Sex With Emily - SWE: What Women Really Want

Episode Date: December 7, 2012

How to make your first time with a vibrator truly special, from mood lighting and soft music to clitoral stimulation and explosive orgasms. Emily shares the number one thing women want in bed and how ...to tease and build anticipation without being annoying. She also answers listener letters about guys who shower immediately after sex, ejaculation etiquette, alternative sex routines, and foot fetishes. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Have you guys heard my news? I have a new sex gig. I'm not a porn star, it's better. I just launched my new premium skincare brand called Emile and Tony. These products are tried and true to help spice up your sex life, which is what I'm all about. I'm talking about massage oil candles that are one part candle, one part body oil, and check out these flavors.
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Starting point is 00:01:14 Oh my The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks And we not talk about sex so much Are you kidding me? Oh my god
Starting point is 00:01:23 I want to feel a sense Oh, wrong Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships and everything in between. For more information about sex with Emily, go to sexwithemily.com where you can listen to our podcasts. All of them, we have 180 plus podcasts that aren't all on iTunes. You can sign up for a mailing list and the RSS feed so you'll get all the podcasts. And it'll be awesome.
Starting point is 00:01:58 You can also donate to the show if you feel like donating. We have a PayPal button. And we're always looking for advertisers. So if you're interested in advertising on the show, email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Today's show, you know, we're doing a bunch of shows, it's a little longer show, will we reading your emails that you send to feedback at sexwithemily.com? Lots of people hit me up on Facebook, which you can find me on the Sex with Emily fan page or on Twitter, Emily Morse, the MRSE. So today's topics when we're reading your letters.
Starting point is 00:02:26 Some of them include breast play, showering after sex, mixing up the sex routine and foot fetishes. I think that's for you, Menace. Yes, we've been trying to talk about foot. We've got two letters about it. Two emails. Not that I'm into it. I just, I'm trying to understand it.
Starting point is 00:02:43 Exactly. Well, maybe once you understand it, you'll get into it. Plus sex in the news and and sex tips tips for using sex toys for the first time Because I figured okay, so right now everyone. Hi, it's good to see you happy Thanksgiving post Thanksgiving Oh, yeah, did you go on a town? I did I went to Florida for a week with my family and it was intense It's awesome. I have a very cool family, but my brother his wife there my three nieces And I was non-stop with my nieces the entire time. Playing like Go Fish and whatever for like 16 rounds in Jin Rami and playing in the pool going down the slide. And I felt it was intense. I don't know. I can't imagine having three kids. It's a lot.
Starting point is 00:03:19 People do that. I commend you. It's amazing. It's quite, it's quite, and they haven't any, but it's hard. But it was amazing. Family hot, 85 degrees, so happy. Feel relaxed. Totally went off the grid. Didn't really check email. Didn't do anything. Just hung out with family. It was very nurturing for the soul. Thanks for asking. I love it. I know. What was the weather like? 85 degrees. 85. Yeah. In Florida. So nice. Back here. I heard it was freezing in San Francisco It was like four degrees well freezing for us because I want to say because we sound like a bunch of pussy's Right say it's 40 degrees when other places like Chicago, New York City and other places around the world is like 20 exactly and that's where I grew up in Michigan where it was like 20
Starting point is 00:04:02 But this is still cold for here and you know why it's a problem here? Because we're not prepared to deal with it because we don't know, I mean, you don't use your heat that much. And then all of a sudden, it gets like freezing and like the window doors are always open in San Francisco. You go to restaurants because they assume it's San Francisco. It's California, it's sunny, but really you're just freezing it.
Starting point is 00:04:18 Where you go. We're not well insulated as a city. And then there's always like warnings. Warnings, right? Yeah, for the elderly and stuff like that. I then there's always like warnings. Warnings right. Like for the elderly and stuff like that. I know. What is cold? What? It's like 45. Crazy. So yeah, that's a deal. How was your Thanksgiving? My Thanksgiving was I think kind of depressing. Oh no, what'd you do? I don't really do anything. All my family, well, my family's divorced. So a lot of families down in Nevada. May other part of my family. Where was your mom?
Starting point is 00:04:46 My mom is in Washington and my my grandmother tried to my grandmother bought this gift for my mother There's a antique mechanical horse, right? They're really into antiques But the thing weighs like 400 pounds right so she wanted to drive it up there. She got stuck up by Oregon and the snowstorm. Oh, no. And then it's good to go in and turn around and came back. But she didn't come back in time for Thanksgiving.
Starting point is 00:05:13 So what did you do? So none of my family was entailed. I just like coming out. Why so? Oh, you weren't alone now. You weren't alone. No, no, no. But the thing is, what was the pressing about it
Starting point is 00:05:24 is the year before, remember, I was engaged. Right. Gage and I was, you know, having, I was thinking about that. Have you told your mom yet that you're not engaged? Yeah, yeah. Oh, you had a conversation. Don't go, yeah, yeah, yeah. Took you like nine months tell her. Yeah. Don't be like, of course, I told my mom. Well, I had to talk to her about some other stuff where, oh, and you're like, PS, I'm not engaged anymore. Are you like, oh mom, she's like, bye, bye. Oh, wait, mom, something else.
Starting point is 00:05:48 Yeah, not engaged. And then, yeah, I know. So last year was like Jolly time. Yeah, I was a little happy. I know. And then, that's so much this year. But whatever. But you know, good things to come.
Starting point is 00:06:00 It's new year coming. I'm thinking, you know, I'd be ready to be happy about somebody. Are you ready to settle down? No, I'm not ready to settle down to 2011, but it would be nice to meet someone. You know that feeling, that excitement, that newness, what you were probably feeling, last Thanksgiving, because you guys were together for five and a half minutes before you got engaged. I can't remember six. So anyway, no, but that newness, the excitement, I kind of think that'd be fun. And there's no one right now to do that with, but that's cool. But it's funny. I, um, anyway, no, but that new news, the excitement, I kind of think that'd be fun. And there's no one right now to do that with, but that's cool. But it's funny. I, um, so I was flying, you know, and everyone was like freaking out about all those patdowns at the airport.
