Sex With Emily - SWE: V-Day & Night

Episode Date: February 15, 2012

Emily and Menace discuss all things Valentine's - from self-love to better oral sex, to where not to get your gifts wrapped. A listener is still stumped about where to find porn, and Emily has a profound love for Red Lobster. Plus, learn how to finally achieve an orgasm, how to break up on Valentine's Day, and be aghast but not really that surprised when Menace reveals what everyone asks him about Emily. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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It's our special Valentine's Day show. So we're doing lots of fun stuff today. Hey, man, it's happy Valentine's Day in my suite. I'm happy Valentine's Day. So I'm a little thrown off I was looking at. By the audio. OK, so yeah. So yeah, how's your Valentine's Day going so far?

Oh my god, it's awesome so far. We had little we have cookies in the office and treats and balloons and fun stuff. I was bringing you some cupcakes but we were here at the Stitcher Studios that's STI T-C-T-H-E-R download the app and I want to bring them cupcakes too, you know because because in my family, actually Valentine's Day is like bigger than any of my mom and my aunt and floors. It's a florescreen. My grandmother makes cakes and all that stuff. So I didn't realize how many staff members they had here. And it was-

But that's so sweet, they didn't cut them in half and whatever. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So I would have had a cupcake for you, but I just gave- No, no worries. I didn't think you would think it- You don't like Valentine's Day anyways. I do like Valentine's Day.

It doesn't matter. Do you know the woman who every morning I go to the same coffee shop, Martha's coffee? Uh-huh. It's my favorite coffee shop in the city. And this woman who gives me my coffee every morning, her name is Jasmine. She's awesome. She's like, why don't you like Valentine's Day? Like apparently she listened to the show.

I never said I didn't like Valentine's Day. I just said, it's not, I just said it's not my, it's not, I just think every day if you should treat like Valentine's Day when you're relationship blah, blah, blah. I just don't like the pressure. I feel like if you're a couple, you don't like the pressure because you don't want to cook.

You can't cook. I can't cook for a guy. I can't, I never cook to my life. You don't want to spend any money on a guy because that's what you do. I don't spend money if I had it for a guy. I can't. I never cooked in my life. You don't want to spend any money on a guy? Because that's ridiculous. I don't spend money if I had it on a guy. But no, I think I think, I think, I think we're giving you lots of,

this is what I decided to do today. Today's a really special show. Today, we are going to answer, you know, we get hundreds of thousands of emails from listeners, the emails that feed back at sexwithemily.com. And there's some common questions that we get asked. There's some common themes. And so I've chosen a few of those questions that we get asked, like five of them.

And I'm going to give the answers to those questions everybody. But there's some sex tips. We're going to get into some sex today, like enough chocolates, whatever. We've talked all about four play and what to do on the date. But I'm going to give some serious sex tips about what people always ask about and just have it all here neat, wrapped up, and tidy in our Valentine's Day show. We're also going to be talking to Carol Cardoza from Lifestyles. She's from the VP of Global Communications from Lifestyles Connums. They've got new Connums out. We're

going to talk about condoms tips and what you should know about condoms. Just we're going to talk to her for a few minutes today. And it is still not too late to join our, enter our spread the love, sexually-friendly spread the love Valentine's Day contest because we're giving away so much stuff. We're still letting people enter throughout the day. So just check out our website,

sexually-only.com and click on the banner or the red banner and you'll see what to do. Tweet us, follow us Facebook, sexually-only. Sweet. So weat. So I have a couple of stories to share. Uh-oh. So, I think that any guy who sees a hot lady on Valentine's Day

should approach her if she's alone. Because I have fallen into that theory that sometimes, you know, girls, beautiful women get a lot of attention, but guys are so scared, like, oh, she's way out of my league, she'll never go for me, so the guys never take that extra step, right?

So just as a nice thing, I see one of my friends online. She's a beautiful girl, totally cool, not a bitch at all. And I go, happy Valentine's Day. And she's like, you know, you're the first person to tell me that today. And it's like, it was already like, because she's like on another coast. Already like really late in the day, you know?

Yeah. So I was just thinking, I was like, man man like a lot of guys out there are just afraid Exactly they're afraid of the approach. They're afraid to approach women because they're afraid of getting shut down and being hurt And I think you're right today's a great day just to walk up to any hot chick you see and say happy Valentine's day Yeah, it's too hard to drink All week long we've been talking about like things do on Valentine's Day what's do if you're single But if you're out tonight like anywhere like I don't care if you're at the movies at the laundromat or you're you know at a bar Talk to the hot chick tonight. Wish her happy Valentine's Day, what's do if you're single, but if you're out tonight, like anywhere, like I don't care if you're at the movies at the laundromat or you're, you know, at a bar, talk to the hot chick tonight. Wish you're happy, Valentine's Day.

I'm just doing it, man, because I'm telling you. You got nothing to lose. You got so much to gain today. There's so many single chicks, hot chicks, normal chick, whatever. It doesn't matter if they're hot. Just there's single women out there all the time that are doing anything around time. Yeah. So I decided to get somebody a Valentine's Day gift.

You know, the new rule, we're not gonna ask who, but I just wanted to do something because it's a big holiday in my household again. Right, right. So I got to do something for somebody. Right. So I won't take offense that it wasn't me, but go ahead. So I go to Macy's to get something wrapped, right? Because I didn't want to spend the time wrapping.

