Sex With Emily - SWE: Vibrating Valentine

Episode Date: February 11, 2012

Emily lives in a hoarder’s house of sex toys and needs help. Emily also talks about Being predictable in bed, “Baby Daddy” mysteries, penis pumps, and hanging nude self-portraits in your house. Jimmyjane founder Ethan Imboden talks about Valentine's Day gift ideas and how to introduce a vibrator into your relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betruma eyes they call them in a bygone way. Hey, Evelyn You got a boyfriend because my man E here. He just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute The girls got a hair stand. It's a lie. The women know about shrinkage isn't it common? You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between.

For more information, go to sexwithemily.com. You can get all the sex information you need. And we guarantee you that if you listen to sexwithemily.com, at 12 of our shows, you will have better sex, right, menace? He's got to fix my mic. What up? Perfect, you're a genius. Okay, so everyone, this is a big, this is a really important show.

This is like, crucially important that everybody listens to show because you cannot avoid Valentine's Day, which is coming up next week and It's a big deal because even if you hate Valentine's Day or you're single or whatever it's it's gonna impact you in some you hate Valentine's Day, right? I don't hate Valentine's Day. I'm very anti-vowl I'm not anti-vowl I'm just I'm a Valentine's Day proponent. I believe in Valentine's Day. I just think every day should be I just don't want to put any effort at doing something for a boyfriend. I would be something.

As significant out there, that's all. That's so not true, menace. What? So we are going to give you so many tips today. If you've, it's a big day. If you have a big day, small budget. How to please a woman. How to please a man.

Some gift ideas. Some things to do on Valentine's Day. And we also have a special guest. We have Ethan Emboden, who is the founder of Jimmy Jane, which is what my favorite, favorite toy line. And he makes incredible award-winning products. And we're going to get into those later, and he's going to give some tips

and how to use toys for couples and stuff like that. Sweet. Sweet. So what, oh, and this is the most important thing, if you want to win something on Valentine's Day, we are giving away so many things that my entire office looks like a warehouse right now. All you have to do is go to my website, sexzoneway.com.

Click on the banner. It will tell you how to do it. Basically, you have to follow us on Facebook and Twitter, sex with Emily, and just retweet us. Repost us, reshare, retweet, whatever. And you will have a very good chance of winning something because I cannot live with my office as cluttered with sex toys. And everything is at sexzoneway.com.

Sexzoneway.com. Yeah. People want to get all the information. And you made a sex so-and-me.com. Sex so-and-me.com. Yeah, that's what all happens. People want to get all the information. And you made a banner? I made a banner. A banner? Did you see the banner?

It's very impressive, yes. Thank you. We didn't do that. We actually had someone else do it. Yeah, but just to be able to. The fact that there was a banner that was created, especially for Valentine's Day. That's a big time. We're a big time.

We're going to play. We're putting in some effort. Of course, it's a big, I can't tell you how much we just got something from Israel today. Really? Yeah, a toy, a big toy. I don't even know what it is. I didn't really understand it, but we're going to give it to someone. Maybe they understand it.

Okay. But we've got some great stuff. Cool. Yeah, so and it's great to be here on Extreme Talk 165. Oh, it's Friday. I can't wait for the weekend. I'm- What are you doing?

Los Angeles this weekend for the Grammys. That's gonna be really fun. I love hanging out there for the Grammys because there's always parties going on. And I got invited to a bunch of parties, so. You're so cool. Yeah. That's awesome. They're gonna be big social media party

and then going to the Grammy Museum to a party there. And it's really cool. It's great. I don't know. Are you driving? Are you bringing anyone? I'm driving. No. Oh, well, I am driving with another man.

Oh, okay. Are you going to hit up any of your babes in LA? All the girls that I know in LA, we talked about this. Oh, they moved to San Francisco something? No, no, they all have boyfriends now. So. Yeah, but that was last time. No, that doesn't mean that they still have boyfriends.

No, they still have boyfriends. Oh, you're sure? I mean, yeah, there's girls that are in friends with me. No, they still have boyfriends. No, they still have boyfriends. Oh, you're sure? I mean, there's girls that are in friends with you. No, I'm married, whatever. But I mean, I'll hang out with them, but I don't want to hang out with any girls that boyfriends. It's too much trouble. I hear you. I'm trying to make people happy. Why even putting you in a different place? I totally understand. I totally understand. I am. I'm just like, you know, I am going to, it's my friends birthday and we're going to do a spa thing in Napa. So we're going to do, it's going to be girls and it's going to be spa treatments.

Yeah, isn't that nice? You're going to drink wine. We're going to drink wine, which is my favorite thing. And then I'm going to... Why do women always have to go to spa? Because we like it, it feels like... They're not going out there and doing construction on like freeways and stuff like that. Those are the type of guys that should be going to spa

and going to like hire. They probably need it more than we do. Oh my God, I need to go to the spa. I'm so overworked and you know, actually sitting at a desk all day. It's true. It's exhausting. And can I be honest though?

I am not a fan of the group trip. So I actually am sort of dreading it to be honest. Why? Because I don't like, I want to be able to escape. Like I want to drive alone, I want to be able to leave, I want to leave, I don't want to share a room, I don't know everybody, like I don't love it, but it's like a really good friend's birthday.

So I feel like I have to go, but I don't like group, I mean, you're just being around that many, when I'm on my way. I totally am, and then I might escape, but my not today. That's the thing, I was in an out, like, you know just being around that when you're in a room. I totally am, and then I might escape, but my not-s-day. That's the thing. I was in an out. When you leave, everyone's gonna talk crap about you.

Say how your Uber beage because you had it leave. I was the first one to leave a birthday party the other night, too. I was like, I've got to start the leaving process, and I did, and then everyone else left, because it went on too long. Everyone's having birthdays, and it went on too long. How long were you there before you left? I arrived at six.

It was Sunday night. I arrived at six. I left at 10.30. To me, that, I did my time. Yeah, that's cool. I totally think so. I don't care about the person who just leave. I love her.

I just, four and a half hours of my time was a lot of time. Four and a half, but a feature friend. Yeah. Yeah, she's a good friend, really good friend. She's awesome. Shock D is her name. a feature friend. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. She's a good friend. Really good friend. She's awesome. Shock D is her name. So, um, okay. And then what's this? What's going on with you? It's really loud and so funny because we're just talking to our guest and how there's always audio problems with you. Like for the past seven years. Right. There's audio problems with me. Our guest, seven years. Right, there's audio problems with me. Our guest, okay, now it's down. That's better. Our guest is, he was on, he was on like the early shows, like when it was like at a kitchen

table, before I even knew you. I can just imagine the audio problems then. I would have just, I would probably commit suicide. You would have a heart attack. It was not good. No, but these have, I always had a sound guy. I always had someone to do in the show but um that's why it's so fun that he's here with us Ethan we're gonna talk to him a little bit okay I've got some um news okay what's in the news this is what I've got for you um okay Kardashian divorce to be turned into reality TV show to prove reality TV is bad is as bad as it is okay so the Kardashian divorce trial is it not, I'm proof anything. That's why there's all these questions.

