Sex With Emily - SWE: Why Aren't You Naked Yet?

Episode Date: April 25, 2012

You can't have sex without taking your clothes off, but the importance of undressing is often underappreciated. Emily walks you through the art of going bare, from dealing with bra straps and buttons to awkward male strip teases.'Carmaggedon' and its effect on Los Angelean vaginas, Vladimir Putin fights tigers and keeps his wife in a castle so he can bang models. Jack Rabbit sex gets a bad rap as it should and Menace compares Emily’s and Albert Einstein's brains. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Music Look into his eyes Then the eyes of a man obsessed by sex Eyes that mark our secret institutions Betrubized they call them a lie-gone name Hey, Emily, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken He thinks you're kinda cute

The girls gotta understand it's a lie The women know about shrinkage Isn Isn't it common all the way? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks. Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm so dumb. Being bad feels pretty good.

But you know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex, relationships, everything in between. For more information go to sexwithemily.com or EmilyMorse.com, where you can listen to all of our shows, our podcasts, our reader blogs, and improve your sex life. What's up, men? What's going on? Happy day.

Yeah, it is a happy day, except for before I got here. I went, I was hungry, but I didn't want to just like grab any old meal. I want to treat myself to a better meal that I usually get right So I go next store It was delicious. It was this called this place called Eddie Rickenbockers. Oh, yeah, we gone there before And the only thing is I hate this and I don't I've never I never do this But I went in eight by myself. Oh, you never do that never do that

I hate it. I hate it and it's weird because you know, I had two different waiters too So they go oh are you here by yourself? Yes, I'm here by myself party one party one Then the other way it comes by. Oh, well, it just be you today. Yes. It will just be me. I am the only one is that weird No, it's not weird at all. I just hate it. I hate it too because it makes you feel alone. I would have joined you. I know, but the pure was you wanted to eat it.

I'd eat. I just had three things of licorice, still licorice. But I'm going to eat it. It was a delicious meal. I had prawns and spaghetti. No, good for you. It was so good. Oh, sometimes I need to treat myself too.

Yeah. Besides frozen burritos and stuff from my freezer, I tried to. I know I'm gonna do that. I might go to that Japanese place. That's right next door to the place that you went. Really? Yeah, thinking about that,

because I am very hungry today, which is why I just ate three pieces of stale licorice. So today's show, we're gonna be talking about undressing. How do I address the woman in a man? Why it's important, what to do about it? How to do a strip tease? How to get that goddamn broth, all that stuff?

And we're gonna talk about five things you should never say to a woman if we have time. We'll get to that. And then we also have your emails and the sex in the news. Today's show is brought to you by Jimmy Jane. Use coupon code spring for $25 off purchases of $100 or more. Go to sexomew.com, you can check out my Emily's picks page on Jimmy Jane. We love Jimmy Jane. They make amazing products.

They're great gifts if you want to get your partner or a present. They make amazing vibrators. We love the Form 3. I love their cock ring. They're vibrating iconic ring is what it's called. And we know we love their massage candles because it's a great device to spice up your relationship. You give a massage. You pour the wax. It's not too hot on the body that turns into delicious massage oil. One thing I can say that I know about Emily Morris, well two things.

She's big with the candle wax burning and the caulking. If she doesn't incorporate those together. There should be a cockering and then on top of the cockering, like a little candle that you can light. And then I think that would be perfect for you because as the candle is burning all over your body, the cockering will be perfect. Well, I think I want to do the massage first because they're massage candles. So you massage your partner and then you grab it from your night stand. Yeah.

I then then you put the ring on and have it in a car. What is conquering with the little candle on top? You want to love that? Dangerous. Dangerous because it's going inside of the vagina. Like you don't. Speaking of vagina, this is going to come across really weird right now, but I'm going to share this.

What? Well, okay. I, you know how I have my app, Kegel Camp. Yes. Okay. So Kegel Actress, I have my app, Kegelcamp. Yes. Okay. So Kegel exercise, I have an app called Kegelcamp. You can get in the iTunes store and it's all about improving your Kegel, and my voice walks you through the app.

And Kegel exercises are really great for men and women, helps you have longer stronger orgasms, helps men with premature ejaculation. Fine. You all know that. I've talked about Kegelcamp a lot. However, I just partnered with Good Vibrations with another one of. Fine, you all know that. I've talked about kegocampalat. However, I just partnered with Good Vibrations, another one of our sponsors, GoodVibes.com. They sell every sex toy under the sun

and you use coupon code GVMly15 for 15% off your purchases. Back to my vagina. So they make these keggal balls. They stick inside of your vagina and they actually help you do your keggle exercises like all day long. They have little weights in them.

