Sex With Emily - Threesomes, Rabbits & C.A.T. Sex

Episode Date: June 19, 2015

If there’s one thing we can be sure that everyone wants, it’s better sex. This show is all about elevating your sex life, finding out what makes you (and your partner) feel good in bed! Whether you’re in search of the perfect position, having toy troubles, or are just looking to spice it up, Emily’s got the answers for you on today’s Sex With Emily podcast!  Do you know how to prime yourself for sex toy play? Are you hesitant to turn your twosome into a threesome? Are you a little bit curious about the C.A.T. position? Emily answers some of your top sex questions and shares some sexy and healthy Sex in the News - Does your runner’s high extend to your private parts? From romancing yourself to pleasuring your partner to incorporating sex-ed into your household dialogue, this Sex WIth Emily podcast is not one to miss!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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and Facebook, which is all sex with Emily. And I found that a lot of people don't, they're kind of just really into my Facebook page or they're really into my Twitter and they might not know about the podcast. So you guys should also check that out because it's a really good time for our social media.

Who's not? The people that only like your Facebook or Twitter and they're not listening to you. But these people, what I'm saying is you people listening, my listeners, you might be like, oh yeah, I listened to your podcast, but I don't follow you on Twitter yet. So what I'm saying is I've got tons of followers.

My Facebook page is blowing up. It's like 280,000 likes. That's a lot. That's quite a few likes. A lot of people are following you up. Yeah, they're thumbing up. And I love that because it's actually interesting. I write for a lot of different blogs and stuff too.

So if you're more of a reader or there's tips you want to, you know, just check out real quickly, like every day we're posting new stuff. So I just think you'll have a really good time there. Facebook.com slash text with Emily. And I've got some big news. So you know, I've been doing these popular hustler workshops and we are now turning them into a monthly event.

That's right in Hustler Hollywood, the infamous Hustler Hollywood store. They've been so popular and successful, which feels so good, because you know, it's scary at Aaron to say, when you have a party and you're ready to pray, no one's gonna come. I actually have to be. That's why I don't have birthday party. I'll have to run out of time. Why? Junior high, one person showed up, it was horrifying.

For a party? I still haven't recovered, yeah. Wow. Brutal, yeah. Yeah. My parents, my parents, I just grew up at Christmas at Christmas party. And I was kidding, but.

I just moved to a new neighborhood. And my parents were like, you should give me some friends. And my mom made little like invitations with Santa's face and like on his beard It said like the time and date one person showed up in Rome was ronda and she had a crush on me and it was uncomfortable Oh, how old for you? Oh, it was 12. Oh, sweetie. That's really tough. I've still never covered it School isn't hard enough yet. Yeah, I don't know what it is. It's like People like you must love parties. I really don't and I get nervous like what you know

Whatever would people don't come and they don't have fun if Santa had like sex party on the on its beard People would have shown up. I know you should have nothing to be concerned about. I know these are you these are popular And I and I'm really glad because you know, it's been really cool is the last one I did was Who was that one last one? It was Lynette right Mark may tw Mark May 12th. Oh no, that was Lynette's live podcast. But the last one I did was about masturbation. Oh, masturbation month. This one is going down with Emily and it's a workshop for men and for women

all about improving your oral sex skills. So. Oh, going down, I get it. Going down, get it. Thought you guys were talking about going to Australia. No, no, no, although I'm so glad you barbed up Australia. Are you? Yeah. Why? I just want to say hello to all my Australian fans and listeners. We, it's crazy. I mean, I'm telling you it's like 20, 30% of our listeners are from Australia

now. It needs to be 10%. They love their set. And I want to know what that was going on down there that you're all listening to me because I love it. And I want to hear from you and email me more. I've been hearing from some of you, but welcome aboard. I can't do my accent right now. So that's awesome. Welcome aboard. They don't say that. Okay, listen, also if you want RSVP, you can do it on Facebook.

There is a Facebook invite which I believe is attached to my sex with the LA page or a really easy way is HH as in Haasar Hollywood. RSVP at l as in Larry F P dot com so Larry Flynn productions productions dot com so LHH RSP at LFP dot com to save your seat. The last one was amazing. I had fans there who'd been listening for 10 years. It's crazy. I hope that there was 30 years old at this point.

Right. Exactly. They were like 20 years at the very speed. What's the date again What time is it is oh, I didn't think I said Thank you very much Wednesday June 24th from 7 30 to 9 p.m. And It's all about improving your oral sex skills and last time was a blast We have like champagne and drinks and which is the same thing and snacks

But also we do like a shopping with Emily after so I took people around and like showed them my favorite toys and what they like It's a small store to an intimate little store, but I can event like this right. Oh the event spaces. It's not Walmart. No, it's not dude. It's not Walmart No, we hang we like I hang with people we like have long talks. It's a really fun time I have to say I really it's really been gratifying and you know after doing the show for 10 years I I really hadn't taught workshops until this year, and it's amazing. So it's really fun. How have you been?

What's new with you, Anderson? I love. I've been good. Actually, I just found out today that the very next day, right up the street, I'm going to have one of my shorts. It's going to be playing at the Chinese theater. It used to be called the Man Chinese, but the Chinese theater, seven o'clock.

My short is low. Eight other shorts are going to be playing that. Dude, that's huge. You get into a film festival. What's the festival called? It's called Holly shorts and Like Hollywood but Holly short. I guess so I don't know what the significance of the name That's like a block from my office. That's really major right there. I'm already coming already there

I'm proud of you Yeah, I have many people to thank but you're definitely one of them because you definitely give me the words of encouragement That I needed when I was kind of like going. I don't want to have people work on my films for free It feels gross and you're like just do it people like working for free I didn't say that I said interns people will get a lot out of it I got so many hours that I hundreds people came my interns came they had a blast so yeah, come on down You'll see Emily. They'll see me. It'll be a good time. Yeah, I can't wait. I'll tweet that crap out of it. So weak.

Thank you, kid. I love it. So I also have to give you guys an update. So last week with Anderson, I was talking about a guy that I, you know, I said that I was, our show was about vacation, summer, summer sex. Summer sex. Summer dating. Summer sex.

Summer is the time we all feel sexier and everyone's dating, testosterone, spikes and men, serotonin, spikes, all that stuff. So I was talking about that and I told a story that I too, I too, I'm starting to date again. I've always been sort of a reactive dator, like just kind of dating guys who I met and I figured you know what, I've got to practice what I preach. I mean, not that, like I just never dated a line. So I've been trying out these apps and so I've been doing that, but I also had met a guy

in person and we went out. A friend of a friend. A friend of a friend. The I've been trying out these apps and so I've been doing that, but I also had met a guy in person and we went out. A friend of a friend, which is the best way to meet people. Exactly. And I had met him. He was a friend of a friend, super cute guy. And we went on a date and we had a good, or he came to my house. He left his jacket when he left his jacket.

