Sex With Emily - The Secret to Magnetic Chemistry in Long-Term Relationships

Episode Date: June 30, 2026

Are you and your partner really collaborating in bed, or just going through the motions? In this episode, I'm diving deep into the third pillar of Sexual Intelligence: Collaboration. I break down why two people can be having sex without truly connecting, how sexual polarity creates that magnetic charge we all crave, and why desire mismatches don't have to drive a wedge between you and your partner. I also walk you through one of my favorite practices — the Sexual State of the Union — and share simple, actionable tools like the Yes!No!Maybe? list and 60-second eye contact to help you and your partner start co-creating the sex life you actually want. Whether you're partnered or flying solo, this episode will change the way you think about intimacy. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex.  CONNECT WITH EMILY: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/  X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily  Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/  Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text  Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe  Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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It's so good to see all the familiar faces here joining me. Love seeing everybody. We are going through the pillars of sex IQ, which I love that we are really diving into them. All the pillars of sexual intelligence. So today is collaboration. That's number three of the pillars of sexual intelligence. Now, first one, go back and watch embodiment. The second one is health. And this is collaboration.

And this is where everything really gets to deepen. This is about where we are all like in collaboration with someone else. How do we co-create a relationship intimate and otherwise that is effective and healthy and bringing our full self to the table, inviting our partner to do the same without like all the pressure without performance but with like presence and intention and curiosity. Like how do we create that relationship that we want? so badly that we hear about, that we read about, but it just feels out of reach. That's what collaboration is about. I have to remind us all that nobody taught us how to be in relationships. No one taught us how to be intentional. There's a good chance our parents' examples wasn't really a relationship. We love them. They did their best, but it wasn't the kind of relationship that

we want, right? So let's talk about what collaboration was. really means. But first, I would love to take a moment and do a little bit of breath work. I'm just going to set my timer here just for like a minute, a minute and a half, everyone with me. So before we get more into the pillars of collaborate into collaboration, let's just take, I'd love us all to breathe in. We're going to breathe in through our nose for four. We're going to hold for four and we're going to exhale for six. We're going to hold for four. Inhale. Just follow along with me. We'll just do this for about a minute and a half. Let's breathe in for four. We're going to hold for four. We're four two three four we're going to hold two three four we're going to exhale two three four five six take a few at your own breath

at your own pace it's good to just to just remember on your own too if you want to like your exhales be a little bit longer than your inhales, it's helpful, right? I love doing breath work, talking about collaboration. I'll do it with a partner. I'd be like, let's just breathe together for 10 seconds. Let's just kind of land in the room together. Think about it. We're all coming, going, trying to make stuff on time. You know, life is intense. So when we breathe, it's presence. We literally are not anywhere else. We're not in the past where there's a lot of anxiety. We're not in the future. Fear, all those places that we live in. The future or the past is mostly what's pulling us out of the present. We're worried that this thing's going to happen again or worried about what's going to happen later. So

just helps land the plane there. So collaboration. Let's remember this, you guys. Just because two people are having sex together doesn't necessarily mean they are collaborating. That is the problem. We're not even really communicating at all. We're just kind of making assumptions oftentimes that our partner, we were thinking about them. We're worried, are they having a good time? We're worried about ourselves, how our body looks, but are we really collaborating, you know? I know that for me, for many years, I'm just going to get in the dark, close my eyes, hope for the best. Hopefully this is working. Hopefully we're all, you know, in this together.

And I'm telling you, I just, I just, I just want to say that you are not wrong that this is like maybe the first time you've actually thought about it or your relationship hasn't felt like it's a collaboration. What it really means is we are co-creating our sex life and we're not just going along for the ride. We're not just hoping for the best. It means that we are talking about sex before it happens, during sex, after. And we are getting playful and curious. We're not just checking the boxes off. Did I have an orgasm? Did you have an orgasm?

