Sex With Emily - Why Your Partner Refuses Intimacy (And What To Do)

Episode Date: November 4, 2025

When we're trying something new and we're caught up in the moment and we're aroused, it's hard to really get comfortable. It's hard to be embodied sometimes because you're like, is this right? Does this feel good to you? Feel good to me? But if you could practice and be like, you know what would make this position really comfortable if I took a pillow and put it under my knees or under my head or under my back or on my stomach? And so you could kind of play around with what kind of props and positioning works when you're not in the moment. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily. to help you prioritize pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex.

Producer Erica and I are back tackling the questions you're wondering about, but afraid to ask out loud, like whether you're wrong for wanting your partner to be smoother in bed when trying new positions. Why you might be taking on shame that isn't yours when your partner rejects your advances and what to do when your fiancé keeps sharing intimate stories about you with your friends. This episode is about getting honest, setting boundaries, and figuring out what's fair to expect from your partner and yourself. If you've ever wondered if you're the problem, stay with us. Let's get into it. This is from Anonymous and she's 28 years old. Am I the asshole for wanting my partner to be smoother in bed? Hello, Dr. Emily. My boyfriend and I've been together for

almost two years now and he's an amazing partner and lover. However, our sex life is not always consistent. Our sex life has been improving over time. We communicate our sexual needs to each other in ways we can improve, but it seems whenever we try new positions or techniques, things get awkward because he is constantly adjusting his position, or he'll get a leg cramp, or he'll see I'm not enjoying it as much as he would like me to. We seem to have missionary down really well, but I get bored of doing the same old position. Trying new things always seems to lead to awkward movements in me getting turned off or him losing his erection. I could use your help on figuring out how to prevent sex almost always being really awkward when we do a position other than missionary. I wish our sex

can feel more flowy and natural without him feeling he needs to think so hard about every movement leading constant adjusting and inconsistent strokes and movements. Am I the asshole for why to my partner to be smoother in bed? Thank you. Wow. What a good question. That's a great question. It's very specific. I'm imagining being like, they're in the moment. They're making out and he's like, oh. And then he's like getting up and moving things and moving the blankets. And it's like that that could be jarring. It sounds jarring the way Anonymous is explaining it here. I understand that she would get bored of doing the same position over and over again. Most people do. Sex does get wrote after a while. However, I do think that she could also join him in this. She's kind of letting

him take the lead of doing all the moving and the changing and the shifting and it's not working for her. So Anonymous, how about you give it a try? You're allowed to get on top, twist things around, pull out a toy, have sex in the living room instead of the bedroom. You can try these things out as well. And what I do love about him is that he's like really trying and he's taking it very seriously. But it sounds like he gets out of his body. He's less embodied, pillar one of sexual intelligence. He's thinking too much.

I think this calls for conversation outside the bedroom. For sure, my timing tone and turf conversation, which is a free downloadable guide at our site you can check out. But listen, talk to him next time you are at dinner, date night, and just say, say, I so appreciate that you are always trying new things in the bedroom, different positions and different things. Like, I love mixing it up. Maybe there's a way we could talk about what feels good and what we like and do it together. I have some ideas. Maybe I'll show them to you next time with the bedroom, but let's figure this out together. And or you could also say, so what is working for you?

What's not? You could have those sexual state of the union conversations that I welcome everyone to have. And if you're making your goals for right now, please add a sexual state of the union conversation maybe once a quarter to your relationship and talk about like what's working what's not working this would be a perfect time to do that I think you could also in the moment when he's trying something you could just be a willing participant you could make it sexy too anonymous you could just kind of start making out with him maybe start caressing him move in the way that you want to move around so you could also help but I'm just getting the sense that you're just kind of lying there yeah because she says things get awkward because

is he's constantly adjusting his position and he'll get a leg cramp and he'll see I'm not enjoying it as much as he would like me to. It should be more of a collaboration, third pillar of sexual intelligence of like, does this feel good to both of you? Each sex position, whenever you're trying a new one should be like, how does this feel? A position that felt good with one partner might feel really uncomfortable for another. So it's always good to check in, even if you're with the same partner for two years. And you also say our sex life is improving over time. We communicate our sexual needs to each other. So if you're doing that, this seems like this would be a great conversation to add along. And you can even acknowledge that I notice sometimes when you're trying