You guys didn't bang. We did not bang. We just hung out. And then he was like leaving. He goes, I know this is weird. I don't want to seem like needy guy, but what are you up to this weekend? And I said, oh, I'm around, you know,

just I got time here and there. And then I didn't hear from him all weekend. And then I realized he left his jacket at my house and then like a few days, a few days, but he might've set me like a benign text on Saturday night like, hey, what's up? But not like, let's do something. Also as a reminder, he set up the date like,

hey, can I come over and we can play Scrabble? Right, exactly. That's a red flag right there. Why? Because he didn't bring the Scrabble. Let's play some Scrabble and then I'm not gonna bring it. I'm gonna leave my jacket when I Right, right, exactly. That's a red flag right there. Why? Because he didn't even bring the Scrabble. Let's play some Scrabble, and then I'm not gonna bring it. I'm gonna leave my jacket when I leave. I know, I know. It's gotta be shady.

He wasn't shady at all. I mean, I didn't think he was shady, but I also give people the bed in front of the doubt. I'm not a judgmental person by nature. So I really don't see the good people. I do, I really do, unlike you sometimes. You know, you are. Very true, yeah.

So anyway, he came over and I said this that we, oh, and then a few days later, he said to me, he texted me how the blue was like Wednesday night, like a week later. And he said, I'm in your neighborhood. I want to know if I could stop by just for 30 minutes, just to say hi. And in my mind, I had already gone through the whole thing of thinking, well, maybe it wasn't a great date and he probably wants to jack it back because I've been heard from him. And I said, listen, it's cool if you use what your jacket, you know, I can leave it for you outside or just come in and grab your jacket. And he's like, no, no, no, I want to see you. So heard from him and I said, listen, it's cool if you use what your jacket, I can leave it for you outside or just come in and go have your jacket.

He's like, no, no, no, I want to see you. So he came over and he said, listen, the reason why I didn't call is because I actually really think I could like you. And I was so surprised by that because my mind, what we often do is we often think about, we trip on things, but when it comes to dating, we think, oh, we didn't call because of this or, oh my God, he probably won't call or she won't call because of this or that.

And usually what we assume in our mind is not what is true. We talked about this last week. You were at this point last week. That's a point. So now I'm saying what happened was, he said that and then we made plans for this weekend. Well, I'm just recapping. We made plans. Okay, so we made plans to go to Malibu on Saturday during the day.

But I had to move those to Saturday night because work has been really busy because I'm interviewing new assistants and I said, how about we do something in the evening? It's ironic that your work about relationships takes president over your actual relationships. That's a story of my life. Yeah, I like it. I like it. Thank you. So no, it's true though, because I've been intensely looking for new help.

And so he, and then I moved to Saturday night, what happened was I had some clients come in town that I had to see Saturday night. So I canceled. And I said, I'm a really nice email and I said, there's nothing to do with you, but I would like to see you again. And I just can't tonight. Any emailed me and he said, um, why not text? Why didn't you get text?

He texted me. I'm sorry, text. It was text. He said, yeah, cool next week. And they said, scratch that that I'd love to see you again, but let's wait a while That's three re-schedules between the two of us. I have the transcript transcription here That's three re-schedules between the two of us in one week. It's cool. I get it. We're busy. Hey happens then a minute later One minute one minute. Okay. I dig you too. I just can't date under circumstances like this And I know it would always be this way with you.

However, I love your face and all as well. Okay, I have two things. All right. Hey, he's right. It will always be like that. Sorry, I'm, but yes, you will be rescheduling for the entire relationship. But I wonder if I would have rescheduled.

You will be married and you'd be rescheduling your trip to get dials. No, but no, no, if I liked him, if I liked him, if I was really, really into him, I might not have taken back. I think the client didn't. You wouldn't have blown off your clients no matter who it was. You would have rescheduled.

You're a reschedulant. You rescheduled on me all the time. It's okay, that's all right. I am a reschedulant. Be that guy, fuck him. With everything's cool, and then one minute goes by, and he's just sitting there thinking, he's the thing's too much.

He's the thing's too much. He's the thing's too much. He's the thing's too much. He's the thing's too much. He's the thing's too much. I think it was case of like reverse rejection, which is a classic move, because he felt rejected, and then he rejected me back right away. It made.

Right, exactly. So I just feel that's what it was. And you know what, good for him. Taking care of yourself, I guess, but it's a little bit like I really would have gone out with him again, and I didn't respond yet. What are the chances are that he hears this? Pretty good.

Well, okay, I'm glad you brought that up as well. I've talked about this in the show, talked about this in the show that every guy I date Oh, he says they don't listen in order. They follow me on Twitter or Facebook anything But then every guy date I get in trouble somehow because they're like oh you had a date or blah blah blah And sometimes I talk about things that are like out of context whatever So he said he is not yet listened to my podcast So I'm just gonna assume that he doesn't and but I did say to him on our I said listen said, listen, if you do, I know you're saying you don't. And if you have any

questions about things that bother you or you think it's the best position. No, just because they say things. And like there was this guy who was dating like last year or something. And I, my friend had called me on the phone and said something about she was dating a guy. And she was feeling like, why am I having a sex with a guy who doesn't even like, I feel like he doesn't really care about me. I feel alone when I'm with him. And so I tweeted something that said what you,

a guy that doesn't care about something like to the effect of a guy that doesn't, isn't into me, wasn't on your list, why is he in your bed or something like that? Or guy that isn't? Sure, it was very poetic. It was more poetic than that. So the guy I was dating at the time freaked out, screen grabbed it, thought it was about him,

I'm like, it totally wasn't about you, it was my best friend. Narciss. I'm like, I thought you don't read my Twitter. So I don't know if he's been listening, but let me just say this guy, I think he's awesome and I would have gone out with you again, but now I think we figured it out and we're moving on.

And I'm still dating. Congrats on being on but now I think we're going to the salt out and we're moving on. And I'm still dating. Congrats on being on the market there, I'm playing the field. It's actually really fun. My family's in town right now too though, so I do want to have a lot of time today. Oh, I'm having a birthday party and right now you're going to come. With my friend Anna David and we did an awesome podcast. Larry David's daughter.

No. But Anna and I did a podcast a few weeks ago and about online dating and it's been a hit. So check it out. I think you're all on joke It and now we've got some sex in the news love it. I know you do it's okay Famous hot spring shut down because people kept having orgies in it Imagine that what else is this dude has brings but this was in Japan. Oh So all the vaginas were tiled as they're having sex tiled in Japan. Ooh. So all the vaginas were tiled as they were having sex. Tiled. Japanese

porn. They always tie up with that. Okay, got it. I don't. Oh, they covered up. The porn. Yeah, it's very upsetting. Really? That's why they're all versions of the guy last week in the news who was like he was being very benevolent and having sex with virgins in Japan. Yeah. Anyway, their hot springs in Japan, these famous hot springs have been closed down after multiple reports of

orgies. The secluded baths just outside Tokyo apparently attracted a lot of exhibitionists over the last year. Authorities have gotten multiple reports from locals and others, um, bathers of inappropriate behavior. But the pot springs were not shut down until a videotaped orgie between at least 15 men and seven women broke out in the hot springs for the record. The spring apparently only seats 10 comfortably. Oh, no, that's quite a fire. A lot of them. But that's so Japan. Like you think about the trains in Japan when

you're all smushed together. You might as well be smushed together at an orgy. You can imagine how many he went. What? They actually have people in the subways that their job is to use their like, they're like ushers. They work for the train stations. And they actually put their feet on your back and push you into the... I know, I know. Have you seen that in the video of this?

