Sex With Emily - The Juicy Scoop on Married Sex with Heather McDonald

Episode Date: September 5, 2015

This week, Emily is joined by guest host Lynette Carolla of the For Crying Out Loud podcast, as well as comedian, actress and best-selling author Heather McDonald. Together, this powerhouse trifecta of female podcasters dish on the latest celebrity scandals, secrets for having a lasting marriage and, of course, sex! What does it mean if you and your partner are “bread and butter boners?” And how often should a married couple be getting it on? Heather, Lynette and Emily discuss how to handle arguments with your spouse, what you can do to bring the sexy back to your marital bed, blow jobs, breast play, fantasies and more.If you’re looking for some raw, unfiltered female conversation, then this Sex With Emily podcast is for you. Hear Emily, Heather and Lynette break down the components of a happy marriage and great sex, and share their tips for having it all. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Okay, I'm so excited for my show. My wonderful ladies. Hi, Lynette. Hi. Hi, Heather. Hi. Okay, let me say first, Lynette Carola. She's been on the show before, hosted the For Crying Out Loud

podcast. Yes. And she's sitting as my guest host. Thank you so much. I'm honored. I'm sorry. I have a little cold. You're probably going to get sexier now.

It's going to get better. It'll get better as I talk. Okay. I like it. But thank you, I'm honored. I wore little Your voice is even sexy. It's gonna get better. It'll get better as I talk But thank you. I'm honored. I wore my main gree shirt. I know you keep looking at Yeah, I'm looking at your breasts and then the main gray can't help it because I was looking at your breasts I know we had fun in Vegas. I saw you were Remind me of you so and I brought you goodies to you did I got you all kinds of stuff. I'm so excited Love goodies. Okay, and welcome Heather McDonald. You have a new podcast as well, which is very exciting.

Your podcast, the, it's called Juicy Scoop. Juicy Scoop, I have that right here. Tell me everything. Well, how's it going? When I was naming the podcast, the producer said, is there any like saying or something? And I say, always say I've got some major juicy scoop.

I've got some juicy scoop. Do you have any scoop? Did you get any scoop? And I actually working on Chelsea lately I've got some major juicy scoop, I've got some juicy scoop, do you have any scoop? Did you get any scoop? And I actually working on Chelsea lately for some, for seven years for the inception, it's actually was a year yesterday that we ended. But I really missed talking about all that tabloid bullshit. Right, you love it, you love it.

I love it. And one of the things that like, I would get all the magazines that we'd talk in the writers room. And my producers and stuff would be like, God God You should be like writing for these magazines or I used to like take the magazines read all the stories and then I come up with what I really think happened So it's like I don't really have inside scoop, you know other than like rumors You're interpretation of me and a friend slept with Ben Aff like at the W. What I like stuff like that true like at the W whatever I like stuff like that true You know you know but I'm just saying like I don't have like real inside scoop But I have the scoop that I've been studying this for years

I have like an asperggy way of remembering stuff and And it's just all coming to fruition on the podcast. It's like all my gifts. I I mean, I remember my I had the 12 double Dobber out at a college and I would get my people magazine. My dad, we were getting people when we were little and then he would get me the magazine every week when I was in college and everything. So I always had people and I remember sitting

at the Torbal Dob and I go, if I could just find a job, we're reading this magazine. It has something to do with the job. The series. Then yeah. And so I'm not gonna pretend like that. I don't like this shit. I has something to do with the job. Oh, the series. Then yeah. And so I'm not going to pretend like that don't like this shit.

I fucking love it. I know. I love this. It's not in podcast one. People can find you. Yes. Podcast one. I just go up every Thursday.

And there's like nine or 10 up now. And they're all really fun. So I'm excited. And it's at Heather McDowell on Twitter and Instagram. And Lynette, you are. Lynette Carola, Instagram and Twitter. OK. yeah, I love that. Okay, so we're all podcasters. I love it. And Heather, you know, I was looking at my husband's schedule. I know I'm rushing there after this. I know. We would have waited for you literally. But I'm like, you can't be late for Adam. And if you want to blame Lynette, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, don, I was waiting to go into I think to do do do do do do's podcast or something and I was like doing my like I'm here early. I was like it gonna meditate for 10 minutes and I was sitting in the She's here

I'm never early first of all. Hello never early and I'm like 10 minutes It was like right out meditating. So I'm sitting there. I'm ice-closed I mean the party. It's a crowd of parking lot. You got to move it all around and I'm just sitting there and obviously Something like that can get my window and Adam was a steering and they're like Adam needs to get out You got to move your car. I mean he didn't know I but they're trying to move you like if she dead she passed out. Who's the girl who's not letting me in? He's always telling me to get in. Yeah I know.

He's telling me to go. I'm like that. I didn't mean to make a chat but it was a pretty funny moment. Okay, so Heather you also, okay so you're doing the Jersey Scoop and you're podcasting. So and Chelsea Lately of course was amazing. You were on all the time. So it's been a year already. Yeah, but it's been a great year.

Like I love my life. I love being able to pick up my kids from school. I love, I missed a lot. Not nobody's fault. It's just, I was pretty sure on a show. Like I couldn't leave at three o'clock or for a baseball game or whatever. So I think, so I like it.

