Sex With Emily - Thanksgiving Throwback: Sexy & Thankful

Episode Date: November 25, 2015

This special Thanksgiving throwback podcast from 2014 is all about strengthening your relationship through gratitude. Emily teaches you the importance of appreciating your partner, not just for Thanksgiving, but all year around. Between talk of Thanksgiving plans and one night stands, Emily shares some of the things she is most grateful for and reminds us why we all should be thankful for sex. Then, get ready for a lesson in partner appreciation. Emily explains how little things, like saying thank you, offering a  simple compliment or making tiny sacrifices can go a long way with your significant other. She and Anderson touch on the many ways to show your partner how much you care, and give tips to improve the communication in your relationship. The two also share some unconventional advice to help you sidestep a variety of uncomfortable holiday questions from family members — Tis the season, after all.Appreciation is like oral sex – You gotta give a little to get a little and this classic episode of Sex With Emily will tell you how! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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everything in between. For more information go to sex with Emily.com which oh my god this is the week that you have to go because it's so exciting. It's the holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving to everybody. I'm grateful for all of you. We're gonna get into that tonight. It's about how gratitude will really help. What is that noise Anderson? It's a turkey man. It's a turkey. I didn't even get that was a turkey. Because you just eat them. You don't hear them before they do. Oh, now I'm not going to eat that turkey this year.

Thank you for nothing. Oh, do you think that is a turkey, is it? It's absolutely a turkey. That is a turkey, right. A happy Thanksgiving. Happy Thanksgiving to you, Em. I'm grateful for you. And grateful for you.

And this is also, we're going to get into that because, here's the thing. One of the biggest complaints from couples who are in relationships are just people in life, like it work. Anderson says it's all the time. They don't feel appreciated for what they do. They don't feel grad and they don't express also other people gratitude towards their partner and work and in life. And a lot of us just feel that we go through life and we don't feel appreciated and we don't feel grateful sometimes and it goes in life. And a lot of us just feel that. We go through life and we don't feel appreciated and we don't feel grateful sometimes and it goes both ways.

No, no, no, it's perfect. But in a relationship, it's so important. Or even with your friends or some of your dating or even some of your one-night stand-with, you know, being grateful and appreciative is important all around. And we're going to give you some tips and tricks to, you know, improve it because it'll have your relationship. You get to tell us how to be grateful to one of the stands because that's something I could have known to deal

with. Be really grateful, but don't be a douchebag at the end of it and be like, I'm never going to call you just be like, or be you, you do be that was a really fun night. My intentions are right now. I'm not actually looking for a girlfriend, but I had great time to don't let her sit around and obsess about you and like, is he going to call just like let it be known? That's a way to be respectful towards your one night stand. Don't you think? Yeah. Be honest with your intentions.

I was always really uncomfortable. And I've had lunch literally two years later, because I've made it like a friendship out of the one night stand because I felt bad. Yeah. Well, you made a friendship out of them right after? A couple times, yeah. I got, we want to talk for a while,

but then it's like phone conversations, then I'll be like their friends. That's cool. No, because they weren't people that I wanted to see in the morning. You just felt guilty, so too, okay, that's odd. So you know how you could have saved yourself. You could have been clear with your intent, but the problem is I suppose is that often, or tell me this, Sanderson, when does the one night stand bell go off?

When is it like, I know this is a one night stand, and I know that it isn't, because the reason why maybe you don't know how to end it, because you're not sure if you'll see him again, or by the time it ends, you're pretty sure. By the time I'm sobering up, usually. So it because you're not sure if you'll see him again or by the time it ends, you're pretty sure. By the time I'm sobering up usually. So it's always just a drunk and one night stand. A lot of the time, yeah. What if it's interesting?

Or like if she's doing things with me in the back seat or like my friend's car, like when I'm not even asking for it, like I'm, you know, and I just met her that night. I was like, okay, so I'm not gonna see this girl hopefully after tonight. What?

Because she's a little too aggressive. So girls should not be that forthcoming on the for on the date Absolutely not many men now a lot of people have slept with women men and it's first day in Kim married I'm not I don't advocate it Just because you just don't advocate there. I don't ever can't marry for yourself I just think that it's always better if you always ask me what you're you know think about Is there how many dates do you wait or whatever now there's no rules? I'm not saying you should do wait three dates for you.

See for someone, but I think that when you do have sex with someone too soon, it becomes a sexual relationship right away if they ever call you back, like us from men and women or, but it's better to get to know somebody. And then you like the end, the best part about sex, as we know, is the anticipation and the build up. The end to make that, get to know that person because you have sex on the first date, then it becomes a whole sexual thing

and then you don't really get to know. Every now and again, there is that immediate connection and you feel like you've known the person for years after the first hour of being in something. Yeah. You really need to bone that first night though. Can't you just feel your boobs or something? Right, can't you just touch the boobs?

Can't you just like, you know, rob her over her panties or dry home? You're just light a candle and massage her down. I'm not telling these people, you know what my guy friends are like, I got laid by your candle last night. I'm like, I know, it smells amazing. You got laid.

