Sex With Emily - Two Is Company, Threesome's a Fantasy

Episode Date: September 12, 2015

This week, Emily is joined by guest co-host Lynette Carolla from the For Crying Out Loud podcast. Together, the dynamic duo ponder some of the most popular yet puzzling sexual predicaments and dive into a veritable variety of sex topics, including sex toys, g-spots, the best oral sex methods, and the appeal of threesomes! It might be one of the most popular fantasies, but can your twosome handles the addition of a third? Emily shares some helpful hints to quench your threeway thirst.  Also discussed: How to handle mismatched libidos in an otherwise untroubled relationship, how to make your way INTO the friend zone (when everyone else is struggling to get out!), plus some much-needed tips on lube logistics.Whether you’re looking for the perfect toy, the perfect blowjob, or would like to be the perfect partner, this show has something for everyone, so don’t miss it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Today I have special guest co-host Lynette Carola from the Crying Out Loud podcast here to talk about three sums, masturbation, porn, and how to communicate your needs to your partner and owe so much more. I don't know where this is going to go, but it's going to go crazy. Thanks for listening. You know how I'm always talking about how important it is to mix things up in the bedroom. Well, us or Hollywood stores should be your main destination to the best toys, erotic cut, the sexist lingerie. And most of all, the easiest way to find answers to what you've been looking for to

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Hi, Linda. Oh my gosh, hi. Hi, Emily. I'm sorry, my voice is like this. It's always sexy like that. No, no. Are you sick sick? No, I'm not sick sick.

There's the cold that's going around. It's not contagious, but the kids are yeah, whatever. The kids are they back at school. They're back at school. I mean, between boys. Boy and a girl. I always say that to you. I know. Because I always say it's you all the time. They're like, every time. Yeah. Right. Boy and a girl. So they're back because I just feel like I just saw you and they were like, out of school. I know. I know. Because they're only they're out of school quick and then they're back to school. Okay. That's good So now you are doing for crying out loud. How often you guys been shows? We do two shows a week every Tuesday and Fridays a new episode with my co-host Stephanie Wilder Taylor and we talk about all kinds of stuff

I'm also the new I guess you can call ambassador for man grilla Which is this like taken on a life of its own thing. I love. Okay, so tell me tell me what mangroo is if they haven't had the pleasure to taste it yet. In a nut, it's a thank you, it's a, and I brought you some. Oh yeah, it's in a nut shell, it's a specialty cocktail and it's 21% alcohol. It's in a wine, it's the highest you can get before you get two spirits and that it's in that. So brilliant.

So how many, how many does most wine have alcohol? Most of the time it's like a 12, 11. Oh my God. So you get a waste of, I had one glass, it was so, or two, probably we're in Vegas. It's so strong because I have a hard time drinking like more than one glass of wine because I get buzzed. It was so good. It was so good. It was so good. It was so good. It was so good. It was so good.

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We're going to San Francisco. Oh, when? I'll let you know. OK, because we had a good time. We went to Vegas. Yeah, oh yeah. That was a blast. And then I was supposed to go with you to San Diego,

but it was just so hard to get the fun. And I know San Francisco, all the pieces. Yeah, I know. I would really like to do my troops for the man who can go and buy it. You go to CorollaDrinks.com. Okay. I love it. So that's your job.

That's my job. That's my job. Fifth job probably. Yeah. Kids right. Yeah. The whole thing. Being a wife.

There's one more thing I've to mention before I forget because I often forget this that I'm going to be in New York So don't go to San Francisco then September 18 to the 20th For the sexual health expo, which is really taken off this year We started in January and in LA. We did one in Phoenix this summer and now it is in New York It is a three-day expo where you're gonna have Speakers like the top-sex educators and relationship educators educators in the world are gonna be there speaking for two days tickets are super reasonable but I'm also giving way for tickets if you email me feedback at sex with elmi.com and there's gonna be breakout session not breakout what a hate breakout

session so what do they call it like sessions where you can go talk to you break out like when they make you talk to your partner and I got a bathroom but like speaking to you meet me yeah they're willing to meet greets but they're gonna have a session like hour long like shot how to give a blowjob how to enhance intimacy But there's also gonna be on display really cool sex products and the latest and greatest toys So if you live in New York or the New York era, please come see me and say hi

I'm giving the keynote I think on Saturday It's all at sexualhealthxpo.com and also the other thing is Yeah, and we're giving my tickets feedback at sex with mme.com. Oh, and if you don't live in New York and you heard this, you're like, oh, I get best, guess my friend would love to go. Tell your friends, tell him about it. It's gonna be a good time.

I might be there. Really? Maybe possibly. Yeah. We're kicking off Monday night football that Monday after that weekend. Okay, I'm gonna be there Monday. Yeah.

So I might be there. I don't know I have to get these man-gre-a-girls round up and do you have to find like hot man-gre-a-girls? Yes, that's part of the casting I found an agency that sends me pictures and you know pick the girls you like and blah blah blah blah Right, yeah, some sexy man-gre-a-girls are in big. I felt so not sexy. I'm like I'm not really gonna have I'm just gonna drink in the little cabana with you. Yeah, but that was that was fine That's all fun. Yeah, okay, and the everyone can find you at Lynette Corolla dot com on Twitter and Facebook and Instagram. Yeah, all that So what's going on with you? What's the latest? Um, so I don't know I was gonna ask you I know I was asking you before the show about the porn sites

and not that I go there very often. Right. Right, that very often. Not in the last two hours. But they're scary. Like, you know, the stay away, you click on something. Next thing you know, you click and you click, and the next thing, you know, there's a girl talking,

and then there's the stay away alert message that comes up and you don't know what I'm talking to you. Well I do but I think you get software that blocks it right isn't there blocking something and what's it called the software that you put your computer in. Yeah I can get all pop-ups. Like yeah it's a ad blocking if you do you have a Mac or Mac. Yeah okay yeah just don't. We're gonna show you.

Yeah I'll show you because I have ad block too because I have the same problem. Yeah because I don't have the feds showing up at my door, you know, right? How we add them feel like a child born Agravine stuff like I'm like, you know, it's like I'm right it's just because it says you know, yeah No, they don't need daughter So there's something called ad blocking on the Mac which will show you and it will block all pop ups Okay, so. So you don't have to worry about that. Okay.

And they're not tracking you. If you're not putting in your, they don't ask you to like search, like rape or something like that. No, most women search rape. That's the most popular thing we search. I'm gonna tell you something that will change your life and it will change all listeners who secretly

are watching porn and don't want their voters to know about it. Okay. Hi guys, it's called the incognito window. So if you're using like Google Chrome, you open up, you can like, at the very top, watching porn and don't know about it. Hi guys, it's called the incognito window. So if you're using like Google Chrome, you open up, you can like, at the very top, you can select like incognito window. And it's not like, I mean, obviously,

if you're doing some terrible stuff and the government gets into your computer, they're gonna be able to find everything. It's not that hidden, but it doesn't save your search history. So if you're looking at like friends, I accidentally found, I felt on the rabbit hole of pegging researching for Emily's workshop and all this like porn stuff is probably I'm gonna

I was like oh I can't have this on my browser Like does it know they're gonna be like Madison what the right? I think everyone has these fears They set up all these things right No, it's just funny my computer and opens it up and all that you know, it's like fucking Jasmine sitting there with her boobs out Or or it opens it up and all of it, you know, it's like fucking jasmine sitting there with her boobs out or like a like a like a soldier on top of a bun. Wait, you've an iPad too? Maybe.

Yeah, I have an iPad, but they aren't on there with that too. Oh yeah, but iPads are too. That's true. Kids love iPads. They do. Oh, okay, so we're gonna set you all up. But what kind of ports do you like, rate porn? Where do you two like, do you go to the tube channels?

