Sex With Emily - Why You’re Making Oral Sex Harder Than It Needs to Be

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Starting point is 00:02:43 And thanks for listening or watching and for being here. And thanks for prioritizing your pleasure. So let's 69. It's one of those sex acts where you tend to be a full on lover or hater. But no matter what camp you fall in, chances are that if you're having sex, you're going to come across the famous, the controversial 69 sex position. So why not learn some pointers to make the whole thing more hot and more comfortable? First, I share research with you that might motivate you to put 69 on regular rotation in your

Starting point is 00:03:11 sex life. Next, I give you techniques for being an excellent oral giver and strategies like mindful masturbation to help you become a more relaxed and erotic receiver. Finally, I talk position tips like the Sideway 69 and the Power 69 for you to play with. take all your pressing questions on 69ing and oral sex. Now, a lot of you write in asking me about oral sex and different ways to go about making oral sex a more pleasurable enjoyable experience. And that includes 69ing. So if 69ing is a fantasy you've been wanting to try or if I had trouble with in the past,

Starting point is 00:03:47 not to worry, I'm going to break it all down for you in this episode. I'm also going to answer some of your general oral sex questions, all right? So let's get into it. So one of the studies I cite in my book, Smart Sex, it analyzed data from 884 heterosexual couples about their general happiness, their self-reported mental health, and their sexual practices. Guess what they found? Both giving and receiving oral sex was positively correlated with feelings of happiness.

Starting point is 00:04:20 In fact, people got the biggest bump in happiness from giving rather than that. receiving. How about that? They were satisfied. But what about giving and receiving simultaneously? Now, that's what 69ing is all about, which to be honest, I was never a huge fan of 69 until I learned to modify it, which I'll get into. I always felt, well, either I'm giving and I'm fully in or I'm receiving and I'm fully in, but jumping back and forth between giving and receiving just seemed like a hassle I did not need in the bedroom. Now, the 69 position is somewhat controversial, either love it or you hated, I found out. People who are huge fans of 69ing, like how you get pleasure from both giving and receiving oral sex, it definitely spices up the oral sex routine because there's novelty

Starting point is 00:05:05 and variety, which are two key factors in spicing things up, feeling interested in your partner more so than not. And it's often just one of those positions that's on people's sex bucket lists. So here's what the haters will say. I don't know if they're haters, but they just prefer not to do 69. They say it's awkward physically. You can't really experience the full pleasure of either giving or receiving since you can't give your full attention to one. That's where I was at. I was like, I cannot do both of these things.

Starting point is 00:05:36 Ambisexual. But in this episode, my goal is to give you all the pointers you need to figure out whether 6090 is something to add to your sexual repertoire or maybe just try it once. And I'm all down with like if you have had a bad experience with the past, you have these preconceived notions about it not being right for you, want to try it again armed with knowledge. The first aspect of 69 is your role as the giver. Now, we've done some great in-depth episodes on performing oral sex out of vulva and a penis, which you should definitely check out. But if you have any hangups around giving, it's unsanitary, probably not a great

Starting point is 00:06:12 idea to put my mouth on someone's genitals, I don't know what I'm doing, I don't know if I'll like it, all the things. This might help you. Genitals are just another part of someone you are intimate with. another way to give them pleasure and to make them feel good. Kissing their penis is kind of like kissing their arm, except for it feels 10 times better and it has less of a stigma around it. Oral sex feels the best when you start slow and build up. Now remember that. You don't want to go right for the genitals anyway because it takes a while to warm up. So remember to kiss all around their thighs, lick the labia, kiss their testicles. Really, really take your time to explore

Starting point is 00:06:49 and slow down. You can lick, you can suck, you can twirl your tongue around in circles to hit a lot of different nerve endings, especially when 69ing. Think about it this way. It's more about generally stimulating your partner's genitals. So you don't need to dive right into your usual patterns and rhythms right away. Here I am giving oral sex and all I can do is like give oral sex in this very specific way because it's right in front of my face. You still don't have to use your mouth the whole time. And in fact, another one of the ways I've learned to enjoy 69 is realizing that I can use my hands, I can use my feet, I can use a toy, I could take a break, I could go back and forth between my mouth and my hands and other parts of my body. So just no, it's not just like I am doing

