Sex With Emily - The Shahs of Sex with Mercedes Javid

Episode Date: August 2, 2017

Keeping the heat a live in a long term relationship isn’t always easy, especially if you’re on reality TV. On today’s show Emily is joined by Mercedes “MJ” Javid from Shahs Of Sunset to talk foreplay tricks, sex talk tips, and how to set the mood. Does your partner shy away from giving oral sex? Need help with feelings of unfounded jealousy bubbling up? Ladies– should you freeze your eggs? Emily and MJ discuss these topics as well as go over MJ’s own sex life, and well, it’s worth the listen. This show is a wild one, so don’t miss it! Thanks for supporting our sponsors who help keep the show FREE: Sportsheets, Magic Wand, UVee Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily on Today's show, Mercedes MJ Javid, one of the stars of the Bravo TV show Shaws of Sunset joins me as we help you navigate your sex and relationship questions. Topics include getting your guy to love going down on you, what to do when your jealousy takes over and how to have that elusive G-Spot orgasm. All this and more, thanks for listening. Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got to understand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common all the way? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much?

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I love when you subscribe to the podcast. We do two podcasts a week, which is so fun for you guys. And for me, Tuesdays and Fridays, you can also listen now on I Heart Radio, Spotify, Google Play, SoundCloud, and Jesus so many places. If you don't have one of those, then you probably don't own a smartphone. Exactly. You're got it covered everywhere. Right.

You're right. MJ, I'm going to introduce my guest because just jump in like that. I love it. Mercedes. Thank you. Mercedes Javid from Shaz of Sunset is here. I like a natural. I feel like a natural.

I feel like you are like my co-host. Because really you are today. Because we're going to get into some whatever you want. Sex, relationships. This is only the beginning. This is our fourth play. Right. And so far I'm feeling like all.

It's like also a lost art in my bedroom personally. I didn't mean to go right in, right away. Please. Tell me everything. Okay, so I just, first of all, I want you to lead this thing because this is your thing. No, I'm here. Honey, let me go back and forth.

But I just wanted to say that my fiance blesses heart. We are more in love now than we ever have been. And he was trying to impress me with his skills in the bedroom in the beginning. So he would be like, I'm a stallion. I am the best sex. And you know, very, very early on, he said to me, you've had your last first kiss.

And then he goes, you've had your last, like this is the last person that you're ever gonna f or sleep with, like this is, we're a done deal. This is on lockdown. Like this is us and I was like still getting to know you any, not really sure. Like you're my page. I'm not. Right. Yeah, so um, he was definitely um, a stallion, a... Cording you sexually, he was insane in the beginning, but but I think that

for play is important like the sex the beginning sex. It's not a myth. No, no, four. Okay, so I just gave us a talk this weekend I was at wanderlust which is the yoga festival in Tahoe My speed my talk was called for play a requirement, not a suggestion. Right, a requirement. We need it to get warmed up. We don't even see you walking in the door. We're not turned on. Don't touch me.

If you touch my clitters right now, it's going to be six sandpaper. So don't go right for my, like, warm me up. Turn me on. Right. So you're saying, right? I remember that movie, Spanglish with tail Leonie and Adam Sandler yes and tail Leonie would stand right across from him and he would go like this or something to her boobs like you would like grab them like a

Clown that would like right the nose a clonk Right, and she was like what is this? What are you doing? And he loved her so much But he was so out of touch with like, how does Sadoosa woman? And I think that's really funny because Tommy is the most loving, affectionate person every day is like fourth of July's sparks

when we before he leaves. I get like buried with 100 kisses in the morning. Okay. And then when he comes home, his fate is lit up like Rockefeller Center, but then like he doesn't do that You know like that slow jam Right R&B music video kind of sex that you see with like the White House with like the white panties and the white cheese He does he do you have you told him this actually?

I don't want to tell him that I want to Seduce and bring it out of him. Okay, so let's work on this right now. I'm going to give you some tips, like let's walk this through, because first of all, the good news is that we know that he has it in him, because you've already experienced it, right? Like at the beginning. The best sex ever. Okay, so what made it the best sex ever? So what made it the best sex ever was that I felt like I was being caressed from my head down to my shoulders, down to the small of my back, all the way down to my feet, and back up, he would do

everything. Right. And except I will say we, I think that can I say eat ass eating ass eating ass. Yeah, it is that, can I say eat, ask, eat, ask, eat, ask, eat, it really. You can see whatever you want. Sex. We're not, I know that it was really funny because eating, ask is like the norm now. We met before that was the norm so we don't have to eat each other's ass and I wouldn't want to.

You want to, right. Yeah, but it's funny. He's a little old fashioned and it was like,'s like that's not what he does and he's not I'm gonna make another reference to like Oh my god, there's like that really cool guy. I can't remember his name. It'll come to me like if you're let's say 50 or 60 or 70 years old and you're dating a 20 year old girl, right that man will probably eat her ass because he wants to keep it up with like the 20 year old. But the kids are doing right. But anyway, Tommy did everything. He lasted a really, really long time and he was having sex to rock my world.

And then after a couple of years, it was more like, I was like, are you really going to leave the sponge in the sink in that bowl of ice cream? Right. Like that is what happens. And then like, do you never can pick something up off the floor even if it's been there for like a week or two? Right. So that's not hot. That's not hot. Kill the sex drive. But I would say it. So then I kind of, you know, like I just got a little bit lazy and then we gained like the weight together.

I've lost the weight he hasn't yet. So it's just like that. The life stuff that happened. That is the life stuff that happened. So it's been three years, has it? Yes, almost. Okay. And so here's a thing about four play and sax

with couples that it's always, well, it's always amazing in the beginning. Let's just say, Like amazing. Like amazing. Like amazing. Like 10 times a day, have like explosive orgasms, both of us. Right, the bad.

I might just get excited for it. I'm excited for Hymnys X. I can't even remember that. So right, so that's what happens to beginning of a relationship. And it's actually biology. So the first six months, two years of relationship, we have those hormones. We've got the feel good hormones.

We've got the dopamine and we've got the oxytocin, right, and that bonds us. And then it just takes a nose dive. And the reason why, and then we're like, well, what happened? And then we're like, we'll come back, but you can't go back. You can't go back to exactly how it was.