Suggesting they bang the candle or they got... No, they get laid because they light the candles and they're like, look at my Emily, my friend, Emily made this really cool candle. And then they like, tear or feel it because you just, like I use it, here's the other thing. I use it every single night. I wear, we blow it out, I light it, or I'm getting ready for bad, blow it out,

and I pour it on my body as a moisturizer, because it's coconut oil and soybean oil and natural, and it's moisturizing. So I don't wanna have a goddamn person to say masturbate. To massage you. To massage every night, or to massage me many night. Most, okay, let's just say that's most science I don't,

but I use it every day, and I smell and feel amazing and soft. I just light it like three or four of them I put them on my window sill and women just come over. They do. They smell it yeah like on the street like the fact I'm in the cartoons with the bacon. They do. They just float in. I hate bacon. There's like baking condoms okay here's a thing. So bacon condoms. Oh yeah there's a thing. So, uh, baking condoms. Oh, yeah, there's bacon, Loub. And you know that there are awkward questions also coming up over the things going to holidays when you go home. Like, or what are you doing? I'm just splitting it with the two crazy families. My wife's in my own, yeah. Is that, do you like them? Good times? Yeah, it's gonna be a lot of insanity. Okay. I got it, you know, the in-laws, but there are some awkward questions like, why are you still, you know, who are you dating

why are you still single? Why isn't out of baby? Right, that's the worst. You can ask that question, you must get asked at all the time. My friends, my parents and in-laws don't bother me at all with my friends. That's what you know. I think that's a really bad question to ask someone. No one want, okay, I don't know anybody who wants to be asked that question, who's trying

to have a kid or is not, because they don't know when they're having it, they're going to figure it out when they do and they don't want goddamn pressure because all my friends who are married without kids Complaining about the same thing so there's a tip for you guys and Thanksgiving dinner I'll let you have a pushy mom and lawn just be like hey, well she keep no my mom and laws not but you can say hey I've got a I've got your brother daughter pregnant three or four times she keeps aborting. It's not my fault Exactly. That's a good one. That's a great one. That's that would be great Conversation for Thanksgiving my family one time at Thanksgiving one. That would be great conversation for Thanksgiving. My family one time at Thanksgiving dinner,

my brother would be out at the Kim Kardashian sex video like out of dessert. Is that an- Well, like on his phone or he popped in a DVD? He was like, no, he was like, it wasn't when it came out. He's like, oh, check out if you guys seen the Kim Kardashian.

My family so. And did everyone crowd around? Yeah, it's funny. And it's such a typical sex with Emily Thanksgiving family. I know, but it's not family. The family's all sex crazy. I just had that flashback, but usually go home to Michigan this year. I'm not. But I good because last time you went to Michigan, you almost died. So don't do that. I won't do that again. Exactly. So, yeah, so it could be awkward to a good luck to everybody about that. And just be

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that my Instagram at sex with Emily is awesome as well. And I'll have pictures and funny things that will make you laugh and think about funny things that have to do with sex sometimes in relationships. You should do that. And Twitter, sex, Emily. Okay, so here's the first thing. Today's show, like I said, we will be talking about appreciation and gratitude, get some of your emails that we can.

But first, I wanted to say that Thanksgiving is a very important time of year. Because we really do stop and we are grateful for what we have in our lives. Because honestly, we have a lot of gifts and blessings. We do, right? Anderson, like you and I, we sit around like this is hard and that is hard. But it's important to like, you know, we're lucky. We're here. We're healthy.

We're happy. We appreciate what you got. Put things in perspective. Right. We have so many wonderful gifts in our lives. And so that's why like with my meditation, then I'm doing now twice a day. We're lucky we're here. We're healthy. We're happy. We're happy. We're happy. We're lucky. We're here. We're healthy. We're happy. We're happy. We're lucky. We're here. We're healthy. We're happy. We're happy. We're lucky. We're here. We're healthy. We're happy. We're happy. We're lucky. We're here. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're lucky. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We're healthy. We for all of you really for listening and for supporting the show and being a fan and I can cry. I just that don't cry please, it's getting uncomfortable in here. I just learned today actually that it was a lady, a camera or a name, but she was actually when the petitioned the White House for Thanksgiving to be held every year.

And it was kind of an effort to heal the wounds of the Civil War and it was Lincoln, President Lincoln that put it into law. Back then, there was only a couple of national holidays. It was George Washington's birthday, and Thanksgiving, I believe. Wow. I might have been one other woman to slip in my mind. And it was for the Civil War to live again.

It was shortly after the Civil War, and there was still a lot of strife, and they wanted to create, she wanted to create a holiday that's just about people getting together. Yeah, and it is. And being thankful for what they have. Exactly, because we all, you know, our mind, you know, we tend to go to a lot of times, and this is the way we're wired to go towards what's bad or what's wrong.

And I think a lot of humans, we sort of suffer with that fact that our mind just has that, you know, that way of going, what is it called? Like just the negative. Easy to get in that negative hole. Yeah, but like it's a Buddha. I said, like there's a universal love suffering. So we all suffer in some way. We all do, but you know, as long as we can just, you know, try to be grateful and happy, you know, happy, challenge sometimes, but be grateful for what we have.

So I'm thankful for many things and I just wanted to say that I am, like I said, thankful for my listeners because it's been a lot. It's almost 10 years. Like I have to do like an anniversary show or something, but I think that I actually got to have a career doing what I love, like actually make a living and pay my rent. You deserve it. I know.

I know. You were really super hard. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know.

I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. was an idea that I had about helping myself really, which is something I'm ready about right now, but how it got started for glam, or I have a common glamor, by the way, on Sundays. But it's talking about how I started the show. One of the reasons it inspired me was because everyone kept talking about what great sex they were having all the time, having the best sex in my life. I'm like, what the hell does that mean? So, I mean, you guys, I don't know if you know the whole beginning story,

but that's how I started the podcast, because I was like, I don't think I've had the best sex, and I don't think that everyone even knows what good sex is. And then relationships and the whole thing. So it was hard and it was a long road. It's probably been about, you know, seven. I think it wasn't make, it didn't make any money for the last few years until the last few years. So it was hard and I had to give up a lot because I love you all and I love doing it and

it all happened. So stick to your dreams is what I got to say. And I ask people for advice more often. You know, things more than you do. Okay. I'm thankful for the perks of my job because I get to meet and learn from so many interesting people and guests. We have good guests on the show.

