Sex With Emily - SWE- Titillating Tips

Episode Date: February 26, 2013

A show overflowing with titillating sex tips and talk about Emily's cleavage. Emily wants to know why men don't undress women anymore. Gentleman, you need to change your lackluster ways. Emily gives tips for how men can be less boring in bed and tips for how women can initiate more sex. Emily also talks about jealousy, how Facebook has changed relationships, and your glorious inner-thighs. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hi. Hi, menace. What's going on? How are you? It's great to see you. Great to see you too. We didn't really get the talks. It's the last time you were here because we're kind of just in and out.

You just got back from New York. We didn't really get the talk about New York because we had a rush to what was going on because we had a guest in studio. Not today. Not today. No guests. No guests. It's all about us We got lots of catching up. Yeah, so what the hell happened in New York? Who did you date? Who'd you go out with who'd you make out with? Who did you go drinking with and don't tell me we were I was with my girlfriends and we were drinking wine and

We're all in an apartment because I don't I don't believe any of that. I have to be honest. I Did not I went on a date in New York. Oh god, but I did not have any sex. Oh, I did not, I went on a date in New York. Oh, God. But I did not have any sex. I did not have any intercourse. I did not have any make outs. And it was beautiful. It was like eight years. It was beautiful.

The city was beautiful. And the great meetings and a lot of interesting people. But I did not have any dates. I had one date, but no sex. And it was like an ex from a long time ago. And it didn't really go into our exciting. And then I've still been dating the guy here. All right, fast forward, yeah, to here, what's going on?

So the guy here, I've been dating him on an offer about a while, and now we're kind of back on, but it's interesting, because we're both in the same place, and that we don't really, I don't think that either one of us think that we're right for each other, but we're dating right now and trying to figure out, and he's dating other people, and I'm dating other people. And I think that we're right for each other, but we're dating right now and trying to figure out and he's dating other people and I'm dating other people.

And I think that we're both just not, look, I don't, you know what, okay. I'm gonna love when you start freaking out that he's acting that way. He is acting like you. He is acting like you. And I'm gonna love that you're freaking out. This is why I like him.

He and I are so similar that he's like me. He's like, I don't really wanna commit him in right now. I just wanna date. He's like, I wanna be able to date who I want and see you. And I'm like, that he's like me. He's like, I don't really want to commit him in right now. I just want a date. He's like, I want to be able to date who I want and see you. And I'm like, that's exactly what I want. But it has got a little tricky, like he did get a little jealous the night before I went to New York. I canceled.

We were going to get together. And I said to him, I have to stay home. Okay, I do this thing before I go on vacation. And I, it wasn't really vacation, it was work, but work, whatever. Before I leave town, I love to stay up really late and everything done that I've been delaying, answering emails, packing, like trying on stuff, like it takes me until two in the morning. I'm up late before a flight and he wanted me to come sleep at his house so he could get

up with me, go to the airport because he had an immediate near the airport, whatever. But he wanted to get up two hours earlier and what, so I decided at six o'clock, I'm not ready for New York, it always takes me a lot longer to get ready and do work. I canceled. He assumed, he tells me the next day when I'm in New York that I was out with another guy. And I was like, well, what tonight before? Yeah, he's like, you canceled on me because you were with another guy. And I was like, well, a, I could have been with another guy because we're not committed. But b, no, I was and I was really just home working. Yeah, guys never believe that when girls are just, oh, I just want to stay home and work.

But that's what I do all the time. He's got to know that. But what I'm saying is it's an interesting dynamic when you're trying to navigate a relationship that's really, really honest. So we are honest. We're dating other people. I know that's not maybe a lot of people couldn't do that, but that's where I'm at right now. And that's where he's at.

And I can't tell you how many men I've talked to lately in their like 30s early 40s who are like I don't know if I want to commit I want to be with women I mean I want to be with as many women as I want and they're not looking for that one person What I love he's just my friends what what I love about that is The part where women actually believe that when guys say I just want to stay home and work So I have to give it to women that they're good about that, but guys will not believe that at all. Right.

Right. Do you think it's because it's a total double standard then? And I said to him, I said, you realize, I'll give you guys that one right there. What? Yeah. I will give you a point for that. I realized that it was projection because I said, I didn't talk to you all last because we don't see each other all the time.

I said, last weekend, for example, you had plans all weekend. I assume you were with another woman. And he's like, well, I wasn't, but I don't, whatever. I assume that he was. And I don't really care, because that's our agreement. So he, I think- So are you guys pretending not to be jealous?

Yeah. Is that what's really happening? That you guys are just pretending to be cool with it? I think we really are cool with it. Here's the thing about jealousy. And here's the thing about jealousy and relationship. Is that you have to deal with jealousy if you're in a monogamous relationship

or you're in a relationship that's more fluid. It always comes up, either you're with someone and you're monogamous and you're afraid that when they leave and they go to the store, they're going to be flirting with someone that they meet on the street, or they go out with their guy friends, or it's open, and you full on know that they're dating other people, and then you still get...

So either way, you're going to get jealous. It It's gonna happen. It's just a matter of overcoming it and feeling like it's okay. We have our own thing and we have an understanding and we talk all the time. It's actually a pretty healthy relationship. I have to say, I feel good about it. That's cool. But here's my one issue. I have a sex issue and I'm not saying that it has to do with this guy in jumps in particular. But it does. It doesn't. It doesn't. Not that he listens to the show, at least he says they all say that. Yeah.