You can make it, you can work on it and talk about it. But we don't know how to talk about it, because we're like, what happened? And then we just, he hates talking about it. Like if I say, that's what you've got to show him. He's not into sexting, he's not into, like, girls out there, like, don't bother trying to DM him. He will never be turned on by, like, a sext DM.

What does he even turn them on, do you know? Just, he just wants to see me fluff up his pillow, maybe do his laundry, do very traditional things, remember to buy him his favorite juice and milk, and things like things that a mother does, makes him feel loved, and when he feels loved, that's the way that's what makes him feel. And then like celebrating and like blowing off some steam,

he's going to take me to the Lionel Richie concert on Monday night at the goal. Okay, good. And so like that's going to make him frisky because it's like he likes to go out and do stuff like batting cages and he wants to do miniature golf. Which I'm like, that's way too easy for me. I would never. Well, that's the adrenaline. It's going also because it's like, you're going to concert, you're trying a new vet.

Dating your man. You got to date him. But here's the thing about the foreplay. It's almost like it would be another thing, like put this, it would be like, take the sponge out of the sink and put your leg between my head, put your head between my legs. Like you, so you can't have that in the same, in the same energy. Why? Because that's how I hear it. But what if, I always talk about the, this is basic,

but the complement sandwich, right? So what if you told him about, he doesn't want to talk about sex. So what if he likes snuck it up on him? And you're like, it's not like we need to talk about sex because the sex talk should never be this like talk. We need to talk. But it's kind of like, I mean, you know the things that you do that turn him on, right?

Besides getting him a sandwich, but let's say things that you've done to him. We're a thong today. Do you know it's so weird about him? Tell me everything. He notices if I have a brand new thong bodysuit and I wear it to bed, because I'll test him. I'll walk across the hall, much like the movie The Breakup. I knew I was going to be making.

And Dennis Quaid was the other reference I was gonna make. But remember how Jennifer Aniston got the telly Savales and she walked by to get his attention in the movie The Breakup? Yes. That's, and all of a sudden, she basically got out and he, so I will put something on and all of the corner of my eye, I'll be looking out and I'll be like,

will he turn his head up from the baseball game or not and He's an avid sports fan. He loves fantasy. So basically like 11 and a half months out of the year. There's something more important than like me naked right right so it's very much on his terms Sometimes he notices and he really like really surprised like really it has to be a new song or a new body suit. Does he ever remember? He notices, yes. Okay. So he'll be like, oh that one's really good.

I'm like, well thank God I got it. Couldn't you just do a rotation from like last year? Oh, maybe. He's not as peaked by something he's seen before. Okay. Well, here's the thing. So what you're basically saying is that you just want more attention and more forefoot that when you said that he was all over your body and be sure his hands, like they never left your body, like your top and your breasts, like your...

Girl. Girl. So odd at the beginning. He was like, I am going to lock this down. He knew that the last guy I dated before had ED. Oh, and so I decided the function for those listening at home. Yeah, so I was honest. I wouldn't, I couldn't say hard. Talk about, know his, the previous person, not to be confused with Tommy,

he had like a specific window of time where he could sustain a significant direction, a significant, but always the exact same number of minutes or pre-mature ejaculator. So he was like just couldn't keep it. Right, not fun. Okay, so now your fiance, he can keep it. No comparison. So I think he was trying to impress me because he knew that the last person wasn't giving it to me. Right. Exactly. But he worked. So this is what we're saying is because it worked and he got and you know it could have been Here's the best video Chris. Here's the best news Why I'm not worried because you had great sex in the beginning the problem is when people email me or they call me

Or they ask questions and they're like hey, so it was never they tell me all the stuff like I can't get it back I'm not attracted to him and I'm like well Did you ever have it like to be honest, it wasn't great in the beginning. You know that you can go there. So what if you build these scenarios around like, God, I keep thinking about, I know you say he won't sex, but what if you plant the seeds and you're like, I keep thinking about how hot it was that time. What was the hottest moment you had sex?

The hottest. The hottest for both of you, maybe. Was there a moment? 100% both of us? Okay. It was when we were like hanging out at home, like I like to, like we would have like some tequila shots or something, like with like Jimmy Hendrix on, like music, Miguel for example, gets him in the mood, like, you know, like that slow, bluesy type of stuff is like easy. So if we just set the mood.

What if you set the mood? What if you set the mood? That would work. So, I think- I have to do it. Because going back to the compliment sandwich would be like, God, baby, keep thinking about how hard it was at night, which made Jimmy Hendrix, and I just think that'd be great

to relive that again. He would think that would be corny for me to have to say it. He would just prefer that I just have it on. So, it's a recipe. No discussion. Okay. So, just have the lights, have the mood. Do that. I know. It know it's not. It's not

rough. It's easy to be quite honest with. Right. But you have to also let them know that I know he doesn't want to talk about it because I feel that you can't put on Jimmy Hendrix and the the set the mood every single night of your life and not every night is going to be amazing. Yeah. I guess just what I want to get that right. You got cameras falling around. I feel like you just want them to know that it's like like I say it's not just like some light suggestion We actually require it because we are so good. Oh, yeah, you just reminded me of something who tell this season on Shaz yes, you know what he does he says my girl we've been moving we've been Surrounded by dust packing and unpacking boxes. She's in a hospital for 23 hours a day and he gets me a room and this is so funny. He takes us to a romantic getaway and I just remembered that and it is so funny. This conversation that we're having is

part of the it plays out in the season. I love that. Yeah. Shows of sunset if you guys are living in a rock even seen it you really need to check it out. It's just endless entertainment. You're like the star. I just love, thank you. I just love that. They didn't say that. You really are.

Thank you. What I wanted to say is that what I love is that you see everything in my relationship with Tommy, because he doesn't pull any punches. He doesn't embarrass easily. And I feel like the whole point of us doing a show is so that you can see like, hey, like you might have that crazy monkey sex

and then you have to learn to continue to date your husband and date your fiance. And we had a date night and I'm just reminded that that was a really fun thing that we did and the cameras were there to capture it and being 100% honest, I don't know how it played out. I can't remember it was the time. And you don't know what could happen.