So while you're just walking around doing your stuff, your kegles are getting exercised. Their Lilo makes them, L-E-L-O. And so now I have this thing with good vibes that if you go into the actual store, it's a website where you can order from anywhere in the world. But if you go into the store and you show them that you have the app you get 15% off any purchase So I tried these balls out is the point. I have two balls inside of me right now They're rubber balls with weights inside and I'm exercising my kegels as I'm sitting here speaking to you Because it holds the weight your muscles are constantly reacting to these weights inside of you.

So it's like I don't really have to do the actual tense, relaxed thing. They're just naturally being exercised. It's like not having to go to the gym. It's like putting on a sweat suit and it's like making use. How many balls do you have inside of you? Two balls. Two balls. They're like little, they're like little balls and is that weird? I forgot about it until just now. You know, makes them and it should do make them. Should I go home for the day? J.E.J. O.U. Why is that disturbing? I don't know.

I mean, I think I don't have balls inside me. I really want to exercise my kegels and sometimes I have my abs which would remind you to do your kegels every day. And I just wanted to show that to everyone. I've got balls inside. How many balls can you put inside me? Do you want me to pull them out? No.

Okay, I thought you might want to see them. How many balls can you put inside? Do you want me to pull them out? No. Okay, I thought you might want to see them. How many balls do you think you can fit inside? Two. That's it. That's it. Only two balls. Two balls, but they make them a bunch of other companies are making that candy from Candy,

bedroom candy line. She made some caggle ball. It's a whole new thing. Sex toys are these balls that you stick inside. Sounds revolutionary. I thought you'd be interested in that. Also, sex with Emily is looking for interns. If you want to intern, you got any friend, local friends,

and the San Francisco Bay Area have them email me at feedback at sexwithemlee.com. That's what I got for you of my announcements. And, that's all I got. That's great. I have balls inside me, and we're looking for interns this FYI. Yeah, that's what I got for's great. I have balls inside me and we're looking for interns this way Yeah, that's what I got for you at this moment. I have got some emails But is there anything else that you'd like to share in the news and going on in my life?

No, there's nothing I want grocery shopping extra that's about it. Nothing really I you know what this is the rest period before I go to I go to Vegas like crazy and then I have a concert on you know When do you leave again? May may two weekend to mail be gone That'll be said and then I'm going to have that concert I put on every year 40 acts 20,000 people it's a little stressful. Where is it in the city? It's half hour outside the city Oh, I forgot it. I was gonna get taken but I don't really drive any concerts out of this stuff. Yeah, outside the city unless you drove me there. Oh my god. Oh my god. I'm gonna be actually

working so I'll be there super early and super late. It's not my sketch. Tote. I'm not in super early and super late, but I'm trying to think what else there was something else. Oh, do you know what? What? It was another thing. Here's another thing. You know, you're always talking about this restaurant, French laundry, which is in North California. Northern California, Sonoma, whatever.

I'm still gonna nap, oh yeah. Yeah, yeah. How much does that place cost? Because I saw a bill from that place. It was like $2,000. Yeah, it's like a very expensive meal. What the F, man, I can buy the dopest LED TV for that price.

It's like the number one restaurant in the world. No, it's not. Did you even make the top 50 this year? I think it did. I did it. It was the first year I didn't make the top 50. Oh wow. Yeah, so the place you really go down hell.

The place you really go down hell. It takes forever to get reservations. You need to call. They only accept reservations like 30 or 90 days in advance, but you have to call that day at like 9 a.m. and they have to answer the phone. It's always busy and you gotta get someone to call. And it's so hard to get in. I've always wanted to go to there.

It's supposed to be this amazing dining experience. For two grand, okay, for two thousand years old that you put in your food. All right, two things. A, if I'm taking a chick there, I gotta get laid. If I'm not getting laid, then that is just the biggest way. Hopefully you're taking a chick there that you wanna have sex with. Of course.

A romantic meal. I'm not gonna take a chick anywhere to eat that I don't wanna have sex with. That's crazy. That's a good decision to make to have rice. And then number two, the food itself must be giving me full ratio for two grand. Yeah. I'm sorry. No,

yeah, there's lots of restaurants like that that are super expensive. What is going on? I don't know. I want to go. No way. I've always wanted to work for two more days. I was actually dating you guy last year who was two-hat, I just met him.

