Sex With Emily - Trans, Pan & San Fran-Sexual with Venus Lux

Episode Date: May 14, 2016

On this show Emily is joined by award winning porn star, producer and all-around trans trailblazer Venus Lux. Hailing from San Francisco, Venus is a venerable pioneer in the LGBT community. She shares intimate details about coming out, transitioning and staking her claim in the adult industry. From dating to dominating to polyamory and pubic hair, Venus speaks passionately on a range of love and sex topics. Emily even employs her expertise in answering a listener’s email about post-op insecurity. No matter your orientation or gender this show is sure to teach you a lesson or two about the porn industry, gender identity and trans visibility. Listen now! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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We got videos. It's a good time. And we are coming at you live from Gibson's showroom in Beverly Hills, which is awesome. And I'm here with Menace. Hello. Hi. How are you doing? I'm hoping you live from Gibson's showroom in Beverly Hills, which is awesome and I'm here with Menace. Hello. Hi. How are you doing? I'm good.

How are you? I'm good. What have you been doing? I've been moving the last two days. I have so Ken, my vice president, is in town for me Jersey. For meetings, but mostly, I just got a new office. Yeah. And we are moving today, this week.

And it's so we were working, you never went to my last office, the studio. It's a studio. It was 300 square feet in there, six months. And it was, we love each other, thank God, but it was very tight. And so now it's, it's 900 square feet, it's bigger. Nice.

And we're putting it in a apartment. I know, it's bigger than I actually, where I live, so I had to make a choice. Like I always, I made chose the business. I got a nicer office, and I'm living still living in my house, but which is fine, because we're fixing that up as well. So we're setting up a studio in the office,

which you're gonna come help, and it's exciting, but also, so I live in this, my guest cottage, where we had a drunk party, which is fine. But there's just little things in there that don't quite work for me. All right. There's no clubs, it's based,

there's, you know, it's small. So can not only he a great vice president in marketing in my company, but he used to be an architect. So all week long, we would like, Akeia, but I went for four hours on Saturday and I had low blood sugar drop. And I had to hide out and hide underneath

the, where all those, you know, when you first walk into all the boxes and stuff, I kind of had to hide from him just for a second and take a few deep breaths and I was so hungry. I just feel some sweetest sweetest fish. Uh-huh From the bins, you know, yeah, I was like eating sweet because like there was too long of a line and I they sell hot dogs for like a dollar Yeah, that line was too long and I was starving, but it was really fun So I've actually been doing things that are transformative because I've been living into our office to crowd it Yeah, so now I feel like I'm letting go of a lot of stuff and moving on and growing and it feels great.

Love it. It's like gonna function my life. Okay, so that's what I'm doing. And I wanna talk to you about the drunk show. Yes. I love doing that. I'm sure you did. There's no prep.

We did a few shots and people love it. We love it. I'm sure they did. And you know I never listened to the show. And not because I hate it, just because I just, I don't know it's weird, I don't know about a ton of time. But I was like, this is funny. I just, we were very open, raw.

I think we could do that more often. Yeah, I think we can. We should just schedule it out because it only happened because I said, okay, we'll just make a date and we'll do it. It's all about planning. See? How come it's so hard to do this? Because every time, just make a date and we'll do it. It's all about planning. See? How come it's so hard to do that?

Because every time we're like, oh, we should do that, we should do that. And then it never happens. And I've learned over the years trying to get more organized. It's like, all right, set a date, stick to it. That's it. So let's set it like tomorrow date.

I can't do it tomorrow. I can't do that schedule. I'm gonna have to look to see when we're available. Okay. Well, how are you? It was super fun. How are you doing? I'm doing great. I was in Las Vegas. I saw Rihanna who just oozes sex. I know. She was amazing. I feel like I really go see her. She's playing like for a couple of hours. Yeah, she is in Los Angeles and then she's going to San Francisco. She's doing a world tour. So I suggest if you love pop music, Rihanna has a bunch of hits her show is amazing. She just does hit after hit. Did it make you feel like sexy? Did it make me feel sexy? It didn't make me feel sexy

but it was definitely a very sexy show. I would dance, sexy, and sexy. She's definitely sexy because you know who keeps on trying to hang out with her is Leonardo DiCaprio. Oh, and she's like, sorry, I'm out. No, no, I'm sure she's hanging out with them, but she's like, I think that she's your type of late. It doesn't seem like she's like getting locked down anytime soon. Oh, so she's out there having fun. Right, I am not getting locked down anytime many soon, but when out there having fun. Right, I am not getting locked down at time any soon.

But when I do, I'll let you know. Okay, so then, so, and then thing happened to me while I was in Vegas, and I know it's not a sexy thing, but people hit me up all the time, because you know, it's not a new thing to post food on the internet, but. No, you're the first one. But every, so I'm always in Las Vegas.

I'm actually gonna be in Vegas, probably every other week for the next couple months, right? Just doing things, right? So every time in Vegas, or I'm going to Vegas, everyone asked me, men is, where should I go eat? I need its food suggestions, all this stuff, right? Right. Well, okay. So I figured out a way to make an Instagram account that's not gonna take up a bunch of my time for food in Vegas. So I made an Instagram account that people can follow

and just look at if they're interested, if they're going to Vegas and they want to see. Like, cheeseburgers and buffets, right? What do you mean? No, but they are really nice restaurants. Oh my God, there's like crazy five-star restaurants. Like, back in the day there wasn't, like there's like, no, no, no, no, this is like new. Oh my God, there's like crazy five star restaurants. Like back in the day, there wasn't. Like, there's like, no, no, no.

This is like new. So you eat well there. Yeah, or I just find that. I think it's like all of your Instagram photos are like hot dogs and pizza and tacos. Well, I do not look at my Instagram. I'm sure. True.

And sure I was in search. Now you've three Instagram cut your dog. Happy birthday, sure. Yeah, my wife. What's the last? So this one is called Vegas Foodie Guy. And you couldn't have done another minister, Cheryl. You need a third account.

A third account. Yeah, this one just dedicated to food. Vegas Foodie Guy, that's kind. So follow it. Please. I will follow it right now. If I was, if I distracted, though, then the whole show would go down the drain. Vegas Foodie Guy on Instagram.

I don't have time, but I figured out a way to do it where it doesn't take up my time. Okay, that's all about, that's what life is about, being efficient. Yeah, I'm trying to be more efficient. How's it going? It's been, I've been working on it for a couple of years and it's coming together.

I was never a fan of the eye watch, but the eye watch has helped me so much on keeping track on everything because I can just immediately look at my wrist and say, oh, this is what I have going on today. This is what I have to do. I'll be your calendar. In my calendar. You show me that because I think I want one too. I see.

Everyone's like, oh, the Apple Watch, don't get the, it's been very negative. No, dude, I was totally on board with the negative. I'm like, Apple Watch is such a waste of time and piece of shit. You should not buy it. But then I was given one as a gift. And then it has camp my calendar. Can that person give me one as a gift? I don't know, I can check it.

But it's helped me, it's kept me sore organized because like, you could look at your phone and look at your camera. Yeah, but how often do you go through? All day long I look at my calendar on my phone. You do? Well, kinda, I mean yeah. But you could probably miss something. You could probably get calendar on my phone. You do? What kind of I mean yeah kind of but you could probably miss

Something you probably get distracted. Oh, yeah, but you just look at your wrist and boom. It's right there I don't know. It's definitely helped me. Maybe it's not for everybody. But I really don't Been helping me out a lot. That's good. Well, it's good as your face. So you know, that's all the non-sexy news that I've been having for you I just love seeing you and I I'm just thinking, you should see me really happy. I love seeing you too. But what is going on with your life? I know you've been single. I have people on Instagram want to date you.