Yeah, I guess. Like, I don't know. I just, uh, Google porn, free porn, what are you two, do you go to the tube channels? Yeah, I guess. I don't know, I just, Google porn, free porn, or you porn. Yeah, you porn, yeah. There's nothing when everyone goes to the end. And then there's like a bunch on the top that says, like, you know, I don't know, too,

I don't know, like, too. I know, I don't know. I think if you category is at the top and then you're like, oh, that looks interesting. Right, like, this is trending, so we'll go for that, you know? Right, exactly. Like, do like, girl and girl, that's what I like.

I like all of it. I sometimes I get stuck there for hours and I'm not, I'm done, you know, but then I'm still like watching it. Like while there's this, there's that, oh my God, what are they doing this poor girl? There's all kinds of shit. I don't think there's a mother now, but does it ever give you ideas though,

like things to bring home, you know, like that's her meal? Well, yeah, the girl on girl thing I've always thought about that three something the Adam would ever right go for it because he sat next to Dr. Drew for 12 years. Oh God right. I love mine I know it's like there's a bad anal sex is bad and I'm so different than you I know I know I know only be bad if I know. I know. I know. I know. I know.

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You can't see with her. Whatever. And couples talk about it in a really like intellectual way. You know, like they're like, have the rules. Then you can do it. But if you're not, if you're not in a healthy place in the relationship I don't know you told that to Drew and Drew what have you said that in front of Drew? Yeah, I've given that advice on

What is he saying? I mean I don't know he's on the phone Yeah, he's it's right on this phone You know I'm to Instagram, but no, you know, he doesn't he doesn't argue with me easy for him with his hot wife to go on to you know I'm right so but okay So all right, so that's the thing with these would be you were using like some of your friends were into three things to Well, I had a friend that was dating this young guy He was and she was having a great time, but they was like a long distance thing or whatever and The like the fifth time they got together or something

He wanted to have a threesome and she was like yeah, dude. Maybe down the line But I don't think we're there yet, right? You know, she's right and he was like pushing it and pushing and pushing it and she was like I'm done right you never because the other roles I tell couples like you never want to push it You want to have it become something that she's interested in as well, which you can do I mean that can happen But the second you're like let's have a threesome the first thing she's interested in as well, which you can do. I mean, that can happen, but the second year, like, let's have a threesome, the first thing she thinks is, I'm on love for you. Right.

You think I'm fat and ugly. You don't like me, not a track to me. You want to see my best friend. You know, whatever it is, all these things go through her head. So it's like, it's all in the approach. It's all in the ass. And so you could start up by saying,

like, how have you ever wanted to do with another woman? Is it ever interested you? I think it'd be hard to say. Well, they did, I think they talked about it. That's what she's saying. And then he thought, yeah. And then so they got together again. And then he thought, yeah.

And then so they got together again. And then he's like, I got something exciting for you this time. And then, you know, meet for drinks. And how about you meet my friend. And she was like, no, I'm not interested. Like, maybe down the line. Yeah. The first few months of dating.

Yeah. No, that's when the sex is really fricking still hot still. And you're like into it. And you're, no, that's, that can be weird. But like, I you're like into it and you're No, that's that can be weird, but like I feel like the three that can be obviously because she wasn't into it But if she was maybe a serious about him or she was looking to experiment that might be good. I think that she was No, I don't know if she was serious serious. Maybe because she dates a lot, but But she didn't like like like she's like him enough to see him again. Do I not see him again? Kind of thing and I was like, I don do it. She should do it. Do I not see him again? Kind of thing.

And I was like, I don't know, do he disrespects Fatal? Yeah, no, I mean, definitely. She should trust her God on that one. But I feel like the best, I mean, this is such a rare scenario. But like the best threesome I ever had was when it was super casual, I was eating a guy for a while casually, like we were seeing other people,

which does not happen this often that we were still really good friends and really open. And he had a friend who had never been in a threesome and she wanted to do something he's like would you do one for drinks at three of us and I was like sure so yeah he told me like this could happen or not no pressure we went we drinks and like we're drinking a lot and like whatever and I'm like yeah why not and it was actually like the best three so I ever had because none of us were really

attached right I think he's still stuck with her but I think it was weird like I know jealousy no jealousy yeah and I just and that was really great because, because we were both actually making fun of him, and we were all sub in the bed, and the morning we were laughing at him, because he's stuck up on the night. Wow, you guys slept together right overnight, right? Yeah, and it was, yeah, I mean, this is the dream, the dream, the dream scenario, because I really didn't care and didn't have jealousy, because we were seeing other people, and I think when you're all attached, but when you're in a relationship, it can just be tough,

but again, couples, they've been in a relationship it can just be tough, but again couples, they've been in a world, you know, whatever the scenario is, you've been together while and you want to open up, but otherwise it's just dangerous. You gotta be on the spot. Girls, guys are so stupid sometimes, but I think it's switched, it made a switch in her where she was just like, I'm done, I'm done. Yeah, it was a big turn off and then and it wasn't because of the threesome because they were open about it right it was because he kept pushing it and pushing it so unattractive. Oh God. That's like an idiot. That's what you know. If he

said it once and she was like no, when he let it go, that would not be a deal breaker. But it's like the guys are like when we get a blowjob, when we get a blowjob, when you get set like any time a guy just keeps like nag you about sex, that's gonna make you have much, you're gonna get much less sex with that. Right, right, yeah. Yeah, we had this whole talk about it. I think she also spoiled him because she gave him a lot of attention and he's young and she's a little bit older

and she was giving him blow jobs that he was gonna get into and you know, we had to grade blowjob. Right, exactly. So I think that he was gonna get into and you know, he never had to go right exactly So I think that he was just like uh-huh just drunk with You know, lust and the rightness of it. Right good. She can do better than that. Yeah, he's begging her You don't want to you don't want to force anyone into any sex act right ever? I love when you say don't push the head down That's ridiculous head push is the worst

Stupid like push her like I know your penis is there and I know your wrecked. No. Like don't can I make a decision on my own. Right. Exactly. And that's like you guys are into that kind of thing. Like the whole whatever. Aggressive sex. But otherwise I say no. Yeah.

Um and the other one. So sex toys has that going through to it. Well, uh, yeah. I just went and bought. I went and bought one. I know I was going to. Why would you buy it? I don't know. All my know-one of my friends are allowed to buy toys. I didn't know I was gonna it was like two days I know I was like can you be here?

I Just bought this other like vibrator that has Annie's brand. I don't care. I don't know the Nate insertion It had well it had an insight goes inside and then it also like a rabbit kind of thing Yeah, literal and it and I am trying to figure out the G spot. Right. We tell you I know where it is and I'm out of that. And I think, yeah, we did talk about it. And I've tried to just have an orgasm like a little orgasm first, but, but see you say that,

have the literal that's easy for me. That's a problem. But so I've tried to see if I could have a G spotspot orgasm alone, like without any... But that's really nice. For most women, it is. So, this is what I'm saying, is that most women need the literal orgasm first because it swells your G-spot and you become a rouse and all the blood rushes and it becomes engorged to that area. So, most women have a clitoral orgasm and then the G-spot.

So I would do your regular masturbation and then use lots of lube. They put your leg laid on your bed, they put your knees back and just try to find it with a toy or it's the fingers are the best way to find it. And then you just keep pressing on it but it might take you, it took my friend a month every single day

for me to spread that out. I know you spread it out a month. It's so true. But you gotta have the one for some women they can. But for me I like I need to, and doing the cat electrolysis has made my G-spot, I've having crazy G-spot orgasms that I've not had before. Like I have them sometimes,

I'm happy with my glitter ones, because I got to like 10, but the G-spot thing, because that muscle is like bulging, it's all connected, you should try this too. Well, I do, I try and, when I put the, sorry about my voice, all right, with the vibrator, I squeeze it,

you know, I do the keg of thing. Well, you know, and it does bring you to orgasm, quite right? Right, right. It does, absolutely, clenching those muscles. But then when you exercise them, it's like even stronger, the muscles even clench more. And that might help you with the G-spot thing too.