Right. So I go there and people start leaving in front of me while I'm in line, right? Then I realized that these two ladies are just taking forever, forever to, and they're just like chopping it up, blah, blah, blah. I counted at least 15 people left behind me because they're wrapping the gift so slowly, so slowly, just taking their time, right? Then finally, I get to the front and the lady goes, okay, what kind of wrapping would you like?

And I go, oh, I want a number five because they have a mole number, right? She goes, okay. And then some employee comes over interrupts her and This is John. I'm already getting your blood's boiling interrupts her is like oh, yeah Can you sign off the thing so she she walks away signs some paper and then she goes? So what number did you want? I go I want number five. She's like oh, okay So she turns around and then some other employee goes

Oh, you have a phone call and then she walks over the phone. Oh, hold on. I got to go. I got to go She's like, oh hold this hold on. I got to take this call. She goes. This is my doctor I'm like, oh my god, lady. You were right. This is your one job is to wrap presents wrap my friggin presents Yeah, and she's like talking for days on the phone. And then she finally comes back. And she says again, what number did you want? Oh, I'm crazy. For the third, effing time I could have went to jail for murder yesterday. Emily, you never saw me again. Oh my god. So what did you finally get it done? Yes, it finally got done. But that would make me insane. I can't stand when you're in a restaurant or you're in your a store or anything with employees

and they're like on the phone, taking time or like checking their thing, you're like, hello, hello. Yeah, and I've worked in places where you do customer service. I've worked at grocery stores. I worked at like, chronic stores. Like I've dealt with people. Me too.

You don't do that kind of stuff. My first job was gift wrapping out of, in high school. Are you serious? Yeah, that's so funny that you're saying that. That. My first job was gift wrapping out of, in high school. Are you serious? Yeah, that's so funny that you're saying that. That was my first job was gift wrapping at the super fancy women's store in Michigan. And I said,

you're a good rapper. I'm actually an amazing rapper. So when you start telling the stories, like you should tell me I love rapping presence. Like I actually love it. I've tons of rapping paper and bows and things like that because it's what I'd one thing I know how to do. Yeah. Yeah. Oh, I'm sorry You had the but what did you end up? Do you want to do?

40 40 minutes? Oh my God. You should have called me. I could have been at your house and back home again. Yeah. Oh my God. I want to do what do you want to share Where you bought? Oh, no, it's nothing. It's not. It's not. That's nice. That's an open. No, no, no, rings. Because we've got some stats here on Valentine's Day too that we're going to read. Because I don't remember what I, we're going to get to in a minute, but some amazing percentage of people expect to get engaged on Valentine's Day as well. Are you serious? Yeah, like it's, I'll tell you, four million Americans

are expecting to be proposed to or are proposing today. It remains to be seen if this will include large number of the millennial generation. So yeah, four million are expecting it. I am not one of those. You're not. I don't think I'm going to be proposed to you today. You don't. No, I doubt it.

Who's going to email us feedback at sexolending.com. Would you be amazed by came into my with? Big fat ring and I was like, Oh, man, as I was wrong, I'm getting married. I go, cool. If it's a big fat ring, I go, thank God, then I can maybe they're well

off. I can see on the couch when I'm out of work. Yeah, honey, totally. You could always leave on my couch. I'll tell them, yeah, exactly. I dog crap all the way. I know my poor dogs.

So, um, so I just want to give a shout out to I know it's kind of late to order stuff right now, but Adam and Eve.com is awesome. They get 50% off most items free shipping, free gift, and the Kim Kardashian sex DVD if you enter coupon code Emily at checkout. So even tonight, if you're single and you're alone and you're like surfing the web and you're like, Hey, I want to buy a vibrator for myself. I think that's a great thing to do if you're single and you're like, That's I don't know about myself in your present, just go to Adam and even do that today.

And you could also go to Good Vibrations in San Francisco. They're great, they have stores. And you can also order on there on my website. And you can use coupon code GVMly15 for 15% off. Because you know what, if you don't have a date or a love tonight, buy yourself something special, like a vibrator, something like that. I think, sex toy, something fun like that.

So I've got some emails that we can get into. Is there anything else that you'd like to share about your Valentine's Day? Do you have any good Valentine's Day memories? Yeah, I mean, I always bring up like, do the trip to New York. And I think I've done Las Vegas before. It's kind of, I mean, it's not too memorable, but it's, I mean, it's fun.

It's definitely a fun time. Yeah, it is fun. I wish that I was more. It's celebrating love. It is celebrating love. And I just think that if you are single on Valentine's Day, it is like no big deal. You should just, like, love yourself. Go home, masturbate, take a bath, do something for yourself.

It's kind of a day that we can all celebrate loving ourselves. Which is the biggest problem I think that we have is that low self-esteem. I think that's a killer. Like you always reading stuff and they're like, oh, I'm premature ejaculator because I have low self-esteem. Or I don't want to have sex because I have low self-esteem. Like, love yourself. Today is all about love. So you should direct the love inward because the more that you love yourself, the more you are able to love others.

And if you don't love yourself, it's going to be really hard to have a relationship with somebody. Yes. Don't you agree? Who are tweeting right now? No, I'm not tweeting. I'm reading up on your proposal thing. And it's actually on reading weddingbe.com. They're not supposed to.