The Kardashian divorce trial is about to get more ugly with Chris Humphries and his lawyer, it's definitely put the reality TV itself on the stand. Kristen is the turn you want to expose that MO of reality TV by proving Kim Kardashian and no intention of staying married to him. So they're gonna publicize the divorce in court. Have you heard that?

No, I haven't. Yeah, would you watch it? You probably would, because you love Kardashians. Oh, hell yeah. I love it. Yeah, I mean, I guess there's a lot to be exposed. When it comes to that, I mean, a lot of stuff will probably be revealed on how the show is shot and things like that. But will the public really care? No, probably not.

There's already things online that you can wash and see how the Jersey shore is fake and things like that. The public doesn't really care. They still find it entertaining. It's fake. It's not real. Well, they they they showed some things where there was a situation where they got in a fight in Italy with some bartenders because the bartenders through ice at them. But when you slow down the video, the ice is coming from a different way. Oh, right. Other than the bar. And they made it up.

Yeah, like they made up the drama and stuff like that. So, you know, things like that could be proven. Right, right. That's true. Okay. I've been watching it a little bit now, but now my cable's broken that you fixed, that you set up. Why? It says, it's no signal. I just got cable. No, because there's something that you're doing with your TV that you're hitting because

when you hit the all-on button on your... Yeah, it says no signal. Yeah, yeah. For some reason, I don't know how you did this, but when you hit the all-on button, everything should come on. Right. But when you hit the all on button on your remote, it shuts off your TV and then turns on your cable box. And then so when you hit it again, it will shut off, it will turn on the TV. You figure this out the other night. Yeah, it will turn on your TV and then shut off your cable box. Well, why didn't you tell me this?

I thought I, so you tell me how to do it. Because I thought I fixed it. I don't know what you're, I don't know what you're, I don't know my pal, Mizzith, so I've had a TV in long time and I finally got one this year and it took me a long time to get into watching television Just not my thing but lately I've been wanting to and I've been getting into it watching like a lot of reality TV shows Like the real housewives of every freaking county. Yeah, and my TV's not working. That's all I do. Okay Explain to me after the show. Yeah, I will. I thought I had a call to cable company.

No, I'm all about mob wives. I've never seen it. Never seen it. The wives of all the mobsters. Oh, is it for real though? Those girls, this, yeah. They got black eyes and stuff. It's for real.

Wow. Yeah, okay. There's no joke. I gotta watch that. It's on my list. Okay, 10% of US parents have questioned their child's paternity. That's a lot of parents questioning. Company that sells over the counter paternity tests as it's 12% of men and 10% of women

have been in a situation where they've had to ask, who's the daddy? Because you can't trust them. Women fell as that's why you're using- Why are people using protection? That's why you need to get the home paternity test to see who's who. Can you believe it? The actual percentage of misidentified fathers ranges from 2% to 4%. Double that in Europe.

This is because in the US, more and more babies are being born outside of marriage and more couples are living together. Yeah, man. That's the whole thing with... That's why it's in the news. The whole thing with the Chloe Kardashian. That's why. What did they find out if she had Kardashian or not or whatever?

They're saving it for the season eight or whatever. Yeah, with Chloe in Lamar. Okay. Oh. So that'd be kind of a bummer to find out you weren't really part of the family. Not really. Well, I mean, she saw the same mother. I mean, she is.

Yeah, she saw as the same mother, but still, the whole keep that from you. She wouldn't be actually a Kardashian. Right. Should be whoever her dad was. Right, exactly. And I mean, if you Google Chloe Kardashian's dad, real dad, I don't know, man. Oh, you sold the picture, but anyone. Yeah, you, you, you're not a good judge of it.

Why? I'll ask our, I'll ask our dad. The last of you then, okay fine. Full up right now, okay. Yeah. Okay, so, follow up right now Okay Okay, so this Valentine's Day try thoughtful over traditional gifts An online survey of US adults about their Valentine's Day gift preferences found that, well, 57% of Americans would enjoy dinner at a nice restaurant More sentimental ideas such as receiving a hand-written love note or a home-cooked meal came in as close second and third.

Other gifts ranked in survey included flowers, chocolates, cloned perfume, and spa treatments. So the survey also asked which celebrities Americans would most like to receive a love note from 34% of men opted for Katy Perry. They want a love note from her. Really? That's bizarre. You think they'd want it from someone else. And then Taylor Swift was close behind, whatever.

Yeah, I don't know. I like love note. People don't write love notes anywhere. Maybe like love, like they saxed or they send you like a quick email. Like I used to get letters. I want cards. I want email. I want your thoughts.

I want to know what you think about me. Well. How much you like me and how much you love me and how hot I am. That kind of thing. Just write it down. Yeah. The whole thing whole thing carry Perry Katie Perry. I met her Quite a few times right just seems like you know you're gonna have to pay a lot of attention to her But I'll tell you this I think I told you the story before what I do love about her. She came by my work and she Said oh, I got I can I use the restroom. So she went and she used the restroom and then she came back out and she did all her interviews.

And then when she left, somebody went back into the bathroom and she drew a penis with a nail polish on the stall of the bathroom. She did? Yeah. There's like her calling card, I guess. Oh, when she's in the bathroom, she just got feeding. She has a good bathroom and does like penis. Is that illegal? Yeah, I guess so, but it's Katy Perry. Oh, right. That's cool. That's cool. Okay. That's nice. That's why you like her.

Yeah. I think that's hilarious. I think that is funny, but it's a little destructive. I like, I'm not going to have Katy Perry over my house if she's going to do that in my bathroom. You don't find anything. I sent you that thing last night, you're like, ha ha. You barely even thought it was funny. I sent you this picture that I found. I know, I didn't think it was that funny. It said. It said.

It said. It was like, ha ha. It said, car, misu, tra, like a car, and then it has a picture of a car, and then it shows people in the car, like in a sex position. Get it, car, misu. I get it, but I don't find it funny. Like, I didn't go hot.

It was hilarious. I think it's not loll. It was hilarious. No, you don't. I do it, but I don't find it funny. Like I didn't go hot. I was a little bit L.O.L. I was a little bit L.O.L. No, you don't. I do. I do. Show me what's something really funny things. Just try to do that. I don't know what you find hilarious. You know what I find funny. You know when I laugh, I'm a funny movie that you like that's not like some cold obscure classic that

everyone else thinks is awesome. What name one movie? Meet the parents. hilarious. The first 20 minutes of that movie, hilarious. You think it's dumb? The rest is bad. It's alright. I've seen it a hundred times.

It's so funny. The first 20 minutes of Meet the Parents. There you go. I find that funny. Any 80s movies? No. No. I mean, yeah, 80s movies.

I don't know what. Any scommies was like the best. I know. That was a good time. Like all the breakfast clubs and all that stuff. Yeah, I'm thinking more like revenge of the nerd stripes. Oh, right. Stripes.

It was amazing. Yeah, those were all really good. They don't make movies like that anymore. Those customers, ghost busters was good. Ghost busters. Yeah. Anyways, keep it going. Okay, I got to keep more going here.