Did we have sex 1.2 times this week? We are playful with our sex life. We're curious about it. How do we make it interesting? How do we stay connected? and we are also prioritizing each other's pleasure, including our own pleasure. We're not defaulting to autopilot, which is so easy to do. Listen, we go into autopilot with work.

We go to autopilot sometimes with our friends or talking to our parents or whatever it is. Like, autopilot is safety. Autopilot is like, I have so much going on, I know how to do this. But if we're really engaged and we really want to have a long-lasting intimacy, we can't just go into the autopilot. But most of us, again, are not taught how to collaborate in bed. We're taught to guests to assume, to hope that chemistry is there, to hope we know how to get back to the chemistry from the past.

And I'm telling you, so much of our relationships are based on this early stage chemistry. The honeymoon phase, when we had all those feel-good hormones raging, we're like, can we go back to that? Can we go back to that? And remember, that is a point in time in our lives, in our relationship where we had all the dopamine, the serotonin, the oxytocin, all that stuff was. working for us because it's a new relationship but we and then we hope that we can get that back and we don't necessarily go back to that stage that's a unique time but how do we continue to keep

it going how do we stay connected and i'm telling you it's from the collaborative healthy collaboration so the real chemistry is from connection and connection comes from collaboration so let's talk about two of the main elements to magnetic collaboration the first one of the first thing is from connection and connection comes from collaboration. The first one is an energetic connection. Now this is just, this is not just about our physical touch, it's about presence, it's about being there with our partner, not in our head, not in the mental to-do list. And this is where we can make mental eye contact. We can match our breath together.

We can place a hand on our chest, place, you know, on their chest or yours and just feel and stay connected. You know, these are the basic premises of like talk about being a tantric master or tantric sex, tantric sex is really about eye contact and breathing. If you could just do that when you're with a partner and just be like, before we, you know, start having sex or even like ending our day together, like let's just look into each other's eyes for 20 seconds. I'll put my hand on your chest, you'll put it on mine, or we can each just kind of monitor our own breath and breathe together. Even 30 seconds of this full body presence with our partner can shift the dynamic entirely.

think about how that breathwork that we did for like two minutes at the top of it can change everything imagine if you did that with the willing partner right and and and so it's just a game changer i mean there've been so many times where i was with a partner and i know i've said this to you before but i just can't emphasize enough that even for me sex starts happening and i'm like wait a minute i'm not because now i know i'm like i'm not present something there's a loop that's not close from the day. I'm worried that I didn't send this text back. I'm not present with the sex that's happening. And instead of continuing with it, because I already started it, or my partner wants the sex, or I feel bad about stopping, I know that I've made a commitment to be a conscious collaborator

in the relationship with my partner. And so if I'm not present, I'm not holding up my end of the bargain. Does that make sense? And so I would say to my partner, let's just stop for a minute. Can we just stop and breathe for a minute. And he's like, okay. So I just like, we'll turn on my breathing app or we'll just breathe together for a few minutes and I'll hold, you know, we'll hold hands or we'll look into each other's eyes and it's an immediate reset. So just energetics, breathwork, eye contact, slowing down, making sure that you are both on the same like level playing field before any intimacy starts. The next part of magnetic collaboration is sexual. Now, when I talk about clarity, is the dance of opposites. That's what creates the charge and the magnetism. Sexual polarity is the

spark and that's a thing that creates that like, I want to rip your clothes off. I want to be sexual. That's the energy between two people. And at its core, it's about the dance between the masculine and the feminine. When we say that, and if this is a new concept to you, I don't want to get into it too much here. Like I'm not going to spend the whole, I could talk to you about masculine, feminine energies for six hours. But this has nothing to do with gender. We all have. have a masculine inside of us. We all have a feminine energy inside of this. These are the energies we carry and they show up differently different times a day. They show up differently at work. But just to remember this, the masculine is about direction and presence and holding space.