I've seen it, and I've also... So you go up to the car, the door's open, and then a man will come up behind you who's paid to put his foot on the smaller back and smash you in there. It sounds horrible. I've heard this, and then I've also there's inappropriate touching on the trains.

Oh, you think? I'm pollable, dude, you're all smashed up. So the hot springs weren't, they were shut down the guy, videotaped it, and the local tourism board is embarrassed about the spring's reputation. I just said, cause it's like a natural hot spring. And think about the poor monkeys, they probably had to kick out of it.

I know. I know, and the resort was always promoted as a perfect tourist attraction. They said it was a tough decision. Now just or we're also thinking to go for a decent, so it's funny, cause I think about other hot springs in LA that you go to because I remember in San Francisco, it's a big sur.

Like outside. I mean, I see signs for them. I don't trust them because of reasons like this. The only time I've been in a hot spring was really great. It was in Yellowstone and it was really great hot spring. Beautiful. Too bad. No, whatever.

Sorry, Japan. Okay. I love the 15 guy seven girls. See, that's so typical. So typical. Why aren't there 15 girls taking over that thing? Because they don't want to be an orgy. As much as men. I know. Let's draw a good point. Okay. Survey says 41% say they feel frisky after going for run,

which I can relate to because I'm a runner. So for many runners, the finish line can be found in the bedroom, according to a 2005 survey by Brooks running company, the makeover writing shoes. Of course Brooks running company, the Makeovering Writing Shoes. Of course, these guys are the ones who come up with this number. Whatevs, get them some press, but here's the thing. I agree with it.

41% of US respondents experience a post-run euphoria that propels them under the covers. So it says that they queried 1,000 adult runners, those 18 and over who reported running once a week. And the study was published in the scientific journal. It said last month found that speedy endurance runners may enjoy better sex lives, better sex lives, and higher sex drives. So if you'd rather go a shorter distance to spring your partner along to reap the benefits because also 66% of runners believe they have more sex when they run with their partners.

And that's not surprising because I always say the couples that play together stay together because when you do an adrenaline Pumping activity with your partner something scary or running or hide jump out of a plane or Paragliding or hiking it doesn't matter It pumps your adrenaline and it connects you in that way, so that would make sense It's great for early dates too because it gets rid of a lot of that nervous energy you might have. Like if you guys go like on a rock climbing or something like that. I used to do that.

I used to do that on a first or second date. You're going to be nervous anyways and now you can get some of that nervous energy out by doing physical activities. You're right. And it bonds you because of the serotonin. So you associate the good vibes with your partner of the serotonin that's spiking, which makes you want him or her even more, and vice versa. That's also for women's health, but it's not only running that'll put you in the mood,

enjoying, like I said, enjoying any physical activity together can boost your self-esteem. So go hiking, do something different, and even if you're in a relationship right now for a long time, you want, I always say it's summer, like do something different because that will connect you. Even if you're taking a class together, couples get disconnected a lot, so do something different. Even do these as new activity. Like, you may have not athletic what?

They take work. It's work. It is work. It's a self-forew relationship is work. I know. And like, don't pomonate people because I don't, I say work, but it's like the best kind of work that you can experience, I think, because if being in a relationship when you go deep and you make a last

is gratifying. Worth having is worth working for. Right? Yeah. And I know this thing by work where I work. Yeah. Unfortunately, you work so hard on that show for other people's relationships that you end up with needy guys who send you a text one minute later saying, you know what?

I've been thinking about it for a full 60 here. You're painting the ass. I don't like how he flipped. I know, it was weird. I was like, oh good, he's cool. And then he was like, you'll always be this way. Well, he's right, but don't start off with, hey, you know what, it's happened three times.

What do you do? It's okay. We'll get together in a week. It's kind of just like move. And then, you know, now I think about it. Now. You know what, it saved us both a lot of, a lot of really boring dinners. Plus, embarrassment for, actually you might already be there because of your friends' friends.

Like, hey, so we had a lot of friends and our friends. Yeah, it was very distant friends. It was like 16 degrees of separation. It's all good. And you know what, here's the thing. I always say this, but I hope Blake, if I ever seen the Qsicle guy, we'd be friends. I mean, not BFFs, but there's no hard feelings. He doesn't sound cool.

Okay, let's get into some emails. Hey, real quick. Yeah, go. Talk about your sound cool. Okay, let's get into some emails. Hey, real quick. Talking about your earlier on the show, you were talking about the Magic Wand. Not plugged into the wall anymore, which is great. And I mentioned you could take on a campaign and you know, you could take it on the plane. If you like, you don't need a plug anymore. Do they have any like, you know, they're all sorts of earthquake kits and whatnot and people should have canned goods and water on hand. Do they have a hand crank of vibrators so like in the apocalypse? It's so funny. They used to have it like well San Francisco at good vibrations

They have if you go to the one on Polk Street if you're over there. Oh, Polk Street. Love it Watch my dad get hit on a by a guy on Polk Street. You did? Yeah, yeah Polk streets a little like that But they have an antique vibrator museum and it's so cool, they look like huge appliances, like mixers and stuff and they do have hand cranked ones. But now they don't, they should have like, yeah, no, I don't think they'll- I would think that if you're vigorous enough,

you'll be able to get one that charges itself with the motion, you know what I mean? Right, or solar power? Or solar power, but they ain't got to be outside and I could burn your inner. Yeah, that's true. No, they don't have that, but I'm really excited about it. I actually, like I said, I had one of the first ones

and I'm blown away by it because I've had the magic one for probably 15 years. And it is a little, it's an improvement. I mean, there's two, because they're used to, like I said, just one speed, like it was really strong or really, really strong. And this one has, like, the different vibration patterns and stuff.

And it's just lighter to hold. And it's a good time, people. That really is magic. So it is magic. All right, emails. you got some good ones? Yep, and I want to thank everyone for emailing me at feedback at sexwithelmay.com. Are they giving you the pertinent information

that you've been asking for? Well, the pertinent information that I would like is your name, where you're listening from, and your age. And a picture, topless of your feel like, and some like my Catherine and now from love. But I mean a picture, at least a picture. Really why? Why not?

We live in a digital age. We should see who we're hearing from. Plus if like, there's a woman who's like saying, you know, he's a real asshole to me all the time. And I'll say he looks like an asshole. We can look at her picture. I'm not a digital person. I'm not gonna say he looks like an asshole.