Married sex is predictable, but still good. A new study by I Village revealed that 78% of married women found their sex life predictable. Couples with young kids, especially related having predictable sex with half of women being able to not only predict the course of four play with the length of the deed, the location, as well as their husband's go-to techniques.

That's so true. I'm not even married, I've been with someone for like six months, you can tell you, I, this is what you're going to do next. This is why you should listen to the show so you're not predictable. Don't be that guy. Don't be that predictable guy. But that said, the vast majority of women surveyed were happy with their sex life. Still wanted sex frequently had experiment with sex toys, role playing or spank their husbands playfully in public. Playfully in public. So it's predictable. But that's what happens, whatever. Pretty little's not bad, as long as you mix it up every once in a while, which is what we're

going to be talking about. Sex, how to mix up your sex life and how to have a good Valentine's Day. I know the table here is already getting fair in sex toys. Isn't that amazing? Oh my god, my favorite sex toys. So excited. Okay, we're going to get into that soon because everyone is probably thinking about valentine's day. It's coming up. They are. Right? What are you thinking about for valentine?

I'm thinking about nothing. I'm thinking I'm gonna go home and take a bath and masturbate. But about that. Are you serious? I don't know what am I gonna do. Go out friends. I'm gonna be on the other friends.

I'm gonna be on the other friends. I'm just looking what I'm doing. Don't you have other friends than a hungry plans? I'm getting my hair done. I'm getting my hair cut. Sounds'm getting my haircut. Sounds fun. That's gonna be a good time. I know, I'm gonna go out with friends, whatever. And I think Valentine's Day, this is what I was saying earlier, is that it shouldn't,

just if you're not in a relationship, it can still be, it should be a day for you, to love yourself. Yeah. Masterbation to sex with someone you love. I'm definitely gonna go and have dinner with a woman on Valentine's Day. I don't know, find somebody. I think that you should go with me then. Huh? Why? Because you love me. And now you're going to pay attention to me the whole

time. Dude, you're the one who's on your phone actually right now you're on your phone. Because I'm looking for the freaking photos. Like your hair. No, I want to, I want to get his opinion on what he thinks. If he thinks Chloe Kardashian, okay, let's put him on. Let's, uh, because we're going to get his emails. And he's going to, um, this is Ethan, emboating if you're, you know, okay, let's put him on. Let's, cause we're gonna get just an e-mail. And he's gonna, this is Ethan, in Bowdoin. If you're, you know, okay, a lot of people are listening to the show. You can also watch the show at sexwithelene.com.

You can see everything that's happening in here. I, Ethan. Hi, how's it going? Good, how are you? Ethan in Bowdoin from jimmyjane.com. If you haven't bought your Valentine's Day gift yet, do that now. I know you're a huge Kardashian fan.

Tremendous. You suck. Keep on code Emily25 at checkout and you get 25 dollars off purchases over $100. All right. How about that? Okay. Is this Chloe Kardashian's real father? It's Chris Jenner's ex-hair stylist.

I'm so unqualified to answer the order. It's true. Well, just look at the picture. I don't find either person attractive. Okay, so it looks consistent in that in that regard. Do they? Good evening. Do they look similar? Any little bit similar? Yes or no? You're not gonna have my feelings if you sure disagree with me. Sure. yeah. Big foe heads. Big foe heads. And yeah. Big foe heads.

We're coming in today. That's all I needed from you. We had the mistakes. Although, you know, I just realized, I just realized, the person who has a big foe head is me, especially this new hairstyle. I was just like in the mirror the other day. I was just like, oh my god,

look at how big my foe head is. And I had the sexy. I had a little camera set up like this because we were having a Skype call with my friend, engineers. And I was like, look, helping my forehead is. And then I was like, oh my God, it's like as big as the rest of my face.

I didn't think that. I thought it brings out your face, the fact that your hair is like, with looks wind blown. I think that my hair needs to be at least as tall as my forehead. And yeah, I usually notice stuff like that. I didn't really notice it with you. I think it's proportionate.

You know what, this time I do think, I needed to see it twice. I do think they look alike menace. Oh, hold. Excessively the top picture. Thank you. Yeah. I can't wait for season 85 till we find out. That's cool. All right. Go ahead. Okay. I'm going to get into some emails right now. Do it.

I'm doing it. Ready? Dear Emily, I've been listening to your show since about episode 100 or so. You and Minus have done a great job and I love your frankness and transparency, transparency. The organic quality of your show is truly a breath of fresh air. I've noticed that you repeatedly said that guys shouldn't try to please their new sex partner using the same techniques that works for their previous partner. I totally understand your point, but do you really think that it's only guys to do this? Women do the same thing.

So why do you keep saying guys? This is a bummer when you do this. Thanks and keep it the great work. I think you and men have created something special here and has been a joy to see you to learn and grow over the years. Love, Jerry, and San Diego. Cool. I can't wait to answer this question.

Okay. Well, I'm going to answer first. Same thing is that it is true that men typically do do the same thing. They're like, oh, she liked it. And I'm talking about, I don't know, what I think about this, I think about oral sex. I think about how women orgasm is always different. Like you put 100 women in a room, they're all going to orgasm differently. They're all going to be touched differently.

They're going to need different kind of stuff, right? They're going to need different things. So if this worked exactly for her, like your last girlfriend, it doesn't mean it's going to work for this current girlfriend. Now I think the thing is similar with men. I do think that some men like the balls played with, for example, and some men don't. I think that, so you know what, Jerry? I'm going to say the same thing then is for men too.

Men and women should all pay attention, be present with your new partner, ask what they like, experiment, ask questions, talk about what turns you on. Like literally this is my biggest issues that couples don't talk about sex. So like just tell your partner what feels good. And don't assume that it is what the last partner liked. Change out the lingerie drawer, buy some new condoms. Buy some new condoms. Maybe get rid of those old sex toys.

Yeah, the old sex toys you have to switch it up. Let me talk about that. Okay, do, oh, real quick. I just want to say the reason that we don't stress it so much with women like getting into a new relationship because us guys, we are simple creatures. It doesn't take too much to make us happy.

So they don't need to like find a new move every single time. But every woman is different. Right. That's true. I mean, men are different. So I feel like. I know what it's not as different. Yeah, not as different.

Like I think. All guys enjoy blow jobs. Right. I'm sorry. Not all, but a lot. But there are blow jobs and there are blow jobs. There are two exactly. And then, you know, Not all, but a lot. But there are blow jobs and there are blow jobs. There are two exactly.

And then, you know, some females are not into you going down there. Right, it's true. It's true. Some women just don't like, I know a lot of female friends are like, nope, don't like it. I don't understand those people at all. But I feel like I give a pretty good, like I'm pretty good at role sex, performing role sex. I think I got it down. And I think that I,

you do kind of change your technique when you're with different people, but there is a certain technique that I do over. I think I've got it down. I think I've got a nail, that's all I gotta say. I do, I do. Okay, so anything else you have to say to that, Ethan, what were you thinking?

