Sex With Emily - V-Day & V-Steams

Episode Date: February 6, 2015

Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, meaning the perfect time to spoil the ones you love.. And that includes yourself! In this podcast, Emily is giving you her top picks for the perfect sexy Valentine’s Day gifts. Whether you’re shopping for your lover, your friend, or your sexy self, she and her assistant tell you which toys will be bringing you nothing but pleasure all year long. Emily and Menace discuss the steamiest new trend in celebrity “health”, swap V-Day stories and tackle some of your sex and relationship questions! Today’s topics include threesomes, oral sex confidence and the “right” way to make love.. Also, Menace reminds us of another holiday that’s fast approaching and Emily gives advice for a listener on how to overcome her oral sex insecurities.No matter how you’re celebrating, or who you’re celebrating with, this show has got plenty of sex toys and sex tips to help you have the hottest Valentine’s Day yet! Check it out. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey everyone, thanks for listening to Sex with Emily, you know Valentine's Day right around the corner And I know you're scrambling to find the perfect gift for that sexy someone in your life So in this show, I'm going to tell you about the hottest Valentine gifts for your lover or yourself Hey, Valentine's Day is all about Expressing love and that means to yourself too plus we'll be answering some of your emails So thanks everyone for listening to the show. Okay If you've been following me lately on Instagram or Twitter or anywhere else,

you've probably seen me rocking my Vesper by Crave. That's my beautiful necklace that looks like a pen, right, Manas? You think? It's amazing, yeah. It's amazing vibrator. People really have to look it up because it's unbelievable. It looks like a piece of jewelry that you would buy

at a store. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right, exactly. And it's a vibrator. I wear it every day, like, because buy at a store. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Right, exactly. And it's a vibrator. I wear it every day because it's a layering piece. It's really beautiful. You can get something engraved on it. It's kind of my obsession.

And it's a very powerful vibrator. It's not just like a, I don't know, you just always have your vibrator on and you just text it all the freaking time. So it's the Vesper by Crave. And it's basically wearable technology. You always have your vibrator with you. And it's stylish and it's hot. And it's kind Vesper by Crave and it's basically wearable technology. You always have a vibrator with you and it's stylish and it's hot and it's kind of the perfect gift. Do you want one for your girlfriend, Memphis?

Because I can, so when you want. It's a perfect combination of elegance and pleasure. I get compliments, okay, you know I love compliments, Memphis. Every day, but I love your necklace and like, oh, by the way, it's also a vibrator. It's super cool. So for a limited time, you guys, check this out. Go to lovecrave.com. So from February 3rd to February 9th,

use code VDate Emily, all caps, that's VD Emily, and they never do stuff like this at LoveCrave. So lovegrave.com, VD Emily, you get 20% off. So I would go there now, and then your Real Times A present is done and done. So check it. I now, and then your real-time day present is done and done. So check it. I think it'll be an amazing Valentine's Day present. Jewelry, vibrators, sucks, Jewelry, sucks.

Well, the thing is also so many vibrators are the really small discrete stuff. It's still oddly shaped, or it's a weird color and stuff like that. So if it fell out of your purse or something like that, you probably get instantly embarrassed. But if this thing, you could wear it on your body and people would have no idea.

I do it everyday. I do it everyday. They would just think it's cool, you know? Yeah, exactly. I don't tell everyone either that it's a reperson and it's like I'll be in a meeting and I'll start, like I'll lean over and press it and start my boobs will start vibrating,

but I'm kind of happy about that. So I knew, okay, check it out. So, oh, okay, check it out. So, all right. Hey, Abelie, you got a boyfriend? Because my man E here, he just got his heart broken. He thinks you're kind of cute. The girls got a hair stand. Oh my! The women know about shrinkage. Isn't it common only? What do you mean like laundry?

It's drinks? And we not talk about sex so much. Are you kidding me? Oh my god. I'm off here. I'm so proud. Being bad feels pretty good. You know, Abelie's not the kind of girl you just playing with.

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And also, we have a survey out. I forgot to mention our survey. We've got an awesome survey. It takes like three minutes to finish to complete. You could win some toys and it'll help us make a better show. Yeah, I think one of the questions on there

is do you hate men? I believe. It's funny that you say that. It's like 90%. Yes. We've gotten a lot of results. I'm actually really, so thank you to everyone who's already responded to it

because it's great to get your feedback and a lot of people actually really like you Menace, it wasn't even we didn't even put you in there as a yes or no but they're like more menace more menace turns like that there was some production stuff but I don't want to say about that because I get because we care about sound that the momentous does I mean I care but you know I like all about it care you behind the scenes you would think that I'm the biggest dickhead because I really want to make sure That every episode the sound quality is amazing and sometimes it's out of our control And it doesn't sound that great here and there and I apologize for that because I really do care and I want the quality

He's gonna cry never seeing my men I know Because one and because somebody says, oh, it didn't sound that great here on some episode, I get upset. I know, he's not to cry. I've never actually seen you so emotional, and I'm like, it is true.

So yeah, I know. Because it's something that's so easily that can be taken care of. And if it goes on over and over again, I get pissed. I know. We're going to find a new studio. I got it. We're going to get good mics. We're going to get good things. No, we've all been good.

It's better than most podcasts. Let's just say that. Yeah, definitely. Because I have the go-to studio. I'm saying that. I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, I'm like, Al Gore. I know. I understand. But go ahead.

Yeah. I'm like, Al Gore, like, I invented the internet. I had the first podcast on the web. No, but we did. Like, 10 years ago, we always had really good sound. That was our thing. Maybe content has gotten better over time. I hope we've gotten to be better hosts. Less sloppy all over the place.

Yeah. Yeah. You're gonna be like, I evolved. Okay, so yeah, that's a deal. And then also are we supposed to, yeah. Talk about the podcast words the more. Okay, so I was gonna talk about the podcast words that I'm co-hosting April 14th.

Yeah, that's super cool. I know, it was next I think. So it's some Vegas with Dennis Benlar. And I want everyone to devote for me too. So you're gonna like tweet this out. So there's a way that they can vote. Now is it in there like a weird way that people have to vote? It's really hard, it's your intricate.

I'm gonna say this again later, but I just don't even know. Don't you have to like give your blood type or some crap like that? Exactly. It's not the easiest thing in the world, but if you guys, you know, not many favorite podcasts, so it's for the 10th annual podcast awards and not many of my podcasts, so it's on the ballot.

It's easy. It doesn't take a lot of time. Go to podcastawards.com. Type sex with Emily in the mature category. That obviously doesn't like me. Okay. The content, mature person. And then copy and paste my podcast URL into the designated spot.

See, you got a copy and paste, that's just like check a box. If you're not sure what we're to find the URL, just click on the sex with Emily show at thepodcast1.com page. And paste that URL in the designated spot at podcast awards that come. This is all be on our website and nominations and soon please send me a sign up for me today. If you go through that effort to do all that and to vote, we really appreciate it.

So again, go to that. Good. That was a lot. Go to podcast one. Yeah, that's the easiest way. Yeah, and copy the text of Emily. And then is it on? Copy the URL and go to the podcast awards

and then look for mature and then paste it in there. Okay. All right, it's a couple of steps, but you know what, if you really love Emily and sex to Emily, you would do it. Exactly. I mean, you don't have to pay for the show. No, it's free show.

