Sex With Emily - The Best Sex Of Your Life with The LadyFreaks

Episode Date: June 17, 2016

On this show, Emily is joined by the hosts of the UCB show LadyFreak, Grace Parra & Jen Bartels to talk sex, fantasies and what it’s like being a lady in the street but a freak in the sheets!   Along with Menace, the trio dissect the dating scene in L.A., discuss the different types of female orgasms and determine what exactly makes up the best sex of one’s life. They also answer listener emails on Facebook jealousy and office romances.   From the importance of penis size to what it really means to reach your sexual peak, this show is packed with hot sex talk from 3 hot ladies (and Menace.) No topic is too taboo, so don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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it's so scintillating. Yeah. And one more thing that I got to tell you because then I won't bother. Well, I might buy the, it's not even a bother. This is actually for your pleasure that you should follow us on Twitter and Instagram and Snapchat at sex only because I think it's educational and entertaining and you're listening because you want to have better sex and relationships and we dull some of that out on our social media. I think the Snapchat is very entertaining because it gives you behind-scene, you know, you've

been doing this podcast for like 10 years. Right, and no one ever gets to see the behind scenes on how it all works. Exactly. Like how like we just all did a blowjob spray shot before to make sure our throats were coded. Don't people want to see that. Right. Also, it's very attractive. You both are. Oh, yeah. Thank you. Thank you. Well, how about you guys? How about our guests who are so sexy?

We were just saying for the show like they brought it. Yeah. Well, you guys always a cut. Well, I mean, you don't see me before 11 a.m. But I appreciate it. Yeah, well, you guys always a cut. Well, I mean, you don't see me before 11 a.m. But I know me there. I don't even talk to anyone before. New and actually, just why Miss

Madness is Morning Show. But it's a podcast. That's good. You guys are great. Thank you. And thank you for coming in again. We had so much fun the last time

you guys were on, I'm sorry you weren't here for that show, but it was the like anal sex show. We were around table women. And we didn't just stay with anal we show, but it was the anal sex show, with a round table of women, and we didn't just stay with anal. We talked, but you guys are just very open and fun. Do you have a small recap of that?

Was it just about how guys tried to talk you into having anal sex, or was it? Yeah, it was like that first minute, maybe. What was it called to be able to listen to it? Oh yeah, I don't know what it was called. I don't remember, but it was really, it was awesome. So we have to have them back, and they've also had me

on their show, The Lady Freak Show, which tell everyone about, tell, introduce yourselves. Sure, well hi. You guys can do better than anyone, hi Grace. Oh, hello, this is Grace. This is Grace. This is Grace. Hi Grace.

Yeah, Jen and I have been doing a show called Lady Freak for a little over a year now. It is our Pride and our Joy, and it's basically a sex-positive comedy talk show by four and about women, although not exclusively, especially since lately we've been expanding that definition. But basically is a forum for us to talk candidly and intelligently about some topic within the realm of sex and dating and romance and how all those topics specifically relate to women. So we talked about everything from technology and sex

to toys and sex, to intimacy and problems there, and we're talking about religion and sex. And we just had our last show that we had, oh hi, Jim Bartel, this is Jen now. Hi Jen. Hi hello. And we just talked about sex workers and prostitution. And we had real sex workers on our panel,

which was so amazing. Yeah. These just live shows are are they on line video? It's a few different things. We're primarily doing the show live right now although we also are starting the comedy festival circuit so we're going to be at out of bounds in September. In awesome. But no also we had my I'm also on the nightly show in Comedy Central and my boss Larry Wilmore is first of all the greatest, and second has been a guest on our show, which is awesome, and had then had Jen and I on panel to do a topic about prostitution and decriminalization. Oh my God, I want to see it.

Yeah, it was great. So we actually did it on the Nightly Show on Comedy Central, too, which was awesome. And that was just, that was great. Great, you guys, congratulations, pre-insects, the people that you understand. Yeah, wait, so talk about it. But I, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, basically like what's sweetened and a lot of other. So what happens if you get caught doing a process? Here now? No, no, no, but I'm just saying with this, what you're trying to promote.

Oh, they turn a blind eye, basically. Okay. The situation is that if you, let's say, are held at gunshot right now while you're in the middle of like a prostitution shot. Not a good point, guys. Gunshot shot. Gunshot shot. That was right.

You're already been shot. You're like mid air. Oh, hi. Yeah. So. Yeah, the. Yeah. So. Yeah, the idea is that basically there are very few people will government wise and medical wise that you can turn to if you are a prostitute

who is under any sort of duress. There's no rights right now for a big girl. And that's their own choice if they're wanting to utilize their body for business. And right now there's nothing protecting them. The thing that we learned with Lady Freak is that there is a difference between decriminalization and legalization, which I didn't know going into it, which is

I think a big part of the show overall is like learning like I go into it knowing what I know. It's why we always have a sex spread. It's why we've had Emily on. It's the greatest. We love you. I was really fine. I want to go on the road with you. Actually, yes, we can make that happen. Okay, good. We'll do it like a bit more fun. But that's cool, you guys. You guys are going to get out there. They can find you all. We'll have all the information Your web on our website, but it's lady freak lady freak comedy.com I love it. Okay, when they found the last show you guys around which was honest here one of our most popular

I think it might have been our top show of the year. Oh ladies talk sex back door secrets Oh, I'm sure that's why people love the Idol shows what are gonna do but then like every guys obsession, anal and three sums. Are those Europe Sessions? My obsessions, maybe when I was in my early 20s, yeah. Right, what are Europe Sessions now? Good question. Getting rest.

And then go day hours and a light raceling. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, I don't think I have those obsessions anymore. I would actually really have to think about it, but right now, I can't. The clock is on right now. Yeah, exactly. So the end of the podcast is about to go back to you.

All right, I'm obsessed with- What do you have obsessed with? I don't know. What do you guys obsessed with, actually, right now? I think going on? Honestly, rest sounds real good right now. Right. Right.

I've recently, so the last time I was here, I was just going through a divorce, and now I'm fully divorced. Oh. So now, like, and like, I don't know, I feel like I'm in like the sex peak. What, when is the sex peak? Is there a sex peak?

There's a lot of different. They say that it is the women in their late 30s, early 40s, mid 30s, early 40s. I'm gonna say not there yet, so. Okay, good. I touched my phrase. Okay, good, so mid, so okay. 34.

Yeah, that's not where they would say the peak is, but I do think face. Okay, good. So, okay. 34. Yeah. That's not where they would say the peak is, but I do think that it, but the truth is, I think that as women mature and you, we get to know our own bodies better. And we, like, know we want, we're not afraid. We're not just giving some glad, but we'll jump, because you think he wants it. We don't feel bad or guys. And we're like, hey, I know myself, we're confident. And so the sex might feel a lot better.

Yes, but I also, there's times, I'm in my car and my little nub and clit starts going like it's like I just got an email like it is a squirrel making a cute noise but it's my vagina and it's it's me wanting sex like I crave sex and it's like usually mid-morning and early afternoon I'm like I would love to be filled with a dick right now and have an orgasm. I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no-

I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no-

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I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- I think there's no- or population grace Michelle Barra. With one exception, or what would you get into in a second? Two exceptions actually, I should say. But otherwise, since I moved to New York in October, it has been not great. And now it's just a cycle now. It's like, oh god, I'm on the hamster wheel of no sex. And I guess, are you accepting of it?