What's going on? Well, this is what you need to form me, who they are. Okay. Profiles. Are they real people? They're real people. They're direct messaging you. I want to, are they like,

commenting on Instagram like, who do you want them to be? Let's have sex with them. But I think, is it my personal like Oh, that's have sex with Emily But I like is it might isn't my Oh you want okay, so Let's let's just lay it out all right if you are a gentleman that's like hitting up our Instagram accounts Just tell him what you want Emily just lay it out you want a guy You're gonna want to have discussions right you like guys that are writers and they're gonna pay

You're gonna want to have discussions, right? You like guys that are writers and they're gonna pay attention to you. I'm typically like writers, yeah, and I'm gonna pay attention to them, and we're gonna communicate, and you're emotionally evolved. Like, you know what your issues are. You don't have to solve them, because we never really solve our issues in life. You just learn how to deal with them. But you know who you are. You're an adult.

You are passionate about things. Hopefully you don't hate your family or your mother or anything. Guys hate their mothers. Like, I mean, I understand some moms suck, but just, that's just tough. And you know, you're happy and you're, I mean, without, you know, yeah, you're happy person, you're, it'd be nice, and I say, you're feeling in your life that you're passionate about.

And hopefully, you know, you like your work, you're like your life, you could friend, you're, you're established, and I don't, that doesn't mean like money necessarily, but it'd be nice if you like, you know, you have a job. Yeah. And you're fun and open and like sex. And you happen to live in Los Angeles in a five mile radius.

One mile radius. One mile. Let's be honest. I don't drive that far. My office now I can walk to my new office. Oh, that's great. Talk a lot more about it. But so that's what you're looking for.

Yeah. And then to be honest, I've been taking a high, it's interesting. It's like the longest I've had a high a list from dating dating and I think it's good though because it's healthy. I've never gone this like I think it's good to take the hiatus get organized in your life and This is what I'm saying. I like I kind of coasted over the whole what it means to like I've been living in because I've been so busy since I moved here for three years But I've been living in places that aren't quite like our offices way too small like Madras, like they're all on top of you, they don't care. Like they're like cool, they're working.

But I think I want it in my office at home. You know, it's nice, but things are falling off to something and so I'm finally taking time to clear those roadblocks that are like, emotionally have like take a toll and then like everything new is coming in. It's transformational. That's what I mean by that.

And so now I'm ready to, I think, dating's gonna go along with it. And the men are just gonna start falling through the roof. Yeah, like crazy. But definitely, I think that you have to get everything together in your own life before you could be happy in relationships. Yeah, it's true. Yeah, right. And I think for a long time, I did put off that dating, and I was like, I got it. And then I feel like things really have come together in recent years, but now there's just like, and so then I had a relationship and that. And now in feel like things really have come together in recent years, but now there's just like, and so then I had a relationship and that, and now in other ways it's coming together.

So yeah, just evolving. So that's what I would like. And it's also a masturbation month. I know. Which is a really big deal. Oh, it's so fun. I'm more excited for that than Christmas. It's so funny in the office.

Somebody was doing research for the show that I work on. The way he showed that you could listen to and watch some of this on All My Neat Sound. You can download it. It's not about sex. for the show that I work on, the Woody show that you could listen to and listen to. I'm sure this on my needs. I mean, you can download it. It's not about sex, but somebody yelled out in the office, it's a masturbation month. I go, I already know that. I already knew that.

Where were you yesterday? You got to listen to the sex family podcast. So like, you probably are their sex local sex expert on your show. I mean, if there's any, like, if there's any weird awkward news about sex, I probably already heard it from you. Right. Or, or some calls and they might have

a committee. No, you don't have to have that. But if they're like, I can't, they're so. No, no, no, no, but there's definitely things that you help me out with. Like, when people call in and they have a relationship problem, I definitely, you know, probably I learned a lot from this show and maybe how to

approach it in a different way than I would before. And I've learned a lot from you, but I had to talk directly into the mic. Yeah, right. You taught me at time. That I appreciate you. I am doing it. Okay, let's say masturbation, I thought, so how we were doing the contest? Yeah. Because we love contest and we love giving people sex toys and products

So it's about how you self love Everyone masturbates a little bit differently. So if you email me feedback at sex with Emily dot com tell us you know your masturbation routine What do you do that candles you just live on the porn? Yeah, you're bathroom locked the door I don't know. What do you do touch your nipples first?. I want specifics. Guys, what do you do? It ends May 25th of the contest. So, I'll set it in now. We'll choose our favorite submissions to win some pretty great masturbation month prizes. And so, how do you enter the contest? You go to sexfitendling.com. Sex, yeah. We've information on there how to enter, but also just send us your like masturbate. How, what's your routine? How do you masturbate? And this month is important because we're like,

lava, that's funny. Is it an everyday masturbation date? Well, yes, I hope, but this month is about learning your body more to explore, to increase your own knowledge about your body, and then also enhance your own sex life. Cool. I mean, yeah, explain the whole routine

because I listen to Howard Cern. Howard Cern is my all time favorite radio show. Frank's doing. And he always breaks down like how he masturbates like how he grabs tissues and how he has the whole setup. Right. And how he has an iPad and what kind of porn, what type of porn. That's the descriptions that you're kind of looking for, right?

Yeah, exactly. Exactly. Do you watch porn? Like do you make sure your door is locked? Do you watch porn? Do you whip out a toy? Do you just think about past lovers? Right. Women and men think of such like different things. So what do you think about like during set? Like you don't watch porn. So like for example, what do you think about? You probably, what do I think about? Yeah. I'll just think of burgers. Burgers and...

Reeners. You could break down yours anonymously and email us. Okay, I'll do that. Okay. It'll probably be the craziest one you have. It will be crazy. Okay, we're gonna take a quick break and be right back. But now, y'all know me pretty well.

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in our guest because not only she born and raised in San Francisco, her story is really, really interesting. So her name is Venus Luxe and she is a transactual top transactual performers in the Del industry. In addition to being ex-busy awards trans-sexual performer of the year, in both 2014 and 2015, she runs our production company. She produces direct movies, she's launched trans-gobble baggages,

and she's done a lot for the trans-sexual men, women, and she's performer and San Francisco, is a hometown. And I've read a spread about it a couple of times. That's where we're from. Exactly. But I just think it's really interesting. I have a lot that I want to talk about, but she's got a great story and she's so driven

and like she's like 25 years old and beautiful and like taken over the world. So she's here. Hello. Hello VNex. Hi, how you doing? Hi, how you doing? I just combined your name, Venus Lux.

How are you? It's so nice to meet you. It's nice to be here. I'm a little nervous. Why? Oh my God. You're going to need to be here. I'm a little nervous. Oh my god. You're going to need to know about you, actually. What?

Why? Because you're like an icon. And on top of that, you're so educated. And you're a feminist. It's awesome. Oh my god. Thank you. I was talking about how much I admired you.

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No, but I know that, so just reading about your history and reading about how you grew up in the tenderloin district like in the 90s, right? Because you're 25 years. So I'm just thinking about, but I know that I was in the mission. That was awesome. The mission?

The mission? Yeah, the mission was awesome. That was so yapified. Oh yeah, that was crazy. It's all taken. The tenderloin is? Yeah, the mission was awesome. I was so, you up a five. Oh yeah, it's all taken. It's underlorine is the last place and that was a tough neighborhood. The loin right next to the bill gram. Yeah, bill gram.

Ah, bill gram still there, yeah. Bill gram, I'm sorry, I'm thinking a warfield. No, that's some some more. That's venus. Oh, that's venus, I'm sorry. Yeah, okay, I'm sorry. No, no. I'm so tired right now.