Starting point is 00:06:33 Have you heard about that? Yes. And I got pated down and I didn't mind it. I think the vertical blot over it is so stupid. So stupid, but one of our sex in the news stories is just about that. And a man you wait to hear what happened to this man when he was being padded down. I think I know what story it is. It's crazy. It's crazy.
Starting point is 00:06:52 So, and then, so I was on the airplane flying and you know how you can, that's what you do. And you know, they have Wi-Fi and all the planes now. Yeah. So they, I was trying to get on sex with Emily and it was blocked. It said it was a porn slash adult site. Uh-oh. Adult pornography. They call this pornography, which we're so not. So I couldn't get on the site. But I it was a porn slash adult site adult pornography
Starting point is 00:07:05 they call this pornography which were so not so I couldn't get on the site but I did go on Facebook of course and I've never used Facebook chat before have you ever used Facebook chat yeah all the time you're like welcome to this it's like decade yeah but I just I have like you know so many for I don't I never do it so my friend was like he was like let's Facebook chat when we're both on the airplanes So I was like okay, so I turned it on and within about five minutes I had all these listeners that I've never met we're like hey, I love your show and I was just chatting with everybody like six windows open of all these people I know it was really cool
Starting point is 00:07:38 So I was thinking it got me thinking of our you stream show that we're gonna do at some point where people can Interact with us live see us on video watch us watch the show and we're going to do at some point where people can interact with us live, see us on video, watch us, watch the show, and we can interact and chat. I thought that would be good thing. Well, now everything's settled down. I mean, are you going to go out of town again? Nope. I'm not. I might go to Mexico over New Year's.
Starting point is 00:07:58 Cool. Cool. New Year's, I might be here or I might be in Las Vegas. Don't know yet. Okay. Ooh, Vegas is so, it's fun. Yeah, I'm trying in Las Vegas. Don't know yet. Okay. Oh Vegas is so is fun. Yeah I'm trying to see like this really exclusive party. It's cold play and Jay-Z. Oh my god. Yeah, that would be that is epic Yeah, so I'll find out soon. Oh my god. I would love to get into that. Okay. We should go. Maybe I won't go to Mexico
Starting point is 00:08:19 Yeah, so So that's it. So that's so I'm trying to know I was thinking about the holiday shopping thing. Luckily, I don't have to do that because my family doesn't do presents and stuff. But I was thinking this year that since we're doing, I'm actually, we're going to be reviewing some products now since it is the shopping season, the holiday season. We're going to be reviewing some specific sex toys every week, not starting next week. But I was thinking that a lot of people listen to the show because they're trying to improve their sex life. They want more sex, they want better sex, and so if you are in a relationship or even if you're not in a relationship, time to get a sex
Starting point is 00:08:54 toy. If you've never bought one and it's not just like a straight forward vibrator, but if you go to like Adam and Eve.com, which I hope you'll support Adam and Eve.com because they are an amazing sponsor and they'll give you deals. But basically, I'll tell you about that in a minute. But I thought, okay, you're trying to figure out which you get her for Christmas or him for Christmas or for the holidays. And I say go on there and get some sexy couples,
Starting point is 00:09:16 that's a thing, they have things for couples. There's these fun games that you can play and this is gonna sound really silly and don't laugh at me. But they're like, truth oryear games or tell me your bit. There's like card games where they say like tell me your number one fantasy or if you could do it and it kind of helps you open that dialogue with your partner if you get one of those games or you get like intimacy kits or bondage kits. There's really cool stuff you get.
Starting point is 00:09:38 So I think you should commit to getting something sexy for Christmas or the for the holidays of the partner. They have anal ring to us. They have everything honey and I will get you that. I want to know what you want. But listen, if you're interested, I would say go to AdamD.com. They've got this huge discount for sex family listeners. They throw in three adult DVDs and a free gift plus free shipping and you get 50% off of
Starting point is 00:09:58 most items to sex with Emily listeners. So all you have to do is put an Emily at checkout and you're golden and you can go there and the way they have it organized, you can shop by couples for her for him, most popular, if you find the whole sex toy thing overwhelming. Not that I'm a pusher, I'm just saying it's a fun thing to do. Oh, you are a pusher. You think I'm a pusher. You are. I'm getting you a masturbation sleeve or a popcorn or a vibrating ring. I can't decide. How's that? Sounds like a plan. Sounds like a plan, man. Okay, so we could do some sex in the news. Okay. How do you think about that? I am down for that. Okay. British paper invents a new word, the flexi sexual. The flexi sexual. The daily mail has
Starting point is 00:10:39 announced the dawn of the flexi sexual, a perceived increase of straight women who flirt with bisexuality. It's a new phenomenon that started with celebrities and now is affecting regular women. Trend alert, but this trend seems so familiar and not even trendy, does it? To illustrate the article, they talk about Madonna and Britney Spears when they're kissing a well back and they talk about when Angela and Angelina Jolie was in a relationship. And there's also other relationships, Lindsay Lohan, Drew Barrymore, Kate Perry, they've all talked about the other women so they're saying it's not really a trend
Starting point is 00:11:08 but it is a new word flexes sexual flexi sexual i don't love it but anyway it doesn't even rule out for tongue i can't even say there any had a word for this it's called bikerious by curious and it sounds way better right she's a little by curious they say the term can also identify a woman a girl that is Bisexual only on the weekends or a person who is flexible in their sexual orientation. I like women that are like that
Starting point is 00:11:34 They're very you say that but I don't believe you why because I don't believe that if a woman was like I want to hook up with another woman in front of you that you be into that Why wouldn't I be have you ever done that? I? I've had girls not like go all the way right, but that's fine. Okay, I've almost locked down three So I know the almost three some the almost almost you almost had a three zone. Oh my god I've had one I've had one or two and I actually ran into the guy last night. There's so many parties So many holiday parties this year. I'll be going to I'm trying to get out going out getting away from my computer, but I saw the guy that years ago I had this three so I hadn't seen him and it was just so weird because I know that it was like this weird Experience that we had this one night. We were used to be good friends and I saw him and I was like, oh my god
Starting point is 00:12:20 Remember we're at this formal cocktail party and it was just this funny thing He's like married with his wife. I'm like, we had a three-some-per-an-zang thing. Wow. Wow, how about that? I know I'm so crazy. My sister-in-law, so she's pretty conservative. She's not conservative at all, but they're like,
Starting point is 00:12:35 you know, traditional. Yeah. Married three kids, so she was like, tell me about, you know, my, she's been my brother for like, you know, 15 years and she's like, tell me, tell me your stories. Like, what goes on? I'm like, oh my God, people think I'm so crazy brother for like 15 years and she's like, tell me your stories. Like, what goes on? I'm like, oh my God, I people think I'm so crazy
Starting point is 00:12:48 and not that crazy. I'm like, well, I guess about a threesome and I've hooked up with different people and done different things and she was kind of shocked by the stuff I told them. She was like, oh my God, I know, I'm like, now you think I'm a horror. Do you have a like your Facebook page and think, God, I've suffered a lot of these people?