these positions that I think is so great that you're taking initiative, you seem to be adjusting a lot and moving around a lot. And so maybe we could even just play with it when we're not having sex. Like maybe next time you get in bed together or after you've sex, you'd be like, let's try it right now. Because what I think happens is when we're trying something new and we're caught up in the moment and more aroused, it's hard to really get comfortable. It's hard to be embodied sometimes because you're like, is this right? Does this feel good to you, feel good to me? But if you could practice and be like, you know what would make this position really comfortable if I took a pillow and put it under my knees or under my head or under my back or on my stomach? And so you could kind of play

around with what kind of props and positioning works when you're not in the moment. That is literally a genius idea. Like you don't want to get distracted. You want to be feeling your hottest and most sexual. So if something feels uncomfortable, you want to just move right on to the next thing. But afterwards, it's like you're already in bed together. You could do this as part of aftercare and kind of make it more fun and funny and like act out the positions and see, oh yeah, my leg does cramp there. Oh, great. Wait, time. Now there's no pressure. Because we're having sexy where there's so much pressure. We're in arousal state. Maybe he doesn't want to lose his erection and she's trying to stay turned on. And then the second we bring in normal conversation and stuff about like

logistics, logistics is an antidote to arousal. It's going to cancel out your arousal because you're in your thinking brain and you know we want to be in our body during sex. Think of it like a play-by-play after sex or even a dress rehearsal for the next time you have sex if you're just sort of role-playing the positions you're going to do next. I actually like with a new partner, like it's not recommended to talk about sex in the bedroom, but sometimes afterwards I'll just be like, what were your favorites? Like, what were your favorite positions? I think that's a fun thing to do. Yeah, it's so fun. And then the next time you know, So, are you an asshole?

You're not an asshole. Not an asshole. You could work on your collaboration. And I think we've all been guilty of this of being in relationships where we're blaming someone else and we're not really doing our part. It's a lot easier to point fingers than it is to kind of look at ourselves. And so I just invite you to do a little bit of both. All right.

Thanks, Anonymous. This is from Lauren and she's 31 years old. Am I the asshole for wanting to leave my partner over infidelity when I cheated first? Without giving too much backstory on our relationship in general, here's the main situation. I had an online affair with an X for approximately 2.5 months. There was sexting and photos exchanged, mostly on my end, but no physical contact or real emotional side to it. My husband found out, and since we have been trying to work on saving our marriage, we've been going to counseling and needless to say, of course, I've completely

cut ties with this X, including deleting social media and changing my phone number. Since this came to light, my husband started talking to a girl online and had a 1.5 month online emotional relationship with her. He stopped when we decided we need to focus on just us if we were to move forward. I've just found out he started talking to her again about a month and a half ago. And they have also met up a few times and have slept together. Am I the asshole for feeling completely done with our relationship now and wanting to move out even though I am the one who initially cheated?

Side note. We have two young kids as well. makes it all the more complicated. Thanks for listening. You're awesome. Lauren, wow, heavy. You're awesome. Thanks for taking the time to ask your question. So I know we don't have a lot of backstory, but I am wondering what was happening before you had the emotional affair with the ex. But you say it's not emotional. It was just sexting. How has your sex life been? How well do you guys communicate? Was it already on the brink of some kind of crisis or change? Because something pushed you to having this online affair. Now, maybe just being a mom of

two small kids because you're probably very, very busy. Maybe this was a really delightful distraction for a while. It's kind of common when you are going through something to be like, I'm just going to text this person and numb myself for a little bit and just have a little bit of serotonin and dopamine that comes from getting the text and feeling connected to someone, but you didn't take it into any physical contact or anything. I get that. But then your husband is like, okay, well, this is giving me the green light now I can do what you did, which also doesn't seem healthy to me. It's a tit for tat. This never works. I'm going to do what you did and then I'm going to keep doing it and then they've had sex. So to me, yeah, that's really traumatizing and I can see

why your trust is broken. Absolutely. And you want to move out. But I don't think this is about a he said, she said, you cheated first and he cheated and I guess we could break down what it means to cheat. No, you were just texting and he actually had his penis inside of someone else. But I do think that you have two small kids and you're already in therapy. It might be worthwhile to let him know how it makes you feel when he's sleeping with someone else. Not very good. Maybe why it's important to him.