Yeah, more history. You feel the more great American music hall. That's'm so tired. Yeah, Marcus. I'm going to America. You the call. One of those. Yeah. Cool. No, but I was thinking about it because your story we grew up. And I was thinking about like come, you know, transition.

We're going to get all the attention. And Sam, just go, I always thought because so I moved there in the early 90s. I worked in politics. I worked for City Councilwoman Carol McDonne and I choose a lesbian like the first lesbian supervisor And so we did a lot for transgender issues and it was the first in 1995 was the first time like they passed legislation They're like right. It was like I so groundbreaking as I forget I Think living in San Francisco that I'm like everyone's just so open to everything I mean, so it's normal that you know and and just there's been a lot of things come out of it

I'm just war like people like I got drugs. I have a problem with drugs. I'm like you you do like just even so and like so you like I think it's all weird because I've lived in California for so freaking long. So I think like I know and I want to hear straight but I think that it might have been easier place to go through what you've had to struggle through but then again different situations and you know obviously different districts too you know totally different districts. So tell me about growing up. Tell me about yourself.

Yeah, growing up in San Francisco is awesome. It's liberating to have a city where they are okay with nudists and okay with queers and okay with urban culture. And so having that openness allowed me to feel okay to really explore my sexuality, explore my identity, and lead on transitioning at 19. Although growing up in a teneline, it's definitely very different.

People would assume like, oh, your in San Francisco, it's so welcoming, but like, some part. But you know, I get it, too. That's our difference. I was like in North Beach. Oh, North Beach is awesome. Yeah. But obviously, it, very conservative out there too. Right.

Absolutely. No, it is more kids. But then, right, that was my lead. I know that it wasn't easy. The tunnel, how did your family take? How did you, when did you first know that you just, when you didn't quite feel like you were? So I was, I basically, I was, I came out queer when I was like 13.

I didn't really, I was very ambiguous. I defaulted myself as gay back then because I always been attracted to men, but I didn't really understand or grasp onto what gender identity is. And it's until later on in life, until 19 when I met another transsexual who kind of guided me and became the mother

to me and they helped me evolve and become who I am today. And because I come from a background of Chinese culture and we don't talk about sex, we don't talk about sexuality, we don't talk about gender identity, we just talk about be a doctor, be a lawyer, marry, have kids, buy your grandparents a house, and retire, you know, and flaunt it. So that's Chinese culture. And so for me, I literally had to discover by myself and drew a lot of do-do diligence and researching what is sexuality, what is your identity, and kind of experimenting. And so, 17, I kind of left home. I didn't really get along with my family because that's such a traditional way of life. And back then,

I was living with my mom and my stepdad and my stepdad's Arab. Oh, guys. Yeah, you did have any experience. Full blown Muslim. Right. You know, reads the Quran, everything, and my mom is traditional Chinese. You know, so weird how they met. But yeah, so having that kind of like rigidness in my family did not allow me to explore

and express myself. So I ran away from home at 17. Where'd you go? I was homeless for a while and later on I found a turn 18 and then I was able to qualify for transitional housing out there. So I was off the streets and I was staying in the government housing for two years and kind of get my stuff together. And that's when you kind of figured out and turned exploring.

Yeah, I had that privilege of this two years and my stuff that just really understand my identity and who I am, what I like, where I wanna go. And I'm very thankful to have that situation happen to me to get to me where I am today. Right. So we're not in a lot of role models, but then at all.

No, there was no Caitlin Jenner. No, exactly. I mean, because I was just thinking about the, because I was looking at, I was like, oh, that was what I was doing, so I was like, no, that that would affected you and the tender line with your Chinese mother. Yeah, I get it, even though it's very, very different.

But thank God, since it's got some non-profits, you know, so it gave me that privilege. Right, so then what did you do? So you started to transition in 19? Yeah. Okay, and then what was your first move from there? So basically I was working under a day about a strip club. Which one? I can't say I don't know

Okay, I don't maybe I can't say this divas. Oh Is that where I went with your friend on the date? No, you went to the Opera, oh, right. Okay, it's like two blocks away. No, you went to the Opharrow Brothers. Oh, right, okay. It was like two blocks away. It was a friend's birthday. And that was our first date. It was fun.

Yeah, kinda. That was like the great shame here. That was actually fun. She loved it. You went to Opharrow Theatre. Yeah. Yeah. He's like, hey, she's got a sex talk show.

She's gonna like this. Yeah, she's down. Yeah, feed me. Great question. My favorite one was Little Darling. What? Little Darling. Oh yeah, I remember this. She's down. Yeah, feed me. Break first. My favorite one was Little Darling. What? Little Darling. Oh yeah, I remember that.

They have that. So you did that base. So, okay, that's what, so that's when it started. Now you're 25. Yeah. So that, really, you haven't been on this track that long, and I've been so impressed that you perform the year to years in a row, AVN.

AVN and X-Fiz. X-Fiz, congratulations. Thank you. It's nice to be able, it's just preserveier and be able to just kind of get that validation, working hard and you having those accomplishments to help a lot. And it just now kind of like gives me a level of like,

okay, what's the next challenge, you know? Right, right. So, okay, so I want to back off for a second because there's still, now there is love, Caitlin Jenner, there's a lot more awareness, but what, I think it still is very like confusing for people. Like, you know, one of the questions that you could ask.

It's more so people ask like, how does Caitlin Jenner affect me? You know, it's a political question because like, okay, where do my, you know, standards or my bias against or with a Caitlin Jenner? For me is, I think she is great in allowing more visibility about this transgender subject, but also mind you, she did not struggle. She keeps money before she transitions. How does therapy, or how does it? You have your family too.

So I'm not gonna judge, as long as you are able to showcase a level of community and kind of camaraderie with those who are trying to support a cause. Awesome. But I also have the question that you could ask to move people. But why so? That is a big issue with Caitlin Jenner saying that, oh, she came from money. What she earned?

Well, she bought her face, too. You know, understanding like one of the biggest hardships, kind of like leads to really making you a real transgender person is like getting discriminated. Right. And imagine like if Caitlin Jenner did not have the surgeries, you know, I'm pretty sure she would get different reactions and she wouldn't know, you know. But I'm just saying like just for people within our own community to like denounce her or whatever is, I don't know, I think it's kind of ridiculous

just because, you know, because if, I mean, if anyone of the people in our community have the same opportunities that Caitlin Jenner had, I'm a billion percent sure they would take them. You know, so just, it just comes off as kind of like jealousy. Right, yeah, but I think you're saying, right, it gets great that it's made a statement. I know what you're saying, but like, why does?

Like, great, if people are going to learn what transgender, if they try to understand what that means and a transgender woman, like, that's great for visibility. But I totally agree. She shouldn't be the overall representation of the community question. But I really met Venus. Is it Venus or Venus like, Mary,

I do do, but people call me Venus too. Yeah, Venus. They do, but it kind ofta? People call me Venus too, yeah. Venus, they do? But can I say Venus? Yeah, Venus, yeah. So, because he's like, Menace. I'm curious, like, the question is you can ask, because I think there is, like, are you attracted to sex with men?