It's free show. It's free show. It's just my blood's wet and tears. That's all. Happy Emily, like almost has a heart attack every single day over nothing about this show. So the least you can do for her is just go and vote. How many breakdowns in heart attacks have you seen me? Oh, just like mental.

It's like, it's like exhaust. I love you to death, but it's like exhausting to be around you. So I have to have you in doses. That's why you max out two hours. I don't even know how your team of people... They don't. They bear. Yeah, I mean, I'm sure they have some really good edibles. Or there has to be a dispensary somewhere nearby.

Yeah, we just... Exactly. We just got to be high in St. Cumbaya. You know what? I mean, a lot of people have worked on the show and done bigger and better things. So, what do you mean? I mean, it's all worth it to be hanging around you. That's what I'm trying to say. It's a good time.

Okay, man, so today's show is very important because Valentine's Day, you know what? You don't even have to tell me that it's important because my mom has been a florist my entire life and my aunt too. So it is like the end all be all when it comes to relationships or love or somebody that you're interested in.

But do you really believe that? Like are you planning something with you and your girlfriend this weekend? Next week. Not like, yeah, yeah. We're planning on maybe like going to Palm Springs or San Diego or something like that. Or like doing something. Like chill, not like going for work. or San Diego or something like that. Or like doing something.

Like chill, not like going for work, like you always do. Yeah, outside the norm, but not like, oh, you know, I have to do this elaborate dinner with, you know, I think it's just you have a bunch of the sex like try to prove your sex that night, okay? If you're in a relationship, just try to do something that improves your sex life that night. Yeah, well, it's a fancy.

Yeah, it's all about, it's a day of to celebrate romance and love, okay? Look it up, that's what it's about. Love romance. So what does that mean? Sex? Yes. Intimacy.

Enhancing something in your life. Like you can go out and spend like $300 on dinner or you could sit home, have a picnic in your bedroom and just have some rocking sex. Yeah. Try to do something that you want to do out here. That's what I say, a day about love. But we're gonna get into the Valentine's Day stuff

in a minute, but I got a little bit sex in the news that. That's why I say I say about love But we're gonna get into the valentines a sub in a minute But I got a little bit sex in the news that I can't I can't let this one go by like I can't wait another second for it I have a question for you minus does your vagina need a steam cleaning. Oh, not this. Yeah, not so much So Gwen and Peltro added again Already please just she does have too much time and money. She's like maybe till get my couch clean Steamed and my badge. I think Gwen and Poucher already, please. She does have too much time and money. She's like, maybe till I get my couch cleaned, steamed and my badge. I think maybe Gwen and Poucher can live her life and who cares what I say about Gwen and Poucher, all right?

I think she's just such in like a higher level. Yeah, she can even. Maybe income level that like puts her in a space where she's not with the norm, you know. So it might come off as me like hating ongoing in the powel tro. It's just like, I just don't get it. I don't understand it. Well, doctors don't understand either because the star is touting the alleged benefits of

another dubious practice, vaginal steaming or thesesteaming for short, is describe a treatment that she received at the Ticcoon Holistic Spa in Santa Monica, California. Of course. You used me at the Holistic Crab. You were a holistic. Yeah, I do, but I've never got my vagestemed, okay? I mean, I wasn't gonna do it this weekend, but now they go on to fit it first.

Now, the actor, set in her news, that are the real golden ticket here is the Mugworth V-Steam. You said I'm what is essentially a mini-throne and a combination of infrared and mugwort steam clenches your uterus. Did you see it? It's a morth.

She calls it mugwort. No, where's that from the mugwort? Is that like a... No. How do I think I'm going to say that? No, it sounds like a dog like a border guard. I don't know, exactly. I don't know. Yeah, exactly. There's no scientific evidence that shows that it works as Dr. Birch, who

knows about it, I guess, she's an OBGYN. Steaming your other regions could even lead to unpleasant side effects. I mean, it's true. It's just like douching, the whole douching thing. It's bad for your vagina naturally cleans itself out. It regulates its pH balance. You should not be sticking things in there that are not approved. You don't need to be cleaning it.

You don't need to be like vacuuming it. I remember she was doing it with it. She get a vaginal seemingly, yeah, she squats over steaming bowl of water, blah, blah, she's doing with it. She get a vegetable seemingly, yeah, she squats over steaming bowl of water, blah, blah, she even tie with us. It's just bad for you, okay people. I was watching TMZ live and they had a guy do it. Did they have her doing it?

No, they had. Oh, I would have done a lot of it. Okay, we have a guy was doing it. Yeah, he was doing it. He has steam. Describing the the feel, and it's just, yeah, it's just like steam being pushed into your-

Yeah, you can get back to your own factions. Okay, so don't go, if you're gonna spend like, God, I don't know something like that. That's some like, I mean, Gwen and Palcho is probably going to a really extremely high-end spa, but I'm sure like the day-to-day person, like you and I can't afford to go to a spa like that.

And if you're gonna try to get it done, it's probably not the most clean, clean the spot ever, you know? Get a facial. Yeah, that's where people, they get like weird funguses and stuff like that, you know? Yeah, totally. So don't listen to Gwen and Paul Dros, she just says, she had some extra pocket changes

and she's like, I'll get my veg steam. She's a crazy rich person, you know? Nothing wrong with rich people, but you know. No, I'm not, I celebrate rich people. But she should be sending out this information where everyone's gonna to listen to celebrities because celebrities have a lot of power in today's culture and they're all trying to get the vagina steamed and they're all end up with bacterial vaginosis.

So don't do it. Couples late night office sex campaigns watched by an entire bar end up on Twitter. Sweet. Two new Zeeland insurance company employees could be in a huge trouble after their attempt at some office sex in Viral. As it turns out, those giant, well-lit windows faced out toward a barbed-drunk patrons. So you know, the buildings actually do that, right? The whole pub knew about it was watching while there were totally oblivious to it.

Reportly, even the in-house ban set playing as everyone watched the two get it on. They set pictures and posted them on YouTube and their employer says they don't condone the actions of the couple and are investigating the matter. They could even get fired. They never realized how public their private time was. They wanted to avoid having sex, you know, having their sex live all over the news. So they should just turn the goddamn lights off. Yeah. Right? People? I mean, it's crazy because you... They're probably drunk or something.

Well, sometimes like when you're think that you're on a certain level at a building, you don't know how to see it. No, people can see, like I go down, I go down a bunch of levels in the building that I live in, and I can still see like right into my living room window from way far away. So people watch out.

Wow, so could people watch you having sex? Yeah, I remember that I was in, I was doing something before I lived here. I was in Venice Beach, California. And I, I, it was with a bunch of people doing, it's called the Fiesta Movement. It was like this thing with Ford. So 50 people, YouTubers, and like internet people were all together, and we're all staying at the same hotel. And we just started partying. And then we sneak up onto the roof of the hotel and just keep on partying all night. And then we look over at the building next to us, which was the apartment building. And it was really, really hot that day. And everybody in all the apartment buildings were completely naked because it was so hot.

Okay. And then you can like see people getting it on all kinds of crazy stuff. Course in Venice. So yeah, so yeah, put the blinds down if you don't want anybody to see. Exactly. Some people are into that.

They want people to see that. Yeah, but not these people. So they got fired from the job. That was kind of a bummer. Has anyone ever caught you having sex before? Walked in and you? Coming having sex, no. No.