People with like alternative lifestyles, sex experts, occasional porn star. Whoever, who is your favorite guest? Who's your favorite guest? Who'd you learn from? I like that guy that you had on a couple weeks ago. He was awesome, David Lay. Yeah. What was it?

With the myth of sex addiction. Yeah. He was amazing. Because I was worried about that. I thought he was going to come in here and go, Hey man, you know, it's not an addiction man. And like, fight with Dr. Drew when he came in here later. I was like, I'm going from one word. That's me like, me too.

And he kind of ignored me in the hall when I walked by. He was just talking to you. So I didn't like him. I hated him. And then within, you know, first 10 minutes of the show, I'm like, this guy's awesome. I like the guy a lot. He's just turned right out. He was great. Oh my God. That was great. So go check it out. David Lay, L.A. Y. Another perk is, okay. So yeah, I get to meet all these people and it's inspiring. We get a lot of another perk, of course, is that I get like my job is all about pleasure.

Like I can experience pleasure. So I can teach you how to experience pleasure and it's reciprocal because the reason why I wanted to, you know, again, do this is to help everyone in better sex, which is like the best thing in the world is sex really truly, what else is there? And I get sex toys lubricants every other sex product, like you should see my office right now, Pajor, which is in my new favorite leaves that meet 100 about a guy can't walk through. What? What? You bring

cement? Yeah, I did. Do you want a bottle? Yeah, do need some? I wouldn't I? You're gonna,? Yeah, I did. Do you want a bottle? Yeah. Do you need some? I wouldn't. You're going to, okay, I actually need you to test to test some of it and do you think? I use it on my tires.

It makes my tires efficient for a guess. No, you can't, for example, I really nice, pejora loop. P, J, U, R, loop. It's amazing. Check it. And no, I hope we slide down the road. Dude, it doesn't help me. So I test them all.

You know, so you don't have to because I only tell you about the ones you've tested and that I think are the best. Also, I'm thankful for my team. This is really what I'm most thankful for. And then we're going to get out with the stuff. It's a, I have a lot to say, but really. This is really tough for me. It's very, because I, I, I think, thank yous make me.

No, but I am. So thankful for you, Anderson. You're so awesome. Like, I didn't know. We didn't know this would work. I'm like, hey, we do the thing. And I love you. And you've been awesome. And you put in a lot of time. I always liked you. But we'd't know this would work. I'm like, hey, we do the thing and I love you and you've been awesome and you put in a lot of time before that. I always liked you,

but we'd never done like this together and you've been awesome and my audience loves you and you just have great insights and advice and you always show up and you're cool. Oh, thanks. And for all the everyone that you hate and get me into all the time, I feel like I'm at the bottom of that list if it ever does happen. Yeah, you're right at the bottom. You're still on the list, but you're the bottom. I know, but I like that. Like I know that I'm not the first person that you're gonna hate and I'm actually Was so honored that you would like to meet because I know you don't like most people So thank you and you rip me off my couch from my wife once or twice a week and it's really annoying I have to leave my wife But you would be the one of one of the very few people who I'd be actually Excited to jump off the couch leave my wife and come work with us. We always have a very good time and a good way

Like that way that would make that sense. I've got it. Thank you I've been ripped off my couch by many people in this business and do not enjoy it. That is a very high compliment. It's actually coming from you. I appreciate that. And also, I have to thank my team that is amazing. Again, I'm doing this for a long time and it's 50. We've been going.

I was going to get to the topic is that it's taking a long right. I could have had interns. I've had amazing interns over the years, but like I didn't really have like a staff that I could again to start up I'm trying to do this thing and now I feel like I have the most amazing team Kimber and Madison who you've met who have to have been on the show a little bit Kimber has yet but they're just amazing and I feel like my whole the whole thing is just this is gonna be an amazing year for us because we are going to

be doing so many things that are going to even blow your minds and our minds as well so and I want to thank my intern Ruby and Anderson and Rune who have stopped with the show and managed to do the show and of course my friends and family, you know, like that. I was going to get into all these things about sex, but I don't know where I'm just. Thank you for the clitoris. Thank you for the clitoris and thank you for- The testies. Thank you God for the testies.

No, I was just going to say this really quickly is that things in life I wasn wasn't going to go on that long is that sex is something that we should all be fake for for because sex gives you orgasms. I'm going to do it quickly. Sex makes you happy. This is if you're not having sex, here's a thing. The brain releases all these feel good chemicals like endorphins and serotonin and dopamine. And when you've decreased stress because we're all fucking stressed, you're like, oh, this is a good day. So I have more sex, sex burns calories. So you don't have to go to the gym. Two hundred, it's like a treadmill.

Okay, so I'm kidding. Go to the guy that water in the mic. What are you doing? You're drinking in the mic. Stop it. Oh my God. Okay, so I can't come myself off here. Can I continue and then we'll come. We'll see. There's a reason why we just did that. Okay. So I can't come myself off air. Can I continue and then we'll come.

We'll. We'll. There's a reason why we just did that. Okay. So it makes you happy. It does. It's like it's a pro's act, but you just having sex. Okay, burns calories, like running on the treadmill or something, you can have like an extra piece of pumpkin pie because you just had really good sex. Helped you fall asleep. Everyone takes friggin sleeping pills. Who does not have a sleep problem? Raise your hand. Nobody. Right. You nobody Right you probably do you know talk about it. I take pills right exactly So if you have sex it helped you fall asleep So you're probably thinking it's like your computer screen or there's something else collective stress in the universe Well, people can't sleep but you and you have sex don't you fall asleep?

More readily. Yeah, you don't like it. Oh not that that sounds wrong Sounded wrong, but you don't like it when guys have fall asleep right after us because you want cuddle time. I just need about 10 minutes of cuddle time. You can cuddle while phone, honestly. Yes, absolutely. I don't want to stay up and talk. I just want to cuddle for 8 to 10 minutes.