But why don't men, and this has been happening for years, I need to understand why men do not undress women anymore. I feel like that was part of it, and they're like, get naked, let's have sex. And they don't like, there's something really sexy about men taking your clothes off for you. I know why. Why? Because they have had trouble in the past where they tried it too soon and then they got rejected. So then they wait. So what's the same thing that we always talk about? They're afraid they're going to get shut down and then they just... Yeah, well, I'm sure. I'm sure in the past when they were younger, they're like, oh, you have this. And then they did do that, but

they got shut down so many times. Then they just wait for. Now they just go for the right. They're like, get in dressed or just come and take our clothes off. And it's like, what are we like, like, the, the, what are the old shows from like, like, I love Lucy. Do you remember all this shows these days when they were like, you're gonna separate beds and they would just get undressed and like, we're not an old couple, married couple. Let's just get undressed and get in bed and turn the lights off and hump. There's something romantic to just the man taking off slowly, removing your clothes. So this is my one sex.

Actually, there are more sex tips coming up. But this is just from personal. And I talked to some girlfriends about this as I always do. They're like, yeah, guys don't do that anymore. They're just like expect you to get naked and have sex right away. And they're that women really like the teas, the slowing down, the taking off the clothes, just not every time. Nothing I say here is for every time. It's just that I feel like men have been with over the last few years. It just never happens in a romantic way. It's like, we're gonna have sex now. And then the next thing you know, you're naked because you had to take all your

clothes off. So I'm saying. Okay. So where do you think it's going to go? What? This guy? Yeah. I don't know. Probably blow up. It might be me.

Okay. This is what I know about it. I know that we will always be in each other's lives and we are super tight because we were dating and then we stopped dating and then we were friends and we became really close and now we kind of date. So I think we're going to be in each other's lives forever. I don't know where it's going to go. And I'm not thinking about it.

Is it going to be out of your wedding? Is he going to be at my wedding? Yeah. Am I going to be in Sheldon's life forever. I don't know where it's going to go. And I'm not thinking about it. Is it going to be at your wedding? Is it going to be at my wedding? Am I going to have a wedding? Yes. He would be at my wedding. He would be at my wedding. The reason I bring that up is because we had the royal wedding.

Right. And in the news, they kept on talking about how there was going to be a bunch of X's of both of the couples, from, I forget whatever her whatever name is what's his name Kate and Kate and whatever Prince William William right right yeah sorry we are in America and I don't really followed that it that well but anyways the whole thing was like oh they're they're inviting their X's to the wedding really so yeah that's why how many X's do they have at 25 I mean if I invited my X's to the wedding. Really? So yeah, that's why I like to say it. How many exes do they have at 25? I mean, if I invited my exes to the wedding, it would fill out in time.

I guess it was like a couple. It was, I think it was like maybe two from each side or two or three. That's for sure that you can invite exes. I know a lot of exes weddings, have you? Exes weddings now. Yeah, I would invite, there are a few exes that I've been on. Yeah, but did the bride know that?

Yes. I think they knew. Yeah, but sometimes friends, sometimes you do become really good friends with the next. One of my axes is my very best friend. And he even said he's like, we could have a baby together one day and we wouldn't need it to be together. I was like, okay, that sounds good. If it worse comes to worse and I want to have a kid, you can call him.

That's what good person here. Say, hey, I want to have a kid hook me up. Yeah, I got to decide at some point soon, but it hasn't happened yet. And it's beautiful here in San Francisco. Yes. Finally, summer. A lot of women looking hot. Very hot.

Just speaking of which, I'm wearing this dress that has, did you know, I don't know if you notice because you don't look at me like this maybe or maybe you do, but I have a lot of cleavage showing today. I didn't look. You didn't notice my cleavage? It's not on purpose. It's a new style. Oh, yeah, sure. No, I swear to God. Like, I just had lunch with an old friend. She's like You didn't notice my cleavage? It's not on purpose. It's a new style. Oh yeah sure. No, I swear to God. Like I just had lunch with an old friend. She's like,

when did you get cleavage? And I've always had like, I guess I'm like a B, I'm normal. But this dress, I feel like I never show my cleavage. I just don't. I'm not a cleavage trick. And it's people are like staring at my cleavage. And it's not on purpose. I didn't realize it. It's a brand new dress. I wasn't like, I'm not that girl who gets dressed and looks in the mirror a million times. I just threw it on and left. And I'm like, it's sunny and I've got cleavage. Yeah. It's a brand new dress. I wasn't like, I'm not that girl who gets dressed and looks in the mirror a million times. I just threw it on and left and I'm like, it's sunny and I've got cleavage. Yeah. It's telling you it's changed. Do you know what's weird?

I don't know if you notice guys checking out your cleavage. Yeah, I do. That's what I'm saying. I noticed men checking out my cleavage today, which is weird from blocks away. Yeah. I try not to, I try not to like stare at a woman's cleavage. Cleavage? Cleavage, cleavage. Cleavage?

No, like I try not to stare at it, but for some reason my eyes like lock in. And it's weird because then I'll see them seeing me look at it. Like, it happens to me 10 times today. Welcome to my world in my world. Yeah, I'm so embarrassed, because I met somebody for the first time once and she had like a ton

of cleavage showing. You can't help it. And my eyes just like locked in and I didn't even try to like look in that area. It just locked in and stay there for a second. And I know she noticed and I'm like, oh my God. Well, it's like bright, shiny things. It's not, I don't know, but I don't know.

But I get embarrassed. I know. Because I know that they knew that I was looking and I didn't try to look. Some women might appreciate that. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I feel that they try to cover up.

A social experience, how are you gonna see, like how many guys ask you out? Yeah, and seriously, there's like guys like I like your dress and like your car. Like today I was like, oh my God, I'm wearing cleavage. I should wear more cleavage. I seriously should. I'm gonna go shopping after this

and buy a bunch more cleavage. No, it's weird though, because men are, again, it's another wiring thing. Like, you just look down and you can't help it. It's fine. Don't beat yourself up. I get embarrassed when they notice. Yeah, that's true.

Super embarrassed. They can't help it though. How's your dating life? Dating life is okay. I don't know. I'm not trying. I'm never trying, but- Yeah, but I'm really not trying right now.

