Sex With Emily - Unfiltered Sex (Talk) With Brandi Glanville

Episode Date: June 6, 2017

The age old saying is true: you’re only as old as you feel. The same rings true when it comes to your sex life! On today’s show, Emily is joined host of the Unfiltered podcast, mom, and entrepreneur Brandi Glanville, and the two definitely feel young about sex and dating. Is sexting an act of cheating? How do you keep yourself from losing interest too quickly? Should you tell your wife you get off from thinking about her and her well-hung ex? Emily and Brandi help listeners navigate through these issues and more, plus the two talk about Brandi’s own sex and dating life. We also find out why science says feeling old can dampen your sex life. You won’t want to miss this show! Thank you for supporting our sponsors who help keep this podcast FREE: We-Vibe, Audible, Adam & Eve Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. On today's show, I'm here with Brandy Glanville, podcaster, reality TV star, mom, and entrepreneur. Together, we're helping you navigate your dating, sex, and relationship questions. Topics include, is sex to be an active cheating? What to do when you don't like anyone you date? How to turn your girlfriend onto masturbation

and how to suppress that cheating urge? And thanks to Audible for supporting the show. Look for Esther Porelle's new series on Audible Channels, which I'll tell you more about for supporting the show. Look for Esther Peral's new series on Audible channels, which I'll tell you more about later in the show. Thanks for listening. That mock our sacred institutions. Betrubized, they call them in a fight on me. Hey, Evelyn, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken, he thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand.

Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common knowledge? What do you mean like laundry? It shrinks? Can we not talk about sex so much? Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here, I'm so broke.

Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Evelyn is not the kind of girl you just play with. What I think we should just fucking start. Okay, let's just, okay Brandy. I'm here with Brandy Glanville. And I'm just starting to show very non-traditional right now because we just naturally talking about sex toys. And that's amazing.

So Brandy, if you don't know Brandy, we've listened to all over the world. You're an international celebrity, Brandy, if you don't know, Brad, we've listened to all over the world. You're an international celebrity. Brandy. Yeah, she's a podcast. Okay, guys, check out her podcast right now, because I know you like podcasts. Brandy Glanville unfiltered.

It's awesome. She's a mother, author, television, personality, entrepreneur, former model. She's super hot. Check out the Instagram and all that stuff. And she's got wine. And I love the title of your box. Drinking and dating and drinking and tweeting. Yeah it's all about drinking. Oh my God. Exactly. I'll go hand in. Yeah. Do you drink during your show? I can't because my voice is already high as

can I correct? Yeah totally. It's already high as fuck and then when I drink it gets really really high it's already it's it's not even though when you're drinking Oh everyone. Well I mean people that know me right yeah. I think it's high okay so we won't we won when you're drinking. Oh, everyone knows. Right, well, I mean, people that know me. Right, yeah. I think it's okay, so we won't get drunk now. But let's go back. We were talking about sex toys and you said that your boyfriend now is like,

where has that been? I don't want to. Yeah, because last time I met you, you were on my podcast and you gave me a bunch of stuff and I was so excited. So I have this little bin at my house. It's all my sex stuff.

You know, it's interesting. Every guy that I've dated and it's been a couple of years since I've seen you, I think, they don't want to use that stuff. Like, who else have you used to with? My boyfriend, especially now, is like, no, we'll get new stuff.

And then like, dude, I'm hygienic and I think this show, but it's $20 toys. It feels like, I think they feel like they want it. Like, they want to diverge and ice you with some new toy that no one's ever touched before. I never, well, okay, I think you just have to say, I used it by myself even, whatever, masturbation. You can't do that now, you can't go back in time.

You can't lie, I'm like, you can't lie. But also, what is it, I don't know, well, I would say like, I use it to get myself off. I do right, don't lie. They probably picture that they get the visual of you with a guy with a toy. But you could just say, I just used it last night thinking about you

and I had 10 orgasms masturbating. I guess I'm the guy. Because my guy is super, super sentimental and like, man, giant-ish and I love him to death. But like most a lot of guys don't wouldn't care. They just want to get in a role. Yeah. No, but some guys seem to be that's interesting

because I know I've had some friends who've said that Guy friends, they're like, I had a toy left over for my last girlfriend and the girl was like where did you get that? I don't want it and I understand that if I go I whipped out some like rabbit with like pubic hairs out They probably wouldn't even notice I'd be like I just like I have this thing. Oh my god. We should give you if we had a UV here. It's this some it's a new We did a Kickstarter campaign for them and it's it uses UV like it looks like a dishwasher. Yeah UV light you put all your toys and it charges them. Oh It ties them that's amazing. You have to worry that they're gonna run out of juice and be claderny

Like change everything would you care about that if you have you one of those? I'm I care about it. Maybe like they'd be versions again I'm the news of the new I'm he's over it again I got it. That's good a what, well, that's fun. He could buy you some, but I'm going to give you some cool stuff too. But do you guys use, okay, so back up for a minute now, we got the toys there. So what I love about you so many things is that you're so that you went through a very public divorce, which was that fun.

I haven't cheated. Still not fun. Still not fun, right? How many years ago now, like, seven eight years eight years. I mean and you and then you're like okay this sucks But then you went to the reality show. Yeah, you're on real housewives And you you like this like in one season you become like the star and I You did I don't know what the star. I was probably very heated. I was like they look that people love me or they hate me There's no win between but But isn't that, but you were yourself.

You were trying to be anything other than yourself. I think, I mean, I know the producer, I had one season of Rally, so let's talk about that. Yeah, I remember. I remember, yeah. But I'm saying, you had, you and I, they wanted you back to page, you were, I mean, you were, and I get the producers push you though.

Well, I think for me, I was the only one out of the girls at the time that I started that was in an actress. So these women have all been in front of the camera their whole lives. I'm like, I was a model, but you don't talk as a model. Like, shut the fuck up. And be pretty. And so when the cameras turned on, they would turn into different people than when the cameras were off.

So it was almost like they were making themselves a different version of themselves, like a better version. Whereas I was like, I wish I could act. You know, it would be different. Like, uh, and then somebody will say, oh, that's a plan. This and I'm like, if you tell me to plan something, I'm the worst. I'm like, I'll, I'll screw it up for sure. And it will seem rehearsed.

And that is something that happened quite a lot with these women. They would want to like plan this. Let's go after this person in this. I'm like, they really hate me. It's like so high school. And you're like, I'm just gonna, you're like a couldn't even follow the lines. I couldn't even follow that plot.

So that's what I'm saying is why people related because you are so authentic. Like they knew that that was you, whether they love the hate you. I mean, you were out there. That was myself. I will say towards the end, my last season, I did feel a lot of pressure to make it interesting

where I would do things out of, that I probably wouldn't normally have done it out of, oh my God, we don't have a show. Like this is not interesting. So I might row wine at someone for no reason. Right. And I'm like, what the hell did I just do that? But you know, you have a producer saying,

we don't have a show, do something. And it's like, nobody else is gonna do it because they already are rich and they don't need to check. Right. You know, they're going to do it. I'm going to do it. And I'm like, I got to do something. Right. You're like, I guess I could throw wine. Right. And yeah, that's okay. So when I, so I did my one season on the show, I was on the show, I missed advice on Bravo like four years ago. And the producers, I didn't know this was a thing, but I've heard now from other reality world that the producer like, and there's about three single dating experts,

do we practice what we preach, but we are in different cities and the producer'd say, okay, so do you want to be the bornist one on the show? Like, do you want to be the sex expert that doesn't have sex? Because that's what you are and the show is going to die. So go have sex with this guy. I was so naive. I'm like, I didn't. I was like, I didn't really, I didn't really, I'm like, they're your quote unquote bosses like, I didn't really want to. They're your quote unquote bosses, but you have to realize they are all independent contractors. So if they don't produce a good show, not only are it a show getting cut, but they don't have a job.