Never knew this. No. Did your mom ever walk in and you masturbating? No. Oh God, I would die. But what about you? I'm sure you've been people walking around. Yeah, I'm trying to think of what I was.

Yeah, like a billion times. No, not a billion times. I'm trying to think of anyone ever walked in me, you know, there was like this horrible time. I mean, but this was fresh when you were college. Yeah. And I'm sure, no, no one's ever, I'm sure someone's walking,

but this was the worst experience ever. So we got home drunk late night at the bar. My boyfriend and time went to Michigan State. I went to Michigan. I drove there for the weekend to stay with them. And he had a loft. There was this tiny dorm rooms, right? So we used to build those lofts, some, still do it,

whatever, so he's up in the loft. We got back to his room, we started having sex, we're like drinking it like a keger all night, whatever, we're having really loud sex. And on Benoan's twist, his roommate was just like right below us in the room, we didn't see him. Okay, I've had that happen before. So that was really embarrassing,

and I have forgotten about that. But no, no one's ever, you know, but that was like, that was like, again, I just like walked, I just didn't pay attention that there was someone beneath us sleeping. And to this day when I ran into this guy because he was like, this is the old time Michigan, so mortified.

Black people, and just pay attention to sleeping beneath you. Oh, for real. For reals. Okay, so we're gonna get into our Valentine's Day gift guide and then we're gonna get into your emails because I know you're all like Shit, what do I do? We're here to help you. I've got Madison here. Oh, so pretty sir. What's up, Madison?

What's going on? I'm hanging out. You know hanging out. We're gonna talk about sex toys because they tried all these why she here. Yeah in this moment. Yeah, she's always here. No, but what we're talking about. We just said I'm talking about the Valentine's Day gift guide. Yeah, but oh wait, did she make up the gift guide? She, well, yes, she helped, we're going to talk about the toys with you because we've actually tried them all except for we have not, well, see, that's what I was asking you. Oh, I see, I didn't finish my sentence.

She didn't, I mean, she was going to get to it. I was going to get it. I didn't, I didn't, I didn't cut me off. You think I was going to say Madison is here, okay. So Madison works with me. And we've actually pretty much achieved the two as I think tried. We have tried everything on this list.

She has more experience with the flashlight that I do. She's talked a lot about it on the show. Not that she has a penis. Yeah. I can't get in the bathroom. Let me clarify. She's not a transgendered woman or a transsexual. Which is so high now by the way.

I know it is. I wish I were. I really would like a transsexual of my staff. We should actually put it way. I know it is, I wish you were. I really would like a transsexual my staff. We should actually put it out for an intern, you know? Intern-man. Be careful. You know what? I mean, not that a transgender person's not gay.

I could totally be speaking. I don't know exactly how to put everything. But some of my gay friends are like, mad at the transgender's because they're stealing all the thunder. Yeah, no, it's so hot right now. Yeah, no, it's like a chick's with dick thing. No, it is true.

It is a whole phenomenon now that. It's all over television. It's been around, but it is getting a lot more, you know, there's a lot more action with transgender people. So I'd be like, maybe there will be a lot of men now, you know, starting to buy some women's dresses. Yeah. And, uh, totally well.

Flash the princess. I think I love that people are getting threatened by transgenders now. Well, um, it was like entertainment tonight or entertainment show that just recently, they hired one as a correspondent. That's awesome. And then orange the new black.

Exactly. This is a huge, a bunch of orange and stuff like that. Don't you wish that you decided to be a transsexual, transgender person? Me? Do you wish you could have done that? Oh yeah, it's cool. Your career was just taken off.

I don't even know how we got on that. Oh, the Madison does not have a penis. I said I don't have a penis. Madison does not have a penis, but she does have experience with the flesh. So I knew we're going to go over, you know, we get a lot of sex toys in our office. It's part of the jam. You work for me, you got gotta try some sex toys, okay? And I don't always say you have to talk about it publicly,

but it helps us review toys and it helps us, you know, so we, because when I talk about stuff and I say to you, oh, this is what you should, this would be great. And not just because I like thought it looked cool. It's because like I've tried it, I've tested it, we know and I'm not gonna tell you, or lead you down to any roads.

So your penis is going to fall off or something like these are all really good. Try to test and true products. So Valentine's Day, first thing is you've heard me talk about the flashlight a lot back to Madison's experience. Madison actually has a great blog on our website and she's talking the show before about her experience with her boyfriend. Giving, do you remember this? Giving him a flashlight? She's 24. Her boyfriend's about the 25 now. Oh yeah, I'm 24. He's 22.

22. Okay, so in their group, they lived together. Everything's great. Would you like to, people who haven't heard your flashlight story? Okay, so just brief thing. My boyfriend is a very sexual person. And I'm,

He's 20 years old, the more. Yeah, I mean, but he's like, all the time. He wasn't, we'd be concerned. If he had his way, he would be having sex multiple times a day every day and I'm sorry. I'm a human woman I'm busy. I have a job like I don't have time for all of that

So everyone's smile when he's feeling frisky comes home from work and I'm doing stuff I'm just like yeah, no, no, no, go take a shower or take your flashlight and it works out really well Like it's got a couple of awesome benefits I think most girls are like I don't want to give a guy a flashlight because then what if it's better than me? Like, he's not going to have to go to their family's house for Christmas. Like, no, it actually worked out a lot better for me. I feel like I got the better end of the deal personally, because now if he wants to have sex and I don't, he's got a great outlet for that. It kind of actually turns me on too, because then I feel like I'm almost like having a competition sometimes. Like, he'll be like, yeah, I've got my flesh

like, and I'm like, I'll show you what's better than a competition sometimes. Like he'll be like, yeah, I've got my flashlight and I'm like, I'll show you what's better than a flashlight. Exactly, like, yeah. You get that flashlight right, exactly. But it comes in handy. It's like, instead of like, you know, oh, no, honey tonight, I have a headache. You make, oh, no, honey, here's your flashlight. Exactly.

So it's kind of like, it's presenting a solution to a problem, not just complaining about it. But what we're gonna say is, you've heard me talk about a flashlight, but the flashlight, there's like a kutra monster. You know, the flashlight shower mount. You could put it in the flashlight, but the flashlight, there's like a koo-tra-montz, you know that the flashlight shower mount. You could put it in the shower, hold your flashlight, and then you could, you know, do your business shower. There's other levels now.

Dude, yeah, and then there's the launch pad, which is the one that connects it to your iPad. So if you're having sex, if you're watching as men often do, some kind of porn or something on there, or whatever turns you on. I don't know. I'm sure they made like custom videos for that too.

No they did. They made point of view so actually you're looking down at your flush eye as you're using it on the iPad and it looks like you're having sex with a person. That's amazing. That's a very exciting. So my kutramans for your flush eye if you already have one. So go to flasheight.com or go to my website. Click on the flashe banner.

Click on the flashlights. Click on the flashlights. Use code Emily and you get like, you can even get them lubed too. And then you've got the whole package. You've got the flashlights, got the accessories, you've got the lubed, you never have to do anything. Okay, quick question.

What's the actual size of it? Can you describe that? The flashlights in itself? Yeah, okay, so. Join me in a backpack. They have, honestly, they have. It's like this bottle of champagne. No, they have ones that are this big, you know, full size,

but they just eat her. Yeah, they just came out with that. If you look at Emily's YouTube channel, she just put up a video the other day of the new flashlight go, which we saw it she. Dude, you could put your pocket. It is actually the size of a flashlight. And it's still can encompass,

it's still can accommodate 90% of men, I think, which is pretty cool, yeah. So really is like a flashlight flashlight on the go, it's a cool thing. So check it out. The next thing that we wanna say, or we wanna recommend here, is a penis ring. So we've been talking about penis rings for a while.