Starting point is 00:13:04 I, yeah. But it's weird because last week, you make your own category for them. Yeah, exactly. It can be like people I've asked. Yeah. People I want to ask. But no, not that there's so many. But I was thinking I was like, I'm friends with every guy dated in college, every guy I've dated ever really. But they're all, we're all friends on Facebook. There's no bad endings. I'm always a good ending of a relationship person. So we say friends. And even if we're all friends on Facebook. There's no bad endings. I'm always a good ending of a relationship person So we say friends and even if we're not friends or Facebook friends. I was like that's kind of odd like I've had you know They're their penis was inside of me and now their Facebook and seeing what I'm doing every day But I haven't talked to them 15 years, but we weren't intimate once for five minutes. Yeah
Starting point is 00:13:38 Anyway, I just wanted to share that okay anyway man arrested here. We go you probably heard this one man arrested after ejaculating during TSA Pat Down. Yes, I did hear this. A 47-year-old gay man was arrested, of course, at San Francisco International Airport, right here in our hometown, after ejaculating while being pated down by a male TSA agent. Percy Cummings, an interior designer from San Francisco, is being held without bail after the alleged incident, charging, charged with sexually assaulting a federal agent. So basically what happened is he has multiple piercings on his manhood,
Starting point is 00:14:11 which were detected during the body scan. As a result, he was policied for a pet down. They stated that the TSA agent spent an inordinate amount of time groping, and apparently this guy became sexually arousedoused and he has a history of sexual dysfunction whatever that means and he ejaculated while the agent's hands was feeling the piercings and they and they put him in jail and handcuffed him and threw him to the ground. Can you blame him though? Can you control that stuff? I mean he was getting turned on. Yeah. He's got piercings. They were stimulating them. And
Starting point is 00:14:45 they're saying he's a history of sexual dysfunction. How do they know that? They don't know that. Why are they saying that? What do you mean? They're like he's got a history of sexual dysfunction. Maybe he's something like a partner. Well, maybe he has a, maybe, pretty much her ejaculation maybe. Yeah, not like a predator or anything. I'm just like, you know, maybe he's a pro. Maybe he's a, maybe he's a one minute wonder and So we did that I don't know this whole I don't know how you feel about the CSA thing I don't I don't care if you will get upset with me about oh What I have to say is
Starting point is 00:15:16 Look, it's you're not gonna die from a body scan, you know If somebody you get scanned and you have a small weiner, you're, you're not going to die. If somebody touches you, you're not going to die. You know what you're going to die from? What? If somebody takes over a goddamn plane and then takes it down, then you will die. I don't.
Starting point is 00:15:35 And then my friends like, oh, well, the fourth amendment. Okay, you know what? It is America. You don't have to fly. They're to have things called cars. Right. If you don't want to get pat, if you don't want to get pat it down, take one of those. Yeah, and they pay you down to rock concerts all the time. You know, don't they? Come on. I know people.
Starting point is 00:15:51 So many people just want to bitch and complain about it. I know. They feel violated. But it's probably people who haven't been touched in a long time in their uptide about it. It makes Americans look so bad. Are we the only ones complaining? We are we are the only ones complaining We look so depressed. I think everyone needs a little Pat down. You know what most people I know could use a good Pat down Yeah, right? Yeah, I'm sorry people get upset and offended like You know what there's other means of transportation if you don't like it. That's alright. I agree I didn't I told you I liked it. It was so funny
Starting point is 00:16:21 I put on my Facebook I was being feeling very Facebook Studies, Tennessee and chatty and how is it bad that this guy orgasmed? Well, that's just kind of not that sanitary and probably offensive if there are children in line like what happened there But I'm sure he's not getting so was the guy what I want to understand is was he ejaculated? I don't know. Was the guys hands down his peon was the guys hand touching his genitals? They have a tight run as general piercings like a pack down I mean you may be over the underwear and then they felt that he ejaculated I mean, I know we're getting a little detail here, but I don't I want to understand it more Should we call this guy you listen San Francisco? Another thing. I don't even know the story issue. They haven't even confirmed it on
Starting point is 00:16:59 I heard about it the other day. Oh, I sounds like it could be. It sounds like some internet-hocus-pocus that San Francisco would make up to put it there. Or only in San Francisco's kind of story. Yeah. Like, of course, it happens. OK, sex quiz has teacher in hot water. This teacher is an idiot. OK, I'm sorry.
