Sex With Emily - The Truth About Size & Sexual Peaks

Episode Date: July 10, 2015

On today’s Sex With Emily podcast, we’re talking penis size, sexual peaks, and making the most of your favorite sex positions. Learn how to get what you want out of your partner, and gain sexual confidence at the same time! So we’ve all heard that women reach their sexual peak later in life, and later than men, but does anyone actually know why? Emily breaks down the real, physiological answer about sexual peaks and explains why women have better sex in their 30’s. She also helps a listener with anxiety about the size of his member, and drives home the fact that size doesn’t really matter. Also discussed: how to control the situation when “jackhammer” sex occurs and how to handle unwelcome giggle fits in the bedroom.  Whether you’re wondering about hormones, college sex problems, or what Emily’s housekeeper has gotten herself into, this podcast has all the answers you’re looking for. Check it out! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Tonight's show we're talking women's sexual peak. Does it exist? How to get your partner to take control in the bedroom, jackhammer sex, penis-sized insecurities, and so much more. Thanks for listening. Okay, you know how I love my sex toys.

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No one really knows it's a vibrator, but everybody's like I love your necklace That's so pretty what is that and then I could say oh, it's a vibrator depending on your talking to you They get really excited all the girls love it and the guys are like got to get that from a lady or hey What are you doing later because that means means you always gotta vibrate on you at all times. I mean, it's also like I said, perfect gift, jewelry and orgasms, who doesn't want that or just buy it for yourself.

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with T-Cool's orgasms. Thanks for listening. Eyes that mock our sacred institutions Betrubized they call them in a fight on day Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute Hey girls, gotta have a stand Oh my The women know about shrinkage Isn't it common knowledge?

What do you mean like laundry? It's shrink? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here, I'm so drunk Being bad feels pretty good You know, Evelyn is not the kind of girl you just play with I'm gonna get a kid in me. Oh my God, I'm gonna feel some grown-up. Being bad feels pretty good. You know Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. You're listening to Sex with Emily.

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Because that is why I'm on the planet, people, to help you out. And Anderson, where are you on the planet? You help people much more than you help yourself. You told me this. This is a direct Emily quote, about five minutes before the mic's cracked. Well, you said that you, yeah, I said it's easier for me to help other people much more than you help yourself. You told me this, this is a direct Emily quote, about five minutes before the mic's cracked. Well, you said that you, yeah, I like,

I said it's easier for me to help other people than how myself. You enjoy helping other people than helping yourself. You're a giver. I am a giver, I am a giver. I really love, I love when it, I can just look at somebody and I can help you with that. It just, it feels good.

I mean, it actually feels good to me. I'm on the planet to even the score, I think. You don't help anyone, wow. No, I like to like bring the little people up. I'm on the planet to even the score, I think. You don't have any while. No, I like to like bring the little people up and try and knock the big guys down. That's my thing. It took me a long time to figure out that what my problem was,

but that's my motivation in life. There's someone's too cocky and I try and take you down on that. If you're feeling a little insecure and you're trying to bump you up with it. You got angry, angry. I want it to be easy. It's a anger.

It's going cocky fox. Yeah, I don't know. I just think that you look at a lot of people as cockier threats where you don't even need to because if you don't even pay attention to that, then you just get to look at yourself and be confident where we go. You know, one of the teenage boys, I think a lot of guys that are listening can probably relate to this. Like, for about five, 10 years of my life, I'd walk into a room and the first thing

I do is try and figure out who could beat me up and who I could beat up. And then I figure out who the threats were. No, I was just prepared always for people to start shit. Yeah. That must come from childhood stuff. You worked that on therapy. No, my wife says I should do therapy. Do that is big therapy because you still do have some anger on that.

But you also have a great talent. And I'm so proud of you. I literally after I set out before I screamed because Anderson had a short film last week at the Holly Shorts Film Festival at the Chinese Grimmins Theater. I think it's T.C.L. theater now. Yeah, whatever it's at theater, you've ever been to LA, the star. The landmark. It's a landmark.

And Anderson, he's been working on Love Line for a long time. Most of my life. Most of life. And he's always had this passion around me making films, making short films. And I brought my whole crew, my staffs. You're so sweet for bringing everybody. God damn your nice.

Yeah. We love you. And. I think we were sold out at one point. I remember I got out there and there was a standing room only, which was pretty cool. We were in the front row. And unfortunate.

Okay. So anyway, I'm so proud of him, because it's a lot of, whether you make a short film or a long film for me, it's a lot of work and he wrote it, directed it, produced it. I had to leave right before, because I had to go on love lines, it was last Thursday,

and everyone in my office was like, oh my God, it was so good. And then Anderson's told me that he won. I won that, for that little photo. That is major. Yeah, yeah. I'm so proud of you. And-

The other ones had like real actors, didn't and stuff, it was- Yeah. But yeah, so I feel confident moving forward. It's funny because I already said Anderson will be the best. And I left though, I only saw four, and I was like years at the end, and then they were like, no, he was the best.

When I got him, like, okay. It was like 90. They wouldn't say that. And what's the best part of it is I shot five last year, and there's two that I shot that I like a lot more than the one that just won this award. So I have high hopes for what's to come. Oh my God, this is so big. So I have I have high hopes for what's to come.

Oh my God. This is so big. And the reason I was sitting in the audience because you know, I made a film 10 15 15 years ago documentary. But I was sitting there and I was because I was so happy for you. And I remember it was at the Castro Theater in San Francisco. Have you been there? That's one of you know what I was just looking up top 10 movie theaters. You have to go to before you die. The Castro was one of them. And I used to pass it all the time. My wife lived in San Francisco and I go up there all the time. It's the most beautiful theater.

There's like the, that comes up with the piano and the, anyways, thousand seats sold out. And I mean, I, if you guys want to check it out, you can get it on Netflix. Netflix you did. Yeah, I mean, you can send away for it on Netflix. Yeah, Netflix and, or iTunes you can buy it, but it's called See How They Run.

It's about politics in San Francisco, but it's funny, whatever the point is. I remember seeing there, the other going, like my heart went, oh in San Francisco, but it's funny, whatever the point is. I remember seeing in their theater going, like my heart went, oh my God, my baby for four years, up on the screen. And so I sat there thinking like in the theater, like what you must be feeling all this work that it was going, I don't know.

I was just, did you enjoy watching it? Was it a good feeling when you were watching your own? No, I hate it. I was so nervous. Because what's funny is, like, filmmakers by nature control freaks. And you give up all control once it's done and put it on the screen. You can't change things on the fly.

That's why I love like live radio, even live TV, because you can change things. You can move things in different directions. If you're not getting the reaction you want from the audience with your film, there's nothing you can get it. They don't laugh. Yeah, it's really, it's really, really hard. But it was, it was so rewarding though. And but I'm just, I'm so happy for you. And then people can see more, well, we'll be giving more information, but

September, there's another one. Yeah, I'm gonna actually do a full show all five of the things I did last year as well as some earlier stuff and it's gonna be a big cold cockle night Which is major I just know how hard is I got I mean getting into film festivals like end of three I think I applied to 100 means horror and I get I made it the five and I got into two and I feel like maybe I should have submitted it a few more But I have other like it's so expensive all this is just so much money. Yeah, it was my whole life. That's why I didn't make documentaries. That's how I started sex with the Emily because I realized I've been 15 years because this guy damn movie made dude. I hear you. I was broke. I raised money the whole thing and then I just

After that I realized I really just I directed it, produced it at everything and I realized I just love interviewing I love to I love the part the the journalist excited and that's how I started the podcast So it did kind of lead to this but when it's like when you're doing another film, you know my problem with your movie? What? Not enough. I know it's very dangerous. I know you know, I heard you once in it. I asked questions. I never thought it's about Willie Brown when he was running. No one's cares. You guys don't care. It's all politics. It's all politics. Yeah, I worked in before Yeah, I worked in politics for a long time, which is another thing, little known fact. But yeah, no me, but it wasn't about me.

