Sex With Emily - What Women REALLY Want with the LadyGang

Episode Date: April 15, 2016

This week, Emily welcomes the three lovely ladies from the LadyGang podcast for an unabashed, no-holds-barred girl talk session. Together, the girls dish on their favorite things to do in the bedroom and share their advice on how to get everything you want from your partner, no matter what relationship stage you happen to be in.The female foursome (plus Menace) get down and dirty, divulging their sentiments on approaching anal, getting busy in the shower and the most underrated type of kissing. Each of the ladies also answers Emily’s 5 top sex questions—topics include turn ons & offs, crazy places to do it and what words make them hot. Then Emily and Menace tackle your emails, answering questions about the return of the ex, freaky fetishes and how to stand out in a sea full of single guys.If you’ve ever wondered what makes a woman squirm in bed, or if you’re just looking to commiserate with a fellow lady, this show is for you. No sex, love or dating topic is off limits and not one second should be missed! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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What's going on? What's the latest? The latest is... Are you hooking up with anybody yet? No, dude. This is like, I've the longest I've ever gone without sex my type. It's sort of like it's been two months and two weeks. How are you meeting people? I realize that I'm not really trying. No. Okay, no tinder, nothing. No tinder, nothing. No tinder, nothing. Bumble. Bumble. Doing approaching, that thing you bought it.

I'm not really like, it's weird. It's weird, it's weird. Bumble is the one that you're using. The chicks pick, yeah, the guys, the chicken, the chickens, the chickens, the chickens, the chickens, the chickens, the chickens, I know I haven't done it yet. Oh yeah, I know. Not really, I have a date. I mean, I'm not really like, going out with you, but no sex, like two months, the long, in my life.

Well, you love meeting people through friends. Isn't there one called like hinge where do you ask? Yeah, I did that. Yeah, I do in one. I did it for like a second. And then, oh, do you remember where I did my blind Tinder date on the show? Do you weren't there for that episode?

But I did a blind Tinder date. That was my one Tinder date. And I did it on the show live because why the hell not? And I ran into him recently. I was at the April Foolishness K-Rock thing. He was there and then he asked me out again. And I was like, I really, I think I just liked us on the live broadcast Tinder date.

But no, right now I'm sort of just hanging. Just put it out there. It's weird. I feel like I'm doing a lot of just not, when you're focusing on your energy on that, the sex and the penis and all that. It's like, afraid of stuff happening. Well, you're doing love line five nights a week now. So we just sex and the penis and all that. It's like, free to stuff. You're doing love line five nights a week now.

So we just put out there and show people, hit you up. No, I actually did meet someone cute on there, but I can't talk about it right now. All right. Also, I decided to say that I'm very excited. Because we are finally going to do our drunk podcast. We are. We've been talking about since show 69.

When is this happening? Which was seven years ago. We were like, oh my god, show 69. We is this happening? Which was seven years ago. We were like, oh my God, show 69. We're totally gonna get drunk in them. We're gonna show 200. We're doing it. We're doing it. We're having our office party at my house.

Who's miking that up? You are, so I'm. Madison, you can't tell me anything. We're doing at my house, but I decided that all the girls, you never get to all hang out. They think you're like mean and they don't know that you like them and stuff. And I'm like, oh, man, it's actually you never get to all hang out. They think you're like mean and they don't know that you like them and stuff. And I'm like, oh, man, it's actually cool.

We got to hang out. And so I thought, well, as long as we're all hanging out, we might be drunk. I just demand quality and some people that don't work for you anymore, we're effing morons and I just can't stand it. He was so mean. No, right. But still, they don't know you.

So I thought, I just want to tell you that we're going to do the drunk podcast. Okay, good. What if it's like, what if the drunk podcast is the best podcast ever? And then we have to get drunk for our show. I'm sure it's gonna be awful, but we'll finally get it out of the way. I don't know. But anyways.

Okay, anyway. The care is about me and you. We have no more. We have no more. You got such sexy moments in the city. I'm so excited, Menace. Yeah. Because this is the Lady Gang.

Hello, Lady Gang. The Lady Gang, what is that? Hi, oh, sex family. Sex, sex. They've got a killer podcast called The Lady gang. Hello lady gang. The lady gang. What is that? Hi. Sex family. Sex, I'm so excited. They've got a killer podcast called The Lady Gang. Yes. And I was just, it's a celebrity driven podcast from the minds and mouths of Kelty Knight, Jack Vanick and Becca Tobin.

No subject off limits. And each week a celebrity guest joins them. They have an honest and hilarious look. This is like from your thing, but you're gonna explain your own words. What life is really like under the bright lights of Hollywood. And I'm so eyed a blast on your podcast when I was on. So you have one of our best guests.

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That's what it was. Yes, it makes you feel, No, it makes you feel you have to pee. Yeah. and then you don't. Yeah, you do. And then you don't pee. Right, that's okay. But did you get yourself? No, I didn't continue on. Like, I felt it, felt the head to pee and then I went back. Okay, that's good. Can you have it? Is a G-spot orgasm? That's different than like a clip tour. Yes. Thank God we're together again. We still have a lot of help. I have a we brought it. I'm so glad. I had an hour with Emily on our episode of the Lady Gang Podcast.

It was not enough. That was for playing. Yeah, just be honest. So okay, so that's awesome, Kelly. So that's the thing about the G-Spot orgasm is another tip for that is typically because Jack said is it a literal it helps have a literal one first. If you can, we get that, you know, grab your clitoris. And then your G-spot becomes more pronounced, and then you're more likely to have a G-spot after that happens. And so then when you have your G-spot orgasm, then you have dinner.

Then you have the clitoral orgasm as well at the same time. You could have a blended. You know, there's so many different kinds. So you could have the clitoral one, so you could have a clitoral one first to kind of warm you up. And then you could have a G-spot one, some have a blended, where know, there's so many different kinds. So you could have the glitter one, so people would just have a glitter one first to kind of warm you up. And then you could have a G-Spot one, some have a blended, where you've both at the same time, which is a party.

So then you could even have- That sounds so exciting. A smoky one. Right. No, I'm telling you. You was, my G-Spot orgasms didn't come. I don't remember, I talked about this in your show, but I, for years, was having sex.

I was like, why am I not? And I had to like, spend some serious time with like vibrator, like a G-spot vibe. And like, it wasn't until like a vibrator that I was like, oh, now I get it. So I got it. So the vibrator's the best way to get it, get to it. I think fingers are the best with loob.

Uh-huh. Always loob. Or a vibrator. Like a vibrator, you can have one on your clitoris and one inside of you, like a, and that could have. That's the way chopsticks. That's, it is like chopsticks. A little, it is like, it totally is like, what?

Please help me come in. No, I know, but there's like, where the rabbit vibes are great because they do both. That's the one that's super embarrassing when your parents find a good house. Right, which is like, you can find. It's like such a monster, you know? I do have a question.

I just got one. It's this like steel, because I read that it's like more the G spot, like the most perfect thing. Okay. It's like steel sort of. Oh, that's a crowbar jack. That's the yon. It's a crowbar. The end joint.