You're just so busy. Yeah, I just'm really like not trying right now. You're just so busy. Yeah, I Just don't care, but I'm going to Los Angeles this weekend and I'm gonna hit up some people some old friends Some old women in the rotation just you know just hang out some people I'm gonna be there. I might go to LA next week. I'm only gonna be there for four days Staying anywhere fun. No friend's house tell us. Okay, that's cool. Well, okay, let me tell you about today's show everyone. We've got, we're going to be reading your emails that you sent to feedback at sexualtemely.com.

Some of the topics include sexual tension, hand jobs, of course. I can knock it away from them, married sex, premature ejaculation orgasms, and then we're also going to some sexual tips to unleash her sexual desire and some sex in the news. I like that. Do you like it? Does it all sound good to you? Yeah. Speaking about sound, we might sound maybe

a little bit different right now, because we're actually in a different studio. We're at the Stitcher.com studios right now. Right. And if you want to listen to the show, you can download the app for your smartphone and it's Stitcher. That's STITCHER.

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So yeah, we sound a little weird. This is going to be our new home. Our new home. Our new place. We didn't get kicked out of our old place, but we were gonna be doing a lot of cool things here. So we needed a different space to work in. Keep listening to the show because there are a lot of exciting changes coming up. So we can't wait to tell you about them,

which we will tell you soon. Yeah, so if we sound a little funky this just our first time here and you know me, all get a fix. Menace is the sound mixed master. I know, I always get, I mean, I get people that I run into on the street, they're like, your mic is too loud, she's too low, and then I change it and put you higher

and I put me a little bit lower, and like, Emily's too loud and you're too low, and I'm like, guys, I don't know what to do. I know people have said that to me too, but too But because in I'm gonna blame it on you Emily Why you always blame over there? I do because you don't talk directly into the microphone But I have to give it to you because you do have to do I don't do as much work reading I keep to show alive I couldn't do it that much. Yes, no, but you know, I have to read stuff in front of me

And yeah, so I'm turning my head. No, but you know, I have to read stuff in front of me and you don't have to. So I'm turning my head. A lot. So, but you know, it's a, just stick with us to change it. Yeah, we're gonna make it happen. And now we're gonna make it happen. It's gonna be even better. I swear to you, I know I've been saying that,

but it's gonna be awesome. Okay, sex in the news. When medication lowers your sex drive. So this has been in the news lot, Lili, and this is just a known thing. So if you're with somebody and she or he suffers from low libido, a lot of times you have to look at and I always ask, are you on any medications?

So this is actually about an ADD drug that it starts off the story with the guy who's taking stratera for ADD, adult ADD. And he says that he is having sexual dysfunction. It decreases libido. He used to one of sex all the time and now he doesn't. So some of the drugs that you can look for if you are experiencing low libido are medications that treat high blood pressure.

Drugs to treat allergies like anachistamines, chemotherapy drugs and drugs for depression and other mental health issues. Now, depression drugs are huge. Mental health anxiety. Those are like some of the most. Mental health, anxiety, those are like some of the most commonly prescribed drugs and they, most of them, have sexual side effects. So just, if you are experiencing anything, doctors don't tell you all the time. This article goes and sold thing about how the doctor didn't tell them that's statera. He had to research research it. So I'm just saying, it's a big thing that you got to look at everything

you're putting in your body and seeing if it has any negative side effects. I didn't hear anything you said because I was looking at your cleavage. Were you really? No, I'm just kidding. No, no. Oh, good. No. Just take a picture.

No, my buddy was talking about this because he was taking, I don't know what it was, like, Zola after, I don't know, some of the, SSI. Some of the stuff because he had anxiety too. And then he said, he had two different drugs. One where he's like, he had no sex drive, like he couldn't even rise to the occasion.

And the other one, he had a sex drive, but he can never climax. Like he could just go forever. He said he was just like a porn star, but then he could never. Yeah, and you never get to have an organ. So what happened? He had a sob team. But he and I have stopped.

He and I have stopped team. And there's things you can do, like if you do have to be on it, let's say let's go back to end of presence, if you're on it at a present, you have to be on it. There are drugs that you can take that supplement that that will kind of counterbalance, counteract the side effects you're having from the drug. You can add another drug.

I mean, now that you want to take all these drugs, but there are drugs that will help you balance it out. And maybe you won't have the sexual, stop the sexual side effects. Yes. So that's what I gotta say about that. That's an important one that comes up a lot. Okay, do women like porn as much as men? There's been some studies out that have shown that women, more couples are enjoying porn

together with women often taking the lead in choosing the material. More women are using porn to get themselves in the mood for sex to enjoy their sexuality on their own. So women on their own, this is down new. More women are using porn to learn new sexual techniques or to explore sexually-adventure situations. They're using porn to satisfy a general curiosity about sex overall and they're comfortable and confident in starting their opinions on the subject.

So they're using porn for the same reasons as men, but they like to watch different kinds of porn. As you know, men are visual, men get turned on right away. Women like the plot, they like the stories, they like, so there's now porn for the same reasons as men, but they like to watch different kinds of porn. As you know, men are visual, men get turned on right away. Women like the plot. They like the stories. They like, so there's now porn for all that you can find. For example, at Adamineve.com. Let's talk about Adamine for a second. Adamineve rocks. They are sponsors. We love them. Any sex toys, any porn, anything you want to get, you can go to Adamineve.com. Because really, if you haven't bought any toys yet or any porn yet, it's time to do it. You're listening to the show, you're trying to spice up your sex life. Like, go on to AdamNive. It is just an amazing playground for sex.

So you should check it out. You can go to AdamNive.com, sex with Emily Listeners, get three adult DVDs, speaking of which, and a free gift plus free shipping. So if you go to adamaniv.com, enter coupon code Emily at checkout, it's easy, it's free shipping, and it's an amazing deal, so check it out. I actually run into more women that talk about porn than guys.