No, I'm good, I think we covered it. We covered it. Okay. Okay, this is about menace. Dear Emily, I have to make some assumptions about menace in the short time that I've listened. I think you're single possibly looking for someone to get serious with, but has not had a long term commited relationship in his adult life.

Whether that describes menace as a situation or not, I would agree that any guy in that scenario generally could give himself a better hand job that the date of the week or short term girlfriend could. Oh, it's a hand job that the date of the week or short-term girlfriend could. Oh, it's a hand job debate. I've had longer relationships than you. Not true. I lived with people. What are you talking about?

I never lived with anybody, but I've had two and a half year relationships. Two and a half year relationships. I've had two, three year relationships and then two, one year relationships. And I've lived with Three of my mistake Huh was I'm steak. Why do you move in so quickly? Why should move in so quickly? I love you I live is moving yeah, you should you should move in with each other the people that say that I'm not gonna live with people

You got to they can't forget that they live there because you find their sock behind the bed You sound like Kim Kardashian right now where she didn't want her new husband to move in boxes to her I saw that episode. I saw that episode totally how you're sounding right now. Yeah, I wouldn't want I wouldn't They say about what do they say about Kim Kardashian saying that That it okay that she was crazy. She's that her mind. I want to hear about hand jobs I don't know. Okay, we got to the car. We gotta go back to the car. Okay, so here's the deal. Hand job, here's the deal.

Just to rig it down real quick. We gotta break down the hand. This is been going on for three years. This whole hand job thing just got brought up is because we've been having this debate for over three years now that I stated that cool, a woman can give you a hand job fine. But I'm just saying that a woman can give you a hand job fine, but I'm just saying that a woman cannot give you a hand job

better than you can give a hand job to yourself. I don't know if I agree. I mean, there's definitely something different about being in control and not being in control. And being in control has its advantages, but not being in control and having a little element of surprise, I mean, there's something to do that now. Exactly.

Aren't you excited about this other person being? Yeah, no, I think it's cool. I think it's a layer. I think it's awesome. A woman is giving a hand job, but I'm just, you know, I think you're going to have the same pleasure. One of my argument is that I can give a hand job better to myself than a woman can give me.

No matter what. Right. And I disagree. and I think I was trying to bring hand jobs back. It's how it all started. I was like, you give a hand job at high school, and then you move on to blow jobs, and then no one's giving hand jobs anymore, but hand jobs can be really fun and sensual,

and you use lots of lube, and you can use both hands, and you could use your mouth, and it's just a nice thing to add. So I was just encouraging women to start giving hand jobs again. I thought it'd be fun, but then we just got like, hundreds of emails about the hand job debate and became a gruel at a control. But guys never really give up on fingering, right?

No, no. Some do and I'm pissed at those guys, because I like that. I like that. So I'm gonna finish the email because it goes on to state. However, my scenario is that I have been happily married for 23 years and my wife could give me a better hand job than I could give myself any day. Oh, yeah.

She knows exactly how to touch me. How long? Well, I hope so if you've been together for 23 years. She knows exactly how to touch me. How long? Where? How much pressure went to vary the pressure and to get me off. Besides, she can freely use two hands in ways I can't.

And she can reach or approach me at many more angles than I can myself. I wanted to throw a medicine bone, no pun intended, by saying that I would agree that generally a guy could masturbate himself to orgasm faster than any partner could. However, because my wife knows the right techniques that work for me, she can get me off to sphess, I can thanks Paul. Thanks Paul. You've never been with anyone for that long. Yeah, not in twenty-two years.

I haven't gotten a hand job. I don't know if I would want to wait twenty years to be to have a hand job perfected. You can do it in a lot less. I just like that your listeners are paying such close attention. I know. And they're sending in such detailed feedback. Oh yeah. And advice to you, Manus.

I mean, really, you know, the listening audience gets some benefit, but really we're here to help you out. Yeah, exactly. Why? I just know what I like. Because you need some help with your 5v1. I just had. Yeah, exactly. Why? I just know what I like. You need some help with your 5v1. I just had a friend call it 5v1 the other day and I never heard that before. I like that. 5v1, when do you meet a hand job?

5 versus 1, sort of yeah, a hand job being. Oh. 5 versus 1, kind of like it. Yeah. Yeah, I get it. I like it. Sounds kind of sports term is. It just sounds kind of sports term ish.

I can't even believe the hand job. I thought we'd killed the debate but it came back. It's fine. So feedback at sexwithendley.com. What do you think about hand jobs? Do you wish that you had more hand jobs? Do you wish that Women gave you more hand jobs if you're a woman. How do you feel about them? I just think you use lots of loo but there's like methods twist turn the whole thing What no, it just it just goes back to you think I'm weird because I like the things that I like I don't think I have the things that I like and I have the statements that I have And you know you try to conform me to what what you think is cool and awesome

I just I think we need a new book which is masturbation by menace because it's possible that menace has worked out some stuff Yeah, we all need to know Some technique here it goes into another thing too I'm like why do women try to teach blowjob classes? They don't know a woman doesn't know how a blowjob feels Gay guys should be teaching women and they do and they do you guys do not attend it But they should I think a woman trying to give a blowjob classes ridiculous I think that's so wrong because women know but if you've given a lot of blowjob,

you've had a lot of success. I think that women do know how to give. Well, I hope if you're giving a blowjob, you get a success no matter which way you're doing. Yeah, I think that women can teach definitely. I think I've taught. I have taught a class, not a formal class, but I've helped friends and interns, for example.

Okay, this is a good one for, for Ethan, because well, kind of, I'm gonna read it right now. Dear Emily, other than a cock, wait, did we, we didn't have the same thing about that we just talked about that time. Just wanna make sure we gave him love. Thanks Paul. Okay, other than a cock ring, is there anything else

that I can use to help me last longer in bed? Any natural herbs or anything over the counter Russ. He's a from Brooklyn, New York. He's a premium Friends of benefits member and I just want to say if you want to act to them late three days a week You become a premium friends of benefits member go to section only dot com There's lots of perks and fun things happening there. I don't know why none of the listeners listen to me over the counter to Kila You can just buy it whenever you want. And it works just as good. But I wanted to say that I want to show my favorite, my favorite cock ring out there.

Okay. I brought my own. Ah, yes. Okay, this is Jimmy Jane, if you're watching us, you can see. It's the iconic ring. And the reason why cock rings are great, and I will get to Ross' question in a moment,

but it's because I love that it can fit over any of the one fits all sizes, right? That's right. And it vibrates, so it hits, it can hit the woman's clitoris, or ever, it turns around, while they're having sex, and it can keep you heart, longer. Yes, you can help to constrict the blood flow. Constrict the blood flow, that's how it works. But this is this, yeah. And these are great. And I think it's, but there's a slightly different question being asked here.

Although, I do want to answer this. No, I do want to answer this. This may solve one problem, which is that for a lot of men, they may want to take a pause and say, hold on, just to stop moving for a moment. But this would still be providing stimulation, could be vibrating. If you were going to take a pause in your own motion, at least there's still some motion going on, some sensation on the clitoris.