And he had reservations there for four people and he had already invited his people and I wasn't able to go. I know, I was so bummed. He went while we were dating like to the limo, it's a whole night, French London, you should check it out. Whatever. But it's a, F-hat, no, it's saving money, people. Some people really like to spend their money in.

If you get a little piece of, if you get a little gold nugget at the end of the night, then okay, fine. They gave you the losers. Let's take home. I mean, let's take a nugget at the end of the night then okay fine. They gave us a take home. I mean, it's like a whole thing. You said it four hour dinner. Have that at the so ridiculous. A lot of meals are two thousand bucks. Okay. Let's be moving to some sex in the news.

I won't be taking you there for your birthday then. Good. Don't take me there. I want a TV for that price. Do you do need a new TV? I need a LED Samsung television. What kind of shitty TV did you make me buy? I didn't make you buy a shitty TV. You don't think it's shitty? With the the budget it gave me I think it's fine. It's true.

Okay. If you gave me a couple grand I would have got you. I know. And have a couple grand. But now we're going to be on the television yeah we got to be better tv so anyway it's fine it works because i don't watch that much tv so a sex in the news did karma get in cause a baby boom in l.a. oh god no one cared about that thing shut down to the four five freeway in Los Angeles last July may not have created the citywide chaos many predicted but it's causing quite a stir in the delivery room nine months later midwives and delivery room doctors are reporting a spike in births but at the moment evidence is only anecdotal

and may turn out to be just another urban myth like the imagined baby boom after the New York City blackout in 1965 birth rate stats will be available on a few weeks so the issue will be settled by then so they're saying that the freeway is closed and everyone was banging and head kids nine months ago. You would think it was the biggest thing ever. Have you heard of this? Happened to LA. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, cause I was renews. I watched the television, unlike yourself.

I did. So that's why you're just finding out about this. But they're showing down the freeway and they thought that it was the end of the world. That's what they're calling a karma get in. It was ridiculous. no one cared. I remember when that happened, but now they're just saying that they're big,

everyone was just getting down and babies. But it wasn't a big deal when it closed down. I remember that. The same thing here in San Francisco is anytime the bridge closes, oh my God, what are we gonna do? Well, you just take another bridge. Right, you know, I don't think

people are gonna be staying home and banging, even though we wish they were. Yeah, but I don't think it's a good opportunity to stay home and banging. I hope everything is a good opportunity to stay home and have some sex. Yes. Okay. In post Soviet Russia, mistress keeps you secret. Vladimir Putin hides his wife in a castle in order to continue his affairs. She's set to be the first lady of Russia for the third time, but nobody seems to know where Ludmila Pudna is. Sources say her strongman husband has her tucked away in a state-built guesthouse near the Estonian border.

She's dead. So he can continue sticking his sputnik into the spy-turned-londry model Anna Chapman. Of course the iron-fisted leader is denied all such charges, and the supporters say that Russia is first wise to avoid limelight. So his wife is really avoiding the limelight. For context, Putin is already rumoured to have father-to-love child with a 28-year-old Olympic gymnast. He also hunted a tiger on live TV.

Wow. This guy sounds like every day bad. I mean, America, we're all uptight. You have a mistress there. It's just like, oh, a mistress in the castle. I don't talk to her that much. What if? Okay, the Secret Service Sex scandal

helps out Sugar Daddy Travel Service. So this is interesting. We had these guys on the show a few times, Sugar Daddy Dating. It's called SeekingArrangement.com. So basically to avoid getting caught with your pants down like the dozen or so Secret Service Officers

and their Columbia Improstitute Companions last week, it's time to sign up for MissTravel.com, a dating site launched by the owner of the Sugar Daddy dating site, Seeking Arrangement, called, he's a dating entrepreneur brand and is, he started the site, he says, MissTravel could help out quote, generous traveling businessmen by pairing them with quote, beautiful young women, or men who can't afford to travel, less ens, and soon they won't fall prey to any local ladies or lady boys of the night. So according to Wade, since the light site was launched

a few weeks ago, 11,000 people have signed up including 1,000 New Yorkers. So basically it's a server, so the Sugar Daddy bathing site is for like young women who are like in college or whatever, trying to get their rent paid and they sleep with older men who pay for the rent by mishaps