Really? Yeah. More women talk about it? Yeah, they talk about like porn notes that they've seen and stuff like that. But maybe because I hang out with more girls than guys, but they they seem to really enjoy it and they like talking about it They see what kinds of porn they like on No, they they just I don't know the I'm trying to remember the last situation where they talked about it

But it's just they just described what was going on right and Have you ever watched porn with a woman? No, no, I'm not a big but it's just, they just described what was going on. Right. And it's you. Have you ever watched porn with a woman? No, no, I'm not a big porn guy. You're not a porn guy, that's true. I can tell you a funny thing though. Yes, tell me. I was, I don't know what I was, I was in Las Vegas

and I was sharing a room with my, one of my two, well, I was sharing a room with two radio people and a guy and a girl. And we were at the hard rock and we're really Wasted it's 4 a.m. and we start flipping the channels and then a porno came on and then it looked like This girl is like this having sex and you and you pan-pack and it's a transsexual having sex. Oh seriously It was so funny. That is very fun. We're dying the girl is laughing at us so hard

So we got pumped dude. That is very fun. We were dying, the girl was laughing at us so hard. So we got ponds. For everyone. Dude, there is porn everything. Everything. Everything. That's what's good about porn. It's very universal. And I think that women who, I mean, typically too, you know, this article was on say like on a

more sociological level, generations of women have been told that porn is evil, that it exploits, objectifies, and degrades women, and that a woman who enjoys porn is a betrayer of women have been told that porn is evil, that it exploits, objectifies, and degrades women, and that a woman who enjoys porn is a betrayer of women. And I learned that. I took a woman's studies class in college and it was like porn is wrong, porn is evil. And I think there are a lot of women in class. Exactly.

I took one of the, yeah, women's studies. I was way into it. I didn't burn my bra, but me, come on. I'm not a bra burner, but so it's not until recently, this is a recent phenomenon that women are in, which I think they should. I think if you're a woman and you've never checked it out, or you have all these preconceived notions,

go online and look for some female friendly porn and see what you think. You can download it, you porn. I can download it. You porn? You porn. Type it in, find what you want. Free, right?

Yeah. All right. And red tube, all those. Oh, what else? I don't know. There's those ones I hear about the most. Right. I hear about you porn a lot. Yeah. I've done it. I've tried.

You have? What do you type in? What does Emily type in when she's on you porn? I didn't know you could. I just look at the home page. Like I'm a little overwhelmed. But I don't watch that much. What did you see? When I do watch porn, I'm totally psyched.

I just don't do it enough, but it's a goal of mine. I saw like I like watching women. Women on women or? Women on women, women on men. But women on women, women, three sums, men and women. Two, two guys on a girl. Ooh, that's hot. Yeah.

I think that's hot. What? Or two women in a man? Describe the last porn that you watched. There was a lot of oral sucks being performed on women. Oh, your dream porn. Did you shoot it yourself? I didn't shoot it myself.

There was like, you know, they were like in Hawaii. It was totally cheesy. They were like in some Hawaii, like outside, and there was like waterfalls or something. And then they were just seeing what the women were getting on, and then like the guy walked in, so that was like a threesome one, and they were all just like going down.

I mean, women know how to like perform wall sex on women. Like they, Wow, really? Like a guy would know how to give a hand job to himself. That's a way. Isn't that right? But it's true. I think that that's,

no, that's different, because a man can perform, a man can perform roles sex, but women just know we know. We've done it. We own it, you know, same. Go for it. Okay. Remember that live nude sex demonstration that they did at Northwestern University? Yes. Remember we talked about that a few months ago, a few months ago?

Well, the live nude sex demo in Los Angeles, they're doing one in Los Angeles, is going to recreate the controversial Northwestern University kinky people seminar. So now they're like taking it on the road. And there's these people in LA. So what happened was this professor at Northwestern, if you recall, had a studies class, a human studies, sexual studies class, I guess.

And he brought in someone on this machine called like the fuck something. And fucking machines. Yeah, and this woman like basically used it in front of the class. brought in someone on this machine called like the fuck something. And fucking machines. Yeah, and this woman like basically used it in front of the class and people were like outraged. So now they're doing it again. They're recreating it.

It's the use of the toy live in Chicago was framed by the broader discussion of what the toy was used for and how the people don't show you if they're about doing it. They're charging 20 bucks at the door. How could you find out about this? They have a place. Oh, it was called the fucksa. Oh, the fucksa, okay.

How did I not know that? How did you know the fucksa? They have a whole website dedicated that over at kink.com. Kink.com is actually in San Francisco. They own like a city block here. They own a city block and they make porn. Crazy and a big part of their website is those machines. Right, exactly.

I see them. I don't know. They're with me, we can go on a tour, I'm friends with them. Yeah, we're going to tour. We'll do some shows. Some shows, that would be cool. Yeah, they're awesome over there. And kink.com also has something for, they have like,

they're sort of a fetishy website or they're a lot of, they're into like BDSM, a lot of different, whatever you're into, they have channels on kink.com for that. Like, there was some guy I was talking to that told me I was shocked, that he, because I know him really well and he's like, oh yeah, I love kink.com and he was really into something kind of bizarre

that I couldn't believe he was into on kink.com but I can't remember what it was. Now that I couldn't believe it, just knowing him, it was something a little more out there, like torturous, like women. Yeah, no, they do crazy what it was. Now that I couldn't believe it, just knowing him, it was something a little more out there, like torture, like women. Yeah, no, they do crazy stuff. Yeah, you got to be into it. I know somebody that was at a bar where they were shooting something where they just had

the video was like, some girl just walks into the bar. So like, all right, who wants some? And then like, just like 10 guys just started doing her. Really? Yeah, and but it was weird because my buddy said, yeah, we were just there. We didn't know what was going on. So then we had a sign of waiver saying it was OK if we end up on tape and so like that. Oh my god.