But here's the thing, you guys met on camera. So wait, first of all, you guys met online, correct? Yeah, social media. We met through a dating app. Okay. And then did you reach out to him first? Right. Didn't you kind of pursue it?

I mean, I think this is a very inspiring story like that you went after it. Whether I swiped first and it was a match. It was one of those where I like, as soon as I swiped, it goes and it's a match. Yeah, right. Yeah. One of those. And then he wasn't around yet. Okay. But as soon as you swipe and the other person has already swiped you, it just goes, hmm, it's a match. Right. So I knew that he had already swiped. So he picked goes, boom, it's a match. So I knew that he had already swiped, so he technically picked me first. Right. Then let me tell you, that website would crash. It would basically you'd look at your phone and everyone that you would connect it with

is no longer there because the Tinder app or whatever app it was was growing really fast and their server wouldn't be able to handle all the communication. So I thought at certain times that I would never meet him because I didn't exchange phone numbers with him yet. And I just didn't want to take it to text or phone yet because I would be vetting him and trying to make sure that there's chemistry.

And the chemistry was so good. So right away, there was chemistry when you saw him for the first time. This is what happened. I was in Palm Springs with Resa and Adam and they were like, girl, get off your phone, but I couldn't because I can't take it off the phone. I kept laughing out loud at everything and he was like, you're really funny and really smart.

And I was like, you're really funny and you're really smart. And the fact that we were so engaged in just the text chemistry that we had made me kind of still cautious but interested. And then I finally was like, this site keeps crashing, are you gonna ever ensure to meet me in like, have my number? It was like, he played it very well.

He was like, whenever you're ready, whenever you're comfortable sweetheart. Huh. And I was like, I'm not comfortable with that. Now was like whenever you're ready. Whenever you're comfortable sweetheart. And I was like, um, now that you said that, yeah. And then we were just talking on the phone. And then all of a sudden I hear, I hear his queens thick accent. And I was like, who the f is this guy? Like, who are you? And I was like, did you have to a coffee? Well, it was the kind of, I was like, you sound really wound up, like really nervous. He's fine. And nervous.

He kind of also like nervous and loud. And I was like compensating for him. And I was like, um, are you, did you drink like too much coffee today? Like, did you drink coffee in the evening? It's like seven o'clock. Maybe you should, and he's like, no, I'm fine. I was like, oh boy.

So I had a little bit of like pullback, but then finally, one night, I had a girls' night out at Craig's, and left. I was feeling myself, and I decided I would like pop on over and say hi and meet him for east to face and the rest was basically history. I did ghost him for a couple of weeks just because I think I had some of my like old relationship baggage where I would say like no ignore them or like figure it

out or think about it or don't get these things. That's a thing you're like kind of pull back a little bit is that you I used to right but once you want to have a real relationship you won't play games because it's stupid and you won't get what you want you want intimacy and when you want to make someone feel loved you will not mess with their head. So you kind of knew pretty much after a few months of dating, and the sex was great. Yeah. But we love.

So when did you first discover sex? Like when did you first masturbate? Do you remember? Six, six, age six. I locked the door and I was visiting like my aunt in the summer. So I had a little time on my hands and I knew that it was like a good feeling, but I also knew that I wasn't it wasn't appropriate for me to necessarily explore. I've had a little bit of shame.

Obviously, it needed to be private. It wasn't like it wasn't going to be appropriate for the day to be open. So I knew it was private and I knew it was just self-discovery and that was it. I didn't have anything weird about it. I just knew that obviously, you don't want your, you know, aunt to walk in and you're exploring. But you knew you're one of these women who just knew that it felt

because I was like, I was a late bloomer. Clearly, that's why it's like I've made it my life. I didn't, I didn't even know what masturbation never occurred to me. That's why I think it's just so weird until I was like 20 and I was like, I'm sick. I'm great. Yeah. I found some household thing.

And then I skipped school for two weeks. What was the household thing? We're going to get, yeah. It's really weird. I can't remember. It was like a bad thing. It's not something. No, it was plastic.

Oh, OK. I don't remember. Pervertibles. That's what they call them. People use a household item as a, like like a vibrator or a dildo. It was like, it was more like a, yeah, I don't know what it was. I wish I could remember. So you've always been very like, that's because you'll see,

we get a lot of emails and calls from listeners, women who aren't as in touch, you can't even have a can of organises. Can I tell you what I did? This is so crazy. So I would close the curtains, but they were those vertical blinds. So I moved one over just enough so that I could see the gardener that would come out and with like the leaf flower and all of that. So I was actually semi-voyeuristically, pleasuring myself, knowing that like he could see because I lived like on a street level and I could have gone full Monty

and just opened everything and given him a free show. But I didn't have the courage to go full. We were in high school. But I would do, I was a pretty bad girl in the beginning when I was just innocently discovering. That's really cool that you knew yourself and you know your body and you've always been able to orgasm.

I was a sexual menace to society. Today, a fantasy would be, I joke with Tommy that if he doesn't give me, if he doesn't satisfy my needs, then I'm just gonna go to Home Depot, not wearing a bra with something somewhat see-through and I'll cut my cutoff shorts into a thong and I'll just do my shopping. Right.

That's like a fantasy type of thing. Then you're never supposed to live out, I think. Some fantasies you want to be out and some you don't. Yes. But what I like is what you're saying. So it can be confusing to people because they're like, I don't ever really want to have a gang bang in real life. But I do fantasies about a man.

Oh, maybe you do. Yeah. See what I'm saying? It's different for everybody. But I don't think that since you're engaged now, you might want to go to Home Depot and do that, maybe as a threat to him, but here's what I'm hearing is that, what turned you on though, would be wearing something sexy as wear it here, and you feel really in your body when you're doing that. And then him taking you in this way,

so how can you get him to do that without having the talk? How can we build these situations into your life that it's like role-playing, and which sounds super cheesy to something that you're not going to be able to do. And? How can we build these situations into your life that, it's like role-playing, and which sounds super cheesy to some people, but it actually works and can infuse new life, and in tears ex life. Well, the first thing is, the first thing is that we worked out a lot together in the

beginning, so that can return. Absolutely. Now I'm the only one that works out, and so on the real, this is a problem that I'm sure you're aware of. But if the guy doesn't work out, then he's going to be tired. And so energy has a lot to do with that. But I would very much take it on my own, like, to do the naughty school girl uniform, which I know for a fact that he likes because he loves Britney Spears.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So I was like, Oh, I'll just do that one day. Like I'll go to hustler and figure that out. Exactly.