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I covet intimacy because I don't get that everything's all rigid on camera And I saw a covet those that are Are inspiring those who are Ambitious because most of the time I don't even know my scene partner who I'm having So that's important so important. Okay, so tell me about yeah, what kind of porn? Yeah, I got your log into your site because I was like inside a line I'm like no, I want to see what Venus puts out there and Venus Venus Luxe calm. Yeah Yeah, you know Dash Luxe calm

But talk about like the kind of point so you're with you have sex with men women I love trans women men and I kind of you know Everyone's kind of guiding me to like be more bisexual and meaning and that's also inclusive of transgender sexual gender transgender identity also into bisexuality you're about to go into that but I'll could you explain pansexual real quick? Yeah, I'm sure basically non-judge no judgment of a gender

So I could like a trans guy. I could like a trans girl, I could like a cisgender female, a cisgender male. That's kind of what you kind of open to ever. So sort of. I used to say bisexuals had a great kid, but almost like everyone is a girl. Yeah, yeah. Not a psychable fake. That's buffet. Yeah. I don't disagree with my color, gender, age, nothing. But do you think that porn? Because I was reading what I said earlier, you dated men mostly, but it wasn't until porn that you had your first time that you were sexually

with a woman or the first time for it, you was just your first sex, you was with a woman. Or you had to sex experience with a woman. It was on camera. OK, can we talk about that for a moment? It was my first scene ever, too. And there are like, here's a vagina. Yeah, I have a vagina. It looks like. I'm trying to use it. I mean this is what I've been trying to have over 10 years. Like they

still don't get it. So what did you do? I was like, I will first off. They're painting the ass, right? That's happening. In a wrong hole. Oh no, wrong hole. I know, like I didn't know the vagina was so close to the asshole. Right, right. This is bi-alcohol. Sex education is so bad. It's so bad. It's so bad.

It was with a very birth experience, just regular female, cisgender female. And she also had her Libya pierced. And she also had her baby two years ago. And she also has, you know, she has extra lips. I got, she has a larger Libya. Okay. And so I'm like, oh my God, how the China's look like, you know?

And I'm like, okay, now I understand the concept of roast beef. Oh my God. Oh, right. Now you've seen more and they're all little varied. Yeah, and now they're varied. And so many different types. Let me attract you to it. But how did you, because you hadn varied. And so many different types. So we attracted to it.

But how did you, because you hadn't been, so you had to perform, but did you just fake attraction? Did you actually get a tour? I had to like watch porn on my phone just to keep it up and then on top of it was a condom shoot. So I'm like, I had to like take multiple breaks just to be able to get hard enough to be able to penetrate her. And most of it is just kind of like act out the rest, you know, just fake it to you make make it, you know, and yeah, it's just nerve-wracking because I'm like, there's

positioning, there's lighting, there's angles, you know. She's like, go down out of it. The first, I feel like it's dude. I feel like you know what I'm doing. I'm like, oh my god, I have to manhandle her, you know what I'm saying. But this is so unfamiliar territory. Like, is it okay to like choke you? Is it not okay?

Like, I don't know. What is it? I don't think cover that isn't like in the script now you will choke yeah I mean I know something yeah it's one of the best I love King.com I love Peter I mean we parties yeah they're great I mean hopefully they treat you well I think they do I have to get to their parties on Saturdays I need to go so fun I heard about it yeah okay we should go so we go but so was it King.com I got it so you got discovered yeah I got discovered by So you had discovered, right? Yeah, I got discovered by, uh, Mickey Mwada, who was a performer and recruiter at King.com

and, uh, reach out to me, you know, because they, not then they go to Diva is not then. And they scouted me. And then from there, I was like, oh my god, awesome. You know, and of course, I wasn't like, oh yeah, I'm totally gonna do it. I was nervous. But, uh, end up getting to a of like, I needed to replace someone. So they weren't specifically hiring me specifically. They needed a fill in and I was local.

So like, hey, can you come in not in two days and shoot this scene and we'll pay you that amount and I got up there. Do they give you anything? We had a time or like a piece of, like with the script. Just like, hey, you know you're gonna be the woman? Yes. Okay, but they didn't show you her layman before.

No, no, no. Yeah, and top that. I should get a head shot. Yeah, I'm. Okay, but they didn't show you her lady before. No, I know. Yeah, and talk about it. She should get a head shot. Yeah, I'm not a shot. I didn't even want to Google her. I like kind of wanting to keep it as a surprise. And I thought it was just almost like scripted. I thought it was also scripted, you know?

Right, I was not. It was all improv. Okay. It gave me like a theme. Like, hey, so the theme is she spies on you. You're in a shower. You know, you get kind of in a row, it's by it, and then you initiate the sex part with her,

and then go with it. I'm like, okay. Okay, so you are, so you take, start taking hormones at 19? Yes. Okay, so did that tradition, but you still, and you have breast implants. Yes.

And you have your penis. Yes. Still, okay. I'm off hormones right now though, more so because the hormones affect the functionality of your chest, yeah. So what do you do with that? I'll say, effort and I am off hormones

for the past four years and I'm versatile and I don't like to get hindered by my hormones. So I like to either top or bottom. Okay. And I like to flip a coin and just now know, we'll see who tops who. So you truly are then really now after that, you are a track, because you weren't that, but I can grow out, you can kind of...

And it's just isolated, upraising, and that my culture being Chinese. So now that kind of through point, I was able to, I'd learn more about myself and explore. So here I am, and I'm just like this chameleon. So if you're off hormones, I'm just curious how that affects you. I'm saying, I'm more saying, I'm less. Welcome to our world, right?

I don't have that. I feel like moody-ness. I haven't known that, but it's not like a long cycle for like seven days, you know what I mean? Yeah, I know what you mean. Or like longer than that, they say seven days, but, so I feel like I spend like a quarter of my life PMSing, which you kind of do. It's like a week.

So like a, so that's like one week a month. Yeah. One week, yeah. So have an, you know, I mean, that's, that's suffering. Yeah, I know. Okay, so, so, okay, so now you are, okay, so I wanted to, okay, so now you've been doing, now you've won these awards in part, what do you think, what do you attribute to your success?

Like what makes the best transactional porn star? I think it's all about work ethic and just personality and really keeping a level of humility. And every job you take, you always want to maintain a level of respect and dignity and even though as non-dignifying point can be, you know, you always want to maintain a level of respect and dignity, even though as non-dignifying point can be, you know, you always want to maintain a level of humility because everywhere you go, you know, you are leaving an impression. And I think that's how it's always been my philosophy

and motto. And life is just be able to persevere and just make sure you stay optimistic and stress positivity. and from there, things will come your way. I think it's worked for me successfully and also maintain a level of business acumen. What's professional? What's not professional? What about with port? So the scenes that you're doing now? You're directing more of your own stuff.

I'm rather pretty sure. I'm writing. A lot of it is with, give me your favorite one, Leaf Shot lately. Recently I directed and performed in a scene with another transsexual and it was the first real transsexual interaction trans woman. Trans woman. Yeah, that actually really liked.

Like liked like like you actually turned on for real? Yeah, because I have to watch porn on your phone in the bathroom. Okay. Most of the girls I usually encounter with trans girls are heterosexual and so they want men and they want a men to dominate them. And so for me, I never been with another bisexual or a pansexual or a transsexual woman. See, this is where it gets confusing. I thought it's not the same for every transsexual woman.

They're not always what I demand. Sexuality is very different from what you're doing. Exactly. And I think that's what's really confusing people. So, and your story is not your role. But what you're saying is that most trans women that you've been with just want to be with men. Yeah.

And they're heterosexual. And then, restative with this experience, I was able to be with a pansexual or open to transsexual women. And it was a lesbian or trans lesbian scene. What? See? And it was intense. And it got to a point where we scene. See? It was intense. And it got to a point where we get to have sex with each other and she taught me, I topped her.

And then it ended up, I just doming the hell out of her and choking her and spitting on her. It was hot. It was aggressive but intimate and sensual at the same time. There was a lot of body caressing kissing, and culling. So is it like, could this be a relationship? Yeah, sexual. No, the person actually is open to,

is in a poly situation. Okay. So she is very, she was a cisgender female, but when it comes to interment relations, they're open. Okay, so that could still be like a, yeah, I'm open to it, but I'm more of a primary person. I'm not a secondary. Okay.