Okay, all right. Okay, but thank you for that, Anderson. You're welcome to send pictures, no dick pics. No dick pics. I don't want them. No one wants them. No bo pixie though you can send an Anderson what dream okay hey Emily I'm a new male listener and first off I love the show and I've learned a lot listening to you I have a question about positions sex with my girlfriend is amazing but she orgasms mostly when she's on top going back and forth I want to keep things interesting for us as well as make our orgasm. What kind of positions would be good for giving her that

kind of dual stimulation? Thanks, Brian. Thanks, Brian, for listening. I'm glad you're a new listener and you're loving the show. That makes me feel so good. Why exist? Okay, here's a deal. It's very common for women to be able to orgasm on top. I think it's the most common way that women orgasm because she can grind against your pubic bone and stimulate her G-spot and her clitoris at the same time. So it's common for women to do the grind anything, but I love you, Brian.

I love that you're like, let's mix this stuff up. But girl on top, not the only way to provide her with a double pleasure. Missionary position can be a winner for a lot of ladies in this way. So let me tell you about the Coital Alignment Technique. I think it's been a while since I've talked about it on the show. So I think it's the perfect sex position because the definition of making love is slowly rubbing a woman's

clitoris with your penis. That's my definition. No, I just made up. So the cat's position starts out with the good official missionary, good old fashioned missionary. So, when you, so missionary, if we don't know, she, you're on top. So when you enter her, all you do is you scoot up a few inches higher than usual. Your body should be flat up against her. She wraps her legs around your body or ankles, locking you into lovemaking. So she's wrapping around your legs as you're on top of her.

Think pelvis to pelvis rather than in and out. Okay, so you're not your pelvis to pelvis. The motion is more of an up is the motion is an up and down steady rocking with a focus on where Clidurus is on the base of your penis. So you're going up and down back and forth and not in and out. And this position is highly orgasmic for a lot of women. So I know you like darting your penis. So you're going up and down back and forth and not in and out. And this position is highly orgasmic for a lot of women. So I know you like darting your penis in and out as fast as you can. Men love the darting of the in and out. You're the jackhammer. You hate it. I just I don't love it. And I think that women and their young years try think that that's what it should be because they saw that barn. Guys, when young years think that that's what it should were talking about it. It's my favorite tip, I think. You've ever used it? It's just a good tip.

I'm a married man. I don't do anything. Oh, Jesus, it's a Christ. It's a good tip. It's good to get your wife in here. She would love to be on the show. She would so not like to be on the show. I don't know where that well, but I think I'd like one

a party with her. So, make her love into the cap. Also, you can go into Doggy Style. The next slide, Doggy Style is great. If she, you can use a vibrator, you can rubber clitoris. That's another great one. But I think that's a pretty good one. I think you should start with Cat.

That's totally different. Also, Cat, Quital Alignment Technique. If you go to my website, sexeselmy.com and you Google Cat, you can see that Cat. Like, yeah, I get it. It'll come up and you'll see a picture of it. Of a Cat or a Daxial Position. The actual position. Oh, speaking of, I don't even know why I just thought about this

it popped in my head. I guess I was thinking of the in and out and how we think that's how sex should be. I had the talk with my, so my nieces are in town. How old? 15. Oh, no. 13. Oh, Jesus. 7. Jesus. One of them she's like almost 16 or she should be 16, whatever. She's suffering. Junior. When you talk to that one, do you say I work on a show called Seven Jesus one of them she's like almost 16 or she should be 16 whatever she's soft More junior when you talk to that one do you say I work on a show called make love Okay, so here's my issue so my family Has been very About what I do Blaming you babysat the one and she's like going through your book

Exactly that was like years ago that's playing Barbie dress up at your deals Just listen she was like 10 came to my house, slept over. You've all heard this story. It's actually I posted a picture of my Instagram today of them, sex, Emily, and some posted, is that the one who found your books years ago? So yes, it was, but the one I was talking to is not the one who brought the books. But I was, she's up over years ago, and she was 10, and she I had all my sex books in my apartment, and she went on to remind me the next day and said, why does every book in

Aunt Emily's shelf have the word sex me the next day and said, why does every book in an Emily's shelf have the word sex in the title? But anyway, this is 15 year old. And that one's the one with two kids, right? No, she's 13. The 15 year old, I thought to myself, what's kind of impissu me off is that my brother and my sister and I love them to death,

but they've been really protective of it. And I realized that I was out with a friend's kid a few months ago that I've known for a long time from childhood and she's like 12 and she saw that he followed me on Instagram and she said she's younger and she said oh, what is that bad? Is that dirty? I think it sounds like you have sex with everyone. I don't even know if she knew what sex was. She was 11 and we had a long talk about it. I said no, I actually give advice. I help couples. And she was, oh, I'm glad to hear that. And I thought I've never even had this conversation with my nieces because my family's so weird about it.

So anyways, out the 15 year old the other night, not the 13 year old, but I said to her, listen, this is what I want to tell you sweetheart. Have you got the hustler? No, we were at dinner at the sunset tower hotel. Okay, okay. It was very nice. And I said to her, listen, I know that there's some weird stuff

going on, I'm a doctor, I have a doctor in human sexuality, and I help couples with their sex life and their relationships. And I'm not going to have the birds and bees talk to you. But what I realized today was that my parents growing up always said to me, they were very, I thought they were very open. They said, Emily, if you ever have any questions about sex, come to me. But I never did. I was like, Hey, mom, this boy kissed me.

I don't know. So I said, you know, but that wasn't, I never went to them. And what I realized, I said, I said to her, just so you know, sweetie, the reason why I started this show 10 years ago is because I realized that I didn't have a lot of information around sex. I never even masturbated, and then she got all really shy.

And I'm like, I don't know if you have, you don't have to tell me. I said, a lot of girls, like they're in the shower, they're writing a, oh, she used to write horses. I bet maybe she had one. A lot of girls are writing horses. Has this been cleared by your family? I don't care anymore.

I decided that we have our own relationship. And they're gonna be at dinner tomorrow night? Stop it. Just listen. Oh no. No, it was a good conversation. I said, listen, I realize that I said masturbation and never occurred to me to masturbate until I was older.

Maybe you already have it. You don't have to answer her face to the ride. I said, but all I'm saying is, what I talk about is women experiencing their own pleasure and how I was socialized was that it was all about men's pleasure and making them feel good. And since she's like a junior in high school now, I just thought that she should just know that sex

isn't just about it being empowering her. And I said, that's all I'm gonna say. And she's like, okay, pass the bread. That was tough. So I've been thinking a lot lately'm gonna say. And she's like, okay, pass the bread. That was a topic. So I've been thinking a lot lately about educating, like I wanna do something or write another book in my spare time, but I think that parents are still very confused about how to have children.

About sex? I'll tell you how I first learned about sex when after you'd read your spot. Okay. It's kind of controversial. Ooh, when we come back, how Anderson became the pervert is today. Hey, I'm not. You're not. Okay, one. Hmm.