The end joint. Yeah. Okay, so that's like a dildo, because it doesn't vibrate. But that one. And so heavy. It's like 10 pounds. No literally. Like more like a dildo cuz doesn't vibrate but that one so heavy Check your luggage and stuff. It's so it's so heavy, but that is the like holy grail of If you that's how you yeah, have you tried it? I tried it once but then it's intense Because the thing about that is that it's like

It's like it's like It's so right like do like armless you could really like bring it like way to Geese but because the thing about the G spot is you don't need necessarily need vibration It's more like pressure. So that's why that's just like it has little balls on the ends and you just keep pressuring it and That works too. You got to put you got to play with it. That's the new spot. So hard right being women You got to like work hard. That's the thing that you spot so hard. Right, being women, you got to work hard. But what just hard enough, Emily? I know, it's hard. So much fun. But it's kind of worth it, right?

So I love that you guys are already came in with questions. We're already going. But I should have like written some down. No, no. We're going to believe me. There's going to be more coming up. Because I just wanted to say that it was awesome on your show.

And I wanted to just, you you guys let's just start going around just saying who you are real quick and you're what you do with your social media. Jack, would you like to start? My name is Jacque Vannick, I own a clothing line and my social media is at Jacque Vannick everywhere. Okay, love it. Love your clothing line. I have them here because I was going to do a little fashion thing. Okay. Thank you. I've got a fashion body for radio. I'm just talking about it. I was like, yeah, we're having a scene. We have faces for radio. Okay. Becca Tobin, I used to have a face for television and then I turned 30. And now I do a podcast.

And my Instagram is it's Becca Tobin. Don't bother following me on Twitter. I don't do anything there. Twitter is dead. And that's it. And it's also Tobin. Don't bother following me on Twitter. I don't do anything there. Twitter is dead. Twitter is dead. And that's it. And it's also an embarrassing name still. Yeah, back, back, back. Well, back.

Slash amazing. Slash amazing. Hello, I'm Kelty Knight. And I am the one with the most questions. My Twitter, because I'm an old person, and Instagram is at Kelty Knight. But most importantly, we don't really care about our personal house.

We don't care about us. At the Lady Gang. Yes. It's the Jams. Tell me about your own words about your podcast. Basically, we all kind of work in some way in Hollywood. And it's just like even the magazines and the covers and all these celebrity interviews.

It's like so airbrushed and so PC. And so this is what my publicists told me to say. and this is what we've promised that you don't really ever Get a real role model and you don't ever really get to have a real conversation about stuff And so we just know hold barred we talk from everything like we had you on talking about sex But we talk about the disappointments about body image about our skin about you know our lives our our biggest disappointments how we stay inspired You know Kind of a little bit of everything, and we're not afraid to call out things that we absolutely hate,

and we're not, we celebrate things we love. Yeah. I love it. I mean, you guys were like, I was sitting there because you guys are opening part of your Good Week bad week. Yeah. And you're like, I'm like, oh, they're awesome.

Beautiful. Like, you guys are so hot and damn like, I don't know, I'm feeling kind of bad. No, really, you guys are amazing and hot and smart. And I loved, I loved being on the show. And it was awesome. Thank you. But okay, I want to get into some,

so, oh, I also want to ask you relationship status because we're going to get into some dating and then we're going to move into the little bit of sex. Okay. Boyfriend. Boyfriend, just gusting like you. I know. Okay, we've seen Instagram.

Everybody hates it. Is it real? Like, is it real? It's like a catalog. No, he is the most amazing person in the entire world Is there in the cone? Is there a it's a proven thing? There's like the cocaine stage where like your first few months of day Yeah, honey, my face. Yeah, she's in the honey my face That's what I want to mention that Jack I Jack was already on the podcast. Yeah, so that meant to me

We were dating you would just met him like five minutes earlier and that was an awesome part I I loved that podcast you know so that was super fun And that was a really popular podcast and it was called on fashion do's and don't so fashion do's and dating don'ts That was a friggin blast and we talked a little bit about tender, which is it's funny because when we have our good week bad week We like don't have the guest talk and now I know how hard it is not being able to talk so I want to be like Tinder bumble I don't exactly I know so I love the story to you guys met on Directly on Tinder. I matched with his best friend on Tinder And then how does that work? I don't know I matched with his best friend and then his friend was like, oh, you know my friend Scott blah blah blah I'm like don't know who that is, but I looked him up on Facebook and I'm like no, this is the hottest guy I've ever seen

So I'm gonna start messaging him instead. And now you've been together a few months now. Yeah, like four months. Okay, yeah, there's still not any more pages. But that's good. They've got great shots and they're having fun. Yeah, all the shots. I love it.

Okay. Relation ship for about a year. Oh, okay. Yeah. So we're out of the cocaine phase. Can't have sex anymore, never. Right, yeah, so pants. No, we're still in it so we're out of the cocaine phase. I'm kind of expecting more nebrius. Right. Yeah, angry face.

No, we're still in it because we are sort of long distance. Oh, good. We travel a lot. So when you get together, it's still like, you know, some fireworks. Is it LA long distance or for real? Right. Like, is it Venice and your alleys and the ones? Yeah.

Yeah. Uh, no, it's Atlanta. Oh, that's real. That's for real. That's for real. Yeah. Okay. it's Atlanta. Oh, that's real. That's real. That's real. Yeah, okay. It's good for the sex life.

I believe a little distance. I think it's gonna sleep. I'm sure Emily would love it. Yeah, I love long distance. And that's committing a whole the time. Yeah, right, it's fun. Okay. Kelti, I'm in a long distance relationship

with my husband and my house. Because we are both workaholics, and I travel a ton for work. And so we have completed different schedules. I get up at like four in the morning, and I go to bed at like seven p.m. And Chris gets up at like 10 a.m. And gets home at like eight or nine.

So we miss each other like most of the time ever. But we've been together six years, three years married this summer. And I still really like him. They can still be it. But I did have a dream last night that we got divorced. She fell out of love and with him. I fell out of love with him and my dream. Like I had to have a conversation of like I don't love you anymore in my dream. Wow. Then I woke up this morning and I still thought I didn't love him and I

went to work and then I like shook my head off and I was like, wait, this was not real. It's anyway. I hate what happened. The marriage can mess, you know, this is what I thought was so great about when you came on our episode is because you were teaching us so much and it's so interesting that people are in four months, a year, six years, you all learn something. And you're just so talented and it's just awesome. Oh, thanks guys.

I feel right back at you. I was so, these are some talents, chicks. I love them. So I'm so glad you're here. We grew up, I'm so happy. If you want to do a blog post about lesbian friendship girl crushes, then we could like have a make-out. Let's do that. Oh yeah! I have a girl crush and you have same mutual girl crushes.

I kind of want to be part of the lady getting like- You can. You can. You can be an understudy. Can I be like if someone comes sick? Not too sick. Like a cold. I can be an understudy Okay, perfect. I think bad I don't really want to die or anything Okay, cool. Well, you say Jack. Oh, I was gonna say another thing that I loved when you guys were talking earlier is your drunk episode

Yeah, we're doing a drunk You guys had some drinks, but some drinks, but we have to. I've had some drug episodes before. We haven't, which is, we haven't. We've tried, but we were always in a, we were at the rate of stage. Yeah, we're at like big companies in their workspace and we couldn't get plastered while everybody else was sober.