Are you just kind of in doing it? I know, I am too an accept because I'm super productive and happy in other ways I really am like very fulfilled career wise and friend wise and all these other non-sexy Cut to me and I'm masturbating in a parking lot Well, I was going to say do you use your vest for necklace? She's got a cry I gave you the crave vest for necklace last time and you really do your pullover like It goes and then you pull over I'm used to it before and let me just say this I've washed it because I'm wearing it on my neck now

I don't be like, it's cool. Hey, where's that been and I'm like cool. It's a vibrator watch out I use it in my bedroom, but it's nice to know you can travel with it Which is like if you're like on a sexy vacation and you just don't want to bring like your rabbit or something exactly No, it's a good conversation It is a great conversation turns on by mistake. You guys want potato skins? I'm wearing a dildo right? I do have a question though about you're saying about New York because we are originally from San Francisco and they always say that guys are pusses and they're too shy and they won't go up to women and then you hear about New York

guys are just super direct in your face. You know telling you what they want. That's, yeah, I heard that too. But you haven't found it. The thing is that that kind of personality would not appeal to me. I do like a guy to be direct by all means. But first of all, I've been working so much. I haven't been going out to bars and clubs and even events that much. But I find that guys in San Francisco and L.A. are more of a happy medium.

You can find aggressive guys here on the West Coast. But I don't know. There's plenty of guys who are really nice who I'll go up to. I have no problem with that. In New York. Or here. Here, here, here. The aggressiveness in New York, I think you're speaking to only because I grew up a little bit in Staten Island, is more cultural. I think there are certain types of men that

are aggressive, like Grace is saying. But I think in general, when you get to New York City, like Manhattan, people are shut-ins a little bit. Yes. They're either working, stressed, or drinking til 4 a.m. But there's no much, I think people are more outgoing in LA. The drinking til 4 a.m. thing is really interesting. I've noticed since I cut back and going to bars, dating just doesn't happen for me in New York,

because that is how dating. That's how you like to react. I mean, meet someone. Exactly, dating. Date, date, date, date. Right, which is like, now I'm at the age where that's just not as fulfilling to go get fucking you know Hammered at some bar with some random

I thought you might hammered it like Jack can't I'm not a man right right right right right right and I know I sound like old man, but it's just so late It's so late. I don't know like back in San Francisco everything shut down like 30 that's reasonable You can't eat past noon. Midnight. Midnight is never to go. Like, no, we're to eat nothing to do.

Go get that digest if you don't know where to go. Okay, so, but here, but I also wonder if it's like, like you were saying in your life that you weren't, Jen wasn't having great sex before, now you want it. And now you, Grace, maybe in the past, you have been great sex, but your career is great and your friends, it's like all the balance in life. It's so hard to find balance.

Do you know what I'm talking about this all the balance in life. It's so hard to find balance. Do you guys have balance? I mean, do you guys wanna talk about this all the time? I don't. I'm working on it. I don't know if I think I'd be bored. I don't think I'd be bored. I think a big thing I've realized lately through a lot of therapy and Vodka's is

you're always striving to find the balance but that is why we live is always juggling to find the balance and just throughout it, give your best, don't be a dick. But you're always trying to find it. That's true. Yeah, although, well, go ahead. No, no, I was just saying the balance, it sucks

because like, yeah, like career wise, everything could be awesome, friends wise, and then you're not having sex. And then what I'm like unemployed and like figuring out what I'm gonna do next in my life, I'm getting laid constantly. You know exactly, exactly, exactly. Yeah, exactly. Exactly life, I'm getting laid constantly. You know what I'm saying? Exactly, that's exactly it. Exactly. I've been getting laid the most.

It's nothing going on right now. It might have been much you applied your time though. Because I think there is application of specific time and focus and attention. You're putting more time and stuff on your career. And so that's hard to balance and also trying to spend the same amount with a man. Because that stuff is more, it's fresher to me.

Like the career stuff that's happening is fresher and more exciting than sex. You're also like, I'm also like, I'm also like, I'm not so good at it. Yeah, and I don't know what sex is, it's just like, I've done, I'm in a good place right now. I've done a lot of crazy things, whatever. What I have not done has been in like a very long term relationship

with somebody that I love and had really good sex with that guy. And that I think is the next frontier. But that doesn't come going to a bar like three o'clock in the morning. Right. I mean, it could. It could. But I get it.

I think there is a part where you have to spend time and you're getting to, you know, building your career, get, you know, which builds your confidence, which gives you independence. And it's such a passion. And you both are an entertainment, not an easy business. And it is hard to do it all. I've totally had that where I, the last 10 years, I've been working on this. So I wanted about your sits.

I know, but it's the same thing. Like I've just been, I haven't been prioritizing dating in a while and I just, I was dating someone we broke up like four months ago and I was like, this is the lung, I'm not even interested. Like I'm not even, nothing. And I was saying like, I don't even remember to masturbate. Like I walk my house and there's like literally

like 5,000 via dildos going like, hey, you gotta sign me up. I'm like, oh, yeah. Because then we were saying like, if I'm not having sex, which I kind of like, because then I would've been working on myself, like therapy, doing more yoga, doing more, whatever, but not thinking about sex, but then I'm also not turned on as much,

but then the more that I start to masturbate, or when I am having great sex, I want more sex, like you were starting to say, but it's a ballot for me also, it's a health thing. Like I think that I start to masturbate, or when I am, I'm having great sex. I want more sex, like you were starting to say, but it's a ballot for me. Also, it's a health thing. I think that if I don't even, even if I have sex, I need to masturbate. I realize that that's off for me, because I'll just go, I won't think about it. I don't think to do it.

And it's actually really good for your health, like your physiology, for women to release that orgasm. So it's funny how we are, because guys are like, what are you talking about? I'm like, every day, I get hard, I masturbate. It's over. We're not, we're like, you have to talking about? I'm like, every day I get heartache masturbates over like we not were like you have to but when I make my set or masturbate today, like I will do it because I feel better. So it's all important. So right now no, I'm not really having sex with anyone. I tried to last night and this is a rare incident. Have sex or masturbate masturbate and I is a rare instance where I was just I fell asleep like

10 seconds into attempting it turned yourself off. I sure I Turn yourself on does that have any guys where you just get your Yeah, I've been like I wake up in them a vibrator and then the house someone comes over and it's like sitting in the I bet or the housekeeper. Yes, that happens. I've done everything when it comes to sex toys and I'm packing them And appropriately and all that but I want to go back to one thing here Jen that you said so you said right now your clearist is like speaking to you in multiple languages, and before it was it, because you weren't having great sex,

because you were married. I don't know. That because you were married. Be sort of in great sex. Yeah, there wasn't that physical connection anymore. But I want to hear about when you say you're having great sex right now. Can you explain to me what that means?

Yes. You break that down for me. I think for me, it means such a few things. Here we go. I think for me, it means such a few things. Here we go. I think for me, I do think jic-size isn't the only thing that matters, but I think that a good full penis going into my, you know, I would say, you know, half size is there. You know, I think I maintained a fairly nice tight canal.

