Sex With Emily - Up the Heat or Get Out of the Kitchen

Episode Date: August 6, 2014

In this week's podcast Emily is back in the studio with, you guessed it, Menace! In this hilarious podcast Emily and Menace discuss the real story behind Hustler stores, glass dildos, and answer listeners' emails that may shock even the most avid listeners!We've spent a lot of time talking about going above and beyond in your relationship. Any relationship takes work - especially in the bedroom - which is why it is so important to embrace and explore your own sexuality with no shame or regrets. If your man can’t handle your toys, he doesn’t deserve you! Emily gives advice for ways to help your guy feel more comfortable about using toys (Hello Jimmy Jane Form 2!) which can re-ignite your sex life and provide an amazing experience for both you AND your partner.Next they move on to the popular subject of “Friends with Benefits”: What do you do if one of you wants more? Menace and Emily provide amusing yet helpful guidance for awkward situations and talk about not settling for sprinkles of attention. Also tackled are topics of swinging, squirting, mismatched libidos and baby mama drama.Download this week's podcast and learn all about how to improve the relationship you're in, or how to end the relationship that isn't keeping you satisfied inside or outside the bedroom. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Are you kidding me? Oh my god, I'm off here. I'm so, so, so. Being bad feels pretty good. But you know, Emily's not the kind of girl you just play with. Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. We're talking about sex relationships, everything in between. For more information go to sexfamily.com, we can check out our podcast, our mailing list, which you should do because I send to me emails that will help your sex life and I don't

miss band. And I'm here with men today. Hi men. Hello, how are you doing? I am here in wonderful Los Angeles with you and it is sunny outside. I don't always like it. I have a jacket. I freaking love it. I know like I girlfriend's best because when we lived in San Francisco She's really into this brand called all Saints and now like so Jackets at all Saints are Expensive. Yeah, you know, so I love how hard she doesn't you know

all saints are expensive. Yeah, so she worked hard. She doesn't, you know, didn't make a ton of money. So she was spent her money on these jackets. They're like $700. Right, because it matters jacket. It's never so. You never wear them now. And she's telling you, but no, it's true.

It's so true. It's so true. I just cleaned out my, all my clothes, my winner. Like, I don't need it. Yeah. But it took me a while living here till I'd go on dates. I'd go out there like, why do you have a jacket and a scarf? I'm like it could get cold You know like here never get school. Yeah, and you look at the weather. It's like 86 83 82 like every day

It's beautiful for the next week. So I'm very excited about that. I like Los Angeles I never get to go to the beach though because it's kind of far from where I'm at right I go a lot lately I want to go it's good. It's good. I'm gonna go this weekend I'm just gonna like walk on the beach around the beach. It's healing for the soul There's this thing in because you know I'm all about food and somehow it may be somehow gives me a sexual gratification but Huntington Beach they're testing out this thing at College Junior called the Biznut now the Biznut is a biscuit donut and it's only available in America.

A business. Well in Carl's Jr. on the West Coast is actually Hardies on the East Coast. That's my girl with Hardies. That's the same love girl. I didn't know that. You don't know that. It has the same story. I didn't know they were the same, but I grew up with Hardies.

Yeah, I don't know why it's. This is amazing. I can die now. I can't. That is fascinating. Hardies and crawled junior is the same thing. I wondered why Carl's junior just popped up out of nowhere when I moved here. I'm like, why have I never heard of Carl's junior? They had the same logo. You're so smart when it comes to fast food. Yeah. That's so hot. Yeah. And they they are based out of St. Louis, Missouri, just FYI. But anyways, they are

testing out the business. Huntington Beach might, FYI. But anyways, they are testing out the business. Huntington Beach might, you know, you know, croin out, to the croissant donut. They heard of those. Crohnots, they're really big in New York. I know. And they say it's not a ripoff because they're using biscuits, which they've already been making for years. Yeah, okay. But might go check that out and check out the beach. I did go to Santa Monica. Oh, and Molly Shannon was there. beach. I did go to Santa Monica and Molly Shannon was there with her kids. Yeah, she's comedian. She was an SNL and she was there with her kids celebrating a birthday. That was kind of cool. Celebrity signing. No. No, you can't do that. That's fun. The beach is a big I feel like my blood pressure goes down even if it's at our right anxiety level. I just get to the beach and I

can just like walk bike for hour and a love it. love and you know I live there when I first moved here on the beach but um well the thing is with with California even though it's sunny and it's a thousand degrees the you go to the beach and the beach the water is still freezing yeah I can't go in so I don't suggest that you travel across the United States go Go to Hawaii or Mexico. Or for anywhere around the world. Right. To go to California, you think, oh, it's to get a amazing experience.