Yeah, okay. And use a loob. Water-based loob. Yes, it just helps. Okay. And then if you can't, like after you've cleared one, you could take the vibrator out and like put like two lubed fingers inside, the comheather thing.

Right, right. And try that. But don't give up on the G-spot. Okay, I'm not. And you have loob. I have your loob. Yeah, I gave you my loob. I checked by Emily and Tony Loob, which I can't sell on the market,

but I do have it. But I recommend, I don't know, I love slick weight, I love wet, there's this new hybrid, I don't even know if it's new, but I just heard about it. It's a lube by wet, that's a hybrid silicone water-based lube. I really like that one. There's that thing. You like silicone-based.

It's slippery here, but you'd have to use it with silicone toys, otherwise I've heard that doesn't really matter. Yeah, so don't, yeah. Yeah, so, but I just think you can never have too much loot, even during sex people get wet. Yeah. Like you just add a little loot, you heard me say that.

You get about loot, yeah. Yeah, you do, you have to buy the nightstand, do you have my loot by the time? I do, I do. And then Adam's like, when you're doing, let that. I hide my toys. Really, what about the down under comfort, do you want to try it?

I think you, because he talked to me. Yeah, that's right. You should keep wanting to add him, and because I even listen to a show, they're like, you know, in a while, and they're like, he's bald. He talks about it. Yeah, he talks about talking.

Just rubbing on his balls one day. Give me some good for it, but before blowjob. No, he's used it. He uses it. He's not consistent with any of those. No, and it's hard to be consistent. He's not, especially dude. Yeah, they're like, really?

I got to wash my face. I was telling this guy, I'm the other day, I'm like, I can get you a face product. He's like, what you like water after wash my face. You think of all the stuff that women do Like all the goddamn waxing and washing and moisturizers. They're washed my I use the boros open the shower. Yeah I know my husband do he puts the bar soap on his head I know why he's got like pubic type hair. I mean it's ridiculous It's hilarious. He's married to you and you're like, beat you, you've ever, I always think like,

she'll ask me like, what's the best, whatever, toy, whatever sex thing was. I'm like, okay, I would give you sex if you give me beauty tips. I can see the feelings of your face, your skin. Do you still do that face stuff? Yeah, I do do that. The Rodanne field.

Yeah, you sell it, right? I sell it, yeah, I still do that. But, you know, it's just, you know what it is? The key is self-tanner. If you put a little bit, okay, I wrote this down. Mix with your moisturizer. I don't like that one anymore. Oh, oh, what do you like?

I like the Sandro Pay, that's the one I told you. Now I like Tarte, T-A-R-T-E, they're Brazilian. That's the one I put on today. Is it the Aztec one? It's pretty. It's got gold. It says Brazilian, aren't they? Is it Tanner or like, it's a cell Tanner.

So it's a gradual. Yeah, it's gradual, but it's instant too. Do you like the tone? Tart Tanner. Put it in the song. I want some too. And it's gradual. Yeah, and you bring mixture with moisturizer?

Well, what the face, I use a little bit after I wash because I like my moisturizer. I do. Because you are like perfectly tan, okay. That's what it is. It makes, it just gives you a little bit of a glow. It just makes a little bit of self tan. Like every day. Um, every other night I would say, oh, and the biggest thing, retinay.

Retinay. Retinay. Retinal. Right, which, what percent, I need to get that to? Ask Drew, 0.5%. Okay, I don't need that. 0.5, that is the best for your skin. Everyone says that.

Yeah, it's on my list. It's not really harsh though, the right. You don't need to look at her. You don't need to look at her. I know, what the? You need to get already. Well, no, I'm saying, I've just heard of the great harsh and your skin.

It is harsh, it can peel. It's good for your knees, you can put it everywhere. I know. I know. See this is what I can I just come at who would have thought that? No, I probably a perfect knees. I know my knees elbows elbows everywhere. You can put it out. You just mix it with moistureizer and if you get a little dry then you give it a break and then you use it again and you do it. Okay, this is good. This is not about sex people. I understand but but this is preparation. Yes, that's another thing I was going to ask you. So my girlfriend and I who we drove down to San Diego together we were talking because she's dating

this guy like the whole rig of a more when you have to when you're dating a new guy the waxing, the tanning, the you know, you underwear the new thing, the new underwear, everything that you have to do. It is it is is such a pain in the ass. It's true. And then like every weekend, I'm like, oh, I'm right, because right now, today, I would have worn a cute little sundress like how the McDonald's was here earlier.

It's like, I, my legs aren't tan. I'm not tan. Like, how do you, who remembers? There's, okay, there's another, there's another stuff that you just rub on your legs. It's sali-hands and it's the best. It's all what the celebrities use. You get it at the gross, you get it at right aid. Right. You mix it with the,ine hands and it's the best. It's all what the celebrities use. You get it at the

gross, you get it at right aid. Right. You mix it with the, and again, mix it with the cream and rub it on your skin. That's not even self-tarnished. It's not right. It makes it look like your, your, your coloring is all smooth. Okay. And at first, I have to say it does look a little weird. That's why I do it at night. If I know I'm gonna wear a dress the next day because it sticks, it stays on. Oh, you don't have to shower. And then if you put it on, no, don't take a shower. Oh, well, if you don't, yeah. And then the next day you put on your shorts or your dress

and then it looks more like it, because it's lived in on your skin and it looks totally natural. This is so important. I'm taking notes on a song for you. Okay, good. Thank you. So the thing is, so with, yeah, it's true. When you're dating someone, you're like, did I shave?

Was she asking you about like, do I strip, like did I shave like was she asking about like do I strip like Well, you start to get all off do I not right because you know she was dating this this guy who's just got the divorce and She's got a wax and stuff like that and that we were talking about blow jobs by the way earlier right She was telling me she's gonna kill me, but guys guys don't get blow jobs or they're not getting them Because you know the one with the younger guy he was all like you know I think you're enjoying it and then she's dating this older guy that just got divorced he's like blown away by her giving a blow job she's like what's the big you know what's the big deal

guys love they love blow jobs but women are so I think there's a lot of women who feel that they're not great at giving them They don't think they know what they're really doing and maybe they just don't like it But I feel like it's like practice makes perfect It's kind of the thing just do ask your ask your partner like what is a good blow job because you get blow job As you've said on the show before you've never like in the 20 years you without them You're like I'll give you but I'm not gonna say no. No, so you must be pretty damn good at it I feel like I'm pretty good. Yeah.

But what would you say is your best tips? Well, I'm sure your girlfriend does you too. Like now, we're like, her say go, do they? No, they listen to you. You're sure. Okay, good. They do, I love it. No, I don't think I have girls that don't give good blow

just randomly, by the way. No. She, I think, well, first of all, I think the key, one of the key is, is enthusiasm. Yep. You have to, even if you're not into it, act like you're into it. Just make the noise just do it on her.

Yeah, just like you said for the other way around, if a guy says, I got all night, it's like the best thing you want to hear. And that's another thing, like guys don't, I don't think that's the thing. They don't go down, they either, they don't go down for nearly as long as they should or they do it for a minute.

Right, right. And or they, they figure out, and this is something that Adam did early on, like they figure out what you like, and then they do it over and over and over and over and like the same move over. And it's like, just because I liked it that one time, because you know, like it all the time.

But then you do tell them like maybe try this. Yeah, try that. Yeah, yeah, I can. But you have it, but you're dating her. Yeah, when you're dating, you like don't want it right away. And the problem is I think so many guys are confused because their last partner didn't necessarily like oral belief.