Maybe what he sees in the future of your relationship. Because I do think that you could give it another shot in therapy if he'd be willing to work on it. I wonder what he's saying about why he's doing this. Because if he's sleeping with somebody and flirting with somebody, but then you're in therapy and wants to make it work, that's a lot of mixed messages. and can be really, really hurtful. So again, I don't think it's about who did what.

It's about where are you today? You know, so many times in relationships we get all bogged down in the details that he said, she said, this happened, that happened, this happened first. This is a very common way for couples to fight. They're never going to agree on the facts. He has his side. You have your side. And I'm going to tell you right now, you are never both stay the same way.

You're probably not going to come to a place where he's like, oh, you're right. My cheating was actually worse than you're cheating. And I feel bad it's not about details anymore. It's really about your dynamic. resentments that have built up. Do you both have the same vision for the relationship if it works? What was missing before that led you to the texting with an ex? There's a lot of things going on in this relationship. But I'm wondering what you know, what kind of information you have. And if you could when you're talking your husband, bring it up to a higher level and get out of the weeds

and say like, do we actually want the same thing? Do we want a parent the same? Do you want a relationship the same? Do you want to work on our sex life? Do you want to find another kind of relationship to be in. Do you want to open it up? Do you want to eat polyamorous? Now, there's a lot of different options these days that are more acceptable, especially in 2023. So I don't think there's any assholes here, but I think it's important for both of you to get clear. You're always going to be parents together. You're always going to be each other's family. And if you move out right now in a huff, because you're angry about the cheating, which I understand, this is not easy. But I think there has to be some deep repair work at the very least learning how you're going to co-parent together.

So your therapy is going to be a very big step for you all. Yeah, I love what you're saying about getting out of the weeds and thinking about what's important today. I'm curious if she's making the connection between her husband's affair and her online affair, or if he's also making that connection and telling her this is why and justifying that. And I guess he also would need to get out of the weeds then too, unless there's another reason why he's hanging out with this woman that's not just to get back at her. What I'm hearing is it probably originally started that way.

Like, if you did it, you've given me the green light, the go ahead to do it. And I don't think it's about who cheated first and who did something right or wrong. It's really about the deeper issues. Like, what is it about their relationship that's driving them to seek outside intimacy and comfort and distraction rather than working on the relationship between the two of them? So if you guys are in the weeds of you are the cheater first, no, you're the cheater first. Like that, again, that's the conversation that's not going to get you anywhere. But I love that you have a relationship with a therapist who can hopefully help you get out of that argument that no one's going to win and get into what is actually going on.

What do you guys need to do to get into a healthier place? Whether you decide to stay with them or not. Now, listen, it might be done. Like, this might be the straw that broke the camel's back. Things haven't been great for a while. But I would love you to get out of the, I did it first and he did it. Because, again, that's just also a distraction that we use. When we get into the details, that's also a distraction because we want to point to be heard.

We want to be right. We want someone to see our side. And the best thing we can do is learn to be a good listener and have empathy and actually put ourselves in the other person's place and say, huh. You know, I'm actually listening to what you're saying rather than trying to prove a point. Because when you do that and you're like, I see your part, I see my part, then you can have empathy and a deeper understanding. Like maybe there's a way here where she could say, you know what, he probably was feeling

really hurt, hypothetically. Maybe she's things. I haven't been as sexually available to him. We haven't really been talking about it or I've been really judgmental of him. So maybe I could see why he might have sought comfort or fun elsewhere. Not saying it's right. But if you could actually feel that in your body what it might be like to be in a position and then he could say she's a mom of small kids. She's no longer able to get out of the house and see her friends and work. She's, you know, heard really nice things. from an ex who made her feel good and said all the right things. And that made her ego feel good. That made her feel loved and cherished, which is something we all want. And so maybe I could see why that was a comforting trist. Even though, again, I'm not getting into ethics and morality here. I'm just saying that's how we would do it. Like we'd have to really say, let me try to hear what the other person saying and feel it. Don't need to agree. But then when you do that, then you can rise above the details and get into your heart space.

and your healing space and your repair space. Bottom line, not an asshole. In fact, she should probably be gentler in herself, I would say. Be a lot easier on yourself, okay? Let's get out of the finger pointing here. Send yourself some love and your husband and hopefully you guys will find a peaceful path. Don't go away.