Oh, four million people are people posted like, Oh, I thought it'd be fun to hear everyone's stories tell tell tell Oh my god, I'll bet you tomorrow. There'll be a lot of celebrities that are engaged and stuff, you know Well, there's people like replying no not this year. Maybe next year. Oh my god, okay So that's a big day. It's for posing to his girlfriend really? Yeah Your future brother-in-law. That's what I'm reading on this website, like people responding. Which website is it? WeddingB.com. This is where I received so many, maybe I'll get into that first before the emails, I just got so many, I got like deluge with probably like you know 100 different emails from people who are pitching me Valentine's Day stories and stats and most of it was crap but

some of it was good and I just want to share a few little pitching me Valentine's Day stories and stats. And most of it was crap, but some of it was good. And I just want to share a few little stats on Valentine's Day. So 27% of men resolved to have sex with the lights on this Valentine's Day. So is that something that I want to understand this? Do men prefer to have sex with the lights on? And it's the women who want the lights off? Uh, yeah. So you would rather have sex with lights on.

Hmm, yeah, it doesn't matter. Dimmed. Dimmed. But do women do feel they want it dark? I want to be able to see the person. I don't want bright lights like I like candles every time I have sex. Yeah, we get that man mentality about sex. What do you mean? Which part? I mean, yes, probably. Which part of it? I don't know, but I mean you I don't know Sometimes you have a guy's perspective on things. Yeah, yeah, it's not not a romantic Not a romantic damn Okay 37% of men would be willing to gain 10 pounds to enhance their sex life But only 10% of women are willing to pack on those. Yeah, that's not surprising guys like

Guys can gain and lose 10 pounds in like a day. Like women like struggle their whole lives lose 10 pounds. Okay, only 21% of those born between 1982 and 1995 are married. And a whopping 75% have never remarried. Some 15% of adults younger than 35 said they've post-poll marriage because of the recession. Yeah, that's a good idea.

40% of women want to try something new and kinky today, so we're going to, later on in the show, we're going to give you some tips on how exactly how to do that. 40%. So if you're banging this chick that you're buying a gift for, she wants to go kinky tonight, menace. She wants to get crazy.

Do you want to come to the office and pick something out of our treasure trailer for stuff? No, no, I can't. Do you want to go whip our chain or tie or blindfold? It treasure trailer? Of course. Do you want to go away at our chain or a tie or a blindfold? I like that. How do you know 40% she might be one of the cookies? Do you know what's really weird? What? As he deflects from me talking about a sex life. No, I just there's nothing to share. That's why I don't want to keep on pressing on it, but the The funny thing is you know me, I'm all about celebrating

love and I was trying to think because we had, you know, do our blog posts today at work. I was trying to think, what should we write about today? And we did top reasons why you should break up. And that's really weird why I, but it was, it was pretty funny. Break up on Valentine's Day. Break up on Valentine's Day. You like, we found out, like, oh, you find out that the person's really high maintenance, you know, they really expect a lot when they shouldn't. Then, you know, financial reasons, you don't have to spend so much money. You should break up the day before then, not the day of.

No, but that's a good, that's true. A lot of people do break up on Valentine's Day. Yeah, it was really funny on check it out What it wears it where can you find it white menace dot com white menace dot com. Okay, so I was just gonna say something about breaking up. Yeah, it is a big it is a big breaking up holiday that in Christmas Why do you think because people want to spend money and they don't want to deal with the the whole friggin valentine's they think I actually have a bad I Yeah, but I think some women, they, oh, definitely, I've witnessed somebody freak out

before I was with my buddy. And I guess he didn't do enough for her or something like that. There's some women like that, okay. And it was just like, she was already in a bad mood and we're all going out to like some stupid thing we're gonna go like do carts and golf and all this stuff right. And he was driving and he like was driving her car. It was like brand new and she he like pulled forward in the parking lot and he like kind of bumped the the wall with the car and she freaks out and leaves us all there, right?

Oh my God. And we're like, okay. And then we get in a car, we go back to his house and the stuffed animal that he got her was all ripped up. Oh no. And it said, fuck you. Oh my God, she put a knife in the air or something and ripped it up.

Sounds like good. That's not good. That's a good sign the air or something and ripped it up. Yeah. Sounds like good. That's not good. You know, that's a good sign. She showed her colors and he should dump her, hopefully he ran for his life. It's funny. Okay, so think beyond chocolate and flowers, men, she'll appreciate this. 74% of women said they'd be excited to receive the latest technology product today. Yeah, I would.

That's what I want more than anything. I know that's what you'd like, but women want to receive it too. Technology? They want to receive technology. Yeah. I don't's what I want more than anything. I know that's what you'd like But women want to receive it too technology. They want to receive technology. Yeah, I know I don't think what I want. I got my iPhone now So yeah, I know a ton of women that would love some technology in their life other than the vibrators that you Have that I shall they would love like, you know Computer stuff iPods. Yeah, phones phones people still buying iPods. I'm just curious. Yeah, for like working out in a ton of work out. Yeah, I want a little

one that I can work out with. That's what I would like. Okay. If the world were to end tomorrow, 32% of men said they'd like to have sex compared to 16% of women. So all of a sudden like Armageddon world is over. 32% of men said the number one

thing they would do is one of sex. Yeah. But 16% of women said now. What thing they would do is 1 of sex. Yeah. But 16% of women said now. What else would you want to do? Hang out with your loved ones? Yeah. I want to see my family and my nieces. I mean, I want to see their little faces.