Hustler Hollywood has it right here. We could send you some too. We got some sponsors who have some, uh, really? Well, because it's fun because that's what makes you feel good. And then it's not like people think, Oh, but I got to have a whole scenario. No, you like put that on instead of your song. And sometimes when we're at formal events, he will be like, hey, babe,

wanna go to the bathroom and do it? And I'm like, pay, but like, no, where are we at? There's the cameras and we're at a wedding. Yeah, like we're miked, we can't, it's not gonna be cute. Okay. Things like that.

So we know that these are the things that turn him on. But he does like, yeah, like spontaneous, like he loosens up when he's a man is relaxed. And I think that's what vacation sex is because you know, like he will cry if the Mets lose the world series. He will cry. Like he, he, and then work stress is really intense because he's got so many responsibilities at his company. And I think at the end of a Mets game and a work day, that's not a vacation vibe. That's not him being relaxed. So if we go to an event,

then he might have like a hine again, and then he might loosen up enough and want to like pull me into the bathroom. But then I'll be like, you will not ejaculate on this silk dress. It will show. Exactly. Yeah. On like Monica, when skier something, we're not going to save the dress. But he doesn't care. But here's the thing. So I feel like when you get home then, even if you, because when you say to him, I might go, I'm still trying to help you,

because I get obsessed with how I want to fix this for you and I know we can't fix it in a day. And I'm not even saying there's big problems. But if you say to him, I'm going to go to Home Depot and do this, if you don't do this, then he's going to feel like threatened maybe, even though you might even take joke. I said it to him.

And what did he say? I said it to him this week. He's like, go ahead, go ahead. Go ahead. Because he's, he knows I'm not gonna do that. But how can we get him, so you say he has to be relaxed? What if he give him a massage when he gets home?

But like, tell me. Right, and then he gets in the mood. Oh, all I have to do is this. In the school, right. And then you've got him.. All I have to do is this. In the school, right. Then you've got to. Oh, I have to do. Because especially for men and women, stress is the biggest killer of our sex drive.

And why we don't want to have sex. So if you stress, but someone just takes a second to shake them out of it. Yeah. Yeah. And do you guys ever use toys or anything? Because I'm going to give you a gift basket. I got a couple vibrating coquins,

but they're still in the package. OK. I've got some fun things. For you, do you ever use since high school, do you ever use like toys, like, like a duck bag? Nothing in his ass would be ever acceptable. But what about for you?

Okay, we're gonna bring you, I just have some stuff for you. I mean, I think you're like it, it's fun. I'm open, I'm open. I'm open. I'm excited. Okay, we are going to get into the news. We're just going to get into, we're never done, but we're going into some sex in the news,

which relates to you, which is why I thought of it, because you could be very enlightening to our crowd. So listen, sex in the news. Sex in the news, baby. Okay. Shortage of suitable men causing spike in fertility preservation treatment. Wait, shortage of what? Available men. So women are freezing their eggs because preserving their eggs because they're saying there's just not a lot of great men out there. So this was a study by Yale University.

They found a terrifying demographic shifts have created a large deficit between the number of female graduates and their male counterparts. It's led to professional women vastly outnumbering educated men in countries, but where they're going to is they look at 150 women undergoing egg-freezing procedures at age of in clinics. They found that the vast majority of the women were attempting to buy themselves time to start a family because they hadn't found a partner. So, and they're focused on their career. Right. This is my question about what you just said. Is it that the men are under-educated and not like at the same level? Is that what the women are saying? There's a shortage of good men

from the space on it. Yeah, I mean, under-educated, they're just not finding men. Like, yeah, exactly what they're saying is that they're terrified by it because they're just not finding the guys that they want to find. Of good caliber? Of the caliber that they want to find. Even just, yeah, they're just like, you know what? And why not have these safety precautions and just get the eggs out of there anyway and then it takes the pressure off.

I also feel interested in exploring whether those men are, are they, are they bad because they're players and they are taking women for granted or the women responsible for not allowing that to happen because I have nothing but strong, successful, wonderful, like accomplished, loving women. But they all might have a hang-up that will keep them and standing in the own way of getting behind the line. We do get in our own way. You're right, we absolutely get in our way.

And yeah, I never adhered to that. There's no more good men. Like when people say that, like I feel like wherever people live, whatever town they live in, they think they live in the worst town today. And I just feel like wherever you go, there you are, we could find someone wherever you go.

But I think it's more about having the real headline of this is that they want to prioritize their career. And they can't find men to settle down to. And maybe it's because we, people are delaying marriage. They're not seeing a lot of models of marriage as even working perhaps, because there's like divorced parents, all that, and they're thinking, I just wanna like, just take care of it,

make sure that I've got my eggs already to go. Definitely, I mean, I froze my eggs. So yeah, this is what you're going through now, right? Well, I had already frozen my eggs a couple of years ago. Okay, good. And the next step obviously is to start a family and let's not forget a wedding, of course. Yeah, and a wedding. Well, we're planning it now, so I'm really excited.

And I'm also excited that, you know, I do think that my dad is well enough to walk me down the aisle, which last year, it was a really crucial, crazy time where we just didn't know. I don't know how you should have that stuff going on. I'm sorry. Oh, thank you. Oh, I'm just like you recommended it. And I feel like it was a good idea.

Yeah, I talked to all my cast about it. I shared it especially with Assa. We just, you know, like, Resa and them, they just, they know everything about the process that I went through with egg freezing. And at this point, it's just fingers crossed, you know? So I'm gonna give a shout out to our sponsors, and then we, you help me answer some emails for my list of 40 different lives.