I think that that feels good. And I think that like when, and I'm just lucky that that's the case right now. And it's a boyfriend or a, yeah, someone's saying, yeah. And then I also think like there's a connection. Like, even if it's eye contact, like, there's been guys I've had sex with where I'm like, our eyes are both closed.

And there's just this almost like vulnerability you don't want to go there. So you go in your head to come and it's like, oh, I came so good, where'd you go? Where'd I go? Who was here? Who was here? What happened? So I think that like like connecting and then also not being afraid to try things. Like we try things now. Like we try, you know, there's a lot of...

They held hands. We watched jobs. But you know, there's a few things that we're not afraid to try. And I think we're open to try them and that's sex. Give me the example of the last thing you tried. I'm just curious what you think. OK, I think that one of the things that we tried last was a little bit of choking.

Oh, OK. Yeah, I tried that. Yeah. So huge right now. Choking's all the rage. It's so mean. I don't know. Maybe he got a memo like try choking with her.

But I was like at first. Came from Pornhub. Oh, definitely. Oh, yeah. But yeah, I don't know maybe he got a memo like dry choking with her. But I was like at first came from porn hub. Oh, yeah. But yeah, I think that's okay. Choking questions we never used to get and we never used to get deep throat questions. 10 years ago. What do you have? What do you have?

What do you have? What do you have? What do you have? What do you have? How does my girl father get a deep throat? How do I choke? You guys fetishize that. Yeah. It's trending on you, poor now. Well, OK, wait.

So you tried the choking, and it was good. I mean, at first, because it's me, and there's this sexy, I think, feminine side. And I think it's always trying to balance itself with my comedic side, because that's just who I am. So we're doing this, and I'm like, are you OK? I'm like, yeah, you like it. You're right, though.

I do like it too much. Is it a jugular? And I get worried. You're choking him. Also vice versa. Vice versa, both, but a little bit of both, but when it's... Well switching. Yeah, yeah.

I'm totally down to always go where someone else goes. Like, I think that that's, I feel safe in that space. I've never choked a guy. I've had it. I just don't want to kill him. I just don't want to be that kind of care-team thing. That's right. Or whatever.

I don't want that to happen. So, but then I got into it and I was like, no, we trust each other enough that if this goes too far, then we can back it up. So we just were vocal, but there was a brief moment. That's the same thing. Doon, doon, doon, doon, doon. That's super sexy, right?

So he, okay, that's good. What's, like, how about you, but Grace, I know you're not having sex, right? Oh, good. Well, you are. Well, a little bit, little daliensis. There was a daliens. There have been a couple dallions this year.

One incredible, with a friend of mine. Both of these guys were friends. One is a friend of mine. It was really just awesome. Another guy, more recently. Wait, was this a friend that you've known for a while and then you just slept together, but you still be friends? Yes, and we are still friends.

Yeah, it's really love it. You know, it was the situation where he watched one of our shows live. And it was a really big turn on And then sexy little vixen's you sure and soap this is So be so so be so No No, no, no, no, no, this is they got codename. Oh my god. There was great. Okay

Okay. Just in case. Six. Whoa! There was a close. There was a big, well, let's take a look. All right. That's pretty dead on. No, yeah, no, this guy, he really liked the show.

And he knew that we did the show, but hadn't kind of see it. And that weekend, we slept together. And then we actually spent more time talking about the sex that we had, just analyzing it and talking about what worked and what didn't and how like, after. Yeah, afterwards, and we did. I got played by play. A play by play, and it was awesome.

It was completely sober, and it was so present. I loved it. So, yeah. So, how did you, what made it great? What made it so good, and then what was the play by play? I just think he's wanting to know who was the best sex. Right, what does it mean? This guy is, he's an actor.

He's very, like, takes very good care of us. He's a famous what's his name coming from. Yeah, okay. What's his IMDb? Yeah. Yeah. No, he's just a really attractive guy to begin with. I mean, for me, I like him very good looking.

He's very good looking, yeah. He is very good looking. So there was that. There's the fact that we've been friends for a long time. We'd gone out on some dates, hadn't slept together, but had spent some time together. So we knew each other. Also, we live in different places. And so this was a time where it was like, oh, it's kind of now or never.

Because you're New York, right? Yeah, exactly. So, yeah, so that also sort of fueled the fire a little bit. And I think I really like the fact that, first of all, I respect his work. And he had, you know, gone out of his way to come see us perform and clearly respected what I do. And that was, that's a turn on to you. That is a turn on. And you thought you're working. You thought, wow, you're really talented. You're really sexy and hot.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, all those things. You know, just something that Jenna talked about with her current situation too. It's, there's no bigger turn on. Turn on. Then to have your partner love what you do. Yeah.

Champion. Someone that's not intimidated by you, but that's just like, I'm a fan, not a fan boy, but I'm a fan and I'm a supporter. And so like, especially when people come see our show, it also cuts out the middleman and that bullshit dialogue you have to have. When the show, when Lady Freak is done, you know a little more, you're more educated.

You're also turned on. So when that thing happened, you're like, I'm ready, game over. Grace was like, let's go. And I think it opened that dialogue quicker because we're not afraid to go there and make you're like, I'm ready. Game over. Grace was like, let's go. And I think it opened that dialogue quicker, because we're not afraid to go there and make you feel like included. Yeah. Do you feel low now that you're doing the Lady Freak show in the sexist so out there

that guys might just want to sleep with you because you seem to be the Lady Freaks? You know, oh, that's, I have, I don't know. I think there is probably a sub-sector, guys who think like, who they're like fucking fluid or whatever. Or who see our pictures and think like, oh, titties on a screen, and I'm like, well, Google a little more because. Which is why I think we should change those posters. I mean, talk to you guys about too.

I'm looking at your poster right now, and it's so sexy, but like classy. Classy. And very, I try to keep it clear, see at least. Ourself like we're two steps away from Jizz and the cheek. Yeah, two steps. Which is actually, you know,, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very's like, you just know, like if a guy's gonna be with sex, I would know that. I think so just because it's the sex thing.

There is the flip side too, which I think might also be happening, maybe in equal portions where guys are like, you're not gonna like talk about me, right? Or you're not gonna like, you know, which is like, I would never violate anybody's privacy. It's all about making sure that, you know,

you can be honest about your anecdotes, but keep it within a realm where people can't like Google or see pictures or whatever, you know. That's it. Yeah, I'm really big on keeping my personal personal. And also, my persona when I go, when we go on Lady Freak, is a heightened version. So there's so many things that when I'm discussing it,

it's not that it maybe hasn't happened, but I might dilute or marry the truth with different elements. So you don't know everything about me because I am still a person. Yeah. I'm not just like somebody that's like wearing a tight shirt and has a loud mouth. Like, right, you know. I'm not just like somebody that's wearing a tight shirt and has a loud mouth.

Like, right, you know. Right. No, exactly, that's true. I mean, I get, right, same thing. People are saying we're performers, but it's real. We're not like playing in a character, but it's all real. It's all real.

Do you really want to hear about how I had a headache yesterday? Yeah, I got like in a car accident. And I took off the left side of my mini-cooper. Oh, no. So boring, though. Do you really want to hear? No. Okay.