Well, you have been talking about it for years, like, they've been very pro penis ring. You know what, but I think that I was pro penis ring before I even tried like the master mother of pro penis rings. You know what? But I think that I was pro penis ring before I even tried the master mother of all penis rings, which is the Mio by J.J. Okay, so they make my favorite toy that the Mimi, the little Pebble, because their technology is like, it has this rumbling,

so this is the thing, it's become very nuanced with sex toys now, that it's sort of this rumbling sound motor in the J.J. products that just make it better. So this penis ring is the Mio Mio. And it turns into a vibe. So how do you even, you put it over, in one size fits all, you put it over the penis.

It's like a lot of penis rings and it's even more disposable. This one is a full on tofer because it's a vibrator that you could use anywhere in your body like your nipples for clitoral stimulation. It's great, rechargeable, beautiful waterproof, but it's like a full on real vibrator

that stays on your penis and you menace. I was gonna give you one for Real Plains Day if that's cool. But you have to try it. Okay. It feels good on the people, like men freak out, they're like, oh my God, I didn't know vibrations could feel so good.

And then it vibrates in the place where a woman climbs on top of you to have sex. And then she gets the vibrations and everyone's having a really more classic style. So look, silicone. And silicone is beautiful. So it just like, talk about your experience with it. Because we both in the same weekend,

not together had great experiences with it. Yeah, no, it's, what sets it apart is that it doesn't look like, sometimes you get painstriens that are disposable and they look kind of cheap. They're made of like the gummy material. This is a really nice material, super sturdy feeling, but it's also soft, so it doesn't tug or anything if you're trying to put it on,

it's not gonna pull your hair or anything like that. And it stays in place. And I've had a lot of painstriens over my experiences with them that like slide around so you never know where the little vibrating bean thing is gonna be Is it gonna be in your front is gonna be in the back is it off to the side somewhere? The Mio stays put the entire time which is incredible. Yeah, it makes it easier And you can like pull it off and you put it around your fingers and like these are like the nipples It's like it's the coolest forget things. So it's the Mio by J.J. You can go to our website or go to jju.com,

J-E-J-O-U-E. There's also, and use code Emily. Yeah. Yeah, get this count, get 10% off. Okay, then we've got sex checks. What if you could have sex checks, menace? Like I feel like every guy is complaining at their partners. They don't take initiative in that women don't initiate sex enough.

What if I gave you a book of sex checks and then I wrote, like, good for one blood job, good blow job, good for a good forever, right? So this is an official one. This is an official one. You would make them like, people who are like, people who are like,

people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people who are like,

people who are like, people who are like, people who are like, people, that's amazing. The first time I thought it was like cereal or something. Sexy cereal. Yeah, so it's like snacks. But that's good. Yeah, and you can think you can even like fill them in. It's really good and cute for Valentine's Day. Toats, yeah. Okay, then we have the gifts for her,

the tango by Wee vibe. A lot of us started out. Bullet was my first sex toy. Right, too, yeah. Madison started out with theet was my first sex toy. Right, too. Madison started out with the bullet. Little tiny bullet, not too mid-aidie, literal stimulation. The tango by We vibe is the killer bullet. I have to say it's rechargeable.

It is. It's only three and a half inches long, which is actually good. And good for girl on the go. It's discrete. The most intense one I've ever felt. It's hard plastic metal material hard plastic material Makes it durable and waterproof rechargeable at last two hours and 90 minutes on one charge It's $80 a good vibrations. It is totally worth it. I bring it everywhere. It's the only one I travel with nice I think that's what about you. Yeah, I actually haven't tried it yet But the cool thing about it is that it's super eco-friendly. Like, for, I always recommend it,

like if you have any of those girls in your life that, you know, don't forget a water bottle, and they're like, they want to Prius, and they're all about the environment. And everything, this is the sex toy for that girl, because it doesn't use batteries made out of recycled material, and it lasts forever. Like you charge it 20 minutes, it lasts for so long,

take it wherever. Exactly. That is the tango, but this will all be on our website too. Yeah, Madison. Yeah, I told you that story. I think that's what, so I had an old assistant in San Francisco and we lived in the same apartment building. And so she asked me to help her move her bed

and it fell out of her bed and she almost. Oh, her vibrator? Die, no one's like the bullet. Oh, the bullet, right, right. She almost died of embarrassment. Because I picked it up and I didn't know what it was. And I saw a little button on it, and I hit the button and it starts vibrating,

and then instantly I knew what it was, and she turned totally red. Yeah, it's embarrassing. But, you know, that's like, dude. You're like, I know, I'm sexy, don't you go away. Dude, I'm sexy as Emily, come on. Like, you don't have to be shy in front of me. I know, I'm sexist, don't you know what? I'm sexist, Emily, come on. You don't have to be shy in front of me.

I know, I just wish that the whole stigma, I think it has gone away a little bit with the boys. I mean, I just think women just live out your toys, show them, or if you're a guy and she isn't show you a scar. We're like, hey, do any toys, baby, then she'll feel comfortable. Because I think that with a lot of people and couples, because these presents, too, you can buy for yourself,

you can buy for your friends, you know? Like, wait, whoever wants to have pleasure, but I don't think there should be an embarrassment around it. I would give all my friends tangos if I could, like, I would just be like, hey, who wants a vibrator as it is? Like, I try to be pretty friendly with the vibrators because I have access to so many, but I think it's a totally safe gift for girls to give other girls too.

Absolutely. That's all I give. And my friends would get married, I give them, I'm the, what's it called, the Rub-My-Ducky? It's a vibrator, it looks like it's actually a rubber duck, but you can also put it, this is a great, if you're having a baby and you only give sex, I only give sex presents, I decided that, because everyone needs better sex at some point,

probably at all points, it's a double duck, you can use it, clean yourself with it, like truly on your baby, but then it's a vibrate. Yeah, wow. Best present ever. Okay, dolly up Vibratex. This one, she has always wanted, since she blossomed in her adult hood

because she probably would like a G-Spot orgasm if she hasn't had one yet. So get her the Dalya. It's pretty in pink, it's fun and flirty. It's kind of like a rabbit style vibrator with the little things, you get the dual stimulation. And it packs a multi-orgathic punch. Dual motors, external butterfly appendage

flutters against the clitoris. This gets me turned on just to have like flutter in it. It's literally a butterfly though. So it's like it's little wings in it. And as I have one, it's pretty crazy looking when it gets going. Yeah, it exactly takes to play batteries. It's awesome.

I want to have a lot of closet space. We actually do, Oh, at home. Oh, no, do you know that lately? I've been, my office actually is bigger than my home. Yeah. Pretty much. Yeah. More space and bigger. But it, um, it's, it's, I've been obsessively lately, like, up to the point where it's high and healthy. No, no, well, that too. But I've been trying to figure out the best way to organize my sex toys And I'm like googling it like when Pinterest like there's nothing now a lot of Pinterest on it I mean what is the best way because I have so many that I like of course I get rid of the ones I don't like and I don't ever talk to you but I'm but there's something I like and I want them to be with the charger In a place and I'm in a room so I'm like constantly like well

Should it be in a hanging thing against the wall should it be it? I have to ask about it. That's great. wall should it be it. I obsess about it. That's great. It's one you know. Ikea probably has something for that. For them, it has a representation for everything. For them, it has a representation for everything. Put out a line, say, sex toy holders,

like make a briefcase, maybe on the go, make a sonalist, sonalist, dude. It's just that and then instead of the dump truck vibrator. The Emily line. Okay. Storage. The dump truck vibrator. The Emily line. Okay. Storage. The dump truck vibrator. Yeah, exactly.

