Sex With Emily - SWE: Turn-ons & Turn-offs

Episode Date: August 31, 2012

From earlobe nibbling to men in suits, golden showers to keeping your socks on during the deed, Emily reveals the top turn-ons and turn-offs for men and women. So read a book at a cafe, fix a lamp, and try to notice the little things that make your partner happy. Emily also answers listeners questions about Baby Mama drama, dating a pimp, first time anal sex advice, and masturbating after marriage. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got everything. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean, like laundry? It's drinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with.

You're listening. You're listening to sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, and everything in between. Happy, happy day everyone. Happy Friday. It's the weekend. You're listening to sex with Emily. And it's a good day. It is good day. And the white man is. Hi. Hi, how you doing? Happy Friday. Happy Friday. Hmm. It is. Happy Labor Day holiday weekend. I know. Right. I have to go to wedding. Who the hell? I know. You have a wedding. You like evening summer. So where is it again? It's in Oakland, California. Okay, so check this out right home on can I sorry? You want to go ahead? I just want to rant I have to go to a wedding on Labor Day weekend So I can't do anything right then next Friday I have to fly To Southern California and have dinner for a wedding that's going to be a weekend after.

Right? Why do you have to be it's like a really close friend or something? Yeah, I'm part of the wedding. Okay. So Southern California, a week before the wedding, have to have a dinner in Southern California. Right. Fly back, work all day day and I mean work all week then go to sales of this build the next Friday for the small intimate wedding. Oh my God. So there's two wedding and then the next day. No. It's a two-day wedding. Next day have to go to Modesto, California for the big reception slash wedding. It's like a band on tour or something. That's crazy. That's like a band on tour or something. That's crazy.

That's like that couple we had on sex and the news do at weddings and like 100 weddings in different cities. Your friends are that psychotic. I know. Why are they doing that? It sounds awful. He won't give me a reason. I don't even want one wedding, let alone like four weddings.

It just makes no sense to me. I know. I do this music show. And then in between the songs, I've been calling up my buddy all week Insane that he has the wedding from hell and then it just been like just ragging on him on the show on the show good Good good good and you're like the best man. Yeah, no, I'm not the best man I'm on the news. You're gonna wear a toxin you know, Kat and you're not bringing your date, right? No date promise

I don't have no no, I mean There's no you weddings are the best place to meet someone and to get laid. I think I think people are open to it and people are happy and looking at love and thinking about love and thinking about banging and a little bit drunk. No, I, I don't like be. For some reason, I always find myself a part of the wedding. Right. So I don't like bringing people with me because I feel like I have to entertain them. entertain people.

That's the worst feeling in the world. It sucks because this last wedding that I went to, I wasn't really supposed to do anything. My buddy asked me, oh, can you videotape? Oh, that's right. The last minute. You can videotape some stuff. So then I go, okay, well, I'm probably going to be videotaping some stuff. I don't want to bring somebody with me because I get

I'm going to have to leave them at the table and go to the same. Good thing I did that because then I ended up taking over the whole production for the. I know, I know, I know, it's crazy honey. I don't this way you're going. You're yeah, I don't, I don't, I hate. For some reason, every time I'm a part of the event somewhere, I have to like do stuff. So I can never bring something. I will never invite you anywhere where you have to do anything.

All right. I promise. Sounds like everyone's putting you to work, but you are coming to our sex with Emily team party on the 28th. Yes, I can have a great time. That's just private. But there is going to be a party on Tuesday in San Francisco for Amy Lawrence. She's going to be a guest on our show next Tuesday from Miss Advise. We were just on a Bravo television show. If you missed it, you can find an on-demand or on iTunes. Anyway, Amy's gonna be on the show. You forgot?

Yeah, about the next day. How do you all remember a morning show? Yeah, and once and the day of the party, right? And once a September 5th, throwing a party in San Francisco, if you want to know more email me, feedback at sexcelmy.com. So today's show, we're gonna, we had a contest.

And we wanted to know what your biggest turn on is and your biggest turn off. And we heard from everyone on Facebook and Twitter through sex with Emily, it's at sex with Emily and Twitter. And we are gonna be talking about what, and then we have like the actual like top turn-ons and top what are like the top turn-ons and turn-offs for women.

So we're gonna read that. We're gonna be reading the emails, getting into some of your deepest, darkest, most interesting sex and relationship questions and turn-offs for women. So we're gonna read that. We're gonna be reading the emails, getting into some of your deepest, darkest, most interesting sex and relationships questions and some sex in the news. Wow. Yeah, we got it. And today's show is Bratty by Max Furman.

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cream and it's like because they have max from and ball stuff too. But it's like it's really good for your bikini line and conditions and it feels good because I hopefully will be wearing bathing suit. What are you doing with Santa Cruz? Friend rented a house. I don't know. It's supposed to be fun, I guess. Really?

It's going to be warm. No. It's going to be freezing and I'm going to be fine. I know. I know. I'm not going to be having it. Santa Cruz. So our contest, we're going to get into, oh, we want to say we're going to get our contest

that is sponsored by Florida online, but we're going to get into that in a minute. Anyway, whatever. Santa Cruz not going to the boardwalk. It's like app toast, like outside of Santa Cruz. Oh, yeah, yeah So it's like a house on a beach with a bunch of friends Great gay straight single married whatever. Is it gonna be an orgy not gonna be an orgy? I don't have typically have orgy with my friends do you?

No, if you're hoping that I would say yes, that it was an orgy. Would you come if it was an orgy? Hell no, that I definitely not come. Yeah Yeah. But I don't like group to me. It can I be honest, it's the guy that I've been dating. And it's his friends. And I agreed. But I don't like being in a house with a bunch of people. I don't either. I don't like it.

Like, it's like, we have our own room and whatever. Maybe I sound like a princess now, but I'm not. You own your own place. I know. I know. You have your own place. And then I just want to be in my own place. Why would I share and hear people snoring and sneezing and sexing and sexing? It's having sex. Yeah, I it doesn't sound like it's not like it's not like a travel destination or anything like that. I don't even know how I like you're

going to do I don't know New York City or Chicago or somewhere far away. I know. It's kind of like the place that you're going is kind of like where you go for a day or something like that. Not for like a long week. Not like overnight. Oh, no, I can't get out of it. Jesus.

Okay. Well, let's get into the sex in the news. I guess so. Unless you got other things. Tell me you have getting laid what's going on. Oh, I was on the doctor Jewish show last night with

doctor. And that was very and he's got a show on H. L. and a talk show a 5 day talk show 5 day week, which you probably know. I know this and follow. He has well, he has love

line at night, which is a radio show also. Right. Where they answer sex and relationship questions, which is what we do. And will do that. If you're listening and you're like, you haven't heard us before, you're probably like, where's the sex? We do get into sex. We talk about this. This is for play.