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Double up. Okay, guys, just by promesson. Okay, so why did you become a pervert? I did not become a pervert. Sorry, you masturbated for it. Okay, so why why did you become a pervert? I did not become a pervert. Sorry, you masturbated. No, I'm a pervert man. No, so I'm the oldest of four and my mom, my dad's psychologist and he had some funny ideas and my mom, I don't know, I think that they both just wanted to avoid it. I don't know whose idea it was. I was very young, but it actually came up on that show that I do the after disaster. I forgot. I guess I blocked it out, Emily, but this is there's a book. You may have heard of it called show me

No, oh, no. Yeah, it's a bug. It comes out of learning sense. I looked it up on Wikipedia Come came out of Germany. There's been a couple different additions now. It's like consider child porn Because they have actual like pre-pubescent and teenagers in there and it's a big picture book and it's all black and white pictures and has like a really Like young people talking about their private parts and then it has like teenagers and then like a mom and a dad and shows them actually penetrating. And then it shows that's where I pay. It was an educational book.

It's where I pay. It comes from, yeah. And then there's like an old, really old man who's like the grandpa and he's naked in it. And my, find out you're dead stuff for the kids. No, they gave it to us. It was like a Christmas gift one year.

And my little brother was two and a half years old. Is that birthday that you, no one showed up? No, that was when showed up. No, I was probably like 10 years old. My brother was probably like seven seven and we were too young to have this. My little sister has got their hands on it. We were too young to have this stuff, but you know it's the seventies. It was a different time. I remember I like I should popped up like years later and like it was all colored in like one of my siblings that was like using it as a color. Oh look at all this. Around the vagina like purples and greens, I think it really fucked some of us up. Really?

And now I actually looked it up and there was a new addition of it not too long ago for the 90s. And it said show me now with AIDS. Like I guess they incorporated AIDS into it. I mean, I'm sure some of you are from the parents. I'd like to hear from some of the parents here.

What are the good books that you give to your parents? You give to your parents, give to your kids. because I just feel like a lot of parents no matter how liberal they are they just don't have a place to go for it. That'd be good to have on your on your website as a resource too. I know I'm going to start with your space. I'm relaunching the whole website people's not show me show me not show me. Well when I didn't have an orgasm in college and I realized at 19 that they even existed. My mom gave me a book called For Yourself by Lonnie Barback and that's still a really good book.

It's all about female masturbation and touching yourself and stuff and there are a few good books out there but I was like old enough but there should be like an app for kids. I'm gonna invent that. I like a little like a story, like a mother goose type story

where like a little girl is like looking for a leprechaun or something, you know, something that she doesn't think exists so that she can't do it. I said look for Kamba then I found a penis. Or like a unicorn. Right, exactly. That's what I do.

Speaking of apps, I forget, sorry, I forget to mention that I have an iPhone app. That's awesome. And it's called Kegel Camp. Kegel Camp. And I forget to mention it because we actually, it's been out for four years, but we re-released it recently. And it's only for iPhone's now, and I'm really sorry because I get emails every day that like why the hell is only for iPhone?

It's because I need to be able to get a droid to develop or to do it. It's expensive and I want to do it. But it, doing your key electrolysis regularly, men and women, it will change your sex life. It'll help you less longer, bed, have stronger orgasms, helps them with prostate health, helps women with urinary cottons, when you sneeze and you pee,

which happens when you get older and you have kids. So check it out, you'll love it. You can time it. So here's the thing. Doctors tell you to do them, no one remembers to do them. So you set a reminder, and every day at 11.30 am, I do it for five minutes. Time for Kegel Camp.

Okay. You get excited every time? I do. And now we're having a Kegel Camp contest in our office, which is a really good time. Kegel or Kegel? Kegel, Kegel, it's all the same. It's Kegel or Kegel.

It's really like tomato tomato. Okay, hi, Emily. I listen to your podcast, and I loveel. It's really like tomato tomato. Okay, hi Emily. I listen to your podcast and I love it. I love your no shit attitude. It makes me laugh. I am currently in a committed long distance relationship, but recently I bought myself a rabbit vibrator. I've never used a dildo before,

and obviously know what you're meant to do with it, but other than porn, what can you do to get yourself ready to use it? I don't wanna be out weird in my house alone, using it and definitely don't wanna hear porn noises while I'm using it, what can you suggest? Thanks again, love the podcast, Claire. So here's the interesting thing, Claire,

you said that you're in a community relationship and that you don't wanna hear porn noises. And I'm wondering if it's cause you've roommates, so my first thing was like put in headphones. a community relationship and that you don't want to hear porn noises. And I'm wondering if it's because you've roommates. So my first thing was like put in headphones. If it's because you don't, but like if you just don't like the sound of porn, it makes you uncomfortable, then that's not the right answer.

But if it is about giving roommates, just put in some headphones, like some really good headphones and listen to porn. But it is a good point because for many, my masturbation comes easy. They're not like how are we gonna do this, how are we gonna plan it. But for women, masturbation is still kind of like,

you need to get into the mindset. So much of orgasm and pleasure and understanding your own body has to do with getting, to having this time alone from masturbation. So this is a great question because you do need to get ready to masturbate. Like guys can just be like, I've got five minutes to turn on the board.

We've found your pants on the computer and you're done and you're out the door. And women, we have to get our brain there first because our brain is our largest sex organ, which I say all the time and it's true because if our mind is distracted and we're thinking about our to do this and we're thinking about, you know, all the other things going on our head or am I not going to orgasm? It won't happen. So first, if you read about the sound trapping, like I said, put headphones. If porn is just not your jam and you want to mix it up, I'd say first, you're in a long distance relationship. Why not FaceTime or SX or Skype with your guy? That's a no brainer. What you don't you don't agree?

No, it's good. Especially if it's a long distance. You got to do something like that. Yeah, you guys can do that once a week. With him, though, make sure that you trust him, he's not gonna be screened. Yeah, make sure he's in screen grabbing. So that's something to do too. Sharing. Also, yeah, I know. Well, I think that's just fun,

it could just be for play. And again, if you're a little weary about him seeing you, you guys could just kinda like talk dirty about and you could be like, hey, you could have him warm you up for it and tell you how hot you are and then turn it off in the master rate. Then he has to watch you.

But you could do some kind of like for play like you're together talking and then shut off the FaceTime or go all the way. And research does show that women who fantasize during sexual activity are more likely to orgasm and they consider themselves more orgasmic. So what you could also do if you're a reader, you could read a radical.

There's a lot of great erotic out there, like the classic ones or like story of O, life of Catherine M. Rachel Kramer-Bossel, she also makes some great like modern day porn, modern day Arotica. Rattling these off. Is your favorite author?