Starting point is 00:07:31 oral sex now and this is all I have to do. Okay? Remember that. Whoever said oral sex needs to be hands free and all about the mouth? Nope. Especially when 69 and your hands will be incredible aids to you. In fact, there have been times where I'm like, I really like the feeling of my partner going down to me. And me going down and then with my mouth right now is going to be too much work for me because I can't really receive pleasure in that moment. So I'll just use my hand with a lot of loop. Sometimes the angle isn't right or your partner moves around. So just make sure you have your hand on them.

Starting point is 00:07:57 Now this is perfect. This is not set in stone. Like this is how 69 happens and this is how penetration happens. I just want to give you guys permission to kind of get outside your comfort zone and just see what feels right in the moment. Or maybe you just need a break or you want to focus on a few moments of receiving. That's okay too. Just because you're in this mutual 69 collab, doesn't mean you can't say for a moment,

Starting point is 00:08:16 wow, this feels really good. I'm just going to take a moment and receive. Speaking of receiving, a lot of you tell me that you have a difficult time experiencing pleasure while receiving oral sex. I also cover this a lot in my book because I realize that's one of the big positions. A lot of you say, you know, it's really hard for me to relax. How do I know that my partner really wants to be there? How do I taste?

Starting point is 00:08:38 How do I smell? Is it taking me too long? So it's important to learn to feel comfortable just receiving, especially before you try to give and receive it in a position like 69. So maybe next time your partner is going down and you can start to kind of practice just sort of settling in, breathing, paying attention to what you're feeling. I'm like most things in the bedroom, I do think it's important to feel very confident in your solo sex practice before engaging fully in partnered sex.

Starting point is 00:09:02 It's just always a way to say, I know what my body does, I know how my body responds to pleasure. This is waiting to feel good. So it's just a great learning tool. Now listen, if receiving oral sex is less pleasurable for you, try some mindful masturbation to get over this hurdle. Try this. While masturbating, imagine your partner going down on you. Like, imagine you completely relinquishing, wholly receiving, and think, what does it feel like? What feels good to you? Where would you tell your partner to target and to move? And can you kind of picture that in your mind? Do you want it faster? Do you want it slower? And then imagine,

Starting point is 00:09:40 yourself communicating these things to a partner and just overall feeling comfortable with the idea of someone between your legs. This is a great visualization process and might just turn you on more than you thought. And by the way, this is just one of my many tips from my smart sex. So once you start to feel comfortable with the idea of receiving oral sex, you can start moving that into your real relationship. And remember this, the goal is not necessarily to have an orgasm. I find when we take the goal away from orgasm and the goal, is just receiving and feeling safe with your partner and just feeling pleasure. That should be the goal. It should be like a pleasure-filled experience that I want to feel with a partner.

Starting point is 00:10:20 So just get curious and familiarize yourself with what needs to happen for you to experience pleasure. What blocks do you need to move out of the way? What emotional blocks do you need to remove out of the way? What do you need to know from your partner to feel safe? What experience is to be lined in your environment for you to feel safe? Think about all those things. And once you're really comfortable giving and receiving, I believe you can fully experience the pleasure of 690ing. All right. Now, let's get into the actual position. The 69 position is usually depicted as one person on top of the other, essentially holding a plank. Like, you are literally planking above your partner because you're supposed to be on top and they're on the bottom.

Starting point is 00:11:03 That's a tough one. So if you reframe 690ing as a position with mutual pleasure, there's a lot of different ways to go about it. And one of my favorites, which is going to be a game changer for you if you were holding the old plank, is the sideways 69. So instead of one person giving, receiving, and simultaneously getting a core workout, which, hey, each their own, you can comfortably lay on your sides. And this can also help if there's a height difference between the two of you. So you're laying back, you're comfortable on your side. You don't have to worry about holding yourself up. You can also take turns giving and receiving. Taking turns while in the 69 position or the sideways 69 is also a great way to practice edging.