Now I do leave a couple weekends a month to do stand up, but that's like so wonderful. Like I get all excited. I have a sleep party by myself in the morning. I take two out of LPM and I sleep till like 11, 30 on Saturday because Friday you know you have the press. But on a Saturday I just go off on the sleep. And then sometimes I get a massage

when I just go shopping at like the local target without children. And then I do two shows of standup. And there's like hundreds of people that actually think I'm fabulous. You know, it's the way I just left a family of, you know, I have three kids. I just. Thank you fabulous. No, they don't think I'm that fabulous. That's why it's nice to go and have strangers love you. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. Right. Right. It's more right right more somehow more validating right because people really know you were like listen

I've got a problem with you like but all these people thought I did a great job tonight Okay, so do you think that by being married and now having like I having like a weekend away? Yeah, I think it helps things get a little distance like that like hell. Yes, right? You need a little time away little girl's time. Yeah. I mean, my husband and son just climbed Mount Whitney. Since 12, I don't know. It's like my worst nightmare. Like I told my husband, I'm like, please, if you ever leave me for someone, I don't care if she's like a funnier, more successful female comic or like a playmate. I just don't want her to be athletic. Right. Just go hiking. You don't want the boys to be like, oh,

dad's new girlfriend. Kelly went down a double black dime. I'm like, I just don't want her to be athletic. Just go to the hiking. I don't want the boys to be like, oh dad's new girlfriend, Kelly went down a double black dime. I just don't want any shit like that. So yeah, it's been worse, but he was gone for a week and I loved him being gone. Right. I felt like my house was a rental. It was so nice to have someone be like, you shut the fridge wrong.

It's like, really? Do you think that, you know? Yeah. Now I agree, it's the best when you have the house to yourself. You don't know what to do with yourself. When the house, there's nobody home. It's like, what do I do? Do I work? Do I watch TV? Do I jack off?

I do a little of everything. I do a little of everything. Yeah. You guys, that's good. Okay, so you're both married too. Yeah. Lynette, you were married for how long? I've been married like 11 years. Okay. So you're both married too. You were married for how long?

I've been married like 11 years, but together 20. 20. Okay. And 14 years? 15 years. Yes. Okay. So we kind of talk about this because you're both married and I want to know, I was going to,

like, what is the secret to keeping it, you know, sexy and hot? Anything besides vacation alone? We just had a fight this morning. We fight a lot. I think it's gotten worse. But I also feel like I don't, I think I like pass the stage of where I think it's better. Like probably a few years ago, I like fantasize more about like divorce and finding someone. Someone else like you know, and now I'm kind of like you know what if we just hang on for about five more years we'll both be just unattractive enough to realize that we can't do any better like it's a lot about

can you do better everybody yeah and so I think I like and we get over our fights quickly like here's a very example okay so it's back to school day and we have these friends and they're opening the restaurant across from the church. Okay, I can't even tell, we go to Catholic school. I can't even tell you how excited about this restaurant. Okay, so I'm like, so my husband goes, oh, they're having like an opening night on Friday. I go, great, so we're going to go. So then if they start talking, I walk into a conversation with other dads about the golf tournament, which is the one charity that he cares about, golf. And I'm like, and he goes, oh, you know, and he starts talking about the restaurant and

I go, I go, I guys going Friday and they go, I don't think it's Friday. I go, no, it's Friday and my husband goes, let's go to breakfast and he literally like hit by arm and the guy goes, like, almost abusive. And I'm like, and then we leave and he goes, oh my god, what's wrong with you? That was a private event, not everybody's invited. And I go, you did not tell me that. How do you not tell me that? I go, when I have juicy scoop for you,

that is between the two of us, I say, don't, I heard this from my friend. I'm not supposed to tell you, but I've been telling you. Cause you get that along with that. He gets the juicy juke first, juicy scoop. Yeah, but I preferences by saying, this is only for you, or, you know, I'm like, you have to tell me that.

I did not know that so bitch you went on down Vinterble of art until we got to the breakfast joint and then when we ordered and he brought it up again I said I'm leaving so I walked outside I took a phone call He called me to say my food came we ate the food. We've never talked about it's fine. We're going fried That's what happens I'm not gonna have to I just go like I just keep going let it go like shut it down Like you cannot have the It's like, right. I'm not gonna have to. I just go like, I just keep going, let it go like shut it down. You can't have the fight going long.

Right. You can't have the fight going to the side. That's what makes me the point. There's no life point. There's no life point. There's no life point. There's no life point. It's too short.

Exactly. And not talk to each other anymore. And I know, like, I know there's gonna be another thing like that in the future. But that's what happens. It's just how you recover. And you guys learn how to fight and get away from the bond with your life.

Because it's like, it's not like, my best friend I grew up with. It's the same thing. We used to fight when we were like with, it's the same thing. We used to fight when we were like 20, 21 and getting barred like we'd be drunk and she'd like, like, you leave me. That's right. And we not talk for, but it's like, now it's the same thing. If we barely ever have a disagreement argument, if we do, it's just, you push through it and

it's like, whatever, it's nobody deal. Right. Okay. No, you're right. That's just my children. I mean, I would think that by a certain point, you'd be like, we're really gonna wait for time fighting, like we know each other, we get it, we still love each other, we get it. But what about a time in your,

I'm assuming there's been a time where your sex drive, your sexual relationship was sort of, you know, taking it up maybe after kids. Oh yeah, definitely. Have you ever done anything out there that you're like, okay, I've got to work on this, I'm gonna bring it back. Like what would you anything out there that you're like, okay, I've got to work on this and want to bring it back. Like, what would you do?