The way the next person does. So the best thing I, they was, I taught an oral sex workshop. This is hilarious, but I taught one in a house there. And the guy that I was dating at the time came. I didn't even invite him to know his coming. It was how to give, go down to a man and a woman. And we had been having oral sex for a few months and in the next time

He did when down to me it was like it was like a dream come true because I always say I wish the guys I day listen So and he did every like I'm like you were taking notes like oh my god He did everything like slow down don't rush like tease me like make me want it more don't go right for the clitoris It was just like I was like almost like really turned on and then also really like my other side Everybody's going wow wow wow he's doing that Shit, but there's ways to get better, you know top to your partner and then also really it's about just like mixing it up and go slow Don't you want to go slow down there eventually you want me to go fast right? Yes eventually like and tease oh my god It's easy to everything is everything slow down. They just can't even if you tell them You know the first time, the second time,

they're slept in the number, they go right back to their old. It's true, you got to keep it running. Remember the power to buy you going slow? Right, honey. It's gonna change, right, exactly. It's a low job, yeah, I pressure like this. It is pressure with your hand.

But my husband doesn't like the hand that much. Some people don't, this is the thing that I shouldn't say, just women that are different. Some men don't like the hand, some men don't like the hand that much so people don't this is the thing that I shouldn't say just women that are different Some men don't like the hands of man don't like the balls. I know my husband is not a big fan of the ball It's just like you got your whole mouth and that's hard to because I was so women like well if you can't deep-throat Because people eat my mouth and like your hand just put the same pressure right? You got a loop but you don't like the hand your shit a lot. Yeah Or he's a flashlight right? Yeah, okay

We're let's get into a little bit of, which is sex in the news here. Oh, yeah. We got a little bit of sex in the news. I guess I could do this first one. 29% of Americans, half of Brits are some degree bisexual. It's very topical. Gay, straight, or in between,

when asked to place themselves on a sexuality scale, almost a third of young Americans and nearly half of all British counterparts consider themselves some degree of bisexual. Reports polling websites U.gov, which states that the results indicate an increasingly open-minded approach to sexuality. The survey of a thousand American adults use the Kinsey Scale, developed by Kinsey in the 40s, and asked the respondents to plot themselves on a scale of zero exclusively heterosexual to six

exclusively homosexual. Last week, the result showed that 78% of adult Americans plotted themselves as completely heterosexual while 4% selected completely homosexual and 16% were somewhere in between with another 2% unsure. So I don't know, 78%. I mean, honestly, but then it says the number change. They never change what you talked to younger. Yeah, so here's the interesting part.

18 to 29 year olds in America, 29% American young people plotted themselves somewhere between 1 and 5, essentially leaving themselves bisexual. The number was even higher, 49% in a similar survey of British people between 18 and 24. So I know. And as a female male, because they don't break it down. They don't break down.

Unfortunately, but that just sounds like people are more, I think they always have been, which is why Kinsey invented the scale, like created a scale that were all sort of on the spectrum of like twos and threes Maybe people weren't as honest before but or maybe with the onset of porn. I don't know what I firmly believe So I've been rewatching all the sex in cities and there's an episode where Samantha who's always the really sex forward one of the group She's like in a few years or the next generation isn't even gonna see straight in gay Everyone's gonna fall somewhere in between. Gender is just an illusion,

and everyone's gonna be somewhere. Everyone's just gonna have sex with people, and I was like watching it, you know, and this is back in the 90s when that came out, and I was like, oh my God, like, she predicted. She was too much to make. She was too much to make. It's like the, it's so funny,

it's something that we say in my apartment and my friend grew up all the time. We're always like, oh, like, sexuality's a spectrum. Like, you're on the spectrum. Don't worry about it. I had to explain to my boyfriend's like, very Catholic, very strict parents because they were talking about,

my roommate is bisexual and they're commenting on it. And I was like, well, you know, everyone's a little bit bisexual and they're like, we're Catholic, no, they're not. I was like, yeah, it's a spectrum, you know, from like super, super heterode, super like homosexual, like, everyone falls a spectrum. You know, from like super, super hetero, to super like homosexual, like everyone falls somewhere in between,

and they're just like sitting there staring at me. That's like, I don't want my dick so up to you. Yeah, that's crazy. They're staring at me like, where did you come from? And now they bring it up every once in a while, and they're like, it's a spectrum. And I'm like, see, it's teaching them. I love that.

The thing is, I think that the, maybe people have always been that way, but it's been frowned upon. I think now it's more open. It's more open. I think everyone's allowed to talk about it. They're allowed to be like, yeah, like I have sex with men, but I think women are super hot, so I do that too.

Like most of my friends fall somewhere in the middle, even if they don't talk about it. How about men, no? I think it's more common for women than men to say their bisexual. Right. Definitely. I don't know your roommate. I know him, but I know he's bisexual. Oh yeah, I mean, he's... He has a... he's with a man now, but he definitely qualifies himself

as bisexual. Right. So he wouldn't be like, I don't think he would turn down like female involvement in his relationship, but he's cute. Yeah, I mean, he's in love with a man. Yeah. Um, but yeah, so I totally grew with this and I think it's very, very current, I think. Yeah, no, it's true

And it says these figures are not measures of active bisexual I mean, people are actually acting on it, but yeah, 20% of Americans age 18 to 29 range said they've had the same sex experience And I do think that is changing. I yeah, I do I do too and it brings me back to the threesome thing because let's go back to I think most people love threesome. I mean, I wish I would have done I wish I would have done that when I was I did too and it brings me back to the three something because let's go back to it. I think most people love three something. I mean, I wish I would have done, I wish I would have done that when I was, I did, but I was wrong. Right. It's most of your drunkard.

Yeah. And there's times I was looking, I was researching for our man, Grea girls, like what they're gonna look like, like pin up at pin up models, the 50s look. And I was trying to find that Bridget Bar Doe hair. And I was, I saw pictures of, um, oh god God I keep forgetting her name it's not Sophia Lauren it's not Bridget Bardot. Oh it's a bit Taylor? No damn it'll come to me the Brunette who's sexy oh oh Rebecca now a backup from a while ago like she's she's in a movie with Charleston Heston and she's got the knife in her.

I can only go. Okay. It's okay. Anyway, this is gonna come. I'll Google it. Okay. Anyway, I saw these pictures of her and I was looking at her going,

and by the way, this was back in the 60s, 70s. Right, so feela-ren, did you already say that? I said okay. It's close. It's close to that. She's Brunette. I was like, she is so beautiful. And I don't know if it's close. Okay close to that she's brunette. I was like she is so Beautiful and I don't know if it's my libido because my libido has gone up through the roof Really? Yeah, what do you okay and and I'm what you can talk about that is it but I was like I'm like

She's hot if I was with her right I'd be all over that right there boobs or because everything was natural back then right exactly No, it's true. Take anything. It's she was hot. Yeah, okay, so why is your libido increased? Well, I think I am in my 40s right and I didn't and well, let's say I think while I'm taking I was gonna ask you about that because I feel like yeah I'm taking the hormonal palates From the OBGYN every the one that's okay the one that Dr. Duhu told me to go to tell me to go to okay. It's a big big a big help I mean it gave me to Sasterone she was like you have no testosterone she tested me and

Ever since for it took a good six months really but we're just starting to get into that. Really, for them to start working? Okay. Yeah, no, it kicks in, but really kick in. It's like, so how else does it manifest? Does it make you want sex more? And think about sex more, but is it about sex?

Is it about sex in it? I think about sex in it. I got like a fuzzy, like a peach fuzz thing. But then you get rid of it. Other than that, no, I mean, it's the sex drive. It's like, oh, I have been more like, screw you with my husband before I've been like, oh, okay, anything you say,

but Olga and Annie, she's like, lean that, I notice you change. Like, now I'm like, oh, okay, like I talk to him the way he talked to me and I have a feeling that has to do with that. How does he respond? Does he know his difference? Yeah, he's nicer now.