I never thought that I'd be doing this. Like, even. That's the same road Tom Likus took. Tom Likus did politics on KFI and AM news station and then he moved to sex talk. Yeah, really? That's so funny. Okay, there you go.

I want to just like him. I have a terrifying story about him though. I do people know Tom Likikes? Is he like a no? I think a lot of your listeners are probably familiar with him. So I started, so I don't know the story, but I started this podcast in my living room 10 years ago in 2005, just as a hobby. On the side I was producing stuff for television and trying to get an entertainment after politics. Anyway, I was very fortunate and lucky that the producer at Free FM, which was an FM talk

station, heard my podcast and said, come do a live show. And I was like, holy shit, they threw me in the studio at 11 on a Saturday night. And they were like, oh, here's the cough button. In case you cough, that's all they told me, right? You know, this never happens in radio. This does not happen. I don't know how. Here's a line that I've heard because I've been in pitch meetings and stuff on the other

side where people are pitching Awesome I've been part of that that side of things and the the line that my boss would give people all the time was Jesus Christ could come down from heaven right now And there's a 50% chance that we'd say no to his show idea Yeah, no one just says here the keys. There's a conflict. I know I didn't really Very fortunate. It was weird too. It was like oh my god, so then anyway. I Didn't blow anybody. I never blow anybody I it was weird to it was like oh my god, so then anyway, I Didn't blow anybody I never blow anybody it was awesome because you know I would have but I didn't I didn't I was a shock That I got this call so I go in and see BS radio and it in Tom like is was on Adam Corolla and so Tom

So it was like my second or third and I was terrified. I used to prep it just so funny because it ended up going from 11 to 2 a.m It got it was 11 12 and then I got syndicated five days a week and then they went out of business But that's fine. I was that's where the same station stringing stations that I started on It's 3.97.1 free FM. That's so funny. We're like connected with For all the bench, but one night so of course I was listening to radio all the time I used to prep 12 hours for my three-hour show. I was so you know, it was a big thing I got your little and then then one night, commercial break, the program manager, whatever comes in,

whatever they're called. Peas, program manager. Peas, he said, Tom Lycus is here. He's gonna stop in for a second. And I've been listening to him and I was so nervous. Oh my God. And then he came in and my show for like, Tim and I'm like, what the hell is a professional?

I don't know anything about so scared. Was he wearing sunglasses? He was. Was he holding a glass of red wine? He was dressed. I shared studio space? I don't know anything about. He was. He was. He was just a red one. He was just. I shared studio space with them in for about eight years. You did. And I have stories that I can tell you off there.

They're not very flattering. You hear that Tom. But he has the same stories over and over again. But it was interesting. He was compelling. A lot of guys are like into his like, you know, don't get married. But I kind of agree with it. You want to have a back of your house and time to watch sports center with the beer

in one hand, only spent five bucks on her dinner. Bob and your slap. Exactly. But I still have, I should find that podcast because I'm actually releasing, I have 2000 of them and you guys only get like 200 and iTunes and I'm just start. You really have 2000. But I really do. Because I was doing my, I had three hour shows I did for three years.

So those are all one hour podcast too. And then I've done a podcast every week for 10 years, at least two. And one for one year, I did five a week. Wow. Guys, yeah, that's a lot. I don't know. You've talked about sex yet. Is that okay with that? As soon as I know, people used to complain like, oh, you guys are talking a lot at the beginning. Who says that? I don't know. They email me and they're like, recently, not recently. No, people are into it later. But you guys, this is just whatever. I'll get into blowjob soon and with Dinos and show with Jackhammer. I could open it with Jack No, you've already did very beginning to show you talked about what we're gonna talk about

We are gonna talk about a lot. So let's get into it. Um, the first thing just oh one more thing for I forget Because I will forget September 18 to the 20th. I will be in New York City at the she sexual health X-Bout we're taking all the road we were in LA and then we were in Phoenix and now we're gonna be in New York City at the She Sexual Health Expo. We're taking another road, we were in LA, and then we were in Phoenix, and now we're gonna be in New York. So if you live in New York, I'll be giving you more info. And I love you all for listening and supporting the show. So thank you. Okay, let's get to our sex in the news, because we love it.

I love it. It's seven or better. Online dating site for well-endowed men looking for love. This is real. Okay. Good news then for women whose perfect package would need a lot of wrapping. A dating site specifically catering for men

who big willies and the people with big willies and the people who love them, seven or better, does exactly what it says on the, this is spelled wrong, is for well-endowed men and potential dates who categorically think it's a size of the ship, not the motion of the ocean that matters. So the founder, he says that he, what triggered him to launch it, I had the idea talking to a few, few female friends who are complaining about investing time with guys who then turned

out to have a small penis. They all said they wish there was a site which listed penis size like it did hair, color, and height. NBA.com. What's that? National basketball association. Oh, I think that's the thing. They all said they wished there was a site which listed penis size like it did hair, color, and height. NBA.com. What's that? National basketball association. Oh, I was thinking like business school.

NBA. Yeah. Sex is very important part of relationship as much for women as it is men. So why is it less politically correct for people to want to know about penis size than as for them to want to know about height, weight, or body type? Okay. I get it. The site's doing body type. Okay, I get it. The site's doing really well.

Gamer and two like it. I don't know. I just don't know how I feel about this. I mean, I'm glad that he's doing well, but it's kind of like, I mean, I get it. If you're a two year boobman and you're like, I only want large breasts. Like, that's all I'm attracted to. You can see that. You're not afraid of it.

It's price. Yeah. I know what I'm saying is you can meet a woman. I can see it. Yeah, this is not covered. Yeah. And so this is like covered. I know it's's a place. Yeah, I know what I'm saying is you can meet a woman. You can see them. I can see it right. Yeah, this is not covered. Yeah. And so this is like covered. I know it's so not fair.

It's really not fair. And I think it's just adding to the insecurities a lot of men have, but here's the thing, then, these women are placed to go and you're fine with your penis. But what I also want to say is that, and it's funny, because one of our questions is about a man who's insecure about his penis size.

He's a virgin. We're going to get to that in a minute. And I'm going to give you some stats so that I'm going to make you all feel better about his penis size. He's a virgin, we're gonna get to that in a minute. And I'm gonna give you some stats so that I'm gonna make you all feel better about your penis size, because women, we do not care at all. Like you think and your penis is fine, you guys are worrying way too much.

And I'll have a movie recommendation on the subject. And now I come kind of upset that I even read that because I feel like I'm feeding into men's and securities. But I just wanna let you know, it's just for some of the women who do care. For the seven or better, you feel like guilty. What was the source? Where do you read about that?

Mr. Prep. Mr. Prep. Mr. Skinsers. Mr. Skinsers. Mr. Skinsers. Well, he does his prep service. We get some news stories from him, so it's here. I think it's whatever.

People penis. I don't know. Wait, first of all, before we move on from a seven or better, do you have to send off a picture to get certified or do you just sign up? That is a really good question. That is such a good, flippant question. I actually want to go, now I want to know that's a great question because you could totally lie. Yeah. And then you could be like, well, she'll like me anyway, even if I have six inches. Oh, no. That's the worst thing guys could do, especially if they're worried about their penis.