I'll just be like, you know, it's been since we went to Vegas that we did it. And he'd be like, all right, well, let's do it. I'm like, well, that doesn't do anything for me. You're like, that was not for Blake. Like, I'm just saying, like, you know, I just remember right when I got married, I had a friend and we were at dinner

and she's like, I've had four periods since we've had sex. She and her husband. And I was like, I had a friend and we were at dinner and she's like, I've had four periods since we've had sex, she and her husband. And I was like, I made a commitment to myself that I really do believe that you just shouldn't let it go that long, even if it's not that great, even if you're not into it. Like don't let it be going months. Sure, maybe you're only doing it twice a month,

but you've been married 15 years, but it's good when you do it. And it's like, it's hard. It's like, come on, we're all tired. it. And it's like, it's hard. It's like, come on, you know, we're all tired. Right. And it's like going to the gym. Yeah. You're always happy after you did it.

Right, you feel good. But sometimes before, you're not that excited. Exactly. The hardest part, then you choose on. You get out the door and you're never like, oh, that's a upset. I went to the gym. You never like got a gym, what I have sex.

I could go to the gym. Forget how to use the equipment and then it comes back to you. Exactly. And then you do it and then you want it, and then you get into that like, oh, I could do it. How do you use the equipment and then it comes back to you? Exactly. And then you do it and then you want it and then you get into that like yeah, I could do this again Yeah, yeah, it will the more you do it Yeah, same with masturbation I think it's important to keep masturbating to sometimes alone But I really do feel I can get really awkward and weird and resentful if you make too big of a deal like I just remember

Early in the marriage like I was I would flip flop a lot in the bed, you know? And he would get an orn and he's like, that's it. And he would, and- Like when you were sleeping, waking up. This sleeping thing. Yeah. I thought you were topping in bottoming. No, no, I flipped like.

I was like a fish like that you'd like, you know? And so he would like get annoyed and he was going to the other room and, you know, it was like on our first house and stuff this how long ago was. And so I was like, no, this is bad for the marriage. And I'm like, oh, fucking leave. I don't give a shit.

Right. Do you think they're making new houses with like two masks. No, I've heard about this. There's no more rooms and stuff. Like I don't think for a long, long companionship, sometimes not sleeping in the same room. It's not the worst thing.

If you're being affectionate and you're boning here or there, you know, you could turn on the TV in the middle of the night. I woke up in the middle of the night, I could not sleep because I was so excited about first day school. I don't know if I, oh that was my pocket. You know that I'm doing your pocket. But I was almost like,

I don't know why I couldn't sleep. And it's like, but I can't just turn on the TV because he's there. Right. But if I had that, you know what you need, you need wireless headboard. Oh, that's smart. So you can watch a get all you need, you need wireless head. Oh, that's smart.

So you can watch it to you. Yeah. Please go light would still kind of wake him up. He puts his eye mask on. Oh, there you got a bite of fuzzy eye mask. Yeah, I have the eye mask. He doesn't really dig the eye mask. I love eye masks. So you give it to him and if you watch TV, see this is a great thing. I've always thought that because I've never thought that I really wanted to could live with anyone. It's a whole other issue, but I just thought it makes sense. I always thought why not have at least have sever bedrooms? Yeah.

And it just like taking a weekend away or a week away, then you have like a night away, and you're in that with, but you don't have to spend then you're still in that room. Oh, I know two couples that were second marriages, and they kept their homes. Yeah, my therapist told me this. They kind of looked like down the street for each other,

but they kept their homes. Yeah, they had sleepovers, but not every night. They, there's couples that do that. There's a lot of couples you'd be surprised my therapist told me that in fact when we first got married I Had my own condo. I live there. He had his place I didn't live with him and I kept my condo up to the very last day and even on our honeymoon we talked about Okay, so I'll keep my condo. to the very last day and even on our honeymoon we talked about. Okay, so I'll keep my condo. I'll probably stay there.

I think that's like sex in the city. Yeah, you stay there. When John said, when Big said, why don't you keep your place? And then yeah, Charlotte got all annoyed. Right. That's not a marriage. But then it never, it would never worked out that way. We ended up just staying right.

That happens because the first year, you know, you're excited to be together. Okay, but speaking of sex in the city, that would be really, I do want to go back. I've got a little sex in New Zealand since you've got the scoop. And okay, so I'm not as up on the scoop, but I just want to know, because I know that you are, but what I want to know is, what is your take on all these breakups that are happening right now with all these celebrity couples?

Like why all of a sudden there's got Brian Austin Green, Megan Foxx, Gwen Stefani, Gavin Rostell, Blake Shelton, and all of a sudden you're like, I think it's just an accidental summer, but they all have different reasons. Right, so there's nothing happening in the water. No, but that's where I want a fucking medal. First day. I keep saying, my head's in Peter and I keep hashtagging, Heather.

You said you were to both get medals. Heather is still together, Heather forever, and it has not trended, but I feel like I'm I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that. I have a little bit of a problem with that.

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Triplet nanny. And my husband came all the golf with this guy and he goes, hey, Ken's daughters, their triplets. They went to Louisville, which is my old go-katholic high school. They're all in college now. They're home for the summer. They can help watch the kids.