See how interesting. So it works. It works like a shit. In a way like to be tougher and stronger than a movie. Yeah, it does, it does. But do you get moodier? Like do you get screwed? No, no, it feels like it's more of a positive.

Yeah, it's all positive. It evens out my mood before I was tired. Now I have energy, I go to the gym and blah, blah, blah. But the sex, it's like like I've always had a healthy sex life. Now it's like on into overdrive. But however, I spent there's times of the month and you probably know this. Yes. Where it's it's all yes. And then there's times of the month where I'm like, no, right. It fluctuates throughout the month. So people should know that too with your partners that it does change like the mismatch of beaters and I'm so tired, lowered, different times a month.

But that's really cool. We should be, can we talk? We remind you, I might talk to you about the stuff. I just think it helps a lot of women too, if you're listening and you're with a partner, who, I mean, you can even have an early, people have in their 30s too, they might need, they might need a hormone,

the pellet therapy, it's really interesting. And so, that could be a thing, if you're with a partner, she's never, not in the mood for sex, you know, took a dive, after kids or whatever it is, she might want to get a hormone. All you got to do is go the OBGYN or whatever you're even your internist to get your, your blood checks. That's it. I'm doing that on Monday or on Friday.

I haven't been in so long. I have not been to, okay, I got to do that too. That is awesome. I love that. That's inspiring. Okay. Did you have an upgrade that said, should we. Okay, did you have, I don't have to read the study, should we get to some emails?

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where you live and how old you are. Helps me so much. And I've got my co-pilot here, Lynette, but it's more insight, so help you out. Dear Emily, I'm a very sexually active 27 year old male. My girlfriend is also sexually active in 28. We love our sex lives and enjoy each other almost every single day. Sometimes I want more though and she says no. Doesn't really provide a reason like I'm tired or I'm sore, just not in the mood or anything,

just a no. Is there something wrong here? Is it normal for me to get upset? I told her that this week I wanted to have a full week of morning sexual activities before I went to work, me going down in her and morning sex, and she was totally down. I'm a very self-dis-down, is that mean down like yes or she was down, I will say. I'm a very self-dislover and go down in her every single time we engage in sexual activity. She rarely does the same for me.

Let's say every three years I go down in her, she'll go down in me one time. Every three times. Every three times, sorry. The years would be terrible. Every three times she go down in me one time. So what do I Every three times. Sorry. Years would be terrible. Every three times she go down to me one time. So what do I do here? I get frustrated with these things. Sex isn't everything. And she's one I live an incredible woman. But I want to be more intimate with her.

We both were both the best lovers we've ever had. So why not do it as often as possible? Let me know if you think I might be off face here. Just look in for a little insight. Mike. I have a good time. That's a lot lately, I don't. Sorry, this is just like guy thing and it's like ultimate. Like you just read this and you're like, oh, like this is how every man's brain works. It's awesome. Why wouldn't we do it every single day?

Exactly. Why wouldn't we do it whenever I want to? Right, exactly. Exactly, yeah, you know, we're all different. We have the mismatch the beetles. Yeah. And so I don't think it's off base that you want to be intimate with there, but your reaction might be, I mean, you are having sex a lot, but it's also compromised.

So maybe you got to talk to a different way if you are complaining to her and you're getting upset, she knows you're upset. And that's the rough part, I think, is trying not to reject. I think leaves damage even though they can brush it off or whatever. I don't I think rejection is tough especially for a guy. It is tough. You just try not to reject but um yeah I listen I'm with him. My husband is meat and potatoes. Like when I first started going out with him we had had sex a lot, but then he was like, listen, I'm not a big sexual person. I don't, like, you know, he just jacks off

and whatever, it's a blowjob and goes to bed. But it's, now it's kind of like, well, hello, you know, I am so stepped up. Good for you, right, good. But yeah, I feel bad for this guy. I know, it's true. I mean, I think that, you know, it doesn't sound like he's like not getting any,

which I also heard from that. And you're getting more, you know, every day, does he say that? Yeah, he said we enjoy each other every day. Okay, so every single day you're together. So, and, you know, she's my, it might not be turned on like we were saying, it fluctuates different times a month.

You know, female arousal is a lot more complicated than men. And do you know what turns are on? Do you know what will get her in the mood? The time that she is in the mood is it because you just better? Is there ever things that you do that like send her to the moon? And if you don't know this yet, how long have they been together? I don't know, even together. But it's time to start having these conversations with her.

Like, baby, like a go-sex toy shopping shopping, do watch porn together, like do something, maybe she doesn't even really know what turns out, you know, or herself on. So, you know, I think that like, it's all working together, you got to think about it and are your expectations perhaps a little bit too high. And also as an oral sex thing goes, I know that can be frustrating. Does she feel that, like, does she like giving blow jobs? You could, instead of saying, like, the begging, like, I wish you go down more. You have a giving blow job in six months.

You could say, God, it's so hot when you go down to me. It feels really good. I love when you do that. And just kind of remind her how much it turns you on and like, use positive things. Like, if you stayed or I go down to you all the time, why don't you go down to me? Like, that is such a deterrent.

Like, that does not make us, that's not like, oh baby, take off your pants a little bit. Right now, that's like what's for dinner or like I'm leaving going to them all. Why don't you make her spreadsheet? Oh wait, that has to work out. Exactly. I know, but remember the spreadsheet guy.

The whole like him keeping trap. Like for every three times I go down on her. I think I heard that. Yeah, he is like, yeah, the spreadsheet guy, we can tell by the, but yeah, no, but he's remembering these numbers and he's getting defensive. And I just feel like you guys don't have a healthy communication right or sex. If it sounds like you might never have talked about it, even. So communication is a lubrication, talked or, but again, you got to sandwich it like a

babe, I'm so attracted. We have the, we've agreed. This is the best sex of our lives. And I think it would be so fun to once a while mix it up and start, you know, have morning sacks or guy I love when you give me bud jobs. Remember that one time and they tell her what you like. Maybe she doesn't know. Maybe she thinks that she has ever mouth-on and she's a bad gag reflex and you can tell her, no, give me a hand job everyone start like I don't know what tweaks you guys have to make but it sounds like if you think she's the one you got to get to the bottom of it and they grow it. And don't zap out either. Oh, powdering down. It's like every day going worse. It's like a guy that feel bad.

It didn't get a blue jet today. Such a turn. I know, it's so ugly. My boyfriend went through this phase where if I don't want to have sex, he would sit next to me in bed and masturbate and then just look over me from time, like next to me. And I'd be like,

I'd literally be like, this is not appropriate behavior. I can't handle this. And so he's cut it out. But there was like a good like month period where he kept doing it. And I would just be like, why would you do it? Why? You just sit there like, oh my god.

So that's the funniest thing. So he got over that really quickly. But it just like, it's like, it's like, that would make you feel bad. Yeah, I don't know if it was just kind of like, he thought that I would see it happening and be like, Ah, fuck it. Like, I'm already here.

That, like, I'll just help out. But like, now it's gotten a lot better, but the pouting is just the absolute It's the first turn off, and you know, relationships are about compromise, so that's about her meeting your needs, learn how to meet her needs Yeah, as well, you know, that's what I was saying Where do you guys stand on morning sex? Do you like it? I hate it. I hate it. I think it's easy. Here's the thing. Guy would step you get the bone on your back Mm-hmm And I'm just like just do it like I usually can't have orgasms the morning wakes up, you get the bone on your back. And I'm just like, just do it.

I usually can't have orgasms the morning because I gotta be like, turn on and arouse. I'm like, I'm not like as easily orgasmic. So I feel like, I just don't have to do it because I know it's gonna be quick. I don't make them happy and I'm not like, I don't know, I'm a huge rush. Yeah.