I love that. That's exciting. Okay, so we've got MJ from the Shadows of Sunset on Bravo. If you haven't seen it this season, it's two episodes of Aired Right Now. Yes, and the third episode will air on this Sunday night at 8 p.m. Okay, you're killing it. That's what I'm talking about.

Or the fourth episode when you air this. Exactly. Then you can always watch on Marbury. You can watch it on demand, you can watch it on Apple TV. So entertaining. I love it. You're so good. Okay, everyone, thank you. And thank you for. So entertaining. I love it. You're so good. Okay, everyone.

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You can go to, here's what you can do. Text me. So easy, you guys. 7979, 7979. Text, ask Emily one word and your questions. You can send them that right, which is so easy. You can also leave me a voicemail, 8888, ask SWE1. Most importantly, however you get in touch, oh, and also go to the website, obviously, sexwithemily.com. Ask through there,

but most importantly, I need you to give me your gender, your age, where you live, and how you listen to the show. Can't wait to hear from you. Hi, Emily. I haven't been listening for very long, but your shows have already done so much for my relationship. Thank you. Yes. My boyfriend and I have been together for one and a half years, and recently, he hasn't gone down to me as much as he used to. Oh my god, I love this question already.

I'm sorry I said too. Oh my god, this is the thing. I know, this is the thing. After listening, I didn't even know this was your thing. After listening to a lot of your communication theme to podcasts, I gained the courage to ask him about it. It was then that he confessed he is too grossed out. Oh, she goes, what the heck does he mean?

Right. Well, that's what she said. She goes, well, he assured that it wasn't me. It was just the thought of giving oral that really makes him cringe. But he used to. Right? He never really has what she said. She said in the beginning he used to. Right. They always do in the beginning. They need to continue though.

But it was just a thought of giving oral love really makes him cringe. He can't explain why and I can see that it does bother him. Since our talk, he's tried again, but it lasted two minutes. Not quite gonna work for me if you know what I mean. I've done my research and apparently one in five straight men don't enjoy giving oral. Not sure if this is a real fact though. We really do love each other and it's obvious if you see us together. Is it selfish of me to feel a little resentment? I love going down in him and I wish the feeling was mutual. Anything else I could do to turn him on to oral sex with me. Thank you so much. Ronnie, female, even though I have a guy's name, 21 Long Beach. She's 21.

First of all, she will give it to him. Right. He will accept the oral sex. Right. And he won't reciprocate. I have friends, like five girlfriends that have ended relationships because they're like, this isn't gonna work.

He didn't, like, he only goes down on me for 30 minutes and that is not enough. Same. So it really, it will not work. And I'm like, really? He makes good money. He loves you. He's attentive.

And he just doesn't do it that often. I'm like, you sound like a little bit of a Nazi. Because I was impressed by the duration. For me, I would like for play where, like, Oral Sex is for play where he could just kiss it He could just yeah, just like just kiss it just acknowledge it You can also finger it you can also you know just use your tongue a little bit But then it's all about like the spirit of it. I'm sorry, but I don't know why is not an answer

Saying he doesn't understand why is not good for their intimacy and like at least get to the bottom of it so that they can figure out. Exactly. I agree with you. So I mean, everything that you're saying, but first when we're both reading it, we're like, that's horrible that you won't do it. Right? Like if a guy doesn't want to go down and I broke up with someone because he didn't go down. It is. I'm going to say though, he's, I'm assuming that he's 21 and she's 21. So so did you have great oral sex at 21? Yes, hell yeah. You did see I didn't. Oh my God, my first boyfriend, we lost our virginity to each other. Everything was perfect. And we pleased each other mutually.

OK, that's amazing. And he was very happy to, and he was Jewish by the way. So I think Jewish guys make really good lovers. That's what they say. They're pleaser. I've had my share, they are pleaser. Some of them can't be, that's true. So here's

the thing that I want to say though Ronnie is that I still want to give the benefit of the doubt that he probably hasn't done about much because he's 21 and that maybe he still had maybe he had about experience for maybe it wasn't so pleasurable but he can learn to like it and to even enjoy it I feel like when a guy's going down in you what they learn eventually is that like hopefully he will link to the fact that, wow, she's getting so turned on by me doing this, and that turns me on, and I feel like that's great. That's great.

I'll keep you going to the moment, and he won't be thinking like, this is gross, because we all worry about like, do we taste okay? Does the sense okay? What if you guys like took a shower together, make sure you're clean, tell him all that's a fronted beforehand, and just saying like, maybe he does say,

he doesn't have to go inside, but he does build up with the teasing and the caressing and the outside of your lips and outside. I mean, I love one guy's don't tease nearly enough. Like, it's my inner thoughts. Right. They take it for granted. They do.

They do. They do. We how much we like it, but I like to say to Tommy, like, I really like it when you finger me. And I really like for him to know it makes me feel more love to too. Right. Because if he skips over that, then what ends up happening is that it's too much of a focus on him being pleased.

Right. And you're not even, you're not turned on, you're not aroused. It's all about like cheap and not cool. No, exactly. Well, that's the thing is that this is not mutual. I mean, Ronnie, here's the thing. You require it. Like we say about four play. You actually require that to be turned on.

And in a way, he's not willing to do what you need. It's like if he just sticks in his dry penis and you're not warmed up, it hurts, it's selfish, and you're giving him blow job. So there's a lot going on here. Make sure that you're clean, make sure that you shower. But I feel like there's something else going out here that he doesn't have as much experience as he needs to have. And you have to let him know that it makes you feel like not turn out and like not adored, and it doesn't make you feel loved. And I don't think that you can make a threat though,

either of me like if you don't do it, I'm gonna leave, but the truth is, I believe that if he doesn't want to change, he doesn't try to work on it with you, that you have grounds to end this relationship if he doesn't want to please you in that way. Because I broke up with someone because they wouldn't go down to me. Yeah. I was like really like it was like a year we kept talking

about it. He's like it's just not my thing and I was like well then you're not my thing and I'm out. Definitely. Yeah. Your last question anything I can do to turn him on to oral sex with me I think you can just like we said I don't think there's one thing you can say you can do but you turn around and go down on him and have her pussy in his face. You could sit on his face and not let him move. No, like the reverse instead of like facing him, yeah, like me in the 69 position,

and I think that once he gets aroused, he will feel compelled to wanna please her back. Maybe what if he starts with fingers and he starts with some lube, you should always, I love using lube for all kinds of oral sex. And then Joe has his flavored lube that I'm going to give you. They have flavored lube that's like salted caramel.