It's a good idea. Okay, the next one is the Vesper, which I talked about earlier. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I got Vesper. Okay, so I knew that we were at the show in Vegas that my assistants both, they were like, oh my god, I want one of those. I want one of them.

And they gave me one. This was like a few months ago because I'm friends with Michael from Vesper, from Crave. That's named the company and they make these the necklace vibrator. Yeah. And they were like, oh my god, I want one. This was like a few months ago because I'm fenced with Michael from Vespa from Crave that's named in the company and they make these the necklace fighter and they were like oh my god I want one that's all I really want if I create if I get anything I want that because they get a lot yeah really I want that so anyway I got them all one nice I know because I love them I was like oh I saw Michael I'm like you know that's all they want they don't ask for a march they don't care if I'm lunch or dinner they just want to create

best first so imagine what's been your experience with the best for necklace jewelry that vibes? Yeah. Honestly, it's so pretty that I have yet to use it as a vibrator because as I pointed out, like I feel like after I use it, it's going to feel like a little bit more scandalous. Yeah, I know. And you know, I can wash it. I'm always so nervous about washing my sex toys though. Honestly, I do it, but I like paranoid about it. Yeah, I'm like, you know, I could wash it. I'm always so nervous about washing my sex toys though. Honestly, I do it, but I'm like paranoid about it.

I'm like, I was washing a baby. Wait a minute, there's sex toy cleaner in spray. I know, I don't have any. I have a hundred bottles. People don't seem to come to my house. I mean, it's communicating, you just clean it. You just like rinse right, but with a dry towel, but also I have a cleaner.

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the third to the ninth, yeah, they got 20% off. If they put V-Day Emily all caps and check out. Nice. Yeah, nice, right, Mennis? Yeah, you're gonna have this whole list at Sex Island. Yeah, I know, should we just run through this quicker here because then we can, yeah, sure, I mean. Yeah, we'll know I'm the same, but.

No, right, it's all at Sex Island. Yeah, I want to worry about it. Because we're like, I don't want to get any of this, but listen, Tristan Tiram know is this is great gifts for couples Tristan tear and we know shades of kink bondage kit. We can't ignore 50 shades of gray It's just coming out and it's bringing bondage and SM into the mainstream and here's the thing don't freak out If you're like, I don't want to hit her with a whip and chain when bond when you hear bondage You don't have to be thinking about pain. It can be just a blindfold

It could be tying her wrists above her, you know, with a bondage thing, with a restraint. It's like Velcro. It's not even like you have to use like handcuffs. It's easy and it's fun and it's power play. When people think bondages are thinking like your head and toe leather, there's whips and chains and all. That's immediately what they go to.

I think again, 50 shades of gray is probably going to change everybody's outlook on that. Yeah. Which is good. So yeah, it is good. It is good. But I'm saying if you just want to get started out and you're like, I don't have a dungeon, I don't want to do. You can get the the the Tristan Tirmoy knows shades of King bondage kit. And then there's also the there's another one. They've a bunch of bondage kits too. A good vibes. That's the top rated one and it comes with a book. So it comes with a, it comes with her in-code, a kink book. So if you don't know where to start and you're like,

I have this blindfold, but what am I supposed to do with it? She can, she walks you through how to use it. So it's just good for, you know, you go. Yeah, because a lot of couples don't. They're like, I don't know where to start. That is the perfect one. Okay, I think you guys should all check it out.

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We got the Juju Dua DUA. And this is the couple sex toy in the future. It is, they've got these, it's a whole trend now, the remote control vibrators that you can control with your Bluetooth. It's a very discreet pen, something out, like it's gonna be out by the time people are listening to this, but it's like coming out like tomorrow.

And it is so frigging cool, your partner. It's like, it has like a James Bond, like it looks like a James Bond's X-toy. Yeah, it's got a little like pen, literally looks like one of those fancy fountain pens a small one And that's the remote control that controls it So no one has any idea what you're doing you can be sitting across your part across from your partner at the dinner table or wherever you're at And just clicking this people are like why are you clicking that pen underneath? They're getting like full vibrations going It's pretty it's pretty hot

And you can use it and yeah, you can use it with your same city or different city or long distance because you can also control the vibrations through Bluetooth. It's awesome. Final thing I gotta say, candles, who doesn't love candles? Man and women love candles. Emily and Tony are Roma therapy massage candles,

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All right, that's my gift card. What are you gonna go find? What are you gonna get her? You're taking her dinner, you said something. No, no, no, I said that I wanted to all that. We're probably just gonna go somewhere for the weekend. All right, that's nice. Yeah.

I'm gonna turn up. Stay home for the weekend. Huh? What I'm gonna do for the weekend? Why? You're just gonna call up one of these Randos and go do something? You're not gonna be home on Valentine's Day

or yourself. What day is it on Saturday, right? Yeah, it's a Saturday too. That's Saturday, but no. I'm like, here's the thing. I'm the hooked up. I love, I think Valentine's Day definitely serves a purpose on the planet and it's great that it's a day

about celebrating love, whether you're single or in a relationship, but I never doesn't like bum me out if I'm alone. I'm like, good, let's go out with my friends and have a good night and go home and masturbate with my new sex choice. Yeah, can I tell you the worst Valentine's Day was? Oh.

Yeah. What I said, I've said this show, I said this on the show a couple times, so I'm sorry if you heard it before it. But when I was at high school, I got with this girl a week before Valentine's Day. And I didn't, I wasn't really paying attention, even though my, you know, my mom always burnt in my brain that Valentine's Day was an extremely important day because she was a florist.

And I think. Yeah. And I didn't get anything for my girlfriend at the time because we only been dating a week and she got me a ton of stuff. It felt so bad. So what happened? So, but no, she was like totally...

Did you hire mom and you're like, mom bring me some flowers and school? Yeah, send me some flowers. No, but do you know what my mom did do back in the day, which was amazing, is all throughout high school, she would send me to high school with bags, bags of single roses.

And I would give them out to all the girls that I knew. That's nice. That was really cool. All the girls you knew were just every girl. All the girls that I was, those were the girls who didn't get flowers. Yeah, and now we're just like, hook them up with a flower. Dude, you're always the man. Here's a rose.

That's so not like you know, you wouldn't do that now. I wouldn't. You got so cold and hardened. You're like, you want a rose, you can't have a rose. The rose is pretty neat. No, no, this Valentine's Day, this is not like a day to day where I'm gonna act that I'm thirsty. I know, I know.

Okay fine, okay, let's get into some emails. Because if people are looking towards towards Valentine's Day, or anything, you're gonna really should brought a relationship. The bottom line here, let me just say this wrap If people are looking towards towards Valentine's Day, yes, as a shipy. For anything, you're going to be a really proud of a relationship. The bottom line here, let me just say this, we have a Valentine's Day thing, is that it does,

I don't care if you're like I said, a relationship or a single, if it's a day by love and you are in a relationship, I don't care if you want some briefcase, you can get them there, but try to do something sexy that night. Try to do something that just kind of spices it up, a little different that you've never tried before. Talk about sex for the first time, I don't care, but it. A little different that you've never tried before. Talk about sex for the first time.