It's grounded and focused. And the feminine is the part of it that's flow, expression, like feeling, being alive, it's movement, it's emotion, it's radiance. And when these energies are opposite and complimentary. That's where desire thrives. So the tension is like the magnet. It's the north and south poles. They're pulled together when we can be in our feminine, our partners and our masculine, or vice versa. And that's the sexual polarity. The problem is in long-term relationships, we get busy, we lose the polarity, we slip into the sameness. We're both in doing mode. Like, I've got the kids and you've got the laundry. Like, I'm going to pick up dinner and you're going to clean the house. I'm going to do this. I'm going to finish up work and you're going to, so that's the

masculine. Like, I'm in my masculine most of the time running a business as a CEO. Even right now, I'm like directed, I'm purposeful. I'm not in my feminine right now. Doing breath work, I was more in my feminine. Does that make sense? I was like, does that, if you guys have questions about this, but I was like, I do that to kind of match my energy. But most of the time, a lot of us in this world, we got businesses, even being a parent is very masculine. Like, as a mom, The feminine is the energy that we let flow to receive. So when it comes to sex, someone has to always be leading and someone has to be following. If you're both in your masculine or you're both in your feminine, you're not going to create, be able to create that spark.

So if you're always in control, work, house, plans, try softening. Try, like, learning, receiving in the bedroom. Because there has to be someone that's starting that spark, someone who's, whoever is initiating sex is in their masculine, who's ever, receiving is in their feminine. Like if you're usually the laid back, like for example, okay, so if you're controlled work and house and plans, you could try softening, receiving, letting go in the bedroom. Or if you're usually the laid back one, take the lead at night, shift the energy, create a new current between you. And this is not about playing roles. It's about it's about just creating that contrast that's going to spark the desire that we all crave. One person leads, the other person.

person follows. One person's giving, the other person's receiving. One commands, the other surrenders. Again, not about gender orientation. It's about energy. And I tried even when I was writing my book, like masculine and feminine trips people up, but even people in same-sex relationships are playing with the masculine feminine. So play with contrast, switch up the roles, bring in dominance or softness or mystery. This is the spark that is so important for this magnetic collaboration. So in practice, collaboration, like, what do I mean by that? Like, what are some examples? It's like talking about what you want, talking about, am I curious to try this? Do you want to try this, you know, practice? Even would you be open to playing with our magnetism? Would you be open

to playing with polarities? It's about navigating our mismatched desires. Listen. mismatched desire discrepancies high libido low libido one person has higher desire than the other one is going to happen in every relationship but how do we approach it with curiosity and not with shame how do we say i notice that you're wanting sex seven days a week and i'm wanting it like once a week how do we find a way to to both be satisfied and filled up and connected how do we get curious about how a problem solve this together. Not blaming or shaming. I always find that there's like one person in the relationship who's like, you know, in charge of kind of fixing the sex when really it's the two of you in it together in a collaboration. You can also make a shared sex menu. You know I love the

sex. The yes, the sex no maybe. That's actually funny. I've ever called it the sex no maybe. It's the yes no maybe list, but maybe I should rebrand it as a sex no maybe. The yes no maybe list, which is a free guide for you. Like maybe that becomes your sexual menu and you guys take that. You take it again or you go back to it if you guys filled it out. Is this a yes? Is this a no? We haven't in the chat here.

Is it a maybe? This is your next date night if you haven't done yet. We also did a great workshop at the beginning of the year about like planning for your sex life, planning for your year. Like what are we into? Also inviting your partner in instead of performing for them, right? Performance. We don't want to just perform.

It's okay to want to please our partners, but we don't want to do it at the expense of our own pleasure. So some phrases that could help, would you want to try something new with me tonight? Like, what would make this even hotter for you? Is there anything you've been wanting to explore, but you haven't quite said out loud yet? Small conversations lead to the biggest breakthroughs. I mean, these conversations, small conversations everywhere lead to big breakthroughs. You know, most of the things that we're not dealing with that we're not talking about is actually causing us so much harm.