Like I always tell women to use it for blowjabs, but you can both use it together. And like literally like you'll both taste like you're having like a caramel sundae. Ronnie, you have to have to talk with them though and let them know really how much it feels and give them some tips here. And thank you, MJ. Thanks for being here.

Yeah, we want to know. We love that. It works out for you. For sure. Okay, let That's from MJ. Yeah, we want to know. Sure. We love that. Works out for you for sure. Yeah, for sure. Okay, let's do another email. Hi, Emily. I have a question about possessiveness slash jealousy.

I've been with my husband for three years. He's the most loyal partner I've ever had. I've been cheated on by all my exes, but I'm 100% confident he would never do the same. The problem is I have a strong feeling a coworker of his who he met her on the same time we got together has feelings for him. She seems very enthusiastic about their friendship, but is always cold towards me on the rare occasion we interact. Despite my past experiences, I totally trust my husband, but I get uncomfortable when

she's around and wanted it being rude or dismissive toward her when she isn't receptive to my friendliness. I see her interact with others and she's open and warm to them. I have not mentioned this to my husband because it seems obvious only to me, but it's eating away at me. I hate seeing myself act this way towards another woman out of jealousy when I don't know for sure

what's going through her head, how can I get over it, or at least find a way to interact with her like a normal adult, thanks and 30 Georgia. So she's jealous. So she's like, first of all, she's okay. Yeah, so let me just set up that real quickly.

She's got a past of men cheating on her, which is very, very hard to get over. Like you're always gonna think people are gonna be cheating if you go through a bad situation. And she hasn't checked this with them. So these are her own, like as a woman, she's watching, going, oh, she's not,

like these are all in her head. She's making assumptions here Right, I'm getting really angry without addressing it and get rid of the baggage that has nothing to do with this guy Not this guy is not acknowledging and if he's not flirting back He's not unaware of it. He's not oblivious to it But if he's ignoring it like many men who are faithful and loyal do then my advice to her is When you see that girl give your man lots of attention. Kiss his neck, lick his ear. I don't care if they're at a work social event. Just give them, like sneak something in that like the boss doesn't have to

see is like inappropriate pda, but she can always just put her hand on his back and like rub it. She can move it all, you know, her hand on his back and like rub it. She can move it all to, you know, like up to his shoulders and just like basically peon him in public in front of her. Exactly. Marker territory. But he might, but what if that she could do that? But I feel, which is not like, you know, to say, like, hey, don't mess with my man, but I'm wondering if this is a whole projection that he's, she's not that nice or because she and think she's being really nice to this one, but maybe she's not because she's still freaked out by it. But this is in her head, so I think either she is important to get some therapy maybe

and talk about this stuff if you really don't trust him and it's making you insane. Or you need to talk to him about it and just say, listen, I know this is irrational, but I'm feeling this way about this woman that you're working with and I just want to be honest about it. Anything I need to know. But I feel like it's mostly in her head and there's probably not anything going on. Although I'm gonna bring one more thing up. What about female intuition? I mean, I don't think she's imagining it. This is what I'm saying. So that's why I think she does in a very smart, not an accusatory way. I see what's going on way because that's and you're coming from a place of dealing with it a lot. But just like, hey babe, you know my past. I'm just gonna to be a bit more about your relationship. I get a little weird feeling and I just got to bring it up.

You know what I say? If I'm around something and especially in the beginning of my relationship with Tommy, I would throw my weight around and I would do it proudly and it worked very well. So let's just say that

let's just use this as a hypothetical. I'm just going to be a little a little bit more of a little bit of a little bit more of a little bit of a little bit more of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little bit of a little with Tommy, I would throw my weight around and I would do it proudly and it worked very well. So let's just say that let's just use this as a hypothetical. I would say you better know that I know that that girl wants you so you better keep your effing distance from her and if I ever see her, I might say something to her. So make sure you respect this unless you want to lose this because you will be missing teeth. Part of your penis might be slipped off

in the middle of the night and I won't care. So I'll just go like crazy for a second. And then he looks at me and he's like, oh my gosh, he has pitch is crazy. And then he is getting trained. He's getting trained. I like, yeah. Now, and this is something I established early

and I was like so into it. And ultimately I was being vulnerable and sassy. The way I was communicating with you. He took it like I was like so into it and ultimately I was being vulnerable and sassy the way I was communicating about you He took it like he was like you do that actually me like you gotta go down I mean now anyway. I'm just trying to fix your sex life But no I think you're right. Yeah. I just want to be told what to do ever like he's got a suggestion that yeah, okay But wait I that's it. That's another tactic. You got to have that and like you you're not like every woman I could know if I could do that. Oh, oh Oh, you appreciate that.

Oh, you can. But I can't. Have a half a glass of wine and you can. I need to drink more. And then you just speak it and just say it and put it out there. Because do you believe that this is how I think I got him to propose because I was being so vulnerable with him all the time.

Like I would tell him whatever I wanted and at the right time and in the right way. And it's not what you say. It's how you say it. There was one other occasion that only happened maybe a year into our relationship. And he complimented my friend's dress like three times. So when we got home, I was like, I don't know what the fuck you think you like, you have lost all of your social etiquette, right?

And not once, not twice, but three times. And I was like, don't ever, ever, ever make me feel like that I was humiliated. I feel like now, what is she thinking? First of all, it was a sexy dress. It was one of those dresses that had a lot of those strappy cutouts. It's like she's a nice figure and all these things.

So I basically said, make sure I don't see it, make sure I don't notice it. And I'm also not possessive in a way that is going to turn him off to me. I will acknowledge that he can watch as much porn as he wants or whatever. But I like lost my shit and I told him and I even told my girlfriend. I said, I noticed that Tommy was making a lot of compliments and it made me really uncomfortable. You said this to your friend. I told my friend separately.