Sex gives us something to talk about with our friends, especially women. What would you do in your free time, I think? You know, if we're not thinking about what girls are thinking like Zach, our friend looks like naked, not that I do that, but my friends and I talk about sex and relationships and we talk about like what would you do? How do you orgasm? What's the first question you ask? Like when you find out like a good friend of yours is hooking up with a new dude, you kind of like know who of the guy. Right. And you know that they had sex last night. What's the first question you ask? Okay, this stuff goes down. This just happened to me yesterday. I'm like okay, so how's sex? Like it's really, it's really good. I'm like juvenile orgasm. She's like well

Yeah, I actually always orgasm my orgasm really easily. I'm like, okay, you bitch. That's cool And then she said that he was very generous which means that he performed all sex in her and she really liked it and She said that she liked his penis. I think his penis she said that and she said it was really hot and He was really sweet and she liked them. It was good. So penis was third. Take you three things You know only if there's a penis problem, I would say or like a remarkable penis does it come up It depends what which friend I'm talking to what is remarkable? You know like oh my god I was a black penis and his black is big it was the biggest penis I've ever seen or It was a curved shaped weird penis or he wasn't circumcised on it. That's a big deal or he

didn't have count on me. I don't know if it wasn't run of the mill. Yeah, something wrong. It had strange rash all over it. No, it smelled like cheese. Right. It smelled like cheese. That was weird. Okay. So the penis. No, didn't. But that's what I ask them. Or all it means it's my best or that how's the pee? Yeah. No, that's usually what I ask. Like was it good? Was it whatever? But a lot of times the first time you have sex with someone is not always the best. Can we get better? Also, sex is usually free.

That's one of the things I'm grateful for, unless you pay for it online. Usually, probably shouldn't pay for it anywhere. Okay, so I wanted to talk about which I am already. How to appreciate your partner. When I go time with the water. Okay, back up. So when I get to emails, I had a listener. So I get, you know, you all email me, which I love. Feedback at sexwithamily.com. You can send all your relationship and sex questions and I try to answer them on my show.

If it's, you know, a lot of times your questions might have been answered before. You could definitely Google that on my site. But the point is, sometimes people just want to tell me what they like about the show or what they don't like or whatever. I'm open. So I got an email from a listener today, and she said, I will skip down to the email portion of the show. She said to me, um, Hi, I love, love, love you and your podcast, but I can't stand when you take a drink of water on the show, it drives me effing crazy. Just had to say, McKenzie. Thanks, but, Kelsey. So I realized that I get really, first of all, I'm a thirsty person. I don't know what

it, I talk a lot. And so there is something called a cough button in radio. And when I've ever guessed command, like, there's the cough button. However, and I used, I used it on during love line. I used it all the time, but for some reason, in this chair at the love line studio that I'm in, I didn't know that the cough button was right in front of me and not right next to me on the table where it usually is. So I came in tonight and I said, Annerson, I got an email, she's pissed that I didn't, and I know it's annoying because I do it and normally I'm trying, where's the guy to have a cough button? And then I loved, and it was right in front of me. I love how she started off with the, I love, love, love, love, though.

She lets, yeah, she's like, but I see, and I love, love, love, that. I love you, I'm sorry. And then you're just waiting for the other shoe to drop, which is the butt. But you know, is there never going to be there? And then there, did you put a comma before the butt at least? No. Okay, then she's, yeah, let's not drink right into that microphone for her. I just, there you go, Mackenzie.

I just did it for you, Mackenzie. I'm gonna start using the coffee. And then now just to let the listeners know, the coffee button, all it does is just kill her mic. And unplugging the mic would do the exact same thing, as well as just turning off the mic, which is the exact same thing, which is right in front of her. The cup is like, but you can do it, we'll just turn it off the mic, which is the exact same thing, which is right in front of her. For the top is like, but you can do it, we'll just turn it off the microphone too. See, whatever. So, I, you know, I want to say is,

I love McKenzie. Here's the thing, I, if you like my show, but there's one thing that drives you crazy, you're like, okay, I hate when you say you're gonna cover something that you don't or you ramble or you cut off your gas. These are things that people have complain about.

You talk too fast, you cut off your gas, you, I don't care. Most, I see gas. These are things that people complain about. You talk too fast. You cut off your gas view. I don't care Most I see 99.9% things are positive. However, I might not agree with you. I'm open to feedback. So I don't care. I'm comfort enough. I know people So if there is something that you think could have improved the show, you might not agree. Careful. Or that you're like, God, I can't let's do anymore with the blood. Whatever, it might be good. I might take an advice, but I might tie the fuck off. Just kidding. I'm too nice. You are. You'll have one of your interns do it for you. Yeah, they'll do it. They're actually, I'm going to train them to do the mean, mean, bad cops.

Yeah, climb to nice. Here we go. So appreciate, yeah, where the hell was I? I appreciate in your part. Okay, so like, I don't remember you. Let me talk about water. Appreciation is something that a lot of people, like I said, couples who are together rather like they don't feel appreciated.