They're all beautiful blondes. Never in my life did I think that my husband would take up with one of them. Also, they were like in the afternoon, it wasn't like I was gone doing a movie for three weeks and one was living in the house. So I mean, it was never that situation, but I'm like, listen, I think, first of all, I saw her.

I don't think she was that great. She probably arrived at the interview with like a greasy, you know, untouched color, pony, some, you know, unflattering jeans. She's got very short legs. She's not that great if you've seen the body. Like it's not that great. Yeah, that's a flat stomach and, you know, AB boo.

So it's not like, it's not like she's freaking shit about ourselves. So she's not. Yeah, and so then, you know, and she probably, right away started playing with the little girls with the glasses, I don't know their names. And, you know, the girls were like, we love her, mommy. And she saw that away started playing with the little girls with the glasses. I don't know their names. And the girls were like, we love her. Mommy and she saw that she was animating.

She's doing puppet voices. And Jennifer's like, cool. You cool. You don't want a cool nanny. You want them to be like, you know, an appropriate size to fit on the Disneyland ride. You know, want some of like 300 pound things. That's true. You can't go.

And so I don't think, and I think that, I've said this is my podcast, I think, yet she knew that he had had discresions and she knew that shit happened. But I think it was almost like a don't ask no tell, just don't bring it home. And I think what she found out that he was so effing lazy that he was screwing the nanny, she was so disgusted that that was the final thought,

because I think she's put up with a lot over the years So do you think there's something that with men seeing a nanny with their children? Like the ladies like could you be more lazy like hmm who should be my next wife? I like her to live close and be good with the kids. Okay, the nanny. Like are you kidding me? I know I hear you I just been several that's sorry the nanny right Robin Williams Didn't last? Ethan Hawke. Yes, but he did last. No, it did last a long time.

Like, well, she became a movie producer. That's true. I mean, that's right. You know, that's better than becoming, you know, almost better than being an assistant. Be a nanny, start fucking the guy, then who's really powerful. Right. What if this little bitch gets pregnant

and then becomes, she's producing movies. Oh God. And like 10 years. We have to take her out or something. Yeah. Seriously, that would kill me. Just like you were saying, if your husband was like with some athletic hiker, right?

Yeah, I don't want anybody to kill you. Yeah, and I think a nanny's really hard because that's always your fear that your kid might be more into your nanny's than you. I mean, it never was for me because like I said, I didn't have one like living there. Like I wasn't so dependent on a nanny at any one time. But like I think that's really hard for someone that you always worry about that. And then to also have your husband more into the nanny. Yeah.

Okay, so what are some other juicy scoops that we don't know about? I guarantee I don't know. Well, the Ashley Madison thing's amazing. I was just so interested in this. I know. OK, so like 37 million names they say were not released. And it's just like a lot of awful reality stars that are being caught because they're so stupid

and also because they're not famous enough that they thought that we caught. There were times that I was like, oh my god, I would love to just what would happen if I did that. But then I was always like someone might know me, even though I'm not that famous. I'm like, someone might know me and I would never do that. So I think that's why it's a level of stars that are getting caught and it's not better than that. But I wish we could find a woman.

Like, why is there not like that? That's what I have. I can't really get further. Right. You would be amazing. But you realize in most cheating scandals, you know, in politics, wherever they are, it's always a goddamn man.

I know. I really hear about a woman cheating, but I know that women cheat. There was a person who didn't listen to you. You didn't talk about it on your podcast. There was a woman. Here's Morgan's wife. Here's Morgan's wife. She was on there.

There was a research, which I would get. I did it. I put out there. I did too, because when it first started out, I was that Chelsea lately. So I did it on my computer, under my Comcast email. Right. And all I did, it was like the first time I'd heard about it, I was so fascinated.

So I'm like, I so I put in my age and Woodland Hills where I loved. And no picture, nothing. And I had guys wanting to meet me within five minutes, like 15 of them. And he good looking guys. And I had that, yeah. No, like some of them, you could click on their pictures, some of them didn't have pictures. I never had a picture.

I was like, holy shit. And it's like, what do you, I was telling my husband, I go, yeah, well, apparently, you know, my husband's very cheap. And I go, I know that you didn't get it. And you, because you wouldn't have paid the money. And you wouldn't have paid that 250, like guarantee for an affair.

And he goes, what does that mean? Yeah, you can screw some fat slaw. Like what's the $250? Like is it a certain level of a girl that you get for $250 or just that? Right. It's a guarantee. Or a guarantee that you will get a hook up

and how you're going to prove that you did. Like it's just so weird. And then they guarantee that they were going to wipe their info. That's what you guys were. I was just saying. Yeah, they were going to wipe all the info and they didn't wipe the info. But even if they do wipe the info, these hackers can get into wipe shit.