So what do you guys, so I think we also talked about, so you're both in relationships now, so I was even gonna, you're not in relationship. No, I'm not. So what about, because I can getting stuck on things you're saying, because they're so good grace, when you were saying that you did the play by a play breakdown after. Yes. What happened in that conversation that you did you learn something, was it, was it? Yes.

Christ, but he was like, I loved how you sucked my penis. And then your plitter is, it was all blossoming like a rose. Well, first of all, he made me squirt for the first time. I should probably have, that's a pretty good thing. Hello, Barry Lee.

Right. Okay, I can't believe I forgot that. I can't believe it either. Wow, Jesus. So he made you squirt how? Yeah. During intercourse or finger? A finger. Okay. Yeah, yeah.

And I had not experienced that before. And we've talked, we've talked, I think we might not have even talked about sure. Yeah, we've had or finger finger okay. Yeah, yeah, and I had not experienced that before and we've talked We thought I think we might have even talked about sure. Yeah, we've had that's great Of course, yeah, I don't know probably it was the first time that happened So I I had a lot of questions and he was like you know that that happened right? I was like yeah Oh my god, how what the and then we have an orgasm at the same time you were squirting yeah, yeah, yeah It wasn't as I guess I was expecting

like some sort of seismic earthquake adjacent orgasm. It was not quite that. It was an orgasm, but it was mostly just like this rush of fluid that, again, it doesn't, it doesn't, by the way, actually scored out of you like a guy's early. No, it doesn't. But important, it can sometimes, but.

Infantilip practice, right, right, right. But this was not the case. However, there is a definitely, there's right. But this was not the case. However, there is a definitely, there's a definitely feeling. There's a flow. Yeah. It is a flow. It definitely feels like, Pete, you've squirted before, right?

No, I, no. I feel like I was almost about to, but I was like, but I could, I have such anxiety. I was like, no, this is definitely piss. Right. Something might be going on, but then I've heard like, no, there's that pressure, that feeling. That's the same feeling. Yeah. I just was like, it was so new in the relationship.

I was like, I'm not trying to piss and palm springs on you. So we pulled that back and I just came Clitz style. That's good. Is that how you mostly orgasm, Clitz? Clitz. Total Clitz. I guess in this, this was not Clitz oral. Well, right, that was more G-spot.

Yeah, what about your blood? Blending. I'm more of like a go-to, but I've had to learn. I've learned how to have a G-spot orgasm. Now, I want to learn that. Oh,ot orgasm. Now I want to learn that. Oh God. Hello. Because I want to learn that.

I want to learn how to have orgasms in. What's the best way G-Spot wise? Because I know the best way, clit wise, is just let me hop on top. Let's look at each other and let me rub it down as you do exercise. Exactly. So the clip's easy, right? That just happens for women, you know, usually it's first orgasm they have. And the problem with the G-Spot is it's so many women assume because they can't they've never had one. All the penises that have

been inside them, they're like, I won't happen or won't happen with my vibrator so they just say, it's not possible. But the thing about the G spot is the best way to find it is to get your fingers actually or partners fingers. And it might take you like a few weeks, a few months of masturbating, like a few times a week, where you're just like, I'm, so it helps to knock out the clip one, which you guys I know are really good at. Cross it off the list. Check, check, because once you're clitoris, you know, once you have that orgasm, like the

whole area becomes engorged, right? Because it's all kind of connected. And it's easier to find the G spot. So it kind of swells inside. And you know where it's like two of like showing you guys. Yeah. It's like two fingers. So go guys. Yeah, it's like she is ready. Right now. Where's our Volvo puppet?

But you stick a finger to inside and it's two inches inside towards the vaginal wall and you do like a come Heather motion. So it's like and we've got also if you guys are listening to this, sex with mme.com. We have so many blogs and posts and podcasts and diagrams, but you stick it inside and you just keep applying pressure so it's not like this. Look, this is what you name it, Madison, my vulva puppet. This is Lola. This is Lola. This is Lola, an vulva puppet.

I would like to have a little clearer orgasm today. I'm a little bit. Okay, so stroke the clitoris. So then you put your fingers inside. Okay, this actually works. So you go two inches inside, it's like this. And it's like right up here. Okay.

And you're kidding like, what should it feel like? It feels like a different texture and it's a raised bump, kind of like a walnut texture. Ooh. Right? And you'll feel it and you'll just start. It'll make it freeze, so find that nut. Find that nut and you just keep applying pressure to it now. It might feel like you have to pee.

Yeah. And you might. That's okay. But a lot of times, just means you're gonna have an ordinance. Now that's what happened in Palm Springs. Yes. He found the nut. He found the nut.

And he was trying to pull it from the tree. And I literally, he was like, if you pull it from the tree, it's gonna rain. That's exactly how it happened. I was like, Palm Springs is a desert. We're good. That's what that's. That's what it's like. I should have just um, pop springs is a desert. We're good. That's, that's, that's what,

I should have just let him go in the pit. Oh, you're so close. You're so close. You can, you can make it happen now. Yeah, so that's it. You're close. Sex happens in Palm Springs. I know. I was just so upset.

What else do you do? You drink day drinks and then you have long hair. Exactly. I've never been to Palm Springs. Maybe I have to go maybe. That's where Grace gets a groove back. That is where, yeah. And the other thing, one more thing,

and then I want to go to Palm Springs Sex, because I just went there and didn't have any. But that's a good story. That, also, the thing that helped me, because I'm really wanting to tell you, is that doing my keglet exercises, like that, I swear to God, you know, you were talking about, I love your sound effects with your clitoris driving,

like, I feel like when my keglet muscles are strong, and it's like five minutes a day, you do them. For the times when I'm really good at doing it, when I've been pretty good this year, I feel like it's like when you're like abs or tight, you're like, I should wear a crop top, if that ever happens. But it's like, wow, I should have sex

because those are the muscles that you can clench. It also helps to like do them while you're like one of an orgasm. And I have like these explosive orgasms during intercress now, which I never could before. That easily. I do kegels. I think since you've been on our show, I've been doing kegels more.

It's like you should do your squats and stretch after you run. I do kegels now when I'm just like chilling back. Is there a time? Yeah, there's a time of day. Does it matter? You do it over your time. I didn't mean that.

I didn't mean that. I didn't mean that. You gotta concentrate to do them. You do. It's very, it's almost like meditation, but for your kegels. No, I feel like I have't know. I didn't know. Yeah. You got to concentrate to do them. You do. It's very, it's almost like meditation, but for your kegels. No, I feel like I have to part. You could do whatever you wanted.

There you go. Because we're super, super open to that. Hi, I'm Grace Park. How long would you wait? So when you're with someone, like, does he, would you wait to give, like, feedback about, like, would you say to him, I want to try the G-sput that I want? I have had whole relationships with men where there was no feedback, which is how I know I'm in a different part of my life because one instance of sex with one awesome

person and, you know, doing a feedback session like we did after that. That was amazing. But both both us were on the same page, sexually. That's the thing. It's really hard to find a partner who's on the same page. Sexual and willing to be open. I think there's the before and the after and then the during. And I feel like everyone gets their mojo

for these 10 to 20 minutes of like fucking. And then when you're done, it's like, I'm good, that was great, let's get some food. It's like, wait a minute, you were just the other day, I looked at my partner and I was like, put yourself inside of me. And then I was like, God, think about that. You put yourself inside of me like I am an alien ship and you are coming in to be docked.