So they're there to manipulate us into doing something interesting that makes them look good. So they can go another show. No, I get it now. That's not me too. I just think that's different to school. Like no one has a TV. They're like, you're on a what?

Like, you know what I mean? Like, you're here. And I couldn't get anyone to, it was not different to school. No one has a TV. They're like, you're on a what? You know what I mean? You're like, you're right. And I couldn't get anyone to, it was like a dating show. And nobody, there were guys and they were like, yeah, a friend's trying to fix me up, they're like, but I don't want to be on TV, but I would date Emily here. It's like, any guy here. Well, every guy here is thirsty, thirsty, thirsty.

Right, not like that there. So it was a different world. But anyway, you did the show and then you have your podcast, you write about all that your dating exploits and you're just you're out there and you're yourself. And you've your podcast, you write about all that you're dating exploits and you're just you're out there and you're yourself. And you've had a lot of success now and you're wine. Yeah, I mean, I'm drinking, I'm drinking, I'm not writing about drinking,

I'm drinking my own wine and I'm doing more reality. I actually started to get into production to be on the other side. I wrote two treatments and we had some interest and I'm really excited about that because. That's great. Congratulations. It's all gonna go away.

Yeah, for TV, it's reality stuff. But you're going, you're going. Yeah, I know I'm always afraid. It's gonna go away, it doesn't. Well, eventually. It will. So, yeah, just like that. I like that.

I'm moving, keep on grooving. You're doing it. You're doing it. And I want to say that, so now you're in a relationship going back to the Mr. Sex toy guy. We're going to go home with some amazing stuff today. But it's going to be a game show. I feel like it's price is right. Today you're going to go home with some amazing prizes.

Behind this door is a vibrator. But wait, tell me about this guy, because you're books, which will get it be three years, four years, five years. How many years were you like drinking and dating and tweeting? In many ways. I'm most real honest. But I still drink and tweet. You can tell when I'm drunk tweeting. When are you years where you like drinking and dating and tweeting and drinking? And then you still am, right? Most realness. Are you still drinking? I still drink and tweet.

You can tell when I'm drunk, tweeting. I'm cheating. And when I'm not, it's about to be on. And then I'm, Brandi Glanville, by the way, if you want to follow on all social, B-R-A-N-D-I-G-L-A-N-V-I-L-E. Okay, so you're still, yeah, you're still tweet and drink.

And I, my, my man's a drinker, like myself. So, any of us two kids, the same exact age as mine. Oh my God. And we met on Tinder. Shut up, I swear. That's what I thought, and like, is that true? Yeah. Okay, so I want to talk about you being on Tinder.

Because how did you not match, you probably match with every guy. Well, every guy says yes. Every guy swipes the word away. Even the picture. Even the picture. It's a pretty girl. They just like swipe, they don't read.

They don't see the other kids. They don't like, I'm like, though. It's a pretty girl. They just like swipe. They don't read. They don't see the kids. They don't like, I'm like, whatever. They just swipe so excited. I would have 100 matches and I'm like, you know they didn't even look. They just see how old I am to see anything. Nothing. And so it was fun.

It was the game for me and my gay best run. I'm like, would it flip through? I'm like, he's a pedophile. He's a, he's gay and doesn't know it. He, you know, I would, like, it was more fun for me and I really, it's a game. Yeah. I did it because for my book, I kind of ran out of material.

I'm writing my third book and I'm like, what the hell am I going to write about? I need to write a little more about, you know, dating and living and all of that. So I went on one date and I swore, I was like, just like a recorder in your pocket, are you a reporter? Cause this is a lot of questions about

how's wives and my ex-husband. It was like I was on an interview. Okay. And it was help. But I sat through dinner, I got through dessert, I ubered out of there and I was like never again. Then- That was Tinder though. Yes, Tinder. Okay. And well, because I- Everyone's like go on, Raya, Raya, Raya. Right. They rejected me. I've heard everyone's gets rejected from there. I don't- My friends didn't. I did. Really? It was not a good day. And then like I lost my lawyer like I had to fire him. And then I got rejected from right. I was like, this is not my day. Like, and I can't get on the famous people dating site. Right? Right. Okay.

So I went on Tinder just kind of out of boredom and I got it. I was just, you know, there's nobody. So this guy, I saw any picture with two kids and it made me happy because it was cute. And he had his kids in the picture. Okay. And I'm like, oh my god, I love that he's letting you know these are my two kids and they come first. So I pushed, yes or whatever you do. I don't know, I forgot now.

Swipe, right? Swipe, right, whatever. And so we started communicating through that but it was like, to go into the app to talk to someone you don't really, so for like two months we would like randomly say hi for a week. Like, oh, hey, what's up? Power your hey, not really on here.

We exchange numbers. Didn't really talk. And then one day he texted me and he's like, we should probably have a phone call at this point. And I'm like, okay, so he called me and we couldn't get off the phone. Oh, he's like, all right, that's me. So this is like, you can't say. It's a good phone, okay.

Months since you weren't even like, did you research him? Did you like die deep Google? Neither one of us were really that like, all right, that's me. So this is like, you want to say? It's a good phone, okay? Months and so you weren't even like, and did you research him? Did you like, die deep Google? Neither one of us were really that like hurry up and let's me, you know, it wasn't anything. And so we went to this bar and it was like a sports work. In LA. Yeah, okay.

But in, like, I live in Sherman, like, in this, in Ray Valley. And he walked in and I was walking on the bathroom and like we literally ran into each other. And he was the boss of me and then I was the boss of me. And so I was sitting over here. I'm like, I'm sitting over there. I'm like, don't tell, I like to look at people when we were talking.

He's like, sit over here. And I was like, I went and sat over there. I don't even know why. And so yeah, and then he kissed me. I don't kiss him why. And so, yeah, and then he kissed me. I don't kiss him, I was like, every rule I have, he broke. Wow. Oh my, within the first date. Yeah, the first date.

So chemistry. Chemistry is my highly intelligent, talked to my kids, sexy, like goes deep. Look, he had deep conversations. Oh my god, I love it. And did he, had he watched the real housewives read your book, said he done, I mean, he did it? No, he said no, but he thought,

I'll say no, they did. They did, right. Because I saw like on his like, you know, the Google. But he thought I was off Orange County. So he's not, he doesn't actually have proper TV at his house. It's like the hulu, the, it's the guy's stuff that they don't watch on TV.

Right, right, right. Right. So he legit doesn't watch it, but he did his homework and right. Of course. So you're on Orange County House, so. I like the watch. Right. So, he legit doesn't watch it, but he did his homework and I'm like, of course. So, you're on Orange County House, so it's how it's done. I'm like, well, I don't like Orange County in general,

but, close. Right. Beverly Hills. But there's more blondes. I can see how you could get confused. It's confusing. And the boobs, the blond, I'm like,

I'll take one of those girls. Okay, so you go out and you have this great date, and then what, did you just, did you see, put them on the first date? No, I, I didn't, because they still didn't know him, know him, so when we're outside, he's like, I'll give you right home. And I was like, I'm just gonna Uber,

because I don't want anyone coming to my house. You still knew even though I liked him. I'm gonna end up having friends in common, so that made me feel a little more safe. Yeah, absolutely. Then he had a really nice car. I'm like, okay, you've been driving home. Dammit.