Starting point is 00:17:19 I'm not, I never say that. But really, how could she think this is OK? Even I, who am very liberal sexually, she, you know, about, I think, that we need better sex education in school. So she's a sex teacher, right? In school, she teaches sex education. She gave the students a sexually explicit quiz.
Starting point is 00:17:37 These are like grade eight students. It was a sexually explicit multiple choice test that included questions about anal sex, lesbian encounters, and penis sizes. One of the questions was, do blacks have bigger penises? Or if they've agreed that all sexual positions are comfortable. I talked about sperm, anal sex, sex, and lesbians. How does this help sex education students? I don't know. So the teachers are living in our own exam and gave this to eighth graders. Wow, man. You know sex, like I didn't even know about that until like yesterday. Yeah. It took me a while.
Starting point is 00:18:09 I just found out. I'm like, what is that? So anyway, the teacher's been convicted prematurely and she's been convicted and was telling teens, she says she was only telling teens about sexual issues. They're already seeing on the internet and talking about the school yard. She says the sexual practice like sodomy and phalacio are not formed at 13 year olds and the situation no more about it. We had another story last week about some teachers doing something too sexual with these kids. It's bad enough that sex is everywhere. I think sex education is really important but you just
Starting point is 00:18:33 got to get someone in place who knows what they're talking about. Yeah and you got to get approved by parents. I'm sorry. And I hate to be I hate to be one of those people because I hate the soccer moms who blow everything out of proportion about every little thing But still you know what it's people's kids and they should have the choice on how to You don't want to come and be like what's anal sex? Yeah, it's inflation until I know it's already bad enough like even with my nieces who are 11 One niece is 11 and she saw my sex with Emily Page because she was using my laptop
Starting point is 00:19:07 and she's like, why did you name your show that? Like, she doesn't quite get sex at my brother almost killed me because he's trying to hide it from her but one day she'll Google her aunt and figure out what I do. But she's like, what? I don't why, which was, did you get to pick the name? Is she asked me?
Starting point is 00:19:21 I'm like, yeah, I picked it all by myself. Let's change the page right now. Okay, study, does the pill lower your sex drive? So they've been saying for a long time that women who take the hormonal birth control have less interest in sex. And one theory is that the combination of the birth control pills, which contains estrogen and progesterone, lowers the levels of circulating testosterone in the body, thus lowering their libidos.
Starting point is 00:19:43 But researchers tested 50 sexually active women who used a combined combination of oral contraceptive with just the progestin, progestin. And the combination is not to dampen the libido, okay. So basically they found out, I'm sorry, they found out that women who used the pill were better educated and more likely to never have been pregnant compared to those
Starting point is 00:20:03 who using the only pedestrian. So anyway, sorry, I'm not reading this very well. The point is, the story is that they're saying that they always blame you not the pill, but it has to do with these other factors. Besides that. Yeah, because I thought that too. Like, when I was in the pill for a really long time,
Starting point is 00:20:17 which I wasn't, they always said that it's, oh, it lowers your libido at low, your libido, but they're saying that there's different kinds of pills, and it doesn't mean it. It means that people who have long time use the birth control, it could just be bored them with their same partner. That could have explained. There's this magical potion that's out there. It's called Patron Silver. And if you give it to Orman, I guarantee you a problem. Female Vagra, we're just doing funny. We actually, one of our emails today from listeners
Starting point is 00:20:42 to me back is about eGay Meets Killer S.P. Yeah, because I think I always say that. one of our emails today from listeners to me back is about you gave me a tequila recipe. Really? Yeah, because I think I always say that. How do you read these? You didn't read what? I know you're so fessant. Yes. What were you saying?
Starting point is 00:20:52 You said you had people emailing you. Oh, I had quite a few females him, you have recently from the show. From the show. From the show on Facebook and Twitter and stuff like that. But every single female has a boyfriend. How do you know? It just says on there. Oh, because they they hit you up.
Starting point is 00:21:10 You're like, she's cute. You go to their status. They're like, oh, I love you on the show. Love it. Maybe they just love you. Yeah, I love you. They didn't say I love you. I want to suck your.
Starting point is 00:21:20 No, no, no, but I just like check them out. And it's like, and then they have a boyfriend It's like I'm not really interested in thank you for like in the show So men is saying if you don't have a boyfriend you should hit them up. Yeah, but if you have a boyfriend That's cool email Exactly you know me. I like it better read them all but I don't answer them all I answer them on the show But I don't even I have to stay here because some people are new listeners so that I don't actually email people back. I read your letter email on the show. So I always want to email back but I don't. And I'm halfway joking too. The thing that just weirds me out is when the girls go on my page
Starting point is 00:22:00 and say how much they love me and all this stuff and have boyfriends and their boyfriends can obviously see that they're writing on my wall but you're an entertainer so they're just maybe they don't want to get in your pants they're just saying they love you. Yeah but not every woman wants to get in your pants you love them. No no no I'm not saying that either I'm just saying I don't want to deal with the boyfriend that doesn't understand. Right. Oh you're afraid you're gonna get a knock at the door one day or something. I'm not gonna get a knock at the door, but I'm gonna get some guy that doesn't get it
Starting point is 00:22:30 and he's gonna message me and I'm gonna have to delete his message. Okay, okay, honey. I just don't wanna do that extra effort to do it. So if you guys have a crush, okay, so for the women you have a crush on, man, it's easy to leave now. I'm gonna crush on me.
Starting point is 00:22:43 It's just, if you have a boyfriend, don't like hit me up on Facebook so your boyfriend can see it. Right, and don't send. You can send naked. We'll give you a phone number. You can just send naked. Because obviously, if you have a boyfriend, you're not going to do anything with me.
Starting point is 00:22:55 You know, maybe you never know. 50% of us do it. I want to do it. 50% of people do it. I don't want to do anything with any girl that has a work. Are you so easy with right now? Sorry, we didn't we have to cover this every week. Who am I sleeping with right now? Sorry, we didn't, we have to cover this every week. Who am I sleeping with right now?