But they're already hard. That's what I'm thinking you're doing. Getting over with. It's more like a favor. I'd say it's not like something that I would ever enjoy, but like it's something that maybe if I had more time and like it wasn't in a rush that I would do just to make him happy. Because like I'm not enjoying it.

I want coffee and to pee in that order. And like text is not factored into that. Yeah. What about you, Dan? I don't, he's big with that. And I'm like, first of all, don't wake me up. I always get the waking, like the boobs. Yeah, and the hand, like right on the both boobs

and the dick in the back. And it's like, oh, I'm so tired. And I'm just not a morning person. And I don't, I'm not in the mood, but I do it anyway. I don't. You just do it, because they get to do it for me. I do the spooning, like just keep sleeping. Right.

You just keep sleeping and he's going, and I and I'm going out and you can move your butt back And you're like are we done yet? That's what I do But I feel like yeah, you know, I haven't been as as long-term as relationships like marriage for a long time Or whatever but I just think the guy said I'm just like oh okay, then we did that's actually check and I didn't That's true. I just lied there. Yeah, something where you could at least back up I'm a super rush right a job. I had to be somewhere on time, I started pointing out which thing that's my own business. But, you know, yeah, that's what it is. I think the people wanted it every time today.

I like after a new sex. Yeah, I do. We do. We do. We do. I like the evening where I'm like a little bit buzzed. And I'm angry. Yeah.

I'm so excited that you brought some energy. Yeah. It's like, have you tried it, Madison? Logic to wine. Oh, I know. Oh, I know. I'll have to drink it. I'm so excited that you brought some ideas like have you tried it medicine allergic to wine? God dammit. I know. Everyone else the opposite of drinking. I'm sorry with this problem. Okay. It's so good I know I'm very excited. I just want to say I think that it was Friday when we got here. I know I see it feels like Friday Because it was yesterday was yeah, I have to say I taught a workshop But that taught this anal sex workshop and I'm at hustle Hollywood and I would have been to all your workshops If I didn't have kids.

I know, I got things. I think so much. I think I've brimmed. Yeah, I know. I think a little kid area in the back. It's like out of sound range. That would be pretty funny. They do right out here.

Yeah, actually would be smart. But I have to say that it was really fun. I'm doing another one this month. It's gonna be like a sex ed. And not to the date yet. We haven't picked a date yet. Yeah, but maybe I like everything you wish you knew about sex ed.

But first of all, you were so nice being a man-greed of that one of yet. Yeah, but maybe I like everything you wish you knew about text data. But first of all, you were so nice bringing a mangreta that one of them. Yeah, I had a blast. I love that. That was so fun. And it's like, the thing is, it's new to me. So I hope that we'd teaching, you know,

in other places as well. But I, it's just a lot of work like it was an anal sex workshop, which, you know, I like anal sex. It's a touchy subject. I think it's a touchy, right? It's a touchy subject and it's so intense. And so I really wanted to be specific about it people are so confused by it and I just worked really hard on it because it's like

I can send a podcast without prep for two hours and talking the mic but that's just a lot. Yeah, but it was great. You're well. You're great at it. You're very good. Thank you Thank you. The continuity was sexy. I did it before I met my husband a long time ago. God, I don't want anybody to eat my husband any, please. Please don't spit it out. Right. He doesn't want to know, yeah, he doesn't. I did, yeah, but when we were dating, I did it with the surfer guy that I was dating,

which was a lot of fun. But I did it once and I don't know. I could see it being nice. I see sex so differently now. It's so weird. It's so different. It's so different than my 20s. But I was okay.

Right, I mean, yeah, I did it one. I mean, to be honest, I feel like also it's become a generation like younger. Like, no one ever in my 20s or high school They were never like let's have anal say it didn't even wasn't in the menu right? There wasn't even an option didn't even come around and now with porn and People like delaying you know marriage having more sexual partners all that stuff like it's like everyone's like wait I'll say yeah, but a lot of people do it wrong

So the workshop focused a lot about on how like how to do it right because so many women at these really bad first time Experiences or guys to do it right, because so many women have these really bad first-time experiences, or guys just shoves it in, they're drunk, they're done, no lips, so. You gotta be turned on, like, eyes, eyes. Same thing as a juice bath, it's to see you have to have a clue or go to the first. Turn around first, go in slow, use lots of lube, and then it can be enjoyable for women.

I mean, a lot of women enjoy it, just you gotta do it right, and it does wrong. They're like back door clothes, forever. So I was trying to open up back doors. Single handly. Okay. God, you're going to do another sexist miss or another one. I'm going to do that one.

That was a sexist marriage. Okay, let's do another one. Yeah, there's one about how to be, how to not be a tease. Okay. Dear Emily, my name is Christine. I'm 23. I'm currently living in LA and listen to your show on the podcast app on my iPhone.

I hate it when guys leave me on play games. Aren't straightforward with me, except or I know, shocking, right? So I very much do want to be that person either, I don't want to be that person either, FYI, for context, I'm straight, single female. Anyway, I'm wondering, what's the best way to respond when a guy who I've loved to be friends with, but I'm not interested in romantically seems to be interested and wants to hang out? It seems to be a pattern lately with guys in my life. They don't explicitly ask me on a date, but we'll suggest meeting up or something similar. I'm not for hanging out as friends, but I have no if I should tell them straight out that

I don't want anything more. I don't want to leave them on either, but also I don't want to reject someone who didn't even directly say anything. And my honestly just want to be my somehow flirty friend, but I also don't want to play dumb and pretend I didn't notice flirting. So I just have my plans to meet up with guys who want me to date me, even if it's a group thing, but if they're totally found out being friends, I'm overthinking things.

She is going out. It's funny how she's seeing this. I'm totally getting it. You're saying I've got it. I love having guys as friends and I don't want to miss out on a great friendship. Thanks so much. Love your show. You always give the best advice. Thanks, Christine. I think this is a great question because it's like that whole fun thing. And like what I've realized is like like this is the thing now. Guys don't ask you on dates. So it's like, Hey, you want to hang out with me, my friends? We should go out like at a group date. But even if he was asking you a date or hang out, this is what I have to say out. Did you say

I want to go out to you as, but she's 23. A guy is not going to ask you to hang out unless he wants a bag of your, that is right. Guys are not looking for girlfriends. They're not like a woman would really be nice right now, because she can be great by shopping and give me advice, something that these women that I do like. No. I'm assuming that if you've this many men

asking to be their friends and hang out, they probably do want to date you. Now, here's a thinker scene. I understand what you're saying also, because I had this, I just say to you guys, I have a boyfriend or I'd say like, I'm not interested, they'd be like, I just want to be friends, and then you feel like a doofus, but the truth is they don't just want to be friends But you could also if you like this guy, but you're not interested

You could go on the group thing and make it be known there I actually think you're cool and let's be friends. Yes, and maybe you would make a great guy Guy friend out of them and maybe you know, he'll get a girlfriend one day Because typically it's easier when they already have girlfriends become friends with them and maybe he has had guy friends Maha, there you go So I wouldn't rule them all out But if you're someone that you're not even really interested in at all or being friends with or dating then there's nothing wrong It's being like you know what I'd hang out these friends, but to be honest you could say to them I'm interested in friends. I'm not you know just so you know, I think you're awesome

I'm not interested in any other way. Yeah, I agree I'll hold hard I'm sure men like you're dating right what did you do with it? Well, I mean just this first of all the flirting thing I love I love but I'm sorry and also like giving guys blue balls or whatever and it's like you think you're you're leading them on I have to say I kind of I liked that I It's kind of fun. It's very much. There's a there's a lot of guys over there 20s Didn't you have like I so no more now than I did when I was right right? He's like thanks a lot like you know bartenders or whatever or something whatever I would total

I totally flirt I love it right you know, I'm 30. It's good for the eager. It feels good to be desired Oh my god, oh my god. Oh, yeah, I just fun to flirt but not love it. I love flirting. It's good for the eager to be desired. Oh my god I just want to get older like oh guys I'm still hot. Oh yeah. I just find a flirt but not take it to the next level Right. So yeah, I would say Christine, you know if he's hurt you're being honest and communicating just saying yeah Let's totally go. I just want you to know like I'm think you're awesome, but I like want like it's not a date Right, you can just say it playfully. Yeah, and yeah, move on. You know, I think that's fine. Group of friends is good. And that's how we meet people through friends. Yes, yes.