I'll say what's up to them. And I'll look at the clock and I'm going to look at the world's ending. You know what I'm saying? I, there was so many chicks out there I wanted a bang and I didn't. And now I probably have an opportunity. So just can I, can I go now? Can I go bang? OK. So you wouldn't want to like, you wouldn't wanted a bang and I didn't and now I probably have an opportunity so can I can I go now can I go bang okay so you wouldn't want to like you wouldn't want a bang no I want a bang I want to want a bang on the last day on I want to cuddle a lot and bang oh god I'm like we're wasting so much time

right now why you're like the world's dying the world is ending the world is ending and Emily just wants to snuggle I love cuddling. You're like the world's dying. The world is ending. The world is ending. The world is ending and Emily just wants to snuggle. I love cuddling, but I like sex too, but I would like to, um, I would go see my family and then I would have sex. I'll give you a hug and we're like, all right, it was nice. I gotta go right now. Right. There's something going on.

Exactly. The world is ending. I'm like, can we just snuggle for a minute and a minute? Okay. This is a poll that also came in 10 of the biggest deal breakers on a date. So this is just tonight, if you have a date plan and you're going out, this is in order.

Ready? Poor hygiene, using a mobile phone too much menace, being rude to the server hostess, or host talking too much about an ex, flirting with the server hostess, aggressive driving 49% no one would want to drive with me, not offering to pay for the whole date, being too expensive of a date,

talking about your potential long-term future together, using Facebook or Twitter to find out more information for the date. So those are the 10 biggest deal breakers. Yeah. Yeah. What about, what? If a guy that you really like, I know it's weird, concept, but you like a guy.

And he's... for some reason he's never taking any dinner, but you've gone out before. Okay. And his Valentine's Day. And then he takes you to the Red Lobster. What are your thoughts on that? I don't even think there is a Red Lobster in San Francisco, so he's taking me over the bridge. He's not taking over the bridge because there's actually a red lobster ten minutes away Right south of the city. Well, I have a little secret for you. It's in

Where is it? It's in San Bruno, California. Okay. Well, I have a little secret for you. Okay a little thing a little Window into my life that when I was a little girl and I was like eight or nine I I all of a sudden became obsessed with lobster. I had it like somewhere. Yeah I used to make my dad take me to red lobster. Yes! Because I loved the lobster and the crab and all that stuff. So it for me it might be a little nostalgic and I might not be a snob about it like you thought I would say. I thought you would be a snob about it. I was like daddy can we go to red lobster? Like I would say. I thought you would be a snob about it. I was like, daddy, can we go to Red Lobster? Like I love lobster.

So, Dad, you take me. Then I'm taking you to Red Lobster. I just wear it again. Dude, take me, and my dad died, you know, like it would be nostalgic. I would love to take you to Red Lobster. I want to go to night. You want to go to Red Lobster to night?

No, I'm actually have a date tonight. Really? Yeah. And you're just sharing this 20 minutes into the show. Is it 20 minutes? I, yeah, I've taken it. If you're just sharing this 20 minutes into the show. Is it 20 minutes? Yeah, I've been. We're going. We are going to Foreign Cinema in San Francisco. It's a mission. F is that. You never went to Foreign Cinema? Mission District. It's a really cool restaurant in the city that has outdoor seating, but it's like heat lamps and it's had they play movies on the wall. You'd like it. It's cool. I think I heard of that. Yeah, it's cool.

It's been around for a while. So I have a think I heard of that. Yeah, it's cool. It's been around for a while. So I have a date, a special date. Yeah, it's going to be as Valentine's. That's cool. I know. I'm very excited for you. Thank you, honey.

I'm not going to talk. I am participating in the holidays. So don't you say that I'm all anti-valentines day? You're spreading rumors. Seriously. For some reason, you forgot who you were and now you're into it. No, I like it. I just don't like it if I'm not like I don't want to be.

I don't I don't know. I just feel like the pressure. I don't like the pressure. It's the same thing I feel about Christmas, even though I'm doing it. What pressure do you have your woman? You don't have to do. Oh my god. I'm so glad you brought up this point.

Is Valentine's Day only for the woman? Yes. So, girl, if you're in a relationship with someone, you don't expect a woman to buy you anything I've Valentine's Day. I mean, I would love for them to buy me something, but they don't have to. So you wouldn't feel bombed, though.

You would love it, of course, who wouldn't love a gift. But you're not bombed if she doesn't. No, because I'm a guy, and all I need to do is get laid afterwards, and I'm fine. Okay, so she gave you a great B.J. you'd be like, I'm good. Okay. That's it. great BJ. You'd be like I'm good Okay, that's it. I was wondering I was having to know because you're like man I really don't want to buy this guy something tonight

Exactly, what do I I didn't I didn't get him anything you don't have to get him anything I mean if he's If he's expecting something and he's disappointed that you didn't get him anything other than a blowjob, then tell him to remove his tampon. Fucking pussy. Oh my God. Okay. We've got to call. We're going to make a phone call now.

We are. And then we're going to get into, okay, as I said, I get asked, you know, I get thousands of questions a year. And so what we did is we rounded up the top sex questions we get asked. And we are going to answer them for you. We just kind of compiled them together. And we're going to answer the questions that you are thinking right now. The sex questions that you asked and we are going to answer them for you. We just kind of compiled them together and we're going to answer the questions that you are thinking right now, the sex questions that you would like to ask.

So we are going to call Carol Cardoza from, she's a VP of Global Communications from Lifestyle Skin Condoms. I said, oh, that's why I should have brought you. You never gave me one. Like how can we make a note that I owe that I have to bring men is like a bunch of condoms because we're giving them a way to people during our Valentine's Day contest, but I think that you could also use. I want to make an entire rubber suit out of them. Okay, so I'm going to call here on our you're going to make a rubber suit. Yes. You're hilarious. Okay.