It's a day. I don't know. I don't know. I mean, they didn't have sex with anybody, but they were just there like watching. And everyone was like cheering on and stuff like that. Yeah, it's crazy. And then they have this one called, it's when two women mud wrestle.

The name of it is escaping me, but two women mud, they were on my show years ago. If you look up kink.com, my website, I have an old interview with them from like five. Remember they were in the show like three years ago. Anyway, so women mud wrestle and the winner gets to have sex with the loser however she wants. Okay. So then that's also on things. So if she wins the mud wrestle, the two women get to have sex with the loser however she wants. Okay.

So then that's also on thing. So if she wins the mud wrestle, the two women get to have sex than the woman, one woman's in charge, whoever wins. Cool. How about that? Okay. So last sex in the new story, this is another, I don't know what's going on in universities right now.

Seriously, lap dancing strippers, Philly professor allegedly taught ethics class using exotic dancers. So this professor in Philadelphia brought in and had lap dances performed for all the students because he was teaching a social ethics class. Was wrong with that. I don't know, dude. Strippers are really good at all. That's some higher education right there.

Really? Like, what? None of this stuff happened in college. I was, I was taking a woman's studies class about how bad porn is and now they're like bringing in strippers. I went to a stupid art college. Yeah. We did that. We got into the art college, but you know, anyway, whatever. So that's what we got for sex in the news. I know. I know. Are we going to go to my favorite part now? Yes, your favorite part. Okay. What do you got?

You got emails. Thanks everyone for emailing me at feedback at sexfethemely.com. A lot of people hit me up on Facebook or Twitter. That's fine too. However you want to get to me. Okay. This is from the guy that we talked about. I think it was two episodes ago about how he wrote as he emailed us both and he was like, can't the show be like show 187 or something? Oh yeah. And then I emailed him back and I was like, well, what do you mean? What do you like? So this is what he likes. Ready? Yeah. Just the sexual tension between you and men is very interesting. Sexual tension. Is there sexual maybe you are staring at my breasts? I notice. No, only since you brought it up, have me look at them. I didn't. I just thought that you would have noticed because everyone I saw today was like, when did you get cleavage? Okay, just talk more about

current news and current sex trends, he says. What do people like to do to spice up their sex lives after 20 years of f-ing would be a good topic discuss? Don't we always talk about that? This is all we talk about. More listener emails and discussions would be great. Also, please do more shows. I listen to the podcasts of your show and I always end up completing and listening

all the up podcasts before the next podcast is up on the website, Michael. What? Well, thanks, Michael, for explaining more about what you wanted. I think that we do a lot of that, but I can guarantee you all, we'll be doing more shows in the next month. So many shows, you know, I am being able, I know.

You're gonna be like nauseated by how many shows, you're gonna be like really another sexy on the show again. I swear I've been saying this for a while, but it's really happening. Believe me, I was here setting up equipment. I think Emily was checking out my ass while I was laying down some cable.

I can't wait till we can talk about it, but we can't talk about it yet. We will. Okay. So, Emily, so how do we, Michael, thank you? And I love feedback of the show. Seriously, what do you guys like? What don't you like? Just some media, man, we're listening.

Just take notes. Doesn't need to be that, you know, whatever you really got like this or like that. I don't like when menist does this, you know, whatever it is. He wants to know how much you want my penis. Is does what's going on. He says that this or like that. I don't like when menist as this, you know, whatever it is. He wants to know how much you want my penis is does what's going on. He says that we have sexual tension. I don't think you know. People think we do.

I don't text you during the week and say, are you thinking about my winner ever? No, you're only calming when you're having sex with other women to get me jealous. No, not to get you jealous. Just kidding. Not to get me jealous, just to God knows why you did that. Because I was really drunk. And I think it was just because like past like shows before I try to bring up stuff and you're like, oh, you don't know what you're talking about.

You don't have sex blah blah blah. And I like dude, I have sex all the time. And so I just had to call you and let you know that, hey, Emily, I can prove it right now. I'm in sex. Yeah, I know. Unfortunately, you never prove it to me, so I don't believe you are ever in sex. I need to call you next to a friend. You're free to do it. Yeah, maybe I can guide you through it

and let you know how to do it. Oh my God, I will, I will call you. Okay, and you did ask me a few shows ago because I wanna honor this that you said I should describe my last sexual experience of things to end. And to be honest, I've been thinking about that and I haven't had one yet worth describing.

Oh, really? So just know that that's coming and the next time I have amazing sex, I'm gonna describe it. And lately, okay, I don't know why, but I've been really busy. We have this concert that's coming up at my work, so I've been really focusing on that.

So I'll have the television on in the background and I won't change the channel because I'll be so focused, but Something will come on and I just forget the change of channel. Okay. Why Did anybody like sex in the city because that's for some reason something there's some show that I watch before it goes on Okay, like why did you guys? Adilize these women it was so read it's so ridiculous You're so because you're the guy

that doesn't like sex in the city. There's the menu that I get to go. No, I'm open to a part of this. It's ridiculous. It's ridiculous. It is not. It is. What's ridiculous about it?

Like, first of all, like the main character, she is not getting laid. Yes, she is. How do you women think that she is good looking? Oh, you don't find Sarah does a parkour Hell no, yeah, I think some men do some endow Where can I find a man that thinks she's attractive? I'm do wish it's so successful and attractive and people like her exactly

I know I assume that men find she's got a sexy body you assume no I it's other women that put her on a pedestal thinks that she's Like awesome just because she think they think she's a snazzy dresser or something. I don't know. She's a snazzy dresser. But men thinking that she's attractive, I don't think so. I think they do. Let us know. Who? Email us. I think that men find who do you think is most attractive than on the show? The Brunette one.