We'll be right back, assholes. This is from Katie and she's 32. Am I the asshole for not wanting my fiance to talk about sex with my best friend? Hey, Dr. Emily, I don't know what kind of advice I need if I'm just being paranoid, but please help. I just got engaged a couple months ago and our wedding is in one month. It seems rushed, but we've been dating for a year and a half and I didn't want to move in together before being married or soon to be married. We've been having some trouble in our

relationship that is now affecting our sex life. On top of adjusting to living together, his son is having health issues and there's a lot of stress. But my issue is with how much he talks about sex outside the bedroom. It's almost all the time in social settings. the time it's in light humor and it makes our friends laugh, but we have a mutual friend who actually introduced us and happens to be my best friend, who's extremely vocal and detailed about her and her husband's sex life, i.e. naked yoga and how her husband is laying underneath and touching her kitty, etc. I don't think she's talking about her cat. She doesn't talk exclusively to my fiancee about these things and it's usually in group settings. But it bothers

me because they have a really close friendship and he's already a hypersexual conversationalist. I asked to see his phone and there were message from her stating how she got laid by her husband, my fiance's best friend, and they ended up in 69 and stuff like that. I confronted both about it and just explained that it makes me uncomfortable, but they have been friends for five years and she is happily married. Am I wrong for feeling insecure about the context of their conversations? Oh my gosh. This is complex.

I'm going to start out by saying here is you're not the asshole. to feel your feelings about your partner texting your best friend about sex, even though she's open about it and did it in the public. I think it's valid to have your feelings and it's okay to let them know how you feel, which you did. I love that you confronted them. I do, but I want to know what happened because this is where we have to set boundaries. And you could say, I love that you guys are friends, but it does make me uncomfortable.

And I have a feeling in this case, there's not enough amount of explaining here that I think is going to make her feel better. And I just want to say that that's okay. I do think that you get to in a relationship, talk to your part about these things. Now, listen, he doesn't have to agree with you, might not understand. This might take some time talking about it. But what I suggest is asking him what he gets out of it. What does he enjoy about that conversation and let him know how it makes you feel? If you say it makes me feel less safe, it makes you feel a little threatened, even though I know you both are really good friends. But I'm just not okay with it because how it makes me feel. Your husband then has a choice. I'm going to guess that your husband

doesn't want to make you feel bad at any way. And if you could avoid that by not just texting your best friend, I'm recommending that that's a place to go. However, in these discussions, this is not a dictatorship. This is not a monologue. It's a dialogue. So you get to say to them. I want to hear about you. Tell me what it is about these conversations that are important to you. Why is it something that you like to do? What are you getting from it? Let's talk more about it. Because maybe you can understand his perspective. Maybe it's a gives me lightness in the middle of the day. It's just funny for me. Turns me on to think about other people having sex. But even though, you know, it's not even about her or him. It's just that it gives me ideas for us to play together more.

I mean, I have no idea. Never met your husband. But let's see what happens here because I always recommend that couples take time really talking, of course, but listening to each other, really listening because beneath all of these details, you're going to learn something about your husband and what he might need in the bedroom or what kind of things get him going. So maybe he says, I just love texting about sex. That's all. He's like, I love that it's two o'clock. I'm in a board meeting and I got a text from your best friend about 69. That's hot. Well, maybe then a work around here is saying, okay, well, what if I texted you? What if I sexed you about what I'm thinking about later? You could ask your husband, would that fulfill your need? Would that fulfill your urge?

In all of these scenarios where we're finding disagreements with our partners, a lot of times there are compromises and there are ways to find her way back to each other. I highly recommend more conversations, but you are not wrong for feeling your feelings about their conversations, even though it feels and sounds very safe. You're all friends. She's doing it together. It's not like she's saying one thing in public and doing something else with your husband. She's pretty transparent and authentic to who she is.

It sounds like. But again, I could see that many people in your situation would be feeling a similar way. I believe. I think it's especially triggering maybe if it's literally your best friend who's also a woman and they're talking about this. But I'm also curious about the fact that she thinks that he talks about sex too much in general outside the bedroom. I'm curious about that because I don't think he's an asshole for talking about sex.