I don't care, but it's the one day that you've permission to do whatever the hell you want, sexually, and to bring it to the next level. So I say take advantage of it. It's been $300 on a dinner. You could do that, or you could go home, and have amazing sex, or you could do both. Just do something.

Now, do you know the holiday a month after? I guess. I'm a fan. After, oh, you are a fan of the- Do you know the holiday a month after? I guess, I'm a fan. After, oh you are a fan of the- I think it's clever, I wish I had that a bit. Do you know the name of it is? Stake and BJ Day? Yes. If I didn't know that, I would be out of it.

Yes, I do. It's a national men's holiday. So explain how it works. Stake and BJ Day, I think all it works is that, you know, one from Valentine's Day, your guy comes home and you're like, hey, baby, wait wait right there I gotta give you a blowjob and then you can blowjob oh but wait the steak is ready. I think that's what you do. What do you think, Madison? I thought you gave them a blowjob with the

steak. You just wrapped it around and worked the shaft with that. That makes sense to me. Not a bad idea. It's really great. You can feel two birds once done. I'm a vegetarian so I would just hold it away from my face and be like oh there you, man. You're good. You know what's so good about that? Exactly, stay can be J.D. Because guys don't get enough for getting attention out there, they're going to take it again.

So, about the attention, you're so awesome. I'm just saying that blowjob, I mean, you know, it's funny that there is a holiday blowjob, there's not like Connolingus, you know, Tuesday or something. There should be. Every single holiday is geared towards pleasing a woman. It is. Every holiday is geared towards pleasing a woman. F.Y.S. It is. It is.

Christ and stuff. Christ and stuff. Yeah, what about Christ, doesn't he get a name? I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Like, if a guy gets you a lame present for Christmas, you will be upset. If a guy got a lame present from a girl, he wouldn't be that upset.

He'd be like, okay, you know, whatever. He's not gonna go home and cry about it and call all his friends. So do not tell me that every single holiday is geared a little more towards a woman than a man. I don't know, maybe. Maybe we might be living in the trees. I think he knew it is. There was a study that I read earlier. Did we do news in here? Yeah, we did a little bit.

Something I read said that women would rather have gifts than anything else. Like that women are more uptight. Like they really, I'd have felt like this when she first got married. Her husband, now it's still her husband, but when they first got together, he always messed up the gifts and it really upset her.

Like, I'm not really a gift person, but she was like, I can't believe you didn't get me this or that. No, I get it. There's a lot of women that's a big to me. I'm like, don't get me anything. And I mean it. So don't say, okay, let a guy have a steak and be J.D. and not cock on it, all right? Cockaw law.

You should be the poster child for Stake and BJ. Maybe they're looking for more of a big, good sponsor. I don't like parade around until. But you know, you've got the bull billboards with your face on it now. Yeah. The cartoon. You could do like a Stake and BJ one with you.

I think it'd be good cross-bending. No, I'm not the Stake and BJ pusher. I'm just saying. You sound like one. No, I'm just saying that. You know, we mentioned it as we're talking about a lot of time ago. Okay, so let's wait to eat them. But if you meet my friends, oh my God, that's all they talk about for a month.

We should have a steak and BJ party. That would be really fun actually. I mean, there would have to be some like, different rooms and stuff like that. No, we're not really at BJ jobs. Just be a fun, fun part. That would be fun. I know people would get the wrong message. They'd expect to come in and have a steak and BJ party at Emily. It's just be a fun, fun part. That would be fun. Just like, yeah. I know people would get the wrong message.

You would say, yeah. They'd expect to come in and have it. Stay to BJ party at Emily. There are no blow jobs. It was actually no stake because everyone who works for me is a vegetarian. But, um, we'll talk about it. We should be blow job lessons.

It's going to be a great day. Okay, so emails from the people. Thank you, everyone, for emailing me. Feedback at sex with Emily.com. What? I just thought of an amazing event. Go ahead. You'll have a steak and BJ event.

I mean, you wouldn't be given out BJs, which would be extremely disappointing. But you would surf steak and teach people how to give blow drops. Yeah, I was thinking that. That would be amazing. Actually, my salon that I go to just ask me if I would do a party there, like teaching,

give blow drops and fill my sex. Stay at a salon never sounded better. They probably don't want the steak, but yeah, I got it. Okay, emails. How to find a third person for a threesome. Yes, we know what your number one fantasy, that's how we're going to talk about it. For men, actually, it's our top fantasy. Okay, you talk about, hi Emily, you talk about how to approach your partner with the topic of a threesome.

But what about after you've done that, we don't know how to approach a woman and ask her to have a threesome with us. We don't wanna just ask a friend and make things out between us all. So how do we go about asking someone if they want to join us for fun? Thanks, Dalton, he's 22 from Missouri.

So thank you for putting where you're from. We've started to ask for that again, because people use those, so Dalton, 22, Missouri, how thank you for putting where you're from. We've started to ask for that again because people use those adult and 22 Missouri. How to find a third. Okay, that is true. They get down to Missouri. They do. Yeah, right? I love it. And it is tricky. Once you get to this point, so adult and I hope you're in a very good place with your partner, you discuss the rules and you're in a confident place in your sex life because that's when I recommend that couples have a threesome. So assuming that is all true, looking for a third, I mean, back in the day, people can add them in craigslist.

You don't really want to do that. No, no, no. But there are sites online that cater even to your area, you can put in your area code or your neighborhood. There's FET life. That's one, FET life. Cassidy is a big one, K-A-S-I-D-I-E, and adult friend finder. Those are websites.

There's also play parties. I know you think you may not know anyone in your area, who whatever. But if you've got a sex toy shop or you've got some friends that you think might be into the world, people have play parties and swing your parties. And do you figure this mad with your friends? Yeah, actually, I hear about it on Facebook

of all places, people like you know, like an adult party. And I'm like, I know what that means. You're like, I know what that means now. I'm almost, I'll be 25 soon. I'm not recording a, no, I get it. You know what they say, you're not really adult, so you rent a car at 25. But yeah, exactly.

So if you keep your eyes open, don't, you're gonna find those people. I mean, but these are some websites to start with. You might even find that in your area, they might say, oh, if you're in our area, there's a meetup in one of these websites. So it's like, FetLife, Cassidy, adult friendfinder. And also there's a new app I heard about called

Thrinder, three NDR that helps. Well, I was about to say, I'm surprised Tinder has, I mean, Tinder is still pretty new, so it's gonna take a while to develop. But I'm sure that eventually it'll break off into something like this, they'll be a feature. Well, now there is, Tinder. Yeah.

It hasn't gotten great reviews yet, because there are a lot of users on there. So the people on there are kind of like. Yeah, but it is. Thunder. Yeah. It hasn't gotten great reviews yet because there are a lot of users on there. So the people on there. Yeah, but it's not an official tinder. Oh, I mean, it's not a reached fame like tinder. Okay, it is not affiliated with tinder. It is not. No, no, no. But there's ways you just get into your like mind, you know, your friends that would know this kind of stuff. I was just reading about tinder the other day about the premium stuff. How you've been hearing about that. So there's going to be a paid upgrade.