But once we actually have the conversation, I mean, has anyone here who's been part of this community, like had a conversation, right? And it just made a difference. So you tried one thing due. Again, because of all the shame around this, we just don't even try. But this would be huge just to practice it. And if you want to explore what conversations look like in the bedroom, you've got to check out Deney Logan's workshop that she did if you want.

months ago bedroom authenticity and breakthroughs. It's one of the most popular workshops here in Smartest. She impacts the nuances of honest communication, talks about novelty. She explains how working together in the bedroom can create deeper connection and trust. So we love some to Denei Logan. And again, we've done so many great, we've had so many great speakers on here and workshop leaders that I want to remind you that it's not a one-time conversation. It's out a one-time course, is that a one-time workshop with me? It's ongoing. And so we're really working intentionally to build a community that has all the resources for you. If you're like, oh, yeah, collaboration is the pillar that I really need help with. Like, we've got you here.

We've got you covered. We can help you go deeper wherever you're finding that you really want to work on. Because every single pillar matters. Every single pillar. And it's not to make it like more pressure bowl that there's five pillars of sexual intelligence. I want to remind you that I created these pillars. So it actually makes it easier so you can be like, okay, well, I'm feeling more embodied lately thanks to my breathwork and movement practice, but I actually haven't been collaborating a lot. My partner and I have been leading separate lives. So that's when we have to work on together. And maybe you realize that the health pillar is one where you're like, okay, I've seen my hormone doctor but I haven't been working out as much right so it just allows you to

troubleshoot your desire and your arousal which is why we're all here to have enhanced and you know you have to remember that the study of of of human sexuality and connection is still fairly new the fact that we're even talking about it so it's okay that like you know so breaking it out into all these areas I think is going to really help you hopefully not overwhelm you so that's why we are really giving you as much as we can so you can become your own sex expert troubleshooter with whatever is uh whatever is getting in your way so also you guys remember if you are solo you still get to collaborate it doesn't mean that you are you know you can't practice collaboration we do some wonderful work

in in relation to others but it starts with you so what a great moment to think what turns you want physically, mentally, emotionally, which roles feel naturally and exciting to you? Are you more of leader? Are you follower? How can you, you know, are you want to dominate? Do you want to be more submissive? And how can you practice expressing what you want even when you're playing solo? Like you are building an incredible foundation for partner or partners in the future by collaborating truly with your own body now. And I'll remind you, like, I learned so much about my own sexuality, being solo, like, figure it out my best path to orgasm and all the different ways.

You know, I could experience pleasure. I couldn't have multiple orgasms. I couldn't have all these things before I practice on my own. So, so important, you guys. So action steps. This is some action steps around collaboration. I'm going to open this up to you guys for some questions. Pick one collaborative action to try.

this week. You could share a new fantasy or desire with a partner who's going to do that. You can try 60 seconds of eye contact and breath before 60 seconds. Game changer. I almost can't do it without that now. I'm like, I need to breathe. I need to connect with you. Because otherwise we're coming in separate from our days, from our energies. Ask the simple question. That's not my happy simple. Ask specific question. What do you want more than our sex life? Create a shared sex menu. Download the yes, no, maybe, and do it, do it, do it. People love it.

People like, it's a great conversation starter. And then if you're solo, just try journaling about what dynamics turn you on and why. So remember this, that collaboration is so crucial for connected, playful, satisfying sex life. So when you learn to consciously co-create and to create with somebody, it's not for them and at them. both of you. So try out any of those sexual acts of collaboration. It could be a big one or a small one. Just try one because the best sex of your life is happening when you guys are co-creating it and building it together. So if you guys have any questions about this, please, please send me your questions. Natalie, I love that you used Emily AI to practice a conversation before speaking