And I'm going to go surfing. I'm going to jump in the water. That's not going to happen. So let's save you a lot of money and time. And you know, go to LA. Please, still come to LA. Yeah, come to LA. But you might not go to, but you can also

you can keep rent a wet suit on boardwalk. But if you do come to LA, I got to say that you do need to check out the Hustler Hollywood store, which it blew my mind. We went in there and we had a little field trip there because it's this legendary store. It's been there forever. It's on Sunset Boulevard. And you know, I've been to every freaking sex toy store on the planet, but I just think it's so, it's massive and there's parking

and there's like amazing lingerie and the things I would actually like buy and jewelry and every sex toy I've ever heard of and not heard of is there. They've got a little cafe. It's like a fun date night spot. You should go there. But the funny thing about host stores that I went, oh, and I'm teaching workshop there.

August 16th, 8 to 10 PM. It's called How to Blow His Mind in Bad. You can RSUP go to my sexwithemley.com page, website, click on the Hustler banner and RSUP. But this is what I wanna tell you, is this the freaking funniest thing. So Hustler had a store opening, they opened, they have stores in different cities

and they had one in Oklahoma City that just opened a few weeks ago. So listen to this. The Racy Hotser Store display blamed for eight accidents in two weeks. One man said he was involved in a fender bender near the store because he contacted local TV to complain about the distracting displays. And he wrote, we both drivers agreed that it was to cause a lot of accidents So a hussar spokesperson denied there's anything overly provocative about the mannequins and described with the sublay display as

Taseful and decent eight accidents do they just knock in a sax no-column city? They probably really not racy. There's just like a mannequin there. She's fully clothed Probably in Oklahoma. They don't have they don't have billboards like that Look at this they're wearing jeans in a t-shirt. Oh God people just people are just Well if you go to their store, Tom sexually homies sent you and you get 20% off I mean if you don't know anything about hustler. That's true. I'm gonna tell you I'm gonna tell you right now why you should You should support hustler you should watch a movie called The People vs Larry Flint and you'll

you'll become a fan of the company it's true and it just because what Larry Flint has done it's just incredible in his in his life right he started nothing like no he started the but he like it's he got deep into politics and he made a lot of people mad The reason he's in a wheelchair is because somebody tried to kill him right and he got shot and paralyzed You got it understand the story behind the company because you might just see the logo and you're like, uh, you know who cares about you know Yeah, I seem to be what our people think but it's amazing story Yeah, check it out with the what's his face started it? What he handles it in the knee play? Yeah, what he handles some played and that was a great movie Yeah, and what's her name?

Courtney love, yeah, are you impressed when I know things? I know right? Courtney love yes So yeah, definitely check out the movie you'll enjoy it it. Sit down. Check out the store. Yeah, and then check out the store. I don't want to beach. Go to the Hustler store. Yeah, they don't see why you want to get products from Hustler. Exactly. That's a good man. I love you. I love you now. Okay, I always love you. But last part you did not love me. You told me to f off. I know. It's having a heart rough day.

So this show we're going to be reading the emails because people are just going crazy. They said I'm emails, feedback at sexelm.com. And as you know, I read them all. I love hearing from everybody. And we just want to help people about our sex and relationship. Yeah. And today is going to be a short show because we're just going to read emails. Exactly.

So this is about pushing the boundaries of your relationship. These emails all sort of had to do with that subject. So this first email is all about that. So I'm 44 and only just discovered masturbation and had my first orgasm. I was with someone for 15 years and our sexual relationship was very one-sided. He never tried to please me and I never knew what I was missing out on. I just thought that I didn't enjoy sex and was uneducated about female orgasms. I recently found a vibrator, the Jimmy Jane Forum 2, with rocks, that makes me feel amazing within minutes every time. I'm not sure how many

orgasms I have in a session, but I go on for 45 minutes and times and keep feeling waves of pleasure. My body twitches and pulsates, and I just feel like I never want to stop feeling so blissful. I also scored a lot through click-troll stimulation, yet I've never touched my G-spot. I also discovered that it orgasms even stronger with an anal glass dildo pumping in addition to my vibrator on my clit. I even like double penetration.