This is the for play. This is the for play, baby. Yeah, follow them on. Hot and bar. They're really big into pumping up their Instagram. So follow them on Instagram. Love line. Okay. Love line. Nice. But yeah, I'm really excited. Follow me in Instagram too, sex, Emily and Menace White Menace Go ahead. I'm really excited that you're a part of Dr. Drew's HLN show. I know. Have you seen it? Yes, I have seen it. I'm a big Dr. Drew fan.

He could be like one of the nicest guys in the world. He's amazing. Can I tell you this story? This is something that you would never do. Not the saying that you're a prima donna, but... This is... So I had to go to Los Angeles once to tape something with Dr. Drew for some concert because he is on the same radio station that I am for some music stuff. So I had to go down there and tape it and I was there with the whole camera crew of people.

As we're driving to go meet Dr. Drew, there was a billboard of him on the side of a building. That was over 10 stories tall. And this is just around the announcement that he was getting two television shows on top of his radio show, when he already had another show on MTV with all the recap. So he was like, this is at a critical point where like almost the highest point of his career. He's like, this is, this is at a critical point where like almost almost the highest

point of his career. He's like everyone's talking about him. I'm sitting in the waiting room with a camera crew. He walks in and he goes, oh, hey, how you doing? Shakes everybody's hand saying how nice it is to meet them. And he goes, all right, you want to go take the stuff and I'm like, yeah, he starts picking up the heavy as camera equipment himself and starts bringing it in to the room with us.

That's so nice. I never did that. It go, dude, Dr. Drew for one, we just drove by a billboard that's 10 stories high of you. And you're like a multi millionaire. You don't, you don't need to be carrying some people's stuff. We like, no, no, no, don't worry, Dr. Drew. Yeah, yeah, nobody still carried it anyways That's so nice. He's not funny like all the camera crews I've met I never carried in any stuff

They probably think I'm a total ass like now I feel bad of course because I take everything in bread Oh, it's cool. I'm like I never carried I shame everybody's hand from the camera crew that taped misadvised Well, so I eventually. Eventually. Like everybody. Everybody on the side. There's one person I never knew their name. And then I feel last day I said, why don't I know your name? And he said, I wasn't allowed to talk to you. I'm not just to talk to the crew.

Wow. That was his job. He was like the, like, an intern, but not an intern. OK. But then we became friends at night. I'm just saying, that's how you, you know, that's how you get a good reputation. You get a good, because these are the type of people that are leaking all the stuff to the press. So they're going to, oh yeah, she's a bitch.

I had synthets really cool about that. And it was awesome to be on with Dr. Ruth, who's 84. Yeah. And you know, I'm gonna be a doctor soon. I am going back to Finch and My Thing in March 2013. It's the thing that I'm always, uh, bugging. I know, and I figured it out. I figured it out.

So I'm going back to school. So let's get into a little bit of sex in the news, but it doesn't mean that we can't stop talking about us. No, go ahead. Okay. This is what people are here for. You're here for sex. Chris Humphreys sued for herpes. I heard about this. This morning, a stunning example of kicking a guy while he's down. Kayla Goldberg of L.A. is suing Kim Kardashian's ex, Chris Humphreys,

for allegedly giving her herpes in 2010 after a night of dancing on the sunset strip. Somehow tell rooms going on resulted in a diagnosis of herpes several weeks later for Goldberg who was taking taking Humphreys to court for not disclosing his condition. Now this this is a very interesting case. How come first of all? How how does she know that it was him that gave it to her? Because it can be just dating. She could have had sex with someone the night before. She could have gotten it from that person. Like, you don't know that Chris Humphrey's gave her herpes. You can't tell. You can't, there's not a direct line unless she was a virgin. Maybe she was a virgin. Because it doesn't show

up right away when you get herpes. Like, it takes a lot, like, you know, and I mean, so anyway, but that's interesting. What else? What did you read about it? I read the same thing that this guy this guy he's just keeps on getting a bad luck after bad luck. He's not bright. Not bright. I just saw like two minutes on the show of Kardashians and he's not. I don't I don't I don't know if he's not bright or if he's just so aware that it's just above everybody's head. No, he's done for her. No, he's an idiot. Like, I'm sorry, he does not seem smart.

He doesn't get things he's young. He seems very young. He looks like a boy. Like, he's just, I don't like him. Okay. So kids exposed to sex on television more likely to become promiscuous. A six year study of 1200 teens

has found that children who watch media with high amounts of sexual content tend to lose their virginity earlier than others. Oh, no. Have more sexual partners and use condoms less than their PG-13 friends. It indicates that adolescents resoundingly adopt the attitudes towards sex they see in films and the exposure to the media increases the innate sensation seeking drive that adolescents have between age 10, 15.

So these, everyone's always worried that sex and violence and all that's going to have an impact. And they're just saying that direct correlation. But I mean, I don't know, 1,200 is a pretty significant study. I don't have the numbers here of what shows what, but a six-year study that shows that they watch high sex. I guess that's what you would follow.

But we are growing up. We didn't have as much high sex. I mean, now there's like sex everywhere, right? Yeah, but I, you know, I saw porn when I was six. I knew what it was. I watched a lot of 80s movies where there was a lot of sex in it. Like, revenge of the nerds. They had full on, uh, for ginas in it and boobs and all that kind of stuff.

And I was watching that when I was a kid. But don't you think it's different now? It's more highly sex and more nudity everywhere and more women and even young girls at young ages are getting more sex. Actually, I'll take it back. Because it was our friends of the nerds. It was another one.

No, no, no, no, I take it back. OK, so during the time when I was watching sex and sexual stuff on television, it wasn't glamorized as cool. Now, when a chick is quote-unquote out there being a slut, she's cool because she's like dating all the hot guys. She's making money for doing nothing, you know? So, girls kind of see like, oh, I want to be like this chick. Like who? Like, let's say even though I've met her and she's nice.

I don't want to talk bad about her. But Paris Hilton is perceived as one of these type girls, right? Like an ares or whatever. Yeah. And then she dates a lot of guys. So and then she gets to travel the world and have a bunch of nice. She's an ares. She has money. But some people don't understand that. a lot of guys. So, and then she gets to travel the world and have a bunch of nice. She's an ares. She has money. But some people don't understand that. They just think that

if they just think that when you become a certain age and you're blonde hair, long blonde hair, and you go on television, you get to go do all this kind of stuff. So then they're like, oh, I want to be like that person. That's why Paris Hilton and all these type of girls have clothing lines. Well, the people that buy those clothing, buy those clothes want to be like that person. So you can't tell me people don't want to be like them. You know, the clothing lines do well. They do enough here. Yeah, they do well. So that's why. What happened to Paracelot? And you never hear about her anymore. Well, Paracelot has had a rough couple of months. Why? What happened? She's not done anything.