It's so weird. It's interesting and weird and then we both get to a place that our body feels like we need to to release this tension and feel close and connected which I think is so important right. And I just haven't like Grace said like once you've had that now it's like you open the door. You can't do that one night stand like you know John. No, you know John. It's super. John and McKean are. So it's not the best sex of our lives.

Let's be honest, not that a one night stand can't be, but typically it's when you have the closest or the intimacy and you know how to communicate because that's the number one thing is being able to talk to your partner about sex and people, it's a skill you develop and it gets better over time. You just use the phrase best sex of our lives.

I think that is what I'm now in search of. And anything that's not gonna be awesome sex does not highlight. I think that is what I'm now in search of. And anything that's not going to be awesome sex does not. I love it. I've does not. She's not pounding on your like it's a declaration. No, it's true. No, that's why that's the age that that's the age of the mat now. I just don't want to settle for sub-par shit sex.

No, and I think that's the most important. I don't really bother with penis. Yeah, like you should you everyone deserves to feel good about their body and feels like they should be able to communicate with whoever, male, female, whatever, that they are getting, and their bodies respect and they're getting what they need. And you just don't see that.

Is even generationally, I have people that are a little older than me that I'm like, oh, you're in some horrible. What do you guys do every night? Right, I mean. So how would you tell people, what do you think is different? What would you tell your younger self, for example, about sex? I think you know, like last year.

In general, like, you, well, for something I did tell myself was, you're not happy. And this is going to be a hard road. And it's, you know, it's, it's going to be a struggle because you're used to someone. But you know that that someone is not fulfilling you the way you need to be, you know, emotionally at times or physically at times and you deserve that. You work really hard on yourself and there are other people out there that might be a better fit. And then you have that grace period of, oh hi! Where you're kind of like, fuck what now? And then there was just a few crazy nights, you know, a night where I hooked up with like a 23 year old and it was like in a bathtub.

We heard and he like fingered me in a bathtub and I made him listen to oldies and he was like, oh right Listen to the charales. They're great I thought oldies and him were like nickel-bath. Yeah, yeah, you got you like a creed And then and then I kind of had this like I was on a TV show and I hooked up with someone that had worked on the TV show And he was like big into sex parties. He was younger than me. Okay. That's another thing. It's I was married older and Grace and I spoke about this. Just like that. I now I'm only, I'm kind of into younger guys.

Not like 22 and they're like, what's the buy- How old are you? Your third, Grace is 34. I'm 31. 31. Okay, 34. Okay, so you're into younger like, you know, like, 28 to 30. Okay.

You know, I'm a student. How old are you when you got married? I was, this was what, almost two and a half years ago. Oh, so you got married for like a year, you know, I'm how old are you when you got married? I was this was what almost two and a half years ago. So you got married for like a year, your marriage. I was I called, I called off the wedding, the initial wedding. So I was with this person for almost seven years. That is a sign. Guys, if you're doing it so hard.

Well, you know what? It's hard to upset someone else that you care about. So a lot of people in life for a different reason, stay with their partner. And they shouldn't, but they're afraid to be that bad person. But you got to put yourself first. Absolutely. So you pulled out of that one. The marriage.

Pulled out and then I pulled in. And down back into another break. Now you've learned that when you're saying, so I get it. Because that's when I started, when I started the show, I was like, it was truly because I thought, I've not had the best sex in my life. And nobody's happy in their relationships. And I really just wanted to get some answers from people. I started interviewing like this sitting around a table,

people like all my friends, like how, what do you mean like you had three orgasms? Like how did that happen? And how have you been happy? So that's why I like I really want to know like what and I have learned. And that's why we're such a big, I think I have that big.

I think I have that big. All these conversations, I mean, you know how to get amazing stories out of people Yeah, I'm more about your life. We know we came in and she already told me which is such a radio like but you did tell me this great story When you walked in and I kind of can't get it out of my house like I have a story, but I was like tell me later Well, so I mentioned they were there are two moderately recent sexual experiences one was great Squirty guy. Squirty A plus. Squirty reconnaissance after we liked him.

Yeah, yep, yep. And then there was another one and this was just one of these nights that we're referencing that we don't want to have where we're in search of good, awesome sex with somebody who we're intimate with, who we have connection with, who we feel like, you know, there's we are both of a presence of mine to enjoy each other's bodies. Or you just go get bombed at a party. We're like hey you I remember you get out of bed friends like eight years yeah what's up I don't know you're still single again. You're cool. One 14 more drinks. Yeah sure and then they end up in your bedroom. You wake up the next morning and literally I woke up and I open my

eyes and I felt his presence next to me and. And I went, I audibly just went, because I couldn't believe I thought that it was, so it was just, it was a drunken night, but here's the thing. As she was getting ready, as I was so hungover already, and I was just like, okay, I just ran. Also, it's adorable about Grace's, Grace had three drinks and an awful upper-dance.

Yeah, you were there. That's how I had to go. I can't waste a two-shot. I was like, I was almost black out. I was like, you have three drinks. I have like seven drinks on a normal night. I know. Yeah, and anyway, it was everything was super consensual.

Everything is, you know, I remember all the major things. But what I don't remember was how the sex was, which was a problem, because when he was getting dressed the next morning, I noticed that this man's penis went down to the middle of his thigh. I mean, it was huge. It was like a chromactic. It was a chromactic.

It was like earlier on the evolutionary. So why were boxing? Why? Powered a flaccid? It was like like pseudo, yes, am I? With thin skin. No, dude. It was like, it was like, it was cookie log.

That's exactly what it was. It was a roll of Nestle cookie dough. And you would not, dude. It was like a toe house cookie log. Exactly what it was. It was a roll of Nestle cookie dough. And you would not, yeah. And it was just, it was that long and it was that thick. Was your vagina hurting? Like when I've had a big potato cock, which is to me, not as long as that, but like a, like a, like a, like a cocoa, like a cocoa can. A cocoa can. A cocoa can. A Norwegian coke. But did your pussy hurt? The thing is, is I remember that there was some insertion,

but I don't think we actually finished sex as we were both very drunk. So the next day it was a little sore, but not more. I've seen some sizable ones in my life, so I have some experience. But yeah, so I don't know, it wasn't that sore, but I don't think he was jacking me all night. Were you turned on?

Do you remember that? Yeah, I was, but I was also really drunk and sloppy. So it wasn't, it was all bad. Right. It was all bad. And, and, and, Did you get his number? Have you talked to him? He, and Lee would like his number.

His little wife, you're not using him. I, he, I think he was in New York. I don't know. No, that was a situation where he left and I was like, I don't know, whatever. And then like, I don't know. I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm. And then like, to a little house cookie.

Oh, really? I love a cookie dough though. I love it. He, uh, he, like, two weeks later reached out to me. Oh, really? Yeah, I was kind of dickish. What is this about now? You hook up with him.

You backed before Jen. I wasn't a really healthy, happy relationship with a guy talking about everything and having fun. You're not having fun. But I'm serious. Like, what is it with the guys that they circle back? Like, they always like, it was great, but then I'm gonna wait two weeks for like, hey, explain this.