And I think in very different ways, men and women don't feel appreciated. So do you ever feel like in your, either your current relationship or past that you feel that's familiar feeling that you can identify with that you just don't feel appreciated? Yeah for sure but at the same time I've been like extra appreciated by people who were not right for me and they're like so goddamn codependent that that's one of the reasons why the relationship was bad

beginning with because they're always dodiin on me and filling their entire life was like what I was and what I was about and didn't have any never mind I'm going down a different road. No, but that's unhealthy as well. Right right so it can be good and bad. Right so you need a healthy like everything in life. Yeah I've been you know underappreciated and I feel like in my in my current relationship and we talk about it. So can you give me an example or like just like you can make up like like I'm always getting the food and making sure that you know like I will be at home and

she's hungry and I'll go out and get food just for her like that's never happened for me something like that I see okay so that that makes total sense and does she say the sheep but when you come back with the food she says thank you oh yeah she always says thank you and usually I get to watch whatever I want after that for at least a half hour or she's eating that kind of thing I'm making it sound like our entire relationship exists on the couch we do tons of stuff I do I'm say I've sex in the couch but but I'm making it sound like our entire relationship exists on the couch. We do tons of stuff. I do. I'm saying sex and then couch. But I'm curious. So that's that's that's you that is the kind of thing that could fester for so long. It does and I'm like a chick too. It always comes

up when we get in fights. Right. So did you ever and then if you so if you said you're a baby, it'd be so cool. One time you could just offer. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And then she get upset about that which you like I thought you liked. When you see when we get in fights, I'm back. I'm not doing it anymore. And then I'll go maybe two days without doing it. And then I, but I love to do it. You know what I mean? You love to do it. That's what I'm asking you.

So in her mind, she'd be like Anderson loves getting out of the house. So it's just that you want her to offer you. Would you like her to do something else for you? I'm just, I think I just pick fights. I pick fights sometimes. Yeah. But you don't really, you wouldn't like it if she got out the way to set way for you. I feel guilty the whole time she was gone. Okay, so this is like a weird genetic thing. Okay, so, so, so, but how would you? Okay, I get it.

Appreciate it. But we got off the topic of appreciation. I'm sure you're saying you'd like to feel appreciate what if she didn't, but she does say thank you. So you've got a whole nother issue going on. No, but I get what you're saying, but do you know how you need to be? It's just very appreciative. I feel guilty bringing any of the stuff. No, no, I get it. That's a whole other issue. Do you feel like you appreciate her? Yeah, I'm kind of forced to because every time I anyone meets her like my friends made her they're always like I don't understand why she's with you Why is she she's so much better than you? That's what I always hear. So yes, I definitely appreciate. Right. Okay, but that makes her feel good because other people kind of, that's what I was going to say. That a lot of people like to be validated, compliments make people feel really good.

And women and men, I think some guys, either they don't, like, do you like getting compliments in or do they? That makes me uncomfortable. OK. Here's my question for you. I know that compliments make men uncomfortable, but does it make you uncomfortable, but you'd rather get them than not get them?

I'd rather hear about them second hand. Hey, this person said this about you. Oh, cool. Okay, so I think that's true or maybe- If someone looks me in the eye, I really appreciate you for it. It makes me, I get a very uncomfortable heart. Okay, so it's an intimacy issue.

So, okay, so here's my question. You should see her. She's like sizing me up. She thinks she's making it ugly. But not a lot of men feel uncomfortable by it too, and it's probably because of intimacy, because I know the women, we love to be compliment complimented told that we look at or pretty or you think special but at the same time careful just last week you were saying never use that of the pickup line because

they always hear no I'm talking about a relationship right right don't use it as a pickup line unless you're really hitting on kidding don't use a pickup line but with your partner I think that women a lot are in relationships where they don't feel sexy or beautiful to their partner and the partner partner's thinking, oh, she knows I think she's hot, but if you're thinking it just say it or like your haircut or something because women we do a lot of crap that you guys don't have to do to look beautiful. So if you recognize it out to dinner, right? And like the four of you would think another couple. And how about this compliment? Like there's a, she says, even your wife or a says a table, oh my god, Ann was saying, got like the,

did the cool, his film just got it, which it did. Just got into two film festivals. How cool is that? Like, would that make you feel better? Because I think men kind of like public appreciation. Like do you think that that would make you feel better? Or would that make you uncomfortable? Or would that make you feel better? Because I think men kind of like public appreciation, like do you think that that would make you feel better? Would that make you uncomfortable? Or would that make you feel good? Initially make me uncomfortable.

And then it's actually logical questions and I could actually speak to it. There's other people around to witness what you've just done as well. I feel that men like to have that affirmation kind of more in public sometimes. It is a, you know, just more of a, like, it's like that validation. It makes them feel like a man. I don't know. If you're wrong, but I think I think I'm not wrong because I'm never wrong. Okay, so no, I'm wrong a lot.

So here's the thing. So no matter what you do, big or small, reinforce the positive acts and you'll get more in return. So just say, thank you. You know, they walk the dog for you or they take your notification away, you know? There's a lot of couples who they never appreciate me. I don't feel thankful. Also you have to listen, okay?

Listening is a great tool for couples and I think that you might think that you're listening, but this goes for men and for women. And there's something to be said about having your partner's undivided attention. Like when they put down their cell phone, they put down their iPad and they're like, hey, babe, what do you need from me right now? I'm here to listen. Even if it's 10 minutes in the morning,

or you need 10 minutes after work, and you just want them to listen, and you both need to vent, and you need to connect, and can be intimate. But your partner always seems distracted, and they're not really listening to you. It makes us feel unvalued and unimportant and not special. So if you do pay attention to them, they feel the opposite. They feel valued, the important, prioritized and special. So stop what you're doing and try to connect

with your partner like even five ten minutes a day. She's using her coffee button, everyone to drink her water. I made it trained. So for men, here's a thing for men. So you know, it's typical that when a woman opens up to a man about things like, maybe I came in from work and at a bad day. I had this happen with your partner and she's like, honey, this and that. And maybe it's even something you've heard before. My boss was such a jerk and then this thing happened and I might not get this raised,

but I tried and this other bitch next to me. So you know what I mean? Women go out sometimes about. Oh, yeah, I dated those. They're hard or don't just win women go out and sometimes about the other fans. Oh yeah, I've dated those, they're hard. Or don't just win a woman's thing, and men naturally, or predators naturally, are fixers, you just want to fix it.