Yeah, well, she was trying to make a musical come back because she like a couple years ago. I don't ever even got there. I didn't have a comeback. You have to be that you have to. She had a decent. She had a record that was played on the air and it sold pretty well. Okay. So she tried to come back and she was dating some big DJ really well-known DJ breaks up with him and then a week later out of nowhere is in South America trying to DJ and she doesn't know how to DJ so her like mixer was messed up and all her stuff was off and then you can tell like her actual mix was pretty good. Oh right. Oh, right. Yeah. And then it's like, it got like shot out through the internet, like crazy and people just.

It's like lip syncing, but, but it's like, um, DJ, we can love it. DJ, yeah. DJ faking it. Yeah, faking it, but she had like her EQs, meaning like all the bass and the music wasn't being played. So it was just like highs. And so you can tell like she had no idea what she was doing.

And then she tried to pretend that she was mixing, but it was at like at the wrong time. So this traveled all through the internet and people are just like bashing her. And then her, her ex boyfriend, who she just broke up with, went in an interview on like that, just totally went viral where this interview was like just pushing pushing them to say stuff and then he finally just cracked and just went off on Paraselton and said like she had no idea what she's doing she should never did that and just like really ripped her apart and then that went through the whole internet. I don't even I missed all this. Yeah and then so she hasn't been seen since. Okay I don't know. You know what?

We can say what we want about her. She still has millions of dollars and she's living in a mansion and driving for our years. Right. She's happy. She's happy. Good for her and all because of sex tape. Just like him Kardashian.

So that's what the girls are learning is to make a sex tape. No. Do not do it. People, if you're going to make a sex tape on this long holiday weekend, make sure you delete it at the end of Monday. Okay. Come Monday evening. delete that thing. Or, you know, make sure that you both have copies of it or that you, I would just say delete it.

It's safe, but it's okay to make a sex tape, right? Man, it's makes them all the time. And it's totally cool. We endorse that, but just make sure that you're responsible because you, it's really not a good thing. You're not going to get a problem. Okay, what are the chances? You don't want to have that? Okay. If you don't want out there, you should hold on to it. Right, exactly. because it's really not a good thing. You're not going to get a good one. What are the chances? You need that hot?

OK. If you don't want out there, you should hold on to it. Right, exactly. OK. Stripper business is booming in Tampa. No one makes it rain. No one makes it rain like sexually repressed old white man, at least according to a manager at a strip club in Tampa

who told TMZ the club's business has doubled ever since the RNC rolled into town. The Republican national convention. Oh nice. Yep, the managers at Skin Tampa had told us the club has been sending its hottest girls to the RNC with cards and flyers, offering free entry to anyone attending the convention. And they've got a special deal and they welcome everyone and blah, blah, blah. But I'm that surprising. You would think the Republicans are the one if you't if you were smart and you ran anything.

They're just sex scandals. You know that they are the ones who are, they're going to start. Republican are not, it seems a lot lately when it comes to sex, the politicians are just morons. And then they, they just see this is what happens. They get the God complex. They're like, I'm a politician.

I can have everything. I can make the rules. I make laws I'm I'm in this powerful position and now I can do whatever I want actually because I'm living above the normal rules that apply to society yeah and then they get caught because they're just idiots and they don't know how to cover their tracks exactly and this is a funny thing with the Republican National Convention I'm gonna let you you know right now. I'm not into politics at all. I don't I know nothing about them. I'm not gonna talk about them. Right. I do see both sides of arguments. I'll say that. That's nice. But honey Boo Boo the television show that I love, beat out the Republican, whatever the announcements that

they were doing in the ratings. The TLC show that I love. Why is that? Okay. Everyone's talking about honey boo boo. Honey boo boo is hilarious. It's this white trash family. I can say white trash because they call themselves white trash.

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It's funny. Okay. I'll watch it. I mean, everyone's talking about honey boo boo. Oh, and I found a television show that you will love. It's on HP. Oh, thank you, because I've been waiting for a new television show. You're going to absolutely tell me.

Tell me. Talk to me. What is it? What is it? What is it? Show. It's called the newsroom. Oh, I've heard. That's exactly what I was thinking. You're gonna love it.

How do you know? You'll love it because it's all, a lot of it's all about politics. And you have your background as in all. My background is politics, yeah. And it's, it's, it's so good. Okay, I can't wait. Even though me that, I know nothing about politics, it is so good.

Oh my God. And there's a lot of sex like scandals going on. I've heard that it was great and it's its first season and it was written by. It's already on the God. There's a lot of sex like scandals going on. I've heard that it was great. And it's its first season. And it was written by. It's already on the name. Yeah, it is. Okay. Good. I've got on demand. I've got cable. I think you like Christopher Nolan. Somebody. He looks like it. He looks somebody. I want to say it was like,

anyway, somebody who's written another television series. It was very successful on HBO. It is good. Wash it. Time. It's lots of dialogue. And everybody that, you know, we are a sex show. If you want to see it show that you do have what sex. Yeah. I mean, that show has some sex in it too. And it's a lot about relationships. People that have relationships in the workspace. Also, it's on demand. Watch it. Girls. Girls awesome. Girls. Great. And watch misadvised on Bravo. It's also on

demand. It's also about relationships and dating. Yeah. And they're in there and She's great. And watch misadvised on Bravo. It's also on demand. It's also about relationships and dating. Yeah. And they're in there and she's naked. I'm naked all the time. Well, no, she's been shouting for a lot of guys. I make out with a lot of weird guys, including menace. That was weird.

Okay. Want it? Sex and then you still want it. A few good sperm, just a few. Worldwide sperm quality is dropping. What? Do you think it's because people are being healthy? You got to run it through a filter or something? Exactly. Global

baby making seems at no want for a polish with the world population at 7 billion in rising. But in reality, sperm may be changing for the worse and the decline has been blamed on everything from cell phones and pockets to hormones and water to fatty food in the western diet. Evidence for drop in sperm quality and quantity has included anecdotal reports from sperm banks and it would reject more than 80% of the sperm right now and it used to be like a lot less than that. So whatever. So spam they spam. Spirum they don't know why they don't know why but you

better start making some babies and then oh Jesus I gotta freeze it. Yeah no only women can I don't know maybe I can freeze their sperm, but you don't have to friggin' freeze your sperm. You don't. Women have to freeze their eggs because they can't get pregnant. What, what do they do with sperm? It's like, no, men are constantly producing sperm that is the role and they can get a woman pregnant when you're eating. But like, when you donate, they freeze their, right? Yeah, when they donate, that's true. But men don't have to do that because you can father a child when you're 70, which you might at this rate. Wow.