Typically, a lot of the people we meet me date, whether it's like, you know, even Facebook, you know, or in public. Go out with us friends, they could be super hot. Only. Only banging now, what's going on? Good question. I am banging a guy. I live by carelessly.

I know. I've been banging a guy. I've been dating him. I know. I've been banging a guy. I've been dating him. I've been dating a few, but I've been dating this guy for a while now, and then it's actually our sexist got better. Like he came to the oral sex workshop. And we've been more, we've been closer.

It's not, we haven't had like a talk of work committed because we decided early on that we weren't gonna be, but now it feels like it's sort of, we're getting closer. Right. Like, he may be dinner. Right. But that's nice. I mean, it don't, you say it on your podcast.

It's got to go somewhere, right? It's can't be. Eventually, exactly. So that's what the top we had, like, most recently, I was like, I'm just, I like this friend's, like, we're, because we're actually, we, I actually adore him and we don't want to mess up our friendship. And then I was like, oh, it's not really going anywhere. I get it. Let's just kind of end it. And then we did. And then he kind of want to mess up our friendship and then I was like oh it's not really going anywhere I get it let's just kind of end it and then we did and then he kind of came was like wait I really miss you

and I might beat you and I think I could take this to that and we're we haven't defined it yet but I really like him actually he's the one that I choose of all the men that I want to be with the most really how's Yeah, the sex is getting better. How old is he? He's 37. Oh, okay. That's so much a bitch. Oh, just turn 37. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. I know he's cute. He's so cute. Yeah, and I like him My more friends and I hope he doesn't listen to the show anymore. I think it's either he doesn't you list All right, well you decide do you date other people while you're dating him? You know, I have. I've done both.

I've dated. We know I don't really have time, and I think we got to kind of figure out what we're doing, but I definitely have. And then he went on a rampage and listened to like, aid my podcast in a more one day, which he never does. Every guy I date tells me they don't listen.

And I found out recently that this was this guy, but with another guy I was dating, that it is not true because this other guy that was like, oh no, I don't listen, I don't listen. Heard something when I podcasted like a few months ago and got really upset. I'm like, how would you hear that? It's like, we've mutual friends. I'm like, we've zero mutual friends.

You listen to my show. I'm sorry. I don't know how anybody could resist that temptation. Every guy is always like, what is she thinking? What is she thinking? Like, what could possibly be going on? Of course. And then there's a biweekly inside scoop into your life.

And there's not going to listen to it. your life and they're not gonna listen to it Are you kidding my god absolute? Into my brain and into what I want's actually high if you like me listen to the you know, but sometimes what guy Okay, just take a guy. Well guy dates a woman and then doesn't like and says like I didn't go Will you I don't look at you I'll say that I don't listen your podcast Yeah, it's a lie. You're right. Men are hunters.

You know, like they do, they do the work associated with it. They're going to go through all the channels to make sure that they are prepared to catch that prey. He gets upset when he listens. Oh, don't listen. Oh, then he read my tweets recently. He was like, read a tweet. He's like, just be like, it's all nonsense.

He's like, what? I know. He's like, what? No, but it was what? He's like, what happened on July 2nd? Why was it the best time in your life? I'm like, that doesn't do that. He's like, what had no, but it was what it was. It was a one night. He's like, what happened on July 2nd? Why was the best on your life? I'm like, I don't forget now. What happened on July?

He goes, you said it was the best on your life. I'm like, well, I'm sure we went out. He's like, we didn't. Oh. I was like, shit. I was like that with Adam in the beginning. I'm sure. I listen to a love line all the time.

And I would get mad. And then he's like, why are you pouting? What's the matter? I was like, well, because you asked Victoria Silce said to show you her breasts. On the air? On the air. Yeah. Right. Yeah. That's kind of stuff. But now you just see he'll go, oh, mom, and still to this day. Now it's now it's other stuff like complaining about me. He's like, oh, mom, and that's just radio talk. That's just radio talk.

No, no, no, no, it's not radio talk. Right. So do you listen to a show? No. No, I do. I do, because I think a show is funny. Yeah, it is. Yeah.

How does he have the number one podcast, iTunes? Like, of all the freaking podcasters? It's pretty amazing. Well, he developed his audience from Loveline. That audience is a loyal audience. And they went to his morning show on the West Coast because he filled for Howard Stern when Howard Stern left and then Developed that audience and then they hear but still doesn't matter. It's still something they could such a scare really like well

He does a weekly I mean he does a daily day. I know they love him. They love him. Yeah, I mean I've ever been so down I mean super down to him. Yeah, so yeah, yeah anyway's so are you. And you should listen to For Crying and a Loud Podcast. Do you just complain about him back on there? I do listen to yours and go like, Lynette, what did you say this morning? No, he doesn't. Sometimes he'll get a tweet from somebody and he'll go, oh, don't talk about that.

He's down here. Nobody tweet Adam, okay? Please, please. Okay, one more question. Hey Emily, I love your podcast. My girlfriend's 32 and I both listen to you. My girlfriend's 32, I guess you're both 32. Sometimes together it's usually separately

and it's really helped us open up our eyes for a variety of sex life. This is what I love. This is what I love. This is what I love. This is what I love. This is what I love. This is what I love.

That a lot of couples, just if you're in a relationship, listen to it with your partner or tell them what you learn because I feel like a lot of you, they're like, oh, it really helped us. It's like, you don't have the conversation. I'll have it for you. And then you're like, Oh, what do you think about that? It's like a third party. So it's been helpful. So I'm glad to hear that. Thank you for telling me that. Anyway, it's helped us

to open our eyes and add variety to our sex life. We even buy your book recently and are excited about the possibilities and fun times. Regarding Loub, do many tips to reduce the messiness? The Loub we use comes in a squeeze bottle and pouring out the Loub often requires multiple hands, awkward positions, and pauses, and lube that gets everywhere. It's not that we mine lube on sheets,

but applying it during mid-for-play, right before penetration, has 10th damp in the mood. In addition, I end up leaving my hand. I feel bad spreading it all over her. He's like a little OCD here, but I get it, when continuing with funerling over a body, is there where you apply or some apparatus bottle that could be used with any type of lube? We use water-based like a spray bottle or a roll-on. That's a great idea, like the spray on, like this. That could have some kind of

bacteria in it. It's like a spray on, a good idea. Yeah. The spray on, um, um, uh, sunblock? Sunblock. Oh, yeah, sure. It's a deal. Moving the small annoyance will add just that much to our pleasure, to our playtime. Thanks for your advice and passion for sex, and mononymous age 33. Let me see, tried your lube. No, I don't sell my lube.

I love my lube. But it was a whole FDA thing. They don't approve ludes anymore. I don't want to talk about it now. I give it to my friends. Here's the thing. Do you have a flip top? Does it even use the flip top and that's a problem?

Because there are pump bottles. I recommend a pump bottle. By the bed, there's a lot of... Like Uberloob is one that I remember because it's super easy to get out. I know, but I'm sure they make other ones. They have a lot. Here makes the Squirty ones to...