Because you're going to go out on a date with a girl expecting the radio station there. Yeah, because we don't have, we don't look at it on your phone. Yeah, now I'm wanting one to look it up because I want to talk about this anymore. They have, they have, they think that there's a bunch of five-year-olds that run the radio station there. Yeah, because we don't have, you look at it on your phone. Yeah, now I'm wanting to look it up because I want to talk about this anymore. They have, they think that there's a bunch of five-year-olds that run these radio stations here. I know, it's so funny. Why could never get sex with Emily at the radio station?

I probably can't get it here either. But the last thing you want to do is a small dick man is like, have a woman who's craving big dick and have her think that you have one and then that stunning moment of the night it'll be like, it's like guys lying about their height though because I can I think I yeah the crying game. Yeah. Truly, what would you do? You'd be like, you were on this site, would you report them to the site, remove him, his penis is 6.2 inches. Oh, I just think that the women might react the same way that

that what's his name does in the crying game. Maybe like so visceral, like they might start puking in the bathtub. Yeah. So accept all your small winner. See, and the reason why also because I feel like this is like men's biggest concern and women's least, if you give a woman like 10 things she cares about and a guy like, I don't know if it'd be on the top 10. Maybe nine. There's a number of you out there who go to the side.

It's popular and there are women who care. I have friends who care, but most do not. It's more about how you take care of your person that you're with. Are they getting off? And are you using your hands, your mouth, your feet, whatever? And you know what? Women don't even need that big opinion. So it has a many don't and I'm just fine with it. I just feel like it's feeding and insecurities. You guys have enough as it is. Yeah, I know. like it's feeding into insecurities. You guys have enough as it is. Yeah, I know. What do you mean? So do women.

Yeah, I think you guys have more. We do don't we? It's hard. Everyone's crazy. I could say probably pretty safely, less women care about the size of your penis. More women care about the size of the penis than men care about how the vagina looks.

Men do not care what your vagina looks like. Do you think that's true? That's the most part. The most part. Because just so when guys really go, who look like, but I'm not even gonna say it because I hate spiraging the vagina and penis. Right. But guys really, we for not. You guys don't talk about it. So it's really like, you don't hear guys talk about that that much. Like maybe there's like one vagina that there's always that

douche in that group that like, you know, lots of, you know, speak about women, women disparaging the hate women. Yeah, they hate women. I hate those guys. Most guys, though, if you're in a position where she's letting you look at it or put things in it, you don't care what it looks like. It doesn't really matter. Right, exactly. And even if you, I just feel like you'd learn

to get into it, like who, there is no right way of a judge. It's like a snowflake, right? They're all different. I mean, I've seen some pretty gnarly ones in my day. But, you know, you get past it as long as she's, if you like them. Yeah, I got you.

Okay, Anderson, this one's for you. I mean, but don't take it personally. I just thought you'd have commented on it. I've long, as long as the last one was about me. It's about really large penis. No. Marriage adds 4.5 pounds to people of average height. Right.

How tall are you? I don't know how to tell you all right. Marriage doesn't just add to your happiness, but also to your waistline. According to a new study, but single-ish and boast just yet. Because I'm married, I see. Yeah, it says there was a study of 10,000 people in nine European countries on their Meritle Status Body Mass Index.

The results were factored in socioeconomic status, age, nationally. Show marriage really does make you pack on the pounds, and extra 4.5 pounds in an average height, 5.11 inch man, and 5.5 inch woman. Over one period of time. You know, it doesn't. If that's a year, that's the problem. It doesn't say a year. It doesn't even say how long, which is a stupid,

but maybe if you read the study, it does say. I don't question the study at all. I mean, it makes perfect sense to me. You give up. Really? You cut the fish. I mean, it makes perfect sense to me. You give up. Really? You cut the fish. I mean, I took preemptive measures and I was really worried about gaining the weight.

So actually, I went the other way. You lost weight, basically. I lost a bunch of weights as I got married. Yeah, you have. But I don't see the wife very often either, so that could be, you know what I mean? We don't talk about it if she's gaining weight. But I can't get it.

No, she hasn't. Yeah, I mean, if you work out, you work out, you can't even stop. And there's a comedian. I can't remember who it was, but he had a great idea. And that is like, you, most people lose weight before the wedding and they want to like look

as best as they possible. And he said pack them all on, get really fat and ugly. And then your wedding pictures, like years later, you're gonna look better than you do in your wedding picture. That's brilliant. Yeah, I can't remember who much can't even have that. Because you're happy when you're like, all my friends are like, like, like,

look like they've been starving or something. Right. And then you look at them in person right next to the picture and you're like, all my friends are like, like, look like they've been starving or something. Right. And then you look at them in person right next to the picture and you're like, oh, wow, why don't you look like that anymore, honey? Exactly. All that pressure for the wedding. That's why I'm glad I've avoided that whole thing.

That's the reason why. And it also says that married met, yeah, no, you know, really? Because that is one of the reasons I don't want to plan on I hate planning parties and seating chart. Seems like a nightmare. I don't want to marry you, honey, because I don't like seating charts. Nope, that nightmare. I don't wanna marry you, honey, because I don't like seating charts.

Nope, that's why. I know it's silly. It is silly. You thought it was deeper than that. Yeah, I did. I don't like bouquets. Oh, flops. I did go to a wedding last weekend though,

that was awesome in Ohio, which I know went to Ohio. Oh, I know, I'd never been. I lived here my entire life, Southern California, and I've been to Ohio twice now. I loved it, the Ohio Valley. It's so good. It's so good. So good. And this couple was awesome. It was been to Ohio twice now. I loved it. The Ohio Valley is so good.

So good. And this couple was awesome. Those friends I reconnected with. People always make fun like, oh, your friends, though, your exes. This guy wasn't really an ex. I met him in Thailand on the beach 15 years ago. And he's in, he's Israeli. But we did. I'm imagining.

We had sex for a week on a beach. Okay. So you were a little man boy for the week. Yeah. His what? Man boy. Why a little man boy for the week? Yeah. His what? Man boy. Why was that man boy, if it was wrong? Is that what they called out there in Thailand? Oh, right.

But I'm boy girl, what are they called? Girl boy? I don't know, something. But he was cute and just got out of the army in Israel. Whatever. We were in our 20s. And then you guys stayed in touch. But then we, no, well, Facebook friends, never talked again.

It was in Israel. But I was in Israel, as you know, with my family, and he saw my physical status that I were picture, and he's like, are you here coming to me and tell I'm meeting this great woman from LA? I'm marrying a woman from LA, you'll love her. That's weird. And then we had this fun night together. I've had a really big connection.

Like, no, I mean, I loved his wife. We talked for hours and tell me. I would never. And they're like, come to my wedding. And I don't think they meant it. And they're like, are you coming? And I'm like, sure, and I drove up. They said, bring someone. You look like a one week stand, right?

What do you mean? It was a one-week stand. Yeah, right? Yeah, why would he say come meet my wife years later her fiance? That's just that's odd behavior Emily. She's from LA. He's cool He's like you're in Israel not many people go there. I don't know it was awesome And she and I did not stop talking and I adore her my wife had a a strict rule that I went in that no one that I'd slept with was allowed to be in the audience. A lot of women have that rule. You're right, that's a really good point, but it was so long ago.

Saved a lot of money. I had to feed a lot less people that I was good with. Anyway, whatever I thought it was cool and we don't talk about, I didn't remember. It's weird. It is weird. God. It's weird.