Yeah. Well, those are two story of O is by Pauline Regal, or whatever it is, they're around for a long time and Catherine M, those are, went been around classics and I still think they're great, but Rachel Kramer bustle also She's been writing it. She's more modern day, but here's a thing You might want to listen to it too. I love listening to erotica because like if I'm reading like I Sometimes I want to hear it. So again, put your headphones on and listen to some erotica

And just because there's another thing another important thing for you Claire might be to the mood, just like when you're having sex, like candles, making a romantic playlist, take a bath, pour a glass of wine, romance yourself, and it doesn't make sound cheesy to you. But again, once your brain is ready, and you're in the mood, and you've turned off your god damn cell phone and gotten all those worried thoughts out of your head, you'll be more likely to have a good time with your new rabbit vibe. And another thing I want to mention about the rabbit vibe,

oh, also stick with the water-based lubricant, it's always great to add lube when you masturbate. What's the other base? Oil? Silicone. Do they sell that? Yeah, so do. Why?

Everyone I talk to always says water-based, always water-based. Okay, I'm glad you brought this up, because lube comes up a lot on the show and you know, I always have a huge fan of Loube, whether you're masturbating, whether you sex, every night stand in the world. But here's silicone Loube.

I think that water based Loube had a really strong PR team, about 10, 15 years ago when everyone was bashing silicone Loube, that it was really bad for vagina. And you know, it is true that you have to be careful and you have to bite, you know, this might cost you 20 bucks for a bottle for like really good Loob, like I love System Joe, I love Uber Loob. I really like pure PJ, you are, you can get these all at

Adamaneeve.com, use code Emily. The thing is, is that the thing about Loob silicone is that if you're having sex with a committed partner and you and with condoms you used to think it was gonna break down condoms the thing about silicone is it last longer water basically you have to keep reapplying oh it's like when I get my car will change that I would say synthetic right well no this is good that you want to get like a good one though you want to get twice as long yeah I get last-wise long you know to keep reapplying it and it feels really good so if you're masturbating you can rub it on your nipples, you can use it with your toys. This is the latex silicone.

Silicone. Silicone loop. So I just named some brands I like. Also go to sexwithelm.com, click on the Good Vibration's banner and you'll see my store and it has all these loops in there that I like. What?

You were saying water loop. Well, I'm just saying water loop because they say with silicone toys, you should not use silicone. But then lately people are like, oh, so with toys, you should stick to waterways. But then other people are saying, oh, no, it doesn't bring it down. So I don't know what to tell you what stains least. I guess waterway stains.

Waterway. But silicone doesn't really stain. It depends. And you know, people, if you're worried about staining, squirting or messy during sex, put a goddamn towel down. Have a beach towel. One of those big ones by your bed, you don't care about and put it down. So, you know, whatever.

But I like silicone lube when I'm with the partner because, and during masturbation, because it just feels good, and it lasts longer. Bottom line, water bases, just safe if you've ever give you yeast infections or whatever, get like a good water basically, again. But this is what I want. And then again, my final point to clear

is remember to relax and focus on your body and how it feels. So if you find your mind wandering, go back to the sensations. Here's something else I have to bring about the rabbit vibe. I've given a few friends and I've had a few emails about this that they really want to find their G spot. And a rabbit vibe or a G spot vibe is a great way to do it if it hasn't happened to yet during intercourse, which BTW, for a lot of women,

it doesn't. Like the penis doesn't hit him right, they don't really know what it feels like, maybe it's uncomfortable. So here's the deal. And I've done lots of shows on G-Spot orgasms, but you can listen to, but I just gonna bring it up again because this is, question came up a friend which I thought would have known this and she didn't't so I'm telling you all. It really helps women to have a G spot orgasm when they first have a literal one. So if you're used to having a literal orgasm, have that first because once you're clitoris you have that orgasm, the whole area becomes engorged and the blood rushes and you're more easily able to find your G spot because it becomes more plump to hate these words and go out and play.

I'm really not enjoying the gorge, the plump. I knew you wouldn't like engorge, but it's true, the blood's rushing. And so once you have it, it's easier to have the G-Spot. Good luck, Claire. Have a good time. Get engorged. Romance yourself, drink some wine.

Just like chill out. Yeah. You know, like I didn't have a G-Spot until I'd use a toy. You grew a G-Spot. I had a G-Spot. I didn't have a g-spot until I'd use a toy you grew a g-spot. I had a g-spot I didn't have a g-spot orgasm until I used a toy and then I Transfered that knowledge into sex with the penis. It upset you that I don't believe that you have a g-spot So that anyone does I really don't think so. What do you think it's fake? Yeah, like that unicorn

I don't believe in it. Why? I just don't think it's your wife doesn't have one like that unicorn. I don't believe in it. Why? I just don't think of that. Because your wife doesn't have one. I'm very good. Never met anyone else one. Well, I don't care what you think, because you don't have a vagina. True. It doesn't really matter. I don't believe that you have a big penis. Oh, you shouldn't.

Just kidding. I'm so sorry. I don't want to say anything. I heard a study on the radio the other day. Tell me. Just looked it up. I don't like this one at all. It says 72% of women admit that they fantasize about another man while having sex with a partner. Don't like it. It's very upsetting. Why, because you thought that a man

where the only ones who did that? I, every time that I, when I was in commited relationships, I would ever even dream of it with my wife. But I, I was like, start to like, you know, if I was on a little issue or you know, I was, I was in a really a feeling of the day, I was start to like, you know, drift in that direction and then I would feel such shame and guilt for doing that because that's

so wrong i would always snap back to the person i was with her but you're good man but now that i learned that seventy percent of them were thinking about billy down the street pisses me off i don't know who did the study i mean yes i believe that a lot of women do that and then i don't do that i'm just in the moment this thing i just try to be in the moment but i think men do it and women do it. I don't think that men and women are very similar in this way,

that sometimes they just need to think about something else and even with someone in a while, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. Let me ask you. What? I know a lot of women, they don't think about anything in particular. They just think about like kind of inanimate objects.

Yeah. I've heard like a floating gas. I told you. I'm online. Pumping gas thing was really weird now, but there is at least a phallic thing going into the hole there But like I've heard like a floating like dark figure above them is what you think about when you know and you're kind of looking for that I think that women think of more of like I think well when you let's say in the past be pre-wife right when you would find yourself thinking of a was it a particular

Instance that you actually experience with a woman or was just someone when you saw the store that day It'd be like usually a past girlfriend right and something that happened like something that really happened Or just yeah, usually I would just yeah go back to the role of Dex But it I would answer somebody else right. Yeah, I mean, I think it's common You know what if that's what gets you there and you're with a partner. Don't feel guilty about it You know, I just think that's it because great sex is about Variety is a spice of life and variety is a spice of sex life. The study is out of the University of Vermont. It does go on to say that actually it helps

committed relationships go all longer because you can fantasize about going across the line, but you don't cross the line. I would feel super guilty if I did that, especially in my married. I know you're a good man and I just think everyone's well if someone else pops in your head George Clooney or whoever your girl is. I don't think George Clooney would pop in my head. No, but I'm just saying you guys don't trip on it. If that's what gets you there, it's not every time. I don't know. I sort of that my mic was like, what

am I doing? You got some calm and confident over there. You just like drifted on the mic. I forgot about the mic. So, um, yeah, I think that's a good way to say it to you percent. Who knows? And is that every time? Is that 72% in their lifetime's house? Yeah, I know. I never have really. I never have because I'm usually enjoying the sex of the person I'm like and no I was just say we had a love line love line is a show that I'm on on Thursday nights Anderson is the sound engineer if you haven't heard of it download the podcast technical producer Talked what did I call you sound engineer. That's the same thing. I don't know where you are Pieces of charge. He's been here for a long time