So I got in the car and he drove me home. We made out my driveway and then he tried to come in and I said, no way. And then that was it. From that point on, we were pretty much like, it was on. Wow, how long has it been? About nine months. He'll know the exact amount of time it's been because he's like, how long has it been? About nine months. He'll know the exact amount of time it's been

because he's like, you know what today is? I'm like, oh, that's sweet. So this is the man Jaina, you're talking about. So he's more emotional, sensitive. I think that's what you mean with it. But on the first day, he was more like the boss of you. It was more like a dude, but then he's not. No, he can be, he's the man that can he man's up,

but he's sensitive and he's like sweet. And I'm just like, not. Right, I totally get it. I mean, it's kind of complicated, but I know whenever I know that, because I cry in the closet. Right, I got it. Okay, so he's never made you cry.

Made me cry. No, he made me mad a couple times. He made me yell. But what? Oh, he just pissed me off. Right. But mostly, so nine months, that's the good phase. It's like the honeymoon.

Yeah. Things are great. Yeah. But like, it's nine, I mean, it's like typically like six months, two years. But it, it's like, I'm just saying that's, you know, biology speak, biologically speaking. So how long the honeymoon phase lasts? So you guys are, what do you do together? Do you guys think you've been to there's families?

Yeah, so it's great. So, I don't know his family as well. His, he knows mine. My family's just super easy. They're like just chill, party it's great. So I don't know his family as well, his he knows mine. My family's just super easy. They're like just chill, partyers, whatever. Right. So they were all down the suit and we threw a big Memorial Day party with the kids and everything.

So it worked out and all my friends have kids and all my girlfriend said boys and I have boys. And so it's like, yeah, it's like a boy party. And so we don't have to do like, break anyone's hair or anything. So we, okay, that would be so not. You've got your own hair to breed. Okay, so here's my question.

So you guys, so when did you become official? Were you still dating other people? Or are you like, oh my God, I'm done? You know, I don't remember. I mean, I just, I don't really, so I have two personalities. I have one week with my kids where I don't go out at all. It's like kids, two to her homework,

we're in bed at 9.30. I don't see my single friends. I don't, you know, see anyone. And then they go to their dads and I have a week of, let's go crazy. We're my party friends. Let's try new restaurants. Let's go to our company. Stupid.

And then it turned out so every other week we have the same schedule. So we didn't see each other for weeks. So we would miss each other and then end up spending every day the following weeks together. So we really got. So we get to miss each other on the weeks that we, you know, I think that's kind of healthy.

I think the healthiest relationships are when they have space. I love the idea that even the separate bedrooms, separate homes. No, I love the trust me. I'm all about separate homes. Yeah, you need your own thing. You need your own space. So how was, how was the sex when you first? Honestly, it's great.

He's a really good kisser and it would be a problem if he wasn't. But he can go like, I call him a little monkey, but he can go all night and I'm pretty much you know, we don't need to do, I'm good after an hour. He wants to go like more than an hour, like hours an hour. He's hyper, he's hyper as a fuck. And he's always been like that. Yeah, he says, he's a bit super turn-off. He's always like, I hope so.

Wow. So okay, he goes long, but how is he super turn knob. Yeah. I mean, I hope so. Wow. So, okay, he goes long, but how is he like, like here's what I think, because we talk about this a lot, I always do too on the show. And I even, like, giving guys feedback, like, actually, has there ever been anything with him or with anybody that you're like, you know, this isn't working for me, because you seem outspoken, but can you say, you know what, go to the left or the right. I mean, I tell him. Like, what have you told him in particular?

Well, before me, he never liked to eat pussy. And I was like, that's a serious deal breaker. So it's not happening, it's not happening. And now it's like his favorite thing. Yeah. And he's actually really good at it. And he's getting better and he knows my spots. Because I'm like over here, that way.

What? I will say he's a little too free to say, oh, can I put it in your ass on my phone? No, not like mostly for like an hour. You know that. It's not gonna happen just because I'm on my period. Right. It might, on occasion, but it's not just gonna happen.

He sees the tampons out of like tonight. He's like, it's this week, it's about week. He says things like, but week. Like I put in your butt, I'm like, oh, I said, don't be so crass. So you gotta take a look at it in your ass or something like yeah, don't say but I don't really talk about it Yeah, I don't know. Just try to do it and if you can do it, you can't exactly know That's anti okay, so I tell everyone always yes, you have to ask permission

I'm not saying that but if you're with somebody what I want to make the differentiation here is that you're with him And you can say I want to put your butt because he's done it don't do it like the first time like just put it in the butt right so so I'm Fasted by this pussy thing because I've actually ended relationship with a guy who's like no, it's not my thing I'm like that's what you're not my thing right up with them Down they're going down absolutely even Early and often all you know like Exilion time today or if time I see him have to And there was like a study that came out that said that literally I was so happy, it was like science, it was like women are more like they need two things,

or there's three, I can't remember the third right now, but two things for sure that makes a women come across the board. It was like oral sex. We're not a percent. Like women, like it was just like maybe. A lot of friends can only get off with oral sex. Yes, exactly. So it's like, I mean, I can do both luckily,

but it is easier with oral. Right. So I don't have that to start out, it's like, I mean, I can do both luckily, but it is easier with the world. Right. If I don't have that, to start out, it's not going to get real wet for you. Right. We let you use Lou. Yeah, I do. I use move. Do you know that one?

No. Oh, it's so good. I found it in Vegas, of course. No, I have different. I better. Okay, I don't know if you have me. Joe, I have Joe Lou. Okay, we're going to try it tonight.

You're going into my sex toy closet after. It's a whole thing. So the other thing was what it was, women go required oral sex. I think it was like to talk, like dirty talking like fingers or something, but it was oral sex is what I remember. So he had never,

like so he's married and occasionally the whole thing and he's like, I just don't like it. He had never really done it. And he doesn't like it. He's like, I just don't like to do it. He's like, I've done it. I just don't enjoy it. And he had a four year relationship before me.

And I'm like, how did that last so long? You don't do that. He's like, I was just, he's like, you're very hygienic. And so I guess maybe in the past, I don't know. Really? He said, like, I don't know. So you're clean and you, of course, but I'm here. We all, I mean, there is,

things happen. There has, I mean, it has a specific smell to it. Right. So I mean, maybe some guys don't like it, and some guys do. Right, I mean, it has a specific smell to it. Right. So, I mean, maybe some guys don't like it, some guys do. Right. I don't know. Right. But okay, so how did he, I want to know how you directed him that if he's never really

done, like, so you really were like to the left to the right, you just tell him, go soft or slower and he mastered it. Well, he was, he has this inversion table because he has a bad back, so he was laying upside down. I just, he's locked up to him. I was the perfect height. Wait, so he's doing his stretching and he's upside down. That's the best thing ever.

Like, he was stuck. You should snap that. I'm not letting you do that. Dude, that'd be easy to do. No, I already took one picture when we were drunk. We thought it was really an artistic picture. We got so much shook for it. So when you think, you think this is great,

we should post this. I know you wake up in the morning, you're like, was that good? Do you ever go back to like delete snaps? I'm like, that was not funny last night. I don't know how to delete stuff. I'm still new to me. I'm getting it. But I just stick with Instagram and Twitter.

Do you do the Instagram stories? Because you can delete those as well. I'll show you how to do that. I'm just getting out of the other stuff. I turned off your C and N alerts for the show. I know. I can show you how to do the Instagram stuff yeah, literally write it down. Okay, well, or I'll have you do it yourself That's how I've learned that I learn like I need to do it myself or I need to listen like 16 times All right, okay, I'll start your things. Okay, so so this guy's so that's great

So I love this oral sex you're happy now. What about? Previously, so you were dating on these apps and what do you think that period gave you like? So this guy said, that's great. So I love this. Or all sex, you're happy. Now what about previously? So you were dating on these apps, and what do you think that period gave you? Like what did you learn about? I know you were in a relationship for a long time, but what did you like learn about? Like you would have ton of dates, right?

I'm not on the apps, I only went on two. Okay, just in general in LA. Like I'm there now. Well guys suck here, you know. I mean like, but that's my question. I want to talk to you. Why do they suck more than elsewhere, anything? Because they that's my question. I want to talk more than else, where do you think?