Strange. But it wasn't like let's have a three-solo. They live out here now? No, that's what they're working towards. When they come out on LA vacation holiday in a period. No, no, they live in Israel, but she's from LA and she's super cool and a matter of family, whatever. Okay, so that's my story and when I was at the wedding, it was fun, but I never want to have one because that'd be hard. All right, should we get into some emails here? Let's do it. Okay, let's do it because I love you all for emailing me at feedback at sexwithemily.com.

Oh, that's better. Yeah, you're leaning away from your microphone. I don't know why I'm leaning away from my mic. Because you're looking around the corner, looking at the old computer there. Why don't you take a swiggle water I'll sit here and mumble for you until you're done so you can get back on that mic.

But make sure you try and talk into it. It's your radio professional. Super thirsty today. I went for run this morning. 2000 shows, you think you're done so you can get back on that mic. But make sure you try and talk into it. Because you're a regular professional. Super thirsty today. I went for a run this morning. 2000 shows. You think you know how to talk in one mind. I always, I'm talking on this crap and I'm talking. Dude, I'm always messed, I'm always messed up on the mic.

I swear to God, wherever I go. Okay, this is about sexual peaks. Dear Emily, oh, I have to back up. Feedback at sex. It's Emily. And please, when you email me, tell me where you live and how old you are. That's super helpful. Dear Emily, I love your podcasts.

It's always informative with great tips that I've used. Fact or fiction question. Women over 35 start having higher libidos. If it's true, around what age is it specifically? Thanks, Chris. Well, first I'm going to read you a funny quote from a community here. Read a rudder. Read a rudder.

Remember her? No. Okay. Well first I'm going to read you a funny quote from a comedian here. Rita Rudner. Rita Rudner. Remember her? No. Okay. You need to put the camera over there. Yeah, I think. No, not.

I don't remember where she's from, but she's a comedian from my babies. I could be wrong too. But women reach their sexual peak at age 35. Men reach theirs at 18. Do you get the feeling that God is into practical jokes? Re-reach our sexual peak as they're coming to realize they have a favorite chair. Is that funny? I think maybe that's why we have never heard of her. Okay, whatever.

Here's the myth of sexual peak. I delivered it wrong because I didn't read it. Can we just, whatever are you guys? Tonight is my night. Okay, there is a myth of the sexual peak. Okay, so physiologically speaking, women experience the greatest spike in their teens in the hormones. Really? Yeah. Women do. I've never heard that. Yeah, and just like men. But as we grow older, into our late 30s, our hormonal levels actually decrease,

which decreases our physiological sex drive, this means as we age, our body actually desires sex. our body actually desires sex. Less. However, this is where the confusion lies, research shows that women actually have better sex in their 30s and 40s. Because they figured it out. Because they figured it out. Because they're more comfortable with their bodies,

they have a better grasp on what they want sexually and they are direct and they know how to ask for it. Maybe they crave it more. They crave it more because it's like, oh my God. And stinctually. Exactly. Mentally.

Right. And that's why we always hear from women who aren't craving sex. And man, we have all the time low libidos. But a lot of times low libidos can be due to medication, birth control, all that stuff. So I'm just going to say that it's not that you get a spike. I think it's really just

that women are attuned to their bodies. They know what pleases them. They're not afraid for asking in bed. So this learning is what is known as the peak, but it's not physiological. And sex feels better when we know how to orgasm and we're comfortable with our bodies. And so this is my note to my and we're comfortable with our bodies. And so this is my note to my younger listeners is that you don't have to wait into your 30s and 40s to have great sex. You can start now by learning your own body for women and men.

You guys guys pretty much know your body, but not really, and pay attention to what she wants. But women first, like I always say, you have to figure out what you want, masturbate, and be comfortable asking for it in bed. Don't just lie there. It's not about what he wants, about him doing the jackhammer, about him, which is another one of our emails. It's not anything about you looking sitting there looking pretty, because that's not interesting for you or for him and you can

Learn to gain this confidence once you know because like a lot of women think someday my prince will come and so will I And they wait for the guy they you know, I was like that my 20s I didn't know I didn't know orgasm early 20s. So I'm just saying you can be this but careful person what? I don't know if you want to create a monster out there I mean, I'm sure there are a few women out there girls like teenage girls who have figured it out already They're more advanced and they had so they have the mental Desire forward as well as instinctual hormonal desire which makes them Permiscus so let's settle down. I'm not saying to be promiscuous

I'm not saying that all I'm saying you can enjoy sex which is fine Where we can be promiscuous and I hate the slut shaming that goes on. Don't slut shaming. Yeah, I don't want women to be like sleeping around. There's so much freaking STDs now, if you've learned taking care of themselves. I'm not saying that. I'm talking about the enjoyment level

because what we're saying is this is not physiological. This is mental. This is learning. So don't wait. Don't be slut. That makes perfect sense. Just kidding. I thought I knew everything about sex,

but I've always heard that women's libido goes up in their older age, and it makes perfect sense. It's absolutely true. I don't remember being, I've never really been insecure about sex about my body or anything. I don't know if I have other issues, but that was never my issue. But I know that I didn't definitely

enjoy sex as much at all in the 20s. Until I had with somebody that I was really comfortable with. So anyway, that's awesome. And that makes also because, you know, guys are so easy to figure out. And they, it doesn't, we don't have to spend nearly as much time figuring out how our stuff works as opposed to you guys. So guys, when they're teenagers, they figure it out. They're like, yeah, like this.

And I know this works. And this is what I want to do. And girls are like more inhibited and they're thinking, yeah, I want to do it, but I don't know how to do it. So they don't come off're like, yeah, I like this one. I know this works and this is what I want to do. And girls are more inhibited and they're thinking, I want to do it, but I don't know how to do it. So they don't come off as like those horny, I just like, teammates boys are animals. You know what I mean? The animals, and I didn't know that until I started working

really in this business that, that when I was 18 or when I was in high school, that all guys were like having boners and masturbating and things. I think it's much more on the open nowadays when I was a kid. I mean, if anyone found out that you, like, if, like, there'd be like a rumor about like, you know,

a kid in high school that his sister caught him beating off or something, and he was just the source of really cool, like a pariah. Right. People would put like porn pictures on his locker and stuff. Nowadays, everyone like just said, and I'm gonna go beat off. Exactly.

It's weird. It's such a different time. I know. I blame internet porn. I blame internet porn for a lot of what ails us today. Not anti-porn, just anti-learning what you should do sexually from porn. Because it's not jackhammer all the time. All jacks.

We just get into the jackhammer question. Do it. I'm going to get to it. Dear Emily, I'm a 20 year old college girl and I love your show. I'm pretty confident in bed and I love doggy style, so I always ask for it. But it seems like most guys I sleep with take this as a pass to abandon any skill for us and go straight to Jackhammer sex, which really doesn't do it for me. I've tried getting guys to slow down a little bit and get more into it, but I feel like

a lot of guys just can't help themselves and get into a mindless rhythm with no concern for if I'm getting off. No concern if I'm getting off. Do you think this is a college guy thing or do other people have this issue? Is there anything I can do to be more in control with doggy style? So basically she is rather ramming her from behind

and they're by ramming her when they're on top. Hey, some women like that. Some women like to really be ravaged. Okay, that's true. Sometimes. Yeah. But not every single time. Maybe if she already had an orgasm or you turned her on a little bit, but I don't think

it, first of all, no, it's not just college guys, but it's probably a lot of college guys because I think that just like we're saying, women don't know a lot about sex. Guys don't know a lot about sex either in their 20s and they're the jackhammer. Drew says it all the time. Like the vagina is not an inside out penis and that's how a lot of especially younger guys think of it and they just think, hey, if the vagina is like an inside out penis

this is how I would want it to be smashed. Exactly, exactly. And women, like it does feel, I'm not saying I don't ever like it hard fast and sometimes you just want that I agree but the majority of women, we just, you know, we need a little bit of variety. We need other things going on. And if you are doing the jackhammer on top and missionary, I mean, she's talking about doggy style.