Got it. No, you know too much about polyamory. Yeah, I do. I do know about my like, but you have a primary partner. Yeah. I'm more of a primary. I cannot. I'm too much to handle. Right. No, I know. I would need all the the primaryness. The primary is the primary one is. Um, but so now tell me what you have learned about being with women after that for like what about pleasing women It's it's a tip I don't know what your sexuality is, but can you relate where I was like with women? It's not many there But with women it's a different emotion and you're it's a different High or a different climax because you're with a person who kind of gives you empathy and understanding, not sympathy, but empathy, like understanding how it feels,

how it hurts or what position is awkward. And on top of that, you have a little bit more of a mutual understanding. So coming in, you're both kind of evolved and knowing what to expect versus when you come to a very heterosexual situation, which I'm not against at all, it's just almost like negative and positive trying to meet together all the time versus like a positive and a negative negative. What are being straight men? Does that? It's awkward sometimes because I am such a control freak. I'm in my own business, I'm a dom, I'm a

transsexual, so it's just like double whammy, triple whammy's on a heterosexual guy who's like trying to explore a sexual eye with a transsexual woman. It gets to a point like it's just too much of a handful and I have no patience at all to guide them. So for me, it's always in a situation where I always get submissive men. Right.

Yeah, I never had that submissive men. I've had men who've warned me. So no, I'm most people. Yeah. No, I am down in the bedroom. I'm very I'm most submissive in the bedroom. But I have had men. I mean, I have all the equipment in my house. I'm just cleaning my house. No, but I am more submissive. I mean, I have been with women, but I'm with men. And yeah, I wouldn't even know how to, I don't know, but then I wonder, I would know. I would know.

Oh, I've had three Sims, but oh no, yes. I've done all that. Check, check. But I'm not particularly dumb. I can, you know, be the aggressor, but I'm not like, I don't know if I've written, like, been the dumb, and it was a semester, but if a man's really wants,

I've been with guys who like, want that, and I've experienced it, but it just doesn't really turn me on. That's why I was just choked yourself. What? You're rather get choked yourself. Yeah, choked me. I don't want to choked right exactly. Just choked me instead of me sign. But yeah, so that's interesting because I'm also wondering if there's ever this because you say it's difficult. I'm sure it is, you can't go to like a match.com. Yeah, dating is very difficult for me and more so it's just like my demeanor and my business

acumen and also my priorities and on top of that what is appropriate just because I am a porn star does not give you automatic you know invitation to ask me all the questions about porn, how my sex life is like, how do I date other guys, you know why don't you just treat me as a human and then ask me hey how's your day? What are you up to? Do you wanna grab coffee versus like, oh my God, you're a porn star. What do you do?

How do you work out? Do you fuck it? You know, and get paid. You're right, exactly. Well, I think Emily gets the same thing. I do too, know all the time. I totally make assumptions. Like, you're like, oh, all these guys

and Instagram are dating. I'm like, oh great, you're like, your hot, let's bone. I mean, like, are you qualifying these people? Again, so my first name is like sex. You know, it's different for Zona, too. Absolutely. But I prefer about meeting because it's like, you don't, you do not, I'm not actually

seeing that you're trans woman. So what happens with, like, when do you bring that up? Oh, off the bat. Like, right, you're like, hey, PS, what do you say? Like, hey, I'm trans, and if you don't understand a trans, I mean, I have a penis and if you don't want to learn more, Google. Right, you say it, exactly. I don't have time to explain anything because I, as a transsexual, I feel like, I don't

know why, but I always keep finding myself educating people all the time. Yeah. When is trans? What is that? I'm sure that can be just sexual? That's your, every single day, relic that you're talking about. Every single day. And I don't mind ignorance.

You know, I don't mind educating his magic. Like sometimes I just want it in moderation. Yeah, I got me a time thing when I'm like, oh yeah, I run this podcast. I do this all the time. No, because it's such a thing. I'll go to parties and be like, don't, I just said I'm a producer. Like I don't want to have what I do. Because it's such a thing. I'll go to parties and I just say, I'm a producer, I don't want to have a word of a deal.

Because it's such a thing, the whole room, the dentist next to me does not want to talk about being dentist. But sometimes it doesn't make it easier when you're having a deep conversation that someone knows your background already. Yeah, it does, yeah, that's true. But like, yes, it does. You want to explain the whole story like,

so I do this podcast for this long, how many years? I was exactly, I was out of the guide, he's like, we're telling me, I'm like, can you just Google it? And then we'll talk about it. The next date, I was out with a guy recently. It was a one day. Yeah, it's funny because I talked to my buddy who is gay

and I asked him, I'm like, is there not one day of your life that you don't have to have a discussion about how you're gay? Well, that's a question, does he? Yeah, I'm not too a girl. No, everything, everything. But then on the other hand, I do have another, my boss, she's gay, and he loves talking about being gay. Like, everything is all about somehow

he turns around about how he's gay, like every conversation, like this guy is blue. Oh yeah, by the way, you know. By the way, I'm gay. But it's funny, because so like, I also do a morning radio show and so these topics come up and it's funny though because like when we try to have these, so since we've done this podcast you've said I am trans, right? But then we try to have conversations about that that comes up in the news and then there's

some people text in and freak out like, no, that's not the label that I use. I know, we get upset. Why, there's so many people freak out about different, like, don't call me trans. No, I, yeah, I've done that too. I'm, I'm fourth level blah, blah, blah, you know? Like, what is going on? Like, how can we have a, like, a conversation

about this without offending people in some ways. So completely it's a political about it and I can understand that but also this one understand. Crazy PC. Yeah, we're just trying to have a conversation. I said transgendered once on the show because in the 90s that's what I worked on and that's what it was called that was like the political thing and they're like oh my god I can't understand it.

I'm not like in salty like I'm sorry. Like I said, you know, I think it's because transgender is just so big almost It is I can't see LGBTQ I don't know if it became LGBT and I'm I I'm Thing and it was like a two point oh

I'm with you and with you and I didn't know I'm like look I'm trying to support you when it comes to like North Carolina and all this That's what then you're like Crazy blow me up saying that I'm insane. I know. That's a story with the community. It's just like there's so much classes on. I know.

Like for some people like, oh, don't call me transgender. I'm transsexual. Right. You know, transsexual means actually you have the surgery and augmentation versus transgender. You're just identifying it. Exactly. Going through the whole entire problem.

I'm like, okay, if you identify as a woman, can I just call you a woman? Yeah. Why do I need it? Why do I have the bathroom debate? Like someone's gonna say, you're a woman, now where you got a peanut, you can't go in the back. Who cares?

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Hit me. But I want to know how it has changed since we're talking about there is so much more awareness now of these issues. Like, how do you think that porn has changed in your community? I feel like porn in your generation, you know, it was like booming, you know, it was evolving and so much money, you know, now coming in and it's been four years four years for me So I came in 2012, you know after the dot com boom in the way, you know everything just went downhill, right? And so basically a transgender pornography was also making a lot of money before 2008 and then at the dot com boom

Because we're in the industry is so small ready It just became really smaller more even smaller. I think there's more of interest now I feel like if there's more well in the production side of the production side right That's why you started your own business. I'm just the man is there is just supplying people don't know how to do it properly And regarding to humanizing Transsexuals and also really categorizing the sub genre's like hey, there is a genreizing transsexuals and also really categorizing the sub-john rise. Like, hey, there is a genre for transsexual women with transsexual women, transsexual women with men. And then transsexual women with the cisgender women, you know?

And you do all that, by the way, right? I do all that, okay. And then there's also there, it's throwing a sexuality or the complexities of whose dorm who's sub, you know? And it's so cool. I'm exhausted, it's throwing a sexuality or the complexities of whose dorm who sub you know and it's it's so I'm exhausted. It's like every spot missionary you just like have sex turn Netflix makes it so easy and just cut it off the word. You know, right? It is complicated.