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tucked in his pants. He was carrying a dildo and they didn't say why. So they thought it was a gondola was a dildo in his pants. Someone took my dildo and I want it back. Like I think he was like his girlfriend's dildo. He's just like walking around. I don't really get it, but that's still. Okay. We can move into some emails. Oh, it's good. I can tell you there's,

there's another television show. It's related to this. There's another television show. I don't know when it's on. Sometimes I just catch it. It's called the thousand, thousand ways to die. And it's just random ways that, this random ways that people have died, like off the wall stuff and there was this one where this guy died because he wanted it to seem like he had a huge package so he tied a dildo around his leg like so tight that he cut off the circulation and what he was at like a nightclub he wanted to rub up against a chick against chicks and haven't Think that he has oh my god, and then he died he died because he cut off the circulation. That is hilarious. That's

I mean, he's trying to make his penis a bigger nightclub, but he doesn't know these play and drugs or something. How do you not know That something's kind of your circulation? You're about to die. Well, yeah, you could be drunk or something. You don't have to be on drugs. Drunk or drugs. Yeah, do you see the T-shirt that I'm wearing today? No, I was look at her. Pugs not drugs. That's cute. It's a little bit I have a little dog on it and it says pugs not drugs. That's cute. I love pugs I have to get that for my friend who has pugs pugs not drugs my dog just went away with her baby daddy for the weekend I'm so relieved No, she was with me. You're Hopefully for good. No, she's not

It's she's hopefully forget it's just I'm glad I'm a baby daddy. That's all I can say and I think every woman should have a baby Daddy with a dog if you want to see this shirt I have it up on my Instagram. It's it's really cute white menace and if you want to purchase it It's at urban outfiters urban outfiters.com Yeah, you walked over to the urban outfiters and bought a shirt. Yeah, pugs and that drugs I'm going to purchase it. It's at Urban Outfitters. Urbanoutfitters.com. You want to get it online? You want to get it online? Yeah. You walked over to the Urban Outfitters and bought a shirt. Yeah, Pugs and Not Drugs. It's cute.

I haven't had time to do laundry so I had to buy a shirt online. Seriously, you're one of those. Do you got to make some? Guys do that. I know, guys do that. So you're listening to Staggerdownelay and we are... We have hundreds of episodes. You can easily listen to on our website and I tuned through Stitcher, which is an amazing app. You can stream STIT, C-H-A-T-R. You can download it for any smartphone or iPad and you can

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Also, every Tuesday, West Coast time, 6 p.m. are maybe 6.15 now. I don't know if you have a big issue. Yeah, p.m. Or maybe 615 now. I don't know. Yeah, six 10 or doing a video version of the show where there's five different cameras and there's actually some visual visuals. So last Tuesday we did the show and you were showing all these different visuals of sex position. Right. It was crazy. You went through like six or seven different because I'm always talking about them, but now you could actually see the beautiful people having sex. Yeah. And then you shared some other videos where you, uh, you visited some, what is it that? Sinclair Institute. Just a Claire Institute, where people actually have sex and talk to the people. It was, you looked really good as a host. That's so nice. I really appreciate that. Menace gave me a compliment. I was hosting So Sinclair Institute, which you

got to check out just go to my website, sectionalme.com. You can click on Sinclair Institute and they make these incredible instructional, educational DVDs for men and women to learn more about sex. And one of my interns asked me about oral sex. And so I gave him a Sinclair Institute DVD to go home and to watch over the weekend and report back to me. It's like teaching you how to perform a role sex on a woman. And so I'm going to he's going to come talk about it next week. So you could learn from a DVD how to perform a role sex. You could learn anything you want at Sinclair Institute.

So if you've been sort of like your sex life's been waiting and you're kind of like, I'm not really sure what I'm going there. You can David DVD. They've got something that you can watch on it. So if you want to watch the video version the replays are at sex only calm But if you want to watch it live and call in again Tuesdays 6 p.m. West Coast time visit t

Radio V dot com slash s f will be No, we wasn't was the last one because I've one thing I said. So what happened was she was showing all these different sexual positions and then she got to the first cowgirl. She got to a picture of the reverse cowgirl. And I was just cracking jokes on all these different positions. And then we got to the reverse cowgirl. And I said, that could be a little bit dangerous. And you're like, why? Because the reverse cowgirl is where the girl is not facing you. Right. And her butt is like kind of in your face. And I said, oh, that can be kind of dangerous.

And you go, why? And I go, maybe she went to a talkerie of that day. And then what did you say? I don't remember what I said. When I said, you repeated. I'm not repeating it, because I don't think I said it like how you think. It's on video.

Oh, damn. I hate that they record everything I say these days. I said something about her. You thought she'd go to the bathroom on you. No, it was way dirtier. It wasn't dirty. Okay, we wanted to pee down here, but if you got to go watch it, it's sex-endly.com. Sex-endly.com. It was pretty funny. Okay, we could get into some emails from the people. I love talking to people. So thanks for emailing me right through my website, sex-endely.com, or you can email me feedback at sexathomely.com.

I tried to read all of your emails and answer them with great enthusiasm and information. Okay. Dear Emily. Answer them with ease, by the way. Instagram, what? Answer them with ease. I answer them with ease. Exactly.

Speaking of ease, dear Emily, what are your tips for anal sex? My boyfriend really wants to try it, and for so long I've said no, but now I feel as though it's something we could try, and it could be a new and different for us. But I'm scared it will hurt me or that other weird stuff could happen. I can't ask my friends because they have never done it, and I feel like I would get farther if I asked a sex expert like you. I love your podcasts and the showmas advice, and I was hoping you would have some tips for me if I were starting to experiment with this. Thanks Emily. By the way, I listened to your podcast on my iPhone.