We're just going to give her some tips, but you're not hitting a clitoris. You're not slowed down the whole thing. And she's right there probably thinking in their head, she's moaning. She's having a good time. I got a young sister pizza, it's time and she hasn't had an orgasm. So Amanda, thank you, I mean good for you for, thank you for emailing, but good for you for embracing your sexuality and loving yourself, little dog style, just taking control here. I think that's awesome, your issues not restricted to college guys, women of all ages are subjected to the tyranny of the jackhammer. I have to admit that it has happened in recent history to me as well, but especially then. You could learn to love other positions that give you more control and more direct

stimulation, like maybe if you were on top, you can definitely control it more. But if you love doggy style, do not give up sister. This is what you do. It feels great. I get it. It allows for deeper predatory penetration and it's kind of hard if you grab your ass, slap your ass, guys like it. Typically, guys love the guys love doggy. I don't think I've ever met a guy who doesn't. Would you agree, Anderson?

Doggy's a little overrated. Really? It's kind of a go-to orgasm. It's kind of the go-to thing for a lot of guys to know. It's our generation noise. They they could start to take a mission. They can imagine that it's someone else. Not with you. Not with you. I'm not saying with you.

They don't want to see my face. Not the face. Not the face. No guys ever actually not had Doggy's side with me ever. They don't even have missionary. It's from a Robert De Niro movie. This boy's life.

Once he gets married to the woman, it's all doggy all the time. Before that, it was nice missionary. Once he gets married to her, he flips her over and she goes I don't like it this way. He's like no, I don't like to see the face not the face Oh my god So this boy's life. I don't mean that every time they wanted I mean they wanted sometimes Okay, so here's the thing it's a great because it's not a deep penetration But it doesn't allow for a lot of control on the receiving end, but you've got to make some modifications. So using your hands and knees for balance,

your only choice is to lean in, like that's what if you're doing it just the normal way, you know, the like doggie with your four on the floor. Your only choice is to lean in and hope you doesn't like you over. But if you arch your back during doggy style, it allows you to control the depth of penetration. So if you arch less, you prevent him from going as deep. If you arch more, you want deeper penetration, you arch your back more, right? Makes sense. If he is a larger penis, his thrust could also cause pain, so you wait one, like less of an arch, but here's the thing.

Instead of doing the four on the floor, there are other variations that will give you so much more control and help you resist the dreaded jackhammer. You're just going to stop them in his tracks. Try doing it standing. You can do it standing like from behind. Like you're you're like you're butt out a little bit with your hands against the wall. You could also do it with your on your knees but your upright in your facing a wall or a headboard on the bed. That feels really good too. Make sure it's chest is pressed against your back and this position will give you more stability Amanda so it will also limit his range of motion. So if you know I'm saying if she's

he won't be able to go as fast as her she's leaning up against the bed. Another option have him sit back. You gotta listen to this. It's always hard to explain positions. So, he sits back on his heels while lifting your knees and wrapping them around his body. It's gotta be a strong guy. Yeah, but I guess if you're like a little or a girl, right? And this position is job is to sit still while you use your arms to support your weight and slide back and forth in a rocking motion where you've better G-Spot and Clid or Elstimulation. And as always, you can always just use

a little vibrator on your Clid or Elst. If it's not doing it and having orgasm that way. But those are some configurations that I think cause we're all gonna be good with that. So first, we're gonna get back to after that. We're gonna get back to what? We should say that all those positions I'm assuming are also in your beautiful color book. Oh, they are in it. You should make a coloring book version of that. I think back to what? We should say that all those positions I'm assuming are also in your beautiful color book.

Oh, they are in it. You should make a coloring book version of that. I should. Black and white, just empty spaces, people can color them in. I know, I love my book. I bet people love it in prison. It's called Hot Sex, over 200 things you can try tonight.

And it is a beautiful, cool book that everyone, all my friends tell me that like they have it on their coffee table and it gets them laid all the time. Or you've told me you've used it because it's just really easy You flip it open I Keep it in the oven You get an Amazon go to my website click on the Amazon banner and then buy it, but it's awesome. It's a good gift It's a wedding gift too was it would be a great wedding gift. I gave it to my really friends

That's fucking nice like even bunch of things. I gave him oh my god. You're like turn to page 58. Oh, that's fucking nice. Like you have a bunch of things. I gave him, oh my God. You're like, turn to page 58. He inspired that one. Your husband inspired that position there. I call it the telev for really. We were like at a full moon party raging on the beach for. Uh huh, yeah, yeah. I'm sure.

No, but seriously, it was in my oven because the wife's parents were coming over a couple years ago and she was cleaning up around the house and she threw that in the oven because we didn't use our oven for like the first two years we lived there because then it had no racks in the oven. So I was looking for the book. I'm like, where's that book? And she goes, oh, it's in the oven. That's not saying, what if it turns on or something?

I know. It was not great oven. But that's hilarious. I never used my oven for eight years in San Francisco. In fact, my place now doesn't have an oven. And he thought it would be a deal breaker, and I didn't care. Who thought it would be a deal breaker? The landlord is like, oh, I gotta tell you there's no oven. I'm like, it doesn't matter. Look at me. I don't need that. Never affecting my away. A woman. A woman. A single woman, strong head, a head of woman. Exactly. And I love whole foods. Okay, so quick question. Is anyone else starving right now? I mean, seriously, my days are so busy. I'm constantly running around from meeting to the office,

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If you haven't figured that out yet, we just do. So you'll last longer, and everyone goes home happy. So try, promessant, prom. E-S-C-N-T. Check it out. She'll love it. You'll love it. It's funny, I was looking at baseball scores

when you said you don't have to think about baseball. Were you really a human? You look at scores all the time. I just looked. Guys, do that all the time. Check it out. She'll love it. You'll love it. It's funny, I was looking at baseball scores when you said you don't have to think about baseball. You wanted to look at scores all the time. I just looked. Guys, do that all the time. My ex used to say, I always look in the scores. I'm like, what are you doing? Is I got to get new to like five different screens after?

I got like type A personality, and a little attention deficit going. Keep things up. What's on baseball? I don't even know baseball right now. I didn't like baseball for 20 years. Now my team's good again. So now I'm going to be a front one, I don't like them. Good. Yeah, I't like baseball for 20 years. Now my team's good again. So now I'm gonna be a frontrunner.

I like them. Good. Yeah, I'm watching. I got it. I rarely am one of those, but it's a long story. I believe me, I have excuses. It's a broken league. There's something else I was gonna say to you though,

before the break you were saying it at peanuts. No cap, no cap, broken league. I love the Pittsburgh pirates, and they were playing the Yankees one day, like years, years ago. And yeah, I know, sorry. And Yankee guy came up and then an announcer was like, this Yankee player, A. Rotter, whoever it is,

he makes more than the entire Pittsburgh Pirates baseball team. I'm like, fuck this sport. I can't watch it anymore. It's so unfair. And you're rooting for Pittsburgh right now? Yeah, because they're actually good. Even though it's still cheap. How's them Detroit doing?

