the best sex toys for men. The flesh light, a lot of guys say it feels even better than sex and it helps

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