so it's a really popular dating site but this is saying like hey secret service guys if you brought your own bitch with you you wouldn't have had to sleep with the process yeah i don't know there's a you got a rent a bitch but you can explain that to the president oh who's this exact young skank that's hanging out with you like oh yeah that's this young skank that's hanging out with you? Oh, yeah, that's my, that's my, that's my, that's my, that's my

rent a chick. You know, actually, you know, I do have something to share. I was, I sometimes I just go crazy with the internet. And I sit down and I started just googling things. Okay. And so I saw something on television about Albert Einstein and there was like some secret project that he worked on. It's called the Philadelphia Project or something. He made a ship disappear and then when it came back it was all f'd up and so that. Anyway, so I started delving into his life and with his first marriage it was hilarious. So apparently he wanted to get a divorce in his first marriage, but his wife didn't want to leave him because he was off being a player.

He was like being in chicks right? He was a sex addict. Yeah, he was being in chicks left and right. Right. And so she wouldn't leave. So he says, all right, I'm going to make a contract. And the contract is hilarious. He goes, all right, you can stay,

but you must wash all my clothes, make me three meals a day. Isn't that what works? Did that back then? Yeah, they should still do that. Do that now. Anyways, and... Right. And like one of the last things is like, you know, stay out of his way and then there's no no talk to me.

Yeah, no sexual contact or anything like that. And she, I guess she apparently she agreed and stuck around, but he was still like off off. I remember reading that he was a sex addict. They say he was a sex addict. Yeah. Opera Dinesign. It was pretty funny.

And then also they dissected his brain and in his brain like where they, where it transfers information, he had a larger amount of cells in that area. Also, he didn't have this one wrinkle. It was just straight and where people normally have a wrinkle where it was able for him to process information. No way, he really was smart, like,

because it was good. He's born, yeah. He's born smart. Why was I born with so many wrinkles and things in my brain? Oh, man, make it straight, dude. Give me some, give me some extra cells up in there. I want some cells in my brain. Jesus, I know I've probably killed a lot of them.

It's not good. Not just on Friday when we were at the park. Yeah, that was fun. Okay, I've got some emails for you. And thanks everyone for emailing us at feedback at sexwithemily.com. We answer, we try to get some most emails and want to help you in change your life. Okay, dear Emily, I know menist makes it sounds like he's joking,

but just want to put a vote in against Jackrabiting. Nice and slow for me and my spouse. Jackrabbit sex is what we're talking about when the man's on top of the woman's jacket. That's the best. Okay. In fact, as part of it pulling all the way out, teasing the entrance before going back in feels great for both of us. And frankly, I'm too damned old. I'm only in my late 40s to want to do that sometimes fast, but not often. And

I don't think our fast qualifies is Jackrabbiting. If he really isn't to Jackrabbiting, I wonder if he's used your kegkel camp app and his significant other used it that would help. Slow and rhythmic with strong use of PC muscles would be more pleasurable than acting like a jackhammer with no strong PC muscle contractions. I wonder if jackrabiting is like going to a loud noisy club bar.

Great when I was young, but now I just want to have a conversation with my spouse and not have to shout. Please, please, please let us know the air date. Can't wait to see you on the Bravo TV show. Hope you have an awesome week. And the name got caught off here, so I don't know it's from. But thank you so much for emailing. And I guess what we're talking about is one of the biggest complaints we get from women is Jack Rabbit's section. The guy is just on top pounding away because there's a lot of reasons for that. It feels good for the guy, but the woman needs to have her clitoris stimulated and a lot of times just that in and out really deep, really fast just doesn't feel good for

a woman. But unfortunately, that's what feels really good for a man. So you kind of got to like do what he says, which is really smart and that's teasing the entrance, not putting it all the way, before going back in, going slow, and I think that's all very important. And also, your PC muscles, which is why I have two balls inside of my vagina right now, because I'm measuring, I'm exercising my PC muscles.

They're really important to use and contract during sex because it feels amazing. And I can contract my muscles around penis, or a guy can contract his muscles and kegels are awesome. Very interesting. And Jack Raviting Menace doesn't really like Jack Raviting. He probably really does like it, but that's not all he does.