Detroit Tigers are doing okay. I love that you guys have the Tigers and Bears. Oh, no, like Lions. Lions, Tigers tigers and lions I wish you had bears that'd be awesome if you try to tiger's lions and bears I know it would be that'd be that the most awesome thing about the town okay so how do you get your partner to take more control and bed oh no right no Detroit is a whole comeback I love to try I got an email from a listener who actually lives there and they said it's great it is no there's my mom my mom just been trying to get a new back for 20 years.

He's not going to happen. But she's going, now there's our resurgence in Detroit. And there's all these people that have come. There's artists and young people. Our house is still free because I know that the lot of houses were literally free, literally free. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I, you know, I, I think the economy is getting a little bit better.

So I don't have to be a teenager in Detroit with those free empty houses. All the places we could have banged. Oh my God, it was a bang zone. I mean, we in high school used to go there and, I mean, it was scary. It was desolate. You know, a track housing and they have like the model homes. Well, there's a new track right by where I used to live. And one of the model homes, my friends and I used to break in there and we party in the

model home and have girls over and bang in the fake bed. Really? That's the way we used to things like that. That have girls over and bang in the fake bed. Yeah, we used to do things like that. That's a good time being in high school. Okay, how to get your partner to take more control? Hey, Emily, I'm new to the show, but I absolutely love it. And recently experienced the best sex I've had with my husband because of you. Okay, she can't leave me hanging here with us.

Please tell me why. E-mail me back again and tell me what you did. I've always liked to do new and exciting things in the bedroom and have opened my husband's eyes a lot, but I want to know how to get him to be more in control. I say stuff to him, but he usually laughs about everything. So I laugh about it too, but what I really want is to be in control, full control of me. How can I get him to be more serious about this? Thank you so much for all your help and everything you've done already for my love life, Shay.

Okay, getting a guy to take control and do something different and not laughing and giggling is can be a challenge because talking about sex with your partner, saying, hey, I want you to take control and then you're like, I know you're taking control because I told you to take control, like, can make you laugh.

Yeah. And so the best way to... Self-conscious, makes you self-conscious. Self-conscious, because you're like really okay Bad schoolgirls banks bank like what does he do right so it's possible that the way that you're saying at Jay is making him think that you're not Serious about it because you're probably nervous to in giggling So there are ways of bringing up that's more playful, but we'll still get the point across and it is Well, how would it get how would someone get across to you?

I'm, can I just say that I think a women are usually smarter than men and what her move should have been was to, would be to manipulate him into thinking that it's his idea, but you know what I mean? How would you do that? I don't know. You're smarter than I am. So you figure it out. You know, okay, that's a good idea, but open up a conversation. Well, here's a thing. I'm gonna say that you I am gonna say this now. What is my problem? Open up a conversation about your sexual desires like ask him like, hey babe So like too many fantasies like what are the top three things you want to try? Mm-hmm Ask him and then you say you know what I think would be so hot if one day I walked in and you just like rip my clothes off

And threw me down in the bed and you could do whatever you want to me. They probably giggle though, right? No, she would just say like that. And he'd be like, oh, no, no, really babe, I think that would be so hot in fact, do it right now. Right. You know, asking what he likes, dislikes, that's kind of how you have to do it. You could ask, so we start that way, what do you want to share with me?

And he might be embarrassed. I'm trying to think because the truth is like, what do you say? What do you want to try? I hope so. I love one guy's. Tell me what turns about it. I'm telling you, I wasn't having these conversations. Even before my show, I wasn't having these conversations, but now I've learned how through my show. I'm going to expect it with you because you have sex with your name. But you know what? You're right. They do expect it. But I don't do it as much as you would think. And having sex with me, not that you ever thought about it, isn't like what I mean, it's really good. I've gotten like, you

can probably never reach the, the level that people might assume with your title. You know what I mean? I should be like, yeah. Maybe like Shaq's penis. It's penis is small. Everyone's going to expect massive things, right? It's never going to live up to the standards that you would have. I mean, I've never had anyone complain, I'm good, but anyway, I do talk about it now and I do ask for what I want. So once he shares his feelings at your turn,

you can say to him, like I said, I think it's hot when you're in sort of a sort of a bed, if you don't feel like saying, I want you to close up, you could say, I think it's hot when you're in sort of a bed, I love it when you throw me down in the bed before you make love to me. That'd be really hot.

Tell him your fantasy is to have him throw you down, take control of the situation. You make love to me. That'd be really hot. Tell them your fantasy is to have him throw you down, take control of the situation. You can even trade with him. Offer to say, you know what? I'll do that sexy. I'll do that. What would be a fantasy that a guy has that he doesn't want to tell, but then he to tell somebody else their asked. Dipers. Okay, you can say, I will put a diaper on you, baby. And then after that, I want you to throw me down on the bed, tie up my arms with this bonded tape or this neck tie and do what you will with me. Yeah.

That's do trade, quid pro quo. You might not believe her if he's like giggling and whatnot, they're married, they're right? Married? Um, yes husband. Quid pro quo, quid pro quo quo Clarice. Yeah, her name is Che Ah, yeah, it was a science of the lambs reference. Um, I do know Science of lambs. What if she just goes limp then he has to take control

What if she just like plays dead fish? I know what I have to do the work You know what I mean? He could come in the house and she could just be lying there like uh naked on the bed with her arms like I'm just picture in the guy giggling at everything. Like, you're naked. I don't know. I mean, well, here's the thing. I think you just got one night we are to dinner, having drinks or brunch, don't ever have this conversation

in the bedroom, okay? First of all, don't have a bedroom or then don't have a drink, sex. You don't want to think that you're not happy with your sex life. So that's why any conversation that you have with your partner about sex has to be light. You cannot be like, we need to talk.

Because the second someone says we need to talk, it's like, you know, it's all downhill from there. You did something wrong. It's like, oh, babe, I keep thinking about this actually last night. That was so hot. And you know what I was thinking? I want to know, like, what's one thing that you want to try? Tell me.

And then have them go. And then you're like, hopefully I'll ask you and say what do you yeah I want to do your sister over Thanksgiving well then we know you need to be lunch but that's what I'm saying and then you have to say and you think okay well I was thinking how how it was or how how it would be if you do this so that's good advice I think right or buy my book and read it together. Yeah, it opens it opens communication Maybe you got to kind of be in the you say not to have it during sex But maybe have it during like once there's already a rouse will there so his mind is more on the sex and less on the uncomfortable

Because guys once they get going it's like nothing's really funny. It's just like go time Yeah, that's that's true, but okay, so during the act, she could also just start, she could say, she could just like roll over, or she could hand him a tie, or something and say like, time and hands together, or take me and do it, just do it now. Time me up. But if he giggles, he might just be shocked. I don't feel well though, if he's already like

in the throes of passion, not much is funny. I've been trying to combine sex and humor for a long time, so I think it'd be awesome to have hilarious sex, because I love laughing and I love sex. I've had funny sex, haven't you? No. I don't know if it exists. Well, I mean, it's not funny the whole time,

but I've laughed during sex for sure. Sure, you appreciated that. I had sex recently, oh my God. I don't know what I'm talking about, sorry. But people appreciate it. I had sex. My housekeeper came, I live in a very small little house, little cottage, and I was sleeping with a guy

around a few weeks ago, and my housekeeper came. You have a housekeeper place with no oven? Yeah, she comes back once a month. Okay. Dude, I have no time to clean. She dust your sex toys. Yes. You get the topless ones, topless mates.

I don't know what she thinks I do for a living to be honest because there I want her on the show. Do you speak Spanish? No. Did she? I don't, I mean, and then the other, oh, this is the worst. Oh, I forgot this for okay.