Starting point is 00:11:47 That's when you're teasing your partner by taking them right up to the edge of orgasm, then deny them from orgasm and demand some pleasure your way instead. So it's a great way to get your partner up to a heightened arousal, then bring it back down again and you bring it back up to arousal. And then finally, when they have an orgasm, it's that much more intense and exciting. And if you're into playing with power dynamics, edging can be incredibly hot way to go. Okay, speaking of power play, there's also the Power 69 in which the partner on top is in control of how much their partner's faces in their genitals.

Starting point is 00:12:23 Kind of similar to face sitting or face kneeling. And if you forget what face sitting is, this is essentially when you are, you know, your partner's laying down on the back and you kind of get up and sit on their face. But I like to think of it as a face kneeling. you don't have to be holding yourself up like at a squat. You can put your knees down on either side of their face and then you could like use the headboard to sort of balance yourself so you can really place your genitals on their face

Starting point is 00:12:50 in the way that feels the best for you. And without suffocating them. So it feels good for them too. You could also try having one person lie down with their head off the bed while the other person's leaning over to give oral sex where the genitals are in their partner's face. This can be really, really high. too. Think about that. Your partner's lying with their head off the bed and then you're leaning

Starting point is 00:13:11 over and putting it in the face. Can you picture that? It's hot. As always, I love bringing a vibrator into the mix. You know, hands, incredible tools for oral sex of all kinds, including 69, obviously your mouth, but vibrators can take the experience to the next level. Because listen, let's face it, the angles aren't exactly perfect for your mouth to line up exactly with your partner's pleasure points. Vibrators can make giving much easier and receiving even more pleasurable and less work for you too if you're just using a great vibe. And as always, don't forget to use lube. I love playground lube. I love the way it tastes. I love the little flip bottle. I know you guys are all loving it too. Hopefully now you feel equipped to practice

Starting point is 00:14:01 some 69, well, today. How fun. First off, how fun. How fun. How fun. just bring it out your partner and be like, guess what? 69. I don't know about any partner that's going to be like, well, that just sounds really troublesome. I'd much rather go to a movie. No, do 69ing. You know what else is fun? Listen to this episode together.

Starting point is 00:14:20 I can't tell you how many couples have let me know the benefits of listening to sex with Emily together. So you both are getting the information at the same time. You can stop and talk about what you've heard. Add things to your bucket list. Add things to your pleasure list. So I appreciate you all for listening and sharing the episode. with someone you think could really benefit from it and let me know how it goes. I'd love to hear your stories.

Starting point is 00:14:42 All right. Our Fantasy Commission says for him it's all about the friendships. Cute, Kevin, but I disagree. Like with Bet365. I get paid the second my team goes up big with early payout and can cash out at any time before the game ends. No hard feelings, Kevin. Just faster payouts from Bet365.

Starting point is 00:15:02 The home of winning early. Must be 19 and older. Ontario only. Please play responsibly. If you or someone you know is concerns about gambling, visit connectsonterio.ca or call 18665-3-1-2,600. Terms and conditions apply. Calculating route to avoid seeing poverty. Turn left to bypass the unhoused youth sleeping on the street. Then keep right to skip by the lines of people waiting for food.

Starting point is 00:15:23 Steer clear of the crowded shelter turning people away, then take the next exit. Let's stop looking away and get in the way of rising poverty. Your donations help the United Way fight poverty in thousands of ways, like providing food, shelter, and crisis prevention. Donate today at United WayGT.org. This is from Ron 57 in Maryland. Hey, Dr. Emily, I love your show, and I've been listening to it on various mediums for years,

Starting point is 00:15:49 but this is my first time writing in. I'm 57 years old in a relationship with a much younger, 36-year-old woman. We have a great sex life except for oral. She's never experienced it before, and now I go down on her all the time, and we both love it. But you guessed it, it's not reciprocated. She says that I have pre-com that is uncomfortable in her mouth.

Starting point is 00:16:10 While I'm not counting, our ratio of giving and receiving is 100 to 1 in her favor, and I'm trying not to let that affect me. I love her and love being with her. So I'm trying to figure out how to have not necessarily equitable amounts of oral just a little bit more. Thanks in advance. Thank you so much for your email run. First, I get it.