They do? I love here. It's spelled PJUR. If you go to to sex with Emily.com, click on the Good Vibes banner. You can look for ones that are pump. Can you go, just wet make a pump one or I don't know. I mean, I'll look it up. Yeah. I would just try to find you might cost you more or here's another idea. Buy one of those plastic pump bottles at Target where they sell the travel supplies and put your lube in there.

Oh yeah, I did. And then you can pump it by your back because he doesn't mention pumpy mentions. Like, you never want to screw top one. Or it's like the squeeze kind where it's like a little like squeeze top and you have to turn it upside down to like squeeze the lube out, you know? And yeah, that does get sticky.

And I personally, you're saying OCD, I personally feel the same way as him. Or like, I'm kidding, you're not a sweet one. Yeah, I'm like, if like I have lube on me or like my boyfriend has lube on his hands, I'm like, please, I personally feel the same way as him, or like I'm kidding, you're not a student. But like if I have Loubon me, or like my boyfriend has Loubon as hands, I'm like, please, like don't put your hands on my face, don't get your hands on my hair. Like you are covered in Loub, you are exactly.

No, I totally agree. I would say the pump bottle, what else? Look for, he likes water, but he likes water-based Loubricants. So yeah, use for pump, I do like Uber Lou, but it's silicone. Actual application. Use it right before penetration. You can squeeze a handful like, you know, and your hands and massage in your partner's vagina. You know,

you can do that and you can stick it up inside of her, rubbing your clitoris and then she already, you know, has it on. And then during sex, use the pump to pump it on. Yeah, we pump it directly, like if you've got the pump, like we need it. Yeah, I pump it right on. I use UberLoop and just don't even touch it with my hands, just pump it directly onto the surface. That's what I do too.

I do the same thing. And then there's a loop shooter, which I just heard about. There's a loop shooter that's like a gun and you put lubricant and you just shoot it up inside you. Oh my gosh. That's miraculous. I know, they have them like at all these sex toys stores. I was talking about my anal-sac.

I was going to mention it during my anal-sex workshop, but I didn't get to it, but you could just just shoot yourselves up with some loot. Wow. It's amazing. I know. Who would have thought a loot shooter? Would you thought?

Liquid Silk has a, Liquid Silk has one. I love Liquid Silk. That's a great brand-warp beast. So we have Liquid Silk and Super Silk, which I believe Super Silk is silicone. We have Wicked Aqua, which I actually, I actually my boyfriend has the coffee kind. And sometimes if he masks right before I get home

and I get home, I'm like, what smells like cookies? And it's, it's like a coffee smell, but it actually ends up smelling kind of like biscotti. Is it making you want to do a blowjob? Because you're like, your dick smells like cookies? No, it makes me really confused. Cause I'll be like laying in bed next to him. I'm like, why do you smell like cookies?

Then I'm like, is there you like wearing woman's body spray? It smells like a Victoria's secret ad and he's like, I'm mass reading the flavor of the lube today. You could get non-flavored too. But that's a good liquid so it goes a great option. So go to good vibes use code Emily. Oh yes enough. I'm gonna do that.

We're gonna have to lose problems. What? The man, the womanizer. I saw. Oh. Yeah, what tell me about that? Okay. So the womanizer, did you see that we talked about with you, did you? Yeah, I, yes.

Were you, did you talk about it? Maybe I did a lot of you were talking about it now. No, you talked about something else that led me to the womanizer. So the womanizer. Okay, so the womanizer is this new toy, and it's pretty amazing. I have to say it like barely, it just,

it touches your clitoris, so it kind of like it has this round, how do you explain it? So like on tip on the top. Yeah. And it has this, it really like, it has like a suction. Like it doesn't, it's like barely touches your clitoris but it's just in that way that you kind of like it. And you can also add more pressure and suction

to it if you want but it's like barely touching the tip but it feels amazing. I don't even know how, we wrote a blog post. Yeah but it's like barely touching the tip, but it feels amazing. I don't even know how we wrote a blog post on how they were. It's on how they were. I know. Yeah, you wrote up that's what it was. I'm trying to look for what is the post say Madison because you posted a Hussar Hollywood. I'm trying to think about how it's like explain that right?

It's like it's the most unique toy because it's like indirect, literal simulation. That's the way I'm looking for. Okay. It's so many women like like they're clitorisers or sensitive, they don't want as much pressure on it. And I had like an orgasm and I was like, whoa, I didn't even see it coming. I was like, whoa, where's that come from?

Yeah. It's pretty amazing. And I wrote a really good view that is on the Hussar Hollywood website. And then the owner of it emailed me, the CEO sent me a letter, like a real letter that he wrote, like he lives in the UK or Sweden, I think. And he's like, I just wanted to thank you so much for you. And he sent me like a Swarsky Crystal one. Like, was the first of its kind, which

I was very honored. But dazzled and expanded. But dazzled. But what, yeah, three of you points from that point. Okay, yeah. So one of the, or the thing about the womanizer is it isolates your clitoris and kind of like simulates the feeling of like when a guy is like going down on you and he sucks your clitters. Clearly he is doing it very strongly because it's his whole mouth, you know, but it does feel very pleasurable. And the womanizer like simulates that. So you, it's a section cup directly around your clitters and it just puts like the most light section pressure on it.

And like, kind of like, that's the troll it. You control it. Yeah, here's a picture of it. So right here, I pulled it. So that is the button that gets going. And then if you want a little more, you press this rhinestone. I was like, actually, Madison, that's if Snooki had a vibrator, this would look like,

because the leopard and pink and diamonds, or whatever, it's crystals. But you click on this and then it goes, mm, a little more intense. Do you want me to get you one? Oh, yeah, yeah. No, I'll get it. It's okay.

So yeah, it's like suction and it's really, really cool. Do they sell it everywhere or is it just hustle? Yeah, they now sell it at good vibes. But easiest play stand is hustle or Hollywood. Say sex with Emily sent you for $20. Yeah, exactly. And this, yeah, I'm like, and this says, oh wait, I wrote this, okay, where I get to start.

Usually I create it up to the maximum speed to see what's working, but I only made it to a level two out of five and it still knocked my socks off. Yeah, that intrigued me. Yeah, and then do it's funny. A lot of sex educators, my friend from Australia, was in town, my friend, Dr. Nikki.

And she was in town, and we were in there, and she was, have you tried the womanizer yet? Like, and then the, what last night that woman, oh yeah, McKenna. Kind of, she also, she was like, what do you think? So it is kind of all the talk of the town now. So check that out, get it, get it, then check it out. Yeah, you can get it.

Okay, Lynette, you rock, we gotta cut out. This is so fun. Thank you for making making time because I know you're super busy Wrangling the man Grea girls and your podcast for crying out loud and I love that you're here. Thank you Emily come back and do this again. Oh, I would love to you You got to come on our show again. I know I would love to come on your show again That will be really your fun and they can find you tell us all your places in And you can go this shows for crying out loud And you tell us all your places in Mangriya. You can go, well, this shows for crying out loud.

You can go to CorollaDrinks.com for the Mangriya. We're gonna have lemonade and all that getting launched will be launched. Adam's hardest. There's a lemonade? Yeah, coming soon. I don't know if I should have said that, but whatever, it's fine.

Yeah, we're gonna, it's coming soon. I'm so excited. You guys are like taking your kids everywhere. Yeah, we're gonna it's gonna it's coming Yeah, we are so go to Karola drinks But follow me on Instagram. Leneca rola Twitter everything is how she is gonna make you want to buy some Thank you. No, we got our beauty tips too. Thank you so much Madison. Oh, thank you. You're awesome and Yeah, you can follow me again Facebook Twitter Instagram sector Emily and also come to New York if you're in the New York area, or if you're listening right now, and you're like, my cousin would love this, my friend would love this, send him down. And if you want tickets, feedback at sexwithemley.com.

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