If Warren can sell like that awesome you know just sell oh my god I don't want to make millions of dollars. I'm telling for you know. I mean I do have you really good at it. I'm good. But what would you say is your main fan base? make millions of dollars in the coming fall, you know what I mean? I mean, I do. I'm really good at it. I'm really good at it. But who would you say is your main fan base? My demographic is still predominantly men more.

So I've kind of capitalized on a niche that hasn't really expanded, which domination or just dom women. And because most, because the hormones cause are a libated to go down and also kind of prevents the penis from getting fully erect that most girls, you know, end up conforming to becoming bottoms. And so it's just kind of the catch when I crash 22, some girls, depending on their genetics, they can still

function some they some can't. And so for me, that's why I kind of opted out to be able to be off hormones because hormones doesn't dictate me as being trans and are not. It's just what identify. So for me, I was like, I love the functionality of my penis. And I just focus on that. And that's why I feel like that market has grown and helped,

I help grow that market and supplying being a performer and supplying that content by shooting with women men, but as a DOM. Right. Oh right. That is a niche. And especially it becomes a kind of a platform that when it comes to transactuals, we're like the next evolution of lesbian pornography and also a paking porn. So paking with, yeah women with strap-offs, but then like if a guy doesn't want the toy, it wants to be all a thing, they go to a transactional. Yeah. Or if like, yeah, they're like pegging is the gateway. Yeah, the gateway.

They're going on a transactional, right? Menace? I guess, yeah. So you have. But they brought it up. It's funny pegging on Broad City. Yeah. That's a great episode.

Mm-hmm. People have Hulu, Dessert, yeah. Broad City. I don't know. He's like, is everywhere. Like, it's really it. Yeah. More so., he's everywhere. Like it's really more so. So I feel like transsexuals are becoming more universal and it's almost like the medium platform

to introducing into fetish life or into something that's different. Like I nowadays my family is also comes from a lot of couples. So transsexuals, these heterosexual couples. heterosexual couples, yeah. So odd, you know, I would never fathom having a fan base, you know, with couples and They watch my porn together and they fantasize on having a transsexual 3-son because a female is an intimately Female is an intimately bi-transsexual and then the guy is an ad doesn't feel too gay because it's a

transactual. It looks like a woman to have a woman. There's a penis. The woman. That's brilliant. That makes so much sense. Yeah, so it's evolving, but I think it's pretty I get it. Yeah, so at the porn industry itself is still run by men. So they had this kind of narrow mind and mind, so like how porn should be made. And so that's why the genres don't really evolve. So that's why I kind of opted in to become a feminist producer, director, and just advocating for subgenre and different sexualities and different niches and fetishes. And that's why I came up with a new website

I'm launching next month called TS fetishes. TS fetishes. TS fetishes. T.S. fetishes. T.S. fetishes. T.S. fetishes. Taking it away, the fetishization of transsexuals and just putting it into niches underneath a transsexual category, which is, you know, smoking, foot worship, domination, bondage, you know, these tiny, air facets that are fetishes that are just tied in with transsexual. Do you have a fetish? I love body hair with men, with women. I like, I don't know. I don't know how the women, yeah. I'm still a sport with women.

Still a sport with women. Right, it takes like a lifetime. I'm very picky because I like runats. I like natural tits, natural ass, minimal tattoos. And, you know, it's something that's nice and clean and puffy and no pubes, you know? Right, no pubes, no pubes, you know, I know pubes What is the trend with pubic are people always ask me that I know that I got a memo

What is back? I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, no Small group people trying to make it come back The landing stars and nothing The landing star was fine, but it's easier to take it along. Yeah, yeah, so guys I don't mind because I my sexuality, you know, I like masculinity and femininity. So with a man, I wanna feel a man, and with a woman, I wanna feel a woman.

Right, but you gotta do it all. So do you think you could see yourself in a traditional relationship or just? I'm open to a mono situation, but down online, I feel like a poly would be the best situation for me, but it's just so complex. Can you get it everything? Right, so I see it's hard to find a vol. me, but it's just so complex. I mean, if I don't do all, I see it's hard to find a ball.

You gotta educate that. It's so hard. No, but you're right. I mean, that's what I've been, it's just something that just rather hang out with my medicine stuff and you and Madison. Yeah.

Yeah. But what can you say? No, I'm agreeing. Other questions I have, I was curious like, so I was reading what your early porn scenes that when you're doing porn now now and now you're in trouble for time very impressed that you become such a mogul and such short time like you won these two what you do porn for four years you've been a sucks entertainment I'm

really impressed by your website that helps trans um trans global yeah that's really trans global magazine yes I've taken sabbatical from it as a little out data right now. But it was impressive. It was like, how do you change your name? If you were like, you know, how do you wear makeup? You just think of very interesting site at that lifestyle for trans women.

And I thought that was such a great service. I like it because there is no platform. There is no education or regard. And there's nothing like that in a judicial system that makes it a requirement to learn about sexuality and geneticity and also what details and tell it. And when it comes to college, it's an elective. So for me, I wanted to create this platform for those who

are young who are learning about transitioning and trying to understand what it takes to be actually transition. So I kind of created this as a hub. And it was more a test and seeing how the public will perceive it and how my fanbase were perceived. So I took a spatic hole and now this year's goal is to transform transglomer magazine into more of a digestible guidebook that comes out quarterly and I'll hopefully be able to pitch it out to like hospitals

and schools. There's just to be with a lot of students more education. On social media, now that the millennials are all about Snapchat, Twitter and Facebook Instagram, but how often would they encounter something that's educational, or why are you transgender? I mean obviously because you had to learn on your own, I think it's great that you're also educating so many young people. But the other question for you was, so when you had your first scene, you weren't really attracted to women. I'm wondering now when you do porn, are you most like, what are you? Are you a turn on?

I am turn on, but it's all about personality for me. If I connect with you, then anything can go. Like I mean, what I need to connect on is intellectuality, how humble you are, how compassionate you are. You know, I do have your shit together or not. You know, if you're going to be doing a lot of drugs, I'm like, oh, that's a little bit of a turn off. If you keep talking about your snake all the time, like that's not really snake or like

penis or like a real snake, like actual snake. Oh, yeah, snakes for a living. I'm like, okay, that's only applied. I'm trying to get a wood in here. You know, like that's huge turn off. Right. So, I'm just gonna connect intimately and like someone who likes to kiss, who's into it.

And I think it's, I haven't had many good experiences. Sometimes with women who are kind of just fake it to their make it, you know, it has a situation. They're open to the idea of transsexuals, but they're not really into it. I feel like someone has just a paying job for them. Right. So, I need to get less of that and more like real lesbians.

They're really just interested in just, you know, getting fucked by my strap on that attached. Exactly. The attached strap will fall off. It's not confusing. Yeah. Right. It's very realistic.

It's going to be hard enough. It's not a fact to it. Exactly. You can move it in the right direction. It's crazy when, so I used to do a morning show in San Francisco called the Dog House. And they're actually, they're still in the air in San Francisco, so you can Google them.

It's a great show. And then there was a morning show, and we would actually have a trans woman come in, quite often named Vanity. Oh, Vanity, I didn't get that idea. And it was funny because then she would come out with us and party and stuff like that. She's a firecracker.

Yeah, and, but it's funny because all the straight guys, after a couple of drinks, they'd like, they did not care. No, they knew. They knew. They knew. They just did not care, like, guys, guys that, you know, claim that they're, I'm headrolls sexual blah blah blah. Yeah.