I like filling them up with water because they get humongous. What are you 12? I'm selling them up with water because they get humongous. What are you 12? You're gonna throw them off the roof? Yes. Well now since I'm older, I feel them with champagne. Which is the speed bar? What? It's on the bottom.

Yeah. Yeah. There you go. No. We're still trying to figure out our phones our phone situations. What are you doing? I'm looking what do you mean? Huh? Has persons from there? They turn around. How's that? Is that better? Yeah. Oh,, just you

I hate those ones that I know what the phone number is because I effing dialed it Effing voicemail I Hate when it reads it back to you. I know. Okay, let's make sure I did it right I had the best voicemail, huh? Talking about something that I that I care about I had the best voicemail, huh? You're talking about something that I care about. I had the best voicemail of life. Your voicemail is the most annoying voicemail. Because I try to make it so long that people won't leave messages.

Because what's the point of leaving a message? I saw that you called me and you, then I will call you back. Menace has a name. You don't need to leave me a message. And I'm so pissed if you leave me a message and you say call me back. Okay, let's just give people background here

that Menus has a 25 minute voicemail message that you have to listen to before you can leave a message and you can't skip it. So he does that purposely, so we'll leave messages so I just don't leave you a message. And it's annoying. You know, who still leaves me messages? My mom, she doesn't get it.

Oh, your mom, I feel bad for your mom. I hope your baby is good. Why? Did you wish her happy Valentine's day? No, not yet today. Because she's busy. She's a florist. Oh my god. That's right. I knew that. Okay. Um, okay. Let's get into pornography. Oh, that's funny. Well, before we get into our top sex tips, I'm going to read a few emails because actually, there is a question about pornography. Okay. Okay.

Which I'll read first since you just said that. Hey Emily, would like to know any type of porn movies where you don't have to get the actual movie as an streaming type deal. Thanks Justin, he's from Chandler, Arizona. He's a premium friends with benefits member. So I think what he means is, this is what we think, go online and there's T-B-L-O-P, the big list of porn and it lists all the sites. Is that T-B-L-O-P dot com? Okay, T is in time, the big,

it basically stands for the big list of porn, T-B-L-O-P and it lists all the websites. And then there's U-Porn and U-G-Z. U-G-Z, oh, that must be, those are free. That must be a classy one. Hey, that's what Justin wants. And he's a friends with benefits member.

And we treat them right. We'd give them the answers they want. Okay. I wonder if I type in you jizz at work. Dude, your business won't let us pull up sex with Emily. So I doubt they do you jizz. That joke is funny. Okay. So anyway, I'm reading your emails

that you sent to feedback at sexwithemily.com. Like, hey, honey, I wanna do something really special tonight. I'm gonna make you the most delicious dinner ever. I'm gonna give you a dozen roses. We're gonna drink champagne, dim the lights, and I'm gonna stream you jges on the big on my big flat-screen TV. Yeah, I'm going to make you feel like a classy woman. That is classy. I went out with the guy once and the first date I went to his house.

He was having a few friends over and he was playing porn. He had huge teeth. This big beautiful loft and he was like kind of a douchebag at the end of the day. But porn playing all over, like just, just, but didn't mention it. We're just kind of like trying to be kind of cool. Like, let's see if this, these girls can handle it because I brought over a few friends and he just had big things, but it wasn't a party party.

It was like five people, but he just had porn playing the background. Wow, that's kind of cool guy. He was not a cool guy. Okay, not that I am against porn, but just like that was my first entrant. And of course, I went to date him for six months. That should have been my first sign.

You know what my mom always says? This is another thing I should give you. I should give you the tips that my mom always tell me is that the issues that you have on the third day, you have forever. So this was the first friggin' date. Like he was a douchebag and I dated him for six months. Like why didn't I look at that sign? You're like any other chick out there.

I know. We don't look at the signs. So anyway, thanks everyone for emailing. Feedback at sex at le.com. We will answer your emails, your questions, your concerns. Okay. I want one of the cupcakes that I left. I'll go get it. I want one too. You do? Okay. They're like good ones. I can't even go now. Yeah. I can't even out of the middle. You gotta listen, just stay. All right. Unless you really want it.

No, I'll get it later. You just had like a total, you need it, you need it. Okay. No, it's fine. Emily, listening to back shows catching up. In the one night stand, one show, you mentioned if a man finishes early, but to me that doesn't mean you're done.

He should keep going manually getting his partner off. He's only a failure if he stops at that point instead of focusing on his partners to get her, instead of focusing on his partner to get her there too. Damn, Dan, you're so friggin' right. That's actually one of the, what's one of the top emails I get asked is what men who finish feel like they finished

too early, what do they do about it? And you know what you do? You make sure that you finish off your partner too. Make sure that she is, so you came came too quickly as long as she gets off you can use your hands your fingers your mouth whatever you want to do your mouth a vibrator get her off it's fine and I think you're so right Dan you're you're a stellar man I appreciate it we we appreciate it okay this is from another friends with benefits member. Dear Emily, I'm a 31-year-old woman. I can have an orgasm on my own, but now with a significant other. I have recently gotten to a relationship and we are very vocal in speaking up in the bedroom, regarding what we like. However, still no owe.