Starting point is 00:16:31 You want some oral. And you should have some moral. And this whole pre-cum thing and whatever reason she's not doing it, let me help. First things first. Have a conversation with her outside the bedroom about your sex life in general. How it's going, what she likes about it, what you like about it, what you both want, what your dreams are, what you want to work on. And then you can say, hey, I know that going down on me or giving me a blowjob, it hasn't been your thing.

Starting point is 00:16:59 But tell me more about it. Tell me more about the pre-com. is it the taste? Does the penis just seem icky to you? And listen, this is not where you judge and try to solve it. You're like, I'm just really curious. I just want to understand where you're coming from. Okay. And then you have more information and then you can kind of troubleshoot from there and see what she says. Maybe she had a bad experience with it. Maybe, you know, pre-com mean something else to her. Like, let's just find out more. You have to let her know that any of her feelings are totally okay and valid. Remember, all of our feelings

Starting point is 00:17:28 are okay and valid. It's our feelings. If it's her first experience of the oral, it might be natural that she has some hesitation around it. It sounds like she doesn't have a lot of experience receiving, but maybe also not giving. Maybe she's built this up into something that she doesn't know how to do and she doesn't want to disappoint you. Remember that. A lot of times our hesitation has to do with we don't want to seem like a failure. She doesn't want to seem like a bad lover to you. So you can even find out. She might say, like, I don't really know what I'm doing or I don't think that you like it and then you could say it or will like be happy to show you what I do like. Now, another thing for the pre-com, if that is the situation, try flavored loop. Have you ever

Starting point is 00:18:05 use it together? Well, that might help with the uncomfortable pre-cum situation. I love having flavored lebe brown. It just tastes delicious. And it's a fun way to play. Finally, maybe there's an in-between step where she kisses your inner thighs will give you a hand job at the same time. would this be something she'd be open to just to get comfortable with stimulating you and finding what feels good? Maybe she just kisses the tip but doesn't go all the way into her mouth. Remember, for a lot of us, we have to ease into this experience. You know, I don't know that she's going to be able to go to zero to blowjob if she hasn't done it in a while, but getting to know your penis, getting to understand what feels good, using her hands in a way where you can show what

Starting point is 00:18:45 kind of pressure and movement you like. And then eventually maybe she really adds her mouth in could be a way to escalate this whole giving and receiving oral. You know, ultimately, sounds like she's just got to get more comfort with it. I sense some resentment you might have here on the imbalance, which I get it. So you can communicate first and present her these ideas in the spirit of, I accept that you're still getting used to it. I'm just getting curious. here's what feels good to me and here's what I like about pleasing you. And it's a casual conversation where we're gathering information. Okay?

Starting point is 00:19:23 Let me know how it goes. This is from Jen 30 in Ontario, Canada. Hey, Dr. Emily, I recently found your podcast on Spotify and I've been listening nonstop since. I just turned 30 years old and left my husband about five months ago. We were together for 15 years, married for eight. I was only 15 when we got together and never dated. to anyone else. Our sex life sucked. He never made the effort to please me. He only gave me oral sex once in the time we were together and told me he thought it was gross, which completely

Starting point is 00:19:57 traumatized me and my self-confidence. I never orgasmed with him and I truly don't think I'll ever be able to orgasm with anyone. Now I want to start exploring other people, men and women. But I'm absolutely terrified. What if someone wants to go down in me? How could I become more comfortable with oral sex. First of all, congratulations. It sounds like you got out of an unhealthy situation that wasn't working for you. And now you are liberated and you are free. So well done.