And I also don't think she's an asshole for saying it makes her feel uncomfortable. So that's an interesting note to think about what is it about him talking about sex so much in public that makes you comfortable? That really is something to investigate. Do you feel that it's just too personal? Do you feel that he's doing it in a way that's just more bragging or showy? Does it feel inappropriate? Do you feel shame around it? Like, let's get into your feelings, Katie, because this will also reveal some truths about maybe you, maybe some areas that might be great for you to look under the hood and say, well, what is it about sex talk? People talking about sex and specifically my husband that's making me feel this way. Without judgment. To say, oh, well, the feeling I was feeling was threatened, insecure. I was embarrassed. for him. I was embarrassed for me. Then when you're having this conversation with your husband, you get to unpack all of this because it's not just about him. It's about your feelings around sex,

too. All these things around sex are making you feel a certain way. And I'd love, you know, you to go a little bit deeper with this and figure out how you could learn more about yourself and how you are in relationship with your husband. Because I think it could very well be a shame thing, just talking about sex in general. But I also wonder if by him talking about sex, it's kind of indirectly talking about sex with her, unless they're polyamorous. So maybe he's disclosing things about their sex life or if he's making jokes about sex, maybe she thinks he's making like a mockery of their sex life. So the context of it is also important.

You could say, you can tell jokes you want about other people or whatever, but I feel like it's our sacred union. It's our sex life. It's a thing that we share. It's our intimacy. And I would appreciate if you could just keep that between us. I think that is totally fair and a totally valid request to make. Now, if he's just talking about sex and telling jokes,

And that still makes you feel uncomfortable. That's something to talk about. But yeah, I think absolutely he's revealing things that makes you squirm and gives you shame. I think if you just talk to your partner about how it makes you feel that I think that, you know, he could probably find a lot of other things talk about. In my relationship, I really am very careful when we're out. I don't talk about our sex life. I really don't. And in fact, never in any relationship have I, unless I get the consent of my partner. I'll say, is it okay if I tell the story? You know, I probably wouldn't say it in public, but I would say them before. Like, I thought that would be funny or how did you feel when I brought that up? Because I know that sex is so charged for many people. So I think before

you air anything about your sex life, about anybody, whether it's your partner or your lover, anyone that you've had sex with, I think it's important to, especially, you know, current day, you're still having sex with them. It's important to ask and get consent before you share a intimate act that you shared with someone else. I think actually in our first Am I the Assle episode, we had a question about someone who said, am I the asshole for talking about my friend's sex life and revealing something about that. It's kind of the same thing. Even if you're telling something about your own sex life, if it involves someone else, it's not up to you and only you to make that decision.

Anytime we're revealing anything personal sex or financial situations, anything, really. If it's a personal thing that someone has shared with you, always err on the side of, would this person want me to share their story? How would they feel about me sharing their story? And the other question is, why am I telling this story? What's the why behind it? I also want to know her husband, going back to that, why is he telling these stories? Is it because it makes him feel a certain way?

So is it because he has nothing else? also say in that moment, he thinks it's going to get laughs. So again, I think when they both get clearer about how sex conversations make them feel, they're already going to have their answers and a lot more information about making better choices going forward. Thanks, Katie. I appreciate you. This is from Andrew. He's 44. Am I the asshole for wanting sex more often than every two months? Hey, Dr. Emily. Am I the asshole for wanting to engage with my wife of 12 and a half years together for almost 16 years more than once every six to eight weeks. She will often verbally and non-verbally reject my advances and whenever I bring up the subject on the right

timing, tone, and turf, she makes me feel like it's a me problem and quite frequently gets angry with me for bringing it up. She has seen where the last five years of HRT has done for me and my sex drive, that's hormone replacement therapy, but she more or less has refused to go down that road herself. I always make sure she orgasms whenever we engage. More recently, I've considered whether I should approach her about opening up our marriage, as I would never cheat. I feel like something should change in this area. No, I don't think you're the yosal for wanting to have sex more than once every six weeks to two months. Pretty common. Couples are going to have mismatch sex drives, different libidos. In order to feel more connected to our partners and have a shared

intimacy, we need connection. We need touch, sex. This has to be a conversation, even though she's making you feel like it's your problem and gets angry. So you've been together for almost 16 years, and I'm guessing this kind of came up, probably crept up on you over time. You're also taking hormone replacement therapy. So that's also going to be a big change in your drive. And if she's not doing that, then that desire discrepancy just got a lot. wider. She's refused to go down the road herself. Hormone replacement therapy is a very individual choice. I do recommend it for most people because we have learned a lot more about how it can really help people with their sex lives as they get older. You can't force her to do it. And the fact