Love Brittany. Okay. Brittany. All right. She wants to get into some anal sex action. Wow, that's weird that a woman that would be emailing about that. And welcoming it. Well, why is that weird? You think that most women don't want it? No, because 99% of the emails on the subject that we get are from guys like how do we get women into this? She's a dream for someone. So let me tell you this, Brittany. So first of all, make sure you don't have to talk to me that day. Don't make sure you don't tackle. Make sure that you use lots of lube. So that's the first thing I always have to start

with. Then we've got a new sponsor that I just love their lube, nature, love and lube. And it is actually, they have a lube that glows in the dark, which is amazing, but it's all made of great ingredients. And they donate 5% of all the sales to the human rights campaign. And they've got a special lube pride, whatever, but it's a really great

lube. So you need lots of loop. You have to start to, you can start with some fingers. It helps opening up the anus. You wanna start out really, really slow and let the penis ease its way in. Now, you don't wanna go, you don't want them to like, put it right in, you have to relax. So it can be much, it's so much less painful

if you don't tense up. I would definitely prepare. I would try not to eat for a few hours before and empty your bowels. And then you just want to make sure that if you had a taco or something. And again, you just, you want to take it really like all I can say is start slow and you can also start with a finger. You don't have to start with a penis or you can start with a sex toy. If you want to start exploring how it just feels to have something they make things like butt plugs, they make things

like just your like little vibrators that you can sick inside just to start to feel experience or your boyfriend can just use his finger. And then when you move into the penis, again, slow lots of lube. That's what I'm going to say. And you got to relax. You should take deep breaths because you're going to tense and you don't wanna be tense at all because that's when it's gonna hurt. So you have to concentrate on relaxing. So I would say relaxing, relaxation, lubrication, and what was the other one that I said,

and go slow. Slowification. Yes. Slowification and a little de dequila might not hurt. A little dequila. Oh, so this is one time where I might be down with you for the alcohol. I would say.

But I never recommend that you drink or anything to have a better experience. Yeah, I'm so very, very nice. Cabo, Wabbo. Cabo, Wabbo? You love that tequila, right? Oh, well, I love a lot. You love a lot of those.

You drink that tequila, by the way. Yeah, there's one. I don't know if it's, if? Oh, well, I love a lot. You know, a lot of us. You drink that to kill that by the way. Yeah, there's one. I don't know if it's, if it's available nationally, but check your Bevmo for silver, trace of goddess. Really good. Really good. Put it right there with Patron. Is that what you were drinking when you blacked out last week when I saw you?

Oh. Menace doesn't remember, but we spent last Saturday night together. And he does not have any recollection of it. And I knew when I posted that picture of you on the interweb on Twitter and on Instagram that that was the only I knew that you would wake up next morning and go, Oh, wow, Emily, I was met up with Emily and her dog because I knew you weren't a blackout. No, yes. Tell me that didn't happen.

I'm like, I'm glad we've documentation. Okay. I just, yeah, I just woke up next morning. I'm like, why am I holding a dog? You're not even recognized dog. I use all the letters. No, I knew my dog. Okay. Dear Emily, first off, congrats on the show. I've been trying to keep up on the radio shows and absolutely loved misadvised.

I really hope there's a season two. I really hope so too. It's show and bravo. You can watch it on demand right now. What's going on with that? So getting to the word, you know what? We haven't heard of Flobius season two. We hope that there will be a season two.

If you are a misadvised fan and you're listening to the show, please tweet Bravo TV at Bravo TV or Bravo Andy and tell them that you love misadvised. And sexually, then, okay, first off, okay, grasp the show. So getting to the point, I need some dating advice. I'm a 21 year old female who's been dating for the past year or so. Recently, I've been dating this one guy who came out with a big secret that I'm just not sure about.

He really wants to make me his girlfriend and I'm really debating the situation. He's 26 years old, has twin daughters from a one night stand, baby mama drama. And there was a lot of girls wanting him because he basically used to be a pimp. Girls used to pay him, pay him for him to treat them well and give them what they want. He says he quit his ways about six months ago

and he just wants a girlfriend to get to dedicate himself to. I'll admit I do like him and he treats me well. I just feel like he comes to a lot of baggage. What should I do? Please help Melissa. Okay, Melissa, I'm not feeling great about this guy. He's 26, which is still very young. And he's got twin girls, and a baby mama drama, and he used to be a pimp. And I want to know, I'm not going to judge him on his past, but I want to know if he's telling you, he's dedicated to changing his ways,

wants to be there for you blah, blah, blah. But I want to know, is he changing his behavior at all? Is he doing anything different? Is he displayed? I mean, really, like you have to see over time, like is he making efforts? Like why was he a pimp? Like what happened?

I just, I want to understand this. I want him to treat you well. I understand that other girls want him and that can make you feel more attracted to the guy. You know, if you're kind of into the bad boy thing, he was a pimp and he's got baby mama drama and you're into the bad boy thing. I can understand that, but I just,

you should trust your gut on this one. It sounds like you're emailing me. And you ask me, does he have a lot of baggage? I say yes, and I would say, keep looking, or keep dating and don't settle down with a 26 year old. In fact, I don't know how old are you. You don't say I would, but you shouldn't even settle down

with anyone before you're 30. That's what I gotta say. What do you think, Menace? If he's telling you all this stuff, then man Make why do you even need an email like see? See this is the thing that both me about women. What if he if he Let yeah, all right, if you really like this guy

Let him have some time to get all this stuff together and then maybe pursue a relationship So you don't get sucked into all that kind of stuff, right? Let him have some time to get all this stuff together and then maybe pursue a relationship So you don't get sucked into all that kind of stuff. Right. You know, that's what I don't get where Women wanted I mean maybe she's like I like the bad boy type right he quit his ways six months ago He said six months ago. He was a pimps six months ago. Well, yeah I think he needs a little more time to get his like in February He was pimping and now he wants to marry her. I'm not feeling great about it.

You know what? Is your own life? I love a man. Believe me, I want a guy to treat me well and find nice things. But, um, man, I just don't want to say flat out. No, which I just actually I really do want to know. I know and I'm not usually usually I'm like, well, again, a chance, but I'm not feeling good about it. I probably just I was staying at a distance, let them get all the stuff together and then pursue it. Yeah, and I would still keep your options open. So I would still date other people. Well, she, she's not always keeps her options open. Well, I like keeping my option open. You know, why should you put all your ag is in one basket?

And this basket doesn't sound that stable. They're Melissa. Thanks for writing. I'm so glad you like misadvised. I love when we get new listeners from the television show. It feels good. And from series XM, if you're listening and series XM, it's great to be here on. 165. Top 165. Hell yeah.

Okay. Hey, Emily, love the show. Key of the good work. My question is about orgasms. I can never seem to orgasm while having actual intercourse, but I, by myself, can do it just fine. What is wrong with me and why can't I orgasm without my hand? Signed, anonymous. Okay, the thing is you're probably not getting enough clitorial stimulation while you're having sex.