But I think, I know, honestly, I know very little about the natural herbs over the counter, et cetera. There are those numbing creams and so on. I don't know if that stuff works. I mean, I would say, I always talk about kagel exercises for men. That's what your doctor will tell you if you go.

Kagels, practicing your kagel exercises, which is your PC muscles, which is those muscles that you used to start and stop the flow of urine. There's no fancy, pretty way to say it. But if you practice, you tense and relax those muscles and you do it like a few times a day, you can do it anywhere. That will help you, that can help you stay hard longer. You should also, you could always go to doctor for a checkup, see what's going on there. But, can I have an app called Kegel Camp that you can get in the iTunes store and it helps people do Kegels, men and women.

They're not just for women. I think a lot of it's in the head. And I think that if you get into this loop, I can imagine of this loop of psychology of, I don't wanna come yet, oh my God, I'm so excited. I really don't wanna come in. It's sort of it's feeding psychology of, I don't want to come yet. Oh my God, I'm so excited. I really don't want to come in. It's sort of it's feeding off of itself. And I think it's probably, I don't know if it's something that Russ, if he has a long-term

partner, sort of thing that you can actually just address and sort of address with your partner, that could be very different from what I'm talking about. I think you have to talk about it. I think you're absolutely right. A lot of it is psychological for men. And it is true that you do become, that you become like obsessed with it. Like, I'm going to, it's going to happen. It's going to happen and it keeps happening.

So there's, it also, there's a book called The Multi-Orgasmic Man, which I always recommend. And it has great techniques in there for helping men stay hard longer to overcome that. It's a great book. What do you, okay. So, hello Emily, I'm a dedicated podcast that's an interviewer show. In one of your broadcasts, you said you had a handful of penis pumps

and to email you to request one. I've been married for 16 years and would like to try one to see how it works and see how it may spice up our sex life. If you still have any, please let me know. Thank you and keep it a great show. Say hello to menace and the interns. Thank you, D. White, Ohio.

D. White. I do have, we had a sponsor a few years ago and I have all these penis pumps at my house and they're taking up a lot of space. So I said I would give way some to listeners. Are you gonna send them one? Yes. Okay.

D. White, we're gonna email you. Get your address, we're gonna send you a penis pump. Okay. That's why we're gonna email you get your address. We're gonna send you penis pump Okay, that's cool I mean I do have any experience knowing if penis problems actually work I've never heard of being sponsored. You know, I have I also have no information about penis pumps although I'm suddenly have this image in my head of your place Which is kind of like I just saw hoarders for the first time Yeah, the gym and I was running I couldn couldn't even hear the sound because this never works.

And I'm looking at the inside of these people's houses and it's horrible and whatever. And I'm imagining, is your house kind of like hoarders, but it's all just sexier? Yes, exactly. That is literally all sex toys. You're kind of spoiled because the cameras are going to show up to our house actually later. The hoarders, exactly. Can we just talk about hoarders?

Since I just started watching TV, I texted you, Mattis, didn't I? It was, I got nauseous, I got scared, I got afraid. I was like, I wanted to go home and throw everything out that I owned. I'm afraid. Because it's so scary, the way those people live with all that crap in the house, they have rats, they're holding the whole bottom, their house, they're like, yeah, and there's cats that are dead. Oh my God, there's are dead. Oh my god

There's like dead. Oh my god. That's a terrible show. I don't really want that happen So yes, I'm gonna friggin send him penis pump today because I'm gonna get that shit out of my house You know what's funny is actually there was like an episode of friends where I Think Ross brings it he goes to a chick's house and they open up the door and it's just as messy as that and he's like, he's trying to like make out with her, like get down and things are falling all over the place. Yeah, it's like, effing and he just runs out. I think I remember that one.

You think you can take like a whole bunch of sex toys and penis pumps to goodwill? Probably not. Probably not. Maybe a recycling center. We need to talk about that in a second about what you do with use. Can you use sex toys again with different partners? It's kind of weird sometimes to do that, but this is what I want to say with the penis stuff and what I do know.

The penis is like every, it's like, it is a muscle. And if you exercise it, it can expand in some way. There are proponents. There's a guy wrote a book called Exercising the Penis. And he was on my show a few years ago. And he says you actually can do all these exercises that grow your penis. And the penis pumps actually engorge blood.

So it makes it appear bigger, I think, like briefly, but I'm not sure the long lasting effects of the penis pump because I don't have penis. I would have tried it out. Menace wouldn't do it. No, no, you wanted me to try some other, it was like inches for charity or something where I put my Basically put my penis in a vice or some yeah some vice grip you wouldn't do that for me. No, whatever

Okay, let's talk to Ethan more now about let's talk about let's talk about Valentine's Day coming up so What do you what do you guys say over there Jimmy James? He's got he makes amazing toys Let me say let me even award winning products. They're beautiful. They are different than anything else at the market And we love them and I love the massage candle of the kind of green I love the form all the form whatever is we're gonna get into that a minute But it's a great gift if I got that as a gift. I would be like so psyched. If I got one of these toys as a present. Can I ask you real quick, like when you're dating something, I don't know. You have boyfriend, girlfriend married. All right. How long were you doing this?

What are you doing that? Were you already working with a company beforehand? I started. Yeah, I started the company a long time ago I started the company well I started working on this in 2002. I was not I didn't have a Consistent girlfriend. I was dating yeah prolifically and then so how was that how's that conversation You know, I think it was sort of self-selected for a certain type of of person and and and woman perhaps who wasn't going to be put off by that.

But what I've come to learn is you can't look at somebody from across the room and say, that person is into this kind of sex and that person is into that kind of sex, this person will or will not like somebody who is now devoting 80 hours a week to working on developing vibrators and other sex products. Yeah. You just can't see that coming. And so it definitely, I think there was some self selection there, but I didn't really notice it that much.

Oh, okay. I was like pretty focused. But yeah, it definitely came up a lot. Yeah, you know, I was just wondering if you were nervous the first time you're like, so yeah, by the way, I totally would be around the bush. I mean, it would take forever for me to get around to talking about it. Yeah, it's cool. I just always want to know people's stories on how because definitely with, with, you know, Emily, you always run into that thing. Only I do a sex radio show.

Yeah, I don't even talk about it now. But because for me, it's different, like being a woman and you see a guy, like, he might not even, he might not be attracted to me, he might not want anything to do with me, except for the fact that I have a sex talk show, so I must be either really good and bad or really bad and bad and they just want to know. So I tried to do that. How is that different from a guy who just has tons of vibrators at his house? I don't think so. I mean, it seems directly analogous to me.

That's why I never really understood their true intentions. Do you love me? For me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me?

Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me?

Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? that can what I do for a living. But it's hard, it's Google me or whenever, go to my website. So how long you've been doing this total, what you actually had your first product? So I started looking at the category in 2002.

So 10 years ago, it's crazy. That's crazy. We met sooner after. And yeah, and we probably met right around that, actually. And then in 2003, I got money from friends and family. My mom kicked down. Wow. Yes. And in 2004, I got money from friends and family. My mom kicked down. Wow. Yes.