They do. Yeah, they have to. Every place does don't get mad. But it's gonna have an undo button and some other thing where you can like swipe back. Oh, you've swiped wrong, right? You swiped right? Right, right.

You're left. You swiped left and you wanted to go. So I'll have an undo and the other thing is, it's going to be able to, you can pinpoint other cities. So let's say you're traveling to New York, right? So you will, but you're here in Los Angeles. You can start planning your hookup. So it'll be great for people that they're already trying out

in Europe and it's already huge. No, that's really smart because a lot of people I know only use Tinder when they're on the road. So you usually have to wait until you land in New York, and you land because it picks up geographically where you're at. Yeah. So this would be you pay a few bucks a month, and you can start planning your dates for New York where I started using Amy Lawrence from our Bravo show. Yeah, I was with her in New York last Valentine's Day. She was my date and she's like, you're not on Tinder yet? We didn't make that. And I actually ended up going out on my first, actually, I never talked about this I was with her in New York last Valentine's Day. She was my date and she's like, you're not on Tinder yet? We didn't make that.

And I actually ended up going out on my first, actually, I never talked about this because I forgot because I always think my first one was on my show, but I did meet a guy for coffee in New York that I met on Tinder. Wow. For like 20 minutes. I swear to God, I'm good.

I just saw that at Kat Suia, some sushi place in LA. Yeah. Or the people met at Katsuya off Tinder. And they were sitting right next to me the whole time. You heard him talking about it. Yeah, it was crazy. That's awesome.

I've actually heard there was a guy who live with weeded an entire first Tinder date one time. And it was really funny. Like, live tweeted the entire thing. Was the end or? I know it was really awkward. And that's why I was so funny. Right, exactly.

Exactly, like she's in love with my life. Like, really? Did you gain 10 pounds? Did you let's photo? You and your guys did sing. They definitely continued the date because they were talking about, oh, so where did you park? Well, blah.

It took off. You got to be pretty confident that you're going to hook up with this chick if you're going to meet her at Katz. No, it's not a cheap place. No, I was going to say that. It's not a cheap place. Who's who paid? Oh, I'm sure he did. I'm not pleased you. Exactly. No, it's not a cheap place. I hope who's who paid. Oh, I'm sure he did.

Oh, I don't know if he's you sure. Yeah. But I hope, I mean, maybe they've been chatting for a while or something because that is a commitment to Stanford sushi. I feel like at most dates right now, you, you, you most dates right now, you, yeah, you want to do coffee or you want to do it quicker, you want to do drinks. So that's nice. Tender's taken over the world.

Okay, next question. Man on bottom. Dear Emily, is it wrong for a man wanting to be on bottom all the time during sex? Sign Bobby. Okay, man, let's take this one. What do you think? I, well, it might be because he can last a lot longer being on the bottom than if he was any in any other position. Right. Or it's a lot less work and you don't get tired as quick. Yeah, but to only, he only wants to be on the bottom. And I'm wondering, it's not wrong. Like, people ask me if I do something wrong. I mean, if your partner's cool with it and your partner's like, yeah, be on the bottom.

I'll be on the top. I'm happy. And you, you know, walk off into the sunset. Everything's great. However, I wonder why you only want to be on the bottom. It is true that a lot of money can last longer, because if your partner is a female, a lot of times women, they're on top.

They can control the motion and the rhythm and they can have more orgasm sometimes in their own top. They're more likely to orgasm. But I don't think it's a bad idea to like switch things up, Bobby. I'm wondering like, is this something about your body? Do you not want it to see you in a certain way? Like why do you only want to be on the bottom? So you could try sitting on the edge of the bed.

You could try the spooning position just to mix it up because it kicks the boring. Sometimes you might have had it in other positions and wonder why and then maybe it didn't last as long. And then that's definitely the answer right there. Yeah, because when guys get on top or they do the fun behind, that's the go-to, done-zo, done-zo. So again, Bobby, I'm not gonna type your rate or wrong, but it depends what

your partner's with, if you're, you know, if your partner's with it, it's fine, but I think also sex is all about Friday, mixing it up. So I would try to work in some positions, edge of the bad couch, being on the bottom, sitting up, maybe holding each other. Being on the, honestly, being on the couch is like the Being on the bottom, sitting up, maybe holding each other. Being on the, honestly, being on the couch is like the most like effortless position for everybody. And I think it's like one of the more orgasmic personally. Like I really enjoy it.

I enjoy couch sex too, because you're not easy. Yeah, I already watch TV anyway. Exactly. You literally just roll over and you're having sex. And then when you're done, you can keep watching the movie. It's fine, nothing happened. Because I don't think couch gets dirty. Yeah, that's true.

Sorry. You gotta get a special coat for your couch. Like a plastic, oh what kind of couch? Like, scotch guards. I brought some to the office for the chairs. I should bring them to my house for the couch because I have some issues. Yeah, no, I think I have some like special

coating on my couch. See, but is it too late when you buy the couch or you used to discuss what it's for? I think so, you gotta do it when you hook me up. I messed up. Whoever has time to scotch go and you get some and you're so excited, you just jump all over and you buy the couch? I used to discuss for a bit before. I think so, you gotta do it when you, who do you get it? Whoever has time to discuss, go and you get something you're so excited, you just jump all over it

and then jack the lid all over it. Yeah. The day you get it, because you're so excited. I have like special insurance on my couch if it like does get a stain that they, they'll kind of bridge you by your couch. Yeah, I didn't know they did that. What do you mean they can't insurance?

Like there's special insurance, like let's say you come over and you drop a glass. Which I would, I would totally do that this second long glass over and you drop a glass which I would I would do that the second you drop some wine on it that I have it insured where they they'll fix it you buy like a five thousand million dollar couch no no it wasn't too expensive like from sharper image that's so fancy okay how do you like to be classy. You're a classy. Okay, next email. Dear Emily, you're always mentioning the wrong way to make love or sex. Totally.

I feel like you don't really ever. Oh, no. Really ever. My girlfriend says that she loves it when I pound her heart. She constantly tells me that she wants it rougher and rougher each time. I began thinking, maybe it's because she's only 23. Maybe she doesn't really know any better.

I was wondering if you could give me some suggestions and what real lovemaking or effing should look like. Thanks. Now, you guys are gonna poo poo it, but the thing is, believe it or not, every single woman is different. So you can't please them in the same way. And maybe this is what she's into.

She's not saying anything. She's never in orgasm. Yeah, honestly, this is a girl who has only learned how to have sex from either porn or like an older boyfriend that she had when she was younger and she thinks that that's the only way to do it. Exactly. And porn, they're always yelling like harder, harder, like pound me harder and she's like, I'm just gonna do that because he really likes it and he comes immediately when I say

it and so she just keeps doing it. Exactly. She sounds like fun and you guys have a ass. Listen, Bob, when you break up with her, can you just send her an arm in a minute because he just wants to pound the shit out of the check? No, but here's the thing. I'm not saying that this is wrong.

I'm not saying that there's anything. Okay, what is he asking me exactly? It's like, she's 23. She doesn't know any better. Okay, first of all, I don't always say the wrong ways, but sometimes it's what people listen to. That's what you're hearing from it, okay? Which I'm glad you're just learning that sex is evolving,

constantly evolving and there's different tips and tricks I give on the show. But I think it's not a bad thing to take it slow. Do you practice foreplay with her? Do you ever slow it down? Do you turn her on beforehand? Slow sex, fast sex, I just think you don't always want to have sex the same way over and over again.