Am I having G-spot orgasms or multiple orgasms? Emily, all I wanted to do was be alone. I'm nervous about being with a man. How is he going to react out by toys? Is it okay to be so attacked by sex toys? Sign Angela. Wow Angela, what a story. 44 and just discovered masturbation in which someone for 15 years didn't give damn about her goddamn orgasm. You got to form me that email because I got to show it to people that are not going to believe it's real. It's totally real. I mean, okay. Wow. Angela, well, we're gonna give her a, I'm glad you're like, wow, she's like

squirtin' and using an anal butt dildo. I mean, good for you honey. You need to make up for last time. I am so, what'd you say? A fish. A fish, you know, like back in the day, like this goes to you. That fish is like swimming around in the, in the platform. I'd like to be any painily penetrated by a glass ago with a goldfish named Jaws. That's the product. Your next product. I feel bad for the fish, but if you vigorously are using it, the fish dies. The fish won't die in the water.

And then you pour the fish back out. Okay. So Angela, okay, 44. Listen to me. First of all, you probably are having G-Spot and multiples if you are having it through anal penetration and you're because a lot of times, you know, yes, there's a G-Spot, yes, there's a clitoris, but they're connected. All the vaginal wall tissues are connected.

And so sometimes if you're putting pressure on your clitoris like above your pubic bone, that will stimulate a G-Spot and that's why you're squirting. So I would say you're having a mall, so I want to give you another round of applause, good for you, and here's the thing. There are so many guys that are going to be totally down with your sex toys, and if they're not, they're not the guy for you, because even if they've never tried it and they're still living in the dark ages and think sex toys are going to replace them, they're insane, but most guys, even if they feel that way and they try it,

they're like, wow, because he can use the toys on you. And a lot of guys, you know, find that very, very erotic and hot, and it turns them on. Plus, you can use the vibrators on his penis, on his balls, men like vibrations too. They just don't know it. So you gotta show them,

and I'm telling you guys that I've introduced toys to you are like, hey, so when you come over, can you bring that toy with the, like, they, they give me a request because also it cuts down on their time that they have to spend pleasing you. Plus, they know that you're being pleased and they know that you're having orgasms and they're in control. If they're using the toys on you, so I don't understand guys who have a beef with toys, because it's freaking saving your life. Seriously, you know which more time you'll have in life? You spend 40 minutes going down on her

and you use a vibrator for 10 minutes. Not that she's the one who's a former old sex center, but she can still have an orgasm when you bring in the vibrator as like your back up. It's awesome, or just as your main event. So don't worry, Angela, I think keep going through this. You and the Jimmy James form too is a great vibrator. We all love that one in the office.

We used to work with them years ago and they sent it and everyone's always like, I love the form too. So good for you Angel. Don't worry about it. I understand you're nervous. You're in a relationship for 15 years, but just go out there and be yourself now. You're a grown woman. And squirting is like the new anal. Exactly. Squirting is the new anal. So trendy right now. I was just saying that as someone. They said, what's the trend? They said, sporting is a new anal. How do you know that you were just on the same level? We're so squirting. So when I started this, I always say,

anal's a new blow job. Yeah. For years, I said that, anal's a new blow job. But recently, I feel there's been a switch that, yes, anal, but everyone wants to know about squirting. It's because of porn, right? Yeah. I think.

And yes, we've done tons of shows on it, but you can learn to squirt. Don't you have the new Goggle accessory on sexwellemlee.com? No, I should have a Goggle, right? For men. Yeah. No, but you can learn to squirt, play with the juice butt, listen to the last show we did on it. I don't know if you want to, but here's the thing about squirting, it's just because you squirt doesn't mean that you're necessarily having an orgasm, FYI. But it feels good. It can be cool. Shouldn't it be only done in like pools? Anyone know that he's squirted? I mean, do you get rubber sheets or what? You put on the put on the towel. I know. He's so frigging the cleanliness thing. Dude, that's so anal or not anal. But you should put um, put a towel down, a few towels down. Yeah. Yeah.