Yeah, and you guys don't want to hear a solution. You just want to unload. Exactly. So they want to help you in distress. That's part of being a man, it's your biology, it's how you're wired. But a lot of times, we don't want that solution. We just want to process.

So that's how we want you to listen. Just process with this, babe, I'm so sorry. That sounds really hard. That sounds like it's not even if you're like, I've heard the same times. And then in another moment in time, we'll be like, you know what you should do about that thing? But in that moment, it's really frustrating as a guy. It's like watching you guys do a crossword puzzle. And you're like, it's seven across. And it's like a president's name and a word for a penis. And I don't know what it is. And like, we know it's Johnson, but we're not allowed to tell you in that moment

We have to sit there and bite our tongue. It's tough. I know but but you know it makes it it makes it It makes it off low. It makes it all it's it's one a little Course no one was saying but this is what in us I'm talking about like biology or like men you want to fit like it's just our women We are naturally born Converting to bitch, but even with our girlfriends. We communicate, we listen, we're not trying to, it's how we're wired. So that's what I'm trying to say.

And then you come to the same, we all come to the same conclusion just a different time. Exactly. So for men, for women, when you have a problem, many offers advice, like even if though we told not to, don't immediately object him, you can listen to it. And you can also thank him for it, make them feel like, you know, I so appreciate your opinion about that. Um, because he just once fixed it up, but then say, but I got to tell you a little bit more and I would just appreciate if you would listen. And I think everyone who loves you can take that advice. It doesn't have to blow up and do all the thing. And the more you confront these things

in the moment as they're happening, the more likely you they're not going to fester and get angry like Anderson does. Like, why don't you get my goddamn pizza up this time bitch? I would never get pizza up, but she loves it and I get it for her all the time. Okay, fine. I don't want to really good compliment is what you look at your partner and you go, you know what? You're so lucky I don't care about looks. Hey, you're such a cool person.

Look, looks don't even matter to me at all. Oh my god, it's a worst. How about like, I've said that a few times, but I at all. Oh my god, that's the worst. How about like, I've said that a few times, but I was joking. I think they knew that I was joking. You think they never called you again? You're lucky, I don't care about looks.

Yeah, I was going her looks, you can't like, I've had guys who like you, I have the best, this guy was getting me to say like, you are the coolest chick, I have the best time with you, they've ever hung out with you, so cool. But like that felt good, but I'm like, do you want to bang me?

You know, this is before the bang No, it's after the bang. Well, then yes, he wants to bang you know, I know he's taking how fun I was cool Oh really you take it that way because that's like the greatest compliment I'm actually kidding. No, it was awesome Like he was like I actually never want to hang out with anyone, but I want to hang out with you No, it's really nice. That's what he's saying is like you're like even if you were dude Even if I didn't want to bang you, I don't want to hang out with you, which is a huge compliment. Right. That's what he's saying is like even if you were a dude, even if I didn't want to bang you, I didn't want to hang out with you, which is a huge compliment.

Right, that's true. Okay, so I guess that was a compliment. I felt really good about it. Don't get us, no. It was, it felt really good. Okay, so here's the thing. So also, here's another thing, this is huge. Create your partner with enthusiasm.

So when they walk to the door, instead of simply glancing up, like, oh, it's you again, see you every night, make it a deal, like, how did I kiss them, say hello, how was your day? And I know you're thinking sometimes that could be impossible, you're in the middle of something, Dancing up like oh, it's you again. See you every night making a deal like how to kiss them. Say hello. And I know you're thinking sometimes that can be impossible. You're in the middle of something. But you know, you're happy that they're there. And even if you saw him eight hours ago

and talked to them the whole right home, you know, it means something to touch. Is that rhythm? Is that right? You gotta be careful. Do you kiss each other like hello? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I get up, help open the door, that kind of thing.

I'm okay. I'm like, you know, she's coming in the door. Okay of thing. I'm I you know she's coming in the door Or I can see well no, there's like she comes in through the through the backyard So I see her coming across the grass and I get up and open the door. Yeah, I even paused the hockey game a lot of the time You pause the hockey game. I pause it. Yeah, that's really sweet down stop and ask her about a day or do you go back to the hockey? Okay, how are you? Then I tore the score and I tore it Zip it up. It's time to the hockey. Okay. How are you? And then I tore the score and I tore it. Zip it up. It's time for the lock. Women's guy. I love the guys just want men to stop talking. Women want. Guys want women. They're women to stop talking.

She's quiet. I'm lucky. That's great. A lot of time. It's just unload time when people get home from work and they just want to like go right into all that. Yes. And it's tough. But you got to sit there and listen patiently. That's how women sometimes want. I mean,'t know if you guys who are just like me, but most of them aren't, but they want to talk or everything and process, you know. Okay, so, and okay, we come back. I'm going to give you some more tips about that, about how you can make sure that you're doing the right things so you continue to have

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check it out, back to the show. What, Anderson? What do you want? What do you want from me for Christmas? Back to the show what Anderson what do you want? What do you want what do you want for me for Christmas? And you're stocking I always get your booze. I know you think you're like thank you. I like crown. I like Jack Daniels I like I like all whiskers crowns better right? I'm Canadian. I went to the half Canadian I went to bemo and the guy thought I was like I had some learning disabilities or something because my knowledge I'm like how old I am like I think you thought I don't know the difference in scotch and which key I don't I don't not probably an alcoholic and most doctors books And I don't know the difference so don't feel bad. I felt really like ignorant about it I'm like, well, I know lines like you're such a sweet person. She's probably in a big bottle of booze

This thank you for For everything you do for me. That's very sweet. What do you want from me? What do I get? Oh god nothing a Bible? You need a Bible there in your life? Oh, nothing. Oh, God, nothing. A Bible? You need a Bible there in your life. You need a Torah? I probably should, no. Yes. Want a Quran?