They're like, oh, it's in your trash. I'm gonna have to do it. Like they can totally do that. So we still have ways of New York, right? Right, which I think is great news for her because I think she was going to get the food. And now I think Annie Cohen may consider keeping her because she was wearing a shit. Wait, Kristen. Her husband. Yes, her husband did it. That's a good door, that's a good door, wearing husband. Oh, I thought it was good. He was always like not into her very much,

even though she was gorgeous. And then, that's terrible. Yeah, and she's like real boring on the reunion. But I saw this, and I'm like, now, you know, all they have to do is tell the producers, we're gonna stay together, we'll let the cameras come into therapy, and maybe they'll keep right. That's the way to say Bravo. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. Make

you know, make lemonade out of lemons. You know, right. Your husband cheats. Hopefully, it'll buy you another season of a real. Exactly. Honey, that's the least you could do for that. Now, who are the other house wise names? It wasn't there other ones

I came over that was the only one. No, but that's supposedly Snookies. Man. Oh, I should see that. Idiot. People are dumb, they do. But people think the internet is just little but she's just saying it's not true. Okay, well, there's a guy with your husband's name

and that's fine. He was doing it. Why? He was like not saying whatever, you know? Right, here's research where I can do it. Like what it's like not to bang my own wife. I totally imagine like Peter being caught. Like I always imagine the worst things

and then that way if it happens, I'm not like, you know, what would I do? Did you remind you that always like you go to the mart? Oh my god, like I come home early and I'm like, what's this car doing home? Am I going to see him in the shower with his best friend Doug? Like on his knee? I'm like, I imagine everything. Because then that way I don't want to be like that woman on Oprah that like never knew her husband was gay.

Like, I just imagine it so that I'm like, okay. Okay. So I imagine it and I was like, I don't even know what I would do. I'd be like, okay, you want somebody else? I'd almost be like, well then can I date? I don't even think I'd want to get divorced. I'd be like, okay.

So your dexman on their places, do you know how often I get hit on? Like, oh, I'm sure I could do all the time, right? So I mean, I'm like, what do you mean? I'm like, I'm not a kid. I'm not a kid. I don't know how many years left.

I need to be good. I need to try it now. You guys are both freaking hot. We're all, you know, in our 40s. Adam was, you look good. I'm not feeling well. I'm lonely by the way. I'm excited at my moments.

Adam was talking about, we were talking about this high profile couple that we're, that we're Adam's friends with, not me. And how he has his wife, their kids are often gone. And he has his wife go to Paris a lot And he travels a lot for his work and it's because he wants to fuck around Right and we can we can't do that. Yeah, and and he's like, well, you know, Adam's like listen You know, I get to point in your life where if they got a divorce, it's like a business It's like a big deal right so why not just have her

turn you know together I'll go have your fun in Paris you have to have a beautiful lifestyle you don't have to go to work you can travel the world just turn a blind eye and let me have my mind I think a lot of it is blinders on I was like okay that sounds good but what happens when she gets hit on can she right I'm too excited has to And I was like, well, no. And I said, well, no, what do you mean, no? And he was like, no, that doesn't work like that. She gets to have the fun.

Oh, because he pays. Beautiful. Yeah, he pays. I think if I was in that situation, and I was in Paris, I would go to the concierge and be like, I would like a 35 year old guy to come over and fuck me. Yeah, absolutely. I think I'd pay for a male hooker.

They have those. What do we have on the show? The guy, that's why I'm an escort service. The male escorts, yeah. Well, because you really get done, how would I get like, I get like, I get like, careless abs on top of you and just like a different body than you're used to.

And just like, cold. It is true, the 35 year old is very different. Seeping with a 35 year old in a 45 year old. Really? What's the difference? It's like, it's like, it's exciting. It's like, it's exciting. I hear it from that.

I hear it from that. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. It's so cute. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love.

I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. I hear it from my first love. Oh, I have. Nobody is, like, nah, he's not very hairy on his body, but what, so what's the difference? Okay, so I went out like a 35-year-old, I think he's, okay, he's 36 now, whatever, dating him. And then this other guy I went out was like 45, and I'm just like, there's just a difference. Like, they're just little words swollen,

like, thicker, the 45-year-old's got hairs in places that you don't want it. And 35-year-old's just like, young and fresh, like he is like, flat abs, and like, no hair. Just fresh-faced, you know, and like, young and straight. But I forgot who it is, but it's like some major producer guy. I want to start like, wine style? No, I can't remember what.

I mean, he had a wife for a really long time. They were together. And he had a full-time mistress. And the wife knew it. And it was, again, like, I don't want to split up the assets and have it be ugly. I don't care. I don't want to want someone else to come.

That's really common. I'm done with it. But the problem is, and I've heard this laugh from couples, there's usually one person in the couple that's like, I can't handle that. Like, I would rather divorce and see you with someone else. That'd be too painful. Where I think couples, if that's, you know,

sometimes I do think that is the best case scenario. I'm gonna therapy, work it out, learn to be able to accept that. I mean, I know you may be able to accept that. Sometimes there's people that like, wish that their husband would cheat so they have a reason to divorce them. I mean, I'm gonna be able to accept that. Sometimes there's people that like wish that their husband would cheat, so they have a reason to divorce them. I've heard that too.

You know what I mean? Like you almost want, you know what someone like fucks up so bad that you don't feel bad like dropping the most friend. It's like a relief. Right. Sometimes it's like, you've been in my ass. Sometimes the greatest gift is someone behaving so badly that you don't feel shitty about never seeing them again.