Or rubber sheets slip inside. Slip inside would be great. Yeah. Do you remember slip inside? Yeah. I love slip and slide. They were so fun. Um okay. Dear Emily, I'm an inexperienced singer and Evan for some time, but recently I'm a nice girl who I vowed to myself I would not introduce a swinging. She said she wants to know all about me and that she wants to visit a swingers club. She said she thinks she wants to know all about me and that she wants to visit a swingers club She said she thinks she wants to become a swinger and share the lifestyle with me. What do you think? Should I introduce this sweet girl to swinging? Thanks Billy Wow, Billy if it's your lifestyle and you're into a new girl

Why don't you want to do such a swing because you know that you're a swinger and you're gonna want to do that anyway I say if you've just been dating her bring her to the party and see how she feels. You know, I say don't do it. If you're really into her. But he's really. Yeah. No, he said that he would not introduce her into. But then he's going to, but she's going to want to commit. Yeah, but she might try. She might try one time and like, oh, wait a minute. I don't like you. Yeah, but then he finds out because Billy, you're not giving up swinging. So three months from now, when you start swinging,

she doesn't, she wants to be a girl, you're committed. I think this is in your blood. But if you're telling me that you don't want to be a swinger, Billy, and you want to change over and not be a swinger, well then you don't introduce her. But if that's still your lifestyle, you should take her party. You can go to these swinging parties.

She doesn't have to do anything. Single women can go. There's couples you bring, you know, I've gone to these parties before. I've done my swinging things and you you hook up with a couple or not. You want to do a story where you dress in all gold and went to a swingers party. Yeah, I actually dress like a fairy. It was like an enchanted forest thing and I had like wings and I was like a fairy and how many people are there is it all like a couple hundred It was in San Francisco was a huge Huge massive house in Marin County Mm-hmm three stories every story had like hot tubs and rooms and it was beautiful and people It was like the beautiful people swingers party. They said it was my first one. I want captain erratica remember him Yeah, years ago and it was hot. I hooked up with the chick.

I like made out with her. Tester Boob's. Do you remember the story? I probably didn't reveal this. I didn't know that. Now it's been eight years, so I'm like, I don't care. Yeah, no, I'll be making out with the chick. You just said that you went there.

I know, because then I didn't want to say it, but now I don't forget. You're like, whatever. Yeah, I like hooked up with some chick and touched her boobs. She'd fake boobs. She was stripper. Okay.

And why is it? You mentioned Captain Erotica. You mentioned Captain Erotica, check and touch their boobs. She'd think boobs. She was stiffer. Okay. And why is it you mentioned cat. You mentioned Captain erotica and I want to ask this guy who's an email in the email. Why every single swing or do like has to have a ponytail and wear it like Captain erotica. You did. He hit him up. Or freaking like snake skin. He was different. He was super here. What he would fly in on a single bound and save people's relationships And sleep with men's wives to show him how to sex. Oh really? I mean, oh he's doing the Lord's work. He is doing the Lord's work. God bless, Kazan, Radica But but um, yes, men is believes that all fingers are pointing out sleep with your wife to show you how to have sex

Men is believes that all fingers are pointing out. It's they. Okay. And they wear leather pants. Email me. Do a ponytail. Please just say don't or get it caught and take a picture yourself. And do you wear leather pants. Just because he's the only swinger that you met does not mean that every swinger is looks like cap and erotic. Yeah. Check out my old pot. We should post the old shows. We got to figure what to do with them because that one's not online anymore. We've like two thousand not online. It's crazy. Oh speaking about online. Or prolific. Yeah. Sorry to interrupt but people, if you're listening to this, can you do me a favor? Can you go

to iTunes, type in Sex with the Emily and just write a review. You're so right. Because I went there just recently because I haven't gone there forever. And there's a bunch of old reviews. And I know at a time, at a time where we were desperate to keep the show going, that you were charging people to. We did a subscription based show. Right. And at that time, there was a, there was a of Reviews that weren't too pro. Oh, yeah