I think sex toys could be the answer, but they aren't, but they aren't currently in our budget. I've been hearing you are living in a warehouse of sex toys. Any chance you could spice up our Valentine's Day with a toy? I keep hearing about the We vibe and it could be the answer. Desperate Furnow from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. She's a premium fence with benefits member. Okay, got a few things to say about this. I know a lot of women who never had orgasms with their partner until they started using vibrators during sex.

The We Vibe is a great toy, and it is actually like award winning right now, and it looks like this. So how do you explain this? It looks like a U, it's a U-shape, and it stretches, you can stretch it around. And the reason why it works is because you can get internal, you can stick it inside you

so you can get internal stimulation, and external stimulation, the Wevibe. We should post a picture of this during the show and you can get it. Good vibrations or Adam and Eve, we've got coupon codes of both those places, which are Emily at Adam and Eve and GV, Emily 15 at Good Vibrations, wherever you want to buy it. And the reason why the Wevibe is so popular because it's really easy to use during intercourse because it's a thin little u-shaped that goes inside of you and then the other part

is on the outside. I'm not explaining well, go online and Google Wevibe, but it's actually the most popular vibrator right now for couples to use. Now, I've heard mixed reviews on it. I've heard that sometimes it moves around a little and it's a little hard to stay in the right place. So what I would recommend for you is just like a bullet or a a pocket rocket that you just hold on your clitoris and it's really easy and unobtrusive. You can and

it's really good like when you're on top or when if he's doing you from behind doggy style doing you from behind. I didn't know what I'm working on a toy called the dump truck. That's hot. What is it? You're kidding. It's in development right now. I can't tell you everything about it. In development, you're hilarious.

Okay, so yeah, the dump truck. So that's what I would say. And you know what, we are having a big contest right now. And since your friend's been up at the member, I'm going to try to send you something just because I'm feeling in it. I know. I want a different orgasm. I really, really do. Okay.

So also another good, oh, this is the month of things I had written down here. Was cock rings are a great idea. We talk a lot about cock rings because they are. You love cock rings. You love cock rings. Because they go on the man's penis, they restrict the blood flow, they help him last longer, and they have a little vibrator at the end. The screaming O'Cock Ring is only $6.95 at Adam and Eve, and the Bongo Cock Ring is $12.48.

The Mini Winachee vibrator is 1995 at Good Vibration at Adam and Eve, and Adam and Eve silver bullet in shape of a heart for Valentine's Day is 9.95. Good vibrations has a lot of those toys too. You can also try rubbing your clitoris during sex or have your partner rub it if you're not having an orgasm. And there's also different positions that stimulate the clitoris to like the cat position or woman on top. And the cat position, you Google it, C-A-T-F,

talked about a lot in the show. Those are some answers. I just want women to have orgasms already. Yeah, it's Christ, right? God him is so hard It is so hard So much work. It doesn't make you exhausted just thinking about it. It does I know It was like fellas if you find a woman that can orgasm like within a minute or two of having sex Mary her Mary that Beage like put a ring on it within The first the best things in life the world waiting for are they yes? It's true though. It's hard. It's hard. It's hard for women

We've got a lot of stuff going on It needs to be like the right temperature, the right wind can't be blowing to the ground. The chill factor is huge. If we're going to have an orgasm or not. Okay, so those are the emails. I'm going to get in some top sex tips. So this is the top question.

One of the top questions I get asked. These are no particular order, but I'm going to just give you some answers. Why? No, you know, like this is the top questions get asked, and I remember you and you asked me. What's the top question the people ask about me to you? And I go, remember what my answer was? No, do I want to know publicly? What is it?

It was like, oh, do you take it in the butt? Remember? Why does everyone want to know that? I know. And how the hell would you know? I don't know. That's what people want to know. I mean, maybe you shared it with me on the show before but

They're like oh you say that says it Hey, minutes so good not like what she like to work with like oh, what's her personality like blah blah? No, none of that does she take it off the butt. That's it. Dude you hanging out with loser. No, I don't I Hang out with very successful people, but the thing is they want it. Yeah, they sound classy. They want to know I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry.

I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. friends. It's just people on the street. Oh, people on the street.

So, okay, that's really makes me feel good. That makes me feel greater. I'm public image. It's, it's, it's, it's some part of attention. I don't think you want to be against it. Shut up. Okay. These are some of the top questions. Happy Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day everyone. Okay. I just touched on this in an email, but how do I last longer and bad?

We get asked this question all the time. So I last by laughing I'm just thinking about crazy stuff right now. Tell me how do I last longer? And I was you know I was like, oh dip your penis in tequila. I don't know. That's how you know your favorite sex answer. Master masturbation. Master with a woman's orgasm in mind and not your own. So this is how you work up. You take your time, work up to 15 minutes, bring yourself close to orgasm, but to the point of no, to you recognize that point of no return and then you stop. So don't let yourself ejaculate until time is up.

So you practice it at home without the woman. You can also sexercise. A kegel exercise or kegel, however you want to say, kegel is the most important exercise. It's a sexercise that men can do. I have an app for it in the iTunes store. And today, ironically, it just got updated. Today, I've got hundreds of emails from people

who have bought the app and they wanted more levels. The app is doing really well. Kegel camp, check it out. And it's selling amazingly well. And we've gotten most emails from men about it because it really does help you with premature ejaculation. And a Kegel exercises, it helps you tighten the muscles responsible for ejacletory

control. So it directly works with those muscles. So become familiar with them by cutting off the flow of urine and then starting and stopping it repeatedly. Once you have the exercise down, practice your kegels anywhere at your desk when you're driving, tighten and hold for a

count of 10 then released. You could do it once, twice a day. You could do it 20 times a day. And this isn't Hocus Pocus, everybody, because I saw on the Kardashians that the doctor recommended Kegel, so you know it has to be true. Are you serious? You told me this before, I'm just going to say it. I don't remember things like that.