Starting point is 00:23:05 I am sleeping with somebody in the building. That girl that just walked by when we were walking in. No, no, no, no. She's cute. No, that's somebody else. No, I'm not sleeping with. Someone else who's up with? Mm-hmm.
Starting point is 00:23:17 Do you sleep with her? No. Oh, so you're sleeping with someone in the building? That's good. Yeah. Cause you never leave the building. Oh, yeah. Do you sleep with her in the building. No, okay keep it keep it close
Starting point is 00:23:25 Yeah, why not okay? Just talking on and I'm not really Sibbub with anyone just say no why not? Because I'm not the guy who's dating in San Francisco. I'm not dating anymore and LA guy I haven't seen Why? Because I've been really busy Why? Um, because I've been really busy. JetBlue has some awesome deals, by the way.
Starting point is 00:23:46 If you follow them, I'm not endorsing them, did they're not a sponsor? They should be. But if you follow on Twitter, twitter.com slash cheaps jet blue, our jet blue cheaps, they got awesome deals, really? They fly L.A. They're like ten, you can fly to L.A. for ten dollars. Wow. It's crazy. That is crazy. That's what it used to be. That's what it should be. Yes, but I'm interested in um someone else wants to fix me up. They're gonna fix me up when we for the show. Okay, on a day and
Starting point is 00:24:15 a blind date when we're filming our TV show. Okay. Yeah, so that could be interesting. They're like scouting out people. Really? Yeah. A whole whole wholeastic thing. I wish I could be a part of that. You want to be my date? Huh? You want to be a casting? I'll be your date. I'll be part of the casting. I'll be part of the I would interview these people. Oh my god. I wonder if you could pick out a guy for me. That would be awesome. I'll pick out the best
Starting point is 00:24:38 guy for you. But you probably wouldn't like him because he would be so awesome. You think I don't like awesome? Huh? You think I don't like awesome? You think I don't like awesome? I think you're afraid of awesome. No, I love it. I want awesome. I live for awesome.
Starting point is 00:24:50 I think you're awesome. And then awesome is going to be too comfortable. And then you're going to go into the boat of getting afraid and sabotaging. Do you really think that's my issue? You just summed me up. I sabotaged because I'm afraid. Yes. Still after all this years. Yes. I don't think so. I think whatever. We're not going to analyze you right now. No time to analyze me right now because it's exhausting and it hurts my head.
Starting point is 00:25:18 Okay. Let's do some emails from listeners. Thanks everyone for emailing me feedback at sexfamily.com. Hello, I just listened to episode 184 and was shocked at how far behind the shows are, which they're not. It's always a week behind. Is it always that way? I only noticed because you got y'all were talking about the World Series. There wasn't much parting here in Dallas to say to these, but we were the champions. And San Francisco, I feel it's necessary to comment.
Starting point is 00:25:41 I'll admit, I swallow. It's much too messy if you don't, because I'm out of my element. I don't want to go too hard or too soft, but on that same note, I always gladly welcome manual stimulation from my partner. I wonder what you think of showering after seeing the show? I wonder what you think of showering after seeing the show? I wonder what you think of showering after seeing the show? I wonder what you think of showering after seeing my partner. I wonder what you think of showering after sex. For me, I'm super uncomfortable if I don't. We get sweaty and I usually get pretty wet,
Starting point is 00:26:15 and the last thing I want is to curl up and cuddle with another sweaty person. Is there such a thing as a shower too soon? I seem to remember sex in a city episode with a plotline like this. Don't get me wrong. I love cuddling, but I'd like to be clean. Is there an appropriate time to shower after sex? Then resume cuddling. I feel a little insensitive just jumping right into the shower. I am from Dallas, Texas I download your podcast through iTunes and I think Venice is a total cutie smiley. Thank you I look forward to your input and love the show Amanda not if you see me right now. I haven't slept for 24 hours. What does that mean?
Starting point is 00:26:46 When you came down in the elevator, I thought you looked really cute today. Really? I think you look handsome. I think you're growing into your own. Thank you. I think you look handsome. I'm getting out of the awkward face where I can go a little bit older.
Starting point is 00:26:58 Exy look older. A little bit older. You were like a little kid when I met you. Yeah. Now you're all grown up. Then you took advantage and made me a man. I did, didn't I? I made you go, were you fast? Okay, so first of all, she's swallowing, let's break this down. So swallowing his message, she admits that swallowing
Starting point is 00:27:12 a man's seamen, she'd like to be more intimate with that person and it's not just something you do on the first day on hand jobs. She's not that comfortable because she's out of her element. Honey, use a lot of lube. It's not hard. Use Amanda, just get some lube and move your hands up and down. And if anybody knows lube, it would be your- Circle your hands. Lube is, you guys, when you go to Adam and Eve and you get your special, get lube. Lube is amazing.
Starting point is 00:27:37 OK. So, and the showering after sex, it's so funny that you say this Amanda, because I actually dated a guy who compulsively always had the shower after sex. It was weird. He had this beautiful house in this bathroom that was like all marble and two headed shower. And so we were like showers and ends, but it was almost like he got up a little too fast. And I think that's your question. You're like, I know that you're going to want a shower. And I don't think there's anything
Starting point is 00:27:57 wrong with that. But he did it literally. He would like, like, we'd have sex and he'd come, you know, he'd be like, uh, uh, and then you know the shower going, shh, like he didn't even wait, like, has his orgasm and gets up, that was too soon. I like the sky. He was compulsive though, his entire apartment was like spotless and he was like epically clean and he was just whatever. But the point is, I thought that was a little too much,
Starting point is 00:28:20 but I have, I did other people where it's like cool, like it's okay if you lay around afterwards and then maybe after 10 minutes you get up. But if you get up like the second after it kind of and I've had women say to me too that they they've dated men who want to get up and they're like is that weird and I think there's a there it's a timing thing that you have to be gentle about it, but there's nothing wrong with the one in the shower after slippery hot sex. Hmm. Do you have the middle on it? Or a shower take a shower during sex. Yeah, that's awesome That is in the dark to dark that you could slip and fall. I don't sounds very do it. It's check it out You're like you do it in the shower in the dark at the W hotel
Starting point is 00:28:59 I'm staying at the ocean you are tonight. Tonight. No, wait. How wait a minute. Why would you be doing that if you live in this city? Because I have a friend in town. Oh, I forgot to have him sex. Well, I'm not. But tonight I will. Tonight I will. Oh, really?