Because they're cheap as fuck, half of them don't have jobs, and they, it's just, there's too much, there's too many choices. They could have you one night, mean one night or one night. It's like, I'll do blonde right here tonight, and then, Burnett tomorrow, Asian National Day, I'll have a black girl next night.

It's like, it's a plethora, it's a smorgasbord of pussy. Right, it's true, it's so true, they never, right. But it's always been like that, I guess, but girl next to me. It's like, it's a plethora, it's a smorgasbord of pussy. It's true, it's so true. They never, right. But it's always been like that. I guess the apps make it more so. But what about dating as like a celebrity? So did you feel like that was a thing? Like how do I know that that's really your intention

and that you, you know? I still, I mean, it is a quite, like if someone knows too much about you, then it's like, hmm, and then if they want to be like on the right carpet or they want to go to events, I have to drag the sky, which I like. It's great. He's enjoying it now,

because he gets to get dressed up and I had to go in and sculpt it and throw away all of his true religion. Otherwise, we were gonna break up. But yes, we now. He's true religion. I was slow in that right. That's gone.

They're so gone. I know. The ones that I like to ask like the wash, the big pockets, and the stitching. I think they're fair. I think they're fair. But now we have John Barbados. We're good.

Oh my gosh. He's so cute. I mean, I saw the pictures and everything like that. I died as eyebrows. I'm like, he's my little man. I love him. I love this. I love it.

He's like anything you want to do. You know, most guys would like to fight. He's like, I trust you. Right. It sounds like right away. Like the chemistry itself. So do you think that all that dating with these assholes kind of prepared you then?

Like what did you learn from all that, you think? Or was just fun? Like you were like, I mean, I never really committed to a guy. Like I was more of the dude. Yeah, and I didn't ever put it like, we're not in a relationship, we're just fucking just so you're aware. It's not, and then because the kid we could come

and I wouldn't talk to him, and it was almost like starting over. So I never really, I never put my heart out there. And I was always like, my walls were up, I know I hate when people say that, but it's like, I wouldn't really let anyone in. No one got to meet my kids. So it was just me, it was just sex for me.

And would you tell them right away, or like this is, you really like right away? Um, I don't think I need to tell them. I think that's what they wanted to. I mean, there was one that kind of was like, let's hang out every day and I was like, no, but this actually was good, but he smoked cigarettes at Dermunat.

So people still do that. Yeah, he's French so. Oh yeah, I know, you can make excuses. Like when I did the Irish guy and he was alcoholic, I'm like, you can't help it. It's like, I'm rich. And they're on it. Right, I'm like, you can't help it.

So he's a person. I'm a bit of a idiot. You're an alcoholic. Alcoholic, it's totally fine. But what't help it. He's a mercy dude. Narrow, you're alcoholic. It's totally fine. What's the problem? That's what I feel. Good, right?

So yeah, that's cute. I like him. I like you guys. You seem happy. Do you think it's made you like, I don't know, like, anchored now in a way that you can kind of focus on other things or do you miss some of the dating? Oh, no, I don't miss the date.

And we go out all the time and the good thing is, he loves all my friends. He does, he was confused. Like, why do you have so many gay men in your life? I'm like, because they can't cheat on me and they can do my hair. And they're funnier than a short man. And he's like, I've never met so many gay men. I go, it's just, it's just who I'm around. Does he live in LA?

He lives in the deep, deep in the bathroom. Okay, so he doesn't know. He's the best. He's the best. Exactly. And now he's the best friend. He's like, oh, he's texting, how's the term? We're gonna go out, I'm like, you're texting all my girlfriends,

all my guy friends. I love this. And he's like, we're going out with this person this week. I'm like, we are. So he like plans things to get to our nice. He's the planner. Oh my god. He's like, there's a new guy.

Okay, because I don't want to do it. I have to do tutoring, I have to make sure Mason passes eighth grade because it's, you know, the struggle is real. I have to cook dinner, I have to do, I have to pay for my house. Like, yeah, the guy happens to have a lot of money and everyone's like, oh, you're deadying him because he has put my rent.

He doesn't pay my, he pays for dinners, which I think is very sweet because I don't know that in the past for men. And it's nice that he can do that. Right, but it's not like he's like, no. People just like to say, they'll say whatever. It's my crazy though. I know, right?

So do you read read whatever on rights or I read some of it depends on how much time I have it's a it's a J.O.B. like Twitter and and I like to use it to promote things that are coming up and Then when I start to get into it too much and I start to read I start to get in the wars right and then that's not good for me I like you say you silence people you said you don't block them. Yeah, I know because the numbers Yeah, I didn't know I just black people who said me do get dick pics and stuff because those people I block. No I know I know I I will block you. No I don't I do not enjoy them at all but I have this one woman who legit hates me to the point where she wants me dead and we've had her we had had her block to

she keeps on opening new accounts. She goes to my family, to my podcast producer, to DJ, DJ was like, this is the guy I'm dating. He was like, this woman said this and this and this about you. I'm like, I don't know her. She was a fan of Housewives. She hates me because of a TV show. It's not even me. No producer made me throw the one.

Right. No, but he went out of his way, got her phone number, found out where she lived, and called her. She thinks he's gonna change my haters, like he's gonna talk them out of hating me, and I was on the phone too, because I wanted to hear her voice. And she was wasted, and her name was Lisa,

and she's like 55, she lives in a himmit, when I just outing her, but she was so waste, like he was trying to reason with someone that is not reasonable and was high. And I'm like, I guess I finally jumped in, I go, at least I then she started to go crazy on me. I'm like, listen, just leave me alone. DJ, go hang up.

It's not gonna change my mind, but he thinks he can change. He's like, they just don't know you be. He really cares about you. It's very sweet to you. So how does it feel to trust again? Like how was it, you know, challenging after what you went there to be like,

okay, I'm gonna open up, but I'm gonna try to trust like. Yeah, you know, it took, it took some time. And when we first met, he's like, I have to go for business. I'm like, okay, let's just break up. Cause I'm like, I can't even.

I don't deal with people that travel and you're cute and, and he is, he, I don't know how he did it. He just called me all the time. I always checked in, not even checked in, but we would have deep conversations. He showed up, so this is funny, because I don't let my kids meet anyone. And I haven't in so many years.

And he showed up at my house, I'm invited with his kids. And he's like, hey, I'm your mom's boyfriend. I'm like, he can't do it. Wait, don't, dude, he can't do it. No, I lost my mind. I had a panic attack. That's when you yelled. No, Hey, I'm your mom's boyfriend. I'm like, he can't wait. Don't do it. No, I lost my mind. I had I had a panic. That's when you yelled. No, I, yes. And then my kids loved it. They lit up. They thought it was hilarious. And I was like, no, no, I go, we're not. I go, you're my boyfriend. The most uncomfortable. I think that broke

everything. All my rules in one second. And then my kids were laughing and they were so excited that this was happening. And he's like a, he's sort of laughing. He's like, you know, he's like, yeah, I'm not a boyfriend. Winking, I'm like, oh my God. He just came in like, yes, he broke, he broke. Because of all these rules down, right? Like, yeah, you got everything, the kid.

If you're coming over, you call him. My parents introduced me to, like, this my new wife, like, they got married like six times. I was like, really? Like, no, I feel like today parents deal with it much better, but it all worked out, you're like, I did, and it was probably what I needed for that to happen because I was like, oh, I don't know,

I don't know if I want to introduce the kids, I'm not sure. And then he just like, stormed in and that was it. And they love him, they love him. They love him. Panty, your life is like perfection right now. I mean, even though we're against each other, I know, I totally got it. Okay, we are gonna take a quick break and then we're going to do some sex Panty, your life is like perfection right now. Even though we're against each other. I know, I totally got it.