Up to 75% of women require clitoral stimulation. So there's nothing wrong with you wanting to use your hand during intercourse. It's actually really common that a woman, like if you can orgasm fine with your hand during masturbation, I'd say put your hand or your boyfriend can use his hand and you can have an orgasm and it would be I don't think there's any I think people actually when I was on Dr. Drew show last night with Dr. Ruth someone called him with the same question and said what is my problem that I can't only orgasm alone and it's like do what you do when you're masturbating with your partner. They're not supposed men's penises are not necessarily developed in the way to make all women have

orgasms because all women are different. And so I would say there's different things you can try. You can get a vibrator. There's the WeVib3. It's a couples vibrator from Good Vibrations. It's the number one couples vibrator right now and it's really easy to use during intercourse. So visit my website, my products page. If you go to goodvi, if you go to sexbuilding.com,

my products page, you can see the Wevibe and the other vibrators that I recommend. It's a great couples vibrator that you can both, that you can have clitoral and g-spot simulation. I can't, it looks like a C, it goes in, it's amazing, the Wevibe. So check that out. It offers simultaneous internal and clitoral simulation.

75% of women, neither Clinturs, is rubbed in a certain way. Two Heaven orgasm during sex. Is everybody paying attention? Wow. You're very passionate about that last statement. I mean, really, it's hard for women. It's not so friggin easy. It's not your fault, guys.

But just understand that if she's got to use a vibe during sex, or if she's got to use her fingers, or you've got to use her fingers, your own fingers, are just understand that if she's got to use a vibe or a dirty sex or she's got to use her fingers or you got to use her fingers, your own fingers, are you have to go down in her for an hour? Fine, you might have to. It is difficult for women to have orgasms sometimes. Challenge. And I wish I had a penis. Believe me. What do you guys get out of it? I would check myself off all the time. They love seeing a woman turned on. Menace doesn't. Menace doesn't get the whole feedback cycle of seeing a woman turned on. Man, this isn't. Man, this isn't get the whole feedback cycle. Doesn't it make you hot to see a woman have an orgasm?

Don't you think that's a turn on? That you, there's a woman having an orgasm in front of you? No. You really doesn't turn you on. It's just all about you. No. What? I don't know.

Wait. I don't know. We're going to be talking about your biggest turn-ons and turn-offs after we read your emails. OK, good. OK. You can glad you're not answering that question. Hi, Emily. I listen to your podcast from iTunes.

I'm a new listener and have a question for you. I'm 27 and about to get married to the love of my life with twin girls. I would like to know what you think about my issue today. I've been masturbating from a young age, very young age, but I think I masturbate too much. I find myself at least having sex, but also masturbate two to three times in the same day. I think and feel that my girl is threatened about it. We have an open communication and I do talk about it sometimes, but I don't want her to feel that way. I don't want to stop, but I also want to have more sex.

Is there some advice you can give me Gabrielle? Okay, Gabrielle, I don't, you're 27, and I really don't think there's anything wrong with masturbating two to three times a day. And here's a thing, this is what I have to ask you. This is how we know if it's a problem when I can tell you that you need help. Is it interfering with your work and your day-to-day life?

It sounds like you're holding that in job and you sound like smart guy, but it is wreaking havoc in your relationship. So that's when it's a problem. Now that's the only reason it's a problem is because your girlfriend, fiance, is threatened by it. And I want to know, I don't understand, but women who are threatened by men masturbating. A lot of times the more sex men get the more they want to masturbate. It's just the same women who are threatened by porn. This is the way guys work. This is

what happens. They masturbate. It happens. I don't think that Gabrielle, you should work now. You're saying you want more sex too. Like, is it three times a day enough? Are you feeling compulsive? It's when it's, you know, you're, it's a problem again when it's compulsive. You can't live without it. It's, it's wreaking havoc on your life. And it sounds like right now your girlfriend doesn't really understand it. So that to me seems to be the only problem. I mean, do you think three times a day have you ever done that? Three times a day? I mean, he has to. I, I don't know. I don't want to label him as ex addict. Uh, three times a day every day. Sometimes. Sometimes.

It's seven days a week, three times a day. Yeah, yeah, just a few days a week, three times a day. Yeah, sometimes you get extra horny that day. You get horny. It's fine. I mean, I'm telling you, it's only a problem when it's a problem, but it sounds like she's threatened. Did I say his age again? No, he's 27. Oh, 27. Okay. 27, three times a day. Not that bad. It's still when you get like 30 something, a little past 30 times.

I don't have time. I've gotten there. A house full of vibrators that I need to try out and I don't even have time to master me. Yeah. I would say not that bad. Um, but you don't want to stop and you said you also want to have more sex. So I would say, you know, you could also talk to a therapist about it.

If you know, you said you're masturbating since the young age, I feel like you think that you have a problem and I think that you sound totally fine. But if you want to get it checked out or talk to a therapist about it, if it's something from childhood, I'm a big fan of people going to therapy. As you know, I would check it out, Gabrielle. But right now, I'm not going to label you, not going to say anything's wrong and your I would check it out. Gabrielle, but right now I'm not gonna label you, not gonna say anything's wrong and your girlfriend and women need to understand that men masturbate

the more they have sex, the more they wanna masturbate. Because they're turned on, sexes and their bones, there's nothing wrong with it, you should not feel threatened by their masturbation. Now, if they are not having sex with you and only masturbating, then you can have a concern. But otherwise, I don't wanna hear about it. Have you ever had a woman

to marry you for masturbating men? I'm sure it's common. So it's fine. I think one thing. Yeah, because women are under the notion, under belief, the preconceived notion that is, I don't know if this is where we women learn this, but that it's just a rejection almost. For a woman, it feels you're oh, you'd rather have sex with yourself than with me. That's what women feel. Yeah. But that actually got brought up in, you know, like comparing everything to movies. The last American pie movie. The Mary couple were both separately masturbating. Right. That happens to Mary couples.

They were separately masturbating, but not having sex. Yeah. Yeah. And then in what like the eighth American pie movie this was. Yeah. Well, it's the most recent one. Was there really eight of them? There was. Yeah. The American pie reunion. And you saw that started it started the movie started off like that with them masturbating because they've been married for three years and they had a kid probably and they didn't want to sex that happens sometimes couples you have to work at your sex life you have to have to have to you can't let it get really bad so you're not connecting couples need the intimacy of being together and connecting sexually to have a healthy relationship.