But it's also a really good podcast and you can download it. I'm on every Thursday night. So that would be the Friday podcast they were downloading. Yeah. Yeah. You look for the, actually, you know, what it shows up Sunday night at midnight. Okay. So download that. It's fun. But we, you know, we take collars and it's with Dr. Trupinski and my cat, the word, you can start your, your week with, with M on the show on. Yeah. If you, if you can't get enough of me, I have two podcasts a week, but you want to, but the point is, last week, we do this thing called open forum For 30 minutes of me always ask people what is the strangest thing or what do you think of the strangest thoughts you've ever had during sex?

And I said it's so weird because sometimes we're not about to orgasm like weird like images will pop my head Or like obviously I'll think about like oh this phone call I had today and like I to do it But then sometimes I'll think about like pumping gas. Like I'll be at the gas station, but then I realize how far like that was. So I mean, that's not that weird. But you know, Steve, we're thoughts during sex. That's what we brought that up.

Just to give you a little more explanation. Most women would think about like the attendant at the gas station that they used to have back in the 60s and 70s, maybe coming over and going, would you like me to check your oil mess? I was just thinking about, but all the tasks pumping my head,

pumping my head, like, getting groceries, buying crackers. Yeah, I don't like, what are you doing? You're about to have an orgasm. But it's almost like it stops me. It's almost like, I'm about to get there.

And my brain goes, not so fast. Think about your lot dirty laundry. Best of me up. But then I get there anyway. Okay, dear Emily, my boyfriend of four years and I have decided we need to try and spice things up in the bedroom. Think about another dude.

No, we're having a hard time coming up with something that will really wow us and keep us on our toes. Also, he wants to have a threesome with another man. And I don't know how slash what I should think about it. I'm open to all ideas thanks Shelby. How old? How long? We don't know. And at first I thought it's Shelby a guy because all the Shelby's I know are guys. So like maybe, yeah, but Shelby's, you know Shelby girls. I'm assuming it's a girl. So I'm assuming it's a girl.

But at first I thought it's a guy. So here's the thing Shelby. It could be a gay dude. Yeah, but I think you would say, I think he would say. So I'm assuming it's a man who wants it with another man, which is, which is pretty big because a lot of women kind of get the short end of the stick, because it's always like a female, female,

male threesome, because that's the guy's fantasies. Most guys aren't like, oh, you know, unless he's into cuckolding and wants to see with another guy. Sounds like you might be. I mean, as a straight guy, the only reason why you want another guy there is because you're in the cuckolding. Or you think that it would be really hot to see your girlfriend get off of someone else.

It's cuckolding. But that's more like I want to know. Cuckolding is when you want to watch another man being your wife or partner and you don't want any part of it. But I think that threesome is more like we're both pleasing you. It's it's just fine line. Do meaning. Not to meaning just like we're both in a place or girl friend airtight with a stranger

is. It doesn't he's not even saying airtight. So just listen to me. The thing about threesome shall be is that it should only be done if you both agree on it. So don't feel pressured and really it's not the way to save a relationship, it's not the way to, it is a way to spice it up if you agree on the boundaries and you agree on like this person can't kiss this you, this person can't sleep over, like you have to discuss what it's going to be like.

And what it might help you if you're not into it, because it's a totally foreign concept, you might want to talk about, like, how would it go down? And you could also, what's helpful is next time, every sex, you could start talking about it, like dirty talk, like he could be like, hey, so right now that guy's like going down on you and I'm, or is like, you know, spanking your ass and I'm having sex to do, or you start like picturing it in your mind before actually doing it? And if you want to do it, I'm saying if you want to, but if you don't want to be pressured into it, don't do it. But I would find out more about what, how he pictures it.

Say, like, what do you think about this other guy? What's he doing exactly? Because maybe you don't have enough information. Maybe he doesn't know either. And maybe the way he explains it to you might turn you on. But if the way he's thinking it doesn't, don't feel pressured into it. There are plenty of other things you can do to spice it up,

which is what you're just asking. I'm a huge fan of bondage, and not in the 50 shades of gray way, in the sense of, I mean, not that I'm not into that, but I'm not telling you have to go out and buy a bunch of stuff, you can use a neck tie. That's our tagline. Are you curious?

Right. And a lot of people clearly are because it was the best seller and everyone's read it. So if you just use a blindfold, well, like he's teasing you and he blindfolded you or you tease him, it amplifies a sensation. So anytime you take away one like the eyesight, did you know this?

Everything else is fine. I work with blankets. All right, we've talked about this. And that's true. So it could lead to more explosive sex. You could have like a thing of ice cubes by the bed. You can have one of my massage candles by the bed. It's hot, cold, and you could do little things

to mix you up and it's power play. You could do some verbal commands to your partner like, you know, it's kind of hot also is delaying sex. So what happens when you're a relationship for a while as you know? You get the routine. You get the happens when you're a relationship for a while, as you know, you get the routine, you get in the right, you rip each other's clothes off, tata tata, I do this, I take a twig twig twig, pull pull pull, boom boom boom, it's over. Same exact thing. And it's so frigging boring, but what really turns it on for women. And I think

men like, do you, does it turn you on to anticipation and prolong it teasing? Yeah, it's the best. Really? The best. Even, it's the best. Really? The best. Even if she teases you. Uh, yeah, it's kind of annoying, but I love teasing. Right? Like you would like go. I'm very, I don't know what to say.

Dude, you had a pre-married life. You go all around everywhere, but can we go back to three sums for a second? Yeah. You got to be careful though, Shelby. If you like this guy at all, if you really want the relationship to work, it's not going to. If you're four years, right.

Four years, is that what she said? Why wouldn't work if David's three, seven, after four years? I've been fortunate enough to find myself in the middle of a few three sums in my life. And every time that I was in a relationship and we had a three sum, it ended within a month. But your relationship was on a strong ground. Probably not. That's why we were even thinking about having a three sum. Well, that's what I'm saying.

Well, maybe she was doing it. Don't have a baby. We'll have an excuse to be. Was it her idea? I was always like friends of, you know, the girlfriend's friend. But then what, but it was just friends and there wasn't a relationship.

It worked out fine. And there wasn't any weird feelings or anything. But if you actually four years, that's, it's not gonna last. Did you, the odds are against you. I see, I disagree. Only four years, that's, it's not gonna last. The odds are against you. I see, I disagree. Only if they're very healthy about it. How's your relationship doing that you had the three

semifixes still going strong? Mine? Yeah, all of them, but they were always not committed to it. You're not in a relationship, right? Oh, true. I'm not able to buy choice. But I've had three semifixes, usually they're great when you're not all committed, but here's the thing.