Keep in the rotation. They're not at their house. They're borny. They're like, who do I have access to? And then they reach out. And you don't want to believe that, but that's the absolute fucking truth. And that's, and that to me, and I think that probably that isn't part true, but, and this is just me speaking, is your best friend,

and because I know you well. Can I feel like the third baby best friend? Yeah, I'm like, I'm not a little bit of a boss. Of course, you're a hard man. I'm not saying it's cool. No, I know, I'm just saying, I guess like, this is to all the partners out there that think this is okay.

Hi, people like Grace and Emily, and there are a lot of people that like keep their shit tight. Like, they're pussy in their body, but also their brain in their voice. And like, if you're gonna just like sit and then two weeks later, be like, oh, yeah, Grace oh yeah, grace. Yeah, I could use her as a dick.

Oh, man, I got a heart on it. KFCs close, I get so cold. Grace, fuck you, bitch. Yeah, not even call. Not even call. No, I think it was a Facebook message. Oh, please, get the fuck out. I need my space.

Get the fuck out. Yeah, I thank you for that message. I would say, you know, guys, girls can do that too, but I'm gonna be fucking real. It's mostly guys that do that. Yeah, you just step up your game. I would say, you know, girls can do that too, but I'm gonna be fucking real. It's mostly guys that do that. Yeah, that's cool. You just step up your game because you're gonna get a,

there's a lot of like cool-ass chicks out there and not like, cool once you get to know them and they're good on the inside. No, whole package bitches that are like awesome and like don't have time for that shit. And by the way, for the women out there listening, hi, hi, hi, don't not be a full package bitch just because you wanna get laid more.

Don't do it. So explain to me how you think that women do that. How do women like sell them stuff short by not being the full package of bitch? I've done this before. Okay, so let's talk about little grace. Don't be. Well, you know, you asked a real question

or earlier about what Jen would advise you would give to me. Yeah, tell yourself. My advice would be you have to be vocal about what you want and you cannot be afraid of getting out of a relationship. I waited too long in almost every relationship that I've been in to get out.

What do you think that is? Why do you think you didn't get out of them? It was a lack of confidence in my part and thinking that I would never find somebody else or that it would take too long or that I was at my best when I was with somebody and being solo was a lesser version of myself, which is... Which is... You talked up, I'm sorry. You know true is yourself. Yeah, I mean, you're the most true to yourself. Yeah, that makes sense.

When you are focused on yourself, there is no one out there no matter how amazing it starts or it is or how much they like you or you like them or vibe that will give you and make you feel the way you can make yourself love about yourself. And like being in something that for seven years, like, I respect him, my ex, I think he's a nice person, but there were so many times that like, I should have left that relationship. And it's like, it's, that's the, you know, to get over that too and realize, okay, you're older now,

like, you learned, but you can't help but beat yourself up a little and go, fuck, man. Of course. But no, that is a good message. I mean, I think that a lot of us are afraid of, really, it's fear. We're afraid of going to be alone. We're afraid we're going to be abandoned

that no one else will love us. This is the best thing that ever happened to us. That's also society. Because a man can get older, and it can be like, no, it's not the same. No fuck it is the same. There is some old school values here that go on where a man gets older, salt and pepper cluny,

and he's hot as hell. A woman gets older, and it's like, oh, what happened, Aunt Michelle? I will. Aunt Michelle, and I'm? I was. I was. And Michelle and I'm talking to her. Look at my mom, she and all those men. Yes, great.

Now there's no way to do that. I will say, speaking on that beat, I love an older man. I am the opposite of Jen. This is another thing we've, we've talked about this yesterday. Why am I gravitating towards younger men and graces gravitating towards older men? I mean, I like that crypt keeper style. One foot in the grave.

No, not that. I know the older man. Like, what about a little bingo? Sure, I'm going to bed at 9 p.m. Oh, god, I love that. I always do a little older my age or a little older, except for this year, I did a little younger. But I typically...

How much younger? Eight years. Oh, that's good. That's a substantial amount. I know, right? And it was too young. You're just, they're not there yet. How much younger? Eight years. Oh, that's good. That's a substantial amount. I know, right? And it was too young. You're just, they're not there yet.

They're not there yet. You can't even be like, I love them. Nothing there. Yeah, yeah. You get to certain port your life. Some guys get there, some guys don't. Some women get there, some women don't. Are you looking for something serious?

No, I'm looking. I like where I'm now. I feel like I'm in something I can trust and I feel committed in. Just about to squirt. I'm ready to squirt I like where I'm at now. I feel like I'm in something I can trust and I feel committed in but I feel I'm ready to square the sex is great. I feel Ford it because it's probably pissed and But I think right now I'm just focusing on being the healthiest version of myself physically mentally and if someone stays Along for that ride then they'll get a great ride because I'm pretty fucking cool

Younger is just because you're having fun, maybe they're a lot more fun, have more energy. They are. Now I'm gonna tell you that. Like in this, I don't wanna go too deep, but like my ex was older. He was an older older.

How much older? 10 years. But you know, 10 years when I feel like I'm like a little firecracker. You need a firecracker. You need a firecracker. I'm the firecracker. Yeah, you know, that's a firecracker sound.

Peep-oop. So I think I do gravitate towards someone that's like, come on, yeah, let's fucking go to a dive bar. Yeah. But he's also professional. So it's not like, let's go to a dive bar and let's try this cocaine to PM on a Tuesday. And he also likes what you do.

I've had, as an experience, many experiences, actually, with younger men, who just got NVS of what I was doing with my career and were not supportive and took that out on me in really shitty ways. Or even guys who were like my age are a little bit older. I'm not gonna fuck with that anymore. If you don't, if you don't, A, support me

and B, have your own shit going on that I respect the shit out of, it's done. It's done. The hustle is there. I don't want you to be a dick. I want you to have hustle. Right, I want you to have hustle. Right.

You want to be driven and passionate about something. You're like hopefully it's your job and you've had some success in the sense of just you know who you are going down that soul searching. Exactly. Like doing co-op, you'll 2 a.m. And the dive bar and I don't really have a job. And we always ask this question. It's like, oh, what's the most sexiest word and I say employed?

Because like, I definitely want to day somebody that has their own thing going on. Completely. That's exactly it. I don't need to be your completely. That's exactly what you need to be your focus. No. I need you to go and do your thing. And we have fun together. Exactly. Exactly. And that's why I'm an older man.

To me, at least in my experience, older men are not exclusively, but a lot of older men. The ones that I'm attracted to are very well established in their careers. And how much older than you, would you say? Because you're 31. I mean, there was a guy who's 20 years older than me. Guys in their 50s are hard. Yeah. And telling you.

And I'm really, I was, I am, yes, very attracted to him. And in a lot of different ways, physically, absolutely, what he does, absolutely, just his personality, all of it, all of it there. I even, he's a divorce. I even, I find that very attractive in men across the board of the divorce. True.

Yeah, shows you can commit, shows that they like can be in a relationship and they want to and they want to. That's a great way to look at it because that was, like, not a failure here, divorce. Yeah, I don't think it's a failure. I think that, I don't think that, but I think that not everyone thinks that way. So when I got back in the dating scene, I was like, yeah, I'm divorced. Or I'm going through a divorce. And I was like, no big deal, pass the pickles.