It's like, so I think sometimes people almost kind of wish that like, oh, I wish David Sheets, like it's go there and I could tell my kids they wouldn't be mad at me and I would feel like I'm not gonna regret it because he cheated on me. Like I think sometimes when people divorce and it's just because they were fighting it was hard. I think sometimes there is a lot of regret once they're in the thick of it and it's gotten so ugly

and they're splitting your assets and remember they're not that wealthy so they're like really struggling with splitting the assets and then I have friends that are like it's awful like I wish I would have put up with it for another 10 years like I wish I would have until the kids got older like this has been so awful for so many years it's not worth it like really make sure you know because it's just it's so much harder than you think like you see it on TV and it seems like it goes quick and you know what I mean and it's and it's so much harder than you think. It is seen on TV and it seems like it goes quick And you know what I mean? And it's and it's awful and yeah, you have some fun nights

You know what master was getting hit on maybe you have some fresh dick and then after six months It's like the guy you like is also screwing eight other people Exactly now you're home alone You're asked to is greener. It's so true. What I do is your ass is always I asked could be green I do whatever I do like don't have sex greener too. Your ass could be greener too. I do. Whatever I do.

I don't have sex for a while. And then wipe it from the memory. I don't know if this makes sense. Yes. And then he comes home and it's like I tried to put him as like a new fresh person. That's smart though. That's like a little fun thing. Like he's got his baseball hat on.

He's going off about red left hand turn signals or whatever the fuck he goes off on and And I look at it in a different light like he's new and fresh. He's the the Adam that you fell in love with All rolling You both laugh at my suggestions when I'm like, you know, why not go out and pretend it's your first date I mean it sounds just like how we do that we'd left so hard I do all the time with N Peter like he's he's not an actor. So he's not good at like the yes and like he's never took groundings or anything. So it's like then he he stops doing it. Like I went and we were going to Vegas and I go we're getting ready like for like two nights and I said um let's pretend like we're

a divorced couple and we're dating. We have not boned yet. This is our first night um like we're divorced couple or dating. We have not borne yet. This is our first night. Like you're divorced and you're dating, right? We've gone out a couple times, we have a fact, like it's gonna happen this week and. So you gotta charm me, like you don't know if I'm asleep with you, you gotta act like this. Act like we're dating, you know? So then we're packing our stuff and he's acting

pretty good for a minute. And then like my suitcase was in his way and he kind of kicked it, I'm like, oh fuck you like you really do that? If we put on three dates together and you met me in the carpool line and I'm like the hottest divorce mom at the school, you would do that before three days of training. You don't even know if I'm gonna sleep with you.

That's where I'm like, he just doesn't commit to the care. He doesn't have the training. Maybe if you got him into, Adam would never, he would never. He'd be like, I don't even know what you're talking about. Yeah, just go put on a bathing suit and I'll be happy for him. Right, you know, pretty good goddamn, good in a bathing suit. I totally forget and got that.

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so what about blow jobs after marriage? Yes, no, exist. After marriage? Oh, I mean it you know There's at the roots I'll be totally honest because this is a show like both of us are Pretty much bread and butter boners. We're down to fuck like we don't He doesn't take by agra's never had one. I don't really need Loub like we we kind of like traditional boning

So like oral sex is more like special occasions, not every night. It's like you know how not every night you have like an appetizer or a dessert. We do. But when we do, but you know what, I'll be honest. One of the reasons I'm smearing it is because I don't think I'm that great at sex.

I think I'd have a real hard time out there after Peter dies. What makes you think that you're not? What makes you think that you're not? Because I didn't have a lot hard time out there after Peter died. What makes you think that you're sad? What makes you think that you're sad? Because I didn't have a lot of experience before him. Okay, because you guys have been together. And I was a virgin to us really old. Oh, right, 27, I read this on your site.

And so, you know what I was like, I'm so don't care, I hear him this convening, I'll say anything, I'll stand in front of thousands of people, I'll say the most intimate things, I'll, you know, wear an outfit that I have a camel toe in for comedy reasons. Like there's nothing I wouldn't do, but I just didn't have that much,

like, you know what I mean? I almost think like if I was single now, I would like really want to like watch a lot of porn and learn, because I think you have to act like you love it. You know, like, and I had to something like, I'd have to be like, I love it, I'm like, I'm in my face. know, like I know something like all I have to be like I love it. I like coming to my face. Like I can't like we'll just start learning like one. I'm not like I can we do that. It's fun, but it's not where you learn you come you can I can bring my book to send you my book

but there's also workshops I teach to help people a better sex. There's a lot. Yeah. No, I don't read and I'll read I know I'll read stuff and everything. Not bad. But sometimes like you know, it's more like we have the best, we go on a lot of trips without kids. That's important. That's very important for kids. And especially with my career. So there are a lot of times where it's like a short weekend

or something. He can come along. We don't bring the kids. We've always been really lucky to have his mom. So those are really good boning weekends. Yeah, those are gonna quick fixations. Low job, because you're out of town. Like it's a special occasion.

You like a good job, vacation blow job. No, no. You wanna add them, make a good couple. Not really. But I'll never forget when you on the show that you've never turned on, you're like, I will do a good blow job. Yeah, we just go down.

I love it, it's a people are really good. I just kind of flashed it. I, you know what, with my mouth, You're like I will do a job. Yeah, we just love it. I love it. It's a really really good. I just kind of flashed it. You know what? With my mouth, I have less teeth than the regular person. So I don't think I have the greatest jaw for second dick. And- But hands are the best friends.