Okay, we are going to take a quick break and then we're going to do some sex in the news and you're going to help me answer some questions and give advice. Okay. So then we're really good at that. Thank you, Brandy Glantville. And thanks everyone for listening. I love you. Thank you for supporting our sponsors and help keeping this show free.

You know, I never talked about a product or a toy or anything that I've not used myself and that I love. So thanks for supporting this show. We'll be right back. Okay, I'm here with Brandy Glendale. Hi Brandy. This is so fun. Okay, let's do some sex in the news.

So here's a story that came out this week. Feeling old may dampen your sex life. You may feel less likely satisfied with your sex life. It says the closer the people feel to their chronological age, the lower was the quality of their sex life. So if you feel young, it has a huge impact and I'll be well felt about the quality of their sex life and how interested they are in sex.

Well, I think if you're always constantly saying, I'm getting old, I'm getting old, that's an inside job and you're doing it to yourself. And then I hate when my friends say it because if she's getting old, I'm getting old. I'm not getting old. Cause sex is getting better for me. Exactly. Okay.

Everything you're saying like times 10. I had, okay, first of all, I do believe you're only as old as you feel. My mom, she's 75, I never wants her to say I feel old. I feel old. And she's like, I feel like I she's like I feel like I'm 40 I feel like I'm 25 she says it all the time my whole life she has and she's like my friends though She's like and I'm she's been saying this for like 20 years

She gets the ones who are like in their 50s and sick like I feel old. They start walking Oh, they start acting old. She's like nope, and if you and mom you think she's like 50 So I love and then my friend came to visit and like oh my God, we're so old. They all kids. I'm like, no, I'm raised it from her. Oh, we get them. She said, I'm like, and I because it's true. Yeah, when DJ heard his back and we couldn't have sex for like a couple of days, we're getting old and like, honey, you're getting old. Don't put me in that. We're like, say mage, but I don't say that. I go to presses me. And then we're gonna start thinking that and we both, we act like we're 16 half the time.

Exactly. So I love that, I think this is like a message because I want you guys to get this too. Like if you are, like, oh, I feel so old, it's just, when you tell yourself that, it's one to be true to the best. You're manifesting. You are manifesting you being old and having bad sex.

So what they're saying, or whatever it is, a bad life, or feeling old and walking slow and like just, stop talking. I'm done. When people say that it is, a bad life, or feeling old and walking slow, and like just, like, just talking. I'm done. When people say that, like, I literally, like, a trigger, I think it's almost like, like, a little body shot too. Yeah.

Okay, so, do you feel like, and so they're just saying it's by your attitude, so you guys, if you're thinking like I'm getting older, I can't enjoy sex, like, so not true, that's all in your head. But do you feel like Brandi that your sex life has gotten better over the years? Yes, I mean. But what do you think it is? Do you think it's because you know yourself more?

Absolutely. I mean, I think that when you're young, you think you know everything, but you really don't. And as you get older, you get more comfortable with your body, and with asking people what you want them to do, whereas your young, you're just kind of like, oh, that sex sucked. And as you get older, you're like, wait, turn around this way. Go this way. Do that. But when you're young, you're like, wait, turn around this way, go this way, do that. But when you're young, you don't feel the confidence to say certain things, or even do certain things. And as you get older, like, shit, I might as well try this.

This is gonna be great. And then it's just, I don't know, it's just better. It's confidence is better. Did you, I feel like I didn't even, in my 20s, I was like, what is the point of sex? Like early 20s, I never had orgasm. I just didn't get it at all. And then I, now I've stayed,

do I made my life, my life work? Do you think, do you feel like, are you able to orgasm. I just didn't get it at all. And then I, now I've stayed too, I made my life, my life work. Do you think, do you feel like, are you able to orgasm easily? I am. So when he goes down on me, like oral first, and then right when he puts it in, and then otherwise, it takes him work and some moving around and changing positions. But you know, but I know if it's not working this way, we need to move it on the right. But yeah, no, I mean, it is so, it's no. Oh yeah, but I mean, like I know if it's not working this way, we need to move it on the right.

But yeah, no, I mean, it is a little bit of work. And I have, you know, it's sometimes are great, huge giant ones. And sometimes they're little tiny babies. But you have them. Oh yeah. Awesome. And you masturbate.

Yes. A lot. He gets jealous that I do that. Really? Like save it for me. I'm like, we don't want to hurt you. OK, so I love that you brought that up because May was masturbation month. We just came out of it. Okay, so I love that you brought that up because May was

masturbation month. We just came out of it. No, but I mean, it fits me perfectly. Exactly. Well, the whole month we talk, right? And everybody, because everybody should masturbate, whether you're, I mean, I hate sheds. But you really should.

It's like you should brush your teeth. You should get a checkup. Like you should drink a glass of water today and you should masturbate because you're healthy. It's a stupid act. It's your stressful level. Everything. Maybe that's the anxiety problem.

We were both anxious. We were talking about I was anxious, they're anxious. It does help. It does. It helps with your skin. In fact, if you're in a relationship and you're like your libido's low, you don't have sex, the more you masturbate and sex on the brain, the more you're going to hate. So tell them that when, you know, I don't know, it's funny though,

because I think men, I don't know, people are very masturbation is very, very misunderstood because people come from this, you know, it's like, I'm not feeling you. It's like, you're not giving you that you need. And it has nothing to do with that. Zero. It has to do with, I feel the need to do this.

And I'm stressed out and this will help me or I just want this right now in this moment. Yeah. And when you'd rather have me doing that, then going and hooking up with the guy somewhere. Right. And it's not that you're, I'm not getting everything I need for me.

You're just not at my house all day, every day in a drawer. Right, exactly. And if you were, like, it would totally work. The things in the drawer, right. And they're not gonna replace you once we get him to using these things, he's gonna love them. But the thing is, is that I think it's just so interesting, this lack mentality, or that there's not enough

to go around of orgasms, like you're gonna use it up. Or it's like, it's like, it's like, for basically, he wasn't here, like last night, you didn't go down to me enough, so I'm gonna masturbate six times to get back here today. So it's funny, men, and I hear for women all the time too, or like, why does he watch porn? Or why does he jerk off?

Some of my friends get very, I actually did get upset when I was married. I just didn't understand, I'm like, what, I'm right here. Like, why did I walk in the bathroom and couch you're doing this? I don't, I actually did get upset when I was married. I just didn't understand. I'm like, I'm right here. Why did I walk in the bathroom and couch you doing this? I don't get it. Am I not? I went through that.

And then as I got older and I understood myself more, I'm like, yeah, you just had to do it. Right, exactly. You got to do it. You guys got to release it. So you guys should all do it now. Or like, yeah, right now. Right.

So you should definitely masturbate. Very sorry. OK, so yeah, the point, that's just the point you guys, you're old as you feel, the more that you, like, you know, however old you feel, that's the kind of sex and the amazing sex you're gonna be having. So just strike old from your head, really. Just how people, whatever age you are.

Okay, let's go on to emails. So I get, you guys, I love hearing from you. It's awesome. And here's the thing, you can now text me your questions. You can text 7979 7979 ask Emily one word ask Emily to 7979 have we been getting texts? How's that going? We just started. Okay. We want more text you guys how easy is that because you text it you text ask Emily and then you get the actual form that's on the website that you would fill out anyway, and it's really easy. You could also go to sexletemmy.com,

click the Ask Emily tab or leave me a voice mail, eight, when eight, ask SWE1 so many options. You're available. I'm so available. It's crazy. You can sweat me on Tinder. Yeah, you know, right? Anytime they snap me, they tweet, they whatever.