to your husband. You guys, Emily AI is just for you guys. Just for you guys. our community. We've recently launched it. You guys seem to be loving it. I love it. It's literally my 20 years of everything I've ever said. However, I've helped people. I've had a billion downloads of my podcast. I've answered, God knows how many questions, how many articles are written. How many times I've been interviewed? I have 5,000 podcasts. My books, it's all in there, and it's pretty freaking good. And we waited a long time before we release it to because I wanted to make sure that it was accurate and helpful and I'm so glad you're loving it so only you guys part of this community have access to it now so I hope you will use it um to help you with conversations

like to help you remind you of things or to give you like step by steps for for the week or how you can talk to a partner so I think that is really incredible questions here about collaboration about magnetism, about communication. I mean, you know that I would say communication is a lubrication. This really is also the communication pillar. This is about having conversations that seem challenging or maybe scary, but finding the right time to do it. It's about making sure that your sex life isn't on the back burner anymore.

I mean, I can tell you after 20 years, this is the problem, is that couples put it on the back burner. they've never talked about it. Maybe this is you, and you can't imagine how are we going to rework it and talk about it now and what are we going to do? You can start today. Today can be the first day of the rest of your sex life,

but it's a really important part of it. It's like, you know, people always ask, how are you comfortable talking about sex? It's by talking about sex. It's by doing it. By saying, I know this is awkward and comfortable. We haven't talked about sex before, but can we do this now?

Can we start now? It's a really important part of our lives, of our overall well-being. It's going to help us enhance. Your sex life isn't going to get better by just closing your eyes and hoping for the best. It doesn't work that way.

I think that's why you're all here. So please let me know if there are any questions at all about this. Natalie's going to try the 60-second eye contact and breathe. What else, you guys? What else are you going to try? I gave you a few prompts,

like, what do you want more of your sex life? Are you going to, like, journal about it? Are you going to share a fantasy with a partner? How are you going to co-create? How are you going to collaborate this week? Like this weekend with your partner? We don't want to sit on this. Was there any sparks here?

Anyone inspired or have a question more about, you know, how to best collaborate? Journaling sounds like a great idea. There's so much science now in studies that talk about journaling and as such a healing modality that when you're actually writing down the words of what you want and saying, it and expressing and practicing it like it helps us psychologically it helps us make sure that these things happen it helps us get clear it also empties from our mind whatever is sort of holding us back it's such a great practice it allows you to get clearer let's make some commitments Nina hi Nina my husband I've been exploring new things and I think journaling and you think you'll

journal about something great and Christine's going to share the embodied couple with my husband amazing thanks Christine doesn't it help to make the commitment. Christy, your boyfriend and I got to plan some sort of desire night. Just like how we go with finances monthly. We do the same practice of our sex life. Yes, I love that. I call it the sexual state of the union.

The sexual state of the union is such a wonderful practice for partners. Let me share this with you. This is my sexual state of the union talking points. So basically, you do it once a month, once a week. If you have your finance call, you could tap me. Honestly, if you have a finance. meeting with your partner, their husband, maybe this is the dessert from that. Maybe you're like, we're going to go over spreadsheets and then we're going to go over fantasies. So you want to like,

it's okay to, it's basically a monthly conversation, discussing things you want to try, explore, each other's desires and fantasies, the ways you can be better lovers to one each other. It is a non-judgmental conversation about sex. So basically it's a, you know, I know it's a catchy, catchy phrase, but it just Basically, you can keep it short. It can be 10 minutes. It doesn't have to be a whole thing. It doesn't have to be a presidential state of the union. You don't want to carve out like half a day to talk about your sex life.

And in fact, if you keep it short, you're more likely to keep doing it. And you're going to get your points across. You're planting the seeds for your sex life to come. You're not doing it on one shot. You don't have to figure out your entire sex life. At the end of your finance conversation, let's talk for 10 minutes, how are we doing with our intimate life. I think it's really important. Like you could, I want these conversations to normalize talking about sex. So setting it free from expectations, you don't have to do it like right after sex or

for sex. Like do it when you're already having one of these calls. It might be awkward. I get it. It might feel unsexy because you're nervous. This isn't like a foreplay exercise. Like this might not be to do it so you guys are getting turned on. It's literally like, what are we going to do to make sure that we are conscious collaborators in our relationship. How are we going to make sure that our intimacy that we don't become another statistic about a couple who stops having sex? Like, this is important. We are in our masculine talking about our sex life.