Starting point is 00:20:27 I know that's not easy, especially after 15 years with one person and now you're starting off on a new journey. Well, I'm so glad you emailed and you definitely came to the right place. So the first thing I would say is you really definitely want to masturbate. Get to know yourself right now without a person in your life. What turns you on, get comfortable with your sexual energy again, and you producing your sexual energy, you getting your energy out there, not a partner. You can get toys that simulate the sensations of oral sex. And this might help you just so you know what the feeling

Starting point is 00:21:01 is like and start training your brain to like these sensations. Remember, we have to train our brain to think differently about things that we might have protested in the past. Next, when you're experimenting with people, it's okay to be real with them. Let them know that you're comfortable with XYZ, but you're still getting used to receiving oral. I think that the most responsive in touch with themselves lovers would say, okay, great, I am up for the challenge. I would have made you feel really good receiving oral. Any sexual partner worth your time is not going to pressure you before you're ready. Just remember that. If you're feeling pressure to have sex, you are allowed to slow it down

Starting point is 00:21:41 and take your time. The thing about a fear of oral is, it doesn't just appear out of nowhere. You had a really negative experience with it. From someone who just didn't care enough about your pleasure, didn't realize that it was going to impact you, probably didn't know how to please you, to be honest. You guys were together for 15 years. Just remember that. That a lot of times when we don't know what we're doing sexually, we might lash out and just say it's not our thing or we don't want to do it because it was too vulnerable to really sit with you and learn how to please you. But nonetheless, you had a negative experience with it. And so that's what we're trying to rewire in your brain and sort of rewire your

Starting point is 00:22:20 entire energy and experience towards receiving oral. But when you're with someone who's into it, oral will feel much more organic and much more pleasurable. Especially when you've already done some foreplay and your body is legitimately aroused, you just might feel differently and more enthusiastic about receiving. Especially after you started doing this visualization exercises and picturing yourself receiving and playing with yourself and masturbating, Like, this is going to get easier. Especially if you find someone that you trust, you've already had a conversation with them about how you like to be pleased.

Starting point is 00:22:52 So then they know to go slow. You're going to feel a lot more safer and able to relax, which is what we want. Remember, when we feel more relaxed during sex and we're able to let go, we have more pleasurable sex. This is what our studies show us. So thank you, Jen, for your email. I appreciate you and keep us posted. This is from Sydney, 23 in Pittsburgh.

Starting point is 00:23:15 Hey, Dr. Emily, thanks for all you do. I'm a faithful listener of the show and I love learning and hearing all about sex. I'm in a happy, committed relationship with a man who is seven years older than me. Everything has been going well and I love him so much. We were always trying to keep our sex life new and fun, especially because we're at a one to two hour long distance relationship. I recently discovered a kink, a fetish, I don't know what it is, and wanted to hear your thoughts. We've been 69ing a lot lately and I'm loving it. One time, because he was going down to me and I was enjoying it, his penis was around my face, but not in my mouth. As we were shifting and continuing, his penis ventured around my ear. Now, I know the ear is

Starting point is 00:23:52 sensitive and an erogenous zone, but I immediately felt the urge to take his penis and put it in my ear, not actually in the hole, but around it. He quickly noticed and realized I was turned on, so he began to move back and forth a little. It was so stimulating and I orgasm right on the spot. Over the past few weeks, we've continued 69ing and I keep putting his penis in my ear. It is seriously amazing for me. Please help. Is this weird? I mentioned a few times in conversation, but I'm unsure if he really thinks it's weird or not. It's kind of embarrassing, but just the feeling of his penis in my ear is unmatched. He does it at his own or lets me do it so he can't think it's that bad, right? Thank you so much. Any advice would be so appreciated. First,

Starting point is 00:24:40 I love this so much. How great that you're finding pleasure in your ear and clearly your partner's down with it. Listen, I have found that when we're really into something and it feels good, most loving, caring partners who understand what it means to be a great lover are psyched to know what turned you on and not judging you. And second, you're right. Dolly Josette, the pleasure muse, was on the show once and talked about the erectile tissue inside the ear. And I know this for sure. There is erectile tissues all over our body and

Starting point is 00:25:12 definitely in the ear. This is why it feels good when people whisper sweet nothings or they blow in our ear or they lick her on the ear canal. It feels good to many of us. And I actually think it's a really underrated orogenous zone. So good on you. It is an orogenic zone. You are right. And in fact, a 2016 study showed that people could achieve orgasm through the stimulation of extra genital rodent zones. And in fact, that is often the case for individuals with spinal cord injuries, which affected their genitals. So essentially, they find other places on their body, other rodent zones that get stimulated and there's nerve endings and it can feel amazing. And in that study, the most powerful rodent zones were shown to be the breasts, lips, neck, ears, and butt.