Pressure on the penis with the hands. Pressure. I don't know, it's just so easy to get it hard. Yeah. That I just rather, I'm just having a chance. I'm having a low job though. Like flowers for women.

I know. I'm not doing it. I still do it. I try just to do it as often. But he's not big. He's not asking me. It's not like he's asking me and I'm being a bitch about it. It's like, you know, comes after I'm being a bitch about it. It's like you know comes after

A lot of fun definitely some drinks Janks are a great I really I really love alcohol. I mean, I really love to drink me too It's definitely the biggest affidelsiac for me. It's a good buzz. I know. What do you drink? Mangria besides thank you. I love buttery chardonnay That gets to me the most drunk because I think I've been drinking that for so long that now when I switch to like an exciting like mixology type of drink, like oh this has rosemary and jalapenos and like you know that type of

stuff, I don't get as drunk. Like I could have like Vot like several vodka drinks or a ginger and it's like if I wanna get drunk, horny drunk, it's like, char nay in the sun. That's your thing, right? The bad guy, everything. It's not like beer in the sun. I like that too. I like the thing. I like alvagra.

Yeah, like I did so much daydreaming in college and that's when I would like dry hump and get real horny. But you didn't have sex. I know, I love dry humping. Audigbus. How do you even work out for you guys in dry humping? Which you have organized? Yeah, I could definitely definitely so you still masturbated

I didn't really know that I was doing it right back then right I just love making out No, I know I know it's like so I'm like let's just I bring back the key Let's make out and see where it leads yeah I like more boob play than make out at this point. Yeah more. Can you have an orgasm through your breasts? If it was done. No That's it my dad. I was done correctly. Not yet. It's on the list

I because I know I know you're bigger out how to do it. I'm working on it. Because May was masturbation month. So I thought I need a goal. And you didn't do it. I got busy. I tried. I like to use Lou Bowman.

I like to try the whole thing. I mean I tried a few times. I really like, I get, literally on my schedule is like masturbate with this trick. Because I get the correct answer. I mean definitely the best way for me in orgasm is just full on imagination. Right, so, but you fantasy. Yes, definitely.

Do you use toys? Not really, no. I never really have, like, I have some and we've like, messed around, but like, no. I like, you can just have a whole scenario. I like to watch Redonovan. Oh my gosh. I love that show.

Like, oh my gosh, I just covered it. Yes, I love anything. I love any kind of movie that's like, you know, where they're working together and it's like up against a wall and you just pull the skirt up. But we never do that. Right. I think I'd like to just buy a pencil skirt.

Yeah, and have him. And the thing is, my husband is tall and big, but he doesn't like pick me up and throw me around. Have you told him to? Yes. Yeah, in guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids. Guys love their kids.

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And he just like threw up against the wall. So he's still I love how he dresses I like that suit with just like a fitted suit no tie and So then yet he came out man did is dick out of his pants. I mean granted acting I don't really know if this can happen and then I curse her you know It's down. She's pulled the thing to the side. And then like, so, but he's holding her ass up up against the wall while he's fucking her. Yeah, that's right. I wanna do that.

I just did that. You did it. I think I've done it. I'm sorry, you guys, I'm single. I'm single. You're tiny, you don't do it. You're right. You should have been able to talk.

I could do that to you too. Sorry, I could do that. Yeah, I could say that. That's actually why I invited you here today for two shows. Yeah, it was hot. I can't remember to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too.

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I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do that to you too. I could do used to be that way. And now, you know, it's 20 years later. Right, because I gotta do that. I know. What about you guys going along together? What about you? Do we what? Do you go away together? Yeah, we do.

We do. We have once in a while. So is there anything new that either one of you tried lately? They're like, we should try this. I know we kind of broke this, but like, anything new that you've added to your repertoire. Because maybe this will just get you thinking for the weekend. Why? Master, babe. With them. Don't tell Adam. You've shot up in the show with that. you out of your repertoire. Because maybe this would just get you thinking for the weekend. Why master me? With him?

Don't tell Adam. You should have him. You should have him. Open the show with that. Right. Does he tell your comments, like, suddenly? He gets to do it. Well, no, I did.

Yeah, I did. I did. But yeah, he doesn't have. Don't get too personal. No, not at all. I just know that he gets going. I don't know. We don't talk about that.

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We can email me feedback at sexandfamily.com. Okay. Dear Emily, my wife and I have been married for 21 years. She recently went to her gynecologist and was told something I found disconcerting. She was told that if my wife is giving me sex twice a month, I should be content because that's the average for our ages slash marriage duration. We're in our mid-40s. I told her to find a new doctor. I value your opinion on the matter. What do you think, TJ? I'm gonna let you guys take this first.

I think if my husband wanted it more, I would give it to him. Yeah, I mean, there's times like in the middle of the night where he kind of like comes over, but I could tell it's like a dream, so I can just like move away and say no. Right. Like he doesn't know what he's doing. But like, to really like be asking and like turning them down, I think, yeah, I mean, I think you should just say, I need it more.