But I'm in a relationship. I am. Are you afraid that you might get drunk and? Me? Oh, no, no. She never had that. But I'm in a relationship. I am I am that you might get drunk and Me oh, no, no, no I'm in a professionally drinking because I work I've been working radio for like what 18 years now, so I know how to handle myself When you get drunk and falls down in Mexico not my fault. They didn't have slip mats on the on the ground Gast has had have slip mats on the ground. He just gassed his head in Mexico and blood on the face.

They wanted me to get stitches, but I said I wasn't a pussy. So that's all good. That's right. That's how you do your thing. It's amazing. They weren't open. People didn't ask us anymore. They used to sit like, you guys are not that good. Yeah, but no, I've railed on you so many years.

I don't think they all. Yeah. After Emily was on our show, I was definitely horny. Oh, it's so good. I'm completely flaccid every time I do a show. But if you were born plastic, say plastic. Were you so good at your home that like what did you get? Did you have sex? I wanted to so bad and then I fell asleep. But that's a start. But I thought about it the whole way home and I was

like I'm gonna go in there and I'm like the candle that you gave us. I'm like gonna have this wild night and then I was like oh I'm gonna go in there, and I'm gonna like the candle that you gave us. It's not like gonna have this wild night, and then I was like, ooh, or this Hello Kitty onesie. That sounds nice too. Oh my god. Damn, those ones. Okay, so I'm working on any of them. Okay, okay, we're working on it.

And I have some, we'll give you some. Okay, wait, but I know four kids. Okay, so when I was on your podcast, you asked me the most common question I get asked, which is, why can't I have an orgasm during sex? And so I wanna know, from you as if you're comfortable, common question I get asked which is why can't I have an orgasm during sex and so I want to know from you as if you're comfortable are you can you orgasm during intercourse? I can with my current boyfriend but I couldn't for a long time

before that. Oh my god he's staying around longer than four months. Yeah. At least you could never before that. What do you think it is to say that? Are you thinking of your super into them because he's like hot and stuff? Well I think it's number one that we're in love which I wasn't in love with people I was sleeping with before. Just like your first love, okay. But then also it's just I don't know, it should we fit better together than I did with other people I think. Is she packing?

What? It's bigger than? She's packing. Yeah. She talked about that last one. We got some emails from people, right? Oh really? Yeah.

No, like they're like tall. He's tall and has big beenet. Like happy. He's 6. He has a big being it like he's 670 got a hope he has a big head. Oh geez. But sometimes you're disappointed by the time one right? Right? I mean these groupies that hang out with basketball players sometimes they say they have really small winters.

That's okay. So how about your or like I yes I can. Wow. Yeah. I know look at Cal this is a shot. Do you nod? It's, I can. Wow. Yeah. I know, look at Caldice. Are you shocked? She's not. It's not my turn. Okay. Yeah, no, I do.

We're a very good sexual match. That's great. Yeah, he's really, you know when you just sort of, you like having sex the same way. Right? Not the same way like this each time, but just your energy is the same. Like, we're good at matching each other.

That's good, too. Yeah, that's good. Yeah. But don't you say like, it's your energy is the same. Like we're good at matching each other. That's good too. Yeah, that's good. Yeah. But don't you say like it's like 80% out there, something like that? It's 20% to 30% can't. So you guys are like really? Yeah.

That shocks me. It's true. I can totally get that. Yeah, you can get that. No, I mean that makes sense to me. Yeah, it's so hard. You got to feel comfortable. You got to feel the know your own body.

You know, we're talking about how it's such a mental thing for women. It is such a mental thing. You gotta get out of the like, oh, I didn't turn off the, you know, I gotta go pick up my dry cleaning or the phone's ringing. You just, you got to like block all that out.

Um, uh, Kelly's like, I have to answer this question. No, no, I, listen, I'm gonna keep it real for like a whole bunch of ladies that don't want to feel like they can't do something everybody else can.

Well, you're talking to like 80% of the women that's listening to this podcast, so. I cannot, but I will say this that my husband is the best sex I've ever had, and this is why he's a learner. Like you were talking about how you need to communicate. Chris and I I'm so safe because we have such a like a deep love that we've been able to really communicate and teach each other what's amazing and I'm a big fan Because I can't or haven't figured out how to get there yet What we do is we'll like have home sex and then I always have like the little those little vibrators You know like also vice versa. Yeah, and and then like will whatever and then all like put the vibrator on my

Clit while he's having sex with me, and then it's like mind blowing, it's so great. That's like my favorite. Yeah, and that's why I was so glad you said that, Kelsey, because I was just gonna say to you, it doesn't matter, I guess I kinda read. That's Emily's favorite thing, she's always. Yeah, no, same with me, I gotta say that that's me too.

I want a little clitoral vibe during intercourse, and that's how I do it too, I gotta say. So there's nothing, I guess I shouldn't have started like, do you guys, you guys, the special ones? No, I'm just, I guess you was wondering if you guys orgasm like, literally or vaguely, or however you do it, but you figured it out. So, yeah, there's no reason.

I've never, I very rarely have sex without having an orgasm, which I think a lot of people lie and they like try to get it over with, or you know, when you're busy or whatever, and you're like, I just wanna get him happy. Like, my husband is someone that's always like, no, no, no, this is, and then it's like a workout, right? Like, when you're tired and you're like,

and you're exhausted and like, life just gets really busy and you're like, oh my God, I need to, like, I wanna have sex with my husband, I gotta like keep him happy. Sometimes that can be like a load on you if you're not in the mood. You know what I mean? But it's like a workout, like you never regret a workout,

and you never regret like having an workout. Exactly, right. Like you were saying, what's you get going? You're like, oh wow, why was I ever like, oh, maybe I don't wanna be's like a workout. Like you never regret a workout, you never regret having an workout. Exactly, right. Like you were saying, once you get going, you're like, oh wow, why was I ever like, oh, maybe I don't want to be doing that? That's the most true thing I've ever heard. Like it's, that's hits the nail on the background.

Right, because I was saying that it's like, a lot of you're like, oh, I don't want to have sex, I'm out in the mood. It's like, when she's going and you have to sex, you're like, yeah, you know? And then your skin's all glowy and like, you feel like you're having a lot of your hair. Right, it's totally true.

I'm out workout. So I have a question about, okay, so you guys all figured out your own orgasms, which is awesome. And you're on relationships, so I've had some dating questions, but I feel like you guys are in relationships. So I want to know about orgasms, about, okay, okay, we took our blood jobs for a minute. I'm gonna skip the orgasms, you just have to take them. I love them or hate them. I hate them.

I hate them too. I would rather do a clean of toilet than give a blood drop. Okay. What did you say on our show that one time, they had the bet going on with your cast or something? What would you rather do? Oh, we were playing, what would you rather do instead of give a blood drop?