Starting point is 00:29:16 It's just an ex, he's in town. Oh, really? Yeah. So you just give it up that easy to an ex? Yeah, because he doesn't count because. How does he not count? He doesn't count because. And I don not count? He doesn't count because, and I don't know that we're gonna have sex.
Starting point is 00:29:27 Is he from a Southern California? I'm just asking. Why don't you just get it over with and just get back with this guy? Oh, because I don't want it at all. We don't want to be together, but we love each other. Like here's the thing.
Starting point is 00:29:38 I'm not committed relationship right now. I love this guy. We broke up years ago. We're good friends, sometimes we hang out. We might not even sleep together. We might just hang out and watch a movie. Yeah, that's serious. I'm serious I've got a party to go to. I'm not gonna seem to late. I don't know whatever. So I am saying at the W tonight I'm not gonna seem to late. Yeah, you know, because I be honest the hours where I'm intoxicated. Let me be honest
Starting point is 00:29:59 I see him. I am going to party. I Really like I know women like flip it around like it's not that bad I see him. I am going to party. I really like to stay. I'm not like. I knew women like flip it around like it's not that bad. Because it would, I, okay. I really like the W. He's gonna be of the W. I really like the W.
Starting point is 00:30:14 They have bliss products. Yeah. And I love bliss products. And I love the beds. And I love the like the jam in the morning and ordering room service. We have fun. We have fun.
Starting point is 00:30:24 I love the place. Love it. So I have forgot, but I have the fun. We have fun. I love the place. Love it. So I have forgot, but I'm saying there tonight. It's slipped my mind. Yeah. All right. Yeah, you're not watching a movie. We might.
Starting point is 00:30:36 I don't know. We're not. It's a very interesting relationship that I've recreated now because it's like he's my ex, but we're really good friends. We talk all the time. Like I'm like, he tells me about his dates and he's dating and it's cool and we're just friends Yeah, Emily what bad idea. Why why is it a bad idea?
Starting point is 00:30:57 Why is it bad idea? Yeah Because why don't you get some new? Well because there isn't a lot of new stuff happening around here new strange out there new strange You know why I'm open to it. I'm open to it. I haven't seen him in months and months and months Yeah, so what abs? Okay, okay, look you know what? I'm not gonna stop you you want to come by the W Yes, I know I know you want to come to our room and I'm gonna be watching a movie They have awesome martini list there. Oh good. Yeah, it's fun I love the W fun hotel. Yes fun martini's fun products. Okay
Starting point is 00:31:31 Let's move on Emily if I ever were to ejaculate on my wife's face I would need her to tell me she wanted it that way convincingly personally going all the way in her mouth Is about the best feeling ever it is hard to explain but the best orgasms I have ever experienced are from Oral. A BJ is so intense and satisfying, I imagine ejaculating on a woman's face can make a huge mess. Eyes, nose, hair. I guess if a woman is not comfortable taking into the mouth, then a facial is a hot option.
Starting point is 00:31:59 Love the show, love the interviews with guests. I listen through iTunes and occasionally on Stitcher. Evesign E-B. So oral sex he yeah he likes to orgasm in her mouth. He's not into the face thing but he said if she wanted it he would do it. Okay. We've had a lot of comments about the edge of where we're to ejaculate. This is like the new hand job debate. And now does every guy agree that it's awesome? No he just said that he doesn't think it's awesome. No, he just said that he doesn't think it's awesome. No, he's halfway saying that it's awesome.
Starting point is 00:32:28 He said personally, personally, you know what, if she wants it, you know, if she's down, I guess I'll do it. Yeah, come on. No, he's being serious. He's like, there is nothing like the feeling of me ejaculating in her mouth. That's what he said.
Starting point is 00:32:44 And that is the best feeling for you. Well he doesn't know because he hasn't done the other one yet. It's not that great. How's it not? I mean men are visuals so it's hot but it's not like it feels does it feel better? Doesn't feel better? For you personally then woman would you rather would you rather ejaculate on her face? She can't ejaculate your face and swallow.
Starting point is 00:33:05 It's gone. You have to choose. Would you rather have her? You have to play the game. Would you rather? You have to dispense it equally. That's fast. You're going to go like coming around, coming to face.
Starting point is 00:33:18 Yes. We're getting so dirty. Today, are we getting really dirty? We're getting a little dirty. Oh my god. We'd like to keep it classy. But whatever, if you want to talk about facials I'm a dirty. Today, are we getting really dirty? We're getting a little dirty. Oh my God. We like to keep it classy, but whatever. If you want to talk about facials for the next half hour, that's fine.
Starting point is 00:33:31 Oh my God. The airlines was right. I am a pornography site. Yes. Emily and Menace. I thoroughly enjoy your podcast. Emily, you've stated men to often follow the same sexual routine. I think it'd be great from time to time if you wrote a brief, maybe even numbered alternative sexual
Starting point is 00:33:48 routine that you are your woman or you are the woman you talk to suggest as enjoyable and exciting. You could read them from time to time on air as a writer feature. Your interviews with real women could include a question along the slide. In addition, I think it'd be great addition to your show for you to interview experienced men who are actively dating in different age groups about their experiences. Keep up the energy and curiosity. You and Menace are a great team, Alex. Thanks, Alex.