And the great thing is that these regularly scheduled sexual state of the unions, they're not about solving like a specific problem in the bedroom. It's not about like grievances or criticism necessarily or even sex therapy. It's just a way to also help me, like, let's just normalize talking about sex. And then once you get more comfortable with it, communicate about sex, better sex will follow. It's like, I'm thinking when you talk about your finances, your finances are a good shape. Because you guys talk about it every month or week or what's our budget. Why would our sex lives be any different if we don't talk about it?

We just think about it, you know? Why? Why would it be better if you've never prioritized it? paid attention to it or collaborated on it. That works that way. So it's regular. I'm just going through the sexual state of the union here. I just have my little checklist for the state of the union.

My goal, this was just from the New York Times. I'm actually just pulled it up because they did a piece on this of my sexual state of the union a while ago. Something you talk about in your relationships with the same level of comfort, normalcy, and intention as planning a vacation or where to go on a fun night out. Try scheduling this sex talk and the state of the union. Like you can say, look, I know this is new for us, but I want us to have a growth mindset around our sexual connection. Honestly, you need to make a slideshow. You need to have props.

You need to show them something that's hot. Like, do it. Make it your own. But the bottom line of collaboration is making sure that you both have a growth mindset around sex. It is just important. And it's a whole other thing. If you're in a relationship with someone who's like, I don't want to talk about it. why you always bring it up, that's where I would say therapy would be super helpful for you

because you're never going to convince that partner to come aboard. Not never. I don't think speaking into correlatives like that, but it's tough if you've been with someone for a while and they just keep shutting you down and saying, I don't want to talk about it or why should we have to talk about it. I just hear that all too often and that's really hard. I'm talking about partners who are consciously collaborating and co-creating. That's what we want here. Now, I love that we've all made commitments here to each other. That is so great. I love it. Raymond asked, if you were to reach out to someone about somatic stuff, who would you recommend I reach out to? Do you mean like having a somatic practitioner, like someone you could work

with? I would reach out to Dolly, Josette. I think it's Dolly. I think it's the pleasuremuse.com, see if she could see you as an independent client coaching practice with her. she's totally available and if she can't mean she doubt all that she's available but she's a great resource pleasure muse all right all of you i love that you're all here and next week's workshop i'll be discussing on tuesday the 22nd i'll be discussing pillar number four which is self-knowledge and that's how well do i know myself do i know my turn-ons do i know what i like you know even if you think you don't we all know stuff we all know enough and i'm going to help you figure out what you actually know at this point, what else there is to know. But that's a great one. And then Wednesday,

I'm so excited. I'm doing, it's a very special day because I'll be doing a workshop with my oldest, my first friend, our parents, been best friends, our grandparents are friends. We grew up for mission together. Her name's Tammy Colton, Tamara Colton. She's actually a rabbi. But she and we talk about, we're going to be talking about love. We're going to be talking about connection. We have a great vibe. She's a healer for sure. It's nothing to do with like Judaism or anything. It's about discovering your inner child and how to actually do that. What does that mean? What does it mean? And two women who grew up together, we just have a great chemistry and we've talked about doing something together for a long time and you're going to fall in love with her. So that's what we're

going to be up to you guys next week. I hope that I will see you all. If there's any other questions here, please put them in. Otherwise, I will see you next week for two super special workshops that I'm excited to take on with you. Please join us for Tamara Colton. You will love her and then join me for self-knowledge. All right, everybody. Thank you for everything. Thank you for showing up. I hope you all have a beautiful rest of your day. Love you all. Thank you.