A relationship is not healthy if you're not having sex. And it's so funny that the also in the movie, the wife says, I knew about you masturbating on this stuff. He's like, how did you know? Because you know, guys are stupid. Right. I know this is not real life, but this would totally happen in real life. She's like, every time I try to go to

Amazon.com that automatically start popping up Asian, like Asian borners, all the like that. That's hysterical. Right. Because it recommends you might like. Yeah. Guys are like so you got to clear your browsing history. Yeah, man. Yeah. Clear that. But you don't share any of your computers with anyone do you? No, but I still cleared anyways, because I'm super paranoid. Oh, do you know what's crazy? What? Dude, I think my phone is hacked. You think your phone got hacked?

Just now? Check this out. This has been going on for the past couple of days. I'm scared. What? This is like really trippy like ghost type stuff, right? Do do do. So I don't know where I'll like look at my phone, right? In a full text message will be written something that I didn't even write.

It's probably the voice memo is on dictating. No, it's not even like a conversation I even had or anything like that is like it will say like okay go with it fine Whatever you want to do I Didn't ever say that I never wrote that who are you writing the text to it? It'll be like a random person in my in my It doesn't send it doesn't send it's just like seeing there like it's gonna get sent that scary. That's like a ghost Right and then today it was a full conversation That's scary. That's like a ghost. Right. And then today it was a full conversation.

Rin about like New York and meeting up in New York City at a street in Vaux Blanc. Have you googled it to see if other people are having the same issue on the on the phone? No, I haven't had time, but it started like and you've an iPhone start blowing my mind. I'm like, I'm really scared. I just got chills. That I'm like, okay, we're going I just got chills. That don't like that. Okay, we're gonna talk about the, we had a contest sponsored by Forda Online. Now, Forda Online is, you got FORTA. It isn't just for people who have issues with a reptile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.

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and turns-offs. We heard from people on Facebook, we heard from people on Twitter, people email me, I wanted to know what your biggest turn-off we have to pick a winner or two men, so I'm gonna read what the prize is that we're giving three people, each one 10 pack of Ford or for women and for men.

So it's, here we go. Here's the submissions. And then we're gonna give you some real tips about what people have said their biggest turn-ons and turns off stars. So you'll know if you are doing this thing, you should stop doing it. Okay, turn on.

These are just some quotes from listeners. A girl I met in Vegas one week did the simplest and hottest thing, at least to me. I ended up putting my right arm around her and she put her left arm along my lower back and then weaved her left hand behind my arm and my body, placing her left hand on my forearm. I don't know why, but I loved it.

That extra point of contact, intimacy, got me all kinds of stoked. It's totally 100% nonsense, as it's not really an insatiable intimate spot on the body, but it definitely got me going. I don't even understand that. It's like some weird nonsense. It's not really an intimate spot on the body, but it definitely got me going I don't even understand that. It's like some weird way to get that she put her arms through her as his two arms Yeah Lower back and weaved her left hand between my left arm and body placing her. Yeah, okay good. That's her to mom

Okay Top turn on is hearing my husband say I'm so hot after being married six years It still turns me on to hear him say those exact words. Oh, that's sweet, see? I always like to hear that I'm hot every single day. Every moment. You need to tell the person that you're dating, that she is hot or attractive or beautiful or smart

or whatever, every single day. I used to say 10 times a day, but men as things that's too excessive. But I'm telling you, or at least every time you see her you look beautiful. I used to say 10 times a day, but men as things that's too excessive. But I'm telling you, or at least every time you see her, you look beautiful. I'm so attractive. She's going to get bored with it and she's going to leave your ass. No, she's not. She loves it. Okay, so biggest turn-ons, a lot of foreplay and kissing said another. Another guy said, a woman in T-shirt and no panties. These are the biggest turn-ons. T-shirt and no panties. What do

you think about that? What's that called again? What's a win-a-man? Where's a t-shirt? It's like a penis. It's a, it's, but it's not penis. Like an elephant. What? I don't. Something's shirting. I never heard of it. Okay. There's something when a man's wearing. Oh. Okay. My husband watching me perform, here's some other turn-ons. If we already are in the bedroom, the sound a girl makes when she's turned on, if we're already in the bedroom, if I'm just meeting someone but boobs and a sexy voice. When my husband kisses my neck, it's simple, but gets me every time. I agree. Why don't every guy, I don't care like some random stranger kiss my neck

and I would be turned on. Like why don't guys kiss the neck enough? Kiss her neck tonight. Yeah, feel free to kiss Emily. Do you like to have your neck kissed? Menace? Yes. Does it turn you on really?

All this stuff doesn't turn me on, I don't understand. Nothing turned you on, really? Yeah, I mean, make the the the act of making out and stuff like that turns me on. But there's not like visuals that I'll see. No, but what if she kisses your neck? Does that feel good? It feels good. But then I mean, we're gonna have to do more, you know, right? It does actually get turned on. Okay, but I just want to say that as a woman, I enjoy when man can I think a lot of men like they're having their next next. You always like try to break it down in single acts like I need a

whole like performance. Okay, you know, you know, the act of seeing a girl getting off. No, I want to be involved with the girl getting off, you know, okay, that's fun. You can do that. But what I'm but what we're saying is what are the moments, like what are some things? I can remember every time I cut my neck, I'm like purely like like I'm full. Oh my god, that's so hot. That feels so good. That turns me on. Like in that moment, I remember that moment. Okay, more turn-ons, role-playing, while teasing like you, you're not going to get any. For example, my girlfriend gave me a Brazilian the other day. She was acting like I was a stranger she wouldn't sleep with, but purposely being provocative. By the time she was done, I couldn't

take it anymore. My girlfriend gave me a Brazilian like a Brazilian wax. Yeah, that's a lesbian couple. Yeah, that's funny that that would be part of the act. Exactly. I don't know who you are, but I'm giving you a Brazilian. I'm not you're not going to get any, but they said teasing. So it's like you're not going to get any and playing that she was acting like I was a stranger. Do you know the stranger scenario that roleplay that you can do with your partner? If you want to spice things up, like you don't know each other. It's the first time you met. And I know that might sound cliche and cheesy and you've seen it in movies or whatever, you've read about it. But there is something about that unknown feeling that can reignite those butterflies or the spark that you had when you first met. So why

not pretend your strangers for a night? Have a cocktail, go out and pretend your strangers. Okay, nothing says I love you and turns me on like a solid open palm slapped the ass, throwing a little neck nibbling and I'm on a way to a very happy place. These are all from our listeners. A sweaty man, yum. A woman in heels and fish net stockings do it for me. Turn on as a woman in a t-shirt and no panties. My top turn on as a man who knows his way around a woman's body, enjoys it and knows what he's doing and isn't afraid to try new things. And finally, someone who enjoys sex, not just someone who has sex, but someone who wants me and requires it. I like that. I think I want that to be the winner of the turn-ons. We have three winners we can pick. Someone who enjoys sex, not just someone who has sex. I think