I know a lot of couples who do like it, but again, this takes, this isn't just like tomorrow night, we're gonna go for three semifixes. That's why I'm saying you need to discuss it make sure that you shouldn't have a baby to save your relationship And you should never three some to save your relationship. I heard a story once I'm sorry where a girl was having a three Some with her friend and her boyfriend and it was going okay You know she was having sex with a boyfriend and then when the boyfriend went to go have sex with her friend like you know complete the Three some she was watching them have sex, she freaked out the girlfriend and just punched her boyfriend

right in the nose. Yeah, I mean, they started believing all over their friend. It was a scene. I mean, here's the thing, she'll be you might not be able to, I can understand this, a guy I'm with for four years, like I don't know,

I haven't been in that situation where I've had to watch him have sex with someone else. But again, that's why I think talking it through, maybe watching some threesome porn. And if you're not ready for it, that's totally fine, but watch the threesome together, talk about it during sex, all that stuff. So again, don't jump into it. It's I'm saying, talk to him more about it, but I love that you want to spice it up because it's really important to do. Okay. It is. Yeah. I think so too.

Right. Bring it sex to it. That changes it. Just bring a sex to it. I know. Why didn't I even bring this up? I'm just so into all the amazing toys out there right now that are like rocking my world. We keep getting all these toys in the office. Well, we did a show. If you had to give me one right now, what would you give it? For a couple of sex. Yeah.

I would probably give you, because it's a two-fer, I would give you the, you know, I love Jeju. Yeah, I would probably give you because it's a tofer. I Would give you the you know, I love J. J. You the me oh penis ring and I'll tell you why Because it's stretchy one size fits all and if it's around your penis It's powerful. It hits or clitoris right and It can also be used like you can put it she could put her fingers around it and use it as a regular Clid or alive during intercourse small. Yeah, so you work with or without the man exactly Yeah, and it's super powerful rechargeable waterproof kind of like it. Can I get one? Oh, yeah, do you want one? Yeah

You never ask me for toys. I'll take one. I like one. Okay. That's I recommend summer time and we actually just did a review a few weeks ago Which is really good and it was our sex toy review show you can find it on iTunes and we did review a few weeks ago, which is really good. It was our sex story review show. You can find it on iTunes. And we did review a few like the Wevibe Touch. I don't know if I told you this, but it was really cool that by my new interns, I she's listened to this show actually and transcribed it, but it's funny because she the night before we're saying she'd never had a multiple orgasm when she was taking home this vibrator and then she came in the next day. It was the Wevibe Touch.

She had five. If she came in, all like. It was the Wevi Touch. She had five. If she came in, all like her hair was disheveled. But she'd never had a multiple, I was like, listen sweetie, because we all have limits and we put limits on our sex life in our mind. We think, I can't have a G-spot orgasm. I can't have multiples. Guess what?

She had five. It was a very proud day for her. And for you, you felt like a proud mom. I did. I do feel like a mom. I'm like, I'm so glad. That's cool for 10. Wevi was really happy. I'm like, I'm so glad. Let's go for a time. We vibe was really happy.

I'm like, that's what your touch vibe, and if not, I would wrap, the second one I would recommend is the We vibe touch, not just because she had five orgasms, but also because it's a great, I don't know how your wife orgasms, you don't have to tell me, obviously, well,

but a lot of women need extra clitoral stimulation and I love the touch because it fits in the palm of your hand. She could use it, you could use it, and it cups right over a clitoris. It feels really good. Love it. Cups, cups, cups.

Yeah, that's all I got time for now. Speaking of time. What? I don't have time for your show anymore. Oh, dude. Show's got to end. So sad. Anything else?

How's Film Vault this week? Film Vault podcast. Film Vault's good. Rocking it? Yeah, this week I'm going to talk a little bit about Love and Mercy, that new movie about the Brit Brian Wilson. Oh, yeah. The singer for the Beach Boys.

Uh-huh, totally. Very interesting movie. I enjoyed it. How do you have time to see all these movies? It's a job. It's a job. You're right, it's a job. I also saw Spy with Melissa McCarthy.

I saw a documentary about the Iron Sheik. I'll be talking about all of it. But the spy was a dumb. That's so dumb. You know, critics are loving this movie. I don't understand why. It was a waste of my day. I really did not see the enjoyment.

I did not like. As a film, Bob Fanderstam, tell me if I'm right around. This is a theory of mine. Any movie that advertises on the side of a boss is not good. Yeah, that was kind of the first clue that I, but I love the director and the writer Paul Fieg. He's the guy that did bridesmaids, which is very funny. And the heat last year, I saw with Melissa McCarthy

and what's your name? I love the heat. And I saw it, I saw it twice. Sandra Bullock. Yeah, thank you, Sandra Bullock. How the hell did I get that? Pretty good. I'm clearly bad with names.

I'm made sure. But I thought it was gonna be funny. And critics were 96% on Rotten Tomatoes for Spy, even though the billboards are like a troche. Yeah, I got. And I'm thinking this is a good funny. Like, Reese for the spoon though. Oh, no. Oh, no. Yeah, that's different rated. I'm thinking this is a good point. No, she's like, oh, no, is it? Yeah, that's different. This is my most my

car. And I'm really. Oh, but wasn't there one with? Oh, no, there's one with what's her face and research? Yeah, you're thinking of hopper suit, which is very similar ad campaign and I could not stand that actually that's what I say on the film ball. I'm like, not since hopper suit, I've been so offended by an ad campaign, but I think Paul Feeig, the director writer might make a good movie here. Okay, I was disappointed. Did not like. but I think Paul Fieg, the director writer, might make a good movie here. I was disappointed. Did not like. Not funny.

Well, check out the film vault. Thank you, Andersen. I also want to tell you all this that another thing I want to say above is that when you guys were asking about sex tips and a few of these, I have this book, which I don't talk about that often just because I forget. You don't mean? Hot sex. I'll love that book.

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other couples have done it. And you're like, let's try this. And it really does give you two different positions. It's a separate let. It's cool. Sex, you get on Amazon, get on a website. What's the name of that sex book that's kind of like the Bible of sex books? The joy of sex.

The joy of sex. Yeah. That was also one of my really pre-curses into the world of sex is looking through all those Asian art pictures of men and women having sex. Right. Mine's much better. Mine's cool though. Mine's like people.

This is like the modern day joy of sex. Exactly. It's like 13, 15 bucks and I do this. And also one more thing about that. If you do happen to go to a website and buy it, you know it's really cool. If you bookmark my Amazon, I have an Amazon link to there. And if you buy a lot of Amazon like I do, if you bookmark that as your Amazon link, like it won't change anything, but then it helps our show. We've got a couple of percent of whatever you buy, percentage points of your sales and that helps us a lot of

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