And in 2004, outside investment. And so the first products hit the market for holiday, 2004, really. We're Valentine's Day 2005. And since then, it's just been something of a whirlwind. And create new products, changing it up. And really helping, I think, I hope to help transform an industry that was pretty antiquated

in many respects. And I was. It was. I mean, a lot of the sex toys were like not made of good products and they have like porn stars on the cover, you're like, wow, I'm a box. You know what I mean? They're like cheesy.

Like his sex toys are like pieces of art. Like you can leave them out. I don't know. You don't have to like hide them. Look how friendly this is. Like how friendly. That's form two. And this charge like an iPod too, right? Yeah, exactly.

This has a little docking station. It has docking station. I think I feel like I already know you because she talks about the products all the time. They're always laying around. It's true. Yeah, I feel like I know these products. Yeah, and they are so smartly like made and charged the way you charge them in the way like I do I have mine sitting out my form to like sitting on all my interns do too

Thanks to you. I will say you are what you eat. I think I am what I create which means I am a vibrator You are a vibrator. Oh, let me touch you. Okay, so that's amazing So okay, so and you've also won awards for all your different designs different things too Herman Miller Nike Motorola Ford and then on Sex Toys. But if we appreciate that you're using your skills towards sex toys. Yeah, well, that's actually, I think that was sort of the motivation was a lot of people were using a lot of skills toward new cell phones and toothbrushes and furniture and cars and where, whatever it was.

But nobody really seemed at the time to be applying any of those same disciplines in this area. It's not really fascinating. They weren't. They were like the first one, and then everyone's copying you. They're following you. They're on path. They're on path. Okay, so let's talk about Valentine's Day because it's really soon. So if you have not done anything yet, what are some, let's talk about, first of all, we can talk a little about using toys, and we've talked about this before but like what would you like There are still are some guys that they're I can't believe they exist still

But there are men who feel oh, maybe men is this one of them threatened by sex toys that they are Replacement that they're gonna replace you and we've talked about this before but like how do we How do we integrate that into the relationship? How do you get men to understand that like it's? We love you too. We love your penis. It's an accomplice, your BFF. I feel like, right? Yeah, I think that the hurdle I think is getting to that first time trying it, because once you've tried it for the first time together, the understanding of how that might go is

very different from that initial fear. It's just like anything afraid to actually go for it. To have to try it. I think that getting to that first time is made a lot easier. If it's a product that's really approachable, that's maybe focused on external stimulation from the majority of women, I'm going to say things that you probably say all the time. That's fine. But the majority of women require a literal simulation to achieve an orgasm.

And so the best place to start for a vibrator is gonna be an external vibrator. What that also means for the guys that now you're not sort of competing from a penetration standpoint. Exactly. It's not something that's phallic. It's a very different sort of proposition. We're just gonna hold on our clitoris

and you can still pound away. Let me just put it bluntly. Yes. Let the vibrator do the hard work. Yeah, you don't have to be down there with your dm your menacellas to get down to like two minutes. Menace, like, what do you do two minutes? Oral sex? You give like two to three minutes?

I'd depend on the lady, man. Yeah, exactly. I'm telling you. I know what you're saying. The special ones get extra attention. Not so special. Not so much. That's all.

Okay, so we've got this, did we got this from your blog? Do it yourself Valentine's Day. So these are some, this is some suggestions. Eat like royalty by cooking for yourselves. That's a good idea instead of making the dinner and having the reservation. Mm-hmm. Head to the farmer's markets, see what looks good, then ask the

growers about their favorite recipes, build up from there, incorporating a few seasonal affidies, yaks. Yeah. Fennel, blood orange, and of course, chocolate. Or just do what you do. Just go to the whole foods and just grab the the meal. Exactly. That's what I would do. That's what I would do. I don't cook, but if I always date people who can cook. I think the broader point here is that this fits under is this idea of ultimately what is Valentine's Day about. What is it? And it's this opportunity to have this special moment

with your special someone, right? What that probably doesn't look like is a bunch of red roses and a box of cheap chocolates and a prefix meal at the local restaurant. Because there's no faster way to sort of demonstrate how little you've thought about this than to walk down that super well-traveled path. Exactly.

It's really all about like what's unique between the two of you and how can you play into that. And one way of sort of demonstrating that there's a little bit of fourth thought is going actually making a meal. Right. So that whole idea of putting some of yourself into it, your time. Yeah, Emily. Well, I've never cooked, but I will.

Are you going to make a meal for this chicken, Tuzé? No, probably, no. If it was my girlfriend, then yeah, I'd probably make a meal. I'd much rather stay home, make a meal, have someone make me a meal or even order info then go to a restaurant. That's how I feel. And it is more, you're right, it is so easy to get the roses and whatever, but that's some some women are down with that, like they're like I want a reservation at the best restaurant.

So that's how we don't know, just like every woman has different orgasms differently, every woman wants a different kind of Valentine's day. Yeah. Don't you think? Yeah, some women are super simple. Just like, oh, just, you know, to show that you recognize the day and you care and just give me some flowers and I'm good. Or some chick, she just got to go all out.

It's crazy. Right, and they'll be really upset. Have you ever had that even when we've been with someone and they're like, you probably always did it right, no? Some girls are like, they're like, I didn't get this, I didn't get that, I never care. I'm not the girl that cares. Yeah, I don't think I would have dated that person. No, probably not.

Yeah, I mean, I've told you before, I took a girl once to New York for Valentine's Day, but it wasn't something that she was expecting, you know, just to do. That was nice. Yeah, just have fun. But I feel really bad back in high school, my high school girlfriend, because I'm a dumbass, we get together like a week before Valentine's Day. So I didn't really, you know, we weren't together forever, so I didn't really expect to do too much on Valentine's Day. Just, you know, the basics. Oh my god, she just went all out and I felt so bad.

Oh. I felt so bad. You didn't do anything. I didn't really do anything because it's like we're together for a week. Right. Did you at least masturbate so she didn't have to give you a hand job?

Yes. I showed her how much better I can give myself a hand job than she could give to me. That was her gift. That was a good form of warm, sharing experience for you. OK, there are some of these things that we were going to talk about that I really liked the one about the cheaper Valentine's Day. Like, if you don't have a lot of money, what you should do at Valentine's Day.

Yeah, I think that's where you were right in here, man. Or maybe that's this one. Your penis doesn't cost that much money. Go look, explore an area of town you don't know. Check into it. Check an hotel in the area. Yeah, I realize after a, it's a great surprise.

Tip, a different bed is a great place to try different things. Yeah. I think that's true. Hotel still might cost a little bit to get a decent hotel. Say it a friend's house. Do any friends or other towns? Do you take their house for the night? No.

And any friends or vacation home? That kind of thing? Yeah, you can take their house for the night. No. And then you friends have a vacation home That kind of thing. Yeah, I have tons of friends that have vacation homes. I do. What planet are you on? So yeah, some things to do because people like you don't you know I feel like that if you can you can do something very heartfelt for someone It doesn't have to be like as long as you plan something like have a plan. Don't just be like I don't know plan something To do on valentine's day. Plan ahead. Plan ahead.