Yes, and she was like, yeah, I'm glad you said something. The first one was nice, but the second one was like a little extra. No, I would be upset too, but I guess that's interesting. I don't know how it works. You put the cards on the table. You put your feelings on the table and I think it really works. Have you always been like that? But I'm able to just speak up for what you want.

No, not when I was in secure and I was young. I would not. I really do. Do you think this show has helped you with that being on TV for six years? I know you probably always, obviously, you're always, you're developed. I developed it before. I had that prowess before the show. Right.

But I didn't have it when I was like 19. I would quote. This is a learned thing. You're right. But also, speaking, however you say it, you're asking for what you want, you're telling them that his behavior is not okay. And a lot of women are pleasers. I think I'm more of a pleaser and I may be, in the past, didn't want to be as vulnerable,

and I probably wouldn't even show, I'd be like, okay, whatever, he's a jerk, or a lot of people would end a relationship, or be like, I'm gonna get him back, but I think that you can find to them right then when it happened is really healthy. And you pick a guy that thinks you're the most beautiful woman in the world, and you're done.

Exactly, you know? And that's such, see for me, like, same thing. Like if a guy doesn't like worship me, and tell me I'm beautiful, and think I'm amazing all the time, like, it doesn't work for me. Like, I can't date an asshole. Not that I don't take guys that have other issues, don't get me wrong, but like, to me,

that's like a bottom line. Like, if you don't think I'm amazing, beautiful and make me feel that way, this won't fly. Of course not. So I feel like going back to Ann, seems like everything's great. He's a great guy. You're just having these feelings, which is totally okay, and that you were had a past that where this happened.

And so you got to bring it up to him and however you want to do it and just say, I think with the vibes of getting that. I think you should also have a sense of humor sometimes and a playfulness about the things that make you crazy. Yeah. Instead of just flip the script on yourself and just say, you know what?

I'm going to see this girl, let's say at this work event tonight, this girl really gets under my skin. And just have a laugh at it. Like have a little laugh with yourself. And maybe, again, maybe a little glass of wine or a glass of champagne gets you in the mood. And maybe she could just say, I know you think, I mean, maybe.

I know you think my husband is hot. So do I. It's cool. We can still be friends. Don't worry, I notice. I see you. And then you've said it. And it's like, would you like to go to the bar

and get a drink together? Something like that, didn't you? And then you said, right? That's the way to do it. And then, you know, I just say about keeping it light, though, even saying to him, like, hey, I know, babe, I know that I've got this jealousy thing from before and people cheated on me, but I just want to bring this up.

I think it's a little weird. Tell me about your relationship. What do you think about it? Is there ever ever been a weird vibe about it? So then you don't seem as, because we don't know anything yet. Right. We're like all these ways, or so. But there's a lot of different ways to skin the cat.

There are. Lots of ways, as they say. So we got one more email. Hi, Emily. I'm a 24 year old mother of two with a very naughty sex life that I love. My husband of five years is an amazing lover. So that's great. He's always trying new is an amazing lover, so that's great. He's always trying new positions, massages,

and he's very seductive. But here's the problem. I've always had multiple clit orgasms, so literal orgasms, but I've never found my G-spot. I've been masturbating before even knew what sex was, so I'm a whiz getting off that way, whoever I feel sad that I haven't found my G-spot. Let's make this happen.

Any techniques I should be trying. One other thing my husband is not comfortable with me using toys that go inside me. Any advice for getting him comfortable with this? Thanks for your show. I absolutely love listening while I work out. Savannah, 24, Merkel, Texas. I think the toys that she wants to encourage him to approve,

they should definitely be way smaller than his penis. Exactly. Never bring it to a toy that's bigger than the piece. Yeah, that's be way smaller than his penis. Exactly. Never bring it to toy that's bigger than the piece. Yeah, that's just an FU right in your face. Well, okay, here's what, do you have G-spot orgasms or intro? I've had, I've had, they're not often, but I know that it had to do with the direction and it needed to be a banana-shaped curve. So it curved a little bit.

It had to have a little bit of like curve as it was going in, so it does have a lot to do with the position and then I think you also have to be extremely aroused and you have to work your way up like tantric. Right. You have to give it like a nice long and probably like some, what do you call those loops that you can put inside that might stimulate her G spot and can he put like a condom that has ticklers on the outside of it? Maybe, but I could, yes, we have some of those by skin condoms. These are all, look at you.

I can't, just do my show. I love it. It's just so fun. Like I could just leave. I could go to lunch. No, you can't. We'd be lost. But here's the thing is that, okay, so here's the thing about the G spot and I think this

might help you too. Yes, of course, there's certain people that magic bananas and you get on top and you're like, oh my God, I had it. However, women can learn how to find their G spots and how to have a G spot orgasm. Because for some women, for me, it didn't happen. I had to learn through masturbation. I have to be like, okay, I'm going to have a G spot orgasm.

When I started the show 12 years ago, I had never had one. So I was like, okay, this is like a worthwhile go. And I said, believe me, I'm not a virgin. I had lots of sex, I was on top. But for some like, okay, this is like a worthwhile goal. And I said, believe me, I'm not a virgin. I had lots of sex. I was on top, but for some women, their anatomy doesn't really allow it either, like where their G spot is. So there's positions, you gotta figure out. And may I interject one thing for us?

Please. Okay, when I found that watching topless women, I'm heterosexual, but I'd rather watch like, like if I see kids, just random. Like if I see girls' tits, I get aroused. And for me to find my G-spot vaginally for a vaginal orgasm, I would need visual stimulation of breasts. And that turned me on so much that that was an essential ingredient to having like my G-spot um...

Wow! Aroused. The breast, okay. So it's like get some visuals that you have not discovered yet and then don't go near your clitoris. Just stimulate with something, he doesn't have to be there on your, you know, you could try it privately, and then if you just stimulate the inside, and you're visually stimulated,

I think you could get so turned on that you work your way up and then maybe you just like pat and tap the claders and then you'll have it. Well, that's okay, that's amazing, but do you still watch porn? Like that, do you guys watch porn together? Do you know what I do for public? I go on YouTube, I do you still watch porn? Like that? Do you guys watch porn together? Do you want to do a thing for public? I go on YouTube. I do alone, not with Tommy.