You want a Quran? I probably need some more religion. I, I, or some, no, I'm pretty spiritual, you know. Spiritual. I hate anyone who says they're spiritual is not spiritual. Anyone who says they're sexual is not sexual, too. I'm a very sexual person. No.

You're a very useful person. I'm so funny. What if they're about funny, why? I am so funny. Everyone laughs behind my back all the time. No, but that's so you can't talk about it. Yeah. Yeah. So, greet them with enthusiasm, which is important. And think about your partner. Once in

while because we all have needs need to be met, which is why it's so important to be selfless and cater to your partner every once in while. So, do the things they love to do, make their favorite meal, put on a movie, even though you really wanted to watch the hockey game.

You know, if you really hate it, you hate it, whatever you can go with, turn on your iPhone and start texting your friends. Little tiny sacrifices will make them feel like a king or queen for the day. So it's worth it to think like one of those last time I made a little compromise that really doesn't be a deal to me, that would make it part of happy

To you an example and also this extends to like even people you're dating or work or life Any little sacrifices you do that you think makes your partner happy? It's a constant. I mean you I I'm one of those ones that I get happy by making other people happy So it kind of comes naturally, but right because you're close also I got to get Like creative because I have one of these strange people that doesn't I'm married to a person who doesn't like to go out to eat Oh, that's why you're always getting up doesn't like to go see movies much either so it's kind of like what else you do I like in the movie business. That's all I want to do is like see movies and go out to eat

What does she like to do? She's like to leave. She likes to see. So it's forced me to like find out I'm lucky enough that we live in the Metropolis. Then there's Los Angeles. So there's always something. We were both born and raised here. She and I, but there's still so many things we haven't seen. But I'm sure that most people listening to this, there's cool little things in your little town that you've never done. Exactly. We went on a tourist bus a couple weeks ago. That's so far. We got LA. We got a tour of Hollywood. And we lived here, you know what I mean?

But it was still cool. That's really, was that her idea? So she'd rather do things like that maybe, and you'd rather go to movies. I'm much more traditional. I just like to try different little hole in the walls and this and that food and drink. It's just a drink.

She doesn't like food much. Yeah, she eats fast food. So it's a challenge, but you'll find things. But then every once in a while, you get the fast food every once in a while, you just think, fun, exactly. So it's not that, and you'll find things. But then every once in a while, you get the fast food every once while you just think, fun, exactly. So it's not that in you know, this when you got together with this person or sometimes it's just, it doesn't have to be deal breakers that you can compromise also participate in their life like outside your like something like

outside of the shared interests. So if it's like, guys, or so to fantasy football, which I find so boring, but whatever I can try to pretend that I care, or you can sit with them, you know, favorite video games, exotic cars, whatever, ask your partner about it. Like, no, would you appreciate it? Do you ever feel like, can you even talk about your wife, like, in past relationships that you like when the person you're dating shows interest in what you do? Yeah, at least they have to have interest in something. Right. But what about you? What do they never ask you though? Hey, Anderson, tell me about your podcast or listen to it. How would you feel scary?

Like so he's got after disaster which is a great. Oh also, sorry. I always film vault amazing podcasts They both are about film and but what if you date were date because this goes for dating I'm just curious and you were dating and she never said to you so like how'd you get into you know talking about film? Why do you love film? It'll be a little scary would you be like she doesn't care about me? Yeah, like I'm just kind of a placeholder. Like she just needs like a guy in that position in her life and it doesn't really matter who is. She's not making an effort to know more about you. Because she obviously doesn't care, right? Well, I wish she just itself involved and doesn't know.

Which translates to, I don't care about you because I don't care about me. Right. Exactly. So I would say that typically though, even if you're in to continue to ask about those things too, right? But no, you're right. There are people who, like I know a lot of guys, well, the boat goes both ways. But you know what?

People are weird though. It But no, you're right. There are people who I know a lot of got. Well, the boat goes both ways. But you know what? People are weird though too. Like I'll talk to people who have been work like Recently, I went to this restaurant. It was really cool. It was really old and been there forever I asked the guy how long he'd work there. He said like five years. I was asking some basic questions about the building No idea. So sometimes people just don't think to ask questions about things that are around them, including their others. But he probably appreciated the good thing. But he was just like, he was, uh, well, that wasn't a good example.

That was a terrible example. But I'm saying, I mean, no, but I think that everyone likes the people who, I mean, I've always been someone like, grills people. I probably go overboard. I ask a lot of questions. Here's a better example. I was dating a girl for probably six months and I have a film strip tattoo on my arm right goes around and it looks a little bit like a snake some people

think that this girl five months into the relationship somebody talked about the film strip on my arm we're out in public and she goes oh that's what that is I always thought it was just like bracelets or something. I'm like she never asked about your tattoo. She never asked about it she's made an assumption and it was a wrong assumption. And then did you jump for or no? We banged for another couple weeks and taking interest. Like you put this thing on your body that you're gonna for the rest of your life. You just think that somebody wants to get to know you like I knew her tramp stamp was a butterfly. I could tell that's the first sign, that was your Jamstown. But did you ever talk about her stamp? Like, did you ever say what you're doing? I asked her why many times. Really?

But she never asked about yours. Just interesting. So you just want to listen. You just want to give and take. And also, for women, if there's something that your partner for guys that your partner is interested in, that could seem trivial to you, just make the effort and ask anyway.