Be decisive. The New York move is a good one. That's, I mean, that's not. That doesn't fit under the budget category. Yeah, that's a, you know, that's definitely. That was a role stating for a long time. That's a role set. Yeah.

But, um, but definitely if I was the only Dana for a couple months, I'm not taking her New York. But there's that, there's a But there's that whole study done around happiness and so on and a lot of it has to, our happiness has to do with limiting our options actually. And so somebody making a decision like that and saying like if you guys sat down and had it hold debate like, oh, let's go to a city.

We could go to New York or we could go to Montreal or we could go to Chicago or we could, we just would not be nearly as much fun as just menacing down the lawns. And we're like, look, New York. Well, you're a man. You got to take charge I mean not a not a dick, but like women like that when you you make the decisions because I know if you ever done this before It's crazy. You ask a woman what she wants to do and she she says oh Whatever you want to do she can't ever come up the answers, but she knows the answer

She knows what she wants to do, but she won't tell you. I don't know those women. Men and women. Do you know those women? Uh, yes. Yeah, every girl comes across us. But you know what, I've also been that woman on occasion. Oh, right.

You just want to be, you just want to have, you want the other person to be so happy. Exactly. And you don't realize that really all you guys need to do is make a back in decision. Yeah. Exactly. Be decisive. That's why you're talking about the like the group getaway. That's that same nightmare. It's like you can go away, you're going up to Napa with like 10 people or whatever. And it's like where should we go to dinner? This is probably all point out in your case. But then it's like 10 people in the go show. I hate

that. I don't even want to talk about it. I just want it to be done and decided. And it is true. What you say about happiness, I think that's so true that we have so many choices today and so many distractions and so many things that it's just, it doesn't make it happy. It really doesn't have more choices. Like I just want. Narrow it down. Narrow it down.

So get creative. It is the thought that counts. If you're going to give a card, make it yourself. If you're going to give flowers, select and arrange them. Make a card. I used to have a guy with us in the office earlier. I had a guy once, he wasn't exactly an artist, but he thought he was and he painted a portrait of me naked.

He painted a portrait of myself. Wow, that's dumb. Okay, so that falls into a different category, also covered on our blog, which is this sort of, I don't know, we had a smart term for it, but which is a sort of don't, I don't know, we had a like a smart term for it, but it was a sort of don't be selfish. Like, who, did you really want a good career?

No, I couldn't show my mom what's coming down. You didn't want an naked portrait of you. I don't know, I finally threw it away. Like a cat, because of course, I'm not a hoarder, but I mean, I felt like I couldn't, yeah, I mean, I couldn't get rid of it. Like, it was behind my back. I never hung it off or anything.

And didn't even look like, it was like, he wasn't a good art. He didn't know what he was doing. He was an abstract or something. It was he probably put a lot of time into it. I know. So I would it was behind my bed for a while and then I finally threw it away. And then I had to go and make a sculpture of me once. I did art as forever. Freaking weirdo that you're dating. And it, um, it was a sculpture and then I had a little, little heart that was hanging. Oh God. Wow. I know.

I had a awkward one, which was, which was along those lines, but it was like, I knew this woman. And then I met her boyfriend, her boyfriend at some point. We, they were at a party at their house. And he's like, and he's like, come check this out. I've got these like great photographs of my girlfriend. Look how beautiful she is, and she's just totally naked.

And so I'm looking at this friend that I know, naked now. And- That is so awkward. Yeah, why are you surprised? And she was cool with you. No, I don't think so. I mean, she came into the room and kind of played along like she was a little bit, but I think it was.

I know a lot of women who have naked photos of themselves in the house. I have no several women who do that. Just up. Just up. Like artistic, whatever. I don a lot of women who have naked photos of themselves in the house. I haven't do several women who do that. Just up. Just up. Like artistic, whatever. I don't think I would do that. No.

Weirdos. Weirdos. I have weird friends, you think? Are the naked women pregnant? Ah, I don't want to see that on your wall. Naked women pregnant? Yeah. That's a hip thing to do.

Oh, that one that I have. That's a hip. My friend made that. Oh, you. My friend took that photograph. The one in my house? Oh, I, no. I wasn't even referring to that one. Oh, I thought you I have? That's a hit. My friend made that. Oh, you. Oh, my friend took that photograph. The one in my house? Oh, I, no, I wasn't even referring to that one. Oh, I thought you were referring to the photograph.

No, but Lisa, she has clothes on. Oh. But, yeah, the ones that are, you know, covering their breasts and they get it and they're pregnant. I don't want to see that. Right. I have a photograph that I'm talking about pregnant. Isn't she pregnant, kind of?

Yeah, she is pregnant. She's pregnant. She's walking down the street, like in Manhattan or something. Yeah. That's kind of a cool picture. It is a cool picture. It would be hotter if she wasn't pregnant, isn't she pregnant? Yeah, she is pregnant. She's walking down the street, like in Manhattan or something. Yeah, it's kind of a cool picture. It is a cool picture. It would be hotter if she wasn't pregnant, but whatever. Whatever, that happens. Okay, so what else for real, then, Zay?

Let's talk. So I think, okay, so make it fun. Oh, this is your gift wizard. You can make it fun, but I love your gift wizard. Yeah, I totally checked it out. So their gift, explain that. your gift wizard. Yeah, I totally checked it out. So their gift explain that. Your gift wizard on Jimmy Jane. So we've got, we added all these new items to our site over the past couple of months.

And we realize that there's just, it's just a plethora of options. And so in order to make that have a sort of different, more fun interface and like, oh, I'm going to look at Edibles. I'm going to look at Chocolate. Instead of that, you go to this, the Gift Wizard, which is our interactive little tool. You select who it's for, her, him, us, and then whether it's not your nice range, and that's a slider, right? Then there's a price range, and it pops up to front.

I wish they had that in everyday life. I want a gift wizard for everyone. It's a good concept. I want like a gift wizard for everyone like I'm it's a good Content and I want something salty and something exactly exactly. It's helped me make decisions in life I would love a gift wizard. I would love love love love love that it's like a decision maker, but it's it's cool It's a great way to sort of check out the Check out the stuff at Jimmy. Okay, so what about a foolproof fooling around Pleasure woman Pleasure man So this was a set of ideas for got the stuff at J.M.A. Okay, so what about a foolproof fooling around pleaser woman, pleaser man?

So this was a set of ideas for one side of this that you're looking at is sort of targeted to our target, one is target toward him. I think that people get wrapped up in making things maybe more complicated than they need to be. Right. So for instance, this non-highest days on a Tuesday. So, Tuesday doesn't offer that many great opportunities unless you're gonna play hooky,

which is actually a great possibility. That is a great possibility. You could drop in and just pick up your man or vice versa your woman for a new nerd, totally out of nowhere. Right, that'd be nice. You know, just a surprise. Right, surprise him for lunch and have sex.