Okay, and there were amazing. It made me think. That's amazing. I said pick up garbage on the 405. Ha ha ha ha. Ha ha ha ha. I, well, okay, I take it back. If I've had a couple cocktails, it is enjoyable. But like, I just, I have a weird thing about spit.

I hate spit. Oh, me too. And I also like the girls that can like wake up in the morning and like go down there. Number one, you have a brush to teeth. That makes me want to vomit. Also, he hasn't showered. He's been sleeping all night in his ball vinegar.

Yes, ball vinegar. Yes. And so I'm just like a really, I have a good sense of smell, which I hate sometimes. And I just, I get it. You know? That's where like, Lou comes in too. You can just give me a hand job or something. Yeah, yeah.

And I've got this blowjob spray that you put in your mouth. Oh, you've been picking that up. Maybe that's what I do. Oh my God. What is it, you know? Okay. It's the best thing ever. So this one was on my show.

It's Doc Johnson makes it. I'll bring you next time. I got goodies. But she brought to me, she was, oh, she had a show too. And she was like, you know, because you know, she was like, on the radio, you're like, you're, you're like, oh, it's blowjob spray. So it automatically helps the dry mouth. But she's like, it helps on the radio.

But you squirt in your mouth, and I think it's called, what's it called? That's called Good Head. Good Head. And he's by dog Johnson. It's like $9. And it tastes like strawberry. And it instantly, like, your mouth, like, it helps with dry mouth. And you can give a blowjob. And you could also, it tastes like strawberry and it instantly like your mouth like it helps with dry mouth and you can give a blowjob

And you could also it takes extra Bury. Oh, okay. I like to give a blowjob for the first minute and a half Yeah, and the next eight are hell. Yeah, but I don't consider that a blowjob You like your time but like a finish. Yeah, like that's fine. I do it often but like a full No, like you start with that and then you've said yeah, oh you start with that and then have said yeah You hate that too. No, I don't hate that because that's like very quick start to finish. Yeah, I mean, it's hard on you. It's so I know. That's why you guys hate doing them, but how often do you do them? Like from start to

care in a relationship. Yeah, I don't think like if you and if you're in a relationship for quite a while, I don't think you do it from start to finish or in the beginning. Right, right. You're really glad you just have sex, haven't you? Yeah, yeah. But how often do you do it now that you've been in a relationship for a while?

I mean, you're only in four months, so I'm sure you're still doing it here in the like day. Yeah, she's still doing it. Yeah. Mine are always like, I start and then we have sex because it's so excited that like, you'd rather have sex. Right, which is great.

I'm just curious, because Blue Jobs is like, okay, here's my other thing. Is there one thing that gets you turned on every time? You have sex? What's your one thing that you're like, oh, now I'm ready to go. I'm just curious if you guys have anything. I mean, him going down on me, it's like, right?

Oh, you're speaking Emily's language. Even when I'm not in the mood, and I'm like, no, no, and he's like, yes. Because I am now. That stops you when your track's literally done. I agree. I would have to say the little, the G-spotty finger thing when he does it, Wally's going down on me.

Right. The finger, which is so interesting, we talked about this at some women like the fingers during, or also, people don't, but yeah, that's, I got turned on. Okay. Which is amazing. I can still get it turned on every time I'm about six for 10 years. I just got turned on. Okay. Which is amazing. I can still get it turned on every time I go

to sex for 10 years. But that's what I was thinking. Oh, two things. I like a guy. I like a husband. I like the one. No, I like my husband has like big hands. And I like when he like grabs me.

Like, I'm going to kiss you now. And like, I'm going to like hold you with my big man heart. Yeah. And it's funny because I'm such like a type aggressive human being that I'm always doing. And so when someone can like get control of me, that's really hot. I also love neck kissing.

Oh, I know. Like it's very romantic and it's totally underrated. People don't kiss your neck. Oh, also anything in your, yeah. I people don't kiss your neck. Also anything that you're yeah, I agree with you guys. So I do know that it's very, um, those are highly erotic zones for men and for women, but especially for women that neck and ear,

but it's like they do on the first date. You're so right, Calty underrated. And I don't know why men don't kiss your neck. So I think when you're not having sex with someone when you're first dating and you're just doing the deep make-out, it's always neck. Mm-hmm. And it's neck. And it's so hot. And then when you can get to the main event, they like skip the neck.

Yeah. I think this is why I always say like you got to go to five times slower than you think. Actually for guys, my tip is always like slow it down because we like we need the build-up like the four plays. So like me obviously you guys are like fans of four means that if you wanted to sex, but sometimes it's like, I don't know. Sometimes I'm just like, let's just like do it.

Right. And I know once, if I'm not in the mood, four play actually doesn't help so much. Except for the world. Except for the world. Yeah, right. But all the other stuff, it's like, if you just like start, then I'm in it.

Yeah, sometimes. So the four play, it's like a hitter man. It depends because sometimes you're like, I need to go fast at other persons like I'm going to be Fabio and make the greatest love and you're like I don't have time I gotta be somewhere five minutes. I need to get work. I really enjoy shower sex. Oh So fine. It's efficient. It's clean Afterwards. Yeah, you're already there. I just think shower sex is great. No, you're like, your boyfriend's tall.

How do you do that? Do you have a step stool? What the fuck? I'm just like way on my tippy toes and he's like a deep squat. I'm just going to get down low enough. My husband's six five is, he's very tall as well. Like, he can't, like, he would have, I don't know.

It's very comfortable. What about when you bend over? Do I have a position in my, I'm bringing you guys to put my butt, but there's a position in the back. Oh yeah, bending over there. What about when you bend over? I'm a physician in my I'm bringing you guys put my butt But there's a big There about bend you go grab a ring You got to watch out though. It's too hot. You can pass out that happened in pumps rings once Bob shower, so I killed somebody Drowning me and then there it's not that big so I'd be like scrunched up

Yeah, I'd see do like Vegas shower hotel rooms and stuff like that. We get a lot of room. The taste and sex so fun. Oh my God. The Venetian or something? Yeah. Is there anything that you guys have been wanting to try

and bed that you haven't yet? You thinking about? No, because everything I haven't tried, I'm so disgusted by. Like I will die in anal virgin. Oh, I'm really so no anal. No, okay never okay And you're as your partner go with that is he like yeah, thank God, right? He's on his note He is no interest. He's done it before someone else and been disappointed. I think he has oh, I don't know actually I know I've asked him bringing up tonight. I'm sure he'll love it. I know

Not a huge fan either and I'm so glad the last guy. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know.

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I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I know. I little. Yeah, I love it. It's a rise in the stones well at the outer you know part of your Ines is very sensitive that whole area I don't want to be like you know do you do? I

Three sons I'm gonna say no to that okay, but well We have a lady gang for you someone just as like? You do every week have your lady gang for you, right? But we don't penetrate. I think that I, like, not yet. The idea of having, like, I always get very turned on when I watch another woman head on my husband. Because often, like, I don't, we're like real bad like today. Like, we always forget our wedding rings.