that she's getting angry shows that there's some charge there for her, either resentments that you've done it, the pressure for bringing it up because she probably just isn't in the mood. That's what happens. If she's got a loss of hormones, you get age as a woman, you have a loss of all your hormones, testosterone, estrogen, progesterone. And so this is going to be the result, not for every woman, but for many women. And so I think that this would be best discussed in therapy. Because if you're at the point where you want to open up your marriage and she's still in the not even talking about the fact and not acknowledging the fact that two months isn't enough time and she's not really working on it and not willing to hear about it, I think it would be really healthy to have

a therapist to help you have a conversation where you really could get to the bottom of what is going on for her. Does she see that sex is important? And is there a way she could understand her arousal and her desire and become more intimate? Because sex is an important part of a relationship. Without sex, we are roommates. It sounds like she's an anger stage or a resentment stage. And I want to save you a lot of time here, Andrew, trying to bring it up over and over again. It's just going to get her angrier probably. I don't think she's again ever going to say one day, oh, you're right, do you know what? Let me call my doctor. Or, yeah, let's start having sex once a week. If you've already gotten to this point, and now you're met with rejection

every time, a therapist is going to help you fast track it. And in fact, couples will go to therapy see a dramatic shift and change in their relationship. It just fast-tracks everything. You're able to have really grounded, healthy conversations in a safe space where you can get to the point where you understand where she's coming from, where you're coming from in a lot faster pace. If you go once a week for a month or two, you will have more answers. You'll have a better understanding of what you guys could do to feel more connected and loving. And then you'll know, you know what? She's not willing to work on the sex life. She's not interested in anymore. She's not interested in hormone replacement therapy. And she only wants to sex, let's say,

once every two months. Well, then you have information, worked it through with the therapist. And then you get to decide there, let her know what you're thinking. Sex is important to you. it's something that you really require in your life to feel whole and connected and be in your pleasure, would she be open to opening up the relationship? But like I would not lead with that conversation when she's still in the anger stage or the not really talking about it stage. That would take you probably years together to where you wanted to be unless you go to therapy and you fast track it.

And I would definitely have those conversations because it already sounds like her getting angry about it is affecting how he approaches the subject because we get this question a lot about mismatch libido's but I think it's different for it to come as an am I the asshole question of like am I the asshole for wanting more sex like no you're not the asshole but there must be a reason why he thinks he's an asshole for this maybe she's making you feel a little shameful yeah about wanting sex it sounds like it yeah because she makes me feel like it's a me problem so then you are taking that on and feeling like an asshole because you are sensitive to her needs and you want to be good partner. So that's kind of an assholeish thing to do to make you feel bad about sex.

But if we don't want sex and we're in a relationship with somebody and sex was always part of our equation and then we opt out of sex like, no, I don't want to have it anymore. We owe that to our partner and to ourselves to really go a little bit deeper and understand what would possibly make me in the mood for sex? What have I liked about sex in the past? Like do a little bit of work because you know it's important to your partner. When you're at a healthy relationship, part of that is compromising, understanding, figuring out what you can do to be great partners to each other. Yeah, I think it's important for her to kind of take a look at that.

She might also decide after this work and thinking about it that, you know what, I'm done. I've had enough sex in my lifetime. I actually don't want to work on it. So this means we should break up or, yes, I have sex with someone else. I'm totally okay with it. And honestly, if she gets that place from a genuine place of like knowing herself and feeling okay with it, then maybe this could work for that. But unless she explicitly says that, like, I'm not going to work on it. Here's why. There's still a little bit more understanding to do here, a little bit more talking and listening in this relationship. I don't ever want to say, like, you have to have sex. You must have sex one point two times a week. In couples where they're having sex once every two months, I don't hear from the couples where they're both happy with it. They're all fine. They're all having sex once every two months. Everything's fine. We hear from the people who have this desire discrepancy, mismatch libidos. And so this is where your greatest problem solving, compromising.

And really authentic, deep conversations have to come in. You've got to practice that skill set. Thanks, Andrew. Thanks for your question. And I'm rooting for you both. That's it for today's episode. Thank you so much for listening to Sex with Emily. And if you love the show, please like, subscribe, and leave a review wherever you get your podcast.

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