Anyway, so the guy's there and we just hooked up for the first, oh, we've been dating, we've gone on a few times, we had sex and then she comes in and my door shot, you know, and we were about to have, and like he's like, is it okay, am I cats fine? Like, yeah. We are banging with your maid there. Em, was that like a thrill for you?

Is that why? No, it wasn't, but I was so nervous. How often does this, this, this, how often does it happen? She's come, well, she's coming tomorrow. How often is this? Does this, this, this, how later come? How often? Well, she's coming tomorrow. How often does she come? Once a month. Once a month. And that's when you choose to bang.

Well, we had bang the night before. And we are already being, but the thing is she had to was doing the dishes. And the water was running. And I don't think she heard. And I know that I probably should have said, I don't know, we were in the, we were into it. Do you think that's weird?

A little bit. I mean, it seems like your house is dark of, of strange people. Most of the time. What do you mean it's dark of strange people? You probably have someone you don't know in your house two hours a month. No. Guys? I know. The house keeper.

Right. And she, I didn't, I could have waited two hours a month then. You can't work around two hours a month. You got to be so inconvenient. I never have a comment I don't do anything before 11 am I don't know meetings. I don't know anything But for some reason she came at 9 30 this day 10 I don't Acceptable I'm well I get up like but anyway, he was there and we were starting to fall around and I'm like She can't hear whatever and but then he keeps bringing it up like I think that he thinks that it was weird and now I think that was weird

But I'm like she couldn't really are but the other worst part was I came out already feeling like a little weird came my robe And then I realized that I had no Does she have to clean the bedroom after this? No, I don't know. I don't ever I take the sheets off and I do my wash myself All she really does is like sweep. There's not that much to do. It's it's just it gets dirty. Okay, here's a thing I Had before he even came over which I didn't even know he's coming over. I had been washing some of my sex toys in the sink and They were dry They're on the windows so like an American apple pie. They were driving on the rack of the kitchen so while I'm having sex. She's washing my

are driving on the rack of the kitchen. So while I'm having sex, she's watching this. MLA. That is so fucking wrong. I had watched them. They're do the things that are obviously vagina. I know, no, they actually luckily they were a little clitoral like my Mimi that I love and like I um, well, one, they kind of, and I watched them. They were clean, but they were dry. She put them away in the drawers with the silver.

Well, she just kind of moved them over to the count. They were in a container Our woman she could probably you know file sexual harassment suit again to you. She I'm gonna give her a raise tomorrow She's coming tomorrow Wait, I thought you was just there. What is it? So this is a few weeks ago. Three weeks ago Three weeks ago, she comes every three weeks. So you get to have this guy come over a few weeks ago. Three weeks ago. She comes every three weeks. So you get to have this guy come over. Okay, the money is on. Okay, so here's the funny story. Yes. So I remember that she was coming and I texted him and I'm just steamed for our night and I

said, Hey, do you want to call where I was? X because my ass. He was coming. Well, and what do you say? We had a whole text and thing and it turns out he is coming over tonight. We were doing a plans and he's like, I just might. And then he came, became a whole thing. This is gonna get dicey. And he's got it. This could get dicey.

I'm like, I've loved lines on midnight. He's like, I'll be there. So he's coming over. So he's gonna spend the night. But we're not gonna have sex if we're not. Make sure the sex toys are out of the kitchen for the housekeeper, please. First, sure.

Dude, and can I tell you something every time I watched this? I didn't know he was coming over that time and I watched them in the bathroom, which is outside my bedroom, not in the kitchen, but for some reason I was in the kitchen and I wasn't planning for to come because I forgot she was coming the whole thing and now it's in my calendar.

I have, that's a lot about my sex life people. I like it. It was entertaining. There's my life. And it's not normal, just like you're really one week stand inviting you to meet his fiancee and then to the wedding is not normal. What I tell you for the show I don't burn bridges. I'm friends with everyone I've ever dated. I've kind of dropped them recently but I've stayed in contact with a couple girls that I had one night stand with but I felt guilty and I didn't want

to be a one night stand so we never had sex again but I became friends like lifelong friends with them and they weren't even people that I really wanted to hang out with, but I felt so guilty about the one night's stand this of it all. And they're still your friends? Not so much since I got married, but they were for a long time. Dude, why waste your time? You should have no shows. I've had a lot of one night stands where it was fine. It was kind of like mutual thing.

You're like, I'm not going to sleep. I'm not going to call you again or have sex again, but I'm going to be your friend for life. Thank you. I'm a weird guilty guy. Now that's friggin weird, dude. Okay. They didn't invite me to their life. I'm a weird guilty guy. Now that's freaking weird dude. They didn't invite me to their weddings. I could tell you that. Actually, I think no, they did actually do all of them did.

Okay, so I'm friends with them. Because they believe that you were really friends with them. Here's another way to convince people. And this is nothing to do with sex. This is a life lesson that I've learned. You should have no sheds in life. And that means friends. Eventually, as you can all realize

that the people that you think you should hang out with and you should see and you should see and you should see your birthday party and you should see like a tour. I should. So I started limiting all sheds. I never have a party. I never do anything that I should do.

I don't see anyone except our family. But I actually love my family. Right. You have to try having a party or try having a night out where there are no sheds there. Right. It's just people you like, people you trust, people you feel good about, and all those sheds in your list get rid of them because you shouldn't, you shouldn't, you shouldn't should friends.

Yeah, it's, yeah. Don't shit all over yourself. That's a pretty good, that's a pretty good advice. I think, but, but, like, when you see somebody that, I, I could see a friend that I really want to get together with, and I'll say like, we should get dinner next week. That's not a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice.

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I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think that's a good advice. I think saying you should never should. I can say, I can say, but if your brain goes in that place like, I said to earlier, let's, we should totally get together next week and talk about some of your best stuff. You can show things in life. You just shouldn't have a should friend. I should invite this friend. I should invite this person.

Oh, that's a good one. Like I should invite her. I maybe I wasn't expecting her. Should I? Yeah, show my God. I wanna go out. I don't wanna be there, but I should. I don't wanna be there, but I should.

Yeah. I should invite someone so in my party. I should invite Bob, because he was so nice to me. I should invite Jane, she's a sweetheart. No, you shouldn't do anything. It's great advice. Thank you. Now that we all understood it.

Yeah. Yeah, and you shouldn't have been against those girls because you've had better than the way the San for 10 years. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, the next email is about what there's three of them. Yeah, that's your sweet guy.

Yeah, no, but it's not good. No, it's not good. Cause I'm just saying life is too short to hang out with people who suck. But, no life, I mean, almost anyone, especially if you consider yourself like a writer or a storyteller, you can put up with a lot of shit

cause at least our character they might give you, you know, breath. No, I agree. And you can be in a party, but you shouldn't have to hang out with them. Yeah. I just like, I just have taken great delight as I've gotten older,

as having parties or birthdays or dinners, are looking forward to all the plans that I have because I have very limited free time And I don't have a zillion also I guess moving LA like I friends, but I don't hang out people that like suck Okay, penis size insecurities. Okay. This is gonna help all y'all who are worried about that stupid website that we talked about earlier Hello Emily this the name is Mike from London, and I'm having a insecurity issue. With a topic, I guess, you might have discussed. My wanker's small. It's about my wanker. It's on the small side, I guess.

I don't have a tape measure, but it just as tall as my phone. I phone five S. That's not terrible. Oh, I've had even six. I know. The six, it's true that a study came out that the average penis size is the size of the six.