Starting point is 00:25:58 So you're not weird. You're completely normal. In fact, you're more than normal. You're more than You're wonderful. You're wonderful for having felt safe enough with your partner to try this and discover a whole new zone of pleasure. Well done. And I can only imagine everyone listening is going to have some fun tonight seeing how their ears respond to pleasure. Thank you, Sydney. I so appreciate your email. This is from Shonda, 38 in Alabama.

Starting point is 00:26:27 Hi, Dr. Emily. I've been a listener for a while now and appreciate all the knowledge you've shared. I've learned so much even in the short time I've been listening. I poked around in the Ask Emily section of your site because I thought for sure someone had asked something like this before, and maybe they have. I've recently started seeing an old flame from high school. Things are, of course, exciting and the sexual attention is palatable, but I've recently found out how much he has grown since we were together back then.

Starting point is 00:26:51 I'm not too worried about the penetration part of being with him now, although I am intimidated so any tips would be welcome. I'm most worried about attempting to give him oral. I don't think I can physically take him in my mouth without hurting him with my teeth. It's really messing with me because I want to be able to please them in that way. I've always taken some pride in giving some great oral. I guess I'm just kind of scared since I won't be able to do all the things I would normally do. Any tips or tricks you could share be greatly appreciated. Congratulations on reconnecting with someone you've got chemistry with. I love that. So first,

Starting point is 00:27:23 remember this. This is for you and for everybody. Involve your hands with the blowjob itself. We all should do that. Blow jobs are not just meant to be about our mouth. Our hands are a great accessory in any oral sex experience. You don't have to fit the whole thing inside of your mouth for it to be pleasurable. Your tongue can lick, your hands can stroke, you can suck on the tip, you can lick the balls, you can move around and pay attention to what feels good. Think of your hands as an extension of your mouth, right? So you can use your mouth of the tip and your hands are applying more pressure and then you're going to find out where does he actually feel good being stimulated. You can also pleasure as testicles while you're giving them a hand job, which

Starting point is 00:28:03 can also feel great, holding the testicles, holding them, you know, softly, gently playing with them, see what feels good to him, you know, ask first before you grab the genitals or just do it really lightly and say, do you like that? Because not everybody likes their balls played with. And if you want to create some suction without using your mouth, you can also try a manual stroker toy. Stoker toys can be a really fun way to play with a penis. They have these pressure pads on the sides so you can squeeze to create an internal vacuum. They're like silicone sleeves that go over a penis and some of them do have some suction elements. Um, so, you know, you can just kind of use this to feel and that can feel really, really good. It's just another sensation on the penis.

Starting point is 00:28:51 Again, you could switch it up, use a suction sleeve, use your mouth, use your hands, just mix it up and keep going. These are all really fun ways to play. Finally, I say give it a shut. Be honest with him that you're concerned about hurting with your teeth. Valid. Wouldn't you want to know that? I want to know that. But you want to try anyway and have him be honest with you. The worst that happens is that you'll reach into your bag of tricks, i.e. all these ideas above, for a more lovely sexual pleasure, right? You've other ways to please and you've learned some things. My last tip, use lube. This will help everything slip and slide more, lessing the chance that your teeth will snag unsensitive genital.

Starting point is 00:29:33 skin. All right, you got this. You're so careful. I love this. And just pay attention, go slow and have some fun. All right, everybody. If you've been wanting to spice up oral, play with some 69 or take any of these tips so you can experience some giving, receiving, and some real intimacy with a partner. It's a good time. Let me know how it goes. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily. Was it good for you? Follow me on all social media. Sex with Emily. You can also check out my website, sex withemly.com. And please subscribe to the podcast, which is available on all podcast platforms as I had into my 21st year. You can find them all. Also, I'm going on tour. If you want to check it out, go to sex withemly.com slash events.

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