Yeah. Guys really enjoy the Jack Raviting because that's what feels good for them. But of course, it doesn't feel good for the one I know. Yeah, you can never do what you want to do. Fola, I'm sorry. It's true. It's all about the women and what they want, and you know what, you just gonna have to suck her

for the rest of your life. Because it's harder for women to get off and women to get off when the wind blows. It's cheaper, you don't have to deal with them. Stop it, menace. Stop it. Dear Emily, Emily Menace, being a younger man, I became nervous about older women.

How would you suggest approaching an older woman slash kugar? Also, how would you suggest approaching an older woman slash cougar also how would you suggest approaching woman who is very conservative about either me dominating her or her dominating me this is joe from a.l.s. at Alaska or Alabama i believe that's a good question last year Alabama i'm saying Alabama

Alabama see i was right i I thought we haven't had an animal for me Alaska, but okay, you're nervous about older women. Are you saying Joe that you want to date older women? And I would just suggest approaching an older woman slash Cougar, his words not mine. Just anyway, you to dress on the other woman. I mean, a lot of times the stereotype against a cougar, they have you heard this about an urban cougar cougar, women who are, they say it's 35 and older or 40 and older, and they typically only, their mission is a date younger men, and they want no strings, touch, sex, perhaps they're a woman who's, the profile

is typically a woman who's made it on her own, maybe she's divorced, doesn't really want a connection, doesn't really want a connection, doesn't really want a relationship, but she's just in for the sex. So those women must be pretty fun to, I would say approach them by her drink, you know, to start chatting up and be confident and be yourself.

I would actually be the same advice I'd give you about approaching anyone else, but I wouldn't be nervous about it because if anything, if this is a cougar that you're talking about, she's out and about to have fun, have a good time. So I would think that this would be the easier type of woman to approach.

And I would just say, just start talking. There are no fancy pickup lines. It's just confidence. Being yourself, being funny, asking her questions about herself, telling her she looks good. The question I would ask is, may I see your bank account? Right.

Because that's the only benefit of dating an older woman. Manus, sometimes you just say stupid thing. What? Okay, tell me what the benefit is. Oh, they're more experienced and bad. Well, did you just say that the attractor is the person? What does it have to matter age? You might just be attracted to her.

She's older or she's younger. It doesn't matter. But it's just to say that you just want to see your bank account is lame. Okay, also, he wants to know how would you suggest approaching a woman who's conservative about either me dominating her or her dominating me? Well, I would say that domination is a big fantasy for women. A lot of women want to be dominated by a man. A lot of men want to be dominated.

And I would start with just talking to her about some of her fantasies, what turns her on, ask her if she's ever been tied up. You could go buy something like a bondage tape, which I love, go buy good vibes. It's really easy to tie someone up, but I think the first thing you gotta do is, not necessarily in the bedroom, but just like one day we were talking,

we were like, what's your fantasies, or what's the kiki's thing you wanna do, or that you've tried, and just start the conversation early, so like how would you feel if I tied you up? I mean, just ask. Really, there's no special fancy language It's just really getting a dialogue going about you know tell her to think about the most erotic fantasies She has see if she'll share with you and see if anything has to do with dominates nurse submission now for you being dominated

It's a little trickier just because it's not as it's not as Typical for men to ask to be dominated. A lot of men want to be dominated, but they don't like to ask for it because they feel like, you know, it'll make me seem weak, maybe she's not into it. But a lot of women aren't into it just because they've never done it or they're not as experienced

because typically men are the dominators, right? Would you say that men are the most in relationships you're dominating sexually? Uh, yeah. I mean, not as much. You have women dominate you more? Yeah. What do you mean?

They climb on top of you and... Yeah, I think I was women that initiate. Right. But all the time, do they ever had a woman try to dominate you? Yeah, but there's some things I don't like. Right. Some things you do like though? Some things I do like.

I mean, them initiating is being dominant, right? Right. Right. Them initiating and being like, I've got you, I'm taking you, I'm tying you up. If you've never tried bondage shape, I've not talked about bondage shape in a while. It looks like a roll of electrical tape that comes in pink, I think, in black. And you can reuse it. It ties, it sticks to itself, and it's really easy to just you can rip it off.

You don't need to scissors or anything and you can tie anything and anyone out. It's called bondage tape. You can get it at good vibes.com and use coupon code GVM15. Anyway, I would say just start the conversation with her and then buy some bondage tape. There you go. Dear Emily, we have ever sell merchandise on your website. If so, I would love to order a t-shirt that says, I just had sex with Emily and all I got was this t-shirt.