You could do that to you guys. Now I actually, okay, here's the thing about snap. You guys, I do read all your snaps and I actually answer a lot of them But when you ask me detail like usually like thanks so that you know, hey my hair look I thought my hair look Yeah, great, but um when you ask me like very detailed questions on snap that's hard so you got to email them to me Yeah, I'm sure they have a certain amount of time to answer back and then you're like Christ and then like who said that and then you feel bad okay? So include your information that you guys,

your gender, your age, where you live and how you listen to the show. Hey Emily, thanks for your podcast. I'm 33 active, strong and fit. I love masturbation and need regular sex. I'm dating guy who's 34. We've been together for two years. We worked together and started dating

from getting to know each other at work, worked together 24, seven literally. So okay, they're two years they worked together. When we first getting to know each other at work, worked together 24-7 literally. So, okay, they're two years they worked together. When we first got together, my boyfriend was really into sex with me. Unfortunately, he lost interest and our sex life is pretty non-existent. I want more and we do have sex, I'm now faking an orgasm. He's a bit old-school, but he's nice, kind, funny, and a good friend. Two months ago, I met an older man, he's 46, he's very different.

We had dinner and he left at a business trip. Now we're texting and this turned into sexting. And that's hot. He's an amazing person and I wanna get to know him. I have a lot of attraction towards this man. I feel super turned on by him and he's asking me to break up with my boyfriend. I think he could be the greatest lover ever.

So I'm gonna cross those with what to do. What's the line of cheating? Is just having sex with someone who's a good lover, not So I'm gonna cross those with what to do. What's the line of cheating is just having sex with someone who's a good lover, not because I want to date him cheating. Do you think sexing is cheating? Thank you, Alyssa, 33 Italy. Alyssa, you're cheating if you're texting another man.

Oh, even texting is cheating. Yeah, especially if it turns into sexing, I could see a male friend, but when it turns into sexing, she's forming an emotional bond with this person and it's not just physical. So sexting, she's forming an emotional bond with this person, and it's not just physical. So I mean, she's definitely cheating, and it sounds like maybe the relationship she was in has had it stay.

I mean, 24-7, two years, a lot. Yeah, that is a lot. I mean, I agree with you. I mean, there is the different definitions of what cheating, but that is like an emotional affair. And you are doing something that you would be happy, Alyssa, if you read your sex, probably not. I don't think anyone would be.

But the thing is, is that I feel like Alyssa, you got to make a decision here. Either you should decide that you want to work on this relationship with the guy. The sex is going to change after two years. That's why I was joking with you about the biology of the honeymoon phase. Literally, last for two, like,

after a while you're going to have to work. It's not going to be all the sparks and it flies and fly around, you're going to have to work on it. It's the honeymoon phase. Literally last for two, like, after a while, you're gonna have to work. It's not gonna be all the sparks and it flies and fly around, you're gonna have to work on it. It's the flying shit. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around.

They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around.

They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. They fly around. 46 year old who's a great sexster and you're thinking, oh, that's gonna be all the answers, but wherever you go, there you are. These are really distracted by a piece of glitter. Exactly. Because she, you know, hers, the, the, the shine-dold,

but she can still fix it. Yes. So you have to decide here if you want to fix it. Do you want to go back in this relationship and work on the sex life or do you want to break up and go out this guy and you're already projecting so much on to him that he's gonna be the best sex of his life? Let me tell you this him that he's gonna be the best sex of his life.

Let me tell you this, because he's a great sexster, does not mean he's great in bed. I'm telling you, I've had great sexting and terrible sex. I even had just, I've had great guys who were like, well, even texting too. I'm like, oh my god, I'm so into their words and they're great, and you got with them,

I'm like, I'm gonna fall asleep. Right, and I will fall asleep before the appetizers get here. Where's your conversation that you can have on the phone that you can't have in person? Exactly. It's like, who are you? Right, I don't understand.

Like, who is someone like, type in these people and you're not talking about like, like, what, like, our service that does that, which actually isn't a bad idea. So, Alyssa, just make this decision here because you don't want to cheat. And I think it sounds like you might be done with a boyfriend, but yes, all of this is cheating

and just be a good girlfriend and do what you need to do if you need to break up with them, break up with them. But I don't think this guy's your answer either. We all think that and it's not. Okay, another email, dear Emily, I'm a long-time listener and I have a dating question. I mean, my mid-30s, I've been divorced for over six years and I date a lot.

I do truly have fun. The problem is that without fail, I lose interest in the man I can involve with between the four to six week mark. In all honesty, I'll literally wake up a morning and no longer be into it. This has happened pretty much across the board. From casual no strings, dating to men, I initially thought I would explore a deeper relationship with. I've tried to pinpoint the issue and really can't see it's anything the man does. It's simply a sudden shift in me. I lose interest, I quickly find myself becoming annoyed with the guy I'm dating and things

tend to dwindle quickly. I do remain friends with people I date. So I hate having uncomfortable conversations with men once I decide and it's a bit of disappointment and annoyance in general. What's the point of dating after I have to go through this over and over again? Is there a way to let guys know at the beginning that this might happen? So the expectations aren't high or perhaps an easy way to avoid that tense, uncomfortable conversation that just leads me to never wanted date again. Thank you, Janice, 34 American, Residing in Australia, writing from Bali. Janice, amazing life. How fun is that? I mean, where you're living. Not your dating situation. That does not sound fun.

I think there might be some intimacy issues here. I mean, where you're living, not your dating situation. That does not sound fun. I think there might be some intimacy issues here. I mean, that's like sexual ADD. Right, exactly. That's like good. Right, exactly, dating ADD, which I think a lot of people have, because there's a lot of options, but I feel like that maybe you have high standards for the guides that you're dating, because if this is happening

in every relationship, meaning high standards, not meaning like you deserve everything. We all do Janice. I just mean like, are there certain things that are just gonna annoy you? You're like, I don't like the way he chewed his food. And so it's done. Or maybe he like walked into, you know,

people like have these funny things. It's just like, you're like, I'm done. And Janice, the comment denominator in this is you. So I feel like you don't know what you want in a man or a relationship right now. I feel like you might need to do some soul searching and figure out what it is that you what you want because sometimes when you keep dating and going and going and it's like you you just you don't really like have an end goal and I feel like you need to really stop and think like

what would it feel like to be in a relationship? What does that person look like? What do they what do they you can be superficial like what do they look like, what does that person look like? What are they, what are they, what are they, you can be superficial. Like, what do they look like? But what do they believe in? What do they feel? What are their goals? What are they, like, do you have fun together? Like, I don't know because the fact that everyone is shutting, you know, you're shutting everyone down feels to me like there could be some kind of intimacy

issues going on, maybe some trauma. I don't want to like jump to conclusions here, but the fact that anyone gets close and does one thing and she's done. Well, maybe she just needs to slow down. If she's getting in full blown relationships with from four to six weeks, I don't know many people that do that. Maybe she needs to slow down and take her time and really get to know someone because in six weeks, we're all still pretending to be the better version of ourselves.

Right. And so I feel like she's speed-dating to define the one. Right. And I think maybe she could just slow down a little. So she could, that's a good point. She could, you could date without a goal in mind. So I'm saying be a goal oriented data and figure out what you want.

But if you're, but you're saying the other thing, Brandy, that you could just go out and not call these full blown relationships, but the fact that where does she live? I mean, you're living in Australia. I don't think it's a big, big, big, big, big Australia's hot. Every single guy.

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and first of all, you're putting a lot of pressure on yourself. And I think that you're like already waiting for this to happen that it's gonna happen, and that maybe you just kinda slow down and think like it doesn't have to be my boyfriend, I'm just gonna go out and have fun and don't, yeah, you're right, if they're all relationship. If it's gonna be that hard of a breakup

after four or six weeks, then she's moving too quickly. But she's saying that it could be casual in those strings or it could be a deeper relationship. She just annoy her and she's done like that. And to me, that's like a knot. That there's something there. That there's something else.