And so, like, I'll be at a Starbucks and he'll be getting the drink and bringing it over. And I'll watch other girls checking him out Or like whatever trying to get his eye and then I'm like Man Like you know that's is he super that's mine you guys all have super hot boy friends. I don't think Chris is classically super hot But I fixed him up a lot like when we first met Oh you was a fixer upper yeah, oh you fixed him up

That's why I always say you should go with the nice guy because sometimes a nice guy doesn't have the best shoes Or the best clothes or like is so swathed But you can buy that stuff. Yeah, you can train them to like be the man of your dreams. How did you train them? I think just because Chris like he was such a good guy and He is such a giver Um, and I I'm an excellent communicator about what I need like Hey, when I say don't get me anything from my birthday, it means so me a surprise party.

Like, I had to teach him. You know? I'm a little bit about the clothes. Like, when you're 65 and you're wearing clothes from the gap or whatever, you have to custom make your suits. You have to custom make your shirts so everything fits. Like, I turned them from a regular guy to a GQ guy. He's like so cute, you know?

And just about, like, what you were talking about when you came on our show, like about communication in, like, sex, I think that works in all relationships. Like, men can't read our minds. And so the best gift I've ever given us is like, we just communicate. Like, this, what do you want? What do you need? Can you please, here's the thing, our life is busy.

I need you to be the grocer person. I need you to be this person. Right. Exactly. You know, all of that, like, we don't have to do it. So, the kind of stuff you got it right, you can't just fight about, like, just talk about it. And interestingly enough, when I was, when you had on the show and I was listening,

it's like, then it started a whole conversation about like, how much sex do you need? How much sex do I need? Like, what, you know, it's not like that. Oh, you guys actually talk about it? We have this whole conversation. Did he listen to the show? It's very interesting.

Yeah, I love this. He said, he said, here's the thing, is that there's not a number. He's like, I want to have sex whenever you are really into it. He's like, don't ever have sex just to have sex. He's like, because that is like the biggest insult. What about naked stretching? Was he cool?

He loves naked stretching. I really like it. I like it. He's like, I'm thinking stretching. Since she's a one of sex, which will make it stretch. I really want you to come out with like a yoga mat for the bed For naked stretching. Yeah, you need to do that. Okay And then make a video and not like let's cheat. I'm sure there's pouring where girls are just doing naked yoga

Oh, I'm sure I'm sure I did yes. I did naked yoga once. I know, I just remembered that. I did. It like a group of people. Well, it was, yes. No. It's like an retreat or something. Yes, it was, okay, so I do this thing in San Francisco called Oming. You remember this the, yeah, it's such a bunch of magic

and meditation. What is this? I know, right? It's the thing. It's a bunch of purvy dudes that want to rub vagina's for like days on That's not pervy Complete bullshit So they do yeah these guys you go in and it was really

Okay, okay, I'm not gonna say shit just listen to the definition of Okay, guys though, but continue. Just go ahead. I won't even jump in just describe it and then you guys give the reaction Okay, here we go. Okay So it's called orgasmic meditation and you go in and these guys are there they they live I don't think they do this anymore, but they live in a house with with women a lot of them They live and they like and I don't want like they bring about like three times a day and you have your partner They might match you for like a few. I did not live in the house by the way, but then they they they have this technique where they stroke the Clitoris and it's not sexual like they don't have sex with the person and they They stroke the upper left quadrant of the Clitoris they teach the technique man's a stroke

So they have the stroking cream for a few minutes relying down on pillows and you're comfortable and the point is not to bring you to Orgasm but they have a thing like going you don't wanna go over, but it's like your sexual energy flows through and blah, to be honest, I did it for a week. They find volunteers, I don't know. No, but go ahead. Can I be honest with the guys that were there were not, but they were like, they felt the men that I talked to and I interviewed them, and after the guy owned me all weekend,

he came on my show and then talked to you, man, I mean. He was not purvy. He was not purvy, huh? He owned me. He was so nerd that this was't rough vagina all the time. But they really, I think that a lot of guys are confused by the vagina, right? They're confused by the thing and they, a lot of them feel like they really felt, it wasn't about their pleasure, but they learned how to connect.

Wait, so were you like with an amateur guy? No, he was like a professional Omar. Okay, so you go in as women as like, you're just like, you're just like, you just show to some building and then you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're like you're just like you're just like you're just like you're just don't want to like out of the country and they were like paying for a weekend like this one. Want to live her fantasy out. So they the weekend I happened to do it, they were like, oh, can you come do this special thing

and this couple that were married, they wanted he wanted to make all of her fanny's capture and one of her fantasies was to do naked yoga. So the weekend that I was there doing this omada and live there, I was like, wait, three times, I think he wants to make a yoga class. So it was like 10 of us that I like did naked yoga. I was like, cause, three times. I was like, he wants to make a deal class. I was like, 10 of us that I did make a deal.

I was like, because I'm kind of like, why not try everything like once and I did that once. Was it? Did you down dog? I was in the front row. Because I was like, I don't wanna like see balls like in front of me like, and I, so I just did every man and women.

I know. I lost to the first couple of times. I'm not gonna trust this. So many jerk off sessions after this. Perhaps. Or not. Was it any of those? You don't know.

I didn't look, you know, yoga. You're just kind of in your face. But I just kind of remember that I did that. I know that you only have, I have some questions for you. Yes, that's my naked yoga experience. I'm going to ask you, I've got five questions that I ask everyone. I'm going to ask you all. I'm trying to think if I've got five questions. Okay, perfect. Thought I asked everyone, I'm gonna ask you all. I'm trying to think if I should go, okay, so,

you're big in, and you go around each one, and so we'll go back. Biggest turn on, Jack. Well, you gotta have this conversation on our podcast, but just, my answer's the same. Having your man just be super turned on by you. I think it's the biggest turn on. Yeah, I like it.

Mine's power. What do you mean? When a man is power? Like when he's in a powerful position or like showing, like doing what he's good at. You know what I mean? Or like commanding, you know. Right, I don't know.

Yeah. Not like Hitler. Like, like, like, like, like, like, I'd be clarified. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, just take it a charge. I'm not going to charge. I like someone who takes charge. In the bedroom, which is life.

Like, if I see him just handling business, it's like that's a top. That's hot. That is so hot. I think that is like a great lesson for all men out there. Just like, oh no. Don't be a pussy. Yeah. Right men is.

Exactly. Be confident. We always talk about being confident in ourselves. Confidence is the subject. Because you'll get friend zone so quick all the time. Just bring on the confidence. Look, if a girl's not into you, you're not gonna die if she says,

you know what, I don't think, I think we should just be friends, but find out right away, don't. Right, don't just be a person. Hang out and friends. Change your tires and pick up their board. Why does she wanna be me? It's because you did all you believe in.

Just find out if she's interested and if she's not and she's a cool person you want to hang out with, they're awesome. You know, but just find out right away. Don't waste time. Okay, I have friends with so many people in my 20s. I don't know. I have a lot of people that helped me with my groceries in

New York. I know. They were in love with me. But no chance. I don't have so many. Yeah, but, but if they were straight up with and want to, you know, find out if you're in, if you're into them or not, you would give them a straight up answer, correct? Yeah, I might, well, I might have did.