I'm pretty sure you joked about that on previous episodes, but I think it was an excellent idea. Thanks for everything, your show is fantastic. Tyler from Calgary, Canada. Tyler, I am going to sell this on my website starting soon. We've gotten a lot of requests for them. We only have enough for me now

and the people who work for me and Menace has one that he never wore. But because I had a gist in on it. It's a dirty, sorry. We made him very, we didn't have a lot of money. See how I get treated around here, people. First I ask for condoms. It takes three months to get here.

Finally, I get a shirt from the show and has a gist in on it. So why? So why? You wash it. What the fuck? Why do you get upset when I made comments like that? I'm just being real. I don't know.

I don't know. I don't even know what you're talking about. But the t-shirt had a little stain on it and we had to make them the buy-ass. Straight up gistening. We had no money to buy a lot of them. But Tyler, we will get you a t-shirt. I'm going to sell them on the new website. There was gizz all over it. There was jizz all over it.

There was not jizz over. Yeah, we jizzed on it before we gave. We picked them up. Probably did. Probably did. We did it. Okay. Why do you give me a dirty look?

But don't think that's a cute t-shirt. I had sex with Emily and all I got was t-shirts. You saw them, they're cute. You're talking about forever. We gotta get it done. For years and years. Gotta get them done. Oh, menace, so.

But you need to come out the whole product line. Just do it already. Gosh. I'm working on it. You know enough people. Just make it happen. I'm working on it, dude. I am.

Just don't steal my dumb truck idea. Dude, you knew I was dumb truck idea. The guys that have been working with the scientists in Japan are almost done. It's just an overheating issue that's going on right now. Not overheating. Shut up, man. It's a dumb truck. You're so dumb.

A dumb truck. That's what you're thinking about. Oh, that's a good comeback. Just kidding. That's not, that's not it, is it? Okay, undressing is our topic. Ooh. Undressing is a very important science.

And I think that what happens a lot, a lot of couples email, we've been together well, sex is kind of died, or sex life, or our desire, or whatever, it is really important to bring back on dressing your partner because it's a very hot thing to do. Women, we always talk about how we need for a play and it should be a seductive, not always not every time. Sometimes you can both just get dressed and drop in bed. But, undressing a woman should be a very seductive

and slow process, especially the first few times. You don't want to take off too much too quickly. She, especially if it's your first time being together, so I'm talking about couples spicying it up, but I'm also talking about the first time you're with someone. So this is, and for couples who have been together while it's good to listen to these things because you can be like,

oh yeah, that used to be hot when I addressed her. And then you could bring that back into your relationship. But a woman wants to feel comfortable in a row is before she's bearing it all to you. So you could start by am buttoning a few buttons on her blouse, pull up her skirt just a bit and gauge her reaction from there. So I always think it's hot when a man is like,

I told you what that guy dated, I know think it's hot when a man is like, I told you what that guy dated, I know I've said this on the show, I was dating him last year, the year before, and he'd be like, look at me at night, we were like, get back from dinner, and he'd be like, why aren't you naked yet? And I'd be like, why aren't you fucking address me?

Why aren't you just making effort? Why aren't you naked yet? He said that's what he'd say to me every time. Like, he didn't want to make the effort to address me. Oh. And I thought that was super lame because it's really, that is part of the foreplay. It's hot to keep the underwear on.

It's hot to keep the bra on for a while. So if you pay attention to her cues, you'll be able to pace yourself in the interesting process. I mean, she might be like, rip it off already, but there's something really hot and seductive to slowly taking things off. So shoes on, leaving, I love you love you, I should take the shoes off. A lot of women like to keep their shoes on during sex, it's kind of hot.

Yeah, if you have nice shoes. If you have nice shoes on, not uggs maybe, but if you have a nice pair of shoes on, so keep them on as long as possible. Boots are nice. Just not the boots, or the high boots that go over the knee. You hate those. It looks like you're going fly fishing. I know. I don't like those either. I bought a pair and I gave them up. go over the knee. You hate those. It looks like you're going fly fishing. I know.

I don't like to see the eyebrow hair and I get the eyebrow. Little below the knee. It's fun. They weren't that attractive on me. Okay, move down the body from top to bottom and remove the shoes as the grand finale if possible. So a lot of women also feel powerful and seductive

when you leave their shoes on. So another thing is to kind of linger in her lingerie. So if she's not, it doesn't have to be fancy lingerie, her bras and underwear. The natural impulse is to just rip each other's clothes off and go for it. Instead, try to keep the tension building. So you understand the basic process of seducing each other

has to do with undressing. This is a major, major, this is a very important issue that we're talking about today. Because it keeps the tension going. When you take it off, you only go right to banging each other. And you could make it really hot by not taking your shirt off right away or slowly and dressing it and then removing her bra.