Okay, how do I last longer in bed? That's the question we're answering. Okay, show a little courtesy, ladies first. if you know you're going to blow your load right away, go down in our first, make our orgasm, pull out our sex toy, use your fingers, use your mouth. That's what you should do. You know, another recommendation, which I don't like is whatever, but this is something that comes up a lot,

is ask your doctor about pro-Zac. I tell him the commercial right now. A recent study that showed that 73% of men who suffered from premature ejaculation either were cured or improved after taking 20 milligrams of pro-zek a day, a week, and 40 milligrams thereafter. Yeah, my buddy told me, he just, when he was taking pro-zag, that he would just go forever.

But the only thing is, he would go forever, buddy. We couldn't orgasm. Yeah, he couldn't orgasm. Yeah, that's the biggest bummer, okay. So you can be a champion in bed, but never orgasm. I know, it's a bummer. It's like, you can be really happy. Like I'm pro-zac, like he's gonna be so happy,

but he can't have an orgasm. That's the downside. A lot of women, I mean, so if you're a person. So crazy how the drugs affect that. I know, why, why, why, why? Why do these drugs have to affect your sexual functioning? It's like someone who's already depressed, and it's like you're on an any present and you're going to feel really happy, but you're not going to have

the most pleasure in the world. Okay, go for a second round. Shrug off an early admission with some extra attention to her arousal. So shrug it off. You came. So what? Go for it again. Okay. Number two question that we get asked, what are the best tips for tips for giving oral sex to a man and to a woman? So for a woman, I'm going to see you may want to chime in since you think women don't know jack about

giving a man of I'm looking at the ceiling right now listening. Okay, so if I so for a woman performing oral sex on a man use lots of tongue, lots of saliva, find out what he wants. How much pressure if he likes deep throating versus using hand and focusing on the tip, guys are a little different like that. Yeah, don't go soft, but don't use teeth. Enthusiasm and look as if you're enjoying it even if you're not. Men are really into, and use lots of saliva, don't you like it to be wet?

Yeah, pretend that it's a lollipop. Yeah, an ice cream cone. Like they're really good ice cream cones that are like dipped in chocolate. Exactly. So good. Yeah, pretend it's an ice cream cone and you can't get enough of it and it's a really hot summer day and the ice cream is melting and you're trying to catch all the drips before they come off.

That's how you should give a blowjob. That's pretty disgusting, but yeah just do it like that pretty disgusting, but yeah, just do it like that. That's a good example. Do it like that. Okay, for men, if you're performing oral sex and a woman, start off slow. Slow. This is one of my top sex tips all around.

Men, slow down. Do everything five times slower than you think you should. Move your tongue freely from our inner lips to our outer labia on one side. Once you've done that, draw her lips into your mouth and massage them with your tongue. And since the other side will probably get jealous, move on to the other side afterward.

Pretend her vagina is an ice cream cone or a peach and eat it, get it in your face, get dirty, get messy. I hate the peach analogy. I'll tell you why, because you know, Nicholas Cage was in a movie and he like referenced like a peach and like he did in such a creepy way. So every time you say that I just think of I'm sorry, I'm not traveling Nicholas Cage right now, it's just a sex tip. But I do think that that you should yeah like get into it and vary your pressure

between fast and slow and ask her what she likes and pay attention to her body. If she is reacting to something, you know, she then keep doing it. But this is something that you shouldn't do, man. When you're performing a role-sector in a woman and she's like, mm-hmm, that feels good, don't go faster and harder. Because men think, oh yeah, I'm gonna do a lot of it.

I'm gonna do it fast. I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna put do it fast. I'm going to get all of it. I'm going to put my scuba gear in. It totally throws our game off. Yeah. Because you should keep doing it as you're doing it. It doesn't mean go faster. So that's the biggest mistake that men make for the oral sex.

So tip for both men and women is to look into their eyes sometimes. Flick the little you like. We know woman's performing oral and she looks up at you. Yeah, whatever. Long she's sucking my penis. It's performing oral and she looks up at you. Yeah, yeah, whatever Long she's sucking my penis. It's all good. You can look wherever you want. How are you? On person to ask and everything in your partner. I don't understand why I don't understand Okay, you just want me to say oh yeah, you know about the woman. I celebrate everything you do I just whatever you're sucking my penis watch a TV while you do it I don't give a shit you're sucking my dick that's how guys think I'm sorry I don't care the guys like lie to you and say how amazing and everything but they don't care you are sucking their dick they do not do a bad job they do care

they do a bad job then yes they do care okay yes okay number the next question that we get asked most common and actually this ties into the 70% of women What is it or 40% of women want to do something kinky or tonight? I'm gonna spend today. How do I get my partner to be more adventurous and bad? We get asked that question a lot. Ask her if her best friend will join. What? Ask her if her best friend will join. Oh my god, that's the next post-baculate question. It's how to have a threesome. But we're not covering that today because Valentine's Day, keep it pretty.