Absolutely. If you give a girl a couple cocktails and she still doesn't try to at least make out with you, you're not in for never getting in. It's not happening. So, get it over with. Yeah, I agree. Um, my biggest turn on is, um, I agree with Becca, power, like when you watch anyone doing their shit and doing it over with. Yeah, that's great. My biggest turn on is, I agree with Becca, power. Like when you watch anyone doing their shit

and doing it so well. And then I like, I'm all about that mood thing, like the candles and the warmth and the like, the warmth is amazing. I keep thinking about you all the way. Like a nice deep sparks by Coldplay, paying for the playing in the background. I like everything to be like a movie, you know?

Like I have a speed. Like I'm all about the ambiance. Like I need a clean, nice sheet and a nice smell. I'm very... So no angels and kings bathroom for you? I mean not this time. Jack, I think it's to bring that. Okay, Jack big. Biggest turn off. Oh God, there's so many. Um, probably it's bad breath. Or stinky. Just hygiene.

Okay. Stinky. That was my bad breath. That was the biggest turnoff. Okay. Sexual turnoff is bad breath, but turnoff in general is someone who's cheap. Oh, I can't deal with a cheap person. Right?

Also on confidence, I guess. Yeah. For me, it's poor dental hygiene. Like, if you're not flossing and brushing with fresh breath and like a nice chap stick, like I need your whole mouth to be pristine because that's the mouth that's going to kiss me. And I'm a vegetarian. And so if you're a meat eater, especially you have to have incredible dental hygiene

because if there's any remnants of your meat dinner, we're not having sex after dinner. Do you know what I mean? Like you But if your husband is he's a vegetarian he eats meat so it's like you know he's a brush her Yeah, you know, I don't mean you have to do any Rebunny's meat. I just got to say it's so gross. There's a great product. It's called smart mouth I recommend to everybody. What is it? It keeps your breath fresh for like 12 hours. What? Yeah, I think you can get a like target or something like that. It's Mart mouth. Yeah, I don't want to write this down.

But everyone's writing down. Yeah, no, it's just like mouthwash, but it's weird. It's a weird bottle where it pours out two different kinds of liquid and then you just use that. It works really well. You guys have so many good products on this. What? I mean, I don't get, I't I'm designed endorsement. I don't get paid Double active. Yeah, do it. Okay, 12 hours. Okay. Okay, okay, man

You're gonna be back. You know these these remember do you remember early on I used to the top I used to have every guest five questions Mm-hmm, but this like yeah, so this is I'm actually bringing this back I love it. Well, these are in a little bit new ones. Okay, so, so all did the biggest trap. Okay, crazy place, you've had sex. We've just put this on the podcast before. Not on mine though. We don't know you, but now everyone's in a lovely little game. On the roof of a sushi restaurant.

Oh sweet. We climbed up on the roof that was like off limits and had sex up there Overlooking manhattan Beach cool. I like it. It's pretty fun. Thank. Okay good mine was in High School on the 50-yard line What after hours? Mm-hmm. I grew up in the South. That was a big thing. Oh, yeah. Yeah Yeah, high school football

And the Midwest and from Michigan that was like our Jack had teased me about this earlier, but you didn't know what you're talking about. I had to actually bathroom at Angels and Kings in New York. Does Angels and Kings and Kings and Kings and Kings and Kings. I don't know what Angels and Kings and Kings and Kings and Kings. I got dive bar and it's the size of this room. And it is disgusting.

And it was during a time of culture. I used to be so clean. Oh, I used to be a real crazy. It was disgusting and it was during a time of culture. I used to be so close. Oh, I used to be a real crazy because I was really desperate and I would do a lot of things to make boys like me and then I grew up. Okay, that happens to grow up.

Okay, got it. Oh, crazy play. Okay, sexiest word to you, Jack. Oh, oh my God. I like baby girl for some reason. Oh, it's sweet. Yeah. But like in a sexy way.

Right, now like baby girl. I guess I know. I guess I know. I don't know this one. Do you have one? Yeah, I do. You can be here, Nate. I do.

My husband always calls me, my love. Doesn't matter where we are, we canenty. Plenty. My love. My husband always calls me. My love. Doesn't matter where we are, we can get the grocery store. My love. Do we need apples in front of his family? I love that. My love. Did you get the stuff from the car and to me?

Like, my love. Where's my pants? On the floor because we're having sex. Because you call me my love. I love that. And I think it's very romantic. And it's cool. It's cool.

I like it. OK. That's what is that? What's the one thing you wish guys knew about women and sex? Like if you could talk to guys, you're like, why don't they know? I would say going down on a girl, slow down.

Becca. Okay, I got one. The area around the vagina hole is important. Mm-hmm. The labia? Yeah, like all of it. Right? With a vibrator, like sometimes to just get you around the vagina hole is important. Mm-hmm. The labia? Not just penetration. Right.

With a vibrator, like sometimes to just get you in that place where it's going around the area and not directly on, like people, they think there's two stops, the hole in the clit and there's like a thousand spots. Oh, yeah, go around and do that. This is what I talk about all the time. There's so many nerve endings.

It's not just the clitters that whole area. Yeah, you could spend so much time. Becca, don't get out of that. Come on. No, I'm trying to think. Well, we talked about the dryness thing on our podcast. Okay. It doesn't matter if you're super turned on.

Sometimes you're just not. What? If I have cocktails, it does not matter. Oh, one of my, I could have like, I could be so turned on and it can be a desert. Right. I'm dehydrated. It's true. Right. So that I think it's like a nice,

public service announcement to men that like don't worry, we are still in the mood if we're saying yes. It is part of the service announcement. It doesn't mean anything. I'm just drunk and I don't drink enough water. Yeah. I'm just gonna give me a wall of all.

No, but I think in general, like, have you ever been sitting on your couch or like out on a date and you're watching like a sexy movie and there's like some sexy going on And then you're feeling sad. You're just like that's not my life because it's so ridiculous It's fast and it's hot and the lighting's amazing and they're doing like wow that's a bad exciting You're like I'm so lame, but I don't know. I guess just like levo's not like the movies like it's not all More like porn. Yeah, it's just like porn. It's a little more than that, you know?

You're so right. I actually like that so down right I totally agree. Well, um, okay you guys. Thank you so much. How can yeah? How can everyone do you guys all have to go? Yeah, you guys this was awesome. Yeah, okay. How do you have to go to the Harry Potter event tonight like I do? Yes, they have special ones there that make things do things throughout the park. I don't know. After the other four. That's so fun.

I can't. I have to love it. OK, guys, thank you so much. Lidying pod guests. Yes. And they can find you. We are at Lidying. The Lidying on Twitter.

And you're going to Twitter. We'll have this on the website. You guys, thank you so much for being here. It was awesome. Thank you. You're welcome. I'm the best pod guest. This is me.

There's such an inspiration to all Lady podcasters out there to tell the truth and be funny and true and have great hair. And be yourself and do a lot. And is where you're such an inspiration to all lady podcasters out there to tell the truth and be funny and true and have great hair. And be yourself and do what you love. And great arms, what do you do to work out? Thank you. I, you know, I do a lot of different things. I do, I do soul cycle, I do yoga.