Starting point is 00:34:12 I think that's great. I do talk about two women about their, on the shows that I do with women, which I'm going to be doing a lot more of those, that I do get into these in-depth conversations with them about what you like, what you like. But maybe specifically, if I had a woman say say if I asked her what is the hottest section? What can and what move can a man do that is so hot and kind of break it down?
Starting point is 00:34:34 I mean, I think we talked about that stuff, but but I that would be interesting like to hear a play by play Yeah, for example, so my one of us friends she's my best friend We were meeting for coffee last week, and she had just gotten back from a night with her new boyfriend, her new man, a new session. And she was like, my vagina is on strike. And I was like, what do you mean? She's like, we've had so much sex in the last whatever. Basically, she had vagina is on strike because they had so much sex and she was in pain.
Starting point is 00:35:00 But she said that he did the hottest thing to her and it rocked her world. And it was so funny because it is the number one thing that I always say women want. And in fact, I'm going to be honest, I want this more and it never happens. What are you going to know? You can't guess it. I can go for it. Go for it. What are you gonna know? You can't guess it. I can't guess it. Guess it. Oral sex. No. Because that's what you breach like 95% of the time. Let me guess. Making out. No. Or he caresses your your breasts. He just kissed your neck for a half hour. He teased her. Oh God. And he lose. Sorry. He teased her. He said Emily, it was so hot. He did this thing where he pulled my legs apart. So okay, this is for Alex Alex. Here's a good here's a good breakdown.
Starting point is 00:35:59 He pulled her legs, you know, women. We talk like this. She told me everything over coffee at 9 a.m. on Sunday morning. He pulled her legs apart and he wouldn't really touch her. He just sort of like teased her like he was about to and maybe he would touch her gently like outside of her origin of zones, but not in it. And then he kept pulling back and she wanted it made it build so much that she wanted him so badly that she's like, I was so wet, I was so turned on. And it was like, she's like, I don't know what he did. I'm like, he teased you. She goes, yeah, that's what it is.
Starting point is 00:36:30 I'm like, that's what he did. That is the anticipation. That's what women want. Not all women, not every time, nuts and can't do a million other acts, sex acts, but the teasing of the like tying her up or holding her arms back and getting close enough but not quite doing it yet
Starting point is 00:36:46 Rather than just ripping down your pants and sticking it in could you tease please for a while That's what I got to say okay Reverse the girl teasing the guys aren't as in teasing. I don't think although I had some girl trying to do the whole teasing thing And I really just wanted to kick her out of my house. Seriously, why? Because you were just like, get it over with. Yeah, just like, come on. All right, this is stupid. Really?
Starting point is 00:37:12 Stop. Okay. Yeah. Yeah, some guys are into it. Some guys are into it. Some guys are not into it. I get that, but it's a highly female thing since our brain is our largest sex organ, blah, blah, blah. We get to know that.
Starting point is 00:37:22 And the most complicated. Seriously, most complicated. Seriously most complicated. Okay so this is something funny that okay this is this is this is another suggestion for a show topic. Okay. And I think this is interesting. So tell me what you guys think of this. I think Emily you should do a special episode all about the topic of booty calls or the
Starting point is 00:37:42 worst drunk dial stories or worst late night plus alcohol plus X sex stories like the dumbest things people do when they get drunk and try to call the ex-girlfriend a boyfriend 11 p.m And so like that the whole world of reconnecting with X's can make a good show and you could ask people So if you have any crazy stories about Hook it up late night. Do you ever do anything dumb? I text I have two drinks and I text the one person in a month's text, don't you? Oh yeah, all the time. We always did. I did. I did text this one girl recently though that I always wanted to ask out a date when I was intoxicated. This is about a month ago because I haven't drank for about a month. Oh, how's it going? It's fine. I can cut off stuff easily, but um, she said yeah she goes, yeah, let's go out. I want to go out. That's
Starting point is 00:38:26 what I saw. I've gone out there. So I need to. Why? It's a busy, busy, busy, busy, busy. You're sitting with a girl in the building. Yeah. Okay, Emily Menace, I've been listening for a few months, randomly found you in iTunes, and when I was looking for something new to listen to, and I have to say, you're very entertaining. I want to comment on the foot fetish conversation from episode 184. I'm a big fan of girly girls, a girl that takes care of herself. It's a combination of style, makeup, smelly, nice, and having her nails done on both her hands and feet.
Starting point is 00:38:53 When I see those toes done, there's nothing better. It's a beautiful sight. I always notice a girl's shoes in her feet because it really shows me her level of attention to herself. I went from JD and girl who do our makeup perfume or having her nails done to one that does all the above and more. And it's just such a turn on when the shoes come off and there's a beautiful color on the
Starting point is 00:39:09 toes. Keep up the great work, Jerry, in California. There's a little foot fetish there. A little foot fetish there. That's what we were asking about. Menace is perplexed by the foot fetish. I still haven't had one person. There's actually another one that we're going to read on the next show about foot fetishes.
Starting point is 00:39:23 But let's get into some sex tips right now. Okay. Wow, time is flying by. I know. Isn't it an amazing time fly when you're doing your favorite thing that you ever want to do in your lifetime? Yes. This is the best.