you just have sex, man. Do you enjoy sex? Because it never seems like you do. But the things that you try to point out, oh, does that make you hot? I don't know. I can never agree with you because, you know, I different strokes are different folks. You feel me? Do you understand? I hear you. I hear you, but your strokes are just a lot of nice strokes. I like getting my strokes in a different way. I hear you. Whatever you want. So I don't know. I like the Brazilian because, you know,

that's something we never heard before. Right. Exactly. They'll that could win too. Yeah, but you can get three winners, right? Three winners. But no, I'm not done yet. I have to read the turnoffs now. I'm down with the turn-ons. Okay. So let's go to the turn-offs real quick, because there's not. And then we're going to get to the what people are saying. Are there. Okay. Turn-offs. This is the contest keeping your socks on. Turn- off. My number one turn off. Bad teeth. You can't have a semi-crick nose eyes are a little more here than others, but if your teeth are bad, huge game changer. So you can have a semi-crick nose and eyes, but bad teeth game changer. Another person says if he degrades me in any way, turn off, planning sex or the other person always

wanting you to make the first move all the time. turn off, planning sex or the other person always wanting you to make the first move all the time. My top turn off is someone with BO. Some people really need to use more deodorant or shower before sex. Another turn off stink attitude, another turn off the thought of a golden shower. Do you know the smell stuff though? That's big. We talked about that.

People always talk about that. It was weird because I remember that I was at an event. And this girl kept on asking me, like, was trying to ask me something, right? And I thought she was trying to ask me if this guy doesn't wear the odorant because I could like obviously smell them. Right. Like this guy, like stank, right? And eventually she got the courage to ask me and when she was asking, trying to ask me, I said, oh no, no, he doesn't, he doesn't, right? But at the end of the night, she was trying to ask me if he had a girlfriend. But I was, I thought she was asking me if he had a girlfriend, but I was I thought she was asking me if he

doesn't wear the old one because it was so who was the guy who was the guy who survived the years. It was so apparent. No, it's just something that I know. Okay, got it. And I was like, what? Oh, but does he have a girlfriend? So then you said, yeah, because we heard we've we've heard this many times before with you know say, oh, yeah, I get more chicks if I don't shower and things like that. And you said, at your gay gym, where there's a lot of gay men, they're really into this. Yeah, there are. I mean, they don't wear a dirt on my gym, which

has really trouble some at my gym for me. But some people, it's like a natural firm. It's a natural firm on AfroDGX. Some people like it. So it's true. Some people do like that. natural firm. It's a natural firm on a few of the Giacs. Some people like it. So it's true. Some people do like that. So it's like homeless people. So here. Yeah.

I don't love it. But you know what? There's something for everyone. They don't they don't. There's nothing for everyone. So here's some turn on from just some regular people that we think that we these are some common turn ons that we found.

Nibbling on the earlobe is like. Again, this is just from surveys that were done a man in a suit noticing the little things these are from what would turn women on if the object here affections says she says she likes a certain movie then it reminds you to be D in the same director if she mentions a favorite band then makes a CD with similar songs noticing the little things is a huge turn on for women we want to know that you're paying attention. I know we're talking a lot, but are you listening?

Are you paying attention? Are you going to do something about it? And do those little things that make us feel good and turn on? Also, and then some a handyman. That's another turn on. Men fixing broken things, light switches, toasters, clogged toilets, inter-tradition that dates back to a time when men did things besides not point and hand other men their debit cards, reverting to almost cave man-like

behavior sexy. I agree, the guy I'm dating fixes stuff, he fixes things, he's got two power tools. That's really hot. You need it. Okay. I'm in turn-offs in life. Okay, so someone glued to their cell phone. Men and women say this is a big turnoff. Any person who can't go two hours but checking his friends, his job or family comes across as insecure or prioritizing everything else except you. Insicular. You are so attached to your phone. Do you ever put it down? Do you ever have a night when you just don't look at it? Do you have five minutes when you don't look at it? Because you've been on his phone the entire time

with each other. When I'm asleep, but you're on the freaking phone the entire time too. I know, but you just picked it up while you're waiting for me to be falling. I just think something. I didn't care what you say. That's why.

OK, being too clingy, this is a huge turnoff. I think this is my number one turnoff. Each person in the relationship should have his own life. If you need you by his side every minute of the non-working day, well this guy is worse than static. I'm telling you, I can, it goes both ways. I do not like clinging. I don't like guys who, what are you going, what are we doing, what are we doing, what are we going to see, are we going out, like watching me and like, oh, I started in crazy. Being too cocky or arrogant. So telling someone how much money you make

or how much you've accomplished is not a turn on on a first date. It's good to talk about what you're passionate about but bragging about accomplishments makes you look insecure, stop bragging, ask questions. Also, most of the big talkers are all talk, no action in reality. This is funny, this is actually a scene from misadvised.

Amy is gonna be on the show next week. Do you remember when she's on the date with that guy and she's like, don't talk about your apartment that you own or your building that you own or whatever within the first date. Like women don't want to hear what you own and what you're doing. Okay, bad food etiquette. Guys are women who just what? What? What's the bad food etiquette? Okay, girls typically eat slower than guys so he should never make you feel rushed or comments about the rabbit salad you may be choosing. Or if you sway in the other direction with the burger, the hearty appetite should not be commented on and wait definitely a no-no.

Never comment on wait, that is a no-no. But I think guys be like, oh, I love that you're eating a steak. Like they think that's hot. Because I eat more, I eat more than you would think for being a small woman. So that's what we got for you today. No, no confidence. On the other hand, someone who's overly self-deprecating,

because you could be too cocky or arrogant. But you have no confidence? That is an attractive, because confidence is the most important thing. I think I have a happy middle. I like being self-deprecating. Yeah, there is a happy medium. I think I'm self-deprecating, but I'm super confident.

I think you have to be able to laugh at yourself. But I think people who don't laugh, who can't laugh at them, is like, I can't relate to them. Like, I don't even understand people who can't, like, I can tell you a million things that you can laugh at me about. And you and I make fun of each other, but we love each other. So, I think that's a great, if you take yourself too seriously, not hot, not attractive. So, that's what we got for you today in Sex Family. I want to tell you a little bit about my book. It's called Hot Sex. Over 200 things you can try to go to sexelmy.com, click on it.

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