Dude they were making our vanity like after a couple of drinks. It was crazy. It was that see okay right. Because like if it I mean at the time I don't know I haven't seen her recently at the time you cannot tell that she used to be a man. She's still she's still has a penis. Yeah. She's still transactual or you know when the father like she used to be a woman. She's still has a penis. She's still a transsexual. Or, you know, when I'm fat, I'm like,

she used to be a man. And I still get that too now and then with guys, the thing is, I always get the curious guys. You know, one more. I think I feel like I always end up becoming a conduit to someone's fantasies. Right. And that's when I'm talking about it comes to the

fantasization of transsexuals. It's like, the had these fans say, I want to get fucked by a transsexual or, you know, um, but you don't want to be that part. No, you don't want to. You don't want to be that. You're like, no, I don't want to be that. I don't, I don't, I don't mind guiding you, but I don't want you to approach me in that manner. Yeah, expecting that. I would like to get to know me first. And then I can maybe work with you and help you open

those doors on my own prerogative. now but not just because you're trying to live out yeah right I totally get it so that's I just it's similar but not like with even like I get it when guys want to date me they're like oh well what kind of toys do you have what's good on your hands because I've always talked about I'm like I you're gonna like be crazy and bad you're in and I think that they just want to see because of what I do yeah this is why you know there's a term in with transsexual women used called tranny chasers.

Right. The guys who specifically love trannies, or that's a drug trade term, but trancexuals. I can't say tranny. Yeah. It's only transsexuals, I'm gonna say that, I guess. But they call them tranny chasers. And basically, our guys who are very tractate

transsexuals. And for me, I, I love them. Because there are the people who understand me the most, who anticipate the most, and know what to expect. And they're not looking for a fantasy because they're ready for fielded. You know, so I love- Also, they've already been with other trans-withins.

So it's not like you're the one teaching them, right? Okay. Exactly. So it makes it easier by the same time. Like, I don't want to deal with the situations. Like, I don't want to come out about it. You should know how to come out. My penis is in my hands.

I walk about naked. What is that to disclose? I'm a woman. And what happens in the bedroom does not dictate how we behave. Exactly. So most people don't assume that this ain't no senior porn. Like, I'm never, I mean, even. Believe me, there's many times I've messed

around with a lot of male talent industry, and they just don't want to be out about it. It's a lot of people I care about. No doubt about it. As a matter of time when people are willing to be go public about it, and less stigma, less discrimination, you know. I think you're doing a good work here. Oh, another discussion. Starting to go all the way back to, I know you're I know you're probably extremely talk-hardy tired of talking about Caitlin Jenner

There's one thing that was funny because we Migrable friends and also how it's turned bright up recently. It's like okay like now the show is kind of boring Yeah, because the people I'm talking about all the issues like Transwomen are actually pretty fun. Yeah, like show the fun parts, you know, like now you're constantly just talking about issues, issues, issues. It's like like trans women can party and have fun. Like can you show that part? Yeah. So it can be like bro because like mind you we used to be You know talking about Like hey, you know, you know you know you're gonna jerk off you jerk off I got it when that benefits of being a transactual woman is like hey, you know you have your man needs

Address them you know go to bar drink with the dudes go do it now I'm not gonna be like a clean girl like oh what's going on? You know of course you know sometimes everyone hormones out, you know There would be like the jealousy aspect and security. That's what it is. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. The point I'm trying to make is like, yeah, we're discussing that now because of the podcast, trying to educate people too. But like, I think like, when you do hang out with a trans woman, don't think that's going to consume your life. That's all you're gonna talk about. Right, each is on too. It's gonna be on the phone with that.

I'm gonna talk about that. I'm gonna talk about that. Yeah, if they want to either party a lot, they wanna, you know, they love sags or whatever, you know, each is out. And I think it's just really just making sure coming in with an open mind and not assuming and not following the clichés of what stereotypical

transactuals are, you know. Yeah. So, yeah, it's. I transactuals are, you know. Yeah. So, yeah. It's... I'm gonna segue into masturbation, mom. Yeah. Because it's mad. And it's a masturbation with it.

I'm wondering about... So, how often do you masturbate? I masturbate about once a day. Once a day. Okay. And do you... Do you watch porn? Are you over porn?

I do watch porn by watching amateur porn, because I produce porn, you know? I know how... that's not an angle That leg is so inappropriate in a Yeah, exactly so amateur just kind of gets me off but and day no it comes to Personal sex life, you know, I'm very picky like I just cannot if you're smaller than me And like you're not fucking me. I'm sorry. But, you know, but- Oh, like they're penis-a-smart than you.

Yeah. So, like- How sweet. You've been nice penis. Oh, nice. You do, though, I watch that report, not really. Emily, this is so flattering. No, you shouldn't see. I was like texting me. I'm like, wait, could I have your log into your site? I'm like, wait, you're log in.

I gotta see it all. I don't wanna see what's on. You can regret saying that. I'm not giving a fast. I'm like, it's temporary. No, you do, but I could see that, but you don't know until you're in a room with someone to measure up.

Yeah, true. But I guess the gay cune deals with it all the time. Yeah, that's all about size queens, right? Right. I'm not really a size queen, it's just more. I said one who's about my size or bigger, if you wanna talk me, and if you bottom, I just wanna make sure that you are prepared for it.

You're not like, oh, you know, like you don't know you're the anima. Like, you know, like, uh. Does that happen? I'm sure. I don't have that. I'm like, oh, you're just a ringer. I'm like, did you use the anima?

I'm like, no, what is that? I'm like, do you mean you're like, how is your like, just to? Yeah, yeah, I do. Usually I just do, I kind of structuralize everything. Like, but you're really organized. I'm really organized. I'm not going to be in a lot of time. I'm not going to be in a lot of cities.

I'm going to be in trouble. Yeah, I'm like a hamlet. They just hand on over or what? I like, you always want to check this. Like, did you do the shower? Did you do the shower? Did you do the shower? Yeah, I have that.

And so I masturbate most of the time because the fact I'm just so picky, I just can't hook up with a random person off the street. I like to have sex with industry people because I know they're tested, we're safe, we're having fun, and we can get kinky as possible and not feel regret, you know. Like how can you give, we're just kinky like, the gorgi, like just like, a couple, like a last a last man that they had a wargy I'm like, oh, that was awesome. I mean that you're like a fun or that hotel. It was after award ceremony Exposure the Tia Tia Wars trend there a radical a fun. You're all there. Those held it I was invited to those. Yeah, it's no sex awards. It's a smaller one. I want to go next year

Yeah, you should go So many transactional yeah, that is really it seems like you're doing a really impressive, you got your Venus-Lux.com, your production company, Venusux Entertainment, and Venus Box. That's your latest. Yeah, latest. Yeah, just a little idea. I have to be able to interact with my fans because it's just be able to entice my fans to want to explore something more kinkier. And kind of creates something like that. It was just an off kind of.

OK, because I thought you weren't talking about it. I didn't know if you weren't talking about it. OK, I forgot. I didn't know what else you wanted to. The promote was definitely TS fetishes. Oh, TS fetishes.com. OK, guys. Focusing on that and also this year's project,

because I've kind of plateaued I have all my Performing years I know you want to for about 25. She's one like yeah, what now? I'm right here. Retire what I'm working on that so I'm working on my retirement plan so I'm bad over to stay in it for another four years or so and get my Hall of Fame but then this year I'm focusing on more management so I'll be this year managing more girls and taking them underneath my arms and being able to just guide them the preliminaries and the processes, the politics, the aesthetics of the industry and really have kind of like a guidebook of what a texted be able to be successful in this industry.

For Eddie, for trans women, trans women. And mainly trans. This really is no guide, but I could see that getting, it's already a tough industry. Yeah, I can see if you come into this trans woman even being taken advantage of more. And it's small.