People tell me I look like her all the time. Well, I add of all of them. She's the most attractive than on the show. The Brunette one. People tell me I look like her all the time. Well, I add of all of them, she's the most attractive. Oh, that's good. You think her. Okay. Yeah. I guess you're right. She is the most attractive. And then the other one, the blonde one. Kim Kattrell. Kim Kattrell. I know all that name.

So everybody loves, right? Because she's the biggest Gucci mama in the crew. And then the red head and then Sarah Jessica Parker even I wouldn't even I would not have sex with her. You wouldn't? No, effin way even if I got paid. Her body's hot. No, nothing.

No, huh. Okay, but besides that, does the show, the topics on the show, Balagui, or you just can't get past the fact that Sarah Jessica Parker is the star? You the kid even get past that. You're like, it's kind of just hard to think that, I don't know, this is so ridiculous. It's hard to grasp. I like it because you know what, a lot of people are like, oh, you're like Sarah Diska, people say that to me, like, oh, you're so like, section of the city. And I like it. I never, because you know, I haven't had a TV in 20 years, but I do watch it. I've seen it, you know, at friends houses or even,

whenever I'm traveling, and it is very uncanny how many similar situations in my life happened on the show. Like I'll be watching the show and I'll be like, that just happened to me, or I don't know, I feel like there are some similarities, but I can understand that it's an annoying show and you don't want to sleep with any of them. And a lot of guys hated that show.

That's a lie. But people, well, it is on. So bad. I think they're gonna come out with a trailer. I mean, I think they're gonna come out with a three. A third movie? Yeah, they are. Do you know it's funny?

Because the reason I just said three right now because I had put out a tweet about Osama bin Laden. Right. And I said, my tweet was, they didn't really shoot Osama bin Laden. They showed him the trailer to Sex in the City of the three. You did that? Yeah.

Some people loved it. That's funny. Yeah. I know. That's crazy. You're already making a song of bin Laden. I guess everyone is. What about all that crazy spam that's been going around?

Have you given it to Facebook? Facebook. Yeah. It's ridiculous. It's crazy. OK. It's bad. Hey, Emily, greetings from Malaysia. Just want to give a quick shout out to you guys.

I've been listening to your show for a while now in Stitcher. Thank you. We're at the studios right now. And it's one of the most entertaining podcasts I must say. Not only you managed to discuss sex in a humorous way sometimes, I've also picked up a few tricks here and there. Guess what? I tried it out and it works.

I hope your show will carry on forever. Perhaps beat out Oprah in the future. By the way, Oprah, the topic with weight is outdated. We want sex, sex, and more sex. Last but not least, I wish you all the best. Love you all, Ray. We would love to be on the Oprah network. So if you want a campaign for us, that'd be awesome.

We could be on the, I, on the O. Don't do anything. Would you really want to be in the O now? Oh, yeah. Dude, I love Oprah. Oprah's awesome. You do? Yeah.

I mean, I love Oprah too, but I would never have called you for being an Oprah lover. She's very inspirational. Like just the way, like, I'm just, I'm not talking about, you know, the topics and stuff that she talks about, which she does have a lot of that, that is really good and some of the stuff

that I'm not, it's not relatable to me. But just, you know, just like how she just came up to make this big media empire, it's very something you can admire, you know? Exactly. So she needs some late night entertainment on the own network. Feel free to give us a call, please.

Yeah, you guys, everyone email own network. Okay, married sex. Okay, this is funny. Okay, wait, Emily. Mendes comes over as, this is how he starts it. This is now what it's about. Okay. Mendes comes over as angry in episode 208. I can't even remember. No, it's four episodes ago. Episode were you angry? That we did last week. Probably. I don't know.

Okay. Always angry. You do something that pisses me off before we start every time. Do you really secretly hate me? It's not so simple. No, I don't hate you. Do you like secretly hate me? It sounds like something. No, I don't hate you. Do you hear and I annoy you? Are you like having these annoyance? No, no, no, no. This is, but it's not just you. It's a lot of people. And it's something that I have to work on myself too.

Being annoying? Oh, angry. No, I don't know. I'm probably am annoying. No, you're not annoying at all. But no, it's just, there's a lot of areas that I'm good at and there's a lot of areas, maybe more areas that I'm bad at, but like technical stuff,

I guess I'm really good at too. And then I just get frustrated when people don't understand like easy things that are technically. Right. And that I gotta learn like, okay, not everybody knows how to use that stuff. That's why you're so good at what you do and why everyone needs you. Yeah, but I gotta learn like, okay, not everybody knows how to use that stuff. That's why you're so good at what you do and why everyone needs you.

Yeah, but I gotta learn to like not be a dick when something like that was anything. But it's just like sometimes, you're just like, okay, we've gone over this a billion times. Why are we exactly like that? I don't know because like sometimes, I mean, if it's like in the beginning of the show,

like maybe I don't know, you didn't hit the program button that we've done a billion times. He was probably mad at me. Or like, because even before the show, like maybe, I don't know, you didn't hit the program button that we've done a billion times. He was probably mad at me. Or like, because even before the show starts, even when we're talking about the microphone thing, it's like, we adjust the microphone for you, like maybe 15 times before you even start the show. Every time. Correct.

Correct. So maybe sometimes, if I have a long day, because when we start the show, like, I already been at work, maybe 12, 13 hours. So that's why I like a lot of times. And that's more, that's changing. Yeah, which does gonna be really cool because you hear me stumble a lot on my words is because I'm tired, you know?