I do push ups and I do stretching. I do yoga baby. I don't do big grumbats. I do a little bit of everything. We love you Emily. I love you guys. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you.

Bye. Bye. Oh my god, they were awesome. I mean, does you love. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you. Bye. Bye. They were awesome, man. Do you love those girls? Yeah, they were great. Thank you Lady Gang Podcasts. Everyone check out their podcasts and we come back. We'll be answering your emails and now a quick word from our sponsors.

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Thanks everyone for emailing me feedback at sexwithmwe.com and for being so awesome and always include your name, your age where you live. Right, menace? We appreciate that. Love it. Dear Emily, I love your show and I've enjoyed over the past five years. So back in 2000, I met my dream girl.

We both immediately knew we were in love and had a very intense 1.5-year relationship. We even bought a house together. That ended when I got accepted to a top business school and she wasn't willing to move. It got messy and very emotional for both of us. Fast forward, six, seven years, we are both married, and she also as a kid. After seven years of complete silence, suddenly, she called me this January,

telling me that she had forgiven me. It was finally at peace and was sorry. I told her the same, and that a day, that not a day had passed without me thinking about her, which is entirely true. We have exchanged a few friendly, no flirting, nothing appropriate, texts since then,

and last week she called again. This time she tells me that she had a very intense dream. One where we lived together, then she moved out, and then she moved back in. She said it was so vivid, she could remember every detail. The metaphor to me was pretty clear. So here we are. Since I was at work, we left it open to talk again and have a proper cut shot. to remember every detail the metaphor to me was pretty clear. So here we are.

Since I was at work, we left it open to talk again and have a proper catch up. If it was any other woman, I would use my rational thought to ignore the call and go about my life with my wife. However, my emotions are so strong for her, I still think about her at some point every day. I know I still love her until the day I die. I love my wife very much,

but I can't seem to ignore these emotions, much look forward to your thoughts. Chris, I have a ton of thoughts, but go ahead. Well, I was going to say that it's understandable. Well, I don't believe in that one who got away theory. People like think, oh, who got away? Who got away? You know what? Nobody got away. You know why? Because when you were with that person that whatever time in your life, it wasn't right for whatever circumstances you weren't ready. He was going to business away. You know why? Because when you were with that person that whatever time in your life It wasn't right for whatever circumstances you weren't ready He was going to business school. You weren't mature enough. You were living in other city No one gets away because they don't didn't work at that time in your life So I don't believe it going back and looking back at regrets and all that just keep moving forward

So we like to dwell on the past loves they don't exist. It is sounds that I'm teasing probably Maybe bored and you know, being married for a number of years. I had this happen to a buddy of mine. He, he had a great family, his, his wife, him and his wife had a couple kids. And I, I believe that she was just bored and she reconnected with her long lost love

from high school on Facebook. And it was something new and enticing and exciting and blah, blah, blah. She left him, went and hooked up with this guy, and I don't think it worked out for her. Right. Because it just seems exciting at the time. And you, again, when you always go back

and look at past relationships, most of the time you think about the good times, not the bad times. Right. You've this euphoric recall. Unless you had some really bad times, then that pops up. But yeah, the good times mostly not the bad times. Right, you've this euphoric recall. Unless you had some really bad times, then that pops up. But yeah, the good times mostly pop up. Right, exactly.

So I have to say that when I was reading this email, like I hadn't read it, I was reading through it, and I was thinking, oh, he's unhappy with his wife, and so maybe he's gonna have to do it. But the fact that he ended it saying, he's so happy with his wife, and he loves his wife, I say here, Chris, I'm so glad you emailed but you gotta end this with the ex love

because it's not healthy. You're in a really good relationship now with your wife and I think you can just call her and say, you know what, I'm glad we reconnected. I wish you the best, but I don't think it's that. You can't carry on a relationship with her because this is going to see it into your current relationship

and you're in a good place right now with your wife, and I think you just gotta end it. You could always think fondly of her, but I would not continue down this road. And you didn't miss anything, and she's not the one that got away, and I don't believe any of that. So keep on doing.

Yeah, don't destroy your relationship in your marriage, just because you wanna have fun flirting over text. Exactly. But yeah, exactly. OK. Hey, Emily, I hope all is well on the West Coast. I'm a 28 year old male who just moved from Texas to Nashville about two months ago to start my doctor degree.

I also started listening to your podcast about two months ago, and I have to admit, I really enjoy it. You offer great advice, perspective, and sex, relationships, et cetera. Is this the only like the best podcasts out there? That's why. Exactly. Yeah. What else is there? My field of studies small, her patology, wild life diseases.

Sounds like a great patology. Okay. But predominantly male recently, I was at a conference and wanted to approach a woman. She's really pretty and her research is so cool. But there were so many guys falling around at the evening social by the time she finally had room to breathe she would be exhausted and soon left to go back to her tell room. I was disappointed I didn't get a chance to meet her but the field is small and everyone attends the same regional conferences so I know I'll see her again. My question is when I do see her again, how do I not seem like all the other dudes and get her attention with such little time? Literally, there's small conference rooms too. There's a little time, little room.

On a side note, I get it. In a way, I'm kind of like all the other dudes at the conference. We're on the same field. We're attracted to a particular woman. And I'm at the same conference as that. But hey, I bet those nerds don't listen to sex with Emily. Thanks for your help. chow, Brent. So Brent wants to stand out. He wants to stand out and he wants to make a good impression on this woman because when you're a hot woman, there's a lot of guys, actually in a field that's

dominated by men. Like, men coming at you. Like, I mean, it's hard to kind of differentiate. What do you think he should do? I think that he's got to, he's got to make himself stand out, but I'm not going to give you any cheesy pickup lines, but I think you should go directly up to her and you should be honest and just be like, you know, if you know something about her work or you have met her, you know, I would say,

I saw it here last time. I think about you, let's go grab a drink right now. And I would be something I would just say, I'm really confident and aggressive. And I would try to, I would make a plan where I'd whisk her out of there and try to take control of the situation. And if she says no, then what's gonna happen? He's not gonna die. He's gonna be okay. He can't move it on. But don't try to like just, hey, small taco

we're in the same field I've seen you. I think for this hot woman who's the one woman in her field who's doing that, she's gotta go in there and just say, hey, I'm Chris Brentwatt, you're right? Yeah, well, don't also, here's the move. Like, you gotta figure out, and maybe if she's single or,

if she's single or not. I think he would know. He would? I don't know, she's there. She's talking about what he's saying. Maybe she's not wearing rain or anything. Let's say her name, I think Brent, you should go, like, hey Beth, what's on Brent.

Good to see you again. Let's go get dinner after this. Tonight, what do you do have to comfort? Let's get out of here and get a drink. Just be, you know, and you can say you've seen her work. It's cool. I like your work. I just got out of AA burn.