Because we always eat it a pickle restaurant. Right, exactly. But then I also have to think about my partner who I might be seeing that might be something to them. Because everyone looks at the divorce. People come exactly. It's so true. It could be true if people think, oh, she's failed.

But to me, I was like, it was like, well, good. This is a guy who, or woman who actually wants a relationship. They know how to do it They've made the commitment and they tried so they have a question for all of you guys, but okay Well here along the divorce men beat it seems like there are two paths for the divorce man There's either the guy who was like nope done with marriage never gonna do it again Confirm bachelor and there's the guy who was like yeah that, that one didn't work out, but I love marriage, and nine months later, they're in something else. Is that true? Does it feel like?

I've seen both of those, yes. And also when they have kids too, they kind of want it, sometimes they want a step parents, someone to help them raise the kids. I have seen both of those things. I've seen the third alt that I'm missing, because it seems like those are the only two directions. Yeah, there's the like just divorce.

I think that they sleep around a lot and then eventually they want to get married. I guess it's kind of a variation of the same thing. Like my dad, he's his second time he's been divorced and I think that he would get married again if the right person came over. I think that a lot of men like typically it's the women who leave the marriage, most relationships,

most relationships and marriage and I think that men more so don't, they do like it once they're in it and they kind of don't want to be alone. And the women don't want to be alone either. I'm just saying, but this is not to their general stereotype, but studies are shown that women are the ones who leave,

or the women are kind of like, I was kind of like, it wasn't amazing, but like, I got a blowjob through times a week and we like went to dinner and that is not enough. They're certain, I mean, I think women are just evolving and that is not enough for us. Like, not enough. It's, if I'm not challenged or I'm not enough. I think women are just evolving and that is not enough for us. Not enough. If I'm not challenged or I'm not feeling respected or not feeling heard, not.

See, and I love that you're saying that because it's just a strong message because there's a lot of women who don't even know what it's like to feel valued or heard in a relationship or respected. They don't even know that that's a possibility. And so, for me, if you're ever for a second, say something like, you know, for me, like that's a, like if you respect what, if you're ever for a second, like it, like it say something mean or hurtful or just, it's like you're out, like not a chance, you don't get a second chance. No, you don't get a second chance.

Just respectful. And I just want women everywhere. So like realize that that's, that's a high-freighted being alone. Don't be afraid. Don't be afraid. Being alone is the best work you can do. And I'm not just talking about masturbation. Yeah. We're going to get onto some emails, but first a quick shout out to our sponsors. We love them. If you've listened to the show the last couple months, you've probably heard we talk about a unique product called the womanizer. A while back, the owners of the company asked if they could send me one to test out,

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Where you live, how you listen your age, and the location. The location, we said that. But that's good, but the age thing bothers me lately, people don't give me your age. And I'm like, you're the best, it's the most, the love of your life. Just left you, are you 18 or are you 56?

Like I need to know. Okay, hello Emily, I've recently started listening to your podcast all the way from Rome, Italy. And it's the love of your life. Just left you, are you 18 or are you 56? Like I need to know. Okay. Hello Emily, I've recently started listening to your podcast all the way from Rome, Italy. Now I am reaching out for some relationship advice. To summarize, I was married and lived in Canada, but moved to Rome for work with the overwhelming support of my husband after a few weeks, everything fell apart. He confessed he had been seeing someone from work for months.

The marriage was over. The wait ended that still haunts me a little, but I'm trying to work up to letting all the hurt go. Fast forward to today. I'm in love with this beautiful Italian. He is kind, generous, hardworking. We have been together for about one year and moving together, moving together in a few weeks. We travel well. We've made others families. We want kids and the sex keeps on getting hotter and hotter. But here's the thing that's bothering me. Oh, there's always a butt.

But he won't add me on Facebook. His rationale is that if he likes a picture, likes of another girl, I'll be jealous, and that will cause an issue between us. In fact, I'm okay without being Facebook friends or Facebook official. If he wants to like a picture of some girl, go ahead. What I do not like is his attitude about this issue.

I feel it shady. Of course, he's offended. I would even suggest such a thing. We're at the point now where I can't bring it up again. He wants me to let it go and move on. I see it hurts so many. He doesn't have any complete. He doesn't have, he doesn't have my complete trust.

It's so confusing. And by being over sensitive, given my past, because our husband cheated on us, should I be concerned? Am I naive? If I let go, there's so many good things about a relationship, but this issue makes me question it,

advice Sarah. I was in, I read this, I was like bubbling. I mean, this is trust. I mean, but this is trust. She's like, it's trust,

every time you're saying a Facebook. It's not about that. It's nothing to do with Facebook. That's the thing that's hiding behind for this month. But it's not going to go away. There are trusted issues that she has to get over within herself. She has to integrate what happened in her past, learn from it before she can move on

and be in a healthy relationship in her future by being secure as we can be, because we're all a little insecure, but to be secure enough to love again and to accept someone's good and bad because I don't think it's that big of a deal Honestly, like it's not about it's not about a Facebook. Yeah, it's about You're saying a great email by the way, yeah Yeah, but that that would drive me nuts because like you just mentioned Jen It's not just about Facebook. That's the thing this month But guess what there's four million apps out there

I want to know if she can look at his phone. What about his text messages? What about a Snapchat, his Twitter? I mean, this is all these exactly. Exactly. His Bumble account, I had to do about that. Or like a private journal or what, you know, what, there's clearly stuff

that she does not know about his life that she wants access to. And that's because she's not giving her access to her last relationship. Because I think that people can have their own private Truths that they kind of have that their own like if I have a journal I prefer nobody look at my journal. If I have my text messages Let me give you permission or maybe not give you permission. It doesn't mean I'm like text fucking somebody

But I have my own life, you know, and so there's also like Bleeding boundaries and setting boundaries of what you want to merge and what you don't. And I think that's getting blurred because she is hurt from a past relationship. What do you think Emily? No, I think that, I think there's so many things. I think that she definitely needs to heal and move on because she's been through trauma. She's in a foreign country and met a hot sexy talent and moved in with them. I'm sure he's amazing. I'm sure he's making her feel great.

I'm sorry, I am. You know, I'm sure all this stuff, but what I see here is either he's making assumptions about her, like he's already judging her on his past girlfriend to pop it out really jealous about things or he's distrustful So either way it's really bad because he's just judging or not giving her the benefit of the doubt that maybe she doesn't care And not online all day that you're you know liking girls photos and he's also just setting it up for, like I think, you know, all that for failure because he's probably, a lot of times when people are making the assumptions and pointing fingers, they're the ones who are actually got something going on the side.

The shutdown of Facebook live. Well, I don't have communication. The thing that, when he said, I think he said in the, she said, he doesn't want to talk about it anymore. We're not allowed to talk about it anymore. Who the fuck says we're not allowed to talk about it anymore? Yeah, I love you. But this is a team you and then I'm a little side person and you give me a jersey. Yeah. No, I want to talk about it anymore. Who the fuck says we're not allowed to talk about it anymore? Yeah, I thought you. But this is a team you and then I'm a little side person

and you give me a jersey. No, I want to talk about it because if you're not meeting my needs and turn the pizza in, I'm going back to camp. Yeah, exactly. Game over. I mean, it pisses me off because all of a sudden, we came in, she's vulnerable to the whole thing.