That would be a good thing if he watches porn too. I'm just thinking he could do that. He does, but on his own time, he'll just do it in the bathroom. Like his is like a random release. Right. Right. That's how it is for men. But that they want a release like that. And they're like, I'm doing my own.

I got to knock it out. Yeah. But okay, so things are things to Vanna. Right. It's stress reliever. it is a huge stress reliever. Savannah, here's the thing is that the thing about the G-Spot is that it actually, I think this is a work that she has to do on her own because you've already been having sex with them, it's not working, it hasn't happened before. But for women, some of few tips are that typically it helps to have a clitoral orgasm to already

be aroused because when you knock out that little orgasm, however you do it with a toy or whatever, then the blood, you become more engorged and the blood rushes to the g spot. So you already turn on and then you put your finger inside and it's like you do the com-hether motion with the finger going towards your belly and it's about like two inches inside you, you're looking for like a rough spot and you just start applying pressure to it.

And it might feel like you have to pee, but you keep going, you could have that G-Spot orgasm. Also doing kegdle exercises, kegdle exercises, that is what's my game changer. I'm doing it now. You're doing it now. Do you do them? Often? Not only when I remember when someone says it and then I'm like, right? Because they're so hard to remember to do.

And so I have a lot of things to do that you could do. You could do you keep going. You're going to have sex tonight or even maybe an afternoon delay because this part of the conversation is definitely making it. I have two options for it. Yeah. I actually could have sex shortly. I know. Really? Yeah. Because it feels like a Friday. And I think you should have some early Friday. I just keep up from this like crazy yoga. I should be having more sex. And possibly today there are two options.

Two options, can we talk about them? Oh, yeah. I can't because here's my issue. You can probably like listen to your show. Is that like, I don't know if they listen or not. And some do, some don't. And when they do listen, they tell me they don't listen. And they hear that I'm,

I can tell you more than one person at the same time. But yeah, I mean, allegedly, I've been like fluctuating here. But let's go back to, or you could just be messing with your heads and this totally is, there's only one man. Yeah, this is just for good material people. I'm practically a virgin again.

So here's the thing about kegels is that, I made an iPhone app called Kegelcamp because I couldn't remember, because doctors are like, oh, you should do it at the traffic light. No one would forget remembers. So it reminds you twice a day to do them. So you could try that as well.

You could try that Savannah But also there's these there's these keggle balls. So the bloom by we vibe, which is brand. Do you know we vibe toys? I don't know, but I know about the keggle balls. Okay, so you put them inside you and it vibrates Not it could turn you on or not turn you on but it's more for the point of like you're squeezing your pelvic floor muscles And it gets tighter and you could feel it over time. I wear them to the gym. I wear them walking around because you're naturally working now. I would become a sexual menist in society if I had those. I would be so turned on. You could though. So there's a remote control to it. So you're part, he can download the effilux being control. That is crazy. And he could be watching TV and you could

be on the couch. I've got other vibrators for you, like by WeWive, and he could just sit there and be like, turning you on. You could wear a toilet party. That's really hot. Oh my God, that would be so. Right? You would like this, and he likes the discrete sex.

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is the one that's just for G-Spot simulation, it's amazing. It might take you some time, so I had a friend in college, she never had orgasm, she went away for 30 days, she was like an internship, and she said,

I'm gonna try every night for 30 days to make myself have an orgasm, and she literally tried and tried, and it wasn't until like the third week that she finally had one. So for some women, it takes time. So Savannah, it's not you're not going to have the G spot orgasm in a day, but work on it.

Do your kegels enjoy it. With it, use lube, get warmed up. Let me know how it goes. It's going to happen for sure. Okay. This was so helpful. MJ, you've got good advice. And this was really fun.

So much fun. You are a blast, which I need to be a blast. So we can't really give a lot about Chaza Sunset the season, but except for that it's amazing. That's what it's going through a lot. We all go through a lot, a lot, a lot. You'll meet Gigi's husband and all of the rest of the casco through a whole bunch of stuff.

And, you know, like the, the, what do you call it? The stakes are high. The stakes are high. Okay, so tell me what's going on with you, though. What are you excited about right now? About watching the season you mean? Or in my, like, my lips right now. I want to hear about your, yeah, I've been wanting to ask you

because your lips look amazing. Like your lipstick, you put it, what is it? I want to develop a pair of been free, cruelty free, made in the USA beautifully formulated liquid pro matte lips is what the industry term is. And it can be purchased on liquid lips by MJ.com. And I started with three colors that the applicator of this lip wand is so precise that you don't need lip liner if you don't want to.

But if you want, you to, but if you want you know, lip liner, of course, it'll give it like a nice two-tone. One is called Natalie, which is a nude peach. Another one is called MJ, which is a cooler lavender. And Vida, I named, which is my favorite, which is like a desert rose. And all of these are kiss-proof, long-lasting. You'll love the bottle, don't you love this little? It's beautiful, it's a beautiful, it's a beautiful, yeah. I love it. And then, you'll love the bottle, don't you love those little beautiful, it's a very shawsy, yeah, I love it. And then you can get three for

50, the last forever, and the last thing I was gonna say is if somebody did want a creamy or high gloss, you just top it off with, you know, your super gloss finish. It does stay on, right? It definitely does. I love it. Like it has gone away, mine's gone. My lips have gone. And I haven't like kissed anybody. Some days, they're talking eating my lips off, but yours is just like sitting there.

Yeah, some days you might really have to remove it with makeup remover. That's the best. So it really does last long for people who have a problem with, or they don't want to reply, or you just want to be one and go one and done. I never want to reapply. I feel like I'm always reapplying.

I got no time. Let's do short. This is the one. This is the one. So they can all find this, and they can find you on Instagram and Twitter. Oh, me. I'm at every on Twitter.

I'm Mercedes Javid, Instagram, Mercedes Javid, Facebook, Mercedes Javid. Where else are we? Snapchat, same thing. It's all on my website as well. You guys are checking out the episode. You can check out that. This is so fun.

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