And then hurts Emily's heart. It does hurt me and I have to tell you that I don't really look at it But I went there recently and I saw that too and it helps so much if you guys like the show And yeah, yeah, I mean it's just for Emily's sake just go there and write a review because I've no it took me a really long Time to figure out how to make a living So I thought I'll charge for the show, dollar a month or whatever it was and it just didn't work. Yeah. And people got pissed. They got pissed and they wrote reviews that that's why you got to put up with my ad reads. There are like a minute long. You can send that charging. Yeah, you can say what every one about me, it doesn't hurt me. Just, you

know, I'm used to it by now. But Emily, it really, that's my, I never asked people to do that, but I would so appreciate people to do that. I mean, I mean, I mean, I stars tell me, yeah, you know, no, this would, I mean, whatever you want, you can do that too, but, but then no, I mean, why you listening? Just go, I mean, that's what we do every day on the morning show that do like if you don't like the show Just go there's a hundred radio stations go find another one, you know, right? If you don't like my podcast don't be angry all about it because I'm trying to make my living doing this and and Listen to the one and if you enjoy it great We love you and we're gonna do anything for you to keep it happy and to keep on right and I do want to keep you happy So if you ever want to email me like your thoughts or your questions, if you've been listening

to, like, I have a lot of long time listeners. And I know you some of your questions, but if anything that you like about the show, what you, topics you'd like to hear, things you'd like to change, or things you'd like to come back from past episodes, I don't know what. I just want to hear the specifics. Break it down. Break it down. Feedback at sex.com.

Okay. Next question. Will an FWB, also known as a friend of benefit, ever become a relationship? Hi Emily, I want to ask you about something that's going on with me and a friend of the benefit situation. I'm wondering if my flirtatianship will ever become a relationship. So there's this guy I met a month and a half ago. The first day we met we had sex. We tax on a daily basis, we felt like crazy and he really makes me smile.

He's admitted that he has feelings for me and I told him that I had feelings for him but he doesn't think it will work because I'm pregnant with my ex's baby. Oh, am I not, you know, being easy? No, ma! Okay honey, uh, we have met three times in that sex twice. We even coddled on like long. He doesn't seem very open when I ask him questions about whether or not I was good in bed, etc. But he has mentioned he wants sex again, so I couldn't be that bad. How do I know how he feels about me? And if this flirtation is ever going to become something more, thanks Tiffany. Tiffany, you've got some larger fish to fry than this guy

that you slept with or whatever, blah blah blah. he's not calling you. You have a baby coming. So I assume you're having this baby and keeping this baby and that's what I'd be worried about. I'd be focusing on right now is your health and making sure that you're in good shape and you can support this child. You don't say how old you are. I have a feeling that your early 20s maybe and guys in early 20s they're going to want to sleep with you. He's going to want to keep sleeping with you and I'm not sure this is going to turn into a relationship because

if you're having a baby and all this stuff is happening you know yeah you could fall in love but I wouldn't spend too much time worrying about this guy. He doesn't tell you how great he is that you are in bed. I'm sure you're fine. A lot of guys don't even know how to talk about it but I would just right the kid for a really long time. So you're gonna have to find out if this person that you wanna know is you're gonna have the kid for a long time. So you're gonna have to find out if this person that you wanna know is you're gonna have the kid for a long time. So you're gonna have to find out if this person that you wanna know is you're gonna have the kid for a long time.

So you're gonna have to find out if this person that you wanna know is you're gonna have the kid for a long time. So you're gonna have to find out if this if you know this, but you're gonna have the kid for a really long time. Yeah. So you're gonna have to find out if this person that you want to be with can even deal with that. Exactly. So heavy, does he know your pregnant? I mean, I'm sure you, yeah.

See about that. That would be something that I would find out about him. But you know, we get into got, we meet some mom, we get excited. So okay, quick, quick read here from our sponsor. Oh my God, men, I still appreciate this. So, down under comfort. When I was in New York a few weeks ago, and you know, we talk about down under comfort,

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So hi Emily. First of all, I love what you're doing and I love all the companies that sponsor you. It's so awesome that you connect with interesting companies rather than just who ever will pay the most. You are right. I am female and 19 years old. My boyfriend is 18 and we've been together for a year and a half. I've always been a very physical and sexual person where he is not. I think a lot about his hang-ups come from his family and religion. He's now an atheist but he still has a lot of stigmas ingrained from childhood. I'm into just about everything that doesn't leave permanent damage and I'm always willing to try

something before saying no to it. For instance, a little BDSM play is something nice and refreshing for you, but now when I have to constantly remind them that I like it, do you have any suggestions to help me become sexually free? He doesn't like the idea of me talking to you out of sex for things I enjoy, and so I've stopped going into the city to meet up with like-minded people, or even just to talk and hang out. I know I could go and he wouldn't stop me, but he'd get more depressed than he already is. I know we're almost two different people to be together, and everyone tells me that I