Yeah, dinner. Let's get some dinner. Let's get some dinner. I want to say, I mean, be, have the man with the plan because everyone else is like trying to like, you know, talk about something. Don't ever leave anything open ended. Don't ever tell a woman say,

oh, so what you like to do? We talked about that on the last podcast, I wish I didn't know that was put out on the internet, is that we had a thing. We had to have about that. No, no, no, joking. We had it a lot of it. I'm just joking.

But we had a similar situation where a guy had these text messages and he just gave too many options. You know, too many, it kept it open and it too much. Just be direct, this is what we wanna do. Oh, oh, you're not available that day. How about this day? And she's not available that day,

then she's maybe not that interested, you know? That guy was like sharing his Google calendar. He was like 27th, 28th, marching, he's like, no, right. Do you maybe wanna do this? And like, hey, I'm going to go grab something eat. Do you want to come with me? Right, exactly.

And then she says, no, again, you're not going to die. You're just going to move on the next one. Now you know, not to, you know, waste any more time. Exactly. That's how you make the impression and you be you and be confident. And that's how you're going to do it. I feel we've said this so many times,

but people just don't believe it and believe in themselves. I believe that they can do it. You think. I feel we've said this so many times, but people just don't believe it and believe in themselves, I believe that they can do it. You can. I believe me. I've been that person, I was too shy to ask or talk to somebody. But then after a while,

you just kind of just get over that and talk to him. And you know what? It works out. It does. It's funny. It does work out. We get a lot of calls on love line. There's a lot of younger listeners.. We get a lot of calls on Loveline. There's a lot of young girl listeners and

They we get a lot of them. They're like God. I so regret like there was a call last night a guy called in and he's like 21 And he's like I can't get over it last weekend I was away for the weekend without my buddies and a bunch of girls from college and we were I Ended up sharing a bed with this girl and the the whole night, like, I didn't make a move and now like all week long, he's beating himself up, which is like, to normal do that. But, you know, to be yourself up and not have the confidence to make the move, but here's the thing.

Like, I think that you learn from those situations and eventually you just like, you know what? If I feel like making the move, I'm not gonna second guess it, I'm just gonna do it. And that's something that I think that you learn like with age and maybe if I'm having some regrets from not making the move. But you know, just you have nothing to lose in in that moment when you're thinking it, you know, I think that a lot of times we're so afraid of reduction that we're like,

oh, maybe she's married, she won't like me, I'm just like every other guy. No, you're not. You're not like every other guy. You're Brent and you rock Brent and you just go up to her and you make that plan. Yeah. Okay. Dear Emily, so I'm in a great relationship with an amazing lady. We have awesome children and I can never ask for more. We have amazing communication. She knows all my fantasies. I love to be dominated, spanked, tied up, blindfolded, etc.

She humors me a couple times a year, but it isn't her thing. I've also told her about a cuckold fetish of watching her with another man. She said she would never do that. She loves me and doesn't want anyone else. I've let both go with her, but I'm still looking at porn or reading a rotica of it, too. But I think it's too much. How do you move on from your fetishes? Thanks for your time, and I love the show.

With your advice and ideas, My wife has gone from orgasm during sex from about one out of five times to four out of five. I feel like I could die right now. Thank you William. He says thank you William. Dayton Ohio. Wait, I'm so happy. Do you hear this? Yeah. About a five four to five. Love it. I feel great. But it's not about me. Thank you, Liam. Thank you so much for sharing that. I'm so glad that you're pleasing her.

First off, I love these great sexual communication with his wife. He shared all of his fantasies with her and great job with the orgasms. High five. But first, let's just talk about the difference between a fantasy and a fetish. So, a lot of his fantasies. Yeah, a fetish you actually do in a fantasy you just think about, correct? Um,

sometimes some some fantasies we keep about. But how can you have a fetish if you never do it? Well, right, a fetish you definitely, a fetish is something that is required for you to enjoy sex and to achieve orgasm. Like it becomes like a obsession. Like you actually can't enjoy sex without that foot.

We love to have a foot foot. Without that foot. Without nipple clamps. Without like, you need to have a breast of, like you need to have a foot there or you can't work it. That's what a fetish is like. It is required. A fantasy or things that like turn you on,

that you like to think about, and that you actually can enhance your sexual experience. Now, what your type of mess is true. There are some fantasies that we have that we just think about during masturbation, during sex that we don't actually want to happen. Like a lot of women have fantasies about like having a gangbang. Well, they don't want that, but they think about it. Turns about. But some fantasies, no, but some fantasies we do want, right? So I think that you're talking more about a fantasy and not a fetish. I think that you're talking more about fantasy and not a fetish.

And so, I, so yeah, and these are fantasies you're having, but there's no reason I don't think that you should, William, stop looking at the porn or reading a retica, especially if it's helping you. You know, he wants his wife to basically cuckold. He don't cuckolding is. Explain. Okay, cuckolding is when he would like to watch her

have sex with another man. And that is it. Actually, be touchy, or she might really enjoy it. Well, she said no, she doesn't want to do it. So that is it. I'm just saying in general, when you try to talk to have that conversation. No, totally.

Yeah. Some, some women are totally done. Yeah, just watch it online, who cares. Yeah, exactly and I'm but that's you should Be excited. I know this is something that you're into, but hey, you know, your woman just wants to be with you That's kind of cool. I mean a lot of men out there would Really like that But if this is not your thing then then just watch it online. Who cares? Right. I mean, I'm thinking that, you know, so with the cover thing, people don't really get it.

They're like, how could a man want to watch his life? I know. So it's really like a kind of a form of an FSMM. Whole Colgan just made $100 plus million off that. You know what I'm saying? Right. Right. He made so much money.

He made so much money. Right. Because the allegedly, the radio DJ was into that. That's what people say. It's a common, not my words. No, that's not your thing. But for a lot of guys, it's kind of like a kind of four by F's S&M, it's sort of a masculating in a way,

but it turned you on. But I think that if they look at porn and they read a Radica, a lot of time, you could do that together. You don't actually have to have sex with the other guy, but you could read stories about it. You could watch porn about it, and you could say like right now I'm picturing you like having sex with this guy.

You know, you don't have to drop this fancy or drop this, you know, entirely, but it could, you know, be used to enhance the sex life that you're already having with your partner. Because, you know, I don't think this is a problem. I don't think you need to leave your wife or anything because they are very healthy. You guys are in a good place.

So again, but it's not necessarily these fetishes. You said, can you carry, if you truly had a fetish, you can't cure people with fetishes. Like it's not like there's a way, like curing people you can get. You can't get rid of a fetish. Like you actually require a lot of times it starts with childhood, like certain obsessions and all that.

Like feet and stuff like that. Feet exactly. So I think these are just some fantasies. Keep communicating with your wife. She seems super cool that she's down with all this hearing about all this. I think you guys can just find some compromise. So I don't think you've got to give up anything here,

but just find a way to work it into your already healthy sex life. Love it. Love it. Okay. Thank you so much. William. Thank you, Menace. Thank you. It's fun. This is fun. This is the thank you to the Lady Gang Podcast. The Lady Gang was really fun. I was going to check them out on iTunes and Menace, we can find you at Menace.

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