Like try to work it up, say, could we just please do it once a week? Right, I can't believe I just please do it once a week. Yeah, two, two, one. Yeah, two, one more. Like, go say, what would make you want to do it more often? Right. Maybe it's that he's kind of a dick. You know, maybe she's like maybe well, you know what? Like all of a sudden my husband like just be nicer. Right. So that's you know when they're like getting

on your property like they just get cross-tidy and you know it's just like they're older and they have kids and like a mortgage and then you dump the car and then get pissed. You know what I mean? It's just like so is it like that. It's like, God, have you just been sweet? Like, you know? Right, maybe the size-dish-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-gin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-gin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-gin-begin-begin-begin-begin-begin-gin-begin-begin-begin-be I think he'll soften up because I've seen Adam get softer now. And Ben do get softer because he's older, the less the faster. But as when's older than you, your husband? No, my husband's 50. So he's not, he's not old.

And I'm 51. Yeah, it's like the same age. It's not the same. Yeah, it's the same. I mean, I think the thing about Tidey's question is it's so many couples wonder if they're normal, what's the average number? There is no, like, is normal.

I have no normal. Is that like, you should have sex twice a week. But if it doesn't work for one of the members of the couple, like TJ, then that's a problem. I knew this woman and she wrote this book after her husband died. And she was a second wife and she was like 20 years younger than he. And he died at like 70s. So she was like 50 and they'd been married, though.

They've been married for like a long time, like 17 years. And she's like a larger woman. And the book was all about how she didn't know how she was going to adjust because they would fuck like twice a day. Wow. And he was 70 and she was 50 and I was like never in my, and I talked to some of my friends who had read it. I'm like, that's unusual, right? That's why the book is not that relatable because I'm like, I just don't know anybody. Who is time to keep that passion up. So I'm like, that's pretty amazing

if two people have the exact same sex drive, whether it is twice a month, right? Or, you know, it's like, that's a lucky thing because I do feel like, you know, one person always feels like they're not getting it. This is a mismetz libido thing. I get asked this, this is a variation of this question to us, the woman's the man, and they're like,

what do we do about Ms. Machelbi? And sometimes it changes, it switches. Like, she wants it more. And so really, it is the kind of thing couples, but a lot of them just don't know how to talk about sex. So TG, I think that you need to just level with her and no, don't pressure like, hey, we have sex in a month, you know,

that never like, type thing, anything like that, to a guy in a blowjob in six months, that does not make us want to get down to our needs. But I think if someone said, what, him, I got in a blowjob in six months. That's not because I want to get down to earnings. But I think if someone said, what, look, I'm not perfect either, but what could I do to make you want to be room, you know, intimate with me more often? Right.

You know, is it that you, you know, want to go out on a real date before? These romance. Like you don't feel sexy and you want like, I don't know, a new wardrobe or like, is there something, or would it help if we went away more often? Like I just just think say it like that instead of just like where are you putting out more you know like right exactly because that's the

that's the last time I would put out when someone when someone says that's you it's true I don't really choose again to Dr. DJ I just think that this is a conversation that you guys got to take in work because this happens all the time you guys are not alone and there there should be, you know, actually, no, should in your relationship, because if you should have two, twice a week, or twice a month, that's fine. If you're not happy with it,

and you're not content, then this needs to be addressed. But I also think, like, be so grateful that you guys are still together for 21 years. Like, you're beating me odds there. So like, if this is your only issue like thank goodness yeah deserve a medal like yeah sure but the thing is also yeah I don't know but when you want that I think that sex is the glue for I get you become friends all that but it is the glue if you stop having sex and not like they've stopped completely but yeah

libido still still raging so I think you're right haven't talked about it in a different way couples so as they have the same conversations over and over in the same exact way you're not going to get anywhere. If you're like, you're going to get sick. I know I need it because I'll have like a real horny dream. Yeah. That's your such an active imagination. Yeah.

That's the best. I had a real horny dream. I would like to do it tonight. Would you tell me? I would never. Well, it was like the best when that happened. Yeah. It never happens to me because my whole life is sex.

It's going to bend. No more sex. I don't know. No, it was like happening. Well, first, my husband was with a couple moms from the school and they were like flirting with them because I think we're coming back to the school and I was like, I think it's all the Ashi Madison stuff. I was like taking for granted that like anybody would want to fuck them, you know?

And so then, so then I got with sometimes it's with my husband and sometimes it's just some other person. And then it was some other person and yeah, we're like ready to bone getting ready to be about to do it you know and then I think I they alarm one on but that helps that's like one day a few days. Sometimes I wake up like if there is time I wake up and my husband wakes up early and I'll walk out and I'll be like okay or I'll call him and I'll be like I'm really horny come on you know we have like 20 minutes and he'll be like okay and then he'll come and then you get that yeah have like 20 minutes. And he'll be like, okay, and then he'll come. And then you get that, yeah, but it's a dream. You know what, you're horny in your dream,

and you've got to move on. I know, I want to horny dreams. Oh really? This is like Emily, you talk about this a lot. Once you have sex with your husband, do you get that closeness feel to him? Like, I realize that I have a disconnect, but then when we have sex, it really does feel,

yeah, I feel like that connection, you say that we have sex, it really does feel like that connection. You say that all the time. It's too dark to toast in. You get connected. I mean, you can't need that. You know, because the guy with that, does the guy have it? The problem with the oxytocin is women, we have it and it attaches.

Guys, the highest the oxytocin goes, it's right after orgasm and then it goes, and they fall asleep. That's what happens to them. We're a refractory period. Yeah, they're fricking, no, but yeah, it just makes them tired. But I think me. We're a for actor AP. Yeah, they're for actor AP. Yeah, they're for actor AP.

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