Well. But it's cool because we're gonna be recording at a earlier time. Right, okay. I mentioned in my last email that my wife and I have been married for 13 years in May and together for 21 years in October. I get regular BJs from my wife every week. That's good. Just last week she gave me a BJ. She seemed uninsertid and having sex,

but by the time she was done, we were both turned on and I gave her oral gratification to orgasm. Even though I know this was a free BJ, it turned into a great experience for both of us. The married sex life is alive and kicking in our house. Love the show, keep it up, Jeff and Los Angeles. Awesome, Jeff. So that's, that is good because we always say that there is a stereotype that once people get married, they no longer perform oral sex on each other. And this is a couple who, after 21 years together, they both did it.

They did it. It was awesome. Yeah, I just wish that, you know, if I ever just get in a relationship where I just don't have to initiate anything, you know, where I just get home. No, no, no, I'm just saying where there's a lot of times where I don't have to initiate things, you know, I just get home and then she wants to give me a... She gets better knees and gives me enough. A free one. Yeah, what's wrong with that, ladies? Take initiative, you know? Take initiative. I know. And just do it.

You know how happy your man would probably be extremely happy and he would probably pay you back in other ways. That and you wonder why, oh, he's not, you know, that into me blah, blah, blah. In case you're making it too much work for him. And you know, men don't want to work that hard at it. So best case scenario you walk in the door, she rips your pants down, gets in her knees and gives you. Yeah. How amazing would that be?

Women should do that. You think that's not going to turn your man on and then... I've done that. Then he's going to start wanting to pursue you. Like, huh? Yeah, I said they're effing psych when I've done that. Yeah. I remember my ex-boyfriend in LA when we were kind of like, I was living there for a while.

Like, he came up from work once and I just did that and he had a freaking hard attack. He barely, dead, he even drop just like work yet. I just had to do this. Awesome. Yeah, see, I do. Women want to know how to fix things here. We just gave you the answer right there. That's how you fix all your parts.

We finally cracked the code. It is true that women, that one of the biggest complaints that men have when they're forced to answer what they would like more from their partner and they would like women to initiate sex more. So I think that's a great point, Mattis, for once. I get so frustrated when I see women on television shows getting interviewed and said, you know, I don't know what's going on. He's not really that into me, you know, then you know what?? Go after him and if he's not into you after that then I think women

It's time to cut it off let it go But women are we're used to being courted as well and so we might be a little afraid of rejection Some women I think you can't really I think you got to mix it up It has to be a balance and I do think that the norm is at the man initiate so every once in a while If a woman takes an issue doesn't have to be a BJ. It could be just, you know, start addressing them or, you know, whatever. It's all so cliche, but like,

be wearing something sexy when you get home. When you get home, I'm assuming the woman's home cooking all day, which is not the case. Yeah, we're living in a very different world, you know? It's not like how it was in the past. And I was actually talking over the week about how different things are because I hate to always bring this up, but it just can't get away from it.

It's just Facebook and online stuff and where everyone just is breaking up so fast, because their attention spans are so gone because the uh, I'll just take the guy's side. The guy gets on, gets online, he sees all these hot chicks that are like, you know, poking him or messaging him or writing on his wall or liking one of his photographs and then he gets home with his girlfriend, his wife and they're, they get an argument and guys, not like back in the day before the internet they have to work it out because they don't think that they have other opportunities you know but they see all these things that think that's nice online and they feel they have these opportunities are like you know what I'm gonna bail on the girl that I'm having now I'm gonna because they think the grass is always greener, and then they go over there, it doesn't work out, and then you're left without getting BJs when you get home.

Exactly. Exactly, that's a big, circuitous route back to saying that we should know. I know you're right, and I think that we, that everyone, I always say this, they're looking for the BBD, the bigger, better deal, that we think there's so many opportunities now with Facebook, with dating online.

Even dating online, you get like a million, you post your photo and like a hundred guys wanna go out, that you're like, well, why should I stop at number two if there's not gonna be so much tomorrow and some of the next day and some of it. And it's just, it's like the cycle of life, we have too many choices now and too many opportunities. Yeah.

So what do you do? I don't know, I mean, the, the, the, the, the, When you get it with somebody good, stick with them and make it work. Stick with them and make it work. And, you know, be open to being it work and you know be open to Being wrong sometimes you know the thing about the thing about the Facebook and all that is it It's like a media gratification that you're getting from someone else So it's like you're getting this ego boost and you're getting this little serotonin rush when you get a like on your page from a girl

Or a guy even if you're in a relationship and I think that that can be Thwarting because it feels good and it literally gives you that rush and you're like, you're like excited about it. So then you, yeah, you think you have more options and you might, but yeah, it is interesting Facebook. How many, what, what, one in five divorces are I'm thinking? Yeah, and just a year before is one out of every seven. Now it's one out of every five.

So it's going fast, man. It's going fast. People be careful. Appreciate what you have. But I'm not not really I'm not really worried about that When I get in a relationship with somebody then I'm with them. That's no matter what I don't care who's hitting me up on Facebook Or anything like that I know but it doesn't mean I'm not worried about my significant other being poked by another dude on Facebook You can't know if someone comes here. And it's just like, but on the other hand, I can't worry about that, you know, because

then you're not going to be able to have a relationship. You want to trust the person you're with exactly. And you can't, yeah, you don't want to stop their page all the time. It's crazy what people figure out about. Can't go there right now. What? No, it's just like my friend. I was at our house and she heard that our boyfriend

broke up with somebody. So we got her name, we Googled her name, we found her on Facebook, and then we found her online, and then we looked at her Facebook. Like, you know, just this whole thing that you can just find everybody's everything in two seconds. And it's just too much of a... I want to find a girl that's so down to earth that she's bringing back gravity.

That's what I want. Really, is that you want now? She said down, she brought back gravity. Okay. Emily, just got a super hot hand job for my wife and boy, did I blow it in a good way? Since I got my vasectomy, I can squeeze to hold it back. But once I let it go, it all comes out big time.

Not like before I got it where I would hold back and it would come out for good. So his sec to me has helped him. Anyway, one point for Emily. Sorry, wait, Manus, because he liked his hand job. Love the show. Have a good one. Ken from Clinton Township, Michigan.