Making the most of that anticipatory moment before sex will get both of your razzle levels up. This is kind of like the teasing thing that we talk about. So instead of taking your clothes off, you can run your fingers over her rodging to zones, letting the texture of the cloth amplify your touch. What does this mean? It is so hot when a guy rubs his fingers over my clothing. So the way the clothes like feel on my nipples or like by the way my underwear feels when he rubs over that is the hottest thing. And I know a lot of women feel the same way. It's not just me. And guys feel that way too. Getting rubbed first over.

I know that you probably just want to cut to the chase and get the blowjob going. But it is hot to to delay it and to rub over the underwear and rub all the other rodging zones. Are you frustrated? Yeah. You hate it? Yes. Slide your fingers under waistbands and straps, but not too far. That feels really good too. So I still have my bra on, but you're rubbing your fingers like

sliding your fingers underneath waistbands and straps. Undergarments, underwear, create the right amount of obstacle to sex. So it's an obstacle that you should look at as like this thing that's building toward something bigger. Before you remove those last pieces of fabric, kiss and touch everywhere else. So this is just another way to delay it.

Build up the anticipation with eye contact until you can't stand it anymore. This is an exercise. I do it to a girl or girl doing it to me. This is a girl guy doing it to a girl, but a girl can do it to a guy the same thing. Guys like that too, right? Look, I'll do that to you all day if you want, but if it's you on me, I don't want it. Right. Okay.

Some guys might like that. Yeah. Are you guys that would like to be in dress slowly? Let me know. Feedback at sector with mle.com. Menace doesn't like it. Menace is just like, why aren't you giving me a blowjet? Yeah, bow job, yeah bitch. But there is something hot to this. So actually removing

the clothing. So you got the bra. Not a men's struggle with bras, but you get easier. It gets easier as you could hold it right. Getting the bra. Yeah. Yeah. It's still a struggle. But take your time removing it. Slowly slide the straps down while caressing her shoulders. These are some excerpts from a book by the way, which is called Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try to night you can buy it in Amazon. Do you like when guys just rip your underwear off? No, rip it like rip it, rip it, rip it. That's kinda hot actually.

Yeah, it's pretty easy guys. If you do it from the side, if you do it from... But you should check first, because if they're like my really nice favorite underwear, I don't want you ripping them off. I'll give a half, but I don't want to get you in there I give a f, but it's hot when a guy breaks off your underwear. It's from the side from the hip right there. You just pull it right there,

and you can just rip it apart. Like, you're gonna do. That's hot. It's easy. Throw it on the ground. I don't care if it's your favorite Victoria secret. You can get another. It's all worth it for the moment of passion.

I have like 80 pairs of underwear. I don't have any pairs that are my favorite. No, I do. I wear my favorite pair right now with my balls inside me. Well. So buttons. Whenever your partner's wearing buttons, make sure you are the person unbuttning them.

If it has buttons, undo them one at a time and kiss her lick each new inch of torso as it's exposed. This is for men and women. Tease his nipples just a bit. Tease her nipples just a bit. If the shirt is one that slips over the head, ask him to raise his arms and tug it off. Or same with her too, if she's got buttons on her shirt.

Underwear. So this is for the guy. Use your fingertips. This is for the woman for the man. Use your fingertips to trace the outline of their privates through the thin underwear fabric. Place a finger or under the waistband but don't go too far down. Don't you think that's hot? When you're just getting started and she starts rubbing her hands underneath the band of your underwear, you don't think that's hot and feels good.

Like she's not quite grabbing you yet. There's just the slow process of sex of getting there. There's so many things that you think that women do that's hot. And just guys don't just deal with it because they're all, whatever, I'm just gonna get laid. Because it's all women want. And men a lot of them like it's hot. Okay, we'll do that to you. Fine, if that's what you want, that will do that to you.