We all want to feel like the person that we're with cares about all aspects of our life and that you're listening. Also praise their accomplishments. I think that everyone has a deep rooted need to be praised and feel like their efforts are recognized. And I think that a lot of people are withholding from that. They might think like, oh, if I praise and a part part or too much, she's gonna get a big. This is like early out. This is what men is always says, but it's just young. But no, I think you think so. If you tell a woman too much that she's whatever, she's gonna think she gets, but it's like no. She's gonna think what? She likes, this is like early out when you're dating,

but I guess, but if you tell a woman that you're really into or that you think you're really beautiful, she's gonna know that you're really into her and then take advantage of you. That happened to menace. That must have happened to them once and for all. She has to take a douchebag, it's one of those,

no, I'm not, he's not, I love menace. What I'm saying is there is a school of men, a school of thought that thinks that you have to be kind of douchey to a brave to be kind of a loof. You have to be able to hold your own for sure. I mean, you can't be like a pushover and constantly like fawning over someone. Right, but I think that probably menace her.

I think that this people do think this way, but all I'm saying is that we all the deep rooted need to feel like our efforts are recognized. We do. No matter what we do, work life we're proud of it, right? And we want to feel like our partners seize our skills and talents and it's proud of us. And I really think that that's true.

Like if you're part of it, even if they don't have a traditional job or your husband is a stay-home dad and he just built a new deck and you think it's awesome. Like you can say like, how did you do that? Or if she's home during the day of the kids, I don't know what not to be stereotypical, but you think like people stop talking once or together.

And it's just to show interest in what your partner likes makes them feel good as well. So, right, don't you think? Yeah, even if it's not something directly that relates to you. Right, exactly. That was an individual. And I think for men, like, did he just do,

like if you talk about like, did he do something great at work recently or did he put up a new bookshelf? Like, don't just like thank him. I think that men want to be praised. Bookshelf. And then they want to be bragged about to friends and family.

So if your Thanksgiving dinner and your guys probably not going to speak up and talk about the fact that he just got a raise or he wanted a ward at work, it would probably make him feel good in front of his family and women too. So if you brought it up, I think men like that more do agree or disagree. I do, but I'm stuck on bookshelf. It makes them feel validated or so through. You go, hey, I'm sitting in the bar, low. You know how we call the glove box, the glove box?

Yeah. Because people used to put their gloves in there back in the day. That's what bookshelves are going to be. Because there's not going to be any books in the near future. That's true. And they're still going to be called bookshelves. So I'm like, our kids kids are going to be like, why do they call them bookshelves?

What's a book? Exactly. It's going to be awesome. Well, maybe those things just like store your store your bag. No, they'll still call it like they do a glove box. I love that. I never thought of that before.

I never thought of that before. I love you there. You're just a genius. Off-roading is totally fine. because I do that all the time. And you know what, if this isn't coming naturally to you either and you maybe you should take a look at your relationship. Maybe you just don't care about the person sitting across for me a month. Exactly. If you don't even ask what their tattoo means. It's so true. This is all like really, and this is good for you just starting a relationship too.

So the next time you go out, you know, ask, I think a lot of people, I think they might not do it for several reasons. I think on the first date, a lot of people talk about themselves a lot because they're nervous and they don't, you know, I've got a lot of people love to talk about themselves because they're an expert. So if you're a guy or a woman, whatever, who's anxious or anxious, like uncomfortable dating and, you know, ask questions, where'd you from? Do brothers and sisters? I mean, you can go on, not not. I do this all the time. It's not even because I'm nervous. I'm just actually really curious.

So, um, and you know, it's, yeah, ask questions. It's good. Makes you feel validated. And you get to know the other person sitting across from you too. If they just take the ball and run with it and they're just, it's an hour later, they're still talking about themselves. Hey, look at that person. That's what they are.

Exactly. And then you know all the answers. Like don't, don't pick Koi. And don't, but you must really be interested if you're sitting there like and also you never know where you're going to learn from someone either. So look at this opportunity to learn. If you're like, I'm not interested in this person.

Just make sure there's a natural balance that can give and take when you're on dates and stuff like that. And also notice the small things. So they making a cup of coffee or remembering to Tivo your favorite show, Tivo. Isn't it funny? People say that Tivo. I still have a Tevo. So it makes sense.

You do? Yeah. Do you use it? Yeah, they have an option with a direct TV. You could get you can still get a brand new TV. I love my I love Tevo more than you. I do. I think it's filled up because I never watch TV. But why do you even have one to get rid of it?

Put a dildo display case where your TV is. I already have dildos like all over in other places that they shouldn't wait I was gonna say something else about my oven, but I don't have dildos on my oven because I don't have an oven But last night, that's where I keep your sex book, um, and you're oven. Yes cool. So wait, I was gonna say that um Teeth, but wait back up. So can my direct TV? Can I get more memory on it? I just feel like we're way off road now, more in the bookshelf. Okay, so also here's another thing guys. Yes, there's many like the genie.

You should maybe look in the genie. Just be text me that. Okay, if you so again, you guys, holidays are coming up. Thanksgiving, be thankful if you want to appreciate your partner. You know, just think about some of these things. Like I haven't told her lately that I appreciate this or that or you know, ask them some questions about things that you, because a lot of times I think again, making assumptions, we make assumptions that they don't want to

talk about it, so we don't ask or we make assumptions that it's something that's too intimate, but I don't know, they'll let you know if it's too intimate, but I think a lot of times it can be seen as not caring, so it's good to just ask questions. And so, how are we doing, Anderson? We are doing fine, and there's more stuff that you could do now to appreciate your partner. Yeah, yeah absolutely I mean I like it works for both ways too. You can figure out By you know using something to tip to you just give if the person sitting across from you is wrong as well It's not just about you know making your relationship better is maybe figuring out the relationships right

That's true too. God. We learned a lot tonight. Okay Anderson, thank you so much. And I'm thankful for you and happy Thanksgiving. And thank you everyone. Remember, go to my website, check it out, and look at all the great deals that I have and all the fun things happening. Center for the mailing list. I love you all.

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