Near my old face. Near my old face. Are you promoting sex with Emily and Michigan? Is that supposed to work? I hope so. Tell all you know, but yes, always. But if you're in Michigan, tell all your friends. Well, she got a Facebook.com slash sex with Emily on your page and see, you can look at stats and see where the most people are friends or people that like the page are from. Really? Yeah. Is that new? I'll show you. Okay, should we move into some sex tips? The sex, yeah.

The sex tips. Okay, let's do that. Okay, here are some titillating tips. You had a pornographic picture that you just went through. I did? Yeah, right there. Oh, there's people making out. Okay.

I've got this binder that I just slept around with all my sex or stuff. Okay, these are some tips to unleash the sexual desires in her. Okay, Rady, here's some tips. Oh, I will unleash in her. I'll bet you will. Don't be afraid to reveal your own desires to her. Okay, so a lot of men get nervous, they hold back,

they think they can't talk about what they want. By the law of reciprocity, you're willing this to open up to her holds the key to bring out the more adventurous and wild streak in her. For example, if she's a little apprehensive, try revealing your own sexual families first. Tease her out of her sexual cell and the heightened her sexual shell and heightened her anticipation of what's to come next. So don't hold back. If you're with a woman and you think it's serious or even if you're just getting into her, I think that people, men, a lot of times, are afraid to bring up their fantasies.

It doesn't have to be your crazy sick one, but you have a fantasy that's kind of doable and that feels sort of mainstream that you could start the conversation with her about what her fantasies are, could open her up. I guess it sounds like a lot of work. It is a lot of work. Okay, when you're making love to her,

touch her with confidence. And crease her desire by exercising self-fitting. You grab her and you squeeze her, right? For instance, I've slapped her around. You slap her around. Refrain from heading straight for her clitoris during sex. How many times have I said that? But that's where we want to go.

Instead, tease her playfully, kiss her gently, allowing your tongue to work its magic all over her central spots from her ears to her neck down to her navel. Skip her vagina, just skip it at first, and traverse down her inner thighs to her toes. Inner thighs are so sensitive on women, I cannot tell you. Men don't allow them. I know, I love the inner thighs. Do you play with inner thighs? You kiss them and stuff? Yeah, that's hot. That's a hot area. That is a hot move. Just learn from this tip, kiss her inner thighs. Okay, can I break another thing down for you? Can I, can I give a memo that you can give to the women? Yes. That's cool that you guys like teasing.

Fine. Men need to do that. Okay. They do. But men don't like the teasing. I don't, I don't like hearing when these other sex experts and they, women, they say, oh, you got to tease him. You got to tease that. No, teasing teasing is more of a woman thing because of and they women they say, oh, you gotta tease him. You gotta tease that. Not a man like teasing. Teasing is more of a woman thing because of the brain. Because it's our brain. It's our largest sex organ and that we need more time

to warm up and to make it hot. And there's something about teasing that just that desire and the way you are just getting close enough but not too close, that's just super hot for women. I can't tell you enough. You don't need to tease us. So you're going to take that message over to your to the women like teasing women mountain and pass it on. Okay. Revival in her sexuality learning to genuinely genuinely appreciate her body is

extremely powerful to getting her to totally relax and be and be ready for your advances. As we know a lot of women feel insecure about their bodies and how they look. So compliment her bodies, parts, and make her feel hot and sensuous about herself. Women respond very well to positive reinforcement, which is so true. So let her know that you appreciate your body for all its splendor. You have to tell her, you have to tell her, I'm telling you every time, not I won't tell you 10 times. Like I can't see. You got destroyed on that one. Every time you're you're making love, why not say like, I think your breasts are hot. I love the way your side, the way your thighs love.

Your side boobs. Your breast, your side boob, or like your double chin, whatever. No, but really like women, we respond to positive reinforcement. It makes us feel good to know that we're desired. That is so key here. So just like, if you're thinking it, you're having sex, you're like, wow, she's hot. Just tell her she's hot.

Okay. Okay. You're hot. Okay. Okay. You're hot. Thanks, baby. Are you looking at my cleavage again? Yeah. I'm staring at it right now. It is cleavage.

I'm not looking at it. Okay. You can't see it. Okay. Give her the right kind of foreplay. Talking about foreplay, you should know that women need to be adequately aroused and stimulated from sufficient amounts of pre-intercourse stimulation before they are ready. Contrary to what most men believe, touching or pressing are private parts

and engaging in oral sex are not considered proper for play. So this is even back in and at more. These are really sexual acts on their own and not the sexual prelude of women needs. For a place should involve mental activities that will heighten her rousals, such as talking dirty, as well as physical acts that target her non-sexual register zones

and massaging her back. Massaging her back, talking dirty, that's all for play. And very important. Even though you don't like talking dirty. Do you know I do like it? Do you like it, but the woman didn't or something? I don't know.

No, it's not all women are in tune. Not all women in tune. You got to test it out. Yeah, yeah. I found lately that met, I think, the men I'm not with are not. And I am. That's weird. It's so frustrating. How do you find a man that's not into the men I'm not with or not. And I am. That's weird.

It's so frustrating. How do you find a man that's not into talking dirty? I don't get it. Where do you find that person? There's a lot of men who aren't. You're living out the weirdest people. I do. It's so odd. I do hang out with odd strange people.

You should come eat my friends one day. They're good though. They're interesting. They're fun. fun the guys. I did I go to a cabin and drink wine Yes, drink wine and we're going the raft. It's so fun. I don't want to go on the raft It's fun. We have a motorized Influed inflatable lounge chair and it's a lounge chair with with drink holders in it And it has and it moves it has a motor on it and you can send them a lake and drink. It's really fun Okay, you should come all right, really fun. Okay. You should come. All right.

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