And I might, that's why actually now that I'm seeing it, I think that you might need a little break to do some soul searching and figure out what you want because again She's the common denominator when you look at all these things. You're like why does he happen to me? It's like you're the one who's driving this so maybe I think just like slow down They go what you want and take time to reflect or it could just be that all the guys in Australia So hot she needs to get through all of them just sleep with all my don't get shit Yeah, I got a wee well you boyfriend now. I'm like you could all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up.

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I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. I'm gonna keep it all up. and has only had sex a few times before me. We're currently having sex around four times a week, but there's a problem. She doesn't feel like it's normal to touch herself because of this she can't give me advice and doesn't want me to go down on her. I don't understand these women.

She says that it's embarrassing. Finkering is okay, and she doesn't mind giving me oral, but I hate that I can't return the favor. I get off on getting her off. We haven't tried using toys yet, and we only do traditional positions, missionary, cowgirl, and doggy.

My question is, how can I open her up to the idea of masturbation and letting me go down on her when she's lived all her life without it and doesn't feel like she needs it? I just want her to be more comfortable with her body and sex. She is beautiful. Thank you, Tony, 22, Denmark.

I love that nobody's in America on this show. I love it. It's great. I know, I love it. You guys, I love all of my this is just amazing. Okay, so Tony. Here's the deal. She grew up. It sounds like you're in a religious background and we're talking about all of this misunderstanding around masturbation that we're told from society, from our parents, from religion, everything. from our parents, from religion, everything, she literally probably just thinks that she's never touched, like doesn't think it feels good, thinks it's gonna be wrong, she's gonna be comfortable, you can't talk her into this.

And I'm a little worried that you might be putting pressure on her by saying, like, babe, I'll get off, you should just do it. She's like not even near the finish line, she doesn't even know where you're trying to go to. She's, this is gonna have to be something that she needs to figure out on her. You can give her some information,

but I think you need to reframe the conversation. Like you could let her know, I'm listening to this podcast. Actually, then you guys can listen together. And there's some benefits to masturbation, actually. It will help you relax, enjoy sex better. You'll get to know your body. I think that would be so hot if you became like, really into your body, like not giving her pressure

that you're gonna get off Like that's such a dude that could make it about you I think it'd be really hot if you masturbate in front of me. No, but Tony you could start like helping her figure out like that It's you know we get that masturbations taboo and that she could learn, you know her body and stuff like that But if she's got serious issues with it like she she thinks it's horrible, and she's gonna be struck down, I mean therapy. I don't think that you're gonna be able to talk her out of it if it's this kind of conditioning. Or get her drunk, give her a zinex.

I'm just trying to... No, that got that stuck right there. No, she could get her drunk and then watch some porn and proper porn. And I think that maybe she'll be a little... Maybe? I know loosen up is what you're saying. I get it, I know.

It's so funny, because as a guy in the show, I never say it, but they're always like, just have to kill her. Do a shot. Like, we don't want her passed down. I'm not trying. Don't do the stand-ups and the drinking. No, but I mean.

But do you want to know? Do what are the other? But here's the thing, he wants her to add her own like even to go masturbate. Like, do you have any friends who don't masturbate or do you know this? I didn't masturbate growing up because I didn't know about it,

like literally no one told me, never occurred to me. Really? But it wasn't, yeah, I know how weird is that. I was like, this is between my legs, don't even know what it does, except for IP. I figured it out now. But for so many people, you know. Yeah, especially when they come from conservative backgrounds,

like my brother has three nieces and one of them is a teenager and they're very Catholic. And I'm like, you need to make sure you're checking her texts because she's, you know, she's developing. I go and a couple of years put that girl in the pill. He wanted to kill me. I said, you don't, I see her on my Snapchat. I know what she's doing. Like get it, get your head around it.

These young people, they see the internet, they see everything that we didn't have access to. No. So, and assuming this other woman is probably the same that she didn't have the access, especially in a Christian household, but we can look at our kids and his kids, they need to be ready to know, our kids know every.

Everything, I know. That's a whole lot. I'd love to know how you're talking to your kids, but I have three nieces too, our kids know every. Everything, I know. And that's a whole lot, I'd love to know how you're talking to your kids, but I have three nieces too, and I'm like, I would say the same thing. And I'm like, I have no proper answers. I'm sure you're right.

That's what you have to do. You can't be like, well, we'll talk about that one day. It's like when they ask, it's when, because people say, when's the right time? It's like when they ask,

when it comes up. And hopefully they will ask and if they don't at a certain age, you need to bring it up. It just has to be talked about because Everyone at school, especially if you're in middle school or high school, they're all doing it. They're all talking about it And you want them to have the proper information like I just took Mason my eldest for a second HPV shot And he's like mom, but I don't I'm like

You will Yeah, thank God before age 26. No, that's really smart. I'm so gutsy. Your mom, awesome. But she's okay. So back to Tony, I want to help you. So she's, do we help you here? No, she's 20 set. Okay.

So you're putting pressure on her. You could give her some stuff to read if she's like a reader, go to our website. We've got tons of blogs on this. All aboard the masturbation train. Sex versus masturbation. Masturbation great and great for you and how to beat masturbation month. That's just some things on our site. But I feel like a lot of couples

listen to the show together. You might want to not this episode because she knows you talked about her. I mean, it just sounds like she might need some more information. Maybe that would be the way she could learn, but not you, I'm telling you if it's like you're pressuring or pressuring her,

it's a last thing she's going to want to do. It'll ruin the relationship. Exactly. I think a lot of conversations with couples really is just kind of reframing it. We don't know how to talk about sex. It's always nice if there's somebody else around that brings it up so that you get that second,

that other person's opinion, so it's not just a fight. It's gonna turn into a fight. That's like, have somebody bring it up and then it becomes a conversation. And then everyone's more comfortable. Exactly. That's why I think couples they like listening together because they'd be like, well, Emily said,

we should have anal tonight. And I'm like, I'm not. I'm not a responsibility. But if you want to have anal, okay, nothing. Hey, Emily, I'm a fairly new listener to your show, but I have to say I don't think I've ever listened to a podcast that interests me as much as yours does. I love the topics and the advice given from every show.

I love how you answer everyone's questions in great detail, which brings me to my question story. My wife and I have been together for five years now, and our sex life is pretty great for the most part, however, this is my wife's second marriage. Before we got married, we were friends at work and often talk about her and then husband's sex life, as well as share our past sex stories. We're both very open people so that was always fun for us to talk about. There were several occasions where the topic of how big her ex's penis was would usually

come up. She once told me that he was around 9 inches, which is about 3 inches bigger than mine. I'm a no way threatened by this. It's actually the contrary. I'm turned on by this. She never talked about it since we've been together and we've never discussed a size difference. This is something I think about from time to time.

Is it normal to have feelings of a rouse or a little about your wife and her well-hung ex-husband? And do you think this is something I may discuss with her in the future or keep to myself? Thanks for reading. I look forward to listening to the show, Josh 33 Dallas, Texas. Whoa, Josh, okay.

So, okay, there's a lot going on here. This first one I read this, it reminded me kind of like of the cuckolding fantasy or fetish that people have and that means that men who actually have fantasies about their wives having sex with another man. And I think in front of them. Women have that same, I'm exactly on, I don't want it to happen, but I like to picture it.

Really? Have you, as it always been a fantasy? Yep. Wow, that's, yeah, it is common. I don't mean like, but I just think like your past and what happened. I don't want it to happen. It's just something I'm super male. Right.