Starting point is 00:39:33 Okay. Eight tips for using your vibrator for the first time. I don't know if we're going to get through all eight, but we're going to get to some of them. First, you have to sit. This is the first time you've gotten a vibrator, right? And you haven't used it. So set the mood. So make sure you've gotten a vibrator, right? And you haven't used it. So set the mood. So make sure
Starting point is 00:39:45 you've some pride. This is like if you're alone, like start so for a woman or a guy, I don't know the guys are buying vibrators, but find yourself a comfortable space for you people, technology or things that might interrupt, indulge in the little things that generally get you in the mood, music, dim lights, porn, chocolate, whatever you need to feel sexy. This is more for women. Because we, it's true, you need to spend time alone with yourself and make it sexy. And your vibrator. Beginning manually, warm up your body and stones with your own fingers. Not only will this smooth your transition to the more intense buzzing of a vibrator, but it will also re familiarize you with your
Starting point is 00:40:18 personal anatomy. Pin point, you're clitoris, map out your loval lips, explore your vagina, rediscover what feels good. So remember I told you about the woman that I held by a bunch of sex toys for last week. And she had never had a vibrator, and I haven't talked to her, but I wasn't gonna be like, how was it? But there's a lot of people who have never used it, and if you've never used one,
Starting point is 00:40:37 it really is an intense experience the first time. So you should just take it slow and warm up. Oh, you just don't jump right in with the rabbit. Don't jump right in with the rabbit. The rabbit is not a good one to begin with, I don't think, but it's a good one to go with. You should get your girlfriend a rabbit for Christmas, three out of me. Yeah, it's like why I kid it like, you know, and then just do instructions one, two, and three. Exactly. Yeah. And they have beginner vibrators too. Okay, do a test run. Be loud before allowing contact between your sensitive areas and your
Starting point is 00:41:05 toy when your vibrator through its paces. If it has multiple speser settings, allow it to rest on each level for a few seconds, familiarize yourself with it. Okay, next, establish primary contact on the slowest speed. Slowly allow your vibrator head towards more responsive anatomical ground, whether it's your inner thighs or vaginal lips. So yeah, you can move it all over your body and it feels really good.
Starting point is 00:41:29 Yeah, it's turned on talking about that. So I'm gonna go home and use my vibrator. We're towards clitoral orgasm, okay? So a lot of vibrators are just for clitoral stimulation because they're not, you can't insert them, but a lot of women just come through their clitoris, which I'm sure you know. Yes, they're both.
Starting point is 00:41:44 If you come to a resting here, which I'm sure you know. Yes. If you're comfortable resting here, which I certainly endorse, and continuing external exploration of your Rajasna zones, this step could be your last. Experiment with changing the settings and the speeds of your toy while applying very pressures to your clitoris and allowing a rouse of a build. Remember to relax, breathe, and relish
Starting point is 00:41:59 in the sensations and power of your body. Due to their breath, it's so important to orgasm like a lot of women. If you're a woman listening to this, or important to orgasm? Like a lot of women, if you're if you're a woman listening to this or you are with a woman a lot of times, we tense up and we don't breathe and that actually prohibits us from having an orgasm. You have to breathe. Do you breathe a lot during sex? Yeah, of course. I feel like you're breath you cut off oxygen to your brain. I think I do that a lot. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:42:24 throughout the day and probably during a sex because I'm always like stressed or talking really fast. How about we do a test? I want to do a test. Can I recommend a test? Yeah. The oh my bod, right? That's the one that you hook up to your iPod.
Starting point is 00:42:37 Yeah. Download this new album that I'm obsessed with is called the Swedish House Mafia. OK. It's like a dance. Tell me how that goes for you. Okay. You think it's going to be give it the oh my bad.
Starting point is 00:42:49 I believe it would be. Which is a vibrator. Okay. That's good to know. You can, I think you can get an I'm, oh my bad, Adam and Eve, you should check it out. It's a great present. Yes. Okay.
Starting point is 00:42:58 Yes. Swedish house mafia. Introduce internal vibration. So then you can slip it inside and you can test it out. And see if you like it. You can try there's, there's a special vibrator that adjusts for your G spot. If you've had a problem finding it or you've never found it, you can slip it inside and you can test it out and see if you like it you can try There's special vibrators that are just for your g spot if you've had a problem finding it Or you've never found it you can get these vibrators that are curved in a special way that can help you and they might have GPS And they might have GPS and it help you find a g spot. Oh, it might be a GPS to your g spot. Is that what you might?
Starting point is 00:43:20 Do that would be awesome Because I don't know it's fine. I'm sure by By 2012 they'll have a GPS right to your g spot. You would be awesome because I don't know it's fine. I'm sure by 2012 they'll have a GPS right to a G spot you would be awesome if you could give that to a guy and be like Find my GPS. Here's my terrorist. Here's my Roger's zone here. Download this app We should have an app for all your your Roger's zones on your body And then you could help someone find them and then you don't have to have the embarrassing conversation of being like touch my nipple and then you could help someone find them, and then you don't have to have the embarrassing conversation or being like touch my nipple.
Starting point is 00:43:45 There you go. Think for play, just as you need to experiment with the different settings and features of your vibrator, you and your partner will want to do the same. Allow him or her to test out the different settings on a less sensitive body part before jumping straight to your sexual organs. Once you're both familiar with the different sensations
Starting point is 00:44:01 the toys can create, urge him or her slowly and carefully to explore other erogenous zones. Treat this initial use as an adventure. Now here's how you use it during penetration, sex-toid during penetration. It can help create the multifaceted pleasure that many women crave, allowing for both tutorial and vaginal orgasms. So during penetration, press the vibrator. There's these little vibrators you can use.
Starting point is 00:44:23 A gentrific clitoris where your partner continues his or her thrusting motions. Or, switch things up and insert the vibrator inside while your partner provides manual oral stimulation. Be creative, enjoy, communicate, and experiment. Report back to me. Let me know how that goes. Some youth is through you. I've got this got me to think last week, this woman never had a vibrator. She was like 55. I was like, okay, some people have never had one. And it's Christmas time. And people should buy it holidays time by text toys. Okay, that's good. I know. I think we're good here. Time is running out. Time is running out. All right, everyone. Man, that's where we find you. A white menistocker. Okay, good.
Starting point is 00:44:57 Okay, thanks everyone for listening to the show. I love you. I'm grateful for you on this Thanksgiving post Thanksgiving. Grateful for everybody. Thanks so much for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithemily.com. Hi, I'm Emily from Sex with Emily. Check out my new vibrator store at sexwithemilyovodotcom to check out vibes as low as $15 from the Germany company Ovo.
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