So I'm thinking when she's saying, Pamy, I heard her, Pamy, heard her, she just wants you don't always want to have sex the same way over and over again. So I'm thinking when she's saying, Pamy, I heard her pamy, I heard her she just wants to be over because she's hungry or something or she wants to go shopping with her friends or I don't know I just think that you could you know the longer you stimulate her and slow things down She's more likely of an orgasm. So maybe you're talking after you would win down her for 30 minutes and she had six orgasms She wants you to pound her or you probably need to slow it down a bit and turn around. I have an alternate like what's wrong with doing like a little bit of the jackhammer stuff and she likes that and then slowing it down and kind of like taking it and seeing

how that goes, switching positions, like you know, I have to just stick with that one thing the whole time. Exactly. Like why not flip her around until she's on top from behind. So I think he's trying to tell me that I'm wrong that girls don't like it. I'm not saying, and sometimes it does feel good. For introverts. For introverts. So alternate, like go back and forth,

try different positions, but one girl just wants a pound, pound, pound. I'm a little suspect. That's all she wants. Okay. What? You're saying. Okay, you're just saying what? Okay.

You're just saying what? Okay. Get up for a bit. All right. Get up for a bit. Do you have time for one more? I'm Taser. All right. Hey, Emily, I'm a new listener and love your podcast and learning new tips each week. I'm in a relationship with an older and more experienced guy

who's amazing and bad. I feel I'm not holding up my end of things in the bedroom, especially in the oral region, as I'm nervous my inexperience will show through. He says he will be patient and wait, but my nerves get in the way whenever I begin to let my guard down. How do I gain the confidence to give him what he deserves? Thank you, Lauren.

And girls that are iffy about oral are like, what? The worst. But have you made the girls who tentatively approach your penis? Yeah, they're just like, you know, they're not confident, which I understand that's why she's emailing that she's not confident in it. But it is very frustrating for a guy who is like dealing with someone. What's the most frustrating blow job you've ever had? What exactly happened?

I think no, it's exactly what she's talking about right here. It's like you're not confident. You're not confident anywhere in any way. And you're like, oh, I'm not good at it. I'm gonna try it. And you're like put like zero oh, I'm not good at it. I'm gonna try and you're like put like zero effort into trying to be good at it, you know? So stop thinking about it too much Lauren, because you are psyching yourself out.

You can't really mess it up. If your mouth is warm, if it's wet, make sure that there's lots of saliva on there, that you have a lot of, there's pressure, enough pressure with your mouth, and that's why your hands are your best friend during blow-jup. So use your hands, your mouth goes up and down, you suck. We're seeing ever no pressure.

Yeah, no pressure, like a soft blowjob is not good. So, that's why your hands are your best friends. Use your hands in a blowjob, make sure that it's wet, but honestly, Lauren, the number one thing that men across the board, across the world, we'll say that it is about enthusiasm, a woman who is confident, and even sometimes this is a fake it till you make it thing. Just go after it, like it's the most delicious lollipop ice cream cone you've ever had, and you do not want to let it drip up that ice cream cone fall into the floor. And you lick it and you look up at him and you look excited and you're into it, you will become that.

And you just, there is, it's not like there's a right or a wrong. I'm just giving you a few things to be enthusiastic, use pressure, you're making sure your mouth stand. There's enough saliva and you'll get into it and you'll learn it. And you know what? He'll appreciate that you're making the effort. So I also on my website, I've got a ton of how to give blowjob tips on my website too, sex. I'm a calm if you want to get into the details of it. But I think the most important thing is that you've got to get your confidence up. He's not judging you, he's attracting to you. As long as you're willing to go for it, he's gonna be fine.

Ask him what he likes. Ask him to tell you how to do it. It could be a big turn on for him, getting to direct you down there also. Yeah, be like, hey babe, do you like some guys like the balls like? Yeah, some guys don't. Not into it.

Yeah, I know. I give my boyfriend direction sometimes when he's downstairs and he really likes it. He enjoys the fact that I'm telling him what I like and what feels good to me because then he can do it better. It is such a gift. Yeah, you know what I mean? Don't you wish everyone would come

with an instruction manual? Yeah. Because we're all so different. I wish guys it too. So it's nothing wrong with a K-baby, do you like this? Do you like that? Give her a little feedback and then he'll begin the blowjob he wants and you'll feel better, Lauren.

I think that's great. And just a heads up for guys. If a girl says that she's amazing at it, it's going to be the worst blow job. You got to choose. Has that ever happened to you? Or is that just for a person as a side? Oh, no. It's it's a code amongst men that we all know this.

What? I say it all the time and I will. Uh huh. Am I am I exempt from that? Uh, maybe I think I'm good. Like I just feel like I've had a lot of confidence in it, and I've even, I don't know, whatever. But I shouldn't say that sounds true in my whole block.

Well, no, you're not. It's gonna mess them up now. You're not prating, because some women pray to round and say how amazing you are. Like, on their business card, like on their Facebook page. They're like, they'll be having conversations with guys and they want to pretend they're a badass. And, oh, I'm great at giving blow jobs.

No, you're not. You're just, you're a terrible. Right. Be careful of anyone when you say she's great or, or even anybody says they're funny. Like, oh my god, I'm so funny. Yeah. I guarantee you that.

Although I do that sometimes. You don't know me, but I'm actually funny. I tell you what I'm like, oh shit. I don't even say I tell you that they're funny as a funny or that they're good at blow jobs. Although I really am, I'm sure Madison is sure her sure girlfriends okay. You'll get tweeted emails guys agreeing with me.

I guarantee you. Okay. Good to know. Yeah, every girl's got to have her trick. Like my thing is I don't give good hand jobs. I'm terrible at them, but I give good blow jobs. I have to be good at something. Hand jobs are a waste of time anyways.

Lots of new blood and new blood. Yeah, hand jobs. Don't worry about a girl. No one wants that. I'm going to have to stop in the eye. Exactly. I've actually had that before. Yeah. I've going to have to get myself in the eye with that girl. Exactly. I've actually had that before.

I've had the ejaculate. Oh, lost my vision. I've had my two slippers. I know. It's too lubed up. I'm just going to hit myself in the face. I had a ejaculate in my eye and I couldn't see for like a day. Girls like through up on them.

I have like 25. Yeah, girls throw up on them the whole thing. So just be careful. They're Lauren and I'm having a good time with the sky. Don't stress on it. That's a way of time for okay Madison. Thank you so much. And how can people find you Madison? I am on Twitter, the real madisha.

That's my Twitter handle. She's kind of embarrassing and Instagram. I hurricane underscore Madison. Hurricane Madison and also she gets great blogs on my website, sexandme.com. Check those out. Thank you so much Madison. Thank you.

Thank you. Menace. Thank you. Menace. Thank you. Find you menace me and a C E across Instagram and Twitter. And thank you always to the listeners that always tweet me and comments on Instagram that they listen to the show. I really appreciate it. I appreciate it too. Thank you everyone for listening. I love you.

And I'm happy Valentine's Day. Don't do anything I wouldn't do. Anyway, thanks for listening. Was it good for you? Email me. Feedback at sexwithemily.com. Thanks for listening to the show. I know we talked a lot about sex toys, but I'm gonna wrap this up for you here and just tell you about J.J.

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