just leave him, but I don't want to. Please reply with any and all advice to help me save my relationship. I don't think it's possible to save it for the long run, but I don't want to end it for good yet. Thanks so much for your time and advice you give. I'm traveling now alone, but you have reminded me of all the ways I want to re-energize my toy collection and we'll definitely buy some Emily and Tony candles. Thank you Phoebe. Phoebe, you are 18, you're 19 years old, your boyfriend's 18, and the writing's on the wall. This guy is not your guy for you. You are a young girl, you woman, you want to go in the city,

you want with your friends, you're sexually open, you're adventurous. He's not hangover from childhood. You do not want to start cutting off your sexual pleasure at this point in your life. And you know what's going to end, but you're not ready. It's because maybe he's your first love, you know, young love. It's like you think you're never going to meet anyone again. But the fact that you're already having these sexual issues with him and it just sounds like you've got you can't convince him to be into BDSM. You can't convince him to be more into sex. You can't convince him to open up especially if you grew up in a very religious home where you know masturbation was wrong and sex was wrong. I mean I dated something like that for a

while and it's just either unless you get intense therapy and you get rid of all that stuff you're not gonna be the one to do it. And I don't like a guy telling you what you can and cannot do. I don't like that he's the one you go in the city. I don't like that he's the one you talk about sex. I mean, all this stuff is totally like what you're into and what you're down with. So the second someone's trying to change you from who you are at your core, he's not your guy.

But I get that you're saying you don't want to end it yet. I mean, I don't know what to tell you because I know you're probably not going to listen. People only girls ask for advice a lot of times and when men listen. So I would say if you're going to stay with them, push the boundaries of them and say listen dude, I want to try this, I want to try that, I want to try to push it, ask for what you want and then see what happens because if you're just placating and saying with them because he's a great cuddler or provider in some way, you're too young to stick around in a dead end relationship. That's not getting, you're not getting your needs met, actually.

Totally. I know. It's hard though, because like you always want to, um, you know, like I love line, we get a lot of colors too, and I always want to be like, you're 19, you're 20, you can't just say the people, because I get it. I've been there and I've been in love at that age, but really it's the time to figure it. You shouldn't get married for your 30s So go have fun. So many people ask for advice, but they just kind of they ask for advice because they just want to vet their problems

Not because they're actually gonna do anything That's true too. That's true too, but I'm so right here. Yeah, I know it is frustrating But so many people and a lot of girlfriend you take you have the same I'm like really we've had the talk six times In less than things gonna change and you're gonna break up with them, like, I have nothing else to say to you. You know, I would, they just wanna talk about it again. Okay, two times for one point.

One more, okay. Hey Emily, just got, just started listening to your podcast. I enjoy it. So my question has to do with the friend zone. I met this hot girl a few months back at the train station. Finally got her number at our first date was on Valentine's Day. Great time, everything went well, and I got a kiss can I. Ever since then, she's been distant and flaky. months back at the train station, finally got her number at our first date was on Valentine's Day.

Great time, everything went well, and I got a kiss tonight. Ever since then, she's been distant and flaky. Throughout the past four months, we text once a week. We've probably been out with each other six or seven times, but I cannot get her to kiss me again. She had contact her again to go out this time and make my intentions clear. She's a tough, Polish woman, so I kind of like the challenge. Let me know if it's time to walk away, a side anonymous.

Yeah, she's been flaky with you. I would say if you go out with her again, just grab her and kiss her and if she says no, then you don't want to, you don't want to hang out with her unless you really just want to be friends with her. But you have to make your intentions known. I don't know how you've gone out with her six, seven times and having kissed her if you kissed her on the first date.

So either you go out with her again and you're like, I think you're hot. I want to, and just grab her and kiss her. Don't even ask or look for new friends that you don't want to see. Easy. Easy. Done. Over and out. Okay, Menace. I love you. I love you too. It's very cute. Everyone follow me on Facebook and Twitter and Instagram, sex with Emily and Menace is Menace. Yeah. M-E-N-A-C-E. And then on Twitter, it's just Menace, M-E-N-A-C-E, and I love when I get tweets from people that will listen to the podcast. Me too. So just tweet like, hey, I'm listening, doesn't it, you know?

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