And then I don't speak, you need to disclaim that you don't speak for every man, but I'm telling you. Because then every like 5,000 guys are gonna email. Right, so is your family man. Because they're just happy getting laid and they're just happy having a girl touching them. Menace, I've seen men get toned completely turned on

and lose their mind over delayed of delaying, taking off their underwear, okay? Not one man, several men, you just feel differently and I respect that, but you do not speak for everyone. I'm speaking for 95% of the male population. No, you're not, menace, you're not. And don't say that. And all the five percenters are the ones that email.

Okay. Performance strip tease, a woman can perform a strip tease. Do you like that? But that would laugh so far. Would you laugh? Yeah. Would that that she like has music going and all thing, but you would you really laugh?

Yeah, it's just funny to me when women try to act sexy. When they try to act sexy, it's just hilarious. But you may be more comfortable and have more fun if you don't try to hard or take it to sexy. I mean, if it's playful, then I'd probably go with it. It's playful. It's not like, dun dun dun. If they're trying to be sexy, I probably would laugh at it.

I know, you hate women. No, but this is like playful. So have your partner. I think this is hot. Have your partner. So have your boyfriend. Pick out your blower. Pick out the clothes that he'd like to see you remove.

So I think that's hot if a guy's like, oh, put that dress on. That's really hot. I love to take it off. I can take it off. No, I'm doing a strict piece for you, but I want to see what you want me to wear. So I ask you first, what outfit do you find hot on me? Tees in by running your hands over your clothes body. Scurts can be difficult,

pin it to the floor with one foot, then step out of it with the other. Cock your hop to the side to flatter any type of figure. Cuck your hip, not hop, your hip. So it is true that women when you move your hip to the side, you look, it looks more attractive. It balances your weight. Play with your hair for sensual appeal. Pull it away from your face and let it fall loose. Sexy tendrils. Eye contact enhances mutual attraction. So be sure to watch your partner watching you. A start tease when it's playful and fun. That's cool. Okay. A man stripping.

Here's some details for your symptoms for a man. You don't need the body of an athlete or the moves of a chippendale dancer to put on a hot show for your partner. Just let yourself get caught in the moment and don't worry too much about being sexy and wonderful. Terri way pants and thong bikinis are not required. Just wear the clothes that she likes to see you in and that make you feel confident, whether that means suit or box or briefs. See your audience of one, put on some sexy music and stand a few feet in front of her. Tighten up your abs, arch your back slightly so you look your best. Move your hips and time with the music.

So the guy's got to use the music. Oh, man. Maintain eye contact as you place one foot between your legs and circle your hips over her thigh. I think this would be hard for a guy to distribute for me. Bend your knees, grind against her, turn around, shake your butt, remove your clothing slowly, sliding your hands all over your body. To heighten the sexual tension, follow the rules of a strip club. She can look but she can't touch. Get as close as you can without actually making contact with her or brush her cross her skin briefly. Quick question.

Yes. What song would you want playing if a guy was stripping for you? I don't care. Whatever song you like. What song made you feel good? I don't have a song. I'm not gonna give a song. It's not my thing. Barry White. No. No.

What else? Marvin Gaye. Maybe. Marvin Gaye. It's a cliche. Slayer. That is not my idea. Guns and roses.

No. Hmm. It would have to be something that made him feel sexy. So I don't care. Okay. What song would you want playing when your girl strips for you? What song would I want her playing? Uh, well, see, I'm not into that. So it'd be kind of hard for me. Um,

when a man loves a woman, Oh, what a man. That's nice. Who sings that? I don't know. That's a good song. That's a. Who sings that? I don't know That's a good song. That's a really good song. I'm gonna download that today You should download that today so undressing we're just saying it's another part of four play We're always talking about ways to spice it up and keep it hot and you know Sometimes sure you can throw against the long ripper close off or on the bad ripper close up

There's nothing wrong that none of these are absolute every single time you have to do it this way. But I'm just reiterating that I know that there's a lot of women I've talked to. I've heard from there like, why don't guys address anymore? You date them for a month and then they're like, get naked. Why aren't you naked right now? It's like, why don't you forget to address me? It's hot. Feels good.

I think everyone should try it tonight. They should. They should. They should. What's wrong? You're looking up who sings your favorite song? Yeah, there's a couple versions, huh? Percy's Ledge. Percy's Ledge, that's right.

Yeah, love Dewap. And I know all this stuff sounds kind of silly. Like you're gonna be laughing like if men was doing a strip tease in front of you. But it's okay to laugh and be playful and fun. Yeah, just don't try to be serious. I mean, Lisa around me. This is sexy.

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