So that's what I feel like. I'm just so scared because everything's going on the right path to move in with each other and stuff. Right, I was about to say flowers. But then all of a sudden, it that's a red flag you don't want to add me on Facebook and we're in a relationship over a year yeah yeah yeah and we're moving in and like sharing dishes and stuff yeah it's incredible that that it's gone on for a year I would have been like oh this is too weird

I'm out I think it was like her you know getting over the husband thing but she's got to move on and myself I'm telling you that it's very hard to do though because when you get out of a relationship, you naturally want comfort. You're accustomed to being with a partner. I want someone to make you feel good because we don't want to feel that pain, but like, it'll always be there unless you just spend that time alone, figuring out unwinding it, like, what went wrong, like, really? You have to do that. That is the best thing that you've ever.

You have to feel that pain. No, but you have to feel that pain. Like, best thing you've ever. You have to feel that pain. Like, I think you don't want to. That's why people just... Because it's your pain. You cannot push it in on a happiness. Yeah. To be bestowed upon you by somebody else.

Exactly. And when you search for a relationship so soon after ending another one, it's because you have not given yourself time to heal and because you don't trust yourself enough to be able to get out of this rut yourself. You have to. You have to. Or else you're't trust yourself enough to be able to get out of this rut yourself. You have to. You have to. Or else you're just going to be reliant on somebody else. True. Okay, we've time for one more. Emily, I just started listening to your show last month and I can't stop listening.

I already, I've already put into practice your advice from previous shows to start talking to people and getting out of my comfort zone. It has completely brought me out of my shell. My question is this. I'm in the age old situation of being interested in a fellow coworker. The thing is, I'm not the one who made the first move. She was. We were at a going-way part of the office and she made a funny comment about my height. I'm over six feet. I was quick enough to fow it up and we started talking for a bit. We talked a bit more since. I even started eating lunch or third or some other people. Little thing she says and does makes me think she's interested in me. For example, asking me questions about myself, sharing personal space in my cubicle. It sounds like she's like sitting on his lap or something. How do you share a

space in cubicle? It's a cubicle for Christy. Mentioning she has an X. That's everything. It's been going on for about a week. And I'm afraid if I don't make a move soon, it might slip away. The problem is my job has a policy against dating in the office. Should I suggest something casual like a drink after work? I'm unsure of how to proceed without it seeming weird, causing tension in the workplace. I have little to no experience dating and only theory from what I've heard on your podcast. Thanks for the hours of the juicy info. Ben, male 26, Boston, Massachusetts.

If you're hot, but, if you are just like, putting off taking off the training wheels on dating and getting social, maybe you not wanna shit where you work. Yeah, right. Absolutely, I would say you gotta let it burn. It's been a week. Yeah. It's, you know what?

It's a week. It's a week. These are maybe cinder if you run, go for a few runs around the bar and like, you know, maybe get a little more in tune with who you are and what you want dating wise before you drop a bomb on Natalie, your coworker. Here's what I hear. I hear a guy is over six feet tall,

and he has a job. You'll be able to find something. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, someone who like might have leaned over you and hit you and over their breast because she was grabbing a pen or something. Now, I will say having workplace crushes is great. It's great ammo to come in every day

and they're like, I love that. I don't, I need to get out workplace crush. is great. It's great ammo to come in every day and to like, I love that. I don't, I need to get out workplace crush. I don't have one now. Sorry, everybody can lightly show. Yeah, you will. Maybe we'll see. It's really nice. In the past, when I've had workplace crushes,

it's lovely to go into work and have that little somebody. But also, you can also blur and overly dictate your work life, which I think is the other way. Is that if it goes bad, so Ben is his name Ben. So this goes good. You have a few good night kisses and then it ends poorly. Now, again, you've tainted your workplace and your work focus. Be prepared for that. I don't know I

They actually have that policy in place I mean like I'm not anti. I don't know. I never had a bad experience and I've dated a lot of people Because I work so much. I'm like oh, they're right there And I haven't had a bad experience with that, but if there's, but I haven't had a workplace where there's a rule where you can't do that. Right, right. So there's a lot of things working against me here. That's that situation where it's like, if that's gonna happen at some point in your lives,

it's gonna happen. Let it happen naturally. Don't push it. I say, go find other ladies. And in the meantime, keep developing that friendship Yeah exactly You might have some cute friends and Ben I love that you're learning and you're putting the stuff into practice because I always tell guys Like what guy isn't nervous like what if you haven't been out there dating some guys aren't naturally conversationalist But it's like everything else in life. It's practice. Yeah, and I think this talking to three women a day It's unfair for men at times because they're held up to this pedestal of like, be cool. You know what I'm cool, dude? I'm awesome. I don't give a shit. This is who I am. And it's like,

calm down, buddy. You can also, you know what I mean? It's okay. Yeah. You know, maybe not even if it's like, it's okay to cry, but it's okay to show emotion and be social and and have feelings, you know. So good job, Ben. I like Ben. I like Ben too. It's really cool. I don't want to sleep with you. So if that makes you feel better, yeah, we can't. I take it. I take it, yeah. I'm flying to Burbank, not LAX. Yeah, Burbank is the worst. I mean, Burbank is the best.

Yeah. Flying out of Burbank. Okay. You girls are the best. Grace and Jen, you guys, I love you guys. You guys, you really, and I'm so proud of you. Every time I see you guys are like doing so many more amazing things each time. So Grace and Tom, people can find you. Oh, yes, you can find, I'm on the nightly show company Central. We have shows money through Thursday, new shows money to Thursday and we're on

Monday through Friday every week. And you can find me on Twitter and Snapchat at Grace par 360. And on Instagram at Grace par 360 as well. Okay. And then the lady freak stuff. You'll get into this. So hi. I'm Jen Bartels everybody everybody and you can find me on the Twitter, the Snapchat, and Instagram, Gen B giggles. I know it sounds dumb, but I didn't think it'd take off. So just go, I don't know. Gen B giggles, though, as you can remember. Hey, but I mean, listen to me. Do I sound like a giggle? No, I like, I snore away. You make us giggle. Thank you. I giggle a lot. Thank you. Thank you. And so you can follow us with ladyfreakcomedy.com. We have new

by coastal shows at least once a month, whether it's in New York or LA and we're looking to expand. You can also see us at the out of bounds comedy festival this September and look out for some new stuff I'm working on that I can't really talk about. I know. But good stuff. You guys are killing it. That's amazing. Thank you for being here. Thank you guys so much. This is a delight. So fun. Thank you. Menace. What are you doing? A lot of things. Yeah. Just go to menace on Instagram Twitter. Are you changing something?

Are you doing something important? Oh, I was talking about that later. Fine. I haven't been doing a lot of charity stuff. I'm like super into it now. I know. He's like a charity. He's getting to that stage in his life.

That's sexy. That's hot. I almost think you're super sexy right now. No, I actually do think you're sexy. And do you know people have been telling me lately to think you're sexy menace? I don't know why. It's weird, I know.

I'm at my worst. No, you're amazing. I love you. Thank you all. Thank you so much, producer Madison. Thank you, Laurie. Thank you, Jamie. The amazing section of Emily team.

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