That's a great idea. Or better yet even bigger surprise, just take advantage of the weekend before everybody's focused on the Tuesday, would never expect that Sunday is actually going to be the Valentine's Day that you're going to celebrate. Surprise, or right, well, it's the weekend, so. Just jump the gun completely.

But. And massage, would you say there? Yes, massage. I'm so into massage lately. I think the massage is such a good, I think that couples should massage each other more. Especially if you don't, if you're feeling disconnected from each other, it's a great way to connect again. And to use that again.

It takes a lot of effort though. That's a lot of effort. You never use one. These are my favorite thing, the massage candle. It's like the woman always wants a massage when you're also exhausted and tired. You know, so you're always exhausted and tired, though. I know.

I just found out the other day that you can only live without 11 days without going to sleep, without getting some sleep and then you die. Have you not slept because you seem like a really tired today? No, no, no, I'm good. You just handed me the candle. Back of a candle, yeah, it's amazing. And this is something that you've been talking about

how many years. I love it. No, seriously, since I remember doing the show together, you have talked about this candle. Like, you love it. I love the candle because, OK, it's my favorite thing. It is amazing because it is, you want to explain it in your technical and your concerns.

I love this, I think it's the best thing for couples, for massages, it smells amazing. Okay, let's explain how it works from the beginning. Okay, so from the beginning, this is the afterglow massage oil candle. And the idea is, one thing that's important to know here, and to realize, people love candles and so on, great illumination, very flattering. Everybody looks great in candle light. Right.

Number two, scent, actually bypasses the, are sort of processing, are cognitive processing in our brain and go straight to the limbic system. So you basically react to it immediately. And if you had that experience of smelling something and then immediately a memory pops up, it's because it was so important, as part of our survival perception.

But anyway, it's a very fast way to trigger and shift mood. And so- That's true. And your sense sets one of the things that I do love are the sense of the candle. Well, it's really important not to get nasty cinnamon whatever sense or overblown fake vanilla. And instead to get something that's more suitable to you.

And so elimination sent. And then there's this tactile component. These candles, a lot of people have tried playing with wax Right, which is hot and exciting hot like literally Not video like the Ricky. I didn't see that but you don't that's a famous scene where people Poor wax on Ricky Martin. I surprise that I don't know that with this chest expose. Oh All right, but that the that scene pretty much explains what you do with this candle.

That explains except. Yes, except for it's a special candle. It's special because it's all natural ingredients and it's all body safe in the actual formulation of the wax base. And so essentially it's not really a wax, it's a solidified oil. And that oil is made up of all sorts of botanicals and so on. Long story short, when it melts, it melts to warm temperature, but not super hot. You not like what real candle will blister you.

Exactly. You can pour it straight onto the skin and then it never resilitifies. It basically has, it's melting point is body temperature, so it'll just stay. That's true, then it's actually great for your skin. So a lot of our customers will buy them for massage and then realize, oh, I'm gonna use this as body oil every time I get out of the shower. I like the can only get in the shower,

the use of body oil when I get out. Anyway, so we've got all sorts of different fragrances. This one happens to be bourbon. It's the massage oil that could become your massage oil, your massage lotion, massage oil that you use. It is your massage oil. I love the sense. And for lazy oil, your massage lotion, massage oil that you... It is your massage oil. I love the sense. And for lazy people, like menace or others,

who, or people who are just weary at that moment when one person wants a massage, the other person also wants a massage. Right. This combined with the massage stones, I don't have one here, but these are these ceramic massage tools. Oh yeah.

So everybody can give a fantastic massage. And a lot of women also complain, it's really hard on my fingers. It's a lot of pressure. And guys are like, can you push harder, but it hurts. Oh, so you use a massage stand and with the massage oil. That is so cool. I don't think I have one of those.

What's the problem? We're going to have to work on that. Yeah, exactly. Anyway, so that's cool. And then they also have other little sexual purposes as well. So they're sort of dual function. Right. They're just amazing. They're like my favorite things, right? I guess I do talk about them at all the time

Ad nausea all the time. I drive you crazy minus Yeah, but not about but like in the loving in the loving loving loving way other other things So how many products do you have now? This is like not a infomercial for Jimmy James I just want to I just wanted to ask you, how many different items have you come up with? I love people like building companies like this. I love hearing the story. Doesn't the story. So you start off with one and now you have...

Yeah, I start off with... The first one over here. Yeah, actually this was basically the first was the little something fiber. This is the little chromo which came just after which is more accessible in price point because the little something, this is the little Chrome which came just after which is more accessible and price point because the little something, this vibrate that the design was actually, the first one was 24 karat gold.

And that was really just to explore how different a vibrator could be from what people were expecting. Little Chroma is basically the same shape, super simple, very compact little cylinder. And this is again for that primarily for external stimulation. Right. This is again, what we're looking at right now is like it looks like kind of maybe a tiny tube and then it's rounded on each side. People say it looks like a cigar case which I don't know.

Oh yeah, it does look like a cigar case, it's exactly it. So it's not intimidating and it would be mostly for clitoral stimulation. Yeah, and it's smaller than he is and so on. So it's smaller than he is and so on. So it's... Hopefully. You haven't been around to where I've been. I've had some, yeah, I don't want to get into it. But yeah. Anyway, so it started there and then once we had a great response

that we just kept pushing further and further and pushing really more innovation. So it's a lot of technology that goes into the form line of vibrators. These other ones I showed you form to before the sky and so on. And that's really technology employed in a way that it makes. It keeps your life really simple. And you can do all things you want to do without really thinking about. It's not technology like, wow, look how complicated this vibrator is.

Right. And so it's innovation that you get to feel, but you don't have to really learn about it's not technology like wow look how complicated this vibrator is. Right. And so it's it's innovation that you get to feel but you don't have to really learn about. Sweet. So yeah. Got that. Okay well I hope that everybody has a happy Valentine's Day. I hope you have a happy. I do and I can feel I don't feel like like I said I think Valentine's Day is something if you are feeling a relationship of Valentine's, I think that you should take a moment, don't stress it out, don't be like, I just don't think of it.

They take a moment and just really think about your partner and think about who you're with. Think about something that you could do that would be really special, really memorable, and really sweet. It doesn't have to cost a lot of money. It could be writing something. It could just be going somewhere special

that is doesn't cost anyone, but just something that is different out of the ordinary, I would say I'm pushing for. Because I don't think that like flowers and candy and dinner is, I just think there's more that you can do. If you're in a couple, if you are a single, men always talk about how it's a great night to meet people because everyone's out of bar drinking because they're single. Have you said that?

Yeah. You found time to say? Go for it. Don't sit at home and be sad that you're not with somebody. Lisa, you know, have an opportunity to maybe meet somebody. Right. It's a good opportunity to meet somebody at Valentine's Day. Exactly.

And or go home and do something by yourself, something sweet, something special, something that makes you feel loved. Love yourself. Yes. Master rate. That kind of thing. Okay. That's what we've got time for. If you want to join our Valentine's Day Contest

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