And so because it's a man's world, I, you know, and it's always the man with the most money in the, who dictates everything, that I want to advocate for feminism and for independent women to be able to take care of their own brands and kind of watch each other's back because I don't, you know, sometimes it's politics that affect us and also some of them that are demean us, you know, as transactuals, we always get, you know, backlash, you know, sometimes because people want to hook up with us but but don't not approach it properly. And also what's appropriate, what's not appropriate too. And so that's why I wanna protect some of these girls.

And the future, that hey, just because this director shooting you, it doesn't mean you have to go to set that person's dead. Right, you know what I mean? Right, well that's always, yeah. Yeah, in the beginning of time, there's been casting couch, right? Yeah, yeah.

Yeah, that's what happens. But now it's just a lot of that. Sorry, that was all done. And guys milk it, and I don't like that. It doesn't protect the girls and girls. No, good for you. I'm glad I knew you were home just a lot of that. Sorry, a lot of that. And guys milk it. And I don't like that. It doesn't protect the girls. No, good for you. I'm glad you've a house. You help women.

Yes. And I have a model house. And basically, there are girls who are traveling on their way to L.A. to work. And basically, they're just a temporary home for they can feel safe and not be touched by men or get involved with drugs or get involved into aspects that hinder their

career. So that's when I'm focused on this year and I'll be branding it under a new company I'm launching called Siren Network and it'll be brand management and managing girls' sites and their careers in this industry and getting established and sustaining a level of expansion in the Transsexuals genre. So you're doing really, I'm really impressed. So and also the Transgo magazine will be converted into a non-profit this year. So it's an award. Advocating for a workforce placement

for a Transsexuals who want to get out of sex work and just be able to find out. Right because really how do you find how these because you win in this route and you see like you did out. Right, because really how do you find happiness? Yeah. Because you win in this route and you see, like, you did it. But what next? Right, exactly.

Exactly. I got it. Do we have time for, do you want to want to email? Do you want to have, like, what an answer an email? Oh, wow. For our listeners, that'd be awesome. Thank you for emailing us feedback at sexwithmla.com. We love hearing from you.

And we love when you include your name, where you live, how old you are, and how you live. So we can stalk you. Yeah, exactly. Your address. No, just a security number. It's interesting to find out like how they listen to the show because there's so many different ways. There's sex at Emily dot com. There's iTunes. There's Stitcher. There's podcast one. There's a lot of different ways. So what you do. And also as long as I'm here, I forgot I was so excited at the beginning. I wanted to say follow me on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter and Snapchat at sex with Emily Facebook.com Sasha sex with Emily.

It's all cohesive. It's all at sex. That's really easy. And okay, so hey Emily, love the show. I'm writing in from Quebec, Canada. I'm 19 years old. I'm a fully passing male to female post op trans girl and I feel like it's a sexual inadequacy due to my situation. I find that most people are not friendly to the thought of dating people. Like me, how do you suggest I approach my insecurity? Nicholas, I just thought, we've talked a lot about this,

but I was thinking maybe you could ask. So she's a post op transsexual who's 19 years old. Yeah, I feel like that's one of the new raves nowadays. What is, explain this to me. We have to be right. We have to be a new raves now. What is explain this to me, right? We're able to fee right. We able to be a post op. So had the operation. Yes. Right. And because I don't know how it's like in Quebec, but obviously

now, you know, government covers, uh, uh, SRS or sex reassignment surgery or in the United States. Right. Yes. And so dating is very tough. I've couple of my friends actually just got their post-op surgeries too and they assumed that life would change. And assuming that people were receiving differently because of the genitalia, I told them like, the genitalia does not dictate who you are, you are still female with or without your penis. You walk in a street wearing pants, you don't show your genitalia. And then yes, dating is different, you know, and I have some girls who lie don't Disclose that they weren't born a female and I have some horror transparent about it

And at a day is figure out finding someone who is gonna accept you for who you are for your personality not by your genitalia and That is kind of your success for happiness and associate with people who are, who know and are positive and can be allies. And even, I feel like you need to be transparent about it, even though it's a vagina now. Right. You know, you had to disclose that, hey, you, it's not a functional vagina,

there's no uterus. So, right, there's no uterus, but is there, what is sensations? It can get, it's actually prone for infection. You have to understand that like if you were to do a cream pie, you actually had to manually clean it out because you cannot piss it out really because the track is different. Right, you can't get right. Tricky.

It already is difficult. Of a vagina actually, it kind of helps sterilize everything by itself. Right. You know, when it comes to a wound, you had to take it on top of that, you can't get pregnant. So you don't want to deceive a guy who has long legs and cannot feel his runny. So yeah, always have to be transparent. So, to 19 years old, just associate yourself with support groups and other, you know, community members that can advocate. And dating just, you know, make sure you be

as present as you are and just live your life be happy and always disclose that, you know, be honest. I think that's really helpful. Thank you. I appreciate that. Okay, I've got five questions for you. We ask for your guest. That's it, just try.

He's a wrap for 10 more. And then 10 more after. Then 20 after that. Just one question. Okay, quick. Just cover comes rapid. And then find more after. Then 20 after that. Just find more. Okay. Quick. Just cover comes mine.

Which your biggest turn on? Biggest turn on. Uh, the brain. Biggest turn off. Uh, smells. Bad smells. Oder bio. Craziest place you've gotten busy.

Uh, um, oh, that's so hard. Because they're all crazy. Yeah, beach, movie theater, mom's bed. Awesome. Sexies were to you. Uh, that's hard. Sexiest word, sensual. What's the one thing you wish you could tell a future partner about your sexual needs? Evolved.

Got it. That's good. Thank you so much. I appreciate it. You're awesome. How can so people can find you, I'll be on the website, but what's your biggest thing you want to Twitter and Instagram at Venus Lux and Facebook, the real Venuslux, or TS Venuslux, either or one of those. And check out my website, Venus-lux.com.

And yes, stay tuned to my Twitter and then for updates on regards to launching my new website, TSvdishes.com next week. And also, be prepared for a new company. That would be- My God, have you time to take sex and duration? No, I'm not. The porn and the companies and the wow. Oh, like they be a busy bee.

So they find out all this fight. Well, congratulations on your success. Now we're stocking now. And thank you for- You what? We're stocking now. You told us stock me. You didn't stock me yet?

No, we're stocking to- We're like an awesome creeper, but you're positive. You're educated. You're fun. Thanks. I tried to have a good time. And you're pretty too. Oh, that's. I didn't think she would be pretty.

But thank you. Hi, sure. It's a little bit more about me. No. Okay, we're in a wrap. Thank you so much for your stalks. Thank you coming in. Thank you.

Thank you, everybody. Thank you, Madison and thank you, Laurie and thank you, Jamie you for coming with us. Thank you, everybody. Thank you, Madison, and thank you, Laurie, and thank you, Jamie, and my home amazing team. Love you all. Thanks for the book. Can I say one thing? Yeah. It was so, of course you can.

Now, it was so awesome, the last podcast that I, that I was on, I mentioned, it was my dog's birthday, Chiro, right? And I said, follow my dog, Chiro. And I go, it would be a fun experiment to see how many people listen all the way to the end of the podcast to say, hey, follow my dog on Instagram, right?

So many people commented on her Instagram page and said, I've listened to the end of the show. So that's great. So thank you. So if you go to a list, so should we talk what's really important right now? Oh, there's so much to do. No, I love that.

And I didn't have it worth it at your all. Yeah, my baby. She had so much fun. We got her a cake. Oh. There's a dog bakery. I know. I can't even believe you've come.

It's crazy. I'm a child. I'm sure there's something. Okay, I brought her a cake when I ate it because it was a people cake. It's cool. Okay, everyone, thank you, guys. Thanks everyone for listening. Was it good for you?

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