But don't worry dude, because here's the thing. Well, we're gonna keep going. I have a girlfriend, and we won if sex for the first time in the relationship, she's 21 in a virgin. So I guess you might not be bothered during her first time, but my fear is, should I be worried that as we have more sex, she will notice or feel that I'm on the small side, or is this all in my head? In your small side or as I sell in my head.

In your head. Thanks. It's in your head. No matter how long you guys are having sex, your girlfriend is not going to suddenly realize, oh my God, why aren't you packing a monster penis? Yeah. It's not going to happen. Unless she's insecure herself or a superficial, and you don't want that in your life anymore. No, not at all. And your penis is at five, five, five, five, five is almost five inches, I think. I thought the average was like a dollar bill, like five and half inches. Yeah. You're totally fine. You're in the range anyway, but don't worry about it because it's not about

your penis. It's about knowing what to do with it and knowing the importance of for play, knowing the importance of making sure that what? You know, sure sex toys on the dryer rack. While you're banging in the back room. That's so cliché. If your housekeeper knew that you had a sex talk show for a living, that's what you did. You were sex with Emily and she was cleaning your house.

And while she's cleaning your sex toys and you're banging your boyfriend in the back room. She did clean the sex toys. They were clean in a bucket that she moved the bucket. They weren't on the dry rack. They were in a... Cleashier. Listen, they were in a container on the dry rack. Because it sounds so bad. They weren't lying. They were in a container. Okay.

And then she moved the container... I picture them like on the other side. I know the jar right. No, no, no. I put them in the busable. I put them in the busable. And then she moved that... The counter. And she buys it and that. It's actually... They were clean. What are you saying that if she knew that,

then it would make sense, or she wouldn't come out. If I was her, and I knew that I was clean in your house, and I didn't know you, but I knew your name was Sex with Emily, and I saw that, and you were banging in the back room, I would think that you were almost putting on like a show. I really am Sex with Emily, you know what I mean? It's so cliche. All right, so small,

it doesn't happen all the time. I mean, that has ever happened before. It's good story. I like, that is ever had before. Mm-hmm. It's good story. I like it. Small dick bread. Okay. Can't say it's enough.

Averageized penis does not make you less lover. Like I said, you got to know what to do with it. Doggy style, spooning position, woman on top. They allow for deeper penetration. Why you laugh? You're laughing about my housekeeper. I was talking about my housekeeper. Oh, I should give her a tip.

You should give her one of the necklaces. And don't tell her what it is. I wish I spoke more Spanish. I feel like I do need to talk. I don't even know sex in Spanish. And I born and raised in Southern California. Do you see that, Sox? I grew up in Michigan and I took French.

I know, Chinga. Well, less, well, less, I have to Google it. Google it. Oh my god, how do we not know? OK, so, so, Doggy Style, great, spooning. Woman on top, allows for deeper penetration. And sex God, how do we not know? Okay, so, so doggy style, great spooning. Women in top allows for deeper penetration. And sex toys, don't be afraid of sex toys. I mean, you might wanna have a bring it up

if she hasn't had an orgasm before, but she's a virgin, and I don't know how much you guys have fooled around, but you could use a little sex toy on her clitoris. I mean, they're great to use with large penises, small penises, any size penises, because that will be your best friend. She'll always get there with the toy.

But it truly, women do not care. They care way less about the penises than the man. And in fact, there was a study I just found this study for you that says that the male concern about penises is completely, completely misplaced, that women do not care about it. So British, oh, fun enough, you're British. British Journal of Eurology International suggested that while the majority of women, some 85 percent were satisfied with the size and proportion of the partner's penis men were less sure of themselves. And in fact, half the men, 45 percent, almost half believe they had

a small willy. You see the difference there? You see the draw for of the cash. Yeah, the researchers report that small, that the small penis, that they weren't really small penises. Well, usually also I've learned from working on a love line and withdrew for a number of years. Is that guys that have penis issues, they have other things going on.

Exactly. They're putting it on the penis. They're just placing it in the penis. So maybe you're a little bit worried here, Mike, about, you know, just pleasing her and just sex all together because she's a virgin. So I would just take your time, pay attention, don't do the jackhammer, like go down on her,

make sure that she's warmed up, play with her breasts, kiss her stomach all the way, do all those things that women love. We love when you slowly addresses. We love when you take your time, turning us on. We just really, really do. And that will make sure that she's turned on. And you'll feel more confident too, because you'll get to see that she's turned on, because she'll start breathing heavy. That's how you

know when your partner's turned on. She'll start thrusting her hips. That's what that means when she's doing that. That's what she was fed up. Yeah. I think I've given this advice before, but also maybe watch the hangover with her because Ken Jung, a funny actor, he's in that and he has micro-fallows. It looks like a Santa's nose. It's a little button. It's cute little button and you're going to look like a massive fall. That's a good point.

You guys should watch that first and then she'll be like, oh my god, you're massive. Kind of like an optical illusion. And then you should start a website called Lesson than Seven or something for the boys that are less than seven and then girls who don't care. Right. Right, what was the other one? I'm not doing it.

Less seven, seven, seven. What is seven that I guess that's bigger than that? I don't know. I guess it is seven is larger than that. You should start a website for small penis men Who the hell is gonna sign up for that website women who know that they can get them by the balls because he has a small Don't really like penis I guess Oh, yeah, women. They don't like the big dick. They don't like the third one

More women they complain about big dick than small that is so true and in all the thousands of emails I've received literally I have them all funny enough in one Gmail account, thousands. I've heard from more women that have complained that their partners, penis is too big and it hurts than size. And in fact, I'm actually hard pressed in my brain to even think about an email from a woman complaining about,

like I loved everything about it with penis, maybe one or two in 10 years. So, I've been... Yeah, yeah, I or two in 10 years. So, I think. Yeah, yeah, I just, I seem to remember one, I think. Yeah. Yeah, not common. Very few. So chill out, my, you're all good.

Just have some good sex with her. Pay attention, be present. All right, that's all we have time for. Anderson, I love you. Thank you so much. Anything, what's going on with the film ball? After that. Film ball, after that.

Film ball, after still going strong. We just did top five. What do we do? We did top five music numbers and an actual music Numbers that like became hits in the movie like fictitious bi-fictitious bands and movies. Is that makes sense? That doesn't make sense. I don't know. We do a different topic every week Oh, and another penis movie the overnight which is in theaters now limited release Adam Scott Jason Schwartzman

Taylor Schilling from Orange is the new black right And a lot of penis talk and a lot of funtile nudity, a lot of full frontal nudity they use prosthetic penises, but it's hilarious. It could move me. And Adam Scott's very concerned about his whole penis. I think you would like it very much. Yes. Okay, because I haven't seen a movie since like 2011. It's very indie, but it's very fun. And it's cute. The older night. And they shot it at Corolla's house, which is kind of, yeah. That's just weird. They shot it.

The house is a major point. Is it a Corolla's film? No, it's a good movie. He had nothing to do with it. They just like said, here's like money free to bullshitting house. Because Adam Corolla's got a very nice home. A very nice home. A very nice home.

And the hill. So it worked for the location. People do that. People rent out their houses. I know, I know, this is what I'm saying. I know friends who've done that. Okay, well, thank you, so check out his podcasts. I know you like podcasts because you listen to mine. And I love you all.

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That's so good. And I'll let you know like if you've movies are streaming where you should find them all that shit. Okay, awesome, I'm gonna get my phones on. That's so good. And I'll let you know like a few movies are streaming where you find them all that shit. Okay, awesome. Oh my god, I found that. Okay, everyone, I love you. And I love you for listening.

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