First things first, it's impossible to have great sex if you don't feel sexy. So treat yourself to blow out or to a blow out or some new lingerie, whatever is needed to put the vava room back in your step. Flirt with each other, make a habit of sending playful, sexy messages throughout the day, make them salivate with anticipation by telling him what you're wearing and what you want

to do to them later. This is all building up to the adventure, okay? Set the mood, light some candles. Yeah. I really think candles are important in setting the mood. You walk into a guy's house all messy and the lights are on and he's got all the dirty socks around. Like, I'm not gonna want to get adventures in Kinky. Like like clean up the place Sounds sexy. Sounds hot. What do you wear? Okay, something you can do is do you have that mascot outfit that I buy you? Of you in the seal outfit. Oh my god. Are you wearing your your tinky winky outfit today? Are you wearing are you wearing the teletubbies outfit that I got you?

Whatever turned you on men's men's has a tele-tabby outfit. You can bring a whip it out tonight. Oh no, that's for special occasions. Okay, so other things you could do is surprise them. Maybe I wear a Disney one. Yeah, oh yeah, when you go back. Next weekend. Oh, that's your big dinner.

Yes, my fancy dinner. Right. Don't wear a new underwear and let them find out. Would you like to do a skirt woman? I thought you just said don and let them find out. Would you like a gift for a woman? I thought you just said, don't let them wear it. I know we're going to wear it. No, any new underwear. Oh, no, let them wear, please wear a new underwear.

But like, tell them, Sam, that we're going to wear it. Like, don't you think that's how to put a woman's underwear or not? Uh, yeah. It's cool. Okay. It might get a get an erection when she tells me, probably not, but most men probably would right Okay, you're not like most men watch an erotic film together

It doesn't have to be porn for it to be sexy and especially for women like we'll get some turned on some favorites Our body heat bell to sure last tango in Paris like water for chocolate. That was a hot movie like water for chocolate Do you ever see it? No amazing Playing adult game Again, you can go to Adam and Eve.com. You use coupon code Emily. They have amazing adult games. Discover a new position.

You can check out my book. I don't need to be sharing all my stuff here, but hot sex over 200 things you can try tonight. There are over 200 things you can try that book and try a new position. Just like say tonight, it's Valentine's Day or whatever you want to give more adventurous, try something new and also share it while you're laughing. Share your fantasies. Talk to your partner once and for all.

Ask her and ask him what's your number one fantasy and see if you can play it out. That's how you get more adventures and bad. That's what we're talking about right now. Adam and Eve has those cards that you know, things that you pull out the card and you have to do that thing or it's like that or something like that. Exactly the dice. That one. Kiss, but whatever you roll. Can they come out with the can you talk to do that thing or it's like that's exactly the dice. I love that one. I like it. But whatever you roll, can they come out with the can you talk to them and have

them come out with a menace version where it would get me horny like she put out the card says, oh, clean the kitchen. Right. Exactly. Like she pulls out the car refrigerator beer. Yeah. Yeah. That would be amazing.

Yeah. You're such a dude. Okay. Um, share your fan season and get out of the bedroom. Sometimes you need to have sex outside the bedroom. Yes. Different locale. Okay, I can't orgasm number four question I get asked

and then we actually already answered this. So this is, we answered this in an email previously but this isn't a number top question I get asked is I can't orgasm during sex. What should I do? So I already answered that bet. So hopefully you're listening to the whole show. I already answered what you should do if you can't orgasm during sex, get a vibrator, try I already answered that bet. So hopefully you're listening to the whole show. I already answered what you should do

if you can't orgasm during sex, get a vibrator, try different things, touch your clitoris. Okay, and number five, we get a lot of emails from Virgins. So how do you make someone's first time a positive experience? So I would say first of all, just to destroy the whole, just to, I don't mean to shatter anyone's dreams here, but the first time probably is not going to be so amazing. It's probably not going to be the best sex you ever had. It certainly won't be. But I would just say again, go slow,

use lube. Lube is your friend. Lube is not just if you really drive this problem. Lube is awesome. And just talk it through and just be supportive and be communicative about what feels good, what doesn't, if it hurts, you stop. And make it a special night. If this is the one night to go cheesy, like if you know that it's someone's first time, you should clean up your place, wash the sheets, light the candles, have some chocolate in the freezer after some ice cream or something. Like make it a night, a chick night, if it's her first time.

And that's what we got for you. That's the top questions we get asked in some sex tips. I liked it all. Did you? I enjoyed it. I think there was nothing really against it. Yeah, you just like talking, talking, talking, okay everyone. Happy Valentine's Day. I hope everyone has an amazing night tonight

and members like masturbation is sex with someone you love. If you have to masturbate tonight in your alone, do that, do it in a loving way. Do whatever you want, do something loving for yourself or your partner. I hope everyone has a great Valentine's Day. Drink some daquila and champagne. Tea, tea, la.

Or do a new thing where you put vodka in the champagne. That's pretty good. Oh, never done that. And, oh, I could probably drink more vodka that way, because I'm not a great drinker, and I need like a better taste. Oh, is actually you don't even in the champagne. That's pretty good. Oh, never done that. And, uh, Ooh, I could probably drink more vodka that way because I'm not a great drinker and I need like a better taste. Oh, Is that your name for that drink?

Vodka and champagne. Never heard of that. Yeah, it's good. But I don't know that much, but I'll call. You put some vodka first and then some champagne on the top. It's good. It's good.

You want to even taste the vodka, but just don't drink too much and don't drive. Never drive kids. All right. Okay, everyone. Happy Valentine's Day. You won't even taste the vodka, but just don't drink too much and don't drive. Never drive kids. All right. Okay, everyone. Happy Valentine's Day. Have a great night and thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you?

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