There's a lot of fantasies that we do not want to have to happen in reality. So you're totally normal here. Josh, I just want you to know there's nothing wrong with you for having that fantasy. Okay, so this is what I want to say, Josh, is that I don't know what your relationship is like with your wife right now in the sense of, do you guys talk about your sex life? Do you talk about your fantasies? Do you feel comfortable? Because I feel like it's not that you necessarily,

you don't want to see his penis, you don't want him to show up, but you think it's hot. So maybe your fantasy is that during sex, she's like, yeah, he was so big and you're not that big. Maybe there's some kind of shame to it. You'd be like, maybe you want her to be narrating it as you're having sex or like,

sometimes this is how people fulfill fantasies. Like they actually fantasize about three sums, but they don't actually want to have one. So during sex, they'll be like, right now, there's a woman going down and you're like eating you out or I'm picturing this and that can be really hot for couples. I feel like if you guys have a relationship

where you can discuss your fantasies and you can discuss your sex life, which I hope you can, both your second marriage is, you could tell her, you know what? I think that's really hot that you're, like, sometimes I think about that. Maybe we could, like, you could tell me more about it. And then that could feel your passion that night. I mean, if they talked about it before and it wasn't an issue, I don't think it would be an issue bringing up now saying, hey, listen, when you used to talk about that, it turned

me on. And, you know what, like, can we talk about it? You know, dirty, talk during? Can we talk about it again? I don't think, I mean, if she was comfortable before telling him, why not now? And she's probably being respectful and not being up as her together, because I would say that's typically I'm like,

don't ever talk about any other penises that have ever been in your life before. Like as far as you know, he is your first penis, this is the first penis you've ever seen. Because men and women, we can't get the images of the axes and the, but be like, if he wants it. And I think that's kind of hot. Like if I was with a guy and he was like,

oh, tell me about your past experience. I'm like, well, how much time do you have? Because I've got such good stories. I'd be psyched that he didn't get jealous. So Josh, I think this is cool. There's nothing wrong with you. You know, it's not, you're totally normal and it's fine. And I would just talk, this is a great time

to start your sex combo. Okay, Brandi, I want to talk to you more. Yeah, it's 12. I don totally normal and it's fine. And I would just talk, this is a great time to start your sex combo. Okay, Brandi, I want to talk to you more. Yeah, it's 12. I don't know. Hi, this was fun. Thank you for helping on my list, or this was really great. Oh, of course.

Well, I think it's great that you're opening the conversation. You've been doing this for a long time, but I mean, there's not a lot of places people can go and feel safe and ask these questions, because especially like the woman that wasn't comfortable touching herself, she was probably taught growing up, but that was a sin. Exactly.

And it's so important for women, especially young women, to have a place to go, it's safe, to hear that, yes, it's normal. You have to be in touch with ourselves. If the touch ourselves, we get to touch ourselves. There's nothing dirty or wrong about it. Exactly. And so I just feel like it's really great

that you're putting this out there. And women are getting so much, they're talking so much more about it. We have to make this the conversation for these people. Absolutely. That's my purpose on the planet, really. I mean, that's why I love that there's listeners everywhere where you know podcasts. They can reach like all around the world and I don't think there's a place to go at all for anybody.

I have three nieces in every day. I'm like, how can I talk to them about this? Like, yeah, I'm like, you need to masquerade. They're like, I'm hanging up. I'm like, it's really talk to them about this? Like, yeah, I'm like, you need to masquerade, they're like, I'm hanging up. I'm like, it's really here. Pleasure is really important. So, well, thank you for being here and helping with all the listeners.

And we're gonna take a little visit to my sex toy closet. Yeah, I can't wait. I have a really some really cool things to give you that I got something yesterday that blew my mind. Can we, oh, is it open? I'll show that to you in a second. Oh, I want to hear first about your vagina monologue tour because you're going to Detroit my hometown.

Yes. Tell me about the vagina monologue. So, I did it for the you in a second. Oh, I want to hear first about your vagina monologue tour because you're going to Detroit my hometown. Yes. Tell me about the vagina monologue. So I did it for the first time in time. I did it. I did the plan. Is it your vagina monologue? No, I'm here. I'm here.

My life is like a vagina monologue. That is kind of the theme of my life in the vagina, but that's fine. We did the play originally in Texas. It went really well. They decided to do it again. So now we're taking it to Detroit on the 21st or 22nd of June and the Meishu had to Chicago the following night and two other

Reality personalities Kenya Moore and Teresa Guidici. I don't know is it Guidici or You that because you're a real housewife don't you guys have like flashcards? We've just each other's names. No, I didn't know either I think it's ju-dice I want to say ju-dice we could Google it I don't know but she I've met her and she's great Met Kenyan she's not I'm hoping that because we did a prank together with our

Wait you are on the last season with him before he became president. Oh, dude. Wait. Why haven't I got that? Have you talked about that? Have you talked about that nauseam already? There's really nothing to say. Everyone's like, was he inappropriate with you? He wasn't. So I really don't have any, like I mean. Did you like him?

Yeah, I did. Wait. I didn't vote for him, but I like him. Wait, like he was fun to hang out with. Yeah, funny. He was nice to see. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him.

I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. I just didn't see him. inappropriate with me or anyone that I saw on the show. So yeah, I was like, it's kind of boring, but. Don't you wish you had a better story now? I know. I know, but still you got to like hang out, but yeah, but that's smart. I know. That's

great. Okay. That's a, that's an okay story. But I'm glad there was no scandal with you. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, monologues, that's awesome. And Detroit and everyone should check out your podcast,

Brandy Glendville, unfiltered, and your books, and your social media. We are a drinking date. It's all on your website. It's there one place for them to go. We're just social media at Brandy Glendville. That's all Brandy Glendville. Okay, you're awesome.

Thank you for being here. And you're wine. Oh my God, so fun. Oh, what I was gonna show you is, I just want to talk about this really quickly because this just happened yesterday. So there is a product that I'm going to give you. We were talking about getting excited over it.

Check this out. Okay, so there's a product called the Womanizer. I've been talking about the Womanizer for this is not what it always looked like. It's, I nicknamed it the Clint Whisperer because the Womanizer uses pleasure air technology which is, this is why you're going to love this brandy. It simulates the feeling of oral sex. It sucks lightly on your clitoris with air. I mean, it literally is mind blowing. It

came out two years ago. I have every sex toy on the planet and I went to the sex toy trade show. It was like the womanizer. I'm like, what's that? And then it literally, there's nothing else like it. And so then, so people are always emailing. Yes, it was lipstick. It's so wonderful. Wait, this just came yesterday. I freaked out. It's a lipstick, it's gorgeous. So the new one. Beautiful. Wait, this just came yesterday. I freaked out. It's a lipstick. It's a now it looks like a big lipstick. It's the same tip that it shapes your clothes.

It's, you're gonna freak out. It's so good and it's so cute now that it's a lipstick. And they use a red drive. Yes, no. Yes, and the Xanax. You can do it every time. I've done that. No, but this one, it guarantees, it well doesn't care.

You can't guarantee an orgasm. But in the studies, 60 seconds or less women had orgasms. And this is not even an ad. I just got excited. I want to tell everyone and I'm going to give you one. You're going to go home today with me. It's going to be exciting. Okay, so thank you, Brandy, for being here.

Thank you, it was really fun. Thanks, Tyler, my people here. Oh, thank everyone for following me on Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram. It's all at sex with Emily across the board. What else didn't I tell you about? Because I was really excited about Brandy being here. Oh, all my podcasts you guys, I've been doing this for 12 years.

There's a lot of them on the website, sexwithm.com slash podcast to get our entire show archive. And I really love when you subscribe to the podcast. I appreciate the time that it takes to do that and to write reviews and stuff. But it really helps. And we just all appreciate when you do that. So thank you for everything you guys. I love you. Thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me feedback at sexwithmme.com.

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